Lolita confessions

[Anonymous No.10771742]

Egl confessions time,
please confess your sins and repent

[Anonymous No.10771752]

More of an unpopular opinion than a confession but I think lolita looks better on really leggy tall girls than it does short girls

[Anonymous No.10771762]

>>10771752
Neither look good because the bodice proportions are out of whack. Tall girls look stupid when the bodice only just gets past their boobs and doesn't sit at their natural waist

[Anonymous No.10771763]

>>10771742
I rather have fat people in lolita than ugly people.

[Anonymous No.10771765]

>>10771762
>Neither look good
Nah short girls look fine the fashion was literally made for slightly short women.

Except long cuts by AP and IW those can burn in hell.

[Anonymous No.10771772]

>>10771765
Short girls have the same issue except with bodices and skirts hanging too low. It looks bad. This fashion honestly fits girls about 5'3" the best, though I would consider that an average height and not short

[Anonymous No.10771774]

>>10771763
Fat people are ugly, lardo

[Anonymous No.10771791]

>>10771772
>5'3"
No. It fits petite bodies fine. If it's below 4'9 then maybe there is a fucking issue, but no. Tall chicks literally make the dresses look like they are wearing toddler dresses, while their arm fat and boobs bunch up the bodice.

[Anonymous No.10771797]

I sharted at a tea party. I’m lactose intolerant and thought “a little cheese sandwich won’t bother me.” I was dead wrong. I laugh at a joke and suddenly fart. It wasn’t a fart. Liquid shit. I was wearing white too. I had to leave because it started to smell FML

[Anonymous No.10771800]

>>10771797
you've posted this retarded fetish multiple times now. begone, scrote

[Anonymous No.10771802]

I’m a sweet Lolita but my type is hood black men. It’s tough Bc most think I am just a weird white girl because of Lolita and hate the clothes, rip.

[Anonymous No.10771804]

>>10771797
that you k8?

confession: I do sw in lolita and just yesterday people were outed for it. a little scared I'll be excommunicated too if you guys find out who I am but it seems most of you support it so idk if it's worth it or not. Guess I'll keep going since I haven't been found out yet, not like you guys are on OF anyway

[Anonymous No.10771809]

>>10771802
I live in the hood and had a 400$ dream dress stolen off my porch. I thankfully got it back though.

[Anonymous No.10771810]

I’m starting to get really burnt out wearing lolita. I meet up with my friends every once in a while… but it’s just so much work to put everything on and take it off only to wear it for a few hours. I don’t like to wear it just sitting around my house. It’s caused me to purge most of my wardrobe fml.

[Anonymous No.10771813]

>>10771802
I dated a not hood black guy once, he would compare me to misa from death note so much it got creepy. I found misa rape hentai on his search history and said nothing to him and just broke up and blocked him the next day

[Anonymous No.10771815]

>>10771804
>sw in lolita
wait before i say anything you do the SW while you're WEARING lolita?

[Anonymous No.10771816]

>>10771815
Maybe…

[Anonymous No.10771822]

>>10771813
Something similar happened to me and discovering my ex boyfriend liked lolicon and was splooging into my dirty socks before doing the wash. I just thought he was being kind by always doing my laundry.

[Anonymous No.10771827]

>>10771802
I’ve worn lolita on public transit a few times and had random hood black guys hit on me.

[Anonymous No.10771844]

>>10771813
I dated a guy that wanted to try scat while in lolita. We did it once and I ruined a nice AP dress while watching MLP porn

[Anonymous No.10771846]

>>10771813
What are hood black guys like? Are they bigger and better? I'm trans MtF and I'm in the market.

[Anonymous No.10771847]

Great thread so far everyone

[Anonymous No.10771848]

lolita made me more conservative as a person. i've became judgemental against degenerates and people who openly talk about sex and other gross things.
i kinda took that whole "prude lolita" thing to a 11

[Anonymous No.10771851]

>>10771848
Same here. Reading all the replies here riddled with sexual degeneracy makes me sick. I’m looking at you MTF hood chaser.

[Anonymous No.10771864]

I secretly like Melanie Martinez

[Anonymous No.10771870]

I've kind of given up buying anything secondhand. Japanese market has been completely stripped of everything good. I feel like I'm going to be waiting another 5 years for a bunch of people to move on and forget about lolita. I hope the covidlitas get bored and leave faster.

[Anonymous No.10771872]

>>10771742
They look like little pillows and I know I wouldnt be able to find a good sized pillow with them in it. I don't have any large pillows to put them on. I guess they would be fine on a single bed?

[Anonymous No.10771888]

>>10771864
Her first album isn't bad, but it's definitely dated. I remember when she was on whatever singing show she got her break on and my mom excitedly calling me in saying "look it's those clothes you wear!!"

[Anonymous No.10771895]

As a large African American male I am attracted to women in dresses and I can not control myself around them. Luckily I have not been around any.

[Anonymous No.10771896]

>>10771870
This. Between it being bone dry and the increased shipping, I'm so demoralized. It's so fun checking the sales but lately is just garbage or scalpers.

[Anonymous No.10771899]

>>10771804
kys

[Anonymous No.10771900]

I am pretty sure I am the only lolita where I live. I am too scared to wear it out in public here and I feel like an idiot just wearing it at home since I have spent so much money on pieces and accessories.

[Anonymous No.10771919]

>>10771810
I feel this, but because of work and school. Like, by the time the weekend hits I'm too tired to dress up. I don't even wear normie clothes when I'm not at work, just PJs. Shit sucks ass.


Lowkey hoping the next trend is PJ lolita lmao

[Anonymous No.10771920]

I confess that I am a newfag and still have a lot to learn.

[Anonymous No.10771923]

>>10771742
I think Lolita fashion looks good on certain tall handsome slender built long haired men, but they should keep the beard or grow one out
I keep trying to persuade my boyfriend to try it out and wear some but he seems super awkward and hesitant about it

[Anonymous No.10771934]

>>10771896
Yep. It's all garbage. Covid killed cheap shipping, probably permanently.
I used to check all the sites multiple times a day, and into the night, but now when something good pops up, it's just some faded, stretched out dress for $500+.
I guess I'm lucky to have a big wardrobe already, because joining the fashion right now would suck, and even stuff that used to be super easy to find is nowhere to be seen right now.

[Anonymous No.10771940]

>>10771772
No short girls fit it fine because it is cut for our height. 5'3 is a little shorter than average and average height in Japan is a bit shorter than that for women.

[Anonymous No.10771943]

>>10771742
>Lolita confessions
TTIWWP

[Anonymous No.10771953]

>>10771752
Agreed. They have to be thin and flattish though. Too short girls often look stocky, put weight on more easily, and lack elegance if they have little pudgy daikon legs. Ideal Lolita height IMO is 5’3-5’8 (which is being quite generous) as long as you have the proper proportions.

[Anonymous No.10771955]

>>10771752
Agreed. They have to be thin and flattish though. Too short girls often look stocky, put weight on more easily, and lack elegance if they have little pudgy daikon legs. Ideal Lolita height IMO is 5’3-5’7 (which is being quite generous) as long as you have the proper proportions.

[Anonymous No.10771959]

My country is ruled by fucking dictator, who started a war. People dying but all I can think is that I can't buy lolita clothes except shitty clolita

[Anonymous No.10771960]

My country is ruled by a fucking dictator, who started a war. People are dying but all I can think is that I can't buy lolita clothes except shitty clolita

[Anonymous No.10771968]

>>10771802
>sweet lolita
>my type is hood black men
sorry for your completely lacking sense of beauty and atrocious taste in everything

[Anonymous No.10771969]

>>10771960
Same :)

[Anonymous No.10772062]

TFW....New girl joined my comm and after seeing all the stuff about exposing SWers recently she wanted to 'come clean' so we didn't accidentally encounter her life as a former SWer and use it against her. And of course TB was the reason she was groomed into selling her body while being a minor. I'm honestly not surprised since TB has a large following of minors. I feel so bad for our new comm member. At least everyone is being supportive of her and positive in regards to her moving on from SW.

The nice things is lolita fashion and cgl were the gateway to her being a respectable woman. Thanks anons for saving this girl from a miserable life she was heading into.

[Anonymous No.10772081]

>>10771752
same nonna, fanny made me a tall lolita supremacist.

[Anonymous No.10772082]

>>10771802
so you're fat? that seems to always be the case

[Anonymous No.10772083]

>>10772081
Isn't she like 5'3 kek

[Anonymous No.10772086]

>>10772083
Not even, she's shorter

[Anonymous No.10772090]

>>10772081
Why does everyone love fanny so much? Genuine question, not out of spite or anything

[Anonymous No.10772099]

>>10772083
wait for real? her angles make her look so tall ..fuck.

[Anonymous No.10772102]

>>10772090
she's pretty, her mary magdalene collection is impressive, and she's stylish outside of lolita. seems pretty obvious.

she looks like a regular pretty person/modelesque, which is just not the type that you find in lolita if we're being honest.

[Anonymous No.10772104]

>>10772099
>>10772086
>>10772083
goes to show proportions are everything, not absolute height.
with that said, i think lolita is one of the most forgiving style for short/stocky-legged girls. the silhouette conceals most of the leg, and imo chunkier lolitas can look cute too. compare with normie fashions, it's much harder to pull off short shorts and tight-fitting dresses as a stubby-legged girl.

[Anonymous No.10772111]

>>10772062
based as fuck you guys are awesome

[Anonymous No.10772115]

>>10772090
because she's the "safest"/wears the most normie looking lolita style

>>10772104
lolita is a fashion made specifically for the average japanese woman height of 5'2" which is why short girls, like fanny, look good in it. once you hit about average american height of 5'5" - 5'6", things start end up looking wrongly proportioned and too short.

[Anonymous No.10772118]

>>10772062
Got what fucking cringe teenager shit.

Who talks about this kinda shit in a normal lolita comm? Most of us are over 20 adults with real jobs to start with so no one deals with whatever lame weird shit this is.

Also having a twitch isn't even ethotting it's the most sfw way to have dumb simps spend money on you without having to show anything because popular female streamers can't even wear a tanktop without a ban. The most popular female streamers are average looking modestly dressed women and actual cartoons with homely girls behind the motion tracking and the real person shows none of themselves (some exceptions like Code Miko and K-Son).

[Anonymous No.10772125]

I think most girls on /cgl/ are poorly dressed and ugly. Case in point: DPP

[Anonymous No.10772126]

>>10772104
I complete disagree. If you have stocky legs in lolita, the trunk legs sticking out of an already big petti doesnt make you look any less bottom-heavy. It kind of just makes it worse. Thats why so many fatties look like pin-heads in lolita. And patterened stockings that get stretched out by wide legs also look terrible.

[Anonymous No.10772127]

>>10772062
Totally not a faked conversation to paint someone you have a vendetta against in a bad light or anything

just like gaslighting zoomers have ruined the term "grooming" they think any interaction/conversation between an adult and a minor is grooming now

[Anonymous No.10772139]

>>10772127
Ok groomer

[Anonymous No.10772147]

>>10772139
White liberal feminism was a mistake.

Now zoomers are just becoming cringe and reactionary in all the worst ways liberal and conservative people are ruled into one.

[Anonymous No.10772149]

>>10772127
Maybe telling young women you make a ton of money on OF when you really don't and encouraging them to make one based on that isn't technically grooming, but it's definitely sketchy as fuck.

[Anonymous No.10772154]

>>10772149
This, OF is essentially an MLM in that girls make money for every other person that signs up using their referral link too so it's extra shitty.

[Anonymous No.10772163]

>>10772149
>>10772154
This. Pretend you make a lot of money while living off your simp bf and sign up other cute girls under the guise of just helping them out and empowering them. But really they're another cash cow for you. Sign up enough and they do the work for you.

Also it doesn't matter if anons here believe it or not, TB knows its true so you can stop wking for her.

[Anonymous No.10772168]

>>10772104
>>10772115

i agree with >>10772126 stocky and super short girls look like they're being eaten in their dresses. the legs look like stumps when they're chunky + short (example: left) , and the dress looks like it's nearly floor length when they're thin and short (example: right).

also i think fanny looks good in those photos because she looks tall, which still shows that long appearing legs look good in lolita. I'm 5'5", and my lower angled photos always come out way better.

>>10772127
aww teenagers banned you for being a weirdo?

[Anonymous No.10772174]

I stopped wearing a bra with lolita. It's been a good decision

[Anonymous No.10772178]

>>10772168
The thin girl looks like most AP shopgirlsnewer as far as height. JP shopgirls probably have a chubbier looking body than her and they look fine. Also different dress cuts are longer. The dress she is wearing is a longer cut than the chubby girl's. Should have compared similar or same height with the same dress. Even then it varies across body type though at the same weight.

Tallitas are just mad that short girls finally have one fashion for us and have to act like they wear it better instead of accepting it is made for petite women. Like you can look cute too but the optimal body look is shorter (and East Asian women or similar skinnyfat body types) because it was designed for our height.

It's substyle dependent too. Gothic is another story as platforms and elongated legs are so common and Fanny comes in there as looking tall and therefore being popular. Classic also varies. But in sweet lolita short (but not actual midget) is supreme.

[Anonymous No.10772179]

>>10771742
Unpopular opinion, but preferring taobao/less known Lolita brands over AP or BTSSB or Moite. I only like a few brand pieces and own like one jsk from BTSSB but I prefer Taobao over Brando because there are more styles available and sometimes it's cheaper.

[Anonymous No.10772183]

>>10772168
both of these people are under 5ft so not the best example. also think the girl on the right looks great

[Anonymous No.10772210]

>>10772174
lolita is designed to be worn with a bra. you probably look like trash.

[Anonymous No.10772213]

>>10772179
Just say your poor and go

[Anonymous No.10772218]

>>10772179
taobao sometimes has some good shit for gothic, tbqh
Nameless Poem for example, but not so much for Sweet stuff because clolita makes Sweet look way too costumey.

[Anonymous No.10772283]

>>10772210
Or maybe just has smaller boobs? I don't wear a bra either.

[Anonymous No.10772288]

>>10772283
You still need to support and cover those jugs for any garment to look good, unless you're flat as a board, not to mention how disturbing it would be for someone to see your nipples poking through the garment

[Anonymous No.10772290]

>>10772118
>popular female streamers can't even wear a tanktop without a ban
>hot tub meta still exists

[Anonymous No.10772297]

>>10772288
I don't have cow udders so no I don't need support

[Anonymous No.10772299]

>>10772288
Idk, don't really see a difference between when I wore a bra vs when I didn't for lolita so I stopped. Also, all my dresses are thicker cotton, so my nipples don't poke through it.

[Anonymous No.10772303]

>>10772290
I'm talking RAW not the loopholes. A lot of top streamers are not in hot tubs and the top female ones, who are usually gamers, aren't the vast majority of the time.

[Anonymous No.10772306]

>>10772299
everyone else can see the difference. also anon said support, but what bras provide is structure as well.

[Anonymous No.10772309]

>>10772306
not everyone has to or needs to wear a bra

[Anonymous No.10772316]

>>10772306
If you're like every other slim woman with B cups, no you do not. Our boobs stay in exactly the same spot with or without a bra. If you have big boobs or are fat as fuck, only then will you have an issue

[Anonymous No.10772321]

>>10772288
>disturbing
Grow up, are you 12? Also unless you're just wearing a thin blouse and skirt and no undershirt, lolita has at minimum 2-3 layers. No one's going to see your nipples.

[Anonymous No.10772323]

>>10772316
>>10772321
>>10772309
No use arguing, that anon is clearly a cow that's busting the seams on all of her dresses and can't comprehend that's simply not the case for some people.

[Anonymous No.10772325]

>>10772288
heaven forbid an adult woman see the suggestion of another adult woman's nipples. You know every human being has nipples, right?

[Anonymous No.10772327]

>>10772325
DISTURBING

[Anonymous No.10772347]

>>10772288
Jsk over blouse would completely cover up nipples. I really don’t appreciate a bra wire being branded into my skin when I don’t have to. Just say you’re fat and go kek

[Anonymous No.10772348]

>>10772325
Stop I’m literally going to throw up by being reminded adult women have n*****s

[Anonymous No.10772352]

>>10772325
Just because you have nipples, doesn't mean anybody wants to see them. Go to a nudist beach if you want to flash random people so badly

[Anonymous No.10772354]

>>10772347
You know wired bras aren't the only ones that exist, right? Just say you're a scrote and go kek

[Anonymous No.10772355]

>>10772316
>>10772323
>>10772347
>a slim woman with B cups can't have droopy, tubular or otherwise unusually shaped breasts that make clothes look worse without a bra
Are there any women left on this board?

[Anonymous No.10772357]

>>10772174
Same anon, I stopped wearing them almost entirely. Best decision

[Anonymous No.10772359]

>>10771742
I consider myself a living doll owo

[Anonymous No.10772361]

>>10772352
Having nipples under my clothing is flashing people now? This is about as stupid, actually even more stupid, than saying cleavage is nudity

[Anonymous No.10772362]

>>10772355
Just because you have old saggy small titties doesn't mean the rest of us do, sorry you lost the genetic lottery

[Anonymous No.10772369]

Tbh I think cgl is somehow more body shaming than fit. I guess it's not that much surprise though, only women know how to hurt other women where it really hurts.

[Anonymous No.10772371]

>>10772369
as a woman, i'll never understand why women love to tear down people so much as if we don't have men doing that to us on a constant. like what is the point of it all?

[Anonymous No.10772373]

>>10772354
You think I can afford a t shirt bra them shits like 30$ it’s either from the thrift store or I’m not buying it

[Anonymous No.10772374]

Nobody knows about my political views and if they did, I’d be banned from my comm. I feel so alone in my community. Anyone who agrees with my political views would keep quiet about it too.

[Anonymous No.10772375]

>>10772355
I’m talking about my own personal experience, I don’t exactly ask every woman I speak to about how her bra fits.

[Anonymous No.10772381]

>>10772371
I'd like to say something like "why can't we all just get along?" but obviously I'm not that stupid, I know what site I'm on rn

[Anonymous No.10772387]

i'm just sitting here watching this convo with quite unfortunately large boobs
sometimes not wearing a bra is just the bit i need to make a dress fit better, but i'm very lucky that mine are "malleable" and can be squished down easily
bras are a necessity for people like me though sadly

[Anonymous No.10772391]

>>10772099
She bragged on Tumblr about how she made herself look taller with certain angles. She’s a womanlet.

[Anonymous No.10772395]

>>10772125
>DPP
double penetration princess?

[Anonymous No.10772405]

My biggest confession is that I actually like heavy metal, I try to hide my true taste because I dress so sweet and it doesn’t look like I’d ever be into anything that crazy but I looove heavy metal! I hope it doesn’t ruin my kawaii image for anyone

[Anonymous No.10772407]

>>10772405
Most of my music is power metal and punk, and since lolita is an alt subculture I'd assume a lot of people also listen to "alt" music. Also if you're still trying to do the "wholesome kawiwi uwu soft" fake personality thing in 2022, we can see right through it.

[Anonymous No.10772426]

>>10772387
>>10772355
I'm sorry nonnas, I didn't mean to drag you down too. You and your boobs are beautiful.

[Anonymous No.10772429]

>>10772323
nah i just don't want to look like shit.

[Anonymous No.10772479]

>>10771809
>hood
Omg j*mma you’ve made like 50 videos about this stfu we don’t care about your scalped lyrical bunny

[Anonymous No.10772495]

>>10772323
Some people have tits and are not fat. Sorry you're a tranny.

[Anonymous No.10772587]

I've bought my boyfriend lots of Boz and Moitie so I could fulfill my lifelong dream of having sex with a gorgeous vampire

[Anonymous No.10772616]

>>10772407
Many lolitas I know listen to K-pop, vocaloid or Taylor Swift. I feel like lolitas who are into alt music are actually rather rare.

[Anonymous No.10772636]

>>10772405
>but if I click this button on Spotify... twisted fucking psychopath...
Women are so cringe lmao

[Anonymous No.10772648]

My com loves bobba tea outings and I fucking hate bobba tea, but I'm too autistic to tell them after how much they've gushed about it. I want to like it, its so cute, but I can't!

[Anonymous No.10772649]

>>10772648
This is so wholesome. Just order the tea without the bubbles!

[Anonymous No.10772650]

>>10772648
You can ask for just a milk tea without boba. I don't like them either.

[Anonymous No.10772653]

>>10772648
why not get other toppings? the pudding is really good.

[Anonymous No.10772656]

>>10771870
I think covidlitas are leaving slowly. Some seem to be genuine enjoyers and will stick around and learn, but ehh... Maybe it's the tiktok itas that are to be worried about now. It must be naivety but I'd like to imagine some covidlitas genuinely want to learn. Some aren't even covid millenials but covid gen z who reached adulthood in the pandemic and got a job and now have the funds necessary to fund the hobby they've always had interest in. Maybe? Maybe not. Besides, I'm about to sell my milky planet to a covidlita. I kind of don't want to but she accepted the price tag I gave her without question. I don't know what it is about that print that makes them go bonkers.
>>10771960
Thank god the yen is collapsing, fuck the current exchange rates. Covid killed cheap shipping too...

[Anonymous No.10772692]

>>10772288
Who told you this? I only wear a bra sometimes with my coords, because most of the time it makes my outfit look worse than if it didn’t. I have different styles I wear with certain cuts but no one can even see your nipples through it. You sound like a child

[Anonymous No.10772696]

>>10772692
hard cope

[Anonymous No.10772700]

>>10771844
Nonna why would you even CONSIDER doing scat? If my bf asked to try that I'd dump him on the spot.

[Anonymous No.10772705]

>>10772700
Pun intended, i hope

[Anonymous No.10772714]

>>10772705

[Anonymous No.10772813]

>>10772374
I hope you're not an actual Nazi, but me too. I am what would be considered left a decade ago ffs. I am so tired of going to meets just to end up surrounded by a bunch of sjws talking non stop about politics and gender.

[Anonymous No.10772814]

>>10771899
<3

[Anonymous No.10772818]

>>10771923
Sophie what the fuck are you taking about?

[Anonymous No.10772850]

i have been in this fashion for a few years and still don’t have a proper pair of basic wrist cuffs.

[Anonymous No.10772855]

>>10772850
Neither do I. I just don't like them.

[Anonymous No.10772860]

>>10772850
Me neither, they're uncomfy

[Anonymous No.10772875]

>>10772374
me too, i agree with all of them on leftist issues but i'm a radfem and my comm is full of brave enbies and "sex workers"

[Anonymous No.10772877]

>>10772374
I feel the same although none of my views are anything crazy or extreme, so I can’t relate in that sense. But in this day even my views would be considered bad and not good enough. I try to respect everyone with all different views. When my comm discusses something I don’t agree with, I just zone out for a few moments till it’s over. I let people discuss what they want, but I know if I dared share my own view it would cause at the very least tension. Even though my opinions stem from a genuine place of concern, not hate.
I feel for you really, whatever your views are. It is hard to genuinely be yourself nowadays…

[Anonymous No.10772878]

>>10772875
Felt. So hard.

[Anonymous No.10772883]

>>10772648
I used to hate bubble tea like 8 years ago, but I have it all the time now. What specifically do you dislike about it?

The tapioca is kind of an acquired taste,, but your comm might also be taking you to cheap-o bubble tea places that suck. Some places use only powders and creamers, don't allow any adjustments for ice and sugar, and have no tea variety. I would steer clear of those.

[Anonymous No.10772900]

>>10772875
same here nona, so many of us are closeted radfems

[Anonymous No.10772901]

>>10771900
you aren't the only lolita there because you don't actually wear the fashion

[Anonymous No.10772912]

>>10772875
god same. i’ve met a radfem lolita once, but she was sadly bible crazy. wish there was a way for radfem lolitas (that are still sane) to find each other.

[Anonymous No.10772914]

>>10772912
yeah if only there was a way to get all the radfem lolitas from here without attracting trolls as well

[Anonymous No.10772923]

>>10772912
>radfem
>sane
pick one

[Anonymous No.10772943]

>>10772912
>radfem
>bible crazy
Only one can be true, sounds like she was just anti-trans cult

[Anonymous No.10772963]

>>10772648
Are you the same anon that basically hates tea in general that started a rant about shit a while ago or do you just not like the tapioca/toppings specifically?

[Anonymous No.10772974]

>>10772374
same here

[Anonymous No.10772999]

>>10772943

troon lovers aren’t invited to lolita general btw

[Anonymous No.10773006]

>>10772999
cope and seethe, i'd rather have a trans person in my comm than some deluded feminist who thinks men cause all her problems lul

[Anonymous No.10773032]

>>10772875
Wait, what’s wrong with being a radfem? I stay the fuck away from freaks so I’m not up to speed.

[Anonymous No.10773047]

>>10773006
men don’t cause all my problems but they sure suck ass

[Anonymous No.10773051]

>>10772587
Based

[Anonymous No.10773064]

>>10772914
Same... I would love to find a comm where gender politics is just a topic that never comes up. I don't want to talk about it nor think about it. And I don't want to call women he/they and pretend to think they aren't women. No clue how to find a group like that without making myself a target for harassment though.

I'm beginning to see the appeal of "secret society" type organizations for sure.

[Anonymous No.10773067]

>>10773064
Yeah, stay away from the rest of us. Even outside of trans shit radfems are obnoxious as hell

[Anonymous No.10773076]

>>10772912
Was this spoopy

[Anonymous No.10773078]

>>10773067
Seethe

[Anonymous No.10773080]

>>10773067
I meant radfem in the sense that I reject gender ideology. My views are quite tame outside of that.

[Anonymous No.10773081]

>>10773067
i think her post was very reasonable, i don't understand why you got so upset and why you started sperging about radfems.

[Anonymous No.10773098]

>>10773064
>Radfem
>Not bringing up gender politics
None of you know what you're talking about. Radfems don't stop talking about gender. That's the point.

[Anonymous No.10773114]

>>10773098
Ok cool I'm not radfem then. I'm just a person who doesn't believe in the new gender ideology stuff and would prefer to engage in my hobbies without being expected to validate it or participate in it.

Happy now?

[Anonymous No.10773115]

>>10773006
Ok.

[Anonymous No.10773142]

>>10773006
I don't know who i hate the most, radfems or commies

Both live with a tinfoil hat on and think they're better than anyone else because they believe stupid conspiracy theories about an evil ruling class

[Anonymous No.10773143]

>>10773114
thank you

[Anonymous No.10773145]

>>10773032
They think we are all terfs so they hate us because of a few delusional people, all I want is equal pay and men to suffer, cis and trans men alike

[Anonymous No.10773215]

>>10773145
You dont sound like a radfem then.

[Anonymous No.10773226]

>>10773067
ywnbaw

[Anonymous No.10773230]

>>10772999
I feel like you would probably get kicked out of most comms if you were like “trans women are men” or something even if there weren’t any trans people in the comm.

[Anonymous No.10773237]

>>10773145
Transmen are women, are you retarded or something?

[Anonymous No.10773239]

>>10773237
No theyre not

[Anonymous No.10773249]

>>10773239
trans men aka tifs are biologically women, moron.

[Anonymous No.10773250]

>>10773249
They're neither biologically nor physically women. Their entire female identity revolves around a mental disorder.

[Anonymous No.10773261]

It’s not a cgl thread until it gets derailed about tranny shit.

[Anonymous No.10773263]

>>10773250
tif means trans identified female, AKA a woman who thinks she's a man

[Anonymous No.10773268]

>>10773250
jesus you're retarded.

[Anonymous No.10773273]

>>10773261
We would dunk on trannies outside of cgl if we were actually allowed to without getting cancelled or threatened with violence by rapehons and their shriveled dicks

[Anonymous No.10773299]

>>10773273
Lol imagine being scared and pushed around by trannies.

Lolitas just need to start packing and not give a fuck.

[Anonymous No.10773301]

>>10773273
Or just stop being snowflakes and move on with your lives. 4chan isn't your safe space, shitworm

[Anonymous No.10773302]

>>10773299
It’s the trannies (men) doing this shit, it’s no wonder why lolitas (women) are afraid.

I would carry but I live in commiefornia.

[Anonymous No.10773306]

>>10773302
Idk trannies are unpopular enough that if women actually banded together they could do something about it but clearly not many women care so seethe and cope.

[Anonymous No.10773341]

>>10773299
>Lol imagine being scared and pushed around by trannies.
We're not scared of mentally ill men who are into autogynephilia. We're scared of our kids being gaslit into mutilating themselves and becoming freaks of nature.

[Anonymous No.10773401]

>>10773341
This is 4chan, no one here has a child or should have a child.

[Anonymous No.10773449]

>>10773301
It is, and you'll never be a woman.

[Anonymous No.10773452]

>>10773449
This is a clear example of how brainrot makes you a little sissy coward. You really think everyone calling you out on your obsession is trans? Lmao

[Anonymous No.10773506]

>>10773452
imagine caping for agp troons while calling a woman a sissy, the absolute state of cgl

[Anonymous No.10773529]

>>10772912
was it dd kek

[Anonymous No.10773531]

>>10773250
dense nona. trans men are biological women who pretend to be men.

[Anonymous No.10773534]

i only use this board for laughing at drama

[Anonymous No.10773558]

i wear lolita around my house and keep everything clean for my long term boyfriend

[Anonymous No.10773599]

I stopped wearing lolita because of how badly it’s become sexualized. I only wear it to the occasional meet now. Never alone out in public and I used to be a daily lolita. Seeing all these SWers strip in front of their brand, diaper fetish girls pee in angelic pretty for their websites, and old men flocking to pink ruffle dresses has made me stop entirely. I might start wearing classic as it doesn’t have that same type of connotation. When I stopped wearing pastels, I stopped being sexually harassed. I feel sad that the frills were beaten out of me, but what can I do? It’s really sad but also not a safe reality to wear sweet lolita in public anymore. Especially since the community doesn’t ban these creeps either. I’m tired.

[Anonymous No.10773764]

>>10773599
I'm feeling this so much nona, porn ruins absolutely everything.
I'll be in the fashion for a decade at the end of this year and can confirm that the sexualization, online and public harassment (e.g. catcalls) got a lot worse after the rise of OF and the sissy influx in western comms.

[Anonymous No.10773906]

I despise fat people in lolita.
Ugly people I understand, you can't fix your fucked up face. But fat people? WHY?!

Just stop eating so fucking much, its not that hard. Its just so disgusting, I hate being around them and they always smell disgusting too.
I think the worst part is that they don't even understand the appeal of a dress and think its meant to cover up their fat. NO! Lolita is designed to contrast with a smaller waist. Its literally a fashion for thin people.

Stop shoveling brownies down your face and just lose weight already. Fat people are the worst, they at the same level as men.

[Anonymous No.10773976]

i'm starting to get into substance abuse and i get a kick out of doing it in lolita but that's the only way i can find joy. That and being mean on image boards. I want to change. I am too old for that.

[Anonymous No.10773977]

i like really short skirts in lolita and i hem a lot of stuff to make it shorter.
its not to be sexy or something i just think the proportions look way better.
some stuff that is a little on the longer side or on a shorter girl can look so dumpy.

[Anonymous No.10773981]

>>10772587
fucking based

[Anonymous No.10773982]

>>10773401
you're fucking delusional if you think some of the adult women on this website don't have children

[Anonymous No.10773983]

>>10773977
Nef?

[Anonymous No.10773985]

>>10773983
That's true, Nef said something like that!
Has the thread been graced with the presence of a lolita celebrity?

[Anonymous No.10773997]

The girl I like will only date a lolita partner. She said she'll date me if I put together my own brolita coord and look good in it. But brolitas look like shit 99% of the time and I would look like shit too, and i don't want to embarrass myself. The game was rigged from the start

[Anonymous No.10774001]

its nice being called cute because of my coords but sometimes its torture because under the frills I have a disgusting body and i feel such a strong sense of guilt like i am somehow lying to everyonebby covering it up

[Anonymous No.10774004]

>>10773997
You could ask if Ouji is a suitable alternative.

[Anonymous No.10774009]

>>10773599
This sounds like confirmation bias and spending too much time on the internet. I'm a lonelita who wears sweet but haven't noticed any uptick in sexual harassment. Normie reactions are still overwhelmingly positive. If anything I get sexually harassed more in my normie clothes. Maybe try going out with a friend/bf more often if you don't feel safe?

[Anonymous No.10774036]

>>10774009
Big city Lolita here. The harassment is getting 100x worse, and that’s considering the fact that I live in a city where Lolita isn’t rare, so I’m definitely not the first Lolita these people have seen in public and many mention that. But the physical harassment has made me start to carry self defense keychains and I’m honestly scared walking by myself as I’ve had zoomer boys attempt to grope me

[Anonymous No.10774037]

>>10774036
this is such a fantasy

[Anonymous No.10774039]

>>10773906
I actually disagree on the ugly part to an extent if its caused by massive buck teeth, large nose or things of that variety.

If you have the money for lolita, you have the money to put aside for dental work, a nose job etc.

[Anonymous No.10774041]

>>10773906
Also, same anon - while i agree fat westerners look bad in lolita, it is a fat girl fashion in japan. They use thin models to make it appealing but something like 80% of actual japanese wearers are fat by japanese standards.

[Anonymous No.10774042]

>>10772587
How long did that take? Theres barely any M size shit on the market

[Anonymous No.10774043]

>>10774042
anon is lying.

[Anonymous No.10774053]

>>10774037
???? Im nta that made the first post about leaving sweet but I am the op of the reply to the confirmation bias post. There’s literally multiple people itt complaining about the same problem and your conclusion is “this is a fantasy”? I’m willing to bet you’ve got an OF or live in some rural ass southern city. I know I’m not the only one with this problem because even my comm members have complained about creeps trying to touch their coord or hair, Im sure chalking it up to a female fantasizing about unwanted harassment is much easier for your retard brain.

[Anonymous No.10774062]

>>10774004
Don't feed the scrotes fake delusions

[Anonymous No.10774071]

>>10774039
Ugly takes active work and surgery to fix, which is scary and not a guarantee to work.
Fat takes you actively eating more than you should and refusing to work out.

Being ugly is unfortunant. Being fat is a choice.

[Anonymous No.10774095]

>>10774039
Lolita costs $100 for a secondhand dress a nose job costs $10,000 has no resale value and is irreversible

[Anonymous No.10774120]

>>10774071
ugly girls should know not to try to be pretty

[Anonymous No.10774142]

>>10774095
You can finance anything these days, ugly-chan. No excuses.

[Anonymous No.10774162]

>>10773985
>Has the thread been graced with the presence of a lolita celebrity?
bean-chan is a regular visitor of cgl, she's also posted herself in drawing threads before

[Anonymous No.10774174]

>>10774039
The obsession with "perfect" teeth is purely an American thing. As a Eurofag I wore braces as a kid, but after having my wisdom teeth extraded my teeth became crowded again and I just accepted it for what it and went on with my life. If you are not absolute freakshow to begin with and if it's not for medical but purely cosmetical reasons there is no reason to undergo invasive surgery just to enjoy your hobby.

[Anonymous No.10774178]

>>10774142
I’m not ugly, I’m just not delusional enough to put lolita and cosmetic surgery on the same level money wise

[Anonymous No.10774188]

>>10773985
Yes! Bow down to our old school queen.

[Anonymous No.10774200]

>>10773985
>celebrity
weird way to spell nazi but ok

[Anonymous No.10774202]

>>10774200
here we go

[Anonymous No.10774223]

>>10773906
I mean, losing weight is simple but it isn't easy to do.

If you're going to go about eating less and moving more, and not dealing with the root cause, you're going to keep yo-yoing. Then get tired, fed up, and remain fat or get even fatter. Been there.

What's really going on is addiction. Unlike alcohol or drugs, we need to eat. In the US, you can't go far without cheap, accessible food shoved into your face. Everything is made to be hyper-palatable and cheap. Plus, mental health is something that is hard to access and can be difficult to diagnose and treat properly.

So people get addicted to food, and then their body goes haywire dealing with all this shit it didn't evolve to deal with.

I'm one of those people. I ended up with an illness because it took far too long to address the mental health side of things. I didn't get horribly fat, I could still wear plenty of brand. But it was enough to fuck my shit up. It's under control now and I'm losing rapidly (without working out). But I can't go back to the way I ate before otherwise it'll come back. Fuck no to that.

I have a lot of empathy for fat people because while it is simple to lose weight and keep it off, it's not easy at all. There is no instant gratification, like cosmetic surgery might offer. Just the gradual "fuck yeah, this JSK fits again."

[Anonymous No.10774258]

>>10774001
I feel that way about foundation

[Anonymous No.10774263]

>>10774001
Are we the same person? I thought I was the only one who felt this way

[Anonymous No.10774273]

>>10774223
You said what I wanted to say, but was too weak to actually post. I've had a difficult relationship with food throughout my life (cycled through every eating disorder under the sun), and gotten fat twice - both times accompanied by loss, severe depression and now actual war. OP just sounds like she has no compassion for other human beings, and can't fathom that some people's weight directly correlates with an enormous struggle to cope with the shit life throws at them.

[Anonymous No.10774277]

>>10774036
if only we could shoot moids on sight so much would be resolved

[Anonymous No.10774286]

>>10774223
>>10774273
In the same way that eating disorders are additions, the hate people have against fat people is the same hate people have against addicts. It's good to talk about these kinds of things and rally together for our own sakes, but trying to appeal to the idea that it's an addiction won't change the minds of these people. Since the core issue is that they see addiction as a moral failing.

[Anonymous No.10774294]

>>10774286
addictions ARE a bad thing and are a moral failing.
Just because its hard to quit doesn't mean its okay to keep doing it. Being a meth addict is just as disgusting as being fat, yes its an addiction and quitting meth the wrong way could just kill you, but the fact you're addicted to meth in the first place is a terrible thing and you should be trying your hardest to stop taking it.

Yeah its easy to get addicted to eating like a fatass, but its still objectively a bad thing and isn't something to be proud of. There's many ways to help but like all addicts the problem isn't that its hard to quit, its that the addict doesn't want to quit and they should be shamed for this.

There are far worse drugs out there in the world than "food" that you'll literally die from quitting, yet those people are still able to go to rehab and fix their lives. Why can't you other than because you're lazy?

[Anonymous No.10774296]

When I first started wearing lolita, I never washed my dresses. When I finally learned how to handwash, I remembered soaking my Sugary Carnival that was heavily sweat stained in Oxiclean and detergent and the water turned dark orange/brown...twice. I've learned my lesson and now find it super satisfying to clean dresses just to see what color the water will turn.

[Anonymous No.10774304]

>>10774001
I've felt like this, and I would guess it's a relatively common feeling for a lot of women that are otherwise drawn into alt fashion, which is why these communities seem to be overflowing with EDs and genderspecials. There are a lot of ways you can try to feel better about your body/ improve your self image, but a lot of women get wrapped up in unhealthy coping mechanisms that really just amount to self harm because they're seeking a feeling of control over their bodies. Unironically seeking therapy and changing diet and exercise habits makes this feeling of hating your body go away over time, it really is that simple.

[Anonymous No.10774305]

>>10774294
>Why can't you other than because you're lazy?
Do you not know how mental illness works? Clearly, you've never been through anything even remotely similar. I've been attending therapy for over a year and working extremely hard on getting better, but it takes time. A lot of time and money, and an endless supply of patience. The coping strategies you've adapted and stuck to for decades don't go away in the blink of an eye.

[Anonymous No.10774306]

>>10774294
>Why can't you other than because you're lazy?
Do you not know how mental illness works? Clearly, you've never been through anything even remotely similar.
It takes years for people to rewire their brains, change their core content and let go of the maladaptive behaviors that plague them. Said behaviors don't appear out of laziness or from having too cushy of a life - they're usually a sign of trauma. I personally have been attending therapy for over a year and working extremely hard on getting better, but it takes time. A lot of time and even more money, an endless supply of patience and exceptional self-awareness. The coping strategies you've adapted and stuck to for decades don't go away in the blink of an eye. You come off as extremely uneducated.

[Anonymous No.10774309]

>>10774306
They shouldn't develop those habits in the first place and should be shamed until it's fixed. Or better yet put into fitness and dieting camps until they're able to remain in a healthy weight range.

It's better for society and its better for the fatties too. If anything mandatory fitness camps is just doing our best to save fatties from themselves.

[Anonymous No.10774310]

>>10774273
>>10774286
>>10774223
This is what HAES and body positivity does to your brains, ladies. Fats are unhealthy, selfishly use up more money and resources than thin people, and are disgusting to look at and no amount of brain washing will ever change that

[Anonymous No.10774319]

>>10774309
>They shouldn't develop those habits in the first place
Ah yes, let's ignore evolution and biology and demand human brains start reacting to trauma differently. I suggest you look up some studies in your free time, and realize that shaming fat people only exacerbates their disorder and makes them gain even more weight, which in turn will make you that much unhappier with their existence.
>>10774310
HAES and body positivity are awful SJW movements full of people delusional about their own health condition. How did you deduce I'm pro glorification and denial of obesity, or think fat people are pleasant to look at, when I simply said some basic compassion for fellow human beings most likely struggling to navigate through life is a good thing? Reading comprehension, zero.

[Anonymous No.10774324]

>>10774319
She's got black and white thinking. There's no shades of grey. Only full acceptance with zero accountability or full rejection with zero concessions.

[Anonymous No.10774325]

>>10774319
they should be unhappy with their existence, being fat is disgusting. end of story.

no matter what excuses you make, at the end of the day they need to lose weight and get fit.

[Anonymous No.10774327]

>>10774319
>shaming fat people only exacerbates their disorder and makes them gain even more weight
Why does it work in Asia tho

[Anonymous No.10774329]

>>10774327
Shame is built into the culture. It works because they are a shame to the family, not just to themselves. Western is more individualistic. It's easier to self sabotage when the primary victim is yourself, and you're already self loathing,

[Anonymous No.10774331]

>>10774325
Nayrt but do you not understand that shame drives people away from seeking help? Shame makes the sick people cling to each other and spiral even further. When people don't feel like they'll get browbeaten for admitting they have a problem and seeking help they are more incentivized towards tangible improvement and seeking alternatives to their self-destructive coping mechanisms. This applies to all sorts of mental illnesses, from EDs to addiction.

Also, no amount of shaming someone will make them develop self-discipline, which is what you need to overcome any of these illnesses. You are genuinely better off avoiding/ignoring fat people deep in their bullshit if they bother you, but I'm guessing you live in burgerland so that's impossible.

[Anonymous No.10774332]

>>10774331
Telling them its fine to be fat is wrong too. They should be made aware its shameful otherwise they accept it as an okay thing to do.

[Anonymous No.10774334]

>>10774324
Precisely, it's so frustrating to encounter people like this on either end of the spectrum.

>>10774325
Like I said, if people are unhappy with their existence, it will only make them fatter, because the root cause of eating disorders lies in that unhappiness. I can guarantee you that nobody is happy to be obese.
I haven't made a single excuse in our entire exchange - people SHOULD strive to be healthier and more fit, but you fail to realize that forcing someone into a fitness camp won't heal the core issues their disorder stems from, and will only lead to a life full of misery and never-ending relapses. Which again, will make your life that much worse, because you hate fat people. Denying basic biology and scientific research is no different from the bs the HAES movement is preaching.

>>10774327
I assume because it's immense pressure that's ingrained into the very fabric of their society, westerners have no concept of "saving face" the way asians do. Don't think it makes the overall population happier or more mentally well - I'm sure you know how said concept also drives many people to work themselves to death and take their own lives when they lose face.

[Anonymous No.10774335]

>fatties coping
this is why your fat.
it has nothing to do with genetics or addiction. its because you'd rather complain and whine about how hard it is to lose weight instead of just not eating an entire box of pizza.

[Anonymous No.10774337]

>>10774332
I agree, we shouldn't tell people it's fine to be fat, the same way we tell people with EDs that turn them into skeletons that it's unacceptable. People are killing themselves and we're expected to be numb to it, but if someone posts their fat rolls or their carved up arms or their protruding bones on social media I don't try to engage with that shit, I block them. If they're going to survive treating their body so badly, it will be their choice to see a doctor and I'm not going to comment on it because they likely won't listen to me anyway.

I will, however, argue with the lunatics who preach healthy at any size, in the same way that I think it's morally repugnant to uplift drug culture.

[Anonymous No.10774347]

>>10774043
cope

[Anonymous No.10774401]

>>10774335
I eat an entire box of pizza and i'm still skinny, it's not about what you eat it's about control.
But then again i restrict when i'm not binging so not a very healthy role model am i?

[Anonymous No.10774430]

>>10774296
Omg, I was handwashing a new (well, used, but new to me) jsk and the water turned brown and I was shaken to my core. I agree about it being really satisfying though.

[Anonymous No.10774433]

>>10774347
i don't need to cope? i have a smol boz bf.

[Anonymous No.10774445]

>>10774433
you mean you have a chubby fakeboi gf

[Anonymous No.10774453]

>>10774445
not at all. bio male.

[Anonymous No.10774467]

Ik some anon fetish scrote always posts about sharting or pissing himself at meets i promise Im not him, but I started my period towards the
End of the last meet I went to, completely stained my bloomers and petti but luckily my dress was uneffected and I had to drive home sitting in my blood (also thank god for leather car seats) mentally crying over the brand ruined

[Anonymous No.10774468]

>>10774327
Because doctors will prescribe weight loss drugs to anyone, but there's no support for actual eating disorders

[Anonymous No.10774471]

>>10774347
Wtf I love this meme

[Anonymous No.10774473]

>lolita doesn't look good on you if you're tall/short/fat/ugly/white/black
>i totally have a kawaii bf that i dress up in jfashion
>trannies good/trannies bad
>i have sex/do sex work in lolita
>pissed myself at the teaparty
guaranteed replies in every thread

[Anonymous No.10774484]

>>10774468

And in the US they do neither kek

[Anonymous No.10774493]

I got nipple piercings when I was wearing lolita. It was an impulse purchase at the mall. There was a neckbeard in the shop making weird comments about my coord, I wanted to leave but I had already paid and they said no refunds if I backed out. I wanted to strangle the shop girl when she loudly shouted to the piercer “two nipple rings” as the guy was looming around me. Don’t get your nipples pierced on impulse at the mall. They healed fine, if you were wondering.

[Anonymous No.10774494]

Ugly Lolita’s make me sad
Spending all this money only to look like fat autistic toddlers

[Anonymous No.10774495]

>>10774467
I started my period once on Halloween, in a Halloween coord. Luckily it only left a couple spots on my petticoat and my polyester bloomers were fine after bleaching.

[Anonymous No.10774497]

I’m sick of this fucking shirring up the arse shit and all the sizes getting big. I bought a new op with detachable sleeves. the detachable sleeves are so loose on me that they fall off. No buttons either. they were supposed to stay on my arm with the elastic. And the last gloves I got were so big that they also fell down my arm. they were M size. And Atelier pierrot looks like a trash bag on me. What the fuck.
I just want to support the brands and buy new shit so they don’t die.
I’m not even skeleton mode or anything. Why the fuck can I not be gothic in peace. Why the fuck do people keep getting fatter and fatter. This is so bad. I don’t want to sit at a sewing machine or keep bringing everything to the tailor. It’s always the weirdest shit that doesn’t fit like the arm holes being too big.
At least miho matsuda still exists.

[Anonymous No.10774504]

I hide weed inside my usakumya

[Anonymous No.10774523]

>>10774095
You can get non surgical nose jobs now that cost $200-500 lol

[Anonymous No.10774535]

>>10774523
The injections aren't permanent though, in the end you will end up spending 10k on it too

[Anonymous No.10774557]

>>10771742
I got my period literally the day of when I modelled for AP when Japanese guests came to a con a few yrs ago. Luckily i was prepared and nothing was ruined but you can imagine how pissed off I was the morning of.

[Anonymous No.10774560]

Haven't y'all heard of tracking your period? You can know the window when it will start if you do, and be prepared for it. And maybe don't wear your cutest brightest print when it's about to happen.

[Anonymous No.10774561]

>>10774560
I'm >>10774557 and believe me, I do. Have been for years but I'm irregular and have like a 5 day window of time where it could start at any moment. Factors such as stress and travel can impact it too. It's out of my control most of the time and all I can do is come prepared.

[Anonymous No.10774620]

finally got me some little blue pills nonnies it's over for u bitches

[Anonymous No.10774621]

>>10774560
I deleted the app because they sell your data and I don’t want the government knowing about my period.

[Anonymous No.10774667]

>>10774621
Plus if you live in texas I’m pretty sure they can get you investigated if they think you got an abortion or miscarried, via app data

[Anonymous No.10774674]

>>10774621
there's a million different health apps that do it, what do you mean "the app"?

[Anonymous No.10774678]

>>10774674
And none of them are covered by HIPAA so what is your point exactly

[Anonymous No.10774681]

>>10774678
the point is literally who cares about your period and what would they even use that data for? you sound like a conspiracy theorist. no one is going to come investigating abortions and miscarriages by knocking on the door of every woman who forgets to log her period in one those

[Anonymous No.10774684]

>>10774681
Oh i don’t know it’s not like they haven’t already sold people’s data. Of course i have nothing to worry about. I should post my social security number here on 4chan because nobody will ever do anything about my data

[Anonymous No.10774690]

>>10774684
again, literally what are they going to do with knowing when my period is? you're being paranoid, take your medicine

[Anonymous No.10774693]

>>10774690
You seem really invested in getting me to download a period tracker app, kinda weird ngl. What other schizo things do you do

[Anonymous No.10774704]

>>10774693
>accusing others of being a schizo
>"the government wants to know when my period is!!! this puts me in danger!!!"
no one cares whether you use it or not, retard, that's missing the point. seeing you act this paranoid is just embarrassing

[Anonymous No.10774725]

>>10774704
Tell me how embarrassing and paranoid i am again senpai ~ punish me ~

[Anonymous No.10774728]

Gonna derail the period conspiracy arguing by saying I've gained 30 lbs over 3 years and am now having a harder time fitting into my brand. Started a diet this week and constantly feel dissatisfied and sometimes even lightheaded, but I'm going to press on regardless. I have a cute cosplay to wear in September, and I'll need thinner legs to do it justice, and beyond that I want to feel more confident wearing lolita and looking svelte in my normie fits.

[Anonymous No.10774734]

>>10774728
kek why tf are you lightheaded? i can't tell if you're just dieting poorly or an exaggerating fatty. the only thing that could cause dizziness while dieting like that is low blood sugar, which is hard to do unless you are literally just starving yourself to the point of stupidity. just eat a fruit when you feel that way and you'll be fine

[Anonymous No.10774744]

>>10774728
the first week is the worst desu, keep going

i started again too and whenever i feel like eating something i make some miso soup

[Anonymous No.10774751]

>>10774734
I'm definitely not starving myself, I am just bad at eating less than what I normally do. Lately I've most likely gained at a faster rate due to the multiple birthday parties (cake) and traveling I've done, where it's been enjoyable to eat delicious at rare restaurants. When I was 30lbs lighter I was also running 3 miles every 2 days and keto dieting, which I gave up when I moved and got a new job. Not making excuses or anything, but just coming to terms with the consequences of not paying attention to it.

>>10774744
Yeah I think that's just it - I'm still adjusting to consuming less. Thanks for the miso soup recommendation! I've never made it myself, but I can give it a shot.

[Anonymous No.10774779]

>>10771802
I’m a black girl, and no matter how I dress, people still treat me and look at me like I’m an alien or mentally deficient. Fuck blacks.

[Anonymous No.10774781]

>>10772405
>hope it doesn’t ruin my kawaii image for anyone
Just don’t care if people think you’re contradicting and hypocritical. I also love rock, metal, heavy metal, black metal.

[Anonymous No.10774798]

>>10774751
Are you drinking enough fluids? Miso soup is nice and easy, because you just add the miso paste and stir until dissolved.

[Anonymous No.10774801]

>>10774798
I'll probably add tofu and seaweed to make it into a snack or side dish. And yeah am drinking liquids, but I think I should also add hot tea because I've been getting too cold drinking chilled drinks.

[Anonymous No.10774826]

>>10774801
ngl i just eat like 4 cups of miso soup as my lunches most days and i think it still ends up being like under 400 cals

[Anonymous No.10774835]

i finally have disposable income to build a wardrobe but I feel guilty for not saving (more) money

[Anonymous No.10774836]

>>10774826
nta but be aware commercial miso can be high in sodium.

[Anonymous No.10774873]

>>10774836
i just buy the miso paste from my local hmart, though maybe i should do more research bc the one i keep buying is all in japanese so

[Anonymous No.10774892]

>>10774873

It probably has a lot of salt unfortunately. If you make your own or source some hipster small batch ones (I don't know any) there will probably be a bit less salt.

I started swelling up after drinking way too much miso soup, so just be careful. Cankles, even temporary ones, are no fun.

[Anonymous No.10774907]

>>10774535
That would be over the course of your entire life considering they last 2-3 years.

[Anonymous No.10775604]

Mundane confession but I really hate shoe circle pictures. I think they're awkward to look at and even more awkward to be in one. I wish this wasn't a thing.

[Anonymous No.10775605]

>>10775604
fair. especially since most are all teaparties

[Anonymous No.10775612]

>>10771900
just fucking do it anon it's not that bad

[Anonymous No.10775629]

>>10771900
You have to begin with small steps. Start wearing the most toned piece that you have casually, as you would any other dress. No petti, plain shoes/socks, a hat or hairclip. Wear it somewhere you'll feel comfortable, like with your friends who will most likely compliment you. Hell, even with just one female friend by my side, normie interaction drops by 75% percent. If you're scared of that, try going with multiple friends or your boyfriend if you have one.

You can also try foraying into different styles that might be more comfortable being in, like Classic which can sometimes pass off to normies as 50's vintage fashion (which I find gets a lot less attention/criticism than Lolita)

[Anonymous No.10775712]

>>10775604
I don't hate them per se but do find them a little awkward to shoot as well.

[Anonymous No.10775730]

>>10771900
Being a lone lolita is sometimes better, truth be told. I always think of pic when I'm out alone, which helps keep people away. Still wearing a mask helps, too.

[Anonymous No.10775878]

Tired of being a lonelita (and lonely in general) but I'm afraid to try joining my local comm. It's painful, but I have to admit that I'm afraid of being seen in public with people who are very poorly dressed or behaving badly, and admittedly though I'm not even proud to admit it, I would also be super embarrassed to be seen in public with people who are mega obese or very obvious men in dresses.

[Anonymous No.10775880]

>>10775878
This is why I actually appreciate facebook groups for comms - because you can see the type of person who will attend a meet and plan accordingly.

[Anonymous No.10775891]

>>10775878
Join the FB group and privately meet the people who dress well, avoid the rest.

[Anonymous No.10775894]

I might have unknowingly sold something to a well known permaita

[Anonymous No.10775895]

I want to sell handmade, but I don't want fatties ruining my brand's image and I feel like you can't sell as a Western indie brand unless you bend over backwards to make tents that fit hamplanets

[Anonymous No.10775896]

>>10775878
what other anons said but also if there's lolitas that dress well in your area on insta and stuff you can try connecting with them there. have some decent coords posted to your insta, follow girls in your area, strike up convo with them "i love your coords im from ___ too!"
try to make genuine lolita friends you don't have to rely on doing things through a whole comm if the decent members are active elsewhere

[Anonymous No.10775898]

>>10775895
What kind of products are you looking to sell anon? Just have specific sizing available on your site/etsy etc and don't offer above those measurements. If you want to be extreme you can limit mac bust to 90cm like Victorian Maiden, although keep in mind you will see fewer sells.

[Anonymous No.10775901]

>>10775895
fatties will just buy multiple pieces and alter them. May as well just sell a limited size range like >>10775898 suggested but don't get too worked up if a fattie buys or wears it.

[Anonymous No.10775907]

>>10775898
I won't specify past just saying garments because I don't want to get cancelled if I actually go through with it. I'd definitely offer sizing that caters to women who are tall, broad shouldered, busty, broad hipped, etc (since Japanese brands often don't cater to these and there's not a lot you can do about those aspects of yourself), but not plus sized. I know what it's like to be clinically underweight and still not fit into a lot of brand items because that's been my entire life.

[Anonymous No.10775911]

>>10775907
For reference I am tall and busty lolita (5'9" and 96cm) and not plus sized, but a dress that fits me could also fit a fatter, shorter girl. How are you going to be able to tell what your client's specific build is, unless you also ask for their height, which would seem off?

[Anonymous No.10775914]

>>10775907
Don't let your anxiety about other people's bodies prevent you from doing what you want nonny. That's not a healthy or fun way to live. Just make the stuff you want to make.

[Anonymous No.10775935]

>>10775895
I think you can chose what kind of sizing you want. If people complain, you don't owe them an explanation.

[Anonymous No.10775960]

>>10775907
Honestly as you’re starting out you could just individually make dresses by asking their exact measurements and having a limit on how large you will do.

[Anonymous No.10775968]

>>10775878
I was like this before I joined my local comm. Then one day I just decided fuck it, I should least see who these people are before I make a mass judgement about them all. Turns out there are some itas I wouldn't want to be seen with, but there's also a lot of pleasant, well dressed girls I now consider my friends. They're usually just more lowkey than your typical obese ita. Unless your comm is infamously ita it's worth at least joining in the online groups to sus them out before you write everyone off and then complain you're lonely.

[Anonymous No.10776018]

>>10773302
>I would carry but I live in commiefornia.
You can get a permit without that much trouble in most CA counties now, even LA. Many require some kind of justification but it's not that hard to come up with one and it's one thing where being female makes things a lot easier.

[Anonymous No.10776033]

>>10775895
tbf anon, usually it's not the fatties ruining western brands' image, It's the brand itself being ita garbage. So long as your designs are good people won't care if fat people also buy it.

And it's easy to offer plus sizes -without- selling circus tents to landwhales. Just have something basic like skirts with full shirring or cutsews up to 2XL, and then limit the sizes on your main pieces.

[Anonymous No.10776038]

>>10776033
i think u missed the entire point that they don't want to do that, at all.

[Anonymous No.10776047]

>>10776018
>even LA
You don't get a permit in LA unless you got a pretty good justification for that and LA is a may issue jurisdiction. In order to get a carry permit in LA you either gotta work in private security, be friends with some influential Democrat politician or be a recognizable Hollywood star. Random nobodies like you or me need not apply.

[Anonymous No.10776067]

>>10774178
Nyart but if you have the disposable income to drop $100 on a dress when it pops up because it's "cheap" you have the income to save that money over a few weeks and get something done so people don't have to hear you winge about being ugly. I'm constantly seeing confessions and secrets about people feeling to ugly to wear their coords or post them and it gets so annoying after a while, because realistically you're either not that ugly and are just insecure and need to get over it OR you are actually ugly but don't do anything about it other than complain

[Anonymous No.10776069]

>>10775880
>>10775891
>>10775896
>>10775968
Oh my, I didn't think so many people would reply. I think I will finally just make a FB account, join the group for the local comm and hopefully it'll be a positive experience! I would really like to make casual friends with other lolitas, it feels like a hobby that's best enjoyed when you have occasions to dress up for...

[Anonymous No.10776097]

>>10775907
>I'd definitely offer sizing that caters to women who are tall, broad shouldered, busty, broad hipped, e
you know that if you make stuff for busty/wide hips women the fatties will eat it up right? this is coming from a busty hourglass
that being said, pls allow your stuff up to 100cm bust. that's a fair burando number too.

[Anonymous No.10776127]

>>10775907
Western brands are crap to begin with. If you look at rr.memorandum for example their dresses just get wider but not proportionally adjusted to taller/bigger sizes. In reality the dress needs to be adjusted in every aspect, including longer sleeves, longer bodices, longer skirt and shoulder measurements. Meta is doing it right in this regard and you don't see many Meta hamplanet itas because the dresses are well designed and itas just subconciously flock towards ita shit, no matter what. You don't have to get that extreme with sizing though. If your brand offered a petite size, normal size and tall size, it's still inclusive enough for most people.

[Anonymous No.10776134]

>>10774347
someone on COF just posted their bf in a boz jacket, now just gonna assume it’s you kek

[Anonymous No.10776136]

>>10776127
to say there are little to no itas in meta is a strong stance to take kek. agreed that every aspect does need to be tailored and changed rather than just a few exact measurements, but usually only a brand like meta has the capacity for it, not a new indie brand.

>>10776033
>>10776097
most of you all are missing her point that she thinks fatties are ita, period. itas flocking to bad brands or not doesn’t matter.

for instance, mary magdalene has pretty strict/restrictive measurements, and the outcome is that you rarely see itas in it. bare minimum: you have to be able to afford it and fit into it. it’s tall lolitas friendly and the bust goes anywhere from 87-90ish CM at max for some of their jsks and even OPs. so no, making it tall, bust, and broad shoulder friendly is not going to attract fatties if MM managed to do it. waist is the big kicker.

[Anonymous No.10776188]

I wish I could marry a lolita, would be cute to watch you grind away at your trade so passionately

[Anonymous No.10776268]

>>10776033
2XL IS circus tent sized

[Anonymous No.10776269]

>>10776127
>Western brands are crap to begin with
Are there any decent ones? Serious question. I'm aware that's somewhat subjective, but there are a lot of western brands that put out ugly fucking prints. Hard mode would be naming brands that do garments and not just accessories

[Anonymous No.10776277]

>>10776269
I like Violet Fane, some of their cuts have been slightly off but I think they’ve gotten better. Happy Tartans did really well so I think that says a lot. I also love l’esprit de noblesse but they’re much more niche/OTT. I like Mossbadger’s prints but as a smol bean the cuts aren’t flattering on me

[Anonymous No.10776293]

>>10776269
lady sloth was good when they released “Welcome to my Dollhouse” most things after that suck.

[Anonymous No.10776299]

>>10776269
elegy is one of my favorite brands by far

[Anonymous No.10776365]

>>10776299
Elegy is very hit or miss for me imo. I love their insomnia collection, but then they put out fugly tumblrina shit like that jack-o'-lantern print

[Anonymous No.10776518]

>>10776277
They lied about the fabric being cotton when it's actually viscose with a small percentage of cotton. The tags in the dress are also wrong and say poly/viscose.

[Anonymous No.10776587]

Random complaint: it drives me nuts when indie brands fill their listing with styling shots. Bitch, this belongs on your insta. Why is your hair covering the bodice of this jsk? Why did you feel the need to post a torso-up shot for a skirt listing? And then even though they have a million pictures in the listing, I scroll down to discover that none of them actually show the back of the product.

[Anonymous No.10776592]

>>10776587
post example pics so i know what you mean, i don't follow indie brands

[Anonymous No.10776599]

>>10776592
And risk revealing the trash that I'm browsing? That's scary. Here's a random example. These are the only two pictures on this listing. Neither show the waistband, second pic is a blurry motion shot.

[Anonymous No.10776730]

>>10776188
You think that until your lolita wife gets depressed.

[Anonymous No.10778519]

>>10774494
thats not an EGL meet up, thats a Rotolactor

[Anonymous No.10779653]

>>10773599
My friends and I have already been called out as "hentai" in public space several times...
Even when I worked in full lolita, one of the guy who was supposed to help us tidy a room after a music show saw me and asked if my style was "hentai"?? I was so disgusted and then he told me his daughter liked this style and wanted a picture of me, he was certainly +40yo, yikes

[Anonymous No.10779957]

>>10779653
I am praying that he's mixing up the word "hentai" and "anime"