[ 3 / biz / cgl / ck / diy / fa / ic / jp / lit / sci / vr / vt ] [ index / top / reports ] [ become a patron ] [ status ]
2023-11: Warosu is now out of extended maintenance.

/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL


View post   

File: 78 KB, 940x550, 4D125FC4-62C9-4D73-B7E8-95125E43F2ED.jpg [View same] [iqdb] [saucenao] [google]
10737551 No.10737551 [Reply] [Original]

Because you didn’t make a new one

>> No.10737560

>>10737551
Y-you used the image!
Thank you for making a new thread.

Here's the last one >>10728375

>> No.10737572

man, I just really love lolita

>> No.10737661

Just scored a 90s VW mini crini and bustier set for $100, feels good

>> No.10737713

>>10737572
thank you for keeping this alive

>> No.10737721

>losing weight to fit into 64-cm-waist-oldschool
>5'10
it's over

>> No.10737724

>>10737721
I feel this in my soul. I'm also 5'10 and I feel like my waist will never be small enough to fit oldschool.

>> No.10737785

>>10737724
>>10737721
I'm not quite that tall but my arms and torso are just too long to look good in like most oldschool so I'm considering just learning to sew to make staple pieces that'll actually look good on me.

>> No.10737786

I'm so happy, i lost a few more pounds but more importantly gained muscle/lost far and can now fit into all my unshirred AP! I love OPs the most so I'm over the moon.

>> No.10737856

how fucking annoying it is when ppl ask to split sets. oh you want the headbow only? you and everybody fucking else. why don’t you just buy the lot and sell the dress? oh I know, because you want *me* to have the burden of selling the piece that’s going to sit the longest on market. it’s there, to entice someone to buy. I find it so rude, and people literally still ask even when you put it in the rules and desc. I don’t have a problem buying a set just for a kc and selling the extra dress when it’s something I really need. you don’t really need it if you had to bother to ask

>> No.10737858
File: 38 KB, 656x623, alf.jpg [View same] [iqdb] [saucenao] [google]
10737858

>be cosplayer of a few years
>get gf
>gf is a weeb and wants to try cosplay
>she begs me to do a couple cosplay so we plan one for an upcoming con
>the con is in 4 weeks and she still hasn't bought any of her supplies while my shit is done already

>> No.10737891

URGH my shit it still in customs and i just want my package already. How long has chicago been holding things lately? I hope it's not too much longer

>> No.10737892

>>10737891
It's making me nervous too. How long has your package been held there?

>> No.10737909

I feel like I'm going to die soon, I wish I could go back to worrying about shipping restrictions and customs fees

>> No.10737943

tfw no sugar daddy

>> No.10737963

I bought several bundles of old kimonos off Y!japan to use the fabric in my sewing projects, but I severely underestimated how much international shipping would cost and now I have buyer’s remorse

>> No.10737970

>>10737963
what would you even make? this is the cringest weebshit i've seen on this board.

>> No.10737973

Man, I'm just really kinda tired of lolita

>> No.10737976
File: 350 KB, 250x141, ichigo2tired.gif [View same] [iqdb] [saucenao] [google]
10737976

>>10737721
>>10737724
At this point, get a fucking tailor and stop crying. With your bone structure, there's a decent chance you could literally be on your anorexic deathbed and you still won't fit the dress. And we've all seen that one French skelly. At that point, you won't look cute even if you do fit the dress. So fuckit, get a goddamn tailor and show the short bitches that you can look better than them. Because you fucking can, you just need to be more understanding of your body.

>> No.10737982

>>10737976
What's your advice for tall-chans?

>> No.10737986

>>10737982
She literally said get a tailor lol

>> No.10737990

A sweater I ordered just arrived, but it turns out it's a tiny bit too small :(
It's still wearable, but it seems unlikely that it can become one of my most beloved pieces of clothing when I have to worry about it not covering everything, especially my wrists, if I'm not careful.

>> No.10737998

>>10737970
nyart but that's not bad at all? why would that be cringe?

>>10737963
maybe put some up for sale to recoup some losses? Depending on what you've got you might get buyers here.

>>10737892
objectively not long at all, about a week, but it's supposed to be coming to me as EMS and my impatient lizard brain is demanding i get my shit Right Now.

>> No.10738007

>>10737858
She wants you to make it for her

>> No.10738031

>>10737976
I like you, you're based.

>> No.10738041
File: 1017 KB, 245x157, tumblr_n3j7cnUomo1rvcjd7o8_250.gif [View same] [iqdb] [saucenao] [google]
10738041

I wish my comm wasn't filled with cheap newbs.
I don't want to go to an arcade with a bunch of obnoxious 17-22 year olds. I'm sick of having to listen to people complain about lolita being too expensive between worshipping bodyline and shitty "loliables"
>Inb4 become a lonelita!!1
Covid really killed my desire to wear lolita out of the house. This city is overrun with crime and I don't feel safe wearing coords out by myself anymore. Thanks to covid there's no where to really even GO anyway. The only events that seem to happen are hosted by ita children. Fuck this shit. I want to go out and feel cute again.

>> No.10738047

>>10737990
Buy more cute or elegant bracelets. Maybe a fancy watch.

>> No.10738048
File: 31 KB, 228x320, 3B571658-F099-462D-834D-B7A5FF2ED5CA.jpg [View same] [iqdb] [saucenao] [google]
10738048

Bring back purikura that looks like this

>> No.10738049

>>10738047
That's just going to draw more attention to the fact that it's too small.

>> No.10738050
File: 312 KB, 720x528, invincible ptsd man.png [View same] [iqdb] [saucenao] [google]
10738050

>don't work out for a little while
>get reminded I am a mentally ill PTSD-addled faggot
>constantly feel in danger
>start working out again
>go back to being a normal person in a matter of days

>> No.10738052

>>10737990
Add some ruffles or lace at the end to give it a bit more length? I ended up doing this with a shirt i liked and i was able to get a fabric match.

>> No.10738054
File: 25 KB, 476x476, images (39).jpg [View same] [iqdb] [saucenao] [google]
10738054

>>10738049
Girl, no. Unless it's like way up your forearms, it will just make your fancy jewelry more visible. Would most people notice a slightly short sleeve, or a Vivienne Westwood bracelet paired with a pretty watch? If anything, you'll get more compliments for some good accessorizing. Plus, with a cardie or jumper, you can actually roll up the sleeves on purpose, and then it looks like a conscious choice.
Seriously, you're the person who will notice and judge it the most. There are several tallitas who get regular love on here who always have slightly short sleeves. Does anyone notice? Not if they've styled it right.

>> No.10738055

>>10738052
This is also a very good option.

>> No.10738057

>>10738052
for the sweets
>>10738054
for the classics
>what should long arm goth girls do?

>> No.10738061
File: 244 KB, 640x640, 1472621576.jpg [View same] [iqdb] [saucenao] [google]
10738061

>>10738047
>>10738052
I'm not sure if lace or cute bracelets fit the design of the sweater. It's a hoodie btw.
But it also doesn't look that great on my body, I think I have the wrong shape for it.
Will still wear it but maybe more when the weather lets me remove it or cover it with a jacket, and not so much when it'd be my primarily visible piece of clothing the whole day. Or wear it at home.¨

And I'm not a lolita and I'm not a girl.

>> No.10738063

Boy do I hate demisexuals

>> No.10738064

>>10738061
Ohh. Then treat it more like a long sleeve shirt, roll up sleeves for sure and get thee a chunky ass watch. Shame it's the wrong shape though. Better luck next time buddy.

>> No.10738068

>>10738057
Cut off hánd

>> No.10738070

>>10738064
When I tried it on now the shape felt less bad than earlier, I think it might be okay as long as you don't see it from a bad angle. So in conclusion, I will wear it in public, it's probably not absolutely awful.

>> No.10738073

>>10738070
That's the spirit! Happy for you

>> No.10738097

>>10738041
>Covid really killed my desire to wear lolita out of the house.

I feel this a lot. I think Covid was really last nail in the coffin that killed my comm as I once knew it. Its still active but skews much younger now.

My city finally feels like its starting to open up again and, for the first time in 2 years, I feel like dressing up. My style's more or less reverted to what I originally liked in like 2008 and I'm just going to wear it when I go out with my normie friends. I think my original style got lost somewhere over the years. I sold some stuff, and bought a bunch of basic stuff that suits that style. I'm excited! Hopefully thinks look up for your city soon too.

>> No.10738099

People who go out with friends, how often do you do it? Is it like every week? Multiple times a month? Or can there be months between each time?
What am I missing out on, if anything?

>> No.10738102

>>10738099
usually once a week. or interact with them in some way. i don't keep friends who don't interact with me less than once every two weeks.

>> No.10738106

>>10738097
Nayrt but same. I didn't really want to wear lolita for two years but I'm coming back and reverting to a style that feels more authentic and comfortable with lots of basics.

>> No.10738110

I’ve bought membership to the gym and have improved my diet, so I can look amazing when the con season starts and make my ex regret leaving me for someone else, lol

>> No.10738112

>>10738102
You sound exhausting.

>> No.10738138
File: 38 KB, 480x386, ddlc kms.jpg [View same] [iqdb] [saucenao] [google]
10738138

i cosplay for fun, not to be famous or anything, but i can't help but compare myself to someone i know who is way better at construction than I am. My skills have really stagnated and i always start costumes last minute and rush through them, which doesn't help. It's a killer blow to my self confidence every time i see her. Worst part is, i know she's judging me silently and I can't blame her. She's younger and prettier and has an exciting life ahead of her. I'd judge me too.

>> No.10738142

>>10738099
I'm really busy, and a lot of my friends are homebodies so maybe every month or so. The people who don't understand that I'm really busy don't stick around, but whatever.

>> No.10738154

>>10738142
Same. People who constantly need interaction and attention are exhausting and come off as childish/clingy imo.

>> No.10738157

>>10738041
>>10738097
>>10738106
>women don't want to engage in a hobby if it means that other people won't look at them

like pottery

>> No.10738168

>Put on dark lolita outfit
>Makeup time
>Stop hesitating for once
>Put dark eyeshadow all around my eye
>Friends give it a racoon-like review
>Once again, no hesitation
>"Thanks, it's what I was going for!"
>Bond with friends over memories of scene or emo makeup
>Feels good

I am cringe, but I am free

>> No.10738170

>>10738168
Based as fuck nonnie

>> No.10738173

>>10738157
But anon, female hobbyist potters want people looking at their pottery, not them personally

>> No.10738176

>>10738112
sorry you can't form meaningful friendships.

>> No.10738180

>>10738173
I can't tell if I'm being trolled or not...

>> No.10738184

>>10738102
I find it hard to see people once a week unless it was something I was already doing anyway, like going to work.

All of my friends are online since it's just more convenient.

>> No.10738186

>>10738168
Felt that. Started working at a goth store a while back and it was so freeing.

>> No.10738211

>>10738176
Ntayrt but it's pretty sad that you think people have to constantly interact with you in order to have a meaningful relationship.
True deep connections mean you can go weeks, months, or even years without talking and still be able to pick up where you left off like nothing happened.

>> No.10738317

>>10738211
NAYRT but I think it's somewhat subjective + based off your own needs and preferences. imo you raise a good point, but i think its fine for someone to prefer friends who are around more frequently so long as theyre not furious/vengeful at people who cannot give them the attention they need. communication doesnt hurt either
I myself am very chill when it comes to friendships.. idgaf if people dont reply or step away mid text conversation or whatever. for some of my closest friends though i can feel neglected if they don't say hi to me for a few months.. I know it's not like that for everyone but oh well

>> No.10738338

I really need some advice.
A good friend of mine in my comm has a really toxic partner that starts drama and fights whenever possible. Even at meets. a couple weeks ago I overheard the partner talking to their roommate after a big argument while completely wasted telling their roommate how they got a 15 year old drunk and “snuggled” with them. I’m really disgusted and can’t stand to be around them even more than before hearing this. I feel like our younger members are possibly unsafe now and my friend deserves to know. The issue is I’m really close friends with the roommate, too and feel conflicted that it may cause them to be kicked out bc how petty the couple in my comm are.

>> No.10738349

I really love gyaru but hate the western community

>> No.10738359

>>10738211
imagine not changing for years and thinking it's a connection.

>> No.10738369
File: 118 KB, 1096x982, 17F086E8-3A66-4E8D-B029-2F884AA9135D.jpg [View same] [iqdb] [saucenao] [google]
10738369

some ddlg thot compared my coord to hers saying we were "literally sisters"

>> No.10738370

>>10738359
Some people are reliable and don't change personalities like wardrobes nonnie

>> No.10738453

>>10738338
IMO you should first talk to your roommate and verify the story. Drunken ramblings might just be that, drunken ramblings. Ask the roommate if they know anyone else who would know more about the incident and reach out to those people to cross-check information.

If everything adds up, tell your friend. Just be prepared that your friend might not take your side.

>> No.10738457

>>10738370
NTA but calm down. 2 weeks isn't a ridiculous amount of time and usually people who can't manage that are flaky immature.

>> No.10738524
File: 7 KB, 250x250, 1590542417093.jpg [View same] [iqdb] [saucenao] [google]
10738524

>about to sign up for the masquerade at a local con, starting on my cosplay, have the entire performance practiced and choreographed
>mask mandate for the whole con including the performers at the masquerade

What the fuck? What's the point? The city the con's in doesn't even have a mandate. What a huge waste of my time.

>> No.10738529

>>10738369
Dua lipa looks like a man

>> No.10738532

>>10738176
Sorry you're a clingy ass ho

>> No.10738533

>>10738524
imagine crying about having to wear a mask at a masquerade kek

>> No.10738534
File: 405 KB, 750x896, 1579377658592.jpg [View same] [iqdb] [saucenao] [google]
10738534

>>10738533
Why the fuck would I want to do an idol performance with a mask on stage if my character is singing? Why the fuck would masquerade performers even have to wear masks when they're already distanced by BEING ON A STAGE?

>> No.10738535

>>10738534
you're probably going to suck anyway. you idolshits can't sing at all.

>> No.10738536

>be me
>see random qt cosplaying as Asuka, on the internet
>instantly develop one-itis
>she has zero online presence
>I don't even live in Canada ffs
Why can't I fall in love with women who are actually near me?

>> No.10738541

I started wearing Lolita again for the first time in three years recently and went on a tear and bought ten new main pieces.

This is a big deal because people to that, I was really invested in minimalism and got rid of a large amount of my possessions. Although my closet couldn't compare to most minimalists because I love fashion and consider it a hobby, it was quite minimal compared to most people here and I loved it. I felt like all my clothes could breathe, and it was really pleasing to look at. Ten new main pieces is a big change and there are of course accessories and things as well that were added.
I'm going to slow down and only buy gap filling accessories and maybe one dream piece, but it has to be really good. I'll see how I feel with the new pieces, if they are useful I will keep them but if any don't feel right I will sell.
It's hard to balance minimalism with a hobby like this but minimalism benefited my life a lot so I don't want to abandon it, but I also just love fashion and trying new things which inevitably brings in items that don't work out. I wonder if anyone can relate, it seems most people here don't care for minimalism, but maybe some people do?

>> No.10738543

>>10738534
Oh thank fuck. Glad to hear the mask mandate will be protecting the public from your off key weebathon.

>> No.10738544

>>10738097
I’m in a city where we all live within walking distance, so we’ll do casual lunches and workouts together during the week and plan a movie/dinner or event during the weekend.

>> No.10738550

>>10738541
I'm no minimalist but I'm the kind of person who really doesn't like being surrounded by stuff that I don't like or has no purpose so I think I get how you feel. Like you, I also consider fashion a hobby. I could never have the typical joyless minimalist uniform closet. I like to have fun with what I wear and what I do is instead of feeling guilt for buying things, I make the process of curating my wardrobe part of the fun. For my personal lolita wardrobe, I learned what cuts, colours, motifs, brands etc. that I liked and built a curated, cohesive wardrobe around them. I have around 30 main pieces which isn't a huge wardrobe but it's both well rounded enough that I can make a variety of coords, and tightly curated enough that it's still pleasing to look at. I only ever look for things that fit my style that I know I'll probably like and I don't feel any guilt for buying them. If I end up not liking something I just sell it and get something else, not the end of the world.

You don't have to be as strict as I am, but it's good to have a general idea of what you like so you aren't just buying stuff for the sake of it. If you like multiple styles you can try dividing your closet into multiple smaller capsules so you don't feel too overwhelmed. I really don't think you have to give up trying new things and having fun with what you wear in order to be mindful about your possessions. The fact that you're thinking about this probably means that you're going to be fine as long as you find that balance. You're probably not going to be buying 10 main pieces every day, or even every month so just consider this a one off occasion of padding out your wardrobe and trying out new things. As long as you don't fall into the trap in this community that is compulsively shopping or always feeling that you need to have more stuff for the sake of just having stuff, you should just enjoy your new pieces and enjoy this fashion.

>> No.10738555

>>10738550
Thank you for your response! I really appreciate it, and I would actually like to be as strict as you; your wardrobe sounds wonderful.
Before I did this buying, one thing I did was make a big list of things I knew I wanted (dark colors, boots, daily wearable pieces, dark florals etc), as well as a list of things I absolutely didn't want (high waist cuts, light colors, cupcake shape, etc). But, my tastes have changed over time in Lolita, and some of the things I thought I wanted I didn't quite get right - I thought I wanted some brown classic pieces for example but after actually getting them realized I didn't like them as much as I though. There were also some unexpected winners. I guess it's just a learning process. Sometimes things I think are sure to be loved can end up not working out for reasons like not fitting right. I'm trying to take notes of these things to avoid in the future.
I am trying really hard to avoid the always buying new stuff mindset, and trying to be perfect. I might try breaking it up into capsule wardrobes - it was supposed to be one to begin with, but there's a couple of district styles in there. I'll also try to consider this a one off and a learning experience. I'm probably being too hard on myself, this is all secondhand and can be resold, it's just shocking to realize I bought so much when usually I'm doing stuff like wondering if I actually need to own a pie dish or if I can get rid of it

>> No.10738564

>>10738453
They aren’t my roommate but I was present when they were talking to the drunk one. She kind of burst into the house and announced it without noticing I was there. The only others there at the time of the incident were two other underage teens that idolize this girl, who is 22 or 23, bc she buys them weed and booze.

Other than this incident the roommate and I know that she’s also into alot of ddlg crap recently too. Sippy cups fucking everywhere. she also has a strange obsession with moms in our local comm too, she gets upset if they don’t introduce their kids to her even when barely knowing them. I thought it was always weird but now it really bothers me where her motives have always been. to be honest after I thought about it more and talked to the roommate, I don’t think our friend will care even if we did tell them or care about it even if they believed us. They are kind of… the type that will turn a blind eye to red flags just for someone to show any interest in them. I am more conflicted about my comm members now because I have no power to get rid of the problem.

>> No.10738565

>>10738536
When I was going through probably the single worst case of mental illness in my life where I was self-harming, agoraphobic, etc. I became obsessed with a small-time local cosplayer, she had about 10K followers on IG. I printed out her pictures and put them around the mirror in my room. She would post about the places she would go to that I would recognise and it actually helped me a lot because I would go to these places and just hang out hoping I would catch her one day so I could say hi, tell her I liked her cosplays and get a photo with her. It really got me out of my depression and treated my agoraphobia since it was always going to cafes, arcades, etc.

Never did end up meeting her and she's sort of dropped cosplaying to focus on university, so I guess good for her.

>> No.10738567

>>10738564
Well I think bring it up with your comms leadership that this is behaviour you have noticed and if they could maybe discourage people younger than 16 coming to events.

>> No.10738568

>>10738565
Curing agoraphobia through stalking. Sounds great anon

>> No.10738579

>>10738555
It's definitely a learning experience, and it never really stops. I also write lists and I re-evaluate them every few months. It's okay to change. It's not like we can see the future and know exactly what we're going to like, fit and want to wear forever right? For example I used to wear gothic and dye my hair black so I avoided buying anything brown for years, but over time I transitioned to classic and went back to my natural brown hair so I started adding it to my wardrobe. I think a lot of minimalists kinda expect you to be the same person forever which just isn't realistic. It's okay to try new things and resell them if you decide they're not for you anymore. Lolita is great for this since you can make sure your stuff is going to a good home instead of throwing out and you can reinvest that money into new things that you like more.

To be honest sometimes I really struggle to find a balance between the feeling of always wanting to buy more stuff because everyone else is and the feeling of worrying that I'm overspending and have too much already. It's difficult in lolita because it is a collectors hobby and there's so much emphasis on shopping. A lot of my lolita friends buy new things all the time and are the kind that have a bit of everything in their wardrobes. Sometimes it makes me feel pressure to buy stuff I don't really want and then I have to reevaluate my wardrobe and shopping habits again. I just have to keep reminding myself that I am not them, having a cohesive wardrobe is what works for me and I don't need to put unnecessary pressure on myself to have more or less. There is really no such thing as perfect. Your choices will always be too much for some people and too little to someone else. What matters is that you're happy with what you own and it brings value to your life.

>> No.10738767

>>10738579
Thank again anon, your replies are really insightful and I feel like you get it.
>I think a lot of minimalists kinda expect you to be the same person forever which just isn't realistic.
This totally hits on something I didn't realize bothered me - you're right. A lot of minimalists do kind of expect you to like and wear the same things for years. That probably works for guys and people who don't care about fashion, but it's sort of like suggesting to a foodie they only eat the same kinds of foods all the time, right? Works for some people but not others.
I also worry that changing style too much is a negative, but there's consistency in what I wear, and it's not like I'm changing my whole personality or anything.

It is a struggle just to not want, isn't it? Getting off of social media helped, it's worse when I engage with social media, start seeing people wearing something and think it's a good idea, etc. then I have to figure out what I actually like and what I think I like but wouldn't actually work for me. It sounds like you have a really good balance with your cohesive wardrobe. I hope I can find something similar. I wish there were some slow lolita influencers or something. I feel really torn between wanting more and feeling like I have too much, as well. I'm going to try to be happy with what I have.

>> No.10738788

>>10738110
Keep it up anon, however at some point you have to start doing it for yourself rather than to get back at your ex. Now let's get some fucking muscles and LET'S GOOOOO

>> No.10738790

>>10738138
>I'd judge me too.
But you're already judging yourself anon!
People are different anon, they have different things going on in their lives that takes them away from their hobbies—or maybe they literally have nothing taking away from their hobbies so they can focus solely on that.
>late last minute
And why's that? I'm sure you had reasons why and I'm sure many of them are valid. If you're constantly judging yourself then you'll never feel like doing anything.

>> No.10738814
File: 2.75 MB, 360x360, hitormissclass.gif [View same] [iqdb] [saucenao] [google]
10738814

>>10737551
>enter tea praty
>tell everyone that I left my hoop skirt on the bus
>"Say no more senpai"
>mfw the entire comm climbs under my dress and holds it up it for me

>> No.10738816

>>10738767
Being on social media makes wanting stuff worse for me too. I don't post a lot or care about interaction but I see lolitas with huge wardrobes or every variation of every dress I could possibly want and start to feel like I should buy more stuff. Though I do want to own some of the pieces they do, most of them are rare and hard to find so it's not going to happen overnight anyway. When I do see something I want I try to come up with a lot of ways to wear them in my head before I hit buy. Another thing that I found makes it worse is being in a comm. I'm seriously considering going back to lonelita life just because it's better for my wallet when I just enjoy the fashion for me and don't have to constantly hear about what my friends are buying. Even if I don't have the same style as them I still feel some kind of pressure to keep up with their buying habits.

>slow lolita influencers
I wish this was a thing so bad. Pinkfakeflowers has a good video on wardrobe planning and there's a bunch of old capsule wardrobe guides if you haven't seen them already, but most of the big lolita influencers are just constantly showing new things which gets annoying. Surprisingly, normie and other alt fashion influencers are more helpful when they aren't all suggesting everyone wear the same boring white shirt and jeans combo. I've been reading this normie fashion book called The Curated Closet, which I've found has a lot of good advice for wardrobe planning and setting goals. It's mostly geared towards normie fast fashion victims but there's a lot of stuff in there that could be applied to lolita wardrobes whatever stage you're at. In general just consuming content from people who have their own core style as opposed to some lolitas who just buy anything motivates me to buy less and be more creative with what I have. A lot of the stuff they say is pretty universal and for me it breaks up what feels like an otherwise constant stream of lolitas always showing new things.

>> No.10738895

>>10738816
I felt pressured being in a comm too - I always wanted to keep up with people and flex a little, if I'm being honest. And my comm was pretty cliquey and that kind of thing did make a difference. I don't interact with them at all any more for various reasons which really frees me up mentally because I don't have to worry about what a comm or people online think about anything I wear. I'm trying to just get to what I truly want to wear and feel most comfortable in. I don't really talk much to any lolita friends atm but shopaholic behaviors can be contagious, although when I started with minimalism it started to have the opposite effect on me where I'd cringe at peoples hauls and excessive consumption.

I'll check out the wardrobe planning vid. I actually started reading the Curated Closet book! I downloaded a sample but did not purchase it because I wasn't having any wardrobe problems really. I also looked into Project 333 but didn't commit to it because I just wasn't having problems. After I did a huge purge I really reached a point where my wardrobe was so cohesive, getting dressed was incredibly easy and everything looked great and for the most part matched. My lolita wardrobe was treated a little differently, but I got rid of almost everything that I didn't love or wasn't absolutely needed for a cohesive outfit. But it definitely didn't all meld together with a cohesive style like my normie wardrobe and it probably won't... some of it I treat more like pieces of art than clothes. But with the new pieces I'm trying to cultivate the Daily Lolita mindset where these are things I can mix and match and wear out more often. idk, I think I'm going to read the Curated Closet again for some insights now that it's an issue. Let me know if you think of any other resources!

>> No.10738912

>>10738895
My comm isn't very cliquey, the opposite actually but I can relate to it taking up a lot of mental space. I feel like I have to be hyper aware of if my coords are interesting enough or if I wear the same pieces too often kind of deal and it kind of wears me down among other issues I have. I feel like I was happier on my own enjoying the fashion for myself. Whenever I want to talk about lolita I can just come here because gulls always seem to talk me out of buying stuff rather than buying more. Shopaholic behaviours totally are contagious, my comm are the kind to joke about spending too much money on stuff they don't even wear which makes me cringe but also makes me feel left out trying to shop more mindfully. It's such a weird paradox.

I'm mostly a daily lolita so I do try and prioritise buying interchangeable things nowadays, but back when I wasn't and I wore different styles I bought things that weren't as cohesive or versatile and I still hold onto them and wear them until I don't like them anymore. What I do with those outlier pieces is to buy more versatile things that I can coord them with. So if I'm buying a blouse to go with a JSK that doesn't really match my current style, I make sure that blouse goes with other pieces that do fit into my current style so it isn't total dead weight in my closet and those outlier pieces still sorta coordinate with the whole wardrobe even if they don't perfectly mesh together.

I can't really think of any other resources off the top of my head but I finished the Curated Closet today and found it pretty insightful. Though I don't think I'm going to do every exercise in the book there's a few I might try out as I reevaluate my wardrobe for the changing seasons. It seems to be the kind of book you can go back to from time to time as well so it's more of a lifelong resource than a one time thing the way something like KonMari is, which I didn't expect. I definitely don't regret buying it.

>> No.10738969

>>10738565
This would be a legendary creep post if it was 2006.

>> No.10738974
File: 882 KB, 1200x600, file.png [View same] [iqdb] [saucenao] [google]
10738974

>>10738816
>Being on social media makes wanting stuff worse for me too. I don't post a lot or care about interaction but I see cosplayers with huge wardrobes or every variation of every character design I could possibly want and start to feel like I should buy more stuff. Though I do want to own some of the pieces they do, most of them are custom made and expensive so it's not going to happen overnight anyway. When I do see something I want I try to come up with a lot of ways to wear them in my head before I hit buy. Another thing that I found makes it worse is being on cgl.

Edited because this but I was genuinely happier when cons were banned and I didn't have to think about cosplay. I try to keep away from instagram but then I see cosplays getting retweeted by non-cosplayers I follow anyway.

>> No.10739159

>>10738969
It's only creepy if you're unnattractive.

>> No.10739163

>>10739159
If an attractive person did that to me, it would instantly make me creeped out and unattracted

>> No.10739173

>>10739163
Maybe for you personally but in general good looking people get away with more than unnattractive people.

https://www.nngroup.com/articles/halo-effect/

>For example, a tall or good-looking person will be perceived as being intelligent and trustworthy, even though there is no logical reason to believe that height or looks correlate with smarts and honesty.

>In the age of the cave people, there might even have been some truth to these snap judgments: to grow tall a person would have had to eat lots of meat and was therefore probably a good hunter that was worth listening to. And a good-looking person would have avoided disfigurement from lost battles, animal bites, and nasty diseases, which again would make them role models for other protohumans.

>> No.10739176

>>10739159
>>10739173
Are you insane? It's creepy regardless of how you look. It doesn't matter if attractive people "get away with more" only someone equally unhinged would be able to excuse that kind of mentally ill behavior.

>> No.10739182

>>10739176
It worked for David Cage and his Ellen Page collection.

>> No.10739184

>>10739176
>Are you insane?
Yes.

>> No.10739186

>>10739182
Kek what a horrible example that's not even the same.
David cage is ugly, Ellen Page threatened to sue, and now everyone thinks he's a creep. There's tons of articles about how he gets off to sexual violence towards women amongst other things.

>> No.10739187

>>10739173
>>10739182
boy you sure are good at false equivalence examples.

>> No.10739190

>>10739186
>that's not even the same.
It's true he's not attractive but he has money. And now he has DISNEY money. Money overrides looks. It worked for him.

>> No.10739191
File: 11 KB, 430x110, Capture.jpg [View same] [iqdb] [saucenao] [google]
10739191

>>10739187
Not the same anon.

>> No.10739193

>>10739191
post that disagrees with me=all the same single person

>> No.10739194

>>10739191
>>10739193
Congrats. You're BOTH good at false equivalence examples.

>>10739190
If by "it worked" you mean he got a spotlight put on how disgusting he is then sure! He really showed everyone.

>> No.10739195

>>10739190
>It's okay if you stalk someone if you're attractive
>It worked for this ugly guy cause he has money!
Quit moving the goal post

>> No.10739197

>>10739195
I never did. The wealthy and attractive are both sides of the same coin. If you have one, you will be treated the same as someone who has the other.

>> No.10739201

>>10739197
The initial argument was based on attractiveness. You instead argued with an example based on money. Two completely different things. Classic example of moving the goal post.

>> No.10739204

>>10739201
The david cage anon and the attractiveness anon are not the same person.

>> No.10739205

I hate how much the lolita comm has turned into a sort of competition on who has the biggest most expensive wardrobe. I don't give a shit if another member repeats the same coord in a year. I just want to wear my frills and look cute while bonding over similar interests.

>> No.10739277

>>10739173
Sure sometimes, but not in the instance OP described. Blatant mental illness and stalker behavior is unattractive.

>> No.10739290
File: 1.84 MB, 1524x2048, 9999FE47-ED20-48DB-8452-BD4E552F5740.jpg [View same] [iqdb] [saucenao] [google]
10739290

Hey it's me again some of you guys might know me I keep coming here after a cosplay girl breaks my heart. And I just wanna feel used by someone again. It's a bad habit but I just need a girl to simp. I will buy you cute things from time to time and you just give me attention.
sadboi44@protonmail.com send me a message if anyone is interested.

>> No.10739293

>>10738349
Same. The gyaru comm is really a fucking mess i cant stand it anymore. This year has been so bad it makes me sad. Sometimes I cry thinking how i wish the comm would be better like before.

>> No.10739294

>>10738536
You can. You just chase e-thots instead of regular women. Retard

>> No.10739348

>>10739293
What's happened to it?

>> No.10739371

>>10739348
NTA but it's full of touchy feely types from other jfash and trannies now.

>> No.10739387

>>10739371
do they not realize men invading women's spaces isn't what gyaru stands for..

>> No.10739388

>>10739290
My son, get a daddy instead to put you back in shape.

>> No.10739397

>>10737976
As a tall girl, this except I tailor my own clothes. I don't buy to sell and I have no fucks left to give. Life's too short to be uncomfortable.

>> No.10739407
File: 9 KB, 258x196, no.jpg [View same] [iqdb] [saucenao] [google]
10739407

i shouldn't have been coy and placed a bid I should have just bought it. That's what I get for being cheap, I guess.

>> No.10739410

selling a ton of dresses and buying new ones all at once feels so nice. i finally feel excited to wear lolita again. i didn’t realize all i had to do was kick the old squatters out and get some fresh faces in here

>> No.10739427

Pretty much no lolita fits me as a male, and pretty much no lolita do I like, and there's pretty much no overlap between the two, lolita seems impossible for me. But maybe I should just buy something cheap that I don't like and that doesn't fit so I can at least get a bit of experience with sizing and how bad something that doesn't fit truly looks and if there's any flexibility with numbers.

>> No.10739443

>>10739388
I just need a girl to use me.

>> No.10739444

>>10739427
If it doesn't fit then you are better off admiring from afar imo. It really only looks good on feminine frames and smaller ones at that. I'd say maybe just buy one dress from a western brand with generous sizing if you want to have a lolita dress so badly.

>> No.10739454

>>10739427
go get something custom sized, don't go super cheap if you do this though. If you wanna get the feel of it, at least put the money into giving it an honest shot. If you don't like it there are plenty of fatty0chans who would buy it, no matter the style.

>> No.10739464

>lose weight to fit dream dress
>save up money for dream dress
>finally buy dream dress
>it's way too short
yeah I'm thinking suicide is the answer... inb4 peeking bloomers fix, I tried it already and the dress is so short the proportions don't work

>> No.10739465

>>10739464
underskirt or add a frill to the bottom?

>> No.10739535

i wish i bought sugar bouquet FUCK

>> No.10739546

Is 3 weeks of dating too soon to ask someone out officially? I've been trying to pace myself with this since we hit it off literally day 1 and I didn't want to go too fast, but we call pretty much every chance we get and he literally changed his work schedule so we'd be off on the same days.
We're hanging out again tomorrow too, I should just go for it and make it official, right?

>> No.10739550
File: 134 KB, 1080x897, img_1_1646720347446.jpg [View same] [iqdb] [saucenao] [google]
10739550

I know someone that's somewhat popular in the cosplay community, but I also know he's done some really horrible things. He's a serial cheater, asks other people to pay for his costumes for him, convinced multiple girls to start being bulimic to get thinner, and he had an ex gf that even tried to kill herself because of how much he abused her. I was already not sure I should say anything publicly but the whole thing with Gus Johnson on YouTube makes me feel like I should say something to people. I'm not a direct victim, but the victims I do know want to warn other people but are too scared to speak up. I don't want anyone else to get hurt because of him, but I don't want to speak out of turn either.

Pic related; it's one of the people in this photo.

>> No.10739552

>>10739464
It's leggy time

>> No.10739609

>>10739535
I was going to buy I only like one cut and it sold out right away in the color I wanted. There should be some up for sale soon I think

>> No.10739611

>>10739546
Give it two weeks

>> No.10739666

>>10739444
You're probably right, but I don't want to outright agree that you have to have a small, feminine frame, many females put in a lot of effort and thought into getting it to work with their body. It'd absolutely be a massive advantage though, imagine just looking at lolita pieces, and the only thing you have to think about is whether you like it and maybe price. It has to give such a great sense of freedom.
I did look a little bit at some western brands, most of them don't fit my preferences but some of them kind of do, very expensive though and most are closed or sold out anyway.

One of my biggest problems with lolita relating to myself is that there's simply not that much that I like. It feels like a lot of it either goes too cute, or too classy, and neither is my sense of aesthetic, and I'm also worried about most prints, and don't want motifs that I can't stand for like games, toys etc.

Idk if I should really care about lolita at all, maybe it's just an overdose of /cgl/ and I want to fit in, that's kind of what got me into anime, I needed to fit in on /a/. Lolita isn't really me.

>>10739454
I don't know if I wanna give it a honest shot, and I'm kinda not rich either. And getting something custom sized sounds complicated. I'd probably rather just go super cheap

>>10739535
A black (or maybe red) sugar bouquet skirt is something I'm looking out for
need accounts on the japanese sites to have a shot though

>> No.10739722

>>10739550
>star wars fag
>psychopath shit head

Adds up.

>> No.10739734

>Just started a new job that pays really well
>Should be able to pay off all debt before the year even ends
>Able to afford pet insurance for dog and cat
>Able to afford gym membership with indoor pool
I'm so excited to start swimming to help lose weight, I lost so much and then regained 40 pounds during COVID that just won't go away it's depressing.

I want to fit into my cute dresses better and look cute

>> No.10739735

>>10739734
Happy for you, anon! Swimming is great fun, too.

>> No.10739777

>>10739546
Do you mean as in asking someone be your girlfriend/boyfriend? I usually ask that around 4th or 5th date.

>> No.10739778

>>10739294
Well I mean yeah. I guess if she had an IG profile or something like that, I could platonically simp for her but this girl has zero online presence.

>> No.10739785

>>10739550
Everyone in the pic looks fucking awful.
Anyway Star Wars cosplay scene is really bad. People are just way too obsessed about the franchise and make Star Wars their only identity. Think weebs are bad with their waifu simping? Star Wars fans are worse than that.
The cosplays that I have are 99% anime costumes but I have like 4 Star Wars outfits that I did spend a lot of money and time into making and improving. But if I wear Star Wars cosplay at a con, I only wear them for like half an hour and then go back to my anime stuffs. The Star Wars people are fucking weirdos. I just want to meet Star Wars fans that aren't funkopop consoomers, stuck up boomers, or obsessive fans.

>> No.10739788 [DELETED] 

>>10737943
Islam really is right about women

>> No.10739971

>sells something on LM
>lots of messages back and forth with buyer
>item arrives and buyer thanks me via pm. They are very happy with item
>I leave positive feedback
>buyer never ever does

Why do people do this? I don't sell that often on there, but most of the time when I do the buyers never leave feedback. Like if you can message me and tell me how quick the item came and how pretty it is, then why can't you just leave feedback?

>> No.10739982

>>10739971
just ask them. some of us don't give a shit about LM reviews unless it's someone with absolutely none

>> No.10740162

>>10739550
I'm all for lining up sociopaths against the wall and removing them from this species, and even I think there's something fishy here. Tell us more.

>> No.10740197

>>10739971
Some of us don't want weirdos stalking our buying history

>> No.10740217

>>10740197
This is why i stopped leaving feedback and don't care if no one leaves any for me. If you're not insanely new you have enough feedback that it doesn't matter anyway.

>> No.10740300

>>10738317
anon you sound mature

>> No.10740391

>>10739535
>>10739609
your lucky day
https://www.babyssb.co.jp/store_info/20220310_sendai/

>> No.10740398

>>10740391
>https://www.babyssb.co.jp/store_info/20220310_sendai/
sendai only gonna kms

>> No.10740423

>>10739182
What?

>> No.10740424

Dress I was looking forward to came in the mail and I can’t stand the material. Its a 50/50 cotton poly blend and feels like shit raincoat material that makes a swooshing sound when It moves. I had an outfit planned for a specific event and everything. I have some polyester items from the same brand that are fine. I’m so disappointed and completely turned off of it.

>> No.10740444

>>10740424
What brand? And I hate that material too so I feel your pain.

>> No.10740447

>>10740444
It’s from Milk, which is one of my favorite brands. I have a bunch of other dresses from them, a couple are in 100% polyester, and they’re all fine? So I’m kind of surprised by this and really bummed out. It’s not a new dress either, it’s from 2016.

>> No.10740474
File: 317 KB, 1504x2016, 20190113_131612.jpg [View same] [iqdb] [saucenao] [google]
10740474

>>10738565
Hey I found a really old photo of the mirror

>> No.10740496

>>10740474
males...

>> No.10740498

>>10740496
I went off the rails for a while.

>> No.10740532

>>10740498
Still are since you're posting it here. Women aren't human to you, are they

>> No.10740534

>>10739785
501st drama is *chef's kiss*

>> No.10740537

>>10739785
>>10740534

Ngl the inner drama in me wants entire farm threads devoted specifically to 501st drama and historical costuming drama for easy referencing.

>> No.10740538

>>10739785
100% true and I don't even live in the USA. They are the most toxic people in the cosplay community. Where I live, the Star Wars cosplayers are always attacking cosplayers from anime an japanese vidya, since we get all the attention at cons.

>> No.10740540

>>10740537
Be the change you want to see in the world, I'll contribute

>> No.10740610

>>10740538
Lmao I don't understand why a lot of Star Wars people hate anime/Japanese stuffs when George Lucas took inspiration from old Japanese movies. Japan also like Star Wars too. I remember Shounen Jump authors (Dragon Ball, Death Note, One Piece) drew Star Wars arts for the release of new Star Wars movies. It seems like the hostility always come from the Western side.
Kinda makes me sad cuz I spent a lot of time sewing and crafting for my Star Wars cosplay but goddamn, the Star Wars people at con are just horrible.
>>10740534
>>10740537
501st is a fucking cult. I don't understand their obsession with getting "approved" and "trooping". These autistic motherfuckers make the membership their whole identity.
Also looks like most Star Wars fans hate anything that isn't current Disney canon. My Star Wars cosplays are from the old EU before the reboot. Every Star Wars mouthbreather I met at con always makes comment about what is canon and what's not. Like motherfucker, I just want to wear some cool shit to a convention, not to hear your nerd rant.
Anyway, I have enough anime cosplay to wear at cons. I will put the Star Wars cosplay on a mannequin for display even though I don't wear them often.

>> No.10740660

>>10740532
I was very sad at that stage in my life. I'm better now.

>> No.10740662

>>10740660
I'm glad you're doing better, anon.

>> No.10740691

>>10738568
Are you kidding?

>> No.10740692

LabDeMerveilles just shut down her Etsy shop. Shit sucks and Putin can blow chunks

>> No.10740709

>>10740691
They were clearly being sarcastic

>> No.10740733

I think the "spark" of lolita is gone for me. Looking at my wardrobe doesn't bring me the same happiness it used to and I'm bored of most of my dresses (but still don't want to sell them). Even the last few elusive dream dresses I have I don't feel like are true dream dresses anymore, like maybe I'd buy them if the price is good and I just happened along a listing but I don't feel like hunting them down is fun anymore. New releases are generally not worth the price to me even though I make more money now than I ever have before and bought many brand new dresses in the past. I still enjoy wearing lolita when I go out, so it's not like I'm quitting, but some of that first infatuation is definitely gone after so many years. I guess I've stagnated, and maybe that's okay, but I miss that old excitement.

>> No.10740750
File: 190 KB, 540x482, 1644617375687.png [View same] [iqdb] [saucenao] [google]
10740750

>>10740733
I think the numbness just comes with the territory whenever you spend a long enough time in a hobby. It happened to me with drawing, text RPs, YGO, and model building. Of course I'll always like those things and have fond memories of when they were new, but once you've explored most everything and found your niche, you start getting a little numb to it until the next new thing comes about.

>> No.10740760

I made a cute rectangle applique in a nile perch style and glued it onto a shirt. I realized too late that it’s a bit lopsided so, fuck.
I guess i’ll just rock it. It has lace and shit on it so it already looks crazy and i guess it being lopsided might just add to the charm???

>> No.10740770

>>10740733
When this happened to me I switched from AP to sheglit and boz and the spark came back

>> No.10740787

How am I supposed to be able to buy items at the prices they are worth when they sell out in 0.01 seconds.
It looks like the only options are to buy from scalpers or to never be able to buy the things and settle for things I don't really like.

>> No.10740820

>>10740760
Why....wouldn't you just sew it on....

>> No.10740857

>>10740820
Because the applique was made of the shitty fraying type of eco bag fabric... that sewing through would cause the needle holes to just grow bigger over time and that makes me feel anxiety. the print was cute so i just used it and glued it on.

>> No.10740890

I hate my life. I have shitty motor control and miss so many items because I am physically just not fast enough to buy things. I've only ever been able to buy 2 items at release over the last 5 years, I feel so left out of this fashion sometimes, all because of this stupid disability. I've asked people to help buy things and every time they say they will but never do when the time comes, every time I've tried a shopping service they somehow always forget me or miss the item, I'm just so tired of trying so hard to always end up with nothing. I hate being disabled and wish I could kill myself every day, and constantly missing out on things I truly love is not helping. I'd probably have already done it if I didn't have people who would miss me. I feel so trapped. My body is a prison and so is my life. I truly hope I die soon. I'm done struggling. It took me nearly an hour just to type this. if that's not a sign I should be dead idk what is.

>> No.10740938 [DELETED] 

Reminder: it is impossible to be raped by someone you love. If you think you’ve ever been raped by a romantic partner, that just means you didn’t truly love them, because otherwise you’d enjoy bonding romantically and emotionally with them through sex.

>> No.10740953

>>10740890
Quit trying to go for new releases? And quit using your condition as a crutch and deal with your actual issues. You can enjoy this fashion without being part of the bloodbath, you just like excuses. Quit using disability to get sympathy.

>> No.10740955

>>10740890
>>10740953
I’m sorry I shouldn’t be an asshole, I’m going through withdrawal and didn’t think about how even little things make me also want to die.

>> No.10740960

>>10740890
there's more to lolita than getting the newest release and if you can't realize that you need to take a step back. there's thousands of items available to buy right now that you can take your sweet time hitting the "buy now" button with, many of them being recent/new releases. get off of here and go actually wear the fucking clothes you doofus

>> No.10740961

>>10740955
Anon just take care of yourself. If you can get your meds situation fixed and grow up a little I'm sure people would want to hang out with you and you could join a local group without having new releases. The problem might be more internal and not superficial.

>> No.10740962

>>10740890
Shit I'm so sorry anon. I want to offer to help you but im bad at keeping promises if I'm being totally honest. I hope you can find happiness. I personally don't like the bloodbaths.

>> No.10740963

>>10740890
> It took me nearly an hour just to type this. if that's not a sign I should be dead idk what is.
Why not just voice dictate your speech to a notepad and then just copy and paste?

>> No.10740969

>>10740963
because then the LARP wouldn't be so heartbreaking

>> No.10740974

>>10740890
You don't need all the newest releases to enjoy yourself in this fashion. Just wait a bit for people to sell theirs. Lolita is, if nothing else, a lesson in patience.

>> No.10741005

Tfw you realise although you’re disgusted at being fucked in lolita you would absolutely have no problems being fucked in hime gyaru

>> No.10741008

>>10741005
hime kei isn't gyaru

>> No.10741020

>>10740890
Pity party table for one. Get over yourself.

>> No.10741086

Some friends from the US are getting together to go for a con there, and I wish so goddamn much I could tag along. Unfortunately, I'm on the other side of the world and have no visa.
:(
Also, no cons here since covid started..

>> No.10741087

>>10738168
based
I think goth is making a comeback

>> No.10741094
File: 61 KB, 700x360, 945f9cd161d6337affa44d2c9873a65d.jpg [View same] [iqdb] [saucenao] [google]
10741094

>>10737713
It's really easy to keep up with it because I just love lolita so much. Sometimes I find myself checking the catalog to see if there is a new feels thread just to post my feeling all over again. There's a lot going wrong in the world and in my personal life as well, so I'm super glad I am able to have some lolita, wear some coords and just love the entire fashion so much. Lolita brings me a lot of joy!

>> No.10741097

Man, auctions are stressful.

>> No.10741138

I had a dream last night where Meta re-released D Walkure except they changed the hat to not have the nazi eagle symbol.

>> No.10741140

>>10741138
so then it was just the japanese imperial army uniform? how is that better?

>> No.10741156

>>10741140
You won't get canceled for it

>> No.10741185

>>10741140
Anon virtually every army commits war crimes because scrotes can't help themselves

>> No.10741232

WHY do i have a crush on my boss im going to KMS WHAT THE FUCK

>> No.10741249

>>10741232
Ah tfw I'm the opposite of you since I'm a manager and have a crush on a part timer I only see once a week. Sigh.

>> No.10741250

>>10741087
Tbh gothic fashion is more popular now than it's ever been since it's more acceptable in the mainstream.
On one hand it's kinda nice to not have to deal with so much guff from strangers. On the other it's super annoying considering all these fashion "goths" are ruining the club scene again thanks to the popularity surge.

>> No.10741253

>>10740953
They’re still allowed to be upset about it. I don’t see this as them using their disability as a crutch, and it’s weird that that’s your first impression.

>> No.10741262

>>10741253
they've posted about how they should get to have every new release because of their uwu disability before. disability or not no sympathy for hype covidlitas who are only in it to get the newest shiny thing

>> No.10741270

>>10741185
Is it a coincidence that war crimes against civilians only really became a thing after women started getting the right to vote?

>> No.10741272

I am so sick of instagram and facebook. I wish blogs would make a resurgence. So many lolitas are focused on clout instead of enjoying the fashion and it seriously bums me out.

>> No.10741276

>>10741272
We are seeing a trend away from major social media platforms but I don't think blogs will make a return to the mainstream. I'm surprised that lolita doesn't have an active blogging scene given the niche nature of it but I it speaks to the nature of the people who dress in lolita that they reject blogs for larger platforms.

>> No.10741278

>>10741250
>On the other it's super annoying considering all these fashion "goths" are ruining the club scene again thanks to the popularity surge
oh, I went to a club yesterday, notice a lot of girls dressing goth.
I thought most of them looked cool desu

>> No.10741279

>>10741276
There used to be a huge focus on blogs: neocities, blogspot, wordpress, LJ. When insta and fb came along people moved there. Thanks to the nature of those platforms (or maybe it was always the nature of lolitas) the focus has shifted from being passionate about the fashion to seeing how many followers one can accumulate, even if those followers don't wear the fashion or are predators.

>> No.10741291

I'm feeling so happy right now gulls. I am buying a house, adopting a new puppy soon, buying whatever lolita dresses I want, and slowly but surely eating better and losing weight. I'm excited to be I the place I am in life.

There is a tiny voice in the back of my head saying "You don't deserve this, it's too good to be true, something bad is going to happen to you to even things out because your life can't be this good", but my partner has been so comforting and reassuring and my regular friends and lolita comm members are all so nice and fun to be around and I love hanging out with them.

I just really love lolita and I'm satisfied with my life for the first time in a while. I hope other gulls are doing well and can feel all the good and happy things too.

>> No.10741293

>>10741272
A lot of lolitas still have blogs and update them.

>> No.10741295

>>10741291
happy for you, anon!

>> No.10741305

>>10741293
Yes, I know. But there's so few compared to before. I can't even convince my friends to make one because it requires effort and there's less validation than popular social media sites.

>> No.10741307

>>10741278
I mean goth clubs specifically. Gothic fashion has become so popular that normies have invaded our spaces and brought their music with them pushing out actual goth music more and more.

>> No.10741308

>>10741307
ahh I see. That sucks. I can sympathize with your hobby place being flooded with people who aren't actually into it in the first place.

>> No.10741309

>>10741307
Gatekeeping has no place in these hobbies which are about accepting of individuality. Just because you dislike that you're not super special anymore doesn't mean that people coming into the hobby aren't allowed to be there.

>> No.10741310

>>10741309
Gatekeeping is awesome actually. People who don't actually care about the subculture shouldn't be allowed in.

>> No.10741311

>>10741310
But that's not how getting into hobbies work. Most people get into hobbies by simply observing the aesthetic of the hobby or some facet of it, find it appealing and then grow into the hobby over time. Rejecting those attempting to grow into the hobby will just ensure your hobby dies. Kind of like lolita is.

>> No.10741315

>>10741309
>>10741309
Gatekeeping is 100% how you maintain the integrity of subcultures. Goth culture is based on music. If you don't like the music you can gtfo and join some other subculture that you actually do like. There's nothing special about being goth. It's literally the most well known subculture next to punk. We're just sick of people dragging the subculture through the muck forcefully trying to insert things that don't belong in it.

>> No.10741316

>>10741311
Lolita isn't dying. It's more popular than ever.
You sound like a lolita at heart type who probably cries about people being called ita. Lolita has plenty of gatekeeping thank fuck.
If it didn't, people would wear square dancing dresses and shitty target blouses making lolita devolve into a meaningless fashion where you can just wear anything and have it be accepted.

>> No.10741318

>>10741315
>you maintain the integrity of subcultures.
This is just a cope. You want to maintain being special and that's all you care about. What makes you any more qualified than anybody else to determine what is or isn't valid inside a subculture. It's not like anybody is born Goth or raised Goth.

>>10741316
Lolita is only popular now because people stopped gatekeepers. Hence why we are seeing so many people that in the past were rejected by lolitas like poor people, transgenders and heavier people joining lolita and keeping it alive.

>> No.10741333

>>10741315
stuff evolves, anon. you wouldn't want goth shit to be the same as it was. eugh. are you the sperg who always rees about this shit?

>> No.10741346

>>10741318
lolita was never dying, and those people always were in the fashion. what's dying is japan, desu.

>> No.10741349

>>10741318
>Lolita is only popular now because people stopped gatekeepers
kek and you say other people are just trying to cope
>>10741333
nonnie there's plenty of goths who come on this board considering many gothic lolitas are also goth

>> No.10741358

>>10741305
Not everyone is a blog person. Social media takes effort too. Just make your own and support others who do.

>> No.10741363

>>10741279
this continuously makes me so sad. there's something so much more immersive about blogs that you just don't get with social media. insta and fb feel so shallow and i hate it.

>>10741293
i want to believe there's more than the most popular 5 but I feel like the problem with lolita blogs nowadays is that they're harder to find than other social media accounts.

>>10741291
damn dude good for you. hope it lasts and you stay happy.

>> No.10741383

>>10741363
blogs are like cute public journal entries. it allows more personality.

>> No.10741421

>>10741333
>you wouldn't want goth shit to be the same as it was
Classic poser cope. Calling house and dark wave goth isn't "evolution" it's just bastardization.

>> No.10741437

>>10741421
>it's evolution if I like it and bastardization if I don't

>> No.10741451

>>10741437
It's evolution if it stays true to the genre.
It's bastardization if you take a completely different genre and try to call it goth.
I know this is difficult for posers like you to understand but maybe some day it'll seep into that thick skull of yours.

>> No.10741454

>>10741451
>True to the genre is whatever I like and untrue whatever I don't like

>> No.10741502

>>10741451
oh, you are that annoying cunt. sorry you're too old and autistic to get into different music.

>> No.10741526

>>10741454
>>10741502
stop replying to every single bait put in front of your dumbass noses
youre so triggered its embarrassing

>> No.10741538
File: 410 KB, 500x712, 1643620663017.png [View same] [iqdb] [saucenao] [google]
10741538

I just wanna be good at social interactions. I want to not drop spaghetti every time I get into a group of five or more people. If there was a charm school where you go to be taught how to talk to people i'd shell out big for it. PLEASE

>> No.10741554

>>10741538
In my life the following happened to me:
>be ok at socializing for most of my life
>start smoking weed and hash
>"strong weed" start being commercialized
>I become socially retarded, have social ansiety, mild-low paranoia, etc
>be diagnosed with schizophrenia
>disregard meds, keep on with my social ansiety, mild-low paranoia, etc.
>thinking nothing off it, keep smoking that shit
>eventually my schizophrenia becomes so strong and severe I can no longer ignore the problem
>hear voices, have vissions, even tactile allucinations
>get medicate
>stop somiking that good shit
>be ok at socializing again

>> No.10741557

>>10741554
>>10741538
AND grow a belly, after having been naturally fit with 0 workouts for all my life

>> No.10741558

>>10738534
Masquerade... masks... it’s almost like the theme is to wear one to begin with. you’ll put it together Eventually!

>> No.10741571

Someone keeps trying to fuck with me and gather info on me really obviously through Mutuals but seems to have forgotten I know where they live. They have no idea what’s coming and it feels great. (No I’m not doing anything illegal)

>> No.10741572
File: 166 KB, 927x859, bb hell.jpg [View same] [iqdb] [saucenao] [google]
10741572

>>10741554
>have social anxiety, mild-low paranoia, etc
>hear voices, have visions, even tactile hallucinations
>grow a gut
s-stop calling me out anon. jokes aside that is pretty uncannily close, only I never jumped on the weed wagon. I really don't want to have to take Valium, i still think i'm not so bad that I could fix myself with some Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. But my social idiocy was always there, i've just matured enough to actually become aware of and ashamed of it.

>> No.10741573

>>10741572
1. don't be ashamed of it
2. work on it, in a controlled, small steps BUT continuous way
pick both

>> No.10741574

>>10741572
no, wait, you're telling me you have paranoia and allucinations? Cause if that's the case I'm almost positive you do indeed have schizophrenia. Do you hear voices in your head like totally random voices saying random shit out of fucking nowhere?

>> No.10741576

>>10741574
Less in the way of audio hallucination, but yes. More of visual ones. once i saw what amounted to the frightened ghost of a woman appearing in front of my car as i took off for work. Last for less than a second and surprised the shit out of me. Get the Bugs On Me once in a blue moon and get those lovely Night Time Whispers when i start getting stressed enough. As for the paranoia, I'm CBTing it away. Like >>10741573 said, it's small steps but working slowly. But like, socially, i've had my reputation ruined by my own shitty actions when I was oblivious to how they seemed to other people. I can't turn off the shame. It sucks!

>> No.10741577

>>10741576
idk anon, I believe you are a literal schizo, off course I'm not a doctor, and you should check with one if it is an option, just be aware that they'll medicate you unless you go to one of thos doctors that follow the north european way which avoids medication altogehter as much as possible (honestly I have no idea how those work). Anyways, good luck.

>> No.10741582

>>10741577
I already see a doctor, weekly, but thanks for the well wishes. She doesn't think i need medication, or at least knows that I'd fight it too much for it to be worth prescribing it to me. It's not like medication would let me know how to deal with making social faux pas or know how to respond to people in a way that doesn't make me look like an Over Eager freak or silent creep who stares during work meetings.

>> No.10741586

>>10741582
ok, then just try the following:
. get prescrived zyphrexa olanzapina (1mg)
. take it for 3 days
See if something changed. You don't have to be taking it for your life, just see how it is supposed to be on the other side. Then judge/decide. But again, living a life in shame... nobody deserves that, I'm not telling you to take the meds, just see if they work, and if they do, maybe look for solutions that do not include medication.

>> No.10741599

I found my ex-friend's instagram account today, our friendship ended two years ago. He's a sissy now and has a tights fetish. I'm feeling so disgusting for ever befriending that guy and wonder for how long he has been a sissy in disguise when we were still friends. The thought of him potentially getting turned on by me makes me gag.

>> No.10741611

I wish I had someone to talk to. Not everything is suitable for the /cgl/ feels thread.

>> No.10741646

>>10741599
Why do you think he was turned on by you?

>> No.10741663

>>10741599
I mean if you have any male friend he's been turned on by you at some point. I guess it's weirder if he's a sissy but men are just like that

>> No.10741673

>>10741663
Wait are guys actually like that? That's fucking gross.

>> No.10741679
File: 76 KB, 1600x1200, 70393F76-882B-41F9-A348-CF4D09E562C4.jpg [View same] [iqdb] [saucenao] [google]
10741679

I was watching camgirls a few nights ago and stumbled across one with ap dresses hung on her walls

>> No.10741680
File: 136 KB, 1920x1080, 1609420867557.jpg [View same] [iqdb] [saucenao] [google]
10741680

>>10741679
>mfw

>> No.10741687

>>10737858
she will wait until the last day and then blame you for nothing. better make yourself her shit and get a blowjob in return

>> No.10741751

>>10741673
Depends on how pretty the girl is. I would be lying if I said I wasn't turned on by some of my female friends. But what separates creeps and non-creeps is being able to ignore that feeling.

>> No.10741780

>>10741611
What's on your mind?

>> No.10741782

>>10741673
If a chick is hot we'll get an erection. Simple as. It's how nature works.

>> No.10741792

>>10741782
this guy is guaranteed to cum in 5 seconds.

>> No.10741796

>>10741673
It's unavoidable. Unless they're suffering from sort of health condition that lowers their testosterone, if you're an attractive woman, you can pretty much expect them to be attracted to you. That doesn't mean they're jacking off to erotic fantasies involving you or anything like that, or that they're popping a chubby anytime you're close to them, no. It just means that they find you attractive. I have quite a few good looking female friends that I find them really cute, but it's not like I'm walking with a boner every time we hang out, but it's impossible not to be attracted towards them. Also, that doesn't mean every single one of your male friends it trying to get in your pants or anything like it, I would hazard a guess that most of them probably knows that it's not a good idea to risk jeopardizing a friendship just to get laid.

>> No.10741797

>>10741782
If you get an erection from just looking at a girl in public, you're either 15 in which case you're not allowed here OR you have some sort of health issue. Getting horny is fine, getting a full hard-on because a sliver of boob is showing is not normal.

>> No.10741801

>>10741782
why the fuck do women insist on having male friends again?

>> No.10741803

>>10741801
feminism has deluded them into believing men and women's brains work the same way

>> No.10741807

>>10741801
Getting attention from the opposite gender is intoxicating, if you're a heterosexual or bisexual person. It does wonders for one's self-esteem.

>> No.10741825

>>10741801
Unfortunately men can be really interesting to talk to, you just have to get used to weird stuff like this.

>> No.10741841

>>10741825
>men
>interesting

I say this as a man but most men are just really autistic and maybe you're confusing that with interesting.

>> No.10741844

>>10741841
I guess I like autism, idk

>> No.10741850

>>10741844
L
O
N
D
O
N

>> No.10741857

>>10741796
What, do you find your family members attractive too?

>> No.10741865

>>10741780
I don't think it's suitable for /cgl/. I wish I had someone I could talk to at length about it and cry openly about it.
But it's not actually anything bad or tragic even though I mentioned crying.

>> No.10741870

>>10741844
Huh my partner is an autism. Funny.
Anyways my >tfw is pulling out the costume I bought before the virus hit, and finding out how badly it was designed. Like weird edging for style, but it just looks like a cheap unfinished edge. And it's wayy too long, both skirt and top. Material is like some heavy polyester, and they padded the shoulders for some reason.

Still gonna wear it, probably gonna look like crap. But fuck it, I bought the thing and I'm gonna use it.

>> No.10741883

>>10741797
Nah nothing so drastic.

>>10741792
Why don't you make me.

>>10741801
More fun and less drama.

>> No.10741896

>>10741538
anon, have you tried socializing with other spergs?
trying to do it with normalfags is really painful
it's much easier with someone who would laugh at 4chan jokes desu

>> No.10741897

>>10741797
>getting a full hard-on because a sliver of boob is showing is not normal.
you have not ever been a high testosterone person.

>> No.10741898

>>10741801
>why the fuck do women insist on having male friends again?
because there are more things to consider besides sexual attraction
some people are pleasant to talk with, or they share hobbies with you, or they're in the same social circle as you and you grew closer over time.

>> No.10741908

>>10741897
I've been on 1g of tren, 500mg of test and 40g of sdrol. You have no idea what high test means.

>> No.10741911

>>10741908
Noelle Stevenson, is that you?

>> No.10741913
File: 846 KB, 1080x2400, Screenshot_20220315-213227_Chrome.jpg [View same] [iqdb] [saucenao] [google]
10741913

>>10741911
No?

>> No.10741918

>>10741896
>tfw too autistic to get along with spergs
either that or they are just too autistic and I wouldn't want to be with them anyway, but that doesn't even matter because I'm still to autistic for them to want to interact with me

Oh but it'd be so nice to have someone that would make 4chan jokes, I hung out with one person who vistits 4chan one time and we ended up singing the DK rap and then he did the *snap* cringe compilation thing, and it was SO EPIC!

>> No.10741921

>>10741908
sure you have

>> No.10741922

>>10741918
have you tried making friends online? perhaps in video game groups.

>> No.10741923

>>10741913
Noelle is infamous for the She-Ra reboot, being exiled to the couch while her female partner was having sex with a man in the next room, having meltdowns about hating all men to death, and trooning out in an effort to become a man. There's a video of her showing off her stroggfied chest floating around.
My point is that I'm calling you a tranny instead of a roider.

>> No.10741930

>>10741922
Just to make it clear I'm not the person who was given the advise in the first place, you're talking to someone else.

I've never made any online friends, I don't thinkt that's possible for me. I don't think I'm enthusiastic enough about video games to really fit in in video game groups. But even elsewhere I haven't made any friends online. Everyone else does but I end up on the outside of the core and feel a bit excluded as well sometimes.
I've met up with one person I met online but I don't trust them and find them annoying so I don't find them to be a good candidate for friendship, also they probably prioritize other people over me anyway.

I wish I could have a good online friend, it can replace most of my need for friends in real life, but it's never happened and probably never will.

>> No.10741974

>>10741782
Uh
No.

>> No.10742071
File: 94 KB, 700x520, gull bait.jpg [View same] [iqdb] [saucenao] [google]
10742071

>> No.10742108

>>10741857
I consider relatives to be friends.

>> No.10742110

>>10742108
FUCK, I mean to say I don't regard my relatives as friends. They're just family to me.

>> No.10742116

>>10742110
t. Habsburg

>> No.10742119

I've used a habit tracker app for all of three days, and if I keep these good habits up I'll... Be happy? I don't know, it just feels good to set goals and meet them. Checkmarks feels good.

>> No.10742428

A friend I was into is about to start dating another friend and I am jealous as fuck
jealous jealous jealous
aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa
I need to go to a con to cope

>> No.10742530

What’s the point of wearing all these pretty dresses if my face can never be as pretty as they are. Tfw when no amount of exercise or makeup can ever make my face symmetrical, my nose smaller, or my jawline better (no, contour does not help my nose look smaller). I hate taking photos at meetups because I am simply just not photogenic at all. I wish I could put on a face sticker irl or wear a mask 24/7.

>> No.10742543

>>10742530
hey sister, i share a lot of the same insecurities as you and i thought i would share a quote that makes me feel a little better about them: “I am not perfect, therefore I will be killing myself shortly.”

>> No.10742563
File: 98 KB, 1366x768, 92631899ff7b1bbe93e8a39945d563ab.jpg [View same] [iqdb] [saucenao] [google]
10742563

>>10742530
Everything in this world can be paid for, anon.

>> No.10742571

>>10742530
plastic surgery + fillers could solve all those things

>> No.10742635 [DELETED] 

>>10742530

I had the same problem as a teenager. I just practiced poses in front of a mirror and took photos for years, also improved my make-up and in the end it worked. Think about yourself as an actor in training.

>> No.10742636 [DELETED] 

I had the same problem as a teenager. I just practiced poses in front of a mirror and took photos for years, also improved my make-up and in the end it worked. Think about yourself as an actor in training.

Also search for posing tutorials online. There are many.

>> No.10742637

>>10742543

I had the same problem as a teenager. I just practiced poses in front of a mirror and took photos for years, also improved my make-up and in the end it worked. Think about yourself as an actor in training.

Also search for posing tutorials online. There are many.

>> No.10742675

>>10742530
Just save up and get surgery. All the celebrities do it. As long as you go for changes which are subtle and timeless, it's not really that bad

>> No.10742707

>>10742675
If you go to another country, surgery isn't even that expensive. You can get a nose job from a reputable doctor in India for $1k.

>> No.10742855
File: 149 KB, 500x500, 1012290324.png [View same] [iqdb] [saucenao] [google]
10742855

>europoor
>work 4 days a week
>800$ leftover monthly for consumer shit, but i mostly invest it

Feels like im squandering my time sometimes, if i do 5 days my free cash flow goes to 1300+

I dont hate my job or life but it i worked one extra day i kind of will.
Also i live frugally, no avocado toasts or 40$ grubhubs or 100$ phonebills to cut.

>> No.10742881
File: 190 KB, 424x470, 00000.png [View same] [iqdb] [saucenao] [google]
10742881

>mfw I find out how much more Americans get in the same industry
Shortage has been predicted forever, just seems like I'll be forty before it actually starts jacking wages here.

>> No.10742882

>>10742855
Honestly, if I were you I'd do 5 days a week. Having an extra 500+ Euros at the end of the months sounds like a whole fucking lot to me. You'll still have saturday and sunday to chill out and be lazy.

>> No.10742883

>>10742882
On the other hand, having to work only 4 days a week is a fucking dream to me. So I can relate to your reasoning.

>> No.10742886

>>10742543
Fuck off troll, here's your (((you)))
>>10742530
You aren't as bad as you think, experiment with different makeup techniques and hairstyles. I used to feel ugly but now I think I'm very attractive just unconventionally pretty, I'm not white and shouldn't try to use white beauty standards

>> No.10742889

>>10742881
Yes I was surprised euro engineers make like 40-50k when Americans make twice that or at least 30k higher

>> No.10742894

>>10742889
I guess taxes can explain away some of that. Aviation is completely fucked where US first officers at majors can make six figures, and in Canada you'd have to work like ten years at the biggest airline just to do the same. Might as well be Captain. Oh wait, Americans will make 200k for that. And USD is worth like thirty percent more.

>> No.10742895

>>10742889
Europoors make scraps compared to the US. Whered you think the term came from?

>>10742882
>>10742883
Its 500$ not euro, converted it to something the burgers can understand.
I might just go halfway and only work the extra days 1-2x a month if im in a good mood.

>> No.10742996

Bought a dress on LM and never got the package.... I messaged the user and she hasnt responded. All her reviews are good so I dont wanna blame it on her, maybe it got stuck in the mail. But I need the tracking number

>> No.10743093

>>10738816
Hey anon, not sure if you're still around, but I read the curated closet and checked out the YouTube video you mentioned as well as some by the stitches and a few normie and alt influencers on "finding your style" topics. I did some exercises with pinning liked coords and trying to determine what I actually liked, and it's SO helpful. I wish I had done this a long time ago!

I'm still working through it and it's going to be trial and error, but things are so much clearer and I can see how I was easily misled into buying things I didn't like before by not paying attention to what I actually like about different items. For example I bought a bunch of high waisted stuff I don't even like because the style was otherwise cute.. or trying to use a lot of accessories when I actually don't like tons of accessories! I would just see coords with lots of accessories and think I had to do that too, completely ignoring my favorite coords don't even do that... It turns out what I like are really simple old school coordinates with an A-line defined waist silhouette and rectangle headdresses. And my "needs" for this look are a lot different from another lolita in another substyle. I don't need to be buying jackets, lots of accessories or printed legwear because it's not even the look I want; even if they are in a coord I like, it's never the main thing I like about it.

I still have a long way to go, but the general direction is a lot clearer. My stuff I like and don't like lists also increased a lot, which will help eliminate bad items. Thank you again for all the super helpful advice.

>> No.10743098

>>10742894
300k for freight pilots depending on company.

>> No.10743102

>>10741291
I hope that feeling is fleeting.

>> No.10743110

>>10743102
Are you having a bad day anon? Do you want to talk about it?

>> No.10743120

>>10743098
Ahhhhhhh. Suffering. And also despair.
I can't comment on freight, or corporate here, but I know a bit about airline. We only have two major airlines, and they both start first year first officers around 50k cad a year. With maybe an extra ten in per diems, uniform allowance, etc.
I think air can might get up to 300k. But only captain on their biggest machine. After ten years.
And when airliners cut you off after sixty five, it does hamper seniority. Instructing hardly pays bills living in a shit apartment. If you don't get your million saved up by then, you're fucked

>> No.10743285

>>10742530
I used to feel the similarly, but the i realized that big noses can be pretty and most people have minor asymmetry to their face. Do you have some kind of serious facial deformity? Is your hygiene bad? Or are you just sitting in front of a mirror too much?
A good haircut can really help you feel better about your face. Take care of your skin. Wear your makeup in a way that brings attention to the parts of your face that you like. In my experience, nose contour draws more attention to the nose instead of making it look smaller. Learn how to do eye makeup that compliments your eye shape. Different eye shapes wont both look good with the same makeup. Work with what you have and take care of yourself.
The point of wearing pretty dresses is to wear pretty dresses and have fun wearing pretty dresses. You started buying your dresses because you like them right? Why let facial features ruin it for you?

>> No.10743355

Feeling good I'm finally losing my stupid pandemic weight. I never gained enough weight to size out of my lolita but my old school stuff was getting tight. I just stopped eating out on weekdays and I make myself cook instead, and cut down on the alcohol. Feeling much better now with just a little effort.

>> No.10743415

>>10742895
We euros like to laugh at you americans for your consumerist habits but the truth is we spend the same money for less. Things get marked up prior to seasonal discounts and we have no clearance.
A few months ago I was thinking about getting a figma because I wanted to have something high end for once. It was being sold for around 100€. So I watch a video review and the reviewer says "it goes for 40$ but I got it on clearance for 20$ at Walmart". I was livid and I haven't bought anything high end to this day.
If you see people praising Europe tell them our economy is shit, every party follows a single policy, and all our cultural/trading/technological progress came from us wanting to stick it to eachother instead of a harmonious gathering of intellects. Also spit on them for me.

>> No.10743465

It really sucks to go to cons when you have no friends and have to watch everyone else having fun while you are bored and so lonely you cry.
I think there's someone wearing lolita in front of me, my first time seeing someone in lolita in real life since I started looking more deeply into it last fall. That's nice at least.
Can't tell if she's ita or not but her colours go well together and the themes seem coherent.

>> No.10743474

>>10743465
Talk to her anon

>> No.10743475

>>10743465
>Can't tell if she's ita or not
This 4chan mentality actively harms people’s ability to form new friendships. Don’t worry if someone’s coord is ita or not, or if they made their own costume or not, or if their wig looks good enough or not, etc. Just talk to people and see if you enjoy being around them. I know a lot of the newfriends may think otherwise, but as an oldfag who’s been attending cons since high school I can pretty safely say that someone’s social compatibility with you is not dependent upon the quality of what they’re wearing or what they look like. I’ve met tons of beautiful people with great cosplays that have been a bore to talk to and vice versa.

>> No.10743480

I hate when ~indie brands~ think they're immune to criticism because they're a small business and part of the community they're creating for. If you're gonna cause a scene because one person doesn't like one of your items, just delete the whole business.

>> No.10743496
File: 650 KB, 647x363, m ad.gif [View same] [iqdb] [saucenao] [google]
10743496

>ask cosplayer how they did a thing because I'm going to do similar
>get ignored
>only responds to people sucking their e-dick
Bitch I know you heard me.

>> No.10743551

>>10743474
>>10743475
I didn't talk to her. I have nothing to talk about, I'm not even that into lolita and I couldn't tell what brand she wore, it'd just be "hi are you wearing lolita" "yes" "nice" and then standing around awkwardly. I think a friend she was with may also have been wearing lolita but it was harder to tell if it were lolita or cosplay and I didn't get as good of a look.

I don't let whether people have nice cosplays influence whether I want to talk to them by the way. But it's critical that everything I do is /cgl/ approved and that means I can't talk to someone who could have ended up in an ita thread. Okay this last sentence was pure shitposting.
But anyway if anything of this applies to me is the part about being a bore to talk to, but I don't look great either.

>> No.10743566
File: 286 KB, 344x577, 1562899069473.png [View same] [iqdb] [saucenao] [google]
10743566

>>10743475
>vice versa.
>Meet dude with the shittiest prop in the room
>hilarious, kind and fun the entire photo shoot
>paid to be there model doesn't even speak English
As long as they don't smell bad and clearly look like they know how to take care of themselves, /cgl/ elitism is just newfag delusion territory.

>> No.10743570
File: 49 KB, 357x200, sad.gif [View same] [iqdb] [saucenao] [google]
10743570

>meet 3 cosplayers at con last months
>all of us become friends and talk almost daily
>they all block me today without warning or explanation
Why are people like this? I went from 0 irl friends, to 3, and now back to 0 and I have literally no idea why. I just want some adult friends who like cosplay and anime and live in the same city as me.

>> No.10743594

>>10743551
You need to get out of your own head anon, you are way too negative.
Most people like to talk about themselves and like compliments so literally just like compliment people and ask them oh what brand is that, is that your favorite brand? You don't need to go into it as an expert talking about your favorite lolita brands.
Even if you are awkward nobody gives a shit its an anime con. Everyone is awkward. Get over yourself. You are really not important and for the most part people are going to forget interacting with you by tomorrow so just try and ask them some questions and stuff.

>> No.10743615

>>10743570
They accepted in the first place because they didn't want to look mean or snobbish. They continued talking to you because each thought she was the only one who didn't care for you. Some time later they're gossiping and you come up. One of them expresses a negative opinion on you. Another agrees and says she thought she was the only one. They decide to cut all contact with you, an outsider, at the same time.
I'm not offering but how would you like a cosplaying boyfriend?

>> No.10743694
File: 96 KB, 707x1000, sample-7a235327f5bc4ac00a1c939308879495.jpg [View same] [iqdb] [saucenao] [google]
10743694

Anyone else here love watching girls dress up in cosplay on Tiktok?

No account or app needed, for example just /tag/ryukocosplay in the address bar to get literally thousands of pages of autistic girls dressing up as Ryuko from Kill la Kill for you.

>> No.10743701

>>10743694
I hate tiptoe. That's a "unpoggers" from me.

>> No.10743742

>>10743694
>Tiktok
I'm not 14 so no.

>> No.10743767

>mask mandate comes to an end in my community
>"sweet, now I can attend sanctioned meets safely!"
>Comm mods make an announcement
>"after a careful decision and for the health and safety of our community, we will continue masking for meetups."
>oh, ok
>picnic meetup is outdoors so probably no masking
>mod posts that masks are required for the picnic

guess i'll still be a lone lolita or have private meets instead

>> No.10743771

>>10743767
Attend wearing a gasmask in protest and throw shade in discussions. "What? I can't hear you. It's those stupid masks. I thought we were done with them but some people are still paranoid."

>> No.10743776

>>10743771
>I thought we were done with them but some people are still paranoid.
It's not paranoia if people are still catching it even with a vaccine.

>> No.10743779

>>10743771
people have been wearing masks to reduce the risk of disease for 100 years, what on earth made you think masks would go away now?

>> No.10743782

>>10743779
It's amazing how Amerifats think when people in other countries have been wearing them for years be it for fashion or for health and safety and they live long, non-obese lives.

>> No.10743798

>>10743594
It may change the equation a bit if I tell you that I'm a male out of cosplay at a con where everyone cosplays.
Also my brain has completely disconnected from socialization. Everything I say is said manually and I feel no sense of openness when I talk to people. It just doesn't work.

Anyway, I saw someone in lolita today and actually told them that I liked their outfit, and they said thank you.
She looked really good, much of it looked like it was part of a set but she made no mistakes that ruined anything outside of that and I really liked her use of red makeup around her eyes.

>> No.10744314 [DELETED] 

>booblita
>2am
>see jsk im in love with
>waist is good, bust wasn't the last time i measured it and probably still isn't but fuck it, i can bind
>buy it
>forget about it for a few weeks
>waiting for it to arrive, pumped as fuck
>thinking of ways to style it
>remember it's an oldschool "jsk" that's more like an op, with a neckline that wouldn't look good with a blouse and would show binder straps
>im retarded
>literal blind frantic panic for 5 minutes while i try to find measuring tape
>not a good day, having a "straw that broke the camel's back" moment, verge of tears
>finally fucking find it, just barely squeeze into the measurement
>mfw i didn't just waste $150
>sit on the ground in a daze
>open cgl
im fucking stupid

>> No.10744973

>>10743355

Update that I'm now 0.5 lb from pre-panny weight! It is obscene how many more calories must be in processed food. Hopefully I can keep it up, my next goal is to get to pre- moving in with my bf weight, but at this rate it appears actually doable.

>> No.10744994

>want to cosplay a character from a fairly popular series, but have no crafting skills and can't find any places to buy it
>while looking for places to buy it, find a custom crafter who makes some good looking stuff that I could ask since they had made it in the past
>location: Central Ukraine
I don't even know if I should bother asking with everything going on

>> No.10745310

>>10744994
Which series?

>> No.10745313

>>10745310
Granblue Fantasy. I guess it's way more popular in Japan than the U.S., but I was still surprised by how little I found considering the character in question is extremely popular.

>> No.10745343

>>10745313
Worth a shot post-war. The crafter is gonna appreciate the patronage after the war.

>> No.10746031

>i start getting into other jfash and sewing ribbons onto things
>i have a vagina and i was born with one
>my dad starts calling me a sissy thinking the word just means ‘girly flower stuff’
>can’t bring myself to explain to him what it actually means
>really hoping he will take the hint when i keep telling him not to say that lol

>> No.10746080

>>10746031
>can’t bring myself to explain to him what it actually means
why?

He's a grown man and you're over 18 talk like adults.

>> No.10746136

>>10746080
Because my dad is a very innocent type of old person who doesn’t understand any of this shit and can barely use the internet. i really don’t want to go through deviant porn 101 with him

>> No.10746154

Someone called me empathetic, and told me how much I’ve changed and matured. yet I keep making mistakes. I’m sick of myself.

>> No.10746155

The JSKs that I mentioned a while ago were uploaded to Mercari, and now they are selling.
I'm not too happy about that, it brought me some comfort to know that they were avaible, but soon that will no longer be the case.

>> No.10746177

>>10746136
Unless he has dementia, he's an adult anon. Treat him like one. Don't be daft.

>> No.10746231

>>10746177
Nope. i do not feel comfortable explaining what a sissy is to anyone, let alone my dad. And as i am an adult, i’ll male my own choices.
I came here to dump feels, not ask for advice. You’re overbearing by continuing this lol

>> No.10746344

New here. Found out that the girl I've dated a few times is into cosplay. What am I in for?

>> No.10746467

>>10746344
A fucking nightmare

>> No.10746562

(I'm also >>10739427 and >>10739666

>>10745863
>Take a look at some indie brands or made to order taobao brands. Not saying it will look good on you, but there are certain brands out there that can make something to fit you. I think F+F still does full custom sizing, and I think lady sloth does too. Both Onegaishi and Kaneko have sizes that go to like 160 cm or something crazy like that and I think that one brand that makes the boba dress also has fully custom sizing? I know there's also several TaoBao brands that do fully custom orders.
Thank you for the suggestions. I've kind of bought into the idea that no Chinese brands are any good, so I'm feeling doubtful about that, and it doesn't look like F+F or Lady Sloth do main pieces that I'd want to wear either.
Maybe I'll look more into Chinese later, but as of now I'm worried I'd buy something low quality.
And probably true it wouldn't look good on me.

>>10745880
>Ayart, I didn’t mean to say bigger people couldn’t wear lolita, I should have specified that I meant brand. I don’t think there’s any brand out there that will work for a 6 foot plus, 50cm shoulder person. Shoulders can’t really be made wider without completely rebuilding the dress, and you can’t really do that unless you have weird blocks of plain color or multiple dresses. Whomever did this with the Baby dress is either stupid or deluded. Just get custom sized stuff that actually fits you.
But brand's what I've been looking at! :(
I read that people with shoulders should try to go for skirts rather than dresses though. So it's been the cutsews that I've seen most of the impossibly bad sizes on. I'm not sure about JSKs, someone with roughly the same shoulders as me, maybe slightly smaller, looked fine in a JSK, so I've not given up them either. OPs are probably the worst, but OPs are what I care the least for too so no big deal.

Oh but I've fallen for the cotton hype, but people say big shouldered people have to wear chiffon or polyester :(

>> No.10746566
File: 51 KB, 480x640, fda5dec1-9ccb-5d5a-98f9-e726ceabb2cf[1].jpg [View same] [iqdb] [saucenao] [google]
10746566

I saw the green Saint Gabrielle dress on Lace Market, and what a beautiful dress! I don't even usually like velveteen all that much, but this dress is a huge exception!
And isn't green also a somewhat uncommon colour? I wish I were rich!

>> No.10746569

>>10746467
Thank you for your honesty.

>> No.10746663

Spent months trying to learn how to do pattern drafting from the old books- you know the type.
Ostensibly it should be pretty easy, since they tell you exactly how to do it.
It didn't work out during any of my attempts- maybe my measures were off.
Found patterns for everything I wanted to make, though. I'm not ambitious enough to need fancy ones, so i can grab cheapos during the sales at joann's.
It's a melancholy sensation to accept that I can't draft patterns when given explicit instructions how to do so, but I can always come back to it.

>> No.10747507

No one seems to know about the catalog or the thread watcher so every thread dies when it reaches the bump limit but I want what they provide but in practice it just means that the board is without those threads until someone decides to make a fresh one.