Feels Thread

[Anonymous No.10568930]

post feels

[Anonymous No.10568937]

I'm very excited for Sugary Carnival
that is all

[Anonymous No.10568942]

it finally happened to me--i can't fit into something i got in the mail and it's a BAD FEEL. it's a 2010 unshirred AP skirt, of which i have several and have fit into fine? but despite what lolibrary says, this one has like... a 23 inch waist at most, which i can only imagine will fit comfortably if one is below that measurement.

it buttons up over my 24 inches but i can't breathe. it really does make you feel kinda bad about yourself... i want off this ride

[Anonymous No.10568952]

>>10568942
I'm sorry anon :( I've had this experience too with old school unshirred pieces. Funny how a single article of clothing can make you feel like a whale

[Anonymous No.10568975]

Starting to feel a bit insane lately due to how much time i spend looking for lolita pieces
i need more distractions

[Anonymous No.10569050]

My closet is starting to look like an egl closet and it makes me happy :)
I don’t have a lot of stuff yet (coming in the mail) but i have some OPs!
This has been my dream since i was 13 and just now i am starting.
But then i worry about, when will i ever be able to wear it outside and meet other nonnys ;_;
I don’t know any egl ladies irl but i’m sure i will meet some after quarantine is over

[Anonymous No.10569053]

>>10569050
Good luck anon! Building a small wardrobe after years of lurking honestly feels amazing, have you tried to look up a comm in your area/country yet? Hope you will find more people to connect with irl soon, joining a local comm now would be a good start tho

[Anonymous No.10569058]

i'm receiving my first angelic pretty OP in a few hours i'm honestly so excited. i have been dressing up kind of ouji-casual, with lolita blouses and vivienne/cdg clothes for a few months and i'm finally confident enough to wear a lolita dress :)

[Anonymous No.10569060]

I feel so happy! I've spent the past year losing weight. I lost 20 pounds naturally for the past few years before that, but I've more actively lost weight in the past 9 months, lost a further 24 pounds, and I now fit into most Mary Magdalene + Victorian Maiden pieces. Whilst I think cgl is a bit meh with weight and body image, wanting to fit into my favourite burando just served to give me even more motivation for my weight loss than I had before

[Anonymous No.10569062]

>>10569053
Thank you! Yes I have joined my local comm fb group. but I don’t think its very active. There are not many posts.
They hosted a tea party zoom recently and 8 people rsvp (i tried to go but got held up last minute). I know they have a discord though. so I’ll make a discord account and maybe more people will be active there!
It does feel good to start a wardrobe of things i really like though :) it actually motivated me to clean my room and its stayed clean, which is amazing.

[Anonymous No.10569065]

>>10568942
Wear some shapewear with it anon! There’s some pieces I only fit with a leotard or trainer underneath. I know that sucks but it’s better than having to sell it.

[Anonymous No.10569066]

>>10568942
Which skirt?

[Anonymous No.10569070]

Mini rant- Lolita spaces in general tend to make me feel very uncomfortable. Most are filled with very sad, gross looking itas. I'm not talking newbies or nitpicks, like full on disgusting perma-itas who claim they've been in the fashion for a while. It's like Westerners are completely incapable of grasping the beauty standards of the fashion. Again I don't mean you have to be drop-dead-gorgeous or a size 2. I just mean, for example there are so many meh looking girls who would look so much cuter with clip in bangs or a wig.

Taobao and Chinese indie brands are ok and everything... but I think the cheap materials those brands tend to use on their products just amplify how gross newbies and itas look. I wish they'd stop being pushed as the "affordable" alternative to "expensive" Japanese brands. BSOLF is just full to the brim of newbies trying to create whole real, fashionable outfits with this glorified garbage.

[Anonymous No.10569074]

>>10568942
just eat less lol

[Anonymous No.10569101]

picrel was a cosplay i did before the plague and ever since, i've been quietly craving spade accessories but I can't justify buying them, as i'm not even sure how much i'd actually use them.

[Anonymous No.10569102]

>>10568942
lose some weight fatty

[Anonymous No.10569108]

I'm losing my ever loving mind being home for days on end. I'm trying to find work now that things are moving forward but...shit is it hard.

[Anonymous No.10569109]

>>10569074
>>10569102
bait. anas really think a 24-inch waist is large

[Anonymous No.10569110]

>>10569049
when i was younger, I was too self conscious for kogal, but it was The Style i wanted to emulate more than anything. Now i'm nearing my thirties and don't wanna be confused with a sex creep, so i'm still too self conscious to wear it. this is doubly stupid because i wear EGA and lolita on the reg so i should have thicker skin than this. I suppose it's the "catholic schoolgirl" thing is way more known in the west and more immediately jumps to mind. I'm also much heavier than i was in highschool so it'd look worse on me, i suspect.

[Anonymous No.10569143]

>>10569110
>be chubby gal in her 30s who still wears this and hime gyaru
just fucking do it, anon!

[Anonymous No.10569158]

>>10569074
>>10569102
lol imagine thinking a 24 inch waist is large. i bet your faces look long and haggard from all the starvation. but it's worth it for a 22 inch waist, r-right?

[Anonymous No.10569162]

Just bought 10 pairs of lolita socks in a lot for a great price. what a baller i feel. No more gross normie hue socks for meee

[Anonymous No.10569168]

>>10569109
t. fattychan who thinks there's a way of losing weight that isn't eating less or working out

[Anonymous No.10569174]

>>10568952
thanks for the condolences anon, it's a solid so maybe it'll be easy to alter. eek
>>10569065
hadn't thought of that! do you have any that you recommend? i've never bought any before
>>10569066
i don't really want to out myself but it's just an AP solid

re: lose some weight, eat less, i'm a recovering ana-chan and i'm way happier and look a lot cuter at my current weight. not gonna work on me today, gulls.

[Anonymous No.10569179]

>>10569110
If you’re self conscious about fully cosplaying as a Japanese high schooler (which, like, who can blame you,) maybe find subtler ways to incorporate kogal style into your daily wear anon. Picrel is cute and would work with a black pleated skirt & even a neck bow too without looking too literally taken from a school uniform catalog

[Anonymous No.10569191]

>>10569168
Seek help. You'd have to be a midget to be fat with a waist that size.

[Anonymous No.10569197]

>american conventions as far out as late fall are canceling

>their organizers and fans alike are doomposting that conventions will not come back until 2026 because muh pandemic

>it's still early march 2021

it hurts
i just want to see my friends again

[Anonymous No.10569220]

>>10569174
I use either a flesh colored leotard spanx which I got from a department store or a waist trainer I got from Amazon. I’m a 27” waist with a large ribcage and I fit my skirts no problem but if I wanna wear a tight cutsew or tucked in blouse the shapewear keeps me from getting roasted as a chubby Chan in a ita thread

[Anonymous No.10569227]

>>10569220
How many inches does it reduce your waist by?

[Anonymous No.10569234]

>>10569110
>>10569179
I know pic rel isn't the best, but maybe you could change up certain fabric textures or types of garments, like instead of a button-up shirt, you could wear a more fluffier-textured top, a longer, solid-coloured coat to put less focus on the school-girl vibes of the plaid, non-school-ish looking bags or maybe change up the silohette a bit by using a pencil skirt

[Anonymous No.10569238]

>>10569227
gets me down an inch and a half in the waist but makes a huge difference in my ribcage and makes everything smooth

[Anonymous No.10569240]

>>10569234
You could also use leather jackets, unconventional plaid colors, camisoles

[Anonymous No.10569295]

>>10568930
Our comm voted not to visit one of our sisters after her colonoscopy due to covid. I think she'd like seeing our coords. Is we right?

[Anonymous No.10569322]

It's kind of embarrassing that men can encourage each other to be healthier no problem but with women it's an uphill battle.

[Anonymous No.10569325]

>>10569322
But I like fat shaming, it should be normalized

[Anonymous No.10569328]

>>10569322
Because women’s bodies are more policed in the public eye and it is harder for women to maintain weight loss.

[Anonymous No.10569339]

>>10569322
i have never seen a man fat shame another man. where are you even seeing this

[Anonymous No.10569346]

>>10569339
The fact that you equate encouraging each other to be healthy with fat shaming is telling, anon.

Men do have more lax standards when it comes to weight to be societally acceptable than women and are never accused of promoting obesity just for being fat and famous and not actively trying to lose weight specifically, but they still do get bullied for being really overweight often as kids or made fun of. They usually just brush it off and play it off as themselves being the funny fat guy so people laugh with them and not at them. Fat shaming on the internet rarely happens for guys though.

We should encourage each other to be healthy in a positive and productive way in general, with respect for everyone's boundaries, not just shame them and push them further into comfort eating, food addiction, or anything like that.

[Anonymous No.10569368]

>>10569322
>>10569339
>>10569346
It’s usually men fat shaming fat women, they dgaf about fat men

[Anonymous No.10569380]

This is one of you, right?

[Anonymous No.10569381]

>>10569368
Women "dgaf" about fat men either, so it all evens out.

[Anonymous No.10569382]

>>10569380
lurk the fuck more, idiot

[Anonymous No.10569383]

>>10569382
Face reflective of a bad attitude, check.
FAS makeup, check.
Gothic lolita, check.
Poor and shops second-hand, check.
Yeah probably one of you.

[Anonymous No.10569384]

>>10569380
No but I use her photos to catfish

[Anonymous No.10569385]

>>10569383
>Gothic lolita
Where?

[Anonymous No.10569386]

>>10569383
>thinking that is gothic lolita
>thinking we are poor and shop secondhand
>for dresses that are $400 secondhand

Wow please continue, i’m actually amazed with this

[Anonymous No.10569387]

>>10569383
>he thinks what she's wearing is gothic lolita

kek

[Anonymous No.10569388]

>>10569386
Nah I got what I needed.

[Anonymous No.10569389]

>>10569388
Realizing you’re an idiot?

[Anonymous No.10569401]

>>10569389
nayrt but he just wanted some attention from girls here obviously cause he can't get any irl. not mad, that's what a lot of trolling maleposters want around here

[Anonymous No.10569428]

>>10569401
He's not even a good troll. Anyone can say something retarded and get called retarded. A good troll gets people to argue with each other.

[Anonymous No.10569440]

>>10569428
>A good troll gets people to argue with each other

This reminds me of Michael from The Good Place getting everyone to torture each other.

[Anonymous No.10569478]

>>10569162
>hue socks
Why did we buy those anon? Congrats on the lot!

[Anonymous No.10569486]

>>10568942
You can move the button over a little bit, anon

[Anonymous No.10569491]

>>10569197
Call them out for being retarded. 2022 will be the latest. Everyone who wants to get the shot will have it this year.

[Anonymous No.10569500]

i hate you (you know who you are)

[Anonymous No.10569531]

>>10569500
I hate you too anon!! </3

[Anonymous No.10569541]

I feel a bizarre sense of camaraderie with lolitas, because I changed the way I dressed to be more modest, yet still show off my masculinity from the amount of unwarranted attention I got from women as a teenager.

[Anonymous No.10569542]

>>10569541
post hidden

[Anonymous No.10569550]

I have discovered my true passion is hunting down bambi lolita shit and hell yeah there is a good amount of it

>inb4 milky the fawn
too pink for me and also i don’t feel like dropping $2k or whatever it goes for nowadays. i specifically want gothic-er bambi

[Anonymous No.10569569]

>>10569368
Good.

Lose some weight you ugly fat fuck. You're going to die early.

[Anonymous No.10569570]

>>10569550

[Anonymous No.10569577]

>>10569339
Bruh...I had a friend who wasn’t even that fat just a few extra pounds meanwhile I was an anorexic fuck and I used to call him fatass a lot he didn’t mind and few years later when he lost the weight he ended up thanking me sooooo....profit I guess

[Anonymous No.10569579]

Thinking of breaking it off with my bf of 5 years. We get along really well, we never fight, and rarely argue but have basically nothing in common. I do really love him though.

We quarantined together and it's revealed that he's just so fucking negative all the time. He's constantly complaining about some fucked up comment he read on Twitter, or his mom, or how unfair xyz is and I just can't deal with it anymore. I really thought we'd get married but it's starting to impact my mental health and I'm just so over it. Covid out here ruining my relationships.

[Anonymous No.10569580]

>>10569570
Powerful image anon i kekd

[Anonymous No.10569582]

>>10569579
Nonny why ain’t you help him and talk to him about it he sounds depressed as hell

[Anonymous No.10569585]

>>10569582
I've tried for the past 6 months. He clearly needs therapy but doesn't want to go or tae any meds, and I just don't have the energy to fill that role for him.

I have mental health issues of my own and it just feels like he wants someone to wallow in it with him and I just can't do it. I'm trying to stay positive and keep my shit together.

[Anonymous No.10569586]

>>10569585
Shit nonny that sucks :(
It’s ok I don’t blame you at all for feeling that way in fact I probably wouldn’t have stuck it out that long if I were you.
You got to take care of yourself first before you can help others <3

[Anonymous No.10569588]

>>10569585
>it just feels like he wants someone to wallow in it with him
This is why it's so hard to date with depression. Believe me I get what it's like to be depressed, but I have no sympathy for people who don't try to get help and insist on dragging down every one else around them

[Anonymous No.10569603]

>>10569579
Someone getting butthurt over twatter of all things or any online bullshit is a huge red flag. Break it off before he troons out.

[Anonymous No.10569604]

>>10569579
You could almost be me, or at least same coin, two sides. I've also been with my boyfriend five years and we have a great relationship, but we quarantined apart and now I've realized how boring our relationship is without sex.

[Anonymous No.10569624]

>>10569531
Stop copying people <3

[bpdcamwhorechan !/FMfV/3FwU No.10569626]

>>10569624
aren't you "copying" me?

[Anonymous No.10569639]

My government is frustratingly stupid, and incompetent, yet somehow polls show their approval doesn't really go down much. Ironic bit is the provincial. Alberta government, home of the "hardcore" republican/conservatives is also pissing people off, but people here are willing to admit they hated who they voted for. On the federal side it's like people are so convinced the conservatives are evil nazis that no matter how bad liberals are, they'll always look past their grocery list of fuckups. It's like some sort of abusive relationship, and the icing on top is liberals are fucking up the things liberals themselves want and voted for.

As for conventions, we'll probably be a year later than the US for opening up cause the terrible requisition of vaccines, on top of these monkeys still trying to immigrate more people than ever before in Canada.

[Anonymous No.10569642]

>>10569626
shut up stop thinking you’re important bpdchan. i’m not talking about you i’m sorry <3333

[bpdcamwhorechan !/FMfV/3FwU No.10569652]

>>10569642
you should trip nonny

[Anonymous No.10569655]

i was able to grab a cute mary magdalene dress from the cc update
I was shaking and i still am haha

I never had a mm piece before ;_;
Now i’m going to be classic and i can die happy probably and then keep spending money to coordinate with it

[Anonymous No.10569660]

>>10569655
shut up you’re cryingy

[Anonymous No.10569685]

>>10569652
Ily bpdchan
your important to me xoxo

[Anonymous No.10569687]

>>10569655
Congrats nonny!! (bpdchan is influencing me, send help) Which dress was it, if you don't mind me asking? Let me live vicariously through you.

[Anonymous No.10569699]

I had a mini heart attack while scrolling through all the mm pieces on cc today, my #1 dd was up in two colorways but not the one I was looking for. Guess the hunt is still on

[Anonymous No.10569704]

maybe it's just the sweet boom and the fact that my comm is 99% sweet lolita, but I feel like classic lolita is dying, or at least fading away into obscurity, mainly the more mature style of classic lolita, like civtorian maiden's style, and is being replaced with a more classic-sweet style of lolita, like innocent world's prints

pic unrelated

[Anonymous No.10569706]

classic is just oldschool/beige gothic
vm and mm is gothic
>>10569704
im glad its dying im sick of seeing dusty pink and shitty sheer blouses

[Anonymous No.10569707]

i picked a fight with my boyfriend and i think he actually broke up with me this time ladies :(

[Anonymous No.10569714]

[Anonymous No.10569718]

>>10569707
finally! <3

[Anonymous No.10569719]

>>10569655

Omg congrats

I hope you're able to make coords with it anon and post it somewhere! I always love seeing more MM fans!

[Anonymous No.10569720]

>>10569339
Uh it happens anon. I see it a lot with my gay friends too.

[Anonymous No.10569721]

>>10569380
Is that Suzy Berhow

[Anonymous No.10569741]

Those tiny moths keep breeding in my house somewhere and i have an open closet :-(

[Anonymous No.10569744]

i would die for all the MM pieces
Mary Magdalene gang

[Anonymous No.10569760]

>>10569707
Men are so fragile

[Anonymous No.10569766]

>>10569720
Oh yeah it's crazy in the gay community. Young gay men are actually the highest risk category for ED's these days.

[Anonymous No.10569768]

>>10569687
:) it was caramelisee in rose!!
It looked like total shit in the cc photo as usual haha, but i had a good feeling about it and it turned out right

>>10569719
Thank you! I’ll definitely need some help to do it justice and then will post to cof when i feel brave enough. so you’ll very likely see it somewhere :)

[Anonymous No.10569786]

>>10569768
Just a heads up, the one you bought is most likely the mini OP and not the midi one you posted

[Anonymous No.10569789]

>>10569786
Oh good catch, thanks! Thats actually better for me. long poofy skirts usually make me look oddly short
Also i just saw that the one i got is missing the ribbons boo ;_; guess I’ll have to pray i can find something that color matches

[Anonymous No.10569790]

I love being a smart, handsome, in shape man; I feel so much better than everyone else.

[Anonymous No.10569796]

>>10569790
Good for you, king

[Anonymous No.10569818]

I think I have a crush on my friend. I pushed them away because it wouldn't work, but I miss them so much. But I'm afraid that if I talk to them again I'm going to catch more feelings.

[Anonymous No.10569821]

>>10569818
is this about pure, wholesome girl love?

if not, ew

[Anonymous No.10569824]

>>10569821
I'm a girl crushing on a scrote unfortunately.

[Anonymous No.10569828]

>>10569295
I wouldn't want to see lolitas after having a camera up my ass. She'll have diarrhea for starters.

[Anonymous No.10569829]

>forehead lines at 22
Must I resort to using botox?

[Anonymous No.10569835]

>>10569829
use suncreen every day it's not too late.

[bpdcamwhorechan !/FMfV/3FwU No.10569837]

>>10569829
tretinoin+sunscreen? probably cheaper than botox

[Anonymous No.10569838]

>>10569829
You can use botox (just once or twice) to straighten out your lines and reverse the damage a bit since you’re still young

[Anonymous No.10569839]

>>10569835
The problem is that I often don't go out in the sun. I try to avoid shitty foods too. I think it's mostly due to genetics.

>>10569837
I bought FAB's retinol eye cream and have been using it on my eyes (altho the lines are not as obvious as on my forehead) and also on my forehead sometimes. I figured it would work as well as on my forehead but I'm not actually sure if it does anything.

[Anonymous No.10569848]

>>10569829
dermaroll

[bpdcamwhorechan !/FMfV/3FwU No.10569850]

>>10569839
anything formulated for the eyes with any retinoid is going to be super gentle and you won't see much of any results using it elsewhere. and nothing beats rx tretinoin when it comes to a quality anti aging regimen, no otc retinol will compare. if you're in the US I know they sell differin gel otc which will be better for anti-aging than any other otc retinol products for forehead lines, but if you can get a hold of tretinoin it will work better than differin. also ymmv but differin made my skin scaley and flakey and sore and tretinoin has never done that to me even tho I use max strength (some peeling yeah but no soreness or burning). tretinoin is good stuff and rona time is the best time to start using it. if you have a bad purge it won't matter since places aren't really back to normal yet

[Anonymous No.10569887]

Posting here because I don't want to talk to the weirdos from /soc/

I'm a 24 guy from europe that'd like to try some soft teasy dirty chatting on kik.

Cute girls only
my kik is dlhenoci

[Anonymous No.10569890]

>>10569887
literally no one here will do that unless you pay them

[Anonymous No.10569891]

>>10569887
ugh, kik? you don't have a discord?

[Anonymous No.10569892]

>>10569890
hey I don't give a shit, this filters itself out to only those who are actually interested in trying things

[Anonymous No.10569893]

>>10569891
would rather not use my phone number for this, let's be honest people on 4chan are weird

[Anonymous No.10569897]

>>10569893
What the fuck? Are you 70? Discord doesn't give out your phone number, boomer.

[Anonymous No.10569900]

I missed the cc update

[Anonymous No.10569902]

I’ve been thinking of giving up on cosplay for good. It’s been a bit over a year sincr my last event/last time dressing up. Cons don’t even appeal to me cause I’ll be thinking of germs.
I also feel like I’m just too fuckin old for cosplay and i’m only 23. Social media cosplayers have made me feel like a boomer. I feel out of touch looking at their egirl clown makeup. Plus the virtue signalling and perfomative wokeness is like, almost embarrassing. I get that most of em’ are like 17 but holy god i see some people post like 30 stories a day trying to look woke.
Is this how i change to being only a lolita?

[Anonymous No.10569905]

>>10569902
Nobody said you have to partake in 30 posts a day or clown makeup
Just do it if you like it, thats what I do. Maybe i only have 3 followers and i don’t do e gurl makeup. but I feel happy so thats all that matters and you should to

[Anonymous No.10569907]

>>10569902

Honestly story virtue signaling is one of the easiest things I can block out. If you dislike it that much you can also turn it off.

Also idk if you're more in the crafting side of things, but the crafting cosplay community seems a lot more chill at least from the community on ig that I lurk hardcore in.

[Anonymous No.10569908]

>>10569707
story?

[Anonymous No.10569964]

>>10569902
I think the issue there is social media.
If you absolutely want to use it, consider making a Twitter/Mastodon and following only Asian cosplayers. It's just people having fun/posting cute stuff with none of the SJW bullshit.

[Anonymous No.10569965]

>>10569964
Adding to this, there's also the option of not having any social media at all. It's healthier and you'll get to enjoy some privacy.

[Anonymous No.10569968]

>>10569964
>>10569965
this desu
I've had the same problem with following western artists who would not shut up about trivial shit.
I now only follow mostly Japanese artists and it's been bliss ever since.

[Anonymous No.10570007]

>>10569964
Cannot agree more. I follow people when I like their content and then immediately unfollow if they post anything political. I generally follow western and Japanese accounts in equal. My account is about 85% Japanese now.

Westerners, especially Americans cannot keep their virtue signalling quiet.

[Anonymous No.10570010]

>>10569965
I really want to delete my social media but I can't because of the group and event pages I am in are important for my university. All the clubs and societies host their primary form of communication on Facebook and I have actually found some cool opportunities from Facebook.

But god I fucking hate it when brand™ posts about diversity™ and equality™ so they can make more profit. Watching people eat this shit up as if this company wouldn't also sponsor the Holocaust if it made them more money, it makes me irrationally angry.

[Anonymous No.10570031]

I don’t get the whole online community thing. I have so much anxiety about talking to people online and I feel like I’m missing out on a lot. I had tons of online friends when I was like 12 but I get so nervous about leaving comments on insta now. None of my irl friends are interested in jfashion and I’d like to be able to talk to people about it but I suck at online communication. Should I just give up?

[Anonymous No.10570035]

>>10570010
I see. Unfortunately what you say is true, we might detest the platform itself by the network effects make us stay.
You could try a compromise, like leaving 10 minutes at a fixed time each day to check out university stuff. The less time you spend on Facebook, it'll be healthier for you.
>>10570031
Can you point out exactly what makes you nervous about leaving a comment? Do you feel the same in pseudonymous networks (like Discord)?

[Anonymous No.10570059]

>>10570007
>I'm white

[Anonymous No.10570114]

>>10569295
Are you high? She will be farting and sharting up a storm, and you think she wants her comm to show up? Visit her the day after or something.

[Anonymous No.10570118]

>>10570059
KEK

[Anonymous No.10570123]

>>10570059
seethe

[Anonymous No.10570124]

>>10570035
Discord is even scarier to me with group chats, I feel like I’d get lost or anything I say wouldn’t matter. I’m not really into big zoom calls with friends either. It’s overwhelming with more than a few people. Maybe it’s that online nothing seems real? Like I can ignore things for days and nothing seems to matter if I do anything or don’t. I used to have pretty bad social anxiety and panic attacks thought I’m mostly over it now. Back when my anxiety was at its worst was when I had a ton of online friends and now it seems like my anxiety over real life situations moved over to online :/

[Anonymous No.10570134]

>>10570059
Yes.

[Anonymous No.10570203]

welp looks like I'm giving up on some of my dreams

[Anonymous No.10570204]

I just found out today that my boyfriend takes my texts and copy pastes them into notes so he can do all sorts of edits to them to "make them readable" for himself and I told him that was stupid because everyone else understands me when I'm texting well umm.. ok not literally everyone sometimes my mom doesn't get it but that's different but that explains why I'll send like 5 messages and hell reply with one sentence that just says something like "I'm sorry about all that" 10 or 15 minutes later and its kind of really insulting because it's like he's saying that I'm stupid or that I don't know how to talk because I didn't go to a good school or something and it really stresses me the fuck out because I have so much else going on and I shouldn't have to worry about him being a grammarly on my text messages

[Anonymous No.10570205]

>>10570204
...i can't blame him. you use literally no punctuation and you type like a middle schooler. if you don't want him to have to do that, try typing legibly, idiot.

[Anonymous No.10570221]

>>10569741
Ahh that sucks, is there any way you can cover your clothes/the opening to your closet with something like curtains or fabric? If you can I'd bleach all your shower and sink drains in case that's where they're coming from, and try to remove all open sources of water so they can't thrive.

[Anonymous No.10570222]

>>10569295
Give her some time to recover at least lol. If your comm really wants to do something why not send her flowers or something?

[Anonymous No.10570223]

>>10569652
I like your shoelaces

[Anonymous No.10570238]

>>10570204
I can barely read your fucking post. Learn to use punctuation instead of autistic run on sentences. Literally take like basic grammar classes online, please.

[Anonymous No.10570256]

>>10570204
You need a lot of therapy. The only other person I know that spills this run on sentence stream of consciousness garbage has bpd.

[Anonymous No.10570258]

>>10569850
Or just use nivea in the blue can and don't smoke.

[Anonymous No.10570293]

>>10570124
I see. Are you seeing a therapist by any chance?
>I feel like I’d get lost or anything I say wouldn’t matter
Engage with people in subjects they like. I guarantee you it will matter for them.
If you have the time, I suggest you read the book "How to Win Friends and Influence People". It's not meant to fix anxiety, but rather how to be a pleasant person to be around by showing appreciation.
IMO you can definitely overcome your anxiety about talking to people online with therapy and some guidance. Wish you the best of luck!

If anyone is interested, here is the book: https://libgen.fun/book/index.php?md5=B849D7D9E50A9312305BA2A7DA30C018

[soup No.10570295]

>>10570256
therapy isn’t the answer for everything, idiot
>>10568930
I was going to meme and not post until next thread but after lurking for two days I just couldn’t help myself so I had to post cause I’m super bored maybe I should see a therapist about it I dunno what do you think anon should I go see a therapist also my bday is coming up soon I dunno how I feel about it I kinda want it to pass by unnoticed but that probably won’t happen that feeling is reserved for irl tho I expect bday wishes from every anon on this board plus I want the bday song to be sung and lastly a nice mint chocolate chip ice cream cake to be made god we’re all getting older

[Anonymous No.10570296]

>>10570295
how old are you

[Anonymous No.10570308]

>>10569585
>he wants someone to wallow in it with him
I’m proud of you for recognizing this and not falling for it. Shit like that can lead down a dark rabbit hole of codependency. I have a friend in similar situation, they’ve been with their partner for 6 years and they spent a loooong time wallowing together. Since quarantine started, my friend had really been thinking about what they want out of life and has been making a solid effort to get healthier, but their partner just doesn’t give a shit and wants them both to just wallow forever. It’s hard to watch

[Anonymous No.10570312]

>>10569550
>gothic-er bambi
>hell yeah there is a good amount of it
Pretty much all bambi is classic or sometimes sweet, including your pic related. Do you even know what gothic is?

[Anonymous No.10570313]

>>10569339
>i have never seen a man fat shame another man
You never seen a guy call another guy fatass when they're overweight? What kind of place do you live, it's super common...

[Anonymous No.10570315]

>>10569197
The vaccine rollout has been a mess in some states and I don’t think everyone will get a vaccine by the start of summer like the government has been promising, but I genuinely believe enough people will be vaccinated by fall that late fall cons could happen. Don’t let negative Nancy’s drag you down. Keep up with actual vaccination statistics, both nationally and locally, for a more accurate estimate than what those randos are saying

>>10569902
No one is too old for cosplay. You just need to stop following children and adults who try to appeal to gen z for more followers. Seriously, spend some time looking around for new cosplayers to follow. There are plenty of us out there who have zero interest in clown makeup and tiktok

[Anonymous No.10570316]

>>10569339
that happens all the time
hell, /fit/ has a /Fat People Hate/ general

[Anonymous No.10570319]

>>10570258
You can also not smoke and still use the best anti aging products available outside of botox. Sorry you're poor and can't afford anything decent. Enjoy your premature aging and have fun with your can of heavily fragranced petrolatum and mineral oil.

[Anonymous No.10570324]

>>10570204
You're really gonna be mad at someone putting in effort to read hard to read messages caused by you using shitty grammar and lack the use of punctuation? You should be happy he's not only putting up with it without complaining but puts in effort to figure out what you say. Best you'll get from most people is asking wtf you mean until you write normal or just being ignored. because why would we need to put in effort when you're too lazy to write normal?

[Anonymous No.10570331]

>>10570295
What in the actual goddamned did I just read?
Fuck therapy, you need to go back to grammar school. In the literal sense.
I feel bad for your boyfriend if you're a grown ass adult typing like this.

[Anonymous No.10570333]

All my cosplay friends are total doomers who have shut themselves in at home, gained a lot of weight, and constantly doompost about the pandemic. I'm honestly thinking of going to a con in Florida or Texas without telling any of them or posting any pictures. Hopefully I can make new con friends there

[Anonymous No.10570340]

>>10570333
do it, anon
take every step possible to protect yourself, though

[Anonymous No.10570341]

>>10570340
how is that any better than being a doomer then

[Anonymous No.10570342]

>>10570341
wearing masks, keeping some distance and cleaning your hands frequently isn't being a doomer, anon

[Anonymous No.10570345]

>>10570341
So I guess anyone who has the common courtesy to wear a mask, not invade strangers' personal space, and wash their hands is a doomer now. Intriguing.

[Anonymous No.10570352]

>>10570341
Don't listen to the other two idiots do whatever the fuck you want. Being visibly unafraid and returning to normal life will do more to end this madness than anything else

[Anonymous No.10570354]

my boyfriend keeps making me feel like shit everytime i'm planning on buying something. he feels like i should save up everything or invest in crypto. he just yelled at me because he saw me in the process of buying a 14€ AP ring. I'm just trying to treat myself and ap is the only thing that makes me happy. I have more than enough savings to buy a main piece this month and i didn't because i don't want him to be mad at me. i don't knpw what to do, i don't even kno if i'm in the wrong for resenting him for the way he controls my finances. i genuinely want to cry

[Anonymous No.10570357]

>>10570354
Talk to him about it. If he gets mad over a 14 euros purchase he's stupid and toxic and you should probably break up with him.
>he just yelled at me
This is not okay.

[Anonymous No.10570360]

>>10570354
is your boyfriend of the jewish persuasion?

[Anonymous No.10570363]

>>10570354
this is not okay at all anon. you should break up with a man that is this controlling over your personal finances. this is toxic af and can lead to way worse stuff

[Anonymous No.10570365]

>>10570354
Feel like there's more than you're telling us.

[Anonymous No.10570368]

>>10570354
Drop his ass. Men are temporary, brand is forever.

[Anonymous No.10570369]

>>10570354
Are you telling us the whole story? I'm skeptical that he yelled at you just because of 14 EUR.
Do you save more than you spend? Do you have enough saved in case of an emergency? Do you share costs with your bf?
I can understand that, if the money is yours, then the final word on what it'll be used for is yours and hours alone. I can also understand his side if he wants to build a future with you, and because of that, he might be trying to make you improve your spending habits.

[Anonymous No.10570375]

>>10570368
Based

[Anonymous No.10570394]

>>10570369
we don't share finances at all, he's just very into crypto and he's trying very hard to make me invest in it. he sees every euro i spend on frivolous things as a potential investment. he's also pretty stingy (he didn't get me anything for christmas for example)
i talked to him about it and he apologized, and i think talking about it on here helped me stand my ground better because it's the first time i've ever seen him actually understand that what he's doing is inappropriate. thank you anons, ily

[Anonymous No.10570408]

>>10570394
Nice to hear it ended well. Hope both you and your bf make it financially. cheers

[Anonymous No.10570430]

>>10570256
Can confirm, I have bpd and do this when my thoughts start overwhelming me. This shit is fucking incomprehensible and I'm awful to talk to in moments like these, so I just leave the conversation until I'm calm again.

>>10570204
Try to read your own messages back, anon. I'd get frustrated if I had to sort through these endless walls of text on the daily, he's not doing it to spite you. In fact, he seems like a supportive boyfriend if he realizes you can't help it and accommodates you the best he can. Take his feelings into consideration.

[soup No.10570499]

>>10570296
you know what they say right? It's rude to ask a soup what their expiration date is
>>10570331
heh

[Anonymous No.10570575]

>dress I took a gamble on fits
Hallelujah!

[Anonymous No.10570622]

>>10570312
Yeah i didn’t say truly gothic bambi, i meant “not so as sweet as milky chan and a bit more darker than milky chan”. I should have used the word ‘darker’ instead of gothic, my bad.
I actually did find one darker bambi piece! but i’m not posting it here . Until the buyer accepts my payment at least.
I guess i can’t really hope for truly gothic bambi, but maybe bittersweet bambi could be done

[Anonymous No.10570623]

>>10570622
Are you 14, wtf

[Anonymous No.10570624]

>>10570623
I’m 26 and what is your problem wtf

[Anonymous No.10570631]

>>10570624
nta but it's because you kind of type like a retard and put paragraph breaks after every sentence.

what's with the influx of people who can't integrate? are you all flooding in from tiktok or something?

[Anonymous No.10570632]

>>10570631
I mean i can fix the paragraph breaks but this is how i talk. I don’t feel like typing in my corporate office tone on 4chan.

I’ve been on 4chan for a long time. integrated enough that I can navigate Ss and lm on my own. This isn’t the first time someone got butthurt but honestly i’m not gonna bother anymore and just focus on talking about cute clothes here

[Anonymous No.10570633]

>>10570622
this is like a lolita version of the schizo posting you see on /x/

[Anonymous No.10570636]

>>10570632
>this isn’t the first time I’ve been told I act like a retard

I’m not surprised

[Anonymous No.10570646]

>>10570632
you're the person that their bf has to copy and paste your texts into another program to decipher what the fuck you're saying, aren't you

[Anonymous No.10570655]

i got my mocomoco bunnies ears and socks in the mail and i feel like a baller (for now lol) since i'd never participated in a bloodbath before

the ears are so soft, i'm just wearing them with my PJ's and petting them. very good

[Anonymous No.10570659]

>>10570394
I mean I like crypto but I wouldn't exactly call it a responsible investment. He needs to chill.

[Anonymous No.10570661]

>>10570204
He must like you a lot if he's willing to do all this bullshit just to read your inane ramblings

[Anonymous No.10570670]

>>10570659

Cryptotards are literally the worst. They can't have chill.

[Anonymous No.10570672]

I have been a classic fag this whole time...but then I saw this incredibly obnoxious hime dress with sparkles and bows all over it.

Now I can’t get it out of my head. I think I’m gonna get it. I’m still a classic fag, but damn if I don’t want to get that dress and play pretty princess sparkle teatime in it.

[Anonymous No.10570676]

>>10570661
P. sure it's bait

[Anonymous No.10570686]

>>10570368
Scrote here, seconding this. No BF= more money to spend on burando.

[Anonymous No.10570687]

>>10570686
hey scrote, what is the ideal way for a lolita gf to ask their bf for a dress. asking for a friend

[Anonymous No.10570697]

>>10570687
I wouldn't know, but I'd say just ask casually but seriously. If my best friend and former roommate said he wanted a DnD book or a game controller, and came to me clearly explaining his intent and what he expects, I'd be down to swing him the cash or buy it outright for him, while noting that I can't do this all the time because expensive. Obviously, these are much smaller purchases than a dress but I imagine that being in that sort of relationship also moves the valid expense range up.
If your friend approaches him clearly explaining what she wants, where to get it, and how much it is; he should reasonably be willing to pay, or help pay for it. So long as they've got a good, solid relationship built on mutual respect where they do stuff for each other on a regular basis, should be A-OK. Now, she's probably going to need to pitch SOMETHING in, whether that's money or time.

[Anonymous No.10570700]

>>10570697
>thoughtful, sane answer
exceeded expectations, thank

[Anonymous No.10570706]

>>10570700
No prob, hope it's useful!
Now if you'll excuse me, I've gotta get back to cooming to anime tiddies, posting "you will never be a woman", and obsessively measuring my junk to repair my ego. Standard male routine.

[Anonymous No.10570727]

>tell normie friend about my lolita wardrobe
>talk naturally goes into 2nd hand market and costs
>dude sell it!
>why? I don't need the money
>oh
>repeat
I'm tired of people telling me to sell my stuff because ~money~. I don't need a quick extra 20k

[Anonymous No.10570733]

>>10570727
normies are funny. i feel like the average normie doesn't understand high expenditure on hobbies unless it's something they recognize, like collecting western brand bags. they'll gawp at spending $300 on one dress, but not at spending the same amount for several from modcloth or wherever the cool kids shop these days

[Anonymous No.10570734]

>>10570295
Happy Bday Soup-san

[Mana-sama No.10570749]

>>10570295
Happy birthday soup

Xoxo
~ Mana-sama

[Anonymous No.10570763]

>>10570686
Post proof and timestamp, you lying whore.

[soup No.10570841]

>>10570734
>>10570749
tyvm anon and mana

[Anonymous No.10570845]

>>10570223
thanks, I stole them from the president

[Anonymous No.10570865]

>>10570845
oh em gee whatz your url? :D

[Anonymous No.10570890]

Not particularly cgl related, but I'm angry af and need to vent

> am canadian
> get accepted to first choice college for fall 2021
> very excited to move to new province
> good time to order new laptop
> order laptop through amazon
> used same shipping address as usual, same browser as usual, same credit card info as usual
> get e-mail from amazon 5 minutes later
> "We believe that an unauthorized party may have accessed your account."
> locked my account, disabled my password, cancelled my order

Like what the fuck did I do wrong? I just want my damn laptop.

[Anonymous No.10570896]

>>10570890
Congrats anon!!

Ugh that sucks about the order, is that laptop the most expensive thing you've ever bought from them? If so they probably flagged it as suspicious. I'd call their customer service ASAP to try and get it sorted out.

[Anonymous No.10570901]

>>10570896
Thanks anon! This has dampened the mood a little bit, but I'm still extremely hyped about finally getting a fresh start in a new city.

The laptop I'm currently using I bought from Amazon on that same account back in 2016. And it's not like I don't use my Amazon account super often. I ordered about $200 worth of stuff just a couple of months ago.

Why couldn't they just send an e-mail like other companies do that says "Hey, we noticed you made a big purchase, just wanted to double check that that's actually you" instead of just locking up my account by default? I use a credit card as my main method of payment on Amazon anyway, so it's not like the money is instantly gone from my bank account after I make a purchase.

[bpdcamwhorechan !/FMfV/3FwU No.10570905]

>>10570670
excuse you nonny, my partner is a cryptotard and he's literally the best and super chill. #notallcryptotards
then again I'm the reason he's trading at all, I had a Dale Cooper style dream that he'd make money off crypto and told him to invest. and he got me mocomoco bunnies for being such a good little psychic girl

>>10570394
>didn't get me anything for christmas
yo that's some bullshit

>>10570295
happy birfday soupy-doopy-kun I guess this makes you a fish doesn't it

[Anonymous No.10570906]

>>10570905
Wait, is that possum coming out of the space between the door frame and the wall? How does that work?!

[Anonymous No.10570909]

>>10570906
I think it's coming out of curtains

[bpdcamwhorechan !/FMfV/3FwU No.10570911]

>>10570906
he's coming through an open door lololol

[Anonymous No.10570912]

>>10570911
Ohhhh I saw that as the door being at a 90 degree angle and closed, with the light gray being a solid wall. I see it now!

[Anonymous No.10570917]

>>10570295
happy birth sap

[Anonymous No.10570918]

>20 year old mentally ill neet
>never felt integrated in a friend group aside from local comm
>comm has been dead for almost a year because of covid
>lonely as fuck and in desperate need of friends
>recently got invited to a small discord server
>this is my chance
>play among us and gartic phone every night with them, start feeling comfortable around them
>server owner is a little sensitive and seems to have attention-seeking behaviors but i don't mind
>one day i post a coord pic
>get complimented
>owner posts "you know, some people can be cute without dressing like a princess"
>???? now sure how i am supposed to take it
>other members immediately start validating her on her physical appearance
>she apparently had a full mental breakdown and needs a lot of support
>not sure what is going on but i'm pretty sure it has something to do with me
>after she calms down i dm her to ask her what was going on and if i did something wrong
>she explains that she gets insecure very easily and the fact that i'm pretty made her feel bad about herself
>i tell her that there's no reason to compare each other since we're just between us
>basically tells me that i'm not part of the group so she feels threatened by me
>her whole demeanor is very passive-agressive while i'm trying my best to calm things down
>end up just leaving the conversation
>the next day, try to interact with the server as usual but it just feels terrible because i don't feel welcome anymore
>now i just want to leave the server but i don't want people to notice it

this is what i get for trying to make friends i guess.

[Anonymous No.10570921]

>>10570918
>basically tells me that i'm not part of the group so she feels threatened by me
I'm confused, why does she feel threadened if you're NOT part of the group?

[Anonymous No.10570922]

>>10570921
i'm part of the discord but she doesn't considered me to be apart of the friend group in itself. i mean i haven't been in the server for long so i get it but it still stung a little bit lol

[Anonymous No.10570925]

>>10570901
I'm wondering if from a business standpoint it makes more sense for them to just freeze the account and put the inconvenience onto the customer? That way they don't have to deal with angry costumers that had a huge fraudulent purchase max out their credit card/bank account and they're not on the hook for fraudulent orders that might have slipped through with same day shipping or something. Case in point, apparently it's cheaper for them to just toss almost everything that gets returned instead of properly processing it and trying to restock it.

Good luck getting it sorted out! I hope the process is relatively painless.

[bpdcamwhorechan !/FMfV/3FwU No.10570928]

I tried to order my bf a dick shaped pizza for his bday and called like 5 pizza places and one finally said yes. but it go here and was just a regular round pizza with some pepperoni's arranged to look like a pussy (I guess they misheard me and my lisp-y ass trying to say penis over the phone, idk, sigh). it was still good because pizza but picrel

[Anonymous No.10570931]

>>10570928
>not making homemade pizza

[bpdcamwhorechan !/FMfV/3FwU No.10570934]

>>10570931
we only have a small convection oven atm nonny. would've had to be a tiny penis which isn't as funny.

[Anonymous No.10570939]

>>10570934
are y'all living in a tent?

[bpdcamwhorechan !/FMfV/3FwU No.10570940]

>>10570931
also I briefly considered making one when the regular oven gets fixed tomorrow but I know he'd rather me make homemade muffins or homemade fresh pasta or something.

[bpdcamwhorechan !/FMfV/3FwU No.10570941]

>>10570939
nah the oven broke friday night and won't turn on :(

[Anonymous No.10570961]

Noooooo the hat I wanted to buy is sold out;;;;

Damn it, do you think AATP might put some up for sale after the preorder period?

[Anonymous No.10570971]

someone redpill me on who the fuck this bpdcamwhorechan is

[Anonymous No.10570973]

>>10570971
a retard.

[Anonymous No.10570975]

>>10570971
>>/cgl/thread/S10547934#p10549294

[Anonymous No.10570980]

I've been seriously considering starting up my own indie brand for a few years now. I already own one successful business, but I've been running that for 14 years now and I'm ready to move on to something new. But I don't know how the fuck I'd balance two businesses.

There's so much potential in the jfash/alt fashion market but so many brands are focusing on bullshit super niche crap like menhera, sjw and fatty shit, and anime cyclops girls. It's frustrating to know I could do better, but also know I don't have the time for it right now.

[bpdcamwhorechan !/FMfV/3FwU No.10570982]

>>10570971
nobody knows who I am
>>10570973
but this is accurate uwu

[Anonymous No.10570991]

>>10570980
please be european and not a sweetfag <3

[Anonymous No.10570993]

>>10570918
are you really desperate enough to be friends with people who accept behavior like hers?

[Anonymous No.10571004]

It's my birthday today. My boyfriend forgot what day it was, didn't even text me or call to wish me happy birthday and just ditched me. He knows I have awful memories of my birthdays growing up, when friends wouldn't show up and I'd spend the day crying and feeling forgotten. He also knows this day means a lot to me, that he's the only friend/family I have and nobody else will remember.

I spent the entirety of his birthday with him, making him feel loved and cared for, showering him with attention to make sure the day felt special. He told me it was the best one he's ever had and I'm currently living out one of my worst fears alone.

[Anonymous No.10571005]

>>10571004
dump him

[Anonymous No.10571006]

>>10571004
did you make a point of not reminding him?

[Anonymous No.10571007]

>>10571006
He has to remember it by himself or else it doesn't count uwu

[Anonymous No.10571011]

>>10571004
I'm sorry anon but your bf is careless. He should remember your birthday or at least put it in his calendar so he knows when it's coming up. This is a basic expectation. You can find someone better.

[Anonymous No.10571012]

>>10571006
Of course not, I'd have no right to feel sad about it if I did. He knows it's today. Over the past week I've told him several times how much it would mean to me if we could spend the day together, just doing our favorite things. I even asked him to call and wish me happy birthday if he was too busy to stay. He promised he will, said he'd do his best to make sure it goes well and then this happened. I don't even know how to feel.

[Anonymous No.10571013]

>>10571012
I'm sorry anon but he knows and he doesn't care.

[soup No.10571014]

>>10570905
tyvm bdp-chan and unfortunately
>>10570917
tyvm gay anon
>>10571004
happy bday anon. that really sucks but I more bad news for you. from now on you're going to know that we share the same bday hahaha

[Anonymous No.10571015]

>>10570991
USA and I'm a punkfag, sorry. But the whole point would be versatile pieces with motifs and colors to fit virtually any wardrobe style. I'd like to do stuff like basic printed tights that fit a slightly wider size range than burando, high quality cutsews with nice details and non-cringe art, and maybe jewelry if I could find a good manufacturer.

[Anonymous No.10571017]

>>10570980
Would you be comfortable enough try and hire people to help manage the old business? Or seek a business partner for the new brand you want to start up? You also try something a lot smaller scale, like doing a collab with someone's who's already established.

[Anonymous No.10571026]

It pisses me off that my bf follows other cosplayers on instagram.
I follow them too but I'm still pretty fucking jealous, even if I would totally fuck them behind his back.

[Anonymous No.10571028]

>>10571017
I've already been training a family member for managing it, but a lot of his skills aren't up to snuff yet. I can't get too specific but it's the sort of business that relies on top-tier skill (like being an opera singer or a master tattoo artist), and he's 10+ years behind where I'm at. It's my life's work so I can't exactly just cut it lose and hope other people don't fuck it up.

I thought about partnering with an existing indie brand but I'm worried they'd flake out or screw over the customers. It's hard enough to rely on a real business person, let alone some random part-time Etsy seller.

[bpdcamwhorechan !/FMfV/3FwU No.10571032]

picrel is my bf's bday pussy pizza that was supposed to be a penis pizza. looks misshapen. and idk how they misheard me, how does penis sound like pussy? I did say that it's for a small bachelorette party and not my bf's bday bc I thought the latter/truth would just be too weird.

>>10571004
>>10571012
oh no nonny... is he preparing to break up with you? or maybe trying to push you away so you break up with him bc he's too cowardly to do it himself. I don't see how someone wouldn't be about to break up and leave if they're doing something so horrendous.

>>10571014
splish splash glub glub

[Anonymous No.10571033]

>>10571032
Dang that doesn't even look like a vagina, what a half-assed job.

[bpdcamwhorechan !/FMfV/3FwU No.10571043]

>>10570975
>>>/cgl/thread/S10547934#p10549294

holy shit I just read through this thread. the amount of bullshit bait I threw out in these posts is absolutely hilarious. I was really bored that night.

my shit stirring bait-laying days are over though. I'm a wholesome cinnamon bun now uwu

[Anonymous No.10571053]

>past midnight
>officially been around for a quarter century
Fuck.

[Anonymous No.10571055]

>>10571053
Happy birthday, anon!

[Anonymous No.10571056]

>>10571055
Thank you.

[bpdcamwhorechan !/FMfV/3FwU No.10571057]

>>10571053
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nX6N2tgLmaQ

happy bday nonny

[Anonymous No.10571063]

>>10571015
as a tall person i hope you end up making some cute stuff with sleeves and tights that would work for tall lolitas
goodluck

[Anonymous No.10571114]

>>10570763
Behold my awful shave and weep.

[Anonymous No.10571139]

>>10571114
post penis

[Anonymous No.10571152]

>>10571139
Do you really need that level of proof?

[Anonymous No.10571183]

>lolita is the only thing motivating me to move forward
>can’t wear lolita for months
sad

[Anonymous No.10571185]

I’ve been losing weight for lolita, but I’m afraid of resuming my old disordered eating habits. I live alone so my family can’t tell, and I don’t know whether to be glad or scared

[Anonymous No.10571197]

>>10571114
balls or GTFO

[Anonymous No.10571201]

>>10571139
>>10571197
Man if y'all are this thirsty go to /soc/

[Anonymous No.10571216]

>>10571026
Seek therapy

[Anonymous No.10571219]

>>10570961
I don't think they do that. Only TaoBao brands do so if I recall correctly.

[Anonymous No.10571221]

>>10571004
>I have awful memories of my birthdays growing up
Feel ya anon. I've got the same. Birthdays just don't give me joy anymore thanks to it.

[Anonymous No.10571223]

>>10571185
Congratulations. Skinny girls are treated better for a reason.

[Anonymous No.10571231]

I was too slow for my op dream dress and someone else got it while I was thinking.

although, it was missing pieces. and I was asking myself would I be happy without the missing parts? Which was no.

But it’s fine since my DD isn’t particularly sought after, old, or that rare. The jsk versions are on Lm right now in fact. So I’ll just hope it turns up again, or maybe I’ll get the jsk

[Anonymous No.10571234]

I've realised in the last few weeks that all the women I know rely completely on their husbands for income - including my mum and two best friends, and I feel like such a chump for for trying to get an education when the only happy successful women in my life are that way because they're married and just spend the husband's money on their brand and room renovations

[Anonymous No.10571240]

>>10570918
She sounds incredibly insecure and mentally ill as well... either narcissistic or histrionic (totally armchair diagnoses, take it with a grain of salt but looking those up might be helpful). If it is mental illness, you couldn't have known what would trigger her without any warning so don't feel bad anon. However, her being passive aggressive in DM where no one else can see and making you feel unwelcome is a manipulation tactic. You leaving of your own accord would be playing into her hands and giving her exactly what she wants, so she can go, "Oh anon left without saying anything? Idk, it seemed like she was an attention seeker and might have been unstable... look at how she dresses!"

>>10570921
Because anon's some new girl who's prettier than her with an interesting hobby and stealing all of the spotlight, in her *own* server of all places. When she says she feels threatened because anon's not part of the group... it sounds more like it's really because anon is new and not used to her bullshit. She knows she can't pull the same manipulation tactics that have been working on her friends for so long.

>>10570993 has a point, it sounds like the rest of the server is way too used to this. They might all be spineless idiots, but there's also a chance that there's a few smart ones who can see through her but don't want to rock the boat because they don't want to give her another breakdown and risk losing access to the friend group.

[Anonymous No.10571241]

>>10570918
>>10571240
Idk if you're up for this anon but since you seem to get along with the others at least, I would try to stay to foster what friendships you can. If you do want to stay you should probably resume that convo with insecure-chan to at least appease her, keep it short and sweet, maybe just say how bad you feel about causing her distress (which is true) and that you won't do it again (because who would want to deal with that BS again). Try and have fun with the others, and just let insecure-chan seethe.

If it's too overwhelming to stay though, and since you were just going to ghost, you could reach out to the others to ask them if it was what you did that upset her, if it's normal for her to be like that, is she usually passive-aggressive, etc. You were going to burn all your bridges anyway, it's not like you have anything to lose.

If you need some friends I'm sure some gulls here would be happy to have you nonny.

[Anonymous No.10571245]

>>10570918
>>10571241
I forgot to mention, in asking the others, "Is she usually like this??" you might find out that someone is tired of insecure-chan's BS and wants to be friends with you outside of the server, or they'll smarten up and see how she really is. Like I said, nothing to lose!

[Anonymous No.10571311]

>>10571114
Dude....Why. I was giving you the benefit of the doubt. You are degrading yourself for the sake of women. And for what? Look how they're shitting on you for petty amusement in the feminist thread. Have some self respect.

[Anonymous No.10571314]

>>10571311
I was completely aware that would happen. That's why I even did it in the first place. So go ahead, tell em to keep laughing. I'd rather it be me than someone that can't take it.

[Anonymous No.10571319]

>>10571053
happy (late) birthday, anon

[Anonymous No.10571321]

>>10571314
Why would you take it? Are you into degredation?

[Anonymous No.10571324]

>>10571321
If I'm gonna be completely honest, I was rather curious about what it's like to be on the other end of things. Here, I was presented with the perfect chance to satisfy that curiosity, so I took it.
Although, I don't really give a crap about embarrassment or degradation so it didn't have nearly the impact I hoped it would. I don't regret it, glad I've got this experience to reflect on even if it mostly fell flat. Hopefully it will help me see a wider perspective. I will note- the "show balls" posts really did make me a little uncomfortable, had me thinking "damn this is what they gotta put up with all the time, imagine if this was constant and worse."

If you want an easy answer, just assume I'm a masochist or something.

[Anonymous No.10571328]

>>10570319
>heavily fragranced petrolatum and mineral oil.
Literally the same as a several hundred bucks La Mer cream but okay, have fun wasting money on overpriced stuff that literally does nothing.

[Anonymous No.10571380]

I have finally gotten out of my previous shitty living situation and am going to do things like adopt a pet and buy furniture for the first time; it is all really exciting. I am even going to be able to put more focus and energy into losing weight and being more active now that I am not so stressed and live walking distance to a good grocery store and nice park for walks and whatnot...I actually haven't been as into lolita since my depression (lost multiple close family members) related weight gain, but knowing I'm moving closer to having everything I always wanted, taking back my health, and just being at peace has made me feel very content in a way that even acquiring my hardest to find dream dresses hasn't ever done.

[Anonymous No.10571384]

>>10571380
I suggest you buy a pet that doesn't make noise.

[Anonymous No.10571392]

>>10571384
Why? I plan to adopt a small adult dog; so whether or not they make noise is kinda 50/50 at that size. Not a cat person so my only other option would be bunnies but I prefer pets that use the bathroom outdoors.

[Anonymous No.10571402]

>>10571392
Pets make noise at the most inappropriate hours and annoy both the owner and the neighbours. Dogs in particular have a tendancy to slam into things and scratch the floor. I suggest you get a horned lizard or a hedgehog.

[Anonymous No.10571409]

>>10571402
Not a reptile fan, and hedgehogs are not great pets at all considering the african pgymy hedgehogs or whatever kind are most common in the US are actually all pretty poorly bred and doomed to die pretty quickly so I am not a fan.

I'm mostly interested in low energy dogs who don't mind a long leisurely walk but mostly snuggle and hang out on the sofa or patio when at home since I work from home so am present but too busy to play a whole lot during the week. I only have a neighbor on one side of my apartment and they are excited for me to have a dog theirs can play with (I also never hear their dog either).

[Anonymous No.10571410]

>>10571324
if you're a masochist, will you siphon me money for AP?

[Anonymous No.10571411]

>>10571409
>I work from home
Will you continue to work from home once the plague have chilled out a bit?

[Anonymous No.10571412]

>>10571319
Still counts, it's still today

[Anonymous No.10571414]

>>10571410
I mean, I guess we could try. What's your paypal?

[Anonymous No.10571415]

>>10571409
Well I guess have fun with your doggo then.

[Anonymous No.10571416]

>>10571411
Yeah my job is 100% remote forever so I will be at home or in my general neighborhood 90% of the time. Only difference is I will go out to eat more/go to the movies sometimes and if a restaurant or cafe isn't dog friendly I'll leave the little guy at home for a couple hours.

[Anonymous No.10571417]

>>10571415
Thanks anon; I will! I appreciate the advice either way though

[Anonymous No.10571434]

>>10571417
You're nice. Have a nice day.

[Anonymous No.10571438]

>>10571414
drop a throwaway email :^)

[Anonymous No.10571442]

>>10571438
no u

[Anonymous No.10571447]

I wanna go to cons so much. I wanna hang out with my friends, meet new people that like the same stuff as I do. I want to cosplay again, act goofy and make silly jokes about the characters we're dressing as. I want take dumb couple pics with random characters that aren't even from the same franchise. I want to sing anime openings at the karaoke. I miss the pointless chitchat and harmless flirting.
I miss cons. So. Goddamn. Much.

[[e-mail] No.10571452]

>>10571442
fine

[Anonymous No.10571499]

>>10571328
You're comparing nivea and la mer (which are both equally as shitty, I'll give you that) to tretinoin? Tretinoin isn't even that expensive and most of the time insurance can cover it. Price doesn't mean skincare is good or bad but you're clearly kind of stupid if you think a night cream with no active ingredients at all is going to be able to keep your skin looking good for as long as the most potent retinoid available, something that's clinically proven to increase collagen production and stall wrinkle formation. But go off I suppose.

[Anonymous No.10571500]

>>10571402
>Pets make noise at the most inappropriate hours and annoy both the owner and the neighbours. Dogs in particular have a tendancy to slam into things and scratch the floor.
This is not an issue with a well trained dog anon. Sorry if your neighbours never taught their dog when they can and can't bark, and what they can and can't damage/destroy...

[Anonymous No.10571506]

>>10571499
Nayrt, just genuinely interested, what is the benefit of tretinoin for someone trying to maintain skin elasticity (still in early 20s, wanting to keep up my collagen levels as I age for skin and joint health) compared to just supplementing with collagen (all 3 types but mostly the beauty kind)? Does tretinoin like, make your skin actually produce more collagen while supplements just put more collagen in that your body is not producing as much of as you age?

[Anonymous No.10571511]

I want to be a fitlita dammit

[Anonymous No.10571514]

>>10571506
> Does tretinoin like, make your skin actually produce more collagen while supplements just put more collagen in that your body is not producing as much of as you age?

That is precisely what it does. Tretinoin increases cell turnover and promotes your skin to produce more collagen. It also helps acne scars fade quickly and if active acne lesions are an issue it will help with that too.

[Anonymous No.10571515]

>>10571511
why are u not a fitlita

[Anonymous No.10571518]

>>10571515
I need to lift more

[Anonymous No.10571520]

>>10571506

To add collagen is not really that well studied whereas tretinoin is one of the few well studied therapies out there to reduce wrinkles. So you could hedge your bets on collagen which may not even be well formulated as it's not regulated, or get something that has undergone rigorous medical testing with evidence of reducing aging.

[Anonymous No.10571522]

>>10571518
are u lifting more

[Anonymous No.10571523]

>>10571520
Thanks anon! I'll look into tretinoin; the last time I looked into anything retinol-related was for acne medication as a kid. I think I'm young looking for my age but haven't been taking as good care of my skin since the pandemic began and I'm not getting any younger so I really want to pay more attention to it.

[bpdcamwhorechan !/FMfV/3FwU No.10571650]

>>10571523
oh hay nonny, nayrt obvs but those anons are right. tretinoin is great stuff. I'm retarded about a lot of stuff but I'm pretty knowledgeable about skincare. I suffered from really bad acne since I was like 10 so skincare is my passion lol. wasn't until I perfected my skincare and supplement routine a few years ago that my face finally stopped being covered in disgusting nodular acne cysts 80% of the damn time.

I've used tret nearly everyday for 3 years now and it's great stuff. I feel like my skin looks pretty youthful for my age. and lemme just say, it's AMAZING that my face isn't absolutely ravaged with acne scarring. I know it's partly luck but I think the tretinoin is the real mvp there cause not only would I get a bunch of awful deep acne cysts but I'd also pick the ever loving hell out of my skin until the cysts were bloody meaty messes and then I'd tape a bunch of gauze on my face so I didn't have to look at the mess I'd made of my skin. like you'd never be able to guess that I suffered from disfiguring acne.

[e-mail] if you wanna sperg about skincare with me

[[e-mail] No.10571654]

>>10571650
lol I misspelled my email oops

[Anonymous No.10571660]

I have no friends. It sucks.

[Anonymous No.10571664]

my bf got kind of mad at me the other day. we were walking into a store (i was in lolita) when a lady started driving by slowly, rolled down her window, and began snapping pics of me.

idk what i said exactly, but it was along the lines of "hey cunt, mind asking first?" granted i shouldn't have called her a cunt, but it was so weird and rude and it came out of nowhere.

maybe he was just shocked because i've never been mad in front of him, but it just made me angrier that he wasn't on my side about it. i don't care why she was doing it, some weirdass stranger doesn't need candid pics of me on her phone like i'm an animal in the wild.

[Anonymous No.10571671]

I want to get into weightlifting. I'm close to underweight and I feel like I could've easily become eating disordered a few years ago, but for some reason, I wasn't able to gain any muscle then when I was doing calisthenics, so I probably shouldn't bother with calisthenics and do weightlifting 3 times a week instead. I just want to feel strong and not weak

[Anonymous No.10571678]

>>10571664
I can understand your bf being a bit stunned and perhaps embarrassed because of that. But whilst those feelings are understandable he shouldn't really be mad AT you for it. It was the lady being weird.

[Anonymous No.10571684]

>>10571660
>I have no friends.
why

[Anonymous No.10571687]

>>10571671
lifting + proper diet and you definitely can get there, anon
if gyms are open in your city, get in and become a swolita

[Anonymous No.10571786]

I'm feeling less and less accepted in my community because I don't agree with a lot of leftist idealogy.

[Anonymous No.10571800]

>>10571786

Do you enjoy their presence?

[Anonymous No.10571809]

>>10571786
If you feel excluded just because you hate people of color, or trans people, or whatever “leftist ideology” you’re probably talking about (because it sure as shit won’t be economic policy or something), then I don’t feel sorry for you. If your politics are about excluding people, don’t whine about people excluding you? Fucking snowflake

[Anonymous No.10571815]

>>10571800
They seem like it. I avoid the topic of politics when with them

[Anonymous No.10571816]

>>10571809
It's sad that that is what you automatically think of when someone doesn't agree with leftist ideology since that is not always the case but I'm not going to argue with you since it would be pointless.

[Anonymous No.10571820]

>>10571816
It’s what 90% of people mean when they say they don’t agree with leftist ideology, let’s be honest with ourselves

[Anonymous No.10571824]

>>10571816
To be fair to them, a lot of people out there who claim they hate leftist ideology are genuinely racist or bigoted. It's not your fault a majority or very large subsection of people who agree with you on disliking leftist politics are shitty, but be aware that most lefties are interacting with a lot of the shitter people who aren't afraid to say they disagree or often other hateful beliefs, so people are really confrontational and assume the worst which they shouldn't but they're on offense and defense at the same time, y'know?

I'm sorry you're having a rough time or feel left out of your comm. Maybe if you talk to your comm members about the things you find concerning they can see not everyone who thinks the way you do is a bad person and they'll realize they need to practice what they preach and be a bit more open minded and accepting. And even if it doesn't go well, it's better to be a lonelita with principles or who is honest than constantly feeling under attack or ostracized for your opinion. If your comm is full of good people they'll come around/be accepting or at least tolerant.

[Anonymous No.10571827]

>>10571824
Oh anon, you’re far too civilised for this website

[Anonymous No.10571829]

>>10571824
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=th4FMmNQpAk

[soup No.10571848]

>>10571829
I'm not racist

[Anonymous No.10571850]

>>10571827
I guess I am just hoping if I continue to be a niceposter and behave like a decent human I can subconsciously or indirectly encourage other gulls to do the same eventually.

[Anonymous No.10571853]

>>10571850
I really do vibe with that. Please keep it up anon

[Anonymous No.10571854]

New thread
>>10571831

[Anonymous No.10571855]

>>10571824
Thanks for the advice anon. I can also see why another anon would assume such things as there are people like that but it’s not everyone. I may take your advice into account.

[Anonymous No.10571856]

>>10571815

Your concerns and desires are valid. The people responding with "be tolerant or die" and placing all blame on you are proving your fear real. It's nice to have friends who share your interests. Sometimes you come to blows with friends. Sometimes you have to compromise. Sometimes you have to seek friendship elsewhere because the compromise is one-sided or people are growing cold. At the end of the day friends are supposed to be people you can have fun shooting the shit will, not a coven to be constricted by.
Ultimately the choice is yours, but my advice is for you to keep an eye out for other spaces.

[Anonymous No.10571861]

>>10571848
Bitch, shut the fuck up. You're not even an entity.

[Anonymous No.10571865]

>>10571816
The only reason you wouldn't be a leftist is if you're literally a racist/nazi so... no.

[Anonymous No.10571870]

>>10571856
Just sucks that as a woc I don’t get to be included in spaces where we can shoot the shit, because most of the time that shit is racist and I’m not welcome. I kinda agree with aggression-chan: if you’re getting upset about people not being tolerant of your intolerance, you’re a hypocrite

[Anonymous No.10571877]

>>10571865
bait

[Anonymous No.10571943]

>>10571870
Wtf is a woc

[soup No.10571944]

>>10571861
racist

[soup No.10571951]

>>10571943
womxn of color. it's international womxn day today edumacate yourself idiot

[Anonymous No.10572010]

>>10571786
They'd probably feel the same about you if they knew the truth

[Anonymous No.10572076]

>>10571870

No. You're not welcome because you're a pain and a buzzkill. People want to vibe, not to feel like they have to watch their step like there's broken glass on the floor. My home server has blacks, whites and yellows. Liberals, centrists and nazi sympathizers. We banter freely. Sometimes based on colour, sometimes on country, sometimes US vs Europe. We are all still buddies. We help eachother when we can, worry when we can't, exchange pictures of places we'll never visit and discuss local cultures, languages and even animation. We have our laughs.
You demand people act like it's inspection day at the barracks to accomodate you. Label yourself as whatever. The truth is that you are uppity and bossy. Call me racist, call me chauvinist, call me whatever. If you stay the same, you'll continue having the same treatment even after I've left.

[Anonymous No.10572447]

My bf got me a beautiful custom-made hooded cape... but it was custom-made for someone 7" taller than me. He told the seamstress that I was 5'9. I have absolutely no idea where he got that number from and now I have to wait for tailors to open again so I can get it altered and it won't be dragging at my feet when I'm in it.

But when that happens I'll be one happy goth, I can't wait to wear it all winter! I'm so excited to plan coords with it.

[Anonymous No.10572828]

>>10572447
>it was custom-made for someone 7" taller than me
Guess she didn't like it

[Anonymous No.10574008]

>>10570357
>>he just yelled at me
>This is not okay.
Yes it is.

[Anonymous No.10574012]

>>10570918
>discord
>attention seeking and mentally ill people
Oh my, who would've guessed.

[Anonymous No.10580098]

>>10569579
>I love my boyfriend blah blah blah he's amazing!
>but he's sooooo negative

Kill yourself you normally functioning piece of shit.

[Anonymous No.10580102]

>>10570394
>>10570354
Your boyfriend is based. Heed his wisdom.

Actually, it sounds like you don't deserve him.

[Anonymous No.10580103]

>>10571004
It's a birthday, who the fuck cares.
Grow up.