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Feels thread Anonymous Sun Dec 20 09:26:40 2020 No.10520315 [Reply] [Original]

Last thread: >>10517088

Christmas is practically here. How are your end of year plans going, gulls?

>>	Anonymous Sun Dec 20 11:16:35 2020 No.10520354 >>10520315 Everything is delayed, it's too cold, but my shitty in-laws didn't come over so everything turned out okay

>>	soup Sun Dec 20 11:17:26 2020 No.10520355 >>10520315 fuck you

>>	Anonymous Sun Dec 20 12:36:33 2020 No.10520388 >>10520315 I'm the mail anon from last thread, after 12 days my dress arrived in perfect condition! That's another dream dress in my possession. AND my wunderfelt MMM items arrived the day right after. Stay positive anons who are waiting on packages.

>>	Anonymous Sun Dec 20 12:46:09 2020 No.10520393 >>10399229 Can someone start a new friend finder thread?

>>	Anonymous Sun Dec 20 16:23:07 2020 No.10520512 I spent 3k on brand recently. Feels good man.

>>	Anonymous Sun Dec 20 21:05:46 2020 No.10520705 I’m upset over tampons, of all things. If I’m too afraid to even put a tampon in, how am I going to react to having a dick inside me one day?

>>	Anonymous Sun Dec 20 21:44:27 2020 No.10520727 >>10520705 >One day Not posting on 4chan you won't.

>>	soup Sun Dec 20 22:14:14 2020 No.10520733 >>10520393 >>10520731 I made it just for you bb

>>	Anonymous Sun Dec 20 22:43:55 2020 No.10520744 >>10520388 Congrats on getting another DD!

>>	Anonymous Sun Dec 20 22:50:21 2020 No.10520746 https://www.cosmopolitan.com/style-beauty/fashion/a36199/clothes-adults-should-never-wear/ this article caused me psychic damage

>>	Anonymous Sun Dec 20 22:53:05 2020 No.10520749 >>10520705 what about tampons are you afraid of?

>>	Anonymous Sun Dec 20 23:05:09 2020 No.10520757 >>10520705 I don't wear tampons because they're very uncomfortable (I have a narrow vagina). Sex is different because you'll (presumably) be turned on and lubricated. And when you're turned on, your vagina elongates. Sex shouldn't be an issue.

>>	Anonymous Sun Dec 20 23:11:44 2020 No.10520759 >>10520746 it was literally written by a man so pay it no mind

>>	Anonymous Sun Dec 20 23:18:08 2020 No.10520763 >>10520759 Taking it as a to wear list then. Also fucking butterflies?

>>	Anonymous Mon Dec 21 00:31:36 2020 No.10520795 >>10520763 >Clothes adults should never wear >All women's clothes My god, men are pathetic

>>	Anonymous Mon Dec 21 01:18:41 2020 No.10520810 >>10520795 Scrotes will shame women for anything, it's their way of keeping control and it's honestly disgusting.

>>	Anonymous Mon Dec 21 01:26:33 2020 No.10520813 File: 33 KB, 515x388, 1606165433379.jpg [View same] [iqdb] [saucenao] [google] >>10520746 >Written by a man >Garbage information Cosmo continuing long-standing traditions I see.

>>	Anonymous Mon Dec 21 01:40:13 2020 No.10520821 >>10520746 "It look juvenile" ....yeah, So? That's the worst you can say?

>>	Anonymous Mon Dec 21 01:43:49 2020 No.10520823 I've spent a lot on clothes recently and I feel guilty. Everything is covered as far as groceries and bills, But I can't help but think I should be saving this money instead

Anonymous Mon Dec 21 01:46:22 2020 No.10520824

>>10520823
Stop shamming yourself over your choices. I guarantee that if you had saved instead of buying clothes, you would have felt regret over not buying shit.

Everything is covered and you can always save with next paycheck. Right now, you're good and you didn't do anything wrong.

Anonymous Mon Dec 21 02:37:06 2020 No.10520835

>>10520823
Even if you're in a comfortable place money wise it still helps to put things in focus. Are you saving up towards anything, do you have any investments? Is there a percentage you store away and a percent that's play money? I find my anxiety tends to come when things are vague.

Anonymous Mon Dec 21 04:47:51 2020 No.10520865

>>10520823
Don't feel bad, anon.

I live in the US and I plan to spend my entire $600 stimulus on AP's MTOs.
Wanna know something else? I'm also on unemployment, and I'll be getting $300 more a week for a few months, which will probably also be spent on whatever. I'm one of those people who now will get more in unemployment money than I did working. It was actually a huge relief when I was laid off due to covid. So don't feel guilty, at least not in 2020.

And before anyone freaks out at me, I do have savings, and my living expenses are covered. My significant other and I agreed I should quit my toxic job a long time ago, but I hung in for a few months longer until I was finally laid off, which means yes, I get the "game" the system because unfortunately that's how the US is set up.

>>	soup Mon Dec 21 05:15:27 2020 No.10520869 File: 46 KB, 619x453, l7bfa7czut621.png [View same] [iqdb] [saucenao] [google] >>10520865 neetbux poggg I'm a degenerate picked up smoking again

Anonymous Mon Dec 21 06:59:48 2020 No.10520882

>>10520865
>tfw essential worker
>majority of my friends lost their jobs and got put on unemployment
>all of them earning 25-75% more than they did previously and all them earning more than me
>been treated like absolute shit by the general public and managers because COVID
>company 'rewards' us with a $25 gift card to spend with company
>My country hasn't offered any sort of nation wide stimulus
>just wallowing in my minimum wage and getting shit on by everyone as my unemployed friends get to enjoy their Christmas with no worries

Only positibe to come out of this for me was the motivation to complete my degree and get the fuck out of retail.

>>	Anonymous Mon Dec 21 07:03:03 2020 No.10520883 >>10520813 The dude is 100% a fruity gay who thinks he can overstep into female spaces (both literally and figuratively) because he too loves dick and makeup, quirky right? Don't lump him in with men, not even gay men.

>>	Anonymous Mon Dec 21 08:25:46 2020 No.10520896 >>10520883 >Don't lump him in with men Sounds like super typical male entitlement to me. Don’t act like “fruity gay” is some kind of wild novel variety.

Anonymous Mon Dec 21 08:40:53 2020 No.10520905

is kind of a weird feel looking into my closet and knowing i could sell my sweet prints for mad money, but owning toy prints with dumb giraffes on it is worth more to me

also kind of a bad feel bc i've wanted dreamy dollhouse and memorial cake for a bit but that's not happening anytime soon

Anonymous Mon Dec 21 08:54:52 2020 No.10520907

>>10520905
I get the same feel. I also own ~20 AP necklaces and ~20 AP rings. I could make mad money off of them. But I'd rather just wear em.

I hope you get memorial cake and DDH someday, anon! I got my pink MC jsk for like $80 on mercari a few years ago. My DDH is faded, but the glitter is still intact and it's still fun to wear (and it was under $100 with the matching socks+headbow). I'm hoping to get MC in blue, but yeah that's not happening any time soon at all.

>>	Anonymous Mon Dec 21 09:03:30 2020 No.10520909 >>10520896 Fruity gays aren't real people. They're caricatures of people. Everyone who isn't an image obsessed female or a virtue signalling male dislikes them, especially other gays.

>>	Anonymous Mon Dec 21 09:14:14 2020 No.10520912 >>10520907 thanks anon! hopefully either the market rounds out or we come across memorial cake money. good taste and good luck!

Anonymous Mon Dec 21 10:01:40 2020 No.10520921

>>10520909
Gay men are not absolved of misogyny simply by being gay. The sentiments in that article are typical sentiments where men are trying to control women and demonize things that are seen as "not proper" or not for a "real lady." It's the same shit that straight men pull, except they don't know what an a-line hem is.

Anonymous Mon Dec 21 11:12:05 2020 No.10520939

>>10520921
I never said that. That's the literal opposite of my point. Gays, especially fruity gays, are in fact the most mysogonistic people I've ever met because they believe they are in this special category where they can act like carticatures of women and criticise women but still hold onto male only priviledges.

>>	Anonymous Mon Dec 21 11:52:23 2020 No.10520949 >>10520865 >I plan to spend my entire $600 stimulus on AP's MTOs. Same anon, Same. I was just going to get SC but I could probably pull off a nakayoshi bunny too now.

Anonymous Mon Dec 21 12:00:19 2020 No.10520954

>>10520949
I only wanted Nakayoshi Bunny but there aren't any colorways of it that go well with my current wardrobe, so I'm probably just going to end up putting it towards my DD fund or building a new PC.

I'm finally in a position to where I don't need the stimulus/am not replying on it but I feel so annoyed for people who needed relief for necessities that the government cut the amount to something pitiful and took forever to give anyone that.

>>	Anonymous Mon Dec 21 12:08:02 2020 No.10520960 >>10520949 I'm getting SC in 2 colorways, ayyy.

Anonymous Mon Dec 21 16:15:37 2020 No.10521159

>>10520905
>>10520907
Same feel. Sometimes I want to catfish by literally posting all my AP jewelry in a huge lot and see how high the bids would go (but I would never sell it because looking at it all gives me so much joy). I probably have close to 120 pieces in necklaces + bracelets + rings. And it's all the old sweet stuff.

>>	Anonymous Mon Dec 21 16:29:25 2020 No.10521178 >>10520865 How do you all pay for rent? Like seriously? No job and spending stimulus checks on burando lmao. Do you folks have any savings at all?

Anonymous Mon Dec 21 16:29:41 2020 No.10521179

>>10520882
Anon, this was basically my exact story before I got laid off. I was also an essential worker, but not in retail. They paid me badly even though they required a college degree. Covid made everything 100x more toxic, and while I didn't actively try to get fired, I hoped and wished I would be. Eventually I stopped being an overachiever because I was becoming physically ill with stress, and they finally let me go. I was smiling while they told me. I probably looked insane.

Hang in there. I know it sucks.

>>	Anonymous Mon Dec 21 16:35:45 2020 No.10521186 >>10521178 anon they said they're getting more in unemployment than they did working lol

>>	Anonymous Mon Dec 21 16:40:52 2020 No.10521192 >>10521178 I gotten like 25k in 3 and a half months lol

>>	Anonymous Mon Dec 21 16:43:06 2020 No.10521197 >>10521192 2k a week from unemployment??? Tf

>>	Anonymous Mon Dec 21 16:58:10 2020 No.10521214 >>10521192 You're getting taxes taken out of your unemployment payments right anon? Because if not you're about to get slammed in a couple weeks

>>	Anonymous Mon Dec 21 17:04:51 2020 No.10521221 >>10521186 >>10521192 Absolutely insane lol. To be fair I make a lot more than 2k a week, but that's crazy. And this shit is all coming from taxes to the middle class.

Anonymous Mon Dec 21 17:21:00 2020 No.10521232

>>10521197
I take that back it’s 25k in 4 months
>>10521214
I didn’t but that’s okay since I only used the money I got to pay for bills + I moved back home after I got laid off so no rent. close to paying off my student loans so that’s nice. the rest have been accumulating. I been looking at putting some into stocks but haven’t found anything that feels safe yet.
>>10521221
It’s been pretty kino.

Anonymous Mon Dec 21 17:30:34 2020 No.10521239

>>10521232
Just go for some index funds. For example VTI or anything similar. Anything with like 5%+ yearly gains is fine. You put away into it every month and never have to micromanage anything. Most are doing better than 5% a year. Would definitely suggest starting as soon as possible so you can retire early. I hard regretti not investing in my early 20s and even late teens, but I was a moron haha.

Idk if you have a 401k, but mine is up like 22%. When you're employed again definitely put as much as you can into that. Roth isn't bad as it is already taxed when you put it in so you won't have to pay taxes on it later(standard penalties still apply).

If you want to be more risky and gamble learn more about the market and stock trading and you can trade options.

>>	Anonymous Mon Dec 21 17:32:16 2020 No.10521240 >>10521232 but how, covid benefits ended in july and unemployment benefits are around 1k/week at the highest. Unless I'm missing something. Not hating just confused

>>	Anonymous Mon Dec 21 17:47:53 2020 No.10521252 >>10521232 >I didn’t but that’s okay oof have fun owing the IRS like 10k

>>	Anonymous Mon Dec 21 17:49:50 2020 No.10521255 >>10521252 >>10521232 Big oof. >>10521240 They weren't paying taxes on the money, lol. I can't wait for my fat tax refund this year.

>>	Anonymous Mon Dec 21 17:57:21 2020 No.10521263 >>10521240 Yeah I'm confused too. I'm not sure if any state (without extra covid money) gives 1.6k a week. What state does that anon live in?

Anonymous Mon Dec 21 18:31:46 2020 No.10521279

Ugh, I feel like a hoarder collecting all these dresses while being too afraid I'm going to mess them up so I don't wear them very often. I feel conflicted because on one hand I spent 200$+ on it so I should "get my money" out of it, but I'm also afraid that if I want to resell it or something I basically ruined it by wearing it.

>>	Anonymous Mon Dec 21 20:00:25 2020 No.10521306 >will forever be fat and uggo >have coords that I'm too ashamed to put on my undeserving body >life is meaningless

Anonymous Mon Dec 21 20:03:50 2020 No.10521311

>>10520757
The problem isn’t that they feel uncomfortable or don’t fit. The issue is that I don’t feel comfortable with the thought of having anything inside my vagina, which no amount of arousal or wetness is going to fix. And that’s assuming I’m even going to be aroused and wet at all, which is something that never happens to me.

Anonymous Mon Dec 21 20:04:52 2020 No.10521313

>>10520905
I used to be a hardcore pastel sweet lolita but I'm kind of thinking of just selling it all off right now while it's hyped up at least. I've been wearing it less and less over the past couple years, I always reach for jewel tone or black x white stuff instead now. it started as a seasonal thing and just kind of stuck. if someone else can get happiness from wearing milky planet and silly plastic jewelry right now that's got to be better than having it sit in my closet, right? Right now I honestly feel repulsed by all my pastel stuff and idk if it's because I'm depressed, getting older, or honestly having a shift in style but I just want it gone so I can buy something different without feeling guilty for having so many clothes. It's just weird that so many things that I treasured and thought I'd never sell are now potentially on their way out...

>>	Anonymous Mon Dec 21 20:16:49 2020 No.10521326 >>10521313 Probably better to sell before the rereleases come during the anniversary year.

>>	Anonymous Mon Dec 21 20:32:55 2020 No.10521338 >>10521306 accept that you're ugly, wear the clothes that make you happy

>>	Anonymous Mon Dec 21 20:39:26 2020 No.10521340 >>10521306 You're not ugly, just poor. Everyone and their Mom has plastic surgery these days. Shit ain't real at all. Buy yourself a new body/face and a personal trainer.

>>	Anonymous Mon Dec 21 20:42:26 2020 No.10521342 >>10521340 Good goyim, instead of just being confident in yourself make sure you BUY your way into beauty with PRODUCT

Anonymous Mon Dec 21 21:22:06 2020 No.10521378

>>10521342
Why not? Buying a personal trainer to maintain good health is worth it. If you don't like the way you look why not change it especially when Anon probably compares themselves to fake photoshopped and plastic surgery ridden media figures.

If it's something that will make you happy why not? I would never dabble in plastic surgery due to the possibility of complications, but if someone else wants to, more power to them!

>>	Anonymous Mon Dec 21 21:24:09 2020 No.10521382 >>10521340 With all of my already-existing medical debt, I feel like I'll never be able to do it. I would if I could. Thanks for the encouragement, anon.

Anonymous Mon Dec 21 21:26:57 2020 No.10521384

>>10521382
Never say never.

For your weight issues, not much is needed to fix it. Also, idk what your healthcare situation is but the US offers medicare etc for the not well off.

Focus on getting your health together and resolving those items first and the rest will follow. I don't think you will feel as bad about yourself either once you fix your health.

No health = no life = no burando.

Anonymous Mon Dec 21 21:32:15 2020 No.10521385

>>10521306
“What a disgrace it is for a lolita to grow out of the fashion without seeing the beauty and true potential her body is capable of in brando” - mana. Every morning we have two choices to make, continue to sleep with your dreams or wake up and chase them. A year from now you’re going to wish you started working out today. GET YOUR FAT ASS OF 4CHAN AND RUN, GET A SWITCH AND GET THAT WORKOUT GAME. EAT HEALTHIER. H2O BRO, FUCK SODA. You have to treat yourself like someone you love, like your dream dress or a cute fluffy cat. Go find yourself once you lose all those baggage and you’ll learn to love yourself you just have to make that first step.

>>	Anonymous Mon Dec 21 21:35:49 2020 No.10521390 >>10521311 maybe you're a lesbian or asexual. Does the thought of having something in your butthole also make you feel weird? There are cishet couples that are anal only nowadays. Not all women enjoy vaginal penetration.

Anonymous Mon Dec 21 22:06:59 2020 No.10521403

>>10521378
If you need a personal trainer to maintain good health, you have more money than sense. It's not hard to stay healthy. You don't need someone else to tell you to run, stretch and don't eat like shit. Personal trainers arent worth jackshit and have next to zero qualifications, people on/fit/ have more genuine knowledge than trend chasing personal trainers. Good personal trainers are ex-physios or ex-elite athletes who train people to certain athletic standards (i.e. other elite athletes) or people with large limitations.

>Why not?
Because it won't make you happy. If you get it into your head you can fix anything with plastic surgery, you will find fault in everything. Unless you have some serious imbalance or deformity, you don't need plastic surgery and you're just feeding into this money = happiness culture which is cancerous.

>>	Anonymous Mon Dec 21 22:10:31 2020 No.10521404 >see news report on Facebook that my country's alcohol consumption is through the roof in 2020 >All the comments are congratulatory and jovial Burn it all. Alcoholism and binge drinking isn't funny or happy or good.

>>	Anonymous Mon Dec 21 22:12:50 2020 No.10521406 >>10521403 I was saying you can hire a personal trainer and it wouldn't be a waste of money. Stop pretending you even give a shit about that Anon lol. Project more.

>>	Anonymous Mon Dec 21 22:15:34 2020 No.10521411 >>10521406 I do genuinely care about people who want to improve how they look. I was there for a long time. Stop projecting.

>>	Anonymous Mon Dec 21 22:27:05 2020 No.10521416 >>10521411 top kek

Anonymous Mon Dec 21 22:28:49 2020 No.10521417
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really wish i was better at maintaining friendships. i've met a lot of kind lolitas who have reached out to me repeatedly but i just... don't have the energy, i guess? it can take me days or weeks (or never) to get back to anybody because i can't work up to it. hanging out is even more out of the question (pre-covid obv)

i just wish there was a way to mass transmit the message that they're amazing people, i'm just an antisocial homebody. hell, even discord and zoom meets would be too hard to keep up with. yet i'm jealous of lolita friend circles who always keep in contact--i wish i could do it, i've tried, but it's not me

>>	Anonymous Mon Dec 21 22:46:40 2020 No.10521432 >>10521390 I’m definitely asexual, and the thought of anal doesn’t do anything positive for me either, but it’s slightly less uncomfortable to imagine so at least there’s that.

Anonymous Tue Dec 22 00:19:43 2020 No.10521462

>>10521417
I could have typed this statement. Being self aware is half the battle, sometimes it is difficult to admit you are the weak link in communication despite your desire to build friendships. Don't convince yourself it isn't in you, sometimes it's a case of finding someone with a similarly irregular communication pattern who won't take your delays as an 'insult'

>>	Anonymous Tue Dec 22 00:21:32 2020 No.10521463 >>10521417 This is exactly me as well. It fucking sucks.

>>	Anonymous Tue Dec 22 00:59:34 2020 No.10521475 Anyone else have trolls remorse? I don't know if it's everything else going on with me, but I'm feeling bad about being part of PULL and KF.

>>	Anonymous Tue Dec 22 01:22:34 2020 No.10521485 >>10521475 Have you done anything really bad, anon? I like lurker on KF, but not contributing.

Anonymous Tue Dec 22 01:42:33 2020 No.10521495

>>10521475
I'm a recovering addict. When I troll and start drama on KF or LC I get the rush, and afterwards I feel intense guilt. I tell myself trolling is fine, at least I'm not doing coke, but I still feel like pure shit and crave the next baww response to my bait from butthurt sweet lolitas.

Anonymous Tue Dec 22 02:01:01 2020 No.10521496

>>10521475
Just enjoy the drama and don't feel bad because you probably didn't participate in it directly yourself.
And even if you did, don't feel too bad— you're still ultimately just somebody on the internet making fun of somebody else. Which people do all the goddamn time.

Anonymous Tue Dec 22 02:04:03 2020 No.10521497

>>10521475
>>10521496
Well, I will say this though— with the exception of a few true, true assholes like Jim, almost everybody feels troll's remorse after being a jerk on the internet at some point or another. If you still enjoy lurking/participating in those sites to a point, I'd say maybe take a month or two off from them.

Anonymous Tue Dec 22 02:14:05 2020 No.10521503
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Decided to wear Lolita out tomorrow and started coord planning earlier today. All my skirts and Jsks no longer fit my tubby ass. I knew I was stagnant this whole quarantine but damn.

Ended up giving my nooblita friend a bunch of sweet jsks/skirts etc, so at least SOMEONE can happily wear them.

Good time as any to change my style to gothic I suppose.

>>	Anonymous Tue Dec 22 02:26:20 2020 No.10521505 >>10521503 Damn I wish I was your friend. But also, I would try to exercise with you cuz I've slightly let myself go too.

Anonymous Tue Dec 22 02:32:47 2020 No.10521508

>>10521505
Yeah she was so happy, it reminded me of my first time wearing Lolita.
I’m taking her to the mall to walk around tomorrow and she’s wearing a snow bunny coord. I’m just gonna...wear pants I suppose.
I’m 5’5 150lbs now, and I’ve never been this heavy.
Genuinely never thought I’d be one of those “lose weight New Years resolution” people.

Anonymous Tue Dec 22 03:31:38 2020 No.10521518

I've been under so much stress recently, I found myself buying things to cope and paying way above market value for them as well. My mental health has been hit hard, so I'm definitely going to look and feel awful in all of the brand I spent money on. Time to get my shit together and put a stop to this, big ups to everyone struggling.

Anonymous Tue Dec 22 03:43:44 2020 No.10521519

Can ClosetChild fix their broken ass payment system? I know there's tons of people trying to buy the same item, but this is the third or fourth time that money was taken from my PayPal/credit card ($90+) but I was redirected back to the site and the page told me "the item is sold/unavailable."

Basically I get no order confirmation because someone else's payment goes through "first" but I still get charged. Everytime I have to awkwardly email CC and tell them to refund me. Then I lose out on a few $$ because the exchange rate fluctuates by the time my money is returned. It's so fucking annoying.

>>	Anonymous Tue Dec 22 04:02:56 2020 No.10521525 >>10521313 I kept dropping my sweet jewelry on the floor so I sold it cheap. I have some regrets but better than breaking it. I also sold half my pastel sweet for dirt cheap. Yolo. Just wish I hadn't sold any of my sweet classic

>>	Anonymous Tue Dec 22 04:59:58 2020 No.10521529 Recently bought my dream dress. I definitely overpaid but I didn’t care because it was my dream dress. I just got it and I’m completely underwhelmed. I don’t think I like it and because it’s unpopular I probably won’t be able to get my money back.

Anonymous Tue Dec 22 05:03:48 2020 No.10521531

>>10521529
I'm sorry anon. What's wrong with it? How is it different in real life than you imagined?

I had a similar experience once, but it was fleeting. Looking at the dress was underwhelming for some reason, but when I actually wore it, I loved it. Have you tried it on yet?

>>	Anonymous Tue Dec 22 06:02:18 2020 No.10521538 File: 26 KB, 844x224, pain.png [View same] [iqdb] [saucenao] [google] >>10521519 They should fix their shipping rates first.

Anonymous Tue Dec 22 06:36:10 2020 No.10521540

>>10521538
What country do you live in? Is that shipping for just one item? I've been sucking it up and paying $20 for the US.

But it'd honestly take bad shipping fees over literally having my money withdrawn and held when I didn't even get the item. It's so bad. Their system shouldn't even allow multiple payments from different users for the same item.

Anonymous Tue Dec 22 06:58:26 2020 No.10521546

>>10521475
>>10521495
Same same. I used to be a huge shit stirrer at the farms (and an even bigger shit stirring troll here). Took a break for a few years but I see myself quickly spiraling into it again. Tbh a lot of the recent bait and dumbassery here has been my doing and I always get this intense dopamine rush and then I feel embarrassed and ashamed. Probably going to take a step back for a while since I'm turning into the same cruel/bullying piece of shit version of myself I thought I'd left behind years ago.

It's weird because irl I'm a really nice person that just wants everyone around me to be happy and feel good about themselves. And then I get online behind anon and I'm the worst. Dr jekyll mr hyde complex or something idk.

>>	Anonymous Tue Dec 22 07:31:06 2020 No.10521553 File: 2.05 MB, 1024x923, axesfemme.png [View same] [iqdb] [saucenao] [google] >>10521540 Germany and this was my order. All light weight Axes Femme stuff. I've done similar hauls with SS's in the past and shipping was only half as expensive.

>>	Anonymous Tue Dec 22 07:44:56 2020 No.10521556 >>10521553 >tfw no Fräulein

>>	Anonymous Tue Dec 22 08:29:20 2020 No.10521565 >>10521553 oh i wouldn't worry too much anon--they charged me $200 for shipping semi recently and they refunded over half of it. i'm not sure why their calculator is off, but they resolve it themselves

Anonymous Tue Dec 22 08:35:21 2020 No.10521566

>>10521313
i'm in the opposite boat, i sold off a few really cute old sweet pieces but really regret it because they were my pride and joy. so uh, if you're planning on selling, let us know, haha...

>tfw actually cried a little because i miss my cotton candy shop

>>	Anonymous Tue Dec 22 09:16:07 2020 No.10521569 >>10520315 She looks straight up anemic or has some liver disease in this picture, who the fuck would willingly shoop themselves into that? At least color your lips and cheek jfc

Anonymous Tue Dec 22 13:23:58 2020 No.10521669

>>10521475

Consider spending time on those places with the same approach you use for other things that are a little bad for you. Once and a while as a treat is fine. Everyday is too much.

I think it's normal to be interested in drama and fighting, but you don't want to overdo it. I used to be friends with someone who seemed to forget that not everything was about drama and hanging out with her became exhausting because she was hypercritical of everyone we were with, every time.

>>	Anonymous Tue Dec 22 13:37:21 2020 No.10521672 >>10521569 Don’t shame the seagulls they’re doing their best

>>	Anonymous Tue Dec 22 16:35:30 2020 No.10521721 USPS is really hit or miss. Got a bunch of stuff from Japan with no issue, lightning fast shipping. One package is stuck in the states, god knows where, for two weeks now lol. Fucking randy. Thanks USPS!

>>	Anonymous Tue Dec 22 17:10:06 2020 No.10521731 Any other brits concerned about their parcels? With all these countries banning movement between us and them, I'm confused whether it also means mail. I've just seen American Duchess are stopping shipping to the uk.

Anonymous Tue Dec 22 18:32:10 2020 No.10521755

My mom told her friends that "My daughter buys these frilly lolita dresses from Japan and basically looks like a really cute toddler"....She meant it positively but now they probably at best think I'm a weirdo and worst like I'm a fetishist.

As a side note, Hope my closetchild comes in, I just ordered some stuff from them and it looks like my order went through, but I see people having issues here.

>>	Anonymous Tue Dec 22 18:33:16 2020 No.10521756 >>10521538 Tbf, they do after you order. Freaked out when my order was ridiculously expensive shipping. Tried to cut out items, but it barely changed. Decided to just do it and they ended up refunding 75% of what I had paid for shipping.

>>	Anonymous Tue Dec 22 19:08:24 2020 No.10521774 >>10521755 Mine came within 5 days if that? Japan shipping has been phenomenal. Europe and state side has been a coin flip.

>>	Anonymous Tue Dec 22 19:57:20 2020 No.10521797 >>10521774 Yeah I ordered a couple months ago and it was quicker than my AP USA order. I just didn't know if it was a recent issue, or if something I bought sold before I got it since apparently someone had that issue too.

>>	Anonymous Tue Dec 22 20:09:38 2020 No.10521805 >>10521797 Same here. I didn't get the cute bear cutsew op because shipping from AP US was slow AF. I am more afraid of my items getting destroyed or lost in my own country vs getting it shipped overseas.

>>	Anonymous Tue Dec 22 20:23:24 2020 No.10521815 >try favorite coord on >it still fits >have nowhere to go because Covid

>>	Anonymous Tue Dec 22 20:43:30 2020 No.10521821 Sometimes I think about all the girls I outlived in the fashion. I mean so many girls quit in my com over the years. On the other hand some of the itas that joint and left made a huge drama out of them leaving which was always entertaining.

>>	Anonymous Tue Dec 22 20:44:08 2020 No.10521822 >>10521815 You haven't worn lolita since covid?

>>	Anonymous Tue Dec 22 20:50:28 2020 No.10521826 >>10521822 Four years.

>>	Anonymous Tue Dec 22 20:51:00 2020 No.10521827 >tfw no lolita gf

>>	Anonymous Wed Dec 23 04:12:57 2020 No.10522012 >whenever gf's weight changes her boobs are the first thing to change >been subtly encouraging her to eat more and more >Gone from a C to an E Almost big enough to give titfucks.

>>	Anonymous Wed Dec 23 04:41:50 2020 No.10522016 I wish I could fit into Axes Femme's one-size but I'm too small and it'll look so bad... maybe I should learn to hem my own things but I feel worried about hemming a blouse I paid $70 for...

>>	Anonymous Wed Dec 23 05:24:43 2020 No.10522034 >>10520746 >moids Not even once t bh

Anonymous Wed Dec 23 05:50:23 2020 No.10522045

Idk if anyone remembers me posting about buying my dream dress (Holy Lantern zipper jsk) and being worried about it being too big for me because lolibrary's listed minimum measurements were ~10cm larger than me. Well anyway, I got the dress and it's definitely roomy (the back shirring kinda.... droops cause it's just hanging loosely) but it looks completely fine from the front and that's good enough for me. So happy to finally own my dream dress!

>>	Anonymous Wed Dec 23 13:11:27 2020 No.10522166 >>10522045 Congrats, anon! Which colourway did you get?

>>	Anonymous Wed Dec 23 14:20:19 2020 No.10522210 >>10522045 I mean I thought mine looked fine too until I saw pictures of me in it. It's best to get it altered smaller anon.

>>	Anonymous Wed Dec 23 14:28:08 2020 No.10522213 Snowflake server banned me because of my high quality plague doctor mask.

>>	Anonymous Thu Dec 24 01:09:03 2020 No.10522403 Only 8 more hours of work then I'm getting into cosplay again. Today's the day. Time to show everyone how much I still have Promare brain rot.

>>	Anonymous Thu Dec 24 03:20:46 2020 No.10522428 >>10522016 I alter my axes femme dresses and it’s really easy. The fabric on mine are forgiving on mistakes and you don’t even have to cut anything, just sew side darts and you’re good to go.

>>	Anonymous Thu Dec 24 03:36:57 2020 No.10522432 tried to look up the sheepgarden tag on IG to get coord ideas for this print again, and it has gotten absolutely trashed with some kind of kpop garbage

>>	Anonymous Thu Dec 24 03:44:03 2020 No.10522434 >>10522166 Thanks! The wine colorway. >>10522210 I saw pictures of me in it taken by someone else and I still think it looks okay. I mean you can tell it's a little bit too big but I don't think it looks distractingly ill fitting.

soup Thu Dec 24 03:50:52 2020 No.10522435
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shiiit these cats testing me. I already fed them tonight and usually they leave after getting fed but tonight they’re just sitting there waiting outside the door looking at me.

>>	Anonymous Thu Dec 24 04:46:31 2020 No.10522443 My packages are taking so long and though it's to be expected this month, it stresses me out. I just hope they don't get lost.

Anonymous Thu Dec 24 05:11:23 2020 No.10522451
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Why do biblefags insist that the only correct way of dressing is evangelical fashion and keep approaching me on the street to talk about some book I don't read or care about
No seriously why do they hate any sort of alt fashion so much? "My clothes good your clothes bad"

Anonymous Thu Dec 24 05:33:33 2020 No.10522455

>>10522451
Where do you live? I've never once had this happen to me. I once got drunk in the club district while wearing casual sweet lolita and screamed at the biblefags who were protesting for nearly an hour and they never once criticized my clothes. It was great fun, 10/10 would scream over their megaphones and aggressively ask them if they'd let jesus ass fuck them/would they suck jesus' dick if he commanded it again.

>>	Anonymous Thu Dec 24 06:01:24 2020 No.10522464 Fedex intl priority shipping is so fast, less than a day and it's already almost here. Can't wait to receive a small part of my +30 item haul. Who knows when EMS resumes to the US..

>>	Anonymous Thu Dec 24 07:09:54 2020 No.10522474 is this board mostly women and women(male)?

Anonymous Thu Dec 24 12:49:34 2020 No.10522563

Is anyone else getting fatigued by the pandemic? Once I get the vaccine, I’m not going to take precautions I once did after a month. I don’t want to show up at a Comm meetup in 2022 only to get told I need to leave because I’m not wearing a mask even though I received a vaccine.

>>	Anonymous Thu Dec 24 14:07:56 2020 No.10522586 >>10522455 >once got drunk in the club district Most embarrassing behaviour.

Anonymous Thu Dec 24 15:29:59 2020 No.10522606
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>>10520315
'Twas the meet before Christmas, and all through the board,
not a loli was willing to fart in her coord.
Our bloomers were hung by the chimney with care,
in hopes that our butts didn't fill them with air.

>>	Anonymous Thu Dec 24 15:30:58 2020 No.10522607 >>10522455 these retarded sweetfags who act vulgar and insane in public really give the rest of us a bad name

>>	soup Thu Dec 24 15:47:53 2020 No.10522618 File: 305 KB, 1280x958, BBC396DE-392D-4006-BA9F-013EC3C44C3F.jpg [View same] [iqdb] [saucenao] [google] I imagined it looking better inside my head

>>	Anonymous Thu Dec 24 17:35:51 2020 No.10522665 >>10522606 Based. Merry Christmas.

Anonymous Thu Dec 24 17:58:16 2020 No.10522674

I'm trying to quit smoking/vaping so I can have a larger budget for lolita. But it's so fucking hard, it's been maybe an hour since my last one and I'm already irritable and on the edge of tears. I know it'll be worth it, I'm just so fucking tired of trying to quit and not making it to the 2nd week because my coworkers chainsmoke and because I lack mental fortitude. The psychological aspect is so much more difficult to deal with than the physical symptoms. I hate my mom, my ex, and my old friends for getting me addicted to this shit. I have asthma too, there's no way this shit won't be the thing that kills me. I'm taking extras of my anxiety meds so I don't flip out on Christmas Eve or tomorrow. But fuck, it's so hard.

>>	Anonymous Thu Dec 24 18:02:18 2020 No.10522677 >>10522455 Wow edgy and original. So quirky. So funny.

>>	Anonymous Thu Dec 24 18:38:13 2020 No.10522686 File: 31 KB, 500x375, disaster-girl.jpg [View same] [iqdb] [saucenao] [google] >>10521475 Nope.

>>	Anonymous Thu Dec 24 18:53:17 2020 No.10522690 >>10522674 it's so worth it. I believe in you, anon, your life will benefit so much in the long run from the momentary suffering you'll be experiencing for the next 2 weeks. you got this!

>>	Anonymous Thu Dec 24 19:02:47 2020 No.10522699 >>10522674 Please quit and work on your health. If you get covid it will not be good for you... Imagine all the brand you can get from saving on cigarettes and vape juice. Shit gets expensive!

>>	Anonymous Thu Dec 24 19:04:40 2020 No.10522702 I found out that my dad lost a pet turtle when he was a kid, and now I’m sad thinking about that

>>	Anonymous Thu Dec 24 19:15:43 2020 No.10522716 >>10522702 Did his Turtle wear lolita

Anonymous Thu Dec 24 19:53:47 2020 No.10522744

>>10522674
I ran out of vape juice and had a pack of cigs lying around so i picked it up again a couple of days ago after a few years of quitting. I took maybe two puffs and threw the rest away. taste bad, smells bad, makes me feel like i ran a marathon after just a couple of puffs and worst of all it’ll make your face look like a butthole by 30 if you keep smoking.

>>	Anonymous Thu Dec 24 20:23:12 2020 No.10522753 >>10522716 No, but he was a godtier cosplayer.

>>	Anonymous Thu Dec 24 20:40:54 2020 No.10522770 >>10522586 Where should one get drunk, anon? Getting drunk at home is pretty fucking lame alcoholic behavior.

>>	Anonymous Thu Dec 24 20:46:19 2020 No.10522774 >>10522674 Smoke weed instead, that's how my dad quit cigs. Marijuana is really good for asthmatics, it's a bronchodilator.

>>	Anonymous Thu Dec 24 20:49:07 2020 No.10522777 >>10522607 >>10522677 You guys must be fun at parties.

>>	Anonymous Thu Dec 24 20:57:41 2020 No.10522783 >>10522777 >I'm a degenerate with no future

>>	Anonymous Thu Dec 24 21:11:14 2020 No.10522788 >>10522777 most people considered fun or cool aren't lame enough to spend an entire hour shouting inane shit at Evangelicals. you guys must get ditched at parties, lmfao

>>	Anonymous Thu Dec 24 22:07:24 2020 No.10522822 >>10522702 My dad literally did the same, but it reappeared months later still alive. It was just chillin around the house.

>>	Anonymous Thu Dec 24 22:18:17 2020 No.10522826 >>10522474 No we're all boys here go away

>>	Anonymous Fri Dec 25 00:22:21 2020 No.10522881 >>10522435 They're waiting for their gifts, soup. What did you get them for Christmas?

>>	Anonymous Fri Dec 25 00:39:39 2020 No.10522889 >>10522788 this. wtf. is it 2005?

>>	Anonymous Fri Dec 25 01:38:57 2020 No.10522905 Merry Christmas, /cgl/! Hope you all get your dream dresses!

>>	Anonymous Fri Dec 25 02:43:43 2020 No.10522925 Missed out on a dream dress for the second time because I'm a dumb bitch. Only been looking for it for a couple of years, but it still hurts. Merry Christmas, gulls, and may we all find our DDs next year.

>>	Anonymous Fri Dec 25 04:36:27 2020 No.10522953 File: 423 KB, 1536x2048, EqEZD4SVoAAi3BJ.jpg [View same] [iqdb] [saucenao] [google] I want a friendship like Misako and Midori's.

>>	Anonymous Fri Dec 25 05:03:21 2020 No.10522962 >>10522777 Because making an ass of yourself is the key to being fun at parties.

Anonymous Fri Dec 25 10:05:32 2020 No.10523051

It's been 2 weeks since the package I sold left my country and USPS still hasn't scanned it as arrived at their destination. I know corona and christmas are hell for poor postal workers but I'm getting nervous. Is the lost package rate high for the US post?

>>	Anonymous Fri Dec 25 11:00:44 2020 No.10523097 >>10523051 You sent a package internationally in December to a country where the postal service recently had its funding cut.

>>	Anonymous Fri Dec 25 11:13:32 2020 No.10523106 My grandma got tested positive for corona and I can't stop worrying about her. Merry Christmas gulls.

Anonymous Fri Dec 25 11:18:43 2020 No.10523109

>>10523106

It'll be okay anon. I lost a parent this year (unrelated to COVID) and am also super worried about my own grandma. Checking the hospital capacity and similar things in her area and seeing they weren't that bad helped calm me a bit. Though her case may not even end up warranting hospital care.

>>	soup Fri Dec 25 11:59:00 2020 No.10523134 >>10522881 I didn't know we were christmas gifting kinda close so I didn't get them anything.

>>	Anonymous Fri Dec 25 14:52:24 2020 No.10523189 >>10520315 >invited another person to meet me at a public convention I unironically won't humiliate you but everyone else watching the meet up will

>>	Anonymous Fri Dec 25 14:52:30 2020 No.10523190 >>10523051 I sent a package to sweden december second from the US and it is in limbo as well. I would say it is just due to everyone trying to send gifts and corona shit backing everything up.

>>	Anonymous Fri Dec 25 14:55:40 2020 No.10523191 >>10523051 A package of mine from Europe was sent in late November and it hasn't even been scanned or left the country? The whole post situation is fucked around the world.

>>	Anonymous Fri Dec 25 15:09:05 2020 No.10523197 >>10523051 >>10523190 I'm in the US and this month I had two domestic packages take 3 weeks to arrive and one took 4 weeks. Most likely it's not lost but it will be stuck in limbo for a while

>>	Anonymous Fri Dec 25 19:06:20 2020 No.10523278 >>10522953 I am a man. Men and women can't be friends. Women and other women can't be friends. Women don't have the capacity to create friendships. Women only create mutual beneficiaries.

Anonymous Fri Dec 25 19:06:26 2020 No.10523279

>>10523109
I'm so sorry to hear that anon. I lost a parent 5 years ago as well and it was an awful time. Things will never be the same but they will get better! Just take your time.
Thanks for worrying though. I hope both our grandmas will be safe for many years to come.

>>	Anonymous Fri Dec 25 19:09:05 2020 No.10523280 Christmas was so lame this year >>10523278 Me when my friends don't laugh at my memes </3

Anonymous Fri Dec 25 19:23:58 2020 No.10523288

>>10523280
Christmas was alright but I feel a little guilty and ripped off. I tried hard with everyone's presents, I always like to give the best gift possible. But in return my family give me gifts which are nice, but are generic. Like this is a gift anyone could like, not a gift specifically picked for me.

I feel guilty because I should be grateful and I am but it feels like my family just doesn't care enough to learn about me as a person to know what I would like.

>>	Anonymous Fri Dec 25 20:08:56 2020 No.10523298 Got gifted resin to make "cute jewelry to match your outfits" from my mom. Cute idea but turns out I suck at it and wasted like 20$ of material

Anonymous Fri Dec 25 20:13:29 2020 No.10523301

i feel kind of guilty that i'm going to drop at least 1k on next year's rereleases because i live with my bf rent free (until i start my job next summer). i've taken over all household chores, and he understands because he's /fa/, but idk. excited for when i can start contributing financially at least

>>	Anonymous Fri Dec 25 20:20:17 2020 No.10523302 >>10523301 don't contribute financially you're setting a bad precedent lmfao

>>	Anonymous Fri Dec 25 20:27:16 2020 No.10523304 >>10523302 ...explain?

Anonymous Fri Dec 25 20:28:04 2020 No.10523305 [DELETED]

I'm so salty. My family usually gets me alright gifts but this year I received some awful shit. They pretty much gave me things they would buy for themselves instead of anything I asked for, which wasn't much. I don't expect them to buy me j-fash without handing me a $20 Amazon replica so I asked for activewear, a new wallet, and the new Junji Ito book. What did I get? Harry Potter books (I never showed any interest in them even as a child ???), an ugly brown jacket, and wooden hippie earrings. I don't want to sound ungrateful but my family is chock full of narcissists and they pretty much gave me shit that they think I like. Makes sense though, bc they don't ever remember or even ask about my interests. Kind of lousy considering I stuck my fucking neck out to visit them and went out of my way to find things they ended up loving even though I'm broke as fuck. I hate it here

>>	Anonymous Fri Dec 25 20:30:10 2020 No.10523306 >>10523305 Giving gifts you don't like doesn't make someone a narcissist lol wtf

Anonymous Fri Dec 25 20:48:50 2020 No.10523311

>>10523298
you're inevitably going to waste material when you learn a new skill that requires it, don't beat yourself up over it and continue practicing! I'm sure your mom would appreciate that her gift went towards you picking up a new hobby and trying to get better at it

>>	Anonymous Fri Dec 25 21:01:07 2020 No.10523316 >>10523305 dont stress over stuff too much or you'll get grey hair :0

>>	Anonymous Fri Dec 25 21:07:01 2020 No.10523317 >>10523304 You're a leech

Anonymous Fri Dec 25 21:18:49 2020 No.10523324
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>>10523280
Christmas was wonderful for me until my mother ended the night complaining about everything and anything and backed the dumpster truck up to unload all of her grievances onto me, like she has every day this month. I feel drained and cheated of the effort I put into this evening.
But fuck ya'll, I got some cute shit.

>>	Anonymous Fri Dec 25 21:53:45 2020 No.10523349 >>10523317 for a couple of months until i start making six figures, yes i'm a leech

>>	Anonymous Fri Dec 25 21:57:17 2020 No.10523351 >>10523301 You should

>>	Anonymous Fri Dec 25 22:10:30 2020 No.10523354 >>10523349 If you have a 6 figure job why are you unemployed and not working the job...?

>>	Anonymous Fri Dec 25 22:12:27 2020 No.10523355 >>10523354 i'm graduating next semester and signed to a contract with a large firm already--it doesn't start until postgrad. i do tutoring and grading jobs for the university meanwhile

>>	Anonymous Fri Dec 25 23:02:59 2020 No.10523369 I’m so tired of people talking shit and starting rumors about me on this board. It feels like there’s just nothing I can do right.

>>	Anonymous Fri Dec 25 23:27:54 2020 No.10523374 >>10523355 Don't they pay you at all?

Anonymous Fri Dec 25 23:33:55 2020 No.10523376

>>10523374

nayrt but uh, no? You don't get paid until you start working, that's why most people need to start looking for jobs before they graduate.

Anon probably has an extended certification process at her firm. It's not a big deal because she's going to get a fat paycheck and she'll be able to contribute and if she feels guilty more than half of the bills. It happened to me for a month too, I technically leeched off my fiance but he got a clean house and homemade food every night, and I helped him out as well when he was in financial straits and I had the job.

Shit happens in relationships, and people who think it should be completely 50/50 have no realistic idea that life happens.

Anonymous Fri Dec 25 23:41:50 2020 No.10523377

>>10523374
other anon covered it well but yeah, no. if you meant for my other jobs, i get paid, but not a huge amount because they're considered part time and i'm still in college. when the job does start, i do get an immediate bonus of ~5k. if i wanted to i could just give it to my bf to cover the rent i didn't pay

i don't mean to be too salty but it seems like a lot of you don't get how big kid jobs work lol

>>	Anonymous Sat Dec 26 00:38:38 2020 No.10523394 >>10523369 Sorry ty

>>	Anonymous Sat Dec 26 00:40:58 2020 No.10523395 >>10523376 >>10523377 Do in the entire relationship (however long it took to get a degree or whatever) you didnt pay for rent or bills? Some dude just lets you have access to their bank account? How stupid are men lmao

>>	Anonymous Sat Dec 26 00:53:17 2020 No.10523397 >>10520705 fuck tampons. wear a cup. changed my life.

>>	Anonymous Sat Dec 26 00:58:15 2020 No.10523400 >>10523395 i moved in just last month so... no? and i don't have access to his bank account lol. are you anons okay

>>	Anonymous Sat Dec 26 00:59:10 2020 No.10523401 >>10523400 So you leeched of your parents and now your bf. I assume he paid for all your dates too. Lol are you ok?

>>	Anonymous Sat Dec 26 01:02:58 2020 No.10523404 >>10523401 i'm very okay :^) i have loving parents, a great bf, a career in the making, and i'll have the rereleases i want. cope

>>	soup Sat Dec 26 01:05:25 2020 No.10523405 >>10523401 anon’s bf is helping out while anon is in school. once anon is done with school and making bank anon can help with the bills and stuff. if they can manage it without anon picking up a part time gig it’s fine.

>>	Anonymous Sat Dec 26 01:06:25 2020 No.10523406 >>10523395 If you're asking this you legitimately don't know how the world works or you're baiting for replies. 5/8, got me to reply.

>>	Anonymous Sat Dec 26 01:10:58 2020 No.10523408 Christmas was okay. Made cookies. Missing someone, hopefully not for too long. Only spoke to 2 people today.

Anonymous Sat Dec 26 01:13:29 2020 No.10523409

>>10523395
Im not even in school nor do I ever plan to contribute monetarily, my husband pays the bills and buys me whatever I want. I never have to bear/take care of children either, since he's snipped and hates kids, I'm just very charming, witty, and vivacious. Basically I'm a joy to be around. I'm not even particularly cute or fit, slightly above average and skinny fat.

Sucks to suck I guess. Try making yourself better at conversation and more quick witted and maybe a lady will pay your rent anon-kun.

>>	Anonymous Sat Dec 26 01:14:55 2020 No.10523411 >>10523409 *Bare I'm not retarded I'm just drunk off a nice bottle of Tattinger.

>>	soup Sat Dec 26 01:17:22 2020 No.10523414 >>10523409 >>10523411 are you the anon that posted about drinking like 3 bottles of wine a day?

>>	Anonymous Sat Dec 26 01:19:42 2020 No.10523417 >>10523409 Oh nice it's the trad wife actual leech from the previous feels threads that doesn't contribute anything to a relationship.

>>	Anonymous Sat Dec 26 01:24:28 2020 No.10523422 >>10523405 >low six figures >making bank Lol wtf in bfe do you folks live?

>>	Anonymous Sat Dec 26 01:33:35 2020 No.10523432 >>10523404 Nayrt but there are a lot of high paid anons here. Throwing around your "high paying job offer" is pretty pathetic and insecure sounding.

Anonymous Sat Dec 26 01:37:49 2020 No.10523436

>>10523414
I shared a bottle of champagne with my hubby over the course of multiple hours+ a meal, and I rarely drink, so no.

If someone drinks a bottle of wine everyday for more than a couple weeks they actually need medical detox. Quitting alcohol can kill people. I hope the anon you're referring to gets help.
>>10523417
I'm not a trad wife, we have a maid service clean the house.

>>	Anonymous Sat Dec 26 02:00:10 2020 No.10523449 >>10523422 100K+ a year is a lot pretty much anywhere that isn't SF, LA, NY, etc. Are you daft?

>>	Anonymous Sat Dec 26 02:01:46 2020 No.10523450 >>10523449 You clearly don't like in a developed nation or anywhere worthwhile rofl.

>>	soup Sat Dec 26 02:29:58 2020 No.10523453 >>10523422 well unless you have kids or spend it on 1k OPs. I wonder how much that anon with 100 brandos spent on her wardrobe >>10523436 rip, maybe they’re ded. good thing xmas is over or else news of this ded gull would ruin it.

>>	Anonymous Sat Dec 26 02:31:19 2020 No.10523454 >>10523450 Get out of the Bay Area and learn to pay less than $10 for coffee.

Anonymous Sat Dec 26 03:02:54 2020 No.10523464

>>10523454
Make more money lmao. I don't pay $10 for coffee. Rich people don't get rich by squandering money on stupid shit.

Also per the other thread some people spend 20k on brand and it isn't even a dent.

The 100+ dresses in one year Anon whores herself to some gross fuck probably for money.

>>	Anonymous Sat Dec 26 03:05:05 2020 No.10523468 I can lose enough weight to fit any dress, but nothing I can do will let me fit brand shoes.

>>	Anonymous Sat Dec 26 03:18:26 2020 No.10523471 >>10523464 >Also per the other thread some people spend 20k on brand and it isn't even a dent. >The 100+ dresses in one year Anon whores herself to some gross fuck probably for money. these are a direct contradiction

>>	soup Sat Dec 26 03:56:15 2020 No.10523474 >>10523464 tea you can’t call someone out like that in the feels thread anon. you’re ruining the sanctity of the thread. a feels thread with judgmental eyes is just an ita thread without the itas.

>>	Anonymous Sat Dec 26 05:04:41 2020 No.10523478 >>10523409 I'm in basically the same position. I would never talk about this so plainly in real life, but being cute and clever and witty and charming is such a leg up on life - people are so quick to admire and love you.

Anonymous Sat Dec 26 05:49:42 2020 No.10523483

>>10523478
Yep. I also wouldn't talk about it like this off anon, but it's my truth. I don't even think I'm that cute - kind of above average, I haven't been called ugly since middle school, but I'm no stunner for sure. In any given situation there are almost definitely going to be cuter girls than me around. I'm just really good company and a really good person to talk to. I maintain eye contact and listen to what people tell me, and desu? Just making people feel heard and appreciated is half the battle when it comes to being liked by others. It's crazy to me that so many people are so bad at conversation and bad at paying attention to other people when they're talking. People also tell me that I'm so genuine in my interest in others, too, which is true. I'm genuinely interested assuming I don't despise the person talking to me.

The more you (general you) practice active listening, the more people will like you. The key? Don't be fake. But I guess this is hardmode for so many people because most people don't give a shit about anyone but themselves.

>>	Anonymous Sat Dec 26 05:57:36 2020 No.10523484 >>10523395 Some of us understand our own value and decide not to be a pickmeisha for the rest of our lives for a mediocre man.

>>	Anonymous Sat Dec 26 05:59:49 2020 No.10523486 >>10523278 Nice cope.

>>	Anonymous Sat Dec 26 06:03:01 2020 No.10523487 >>10523401 Girl you really need to read some FDS before life runs off of you.

>>	Anonymous Sat Dec 26 06:10:10 2020 No.10523489 >>10523487 Nta but >unironically recommending FDS lmao

>>	Anonymous Sat Dec 26 06:58:31 2020 No.10523496 >>10523489 We don’t need you man on our board.

>>	Anonymous Sat Dec 26 07:04:55 2020 No.10523498 >>10523496 I'm not a man and this is a mixed gender board but what did we expect from a retard who shills FDS lol

>>	Anonymous Sat Dec 26 07:19:26 2020 No.10523502 >>10523432 Nayrt but they never claimed it was high paying, just that it was a good career for them. The pathetic ones ITT are the anons who are mad someone else is living an alright life.

>>	Anonymous Sat Dec 26 07:32:05 2020 No.10523504 >>10523502 Agreed. Who cares if you're rolling in it if you're happy with what you have? Money isn't everything, happiness is everything. And not everyone needs to be making 6+ figures to be happy.

>>	Anonymous Sat Dec 26 07:34:33 2020 No.10523506 >>10523502 >>10523349 she did.

>>	Anonymous Sat Dec 26 07:36:13 2020 No.10523508 >>10523498 Okay I understand what I said was a little mean, I’m sorry. But I recommend every woman here to go read FDS and learn that they’re worthy of a better man and a better life.

>>	Anonymous Sat Dec 26 07:39:29 2020 No.10523509 >>10523506 That's not claiming it's high paying, it's just a fact to highlight she'll be capable of contributing if she wants to.

>>	Anonymous Sat Dec 26 08:04:37 2020 No.10523514 >>10523508 >FDS What is this? I am currently in an extremely good relationship, but I went through a lot of trash to finally find this guy, and I want to read about what this person? something? suggests to others.

>>	Anonymous Sat Dec 26 08:11:11 2020 No.10523517 >>10523514 Don't even bother.

Anonymous Sat Dec 26 08:43:40 2020 No.10523523

>>10523514
It's called "female dating strategy" and its the whore-ification of women. FDS is about hunting for men who will be your sugardaddy
>only date a man rich enough to pay for everything
>always have multiple men on tap, never be loyal
>never give loyalty to a man until he shows you he has enough money
>never date poor men

FDS is the le female PUA bullshit and its equally retarded.

>>	Anonymous Sat Dec 26 08:51:43 2020 No.10523524 >>10523523 are there women who actually feel this way? gross. i just want to date a guy i like.

Anonymous Sat Dec 26 09:15:37 2020 No.10523530

>>10523523
Ladies, the man you date doesn't have to be rich. He has to be generous and willing to provide. Many rich men are neither, and many lower middle class to middle class men are eager to be generous providers. A rich man might live in a nicer house and drive a nicer car, but rich men are almost universally stingier than poorer men. And also more likely to dump you for a fresh young 20 year old once you turn 30-40.

My man worked at a gas station making minimum and lived with his parents when I met him and now we're comfortably lower middle class, he bought a house, and I don't have to work at all. We can afford everything we want, honestly. He got me great stuff for Christmas and also wrote me a card with two homemade "coupons" for 2 complete NWT AP sets of my choosing. They have "expire" in March. I asked why and he said "way to ruin a surprise! Just playing with you. They expire in March because you're getting at least one more for your half birthday and I want to buy you two before that."

You all deserve a man this sweet. He also brings me a prepared cup of tea in bed every single day when I need to wake up, which is brewed/prepared exactly to my liking.

>>	Anonymous Sat Dec 26 09:19:02 2020 No.10523531 >>10523530 >You all deserve a man this sweet. lol bold assumption.

Anonymous Sat Dec 26 09:53:12 2020 No.10523537

>>10523523
AYRT and gross. Thanks for that.

Maybe it is because I was raised by a single father (I am a woman for reference) but I see the gross shit going both ways. Some men are immature and selfish and can be shitty towards women, but some women are equally as shallow and shitty. It goes both ways, and I really hope that women/men take responsibility for their actions and grow to be positive people. Too much shit flinging and blaming others for shittiness when most of it is just reflected back. Sure, some people can be shitty to great people, but you often get what you give out.

Anonymous Sat Dec 26 11:59:53 2020 No.10523552

>>10523523
>only date a man rich enough to pay for everything
Women go through so much emotional labour for men that yes, he should be paying for everything. Or at least if you yourself make enough money, your SO should be someone who adds value to your relationship, not taking away by living as a leech.
>always have multiple men on tap, never be loyal
You should vent multiple men cause it takes time find a HVM. I don’t know what kind of loyalty you are talking about. Just don’t give wife benefits to anyone who isn’t going to marry you.
>never give loyalty to a man until he shows you he has enough money
>never date poor men
These are just the above two again.

Anonymous Sat Dec 26 12:08:37 2020 No.10523554

Friendly reminder that this thread is infested with scrotes- fds is to help stop women getting financially emotionally, physically abused or worse murdered. Theres a lot of women haters out there (and also in here posing as women) the other side of this are the men who treat women as a game-referring to women as plates and just using them as a revolving buffet of sex with no repercussions- disgusting. Women need to know we have some weapons against fuckboys like this, too.

Not to be a cunt but if you had a difficult background you would know what a red flag in a mans behaviour is to violence or abusiveness, but if you had a nice life with a good family you could make it to dating age without knowing them. I stro gly suggest zingle women should go there.

>>	Anonymous Sat Dec 26 12:12:04 2020 No.10523558 >>10523554 Also I'm married 10 years we're doing ok make the same money have a paid off house I just don't want to see girls get taken advantage of by fuckboys or womenhaters.

>>	Anonymous Sat Dec 26 12:54:27 2020 No.10523570 >>10523502 They literally tried to brag about making 6 figures and got triggered because someone called them out for spending money on brand and not contributing anything to rent lmao.

>>	Anonymous Sat Dec 26 13:03:25 2020 No.10523576 >>10523570 I didn't read it as a brag, it was a valid response to being called a leech. You choose to read it as a brag because you're bitter about it.

Anonymous Sat Dec 26 13:21:18 2020 No.10523583

S.O is ugly (born with birth defect that affects their jaw and how they speak but fuck does it make them unattractive when they remove their support mask or try to get intimate with me) and broke but if i leave i might never find someone i get along this well and feel this happy with ever again (uglyness aside). They are supportive as fuck of my hobbies too but the fact they're ugly and
broke,with a strange voice is starting to make me reconsider.
But that'd break their heart given they're always there for me even since we were just friends and it does not help they have heavy self esteem issues regarding that birth defect. What do i do without being a horrible person gulls ?

Anonymous Sat Dec 26 13:32:09 2020 No.10523586

>>10523583
forgot to add they plan on getting a surgery for it but it might take 2 or 3 years before they finally have it and look "nice". also cannot move out of state to live with me me given they're broke bc pandemic anihilated their chance at finding a job in their field. But yet they're so kind hearted and supportive and funny so i feel like i would be passing next to something if i ditched them and didn't wait that 2 or 3 years

>>	Anonymous Sat Dec 26 13:37:35 2020 No.10523587 >>10523583 Why the fuck did you start a relationship with someone you think is ugly? You're retarded.

>>	Anonymous Sat Dec 26 13:53:20 2020 No.10523590 >>10523587 Look here buddy we met on a MMORPG and i didn't see their face until later on and i fell in love with who they were first so i felt conflicted once i heard their voice and saw their face I.R.L later that month.

>>	soup Sat Dec 26 13:56:09 2020 No.10523592 >>10523590 was it tera or ff? did you degenerates erp

Anonymous Sat Dec 26 13:56:58 2020 No.10523593

I'm honestly really sad about the direction lolita fashion has been taking. I basically don't even look at new releases anymore because even if I like a design, it will never fit me, and I don't want to spend $300 on a dress that I'll have to alter. AP, Baby, IW, Moitie, all of them have sized out smaller girls in both width and height. IW removed their S size for blouses, and Moitie which used to be known as a particularly small brand now only differentiates between medium and large.

I'm grateful for the few smaller brands which still offer clothes in small sizes, but it just feels so weird that the clothes that used to fit like they were made for me have now become just as ill-fitting as most western brands.

>>	Anonymous Sat Dec 26 14:04:46 2020 No.10523596 >>10523592 not saying and yes kek we did at some point but it ended in the both of us laughing and we talked the whole night. This kinda shit is why i can't let go even if they're ugly

>>	Anonymous Sat Dec 26 14:14:51 2020 No.10523598 >>10523576 Ok WK harder cuz you got called out. Top kek

soup Sat Dec 26 14:29:02 2020 No.10523602

>>10523596
I think one of the most fun I had in a relationship was dating this girl I met in a /vg/ guild in an mmo. she wasn’t as cute as my last ex but she was more relatable and fun to talk to. too bad she was also really toxic and psycho but other than that good times. I dunno just depends what you want in a relationship and if you can look past his looks.

Anonymous Sat Dec 26 16:08:55 2020 No.10523622

>>10523596
I'm not particularly pretty or anything, but I met my bf online and we are such an amazing match, it's crazy. He loves me unconditionally and is really great, and he also thinks that I'm cute/beautiful/etc and I'm really not. We have a lot of fun though and are really amazing to and for each other, which is the important part. Looks aren't everything desu. It's the heart and personality that matter.

>>	Anonymous Sat Dec 26 17:47:15 2020 No.10523647 >>10523583 Don’t settle. Learn to love yourself and your own company.

Anonymous Sat Dec 26 18:53:29 2020 No.10523666

>>10523583
I’d say looks aren’t important in someone you date, but if they are for you it might be better to just have them as a friend. You don’t need to lose them entirely if they make you happy, they just might be better to have as a best friend rather than an SO

>>	Anonymous Sat Dec 26 18:54:21 2020 No.10523668 >>10523596 I hope it wasn't world of warcraft

>>	Anonymous Sat Dec 26 18:59:31 2020 No.10523669 >>10523647 Better yet disregard males and acquire currency.

Anonymous Sat Dec 26 19:50:39 2020 No.10523686

>ugly girl w weird body deformities including jaw issue that needs surgery, probably an undiagnosed chromosome disorder, also probably either ADHD or very mild autism
>basically invisible in public, people are not overtly rude to me but do talk to me as if i'm slow or a child, never been approached, hit on, or even catcalled
>have unplanned child by HS sweetheart who was my ugly looksmatch, probably IQ of around 70, flat broke, treated me terribly and outright told me he was missing out on hotter girls by continuing our relationship, and is now a deadbeat
>meet extremely hot but severely mentally ill BPD virgin on Discord, after slow burn clandestine flirting we e-date
>thought it was my dream relationship at first w how he complimented me and actually seemed to care and find me attractive, really fun date nights, consistent sexting, talking about the future, what could go wrong?
>few years and several mental health episodes later he's now almost as bad as the previous guy, basically treats me as his sugar mommy or a friend who gives him money while constantly reminding me how ugly and stupid i am at the slightest accidental provocation and that he plans to end things and block me within the next few months
>about to be a 30 year old single mom w no prospects who has never known romance and probably never will
>the only thing i've done wrong was be ugly and possibly neurodivergent

i don't even know how to finish this off but i feel myself slowly slipping. i've given all of myself. this isn't even getting into family issues or friend issues either. how am i this undeserving of warmth and care. watching my friends get married and have happy families hurts more every year and i'm not sure i can keep doing this after he's gone

>>	Anonymous Sat Dec 26 20:00:25 2020 No.10523690 >>10523686 i'm so sorry that you have to go through this. please don't let yourself believe that you're undeserving of love. people with low self esteem just tend end up in toxic relationships more often because they have lower standards.

>>	Anonymous Sat Dec 26 20:00:53 2020 No.10523691 >>10523686 Dump that fucking idiot and focus on yourself jesus christ

Anonymous Sat Dec 26 20:29:19 2020 No.10523700

I was a fan of a japanese dance youtuber, but she closed her account many years ago, but I looked her up again and she's still gone. There are a couple of reuploads by other people but most of her stuff is gone. She also has one other account that wasn't closed where she has a video that looks so much fun, everything about it is awesome and I wish I could be there. There is that one video with a meetup and people are dancing and they seem like awesome people and then there's a guy on rollerblades in the background, just adding sprinkles on the top
I wish I could experience that meetup, but I also wish I could watch her videos again.
Her dancing is so good and full of energy, making them so much more fun to watch and inspiring and makes me wish to start doing the same thing myself
but I'm too old and japanese dance community probably doesn't exist idk seems everything is in decline and well even if it existed and I were still young they'd still not want anything to do with me because people never do.
When I first saw her meetup video I actually tried to find if there were more meetups in the came city and considered that i could fly there just for a day if i could find cheap tickets, it looked that fun

>>	Anonymous Sat Dec 26 20:32:17 2020 No.10523703 >>10523686 >Save up >Purchase surgery >Stop dating retards All your problems solved. What do you want?

>>	Anonymous Sat Dec 26 20:34:00 2020 No.10523705 >>10523703 This. Anon is clearly cognizant enough of her situation. Get your shit together or it's your own fault for living in chosen misery.

Anonymous Sat Dec 26 20:37:01 2020 No.10523706

>>10523686
>ugly girl
you haven’t given it all yet if you don’t even love yourself anon. channel your inner pt and learn to be more confident in (you). we only have one life to live so why would you go thru it in self hate. you should probably not date for awhile and work on yourself till you’re comfortable in your own skin that way when you jump into your next relationship you’ll be able to better judge if it’s healthy or not. skrrt skrrt
>anon took the child pill
tsk tsk

>>	Anonymous Sat Dec 26 20:39:46 2020 No.10523708 >>10523700 is it the dancing the makes you wanna go or how fun they seem to be having in the video? maybe you just want friends to do that kind of stuff with

Anonymous Sat Dec 26 20:42:27 2020 No.10523711

>>10523483
>The key
>don't be fake

Other people are incredibly uninteresting to me. I have to fake interest. Still make friends and claw my way up the social ladder to get where I want to go. But it's not as easy as you make it out to be when you don't really care about anyone else and you have very controversial opinions that you can't share.

>>	Anonymous Sat Dec 26 20:45:05 2020 No.10523712 >>10523554 or OR You could all just date me. I'd be a good husband and father.

Anonymous Sat Dec 26 20:51:45 2020 No.10523716

>hate my neighbours
>Loud, obnoxious, leave crap all over common areas
>Jam open doors to the secure complex so their friends can enter without them having to go down and let them in
>Smoke weed with no regard that it flows into my apartment
>Play music all day and night
>Every complaint we've made to the property manager has been met with "I've told them, things should improve"
>Things never improve because as long as they pay rent and don't damage stuff, why would the property manager care?
>Be today
>Hear them screaming at each other, loud banging and shit breaking
>Call cops for domestic disturbance
>Pray that property manager finally takes notice of how fucking horrible these people are

I hope they get evicted. I just want peace and quiet.

Anonymous Sat Dec 26 21:03:03 2020 No.10523717

>>10523708
It's probably a bit of both. When I saw her videos and how she went to different locations and such it made me feel that I would like to do that as well. I've also had some fascination with weeaboo dancing for a long time, ever since I saw Motteke Sailor Fuku on youtube and then Hare Hare Yukai.
I also really like it when there are good dance performances at cons, that's some of the best performances in my opinion. So I've had a want to do that type of dancing with people for a really long time, or I guess do it on my own to some extent as well (but I'm too lazy and unmotivated). Most recently I've had a fascination with yosakoi after watching Hanayamata. In any case SOME sort of weeaboo dancing would be really nice to take part in.

But there's also just the group of friends. Some of my very best experiences has been the times when I've felt like a part of a group or wanted, and that's one of my biggest wishes. But you can extend it to sort of nerdy people, which I find much cooler than normies. I don't feel the same type of desire to be a part of a group that let's say go to sports bars to drink beer and watch football. But just the clothes they wear tell me that they're cool people that I'd have a desire to hang out with, at least they are the type of people who catch my attention and I feel an attraction to (I might end up hating them later if they reveal some uglier sides).
But yes, doing fun stuff with friends is something I'd love to do too. In addition to dancing, I've also thought I'd be very fun to make cosplay videos with friends (which I've also never done), or even just have a song group and sing nerdy songs. Even not doing something artistic would be fun though.

Now I've only been talking about the meetup video of hers though, she also had some slumberparty or something videos, and THAT'S something I've also wanted.
I've seen people in the completely regular local store at saturday evening in cosplay on maybe a couple of occations,

>>	Anonymous Sat Dec 26 21:04:14 2020 No.10523718 >>10523717 ........and I just KNOW they're going to have an awesome evening together with anime and cosplay and pocky and so much fun, I get jealous. So that's also something I wish I could have

>>	Anonymous Sat Dec 26 21:06:05 2020 No.10523720 >>10523483 be my lolita fren and give me good recipes to cook for my bf please

>>	Anonymous Sat Dec 26 21:14:08 2020 No.10523723 >>10523712 https://youtu.be/Ob5KzB_EOqc

>>	Anonymous Sat Dec 26 21:27:23 2020 No.10523730 >>10523717 It’s never too late to start. you can even start on TikTok and try and make friends thru there

>>	Anonymous Sat Dec 26 21:46:15 2020 No.10523737 >>10523712 No one needs you when we all make more money than you and lolita fills all our needs. Kek

>>	Anonymous Sat Dec 26 22:07:29 2020 No.10523745 >>10523711 You should die alone then t b h.

>>	Anonymous Sat Dec 26 22:11:20 2020 No.10523747 >>10523711 Sounds like a personal problem dude

>>	Anonymous Sat Dec 26 22:36:11 2020 No.10523754 >>10523711 You sound like a sociopath.

>>	Anonymous Sat Dec 26 23:08:36 2020 No.10523758 >>10523754 I don't think so. I get upset when seeing people get hurt, I love my cats and I get misty eyed at sad movies. People are just boring.

Anonymous Sun Dec 27 00:42:31 2020 No.10523779

i always feel like killing my self after socializing. I’m currently living in a country where the primary spoken language is a language I’m mediocre at speaking and it’s really getting to me. I make an effort to learn but I never feel like I can fully communicate myself like how I want to and I have no idea how I’m coming across to people because I’m so preoccupied with trying to find the right words for things during conversations. My self esteem has really diminished since I moved here because of this, but I’d rather pull myself out of this hole than just leave the country because i love mostly everything else about it.

Anonymous Sun Dec 27 01:36:01 2020 No.10523789

>>10520705
i would suggest using a cup (it may seem gross at first but you will get used to it). otherwise you have options for birth control such as nexplanon implant, which is 99% effective and there is a chance you will stop having your period. however many people have side effects unique to them so that option should only be a last resort. tampons feel nothing like dicks, anyways. just take things easy and take things slow, it will be alright. and don't feel pressured to have intercourse if it doesn't feel good. there are many other ways to have satisfying sex without penetration.

>>10521313
this is completely natural, and i understand how you feel. i have some bodyline items that i thought i would hang onto because they are convenient and sort of cute, but now i can't even imagine wearing them without cringing. it will feel nice when you sell them to people who will appreciate them. they are just clothes, don't feel guilty.

>>10521417
low energy is unfortunate. try making one friend at a time and talking to them regularly. its best not to compare yourself to other people, but its good to try and change things to make yourself happier.

>>10523779
have you tried continuing to put yourself out there, and speak to people more often in order to understand the language better?

Anonymous Sun Dec 27 01:42:06 2020 No.10523790
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i have been suffering from suicidal thoughts. i used to self harm, but i haven't relapsed in a long time. yet i am feeling urges very often. i just graduated, and i'm struggling to stick to a strict schedule and get things done. i think its because of my depression but i'm not sure. i'm starting to estrange people around me, and i feel very hopeless. i think i am using egl as a form of escape and distraction at this point. i guess i'm torn between two "worlds". one being egl, and the other being a more "professional" world that i feel pressured to be apart of. i don't really know where i am or where i belong. it's childish.

>>	Anonymous Sun Dec 27 02:22:36 2020 No.10523798 Realized in a few days it'll be a few days since i've talked to anyone outside of work. It's a weird sort of feel.

Anonymous Sun Dec 27 02:25:43 2020 No.10523799

COVID really made me realize how little of a shit I give about most people. I haven't talked to most of my friends in months and don't care. I haven't talked to my family either and don't care. I really don't need to know what's going on with any of them or care at all.

>>	Anonymous Sun Dec 27 02:34:55 2020 No.10523800 i can't believe i just bought Brandy Melville sweatpants and jeans. i'm buying clothes made for middle class high school freshmen just to feel something at all

Anonymous Sun Dec 27 03:11:38 2020 No.10523808

>possibly moving to Shanghai for a couple of years but I can stay in my home country if I decide to
>I really don’t want to move there because of the atrocities the government is doing and no sun light
>want to work in Japan
>moving to Shanghai would make visting Japan easier and maybe even make looking for a job from there less hassle
>maybe lolita could get me through it

So what is the Shanghai comm like? Would they be friends with a white girl? I would love to hear your pros and cons of living in China.

Anonymous Sun Dec 27 03:35:25 2020 No.10523815

>>10523808
If your Mandarin sucks, they probably won't speak to you? They might think you're cute because you have European features but the charm will wear off quick. I've been learning for years, but Shanghai also has a slightly different dialect from typical "northern"/"southern" Mandarin that you'd learn in a classroom. The country is amazing and so rich with history, sights, and all... but Chinese aren't typically buddy buddy with foreigners unless they can actually hold a conversation. During my time there I'd met quite a few lolitas but most of them wore it on occasion. The rich brandwhore community in China is pretty tight knit but if you're there long enough I reckon you can get in with them attending tea parties and posting on Douyin/Weibo/etc.

However, the longer you stay the easier it will be to learn the language and become more outgoing in your endeavors. Mandarin is not as difficult a language as people make it out to be, you just have to have an ear for tones and be able to recognize pictographic clues in characters. I had an easy time in China since I studied the language and adore the cuisine, culture, and the honest nature of the people. But if you're not that into 中国, I'd suggest a different location.

Anonymous Sun Dec 27 03:48:33 2020 No.10523819

>>10523815
What this Anon said. Lots of good insight here.

As a Chinese immigrant living in the US, reading about your love of the culture and history is really refreshing to hear. I've really only dealt with racism my entire life living here. It's nice to know that some people don't hate Chinese people, especially in this social climate compounded with the state of affairs in the world. I do live in the US though, and the public education system is a joke and education really isn't prioritized or held in any high regard. People in other countries like Japan, Korea, England, Netherlands, Iceland, etc. have all been more kind generally.

谢谢Anon朋友. 我听的很开心. I'm finna cry lmao

Anonymous Sun Dec 27 03:54:42 2020 No.10523825

>tfw mentally ill
>tfw my therapist told me to write out and pretend to be some kind if heroic prince from a Ancient Greek myth /fairy tale style who eventually overcomes his problems
Is this a /cgl/ related feel? I'd be making myself a costume of sorts to wear

Anonymous Sun Dec 27 04:23:52 2020 No.10523831

>>10523819
不用谢anon朋友!我觉得中国人和中国的文化很特刊(´▽｀)

Apologies if I'm rusty, I haven't really had chances to practice my Mandarin this year due to COVID /.\ I am one of few who was very lucky to have an amazing, involved Chinese teacher who told us many stories about his life in 云南! He told us his favorite recipes, his family and regional history, and gave us so many resources to learn about Chinese life in a meaningful way. It is the first language I truly fell in love with! Unfortunately I completely understand your experience in America, people here are super ignorant and know so little about such a significant and influential culture. I am so glad I could cheer you up and let you know that there are people out there who know the truth. Most Americans have minimal knowledge, usually related to the government or popular culture. And they're usually misinformed. I'm non-white as well so I understand the struggle. You should be so proud of your heritage and your strength in dealing with the racism you face.

>>	Anonymous Sun Dec 27 04:37:40 2020 No.10523834 >>10523815 Oh wow, I'm always surprised to see people who like how rude we are, I personally don't and that's why it's always made it hard for me to take pride in my identity but thanks for not hating us and at least you made that other anon happy.

Anonymous Sun Dec 27 04:51:37 2020 No.10523836

>>10523808
Having known friends who lived in China, it's fucking shit. Don't do it. Chinese are horrible people and Chinese 'culture' is shit. I haven't met one friend who has lived there for more than 6 months not becoming disillusioned with China. Only semi-decent part of China was HK but that's gone now.

Is Shanghai really any closer to Japan compared to where you live in real terms? It would be a day of travelling to get from Shanghai to Tokyo. It's a day of travelling from most places in the US and Eastern/Southern Europe.

>>	Anonymous Sun Dec 27 04:55:06 2020 No.10523837 >>10523800 Ngl I have way more brandy in my closet than an adult woman should own. I think it makes up half of my normie wardrobe. Their clothes are so comfortable and cute though... I’ve been wanting some sweatpants so I can have cuter pjs.

Anonymous Sun Dec 27 05:04:08 2020 No.10523838

>>10523831
>The only reason people don't like China and Chinese immigrants is ignorance
>It has nothing to do with the abhorrence of the Chinese government, the massive espionage programs they conduct through their immigrated citizens, Chinese immigrants communities being threatened by the CCP and the bold faced lying that Chinese institutions engage in with foreign governments, companies and communities aimed at establishing a non-benevolent world dominance with the CCP at the centre

Fuck off. I understand that racism is bad but people have every right to be angry at China and the immigrant community. If you don't want to sever your ties to an malicious regime which actively tries to undermine your host country, people should be suspicious and hostile towards you.

>>	Anonymous Sun Dec 27 05:29:33 2020 No.10523844 >>10523836 Flying from Shanghai to Tokyo takes under 3 hours. Flying from here to Tokyo takes 10 hours.

>>	Anonymous Sun Dec 27 05:33:20 2020 No.10523846 >>10523838 >If you don't want to sever your ties to an malicious regime which actively tries to undermine your host country tf do you think they're immigrating for then

>>	Anonymous Sun Dec 27 06:58:21 2020 No.10523862 >>10523844 It's still a day of travelling regardless. You cant really do anything else during that day. That's what I mean by it not really actually being any more or less distant

>>	Anonymous Sun Dec 27 07:00:04 2020 No.10523863 >>10523862 a 3 hour plane ride isn't that much of your day, you weirdo.

>>	Anonymous Sun Dec 27 07:03:00 2020 No.10523864 >>10523846 If you're arguing the case that all or at least the vast majority of Chinese immigrants are asylum seekers, I'm going to call bullshit.

Anonymous Sun Dec 27 07:09:39 2020 No.10523867

>>10523863
>3 hour plane ride
>1 hour to airport
>International flight means you have to check in early, say an hour to be generous to the airline
>Waiting to get off plane and collect luggage and get to the bus or train, say 30 minutes
>1 hour from Narita to wherever you're staying, longer if you don't know where the fuck you are
>30 minutes to unpack

7 hour journey. If you left your house at 9am Shanghai time, it's now 6pm in Tokyo.

That's an entire day on travelling. Which is my whole point. A day is lost no matter where you travel from, only difference is price.

>>	Anonymous Sun Dec 27 07:56:40 2020 No.10523881 >>10523867 7 hours is nothing out of my day. It’s even less than a work day. At least when I fly from here the day changes until I get to Japan.

>>	Anonymous Sun Dec 27 08:01:29 2020 No.10523884 >>10523881 Stop bullshiting, 7 hours of travel is a fucking long time

>>	Anonymous Sun Dec 27 08:03:38 2020 No.10523885 >>10523881 Yeah cool, I work 10 hours a day regularly. 7 hour as cargo is a long time. Shut up.

>>	Anonymous Sun Dec 27 08:22:31 2020 No.10523887 >>10523867 are you the kind of loser who can't go out after work?

>>	Anonymous Sun Dec 27 08:34:12 2020 No.10523890 >>10523885 >>10523884 Why are you angry? I’m agreeing with you.

Anonymous Sun Dec 27 08:59:43 2020 No.10523893

just having a shit mental health day, anons. i'm far from overweight, i'm a healthy weight, but i just tried on a dress and unfortunately the sedentary lifestyle i've had while in lockdown has got to me. it was always a small dress but I used to fit it no problem. i want to cry and i'm disgusted with myself. i hope you guys are having a better day.

feel free to call me a fatty and be a troll, i might not see it since i barely check here. i just wanted to vent about how awful i feel.

>>	Anonymous Sun Dec 27 09:07:59 2020 No.10523894 >>10523887 I'm an introvert. Talking all day to colleges is enough social action for me. Plus I don't drink. >>10523890 Really? Genuinely, are you ESL? It sounded like you're saying that 7 hours isn't a long travel time.

Anonymous Sun Dec 27 09:11:27 2020 No.10523895

>>10523893
>tfw Covid never even got that bad here
>tfw a few weeks of mild lockdown early in the year was the peak and it didn't impact my life whatsoever
>Economy isn't even that bad, still have my job and even scored a new position

God Bless Australia (nuke Melbourne)

Anonymous Sun Dec 27 09:16:30 2020 No.10523897

>>10523893
I was there too 4 months ago. My love handles started to become visible again because I stopped working out and didn't go out much anymore. Felt like shit for a while but then I started slowly going back to exercising. I had lost all my gains so I basically started all over but now I have my love handles in check again.
Don't feel bad about it, anon, it happens. If you feel disgusted with your current self then use this energy to improve yourself! Don't let these feelings of disgust and shame consume you. You can do it!

>>	Anonymous Sun Dec 27 09:25:24 2020 No.10523900 >>10523894 7 hours is less than 10 hours or if we follow the anon’s logic 10 hour flight is 14 hours of traveling. I would take anything over 14 hours of stress.

>>	Anonymous Sun Dec 27 09:29:02 2020 No.10523901 >>10523894 then stop acting like your opinion is fact.

Anonymous Sun Dec 27 09:39:46 2020 No.10523903

>>10523900
Would that include moving to a massive meotrpolitan hellhole in a country who's government you hate, learning a language, culture and laws you don't know and might not even like, sticking out like a sore thumb, not having any better job prospects than at home and having your family and friends a world away just so you could be slightly closer to the actual country you want to go to?

It just seems like you're going to massive lengths to achieve not a lot.

Anonymous Sun Dec 27 09:53:06 2020 No.10523909

>>10523825
Anon it actually helps alot.
I went through alot of trauma, and suppressed it for my whole life and got to the point i couldn't even speak of anything. I would stop and reject the words to come out my mouth, cause i feared once i admitted it out loud they were real, and that was to hard to cope with.
So my therapist asked me to write a story, just like yours did. It's a little weird at first but it helped me finally admit to what happened to me, but with out the fear of saying it out loud.
I get how it feels like a costume, but think of it as a memoir but set in another world.

>>	Anonymous Sun Dec 27 10:11:06 2020 No.10523914 >>10523897 thank you, that's very sweet of you. I've got a better fitting dress on now but I'm so frustrated with myself for letting me get this way. time to get back on the regimen.

>>	Anonymous Sun Dec 27 10:41:17 2020 No.10523922 putting together a coord to kms in

>>	Anonymous Sun Dec 27 10:46:51 2020 No.10523924 >>10523922 Please do not kill yourself

>>	Anonymous Sun Dec 27 10:50:49 2020 No.10523928 >>10523668 nta but why not wow? it's a fun game imo i met some friends there

>>	Anonymous Sun Dec 27 10:54:53 2020 No.10523934 >>10523686 yooo i have ADHD and if you do too, a diagnosis and medication WILL massively improve your horrible self esteem problem.

soup Sun Dec 27 10:54:57 2020 No.10523935

>>10523922
if you ded your brando will end up in other ppl's hands.
>>10523893
everyone gain weight over the holiday seasons
>>10523867
being stuck in a plane for 3 hours vs 10 hours
>>10523928
wow players are cringe minmaxing tryhards compare to other mmos

Anonymous Sun Dec 27 13:59:35 2020 No.10523985

>>10523819
Diff anon but I like Chinese people, for some reason in my life I've had a bunch of Chinese friends and most of my in-laws are Chinese as well. I have been learning more about the culture and learned some Mandarin (not enough to type sorry). So idk I have a really positive impression of Chinese people

Anonymous Sun Dec 27 14:03:13 2020 No.10523986

Anyone else see themselves in the mirror with a ponytail and get an almost irresistible urge to just chop it off right there? I don't know why but I feel like bangs and short length looks cute like that especially if I just sniped it off blunt but I am sure thats just the call of the void tempting me to cut off years of work to get to waist length.

>>	Anonymous Sun Dec 27 14:45:56 2020 No.10524011 >>10523864 not asylum seekers but they want to move somewhere better? china and the chinese government is shit. if you seriously think that every chinese immigrant is a government spy you are a moron

>>	Anonymous Sun Dec 27 14:50:53 2020 No.10524014 >>10523986 same here, and i'm almost to waist length. i live in the southern hemisphere too, so it's hot as fuck right now. even more tempting.

>>	Anonymous Sun Dec 27 15:10:40 2020 No.10524024 >tfw smol frame No matter how much I work out I’ll still be tiny

cglsalestrades@gmail.com Sun Dec 27 15:15:44 2020 No.10524025

>>10523831
Thank you for your kind words. I took a screencap of your comment so I can read it every time I feel down. You have made a positive impact on my life and when I read your comment last night it made me feel really good. I put my email up and would love to talk lolita etc. with you as you seem like a genuinely cool person.

>>	Anonymous Sun Dec 27 16:15:38 2020 No.10524049 >>10524024 Let’s trade. I hate my huge frame. No matter how much i work out, I’ll still be wide as fuck.

>>	Anonymous Sun Dec 27 17:01:34 2020 No.10524065 >>10523909 I think you're right. I should do it. All this time I've never been able to figure out a resolution to my issues, an end to the story. Maybe I should go ahead and try to make one for myself, be my own action hero and all that

Anonymous Sun Dec 27 17:32:14 2020 No.10524071

>>10523986
I had waist length hair for years and I loved it but chopping it was one of the best things I could have done with my look. I have bangs now too. My hair is softer and healthier too. I know it's hard work to grow it, but maybe think about it!

Anonymous Sun Dec 27 19:53:14 2020 No.10524121

>>10524011
I'm not saying they are, but why should nations and people risk their interests by being benevolent to people who have no stake in their country when it is a fact that the Chinese government does utilise it's expat population to spy and sabotage other, even friendly, countries?

Nobody is owed blind benevolence from a foreign country or community.

>>	Anonymous Sun Dec 27 20:20:48 2020 No.10524148 >>10524024 B R I S B A N E R I A B A N E

>>	Anonymous Sun Dec 27 20:23:33 2020 No.10524150 >>10524049 I would if I could >>10524148 oi oi oi?

Anonymous Sun Dec 27 20:40:23 2020 No.10524157

>>10524065
Good luck with anon, and heads up at times it may get hard to write the things out, but even using a metaphor for them works. And if you start feeling mad or wanting to cry, write with that emotion in you. It comes out true in the writing. I wish you the best.

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