Feels thread

[Anonymous No.10337535]

Hot glue everywhere edition.

[Anonymous No.10337615]

>work hard for my position in the comm
>mfw some dude gets to be First Gentleman just because he's sticking it to the comm President

[Anonymous No.10337674]

>>10337615
translation: I KISSED ASS, I SHOULD BE FG, NOT CHAD. chad stuck it to the prez. thats alpha as fuck.

[Anonymous No.10337763]

>Getting a bonus the 14th
>A wave of things I want for great prices posted this week
I need LM to keep failing so everything just stays where it is!

[Anonymous No.10337782]

>>10337535
>Shitty ass job I did for a week messed up my w-2
>Like completely fucked it up
>Have to wait til they fix it to file my taxes

Gulls I just want my return so I can brand OTL

[Anonymous No.10337803]

>>10337763
Just buy it now and then your bonus can replace that money.

[Anonymous No.10337804]

>>10337763
Buy it now, really drag out the communications for two more days. PayPal takes a couple days to hit your account anyway

[Anonymous No.10337818]

>>10337782
have you ever heard of a credit card

[Anonymous No.10337825]

>>10337818

Going into debt for brand isn't worth it

[Anonymous No.10337828]

>>10337818
Can you use credit card on PayPal?

[Anonymous No.10337831]

>>10337828
Yes.

>>10337825
You know you’ll have the money to pay it off though. You’ll technically be in debt for a bit, but it’s not going into debt where you have stacking interest.

[Anonymous No.10337834]

>>10337825
if you pay it off within the month, you don't accrue any debt

[Anonymous No.10337954]

How does one tell if they have an unhealthy relationship with the fashion?

I don't buy until I can't pay the bills or can't eat, but I feel my live revolves around Lolita.

Has anyone else ever felt this way or does feel this way? Have you overcome it? Is it just that I may just be really enthusiastic about the fashion?

[Anonymous No.10337956]

>>10337954
Not sure I understand completely. Are you saying you buy lolita to the point where you can afford your living expenses? If so, that’s a shopping addiction and you should take a step back and try sorting that out before it gets any worse

[Anonymous No.10337964]

>>10337956
Sorry if it is confusing. No, I don't buy till I'm in debt, I manage those funds well, and I bargain hunt all the time. I just engulf myself in the whole "scene". Join almost every group, always have a coordinate or two on display or planned. Constantly planning things around it etc.

I do suffer from high anxiety and depression, and Lolita gets me out of the house when I'd otherwise hermit it up.

I probably should be asking a psychiatrist about this rather than cgl, but I'm not sure if they would get it, which is why I'm wondering if others feel the same way.

[Anonymous No.10337965]

>>10337535
>gets a new skirt and accessories for new coord
>gets burned
>hospitalized
>have to wait even longer for the burns to heal
>praying it doesn’t leave scars

[Anonymous No.10337966]

>>10337818
Whats up with these anons telling everyone to get credit cards jfc

[Anonymous No.10337967]

>>10337964
Sounds more like passion to me. If it’s not preventing you from living a healthy life and in fact helps you to move passed your day to day struggles, I don’t see anything wrong with it

[Anonymous No.10337974]

>>10337966
You can use a credit card in a pinch to buy something even if you don't currently have enough money to pay for it. As long as you pay it back later it'll be OK.

That's really convenient and helpful you know?

[Anonymous No.10337994]

>>10337964
You remind me of a person concerned with a dependency, it's just a hobby and you're really into it. It's a non-destructive and a social hobby, but it's not too constructive. I'm sure with enough time, you'll move onto something else. For now, you might as well enjoy the "scene" to the fullest!

[Anonymous No.10337997]

>>10337966
Americans love buying over their budget and being debt being slaves lol

[Anonymous No.10338024]

>>10337997
I’m American and not that retarded like those anons it’s pathetic really

[Anonymous No.10338040]

>>10337535
>tfw the comm president calls butthole inspection an "anal vibe check"

[Anonymous No.10338054]

>>10337997
No one is saying to spend out of your budget though? It just reframes your spending habit into a monthly thing. You have X amount allowable for that month plus some cushion, like any budget. It’s just that your money doesn’t exist as hard cash in your hands right at that very moment.

[Anonymous No.10338062]

>Post was messing with my package
>So odd behaviour my seller contacted me about it
>Battle about five mailmen
>Finally got it
>Celebrate with my seller
>She's as happy as I am

It's a good Tuesday gulls.

[Anonymous No.10338067]

I got a new dress and was really excited to wear it but then I got hospitalized after a cooking accident. I’m home but injured and it’s hard to put on normal clothes without hurting. I’ll have to miss a meet and I can’t wear the dress until I heal

[Anonymous No.10338093]

>>10338067
my best fishes going your way

[Anonymous No.10338110]

>>10337831
>>10337834
You two do realize some credit cards charge interest based on how many days the money is sitting in the account, right?

[Anonymous No.10338208]

I spent today washing my whole lolita wardrobe that I had been neglecting a bit since my school semester started and it feels good to have all of my dresses and blouses freshly clean!

[Anonymous No.10338227]

>>10337966
Credit cards are great to improve your credit score so you can do things like buy a house and they usually come with benefits debit cards don't have (like cash back or air miles).

That people actually use them to buy outside of their means is crazy though. They're falling right into the bank's trap. What happens if you have emergency bills and you can't pay them off because you're living hand-to-mouth? Savings should always come before burando.

[Anonymous No.10338231]

>>10337966
Because every one of these threads has someone whining that their dream dress is up for sale but they don't get paid for another week or whatever. A credit card is a useful tool such situations and it's really surprising to me that any adult would not already have one. Especially in Murica where credit score is super important

[Anonymous No.10338233]

>>10338110
i have literally never of that and i've had credit cards from all major american banks at one point or another

[Anonymous No.10338234]

>>10337997
>>10338024
Americans who opt out of having credit cards will likely never be able to buy a house or car. Credit score is very important here

[Anonymous No.10338239]

>>10338233
that's cause anon is a retard.

[Anonymous No.10338244]

>>10338067
Who’s, sounds like a bad burn, that’s terrible anon. Get better!

[Anonymous No.10338246]

>>10338231
>Because every one of these threads has someone whining that their dream dress is up for sale but they don't get paid for another week or whatever.
when I see this feel i just think they should manage their money better so they have the savings to buy their DD when it comes up, not take out a loan to pay for a goddamn dress.

[Anonymous No.10338250]

>>10338246
But why use your savings if you can just use a credit card which will probably have cashback for one and two, allow your savings to keep growing?

[Anonymous No.10338270]

>>10338246
>>10338250
>>10338250
>>10338246
wouldn't it just be like this?
>set aside several hundred dollars for dream dress
>buy dream dress using credit card
>get dream dress, pay off card with savings, get card cashback benefits
>profit

though idk if someone should even be buying lolita if they can't save up a few hundred separate from emergency savings

[Anonymous No.10338273]

>>10338270
Technically yes, that is what I do. I buy everything on my CC and pay it off as soon as I get the monthly bill. Thus I get the credit score and cashback benefits.

I never spend beyond my budget though (so like 33% of what I make). Another third goes to savings and the rest pays rent and utilities.

[Anonymous No.10338274]

>>10338270
>>10338246
a lot of people are waiting to get paid instead of dipping into savings, it's called budgeting. no one buying lolita is living paycheck to paycheck, they're just waiting until they get paid and feel comfortable dropping extra money.

[Anonymous No.10338275]

>>10338273
Forgot to add, if there's something I want that's more than the 33% I just buy less for a few months and save up extra.

>>10338274
I also have a pad of 2k in my chequing to account for "haven't been paid yet" but I guess other people don't do that.

[Anonymous No.10338318]

Holy fuck I hate being a broke collegefag

[Anonymous No.10338366]

>>10338270
That's exactly how it works. I don't charge a thing to my checking; everything goes on the card and I pay it off in full on the 1st. You never get charged interest this way, you still get your cashback, and your credit score gets better doing it too.

Also, if some Chinaman hacks your card info, you can cancel the card and dispute the charges pretty easily with no real ill effects while the bank investigates, as opposed to them getting your debit card and sucking you clean while you wait for the bank to go "yeah we discovered that you spending $2,500 at a gas station halfway across the country wasn't you, here's your money back."

[Anonymous No.10338378]

Not sure if Lolita is for me. Fat but losing weight, tall, and the community is a bit intimidating. I’ve been interested in the fashion since I was a child but as an adult with the finances to peruse it, I feel like I wouldn’t be accepted.
Thought about just disconnecting from all the Lolita groups because of this feeling.

[Anonymous No.10338412]

I want to make lolita tiktoks. How trash am I?

[Anonymous No.10338416]

>>10338274
>no one buying lolita is living paycheck to paycheck
lolwut. there's plenty of lolitas who live paycheck to paycheck or are in debt

[Anonymous No.10338417]

>>10338378
first two are manageable, especially if you end up losing the extra weight, and you don't have to interact with the comm whatsoever if it doesn't feel right. I tried to force myself to participate in the social aspects of the fashion as a newbie since it seemed like such an essential part of it, but found that I was much more content as a lonelita. you get to choose how to wear the fashion, it's just clothes after all.

[Anonymous No.10338421]

>>10338378
I have been a lolita since 2006 and never been part of a com. all the lolitas I have met online have been nice to me, but I don't set off trying to meet people over clothing. if we happen to talk about clothes and lolita comes up, cool. if not, it's just clothes. I don't base myself or my friendships on clothing.

[Anonymous No.10338432]

>>10338378
To be honest, the online community as a whole does make the scene look like a bunch of jerks especially CGL where it could be anyone from across the whole 4chan board being an asshole.

Do your best, research as much as you can, keep learning, keep looking at other coordinates, do the right things in Lolita and you will have a great time.

Also, do it for yourself, not for others. Don't have a comm? Go out with a normie friend, or go to the art gallery. Go out for coffee or high tea by yourself or have a friend date for high tea. Go to a theatre show or a play or the festival! You can do it by yourself. I don't have any close friends in my community, so I do a lot of stuff on my own, and its fun.

Being tall is also not a hindrance, you can get underskirts to help if your dresses fall too short and there are longer dresses and skirts out there. There is not one universal Lolita fashion size.

I hope you do get into it and enjoy it. There will be asshats in every aspect of life but you can just ignore them.

TL;DR: do it for yourself, dont be intimidated by online crap, plenty of things to do by yourself as a lone-lita

[Anonymous No.10338468]

>>10338378
depends what your goal is. i'm a lonelita and don't post pics online, and i'm very happy like that. but if the social aspect is important for you, your anxiety is warranted

[Anonymous No.10338473]

>>10338231
Original anon here

My DD didn't come up, I was just mad my dumb job made a mistake on my w2

[Anonymous No.10338474]

>>10338067
I hope you get better soon

[Anonymous No.10338668]

>>10337825
Hahahahahahahaha How The Fuck Is Credit Card Debt Real Hahahaha Just Pay It Off That Month Like Close Your Eyes Haha

No but really, that's all there is to it. Buy it, then pay it off in full that month. No problems whatsoever.
>t. spend-it-pay-it-asap anon for over 3 years

[Anonymous No.10338670]

>>10337825
Hahahahahahahaha How The Fuck Is Credit Card Debt Real Hahahaha Just Pay It Off That Month Like Close Your Eyes Haha

No but really, that's all there is to it. Buy it, then pay it off in full that month. No problems whatsoever.
>t. spend-it-pay-it-asap anon for over 3 years
>tfw great credit

[Anonymous No.10338673]

>>10338110
Only if you don't pay it by the statement due date lmao.

[Anonymous No.10338678]

>>10338054
>No one is saying to spend out of your budget though?
Anons under your post are saying how getting into debt is great because it raises your score to create even higher debt in the future. I just fail to see how it's nice to have to pay off your credit card debt every month, just to make new debts the next month and so on. Why not just put enough actual money you own on your bank account for dream dresses and small emergencies?

[Anonymous No.10338713]

>>10338678
There are some places in the world where credit score is very important, not just for "higher debt." Being able to buy a house or a car can greatly depend on credit score. Hell, my student loan debt went down after I started using a credit card more often because when I was a student, I had no real credit to my name, so once I started using a credit card for small things and paying them off quickly, my interest went down on my payments. So yeah, for some people, this is a smart thing to do. If your country doesn't rely on it, congrats.

[Anonymous No.10338715]

I feel stupid to be angry about the fact that I have 4000+ followers on instagram but only get around 400 likes on my pictures and some girls with less than 2000 follower get 800-1000 likes each picture...what am I doing wrong?

[Anonymous No.10338723]

>>10338715
You aren't interacting with your fans enough is the problem, they don't really like you as a personality they just follow you because some of your pics are good.

You should try posting some stories or asking them what they might want to see next

[Anonymous No.10338728]

>>10338715
>>10338723
Plus those followers won’t mean much if they were made by f4f or the like. Try posting something new or in a style you don’t normally post in.

[Anonymous No.10338738]

>>10338040
President? what

[Anonymous No.10338758]

>>10337535
I just want to find more than 2 Spider Gwen cosplayers who actually made their own suit rather than buying the same cheap zentai suits. I assumed that the more popular a character is, the more people would make their own costumes and make guides and such, but it’s really the opposite.

[Anonymous No.10338762]

Im usually always so against people using open toed shoes with lolita but ever since I got these platforms from Melissa I can’t help but be entertained with the idea of using it in a coord...

[Anonymous No.10338778]

> Tfw discovered Hyrem on YouTube and since he explains what ingredients to look for in skin care and what they do it finally clicks for me.
> Tfw changed up my skin care routine
> Tfw looked in the mirror today after a month and didn't hate my face
> Tfw my skin tone is even, my pores look smaller since they aren't over producing oil because I'm not moisturizing enough or clogged because I'm over moisturizing, I don't have any break outs.
> Tfw actually feel motivated to try and look cute with out an event to go to because I'm not going to have to put heavy make up on.

[Anonymous No.10338781]

>>10338762
But... Why.... They're not suitable at all

[Anonymous No.10338806]

>>10338781
I know, I’m just being a dumbass. But I can’t help but want to at least try and see if something’s possible.
I’m sure once I visually confirm it’ll never work my emotions will stop insisting

[Anonymous No.10338813]

>>10337535
>Comm president has the Toga cosplayer do period inspection day again

[Anonymous No.10338815]

>>10338234
I have a credit card I use for small things and pay back immediately. I would never use it on burando thats just stupid

[Anonymous No.10338858]

I hate my height so much... why can't i be small and cute?

[Anonymous No.10338937]

I have a potluck meetup coming up and idk what to make
>tfw there's never enough savories but you're super good at baking
should I use the opportunity to flex and bring pastries? or should I just suck it up and make onigiri/finger food so I don't want to throw up from all the sugar

[Anonymous No.10338940]

>>10338762
Sandals aren't appropriate for lolita, but i personally love them. I like those winged ones people used, and i've seen a couple (not many) old school coords where lolitas were wearing sandals.
I know I'm encouraging bad behaviour here, but if you want to do it, do it! I bought some yosuke platform sandals that i think look cool and i'm going to wear them with my gothic coordinates.

[Anonymous No.10338941]

>>10338937
Make cute bread rolls

[Anonymous No.10338952]

>>10338937

Try and find out what everyone else is bringing, some girls in my comm can't cook and will volunteer to buy pizza (balanced out by the cheapos who just bring chips to the potluck). If someone else is bringing a main then you can bake to your heart's content.

Or you could bake cute savoury foods, if that doesn't work.

[Anonymous No.10338953]

>>10338762
What makes them not suitable besides "thems the rules"? If they work with the coord and you like them, wear them

[Anonymous No.10338959]

>>10338378
>I feel like I wouldn’t be accepted.
the lolita community irl is just as bad as on this board. Half the lolitas are nice, other half ruin it though. I quit after a year because I couldn't handle the stress and anxiety.

[Anonymous No.10338961]

>Decided to slowly stop hanging out with a toxic and short-tempered con friend
>She makes everyone in our cosplay group feel miserable, is constantly late, throws temper tantrums if doens't get enough attention, hogs the bathroom for entire con weekend, verbally attacks shyer friends, always pays everything late or not at all etc.
>So fucking happy to finally have this weight lifted off of our shoulders

It's a good feel. We still have some con-hotels booked together so we're gonna room with her through them and then slowly dissapear out of her circle of friends.
I wish we had done this sooner

[Anonymous No.10338975]

>everyone thinks that I am mean because of the people I hang out with
> but honestly I love being around other people, not just my friends

At this point, idk I know a lot of people in the community, I just hate going to meets where I don’t know people, so even if I was to venture out to meets not in my own comm, I would be freaking out in a corner, and people would probably think I have a really bad resting bitch face

[Anonymous No.10338979]

>>10338961
Congrats, anon. I'm glad you've managed to escape them.

[Anonymous No.10338996]

>>10338815
>assuming everyone is a poorfag who would have a hard time paying back a couple hundred bucks within a month

[Anonymous No.10339002]

>>10338234
I started late and it almost cost me being able to move into a better apartment. I had credit for less than a year when I applied, and almost didn’t get approved. I had to jump through more hoops and pay a bigger deposit. Definitely get a card with a low limit if you’re worried. An ideal credit range of total credit used is about 10%. I attached mine to Uber, since it’s a regular but not big expense.

I don’t recommend putting big purchases on a card unless Payday is literally next week.

[Anonymous No.10339008]

>>10338378
There’s nothing wrong with dipping in a toe onto Lolita. Find a dress that speaks to you and keep it simple with accessories. There is no rule that says you have to interact with other Lolitas if you feel nervous. No one has a full wardrobe right off the bat.

[Anonymous No.10339026]

>>10338941
>>10338952
good ideas, thanks anons! I think I'll make some cute savoury vegetable tarts or something

[Anonymous No.10339034]

>>10338778
Actually thanks anon, i was about to vent because i have awfull acne.

[Anonymous No.10339036]

>>10338678
Because eventually you’ll need to *actually go into debt* to buy something you need, like a house or a car.

Having a better credit score not only makes it more likely that you’ll get approved for loans for either, it also means the interest rate you’re being charged will be lower too. The bank knows you’re good for it due to your score, so they won’t be as in a rush to make their money as they would be with someone who may or may not be able to make payments at all. For example, when you hear a car ad talk about good financing deals and they say “for well qualified buyers,” they’re not talking about “people with savings,” they’re talking about people with good credit.

[Anonymous No.10339044]

>>10339036
This. The credit system is designed to make companies money, but also to allow people to make large purchases within their means over long periods of time. That's why banks and companies use credit score in order to loan out large sums of money.

[Anonymous No.10339072]

>>10339034
You're welcome, I hope he helps you out as much as he did me

[Anonymous No.10339076]

>finally got the moxie to have chin surgery so I could cosplay as actual attractive characters
>undershot the surgical advancement so I still look like a dweeb
My own fault but it sucks.

[Anonymous No.10339085]

>>10338959
I don't want to be involved with the major lolita community for this reason, I even hesitate to list things on Lacemarket because people do creepy stuff like stalk purchase history or doxx buyers and sellers. I do wish sometimes I had a friend who was also into lolita so we could chat about it and maybe wear the fashion out together because that sounds really fun but alas. The risk of drama from joining a comm isn't worth it and there's nobody around me IRL who's into the fashion.

[Anonymous No.10339093]

>>10338961
Big feel on this. Got a toxic friend out of my life last year and it felt like an enormous weight was lifted! I couldn’t believe how long I’d let her pressure me into continually hanging out with her even when I’d try to fade away, and I can’t believe I kept anyone around who constantly encouraged me to be a worse person and who mocked the best parts of me, like my compassion and generosity. Only sad part is that she was the one who got me into lolita and now going to meets is awkward and not as fun as it used to be. It’s slowly getting better and I’m in the beginning stages of real friendship with a some of the other girls so hopefully I’ll have more lolita friends (not just aquantinces) soon!

[Anonymous No.10339098]

My best friend has a online shop and sell accesories, one of them is a heart beret <3
Now a very well knowish brand in the kawaii comunity is copying the beret. I was'nt very sure if I should tell her at the begining, and oh boy it was a mistake, she is crushed and feel kind of bad for telling her.
Ignorance is truly bless.

[Anonymous No.10339100]

>>10339098
I just went online and googled heart beret and found at least 15 different sellers. It’s not exactly a unique concept

[Anonymous No.10339121]

>>10339100
She's making the berets ever since I know her, thats almost ten years, is not the firts time she's been copied it happens before the thing is that now the other seller is popular and somewhat of a wholeseller

[Anonymous No.10339135]

Hello females, I am a man. I would like to smell your smelliest bits. Thank you.

[Anonymous No.10339168]

>>10339085
I made some friends at the meets I went to, and now just talk to them about lolita and avoid meets.

[Anonymous No.10339202]

>>10339135
My mouth is absolutely foul, boy.

[Anonymous No.10339286]

>>10339202
I will lick the inside of your mouth

[Anonymous No.10339301]

Some of these cosplayers and wanna-be all-girls are disgusting.

[Anonymous No.10339302]

>>10339301
Egirls*

[Anonymous No.10339308]

>>10338715
>what am I doing wrong
Being on instagram

[Anonymous No.10339313]

>>10339093
How is getting rid of toxic people even a problem, like just say I'm busy haha, like nigga I got stuff to do

[Anonymous No.10339419]

>>10339286
Jokes on you I'm a guy. Unless...

[Anonymous No.10339470]

Losing weight since two months now, the hardest was just to start. However I feel like I'll be forever too much fat for lolita, I guess i gotta be 110/120 lbs to fit properly into brand. I hope once i reach this goal i'll fit in it. I'm really afraid it might not be the case

[Anonymous No.10339473]

>>10339301
Oh no, a tribute to a dead artist that I never even personally knew, let me get on my high horse and defend poor Qinni!

[Anonymous No.10339513]

>cleaned our 40 pieces of clothing to sell
>completely unmotivated to photograph and answer dumb questions from people
Send help gulls. I need this stuff outta here.

I'm also doubly annoyed at the internet today since I caught a few comm members talking shit about me when we've literally interacted twice in passing. I hardly even go to events. Why are people like this?

[Anonymous No.10339555]

>>10339419
no gay also stop replying to me this was meant to be a driveby shitpost

[Anonymous No.10339578]

>>10339313
Because we have friends and interests in common, because she guilted me into things by saying how much my friendship meant to her, because the friendship wasn’t always toxic and it was a slow gradual build. It wasn’t as if she’s a huge bitch immediately upon meeting her. She’s just greedy and selfish but covers it up with simpering sweetness while taking advantage of everything you have to give while like sending you money requests for a single beer in a bar and telling you it’s only fair. It’s hard to explain to an outsider. Humans are wired to respond to social pressure and some people take advantage of that. She was one of those people. I was that frog in a pot of slowly warming water and it wasn’t until I jumped clear that I realized the water was boiling. It wasn’t until I told her I no longer wanted to be her friend that I realized she had been the cause of the general anxiety I’d started feeling years before. She manipulated me into feeling bad or like a bad person for doing pretty much anything without her or setting boundaries. Every time I tried to talk about these things she made me feel like I was the one being selfish. She secretly picked fights between me and other people. It goes on and on. I’m not a doormat generally, and will tell people to fuck off, freely and often. This was something totally different. My boyfriend had been joking since I met her about that Single White Female movie, she just put her claws into my life

[Anonymous No.10339598]

>>10339470
You can do it!

From experience, you don't need to be that weight to properly fit brand. Most things fit me pretty well at a higher weight than what you listed. Everyone's body will differ though.

Weight doesn't matter as much as measurements. So when I plot my progress, I always keep track of my measurements. Work hard to keep up with your goals, but enjoy yourself in the process. When you reach a specific goal, treat yourself with a new item that you couldn't have fit into before. It's a nice reward. Good luck, anon!

[Anonymous No.10339608]

>>10339598
thanks a lot ! I'll keep your advices in mind and do my best about it !

[Anonymous No.10339631]

item I requested from dejapan now shows as sold out and i dont have a confirmation email from them. if they didnt get it for me this is too many failures and ill go back to a personal ss

[Anonymous No.10339640]

>>10339301
i dont understand what this is or why its bad

[Anonymous No.10339642]

>>10339640
Qinni was a popular artist who died recently so lots of people have been making tribute arts to them. Anons on lolcow have been really sperging out about it, thinking people are doing it too soon or that it’s disrespectful.

[Anonymous No.10339656]

>>10339642

I always really loved their art...it's sad to e
Hear they have passed away. How is a tribute or attempt to honor and appreciate their work ever a bad thing so long as it is genuine?

[Anonymous No.10339663]

>>10339656
>their/they
Stop. Even the people on tumblr are calling her a she.

[Anonymous No.10339667]

>>10339555
I'll keep replying to you baby boy. Whether it's in this thread or another thread.

[Anonymous No.10339669]

>>10339663
anons could just. not know qinni was a woman lmao calm down

[Anonymous No.10339670]

>>10339667
schizo

[Anonymous No.10339672]

>>10339670
Fuck off schizo

[Anonymous No.10339679]

>>10339663
sorry to break this to you anon but "they" is a proper pronoun for anyone regardless of their gender

[Anonymous No.10339684]

>>10339679
No it’s not, learn grammar. Him or her, he or she for a singular person

[Anonymous No.10339688]

>>10339684
Tell that to Marriam-Webster, the APA, and the Oxford English dictionary

[Anonymous No.10339692]

>>10339684
sorry bby.

[Anonymous No.10339709]

Finally able to regularly buy things for lolita again because I’m not poor as dirt but at the same time I’m running into the age old issue
>blouses in the style I want are only on the market when I’m looking for main pieces
>main pieces in the style I want are only on the market when I’m looking for blouses
Boring basic feels but still annoying. My wardrobe is expanding at a decent rate and hunting for a good dress is a fun activity but having to deal with the grab bag that is what’s available at any given moment is one of my least favorite parts of the fashion.

[Anonymous No.10339714]

>>10339684
okay boomer

[Anonymous No.10339832]

>>10338762
What are RHSes?

[Anonymous No.10339835]

>>10339832
Lurk more newfag. Jesus.

[Anonymous No.10339836]

>>10339835
I think you need to step back and reread what that anon was replying to.

[Anonymous No.10339840]

>>10339836
those kind of comments are usually greentext tho.

[Anonymous No.10339846]

>>10339836
That reply made no sense even with context.

[Anonymous No.10339853]

>>10339840
>>10339846
Yeah, but the post they were replying to made no mention of RHSes so it's not like they heard the term for the first time and don't know what it is. They were probably just trying to make a sassy comment and failed.

[Anonymous No.10339854]

>>10337535
Do nbig booyu girls cosplay?

[Anonymous No.10339857]

>recently got into five nights at freddys because of its rebound and because i never went near it as a kid
>see all the really nice cosplay of the animitronics
>want to make an animatronic cosplay too now because im excited to do the cool effects with the lights and the wear and tear and try something ive never done before
>mortified of being considered cringe or a furry and know my friends and group will laugh at me if i do it

why bros why i know itll be so much fun

[Anonymous No.10339860]

>>10339684
"they" as a singular person pronoun has been around since the 14th century, dipshit.
you're the one that needs to learn grammar.

[Anonymous No.10339866]

>>10339857
>i never went near it as a kid

If it came out when you were a kid, you're still a kid.

[Anonymous No.10339867]

>>10339866
i just turned 20
it's been five years bro

[Anonymous No.10339889]

>>10339631
dejapan didn’t get my item. of course since i came so close to owning this dress and failed its now my white whale and i absolutely must own it.

also i recommend anyone who seriously wants a secondhand item not to use dejapan. their service may be cheap but it comes at the cost of being completely unreliable. ill be sticking with muuh from now on.

[Anonymous No.10339892]

>>10339889
anon, it's common sense to use a personal SS for rare things or pieces you think will sell out quickly and cheap SS for whatever items

[Anonymous No.10339894]

>>10339892
anon, i obviously didnt think this would sell out, which is why i used them.

dejapan has failed me on one other item i didnt care about on a secondhand site, and on three auctions (their “autobid” i suspect is not automated and if nobody is there to make the bid for you you’re fucked)

[Anonymous No.10339895]

>>10338093
>>10338244
>>10338474
Thank you. It’s still healing and I really want to wear lolita again but I don’t want to rush the healing so it won’t scar as bad

[Anonymous No.10339898]

>>10339679
>>10339688
>>10339692
>>10339860
That doesn't matter. Now you know that she's a woman, so adressing her as anything other than that is disrespectful.

[Anonymous No.10339900]

>>10339898
>moving goalposts
Lol

[Anonymous No.10339903]

>>10339900
That was my "goal" right from the beginning? to get cunts like you to be respectful to the dead. The first "they/their" - poster can get the benefit of the doubt, but as soon as you knew she's a woman you should acknowledge that instead of googling dictionairy definitons. Like I said, not even tumblrinas stick to they/their if they know the gender of a person and neither should you.

[Anonymous No.10339906]

>>10339867
My point stands.

[Anonymous No.10339950]

>>10339903
Literally two people used they. You must be from lolcow.

[Anonymous No.10339952]

>>10338234
This is sadly true. But only kinda for a car. If you get a loan from a bank then its hard. Dealerships are different some dealers will push loans on people. If they get one payment and take the car back its worth it. For people not in the know most of the American car manufactures are not manufacturers but Banks. The actual manufacturer is a separate entity that exists offshore for tax purposes hence why our cars are all made in Mexico / South America. Make no mistake your local GMC, Dodge, or Ford dealership is a bank with a showroom.

[Anonymous No.10339961]

>>10339889
I use dejapan for everything except stuff I know will sell really quickly and they’ve never let me down

[Anonymous No.10339974]

>Was kind of a Stacy in high school
>Hid that I wore lolita when in college
>Kept it to meets/cons only
>Slowly started to wear lolita in public after graduating
>Would probably still be mortified if anyone I ever knew in high school saw me
>Ended up running into one girl from my high school friend group a few years back
>She had nothing but nice things to say
>You look like a princess, this is such a cool style type stuff
>Thought about reaching out to her earlier this week
>She just passed away a few hours ago according to Facebook
>Oh.

She was a real sweetheart. She was the type of person to put your happiness before her happiness and really she was just pure good and now she's gone even though she was so young and that's not fair.

[Anonymous No.10339986]

>>10339974
The nicest ones always leave the soonest

[Anonymous No.10340010]

>>10339857
honestly it's a cool series, if you do a good cosplay then you won't be cringe

[Anonymous No.10340025]

>>10339974
That's such a sad missed connection. But hey, let's try and think forward. She was probably one of the kindest ones from High School, but perhaps her reaction to your fashion is more normal than you think? Most of your old classmates might be just as happy as she was if they saw you enjoying yourself on a new level compared to then. Honour her kindness by taking it to heart, and maybe expect similar warmth form others.

[Anonymous No.10340033]

>>10339857
Worse yet, I'll consider you a pedophile!

[Anonymous No.10340074]

>>10339854
Are you trying to say "big booty"?

[Anonymous No.10340132]

I hope the coronovirus doesnt spoil the con im going to in april

[Anonymous No.10340138]

>>10340033
wut?

[Anonymous No.10340146]

>>10340132
Why should it spoil the con? Are you going to a con in China?

[Anonymous No.10340155]

>>10340074
I though he was trying to say booby. It’s probably best to just ignore this, though. If it’s even an honest question it belongs in the stupid questions thread.

[Anonymous No.10340176]

>>10339709
This is me deciding wether I should go for less liked colorway or wait till preferable one may or may not pop on sale, ugh

[Anonymous No.10340290]

my only lolita friend left is a retard and my old best lolita friend is an e fame whore now. im so alone.

[Anonymous No.10340504]

>>10337535
I've come to realize that some scrotes actually fap to pictures of girls wearing lolita, like just normal coords. Its disgusting and really the only thing we can do about it is to stop wearing lolita to deny them more fap material. I hate to say it but the fashion will eventually die because of this.

Think about it like this, would you ever post a picture of yourself publicly if you knew some filthy man would be masturbating to it?

[Anonymous No.10340507]

>>10340504
Unfortunately, men will masturbate to women's pictures without their consent regardless of the fashion we're wearing. It's fucking putrid, and I wish that any dude that does it would die, but we'd have to just stop posting photos of ourselves altogether.

[Anonymous No.10340511]

>>10340507
I wish they did that, but they don't. They actually only jack off to massive implant pornstars, most of them can't get off to regular, normal looking women. Unless you completely butcher your body for them, you won't see a drop of passion cum in your life time. Us normal girls get what I call "boredom cum" which is the result of a man fucking you just because it feels better than jacking off and not because he's horny, he saves his best nuts for pornstars. This is why being a woman and having sex with men makes you a cuck by default.

[Anonymous No.10340513]

>>10340504
The fashion is not going to die from that, you goober.

[Anonymous No.10340519]

>>10340511
nah you're just ugly

[Anonymous No.10340522]

>>10340504
>>10340511

lmao we used to have someone come around with some kind of inflation blueberry fetish, like Verucca Salt from Charlie and the Chocolate Factory was apparently prime wank material for him.

Guys are just weirdoes. It's one thing that he thinks inflating into a blueberry is sexy (and you thought wanking to lolita was weird? this dude picked a scene from a kids show like are we gonna stop making kids shows now?? lmao) -- not only that, but for some reason he was on a blue board and not a wank board trying to talk about his fetish??? He came back on and off again on a cosplay board to talk about blueberries few handful of years for some reason????

And we haven't even touched trying to stick your dick into apple pies. You should check out /h sometime. Then realise the deviants actually hang out on /d. And here you are worried about whether guys want to wank at a girl in a dress or a girl in a poofy dress.

[Anonymous No.10340523]

>>10340522
Ok retard, can you turn into a giant blueberry? Nah? Then stfu you're clearly very naive and don't know shit about men. Moids literally only want to fap to shit that can't exist in real life, they have no concept of beauty or aesthetic beyond what is big and shiny. If you seriously think they jack of to normal ass women wearing lolita, then you're retarded and probably have never had a boyfriend.

[Anonymous No.10340529]

>>10340290
Did the fame change her that much? I feel bad for you if that's true, most people don't just become complete whores because they get e-famous

[Anonymous No.10340544]

>>10340146
The death toll for it is now 1,523, with cases in Texas, California, Massachusetts, Washington, Arizona, Illinois and Wisconsin. They might be there.

[Anonymous No.10340545]

>>10340523

stand on tiptoes bro you reaching so hard you've almost reached the moon

[Anonymous No.10340550]

>>10340544
The deaths and cases are all heavily concentrated in China though.

[Anonymous No.10340581]

>>10339898
If they have a problem with it, then they can rise from the dead to sperg about it

[Anonymous No.10340583]

>Finally finds the perfect items for my first coord
>It’s going to be some money, but that’s okay!
>lolnojk
>gets anxiety at checkout
>You should be saving this money anon!
>You need actual clothes, not ones you probably can’t wear

Whyyyyyyyyyyyy is my brain like this I just want to wear Lolita and not freak out over the cost.

[Anonymous No.10340590]

>At gym
>Spot guy working out
>He's dressed in an 80's gym fashion
>Matching sweat bands on head and wrists
>A bit unshaven but looking tough
>Clearly working hard to keep building his bod
>Think about the resident anon who wants to become an 80's tough guy

There's no way in hell that was you, but I hope you're doing fine tough guy! I'm unironically thinking about you.

[Anonymous No.10340600]

>>10340504
Please, you idiot. Women would need to just stop existing completely if we wanted to avoid disgusting men. Or move to mars.

[Anonymous No.10340621]

>>10340583
Anon if it's brand, just remember you can always resell it if you regret the purchase. I've done this when I thought I'd look good in gothic lolita, but as soon as I tried it on, I regretted all my purchases. I was able to make the money back quite quickly after selling everything on LM.

[Anonymous No.10340627]

>>10340544
If you're that worried, go to a con and wear a hazmat suit. That should be a new trend.

[Anonymous No.10340659]

>>10340544
all of the deaths were in impoverished areas of china with shit medical care.

[Anonymous No.10340660]

>>10340504
if you've ever been on a dating app, you can rest assured guys on there are fapping to your totally normal pics too. men are just scum

[Anonymous No.10340662]

I wish I had a girlfriend. Ive only ever done online dating, I really have no experience hitting on girls irl. I just want to be held by a pretty girl who will complement my coord and give me kisses on the forehead.

[Anonymous No.10340668]

>>10340662
Go outside for once and stop hiding in whatever hole you call a home. You will meet people.

[Anonymous No.10340670]

>>10340544
you are thousands times more likely to get the flu and die from it, or die driving to/from the con in a car accident.

[Anonymous No.10340674]

I regret for not buying that red Puppet Circus when it was on sale. It went out for near 600 bucks and was only worn once, ugh.

[Anonymous No.10340708]

>>10340668
I am extroverted and spend a lot of time with people. Getting a girlfriend isnt that easy, especially as a lolita since people are kind of freaked out by it.

[Anonymous No.10340709]

>>10340132
I feel you anon. I know it’s irrational but I already have fears of terror attacks/shootings at cons so I have the fear of the virus as well. It’s just paranoia, I know how stupid it sounds.

[Anonymous No.10340710]

>>10340708
if I did it as a socially retarded idiot, then you can too anon.

[Anonymous No.10340750]

>>10339974
Had a similar feel today

>decide to stalk my old high school friends on Facebook
>check an old teammate's profile
>turns out he was in a fatal car crash 10 days ago
>left behind a 1-2 year old son
I wish I'd done more to connect with everyone from back then

[Anonymous No.10340752]

>>10340504
lmao what? You chicks look fucking stupid in those preposterous outfits

[Anonymous No.10340760]

>>10340752
lolitas dress like little girls, so obviously pedos fap to it. not normal guys tho

[Anonymous No.10340769]

>>10340621
- you may make the item price back, but shipping and various charges might stay a loss. Trying lolita out is expensive.
- lolita market is pretty saturated. You may spend a lot of time trying to sell something if you don’t low the price drastically.

[Anonymous No.10340772]

>>10340760
There is no amount of brain damage a person can have that will make an adult in a frilly dress look like an actual child.

Parents thoughtlessly upload countless pics of their kids to the internet, the idea that pedos turn to grown women in outfits that resemble maybe some VERY esoteric children’s wear is dumb.

[Anonymous No.10340775]

I think I had an episode of anxiety attacks for at least one week now. Feeling pretty worn out from it to the point where I cringe internally whenever I'm thinking about going out in lolita. I wear mature sweet prints mostly and this is the first time since I've started this fashion that I'm feeling this way. Usually lolita gives me strength but after this rough mental health phase I'm not sure if I want to stand out like a sore thumb in the general public. Does this feeling go away? I don't want to even play with the thought of quitting lolita. Guess I'm just feeling tired...

[Anonymous No.10340798]

>>10340752
Then leave.

[Anonymous No.10340809]

>>10340775
I think it's pretty normal after an exhausting rough week to want to stay lowkey. Just enjoy some relaxing and wear whatever feels best when you go out. I think not forcing yourself to go out in lolita if you aren't feeling it is a good idea, but if you do miss wearing lolita, why not wear it at home one day?

[Anonymous No.10340818]

>>10340752
Wanna fuck me in one tho? just don't jizz on my petti cuz I don't wash those

[Anonymous No.10340834]

>>10340818
>men are such disgusting perverts for sexualizing our dresses
>fuck me in my dresses
Geez
But to answer your question, yes

[Anonymous No.10340836]

>>10340834
Hint: a dude posted that.

[Anonymous No.10340837]

>>10340836
do you think women are void of any sexual interest

[Anonymous No.10340844]

>>10340837
In men? Yes.

[Anonymous No.10340845]

>>10340836
Nice try but nope

>>10340834
See? The dresses can't be that bad if you still wanna piece of my honey cake

[Anonymous No.10340849]

>>10340769
>>10340621
I eventually purchased (almost) everything I needed. Panicked, but I’ll be alright. If I do end up not enjoying lolita, I don’t think I’ll have too much trouble selling items, but all of them are off brand/taobao.

[Anonymous No.10340857]

hi gulls
>be me
>ouG
>male
>admins a local comm
>fucks up
>no one wants to see your face ever again
>get ditched from the thing yourself help creating
>tfw

[Anonymous No.10340859]

>>10340857
>male
well there's your problem

[Anonymous No.10340860]

>>10340849
You’re going to take a major hit trying to sell off brand and taobao second hand jsyk

[Anonymous No.10340874]

>>10340857
>be male
>act like insane psychopath
>face repercussions
>play victim

[Anonymous No.10340910]

>>10340775
I am having anxiety attacks in my normie clothes rn, just wear what makes you happy, gull. Wish I had kept my lolita coord on instead of changing, it makes me anxious but the compliments are worth the stares and I'm having a breakdown anyway

[Anonymous No.10340912]

>>10340849
I paid $85 for a taobao skirt and accessories and can't even get them to sell for $50. A matching set that only needs shoes and a blouse for a complete coord

[Anonymous No.10340950]

>>10340775
Me too anon, I've been dissociating a lot lately and it's hard to wear frills when you don't feel like yourself or are stressed out and anxious. Buying more casual pieces to have for when I'm like this helps. Cutsews and simple skirts are comfy to throw on for grocery shopping or hanging out at home and wearing burando cheers me up a little. Taking a break from the fashion is ok too, it'll always be there when you feel better and it sounds like you really love it. Hang in there anon.

[Anonymous No.10340983]

I've had a huge bout of depression slap me across the face and I've been really struggling with finishing a cosplay for a con. All of a sudden I found a huuuge burst of inspiration for another cosplay and I'm super pumped to make it instead, and all motivation is gone for the cosplay I'm already doing.

I hate this shit.

[Anonymous No.10341001]

I’m finally going to get a steamer gulls. Any suggestions for which brand works well?

[Anonymous No.10341004]

>be me and my partner
>literally get into lolita together because we've been wanting to for a while/coincided with our current interests
>lolita is also an escape to us / weve been wearing it as a daily fashion/ also to set us a part/escape from a person that's been copying us for the past half decade
>said copy cat recently started buying stuff off of ebay and amazon thats "lolita fashion"
>no need for confrontation because i guess it's "petty" in a way and people can do what they want or whatever but it's been happening literally for the past 5 fucking years

wanted to get this off my chest cus i've been salty but whatever we're still gonna keep doing what we wanna do and look cute af cus at least we don't buy low qual shit on ebay

[Anonymous No.10341033]

>>10341004
Copycat is more like a bootleg bitch

[Anonymous No.10341038]

>>10341004
block them

[Anonymous No.10341097]

>>10340809
>>10340910
>>10340950
Thank you anons, this does make me feel a bit better. Thing is, I don't even have normie fashion anymore and whatever could still qualify as normie fashion still stands out in a crowd (especially during winter). But I did go out in my only black solid main piece just a day before writing my original post and it made me feel calmer, I didn't style it as a lolita coord though. I own very few pieces in black and dark colors however, so it made me think that maybe I should look into more dark solids that can be worn without a petti. I'd say my style is casual sweet most of the time, but maybe it's time for a little break...

I also hope that you gulls will feel better soon, too! Mental health can be rough, but it's comforting knowing that there's things you love that can cheer you up.

[Anonymous No.10341127]

I'm a terrible person who's done awful things and I really dislike myself at the moment. But wearing cute clothes keeps me living.

But I wish I was nicer and could erase my misdeeds and past, because I don't feel worthy of my clothes.

[Anonymous No.10341129]

>>10341127
I obviously can't know what you did, but maybe apologizing to those you've wronged could be a start?

[Anonymous No.10341157]

Feels / Confession.

My local brolita began the fashion wearing ebay cosplay quality crap. Showed up to meets and was embarrassing for all of us.

Years later, he shows up at an event in the most beautiful coordinate and looked so well-put together. I had tears in my eyes. I'm so proud. He's come so far.

[Anonymous No.10341200]

>>10341157
>tfw no brolita would ever write something so nice/"have tears in his eyes" for a female lolita
>tfw no female lolita would even be allowed to meets if she wore literal ebay shit
>tfw he very likely only improved because girls asskissed and helped him 24/7
>tfw he probably still looks worse than all female lolitas in his comm but standards for males are low af
Never mind, this was probably written by a scrote anyway, it has huge "and then everone clapped" vibes.

[Anonymous No.10341201]

>>10341200
Who hurt you?

[Anonymous No.10341213]

>>10341201
a brolita obv

[Anonymous No.10341440]

>>10340874
Yeah you summed that up. Congrats anon!

[Anonymous No.10341443]

>>10340859
maam i have a girlfriend

[Anonymous No.10341448]

>left lolita years ago
>body image issues, depression
>got my shit together
>good job, good paycheck
>still heavy, but working on losing weight
>bought my first brand print
>feels good, man

I've still got a long way to go, but I'm happy with my progress and knowing I have something to motivate me.

[Anonymous No.10341454]

>>10341443
...and?

[Anonymous No.10341457]

>>10341454
idk what else, im sorry =/

[Anonymous No.10341459]

>>10341457
you're implying that a guy with a gf can't be creepy or cringey, which is not true sorry

[Anonymous No.10341461]

>Find an absolutely perfect pair of brown oxford heels at goodwill
>Half a size too small
Curse my big toe

[Anonymous No.10341462]

>>10341459
idk what to say =/
but i agree

[Anonymous No.10341467]

>>10341461
stretch them

[Anonymous No.10341478]

>>10341200
everyone will clap once you kill yourself cunt

[Anonymous No.10341597]

I live in the middle of nowhere and have never, ever seen another lolita irl except for at cons. It makes me a bit scared to wear lolita in public since it's a conservative area. Not sure how people would react.

[Anonymous No.10341626]

>>10341157
Wow he met basic expectations. So brave and stronk. Then he went home and masturbated furiously, as his sissy fetish was fulfilled. So strong and beautiful, I had tears in my eyes.

[Anonymous No.10341666]

>>10341462
post dick and balls.

[Anonymous No.10341676]

>>10341038
That doesn't work if you interact with them in real life on a regular basis.

[Anonymous No.10341681]

Realized I fell in love with a guy I met at a convention and that we both have mutual feelings for each other, but I'm afraid of moving forward cause of the untraditional way we met and distance. I'm also worried that I'm not good enough for a guy like him and he'll lose interest in me so I should just save myself the heartbreak, oh god...

[Anonymous No.10341682]

Man, I wish I could just take a nap and wake up in Tokyo. I've got such a "homesick" feeling of wanting to wander around Closet Child's every single location, and carefully seek the deals I desire... Take me back to physical lolita stores, please.

[Anonymous No.10341783]

>>10341681
Your low self esteem will cripple the relationship. Spare him the effort.

[Anonymous No.10341818]

I want to wear lolita more often, but I am a coward. It's summer all year round here, so most people wear shorts and t-shirts. The income gap is widening, so most people prefer to dress down and not show off their wealth even if they have it. Going out in lolita is almost humiliating at times. I thought maybe I'd be able to wear it around my university campus, but I wore a dressed down outfit to a lecture once, and the next day, everyone was talking about it. I hated the attention. The only time I feel comfortable is when I'm with my comm. I'm really thankful for them, even if it is a little bit hard to relate to the conversations at times because there are hardly any members around my age.

[Anonymous No.10341826]

>>10341681
I met my boyfriend through cons. We would hang out in video chats with friends all the time and then he moved to where I lived. This isn't super strange these days.

[Anonymous No.10341834]

>>10341681
I fell in love with a guy I met at a con. Then it turned out he had a crazy obsessive ex who blackmailed her way into living with him and took over his life (I.e. controlled who he was allowed to talk to) not long after we started dating. I waited far too long to end it because my stupid “love” for him allowed him to string me along for three months.
Point being, don’t date him before you know him, get to know the guy as a friend first.
Also you’re attitude about “not deserving” him is an easy way to get yourself taken advantage of and/or abused. You need to be secure enough to believe you deserve a good healthy relationship with a kind and caring guy.

[Anonymous No.10342160]

>>10337535
When your lips get caught in the zipper

[Anonymous No.10342167]

>>10341818
this makes me sad. It kind of sucks that lolita is inherently a very flashy style and necessarily attracts attention, because there is unfortunately no way to escape it if you don't like attracting attention. The best thing you can do is keep wearing it and numb yourself to the stares and it will make it easier, because no matter how you wear it it's going to get people looking and talking. I think it's worth it to wear what feels right to you in the end. Also make sure what you're wearing is perfect because it's hard to tell the difference between people staring because you're in lolita and people staring because you look really cringe

[Anonymous No.10342223]

>>10342167
classic and gothic don't get all that much attention honestly unless it's ott. it's just sweet that really sticks out

[Anonymous No.10342226]

>>10341681
> cause of the untraditional way we met and distance
Well anon, a con is less embarrassing than VampireFreaks IRC chat, and yet I've been with my guy for 11 years now.
He lived half the country away at the time, we'd stay up late just existing in a video feed talking and sharing things we liked.
Make time for them, don't get fixated on being their one and only if yo can't physically be there for them regularly, and have fun.

[Anonymous No.10342229]

>>10342226
>VampireFreaks IRC chat

This made me so happy for some reason. I'm so glad you found someone on the weird part of the internet you shared with them.

[Anonymous No.10342263]

>>10341681
Try falling in love with exclusive, married men.
You have nothing to cry about just because of LD. Try convincing them to leave their house and child.

[Anonymous No.10342268]

>>10342263
you sound like a really horrible person

[Anonymous No.10342271]

>>10342263
The fact that your wording implies this has happened multiple times is pathetic lmao

[Anonymous No.10342274]

>>10342268
Why? People divorce, anon, sometimes for the better. One of the parties is going to be on visitation and sometimes that's the happier choice.
Also
>Trying to convince someone a forever-alone board to not shoot their shot

[Anonymous No.10342276]

>>10342271
Four so far. I have a type.
My point is sometimes you have to count your blessings.

[Anonymous No.10342289]

>>10342274
>>10342276
being a homewrecker is not something to be proud of. you need therapy, anon

[Anonymous No.10342298]

>>10342276
Kys ASAP

[Anonymous No.10342306]

>>10342263
>Try convincing them to leave their house and child.
>and child
FUCK YOU

[Anonymous No.10342352]

>>10341826
>>10342226
I see.. this is incredibly uplifting, thank you!
>>10341783
>>10341834
And you're right, an attitude change is definitely in order if things are to work out, thank you for putting some sense into me!

[Anonymous No.10342362]

>>10338858
I hate my height so much... why can't i be tall and handsome like jotaro?

[Anonymous No.10342366]

>>10342223
not true in countries without visible alt communities

[Anonymous No.10342367]

>>10338858
>>10342362
i fucking love my height so much... i get to be a tall sexy amazonian woman

[Anonymous No.10342384]

>>10342367
i fucking love my height so much... i get to be an angry chihuahua

[Anonymous No.10342449]

>>10342276
Saying anon should count their blessings over a long distance relationship which puts strain on both parties and can cause a lot of issues VS you just wanting to ruin a happy couple and acting as if you have it harder? You're delulu.

[Anonymous No.10342453]

>>10342367
We're talking about lolita, there's nothing worse than being tall.

[Anonymous No.10342467]

I wish height autist anon would stop shitting up every thread on this board

[Anonymous No.10342472]

>>10342467
t. somebody who's lucky enough to be average and therefore doesn't understand how shitty it feels to not fit the norm

If you're fat, you can lose weight, if you don't like being a girl/guy you can transaition, and so on, height is the only thing one can't change, so quit acting as if this can't be a big deal for some people.

[Anonymous No.10342501]

>>10342306
In the sense they wouldn't be living with the kid. This is several steps after a relationship has formed. You can't 'home wreck' a legitimately happy couple.

[Anonymous No.10342531]

>accidentally fall for famous fuckboy costhot
i hate this
>his fangirls come after me, my body, my cosplay, etc
>friends either leave me out of jealousy or use me to get close to him
>he only interacts/follows/likes typical big tit and big ass costhots, which I'm not like at all (uggo pale flat skelly)
>we eventually stop talking
>reminded how cosplay is all about elitism, looks, sex, money, clout and who wears aliexpress best
>lose all motivation and love for cosplay
>still cry thinking about some fucking costhot
I HATE THIS

[Anonymous No.10342543]

>>10342531
>cosplay is all about elitism, looks, sex, money, clout and who wears aliexpress best
You made me giggle here. I’m so sorry, anony.

[Anonymous No.10342559]

>really fucking depressed for no reason
>have been for years but it has been getting worse
>completely anhedonic
>friends are having an even worse time so I can't talk to them
>crammed all my weekends with meets and activities to distract my mind
>end up not having any break to do university work because weekends are too full
>failing university this year after doing very well last year
>can't even motivate myself to wear full coords any more
It's not a big deal but also FML

[Anonymous No.10342564]

>>10338858
>>10342362
>>10342384
>>10342367
i am ambivalent about my height... i am neither cute nor sexy, just painfully average.

[Anonymous No.10342587]

>>10342564
No, you lucked out, you can be both cute and sexy.

[Anonymous No.10342591]

>>10342564
Impossible, the only two body types possible are flat chested 10 year old and 6 foot tall cowtits

[Anonymous No.10342613]

I want to have lolita friends. I have some normie friends but I feel so awkward when I'm the only one dressed in j-fashion. I've tried to make contact with some lolitas that live in my city but no sucess so far. I just want to start a friendship without being seen as a creep or desperate.

[Anonymous No.10342674]

>>10342613
Here's what to do

>search the internet for the nearest comm or two! asking here is fine
>you might need permission to join for safety reasons
>apply if needed, just be honest!
>include coord photos if possible, don't worry about it being good or not
>do an intro post if possible (facebook)
>if it comes up organically, see if you can be paired with a BSoLF or if someone would be able to help take you under your wing.
>don't be annoying or overbearing tho, within reason
>find out when the next public meetup you can attend is
>be brave and attend!

[Anonymous No.10342692]

>>10340504
You women are such Hypocrites there are some of you who get off to watching men being in pain and mutilated and you're worried about some dude jacking off your stupid dress, get over yourself.

[Anonymous No.10342716]

>>10342692
Yeah, because it's not like pain has been completely normalized in porn for male consumption or anything. Fuck off.

[Anonymous No.10342737]

>>10342531
wait there are male costhots?

[Anonymous No.10342741]

>>10342716
Like I said, a complete hypocrite, you're no better harlot. You're the scum you hate so much.

[Anonymous No.10342749]

>>10340513
thank fuck most of us aren't as unhinged as anon that we're ready to give up what we like in order to "protest men just incase they are pervs?"

[Anonymous No.10342764]

>>10342692
> there are some of you who get off to watching men being in pain and mutilated

fucking what

[Anonymous No.10342774]

>>10342692
>all women are hypocrites because some do a thing
You know we are more than one person collectively, right?

[Anonymous No.10342792]

>>10342741
>>10342692

I know this is bait but ill bite. One person who you don't know for certain is a woman who may not wear the fashion made some asinine statement about pervs, about four different people say "wtf that's dumb," and yet you use this towards your confirmation bias of women being a monolith of hypocrisy and scummery. Seems like you just believe what you want to believe baby boo

[Anonymous No.10342802]

>>10342741
The handful of women who might enjoy male pain is literally nothing to how normalized and acceptable abuse towards women is. Most men watch porn and most of that porn is harmful towards women, showing them being abused, taking advantage of, put in uncomfortable positions, and treated like garbage. It's seen as normal and expected. It's literally nothing compared to the handful of women who might like to see men suffer.

Now fuck off, scrote.

[Anonymous No.10342809]

>Con this weekend
>Staffing
>Not going to bother dressing up on my off hours

New experiences and chances to show off my lame t-shirts I guess.

[Anonymous No.10342814]

>>10342531
Sell the rights to Netflix

[Anonymous No.10342840]

>>10342774
Yes and the same thing goes for men yet so many come here and complain that all men are scum and a bunch of pervs, I mean honestly how many men do you think get off to women wearing stupid Frills not even 1% I bet. Yes she's talking about having to completely undo it because of men, it's a joke and hypocrisy. >>10342792
That reply goes for you as well. How many men do you believe honestly cause half the issues that woman complain about on here. I can't deny that it's the majority, but compared to the entire population of men, you all over react and paint with a wide brush, once again you're no better honey cakes.

[Anonymous No.10342852]

>>10342737
The only one any actual woman cares about is grayson_fin from what I know. Most of them are gay either on purpose or by accident. The rest are nobodies or are disgusting.

[Anonymous No.10342854]

>>10342852
this is the first male costhot ive ever seen who is attractive to me

[Anonymous No.10342861]

>>10342852
how is this one not disgusting gtfo

[Anonymous No.10342863]

>>10342852
Ew no looks about 12. Wheres his dick hiding

[Anonymous No.10342864]

>>10342852
not skinny enough. next.

[Anonymous No.10342951]

>>10342737
have you been living under a rock fampai? caged angel, kawaiibro, leon chiro, any copycats and derivatives of those, etcetera. usually claim to be all for "fitness" and "positivity", which maybe isn't wrong, given they're fitting their dicks in every hole they can and getting HIV positivity

>>10342852
literally who

>gay (on purpose or closeted)
>disgusting
>nobodies
pick one or all three and you have most male cosplayers summed up lol

[Anonymous No.10343015]

>>10342531
i think we've all fallen for a fuckboy at some point or another. they are fuckin evil and shouldn't exist

[Anonymous No.10343043]

>you spent 100$ on a fucking headbow today.

[Anonymous No.10343046]

>>10341127
Everyone is a bad person in their own way. Stop caring and enjoy your clothes!

[Anonymous No.10343057]

>>10343043
yikes

[Anonymous No.10343241]

> looking to buy some brand necklace for a while
> find it online, not really popular thing
> okay, let’s wait till seller drops the price due to lack of demand
> someone comments on item asking if the item is available for purchase
> I place an order for this to my shopping service
> they snitch it out
I feel bad. I should totally wait till next time. Now this feeling of guilt is gonna haunt me every time I wear the thing. I guess it’s too late to cancel the order.

[Anonymous No.10343260]

I want to make local lolita sewing friends so badly and try so hard to be helpful and encouraging, but every time I answer a question or share a resource or even draft a pattern on request they ghost me after. No thank you, not even an acknowledgement that I posted anything. I KNOW they saw it because their finished projects often incorporate the fabric or lace I linked or pattern I drew for them. Is it so hard to post a simple “thanks”? I’m not a search engine, I‘m a person taking time out of my day to help someone.

[Anonymous No.10343269]

>>10343043

I feel you, I once spent $60 on a pair of socks and then another $40 in ss fees and shipping. Half year later AP re-releases it.

Not gonna lie though, I'd probably do it again. Those were the matching socks to my DD, nwt, and I'm not psychic enough to guess what AP would re-release next.

Which headbow was it?

[Anonymous No.10343276]

I went back to being a lonelita a few years ago because a comm member tried to force me into having sex with her after a meetup. Nothing got done because she was friends with the comm prez so they turned it on me. Honestly it’s so much nicer being on my own so I don’t even mind it. I haven’t even thought about it in years now. No idea if she’s still even involved in the comm.

[Anonymous No.10343308]

Last year 2 of my parcels got lost during shipping and I only got back around 50 euro because that's the max amount the insurance gives you. Since then, I have a lot of anxiety about parcels arriving from outside Europe. Some comm members told me to ask my SS to mark down my parcels because they are less likely to get stolen. I'm so pissed I've been praying customs and extra administration cost/shipping for years and for what? I hate online shopping now.

[Anonymous No.10343316]

Last year 2 of my parcels got lost during shipping and I only got back around 50 euro because that's the max amount the insurance gives you. Since then, I have a lot of anxiety about parcels arriving from outside Europe. Some comm members told me to ask my SS to mark down my parcels because they are less likely to get stolen. I'm so pissed I've been paying customs and extra administration cost/shipping for years and for what? I hate online shopping now. I'm going to stop buying new from brands and just get shit from EU sales groups.

[Anonymous No.10343352]

>just found out that my fiancee's job is sending him to the freezing ass-end of nowhere
>will go with him out of love
>work in the arts so it's easy for me to move
>but
>very frustrated because everything seemed to be going well for him before this
>we were planning to move to a city so I could be near my comm and get a better job
>I even saved up to put a deposit on a house in that city
>now feel like I've been somehow lied to or misled
>this feeling will pass but jfc

Goodbye to my nice, friendly comm. I think there's a comm near where I'm moving to but I don't know if I care to get involved with a new one. I've been thinking of quitting lolita anyway, maybe this is a sign that it's time for me to say goodbye.

[Anonymous No.10343354]

>>10342587
But anon, I'm ugly. Ugly short girls can be adorably ugly-cute. Ugly tall girls can be striking amazons. I'm just plain ol' uggo.

[Anonymous No.10343407]

>>10342674
Nayrt and I've done all these things (aside from the BSoLF thing because I'm not new to the fashion) but I still haven't made real friends. I do have a small group of people who I hang out with every meetup but we only ever interact at meets, never outside of them. Whenever I bring up the possibility of hanging out outside of meets they just joke about "private" meetups and elitism and eventually change the subject. From the way they talk it sounds like none of them ever really hang out outside of meetups except the two who are roommates. Wtf do I do if I want to hang out with other lolitas without having to invite the entire community every time?

[Anonymous No.10343408]

>>10343241
You should. This is considered really rude for each of them, especially if the seller didn't mention an OK for immediate purchase in their profile or description and can prompt them to not sell to/block your SS in the future.

[Anonymous No.10343409]

>>10343316
you're living in the eu and you've never gotten your ss to mark down your packages? do you enjoy throwing away your money?

[Anonymous No.10343416]

>>10343057
poor

[Anonymous No.10343442]

>>10342840
Ok incel

[Anonymous No.10343448]

>>10343408
The seller was selling like two of them and the same buyer commented on second one asking if it’s available and they may have a discount for buying two. The seller replied that one is sold out just casually, so idk.

[Anonymous No.10343452]

>>10343408
it probably did say it was immediately available then.

[Anonymous No.10343469]

>>10343352
It's weird that you wanted to buy a house based on where the comm is but you also wanted to quit Lolita

[Anonymous No.10343471]

>>10343409
I thought you wouldn't be able to get your money back if the parcel is marked down. Turns out you don't get your money back either way. There's a new order on its way to me right now but I forgot to ask my SS to mark it down and am feeling really stupid which is ruining my excitement for new clothes. I wish I could cancel it now.

[Anonymous No.10343479]

>>10343352
>now feel like I've been somehow lied to or misled
gross.

[Anonymous No.10343493]

my boyfriend bought me my dream dress on lacemarket last month as a valentines day present
he finally told me about it as the seller has not invoice him or replied to any of his messages on lm for a whole month
now im just sad that this dress was almost mine

[Anonymous No.10343499]

I've had quite a few good purchases these few months! I'm currently waiting warmly for them to arrive.

[Anonymous No.10343511]

I'm sad cherry cheezy is leaving lolita

[Anonymous No.10343512]

>>10343511
She’s been hinting at it for a long time with vauge sadposts so I’m not surprised. She hasn’t been in the fashion for that long, I wonder what made her leave for good.

[Anonymous No.10343520]

>>10343512
Prob prefers other styles better
Also think she’s saving up since she’s not doing menhera goods anymore

[Anonymous No.10343531]

>>10343493
I'd message them yourself. The seller probably got spooked by the account bc probably no feedback and a man.

[Anonymous No.10343532]

My boyfriend tried to encourage me to buy Name of Guardian, by the time I committed to it, the second wave was already sold out in my preferred ct and colors.
F

[Anonymous No.10343534]

>>10343352
living inner-city is costly and fruitless. Homeboy is doing you a favor.

[Anonymous No.10343535]

>>10343532
If you had to be encouraged to buy it, you probably didn't like it that much so it's better you save the money for another release you like more! And based on the success of this series Meta will probably make more similar pieces.

[Anonymous No.10343536]

>>10342737
Well, uh, yeah? The person I'm thinking of acts like and has the morals of an usual female costhot, only he's male... But maybe the better word is something like "fuckboy"... You know the type.

There's definitely more like him out there making good money and getting popular too. They simply go unnoticed and get away with things because they're male and whatnot.

I guess this also means there are also female cucks and simps because I am one
>tfw wasted money on him only for him to ignore me and even let his anger out on me on multiple occasions
h-haha

[Anonymous No.10343538]

>>10343535
Not so much. It's painful how much I want it, but I'm also currently leaning on him pretty hard, it's been a rough year for us both. I could hardly believe him at first that we could indeed afford it, then I missed the bloodbath.
Sucks, holding out a grim hope they'll MTO or release other colors.

[Anonymous No.10343549]

>>10342674
>>10343407
I'm the OP of the forever alone picture and damn, I could have replied exactly that. I've been in multiple meets but that's not my point... I often see in ig pictures of little groups of lolita friends that are in my city and I just feel so awkward sending messages over and over asking for a coffee or a tea. However they interact with me in social media (giving me likes and so) so I don't understand, if they like me, why they don't want to meet? And if they don't, why making the efford to keep the online contact?

And we're talking about 27-33 year old folks (I'm 28), so no little noob baby lolitas...

Anyway I guess I'll go back to my cave.

[Anonymous No.10343551]

>>10343531
He got me stuff before for other holidays so he got feedback on his account, so at least i know thats not the issue
he said all his messages were marked unread so idk they just ghosting him
Might try that tho, thank you

[Anonymous No.10343656]

>>10340590
I'm hanging in there. Appreciate your thoughts.

[Anonymous No.10343674]

>feel guilty about spending money on burando, even off-brand and cosplay
>do it anyway
>repeat
So you gulls ever feel that? Even if you deserve it and make enough money to justify your purchases? I don't know if it's some kind of trauma or what.

[Anonymous No.10343675]

>>10343416
you mean smart with money and not ridiculous?

[Anonymous No.10343681]

>>10343674
Yup, every time.

[Anonymous No.10343692]

>>10343675
no, poor

[Anonymous No.10343700]

>>10343692
o k good luck with that unhealthy attitude towards money

[Anonymous No.10343863]

>>10342749
Reads like a joke post imo

[Anonymous No.10343939]

>>10343692
>haha look at me wasting money on dumb shit that isn't worth it. u mad poorfag?
everytime

[Anonymous No.10343990]

>>10343043
Why did this make my heart hurt?

Stay safe, lolitas.

[[e-mail] No.10344002]

>>10343269
Cinema doll in lavender since I grabbed the dress without headbow and I doubt anyone would be willing to split their set - didn’t wanna deal with begging people to sell it either.

I don’t have money issues just sometimes itfeelsbadman.jpg but in the end it’s worth it! I know I‘d be internally whining at myself forever until I get it anyway

[Anonymous No.10344068]

>high school boyfriend reaches out to me online, this isn't unexpected because our parents are best friends but Its nice to not avoid eachother for once
>its been 10 years, I'm happy to see him grow as a person, we talk about our current interests, really chill
>he mentions us being dumb teens in relationships
>I laugh and agree
>he says "our relationship definitely needed to end"
>I agree, we were both growing apart
>he mentioned "I'm glad I did it the way I did when I did"
>Is this motherfucker serious
>he broke up with me a week before prom after my mother and I worked on sewing a custom dress based off of one of his favorite video games (based on some of sakizo's designs)
>he cut off all contact with me, told his friends (my only friends at the time) to ghost me
>show up to prom alone because I bought the damn tickets and the entire school teases me because I'm that anime loser that of course was "lying" about having a boyfriend from another school
>he fucking ghosts me after 3 years, leaving me friendless with no one to turn to (my family despite being cool enough to help me with this dress was highly abusive and I used his home as refuge)
>the breakup also lead to his parents divorce (they were rocky anyway but me not being around anymore caused tension,as I did all the household chores and helped in other ways he refused to in exchange for me using their house as refuge)

I was happy to reconnect and maybe be friends again but "I'm glad I did it the way I did the when I did"
the audacity.

[Anonymous No.10344713]

I just wanted to say that the moderator is a little bitch. All these women talking shit about men and I do some shit talking too and then get banned. The moderator is a hypocrite just like so many others here.

[Anonymous No.10344756]

>>10343352
for some reason I thought it was Lightning in the gif

[Anonymous No.10344776]

>>10344068
Wow sounds like a shitty guy. I'll be your bf and treat you way better my lady!

[Anonymous No.10344812]

White trash weeb, will you be my queen?

[Anonymous No.10344869]

>>10344776
it didn't work out because it turns out I'm gay

[Anonymous No.10346711]

Gulls u owe me a thotlita thread.

[Anonymous No.10346919]

A friend of mine recently had almost her entire wardrobe stolen. I've spotted the thief trying to sell some of the stolen items. My friend doesn't want to involve the police though, so I guess there's nothing to be done about it, short of showing up at the girl's house with a group and just taking it?

Annoying thing is, the thief is a mod of the comm and has been spreading nasty rumors about my friend, so I don't know if others in the comm would even believe what happened. She's a very manipulative, abusive type, but puts on a good show.

Sorry for the blogpost, just wanted to vent. It's hard to just watch this happen and not be able to do anything about it.

[Anonymous No.10346933]

I cried and had a mental breakdown in line for Brice papenbrooker At Katsucon because I didn’t know he was going to be there till I saw a huge image of nagito from danganronpa

[Anonymous No.10346963]

>>10346919
Do you still have a working spine? What the fuck anon, call that shit out regardless if they believe it or not. Force your friend to involve the police too, honestly what the hell.

[Anonymous No.10347000]

>>10346963
Problem is, my friend has asked me not to call it out because she wants to leave all the drama with this girl behind her. Even if it means losing her wardrobe.

Luckily she has a well-paying job so it won't take too long to replace things, but still. It's so annoying to see.

[Anonymous No.10347308]

my knees hurt