Lifting helps you socialize with other dude bros, and socialization in general will help many break out of their shell. There's also women with a fetish for muscle men so lifting can, if nothing else, acquire one of those. Most women like muscle on a guy, but some muscle just looks retarded. When your pecs resemble a pair of titties, you've gone way to far. It's important to stretch and make sure your body stays limber. No one, except the fetishists, like the super stocky comical look. If you look like you'd tip over if I poke your chest, you've gone way too far. That being said, your face is more attractive then your body. Nice eyes, defined hands, good hair to run hands through... these are the things that the ladies look at. Women have far more varied taste then men, and that makes things difficult. Most hot women might have one or two men who don't like their look, but most men agree, "She's hot." If you sit women down, and have them talk about who they find hot... you'll find every single woman in the room has a difference preference. Some like blondes, some hate blondes. Some like beards, some hate beards. Some like wiry, other like buff, others like twink mode. Some die for blue eyes while others find it too effeminate and like soulful brown. Some like 'real men', others like what might very well be a drug addict. Now, most girls do like 'fit' men. If you've been on your computer your whole life, and never see the sun, it's going to be true that you look like play dough, skinny or not, and that's not a good look for anyone. You need a little strength. Generally, you want to make sure you can at the very least pick up a woman without too much strain. They don't want to break you.