I think it really only bothered me when the newbies do it then complain how hard lolita is, like if they’re two months into looking for a dress they already know is highly coveted and rare, and they complain that it’s so hard to find, the dress is so expensive, they found it on yja but need somebody to hold their hand and oops the auction sold to someone else, they preordered it from AP but now they can’t go to their tea party because their first dress won’t ship out for months, they ““debuted”” in some dress cgl said was popular but still don’t have enough insta followers, etc etc. Or they spend all their money on an expensive “rare” and “popular” dress and cgl still posted them in the ita thread because they’re coording with cheapskate loliables, or nitpicks their makeup despite the popular dress.
I mean, lolita is fairly easy. There’s cheaper cute dresses that come in sets on lacemarket or the FB groups. If you chose to start on hard mode, don’t turn around and complain it’s too hard.
It never really bothered me that some people collect covetable dresses, it comes with its own problems. If you took the list of coveted dresses posted above as a shopping list, you’d end up with a messy wardrobe that has at least six different substyles in it, good luck keeping up and maintaining six different style wardrobes just so you don’t look like shit in your “rare and popular” dress. That’s on top of the fact that, by the time someone says a dress is a status piece, it’s quite often already expensive and difficult to find. So you’re basically wasting time, money and space storing dresses you may or may not like, all because some collective strangers on the internet said it’s pretty. Not to mention some fall out of favour pretty fast, too. When I got into lolita covetable prints were Dreaming Macaron, Rose Jail, Midsummer Night’s Dream. Now you barely hear about any of those prints.