I don’t know about sicker than pedophilia, but when I was in grad school, I dated a girl who was secretly into the feeder thing.
We dated about two months, before we got an apartment together. In the first month, I noticed I was getting a bit chubby but didn’t realize it was her. I just chalked it up to grad school making me too busy and tired for good choices.
I didn’t know what was actually happening until I met one of her exes through mutual friends and he told me she liked to move in with guys who were in relatively good shape but had low self esteem and gradually overfeed them while doing other manipulative shit. He had dated her for about a year and had gained almost a hundred pounds. She left him because he went on anxiety meds that made him lose weight and he refused to stop taking them.
I didn’t really believe it because he was an ex and could have been full of shit. And I was probably just gaining weight because I quit going to the gym to spend more time with her. Also she was hot, in shape, had a high libido, and I was turning into a fatass. So I just ignored him.
About two months later, I get on the computer we shared and find she forgot to log out of tumblr. The dash is full of feeder fetish fanart/fanfic.
I confront her about everything and because I’m thinking with my dick, and also worried that I’m too fat to be single again because I’ve gained about 30 pounds, I tell her if she was into this stuff, I’d let her do it (within reason) because if she was happy, I’d be happy.
She said okay, she would like me to enjoy it, too, but the next day, her demeanor toward me changed. She withdrew all affection and ignored me. A week later I came back from class and all her shit was gone and she’d blocked me on FB.
I guess it wasn’t fun for her if I knew about it and she couldn’t gaslight me. Idk if all feeders are manipulative like that but I really don’t want to find out.