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Summer crossboarder influx edition

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>> No.9907081
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9907081

tfw just because you can sew stuffed animals, people assume you're a professional (and cheap) tailor

>> No.9907173

>>9907081
This Is strangely specific ..?

>> No.9907225

Man I just really love lolita.

>> No.9907227
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Reposting from last thread. I want to see if anyone has experienced something similar. It'd make me feel better.

>fall head over heels for a girl
>it's been a long time since I actually found a girl attractice
>She's a genuine 10/10 to me in looks and personality
>loves all the same weeby cosplay trash as me
>I'm just a dumb lovesick puppy whose brain turns to mush when around her
>get constantly tongue tied and my mind completely blanks so often
>do my best to catch her attention
>takes every ounce of my courage to just make nice small talk with her and talk about some anime without my head exploding
>help her out every now and then
>nothing insane or stalkerish but trying to make it known I'm going out of my way to talk to her
>She's friendly and receptive to me
>She comes out as gay

why must god hurt me in ways I thought I could never be hurt

I'm happy for her and all but jesus christ I never thought I'd be so upset

>> No.9907232
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>bisexual lolita in a relationship with a man
>miss girls so much that I start to look up escorts who sleep with women
>they cost as much as brand for an hour!?
Guess I'm just going to keep buying brand and hoping some manic pixie dream lesbian will fall from the sky.

>> No.9907233

>>9907227
is she full gay or possibly bi or pan? cause i feel like a lot of gay peeps nowadays have a wider spectrum preference. either way good for her, im sorry man but it probably wasnt meant to be. or also she might be saying that to let you down easy but not straight to your face? i hope thats not the case but it happens sometimes. either way appreciate her friendship and do the best you can to move on- youll be alright

also, same except i found a 10/10 guy who started dating a girl a tad bit cuter than me right before i decided to confess, so i feel ya. also i had been talking to him for over a year and thats how long it took for me to work up my courage. i tried keeping the friendship but ended up being ignored. oh well, life goes on. id be lying if i said i wasnt salty and secretly hope they break up so i get my chance to at least properly be rejected. but gotta respect peoples choices.

>> No.9907242

>>9907232
What's the difference other than the genitalia?

>> No.9907245

>>9907233
It's possible. She's a few years my junior and might just be going through a phase now that she's started uni. I don't think she was trying to let me down nicely. Most friends said it looked like we got along super well and it looked like she was into me. I'll be honest and say I hope it is just a phase and once she gives it a try she'll turn around. I for a fact know she's never even kissed another person, so she may have ideas in her head which are not entirely true.

I'm happy for her and I hope she finds a cute girl. But like, it's honestly somewhat soul crushing. I've never seen a more beautiful girl in my life (although I do have different tastes to most guys) and her personality was just to die for. I'm scared I'll never find someone better and forever be unhappy comparing new potential partners to her who just won't stack up. I wouldn't want to put an innocent party through that just because I can't get over her.

I hope the best for you gull and may you find another 10/10 cute boy.

>> No.9907310

>>9907034
>complains about crossboarders
>doesn't even know what bump limit is
Retard

>> No.9907362
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>>9907034
I feel like the r9k boogeyman is a smokescreen to hide something much worse

>> No.9907363

>>9907081
>you sew x right?
>can you sew totally unrelated thing?

>> No.9907365

>>9907227
this is why you dont put your love interest on a pedestal

>> No.9907373

>>9907365
It's hard not when they become the first person you're attracted to in like a year. I thought I had become asexual until I met her and all my feelings came back.

It's not her fault I feel this way but it's going to be hard to let go of my feelings again.

>> No.9907393

>>9907232
People say dump him a lot on here but legitimately leave him if you're like this
For his sake, cheating on him or resenting him because he's not a woman is onyl going to cause stress on him and strain your relationship in the future

>> No.9907398

I'm incredibly nervous to wear my first ott coord out in public. I've been planning it for months, and I am hoping it's perfect. But I'm scared it won't be and that everyone is going to laugh at me at the concert. It's a huge city so maybe I shouldn't be super concerned, but you know

>> No.9907401

>>9907245
No offense but you sound like a nice guy beta orbiter. You want her, she just wants to be friends. You confess your feelings, when comes out as gay. But shes in college and never kissed someone (really?) And you are hoping her gayness is "just a phase" so you'll orbit around hoping she gives you a chance umm until proven it isn't.

Sad.

>> No.9907406

>>9907401
I didn't confess, as far as I'm aware she doesn't know about my romantic feelings. Also I'm Australian and college life doesn't exist here if you're implying that sort of thing. She comes from a religious family, is shy and has atypical interests so I do believe she hasn't kissed anyone especially if she's just come to terms that she's actually gay. That's totally believable.

I'm hoping just like the other anon hopes her crush's relationship crashes and burns. I'm not going to lie to make myself look like a better anonymous person over the internet.

You make a lot of assumptions about my character. I'm trying to move on and not hang onto this, that's why I wanted to get my feelings and upset out here and see if anyone has dealt with something similar to help me get over it. I am not placing my bets on her being a psuedo-lesbian and turning around. I'll stay friends with her and support her because she is a sweetheart of a girl and my feelings towards her as a friend and a person haven't changed but I'm going to do my best to get my romantic feelings to go away. However, easier said than done.

>> No.9907407

>>9907401
Lol harsh but true.

Also dude needs to realise his whinging comes across as creepy predatory. She just ain't that into you, move on and lower your standards - probs aren't worth a 10/10 yourself.

>> No.9907411

>>9907407
I said before. My tastes aren't standard. To others she was a 6-7.

>> No.9907414

>>9907406
>She comes from a religious family, is shy and has atypical interests so I do believe she hasn't kissed anyone especially if she's just come to terms that she's actually gay. That's totally believable.

And then says
>You make a lot of assumptions about my character.

And you wonder why.
Come on, a lot of peeps know they're gay from an early age. Stop your own assumptions if you don't like it so much

>> No.9907416

>>9907414
I don't get what you're trying to say. She's told me this first hand.

>> No.9907417

>>9907411

>To others she was a 6-7

Ouch.

>> No.9907419

>>9907416

I think we all bloody well know if we like guys or girls. I'm brushing in fairly broad strokes but in general guys don't get it - they think with their dick. They either like boys or girls. It's pretty straightforward imo. For us it's a lot more abstract, it's the fluttery feeling you get when you see an attractive girl you admire or when you hold hands jokingly or experiment. It's a lot different, but it's silly to just assume 'it's a phase' and wait around like some weirdo when she clearly says she's gay. Even if it is a phase, you're not respecting her boundaries by assuming it is. Who cares if it is.

So fucking tired of guys assuming just because we don't kiss someone we're just 'in a phase.'

>> No.9907420

>>9907417
Yeah like that somehow makes her more suitable to him because she's not thot level or something

>> No.9907423

Poor guy tho

>> No.9907427

>>9907419
My sentiments exactly, you worded that well

Dude needs to hop off this pity parade thinking it's an isolated thing to have unrequited love. It happens to pretty much everyone at some stage.

>> No.9907433

>>9907419
You are really triggered by me and you're reading comprehension is total garbage.

I didn't say I assume it was a phase. I said I hoped because of my own selfish wants just like everybody on the earth has and there's a possibility. I didn't say I'd wait around for her to change her mind. I've told you in very clear words I'm working on moving on and not waiting around. I said I'm not placing any bets of her being a psuedo-lesbian, as far as I'm concerned, she's gay and any chances I have are dead. You just seem like you want to use me as a punching bag.

I've said to her it doesn't change how I see her as a person and don't really care as long as it doesn't effect our friendship because I know she is shy and needs all the help she can get from friends. You just seem extremely angry at someone else in your life and are taking it out on me instead.

>also assuming I don't know anything about the sexuality spectrum because I'm a guy and therefore I must be completely binary in my sexuality and don't understand anything

>> No.9907434

>>9907427
The whole point of my post is to find other people like me to help cope with the feelings. When could you ever draw that I think I am special in this feeling?

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>>9907227
Straight attractive women don't like anime m8.

>> No.9907447

>>9907434

how about you just take it like everyone else who doesn't turn into a jealous homicidal maniac and find something else to distract you. Not everyone is gonna find you attractive or be attracted to you and that's fine.
One day you may meet someone who has mutual feelings for you though probs will be closer to your 3-/10 beta status

>> No.9907449

>>9907447
>jealous homicidal maniac
You're very upset over just some guy who fell in love with a girl and wants genuine emotional advice on dealing with moving on.

It's really easy to argue against an arguement you built for me.

>> No.9907454

>>9907411
>labels women using rating scores out of 10
>expects sympathy from gulls

How much disappointment were you after today?

>> No.9907457

>>9907454
8/10

>> No.9907460

>>9907034
Hello, am /fit/ xboarder.
How do I fit into board culture? You guys seem nice than the other boards but whenever you have some fight it turns strangely catty, why is that?
Also, what's the appeal of Lolita beyond looking cute?
To keep it feels
>tfw no cosplay gf

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>gull gets increasingly more enraged and unhinged the more the subject of "the friendzone" is discussed
Makes you wonder how many clueless guys she has led on in her life

>> No.9907466

>>9907460
>what's the appeal of Lolita beyond looking cute?
The fact men are repulsed by it, probably. Not all of them, I know some guys do like lolita for their own reasons; but most of them find it disturbing or unappealing, which is great in my opinion. I'd rather not be approached and flirted with on the daily.

>> No.9907467

>>9907227
This >>9907233
When something like this happens to me I try to avoid them for a bit, maybe take the "sour grapes" approach to take the edge off

>> No.9907474

>>9907433
Ignore that bitch anon, getting over someone sucks and they don't want others to deal with emotions in a healthy way

>> No.9907476

>>9907393
We're in an open relationship? I don't resent him, I love him. I just also really miss girls but am too shy to make a move.

>> No.9907479

>>9907466
>not bantering with the creepy chick in your office that obviously hates men just to get a rise out of her
In my experience it's only skin deep, you weirdos make good friends IRL

>> No.9907483

>>9907474

Aw I struck a nerve didn't I.

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>>9907034
>tfw my schedule got changed last minute today (was originally gonna de Lin Manuel Miranda’s Hamilton hassle free tonight, read: not spending $50 in Lyft rides back home and to work the day after)
>tfw my PTO for AX could potentially be unapproved at the last minute and my hand is always over the “two weeks notice” killswitch in the event that actually happens

>> No.9907488

>>9907479
Maybe I'm retarded but I have no clue what you're talking about. I'm talking about random men in public who at most stare from afar or yell stupid shit from a distance because they're too intimidated to approach us, not coworkers.

>> No.9907493

>>9907466
>>9907488
>i'm so attractive I need to give myself a handicap just to get through the day
Crossboarders are getting better at bait

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>>9907493
>lolita responding to a question about lolita
>lol crossboarder baiting
Literally what the fuck are you talking about?

>> No.9907506

>>9907493
Wearing cute clothes that repel unwanted male attention is a handicap now? lmao

>> No.9907509

>>9907503
Sure you are.
You're either delusional to the point of insanity, or just a pretty creative r9k fellow

>> No.9907513

This shit thread needs to be nuked into oblivion

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>>9907406

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>>9907232
>>9907476
Oh my god same anon. My situation is almost exactly the same. Y-you in or near Georgia by any chance?

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>>9907531
>>9907476
>open relationships

>> No.9907541

>>9907460
The appeal of lolita is that it's cute. The appeal of most of this fashion is that it's cute. It's the same reason I collect plush toys, prefer collecting certain Pokemon, or love Hello Kitty. It's just an aesthetic one does enjoy.
>>9907509
They aren't actually baiting. I don't wear lolita, but wear a style that's generally unlikable to the male population because it leaves way too much up to the imagination. I enjoy the fact that I don't get hit on wearing the fashion. It makes my day walking around town much more enjoyable. I wouldn't get the same treatment wearing a pair of jeans, fitted t-shirt, or other clothing accessible at my local stores.
>>9907479
I agree with >>9907488 that it's about avoiding those men who say bizarre stuff, harass people, and mouth off in public. I've never had any issue with a co-worker being inappropriate, but I might just be lucky.

>> No.9907545

>>9907232
I am in a happy relationship, too. But woman will always be appealing to me. There is a type of softness, exciting feeling and beauty only a girl could radiate. I feel you anon

>> No.9907546

>>9907466

I get hit on by weirder people in lolita. One guy persisted at me while I was in lolita and asked if I was about to break up with my boyfriend. So I wouldn't say that men are repulsed by it, just that you attract more weirdos.

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>>9907533
>Caring this much about other people's relationship dynamics that work for them but aren't your thing
Wow anon do you hate premarital sex, interracial relationships and homosexuals too?

>> No.9907548

>>9907547

That's one hell of a jump anon. Chill your strawman tactics.

>> No.9907551

>>9907547
Imagine being this mad someone reaction face'd your shit 'relationship dynamic'

>> No.9907577

>>9907460
Lolita is frilly and feminine and a little unusual but not too weird. The clothes are usually pretty good quality. It’s fun to make complete outfits because the style has many parts. There are meet ups with others who wear it so it’s a social thing too.

>>9907541
I don’t really consider classic or gothic lolita to be that cute, only sweet.

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>>9907547
>relationship dynamics

>> No.9907580

>>9907577
Sweet is absurdly cute but that doesn't mean classic and gothic can't be cute either.

>> No.9907604
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>be 22
>go to a convention with friends of the same age
>everyone there is at least 5 years younger
>kids there talk more about youtubers than anime
>less cosplayers than last year
>only cosplayers older than us we see are either wizards or old couples
>only good cosplays in there are the league of legends ones with hired cosplayers

it's over isn't it boys

if you're past 20 and enjoy a cosplay convention it's basically over, you're past the age, it's gone and there's nothing you can do about it. I felt like a manchild for the first time in my life, a fully grown man with 22 years of age dressed up as seto kaiba walking around a convention. I mean, it's fucking retarded, a brutal reality pill I was forced to swallow last week. Adulthood is so sad, I finally realised there is nothing fun for me anymore, the only path is masters, job, start a family and die

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>incels larping as gulls who are into getting cucked
these threads are getting too meta

>> No.9907623

>>9907619
these threads have basically always been incel traps.

>> No.9907626

>>9907604
>I finally realised there is nothing fun for me anymore, the only path is masters, job, start a family and die

If you end up having children and become a good parent, you'll find out that you can relive all the fun of childhood through your own children as they discover Darth Vader is Luke's dad and all that bullshit.

>> No.9907631

>>9907580
I think most clsssic and gothic lolitas aspire to be elegant but there are some that do cute and some cute elements, absolutely. Lolita fashion as a whole is about more than just cute though. And some of us who love the frills don’t want to be cute at all.

>> No.9907644

>>9907483
Most people who have at least tried to get into a fulfilling relationship know how much it sucks to get rejected. Why would you make fun of someone dealing with that? It's not even bants it's just mean.

>>9907577
So it... It's really just a fringe fashion? For some reason browsing other threads made me think there was an ageplay portion.

>> No.9907649

>>9907644
Some age players in the West have glommed onto it but as a fashion, no, age play is not something the majority of us have any interest in at all. Nothing sexual at all associated with the fashion, in fact, kinky or otherwise.

>> No.9907652

>>9907644
>So it... It's really just a fringe fashion?

Yes absolutely. There are kinksters around who try to needle their way into the lolita sub-culture, but they were kinksters before they discovered lolita fashion.

It's a Japanese street fashion that young women embraced as a rebellious declaration of their resistance to Japanese culture. Lolita fashion allowed girls to dress in a way that made them feel unique and special, without any sexual connotations (look at examples of lolita from j-fash magazines, you don't see more than a few inches of skin showing on the legs, arms, and below the neck). The fact that it was weird and repulsive to society was what drew women to it initially.

People on /cgl/ will shit on Tyler, but she actually put out some decent videos about the history of lolita fashion in Japan. They're short but contain a lot of good info: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=x6BII3maB1c

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>>9907466
I wish this were the case with me. I’m a fairly uggo girl but whenever I wear lolita men tend to flock to me and it freaks me the hell out. When I go out in a metal t shirt and skinny jeans men don’t approach me. Obviously unwanted attention isn’t going to stop me from wearing lolita but I don’t want to get approached.

>> No.9907677

>>9907411
>other guys are jerks who would judge her poorly for her looks
>but to me she's a 10/10 because she's uniquely what I want
Yeah, not creepy or beta at all.

>> No.9907678

>>9907671
Up your RBF game and glare at them like they are an insect. If they approach you, just don’t speak.

>> No.9907682

>>9907677
The way he worded things and posted it twice and is interacting with the replies instead of just saying his feels and going on his way is indeed, creepy.

>> No.9907685

>>9907433
>hah you triggered snowflake
>everyone's selfish like me so you should understand
>you are a bully who likes punching me
>I didn't confess my feelings but also told her being gay didn't change how I felt about her
>as long as she doesn't stop being my friend

>>9907454
>>9907457
kek

>> No.9907688

>>9907682
I dunno about that anon. Isn't the purpose of these threads to discuss feels anonymously?

>> No.9907693

>>9907688
I mean, sure, but that doesn't mean other anonymous people can't comment on it. it's an open forum. If you want to write it down anonymously without anyone reading it, write in a private journal or diary.

>> No.9907696

>>9907362
What could be worse than vindictive gulls or hideous perma-virgins?

>> No.9907698

>>9907577
I think the reasoning is often the same although you can switch out 'cute' for 'elegant' or any other feeling invoked by the fashion. It would still go back to they just genuinely enjoy the aesthetic. I personally find the darker side of things to be endearing, and that's why my bedroom is crafted to match. I take delight in the appearance. It's pretty, endearing, and comforting. Sorry, I guess I could've used other descriptors alongside 'cute' to cover more bases.
>>9907644
What? Yeah, it's just a fringe fashion. There's a lot here who have a really bad taste in their mouth toward age play due to the tendency of age play people to share images of those not involved with the lifestyle. There's no age play to it; there's only a few people who coincidentally like the fashion while being involved in that lifestyle.

You shouldn't make that assumption because it's no different then those who have confronted me to ask, "Is the spiked collar you wear a fetish thing?" No, it's just a piece of jewelry. It can make you look like an asshole if you assume aspects about people's sexuality based on what they choose to wear...

>> No.9907699

>>9907693
Sure, I was just saying it wasn't creepy is all

>> No.9907702

>>9907696
/fit/ brodudes like me with an interest in nerdy shit

>> No.9907706

>>9907702
aka failed normies. get out

>> No.9907709

>>9907702
That's a bad thing? I think it's cute. I like fit dudes though, assuming you're actually fit and not gay.

>> No.9907710

>tfw politics ruined my comm
Like what the hell happen to make politics so decisive? Has it always been like but I only started to notice it in the last election?

>> No.9907715

>>9907710
It's always been bad, but with the rise of SJWism it's gotten a lot worse. Suddenly you have people our age pushing horrifically regressive, reactionary, fundementalist Bush-era ideas akin to "either you're with us or you're a terrorist" and "no platform for anyone who disagrees with me" and calling it "progressive". Making it even worse, the Boomer establishment is supporting them, and anointing them as the voices of our generation.

>> No.9907718

>>9907706
I-I have a white collar internship
>>9907709
Everyone on /fit/ is gay though...
I kid of course. Half my reason for getting swol was to do shirtless cosplays, only problem is I'm more into vidya than anime and link doesn't have many shirtless moments. He's one of the few blonde guys in vidya besides... Ezreal I guess? But he's a twink so

>> No.9907720

>>9907715
Weird it's the trumptards who always start shit in the group. Then the other side just keeps posting links to news shit. I wish mods would fucking do something instead of leaving it on for 5 hours. Like start banning people for off topic shit.

>> No.9907721

>>9907718
Wait, what? You could just wear a wig. If you ask nicely, people in either the 'Cosplay Help' or 'Skincare/makeup/hair' thread will spoon feed you a store to buy a wig that won't look like shit from Spirit Halloween's clearance section.

>> No.9907723

>>9907688
Yes that’s the purpose of the threads but most people dump their feels, maybe make 1-2 more remarks and then let it go. this guy posted 2x, is making replies and is practically mourning something that was basically just a nonexistent relationship that he had built up in his own head. Sure he may have feels about it but for some of us, imagining a guy who is supposed to be a friend thinking like this about us well...feels creepy.

>> No.9907725

>>9907702
If it’s a genuine interest, no one usually minds, it’s the cross board trolling, shitposting and baiting that gets people upset.

>> No.9907733

>>9907720
5 hours? As if mods don’t have lives and maybe only check the group once a day and deal with reported threads then? They aren’t babysitters.
If your comm has political polarity, ban the topic or ban off topic posts in general, end of the problem. It’s a fashion group, jfc.

>> No.9907739

>>9907242
Girls are soft

>> No.9907744

>>9907411
>>9907417
>>9907420
Says the 4/10s

>> No.9907745

>>9907531
I wish, anon. I'm across the Atlantic...

>> No.9907749

>>9907721
Yeah but I like my hair color. I know it's dumb but since I have the blue eyes to go with it and don't want to deal with colored contacts I figure it's just better to stick with what I have.
I think I might do two-face at some point too since we're of similar builds.
I'll make sure to use /cgl/ as a resource as I get closer to doing one though

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>>9907619
I for one, legitimately love it when my guy fucks other women. But with the caveat that I'm involved and or know ever single small detail about it.

>> No.9907753

>>9907749
Okay. Well, just know that if the rest of your costume is on point, nobody is going to bitch that your eye color doesn't match the character. Keep it in mind just in case you ever get bored sticking to the blonde boys.

>> No.9907754

>>9907723
Do you not do the same to your friends when you deal with unrequited love?
It's very human to imagine yourself and some random person you had a romantic interest in as being together, even if it wasn't official. Especially if you haven't felt that kind of attraction in a while.

>> No.9907760

>>9907754
Honestly, I stop hanging out with them if it's clear that's going to be an issue on my part.

>> No.9907762

>>9907760
Some people value the relationship so much that they want to remain friends. He is one such person, but it doesn't change that if the opportunity arises he would still go for more.

>> No.9907766

>>9907720
Nearly as bad. The Trumpeteers seem to think they're doing god's work "triggering" SJWs; really they're being just as obnoxious. And probably would be just censorious if they could get away with it.

>> No.9907782

>>9907460
>Also, what's the appeal of Lolita beyond looking cute?
Everybody has their own reasons for wearing it. The cute factor is probably the one that everyone can relate to. I know I feel like I've undergone a mahou shoujo transformation into my true self when I wear lolita.

>whenever you have some fight it turns strangely catty, why is that?
We're a board full of females, muscleboi.

>> No.9907801

>>9907706
You just outed yourself as a robot
>g-get out of here, these m-m-m'ladies are ours, we saw them first

>> No.9907804

>>9907754
Yep, I’ve done it but I don’t post about it repeatedly and at length to strangers on a Mongolian basket weaving forum and milk it for attention. That’s the creepy part.

>> No.9907805
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>>9907718
Or you can just cosplay a character that doesn't require visible hair or eyes at all.
>tfw no pyramid head bf

>> No.9907824

>>9907801
lolno. /fit/ is completely about feels thread and wallowing in dumb shit. /cgl/ is bad enough already and having people clog it up with their own unrelated problems is boring.

>> No.9907845

>>9907720
Nearly as bad. The Trumpeteers seem to think they're doing god's work "triggering" SJWs; really they're being just as obnoxious. And probably would be just censorious if they could get away with it.

>> No.9907849

>>9907845
How about neither is allowed for topics. Just fashion. Why does a fashion group allow this stuff anyway? We aren't autists or basement dwelling weebs (I hope) who are incapable of connecting with various topics in their proper social places. No one needs to cram this extra crap into what is supposed to be a fun and carefree fashion group.

>> No.9907864

>>9907824
Spoken like someone who has never been on /fit/ other than to shitpost, and has never stepped into a gym
Keep blaming the world for your problems, crab-boy, I'm sure these chicks find that extremely attractive

>> No.9907867

>>9907864
Ok, larper, ok. Pretty sure you just outed yourself as someone who never goes to /fit/.

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9907870

This thread is extra garbage

>> No.9907875

>>9907870
I like this picture very much.

>> No.9907878

>>9907744
Typical behavior from pathetic creeps who know they have no chance any way.

Him lowering her supposed rating because she'd never go for him like "OMG BUT SHE'S HOT TO ME, no one else would be that interested coz irl she's only 6/10 but don't worry sweetheart ily 5eva"
Supreme beta quality male.

>> No.9907904

>join local comm
>Get asked to moderate
>Only person who actually moderates
>Everyone else just jokes with friends and ignores things until they get out of control
>Always get told I'm too much if a hardass
I need to just take a break and go back to being a lonelita

>> No.9907922

>>9907804
pretty sure the bigger creepy part is that he's seeking validation from others in the possibility of her just going through a gay phase and then riding off that as reasoning to continue contact with her *just in case*.

>> No.9907924

>>9907904
Did you at least make some friends through the comm?

>> No.9907939

>>9907904
Take a hiatus from your mod duties and take some time to think and get unbothered, then decide what to do.

>> No.9907972

>>9907750
>tfw no cuckqueen gf

>> No.9908009

>>9907922
But I'm not. Never once asked for validation on if she's going through a phase.

>> No.9908013

>>9908009
Shut up and go away, none of this is even cgl feels related, go find another more generic feels thread to shit up, please.

>> No.9908015

>>9908013
Nah.

>> No.9908019

>>9908009
If you transition now, perhaps you'll still have a chance with her. How strong is your love?

>> No.9908058

>>9907227
You're not entitled to women, faggot. Suck it up.

>> No.9908061

>>9908058
Where are you pulling entitlement from?

>> No.9908062

>>9908061
Liking someone just 'cause they're into the same stuff as you doesn't mean you're entitled to them. It just means you have stuff in common.

>She's friendly and receptive to me
'Cause guess what, that's what friends do.

>> No.9908066

>>9908062
I know. But why do you think I think that way? I'm happy for her that she's come to terms with herself.

>> No.9908069

>>9908066
Because you sounded upset that she didn't like you back. You aren't entitled to her, and if you were truly happy, you wouldn't be lamenting this or posting about it.

>> No.9908073

>>9908069
I am upset she didn't like me back. I think that's a normal reaction. Unrequited love is something people experience and it hurts. I don't think I'm entitled to her love in any capacity.

I just want to hear other people's stories because I'm upset and hearing other people who have gone through the same thing makes me feel better.

>> No.9908078

>>9908069
it's perfectly reasonable to be upset someone doesn't return your feelings
that's part of being a normal person you lemon

>> No.9908087

>>9908073
>>9908078
>I like a girl
>she doesn't like me back
>this makes me upset
Sounds like entitlement. The fact that you're going on and on about this especially cements this. You'd just be happy for her and that's it. Your own feelings in this don't matter. Acting like they do is entitlement.

>> No.9908091

>>9908087
You're a sociopath if you've never felt upset that someone doesn't like you back. I don't expect her to like me, I never expected her to reciprocate the feelings.

I am upset because I have to get rid of these feelings of love which feel nice to have.

>> No.9908093

Wew.

>> No.9908094

>>9908091
>I never expected her to reciprocate the feelings

Didn't you though? That's why you pursued her. Because you expected her to feel the same.

>> No.9908101

>>9908094
No I pursued her because she was the first person I've ever felt attraction for in over a year since my last relationship ended. I see girls and I think they're pretty but I've never felt the feelings of infatuation about anyone except her.

I wanted to take the chance because it's so rate even if I would get hurt and nothing would come of it. Nothing ventured, nothing gained.

Are you telling me that every person who gets upset that their feelings aren't reciprocated is just an incel entitled beta? You are a sociopath.

>> No.9908102

>>9908094
Where does he imply he thinks he's entitled to her feelings?
If somebody dumped your friend and they were sad about it would you tell them to suck it up and stop being entitled? This is similar to that. There's nothing wrong with him being upset she doesn't reciprocate. There's only a problem if he ignores what she said/gets mad at her for it.

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>>9908101
>Sounds like entitlement. The fact that you're going on and on about this especially cements this. You'd just be happy for her and that's it. Your own feelings in this don't matter. Acting like they do is entitlement.

>> No.9908113

>>9908111
You can repeat what you want as much as you want. Doesn't make it true. I just want to hear about other people's stories.

>> No.9908120

>>9908101
I just genuinely don't understand. So, yes, if you like someone and they don't like you back and you bitch about it, you kind of sound entitled to them. If you REALLY liked them, you would have been happy with their choice and disregard your own feelings in the matter.
>I like someone, but they don't like me back, they like someone else
>because I like them and want what's best for them, I'm happy that they're happy

Does that not make sense?

>>9908102
What else would there be to do but move on? If you like someone and they don't like you back, that's tough. That's just life.

>There's only a problem if he ignores what she said/gets mad at her for it.
And this happens more often than you think.

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>>9907878
>>9908058
>>9908087
>Your own feelings in this don't matter. Acting like they do is entitlement.
I can only imagine what type of frumpy, down syndrome lookalike that would get so upset over anon feeling bad about this and nothing else.

>> No.9908127

>>9908120
I'm not bitching about it. I am saying I am upset. I'm not angry at her for being gay?

It's almost as if I can be happy for her and be upset that I have to get rid of my own feelings. It's not like I'm dumping my feelings onto her and telling her how I'm so upset she's gay trying to guilt her?

Whether or not these feelings are bad or good, I have them and I need to deal with them but you have this massive problem with people feeling things. I can't disregard my feelings because if I could I would and there wouldn't be a problem.

I am very happy for her and it makes me smile that today she started talking to me about the type of girl she likes. I'm not angry or bitter towards her and who she is.

>> No.9908140

>>9908127
You being upset sounds like you're bitching about it, honestly. I don't know how else to say this.
You can and should be happy for her, because it sounds like she trusted you enough to come out to you. Because you were a friend. Weren't you? Or did you just want to fuck her? Be honest.

Those feelings you have are unnecessary and just incomprehensible, really. You only have yourself to blame for them.

>> No.9908145 [DELETED] 

>>9908127
you're talking to a retard who conflates being upset at unrequited feelings to believing that you're entitled to requited feelings. at this point, even if they could understand that simple idea, they probably wouldn't admit it

>> No.9908147

>been talking to super cool qt
>meet up at con
>super excited
>won’t hang out with me at all
>only wants to bang
>cry like a dipshit because sex is terrifying
>apologize anyway because I still want to at some point
>doesn’t matter ignored
>can’t stop sobbing lol

I hate everything. I’ll never be good enough for anyone besides getting fucked. I just want to puke myself skinny so someone will treat me like more than an easy fuck.

>> No.9908148

>>9908120
>if you like someone and they don't like you back and you bitch about it, you kind of sound entitled to them
>if you bitch about it
>in the feels thread

Anon this is a thread for sharing feelings and anon shared a sad feel. You sound incredibly emotional immature and/or totally lacking in empathy.

My heart aches for unrequited love anon and I wish for the heartache to heal quickly

>> No.9908149

>>9908145
It just makes no sense. Entitled beta faggots are a plague on society, so I don't get why someone would be upset about something like this. You're basically admitting to being one. Who would do that?

>> No.9908150

>>9908147
Are you a girl?

>> No.9908151 [DELETED] 

>>9908149
don't @ me, retard

>> No.9908152

>>9908127
Hey anon don't listen to won't all these other cunts are saying. You don't sound whiny at all, you're just venting, it's a complex feel. You seem like a good person, especially because you're not the type who no longer wants to be friends with her now that sex is off the table.

>> No.9908154

>>9908151
Are you saying you're an entitled beta faggot?

>>9908152
Don't enable him.

>>9908148
It's a stupid feel, that's what it is. It's stupid for you to feel sad over something you have no control over, and the fact that you're fucking upset over this just shows that you have a problem.

>> No.9908155

>>9908140
what happened? why are you so mad?

>> No.9908156

>>9908154
>It's stupid for you to feel sad over something you have no control over
>"I've been feeling sad over some terrible news the past few weeks and finally decided to tell you. your mother has cancer"
>"stop being such an entitled beta faggot, dad"

>> No.9908160

>>9908150
Yes.

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>>9907227
This has happened to me around 3 or 4 times. I guess i'm not attracted to straight women.

>>9907232
date a trap. Best of both worlds, right?

>> No.9908167

>>9908160
That's depressing. This is why you shouldn't hook up with cosplay/con dudes. Go on dates with some normies and you'll feel more loved.

Nerds think they can be nice to a girl and that's all they need to do, it's so pathetic.

>> No.9908177

>>9908148
Anon samefagging to garner more sympathy and make it out like anyone else reading this trashpile actually cares about him.
Feels thread or not, you're a beta and a creep. And most likely you turned that girl gay by being in her general proximity lel

>> No.9908178

>>9908167
Sadly it seems to be about the same with normie guys.

I know it’s not healthy to be afraid of sex but I just wish it wasn’t such a big deal even to just get to know someone. I feel worthless.

>> No.9908179

>>9908152
He's a good person? Gtfo assuming nice things on cgl

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Are bloomers a replacement for panties, or should I wear both? Somebody at con says she wears panties under hers, but I always thought the bloomers were enough. Was I wrong to go pantyless??? Am still pretty new.

>> No.9908185

>>9908180
Probs bait but I'll bite.
Unless you've plugged your butthole you always wear panties too.
Also because you're new, the panties go on first.

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>>9908185
Wait, what?? I've been wearing my panties on top of my blouse!

>> No.9908189

>>9908185
>Unless you've plugged your butthole
Are you saying you only wear underwear in case you shit yourself? Are you incontinent?

>> No.9908190

>>9908189
Not incontinent, just conscious of my $15 panties in comparison to my $170 bloomers.

>> No.9908192

>>9908187
As long as you're getting both arms in I think that's acceptable

>> No.9908193

>>9908190
>$15 panties
Damn dude, I buy mine in bulk for like 75c a pair.

>> No.9908194

>>9908193
Yeah but I want that breathable, hypoallergenic, antibacterial, antimicrobial, biodynamic, sustainably sourced, bamboo blend panty fibres caressing my backside.

>> No.9908198

>>9908194
For that money they better turn my pubes to gold.

>> No.9908199

>>9908178
i like cosplay/lolita and don't think sex is a big deal. We exist.

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>>9908198
>lolita
>having pubes

>> No.9908205

>>9908198
$15 isn't so much for a pair of nice panties, some of us enjoy nice things, we don't just cheap out because "they don't show". Pleb.

>> No.9908207

>>9908204
Not all lolitas are lovelies, anon, some are hairy beests. Sorry to break it to you.

>> No.9908208

>>9908205
>not hand-making your own panties out of wool from a pampered alpaca
Feel sorry for your pussy!

>> No.9908214

>>9908207
>lovelies can't have grass on the field
Pubic hair is natural. I know some women like to shave theirs and that's fine, but there is nothing wrong with having a furry private area.

>> No.9908217

>>9908214
desu lots of dudes and ladies alike enjoy au naturale pubic regions

>> No.9908218

>>9908208
I'll stick with silk knit, thanks.

>>9908214
Nothing wrong but then some people are very put off by it too and see it as being a hairy beest so that's a thing too. To each their own. If it pleases you to be fuzzy then by all means keep your pelt.

>> No.9908220

>>9908217
I'm ginger and when I undress, my bf likes to say "Wow, it's Elmo! Can I get an autograph?"

>> No.9908223

>>9908220
Is he.... a younger guy?

Should I call the police?

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>>9907034

>Most recent Holiday Matsuri
>Have concealed carry because I live in a sketchier part of St.Petersburg
>Rooming with a friend and 2 randoms (although he knew them kind of)
>Tell friend to ask the others if they feel comfortable with my gun being in the room (with all precautions of course, in the safe, magazine removed and safety on)
>Put gun and mag in hotel safe, text everyone the combo and get dressed and go to the con
>Come back to the room and my gun and mag are on the table and see pissed off looking rando who I’m rooming with
>”ANON WHAT IS YOUR FUCKING PROBLEM ARE YOU INSANE”
>Proceeds to go on tumblr rant about “muh guns” and starts crying
>Literally says “the worst mass shooting in the US happened in THIS CITY and you literally bring a fucking GUN?” All while going full tumblrmode crying and telling me the pulse victims blood is “just as much on my hands” and how owning a gun means I don’t care about LGBTQ lives
>the inner /k/ommando is too busy laughing his ass off for me to roast this girl
>just tell her “well xxx said you and yyy both said it was ok”
>”ALL HE SAID WAS CONCEALED CARRY I DONT KNOW WHAT THAT ALL MEANS MAYBE A TAZER OR SOMETHING”
>The inner /k/ommando in me has stopped laughing and is getting ready to read her the riot act and I hit her with the following points
>If someone in pulse would have had a CWP maybe not so many lives would have been lost
>If there are that many homophobes with guns who want to kill you shouldn’t there be MORE armed LGBTQ to defend themselves and others
>If you were so scared why on God’s green earth did you physically pick up my gun, remove my gun and the magazine from the safe and put it on the bed. For all you know it could have had one in the chamber. Plus touching a strange gun? Lot of big no nos
>She’s bawling at this point. Friend and other rando come in and calm her down

Renewing my CWP tomorrow and it made me think of this. All I felt was rage

>> No.9908229

>>9908140
>Those feelings you have are unnecessary and just incomprehensible, really. You only have yourself to blame for them.

How inhuman are you? Feelings in general are unnecessary but we can't stop them. I didn't choose to like her. If you can't understand upset at unrequited love you have an inability to empathise with others.

You are really angry about something and it's not me. I'm just convenient for you to take your anger out on. I hope you get some healing because something is very obviously hurting you.

>>9908148
>>9908152
Thanks anons.

>> No.9908230

>>9908220
>>9908223
We'll that went to a weird place fast!

>> No.9908231

>>9908223
No he just has a fucking sense of humor. Jealous?

>> No.9908238

>>9908199
Wish there were more of you, it would be nice meeting someone with similar hobbies/interests that won’t push to shit you don’t want

>> No.9908241

>>9908229
ugh when will this die already no one cares

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>>9908231
WOW calm down, forest-pussy.

If you can't take the bants you need to take your taliban-looking cunt somewhere else.

>> No.9908249

>>9908208
This is like the worst idea ever. Tell me do you have recurrent yeast infections and smell of soup when you take off your stupid woollen panties?

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I can't convince my friend to go to con. She was all "I need to get a job" but has one now and might have to work.

>> No.9908267

>>9908229
You didn't choose to like her, but you chose to be a little fucking bitch about it. The fact of the matter is, you felt entitled to her and bitched and whined and you refused to admit it.

Why the fuck are you upset? You never even answered a prior question. Were you not her friend? Or did you just want to fuck her?
If you were her friend, then you wouldn't have been upset. You would be happy for a friend, especially when, again, she confided in you to come out.
If you just wanted to fuck, then you'd be bitching about how she didn't like you back, and guess what? That's exactly what you're doing, faggot.

>> No.9908272

An ESL-chan in our comm just got an engrish tattoo and I'm not sure if I should tell her it doesn't mean anything.

>> No.9908276

>>9908267
He was idolizing her and the fantasy life they were going to lead together.
And coz she was only a 6/10 anyway it should have worked because he's the only one who would ever love the poor uggo.

Why did she have to have her own opinions or thoughts even?
She ruined it, she ruined everythinggggg

>> No.9908280

cgl made me realizs how different cultures are

>> No.9908283

>>9908207
I don't even usually shave anywhere but my nethers desu lmao I'm a beast loli

>> No.9908286

>>9908283
So you shave your crotch but have hairy armpits what the hell?

>> No.9908294

>>9908272
Are you not from an english speaking country? what does it say?

>> No.9908298

>>9908283
Its one of the lolita secrets only we are supposed to know, tights and long sleeves sometimes hide our hairy sins.

>> No.9908303

>>9908225
Damn that's annoying as all fuck. I know almost nothing about firearms but I know concealed carry = gun. You don't even need any sort of permit to carry a tazer in Florida, you can buy them at flea markets. How old was this dumb bitch? I think she was just virtue signaling - I bet she posted her own take on this (a sob story of course) to her tumblr. If guns were actually so triggering to her, she wouldn't have touched it. Hell, I would have told you to change the safe combo and NOT tell me to new one, that's how much guns scare me.

As somebody who is TERRIFIED of guns and doesn't really agree with your politics regarding whether or not someone with a CC/CWP would have saved lives in Pulse just wanted to apologize on behalf of reasonable people who may not agree with you 100%.

Then again, I'm not actually anti-gun or anything, they just scare the living shit out of me and I don't feel any safer knowing there's a good guy with a gun out there ready to have a shoot out with a bad guy with a gun. I just wish they'd stop existing altogether, because I have a phobia of firearms, but that's literally never going to happen and I'm not delusional.

>> No.9908307

>>9908276
are you really still going on about this? let the dude have his feel and shut up about it already, we know you think he's horrible for it but GASP not everyone agrees with you

>> No.9908316

>>9908276
Did you get pumped and dumped or something? Chill

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>>9908225
You fucking massive DUMBASS, the entire point of the concealed carry is that is is concealed. You are not supposed to tell anyone you have a gun except for your closest friends and family.

>Put gun and mag in hotel safe, text everyone the combo
Holy shit dude what the fuck are doing

>> No.9908318

>>9908294
I'm from Canada. She's Vietnamese.

It says "So many view where gone the many friend new."

>> No.9908327

>>9908286
I dont like how it feels on my crotch

>>9908298
That's why all our socks are otk and it's frowned at to wear sleeveless jsks alone

>> No.9908334

>>9907227
Who is she? she lookin for a cosplay gf? hook a sister up

>> No.9908351

>>9908267
>if you were her friend you wouldn't be upset
Why am I not allowed to be her friend and be upset? You're having a lot of trouble distinguishing feelings I have for her and feelings that are isolated in myself. I am very happy for her. I keep telling you this but you keep ignoring it because it doesn't fit your narrative of "le virgin beta bitter incel" because you really have a vendetta against boys with feelings.

I hoped to have a relationship with her that would be the ultimate goal of any romantic movements I made.

I am not upset that she is gay, I am upset that these feelings I have which make me feel good have to go away because it's been so long since I felt them. Like feeling your face go hot and your head go fuzzy when you look at them. I'll miss that but it's not her fault and it's not my fault that these feelings exist. They just exist, end of story. But you think that men having more than more emotion is evil.

>>9908334
I'm not going to oust her on 4chan for her sake but I really hope she finds a nice girlfriend who will treat her nicely. She's too shy to approach anyone but she would be very happy to find another girl who cosplays.

>> No.9908397

>>9908317
Versus what other alternative anon? Leave it in my car to risk a gun with a serial number tieable back to me liable to get stolen? Leave it in my suitcase somewhere where one of the randoms could have had someone whose a rando to them come in our room and go rooting through my things looking for something to steal and finding my gun? I’d consisered leaving it at home but my roommate lets his Xanax addicted brother chill at our apartment while not watching him as strongly as he should and I know he’d jump at the opportunity to steal any gun he can find. So I figured if I was stuck bringing it the best idea was to be forthcoming and clear with the other people in the room (or so I thought I was) and let them know “hey there is a firearm in the safe, it is unloaded and literally the ONLY thing in this you have to do is not touch it. That’s it” also I let them know the safe combo because they paid for the hotel same as I did, if they had valuables they needed to lock up they had just as much right to use the safe as I did.

>> No.9908400

>>9908303
Thanks anon I appreciate that, the world needs more people like you. Also she was 19 but acted like a 15 year old and had the eating habits and manners of a 9 year old

>> No.9908427

>>9907870
Made by /r9k/ for /r9k/ (and /fit/ apparently). Almost nobody's talking about /cgl/ related feels.

>On topic

>bf wants to confess during the family dinner
>he's supportive, kind and really likes lolita
>his family is opposite of him
>they're talking shit behind my back
>criticizing my clothes
>I really, really want that day to be special
>I have planned a coord
>but I know that I can't wear it to his house without a shitstorm
>I don't want to tell him how he should confess either
>I guess I can sacrifice my dream lolita confession for the happy, future life, right?

>> No.9908432

>>9908193
Could you recomend me some good quality pantsu?

>> No.9908435

Tfw no lolita gf to make me into a pretty sissy boy for a day

>> No.9908436
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>tfw no lolita gf with a hearty bush

>> No.9908440

>>9908225
>>9908303
>>9908317
wait a sec this story is familiar

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>>9908435

>> No.9908442
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>Dresses seem a bit loose recently
>Go on scale
>Have lost almost 8 lbs

I'm already nearly underweight, I don't want to lose weight

>> No.9908443

I kissed a girl and I liked it...

>> No.9908444

>>9907466
Where do you live? I get flirted with and approached 80% more when in lolita and it's annoying.

>> No.9908445

>>9908444
I'd rather not say because my comm is rather small and I'd be outing myself if I did; but it's not in the US nor Europe.

>> No.9908447

I don't know how to deal with the idea that people are making completely wrong assumptions about me because I still live on my parents' property. They have a lot of money, so they built a granny flat in the backyard where I live with my gf, but for some reason the rumours have spread that I live there rent free (untrue) and that because I travel with my family I have all this money to spend (I don't, they're family holidays - I was basically too broke to afford food by the end of the last holiday I went on because I couldn't afford to go but I also couldn't afford to say no when my parents were paying for flights and accommodation and it was something of a once in a lifetime trip). If I ever complain about being concerned about affording anything, the immediate response is along the lines of cry into the plane tickets your parents bought you.

tl;dr, parents are rich, I'm not, and I feel like I can't ever complain about my money problems to friends because there's the misconception that I'm rich just because my folks are so I come across as a privileged douche. What do.

>> No.9908450

>>9908440
Posted it before or maybe I know you?

>> No.9908451

>>9908447
i know ur feel bro, I'm living with my parents too and my mom sometimes give me her old clothes (we wear the same size) so ppl around are like "how can't you afford this and this I mean you wear hugo boss" and I'm be like dude cmon I go home by walking because I'm too broke to afford myself 30 extra bus tickets per month

>> No.9908460

>>9908435
My Lolita gf did this once and she got mad that I was prettier than she was

>> No.9908468
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>tfw my cousins are all getting married and having kids
>tfw I'm the weird spinster cousin who still wears frilly dresses
I may be the family disappointment but at least I'm cute as hell.

>> No.9908473

>>9908427
That's so shitty. I think you should be able to wear the coord of your dreams and have a dream engagement. I'm sorry his family is fucking awful you don't deserve that. Keep me updated on how this develops

>> No.9908492

>>9908442
nice humblebrag anon

>> No.9908506 [DELETED] 

>>9908351
>I am very happy for her.
>I hoped to have a relationship with her

So you did expect her to like you back. No matter how much you want to deny it, that sounds like entitlement to me.

>it's not my fault that these feelings exist
Yes it fucking is. You are to blame for your own idiocy.

>vendetta against boys with feelings
>men having more than more emotion is evil
Nothing good has ever come from a man acting upon his feelings. You get shit like people being run over or shot because wah, women don't like me. Go fuck yourself.

>> No.9908508

>>9908506
mad cause guys don't like you nonny?

>> No.9908521

>>9908492
Anon these threads are for good and bad. Go to r9k if you think everything has to be terrible and you being sad means no one else can feel good

>> No.9908524

>>9908238
you live in southern US?

>> No.9908534

>heading to a lolita meet with one of my friends last week
>meet is in the middle of a built up city
>we have to take a few diversions to get there by walking after taking the subway
>everything seems to be going okay, not had many stares or snide comments from old ladies
>we're at a traffic crossing
>we start to cross the road when it's okay to do so
>driver suddenly comes barreling down the street out of nowhere
>doesn't see the red light and hits my friend with his SUV
>she ragdolls across the tarmac and crumples into a bloodied, lifeless mess 15 meters up the road
>people are screaming, we think it might be a terrorist attack
>I'm in complete and utter disbelief at what's just happened
>start to hear sirens ringing
>run up to the driver's window in complete hysterics and start yelling
>YOU FUCKING STUPID CROSSBOARDER, I CAN'T BELIEVE YOU DID THIS TO MY FRIEND, REEEEEEEEEEEEEE R9K

>> No.9908540

>>9908534
I'm so sorry /r9k/ did this to your friend but honestly I've heard worse.

>> No.9908541

>>9908506
I get what you're trying to point out but don't most people hope to have a relationship with their crushes? Unless you're like, a total herbivore (I am). He can respect the girl and be happy for her, but still be sad because he won't get a chance with her. Not everyone is a psycho incel.

The "i hope it's a phase" thing did annoy the fuck out of me though.

>> No.9908544

Good feel: Last year I started saving and only buying dream dresses and an occasional new release. I’m buying fewer dresses so even though DD and new dresses are usually more expensive, I’m spending less overall and my closet has more dresses that I really love.
I think I’ve found my lolita groove.
Making a chart of DD to track down but the list is not that long.

The bad part: I should sell off the ones that aren’t favorites but the market is shit for selling, only good for buying right now.

>> No.9908548

>>9908541
Yeah, that part rubbed me especially the wrong way. That's not something you should say about someone who trusted you enough to come out.

>> No.9908550

>>9907227
Shit like this helps me maintain my resolve to give up

>> No.9908557
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>>9908147
I know this feel all too well. Men don’t hang out with me unless there is sex involved. Lately I have been wanting to connect with someone on a deeper level. I guess it’s those old spinster hormones kicking in so I feel a mighty need to find love and settle down.

But I brought this upon myself so I can’t be upset. I learned to accept the fact that I’m a slut unworthy of love.

At least my lolita wardrobe is there for comfort whenever I feel lonely.

>> No.9908561

>>9908447
I wish more people realized this kind of thing about kids or wealthy people. However, you are lucky, at least your parents are nice enough to give you a place to live for what I'm assuming is a lot less in monthly rent than anywhere else in your area.

I have some friend who have rich parents that own shitloads of property and just flat out refuse to let their kids/grandkids rent at any sort of discount, refuse to help them buy a house, refuse to even help them buy a car, and still charges the kids rent just for living in their old bedrooms.

Sometimes having rich parents is even worse than having poor parents.

>> No.9908563

>>9908400
>the world needs more people like you
T-thanks anon, feels good hearing this. For some reason knowing you live like 30 minutes away from me makes it better. Maybe you'll see my frilly butt around one day.

>> No.9908564

>>9908440
Tampa/St. Pete and the surrounding burbs are basically the world's largest small town, so.

>> No.9908566

>>9908447
it's pretty immature to never leave your parents house and most kids in america are kicked out at age 18. I get mad at the people in my comm who actually make less on paper but have more than twice as much to spend on things because their parents either don't charge them rent, or charge them way below market rate for where they're living along with food.

a solid 35% of my pay goes directly into rent because it's just the way things are, but if I didn't have to drop all that money into rent and electricity and everything else people would stop making fun of me for being a "poorfag" when I can't afford to spend my money on lavish vacations and expensive clothes.

>> No.9908572

>>9908566
>it's pretty immature to never leave your parents house

You're literally being a salty poorfag. There's nothing immature about making a solid financial decision. Or are you telling me you wouldn't jump on the chance to have a deal like anon?

>> No.9908577

>>9908566
>most kids in america
Not everyone lives in America though, and judging everyone by your American standards which may or may not be relevant is stupid.

>> No.9908578

>>9908566
>it's pretty immature to never leave your parents house and most kids in america are kicked out at age 18.
>a solid 35% of my pay goes directly into rent because it's just the way things are

That's just landlord propaganda; they want us all in debt and to live as wage slaves. If someone has the option to stay with their family, there is nothing wrong with that. You don't want to end up as a basement NEET though; use the advantage to get your career started.

>> No.9908579

>>9908572
that's it right there. People who have things handed to them by mommy and daddy immediately call everyone else a poorfag. Weren't you just posting in here saying that you hate people saying you don't pay for shit, then you call everyone a poorfag who doesn't have mommy and daddy pay for their housing/food/vacations?

>> No.9908581

>>9908577
it's an american website created by an american man and hosted in Dallas, Texas. Assuming that posters on here are american or at least canadian is very reasonable.

>> No.9908583

>>9908579
I'm not even the guy you're replying to. I spend over 50% of my income on rent and it sucks. Just because some people have wealthy parents who aren't complete assholes doesn't make that person immature.

You're a salty poorfag, I'm just a poorfag. There's a difference. Stop being so defensive.

>> No.9908584

>>9908583
>the guy you're responding to
oh I realize how stupid I was now, you're a crossboarder that came to bait. I should have known when you started throwing around poorfg and lived with your parents

>> No.9908587

>>9908566
>most kids in america are kicked out at age 18
That isn't true at all.

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>>9908584
Sure thing dude

>> No.9908593

>>9908587
Maybe not kicked out, but certainly expected to leave for college or move out if they learned a trade.

Though the trend is definitely reversing. I listen to a financial radio show on local AM radio sometimes, and there are a lot of people who call in saying that they moved back in with their parents to start saving up for a home after having lived on their own for several years. A couple people even call in saying they moved in with their parents along with their wife and baby so they could pay off all their debt.

That sounds like a solid option if it's an option at all. Unfortunately, a lot of boomer aged parents nowadays are downsizing themselves due to lack of funds. Both my Mom and my Dad (divorced) now live in one-bedroom homes.

>> No.9908596

>>9908593
>A couple people even call in saying they moved in with their parents along with their wife and baby so they could pay off all their debt.

That is a really great option because involving grandparents in raising children will be a massive relief on the mother / father, as well as enriching the children's lives.

>> No.9908597

>>9908566
If you hang out with people who spend more and live a more expensive lifestyle and especially if you talk about it, it’s quite a downer. Those are usually the only ones who get called poorfag, and it’s in response to their complaining about their finances. It’s usually not unprovoked.

>> No.9908598

>>9908584
I'm sorry that happened to your friend, Anon.

>> No.9908600

>>9908597
ok then I'll be sure not to hang around spoiled middle-upper-middle class girls anymore

>> No.9908602

>>9908593
The trend is definitely reversing. I often see families living together multi-generation and from what I've read America's the odd one out because in other countries it's considered normal to have two or three generations either under one roof or living in the same small area.

Personally I'm almost 30 and living at home to care for my elderly grandmother. It was just a given that's what I'd do so I'm unable to move out even if I wanted to because she needs daily help around the house. I would like my own space but it's definitely nice to have all that disposable income.

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>>9908600
They probably all laugh at your poorfaggotry behind your back, so yeah, you should do that.

>> No.9908606

>>9908593
Fucking millennials. Still relying on their old parents. They should learn to not go into debt like their parents. Why do they expect so many handouts?

>> No.9908607

>>9908606

Our parents afforded college on a summer part time job, mate. We're barely getting paid enough to get by and that's on top of 10k worth of college debt.

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>>9908606
>a /cgl/ /pol/ crossboarder spotted in the wild

I'm not the only one!

>> No.9908610

>>9908607
And 10k is pretty low for college debt. Most people owe 20-25k+

>> No.9908611

>>9908607
>>9908610
I owe 30K, but it could've easily been 60K except I decided to commute to school everyday.

>> No.9908613

>>9908600
They are usually fine if someone is not whining about expenses. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with people who can afford it splashing out on pretty clothes and fun entertainment. That’s not being spoiled, it is within their means.

Judging by your tone, you are just full of sour grapes. And that’s why you’d get called (salty) poorfag, not usually just because you spend less.

>> No.9908616

>>9908613
no I'm getting angry because whenever anyone mentions money around spoiled middle class girls on here they get called a poorfag like you're doing right now.
the weird attitude you girls have where anyone who makes less than you is a poorfag reminds me of the r9k/fit attitude of any guy slightly less masculine than they are is a beta

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>>9908616
I'm probably way poorer than you and holy shit anon you're making me cringe.

>> No.9908622

>>9908593
after high school, and expected. Completely different than "kicked out at 18".

>> No.9908624

>>9908616
You better drink some water to balance your salt intake, anon.

>> No.9908629

>>9908619
>>9908624
yeah I mean that's kind of what I'm getting at here. the fact that girls who have most of their bills paid for them tell anyone who isn't in the same position they're a poorfag, salty, or some other version is what frustrates me most in this fashion.

>> No.9908630

>>9908616
Lolita is somewhat of a luxury fashion and lots of people go to elegant places often and buy new pieces often. That’s not being spoiled, it’s their lifestyle. When someone says it is ‘spoiled’, and cries about it and criticizes them for buying things they can afford and going places they can also afford, well, that’s the poorfag behavior that gets you called poorfag.

>> No.9908646

>>9908607
>Our parents afforded college on a summer part time job
What the fuck happen?

>> No.9908647

>>9908630
when people say spoiled they mean the person's parents spoiling them or giving them things for free that most people wouldn't. It has nothing to do with how much they spend just that they're a grown woman who's parents/boyfriend pays for their living expenses and 80%+ of their money goes into luxury things. That's what people mean when they say spoiled anon. Stop trying to paint people as being poorfag just because they don't have someone paying their bills.

>> No.9908649

>>9908646
The government began offering financial aid to private and public institutions. Colleges then took that as an opportunity to spend a lot of money on renovations and expansions, paying administrators more money and hiring more administrators. The burden would be completely on the student's backs, fronted by the government, and no one would have to pay anything up front because the government foots the bill initially.

To some it up, it's the "give an inch, take a mile" behavior of learning institutions, with complete disregard for how this would an effect an entire generation, that caused this massive multi-trillion dollar debt bubble. Couple that with the fact that college degrees don't offer a return on investment that allows students to repay what they borrow and the inability to declare bankruptcy on student loan debt and you have a real recipe for economic disaster

>> No.9908651

>>9908649
It also doesn't help that we've tricked ourselves into believing that anyone who doesn't go to college is a dumbfuck low IQ loser.

>> No.9908652

>>9908629
They aren’t saying it because you have less disposable income, they are saying it in response to you being such a bitter betty about it and complaining about it too much or because you are being judge mental and ragging on them for having their fun.
If you are hanging out with people who can afford to spend more than you can, just don’t be a downer and excuse yourself if they go do things you can’t afford to do. If you are comparing what they buy in lolita to what you buy and getting crabby because they can afford more by having a different lifestyle then that is just you being critical and flashing your own salt. People aren’t going to respond positively to that.

>> No.9908656

>>9908651
Try to get a decent career-oriented job without one though. It’s pretty much impossible.

>> No.9908657

>>9908652
no I get crabby because they show off their purchases and tell me I'm a poorfag when i show off mine and it's smaller or cheaper than theirs
I don't know why you all assume immediately that everyone who disagrees is a poorfag but that's really fucking stupid

>> No.9908659

>>9908616
You got called a salty poorfag because you said
>I get mad at the people in my comm who actually make less on paper but have more than twice as much to spend on things

That is the definition of a salty poorfag because you're too concerned with how people you see as "lesser" spend their money.

>> No.9908662

>>9908647
But if you hang out with these people, why do you expect them to not indulge in these luxuries? Lolitas who can spend more on clothes, fancy meets and trips are going to do it and the only time I’ve seen people called poorfag is in response to their salty judgemental criticism. I don’t see lolitas who budget or just spend less getting called poorfag.

>> No.9908664

>>9908649
>>9908651
>>9908656
Even now a two-year degree is seen as the new high school diploma. Some places want you to have at minimum a four-year degree for what's a basic entry job. Or two-year degree X amount of years experience.

>> No.9908665

>>9908656
Police officer?

>> No.9908669

>>9908657
A few girls will judge you as playing out of your league but it’s probsbly mostly due to your bad attitude, as evidenced here. That and well yeah, bigger, flashier purchases will get more attention, it’s like that in all hobbies. You really just sound sour and unpleasant.

>> No.9908678

>>9908669
>it's probably your bad attitude
I don't see how you could know that

>> No.9908679

>>9908662
>>9908659
to be honest I just made all that shit up to start a fight and push the thread closer to bump limit. This thread is shit and full of r9k and fit squabbling and I'd rather just get a new one that they aren't in

>> No.9908682

>>9908657
Getting crabby over a consumerist fashion pissing contest IS salty poorfag behavior so if the shoe fits...

You do realize that in any hobby there will be those richer, better, smarter, more ‘something’, right? And that ideally, obbies are about having fun with peers, not checking who has more/less money all the time, also salty poorfag behavior.

Why not find some budget lolitas in your own league?

>> No.9908684

>>9908678
Because of your bad attitude in here, it shows.

>> No.9908690

>>9908682
people aren't upset that you have more money generally, they get upset when all you talk about is how you have more money. When you call someone a "poorfag" they're not going to be happy about it. I don't see how that's a foreign concept

>> No.9908697

>>9908647
I can understand being jealous if someone's parent pays for everything, but their boyfriend/husband? If you're jealous of people who have SOs that support them financially, that's your own problem. You can't help what family you're born into, but you choose your mate. Being mad about not marrying rich is stupid, just go marry a rich person.

>> No.9908698

>>9908665
In my county, new recruits are actually required to have a 2 year degree.

>> No.9908701

>>9908665
america at least requires a degree in criminal justice plus police academy for most recuits

>> No.9908705

>>9908563
Discord: kyeberger

Hit me up sometime I could always use more con friends

>> No.9908706

>>9908701
Which state? The ones I traveled to only needed a high school diploma.

>> No.9908710

>>9908706
Illinois, or that was at least what my high school friend who went on to be an officer told me. She had a 4 year degree before everything else

>> No.9908713

>>9908690
That’s backwards though, most people of various incomes are just enjoying the hobby, then salty comments are made about being spoiled or entitled and that’s when someone gets called a poorfag. Salty poorfag is what is said in response to someone getting snarky and jealous about wealth when no one is actually lording it over them and it’s just their jealousy or skewed perception at work. That’s really the only time it’s used much, in this specific situation.

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>>9908657

>> No.9908730

> never had a gf
> tfw no gf

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>>9908714
>>9908682
>>9908604
>>9908606
>>9908609

>> No.9908732

>>9908730
Are you fat/ugly/have bad hair? Are you socially inept? Not trying to chide into you just trying to see what you think your problem is and see if we can’t help you find a solution somehow

We’re all gonna make it brah

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>>9908731

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>>9908731

>> No.9908755

>>9907476
>talk about possibly cheating
>people call you out on it
>mention later that you are in an open relationship in a way that was somehow supposed to be obvious by putting question marks on the end?

Holy shit anon you are really doing well at giving bi people the great reputation they already have

>> No.9908782

>>9908690
I get it that when you are on a really tight budget, others being free with money and enjoying themselves can be annoying, frustrating or depressing but realistically, most of us don’t really speak about how much money we have, make etc, that’s very bad manners. It IS evident in our purchases, hauls, trips, meets, homes, decor, cars, etc, yes. But that’s not flaunting it, it’s just enjoying our life and there’s nothing wrong with it.

>> No.9908797

>>9908524
Unfortunately, yes.

>>9908557
Thanks, anon. This actually gave me a laugh and made me feel heaps better.

>> No.9908811

>>9908797
send me an email with your skype/discord/steam/whatever else. Its a temporary throwaway. Maybe we can be friends. I assume we have similar hobbies if we both browse this board.

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>>9908797
I’m glad my misery made you cheer up, anon. Keep your head up.

>> No.9908849

>>9908811
Shot you an email but I’m not great with this sort of thing so tell me if you don’t get it.

>> No.9908865

>>9908849
I got it and think I added you

>> No.9908868

>>9907476
Another bi lady married to a dude in an open relationship sans ladyfriend here. It's a tough feel.

>> No.9908899

No.1: I've always wanted to weeb out and do those lame idol dances with random vocaloid music in a maid dress. I just want to wear a maid dress and be cute for the sake of my old weeb teen idol maid cafe dreams, but I'm too ashamed of myself.

No.2: I'm doing my best to diet and lose weight to look better in cosplay and jfash (I'm only 120lbs but I want to get to 100), but I've been having a really shitty time lately, and the cheapest thing that motivates me and makes me happy is food (because splurging on burando is not an option). So I'm just crying it out and laying on my couch depressed instead of buying a cake or a muffin to cheer me up, because I feel bad if I eat and I also feel bad if I don't.

>> No.9908924

>>9908177
I'm the only guy trying to defend him I think, besides himself obviously.
I can post screenshots if you want but I am a phoneposter

>> No.9908929

>>9908442
Eat more
If you're looking for calorie dense food you can't go wrong with standard fatty food.
If you're vegan start eating peanut butter out of the jar

>> No.9908939

>>9908899
>Only 120
>Want to be 100
Anon how tall are you?

>> No.9909006

>>9908442
Teach me your ways anon
>>9908939
Around 5'2 :(

>> No.9909175

>>9908436
LONDON

>> No.9909199

>>9908506
I don't even know why you keep continuing this conversation. There's nothing to be gained from it.

I don't even mean this as a meme but somebody has hurt you quite badly and I hope you heal.

>> No.9909210

>>9909006
That's underweight and muscle weights more than fat. It's not about the numbers but how well you maintain your body. If you're 100lbs at 5'2 and have no muscle it will just look bad
Don't be a retard ana-chan

>> No.9909219

>>9909210
That's only half a digit underweight. There's plenty of people at that weight and under who are perfectly healthy. 5'2" is short. It sounds like all anon is saying is that they've been overeating.

>> No.9909222

>>9908899
On that note, I'm the same height as you, and I've been working on losing weight too although my goal is 110. I got up to 122 because I was overeating to deal with sadness. I find it hard to resist the cake myself. Make sure to take a little of the money you save to buy something fashion-related, and do treat yourself to some sweets once a week. You don't have to completely do away with your sweet fix.

>> No.9909229

Tfw your con crush gets hit by a bus (but lives)

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>>9907227
holy fuck are you me.
>meet grill
>She's literally the most beautiful girl I'd ever seen in my entire life, unironically rate her a 11/10
>fall head over heels
>start talking to her more, she's super cool we get closer as friends. I start hanging out with her and her friend group.
>chat on skype on a bunch.
>talk about anime and shit
>I get fucking obsessed with her
>like, yandere levels of obsessed
>I still am, desu
>she's the only person I want, everybody else is a second choice. I eventually started becoming even more obsessed with her for the simple fact that I was obsessed with her; she was the first person to really light that spark in me and nobody's done the same thing since.
>confess
>>sorry Anon, I'm Trans
I fucking died. This was a couple years ago, at least she decided it was just a phase, but I'm still pretty sure she has some kind of tumblr gender bullshit going on. I wish I could stop loving her, I'm sorry anon.

>> No.9909240

>>9909237
>not loving her enough to cross genders for her
baka

>> No.9909253

>>9909237
I hope I can make my feelings go away but it'll take time. I'm just so upset that feeling that spark is wrong now and I'm only going to hurt her and myself by holding onto it. I hope things will go better for you anon.

>> No.9909274

test

>> No.9909283

>>9908701
100% not true. Friend just went through police academy in California. College degree not required.

>> No.9909286

>>9909229
Good she lived

>> No.9909299

>>9909283
Police varies from city to city and state to state; there are no national American police standards I think

>> No.9909379

>>9909237
If you reeally love her that much why don't you just accept her tumblrgender shit and date? Unless she's just not into you, then sucks for you.

>> No.9909479

>>9909237
This just sounds like >>9907227 trying to remain relevant. Just fucking let this die already literally no one cares

>> No.9909513

>>9909237
>sorry Anon, I'm Trans
what kind of trans?
ftm, well that sucks
mtf, as long as the dick is also away, I don't see a problem with that

>> No.9910115

>>9908318
rip