/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL

>tfw no lolita gf

>>9867730
>tfw no cosplay gf

Does anyone in these threads still go to cons? I feel so old and out of place at cons these days even though I still keep up with recent seasons

>tfwy start talking to this nerdy goth aesthetic girl

I want to text her but I'm honestly scared of being left on read, so imma just talk to her more in person to build up

>>9867739
Going to my first con in a month desu

>>9867377
I wonder is there at least one life's area that doesn't need to be gate kept.

>>9867742
how is this cgl related?

>get assigned to fight the new girl
>she goes for the groin
>mfw the blow is absorbed by my 5XL maxipad
I love my comm.

>>9867742
Can you at least fucking try to make your idiotic sad /r9k/ posts about cosplay in some way?

Man I just really love lolita

It's my first butthole inspection day since I joined the comm and one question has kept me up all night... If the comm mom inspects ours, who inspects hers?

>>9867820
Man I just really want lolita :3

People really hate feel threads and looking at this one's posts, you might see why. But you know, I think this board needs threads like these as containment threads. For venting, whining, petty arguing, stupidity, etc. For the dumb feels and stupid stories and lolita memes and even the crossboarders. These are the containment board's containment threads. And they're ironically the fastest moving threads on the entire board, probably because they allow the dumping of all the feelings welled up, be they anger, sadness, spite, jealousy, joy, excitement, anxiety, whatever.

I like these threads. I think they make the rest of cgl better because they help to keep the rest clean.

>>9867747
>>9867821
I think this proves that creepy men are a real issue to women online. I'm not going to apologize for other people being retarded, but I can sympathize.

That being said, I came for the cosplay, and stayed for the feels.

>>9867820
Man I just really love cosplay

>>9867833
Men just like to annoy women because they're easily worked up.

>>9867821
We've been letting the comm mothers get away with subpar assholes for years. Fuck the system.

I just got an amazing dress in the mail and I'll be able to pick it up at the post office tomorrow! It's my first velveteen piece. I hope to god it'll fit and I'm really excited. Customs left me with a shitton of money (way more than the 20% they should take according to the website but I had this before and they always play off the extra 40% as "service costs") but if it fits as nicely as I think it will it's definitely worth it. I'll just not buy anything else for a month...

>>9867717
Those two fill me with immense sadness and envy

It drives me nuts that wunderwelt will put a low grade grade on an item that has no visible flaws in the pictures. It makes you so suspicious, if they can list a grade surely they can quickly write 'missing waist ties' or 'small stain'..

>>9867959
huh, customs charged you 40%? jeez, that's rough.. that's great though anon, I collect velveteen, it's just the god tier material.

>tfw your dress doesn't ship before japan fucks off for an entire week

>>9867833
Pretty sure the posts about periods/comms/farting etc with reaction images with "funny epik xd" names all one guy who has too much free time.

My husband and I have a daughter. He told me he doesnt want anymore children. Today I learned Im pregnant and I dont know how to tell him.

>>9868112
This is not related to /cgl/. Fuck off.

>>9868092
Or a sissy fetishist who thinks we do comm breast exams or spankings

>>9868079
oh god I forgot about golden week. I hope my ss manages to do the bare minimum or I'll end up losing a dress I wanna buy to some chump.. tfw

>>9867829
No, fuck off. This is /cgl/, a board for cosplay and (gothic) lolita. If they want to shitpost about non-related issues they can go to /r9k/'s general feel threads and stay away from our board.
Do not invite crossboarders. It's not like they stay contained here either.

And to round it up:
>someone who barely wears lolita anymore owns very rare dreamdress
>decide to be that person and ask them very nicely if they'd be willing to sell it
>offer double the retail value
>they agree

>>9868112
How’s this cgl related? I suggest you go to /adv/ or some thread that may help you.

>>9867829
>containment threads
this is literally why we have different boards for different stuff. there is no need to have containment threads for completely off-topic stuff

>>9868140
>they agree
Oh wow, awesome! Way to go, anon! What dress is it?

>tfw you didn't go to a con, but a fucking MVP uploads all the cool cosplay from said con

>>9868112
Kids are disgusting, abort

>tfw no underage lolis to fuck
Why are all you dressing like a loli at your age jfc

>tfw came here for the Lolita gfs
>tfw we've inspired blatant robot shitposting

I'm working on my getup for an event in my town, I'm settled on doing Tristan from Yu-Gi-Oh ATM. Can I just find some jeans and a brown coat and boots at any old place, or should I try doing my own work on the outfit?

>tfw no GF to cosplay Pretty Princess memes with me
>tfw nobody at the con would get it anyway

>>9868112
Tell him to suck it up.

Tfw your comm is getting ready for the state's biggest con and you're not going.

I usually feel super cute in lolita, but these past... I dunno, weeks or so I've just felt like nothing is working out right for me, nothing looks flattering, etc and I'm so confused and heartbroken. I don't want the one thing that gives me hope and makes me feel cute suddenly go away.

>>9868224
don't worry anon I'm sure you are super qt

>>9868112
My heart goes out to you, anon.

>>9868236
thanks anon. i'll try to change my perspective despite what I feel

>be me
>short, soft, quiet
>get bullied because for being girlier my entire life
>no irl friends
>want to go to more conventions and cosplay characters of both genders, but that would be committing social suicide
i can't handle anymore of this, everything about me and my hobbies and interests is a reason for someone else to make fun of me and make me feel lile even more of a failure
starting next semester i'm cutting my hair short and try acting like the other guys
fuck it, i may never have my dreams of being a cute lolita fulfilled but at least i'll show everyone not to mess with me
>>9868224
i feel you anon
have you tried stepping away from lolita for a while? maybe now's the time for you to discover something new and then come back to lolita with a new appproach or ideas

>>9868243
>not owning your long hair
t. guy with long hair

>>9868245
it's not really that long desu, but it's kinda fluffy and i have long bangs (they help me avoid eye contact) and people think i'm an edgy emo because of it.there are guys with longer hair than me at school, but no one teases them

>>9868243
>at least i'll show everyone not to mess with me

by being a fake version of yourself? Just own who you are and people will follow.

>get call from extremely nervous young woman about vehicle titling just now
Which one of you was it, not laughing, just picked up immediately on the behavior

>order custom glass eyes for a mask for a costume I'm working on
>specifically order small pupils for the eyes
>order comes with a note that small pupils arent available
>eyes have fuckhuge pupils and look like muppet eyes

They really should have called or emailed me to check first if it was ok to substitute something else if what I wanted wasn't available, and while they said they'll do a refund, I'm responsible for the return shipping, yay.

>>9868255
being myself would only mean being a weirdo and being ostracized even more
i hate myself for not being like the rest anyways, so i might as well derive some sick kind of pleasure by tearing down my old self and pretending to be someone else for once
>>9868259
>titling
>tit
heh
>>9868262
put a really mean note when you send them back or one of those glitter bombs

>>9868243
>>9868250
you are a very obvious high schooler
come back when you turn 18

>>9868243
Yes, and nothing looks flattering, so I basically hide in comfy clothing instead and try not to see my reflection

>>9868262
keep the note as proof and just do a chargeback.

How do I convince a woman her body is better than she thinks it is? This girl(male) likes to cosplay for me when I buy her clothes, but she doesn't have the confidence to do some.

>>9868337
>girl (male)
Stop.

What do I do if I have scars on my legs, will sheer leggings help get attention away? They're almost faded and not raised anymore, but if I wore them bare it would be noticeable up front.

>>9868337
"woman" "girl" male.... sure anon, keep being retarded. that's a man

>>9868360
Bb plz no cut urself ur bootiful

>>9867739
I'll keep going as long as it keeps being fun desu

>>9868360
It's hard to help without pics, anon. Chances are you might not even need to hide it.

>>9868360
I assume you're talking about the context of cosplaying opposed to fashion in general. Uh, sheer leggings will hide them if it's something you don't want immortalized in picture, and nobody has to know why you're wearing them. It's true that indoor lighting can make scarring way more visible. Otherwise, since they aren't raised, you could use a makeup like Kat Von D's stuff to cover tattoos or even regular concealer if they're light enough. You'd just want to use some sort of fixative so it doesn't rub off throughout the day. That might be a better option if you don't want to wear leggings with your costume.

>AX 2017
>Attractive male, not cosplaying because i'm not a fan of it
>asked to go to various parties, say sure
>asked out to go eat, say i'm busy
>i'm not actually busy at all I just hate social situations

tfw social autism inside an attractive body, i want to die every con i go to.

>>9868413
It was years ago bb
>>9868417
Too weird to upload my scarred leg on /cgl/ of all places...
>>9868443
I feel like sheer leggings are less noticeable on black skin. I guess I have to go buy some that matches my skin color before trying the makeup route.

>>9868447
>Too weird to upload my scarred leg on /cgl/ of all places...
Fair, wouldn't upload pics of myself to 4chan either. But how big is the scar? Even a drawing in paint might help, or a similar pic from the internet.

>>9868452
The light parts (inner part) of the scars are somewhat the same as my natural skin, there's just that dark area bordering them that stands out if you get close to me. To the point where I still don't wear shorts.

>>9868458
if it does come through you could use simple makeup to mask it right

>>9868458
It doesn't seem bad. Judging by the right picture, make up should hide them pretty well, since they're so small.

Though,
> I still don't wear shorts
it seems they bother you. It might do well to yourself to do the opposite and expose them. Unless your pic related is lying/downplaing it, that's no reason to feel ashamed of your thighs, anon. display them proudly

>>9868461
Probably, but for cosplay I'm more worried it'll rub off by brushing up near people or myself

>>9868469
how about adding a few extra scars to make it look "intentional design"

>>9868469
I know there are some out there can really stick and don't rub. You'd just have to find ones that work for you.

>>9868444
Poor you

>>9867730
>tfw no ouji boyfriend

>meet beautiful guy at con
>hit it off
>he's taken
>mfw his gf looks like a less hot version of me
I was too late!

>watching Mister Rococo at the con
>intense wrestling scene between protag and antag
>slouch down my seat and yell, "YO, THIS NIGGA FINNA GET DABBED ON"
>everyone laughs
>sweet lolita sucks her lolipop and says, "You aight, white girl"
>hear "He cute" from one of the oujis

>>9868503
>less hot version of me

At least she isn't a fucking cunt

>tfw I yet again pop off a strap button on an AP dress
>well below max measurements
>to the point where the bodice is slightly loose


I’m surprised I haven’t killed myself yet

>>9868505
Imagine being this unfunny

>>9867739
Every con I go to, I see at least a few retirees. You’re never too old to have fun.

>Want to go to a meetup at next con I'm going to
>it's the first con I'm going to with my girlfriend
I want to go and meet new people but I don't trust people, especially around alcohol, and a couple of my girlfriend's female con friends have been drugged. I suppose I can just keep a really close eye on her and make sure she's OK but then I won't really be able to enjoy myself.

>>9868517
Clearly the buttons aren't sewn on well in the factory. Take a bit of time of check them all and re-sew them more firmly.

>>9868546
Just be a clingy boyfriend and have fun with your girlfriend that way. Don't overdo it, but it's a great way to bond with her!

>>9868546
What
>>9868559
Says.
Also try to be as governing and dominant as possibly. Get her a burka and make her eat and drink only what you brought in your supervision, dont let her talk to strangers or mutual friends and for sure you need to be at her side every single second. Five meters is the maximum distance between you. Make it two if people look at her. You may want to get a leash.
Women just love that clingy, insecure maniac in you. Embrace him!

>>9868559
She really likes it when I'm clingy but I feel too overbearing and dislike it a lot for the most part. I trust her and think she's capable of taking care of herself to some extent but I wouldn't want something to happen because I was careless.
>>9868574
I can't tell how much of this is sarcasm. Regardless that was generally the plan, I'll have a couple friends with me as well so if I'm doing something I'll ask one of them to keep an eye out.

>>I can't tell how much of this is sarcasm.
>>That was generally the plan.

I... I... well ok.

>>9868577
Obviously not to those extremes, just the general outline/idea

>>9868578
Well the go for it!
I guess you arent like that since yesterday and if shes into it, everything is fine.
In this case actually think about the leash.

>>9868574
Do you want to know how I know you're crazy? Men protecting their wives and daughters is not unreasonable, but you had to go and create a strawman right away

>>9868458
semi opaque tights are better than leggings imo

Man I just really love itabagging

>>9868505
I don't care if I have shit taste, I love this meme and I laughed.

I wish I was born a girl so I could join in /cgl/ and have friends

>>9868680
Do the other way around and cosplay manly dudes, anon. pic obviously related

what did I miss? what did he(because it is always a he) say?

>>9868599
Man I just really love making cute pendants

>>9868680
I wish I was born a cute girl so I could join in /cgl/ and have friends

>>9868684
I can't do it, I'm an autist with no confidence and the contrast would be too big
at least as a girl you can't be creepy and make everyone around you uncomfortable

>>9868717
Ooooh yes we can, trust me anon. It's not as common but there are some major creeper girls out there.

>tfw no Lolita gf with type b personality disorders to fuck up my life

>>9868732
>Wanting type B personality disorders
Your kids will wish they weren't even born, my mother had those problems and we all hate her now because she still can't stop trying to harm us even as adults

Our comm still doesn't know that my friend is a boy.

It really makes con feel less fun when you have to avoid a clinger constantly.

Why do so many people instinctively look for romantic partners at conventions? Sure, it's a place where you'll meet people with similar interests, but it seems like so much goes wrong, or it's the only place that some people try.

>>9868494
>tf no ouji gf

Anyway,
There's a jfash group in my city (no lolita comm) and everyone's friendly and fun to hang out with, but I just really wish there were actual lolitas to go out with. There's another group in the city and I've seen plenty lolitas in their pics but it's inactive since like last year.

In my old city the comm was completely dead, and here there's a couple girls here who are mildly interested in lolita and wear it seldom but that's it.

I just really want lolita friends, ugh.

>>9868757
For the guys who do it at least it's out of desperation, they don't fit in anywhere else and they think conventions are the only place they'll ever find friends and a girlfriend.
And as always they are sadly mistaken.

>>9868717
>I can't do it, I'm an autist with no confidence and the contrast would be too big
then fix it by stop being an autist and becoming more confident
Sounds hard? It's certainly easier than changing sex

this is getting off-topic, I suppose you'll get better advice on /fit/ or /lit/ about that stuff. good luck

>>9867717
I have this friend and have no idea how to break it to her that cosplaying/sewing is a lot harder than it looks. She doesn’t make cosplays, and i’ve made a couple for her just so i’d have someone to cosplay with for fun, but on more than one occasion of suggesting other ideas to her i’ve been told “well that doesn’t look THAT hard,” quickly backtracked by a, “but i don’t sew, so.” It’s a bit irritating but i put up with it cause she’s my friend, but i guess i don’t necessarily plan on bringing it up to her unless she does it again.

>>9867962
Yeah they could at least take better pictures. I've bought things from both WW and CC that were marked mid tier and ended up looking worse than expected. One had dye transfer stains that weren't shown in close-ups, that was from WW. CC I have even bought things marked good condition that were damaged and not shown in close-ups or stated in the description

I'm so happy yesterday is over

Why is wig styling so fucking hard? All the tutorials I watch make it look so simple but when I tried it it just turned out awful. This is my first time cosplaying a character that needs more than just a trim to the bangs and the wig is just driving me crazy. I'm probably going to have to wash the hairspray out and restyle this wig like ten times before I get it right.

>>9868799
Just be patient. And extra careful. It takes lot of time but the slower you go the better result you'll have.

>tfw guys claim they want an ultimate despair gf but then can't actually handle the despair that comes with it

>>9868775
That only applies to desperate guys though, they aren't the only ones

>>9868802
I don't want a wife who's sad all the time, desu.

>>9868809
Being an ultimate despair gf is more about causing despair and less about being in despair (though that isn't really much better for most people).

>>9868802
I like the swimmer with the big tits, what kind of girlfriend is that?

>>9868815
>I like the swimmer with the big tits

At first I was thinking about Swimmer bag shaped as a huge tit and I was like wtf it's too much even for cgl

>>9868599
Man I just really love teabagging

>>9868757
it's actually really easy to understand as to why, they have conversation starters, something most guys without confidence can't find.

>wow nice cosplay, you look nice etc
>what's your Instagram/twitter handle? so i can check out your other stuff
>go into other conversation if they seem interested

it's easy, people just forget that they're ugly so it doesn't work anyway.

>>9868757
Cons are where I found the love of my life... before she left me for a much older guy with three kids.

I am going to cosplay at a con in a few months. I'm worried I might meet a girl and not like her, which is fine, but I have no filter, and will say right to her why I think she is awful. That in itself is not a problem, but the conflict as a result is. Most people tend to just chit chat a bit and never associate afterward, but that does not interest me.

>>9868851
what

>>9868851
I hope you get punched in the face for your unfathomable levels of autism

>>9868744

>tfw no richmond belle lolita gf to enjoy spring with

>>9868825
There's literally nothing wrong with wanting to be a stepmom as long as the guy is worth it and his kids aren't little shits

I want to buy something new so badly. I'm craving a new main piece. It's been so long since I got something new and I feel like I'm going crazy seeing all my friends as well as anons here getting new stuff. I'm so envious.

>>9868801
Thanks anon! I'm feeling motivated to try again once it dries from being washed! I was kind of double tasking and watching a kid while working on it the first time so I'll do it when I can solely focus on it next time and see how it turns out.

>>9868909
What's stopping you from buying something?

>>9868918
I don't know what to buy!

>>9868925
Do you have some sort of wish list put together? Is your wardrobe cohesive and stable, or are you missing something? And where are you looking? There are so many places to comb for pieces to buy, you'll have to find something you like eventually, if not immediately.

>>9868925
Please switch brains with me anon. So much to buy and never enough to spend.

>>9868802
>tfw no Tsumugi gf

>>9868851
>all that comma usage
Are you from Finland?

>want to start working on a costume
>research on it, know what to do, got the materials
>ready to start and get hit with a sense of dread and the fact that I will fuck up down the line
It's frustrating, I know I can do it, just gotta go slow, but still that feeling of your not ready really puts me off at times.

>>9868815
>le boobies xdxd
why do men turn into drooling retards at the sight of cleavage?

>>9868950
Because they have the mental capacity of babies.

>>9868950
Sounds like someone is salty about not having tits :/

>>9868950
Breasts make life worth living

>>9868950
>>9868952
Because boobs are literally the most common fetish on Earth, and it's in male nature. We have higher sex drives than you.

>Lol men are stupid for liking sex amirite
Just because you have a reason to shit talk the entire male sex, doesn't mean you're right.

>>9868961
>Just because you have a reason to shit talk the entire male sex, doesn't mean you're right.
Hmm, if only men would apply this logic to all their bitching about women.

>>9868962
I agree with that, both sides who complain about the other sex are hypocrites. Your statement still doesn't make mine any less true

>>9868961
>boobs are literally the most common fetish on Earth
Actually, it isn't. It's common in western society, but the rest of the world finds hips and ass a lot more attractive. Sorry to be the bearer of bad news but liking breasts likens your mind to that of a nursing baby's, my dude.

>>9868965
Your logic is lost on me.

>>9868961
Please be joking

>>9868961
This >>9868965, it's actually not at all that common anywhere else besides Western nations and even then really only the US, UK and Mexico. Do a little research before you post next time.

>>9868945
Thankfully not.

>>9868968
>>9868969
Rather than getting semantic, the original premise of the question was why men like breasts, which implies that we're talking about the US. Was my blanket statement wrong? Quite probably, as I'm a butt guy myself, but despite that, what you're talking about has no bearing on the fact that it's male nature to be attracted to breasts, regardless of if it's a man's #1 go-to regarding the female body.

I answered the question, now quit looking for
>hurr durr all men are stupid
Because it's your time of month.

>>9868972
The best ass and the best titties are on the girl you love.

>>9868972
>Because it's your time of month.
>hurr durr all men are stupid
>immediately have to go to the "time of the month" throwaway insult
Ok sure, maybe all men aren't stupid but you sure as shit are, and yes your blanket statement was wrong.

>>9868985
What is your point? I tried giving a candid answer and got met with hostile contradiction.

I wish I could tell when a girl is flirting with me at a con and not just being super nice because they are actually not socially awkward. My friends give me shit every con when girls talk to me and I carry on with my business. I lurk /cgl/ when con season rolls back around and I see the horror storys you girls(gulls?) go through and I super don’t want to be that guy. I just wanna respect cute girls without cucking myself in the process. I don’t even really have standards, just be a cool person.

>tfw wants to cosplay but no money

>>9869002
Just ask. If they compliment you/ask for your number/@ , jokingly ask "In a friendly way or...?"

>>9869002
*stories. Yikes. Also another feelsbad is not having a cosplay gf to help me with/do my makeup for me, I’m clueless when it comes to that stuff and it made my cosplays look so much nicer. I’ve only ever dated one girl that cosplayed and she dumped me for a tiny Korean guy with a drug addiction. She was a koreaboo so I wasn’t too shocked. I don’t miss her but I just miss having a female friend to do couple cosplays with, all my female friends are normies that have bachelors degrees in making plans with me then cancelling them. Like why.

>>9868972
you're the exact male equivalent of women who go hurr durr men are stupid

>>9869012
You don't need a girlfriend for that, just a girl friend.

>>9869016
Unless she's a lesbian bro (a lesbro?) that path always leads to a broken heart

>>9869020
Why? If it's just for the makeup help and duo cosplays?

>>9869022
It's difficult for men to be around a woman for a long period of time without developing feelings for them. Unless she's extremely unattractive odds are he's going to fall for you or develop a crush at some point. That's how we be.

>>9869023
Not a guarantee desu

>>9869020
I have one of those. And yeah that already went down a shitty road. Still friends but I have 0 trust in her now. Maybe I should just train my dudes to cosplay. I’d have to make everything for them but they’d buy the mats, they’ve been a lot more loyal, dumber but loyal.

>>9869023
I wish guys had that with me, they find me attractive at first but I become the bro real soon.
That or they ask for my asian friend's number.

>>9869022
Correction to what he>>9869023 said:
That's how we without options be, attractive outgoing guys with vast social circles can afford to see a girl a just a friend with boobs, the type who can't tell when a girl is being flirty are rarely that type and will develop feelings for the one girl that spends time with them.

My gf was messing around on my Insta feed and saw booty cosplayers. Now she's mad. How do I convince her it's just business?

>>9869029
Does she look/act anything like Mantis from the Avengers movies?

>>9869032
She's right though

>>9869026
I find it's pretty much a guarantee.
>>9869029
That's very difficult for that to happen honestly. Either you're not as attractive as you think you are or the guys you hang around have ridiculously high standards.
>>9869030
Not always true. I don't struggle to find people interested in me but I still find myself developing feelings for girls I spent a long time around. I guess you could say it's anecdotal because I'm a pretty emotionally attached person but it seems to be a universal rule or at least it seems extremely common.

>>9869032
Who cares who you follow on Instagram. Its the equivalent of getting mad at you for jerking off to other girls but so much less. I wouldn't suggest apologizing.

>feeling insecure because husbands boss wants him to travel for the first time for work
>to a work convention in daytona florida
>for 5 days at the end of june
>can't help but feel paranoid he will be unfaithful
>trust him, he's never done anything to ever make me suspect him before
> but there's this nagging feeling
what do I do why can't I stop feeling this way
I hate myself for it.

>>9869002
You aren't getting laid at the convention unless it's a party. I don't think that's what you're trying to do, but that's the best option if you wanted a quick lay. I know plenty who "hook up" through conventions, but that is more realistically explained, "I met them through a convention, we exchanged contact information (social media), and the magic happened after the convention was far gone." You got a smart phone and social media? (Instagram or FB?) If they're being friendly, talk to them, and exchange profiles before you part ways. This is a very simple, "Aye, what's your IG handle?" It could be, "You got FB?" The conversation will go smoothly, you'll add them there on the spot, and you'll part ways. One of two things will happen. You'll find they've either added you back over the next few days or they've ignored you. If the prior happens, go from there! IM them, get to know them, and eventually ask them out. It's polite, it's respectable, and it's private so it doesn't leave anyone feeling uncomfortable in public.

>>9869023
>It's difficult for men to be around a woman for a long period of time without developing feelings for them.

That's simply not true, though. Girls are also good bros, anon. Specially otomes.

>>9869096
I don't think so. I think it's very difficult for men and women to be around each other consistently without developing feelings for each other's provided both are of average attractiveness. People often develop feelings for their preferred gender when they're friends because well, if they're friends they're probably compatible to some degree.

>saving up for Anime Expo this year since February
>saved up the necessary shit (hotel and food shit)
>aiming for a $1K budget (minus from funds once the concert tickets go on sale)
>2018 is revealed to be a terrible year for all the good shit to start popping up
>Kingdom Hearts Orchestra hits my area
>Lin Manuel Miranda’s Hamilton hits my area
>Gravity Falls announces a Blu-ray box set
>plus weekly rent and all those summer movies
I usually don’t have a hard time saving up for AX during the previous years, but this year, goddamn. Hell, I sacrificed watching Logic live and the CE for SNK Heroines for AX funds

>>9868950
Breasts are beautiful, what else do you want us to tell you?
You girls probably feel the same way about strong clean hands on men or something.

>>9869100
And that's the best part, is if it works, you have a friend that, not only do you get to share feels and time with her, now all of a sudden, you can have intercourse with somebody else and it's perfectly okay to get your rocks off, finally.

>>9868950
Because my family produces very thirsty babies, so this becomes a necessity

>Savings for con is going great.
>Brother moves back home with kitty (Zell) that I miss dearly after breaking up with his cunty girlfriend.
>Zell looks bloated and I'm worried it's cancer.
>Take him to the vet and they say it's spleen enlargement or cancer.
>Fuck con savings because I helped birth this cat and he isn't getting taken out by this shit.
>Dump all of con money into vet bills.

I'll know tomorrow morning if Zell is missing his spleen and well or if I have to put him down.

>>9869181
sorry to hear that anon, losing a pet is always rough but hopefully you'll get good news! just remember you tried everything you can.

>>9869181
So sorry to hear that. I hope your savings are being put into making your cat's time bearable.

>>9869029
weird, typically the longer you're around someone the more attractive they become. Well assuming you like their personality.

>>9869023
it's even harder when you're good friends with someone that has a boyfriend, especially if you like them and they know it.

Tfw chestlet

>>9867717
>tfw no angry ginger hobbit bf to pound my lupus hole
guess i'll just die then

>>9868950
Because boobs are nice. I don't know what to tell you dude. Why do girls turn into drooling retards at the sigh of abs?

>>9869242
I never understood the appeal of a guy having abs and I’m a girl

>>9869252
do you like fat dudes or twinks then

>>9869252
If we're going to go by evolutionary biology it indicates strength, youth and athletic ability. All good things for a potential mate to have. Just like thicc and voluptuous titties.

Although I prefer flat chests ironically.

>>9869254
big tits are a hassle desu, like the nipples go fucking everywhere and they cause back issues. My personal preference is bigger than a mans but no bigger than what I can fit in my hand comfortably

>>9869256
I honestly don't really care that much about boob size. Shape, symmetry and proportion are all way more important that size.

>>9869258
That's incredibly fair and really how I feel about most body types. Just because an ass is big doesn't mean it's a great ass ect ect ect

>>9869253
I don’t really have a type when it comes to men. I’m going to sound like a real faggot here but I see personality first and good looks is just a plus


Bonus points for someone willing to let me dress them in lolita or ouji

>>9869261
You're alright gull, you're alright.

>>9869258
This is the one thing I take pride in, having decent sized tits that are symmetrical. Apparently that’s a rarity.

I’m a butterface but hey, at least my tits are nice.

>girl I bought my dream dress from is a scammer
I know I'll get my money back but this sucks

>>9869270
S O U T H - E A S T Q U E E N S L A N D, A U S T R A L I A

>>9869270
post face of butter

>>9869276
Here you go, anon

>>9869116
>tfw male
>tfw 6'
>Tiny babby hands
>Size 7 feet

I don't what the fuck happened, but man am I angry about it.

>>9869181
Hug your brother

>>9869308
My brother isn't the hugging type but I would if he was.

>>9869336
Just say you need one. He loves you

>online friend is going to his first con
>i'll be hanging out with him for a couple of days
>I kinda like him romantically
>I have a bf

What do I do?

Finally enough out of own personal depression I've rekindled my love and desire to cosplay. Now I'm stuck because I picked out my next big cosplay and my next big con but I want to cosplay some thing else on like Friday. I sold all my other displays from before so I'm kinda at a loss for what to wear. Nothing else I want to do seems comfortable enough or just right for this con which is kinda sucking me back into my depression.

>>9869353
Stay loyal. Maybe wingman this guy if you feel like it

>>9869353
jerk off before you see him, clears your head of any perversions that would make your judgement shitty

>>9869181
Anon I sincerely hope for the best for your kitty, good luck with him.

>>9869059
My gf gets mad when I jerk off to other girls, which is dumb, but there's nothing I can do.

>been watching those "oddly satisfying" playlists on youtube for two hours straight
I think I've lost control of my life

Good news! My con crush is newly single. He dumped his gf after she body slammed his grandmother. Granny's ok btw.

I have SO many cosplans for us!

>>9869421
She what

>>9869096
>Girls are also good bros, anon.
Never in my life have I met a girl who was willing to do anything for me unless it was convenient or immediately beneficial to her. Not even my own sister.

>>9869336
>Be non-hugging brother
Trust me, he'll do it.

tfw pic related had a cgl gf subplot

>>9869434
>Never in my life have I met a girl who was willing to do anything for me unless it was convenient or immediately beneficial to her. Not even my own sister.
Hate to say this but it sounds like you're common denominator here dude.

>>9869438
>look up movie on Wikiped
>"She goes to prom with the harmless, Fedora-wearing Chad"
>mfw

>>9868936
I have a list of all the items I'd like to own some day in generic terms (eg. tea length dress, red shoes) but I used to rely heavily on lolibrary's wishlist system to keep a detailed list of what I wanted.

I usually check lacemarket, closetchild, and occasionally wunderwelt. I don't check fril or mercari much.

>>9869438
I'm not even remotely sjw/feminist, but this movie really rubs me the wrong way. There's no way it would be made if it were about three sons trying to get laid.

>>9869261
I'm that way with women, I want to talk to a woman first. Her hygiene and health matter more than her innate looks, and even within that, I'm ok bending my standards for a chubby girl if I like her. While I can find some girls like that attractive, I feel like I avoid them more often than not because shoveling junk food and alcohol into your system is becoming a turn off for me. So, in a sense, I have a type, but much more of that falls on mannerisms and habits. I try not to be judgemental, but it's hard to reconcile these things, and as a result I feel conflicted- I'm of the mind that men and women get together to help improve each other's lives, but I also don't think you should be looking for a date if you expect your girlfriend to fix your life and make it all better.

Am I cognitively dissonant, or does this actually make sense?

>>9869491
>I try not to be judgemental, but it's hard to reconcile these things,
Don't date anon, you're never going to be happy.

First time cosplay making feels

Prop Mk I - turned out shit
Prop Mk II - turned out much, much better but still fucking shit

Time to make Prop Mk III, hopefully I wont' be totally useless this time around. I'm glad I bought way more foam than necessary and gave myself like 2 and half months.

>>9869261
I'm the same way anon. If your partner isn't your best friend what's the point?

>>9869491
>I also don't think you should be looking for a date if you expect your girlfriend to fix your life and make it all better
Being able to distract from your problems onto your gf is actually a thing, that makes it all better. When you have someone along with you, you have motivation to pretend you're fine until you actually get fine, but when you're all alone you have nothing to do besides playing back your struggles inside your mind again and again.

>>9869506
Not that guy but theres a fine line between what you suggest and giving someone else alot of emotional labor and grief to deal with. It's really better to seek out a therapist first if you feel you have a problem, then slowly transition to dating.

>>9869491
Your attitude is absolutely disgusting! Some time ago I've been dating with a woman who's got similar point. Too bad she was so jealous she actually did her best to prevent me from making friends besides her, and also she never wanted to listen to me, so I basically was left alone with my problems. Absolutely terrible, like the longer you stay in relationship the less you understand why tf are you doing it. Hope you either reconsider your point or leave your partner alone.

>>9869491

I really like your attitude that you aren't ready to jump at any woman to be your gf, and you aren't looking for someone else to fix up your life.

Just remember what you said, people come together to help improve each other's lives. Unless you're aiming to waifu Buddha himself, your next gf is likely to have her flaws, same as you probably do some things that annoy other people. Try to remember to be kind and forgiving towards other people. If you pressure girls into becoming flawless so you can have your perfect waifu then that's really no different than those dudes who think getting a gf will solve all their personal problems.

>>9869507
>giving someone else alot of emotional labor and grief to deal with
Nayrt, I understand you don't want to deal with other person's negativity, but in such case you have zero right to blame that person for having problems. Now you kinda trying to force them to make it more comfortiable for you, but also you don't want to participate in any way.

>>9869206
>>9869058
Maybe I'm just a natural bro since I grew up with 3 gamer brothers.

>>9869499
>>9869506
>>9869510
Thank you for the insight. I've known myself to be harsh at times underneath the surface, where I tend to be affable and sociable. I really want to make this as genuine as possible, and find the good in everyone, instead of a seek and destroy attitude about what's bad.

>>9869513
You seem to recognize my introspection at it's core. I look at my own flaws the same way I look at a stranger's, so my attitude generally has made me not want to date. I'd say at my age, I've done the right thing for the wrong reason. I personally fear; that my struggles will drive away women, who would otherwise enjoy me at face value, until they do see my underlying problems. I think this question in particular, was probably the biggest contributor to causing the girl I was dating last to ghost me. I think she thought I was crazy, or a mean bastard. At any rate, I'm going to use your guys' perspectives as a tool to help me learn from all this, because a year ago, I didn't even realize what my deal was.

>>9869543
You're an idiot. I do not blame other people for having problems, but I do expect them to get their shit under control before trying to enter into a long term relationship with others. You will project things you don't mean to on others and really, no one but a licensed therapists should be dealing with these things. If its minor stuff like "man I hate my job" or "boy I hate my neighbor" that's one thing, everyone has things to bitch about. But when you're expecting someone you're dating to deal with and try to "fix" serious issues like I assume we were discussing that's not fair to them and you should know better.

>>9869553
As the guy who started this discussion, one thought I've had that's been at the forefront of my mind is five star General Ulysses S. Grant, a raging alcoholic who probably wouldn't have gone on to make the highest rank in the US Army, without the support of his wife. I cannot reconcile this thought in my mind with my habit of itemizing people's actions. I don't believe this question is monolithic either, because, for example, I can say pretty easily that I won't date someone who does heroin. But where does the line get drawn? Obviously, people here aren't arguing that you should just accept any willing person.

>>9869434
>>Girls are also good bros, anon.
>Never in my life have I met a girl who was willing to do anything for me unless it was convenient or immediately beneficial to her. Not even my own sister.
Guess we just have different life experiences.

>>9869100
>I don't think so. I think it's very difficult for men and women to be around each other consistently without developing feelings for each other's provided both are of average attractiveness.

Nigga how many friends of opposite gender you had in life? You don't go around falling in love with multiple people just because they look good and/or because they watch anime too.

>>9869181
Damn. I'm sorry for you, anon. Hug brother and kitty.

>>9869261
Same here. I recognize men who are good looking, hot, etc. but I can't feel physically attracted to someone unless I get to know them and find out I get along with them.

I never understood people who can just randomly hook up on tinder and stuff. I can't imagine getting naked in front of someone I've only met once or twice.

>>9869560
Well back then marriage was also more of an economic and social institution, so the wife had other incentives besides "he is my husband and I love him" to fix the guy's bullshit. If he went down and couldn't get his act together, she would, too.

I have nice feelings and good intentions, but I'm not good at showing them so I look like I'm just a jaded, salty bitch. And I'm not even funny so I feel like I make meets actively worse every time I open my mouth.

>>9869438
what's with the retro style of every piece of media coming out lately?
It just looks dated.

>>9869116
men without hands really do it for me
need me a handless daddy

>>9869645
It's the in thing. Everything 80's and 90's is cool again, I blame music festival culture.

>>9869645
Probably trying to appeal to the audience with some sort of "retro nostalgia"; would explain the remakes of old series/movies and sudden adaptations and re-adaptations of 90s media.

>>9869560

nayrt, but no. He was a fully functioning dude before he met his girl, and he really only got depressed after being seperated from his closest loved ones, which is enough is make anyone depressed.

Contrast that with the dudes who are depressed before even meeting a girl, and tell themselves they can be happy if they can find a gf that “makes” them happy. That’s basically dumping all responsibility for their own mental wellbeing on another person, who themselves probably have their own issues. At least the drug addicts in your case are looking for their own happiness by themselves (though in the wrong places) and not making someone else spoonfeed it to them.

I mean, if you happen to find another co-dependent who happened to need your particular brand of needyness, maybe the relationship could work out. Everyone else, upon realising that they’re now responsible for all of the work in keeping two grown adults happy, will probably run for the hills. No one sane wants that kind of burden, thanks.
I mean, if you find another co-dependent who perfectly matched up with your own dependence it could maybe succeed. Everybody else is going to run away from you though. Nobody wants to do1000% of the work in a relationship, male or female.

>>9869438
>John Cena Butt-Chugs: The Movie

>>9869510
which part did you mean was disgusting about his attitude?

The point is a man and a woman can't be just friends because eventually the dude is gonna fuck it up. The only exceptions being if both of them are attractive and have something else going on or if one of them is gay.

>>9869771
In my experiences (male) it's been the girl who's fucked up.

>>9869491
Original anon you responded to here, I used to be a crazy chick that got jealous for no reason and was emotionally dependent on someone. Then I got my shit together and realized I definitely do not someone to make my life any better. In doing so I became much more recluse and emotionally distant. Anyone who ends up wanting to date me will know well ahead of time that I thrive better in relationships that give me space.

>>9869441
Clearly. I forgot to mention that I'd go out of my way to help them if they need it or make time to do things with them but if I ever need help or want to hang out they're always busy or not feeling well.
>But anon, maybe they really are busy or not feeling well
They constantly post on fb about how bored they are and want to go do something with someone.

How do I stop being a utility and start being a friend? Not being available all the time didn't help, now they just don't talk to me.

>>9869787
Look dude, it's not rocket science. A girl(or a guy for that matter) will take in between 20 seconds and 20 minutes after first meeting you to classify you in one of three categories
>would definitely fuck
>would fuck maybe
>would never fuck
First impressions are extremely important. Once you're slotted in the bottom category it's pretty much impossible to climb up, dudes who think "I'll win her over" have been watching too much anime, no amount of effort or time or grand gestures will turn her opinion around.
And you shouldn't begrudge them for that, taste is not objective or rational, a girlfriend isn't a perk you unlock after grinding for xp.
What you should do however is have the foresight to realize you've been would-neve-bang'd, cut your losses and move on.

>>9869805
That's not the question I asked. I'm fine being in the would-never-fuck zone because it's the only place I've ever been but at the same time I'm also not even a friend. I'm just a utility they call on when their car breaks or they need something moved. I just want female friends I can do basic friend things with like drink beer and go to fucking concerts and shit. You know, things that I already do with my male friends.

>>9869832
>What you should do however is have the foresight to realize you've been would-neve-bang'd, cut your losses and move on.
Already gave you the answer

>>9869091
Woah thanks for the thicc answer. Good advice, I’ll use it if an obvious chance arises but I think I’ll just try to get my male friends into cosplaying with me instead. As you said cons are not a place to hook up nor is it a place where I expect that to happen, all the girls there that start conversations with me look like they’re only 16-18 so I’ll mostly likely keep minding my own business as I’ve been.

>>9869836
So women only engage people they have some degree of sexual attraction to, gotcha. Wish I knew that 10 years ago. Would've saved me a lot of gas money.

>>9869181
Good luck, anon. My heart hurts for you and your brother.

The only cons I've ever been to have been AWA and my small local one but I'm going to Acen this year and I'm really excited. AWA hasn't really had any guests that interested me in a good few years and there haven't been too many panels that looked good to me. Acen this year has two guests I'm excited for an several panels that look really good. I haven't felt this excited for a con in a while!

>>9869840
Dude, you've been getting duped for a decade and never thought to look deeper into it?

>>9869840
Unless it’s work related. Then again the last person I slept with was a coworker, I legit thought she was just being nice to me then boom flash forward to sex. I’ll never understand women.

>>9869849
Nah, I quit doing favors after I finished high school. After that I started asking for payment they either payed up or stopped calling me and now I'm 25 with no female contacts at all.

I know I shouldn't complain because I'm nowhere near overweight, but my waist finally hit 66 cm and I feel so big.

I love my girlfriend but I wanna taste even more buttholes

Not being single anymore means butthole tasting, my favorite pastime at cons, is fuckin over

Maximum bittersweet!

>>9868757
>or it's the only place that some people try.
where else CAN you try?

>>9869880
This is the real question. Cold approaching girls without some sort of context is a no-win situation and for a lot of guys at cons the con is the only group activity they participate in that has a female population consisting of more than girlfriends tagging along.

>>9869870
Fat

>>9869879

>>9869913
Rude

>>9867739
I haven't been to a con since 2011, just wasn't my cup of tea.

>>9869646
>Caaarl why did you eat his haaaands
My stomach was making the rumblies.. that only hands would satisfy

>>9869421
anon wtf, why did she bodyslammed the poor granny

>>9869560
Damn dude you dont even fucking know your history. He was an alcoholic as a cadet and was sober by the time he met her. So yeah, get your shit together before you hope to meet a lifelong partner cause nobody wants to deal with your shit.

>>9869864
Anon the others gave you terrible advise. I've had plenty of male friends and only one of them was the type that I absolutly wouldn't hang out with and it was because he was extremely odd and made me feel uncomfortable all the time. Like he'd call me up to see if I wanted to go see a new store opening or go to a movie but he just couldn't make it not weird. He'd ask bizarre imappropriate questions, harmless but inappropriate, he had a temper and would get pissed off at others if the took his parking space or something and then other times he'd plan out a whole day of what we were going to do to insane levels when I told him I was just meeting him for a movie or something. He knew we were just friends. He claimed thats all he wanted. But he constantly made it weird.
Now I'm sorry to ask you this but are you making it weird in some way that they don't want to hang out with you? Sit down and think about your behavior for a bit and go from there.

>>9870113
>Like he'd call me up to see if I wanted to go see a new store opening or go to a movie but he just couldn't make it not weird. He'd ask bizarre imappropriate questions, harmless but inappropriate...then other times he'd plan out a whole day of what we were going to do to insane levels when I told him I was just meeting him for a movie or something. He knew we were just friends. He claimed thats all he wanted. But he constantly made it weird.

Holy shit, anon, I'm dealing with a guy like this. I can't even call him a friend anymore because our interactions give me such anxiety. How did you confront him? Or cut him out?

>>9870113
Chances are yes he's coming across as a creep and as I told him by that point it's irredeemable and he should cut his losses and move on, leave the girl alone instead of trying to brute-force his way into a girlfriend.

Same thing with your dude, he should have realized it was a lost cause and ceased contact long ago but he tried to keep brute-forcing it to get you to change your mind.

>>9870127
Don't beat around the bush, you can't have your cake and eat it too in those cases, he will not be dissuaded.
Tell him straight on, looking into his eyes and without any vagueness of ambiguity that you don't like to hang out with him and that you don't wanna see him anymore.
He'll call you a bitch, he'll call you a whore, he'll call you a manipulator, he'll call you shallow, he'll claim you were leading him on, he'll probably yell, you'll probably cry, he'll probably cry too and there will most definitely be backlash on social media.

But that's just how it has to be.

>>9869840
There's never just one easy answer.
I have a handful of friends and they're almost all men.
They know I have a bf and I'm more into women anyways, they know they have no chance even if I was single.
Women will either keep friends they know are comfortable being in the friend zone, or they'll eventually drop them, understanding that there's sexual tension they'll never fulfill. I've done it myself.
Maybe you're thirsty and just don't realize how much it's playing into your actions and conversation.
Women do hold male friendships, but not all of them are comfortable with the idea of stringing along someone like that.

Friendships rely on being vulnerable if you want to keep them going otherwise they just end up puttering out into acquaintance-ships.
Having to keep your guard up when you're out having fun with someone is really exhausting, I don't go to a lot of lolita meets because of it and I'd definitely reconsider a friendship if I found myself doing the same thing with someone I hang with on a regular basis.

That being said, if some chick you're doing favors for never returns the effort or doesn't have a discussion with you about your friendzone, she's playing you and you ought to drop that time waster immediately.

>>9869840
You're an idiot. Women are no different than guys with who and who they won't hang out with. But if you're a raging inappropriate sperg like the person in >>9870113 women are not going to want to hang out with you (and trust me, your guy friends don't want to either, they're just being polite).

>tfw a known scalper is bidding on your listing

Go go, other bidder-chans! pls save this item from any evil clutches

>everybody in my cosfam is married except one guy
>ask him why
>says he doesn't want to "throw his life away"
>mfw his gf is barely legal

>>9870216
As long as it's consensual and healthy, there's absolutely nothing wrong with dating a teenage girl

>>9870113
>Now I'm sorry to ask you this but are you making it weird in some way that they don't want to hang out with you? Sit down and think about your behavior for a bit and go from there.
If anything I'm trying my best NOT to do anything that might be offensive or overly friendly. No touching, no politics/disagreeable opinions, no cursing, etc.

>>9870130
See above. I still can't figure out why you keep basing everything on the pretense that I'm going straight to "acquire gf". All I'm trying to do is build a platonic relationship with a girl or two without ending up as little more than a source of free/cheap labor.

>>9870148
>Maybe you're thirsty and just don't realize how much it's playing into your actions and conversation.
See above.
>Friendships rely on being vulnerable if you want to keep them going otherwise they just end up puttering out into acquaintance-ships. Having to keep your guard up when you're out having fun with someone is really exhausting.
I agree, but being open and unguarded leads to disagreements and disagreements ruin friendships now.

>>9870161
>You're an idiot.
I agree. If I wasn't I wouldn't be in this situation.

>>9869285
I'd make out with this face

>>9869303
how's your balance?

>>9869544
idk man bros with tits are the best thing ever.

>>9870229
word
been dating one for two years and it's given me a new lease on life
too bad it's gotta end soon

>>9870229
I'm more bothered by his claim that I threw away my life by starting a family.

>>9870284
>no politics/disagreeable opinions, no cursing, etc.
Alright, you're on the right boat with the no touching policy, but you might want to rethink the rest of what you said... You're coming off fake. Women have opinions, they have political views, and you should too. It shouldn't be an issue unless you believe in scientific racism or something. Also, no cursing? Most women curse even if they don't regularly talk like a sailor. Really, touching and sexual discussion are the only two places you can't go, and even the latter is dependent on the situation. (If a group is talking about sex then it is okay to likewise discuss sex.) Try being a little more yourself in the sense of speaking your mind, letting that curse word slip, and the sort. Sure, you might offend a couple people, but you'll have better luck in the long run. It is actually unintentionally sexist to temper your speech just because you're speaking to a woman. Not touching people is just common sense for men and women, and not discussing sex out of the blue is polite. Past that, you're just stunting your personality, and coming off shallow.

True friendships are between people who can disagree with one another.

>>9870288
That makes me feel better about having a fug face and nice titties, anon

>>9870229
Yuck

>>9870301
U did lol

>>9870216
>barely legal
>legal
Nothing wrong there.
Yeah, she might be immature, but he probably is too.

>>9870284
Maybe you just have high standards. Have a hobby? Develop friendships around the hobby regardless of how attractive or interesting they are outside the hobby.

>>9870308
This, a lot this.

>>9870329
I'm here for you anon, I gotchu!

I'm so depressed I'm considering joining the military to hive my life dome purpose
/blog

>>9870439
My hobbies are all either solitary or 99.7% male. The remaining 0.3% are gfs that get dragged along and have no interest in actually being there or talking to anyone.
Anime cons are the only thing I do that has a substantial female population but that's also out because nobody I meet at my local con lives anywhere near me so at best we'd only see each other once a year.
>High standards
My standards are as follows:
-Be female
-Be able to hold a conversation
1. A conversation about more than what you saw on TV last night
2. Without looking at your phone every 30 seconds
-Don't be a hamplanet

>>9870308
>>9870440
I don't know what to do here. If I open up too much I wind up offending them somehow (being conservative in the Seattle area is a death sentence) and then they ghost me but if I don't then they get bored and ghost me. It'd be nice if I could find a happy medium with the same girl but that's obviously not going to happen so I have to meet and connect with a new girl every time and in my day to day life that's an extremely tall order.

>>9870484
>1. A conversation about more than what you saw on TV last night
>2. Without looking at your phone every 30 seconds

You understand that it's on you to be interesting too and keep them engaged enough to want to look at their phone, right? Discussing television is a pretty normal icebreaker, as well. You have to sustain the conversation long enough to get past that. It's a two way street, baby.

>>9870505
>engaged enough to want to look at their phone
Oops, should be
>engaged enough to NOT want to look at their phone

>>9870484
I'm a girl with many female friends who fit those standards. They're all social and good-looking though so likely out of your league.

>>9870292
Oh. Too bad I'm flatchested.

>>9870515
dfc is still delicious homie, that just fits my tomboy fetish even better.

>>9870521
>tomboy fetish
manofculture.jpg

>>9870505
I don't have TV. It'd be a one-sided conversation of them telling me about the latest episode of some show I've never even heard of. I'm well aware that I also have to be interesting and I'm terrible at it because nobody is intetested in what I have to say unless I piggyback off of whatever subject they decided to pick. Girls don't want to talk about cars or guns or camping or paintball or any anime that isn't mainstream flavor-of-the-month garbage.
I don't know, there just isn't much common ground between me and most of the girls I meet and the ones that do share some of my interests aren't very good at talking about them.

>>9870512
>Likely out of your league
That's really not hard to do.

>>9870127
>>9870113 here, I unfortunately just kinda ghosted him. I feel shitty that I had to do it but I couldn't deal with his behavior and I legit did not know what to do. Everyone tells you you should tell the person to their face why you don't want to hang out with them anymore but this guy has a temper like I already mentioned and I was a bit afraid what his reaction would be. I just feel so bad about the whole ordeal honestly.

And to get back on topic, I'm also >>9868262
and the place I got the eyes from is actually refunding me back everything including my return shipping to them so yay! Sometimes these things do work out after all.

>>9870147
Teach me your ways oh strong and forceful anon, I fall apart everytime and just generally become a sad-sack little puddle when I have to tell someone something like that.

>>9870529
I think you finally hit the nail on the head here, you might just be boring- I don't think you have any shared subjects you can talk about. The problem now is becoming more well-rounded so you have stuff to discuss with ladies is not an easy road to go down.

>>9870550
So how do I force myself to be interested in things?

I went to a con for the first time a few months ago and enjoyed it, but I felt really out of place because I wasn't cosplaying and was just hanging out. I wanna cosplay for an upcoming con. But I feel really anxious about it. I found a character I wanted to cosplay, only thing is he doesn't wear a shirt. I'm not insecure of my body, but I am about the way I might be perceived for cosplaying this character. The group I was with was mostly girls, and I felt totally comfortable because I was just wearing casual clothes. I just feel like cosplaying a shirtless character in a group of girls is a really bad look and I'm shitting myself just thinking about it. Am I overthinking this?

>>9870539
Do you crumble under pressure and/or are you a people pleaser?

>>9870481
lool, don't do it homie. Not unless it's chairforce.

>>9870560
He's never worn a shirt? Ever? could always like give him a vest or something that would fit his aesthetic

>>9870560
Yes, you are. As long as you're not being creepy around these girls just cosplay what you want.

>>9870561
People pleaser that has trouble telling people stuff I know is gonna make them feel bad.

>>9870560
From an outside perspective, being a shirtless dude in a group of girls is probably the best position you can be in as far as whether or not you'll be viewed negatively, followed by being a shirtless dude in a group of dudes, followed by 50 feet of shit, followed by being a lone shirtless dude. As long as your group is ok with it I'd say you're good to go.
>Am I overthinking this?
More than can be accurately measured.

>>9870301
He rite.

>>9870555
I have no idea unfortunately.

>>9870566
>>9870481

Veteran of the Chairforce here, fucking do it lad. Become the Chad.
JK, expect a lot of bullshit and running. NEVER STOP RUNNING. Also for the love of god don't become services, a cop, or any kind of maintaining job. Shoot for a boring but lucrative on the outside tech job, or like medical, or for legitimately the best quality of life go aircrew. Become a load master or boom operator.

>>9870484
>Lives in Seattle
Oh, there's your problem champ. rip

>>9870579
Not in Seattle proper, about 40 miles north. Still in the contamination zone but far enough out to get a smattering of normal, rational people.

>>9870560
If you do this, please for the love of all things holy, shave your damn armpits. There is nothing grosser than seeing a dude cosplaying a character who's shirtless but then hes got these nasty little pube-looking armpit hairs. Please, just shave your pits and wear a good deodorant.

>>9870569
Then you're gonna fuck it up, he'll give you puppy eyes or hit you with a barb that will make you feel guilty and you'll back down.
You need the cold distance a screen provides.

>>9870586
Gdi Im so fucked, guess its back to just using texts then yeah, thanks though.

>>9870588
also don't be afraid to block him, he'll be a salty little bitch about it but that's his problem not yours.

>>9870583
Still though, back to the conversation proper
You want to have a 'bro with tits' friend, and even though there are at least two of them in this thread alone if we're counting me and tomboy chan, we're still pretty fucking hard to find.
Probably don't write off those all of those girls interested in your hobbies as just the 'gf' of someone in the hobby, but that's super situational, since I don't even know what the fuck you play.
I'm speaking as someone who's into a bunch of /tg/ grognard hobbies that gets mistaken for just 'the gf' a lot.

>>9870588
Just get another friend to do it? Is it online or a rl friendship?

>>9870592
Irl friend which makes it a bit trickier (and sadder), but I'll manage.

>>9870595
How long have you known him?

>>9870597
...four years...I never should have let it go on this long

>>9870598
Yeah that's pretty fucking long anon. You could just tell him how he makes you feel, and maybe if he acknowledges it he can try and make a change, if he really cares about your friendship he would. If he acts negatively just cut him off, it's not like you guys are married.

>>9870598
Have you thought about getting a friend to back you up when you go talk to him?
If you explain what you need and why, I'm sure at least one friend of yours wouldn't mind just being there for moral support and stepping in if he starts laying on the guilt train, or if you start shirking away from telling him to fuck off.
Gotta at least have one straight-laced mother fucker you can put in the ring with you, if you don't, you should.

>>9870599
I will do my best, I just need to quit being a pussy.

>>9870602
I have several friends who would have my back in an instant I've just always hesitated to involve them because I feel bad for how that's gonna feel to the dude- obviously two people on one- but then again that's my problem, I'm a doormat I guess.
But no I will take care of this you guys have talked me into it and given me the motivation to not keep being a fucking baby.

New thread >>9870608

>>9870576
I was thinking reserve intel analyst

>>9870289
I was fucking shit at sports because of my balance.

>>9870308
>It is actually unintentionally sexist to temper your speech just because you're speaking to a woma

ayee what if it's just natural? I always tend to speak softer to girls than I do with guys without trying. It's just natural.

>>9870643
I'm guessing that's what s/he means by "unintentional". Either way, it's bullshit. I also temper my speech around my elders, does that make me ageist?

>>9870584
Seconded.
Seeing body hair like that disgusts me.
Also the bikini line/snailtrail

cum butt

>>9869397
>My gf gets mad when I jerk off to other girls, which is dumb, but there's nothing I can do.

Sure, there's something you can do: break up with her.

>tfw black