/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL

I'm in a Texas comm. It's the south, so of course gigantic people are everywhere. There's an obese lolita in my comm who often brings up her size and weight when talking about dress sizing, etc., and I freeze whenever she does. Sometimes it's a simpler, "Oh, I could never fit into that! I wish I could, though..." Other times she uncomfortably overshares, "My sister says I'm too fat to look good in this" while looking to us to comfort her for it. But then it's a more surprising comment like, "I can't go to mini meets at restaurants... The booths are too small."

This girl can't fit into a restaurant booth -- A BOOTH!! She's MASSIVE. And she's obviously got some mental issues, what with her blaming the booths for being too small rather than her being too large. I finished dropping 1/4 of my bodyweight recently, and I've realized how really fucking easy it is to lose weight. It's called self control! Discipline! Things she's apparently never heard of! I'm getting to the point of holding back the primal urge to yell, "We get it! You're FAT! So what are you gonna FUCKIN' DO ABOUT IT????"

Her attitude makes me not want to accommodate her. I want to go walking through a park and enjoy nature while she's bumbling behind us, sweating like a pig and gasping for air after walking 50 feet. I want to sit at restaurant booths where we're out of the walkways and we have more privacy (so we won't be gawked at so much). She can sit pull up a couple chairs to sit on at the end of the table and block the walkway if she wants. I want to wear the pretty dresses I've earned through discipline while she will only be able to wear replicas and fish for pity about it.

How do I react tactfully to her comments? I can't lie and glaze over it by saying, "Oh, you're beautiful just the way you are!" I don't want to lie and give a backhanded compliment like, "At least you have a cute face." If I dodge the subject, it's blatantly obvious and comes off as rude. Most of the other girls go quiet.

>>9695848
" is there anything you can do about it?"

>>9695848
kick her out of the comm honestly, like talk to your other members about it, basically complain that she is making this a drag and that you may even consider leaving yourself if nothing is done about it. its not because she fat, its because she is annoying and holding your party down from having a good time because the meeting is just a pity part to revolve around her gravitation pull at this point. Fat people are fine if they can stop talking about themselves and are actually showing an effort to better themselves, its great actually when a friend can accomplish goals like that.

>>9695848
There's a girl like this in my comm, I usually just keep my mouth shut when it comes up. When we have meets that have a lot of walking, she is always complaining even when it's a relatively short walk and no one else is bothered by it. It is amazing how little self-awareness obese people can have when it come to how much of an inconvenience their weight is causing them. They never want to stop being fat however.

>>9695855
This is the worst. No longer is their obesity affecting their own pursuit of happiness, now they are a cancer for any friend or social life they attempt to make and will do nothing but be a depressed slob obsessed with having your pity. It the absolute worst kind of friend to ever have. I had one who I tried to help lose weight, I suggested something simple, like walking her dog who never leaves the house. Her fucking DOG was becoming depressed and obesed, just like she was. I tried to use this as an example her weight isn't merely affecting herself. She couldn't ever walk her own dog. It was suffering because she couldn't be damned to walk it around the block. I ended up being paid to walk it by myself eventually.

This happened to me a while back at a con earlier this year
>brother sets me up with nerdy girl who wants to go to cons too
>she wants to cosplay and match me
>make my cosplay and make one to match her
>she gets tons of pics taken of her, I occasionally get asked to be in them too
the real kicker was
>girls keep coming up to her and telling her she's so talented and asking how she made this or that
>they even occasionally asked how she made my cosplay
Ended up getting in a fight with her because she wouldn't correct them about it, but to be honest I'm more mad that people in the cosplay community think guys are useless and incapable of making things. They honestly thought I was just a big idiot who had his gf make him a cosplay, like I wasn't some "real cosplayer" or "real nerd". This hobby and community is just so anti-male that it pisses me off, especially here.

>tfw the mailman's daughter is also into anime and cosplay

>bf's mother was in new york recently
>sends him a picture of the BABY shopfront saying "look how cute this shop is!"
>mfw he shows me the text

For reference I'm ausfag, so it just seems really kind of magical and rare that she chanced upon baby while she was there. My boyfriends family don't know anything about lolita, since I'm not a lifestyler and I rarely wear it, but this made me really fuzzy and excited. Not only does his mother already think it's cute, but if I ever happen to be in a situation where they see me in lolita I won't feel scared or ridiculous.

that tfw when you ask your comm leader's boyfriend to jerk off on a tortilla so you can grill it with chicken and cheese and eat it and he says no and you get kicked out of the comm

>>9695866
>sperged out and blew my chance at getting laid all weekend.
faget

>>9695866
I can actually empathize with this and it's probably best to drop someone who can't give you credit for the things you do. Claiming you made something that was made for you or bought/commissioned in cosplay is a big no-no. Doing when the person who made it is standing right there? Holy crap!

But anyways, we have a cosplay group where everyone has their things they're better at and we tend to all get together to make group cosplays. No one believes that the men in our groups are the ones that sew or apply makeup. They always assume we make the foam and leather props, but obviously the women are responsible for sewing, wig styling and makeup. OK so our wig stylist is female, but the others not so much.

>>9695845
>Be me
>Ugly, scary, big, and overall unappraochable and unattractive dude
>weebs here tell me "go to a con, it'll be fun!"
>know it's a bad idea
>weebs say "how will you know if you never go?!?"
>because I have common sense
>go anyway against my better judgement
>people react how I expect

Can I kill myself or are you gonna say it gets better next?

reposting because i'm a fucking idiot and didn't see the new thread

legit question to the girls here, if a girl tells people they're not looking for a relationship right now in casual conversation about their life (not just towards me, literally our entire mutual friend group), do i still give it a shot or do i just save my breath.

keep in mind i like this person as a friend too and don't want to ruin the friendship by getting rejected and making shit super awkward, especially if i really didn't have a shot to begin with.

Maybe being a mom won't be so bad

>>9695914
If she's not looking for a relationship don't try to get into one with her. Its not that hard to just listen to a person and respect their wishes my god.

>>9695914
>>/adv/
at least try to be on topic

>>9695930

i won't then. it's only confusing because we were both discussing a few days ago what we WANT out of a relationship and we agreed on every point, and she made some weird passive like "i guess like i just don't want a dumb relationship" or some shit but that was the only time she said it

i guess im projecting my personal experience of not wanting a relationship but being open to still trying it if i think the person is cool

i haven't felt like this in a while it's hard to cope with.

>>9695934

she's part of a group i joined in college and we're going to a con together this weekend. i just didn't add that in because i figured it would be assumed that it's related to this shit.

>>9695848

Idk if you ever did motivational interviewing training, but you can try it on her. I'm fucking terrible at it, but maybe you're better.

>>9695914
She was letting you down easily, she doesn't want a relationship with you specifically.
That ship has sailed, give up hope on that and move on with your life, you can still be cordial to her but accept that she's not into you that way.

>>9695914
If you are thirsty male, you are not good friend, so give it a try because you are gonna ruin this friendship anyway.

>made offer to seller to buy a dress
>they decline
>later find out that they lowered the price for what you offered because it couldn't sell
>someone else bought it
>feels bad

>>9695906
You could cosplay the ore monogatari guy

>>9695906
I feel you.
i am no tall but i am broad.
>want to cosplay characters like sephiroth or cloud.
> will look like a lumberjack version of every character I cosplay.
Still you should go. Did the same thing, i just stepped into the void and actually enjoyed it.

>>9695866
The reason a lot of people assume guys leave the cosplay making to their gfs is because a lot of guys genuinely do. It's not fair on you, but that's the reality of it.

If only I had a dollar for every guy who lamented not being able to sew/style a wig/apply makeup because they didn't have a manic pixie cosplay gf to teach them how (read: do it for them).

>I can spend all my spare money on Lolita
>I can even wear the more decent pieces at work
But
>my room is smol and I don't actually have space for all the dresses
>even if I wouldn't spend money on more Lolita I wouldn't be able to afford an own apartment in the next 3-5years

>be named Carter
>mfw my comm calls me Carter the farter

>>9696054
Vacuum seal the stuff you don't wear often or stuff that's out of season and hang the other stuff on those really thin flocked hangers. It saves a ton of space and you can always take things out when you need them and put them back in.

>>9696049
post bobs n vagene

>>9696057
Is your comm full of pubescent children?

>Years ago want to start real cosplaying, not just closet costumes
>Friends start but get lazy and stop, so I stop
>Friends move out of state
>Convince them to make costumes again and come out for a con, cram in major hours to finish costume
>They cancel the day before
>No one else to go with on such late notice

Is there a word for both sad and mad as fuck?

>>9696057
Well do you?

>>9696072
Smad

>>9696061
That sounds like a good idea! Thanks a lot.

>moved to Japan to teach English
>move to Hokkaido as requested
>life is good
>BUT
>there is no major conventions outside of Komiket
>if I wanna cosplay and make friends I have to travel all the way to Tokyo every six months
>no con variety obviously, either.

I miss meeting different seagulls at different cons...

>>9696094
Then save up and go have a great time. I live in Kansai and I travel twice a year to Tokyo to watch Moi Dix Mois and twice a year overseas. We may not make much, but if you can budget you can make it happen.

>>9696042
>ore monogatari
Wow, why have I never seen this? Then again I don't really watch slice of life shows. Too bad I'm black.

>>9696049
>Still you should go. Did the same thing,
I already did...

Are you kids telling me I should keep going and eventually my problems will disappear? Because that's not how it works.

>>9695848
Honestly, if you're not going to handhold her to weightloss, you're better off just ignoring her. She needs to wake up on her own or find an angel who's willing to put in the time to be her self esteem and attention giver through weightloss.

>>9695866
Honestly why didn't you speak up? Like >>9696051 said, it's pretty rare to see guys who cosplay that didn't 1) buy all their stuff or 2) have their girlfriends make it. If you are proud of your work and want to be known for it, don't let other people steamroll over you.

>>9696108
Maybe you need to pick a character to cosplay that'll match your appearance? Not to say that you can't cosplay any character you want, but if you pick one that works with what you look like so you can pull it off easily, people will be impressed and you might feel more comfortable.
Have you tried posting in one of the cosplay suggestion threads? I'm not sure whether there's an existing one right now, maybe try the help thread instead for now, but I suggest you try it. Don't give up, anon!

>>9695938
Keep being her friend. Literally 100% of my good relationships have been from friendships. If you like this girl, respect that she's not looking for a relationship right now and don't be flirty or make moves or single her out/be specifically nice to her for the sake of orchestrating things-but just treat her like a friend. Things do genuinely grow from friendships I think.

>>9696108
Not a lot of black characters in anime, but there are still a few iconic ones or timely memes you can jump on. Alternatively, just get super fucking buff and do buff pokemon gijinka-6 packs with a Diglet cardboard cut out will make you the most popular and fun guy at the con I promise.

In truth, figure out what you want out of con. If it's making friends, see if there's local anime events/comic shops/etc and communities you can pre-join (and meet over weeks and weeks so they learn you aren't an intimidating and scary dude) and then go to conventions with them. If it's cosplay, learn more about crafting, about taking care of your body, etc. It can take a con in a mask or Iron Man suit or w/e to get people coming up to you asking for photos. My friend who has burn scars took a long time to get into cosplay to begin with since people rarely talk to him and just stare-did a Blue Spirit (ATLA) cosplay and had a fucking blast. Through that, he made more cosplay friends and feels more comfortable doing non-mask cosplays now. Good luck, don't give up, the scene is fun and there's a niche for all of us!

>been a part of pretty big cosplay comm for two years
>we're all a big family and some of the smaller friendships go back like over a decade
>early this year one of my closer friends in the comm got a bf and they were good together and had met over tinder
>bf and I got along really well, lots of things in common, similar humor
>friend says I'm like his bro
>realize I am developing feelings for her bf so I do the right thing and keep it to myself and slowly distance myself from him too
>hit middle of August when my life becomes a shit storm and I'm practically never seeing friends due to flying out for family etc
>during this time my friend and her bf broke up
>yesterday recieve text from ex bf to hang out
>from what I know, they broke up on good terms and he's still in our cosplay comm since he made friends there as well
>just started getting back on my feet last month, looking forward to prep for Katsu with my friends, and he tells me he's going also

I still really like him, do I take this opportunity to make my move?

>>9696121
Sure, just be mature about it. If you make a move, and he really doesn't reciprocate, be clear that you're not going to pine after him or go psycho.

>con today
>can't sleep
it's 6 am now and i wanna be at the con by 4 pm rip me

>>9696114
Did that.
>>9696118

I'm sorry guys, but I think I'll stick to my better judgement and kill myself.

>tfw no lolita gf to dress me in aristo and take me under her wing

>>9696148
>tfw gf but I'm the lolita (not a girl btw)

>>9696148
>dress me in aristo
Eh. A man who knows how to dress himself is far more attractive than someone who needs his hand held like a child.

>>9696155
I'm not an invalid who doesn't know how to dress himself, anon. Calm down. I just don't know enough about that fashion in particular and think it'd be something sweet to share in with your s/o

>>9696158
>calm down
No one's angry, just stating my opinion. If you don't know much about aristo that's fine, if you're interested in wearing it that's great, but you should probably do your own research on it and learn how to wear it yourself and not expect any qt gf to dress you up like a Ken doll. That's the point I was trying to make.

>>9696160
>not expect any qt gf to dress you up like a Ken doll
That's not what I was insinuating with my original post at all but okay

>>9696155
You're as bad as the male here posters lol. Just let them have their dream without your bitter bullshit getting in the way.

>>9696163
Sorry, I forgot to mention that getting this buttmangled over a simple statement is also unattractive. :^)

>>9696094
Not sure about Hokkaido but I’ve been to several cosplay meetups in Ikebukuro, have you looked into events like that?

>got a really nice zentai as a gift
>want to modify it into a real cosplay
>am super fucking poor
>afraid to cut/sew it because if I fuck up, I just wasted a $50+ gift and won't get a new one

>>9696108
>Too bad I'm black
I'm so mad at you right now. Breh, you need to stop limiting yourself and being so self-conscious.
Maybe if you watched Ore Monogatari it would motivate you to live more happily and freely. take risks, just like you did in going to the con. but don't expect everything to magically work for you if you don't open yourself to it and put in the effort to make it fun.
some people might think this, that, or whatever--but honestly, who cares!??! the winner in life is the person who does what they love and brings themselves and the people around them joy!

don't you dare ever not cosplay a cool character just because you aren't Japanese. you being black shouldn't keep you from having fun, like it's some kind of debilitating curse.
>t. black lolita who's fucking getting her damn dreams and doesn't afraid of ANYTHING

>>9696192
This is a great attitude to have! I wholeheartedly agree with you, hopefully anon listens to you.

>>9696064
Lots of hair and a bennis.

I honestly don't understand the hype about having a cosplay gf.
My best friend dated one and while she devirginized him and they had a good thing going for a couple of years she was also neurotic and possesive and always broke and ended up going full SJW and left him for a girl she did JoJo ERP with whi incidentally lived on the other side of the country.

Plus the Stocking and Satsuki cosplays she did weren't all that great.

>>9696113
Nayrt but it's really hard when you're in a he said she said situation and they believe the other person already

>>9696223
>cosplay gf
Nah bro, read the last feels thread. Cosplay gfs are out. Anti-SJW lolita gf is the new hotness

>>9696108
>Too bad I'm black.
Nigga go hang out with the yu gi oh crowd, they're some of the most friendly and welcoming people around, they're loud and kinda crazy but total bros.

Unless you're one of those "I'm not like other black people" types.

>want to be cute for cosplay
>binge eating is back

Fuck, I'm out of control. This sucks.

>losing fat
>gaining muscle
I'll look like a 1980s post-apocalyptic tough guy before I know it

There's this girl in my comm who's a really loud laugher, but it's not a real laugh. It's an anime laugh.

"OH ho ho ho ho! OOHH ho ho ho ho!"

>>9696318
Fuck, Santa's in your comm? Can I get an autograph?

>>9696332
>cursing
You're on the naughty list

>>9695921

The one friend I have close is super flakey. She's far more introvert than I am so like on some level I get it if she'll have to cancel due to social exhaustion, but 8/10 times we try and hang out she ends up flaking out on me. I've been trying to get together an evening for cosplay work for like a year at this point but it just seems it wont ever happen... I love her, but it's honestly really annoying.

>>9695921
No
Don't be weak now

>>9696381
So stop asking her over so much and find other friends to fill your time. She probably also feels bad about cancelling on you so often, so why continue to disappoint yourself and make her uncomfortable? Let her know she's welcome over if she wants to work on cosplay, invite her to other stuff occasionally, and otherwise just accept that you and she have different priorities and don't get annoyed with her for it because you don't have any other friends nearby to be needy toward.

>>9696381
I have a friend like that, she will ask me to hang out (because I never bother anymore, it's a waste of time) and then flake on me despite the fact she set the time/date/place. She'll usually flake the morning of too, after I've already gotten ready.

She manages to not flake out on her coswhore "friends" (she actually hates them and talks shit about them behind their backs all the time) though.

Find better friends anon. That's what I did.

How weird would it be to gift a girl that I'm not quite friends with, that likes manga, a volume of a manga for christmas?
We talk to each other in class frequently and on the way home from it (also occasionally exchange whatsapp messages about class related stuff) and whe've recently warmed up to each other so that interaction is a lot more natural and it's gotten a lot easier to approach each other recently without "a good reason" in mind.
I feel like we could be good friends if both of us weren't so horrible a the whole "making friends" thing.

If it could send the wrong kind of signal please tell me, because I'm a fucking autist as far as this kind of shit goes.

(She cosplays, so it's tertiarily /cgl/ related)

>>9696546
To add It's a manga I think she might like, but probably hasn't read yet.

>>9696546
>>9696550
I don't think it's weird at all, especially if it's just one volume. It might be more than what she's expecting to get since you aren't really friends yet, but it's still a nice, thoughtful gift. I say go for it.

>>9696546
That's fine

>>9696057
Could be worse, an /asp/ trip was called Carter and was so obnoxious that "fuck off, carter" became a meme there

>>9696546
It's not creepy unless you force it on her. If she politely rejects the gift, don't try and make her accept it.

A guy I barely knew did that to me once. He tried to give me an anime dvd, I said no multiple times, but he kept being insistent until I eventually gave in. It made me incredibly uncomfortable.

Doesn't help that he later tried to use the gift as an excuse to invite himself over to my house. I didn't cave into that one at least.

>>9696546
>hey I really this manga, thought you might like it too
There you go

>redpilled lolita
Has such a creature ever been spotted in the wild?

>>9696566
>was
He's still around, he's a mod now.
/asp/ these days is literally him talking to himself and like three guys trying to make skateboard theads.

>>9696553
>>9696561
Would you wrap it up in gift paper or gift it in a way where she can see what it is, so it's more non-threatening?

>>9696568
I hadn't even considered the possibility that she would reject it.
Jesus, that would make things awkward.

>>9696569
Well that would imply borrowing, wouldn't it?

>>9696582
>that would imply borrowing
Not really, just tell her it's a gift. If you're really not sure then wrap it nicely, and ask her to open it when you give it to her so she can see what it is right away.
And don't worry so much about rejection; if she says no then she says no, it's really not the end of the world, just say something like "Well that's alright, I understand" and wish her a merry Christmas anyway.

>>9696582
>gifting something to someone you're not technically friends with
Become her friend and gift her something next year instead.

>>9696582
I don't think it would make things awkward unless you continue being persistent about it, like the guy I had to deal with.

Some people just don't feel comfortable accepting gifts, just accept it graciously and there'll be no problems.

>>9696575
the only one I know is an ita

>>9696582
Nigga stop overthinking shit, you're giving her a black'n'white asian comicbook not asking her to marry you.
The place where you buy it from will probably offer to gift wrap it for you, do that.

>>9696582
>hey I really like this manga, I thought you would like it too so I got you a volume for Christmas

Thanks gulls, you've all been amazingly helpful.

>>9696585
The awful thing is that there's at least 1 more girl I walk home with and am on the train with afterwards. But I'm willing to risk it anyway.
Think maybe I'll go with the gift bag option and "A little gift. It's a manga that I think you might like. Merry Christmas."

>>9696586
The thing is, it's been an awkward "dancing around eacht other" (glances from her in the first semester, looking away when I looked back, awkward looking away when we met in the corridor, sat next to me outside of the regular seating order, but when I tried to talk to her it got awkward real fast, some nice talks during labs when we had lab topics to talk about) for like 3 semesters now.
Now in the third semester, her little group (basically just 1 other girl) got integraded in out little group and we had more opportunity to talk to each other. After I had helped her with something she had asked me about, she seems to have lost a lof of reservation she had toward me (sat next to me and then leaned in real close to tell me something, smiled and laught more than before, seek out my company when I was standing somewhere).
Maybe WE ARE friends already and I just have a skewed, narrow definition (for me that would be somebody I could simply contact because I wanted to chat and talk about other things that just university and such, do things together etc.).
Either way, I feel that if neither of us doesn't give this thing a little push, we're going to be stuck in this painful libo forever.

>>9696590
I understand, I hate being in other peoples debt as well and the thought at having to reciprocate gifts drives me insane.

>>9696601
I'm trying, I just really want that friendship to work out.

>>9696606
I'll probably go with something similar, as I've written above. Thanks.

>tfw mailman jokes about how you always buy wigs
please just mind your own business it's already bad enough when joann ladies ask me what i'm making

>>9696725
>not being able to handle the banter

>>9696725
holy shit are you me
Also whenever the cutting counter old ladies ask me what im making i just give a wobbly smile and awkwardly laugh "dont worry about it"

>be me
>am crazy
>have to start antipsychotics to possibly stop being crazy
>keep reading about how antipsychotics make people balloon up in no time
>tfw literally too afraid to take lifesaving medication because i don't want to risk not fitting into my unshirred nipponese meme clothing

i'm the thinnest i've ever been and actually like my body right now, but i feel like i have no choice... i just want to keep liking how i look in lolita and stuff. i think if i stopped liking how i look i'd be even crazier.

>chatting with guy I'm interested in
>ask him if he wants to play vidya together
>"You really don't have anything better to do on a Friday night than stay home and play games? Man you're a loser."
>he goes offline

I want to die

>>9696748
YMMV. Not everyone experiences every side effect. But let your psychiatrist know that you're concerned about weight gain as there may be other options. Wishing you all the best, anon.

>>9696784
What vidya?

>>9696748
afaik most of the time you can successfully prevent weight gain on medications by being strict(er) with your diet. Just watch what you eat, maybe keep track on MFP or something to be sure.

At least that has helped me, and one of the symptoms of the problem I am being treated for is weight gain and a really hard time losing weight in general.

>>9696784
He seems like an asshole. Good riddance.

>>9696806
Siege ;_;

>>9696812
He never really came across this way before. I guess it was asshole-ish of him, but I still feel really lame about it...

>>9696813
On Steam? I'll play

>>9696820
Thank you for the offer kind anon, but I'm pretty shy when it comes to playing with strangers.
Thinking about playing just makes me cringe now anyway. Oh well.

I got a weird one.
>casually seeing a guy, who is casually seeing someone else
>turns out that someone else knew me years ago and looks up to me for some reason
>she's giving me presents that I am trying to match with equally thoughtful gifts
>they both cosplay
>seize the opportunity and get them to agree to a group cosplay I've been wanting to do

I feel like this is how weird love triangles start. Never saw my life going this way desu.

>>9696824
Way to get cucked gullfriend

>>9696831
Eh. If I feel bad about it at any point, I'll cuck him back. Start a cuck war. And I'll win.

>>9696832
He's already getting to have both of you at the same time. I think we've long passed the point of being able to win now, gurl

>>9696801
thanks for the well-wishes anon. i'm going to take them for a month and see what happens but i'm kind of petrified.

>>9696809
that's good to know, thank you anon. if i'm being honest i don't eat much already (ballparking <700 calories a day between 2 small healthy meals) so the idea of gaining weight when i'm already eating like a bird is spooky. i guess we just have to see...

>>9696853
I'll just screw her when he's not around, tell him later, and refuse to threesome. He's the jealous type.

All joking aside, though, I am actually excited about the group cosplay opportunities.

>>9696824
Why not fuck them both?

I finally learned how to take pictures of myself without looking like a potato. I'm so excited about instagram and selfies now. I went from avoiding pictures to taking selfies and being excited to be in pictures. It's feels so great.

>>9696952
>I finally learned how to take pictures of myself without looking like a potato
pls share

>>9696124
I can never sleep before a big event.

>>9696748
You need to take care of yourself, and your brain needs to be your first priority, because you can't take care of the rest of yourself without it. Talk with your psychiatrist, and maybe see if you can get a referral to a nutritionist. Good nutrition can also help ease some of the symptoms of certain mental disorders.

I'm trying to brush this wig out because I need to wear it tomorrow and it's. It's awful. It's really really bad and I even had to cut a knot out. I mean, there was literally no way I could've brushed this any earlier but I'm still really angry because I just want to sleep and not deal with this, but alas. What's even more annoying is that I had problems w a 10 dollar wig for this character that tangled to shit, so I bought a 30 dollar one from epic cosplay thinking their wigs tangle less. Nope! Long wigs are the actual devil.

>recently made some friends last con and have been meeting them frequently
>had moved out of my home state to go to grad school and it's nice to have found cosplay friends so quickly
>during one of cosplay making meets one of them asks if its ok if his new girlfriend comes to join
>apparently she cosplays but is more into big prop builds instead of sewing or wig styling and small stuff we can do in someone's living room
>she comes and it's this bitch I knew from my high school cosplay comm
>she introduces herself to me and seems to not know me or is acting like it
>her history with me is that she regularly talked shit behind peoples backs especially if they cosplayed similar or same characters, cheated on her significant others or strung people along, was a huge spot light hogger, would lewd up cosplays and lie about her age
>she made my life pretty miserable in my high school and early college con scene (told me I looked fat in a costume she was also wearing to the con pretty awfully descriptively that I ended up dropping it) until I got my AA and transferred to a different college away from my hometown
>I actually forgot about her once our social circles didn't lap and she seemed to disappear from the con scene for a while

Should I give her another chance? I don't want to air literally 5 year old drama on a friend group I just entered, but my need for revenge is burning.

>>9696784
You should buy a PS4, the people there are a lot more friendly

>>9697075
Give her another chance. If she tries to make your life miserable again talk it out with her or someone in your friend group whom you trust; if any shit starts, let her be the one to start it. I hope things work out for you though, people can change a lot in five years.

I wanna die so fucking bad. Please shoot my face repeatedly with a .44 magnum

>>9697075
>>9697081
She might have changed, but anons memories haven't. Fuck her up >:)

>>9697099
>>9697081

I guess that's fair and better for her to just out herself. But ugh, stewing in this is hard. I hope karma finds a way. Won't stop me from being petty though...

>start dating a guy
>never thought about having sex while in lolita
>guy gets off of socks
>give footjob with my ap socks
>never had so good sex
Will do it again.

>>9697154
This is my fetish. More deets

>>9697078
Haha I met that guy through university, so it wasn't just typical Steam asshole-ness.
I actually own a PS4 though so maybe I'll try to overcome my shyness and talk to people more on there! Thank you anon.

>>9697078
Right, like any of us are supposed to believe that.

I was getting dressed in the locker room after tea, and this one girl kept STARING at me while I was naked. Does this happen to anyone elsa?

>>9696854
You 100% won't gain weight if you're truly eating so little because 700 is way under your TDEE. You'll only gain weight if you start eating more than you burn. The reason medications make people gain weight is because they typically increase appetite but cause some kind of fatigue. You eat more but move less. Boom. Weight gain.

Just monitor your intake and you'll be just fine.

>>9697078
>>9696813
>a girl will never ask you to stay home on friday night to play Siege
Why live?

how old is too old to be a gull

>>9697258
Never say never, anon!

>>9696854
To be honest you may also be screwing your metabolism a bit eating so little, you should probably go more for 1000cal and exercise... but >>9697217 is right, antipsychotics mainly tend to make you sleepier/more tired and hungrier, weight gain isn't universal (otherwise we'd magically fix all anorexia with antipsychotics; they are used to try and help sufferers establish appetite but by no means cure it) and data is also confounded by getting to the point of needing an antipsychotic; e.g. If you're so loopy you're a danger to yourself and need compulsory treatment, then you're likely going to be stuck in a reasonably small space in a mental health ward, eating hospital-issue food v.s. whatever you were up to before...

>>9697261
When you're dead.

>>9696155
Why do most Lolita bf dress like shit and/or weeby as shit?

>>9697305
because most lolita bfs are weebs and neckbeards

>tfw cosplay gf dresses up as Chen for the sole purpose of letting me feed her oatmeal in bed

Asked my professor a pretty straightforward question about IRB approval turnaround and mentioned my research question about cosplay and how I was interested in attempting to get some research published within the next year or so and she told me (~48 hours if you’re curious), but THEN very excitedly mentioned that she would love to help me on the project.

>>9697314
>because most lolita bfs are weebs and neckbeards
Where are the rich princes at?

>tfw cosplay shit you don't care about for your friends to fill out their groups
>tfw none of them will reciprocate for you, even for relatively easy cosplay

I'm never spending money and time on these assholes again.

>>9697217
Some medications make people gain weight because they cause the body to retain more water, many people confuse this with actual fat-weight gain.

>>9697217
Your post was made with good intentions but that's not true at all in regards to antipsychotics. They do increase appetite but they also cause water retention and in some cases, massively slow down the metabolism. This is a common issue with these kinds of meds.

>tfw the only photos of me that people compliment are the ones that were heavily meitu’d
I did this to myself

>>9697391
Honestly good for you for realizing this. I was like that too, but I ended up solo cosplaying stuff, finding other people who cosplayed it, and did groups with them. Became better friends and had more interests that matched honestly.

>>9697389
Banging Stacy

Gulls on the psn?
The answer might shock you

>>9697501
NO WAY

>>9697389
Here. What did you need princess?

>>9696784

Gulls, I am so happy right now.

>be me, three years ago
>working in manual labor
>have bangin' body, fit everything and look great
>move to office job
>still have manual labor appetite, get caught up in constant garbage food people bring in for officemates
>gain 25lbs in the first year
>feel awful, can't fit like 15 of my dresses, hate every moment of it
>office is connected to gym, start going every day
>for two years work on self control, improving diet, excercise
>tried on all the dresses I was afraid to touch until today
>every single one of them fits
>my weight on the scale has only gone down 6lbs, must have gained a lot of muscle
>literally back to the size I was, almost cry

I'm so excited; this feels amazing. After two years of feeling so guilty and unattractive, I'm starting to feel like my old self again. I think I might celebrate by buying a new dress once my Christmas shopping is done; I love this feeling of not having to feel like half of new releases wouldn't be for me, anyways, especially since my favorite brands are Moitie and Boz.

>>9697593
Well done, anon! Definitely treat yourself to a new dress, you deserve it.

>>9697596
Thank you! I will most likely wait until Christmas is over since 2~3 of the dresses were still a little tight. They zipped up fine and were wearable, but I felt they could be a little more comfortable. I feel like if I keep it up then come January 1st they'll feel great and I'll really feel like I'd deserve a reward at that point.

And thanks to gulls in previous feels threads who gave me encouragement over the past two years; it really did help. I'd post occasionally, not often, but the kind words and advice I'd receive when I did really did help me push myself.

>>9697216
Happens to me, too. Lolita attracts some pervy bitches.

>>9697516
I'm a dude you fag.

>>9696925
Why not, indeed.

>>9697708
>thinking this is a deal breaker

>>9697305
>tfw no bf you can mock and berate for dressing badly

Tfw no brolita bf to buy you burando and spank your ass with a riding crop

>>9697279
>implying you can't be buried in your frills

>haha why are you always crossplaying anon? with your build you could pull off Gamagori easily

>>9697746
awww, <3

>>9697810
>you leave it in your will to be buried in frills
>your granddaughter is an Ita and dresses you poorly
>you have to spend eternity is a really shitty coord

>Caved in and decided to cosplay from super shitty guilty pleasure series after two years of trying to restrain myself

tfw embarrassed for liking the anime but super excited for the cosplay.

>>9697808
>tfw no gf to punish and berate for being a deviant whore

>>9697843
hot

>>9697828
Which anime is it anon ? I'm curious

>>9697847
>tfw no gf to reward with a cute cake when she acts like a proper lady

>>9697843
>>9697851
a combination of these two sounds like ideal bf material desu

>>9697857
Be my gf and treat me like shit

>>9697905
with pleasure~

>>9697911
Email then

>>9697914
So thirsty

>>9697857
If you're extra good. I might make a double batch of batter so you can bring homemade doughnuts to your meet

>>9697923
ok, actually sounds like ideal husband material

>>9697921
More lonely but yes

>>9697928
For me to do that, you'd have to try one first to make sure they turned out alright. I might add a little bit more frosting just for you, if that's alright

>>9697939
stop being so sweet anon, or I'm gonna end up being sad about the fact that you aren't actually my boyfriend

>>9697905
>>9697911
>>9697914
>>9697921
>>9697929
>>9697923
>>9697928
>>9697939
>>9697945
Stop trying so hard, this garbage makes me sick.

>>9697154
How lucky are you, I love that stuff too.

>>9697983
Let me cum on your feet

My bf insists on calling me "Emma" like Emma Stone, and has even had me cosplay her Gwen Stacey. Is this a red flag?

>>9698029
Nah.

>work at a clothing store
>during halloween every cashier is required to dress up and be festive
>Wear one of my favorite coords
> Start checking out this ancient old man
> He looks at me and says 'what are you supposed to be a baby'
>still have to be nice and sweet because I'm at work

>have feelings for a friend
>tell them
>its mutual
>feels so good
>gonna do all the cute couple cosplays now

>>9698178
TOP KEK

>>9698178
What coord were you wearing? Old man has some hardcore shade throwing game.

>>9698202
Sugary Carnival, with white tights, and a matching light blue/pink bow I bought at a con way back when. He probably just said that because of the light blue and white stockings. Honestly he wasn't nearly as bad as the creepy old men who followed me around saying things like "If I were 50 years younger..." etc

>>9697501
lolitas and cosplayers are female dudebros, they're all on xbox

>tfw out of alcohol

>>9696546
Just do it.

I've been labeled a creep many times due to my legitimate, diagnosed Autism.
There's nothing inherently wrong with being a creep, and I embrace it now.

>>9698309
Tfw too much booze

>>9696108
lose the weight and practise good hygiene, that goes a long way.

>>9696109
Agree with this. I have plenty of fat friends, fat family members, but if people start having a pity party or start acting as if I should somehow lose the weight for them, or they'd lose the weight if *I* just tried harder for them or some shit, I ghost them. That's why I don't even have acquaintances who whine to me about how they wish they could fit my clothes or some shit. I have a friend from elementary school who's always been fat and who's a plus sized model, and she's never whined about thin privilege or skinny bitches this or that, none of the fatties I know are asshat tumblrinas. People who are unhappy with themselves are always going to be unpleasant company. Just sigh dramatically in a here-we-go-again way and change the topic whenever mcfattums starts the pity party.

>mcfattums: I wish I could fit into that uwu
>anon: (to other com members) Yeah it really is a pretty dress. Have you guys seen the ribbons on it? Do you think they're nicer than the other release?
>mcfattums: I can't fit into the booth uwu
>anon: oh yeah, chairs, now that you mention it. I've been looking at antique chairs for my room. Something rococo, with delicately carved legs and sumptuous upholstery.

>>9696725
No one ever asks me that. Must be RBF. My delivery guys probably think I'm running something shady from my home. It's not just lolita stuff, I'm so busy I order rice and other non-perishables, as well as all hair and skin care stuff online too.

>>9696748
just keep taking the drugs and make sure you don't eat junk mindlessly.

>>9696784
Nice bait.

>>9697849
Osomatsu-san.
It’s a good thing the characters have a lot of nice and detailed alternative outfits at least.

>>9696618
This reminds me of something...

>>9698355
If anything she's probably made more bold (as bold as awkward people can make them at least) advances, while mine have been a lot more guarded, except that one where I asked her what manga she was reading on a break the week before (to let her know we had similar interests) and then having a short coversation about the topic.

My obsesive autism is more centered inward and I don't usually let it out.

>tfw best friend from discord hasn't logged on in 3 days without a warning
>very unusual,she never does that
>she lives in a somewhat dangerous area near the woods
>last time we left each other,she said she was going on a walk
>tfw she's ded and buried somewhere
I know I'm over reacting but god,i'm sweating bullets rn. I don't know what I would do if she died. We still had to meet and wear lolita together, pls be alive ;_;

>>9698351
Why whould you be embarassed of liking Osomatsu-san ? It's one of my favourite anime of the moment, I love how trashy the brothers are

>>9698338
I said big as in tall and built, not fat. My hygiene isn't a problem either.

>>9696241
>Unless you're one of those "I'm not like other black people" types.
Nah, I'm not one of those assholes, but I usually don't see any yu-gi-oh tables at cons. They're usually hidden and I dont have time to go out and look for people.

>>9696192
>Maybe if you watched Ore Monogatari
I probably will.

> they love and brings themselves and the people around them joy!
That's not going to work out for everyone

I just don't fit with the crowd. Thanks for the advice though guys.

>>9698491
Cheap comedy and obnoxious fandom. I like the anime a lot either way, but been trying to hide it for forever. Second season was the final blow and I had to finally cosplay from it.

>>9698543
The only people from the fandom who I hate are those who ship the brothers together

>>9698783
that;s a lot of the fandom

>>9697823
At worst, it would only be until the fabric rots away.

Also, you could put together your burial outfit before you die and tuck it away in the closet.

>>9698463
Did you consider calling the police?

>>9696952
>>9696970
Yes anon, tell us your secrets.

>>9698831
Crappy polyester is forever!

>>9698839
>hello police, I'd like to report my online friend missing. she hasn't signed into her messenger in 3 days

>>9695906
Not to sound like a corny fortune cookie, but if you go to cons with a negative attitude like that things rarely go well. So I think things will get better for you, but you have to be more positive about the experience, if you exude positivity and friendliness you’re far more likely to receive it.
>that and I doubt you’re as unapproachable as you think

>>9697094
Not unless you’re paying for the fucking ammo.

>>9698831
or until they dig you up to bury the next person. you don't actually stay buried forever, unless you're famous or something you typically are renting your plot for around 100 years before they dig you up and put someone else there.

>>9697094
>tfw no bf to jerk you off with a gun

>>9698783
Doesn’t really matter what people ship, there are some pretty nutty people on both sides. That’s the curse of a large fandom, but it still doesn’t stop me from enjoying my guilty pleaure cosplay.

>tfw bought a nwt brand blouse for 3 dollars yesterday
Hell yeah

>tfw really want to wear thigh highs instead of tights for once in casual outfits but feel like I'd look like a slut

A couple years ago when I lived with my parents I tried thigh highs in an outfit but my mom said I looked like a slutty schoolgirl and I've been too embarrassed to wear them since. When I see pictures of other girls wearing them I just think they look really cute and not provocative at all but I can't view myself in the same way. I dunno why I'm so self-conscious about this one thing in particular because I can wear lolita out and not give a shit what people think about me.

>>9699163
You have to be careful how you coordinate thigh highs, i have the same issue.

>>9698839
She's from Russia and I doubt it would do anything lol what would I even tell them?
I hope she's ok because it's getting increasingly worrying. She isn't exactly well but I know she wouldnt off herself. I make sure to make her know she's loved and important everytime.

>>9699163
That's sort of just a mom thing. My mom freaked out whenever I wanted to wear red plaid for the same reason. Even a red plaid dress because it gave her the faintest impression of a plaid pleated school girl's skirt.

>obese girl posts her 2B cosplay
>days pass
>0 likes, 1 comment:
>"2Big"

Why are people so cruel?

>>9699248
Are they wrong tho?

>>9699248

>tfw cup size goes up to a B
goddammit, it was already hard finding cute dresses with A cups... all brands max out pretty small, too

>>9699372
Why do the same shitposters keep posting such weak bait?

>Have package coming via EMS from Japan
>It arrives Thursday, while I'm at work like a regular adult, and so they don't deliver the package due to no signature
>Friday and Saturday I'm at a con
>Sunday they're closed
>Check my tracking information
>"Schedule for re-delivery by the 20th or the package will be sent back on the 21st"
>There is not even an option to schedule for re-delivery
>I would love to have picked it up earlier today, Sunday, but they're of course closed Sunday
>MFW they only give me 3 business days to pick up my package before saying they'll send it back to Japan, and this was only their first attempt to deliver it

What the fuck? Their site says that they will hold a package for FIFTEEN DAYS or after 3 attempts. This is the first attempt and not even a full week. Why are they threatening to send it back? I'm fucking lucky that I work an off schedule tomorrow and actually have a chance to go to the post office in person to pick it up otherwise I'd be fucked extremely. This is a VERY rare coincidence that my schedule lines up with the strict timing of this package.

But WHY are they only giving me 4 days to work with in the first place? I'm hoping that they don't mean I need to pick it up BEFORE the 20th. I swear, if I go to the post office tomorrow and get some "Oh, we already sent it to the sorting facility to be sent back" bullshit...

How are they even able to say they'll hold it 15 days and not keep their word? Am I able to call the Postal Inspectors on them for doing this?

On another note, I ALWAYS have to go to this post office because they never redeliver my packages even when I schedule redelivery. On top of that, I have a post office that's about a 5 minute walk from my house but the area code division of my house is weird and all of my packages get sent to the post office that's 20 minutes away. It's annoying as fuck.

>>9699386
not even bait dude
Finding good and well-fitting lolita pieces may as well be impossible if you're not a board
if you're even slightly too big then you get immense boobloaf

>>9699503
i'm a 32C and practically everything fits though? can't tell if bait or if you have a large chest/band size

>>9699506
really? i'm a 36B and everything boobloafs or doesn't fit right, even when I wear a binder
this is a legit problem i'm having, maybe it's the band size?
I got AATP's le Claire recently and everything else fits fine except the bust (with binder too)

>>9699509
i think it's a band size thing then, which explains why binding doesn't help... godspeed anon.

am I the only one who hates harddecoras shit?
like they seem ok as a person and dress well, but their shirt designs and products are pretty cringe to me

I've been wanting to get a solid Mary Magdalene JSK for the longest time. I finally found a cute one on Maiden Clothing for really cheap. Couldn't find it on Lolibrary so I couldn't quite check the measurements so I just ordered it and hoped for the best. Comes in the mail, there's just... no way. It's way too small. It fits ok in the waist, not perfect but manageable, but the bust is a good 3"-4" too small. I'm trying to decide if I should bother trying to get it tailored and sink a lot of money into tanking the resale value and potentially ruining it or just cut my losses and sell it.

>>9699515
>ordering MM without knowing who goddamn small they are
are you a newfag or something? you don't even need to know their measurements to know they won't fit anyone who isn't a tiny asian person with a waist larger than like, 72cm.
I would't try and alter it. Its harder/almost impossible to alter size up on dresses like this than is to size down.

>>9699517
I know they're small, but I'm within range for some of the newer releases.

I accidentally became best friends with someone who has a pattern of becoming super infatuated with female friends, having really intense friendships, then dropping the person the second someone else catches their attention. I have plenty of casual friends, but I haven’t managed to make any close friends in the past few years, despite trying to reach out to people. Somehow she manages to form close friendships with basically everyone she meets, including the casual friends that I failed to get closer to.

At this point it’s been years of going through this cycle and I am really hurt by everything, but I am also lonely, pathetic garbage, so every time she comes back around, I give in, even though I know I’m just going to feel like absolute shit when she drops me again.

I don’t know how to cope with or handle this anymore. She is closely involved with cosplay and lolita friends, so dropping her entirely would just create way more of a headache. I suck at creating boundaries and not getting my hopes up when she inevitably is my “friend” again. I just want to have one close friend to hang out and wear lolita and cosplay with but at this point I feel like that is never going to happen.

>>9699533
I had a friend like that semi-recently. I had known her for years and she'd always drop me then come back when the new people weren't new anymore. Eventually she will break your heart(in a friend way) if you keep being invested in her. I no longer talk to my "friend" but that more coz she got pissed when I started treating her like she treated me.

It takes a while for most people to find their people. It can be a bit lonely looking for them, but if you stop looking you never will find them.
When this "friend" bounces back into your life, like be nice, but just try not to care that much while she's still around, and enjoy it while it lasts. That will also help you prepare mentally for when she drops you again.

>>9699515
Maiden do actually measure their stuff (flat, in cm) - did you not think to look at the website you were ordering from? Anyway, it's gonna look pretty shit altering it larger as they're either gonna have to take fabric from somewhere else in the dress, or use some different fabric.

>>9699533
I know that feel.

I'm terrible at making friends, I've never been anyone's best friend, ever. I've never been someone's go to.
At best I've been number 4 or 5.

I made a friend online, and I really felt like we clicked, really felt like I could call her a close friend.
We even sent each Christmas gifts.

She ghosted me about 2-3 months back, I have no idea why.

>>9699543
Thanks for the encouragement anon. I'm trying to find ways to not be so invested in our friendship, and I've definitely made progress as far as my expectations and how much energy I'm willing to put into it. I just need to figure out how to not feel so hurt by it, but that one is easier said than done.

>>9699568
I feel that so much, the few people who have called me their best friend only seemed to like me because I am a doormat.
I'm sorry to hear about your online friend. Its shitty that so many people ghost instead of just being honest about whatever the problem is.

>>9699503
>harddecoras
wtf? I'm a B cup, almost C, and never ever experimented boobloaf in my life. And I do old school mostly so that's saying something.

>>9699533
I used to have a friend like that. She was cute, until I noticed over the years she was becoming a doppelgänger of me, but a fatter and uglier version. That alongside the months on and off, she wasn't worth my time. I dropped her. Now she tells mutuals how she wishes she can go back to the way things were, it was a choice I made. She has depression and bipolar issues and I had to constantly go through her projections and now that I think about it, it was a lot that I dealt with. Sometimes you got to think about these things. Like when finding a partner, there are millions of people. Find friends you want to be with. You will be much happier that way.

>>9699589
>People calling you their best friend.
REEEE NORMIE

Jk, being used sucks hard, I really hope you're able to find an actual best friend.

>>9699495
USPS gull here; Express packages get held for a week, it's Registered Airmail that gets held for two weeks. It's always been like this.

Did anyone else just see a thread announcing that CuriousBear's competitions will be back in 2018, or was that just me?

>>9699509
Yeah, 36B is the same amount of boob as 32D so it's a size-of-boobs overall thing. Or you may have measured wrong - if you're using the VS +4" method, I can guarantee your band is actually too big.

>>9699517
>who isn't a tiny asian person with a waist larger than like, 72cm.
People are tall af where I'm from and 72cm is average, not small, certainly not tiny.

All this talk of friends is making me have some old feels. My absolute best friend who was into all the same stuff as me (games, anime, she even started cosplaying with me for a little bit) ended up having a messy breakup with her bf in our friend group, the started going clubbing a lot and made lots of new 'friends' there. She eventually was pretty much doing drugs all the time and when she spoke to me I felt like I barely knew her anymore.
The last time we spent time together as friends she could barely remember what she'd just said because her memory was so fucked from all the shit she'd been taking. I had to hold back from crying.

But yeah sorry for the blogpost, this is all just digging up some shitty repressed feelings lmao

>>9699668
Did you do anything to help her?

>>9699533
How the fuck do you "accidentally" become "best friends" with someone?
This doesn't add up.

>>9699669
As much as could be done. My mum is a nurse and I even offered to help her with seeing a counseller/psych, going to drug help/get clean programs, offered as much support as I could.

At the end of the day she had a lot of mental health issues from a fucked up childhood and was wildly insecure- You can only help someone so much. I couldn't force her to stop or seek help, only offer my support. She always said she would but then she'd just keep going out and occasionally ODing. It really broke my heart but I struggle with depression/anxiety myself and helping her isn't a burden I could take alone. We sort of just... drifted apart because her whole world became clubbing. It sounds horrible but sometimes I feel like she's died, in a sense. She's not at all the person she once was.

I always wonder if there was a turning point where I could have done something more, or just like... a point in time where I could go back and fix it.

Just got a rejection e-mail from a job I was sure I was going to get. Mulling over the group interview and I thought it went well, I'm pretty disappointed.

>>9699713
That's a bad feel for sure. I dread interviews.

>>9699713
Well I had an interview today and dropped my spaghetti pretty badly in the fist minute, however I calmed down and the rest of the interview went pretty smoothly and ended on a good note.

>>9699713
Aw anon, it's ok, iktf. I'm sure you'll get one eventually! You did your best.

>>9699723
I always drop spaghettis because i'm a fukken autist (litterally) iktf

>>9699713
I’m sure it went well, but it may have just been high competition and the employer went with the interviewees they liked the most. I had four months of good interviews and having the interviewer say they like me only to get turned down before I finally landed something. Job hunting is a lot of getting bummed out before you find a good spot, everyone goes through it.

>>9698839
>>9698850
Was texting my weeab friend once when he said he heard someone outside his window, gave me a cryptic ‘I’ll be right back...’. Didn’t answer his phone for 20 mins, lives in bumfuck-nowhere-was-that-a-mountain-lion woods, promptly called the staties to go check on him
>no officer you don’t understand, he’ll try to defend himself with a katana.

Uchuu kei is ugly as fuck, and very tacky. I feel like Uchuufags are the ones who shit on Menhera the most, too, which is ironic because they have no room to talk.

Where is she, gulls?

>>9699716
As long as you go in with knowledge of the company, some prepped answers, and your biggest smile interviews aren't that bad really. Definitely chilling in the bad feel zone now though.

>>9699723
I'm glad to hear things went well in the end, fingers crossed you get it!

>>9699727
Awww thanks gull, I really needed that.

>>9699740
It was a basic job in retail, everyone applying was around the same age and also seemed to have the same experience so I'm genuinely at a loss here. I made sure to be as sociable as possible during the group exercises, taking everyone's input into account and asking questions. Made people laugh a few times, didn't stumble once.

The only thing I could think of is that a few of the girls did dress very fashionably with all instagram makeup whereas I made sure to dress in suitable interview clothes, albeit with my own personal flair since I wasn't sure how far I could go. Was going to go with a brighter lipstick but instead went with a nude. Was going to go with boots but instead went with flats. Can't help but wonder if those conservative choices worked against me in the end.

>>9699816
>tfw I'm likely to say many of these
>not a cosplayer tho

>>9699678
I misjudged her character and didn't realize she treated people so poorly before becoming really invested in our friendship? Perhaps mistake would have been a better word choice than accident.

>>9699816
We've got one similar, she's a smug cunt and she's engaged to a doctor

>>9699840
Lmao don't mention her too loudly or she'll come bad and detail the thread

>>9699589
As far as not feeling hurt over it, I can't really help there, other than saying it eases with time. But it could take a while, I unexpectedly got a bit upset thinking about her while replying to you, and I thought I was over it. Give it time, you'll get there. Good luck!

>>9699825
i-it's not a dealbreaker

>be 20 years old
>be in a committed relationship for 2 years
>bf is basically perfect for me emotionally, understands my depression, cosplays with me, wears lolita with me
>start having dreams about dating other guys almost every night
>not sure why, i'm a neet who doesn't meet people
>start to wonder if i'm not missing out on my only chance to date around while i'm still young
Our career goals don't match up either, and I'm not sure if I'm wasting my time because our hobbies and personalities match so well. And at this point we're so close that he's basically my best (and only) friend.

>>9699847
You'd have to live with being second to my husbando though. How do you feel about Jojo?

>>9699868
I'm fine with that, I enjoy JoJo

>Sewing a small thing
>old, finicky, hand-me-down sewing machine doesn't jam once.

>>9696813
Yo, this guy is an ass but hear me out. I got a friend that really likes to play siege (PC) and she is always looking for people to play with and she also has a group that she plays with often sooo. Hmu. My discord : AJaayyy

>>9699851
b8

>>9699851
>having your s/o as your only friend
Sounds like a recipe for success alright

>>9699851
>Even neet girls are drawn to the cock carousel.

>>9700002
>Be friendless but engaged autist.
>Consider fiance my best friend.
>Feel really close and content.
>One day, in casual conversation, she says I'm definitely not her best friend.
>Still gutted about it.

>>9700015
You have to ground yourself and make other friends, my man. It's not healthy to rely solely on one person for all of those kinds of needs. When the day comes where you finally part ways and it's an emotional mess, you need people there who'll have your back

>>9700041
It's just, I never thought I needed anyone else - my life is busy enough without trying to make time for friends (though, that could just be me making excuses for myself).
We're married now, and I love her more than life itself, just every time I think about her saying that it really hurts.

>>9699633
Fuckkkk I miss her! I miss them! I was part of the judging team for that very first contest, it was just me and her and GOD SHE WAS GORGEOUS and her attitude was flowers. I should log back in skype and see if she will be using the same throwaway skype thing that she was back then. Would love to work with her again seeing as I wasn't able to do much that first time.

>>9700015
it's okay anon, people need different kinds of relationships/friends for different kinds of things. it's possible that she has a different definition of "best friend" than you do. for instance, my SO is my overall best friend, but i can also see myself having another "best friend" because he can't fulfill certain needs of mine e.g. girly talk and relating over certain hobbies.

in addition to that, different people need different amounts of support/friends. you can be satisfied with having only one friend (your partner), but she may have different friendship goals from you. sorry for blogpost, but i just had this discussion with my husbando the other day so it's fresh in my mind.

>>9699823
I doubt how you dressed worked against you, unless you applied somewhere like Charlotte Russe or that other basic white girl store with the cheap clothes.

>had professional job that allows me to wear jfash to work most days for 4 years
>moving in the next two months
>excited to take the next step in my career and life
>realize that new job might not be chill with me wearing jfash to work

My style is pretty toned down classic, but I know its not a style that every work place will be cool with. Guess I'll just have to save my clothes for the weekends...

>>9700081
I know, I just feel (and I know it's stupid and irrational) that she loves me less than I thought she did.

>>9700102
It's ok, anon, I feel the same. I always feel like my fiance loves me less than I love him because he cares so much about his best friend (and possibly more than he does about me). I know it's irrational but it's the thing that makes me sad the most but I can't do anything except for accept it now.

>>9699851
You should talk to him about it.
He'll break up with you for sure but at least he won't be marrying a slut, you owe him that much.

>>9700111
>slut
>she hasn't done anything
Do you think watching porn makes you unfaithful too?

>>9700114
Yes.

>>9699998
>>9700010
>>9700111
>>>/r9k/

>>9700114
Nayrt but I think someone who watches a lot of porn while dating is giving off a red flag of not being satisfied and is more likely to cheat

>>9700110
>Can't do anything except for accept it now.
Fuck man, right on the money.

It's just, I feel like she broke up with me, I know she hasn't - but I feel like I lost my best friend.
What am I supposed to do, I don't want anyone else to be my best friend?

>live with boyfriend
>one of my Christmas presents arrived in the mail, I know this and I'm not tempted to open the package
>but then he tells me he has a different present hidden in the house (likely lolita related but I'm not 100% sure)
>what the fuck
>we live in a one bedroom apartment there are only so many places to hide it
>can't search the closet without throwing all of my lolita stuff everywhere
>not at home right now but thinking about it and it's driving me crazy
I have his presents hidden too though so I guess it's alright.
And a more /cgl/ related feel:
>bought a special set I really wanted
>also won't actually have it for another month
>the anticipation is also driving me crazy

>>9700129
I think you need to talk to her about it so she can reassure you that she still loves you. It’s totally normal for people to have a best friend that isn’t their partner, and your her best friend in a different way, you know?
But if you’re this cut up about it definitely sit down with her and talk it out so these feelings don’t fester into something negative.

>>9700129
>>9700102
Bro you wouldn't feel this hurt and insecure having heard her say this if you actually had some other friends of your own in the first place, which is a clear sign it's not good for you. Relying on one person for everything never is

>>9700114
>>9700120
She's bored of her current guy and she wants to bang new people, she might not be able to admit it to herself but her unconscious is letting her know.

Nothing wrong with that mind you, but she needs to free the dude instead of uselessly stringing him along till she cheats on him, that just aint right.

>>9700134
I know she loves me, and I really care about her - I'm just not gonna make it her problem.
I've decided to see a psychologist, this is definitely something I'm going to talk about.

>>9700135
I just don't feel the need for other people, occasionally I feel like it would be nice having friends, but every time I get close to having friends it all gets a bit too much for me and I freak out.
I guess that's why I spend so much time on 4chan, it's an autistic friendship simulator that I can turn on and off.

>>9700139
That's not what the post says at all, and dreams are literally proven to not say anything about "unconscious" desires. Go back to r9k and bitch about women there instead.

>>9700139
Right but if it was the other way you’d say the woman was insane for wanting to dump a guy after he had dreams of banging other chicks lmao

>>9700144
I know you girls are bound by sorority solidarity to cover for each other or whatever, but right is right and wrong is wrong.
If it didn't bother her she would have brushed it off as a silly dream and wouldn't have brought it up, it's clearly on her mind.

If you wanna be apologists to her then go ahead, I'm giving her the alternative to be proactive and spare the dude's feelings. It's up to her to decide the best course of action.

>>9700156
>having the same dream multiple nights in a row shouldn't bother you!!
even if it does bother her, it doesn't mean that she wants to cheat on him?? Get your head out of your ass.

>>9700155
Dating =\= banging, and you can't control your dreams so no, people wouldn't be saying to break up unless they were baiting the autistic r9kfags who keep invading the board.

>>9700156
>right is right and wrong is wrong
Exactly, and there's nothing wrong with what she said. You can't control what you dream about, and breaking up with someone over weird dreams is retarded.

>>9700156
Why would you assume she's a slut and would cheat on him then? She said she dreamed about dating new guys, wouldn't it make sense that she'd just break up with him? Does leaving someone make you a slut now?

>>9700123
Are you retarded?
I have an enormous libido and I have to watch porn and masturbate at least once a week to not thinking about lewd things all the time. I have wonderful sex with my bf because of similar kinks but 3-4 times per week is not enough. I would never betray him but porn is helping to clear my mind.

tl;dr porn is just a porn, stop repressing yourself with medival thinking

>>9700155
>bros I keep having these wet dreams with hot chicks, I can't let my gf know, by the way she's the only girl I talk to, wtf do i do bros?
No, I'd tell him to stop acting like a woman, cut his gf loose and get his shit together.

But this is /cgl/ and /fit/ we're talking about, home of legbeards who think they're hot shit because they dress like dolls and manchildren who think they're hot shit because they lift heave objects.
We all know how these two stories end, they stay quiet and do nothing, shit hits the fan and a year later we get a follow up in another feels thread.

>>9700180
>/fit/
>not /r9k/
lol
And are you talking from experience?

>>9700180
>I have dreams about dating other people
>I have wet dreams with hot chicks
Do you understand the difference? The post didn't say anything about not letting her boyfriend know, either, it sounds like she's thinking more about the relationship seeing as their career goals don't match. It's hard to have a degree and a phd while your partner didn't even go to college.

>>9700163
>>9700165
Look what I'm going for is that the dreams themselves are not the problem but rather are a symptom of something else. I suspect she's grown bored of being with the same guy for god knows how long. Probably because he's the only guy in her life so she didn't fall in love with him as much as she settled for him. And I don't think that's fair for the guy. That's my two cents at least.

>>9700183
I'm a fitizen yes, we're pretty retarded. You should see our feels threads, they're pretty "special".

>>9700172
>but 3-4 times per week is not enough
Same, I can literally go every day and enjoy it.
Problem is that my wife is only really up for it once a week.

RIP me.

>>9698850
It's called a welfare check. They can subpoena the IP address and find the person. It's not crazy if you have a good reason to believe she might be in danger.

>>9698875
Depends on the cemetery. Religious graveyards generally aren't disturbed because it's not a profit thing.

>>9700251
Somehow I don't believe going to that much effort to track a person who you self-admittedly have only ever communicated with online because they haven't signed into their instant messenger in 3 days is going to be high on the list of priorities for the police

>>9700257
If they were always very consistent about signing in every day, and then one day they just say "I'm gonna take a walk" and aren't heard from again after that, that would be a very good argument for a missing person's investigation.

>>9700266
>missing person's investigation
lmao. One of the last gulls I talked to over emails was consistent in their replies until they ghosted me one day and never replied back. Should I call the police and get an investigation underway too? A more reasonable thing to do would be to actually go to where they live or check in with their friends or family, which I assume that anon hasn't done because they simply don't know them that well/has physically never met them before because they're discord buddies. People blow eachother off or cut contact all the time, especially online.

>>9699816
I got this one.
Besides the cosplay and SAO.

>>9699851
As someone who went there, parties and crazy stuff are clearly not worth dropping a loved one. On the moment it's incredible, but it's so quick, and so much efforts for overall not much, I'd say that if you are in a pleasant and stable relationship you should keep it. Now you have to be honest with yourself, and if you want to build strong memories like that, go ahead. Not gonna lie, being in some kinky stuff like group sex or parties is a once in a lifetime experience, but definitely not a must-have, maybe medias and movies gave you this impression. It's also not good for everyone.
A friend of mine stayed with her bf for like 5 years when they started to meet at 16, but suddenly decided that she wanted to have fun, dropped him, and started sleeping around the night after. It may sound cruel but at least she was honest and did what she though was good for her. The poor sod was a wreck though, but what can I say.

>>9700172
This, a long as porn isn't replacing the person you're living with, what's the issue? If a couple have way different libido it may helps them staying happy and satisfied.

>>9700254
It's actually more complicated and fascinating. The US gives you a perpetual right to your plot and your descendents a perpetual easement to visit it, but that's very different from the laws in Europe. See https://www.americanbar.org/publications/probate_property_magazine_2012/2016/march_april_2016/2016_aba_rpte_pp_v30_2_article_marsh_when_dirt_and_death_collide.html

>>9699840
I like to think I'm the right level of smug, thank you very much

>>9700060
making friends is hard so dont feel bad
>>9700102
having been someone on the other side of the fence with a boyfriend that always thought I loved my bestie more than him talk to him/her and try trusting them if they say they love you more! it hurt me feeling like my love wasnt appreciated but I knew it wasnt his fault. he found old fb posts with me being flirty with my besty and felt he couldnt compete.
>>9700139
how old are you? its normal for long term relationships to have dips where you think of other people. it doesnt mean youre bored of your partner in every case at all. thats like saying intrusive thoughts mean you want to subconsciously jump off every bridge you see

>>9696229
>Nah bro, read the last feels thread. Cosplay gfs are out. Anti-SJW lolita gf is the new hotness
NONE FINER

>>9700449
I don't want to hurt her though, or put her in a position where she has to pretend I am her best friend.

>>9700499
It will hurt her more in the long run if you let something that's clearly upsetting you this month fester without talking to her about it.
Also, it could be that some people put friends and partners in different categories. Like, they think someone can't be a friend because they're already their partner and therefore they're something more than a friend.

>>9700628
>much not month

>tfw have acquired nearly 40 burando main pieces within about half a year

Not sure if this is the right place to post this. But, I was linked to this thread by someone who still lurks this board. I do speak to a few ladies from the contest days and have lost contact with the majority of them.

I wanted to just say hi and say that I honestly missed those contests a lot. As some of you know I did struggle with my health and it was life threatening for some time, to the point that my husband had to retire to take care of me. But, I don't want to derail this thread too much! I just wanted to say that I missed you ladies a lot.

What the fuck is wrong with Chinese cosplayers in Toronto? Most of them are snobby cunts who won't give you the time of day especially the ones with an online following. It fucking pisses me off. I fucking hate them all

>>9700753
did hikarin not become bffsies with you or something LOL

>>9700753
>snobby
You mean fob-y?

Does every dealer room in my state smell like poops?

>>9700123
>every girl will fuck her guy 2 times a day, 7 days a week for the whole relationship
That's not how it works.

Our comm leader shaved her head last year and I'm glad her hair is coming back.

NEW
>>9700895
NEW

>>9699664
>36B is the same amount of boob as 32D

>>9699514
Nah, I feel you. I've even met her a few times and know people who work with her. She's a good person I think and I appreciate her passion and I'm happy for her but I think all her shit is dumb. Love her boyfriend's style though.