/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL

I have been with my bf 7 and a half years, we've lived together for nearly 4 years.
All my friends are getting engaged or married already and I feel oddly left out (even though I know we can't afford a wedding right now and want to buy a house first anyway).

I think I finally went mad though, because I just brought a white tulle JSK with beautiful lace off a friend, specifically to hide away until I get married.
It's really pretty though, hope I like the fit when it arrives!!

>>9684211
>tfw no gf
>tfw will maybe never get married
>tfw will never wear an all white coord with her as we get proclaimed wife and wife
It hurts a bit.
I think getting married in lolita is adorable.
Pic related is a perfect example for me. Maybe longer! And with little pink accents like flowers for the accessories

I dunno if it sounds crazy but I really want to buy a Lolita wedding dress and create an OTT wedding outfit wear it to a Lolita Tea Party. I don't have a bf currently but I never want to marry anyway.

I guess I just love all the details of such dresses and all the tulle layers and the long veil.

My main problem with lolita wedding dresses is that they tend to be so frumpy around the waist, and I'd really like something more streamlined for my wedding dress. Something like VM's Fairy Doll long JSK, with a lace or chiffon shawl over the shoulders.

>>9688801
That would look really nice, actually.

>Would you ever get married in lolita?
Probably not. If I found a dress I fell in love with the idea of getting married in I might but I'd rather get married in something more traditional.
>Would you make your bridesmaids wear lolita?
This idea appeals to me a lot more than getting married in lolita myself, I think non-print lolita is a great alternative to the traditional type of bridesmaids dress.
>Would you want your other half to wear ouji/lolita?
If I were to wear lolita I would would love her to wear ouji but I know she wants to wear a dress if we get married so that wouldn't happen.

>Would you ever get married in lolita?
Definitely. I feel like most lolita dresses are cheaper than traditional wedding dresses anyway.

>Would you make your bridesmaids wear lolita?
At this point, all the people I want to be my bridesmaids wear lolita as well, so probably.

>Would you want your other half to wear ouji/lolita?
Nah.

>>9688772
If you love the dress enough to enjoy it no matter what that's great, but if you really want to get married I think a talk is long overdue. If you sense he's never going to be ready (and seven years is a long-ass time to take to make up his mind) then it might be best to cut your losses and end it.

>>9684211
Maybe check IW for similar lace?

>>9689146

I think it sounds like they have different priorities. They should talk for sure but it almost sounds like they want to get their ducks in a row first, which unless you want a simple courthouse marriage is really prudent.

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Yeah it's definitely a matter of not being able to afford it right now and wanting to get more important things sorted first. Hopefully by the time we have been together 10 years I'll have finished my PhD and be eligible for a mortgage (our deposit is pretty good already, but saving for longer will only help). A few years back I told him not to waste money on a ring while we were saving for the house (oh boy do I regret being practical now lol).

I would quite happily go down to the registry office tomorrow with just our parents, but we both have big families so it would be nice to include them. But the dress is a simple elegant one, so I think it would be OK even for a tiny wedding if we decide to do that.

If I don't love it to death when it arrives, I'll just sell it on.
I'm hiding it away just because a groom shouldn't see the dress before the wedding, but I think if I told him he'd find it amusing.

>>9689040
>Definitely. I feel like most lolita dresses are cheaper than traditional wedding dresses anyway.

This. I decided I'm getting married in Bless from Raphael in ivory. It's way cheaper than some really boring or tacky 'real' wedding dresses that have tried to do something 'lolita-esque' but missed the mark.

The only problem is it has been 5 and a half years and he doesn't believe in marriage because it's just a piece of paper and an excuse to show people how you like to spend your money. He doesn't like people 'showing off' financially but has a Rolex...

>>9689762
Anon
You may need to consider that you're not compatible before you've spent 10yrs unmarried and resenting him

>Would you ever get married in lolita?
Yes and that is the plan! I love the look so much, plus I will probably be able to coord it again down the line. I also can't fall walking down the aisle if I can't trip on my dress.

>Would you make your bridesmaids wear lolita?
I haven't even chosen who will stand on my side yet so who knows? Maybe?

>Would you want your other half to wear ouji/lolita?
He's already bought part of his outfit and so that is a yes ;)

I love Gathered Chiffon as a wedding dress!!

I hate weddingdresses that don't hit the floor so no.

St. Cathedral Lily

>>Would you ever get married in lolita?
Heck yes

>>Would you make your bridesmaids wear lolita?
No. I've never envisioned having a large traditional wedding though.

>>Would you want your other half to wear ouji/lolita?
If they're into it! A part of me hopes she will be a lolita as well.

But the reality is I am sadly single at the moment.

I would love to get married in lolita! I've yet to find a lolita wedding dress that I really like, but I'm going to keep looking. I wouldn't make my bridesmaids wear lolita but if they were up for it I would be excited, same for my SO although I think they would go with the traditional suit.

>>9684214
Does anyone know what dress this is? The detail looks familiar but I can't tell without seeing it from the front

>>9688775
be my wife anon, lets plan our lolita wedding and invite misako to be the minister

>>9688775
>tfw this is literally my life

Be patient anon. Eventually you'll find a frilly wife.

>>9684211
If only I found a nice enough dress, I‘d marry in lolita. My fiancée even supports the idea, since lolita dresses are usually way cheaper than wedding dresses.
I wouldn’t dress my bridesmaids in lolita though, unless they are lolitas anyway. But I think in my country we don’t even have this tradition to have many bridesmaids and have them wear certain dresses. So everyone will wear what they want to my wedding.

>>9690823
It's Rosa Mistica

Mini dump from my own inspiration collection

>>9693578

Daily goth fashion/ouji wearer here. Planning on a more traditional wedding dress for the ceremony, but changing into a nice all white ouji coord for the reception for more maneuverability + that personal style expression. Normally I hate wearing dresses but I know how much symbolic importance people put on it at a wedding and don't mind, so for me this is a good compromise.

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>>9693863
Actual couple goals. All I want is a cute or handsome friend/lover to dress up with.

>>9693610
As long as you're happy with the ceremony pictures, that's what matters. My fiance and I know our parents won't be overly thrilled with our unconventional outfits, but we want to be true to ourselves because it's our ceremony.

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>Would you ever get married in lolita?
Maybe not 100% lolita but I definitely want my dress to be at least lolita-inspired. If it ends up shorter than floor-length I'll wear lace tights or OTKs with it and my hair is already styled in a hime cut. I think I'll wear a thin rectangle headdress with a veil attached.

>Would you make your bridesmaids wear lolita?
I'd love that, but I probably won't have any bridesmaids. All my friends are either men or women so tomboyish they'd literally fight me if I tried to put them in a frilly dress. Sometimes I think about inviting girls from my comm to my wedding but I'm not very close to them yet, so that would probably be weird.

>Would you want your other half to wear ouji/lolita?
Nah. He's not into fashion at all and I'm having a hard enough time convincing him to get a proper suit made. He'd probably show up in jeans if he thought I'd let him get away with it.

>>9693610
I know a woman who's getting married in a frilly white pantsuit! It's getting more acceptable to deviate from the floor-length white dress norm. Ofc I don't know your family or circumstances.

>Don't want to get married.
> Want to wear Bride/Wedding Lolita anyway.

>>9688775
I've stopped worrying about getting married, Anon. It could happen someday. However, I see most guys who wear frills to be a turnoff.

>>9689146
Anon, marriage isn't everything...
In fact, it's pretty much pointless aside from sharing health care. You don't actually save money filing taxes joint and a ring and certificate isn't what binds two people as a couple (nor will it stop the couple from breaking up either).

It's almost numerous how much the likes of Disney has indoctrinated people into thinking marriage equates to love when it's first and foremost always been a legal contract throughout civilized history.

>>9694315
You're replying to a lesbian there, friend.

>Would you ever get married in lolita?
No, lolita is like...what I wear in everyday situations, I'll throw a coord on to do my groceries or sometimes even to bum around at home so I think it'd be a bit weird to wear actual lolita. The fanciest I get in lolita is high tea, museums, musicals/less fancy theatre and dinners; I tend to prefer full length dresses for the opera if I can manage it. I do think it'll influence the wedding aesthetically, but I don't think it'll be super obviously a "lolita wedding"

>Would you make your bridesmaids wear lolita?
No, again I think it's too informal for the kind of ceremony I'm likely to have

>Would you want your other half to wear ouji/lolita?
In daily life hell yes. At the wedding...no.

>>9694299
Host a lesbian commune wedding cult meet

>Would you ever get married in lolita?
If I ever did, it'd be the only type of dress I'd wear. Lolita has spoiled me on so much detail and lace for a wonderful price. It's be the OTT brand wedding dresses.

>Would you make your bridesmaids wear lolita?
That's a good idea actually.

>Would you want your other half to wear ouji/lolita?
Well, as long as we're going the full mile.

>>9694652
I'd like to see a bridal themed lolita event.

>>9689434
>a groom shouldn't see the dress before the wedding

Maybe in like 1867, I just heard the superstition was the groom isn't supposed to see the bride on the wedding day before the ceremony?

>wedding morning
>we just rolled out of bed and pretended not to see each other lmao

>>9689762
He sounds like an idiot, it's definitely more than a piece of paper, I'm in the US if that makes a difference

>better tax breaks
>share credit when signing off on cars/houses
>can add spouses to health care plans

That being said don't ever get married

>>9694652
I’d be down with this.

>>9694664
The groom not seeing the dress, and specifically not seeing the bride in the dress before the ceremony is a thing where I’m from but I’m not sure why. A friend of mine is getting her dress made as we speak and her fiancé is not allowed to come to the fittings or see any pictures or even sketches of the dress. I don’t think it’s superstition so much as just not wanting to ruin the surprise.

>>9694326
that's ignoring the various religious traditions. I for one believe in being a half who will get married and eternally commit to a soulmate, our union making us a whole. especially if I'm having children. I want a connected and committed judeo-christian senpai, but that's just me. it means diff things to everyone
I can't wait to plan my wedding coord when it does happen. absolutely wearing lolita. during and after ceremony. I want a DDR dedicab at the recepetion too for the first dance

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>shit forgot word filter doesn't give a shit about context

>>9689434
The dress arrived. It's beautiful and fits really well. I felt like an idiot in it though, like a kid playing dress up. For now I'm going to put it away in the back of the wardrobe and pretend this never happened.

>>9694664
All of my friends who got married already kept the dress a secret so it would be a surprise so I guess I just assumed I should do the same. I guess if we have a super tiny registry office wedding where we arrive together it won't matter and I'll just show him.

>>9684214
Idk why this is so cute to me wtffff

>would you ever get married in lolita?

I would.. if the person i was with was into lolita or i really find it fit. I don't actually wear lolita (too expensive for me... and i could only wear certain coords without hating them desu..)

>would you make your bridesmaids wear lolita?

No.. id want to be the one who put on the biggest show lmao
But if they already dress in the fashion then that's up to them?

>would you make your other half wear ouji / lolita?

Probably not. Id want my other half to wear whatever they see if (as long as it fits the aethestic of the wedding) since its their big day too? I want it to be special for both of us??? Unless they wanted to wear it..
Plus i overall like the look of suits...

>>9690470
This will be me in the future :)


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>Would you ever get married in lolita?
In my culture its common to have a few wedding dresses for photoshoots. One will definitely be lolita.

>Would you make your bridesmaids wear lolita?
It they can fit my wardrobe. I doubt it since I am taller and have more boobs than all my friends.

>Would you want your other half to wear ouji/lolita?
No. I do want a dapper 1920s/dapper sort of vibe. I've always thought it matches classic lolita a lot better than Ouji.

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back to add some more

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wow these dresses look especially beautiful

>>9696786
I know this is probably some cosplayer wearing tons of makeup, a wig and abusing shoop but this looks so good.
>tfw will never marry an Elegant Gothic Lolita Aristocrat Bampire

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>>9684211
>would you ever get married in lolita?
i would not wear lolita for my official wedding because i wouldn't find it appropriate in front of family members of my partner
but for a smaller private celebration, sure!

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oops dropped pic

>>9689146
marriage is not a big deal dude. There are more important things in life, like literally anything else. The only reason I would ever consider marrying my boyfriend of 12 years is in case medical stuff comes up, and I guess I would like him to have my stuff if I die. But I am pretty sure I can have both of those things taken care of by a lawyer and some contracts outside of marriage.

>>9696922
I think for a lot of people it's a much more spiritual thing, but they conflate it with legal marriage because we're so used the the two being the same thing

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>Would you ever get married in lolita?
Tea length and cream. We don’t give two shits about some queen’s lace preference or announcing virginity with garment color, but I do want a long, elegant offwhite dress and I like the styles of tea length lolita way more than mainstream bridal designs.
>Would you make your bridesmaids wear lolita?
Yes, they’d love it. Especially with subdued pastel or neutral colors.
>Would you want your other half to wear ouji/lolita?
Aristocrat/disney prince. Long pants and mature footwear with a slim toe-box, and no hat, but definitely some shoulder bling.

>>9684211
bummpin cause i want more of this

Have a mini dump of trains and long veils because I want one and all of the Normie short/hi-lo ones look like gross homecoming dresses

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Please excuse her sadness but I love this train so much

>>9710853
And the end of trains

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>brb ordering my lolita wedding dress from Milanoo

>>9711403

Do what makes you happy but since you're asking this is a horrible and childish idea.

I love to wear the dress that Taylor wore on the JetJ Miel photoshoot, so yess

>Would you ever get married in lolita?
fuck yessss

>Would you make your bridesmaids wear lolita?
nah, I don't care much about that desu
>Would you want your other half to wear ouji/lolita?
he'll probably wear something steampunk inspired because he's into that

>>9713680
What if lolita fashion is a major part of the bride's life? How is it childish or horrible? Because it doesn't appeal to you specifically?

There’s an ita in my comm that’s apparently getting married in lolita.

>>9713680
That's only if you think lolita is childish. I WISH I thought of the idea to have a lolita wedding dress. I spent over 800 USD for my dress and it was even at a consignment store meaning it was used. These lolita wedding dresses are gorgeous and if your already gonna drop that much cash for a dress you're going to wear once, it might as well be one of these if you are a lolita for life.

>>9711006
Oh god, I can't look at this without remembering that one ita on lolita amino and her "shiro hime" wedding cosplay. The quality seemed iffy to begin with but it's shit-tier just by association now.

>>9684211

>Would you make your bridesmaids wear lolita?

Huh. That would actually be a good use of all the mutiple colourway dresses I keep hoarding.

I wish I could be into the idea of a lolita wedding ceremony, but the dresses are kind of short for me. I really do want a floor length robe. I already talked in the last thread about how I want an Edwardian gown so I won't harp on that. But I was thinking for my wedding reception that I could wear my Soupir d'ange JSK, or even Madeleine. I think it would be a perfect way of incorporating my love of lolita into my wedding without compensating my love of floor length lace.

I think too much about weddings nowadays but all my friends are kind in that phase so it's hard not to.

>Would you make your bridesmaids wear lolita?
Good question, but probably not. Not sure if I'll even have bridesmaids, haha!

>Would you want your other half to wear ouji/lolita?
No, because he's not into it.

>>9713714

Man I loved that video. She was so cool about it even if she isn't into lolita. I loved her explanation.