/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL

My boyfriend is super supportive of my wearing lolita! He was into lolita before we even met, and helped me get back into lolita and has even bought me a dress and some accessories.

I don't know how to tie waist ties because he always ties them for me, and he always offers to steam my dresses before we go out.
He doesn't wear ouji but he always color coordinates with me (e.g. I'm wearing a blue dress, he wears a blue shirt, I'm wearing pink and white, he wears a pink shirt and white pants). My bag usually doesn't hold enough stuff, so he carries his own bag too. I think I'm very lucky.
He also sometimes grabs my butt when I'm in normie clothes but when I'm in lolita he just sort of pats at it because of my huge petticoat.

Don't have a girlfriend, but the girls I bring home are usually disgusted by my figures and cosplay stuff.

I actually got my bf interested in ouji and aristo but hes still figuring out his own personal style so we haven't exactly pinned down his potential wardrobe yet. He wants to go to meets and stuff so thats super cool. Im lucky that i found a guy who wants to buy me all the clothes i want and supports me as much as he has. I always saw posts on /cgl/ about wanting that guy who buys hella burando and basically showers the gf in lolita stuff so i feel like i got a lot of other gulls dream relationship. Im so happy but I'm so full of salt and internet autism I cant properly express my happiness. I want to tell him how happy i am but it comes out as memes and sarcasm. Im afraid to express my feelings.

My boyfriend had a prior interest in jfashion because of doujins, so it's all sort of fetish-y for him but as I explain more about the culture behind the clothes, he's becoming very respectful and interested in the fashions beyond a fetish. He likes gyaru and sweet lolita a lot, which was a pleasant surprise since that's what I mostly enjoy. Overall, he's very supportive and loves how I dress!

Boyfriend doesn't care about most lolita although he has a few pieces he likes (Funccino Ragnarok, Slepnir, Eye of Horus). He doesn't have anything against lolita and doesn't mind going out with me when I'm wearing it but he doesn't care one way or the other. I'm a little sad honestly because my exhusband liked lolita a lot and would dress up alongside me (not in lolita himself but in steampunk / dapper / period outfits) and even bought me a couple of JSKs as gifts. I don't miss exhusband and most of the time I don't mind that my boyfriend doesn't participate but it was definitely nice to be able to share the hobby with my partner.

My Bf and I have been dating for 4 years as of yesterday, and half of those years were dedicated to fairy kei and Lolita. He actually bought me my chess chocolate set as a gift, I brought him to his first convention the first few months we were dating. I ended up doing a couple cosplay with him a few times. We both love conventions, and he supports my hobbies. I'm glad I have this asshat even if he's a furry.

>>9641307
>that last line

Don't ever get a dog

>>9641309
No worries. We got a cat.

>>9641319
a cat is fine too.

she is a cosplayer too so no problem there

>>9641320
why is a cat okay but a dog isn't????

>>9641337
search for the phrase and you will know

Hes indifferent but a little supportive. He let me buy a separate closet to hold my dresses and he often drives me to meets/events outside of our city. He wouldnt ever buy something for me as a surprise and he prefers toned down/classic coords. Hes not really embarrased by it in public and casually talks about it to his family even thought i rather not mention it that much.

Mine's pretty indifferent. He doesn't participate but asides from the silly joking remark about cosplay he's fine with me doing it. He often drives me to lolita meets and doesn't have a problem with it. Often remarking it's cute (not sexual ) He likes that I have a hobby that's feminine. When I talk about hosting tea parties he's encouraging of it. I've never wanted my spouse to be that into Lolita fashion but I wouldn't be opposed if he ever considered cosplay at one time. I'm just glad he accepts my interests and I his.

>>9641345
oh man Anon...are we the same person?

I met my bf at a con, we're going two years strong in a couple of weeks. I was cosplaying at the time so he was totally cool with it, but he doesn't show any interest in getting fit or putting the time and effort into cosplay, just plans it and never goes for it. I'm hoping he'll get more into it now that he's on his feet more financially.

>>9641266
What kind of figures do you own? I always wonder if guys would walk out on me when they see my Jojo stuff.

>>9641376
Kancolle and a couple touhou plushes
They just think anything like that is insanely creepy and start to get distant when they come in

>>9641379
>They just think anything like that is insanely creepy and start to get distant when they come in
I might be biased because I'm already here on /cgl/ but as a guy I don't see how is that creepy

>>9641383
>As a guy
That's the problem here then
I am a guy and the girls I bring home think figures are creepy and get distant as soon as they see them

>>9641376
Jojo is pretty cool tho

My boyfriend and I actually met at a con. We do a lot of couple cosplays, with me doing the sewing stuff and him making props and armor. He's not so much into the actual cosplaying part as he is the crafting, but he does it gladly because he knows it makes me happy.
As for lolita, I started wearing it after we began dating and he's been very supportive of it from the start. He would personally never wear ouji/aristocrat or anything like that, but he's got a good grasp of the fashion and he knows what looks good and what doesn't so I can trust his opinion on how I look.

>>9641385
obviously you bringing home the wrong kind of girls

>>9641388
I'm bringing home the type I pull in from bars, tinder, cons, etc
If I could I would get some girl who didn't want me to abandoned my hobbies

>>9641389
Well, I won't argue against your taste in women but if you want someone who accepts your hobby but you have zero success on that front you need to change your method somehow.

>>9641386
Even if it's all merch of my husbando?

My boyfriend is so supportive of my participating in lolita! He bought me one of my first brand dresses, and this past birthday bought me an Usakumya rucksack! I can always count on him to give me honest concrit or to send me a bajillion heart eyes emojis when i send coord shots to him. he does like to tease and joke that my coords "are severely lacking black" since he thinks gothic is really cool but I wear sweet.

I support his nendoroid and pop vinyl addiction. We are constantly popping into hot topic to peek in and see if we can find any gems. It's really fun to support my boyfriend and in turn have him support me :)

My boyfriend is sort of indifferent to me wearing lolita, though he's still generally supportive of it. Sometimes he'll go to meetups with me too if they're more formal, like ILD, and wear a suit with something that matches my coord somehow.

My boyfriend loves it when I cosplay, however, even though I cosplay less frequently. We've even done couple cosplays.

>>9641422
depends, who is your husbando

>>9641272
just show him this post

>tfw no bf

>>9641257
Y-yeah, of course

>>9641559
Pic related

>>9641569
Cute picture

I met my girlfriend while cosplaying as her husbando actually. Her friends actually saw me and stopped me for pictures to send to her later, but since we were cosplaying from the same series and were going to the same shoot anyway, they dropped her a message that I'd be there. When I showed up and she asked for some pictures I connected the dots and figured out it was her. We took some pictures together, and she fangirled really hard when I offered to pick her up bridal style. The excitement was obvious on her face and I really enjoyed talking to her, so after the con I started messaging her over instagram. The interest was kinda obvious on both sides, but it was a nice little build up and we had our first date together at a con. I did her husbando again and she did two characters that could be paired with him, and we both had an amazing time together. So now for the future we've got a slowly growing list of couple cosplays planned among other things. I always like seeing her progress pictures and letting her know just how cute I think she is, and she likes to support my own cosplay ideas as well.

Now as far as Lolita goes, she dabbled in it a little, but since now she knows that I really like it I think she might try to get into it more. I'm do more than support her and would like to help her pick out pieces sometime too if she gains a real interest in it, but we'll see!

>>9641605
Aww, that's so cute. Cosplaying as a girl's husbando is the key to her heart.

>>9641605

Ok I definitely need to see the pics of you two at the first photo shoot! This whole thing is adorable.

>>9641610
Haha, I was just really flattered at first as to how much she liked my cosplay and how she said I was the best version of him she'd ever seen, but it's encouraged me to improve that specific cosplay even more for the future! I'm also planning on doing some more of her favorite male characters in the future as well, some as surprises and others on purpose since I know she'd like that.

>>9641614
Ah, well I definitely do have the photo of us together when I'm picking her up, but I'm not sure if I should post it or not. I've got no problem with my face being on here (I've posted in some other cosplay threads before), but I'm not sure how comfy she'd be either it. I'd block out our/her face, but desu her expression is just pure happiness and excitement, so I guess I can consider posting it normally?

>>9641389
Stop displaying weeb stuff then.

>>9641627
>just give up your hobbies because you look like a normal guy and only attract instagram thots
doesn't sound very fun to me

I first met my girlfriend first at a con. Technically. We were on the same con, I've even took a photo of her cosplay, but that's all. And nothing happened.
Then a few years later at a smaller con we were both in a "round table discussion" panel.
And still nothing worthwhile happened we were still strangers to each other.
A few months later though there was a larp that we both attended. It was her first larp and she was in one of the factions that conspired against me. At the end of the larp we still didn't talked much but enough to exchange contacts.
Between that and the next con we started to talk more and more, I even invited her to our HEMA training because she was interested and after a while we got together.
I pretty much try to help and encourage her on the cosplay front but truth to be told there really isn't much that I can help her with. It's mostly she helps with my costumes.

>>9641627
I don't think anon want's to get just a random girl. My bet is that he wants someone who accepts his hobby and interests.
Hiding the stuff would be counterproductive.

My boyfriend is supportive, albeit scared of the thought of me going out alone in Lolita. He thinks people will tackle me on the street and is always super worried about street harrasment, so he tags along when he cans.
He does have a preference for Classic lolita because it’s more muted and elegant. Personally I think it’s just because he tends to get horny when I’m wearing sweet.

I don’t really cosplay, but I have a bunch of cute japanese costumes so I always wear them for him (besides seifuku for nanchatte).
My ex (also my first boyfriend) laughed at me when I first wore a maid costume so when my current bf said he liked it I went crazy and bought a bunch of stuff!

>>9641385
>>9641389
>>9641627
>>9641634
Tone is hard online but please keep in mind I'm genuinely trying to help. And sorry for the horrible layout but I'm not spending that much time on it.

Lewd figures aren't that much more accepted than porn on the walls. However weebs have an hard time figuring out what actually is lewd due to constant fanservice. For example most Shimikaze figures I've seen have an upskirt flip type of thing with a thong. Then there's characters like Sonico that are 80% tit and very obviously a sexual thing. It doesn't matter how much you genuinely like the character if they're half naked either. Also normies really hate flat chests and think anything below a c-cup only exists on men and children. And ofc the more you have the more likely they are to object, especially if they're all female.

Adding into the fact than in general if an adult man had tons of boderline softcore porn everywhere that'd say quite a few unflattering things about your future sex life as a couple. The anime community is the only community I've seen where guys seem to be able to do that and be halfway decent.

>>9641257
He's a turbo normie so he isn't all that into it but he puts up with my dumb shit and humors me which is all I can ask for, pic related.

I adore him.

>>9641713
And here's an example of the collection getting in less "acceptable" from top to bottom. The weebier they are the less it matters, but if you have lewd/waifu merch you could be scaring away anyone short of a turbo weeb or "costhot." Yes I know lewd =/= slut and accepting =/= wearing, but you're lowering your chances and it has parallels with really shit normie boyfriends.

>>9641389
The obvious solution is to find a girl as weeby as you are, tho you did mention cons so that confuses me. Are you finding the most normie girls there or what?

More OT, my husband supports me wearing lolita and other jfashion, has taken me to out of town events before, and finds my outfits cute. He has his preferences within lolita though I'm not 100% of what they are (but I think he prefers classic and gothic to sweet). His favourite is when I wear nanchatte though. We've also couple cosplayed together before as well, and watch a lot of anime together. We have a lot of separate interests but I'm glad we have these to share. Being able to weeb out is great and I'm super grateful because in hindsight I don't think I'd be happy dating a normie.

>>9641714
>in love with you since she was 9
gull what?

Husband is a filthy enabler & when I say I'm not buying something he will look at it closely & point out all the elements it has that I like. He encourages me far too much as I've been trying & failing to cut down for 3 years. He ties my waist ties & bought my dream dress on a rerelease.
His own hobby is tabletop gaming so he understands expensive hobbies & his favourite is gothic whereas I'm more sweet classic.

We met at a con, we've been married six years and have a kid. We've gotten older so we really don't cosplay much anymore. I'm more of a weeb then him though. I collect more figures and doing fanart while he's more interested in gaming.

>>9641257
he likes lolita. I wish he'd buy me something, even a necklace.
He finds some stuff too childish though :(

>>9641674
why does he get horny with sweet?
O_O

>>9641781
Are you 12? Diff anon here, but it's probably the guy's personal taste.

>>9641747
I met him at a magic tournament when I was 9(and him 15), I was smitten right away. We exchanged emails and became pen pals, we got really close over the years. When I was 18 and knew he wouldn't turn me down I confessed my feelings for him, we've been going strong for 4 years now.

>>9641576
nyart
are you me anon

>>9641790
Sweet is so innocent though.

>>9641713
I just have the Sendai + Jintsu prize figures and some touhou nesoberi plushes
nothing that really scream LEWD to anyone.

It probably has to do with the combination of my interests and the type of girl I attract

>>9641871
I'm not super familiar with Kancolle but is this it? Anything with a windblown butt length skirt you can see up at eye level is definitely going to come off as pervy. Especially with thigh highs that are generally fetish only in a western context. Mostly because it pretty much is t.bh.

That isn't really that bad at all though, so like the other anons said it's probably more about someone who wouldn't like any merch at all.

>>9641871
>Kancolle
Are you sure the girls aren't disgusted by your shit waifus?

>>9641871
>>9641871
I think HOW you display merch actually has a huge effect on it, too. If you have it all piled together like some shrine, or posters tacked up with pins, that comes off as both juvenile and creepy. I've found that normies are much more accepting of my merch when I display it the same way little old ladies display THEIR art. Prints are all in matching black picture frames artfully hung in groups, figures well spaced out in a curio cabinet instead of shoved together cramped into detolfs. I keep an array of fantasy and scifi novels in the bookshelf next to my comic book collection book case, as another way of spacing out the nerd in a more mature appearing way.

Since I started doing it this way when I have regular people over the, “Yeah, I really like nerd stuff.” usually gets met with some peering looks and an, “Oh, that’s kind of cool.” instead of seriously uncomfortably side eying the collection. And fellow nerds still dig it even though it's kind of classy now.

Although like >>9641936 >>9641713 has been saying, I choose my merchandise pretty carefully. I don't have a single titty figure, and the only fanservicey print is a greyscale piece next to other greyscale things much more artsy than it. And it's in a frame not visible from the door.

my partner isn't really interested in fashion but he thinks i look cute and that lolita suits me. when i'm sad he encourages me to plan new coords/get dressed up in my favorite pieces because he knows the process makes me relaxed and happy.

he's planning on taking me out on cute lolita-friendly dates (e.g. tea houses, antiquing, old timey candy shops) because he knows i'm too awk for a comm. he's a gem.

>>9641840
Allow me to congratulate you on your fine taste

My girlfriend is supportive of me wearing lolita, but does not really care about the fashion. Fun thing is, she bought her first lolita dress years before me, but wore it as a costume to cons. I've dressed her up in lolita a couple of times, but that's really a difficult thing to do because we have different sizes for clothing and shoes and she cannot use my wardrobe. She used to buy things for me when I did not have a paypal account, but she has never bought me anything lolita related on her own.

>>9641569
Same, let's try the lesbian route anon
>>9641637
No need to hide it forever, just get to know her and if she seems the type to not understand the difference between pervert and weeb he should try and explain, and THEN show her his plushies or whatever.

>>9641634
You display kancolle figures, things like funko pops of marvel chars etc (more mainstream stuff instead of your fanservicy waifus) would work better.

>>9641803
Ohhh that's adorable

My boyfriend and I have only been dating for 4 months but he's been very supportive of me and what I do. I'm in a dance group and he came to one of my performances at a con without me even asking and spent the day helping us and holding things for us which was so lovely of him, despite for not even dating for a month at the time. He's like a closet weaboo and is interested in manga and anime but the cosplay community as a whole is foreign to him. Despite dating for a small amount of time I'm surprised by how much interest he shows in my hobby and how he comes out to conventions just to come watch and see me. What a good egg.

>>9641714
>normie bf
>goes with you to cons but that's it
>all those cute couples cosplays that will never be
I know that pain all too well ;___;

>>9641781
Reckon it’s because he really likes twintails?

>>9643372
>>normie bf
>>goes with you to cons but that's it
>>all those cute couples cosplays that will never be
>I know that pain all too well ;___;

You make your choice for a relationship. I date a normie, but I don't regret it. I enjoy my cosplay just enough to speak weeb, but not enough that I descend into the welfare hole most mid 20 somethings, like myself, can slip into.

For me, it feels like having a normie BF keeps me anchored enough that I enjoy my hobby, but stay far away from the salt drama.

>>9641265
This made my heart happy. Thank you for sharing.

I was into lolita before meeting my gf for legitimate love of the fashion. I actually met her here on /cgl/. It's funny because I would always post dresses I was casually window shopping for and gush over them in a mutual chatroom with her and didn't think she was too interested in lolita because she didn't wear it. Turns out she just didn't feel confident enough to, so I encouraged her to God or it and helped buy her a few pieces. I love her to bits and I'm happy that strangers compliment her every time she goes out in lolita. My closet ks being taken over by frills and couldn't be happier.

Also she rearranged all my lewd figs I to funny poses, and my house is full of them.

>>9641714
It's a bit concerning that you were talking to an older guy on the internet.

Why would you date someone who's hobby is going out to attention seek around crowds of thirsty men? Seems like an incredibly bad personality trait to have if you want a stable relationship.

Instead of it being 1 guy getting attention from 1 guy, it's 1 guy VS an entire crowd of men plus social media. There's no way the single guy can compete when he's that out numbered. He would have to be rich as hell.

>>9645217
git gud

>>9644819
Thank you anon!! I hope you can find someone that makes your heart happy too one day.

>>9644872
Wow, you sound cute. < : )

>>9645223
No matter how good you are you cannot compete with the 24/7 positive feedback from social media. You would literally have to not sleep to compete with instagram for attention

>>9645233
Sorry you're too ugly and jaded to get a cute cosplaying/lolita gf.

>>9645233
you are thinking like a loser

>>9645233
That's any girl nowadays
My brothers wife spends her entire day on pintrest and Facebook, even when he takes her out to nice places to eat
You're out of luck if you don't want a girl addicted to social media bud

>>9645233
If all you can offer a girl is attention (that others will compete for), then you've got a lot of personal development to work on bud.

>>9645250
Exactly.

>>9645260
Are you this bad at maths?
There is nothing 1 guy can offer 1 girl that 1 million guys can't offer. Hypergamy means you're going to get fucked, even on a small scale.

>Girlfriend bitches all her office mates are going out to dinner every night of the week with their boyfriends
>You go out once a week because that's whats affordable
>She complains this isn't enough because each of her office mates do the same thing
>She sees 5 men acting for 5 women and thinks you need to equal those 5 men
>None of the single men can equal those 5 men together
>Her expectations are based on the group not the individuals within that group.

>>9645267
You're still saying it like all you have to offer is attention desu.

>>9645267
>Are you this bad at maths?
apparently you are only good at math, but not with people... or girls...

Look anon, I get that you are an autist, but people aren't working like a computer program, that if you give them more X then every fucking time they go for more X.
And let's not dvelve into the question of what is the actual quality of X or type

>>9645283
I never said "people" I said "women". They're different groups.

Women don't date down, they literally go for resources and will trade up into more resources.

>>9645285

>>9645285

>>9645288
Sorry do you need a video explaining it?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5685KJmphFs

Here's a nice Jewish man who will explain female mating instinct. He's a scientist so you can trust him

seems we have an r9k contingent here

I wasn't sure how mine would feel about it. First time I wore it was right after a meet. He loved it.

Fast forward to now and we've gotten much closer with one another. He's a successful, sporty, surfy, normie kind of dude, but he said he'd always wanted to try steampunk, or something like it, but just never knew the right people or how to go about getting his hands on things.

He wears aristocrat with me now.

this was a cute thread why did this happen

>>9645300
R9k "raids" every now and then. Begging for girls to talk to them through bait basically. If you see three or more threads where the OP image is half naked women or talking about sexual harassment that's usually why. They got their own bait thread deleted so now they're spilling over.

>>9645292
did you lose your way to your containment board?

>>9645300
it was kind of cute if you just focused on the girls saying their boyfriends love them, but even before the r9k guy found his way in here, people were saying I was creepy for having non-sexual figures and should either hide or give them up if I want a relationship.

>>9645328
People told you upskirt figures with thongs hanging out would be seen as lewd IF you had them. A lot of the people answering you had figures themselves. Get thicker thin or gfto.

Says the chick upset about scientific study of female mating habits

>>9645348
>the chick
>58 posters

>>9645348
If it makes you feel better that you're a kissless virgin, keep on believing those studies mate. It's much easier to bury yourself in evolutionary psychology (which I'd be careful about calling a science) than to acknowledge that it's your shitty personality and deeply-rooted hatred of women, in combination with your unfortunate appearance and (possibly pathological) lack of social skills, that causes women to avoid you.

>>9645357
>virgin

Always the same shit. There's no argument so they try to shame you and label you anything they don't like. Even if it's completely false

>>9645363
yeah, i'm sure the Robot who calls women "females" is drowning in puss

>>9645366
>Robot
The only word you use a capital letter on and it's still wrong.

It's nice to see you value people based on how many women they fucked. That's the sign of a quality person. How many STDs do you have roastie?

>>9645366
just as many girls here refer to "males" anon

>>9645332
I wasn't really asking any questions, just posting about what my experience was
I thought ti was good, since I had a bad experience with people accepting my /cgl/ style hobbies, and it was different than the "everything is great" tone the rest of the posts were saying.
people started asking me questions and then I was told I apparently have shit taste, my non-lewd figures are apparently "fetishy" and that I should hide them if I ever want a girlfriend in the future. I wasn't even asking for help in my post, or really any of my posts. People just assumed I wanted help instead of posting about the thread topic

>>9645370
Welcome to dealing with women. Anything that isn't giving them attention or money they will try and shame. Your hobbies come second to their gold digging.

Enjoy your figures man. Ignore the cunts and they will lick your asshole clean when they hit 30 and no one wants them but their cats.

>>9645367
>roastie
1) i'm a dude, dude
2) you wish

>It's nice to see you value people based on how many women they fucked
I value people who see women as humans instead of a pieces of meat that make babies and have sex with chads, something you appear to struggle with

>>9645375
Women are human, they're just not men. Evolution selected quality men and anything but down syndrome women. It made men superior

>>9645377

>>9645373
you're not helping at all you mongoloid.
people may have derailed discussing my shit, but you just came in and took a massive dump on this thread because you have a chip on your shoulder
fuck off

>>9645391
No woman will fuck you unless you use capital letters

>>9645396
i only fuk hottest womz an never use capital letter

>>9645370
>People just assumed I wanted help
Welcome to posting on the internet. Every anon that posts about a bad experience as a kid gets told they're the reason women are looked down on. It's just salty anons. And honestly your figure is literally 1cm away from a pantyshot. It's not horrible but saying it's not lewd at all is a bit ridiculous.

>>9645363
That's what I thought.

Go back to r/incels c:

>>9645415
>Reddit

Oh I'm fine here. You're in the wrong place cunt.

>>9645370
From my viewpoint I just see caring people wanting to help you. I understand it can be considered annoying but at least they are trying to be kind, and that's what matters.

I wish I had a couple of figures myself, but I'm too cheap and insecure. I also wish that I had a gf into cutesy stuff, to make embroidery stuff for, cook and bake with, and just generally be cozy with. But I'll see what life has in store for me.

>>9645486
Numale faggot

>>9645419
Yeah, nah. Here is not the place to lament to the world about the absence of pussy in your life, your not-at-all-subtle distaste for women and have tantrums when people point out the obvious character flaws that hinder you.

But w/e makes you feel better, kiddo.

>>9645511
This is a place for roasties to act like cunts to each other because they're getting more attention than they are on instagram.

>>9645496
Eh, more or less I suppose. I'm mostly here for the cutesy crap and I rarely feel a need to broadcast my inner weeb.

I might get more cutesy weeb stuff at my next con though if I find something suitable though.

>>9645516
Real men buy tools. You buy fucking funko pops and love pillows. There is no guessing about it.

>>9645517
What the heck are funko pops and where do I find them?

>>9645514
I mean, you're a cunt, but you're also a kissless virgin, not a roastie. So even according to your own standards you don't belong here.

GTFO our board.

>>9645522
Shame attempt to imply how much pussy begging you can do makes your worth. Same incorrect value input

This is why everyone hates cosplayers and considers them equal to Suicide girls. It's just ugly chicks desperate for attention on instagram

>>9645285
>tfw am cute woman
>tfw boyfriend is hot as hell and smart but with tons of health problems and no money or career prospects

i don't regret it for a second but totally own up to "dating down"

>>9645517
>mfw my boyfriend buys tools and buys cute plushies
how does it feel to be a failure in every aspect

>>9645527
>I'm cute
HAHAHAHAHA

>>9641803
At first I thought this was creepy but then I realized the age gap is only 6 years and it doesn't mean anything when you're older. Weird.

>>9645562
>Supporting pedophilia

15 year olds and 9 year olds do not fit

>>9645564
>implying
I said the age gap doesn't matter when you're older, of course it fucking matters when you're younger.

>>9645565
>grooming a child is okay

>>9645569
No, it isn't, anon. Get some help.

>>9645572
I'm not the one saying it's okay

>>9645572
Where do you think you are?

Well I've been trying all weekend to also get an ideal bf pic done for him but everyone is being a real jerk about it

>>9642142
It all worked out in the end and it looks adorable now but for the most part of those 9 years it was misery. I had to listen to him talk about the other girls in his life and give him girl advice, knowing full well he didn't see me that way, putting on a strong face and being a good friend. For the last two years of that period we were roommates so I got to see him first hand bringing girls into the apartment and hearing them fuck in the other room while I was dying inside. I got my good end in the end but boy was it diffcult.

>>9643372
>>9643420
I honestly prefer that he's a normie now. We started out as friends because of our mutual love of magic and it was fun recommending him anime while he recommended me comic books. With school and the new responsibilities he had to grow up and leave a lot of that nerd stuff behind. I'm glad I'm his tether to geekdom. I feel it works out just fine, I remind him of the silly stuff in life and help him take a load off, he help keep me grounded and looking towards the future.

>>9645215
>older guy
Hardly, we were both dumb kids and it was a good long-distance friendship we developed.

>>9645562
True

>>9645564
>>9645569
We weren't an item until I was 18. He didn't groom me(as much as I must confess I wanted him to), he was my friend, he didn't even see me as a woman, more like a dorky little sister and "one of the boys". Sorry to burst your everything-is-rape bubble.

>>9641257
My ex was into anime so she didn't exactly mind me cosplaying and sometimes I actually miss having a weeb for a gf because of it. I've been on a few dates with a guy recently and I haven't had the courage to tell him yet because he's pretty normie-ish and I don't want him to think I'm creepy.

>>9645849
That sounds like a miserable relationship. I'm sorry you hate yourself that much.

Why aren't these incel fucks banned yet?

When /fit/ shows up we kill them off in under 15 minutes, these guys have been here for almost an entire day

>>9646136
What would you have had magic-chan do? Sleep around in a vain effort to forget him and get back at him?
She found her mr right, bided her time and got her happy ending.

Don't be salty

>>9645849
YAY, finally someone helped me make it.
Feast your eyes ladies, the father of my future children.

When I met my gf, she was in a "anime sucks" phase, she never minded me cosplaying, but refused to cosplay with me.
As time went on she got more interested and she finally accepted to cosplay with me.
I've always enjoyed sewing feminine clothing, so I've been crossplaying for a while even if I'm tall and have broad shoulders.
But I'm so happy that I can finally make a dress and make it look actually good on her, I'm so excited.
She still dislikes cons because of bad experiences but she is willing to come for me.
I think she doesn't realise how happy it actually makes me, I can't wait to finish the costume.

>>9645267
t. someone who has never dated a woman

Listen, bud. Women are strange creatures and they seek personal interaction above everything else. Social media helps fill the void for them, but unless they're legit doing it for money, they won't spend any more time on instagram than you will playing video games or watching anime.

Give women more credit, man. A woman could make your same argument except for men with porn and I don't know about you, but I'd rather bump uglies with someone who cares about me.

Guys be posting about girls being golddiggers while I'm here not going to date a guy who refuses to get a job because I've been saving up money for years and don't want them to profit off of me.

>>9647917
Well, what do you intend to use that money for?

>>9647939
myself

>>9647953
What does that even mean? Be more specific

My boyfriend doesn't really care about cosplay (I don't wear lolita) but finds my skills pretty cool and likes when I do a character that he likes.
It doesn't mind about walking around as a normie and me in cosplay in cons, he helps me out a little when I retouch my makeup (takes my stuff etc)

That's it I guess.
It's the best boyfriend I ever had and I could ever imagine, my ex used to tease me to the point I had to hide cosplay from him and telling people online to stop tagging me in cosplay shoots...

>>9647957
Nyart but rent, groceries, gas/public transport, mandatory work clothing and shoes, bills, in the US hospital bills and doctor visits, then besides the very basics being able to go out to eat with coworkers, buying even just one hobby item a month, and casual clothing. I'd argue most of these are fairly essential in a modern world, but with how the economy is right now it's hard enough on your own.

Staying at home after college is at an all time high again because of it. Paying for a neet is doubling that with absolutely no return. Especially considering most neets like that usually have 100-200+ games on stream and will be really hypocritical about your own hobbies. Very few are even going to clean up after themselves even. If they aren't just using you you're most likely their only friend and are going to get pissy if you have to clean and cook right after coming home. Or they'll just ignore until they want sex or chores done.

Unless you're already well established it's going to make for an extremely stressful and unbalanced relationship even if only the income part applies.

>>9646530
ugh what a sexist pig, how can you let him get away with this?

>>9646530
Not gonna lie anon but... if these were the best things about my boyfriend I'd be pretty unhappy.

>>9646530
No offence honey but I want him to put a dog collar on me and degrade me
wouldstealfromyou/10

Does he have a deep voice? What about strong arms?

>>9646530
seems like a dick, dump him, get a cat

>>9645370

>>9646530
Agree with anons saying he sounds like a dick. I wouldn't be able to stand someone who treated me like that. Do you have some sort of humiliation fetish or self hate issues?

>tfw kawaii short bf
>enjoys crossdressing, often wears my skirts and dresses
>genuinely likes lolita and owned a couple dresses before we even met
>treats me as his equal, respects me as a person
>on the same academic field as me, different area but we like each other's areas as well and have actual conversations about them
>big dick that looks especially lewd and delicious on his small frame

get on my level

>>9641569
I can fix that

>>9648793
>tfw desperate guys are trying to pick up girls on 4chan

>>9648837
Where else am I gunna find someone as socially awkward as me?

>>9648843
Good point I suppose, maybe do what I did and get cats instead?

>>9648843
Definitely not in a place where everyone is anonymous, try forums or something bro.

>>9641272

You're a fag aren't you? Jesus where are the sloots who will do this shit for me.

Mine is totally cool with it, but doesn't do it himself too much. I'm slowly trying to get him into it too, one step at a time

>>9649035
p groovy, m8, out of curiosity, how well does the suit fit

>>9649060
The suit fits great, anon! It's comfy to wear while still being form-fitting. The only thing i can really complain about is the length of the fingers, they're just a little too short for my hands. I bought it from AestheticCosplay, they do a lot of really high quality bodysuits, mostly for comic characters HOWEVER they're working on a Froppy bodysuit that I'm seriously thinking about purchasing when it comes out.

I'm a gothic lolita lesbian and I honestly don't know how much longer I can go without just killing myself

I genuinely feel like I will never ever find someone and will just exist in a constant state of loneliness

I genuinely hate being gay and the constant alienation that comes with it.

>>9649001
Maybe if I go ham on a cgl secret santa one gull might notice me

lol I managed to get a lewd made of us, gonna try for more, not posting because blue board

>>9648625
Get away with what? He doesn't do anything that I don't personally enjoy and approve of.

>>9648626
It's supposed to be funny and cute when you contrast it with own doodle. Also read between the lines: He's intelligent, he's generous, he's passionate about his vocation, he cares about his family, he's a big softie, he's in shape, he desires me, he respects my individuality, he's not afraid of commitment, he fucks like a beast.

>>9648702
None taken, I actually like it when other girls check him out, makes me feel all fortunate and smug.
Deep voice check, strong arms(strong everything) check.

>>9648717
Actually we have a geriatric beagle that's been with him since he was 13, he's gonna bawl his eyes out when it finally dies.

>>9648786
>humiliation fetish or self hate issues
Not at all, I'm just a bit submissive and I enjoy that he takes charge. Also I'd be lying if I said I don't want to be a housewife.

>crossdressing
Gross, and how can you date a man shorter than you? That just ain't right.

>>9649104
>It's supposed to be funny and cute when you contrast it with own doodle. Also read between the lines: He's intelligent, he's generous, he's passionate about his vocation, he cares about his family, he's a big softie, he's in shape, he desires me, he respects my individuality, he's not afraid of commitment, he fucks like a beast.

R-read between the lines! H-he's t-totally a good guy! I swear I'm not in denial or anything!

>>9649091
Don't worry anon, we will be here for you.
Though sometimes we might call you a faggot.

>>9648837
Atleast I tried

>>9649091
I'm not homosexual and i understand that that wpuld make things more difficult for you, but you have to keep trying.
I'm sure you have friends, try not to think about it too much and someone will appear eventually, just be social.
In the meantime you have us to keep you accompanied sort of.

Why is everybody on /cgl/ a turbo dyke?

>>9649638
where else would you expect turbo dykes?

>>9649638
From past surveys gay + bi was only like 10% or less. Alt fashions in general have more for reasons people can't agree on. But being gay gives you less than 4% of the dating options straight people have, so they post more about it when they finally do find someone. And that's not even taking into account what being a lolita/cosplayer/huge weeb would do to your dating pool.

>>9649651
one could even say that for such persons the dating pool is... closed

>>9649654

>>9649654
Holy fuck anon thanks for that

>>9649666
No problem Satan

>>9649104
>mentions his sexual prowess dead last
I'll never understand you girls and your weird priorities

>>9649104
You lucky little whore, I wanna throw acid in your face

>>9649228
He sounds bossy but great, you're just salty you couldn't land a doctor like she did

my boyfriend is into it too (cosplay) but i feel like he doesn't always get it. He preaches about how if it's not perfect/accurate he doesn't want to wear it but I've seen him cut corners and wear things that didn't look good before, and he's never willing to spend the real money on anything. Every time we start a cosplay about $100 in he starts complaining about how expensive it is. I don't know where he got it into his mind that he could do any cosplay for less than $100 but it's seriously frustrating. I've had to start buying fabric and pieces myself just so he'll cosplay with me instead of dropping it. He's not even poor lol. He earns 3x more than I do.

Also he waits until the month before the con to start his cosplay and then gets himself in a fuss over getting it done. I'm just not helping next time. Be organized or you're not getting one.

at least hes attractive and knows to wear some makeup with cosplays unlike most guys. one day i'll bully him into cosplaying properly. hopefully.

>>9649228
He is tho, rough exterior, heart of gold.

>>9649915
Oh no it is definitely a priority, it's just that a lot of girls on this board think it's wrong to enjoy making love to your man, like it somehow makes you less cute or something I don't know. Didn't want to upset them.

>>9649980
Come on, don't be mean to her.

My boyfriend thinks it's low-key badass, but not sexy. He didn't really get the look at all until we watched Kamikaze Girls together and he read some of the stuff Novala has written about it, and now he thinks its semi-punk origins and visual rejection of a restrictive society and the sexualization of young women are really cool. But partially because of that, he thinks's I'm pretty in it, but not sexy. It's no big deal, though.

He is a tall guy and is built like a brick outhouse, so ouji would look stupid on him. He dresses a bit nicer if he knows I'll be wearing lolita, but jfashion isn't really a good look on people with his build. We larp together, though, and he looks better in armour than 90% of the skinny nerds and beer-bellies on the field, so I think that makes up for his lack of jfashion abilities.

>>9646530

I read the thread down up but I could already guess he has the anal retentive personality of an asshole surgeon.

So is he a wannabe or is he actually a surgeon now. Is he even in med school.

Boyfriend of a cosplay girl here

I think it's interesting and I want to get into it but I have other priorities unfortunately. I rent out a room in my house for her to work on her stuff in though, it's fun to watch her work on cosplays. And maybe someday I'll be able to enlist her help on something I want to dress up as

I'm not really fond of her going off to these cons without me though. The idea of her getting fucked up and going to some random party makes me a little suspicious about the likelihood of her cheating on me. But at the end of the day there's not a whole lot I can do about that even if she's not at some party. If she cheats she cheats, I'll end the relationship if I find out.

There's a quote I saw stickered to the back window of a car when I start getting paranoid about it: "I don't worry about those other bitches, because if I did I'd just be another worried bitch"

>>9651720
Has she even told you she goes to parties? I've never once gone to a room party or a con rave and I'm definitely not alone. If she does it's most likely just with her friends, but hotels and cons are really cracking down on them now. A lot will periodically check for room limits and aren't shy about telling people to shut up. There are a lot of normie guests and businesses using hotels still.

>>9651736
Well she doesn't go to the parties alone. I meant alone as in without me. She's always with her friends

If a guy or girl isn't willing to accept you AND your hobbies, dump them, they aren't worth your time.

Don't give up something that's actually important to you for some ass, no matter how good the ass seems.

>>9651759
wisdom

>>9649091
Self loathing is really awful. I hope you will find a sweet gothic lesbian to share all the lonely nights with.

>>9649091
I'm a bisexual gothic/classic lolita, and I'd really rather date girls than guys. I feel your pain. Everytime I see pics of Connie and her girlfriend, I feel like someone is ripping my heart out.

>>9649549
>>9649563
>>9651784
>>9651833
>I'm a guy and wish the girls I dated were more accepting of my hobby
>"You need to get rid of them and stop being a CREEP you FREAK"

>I'm a gay girl and feel sad
>"oh honey, everything's ok, you're perfect the way you are"

why is this board so openly sexist all the time?

>>9651837
~*~Be the change you want to see~*~

>>9651837
>not realizing that /cgl/ is /r9k/ but with frills

>>9651432
To be honest sex is gross, it's something I've put up with so my boyfriends would shut up for a while.

>>9651875
I'm a lesbian and I don't like sex, how fucked am I (haha pun intended derp)

>>9651875
>To be honest sex is gross

>>9651898
I'm like you. I wish I had a lolita girlfriend to cuddle innocently with on top of a pile of frills.

>>9651837
truth to be told there were a lot of guy who said that one shouldn't hide the hobby and if someone doesn't accept it then just dump the girl

>>9651837
Are you >>9645328 and still bitching? Like two trolls and the reast were all people saying if you have fap material don't expect random normies to like it. The rest saying fuck them and date weebs instead, aka supporting your hobby. What about >>9645486 >>9641713 >>9641726 >>9641953 is bullying or being rude?

>Tone is hard online but please keep in mind I'm genuinely trying to help

Especially this? Honestly if this isn't bait this is 100% the main reason you can't keep a gf. Are you the kind of genderswapped tumblrina that thinks anything but pure asskissing and calling you oppressed is bullying and "sexist?"

>tfw go to gf's house to meet the parents and I get to see her abundant collection of figured, plushies, posters, and cosplay props
>I think I have more than her but only because I'm her senior a few years so am a veteran collector
>After dinner, her and I cuddle on sofa and plan potential coords for a AatP dress that we're window shopping for
>and then she goes to sleep wearing an "I only date 2D boys" shirt

I love this girl so much.

>tfw go to gf's house to meet the parents and I get to see her abundant collection of figures, plushies, posters, and cosplay props
>I think I have more than her but only because I'm her senior a few years so am a veteran collector
>After dinner, her and I cuddle on sofa and plan potential coords for an AatP dress that we're window shopping for
>and then she goes to sleep wearing an "I only date 2D boys" shirt

I love this girl so much.

>>9641257
I like seing him cosplaying and making costumes, but i don't like cons at least the ones in my country, maybe in América is different.
He likes to make costumes and he did one for me he is really Happy and excited so i just will wear it and make him happy.
We differ in tastes i want to cosplay as a slasher movie character or some random Monster from a Game and he likes cute girls with cute dresses. And i hate dresses,skirts and wearing girl clothes in general.

>>9652307
are both of you 2D

My first gf who i was with for 3 years was interested in nerdy shit but never wanted to put in effort.

Next girl was just kind of a gross pot head who didn't care

Girl I'm seeing now is pretty condescending about it. She's into vaporwave and 'meme culture' but absolutely hates a lot of the shit I like. Don't think it's gonna be a long term thing because of that primarily. She says it's because she just wants to fuck, which is fine, but I'm already getting a weird vibe.

gib gf who enjoys some of the things I enjoy pls

>>9652476
Why would you waste time with someone who's openly condescending and hates everything you like? What's the point? Love yourself, anon.

>>9652480
>Why would you waste time with someone who's openly condescending and hates everything you like? What's the point? Love yourself, anon.

Because he gets to stick his dick in her, it's pretty obvious yo.

>>9652483
>quoting the entire comment you're replying to like a goober
I doubt the sex is good enough to make everything else worth it.

>>9652486
Well he said it's going to be a short term thing so it's completely believable. Powering on through a particular woman's shitty personality is completely doable once it's not serious (he already said she's only in it because she wants to just fuck) and you have your reward at the end of the tunnel.

t. guy

>>9652480
It's gratifying in other ways. She's certainly the prettiest girl I've ever been with, best body, best sex, etc etc. I've got some issues with body image, like I know I'm a fairly good looking guy but I'm not particularly confident and don't exactly aim high. While she's kind of shitty about the things I've like, she's given me praise for my body I've never gotten from anyone else. Like I said, just waiting for one of us to feel like dropping the axe.

To keep this relatively on topic, how did y'all meet a significant other that likes /cgl/ related things? I'm 22 and a recent college graduate, I've got a buddy I make costumes with but don't really know where to go. I go to a store to play 40k occasionally but that's just neckbeards.

>>9652489
No wonder so many gulls are miserable if you're willing to waste time and energy with shitty people just for sex. From what I've seen on this board this goes for guys and girls.

>>9652491
Hope you're not a loyalist lapdog, famalam

>>9652491
>I'm not particularly confident and don't exactly aim high
This is why I told you to love yourself. You should. If you're as great as you say you are, you just need to boost your own confidence and you'll find someone pretty or even prettier who will actually love and respect you. You're still young, don't waste yourself on someone who doesn't really appreciate you.

>>9652517
>he plays THE npc faction
BT and Guard for a decade

>>9652522
I appreciate the advice, it's something I'm coming to realize

>>9652529
IRON WITHIN, IRON WITHOUT

>>9652491
Go to cons if you don't already do for starters. It's one of the best environments to find people and girls with similar interests to your own. However, do -not- treat it as an opportunity to hit or try to pick up girls, it's a bad mentality to go into it with. Go to a con with the intent to have fun and meet people, not to pick up girls, otherwise you'll both be disappointed and will be off-putting to girls. The rest will occur naturally if you really connect to someone without the initial intent of romancing them.

In addition to that though, cosplaying will help your case since you're not just another one of the hundreds of generic and cookie-cutter "nerdy guys" that attend cons. It makes for a good conversation starter and for your case, being able to pull off a pretty good cosplay will probably help you a bit with your self-image as well, the praise is always nice and a good mood booster. Oh, and I love me some 40k as well, but for the love of God if you do go to a con, don't just camp out in the board game or game rooms all con.

>>9652600
>tfw no Chaos Undivided lolita gf

>>9641257
>having a significant other to have an opinion

>>9651717
He's the real deal.
I still don't understand all the negative reaction I've seen towards him to be honest, I'm perplexed.

>>9651875
So this is what being frigid looks like, huh? Pretty sad.

>>9652730
you two deserve each other to say the least

>>9652733
What is that supposed to mean?

>>9652740
Just be happy with each other and stop asking for our opinions.

>>9652730

Good thing I don't work with him then. He sounds unbearable.

As for your other question, be prepared to take shit if you throw shit.

my boyfriend is completely fine about me cosplaying and it hashelped him get back into cosplaying (since he lost his hobby of animes and going to convention because of his ex plus he lost some friends).

my ex though from Last summer was kinda okay with me cosplaying but he forbids me not to cosplay anything revealing... also he didnt like me drinking and being near friends who drink.... he was controlling

>>9653414
I'm glad you got outta there, anon. Enjoy your hobbies and friends.

I left my ex last year. He claimed he was ok with me cosplaying but complained when I would start a new project. He wore the same cosplay all the time.
But whenever I wanted to do certain cosplays he'd tell me not to bother because someone hotter/skinnier did it better. I left him after he started hitting me and I've never been better off.

>>9653048
Oh geez an uppity confrontational nurse, how rare and unexpected!

>>9654095

Lmao I'm not a nurse. I'm a doctor. Strange thing is most nurses like me because I treat them like coworkers and not servants to do my job.

>>9654095
And you were wondering why people didn't like you lol
You're acting like an army wife, you're acting all self-important because of what you think your boyfriend is gonna do, but you did none of it

>>9641257
>So how does your boyfriend (or girlfriend) feel about your love of cosplay and lolita?


I'm currently fucking pissed at my BF. He recently discovered my NSFW patreon and he's pissed that I won't let him see the pics I post to my supporters. I told him he will have to pay just like everyone else but now he's threatening to break up with me. I'm so fucking pissed off that I'm this close to calling it off myself. I can't stand guys with insecurities.

>>9654519
>he will have to pay just like everyone else
Does he pay to have sex with you too? Lmao

>>9654520
He's the only one who has sex with me because I'm not a cheating whore and I'm loyal but he should feel privileged and not demand to see content I create for paid users.

>>9654523
>>9654519
lmao

>>9654519
Is this bait?

If this was real he should have dumped you instantly.

>>9654519
I hope this is bait or you're a fucked up person lol

>>9654536
>>9654537

I make my career being a fetish model. He isn't into it so there was no point in telling him. I make money so it shouldn't matter and I pay for all of the rent.
I make more than he does and he works at Arby's.

My daddy loves when I wear lolita, he bought me a new AP dress this week for being a good girl but he spanks me if I eat too many donuts cause then I'll get fat and won't be able to fit into cute things. I wear my dresses when we have sex but always make sure they're clean before selling caus dont want somebody to leave negative feedback for cum stains obv. no problems yet

also >>9654519 is terrible you should never do that to someone youre in love with even if you make more than them.

>>9654539
lol this is just too good, you're a whore who charges her boyfriend for sex
haha

>>9654519
If he asked nice would you still charge him? He is your bf and shouldn't pay to see you nude

>>9654539
>I make more than he does and he works at Arby's.
Girl, you should definitely dump him.

>>9654539
Why would you be in a relationship with that you also wouldn't share your nudes with? Patreon or not. Also if him not making enough money for you fucks you up that bad, dump his ass.

>>9654540
>mfw genuinely into ageplay but scared to get associated with people like this

Like I'm into it for personality reasons rather than fetish, of that makes sense. Daddy gets me clothes for being good and spanks me for being bad but I don't flaunt it around and post it in a way that makes it sound like it's a highlight of my relationship. He reads me bedtime stories, sits through my puppet shows, and listens to my ramblings about my day having tea with my stuffed animals while he was at work or something. It isn't a bedroom thing, and I know your post can be taken as non-fetishy it comes across that way when you open the door about your relationship with this.

Unless necessary, like this post, nobody else has to know about me and daddy. I dont open up discussion of my relationship by talking about how he's been with me since I was 15 and he was 28 (we've been together 7 years now) or how our punishment reward system works. Not even my closest friends know, but for me it's a really deep bond and not some icky sex stimulation thing.

>>9654519
How could you even keep something like that secret from him? I had a friend like you who was a Twitch streamer and who would send nudes and cyber with her "fanbase." She got pissed when her bf found out and was like "I'm not cheating, I wouldn't do this irl, I won't even meet any of those guys" it was disgusting. I didn't even know myself until she vented to me and I told her she's mean.

>>9652730
There's nothing wrong with having a low sex-drive, thot

My boyfriend loves my lolita so much that he doesn't mind me taking out all my dresses and covering him in them while he reads literature in the bed.

>He likes it

My ex gf absolutely loved when I cosplayed, and was generally really supportive of it but she refused to participate herself because of her crazy self esteem issues. Wouldnt even entertain the idea of wearing something Id offer to make for her.

>>9654641
Nearly puked at those feet

>>9654680
do you dislike feet in general..? cause those feet actually have a nice shape and look clean...

>>9654568

It makes me die a little on the inside that this could actually not be bait. Thanks anon.

>>9654641
>>9654540
>>9654519

Well that all looks fun. Let me know when your creative juices run out.

>>9654540
>>9654568
This is why we can't have nice things.

>>9654132
doctor chan is it true all male surgeons are jock dudebros with trophy wives and are only in it for the money?

>>9653418

Thank you, for once i actually enjoyed being at a convention, being able to be with my boyfriend and hang out with cosplay friends i dont talk to enough. It felt much better than staying in a Love Live cosplay group where i was antisocial and had to only stay with them for the photoshoot.

My gf loves when I wear lolita. She's a goth so we both have an alt fashion understanding of each other. She makes me feel comfortable when I go out in my dresses and I love her so much for it!

>>9654641
>while he reads literature in bed
literally who says this and why did you pose a photo specifically for this

"hey boyfriend i need to take a photo proving our deep connection on /cgl/ don't move"

>>9655532
wow u sure are angry

>>9655542
nah i just think your post was stupid and you should know

>>9655545
Okay. :^)

>>9654549
I'm pretty offended at the fact that you assume that I'm a girl. Not once did I saw I was a girl.

>>9654557
He's not into fetish modeling so he doesn't need to see them.

>>9655694
>he's not into seeing these pictures
>but he's asking to see them
do you have any idea what you're even saying or does it just go straight through without registering?

>>9654746

I totally agree, who talks about their fetish stuff in a cosplay/lolita 4chan group thing.... and to admit you was dating a guy way older than you before you was legal.... also I feel sorry for whoever buys the Lolita dresses that had cum on it

>>9654644

I'm sorry to hear that annon, did you try and get her to cosplay a character she feels comfortable as or that she likes?

>>9653426

Ugh he sounds like a pig, I'm sure he's flirting with other girls now. You did the right thing. if people are going to be in a relationship they need to be comfortable in how their partner looks

I encouraged my gf to do cosplays, it wasn't hard. Also I help her as much as I can, befire she had big problem with self-esteem. I'm happy it worked, now she encouraged me to do cosolay.

>>9655693
NAYRT, but that's not a comment on you or the fact that you do sex work. This is /cgl/, and the vast majority of seagulls are women. It's usually a safe assumption.

>>9654132
Yeah I'm sure they adore you and totally don't gossip and talk shit about you behind your back.
Also, where are you getting this narrative where he's tyrannical with nurses from?
Also also, how's your love life?

>>9654135
I've been by his side through thick and thin and I'll continue to be there for years to come. I think I've earned my bragging rights.

>>9654628
Having a low sex drive is one thing, "putting up" with sex is another thing entirely and it's fucking pathetic. Get your shit together.

>>9655693
>I'm offended
OH NOOOOOOO.
I'M SO SORRY!
I HURT
FEE
FEES

ON FOURCHAN!
SOMEBODY CALL MOOT. NO, CALL THE POLICE! CALL THE FBI! LOCK ME UP BECAUSE HURT FEEFEE.

>>9656367
It's weird that you act so smug on the internet when you don't even have any accomplishments if your own to brag about. Pretty sad to live you life and get your validation vicariously through someone else.
You poor little basement troll

>>9641257
Cosplayer's husband reporting.

Having a cosplaying girlfriend (or, in some cases, wife) is great, you're never short of ideas for birthday/christmas presents abnd it's great to see your partner being cute in different ways.

Plus we're planning to do couple cosplays someday, but since moe anime is a significant part of what we watch together, it's difficult to find a tall, short haired, bearded guy to cosplay lel.
Right now, we've settled on a Kancolle Kongou x Admiral couple cosplay, I'll post it there if it looks good.

... and to be honest, she's okay with my /k/ addiction, so I'd be an ass to give her shit for her /a/ one.

>>9651875
I know this is a week old, but as a guy, I don't like the idea of having sex in the slightest, and I feel that potential sexual undertones make it difficult to make friends with women, whether they're into cosplay or not.
Of course I need to work on getting out of the house more, but this has been a persistent issue as far back as I can remember.

My boyfriend is... pretty hardcore normie. Frat boy, into cars and guns, etc. Before we were dating he'd watched a few animes and really liked AoT.....
Since then I've gotten him into BNHA and started Madoka, Code Geass, LL, and a few others.
We cosplayed together recently for the first time! He seemed to enjoy it and wants to do BNHA next.
He's still pretty hardcore normie but he's trying his best and really supports me and what I love!

my girlfriend loves my lolita stuff. that's actually why we started talking; a mutual friend showed her a picture of me in a coord and her reaction was evidently "I need to meet this girl". her support's kept up too, she even gets me dresses as presents for holidays and things these days. she supports me wearing it and joining comms and such, and i even got her to buy an ouji outfit, even if she's only worn it a couple times and never come to a meet with me, it's nice to feel like i have someone who's into it with me. we'll browse through lacemarket together sometimes, comparing tastes; she really loves pastel vomit ott sweet, but i'm more of the classic type - i'm starting to add more pink into my wardrobe thanks to her though.

she thinks my itabag hobby is cute, she doesn't entirely "get it" but she's supportive. i'm planning on making her a tiny bag of her husbando for her to store her art supplies in as a surprise.

when we first were dating, she was definitely in an "anime sucks" phase (her mom is japanese and shoved the culture down her throat her whole life, so i kinda get it) but she wanted to try really hard to get into my hobbies, so i made her watch some of my classic faves, she was lukewarm, so i made her watch some more recent stuff and now she's pretty hooked. luckily we have pretty similar tastes it seems. though she somehow didn't like miss kobayashi's dragon maid and i'm still bitter as hell about it. she's more into shonen stuff, i guess.

on the cosplay front, she's kind of a pain in the ass. we always plan on doing these couple cosplays, but i'm just more into it than she is, because while i'm finishing costumes, buying wigs, etc, she's still barely started on hers. i know it's not really meant to be malicious, it's just that she's busy and has other things she wants to do, other things to spend her money on, but it's kind of disheartening that she's always saying "if we go to this con, we've gotta cosplay!" and then she never finishes hers.

>>9641257
My boyfriend wants me to dress more cutely and Lolita, i personally don't want to and then i feel super guilty and i enter in a self hatred spiral, i love him so much and im afraid he Will dump me for someone cuter, but i don't like dresses, then i see all the cute girls and i want to die . I hate myself sometimes

>>9658921
Your boyfriend should be happy with you the way you are, you have nothing to feel guilty for. Dress how you want.

Been in "relationships" while actively cosplaying. I use the quotes because I've never been doted on, none of them took interest in my hobbies and I never felt wanted during the course of our dating.

>tfw I even have to question what our status was.
Is what it's like to be ugly.

>>9658933
I know but then i start feeling anxious about It and i end just obsessing over It and trying to make myself wear that, and when i convinced myself i start hating myself because im not being me

>>9658921
>>9658971
It's not worth it, anon, no one is worth this torture you're putting yourself through. I suggest you talk to him about it and be upfront, explain that dressing in the specific way he wants you to would be uncomfortable for you and it's not something you want to do. If he ends up leaving you because you don't wear cute things for him then you'll know you dodged a bullet.

>>9658979
Thanks for the support he understood me and i will work hard to be clear to him and clear with myself too, thanks anon

Nah girls don't like me.

>>9659406
I like you.

>>9651898
>>9651924
Same

>>9643372
>person with a bf/gf calling someone a normie
Fuck off.

>>9655986
He's an absolute perverted shitheat. I feel so much better after I left.

>>9659443

Thanks anon. Your a cute.

>>9656367
>>9646530
>>9645849
>>9641714
Please stop posting on /r9k/ as well bragging about having a doctor boyfriend. Nobody cares and you didn't 'earn' any right to be smug just because you let him put his dick in you.

My fiance doesn't like me doing it and he's been clear about that in the past, I'm a cosplayer btw.

He's a really good guy, works hard, is an accountant and has always put food on our table and been supportive of me when it comes to other matters. But he comes form a quite traditional Italian family and associates what I do basically with 'pornography', disparages it etc. He also has an online circle who have a couple of /r9k/ types who more or less gaslighted him the cosplay scene is sleazy: Full of drugs, promiscuous sex, slutty girls etc.

I'm doing it less and less now even though my friends have a bunch of plans for next year because he doesn't want me doing it. Kinda sucks but oh well.

>>9660379
>w-we don't care
>follow her anyway
Go back to your containment board, we don't want your kind here

>>9641265
probably just likes to fuck you while thinking about overweight children

>>9656367

I was going to type a reply, but every response seemed like kicking a downed dog. Sorry about your life, I really pity you.

>>9655216

No, not really, and they aren't even the majority. But to to put it one way, there's enough for the stereotype to make sense.

That being said, even not all 'jock dudebro' surgeons are bad. Some are actually really chill and have a great sense of humor. In the end, they're people. They vary. II will say that surgery will attract a hyper detail oriented type of person who's very good at procedural things, and will tend to attract a lot more of the type A personality types than let's say pediatrics, psych, or family medicine. But again, they're all people, and just because you're in one specialty doesn't mean you'll be nice or an asshole. I know uptight assholes in my program, and chill surgeons, so it all evens out.

>>9660447
I'm gonna be brutally honest, he sounds kinda controlling. You shouldn't have to give up your hobby because he's so misinformed.

>>9660447
>who more or less gaslighted him the cosplay scene is sleazy: Full of drugs, promiscuous sex, slutty girls etc.

But as far as the cosplay scene in 2017 goes, especially surrounding major cons, this is absolutely correct.

>>9645849
>For the last two years of that period we were roommates so I got to see him first hand bringing girls into the apartment and hearing them fuck in the other room while I was dying inside. I got my good end in the end but boy was it difficult.

I respect you being able to stick it out like that. I can't imagine myself or anyone I know being able to live through that for two years.

>>9654519
Ever considered that you might be literally retarded?

>>9641617
>>9641605
Does your name start with an Ant.

>>9661866
Excuse you but what the hell are you doing? We all agreed to shit on her didn't you notice? Why are you going against the grain?

>>9651704
This is the boyfriend I want.
>tfw no boyfriend whom I can trust to not cum on my burando

>>9654519
lol, these are the girls who would lose their shit if they caught their BF camming with some rando girls online.
Of course you wouldn't need to know about it if he was :>)

My boyfriend is all right with lolita fashion, but he clearly likes me better in normie clothes. Think Ann Taylor basic clothing.

I low key resent this, but you can't really change someone's preferences, and again, he isn't really controlling about it. I just wish he could appreciate my weeb clothes more.

>>9661333
I dated a surgeon for a while when I was 20. He wanted things to go way faster than I did. Wanted to fly me to Hong Kong to meet his folks before the 2 month mark. Told him to slow down, since I was in the process of moving house/states, signing up for university and generally putting my life back together after I lost one of my closest friends to suicide.

He then took that as an opportunity to go on a "you just want an excuse to screw college chads/all young women are shallow/etc"

So I noped out of there real fast. If you haven't gotten over those insecurities when you're 40, you're never getting over them. Pity, because I really liked him otherwise. He had a beautiful voice, good taste in art, a great body for his age and could cook up a storm.

Hope you and surgeon-senpai have better luck, anon. <3

>>9662763
Speaking from experience, many Asian/traditional families esp Korea and China really want marriage because it is incredibly socially and personally important. It’s kind of like how in the US there’s the shotgun mentality in more conservative places. If you’ve got someone, you may as well get hitched for the sales of your family line etc

>>9662763
>20 years old
>Dating a 40 year old
Ouch, that's some top tier red flags on both parts

>>9662763

Sounds like a first gen Asian combined with being an asshole thing rather than a surgeon thing. He probably was getting the extreme pressure from family to settle down. Also sounds like he was projecting a bit. Sorry that it ended badly anon - you'll find someone for sure though. Despite what the thread seems like there are lots of good people out there.

>>9662892
Thanks for the context, anon. For me it was very daunting. I might have been more understanding of it if I wasn't so utterly stressed out at the time.

>>9662892
Eh. He was a regular customer at my then workplace and noticed I spoke French. Struck up polite conversation a few times before asking if I'd like to go out for brunch sometime. Decided to give it a shot.

>>9663004
Thank you, anon. It's been a while, and I'm dating a very loving man. All the same qualities (except cooking, that's my forte now) but with less emotional baggage. Still from a more traditional family, but I met them later and thankfully they are wonderful people.

I wish all the best to all those still seeking out the right person. c:

>>9662035
It does, and I wouldn't be surprised at all if you knew who we were since it's kind of a specific story haha. I avoided posting any really specific details though for her own safety and privacy, since I know how this place can be. I just felt like gushing a bit about her since she really is both a blessing and a little angel, and I can say that I really do love her at this point and just want to see her be happy.

>>9662895

welcome to real life (30% of marriages are between people with 10-30 years difference)

>>9663919
that's because they need to be married to get the money when the old one dies

>>9660447
He has good friends

>>9648843

Outside?

HahahahahaHAHAHAHAHA

My boyfriend seemingly has no issues with me cosplaying, but he becomes stupidly upset when I pose for photos with other people. He "finds it inappropriate," but he won't explain why. I figured he was jealous, so I suggested we do couples cosplay… he agreed, but every couple I suggest he turns down. So I cosplay alone and he can suck it.

For real though, it doesn't matter what gender I'm posing with, he gets prickly about it. Amusingly, the one person he's totally fine with me doing shoots with is a woman I have an enormous crush on. AND we take very shippy pictures, so… Hm. (We'd never work out as a couple and I cherish my friendship with her too much anyway, so it's not like I'd cheat on him. She's still the only person that would be any competition to him, but he's 100% fine with me taking photos draped over her as I caress her skin. Weird.)

>>9669449
He probably has it backwards in his head, people he doesn't know are a potential threat to the relationship, but you'd never leave him for your friend so she's safe.

>>9645325
wew lad, you totally blew him the fuck out with your non-argument rebuttal.
Very nice of you to admit defeat lol

>>9645322
you obviously havent been on r9k in a long time. the place is full of lgbt faggotry now. there are no robots left there, which is why you see them on other boards now. you can thank the mods for ruining their containment board

>>9646530
>tfw recently single final year med school fitizen that's bored and decided to flip thru boards and found a meme that's literally me
I really wish i had a qt girl that i can train into being a good girl (for me)

>>9680040
Spread her tale over to /fit/
Give them hope

How do I support my gf's new interest in cosplay?

>>9641257
My boyfriend doesn't know much about the fashion I enjoy wearing (mainly because I don't wear it often anymore due to school/work responsibilities), but when I do he likes it. He says as long as it makes me happy and I'm comfortable, he supports me too.

I'm very grateful to have him.

>>9680742
The ex's story is self inflicted and can't be truly appreciated on fit. Long story short, qt neighbor was into me for 5 years, we did a fwb for the last year and a half. I went 3k miles away to finish last year of school, she gets a bf after we've been skyping for the past 4 months. I realized i wanted her to be my gf almost a year ago, just never told her. They've been dating for 6 weeks, i told her 3 days ago i want her to be my woman, she said "sorry i can't, don't waste your time" while crying. I fucked up by not expressing my emotions sooner. She claims to be in a "deep relationship" with the new guy, and says they've already talked marriage. I'm trying to pull a Mr. Steal your girl, like wtf 6 weeks is nothing to a guy she's liked for 6 years. Now i'm driven to get her to realize she'll be happier with me, she's already told me how he's a literal f.o.b and has had arguments with him. Where as, we never had one argument with each other during the 18 months we had together. Any advice from femanons, or thoughts would be greatly appreciated

>>9641569
>tfw no gf

>>9641713
>bottommost Shinobu figure is Pedo
Fuck you, I own it and it's not lew in the slightest.

>>9647427
>mfw I could meet more people and be more confident, especially around girls, if I bulked up but I enjoy crossplaying/dressing too much and keep myself skinny and low muscle volume to fill out clothing better since I'm already small

>>9648786
Where did you meet each other? I've been trying to get out of my comfort zone and go to cons to large events but it hasn't been working out for me. If you're also a guy though, then that just seems more normal. If not, please give details.

Not only supports but cosplays with me.
Won our last cosplay competition with our hand made outfits.
Also met on /fit.