/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL

>>9644767
>slip back into ED
>20lbs down from my normal 115
>don't want to have to get all my Burando altered
>but it looks ridiculous on me

>paid for college class, with savings
> doing well in classes
>Have a chill job to pay for rent and food
>looking for second job to fund Lolita
I am so excited! I have never been able to buy things without tons of guilt
I can't wait till I can finally start filling out my wardrobe, try new colors and motifs.
hope I can get hired somewhere soon!

>>9644771
Hey anon, I hope you get the help you need soon and get healthy. You are stronger than your ED!

>been working out to not be a fat ass lolita
>doing really good working out but not losing any weight

My stamina and endurance is up but my weight hasnt made much progress good or bad. I think I am still eating too much, I count my calories and Im trying to eat 1400 a day but I must be doing something wrong.

I wish I could just stop eating entirely but I feel so hungry all the fucking time, its horrible.

I just want to be cute again

>>9644786
Thats great anon! I wish my friends would get their life together too.

My bf bought me my dream dress the other day. I felt really happy so I offer him sex. Now I feel like a cheap prostitute.

How can I do things for him other than sex that he'll appreciate the next he buys a lolita dress?

>>9644817
Whats wrong with sex, sounds like a win-win.

Anyway you can just make him dinner or take him out somewhere in return.

>>9644817
Just have sex with him all the time, that's what I do. That way it won't be awkward.
Or you can buy/gift him something he likes in return.

>>9644817
Make him his favorite meal, join in on a video game, draw him something, give him a small gift involving something he likes.

You two are in a relationship, just because you show gratitude through sex doesn't mean you're exchanging it for gifts. I would assume you like him for him enough to have sex either way so?

>tfw bf chides me every time I spend money on lolita or sewing supplies but is also completely unsupportive of me finding a job
He has the smarts, experience and educational background that makes institutions and corporations throw themselves at his feet (and he chose the lowest-paying position fml) and doesn't seem to grasp that it's not like that for everyone else out there. I have a STEM degree but so does everyone else in this city of nerds so it's not as easy for an unexperienced baby grad like me to find a position as it was for him. Now I'm considering a retail job for a few hours a week just for something to do + lolita spending money and he's scoffing at me like the thought alone is beneath us. I don't expect him to be as interested in my hobbies as I am, but it's starting to feel like he doesn't understand that I have hobbies or a life of my own at all. He sure as hell isn't spending money on my hobbies so why is it so bad that I want to earn a bit myself, even if it's through something as ~lowly~ as retail? Fuck this shit.
>inb4 "dump his ass"
No, I'm just venting.

>>9644810
Have you got your thyroid checked? It might be a medical thing that you can fix. Also see if you can cut down to 1200 a day, that's like the upper limit of quick progress weight loss caloric intake. Just keep in mind that weight you lose slowly is less likely to come back. Good luck anon!

> tfw I see someone from my comm get posted on here and feel nothing because she's an immature brat who talks shit about other people in the comm

>>9644948
Sounds like a classist douche bag. I won't tell you to leave him, but I wouldn't suggest staying long term. At the least he's shown he doesn't respect you enough to put aside his prejudice to support you in doing something positive for yourself. I don't see what kind of future you could build on that.

>gay for this girl in the cosplay community I'm talking to, we're friends
>show each other progress shots of our cosplays we are working on and sharing ideas
>she keeps calling me pretty, tells me she wants nudes from me
>w-what
>tell her I like her
>things go awkward
>she has a bf and is moving in with him

now, I'm nervous when it comes to girls, do I pursue this or no? It feels scummy but she said she wanted my nudes. do I make a side comment that like.. she should leave her bf and live with me or just kind of let it die? Either way, I'm happy to just talk to her.

>>9644972
>classist
kek, that's a new one

>>9644973
Fuck them both

>>9644973
If they'll cheat with you they'll cheat on you 99% of the time.

>>9644969
>tfw same
Maybe we're talking about the same person. I usually feel bad when someone shit talks anyone from my comm on here, but for this annoying little bitch it's practically karma.
>mfw she posts on FB about how funny da haterz are and how she totally doesn't care
>only 20 minutes after the original post, meaning she either watches the ita thread like a hawk or it's a selfpost for sympathy

>>9644994
Before this we had a conversation about cheating oddly enough. Mentioned how flirting heavy with someone while in a relationship kind of means you arent interested anymore, and how she stopped being friends with someone who did that. But then afterwards that happened...

>>9645008
I know it's tough finding gay lolitas you're attracted to, but how much more of a red flag do you need? You're better than this anon. I wouldn't be surprised if she flirted with them first and is trying to spin it even.

>>9644973
Did you send her nudes? If you haven't; don't. Chances are she'll share them with this guy for cool girl points. When someone calls you pretty and asks for nudes that doesn’t mean they necessarily like you as a person or want to date you. Imagine if her messages were coming from a man. That’s what people call a fuckboy.

>>9645012
I think anon's talking about a cosplayer, but you're definitely right.

>>9645016
I don't know how I managed to read it like that. Wishful thinking about my own search I guess. But yeah people buttering you up to use you sexually isn't exclusive to men by a long shot.

I've never understood the posters in these threads. Are you trying to cover up your lack of natural femininity by talking like an overly cutesy girl >>9644786
Never seen people unironically using exclamation marks, youre like a MtF tranny who is talking in an overly high pitched voice and touching his hair

>>9645036
Weebs use them. This is an entire site for weebs and a Japanese fashion/cosplay board. It's not hard to figure out.

>>9644817
Sex is the best reward. If you don't have money to buy gifts in return don't bother.
He'll appreciate sex more than $10 movie tickets.

>>9644810
Remember anon, muscle weighs more than fat, have you measured yourself lately? Maybe you are toning up you're just too busy on the scales to notice.

>>9644810
are you going by the scale or going by your measurements? it's actually pretty hard for some people to lose weight through exercise, as a) you're gaining muscle, even though it may not show, and b) the amount of calories burned off in a moderate workout isn't necessarily that huge in the larger scheme of calories in/calories out.

if your clothes aren't getting looser/fitting better, maybe see a doc like the other anon said; but if you're looking more fit, don't worry too much about what the scale says. keep an eye out for signs of malnourishment. if you're exercising a lot, your body needs more of certain nutrients (protein, some minerals I think, been a while so details are hazy). and if you're avoiding certain categories of foods due to their being fattening, it's possible to end up with deficiencies of vitamins, trace minerals etc. which will make you feel hungrier. finding ways to work those nutrients into your diet might help you feel less hungry.

apologies if I told you a bunch of shit you already know. here's to meeting goals and looking fantastic in your burando.

>>9645036
Why are you projecting so much?

My boyfriend would always buy dresses for me. I never asked him to, he would look through my favorites and buy them himself to surprise me. I always cook for him, clean his house whenever I go over, have sex with him whenever he wants, etc.

My friend showed me his active okc profile. I go psycho-gf and catfish as a pretty girl and he messages me before I even message him. He flirts, says he's single, and wants to meet up.

I confront him, and he claims someone is catfishing as him. I laugh and break up with him. Now he's demanding I pay him back for all the dresses he's bought me, since he bought them "expecting a return on his investment."

Should I pay him back? Give the dresses back? Or just say fuck him?

>>9645108
>Should I pay him back? Give the dresses back?
no.

>>9645108
Do what you want, but it sounds like he knew you were super yandere and messaged your catfish knowing it was you
I'd say at least give him something back if he bought you a shitload of dresses and you didn't get him much back

>>9645108
This is ridiculous. Don’t pay him back.

>>9645108
Pay him something back just so you can cut ties with him and he can't claim you still owe him

>>9645115
>Do what you want, but it sounds like he knew you were super yandere and messaged your catfish knowing it was you

So he made an account and checked it regularly just so she'd message an account he'd already made? K-dramas aren't irl anon. It's just a shit excuse cheaters always use.

>>9645129
No, but her reason was that he found her account and messaged it
It's pretty likely he knew she was going crazy about it and knew she was the one catfishing him the entire time. He probably heard about it from her friend too

>>9645132
>>9645115
But why would he claim someone was catfishing as him rather than confess it's a prank? I think anon did the right thing. The guy's free now and if he wants money back, he should ask for it explicitly.

>>9645135
The anons post is that he IS explicitly asking for it back and she doesn't want to

>>9644968
Im actually on thyroid medication already :) Its already helped a lot because before it I was gaining weight even with working out and cutting calories! Now I just dont gain or lose it seems. I was thinking of cutting to 1200 though, I tried that before and failed but you know, try try again.

>>9645099
>>9645100
I actually havent measured myself since working out, thanks for reminding me!

Last time I went to the doctor and got everything checked I did find out I was low on B12 and Vitamin D, so Ive been trying to remember to take my vitamins. Other than that I dont really avoid any food, I just try to do healthy versions instead (like turkey or fish instead of beef)

Thanks so much for all the advice though! One of the things that helps me keep going is other gulls being helpful and supportive! In real life people just go "Oh but youre so cute already! You dont HAVE to lose weight!" and its a bunch of bullshit and they know it.

>>9645108
In high school I had a guy pull this on me, wanted all the gifts he had given me back, and Ill tell you what I told him "No."

Gifts are not legally bound to him, he can not do a single thing to take them back. No police or judge would ever side with him. Gifts are not a monetary investment.

Dont pay him or give him back a single fucking thing, and if he harasses you about it just call the police and get a restraining order if needed.

>>9645145
wake up tumblerina

>>9645145
it's much easier to just give him back $100-$200 worth of stuff than pay for court fees and a lawyer for a restraining order

>>9645108
Just say no, gifts are gifts and legally he has no right to them.

>>9645159
>implying anyone but a complete moron would get the courts involved over gifts
I mean maybe he's a moron but still. Just do nothing, OP, if he tries to escalate call the cops on his ass.

>>9645165
are you dumb?
you need to pay for filing a restraining order and you need to pay a lawyer to make sure you file correctly
he's not going to sue, but if you're getting a restraining order, you're the one going to the courts

>>9645168
Who said anything about a restraining order being necessary? If anon ends up at that point giving him money isn't going to stop him. Restraining orders are a last resort thing.

>>9644811
thanks! It's difficult but worth it. I hear so many girls in my comm complain about not being able to buy stuff while living with their parents and only working part time.
>>9645036
or i'm just excited. don't be so autistic over an exclamation point!!

>>9645173
the anon I was replying to said to get a restraining order if he bugs that anon, are you stupid?

>>9645175
No I said if he harasses her, not bugs, HARASSES. Which it sounds like he would be the type to do.

Restraining orders are last resort.

I thought I made it clear that you would only call the cops if he escalates things.

>>9645158
From what? You dont have any obligation to return gifts and if hes the kind to demand gifts back he may also be the kind to keep harassing her if she doesnt do it.

If he goes that route she should call the police on him.

>tfw closet child is having an everything sale and all the cheap and good stuff is gone
>tfw I have exactly 60 USD to spend and there's nothing to spend it on

Every month my dad lets me use whatever's left of his credit card limit to buy me stuff, and I can already see that I'm not gonna use this little bonus at all this month and it'll go to waste.
There aren't even any socks that match my wardrobe.

>tfw closet child is having an everything sale and all the cheap and good stuff is gone
>tfw I have exactly 60 USD to spend and there's nothing to spend it on

Every month my dad lets me use whatever's left of his credit card limit to buy myself stuff, and I can already see that I'm not gonna use this little bonus at all this month and it'll go to waste.
There aren't even any socks that match my wardrobe.

>>9645108
No, fuck him. Why do you even ask.

Anyway, depression is kicking in, i can't find a job for the life of me, my energy has completely vanished and i spend my free time drooling over dresses i can't buy.
>Why live
P.S. if any ana-chan is interested in sending me food i would put it to good use.

>>9645209
why not buy something cheap from fril or mercari?

>>9645209
>my dad lets me use whatever's left of his credit card limit
how old are you? is your dad really financially irresponsible or does he just make a shit load of money?
>t. bitter poorfag who's parents only paid for essentials

>>9645231
nayrt but I also have rich parents who pay for my living expenses as well as give me some cash to waste on useless shit every month. That may be their case.

>>9645214
Didn't even think of those, checked wunderwelt too and called it a day, I feel dumb now. Thanks, anon, gonna check there!

>>9645231
I'm 24 and pay my own bills, he just makes a lot more than me and knows I never have any money left for hobbies. Sorry your parents didnt support you, anon

Man I just really love Lolita.

>>9645231
I’m sorry for you anon, but at least life’s not gonna hit you as hard because you’re not a spoiled brat like me.

>>9645012
>>9645016
Guess i just had more hope for girls. Thanks anons.

I have nobody else to say this to:
After years of feeling guilty and disgusted with myself, I finally realized it’s okay for me to like women. It’s like a huge weight has been lifted and I really think being in the lolita community helped me accept that part of myself. Im so much happier now, I don’t feel this wave of guilt anytime I look at a girl now. So thanks to all the lolitas in my life and here on /cgl that helped show me that girl love is amazing and nothing to be ashamed of.
>and wish me luck on my new mission to find a lolita gf

>>9645390
>wish me luck on my new mission to find a lolita gf

Get in line, sister

>DD pops up on LM
>already own a different colorway but I want this one more
>also considering a new reservation
>really should be saving my money
>but here I am

Part II
>Disneyland lolita day next month
>have the day off, have the means to go
>have zero friends on this coast
>really really don't want to be wandering disneyland alone in lolita
c-can I just bribe someone to let me quietly follow them around so I'm not alone

>had an awesome dream that I had a gothic lolita gf who would buy burando for me as gifts
>we would have tea together and we had a little house where half of it was kawaii and the other half was gothic
>wake up
>tfw no gf.jpg
also i have so many emotional issues with people being affectionate towards me so every time i get into a relationship i screw it up because i dont know how to deal with people actually wanting to be with me. i feel like everyone moves too fast in relationships, but its probably just me moving too slow

>>9645399
>I feel like everyone moves too fast
I feel this on such a deep level, it’s like everyone is just rushing to get to the intimacy level

>moved states
>closest comm is very cliquish
>trying hard to make friends because its already hard for me as a person
>quiet around new people beacause im trying to get the flow of conversation down to know how to talk to the new people
>basically a brand whore but likes wearing classic and the ocasional sweet but not OTT coords
>being new only entitles me to itas and those who cant afford brand
>cant relate to swooning to taobao trending dresses
>cant have a lolita best friend like i did in old comm
>will never be able to twin unless i can settle for taobao printed shit
>also i keep getting ignored on the friend finder thread or making friends with itas.

>tfw bought these literal baby rattles because I thought they were cute
I wear sweet and I don't want to give off the impression I'm into ageplay but fuck. I wish they were regular plushies

>>9645414
its okay anon, i love pooh bear and most places only make baby pooh items such as rattles, baby security blankets, those throw up rags and baby pooh stuffed animals. i have the throw up rags i use as a handkerchief (like to sit on on nasty public transit, i use a sanrio and rilakkuma hankercheif/bento cloth normally at meets so people dont think its weird anymore) and the baby poof stuffed animals but i couldnt bear to buy the rattles because they were the plush handle kind.

>sold 2 pieces of used jfashion
>still haven't gotten feedback for either

Just.

>hit it off with a girl off here and start emailing nearly every day
>we're both lolitas and both gay
>feelings beginning to grow
>finally send each other photos of ourselves
mfw she's a complete landwhale ita. i know beggars can't be choosers but jfc

>>9644771

Erectile dysfunction?

>>9645589
How did you hit it off without knowing she was an ita?
did you not know what kind of brands she wore?

>>9645593
eating disorder, like anorexia or bulimia

>>9645600
We talked about brands, she specifically liked AP. What she didn't mention, was that she liked AP, but could only fit into replicas; which she tried to convince me were real.

>>9645589
Well that sucks.
Don’t lower your standards for tacky itas, anon-chan

>be a hambeast
>been working out and losing weight
>out having a treat day with a coworker to help get over a break up
>lolita in my favorite ETC print walks past our table
>compliment her dress
>feel like she was probably repulsed by me
>feel fat and ashamed of myself
>regret having a treat day

Currently hung over at AWA. Somebody just farted.

I'm officially too old to stay at the con past 10pm. Whatever my hotel has a lot of channels. Night gulls.

>>9645108

I agree with >>9645203. What is he going to do with all the dresses? How are buying a bunch of dresses an investment? Were they "I'm sorry" gifts because he was cheating on you and you didn't know? He's just using it as a method to keep contact with you. Move on, keep your dresses and wear them whenever you want to.

>They were married on 10 February 1840, in the Chapel Royal of St James's Palace, London. Victoria was besotted. She spent the evening after their wedding lying down with a headache, but wrote ecstatically in her diary:

>I NEVER, NEVER spent such an evening!!! MY DEAREST DEAREST DEAR Albert ... his excessive love & affection gave me feelings of heavenly love & happiness I never could have hoped to have felt before! He clasped me in his arms, & we kissed each other again & again! His beauty, his sweetness & gentleness – really how can I ever be thankful enough to have such a Husband! ... to be called by names of tenderness, I have never yet heard used to me before – was bliss beyond belief! Oh! This was the happiest day of my life!

wtf why dont I get to be a real life princess

>>9645766
>tfw no gf to pamper
How do I even find gf material? I just get used as a cock machine that dispenses burando.

>>9645802
Idk, how do I find BF material? I'm cute but naive and guys just end up ignoring me after a while because I'm not overtly sexual

Sucks both ways

>>9644817
Google 'ways people show their love' and pick a method, you'll probably have a better understanding of how to show your love once you do some reflection. If sex is how you want to show love, don't feel bad about it. He's showing you he loves you by buying you something, he didn't do it to purchase your affection.

>>9645806
Dang I get it. I was going to suggest some male inclusive hobbies or interests you could pick up, but realized you wouldn't be interested. Sucks both ways for sure.

What's a good male to female ratio hobby? I can't even think of any female dominant hobbies besides lolita. Doubt I'd meet someone at a cooking class, prolly all housewives or something.

>>9644973
She was probably fucking around. Keep at arms length since she has a guy. Nothing good to come of getting into a stupid trist

>>9645612
Disgusting. Don't date a lying replica-chan, anon. You deserve better.

>>9645815
>male dominant
shop/building things
outdoors things
most "geeky" things like tcg

>female dominant
book clubs
certain sports
crafting like scrapbook, home decor
Fashion (often)

>>9645859
But what's one that had lots of both? Can only think of dancing maybe?
Book clubs also seem like they'd be filled with housewives reading 50 shades of grey.

>secretly nymphomaniac who cannot go to a con without adding yet another story of shameful hedonism
>Masquerading as a sweet reserved girl who has a cosplay interest hoping that my regular crowd doesn't find out
>Maybe they all know already

>be me, pastel vomit sweet lolita
>impulse buy a piece that's toned down and way different from my usual style
>piece arrives, try it on for size
>mfw i feel beautiful and elegant as opposed to just cute
>mfw i like it

well darn. i felt like i was in a rut with my wardrobe because i had acquired nearly every ultra-sweet piece i pined for, but this is entirely new territory. on one hand i'm excited to have found something that truly sparks joy, but on the other i'm beating myself up a little for not realizing it sooner.

i still love loud pastel sweet but this dress has spoken to me more than anything else has. i guess it's time to make some changes.

>>9645888
That's great, anon! I hope your new style works for you. What was the dress you got, by the way?

>Very important exam tomorrow
>Pining for dream dresses
>Searches for one of them to dull the pain
>Every Google result fills me with hope, only to crush me
>Sees every missed opportunity, bitter and upset
>Not ready for tomorrow
>Why am I like this

I know the way to brand in the future is to study hard now, but I can't help being led away through the golden meadows of mercari, fril, Y!auctions and the like. I really hate myself sometimes.

>tfw older sisters boyfriend kept calling me little bo peep at family event
>wearing plain white tie neck blouse, normie as fuck floral liz lisa skirt and plain mary jane pumps with a small lace up detail on the back of the heel (not that anyone could probably even see that)
i really thought these people didn't exist...

>>9645889
thanks for your support anon! the dress is pic related. it's still super sweet but so different from the prints that i've been investing myself in. it was the spark i needed to keep enjoying the fashion, because things were starting to feel a little stale.

>>9645896
It's so cute! It'll be very good for daily wear too if you wear it without the apron.

>>9645863
Are you the girl in the video from AX sucking off the guy in the portapotty?

An easy way to fix your issue is just get a bf that’s chill with you? I think some men would be down for being needed constantly

>>9645863
Need way more deets on this shameless hedonism. Contact info?

>>9645240
I think anon is pointing out what a faggot that Dad is. Literally who maxes out their card limits, that's so much money. I had mine lowered since there's no way I would ever spend thousands of dollars a month on the card. Bills are usually paid with check or direct transfer...

>>9645243
Me too!

>>9645860
If you’re in college I’ve found science clubs to have a surprisingly even made to female ratio, along with music clubs. Hiking and camping has both groups as well, along with rock climbing and other sports. Lots of people are into art and with it being Inktober you could connect with a lot of people. A lot of girls really like video games, but I know me along with my friends tend to avoid any tournaments or gatherings because the betaforce is just too much to handle.

>>9645108
Fucking hell no.
Keep the dresses. If you were an "investment" then that just means he failed. You don't invest all your money into Radio Shack stocks and then demand your money get returned when it flops. Too bad for him.

>>9645910
That's a recipe for a failed relationship
If anon can't go a weekend without cheating on her bf, then telling her to get in a relationship is gonna be awful for whoever she ends up with

>>9645241
>sorry your parents dont support you
there's "supporting" and then there's being born with a golden spoon in your mouth. Not to sound all "check your privilege" here as a reality check, most middle class families would not be able to tell their daughter "max out your card for your own happiness and I've got your back" no matter how nice they are.

>>9645240
If you max out your card multiple times it fucking tanks your credit score
I'd imagine a rich person would know that and would use multiple cards so none if then get maxed
This kind of sounds like a fantasy post right now

>>9645390
I'm actually so happy for you, anon! I used to have the same feeling of guilt too and finally getting rid of it felt so good. I hope everything works out for you.

>>9646198
if you mean my post and not OP's post, I said that they give me cash, not that they give me the remainder of their credit card limit? is that so hard to understand?

>>9646203
You're defending the post by saying it sounds normal but it's not
So yes, I meant to reply to you

>>9646207
well my situation is different from theirs, and now I know

>applied for artist alley
>event starts at 9am
>"Ok, I'll get there at 8:30, no problem!"
>get email saying we are required to get there by before 7:30am

going to have to wake up over an hour earlier now AND have to sit around for an hour once I get there. Fun.

Alright. who wants to be my gf?

No I'm not from r9k, havent used 4chan in forever just broke with my gf a week ago and want someone to talk to

>>9646232
>who wants to be my rebound?

>>9646232

How much disposable income do you have?

>>9646232
>desperate and lonely a week after a breakup
>goes looking on 4chan for rebound

Lmao nobody

I have been drinking and drunkenly shouting at my tv while playing wolfinstine all day, for about a week. It's gotten so bad that my dad's been telling me to "stop shouting the names of those girls at the tv" atleast twice a day

how do I have a better outlet for emotional wounds caused by the stacies I knew back in high school

>>9646271

I don't blame him, you hear of success stories on this board of 4chan couples. Both partners using this website means less chance autism ruining things because you both understand and yout hobbies aren't as repulsive when the other get constant exposure to them.

>>9646282
Sorry, what the fuck does this have to do with /cgl?

>tfw lolita gf to bring do LSD/mushrooms with

>tfw no lolita gf to do LSD/mushrooms with

>>9646282
>>>/soc/

>>9646266
After bills and taxes about $2000 a month. Do I need more?

>>9646292
If you have 2k to waste go buy a hooker that’ll do what you want versus wasting money on a lolita who won’t put out.

>>9646296
Hookers scare me.

>>9646388
>tfw my country's largest escort site has a review system
>escorts are allowed respond to reviews
>read through the negative ones sometimes for fun

>>9646403
Where's the fucking link

>tfw midterms in two days but all I wanna do is shitpost on /cgl/
I'm gonna fail

>>9646433
Get your ass off 4chan, kiddo

>>9646433
I use /cgl/ as my study breaks. Set timers and make a schedule.

>>9645108
Absolutely not. He's only demanding them as a way to either "punish" you or to force you to stay in the relationship (because you either want to keep your wardrobe or may not have the money to pay him back). Either way is completely out of line on his part. Nobody in their right mind would demand gifts back years after he gave them to you - he got his "return" already, ie all the hard work you put into the relationship. It's not your fault he's the one who fucked things up.

>tfw getting serious about body building cause I love it and I wanna be beach body jacked
>tfw I could lose all the fat off of my body, but my arms will never fit into burando

>>9646446
college and grad school have midterms too, you egg

>>9646847
I know those feels all too well.

>tfw I'll be able to lift a 200lb tire soon but I'll never be able to lift these feelings of despair for burando cotton blouses from my heart.

>>9646859
I think they meant to get off 4chan and study
that being said I wish I was still in high school, midterms wouldn't be hellish

>tfw browsing LM in bed all day
>BF comes in with home made french toast
>We eat french toast together in bed while he watches me window shop
>Syrup falls off my fork
>He quickly lunches to catch it so it won't fall on my Milky Berry
>Falls on his nipple and I lick it off as a joke
>He ends up teasing me about it as being my fetish all day
>I get super flustered and tell him it was just a joke
>Turns out he was rustling my jimmies to distract me from the fact that he purchased something for me on LM and didn't want me refreshing the page to see

I spent a lot of time and money on cosplays for a convention this past weekend, and then was abandoned by my friends/roommates. It was miserable being alone for 7 hours and then (lightly) mocked for getting into cosplay. Sigh. Hopefully the next con I go to will be better.

>>9644767
>bought a cute dress off LM a few months ago
>$130 shipped, seemed decent
>whole transaction felt kinda off but I didn't push it because seller was a nightmare to deal with
>this week's BtB has a secret that shows seller's a scammer who sells cheap casual stuff as lolita
>would not have paid more than $50 had I known
>I feel like an idiot

I still like the dress and all but now that I know I overpaid for it I can't really enjoy it anymore.

>>9645414

ungh, that elephant is precious.

iktf, I'm not even a sweet lolita. I think they're pretty damn cute too, and better made than most plushies since they're made to handle a baby's death grip. I even felt sad parting with a toy I bought for my niece's first birthday.

The only thing I dislike are the rattles. Just be seen and not heard, gdi.

>>9645403
Aw, that sucks. I hope over time you'll be able to be more integrated. I think it might help to have more online community involvement - chat up the comm members online might give you more time to think out your thoughts vs talking irl.

I will never be cute enough to ask my crush out. She's a cosplayer at my uni, and I don't even know whether she's gay, but she's too damn cute for my ugly tryhard lolita ass.

>>9646943
Who's the seller, so I can avoid them?

>attend con in the city in moving to
>wear lolita in hopes of finding lolita friends
>end up being the only real lolita in the entire place
At least I made friends with the game room staff

>>9647006
I feel you anon, same thing happened to me in January at Ohayocon - there was even a J-fashion photoshoot/meetup thing on the schedule for the con but myself and one other girl in a bare minimum coord were the only ones who showed up and she left when it was evident no one else was arriving. I was wearing himekaji that day but still was hoping to scope out who I might meet in the future if I joined the comm, no luck. Didn't even see any other lolitas at the con that day, one ita in Taobao, and some that I'm unsure if they were attempts or just bad cosplays. It was just so disappointing.

>>9646943
don't fret anon, i and many people i know have done similar when we didn't know better

i overpaid for 2 prints that really weren't coveted at all and later found them for half the price. sucks. focus on the dress being present in your wardrobe as opposed to what you had to do to get it there.

>>9647038
Thanks, anon. I guess my problem isn't really that I overpaid but that someone basically scammed me and got away with it. Her listing practices were/are intentionally deceptive. I hope LM sees that secret and does something about her.

>>9646978
mrk on LM.

>>9646897
BF goals

So the past few (larger) cons I've been to have honestly been not so great experiences. It just seems like every time some kind of drama follows me and ruins my good time, whether it's caused by people I room with being pissy or refusing to communicate, or just freak accidents in general that aren't anyone's fault.
For example at the con I just got back from, our ride there and back broke down. So we almost got stranded in an unfamiliar city, and trying to sort things out with AAA and trying to find a ride back honestly put a damper on our weekend.

It just seems like even when we plan ahead meticulously and cut out con friends who cause drama, it still seems to follow us. I just want to be able to go to conventions again and be able to have fun instead of just having them cause more stress. It kinda makes me wonder if I should quit going to conventions altogether if they're going to be this much trouble, but I really don't want to do that. I don't know if cons are always going to be this stressful no matter what I do, or if I just need to learn from my mistakes from previous cons and do things differently next time.

Idk /cgl/, I just got back from the con maybe it's just that post-con depression that fueled this post but if anyone has any kind of advice or tips to offer on how to make my convention experiences better in the future I'd love to hear it. Cons aren't really something I'm ready to abandon just yet.

>>9647044
The seller has terrible feedback if you actually read the reviews. Why did you buy from them?

>>9647078
Because I wanted the dress? The reviews are all about her shipping and communication, not where she sources her dresses.

>>9644810
Keto anon.

Keto.

You stop feeling so hungry and you lose weight super easy. I've already lost 30 pounds and the weight just keeps sliding off.

Also the food tastes good, which is a plus.

I FUCKING WANT BIG TITTIES AND I DONT CARE IF PEOPLE THINK IM ACTING LIKE A PRE-TEEN.

Ive always had huge boob envy, i hate my small itty-bitty ones. so my adorable dresses ive tried that dosent fit right because of them. It makes me feel like a little boy.

I hate that i dont get as much attention on cons as my female friends even if im wearing something way more slutty. all cosplayers im following all have big ones, i even follow nigri even if I hate her but her tits looks so nice and i wish i had that SO MUCH.

my boyfriend says he dosent care about them, but ive looked trough his porn history and all I see is big tits. I wish I had big ones he could grab and play with and turn him on so hard, the thought of that even makes me horny.

I dont think im ever going to afford having a surgery :/

>>9647768
I can give you mine. I always want to be an androgynous tomboy not a cow with huge breast.

>>9647768
>It makes me feel like a little boy
>androgynous tomboy

At least you didn't pretend she's better off for normal reasons I guess. But please don't respond to such low grade bait anon. We've had around four threads almost completely derailed or deleted now.

>>9647768
>i wonder who could be behind this post

>>9647768
It doesn't count as "itty-bitty ones" when you're a man.

>>9647768
Fake titties are fucking disgusting, have more self-respect

>>9647788
I think I'm going to give up on trying to keep cgl from derailing. This is the most obvious bait on earth, especially right after robot "raids."

>>9645414
Anon you gotta link for that? I have a mighty need they are adorable. Also i know how you feel. I have a 3 month old baby now though so i have an excuse to buy cute little baby things. Im so glad i had a girl.

A normie girl at work has an obvious crush on me.

How do I help her transform into an anime-obsessed cosplayer?

>>9647807
Start with 80s-90s normie anime. No EVA, fanserivce, giant tits, lolis, horror, or moe anime. Just something that could easily have been played on cartoon network if it were in english. If you start with super flanderized modern anime they're just going to rightfully think it's dumb. It's something you have to be desensitized and worked into if you didn't get into it as a kid. If she's old enough start with talking about things you liked as a kid and mention remembering Sailor Moon.

Or even start with something like saying you like/used to like Samurai Jack. If she makes it really clear she finds it childish anime is probably going to be even worse. Otherwise you have a gateway and can start talking about how it ended up leading you to ___ anime and go from there.

>>9646959
Look up "gund lolly and friends" on amazon or ebay and you'll find them!
>>9647804
They have bigger plush versions! I'm seriously considering getting those, too.
>pic related

>>9645815
>What's a good male to female ratio hobby?

Music

>love lolita since age 12, totally obsessed with it but never have any money plus I live in UK
>finally in a stable living situation / financial position to buy it at age 22
>go to bodyline to order some shoes AFTER TEN YEARS of waiting
>bodyline website is down

i just

>>9647911
use a shopping service and buy from their rakuten

>>9646288
If I had a gull gf I'd probably spend all my free time licking her asshole.

>>9647911
You can also buy shoes on Aliexpress. There's a surprisingly decent variety of lolita shoes on there with reviews.

>>9646288
>>9647768
>>9647807
>>9647913
ok this thread is garbage now, time to move on

>>9647920
>>9647912

I know but I'm hesitant due to UK shipping + customs fees

>>9647929
How is it any different from Bodyline in that respect? You can ask sellers to mark stuff down. They probably would.

>>9647929
In fact, most of my stuff from Aliexpress came marked as 'gift' or 'other' or something along those lines without me asking. Small time sellers mostly know that customs fees = bad feedback from dumbass buyers.

>>9647927
If four subversive posts can derail your thread, it was probably shit to begin with.

>see dreaming macaron called 'vintage'

>feel old af

;A;

>>9648003
Isn't dreaming macaron barely 10 years old?

>tfw that cute girl won't date a guy with a Miku tattoo

>bought dress on lacemarket
>tracking number isn't right
please I am dying

>>9648003
>>9648026
It's 9 years old, a decent age but nowhere near lolita's definition of vintage.

>>9645437
This is why I hold off giving feedback till the buyer confirms they got everything ok. I hold their feedback for ransom till they give me mine because I'm tired of not geting seller feedback.

>>9648116
I do the same too, but I sometimes let it slip and give them feedback first when I notice that they're active with giving it. This is on ebay by the way.

>>9646074
We max ours all the time. But we only have a $500 limit to ours. I think I'm going to have the limit raised. I keep getting asked by my bank. But I've been putting it off.

>>9648111
Message the seller? Maybe she mistyped the tracking code, it happens.

>>9648129
I did, she replied that she'd check but hasn't replied since. It's only been an hour, I'm just horribly impatient.

>>9647768
My boobs exploaded from not even and A cup to f cup after having kids. I'm the same weight but with these giant knockers. It's not a fun experience. Everything fits just as poorly as before. And I actually don't want the attention. I'm married, so not something I'm after. It's mostly pervy old dudes that seem to make that lust face at me. Big boobs suck. Some mid range boobs would probably be easiest. But I just wish mine flattened out to nothing.

>>9647911
Aliexpress for the win. You can get shoes much cheeper but just as good quality.

>>9648122
I don't sell on eBay. But that's how I do things on lace market.

Start losing some weight I put on while stupidly depressed. Making progress. Hurt myself bad doing nothing out of the ordinary. Now I'm laid up and can hardly move. The pain meds knock me out. So I'm doing nothing but sleeping. Stepped on the scale and see the numbers have dropped more. My legs look slimmer. This isn't how I wanted to take care of this weight. By the time I heal up I'll easily be under my goal weight. But I would rather do it through working it off and counting calories.

>>9648138
Stop replying to preschool level bait if you actually want people to post in this thread.

>>9648153
I don't want to do the whole "at least" bullshit so I don't have much to say but hang in there anon. I hope you feel better soon.

>Hardly any colour suit me
>Finally find perfect one
>Ugly yellowish green

>>9647929
As someone from the country with arguably the worst customs in Europe, I've never once had customs fees on anything from AE. Anything from Japan gets hit with at least 40% of contents + shipping value, though.

>>9648271
What country?

How to deal with "noisy" neighbors?
My neighbor has two boyfriends. One fucks her during the week and the other does her on the weekends and she constantly screams during sex.
I don't want to confront her about it because i'll look like that salty jealous bitch that can't get laid.

>>9648314
How is this /cgl/-related?

>>9648320
of all the non-cgl related posts you pick THAT one to be upset about?

>>9648320
Is this where you as the /cgl/ Feels Police tell the poster to go to /r9k/? Give it a fucking rest

>>9647790
You do know that the "raids" have been proven to be done by regular /cgl/ members in order to create a boogyman they can hate on?

>>9647790
Nobody cares

>>9648314
Depends on your living situation anon, if you don't care about annoying other neighbors or if they are also pissed at her and you live right next to her, I'd blast some really un-sexy music while she's screaming, to both drown out the sound and maybe ruin the mood as revenge.

>>9648330
You do know that spoony admitted to spamming lolcow on r9k right? I'm not saying that's what happens for cgl but I used to lurk a lot and every now and then there'd be cgl caps in random threads. I'd say over half of the time it's regular cgl anons, but there's obvious patterns and it's not every single anon. I'd say that's more in line with the sjw bait and angry fatty/ana-chan arguments.

I feel like I'm off putting to people. I'm a big guy (for you) and spend a lot of my time in gym, and some folks in my group don't seem to keen on me. Probably stems from the fact that I look into people's eyes 100% when talking to them. It's just something I've always done, and it feels weird if I don't, it's hard for me not to do. Hard habit to break but I get the feeling people think I'm off for awkwardly looking away or something like that.

>>9648468

>>9648057
>tfw would *only* date a guy with a Miku tattoo

I'm pregnant.
Goodbye burando life, it was nice while it lasted.

>>9648468
Just wear sunglasses all the time.

>fiancé has friend from high school that he still hangs out with regularly
>friend's parents are rich and have bought him a house, fund his and his gf's lifestyle
>his gf is an “Instagram model” meaning she takes selfies in lots of makeup and skimpy clothes and gets tossed a FitTea sponsorship once a blue moon
>constantly giving unsolicited advice about lolita not being attractive to men or suitable for “real women” to wear
>show fiancé and his friend an article my friend wrote for Kera International where she used one of my pictures so now I’m in Kera, yay!
>gf immediately butts in with claims that unlike me she’s totally a “real” model, even though she’s never been in a magazine or runway show or been paid for photoshoots, just sponsorships
>fiancé knows I don’t like her and doesn’t really like her either, but his friend is really oblivious and always assumes it’s fine to take her along
>having the two of them over for dinner
>spent all weekend sewing up a storm and haven’t had much time to tidy up my sewing room, but the dining room and kitchen are clean
>gf starts passive-aggressively talking about how their house is bigger but they still manage to keep it tidy at all times
>BITCH, YOU HAVE A MAID
>after making snide remarks at my weeb clothes and fiancé’s gaming hobby for over a year, she suddenly brings up wanting to get into cosplay
>no idea which character she wants to cosplay though
>asks me for help on making her first cosplay, which of course needs to be amazing and done before the Halloween party she’s going to which is on the 14th of October
>I work full time and already have plans for next weekend
>”can’t you do it in the evenings”
>can’t you just buy a costume
>”no it won’t be here in time”
>you don’t say
If the news ever reports a case of a lolita stabbing a beginning costhot in the tits, that was probably me.

>>9648591
Fuck that. Tell her to go to a Halloween store and buy a Zelda costume.

>>9648591
>all that text
You could have just said, "there is this girl and she is prettier than me and it makes me upset".

>>9648591
Holy fuck what a bitch. Seems like she goes on cgl too, anon... >>9648599
You should make her a costume, though. Just say it'll cost her U$ 1000 plus materials because of the short notice.

>>9648468
I actually have a friend just like this and avoided him for months before I realized he's a friendly guy. Bodybuilder (not for a hobby, but professionally - has his own gym), really dark eyes and a lot of eye contact and about 6'2. Try to relax your body language as much as possible, and maybe sit when everyone's together to avoid towering over everyone. Sorry us small gulls can be a bit intimidated :x

>be me right now
>at uni
>shoe buckle suddenly breaks as a consequence of strutting too hard
>mild panic
>take out my hair ribbons and bobby pins and form a makeshift shoe clip that holds it together

i am the lolita macgyver, wish me luck that this holds for the rest of the school day

>>9644324
Oh absolutely my parents are shitheads and I know because of their selfish bullshit I've got abandonment issues I have to work on. Also I don't isolate myself, I managed to make a small but tight-knit group of friends in my old school and I already made my first friend here, this cute virginal korean girl she's adorable. Thank you for caring about me.

I do however resent you for calling him "predatory and wolfish", he was nothing of the sort, he was a gentleman, treated me wonderfully and made me happy. I get how it looks bad but he is nothing like what you're describing. Again thank you for caring about me, but don't be unfair to him.

Random thought: Would it really be that bad if I wanted to be a housewife?

>>9648674
godspeed anon

>>9648576
I gotchu gurl

>>9648576
Just get an abortion anon. If you live in a country where they’re not available there are NPOs that help.

>>9648576
Who's the dad?

>>9648696
>I already made my first friend here, this cute virginal korean girl she's adorable
Wtf. I find it hard to believe that you aren't just roleplaying as girl.

>>9648722
thanks to this pic i was able to make it through the day without any more shoe disasters!

time to buy a new pair

>>9644767
Just noticed an item made for me over a year ago by an indie designer has been put on the website as a regular item and named after me.
This is the sweetest, coolest thing and I'm all smiles!

>>9648910
That's so cute! What was the item?

>>9648913
A dragon dildo

>>9645423
are you me? I also love Winnie the Pooh, so dang much.
would be happier than ever if a major brand could do a Pooh collab

I now own a furry dakimakura. How far am I on the degenerate scale?

>>9648576
That sucks. sell us your Burando before you get fat and stretch it out.

>>9648696
Not really anon, at least 4th wave feminist say its about self empowerment. If you feel empowered by being a housewife, you go girl. If someone is forcing that on you, that's not okay though. Follow your happiness and be safe anon :)

>>9648696
you are honestly so pretentious that you really think a grown man wasn't just grooming you for some tight virgin pussy and someone who's easy to control

There's nothing "wrong" with being a housewife but being financially reliant on your husband creates a potentially dangerous power imbalance that can easily be abused

>>9649039
>at least 4th wave feminist say its about self empowerment. If you feel empowered by being a housewife, you go girl.

Except being empowered is not a "feeling"

Being empowered means you are literally exercising power and are in control

Are you in control if you are a housewife?
Not exactly. You rely on your husband for support.

You cannot possibly exercise power because all the power lies with your husband as he's the one who earns the wealth.

People think feminists dislike the idea of being a housewife as some kind of ideological holier than thou snobbery but their criticisms are very legitimate. It does genuinely put the woman in question in a very vulnerable situation.

It can be very lonely and boring which can give way to depression and isolation.

>>9649068
This. Besides, why would you want to be a housewife? Sounds boring as hell, don't you have any aspirations?

>>9645802
>complains about being used for money and dick
>offers to "pamper" a gf
My dude, this cycle will continue if you keep that up.

>>9644767
>be LARPfag
>been lifting weights and training for a year, now in decent shape
>need combat practice for events
>want to join local group
>come to weekly practice
>group is made up of 5 guys and 2 girls
>every single guy is either obese or pale/scrawny
>they constantly compete for the attention of the 2 girls
>really want to join this group but don't want to look like the alpha douche who is trying to "steal their girls"
Would wearing a fake $1 wedding ring solve this problem?

>>9648599
Where in any of that did you get that costhot is prettier?

>>9649094
Just sit and enjoy the shitshow. It promises to be entertaining. Keep us updated if something happens.

>>9648314
Tell the weekday boyfriend to surprise her on the weekend.

>>9648696
>Would it really be that bad if I wanted to be a housewife?
There's a big difference between being a trophy wife and being a housewife, if you're not willing to pour your heart and soul into it and be the version of you that your husband deserves then don't even bother.

I'm going to try ordering internationally from ebay for the first time now that I have an international card. I'm going to test the waters with a shitty cheap wig and hope for the best.

>slut for jane marple
>shit wont fit no matter what i do
should i just get it altered? im tall as hell so even if im skelly i dont think ill fit an 80 cm bust

>>9645414
Similarly, I want a Jellycat Bashful Bunny so much, but they also have rattles so it feels weird, but they're so cute!

>tfw someone you look up to who's modled for KERA thinks you're cute

I felt like a princess and my inspiration is back after an incredibly long funk.

>be at mother's house
>go on her PC to look something up
>see lacemarket in the tabs
>click in because curious
>mfw she has an entire watch list of things that she thinks i might like

MY HEART

When you're going up the escalator behind a deathly cute MeMeMe and she sneeze-farts on you.

>>9649322
I read this as

>my inspiration is back after an incredibly long fuck

And I was impressed and going to ask what model you fucked but now I'm just disappointed.

>>9645390

I'm sorry anon, but it is actually disgusting, and you are right to feel disgusted with yourself. You need help.

>>9649122
>using the 1950s version and not the 1850s
baka anon

>>9645399
>>9645401
this

I hate the tumblr terms but I would be happy to just have someone with a mildly romantic/platonic relationship. I could probably warm up to something more intimate but I am frankly scared of being hurt by people a lot, I am willing to try to trust others but it's hard to reach out. Besides that a lot of 20somethings are into more of the fast moving or one night stand thingy, but I'm not a hedonist.

I wouldn't sugar-mommy anyone, but I'd be happy to support someone if they would live with me and really like me. I enjoy being alone but I don't enjoy feeling lonely.

>>9646140
Can second this, I have a couple friends I met that hung out in the game room but the people that actually attend the clubs are 90% icky.

>>9648930
6/10

It gets much, much worse

most normies hit a 2-3
average gamer is a 4-5
conweeb is 3-6
furry is auto 6
hentai is auto 6

dunno where to put lolita, probably a 3 for super casual classic and 4-5 everyone else

>>9648468
>like I'm off putting to people. I'm a big guy (for you) and spend a lot of my time in gym, and some folks in my group don't seem to keen on me.
I know the feeling. It is hard to look into peoples eye. Try to look at their eyebrow or the right eye, it seems to calm people.
Do it longer every time and after some time you will able look at them for the whole conversation. Keep you face relax! I have an angry look on my face. Relax you face muscles ones you start tallking.

>tfw you want to have a nice feels thread but cringey thirstlords from r9k invade
'whats up with that lately?
>tfw no gf
>pls validate me

it's been especially bad and at least normally they try to make it remotely cgl related

>>9649068
It can be solved by spliting his salary. Being a housewife is full time job (especially if you have children) so it should be paid. You have to cover your insurance, save for retiring and buy things for yourself. In my country housewifes can get an alimony (for her not her children) after divorce unless they find some job.

>>9649068
You just sound biased desu, being a housewife isn't lonely or boring at all for me, and like >>9649548 says the government's got my back plus I'd be rich if my husband dies because of our insurance.

>>9649548
>>9649555
Nyart but it's possible they don't mean financial imbalance so directly. My mother's employer went out of business around the same time her mother's Alzheimers was getting pretty bad so she became a housewife. Now it's so bad she has to go literally almost all day everyday because we can't afford help but we're "too rich" for the government and etc. My dad would constantly bring up how it's "not their money, it's his," would refuse to do any kind of chores or picking up after himself, and would complain a bunch if not everything was finished on a really bad day. Pretty much any chance there is to use it him being the only one to have a job is used as leverage.

He's pretty great comparing to tons of other husband's and fathers, but this kind of thing is extremely common now with housewives. It used to be respected and seen as a legitimate full time and important job. Now after modern appliances, work being forced onto everyone, and both men and women collectively shitting on it even being a waitress and dropping the kids off at daycare is considered much more respectable. There's been multiple fact checks about how it still saves money in 2017, especially for day care. And doing it right is still actually a full time job, but neither are going to change anyone's mind really. I used to really want to be a housewife at least up until preschool age, but the vast majority of guys I've seen specifically looking for or considering it made r9k look like tumblr feminists.

>losing weight
>went from 70cm waist to 65 cm waist
>thighs still exactly as huge as they were

Kill me

>>9648237
Thanks. I'm healing. It's just slow going. It looks like I lucked out and won't need surgery. So I'm feeling thankful for that at least.

>>9648314
Play the veggie tales theme music loudly their direction every time she's being noisy. If that doesn't kill the mood, I don't know what will.

>>9648576
Burando is can be pretty forgiving. You might fit for a long time if you're a normal size and your dresses have shirring.

>>9649568
I still want to be a housewife but have no idea where to find a non-shitty guy who wants one desu

>>9649068
I find it fun to be a housewife. My husband is my best friend, so as far as power is concerned, it's a non-issue. We're married, not warring with one another. I'm also in charge of the finances, so it's not like I have to ask for money or anything. My husband will usually ask me if we have the money for something bigger or what acount to draw funds from since I know what's what with our finances.

As far as aspirations? I'm happy to be a stay at home mom. I like being home with our children during the day. And if I want to go back to work, I can do that. But if I have free time, I usually focus on my artwork.

I thought feminism was about not being forced into gender roles/the freedom to choose what you want to do with your life. Some women are prefectly happy being housewives. If they choose that, then it is their business. Just as some men make amazing stay at home dads. If it works for the couple, then great!

All these gulls worried about power. But then they don't realise they can dump a douche bag. If you're married and divorce, alimony is a thing.

>>9649610
Are you me? Because my thigh fat seems to hang on for dear life.

>>9649632
you're making me seriously consider being a housewife, though i've been thinking about it for a while

my fiance makes good money, so finances wouldn't really be an issue. and i think as long as i put in my best effort every day to make him feel good and keep things in order, i wouldn't feel guilty. plus lolita and cute aprons every day.

but i'm in uni for a pretty hefty degree with my logic being that if i get a job too, we'd be very well-off and could live extremely comfortably. i might just get my degree, become a housewife, and try to find work from home since it's all tech stuff.

sage for blogpost but all of this talk got me thinking

>>9649622
The red flags are easy to spot at least. Avoid guys who keep referencing being "the man of the house," want to go back to the 40s-50s, say things like "my money, my rules", demand things like >>9649122 and insist on punishment despite physical health, get angry at you for having any friends even other women, and all the standard abuse warnings. It's not so much that everyone who wants a housewife is abusive, but that abusers love having someone with as little contact and respect from others as possible.

I'm not saying liking anything from that period is a red flag to be clear, I mean the ones that want to go back to what they think the 50s were like based on known fakes like >>9649122


>>9649632
Some things aren't worth divorce. Especially when you have two kids, have been married for several decades, and everything is fine otherwise. Doesn't make it any less stressful or frustrating however. I agree with a lot of what you're saying but acting like divorce is an easy drop of the hat thing is ridiculous. Even domestic abuse cases with children have a lot of complications and are extremely stressful. The only kind that isn't are "no fault" divorces that are mutually agreed upon. If you actually need a divorce a mutual one is very unlikely.

I'm >>9649568 and specifically mention how much I hate how it's seen now. It's just unless you're very well off like having a surgeon bf like you do it can be very hard to find a genuine partner. Especially since you don't know how much they'll change once it actually does happen. Only the absolute dumbest start it right off the bat.

>>9649520
>tfw no seagull gf to do cute couple cosplays with
Better?

>>9645815
>What's a good male to female ratio hobby?

Dancing?

>>9649641
Do it, gull
Become best waifu for laifu

>>9645815
Cooking, book clubs, bible study groups, the gym, depending on where you live D&D group

>just done with school and started full-time retail job
>shitty coworkers trying to fuck me over because Im new
>work is shitty and menial
>have to watch a druggie coworker who can't remember a thing for 10 minutes
>keep getting too many hours they won't even pay me

here's the cgl part: the only thing that keeps me going is I know all the money I make is going to a two-week Japan trip next year
I get a bit over min wage and will be able to buy a shitton of brand (still living at home == no living expenses == all the money goes towards lolita)

>>9649641
Same here. I finished my degree earlier this year and it's one where everyone kept telling me how easy it would be to find a well-paying job, but I'm having zero success so far. As someone who loves cooking and keeping the house tidy and wants children sooner rather than later, being a housekeeper sounds pretty great. Unfortunately my fiancé currently earns peanuts and everyone I've ever talked to about this shit all over the concept as being only for lazy gold-digging whores who want to watch tv all day and don't deserve any semblance of respect. If I were to go full housewife I'd probably lose a lot of friends.
I'm going to keep looking for jobs for the time being, but if I'm still a NEET by the time my fiancé gets his PhD and we're properly married, I'm probably going to say "fuck it", get pregnant and be a SAHM. He's been half-jokingly begging me for babies for years now so my fiancé would definitely be down with this plan. The only snag is that I'd feel really guilty spending money I didn't personally earn on something as expensive and frivolous as lolita, but it's the one hobby that gives me the most joy. Why couldn't I be into something cheap? Dangit.

>>9649644
>like having a surgeon bf
Funny you mention that, my boyfriend is on his way to becoming a surgeon and I have every intention of being the housewife, working at his dad's company in the meantime.
It not just cause he'll be making the big bucks tho, I've known him most my life, we were good friends best friends even for years before we started dating. I know what kind of man he is, I know he'll do right by me and our kids.

>tfw finally on a consistent enough workout schedule
>making gains
>want to cosplay at momocon 2018
>hoping i don't look DYEL and at least ottermode
zyzz give me strength

>>9649771
> Not just cause he'll be making the big bucks
Good, because doctors make shit money until they've been in practice for 5-10 years
He's probably going to make less than you are for about the next 6-7 years until he gets through school, internship, and residency

>>9649741
Maybe if that happens you could get into crafting accessories/drawing as a side hobby and make money off of that?
My SO is willing to support me if I graduate school and can't find a job immediately, but I'd feel uncomfortable having him buy me lolita stuff while also taking care of everything else, nor does he really make enough to do that. I do make a decent amount of money from commissions and selling artwork/merch online, though, and I'd imagine that amount would grow if I had more time to invest in it (currently a student).

>>9649774
He's 27, he's well on his way there, his dad backs up too. Thank you for your concern.

>>9649780
*his dad backs us up too

>>9649777
I'm seriously considering it. I stopped drawing when I started uni (mistakes.jpg) but I'm a pretty decent seamstress and knitter and I might be able to make some side cash selling accessories or something. My problem is that whenever I finish something, I either like it too much to sell it or hate it too much to feel comfortable even giving it away, much less asking money for it. I need to up my game.

>>9649771
I said it because you mentioned it before. Most millennials are living at home because they can't afford rent. Any job besides minimum wage is almost well off compared to that.

Where did I say he's a bad person or that it's only because of money? You seem be either mistaking me for someone else or only reading a sentence or two of what I wrote. I agreed and said that sounded nice earlier. That comment in particular wasn't talking about you or your situation at all, but for people looking for a bf/future husband.

>>9648576
I gave birth in July and am pretty much back to normal now aside from my tits but thats because I'm breastfeeding. Just dont breastfeed and give in to every unhealthy craving and you'll be fine. Or abort it i mean whatever you wanna do I'm not saying you need to keep it thats up to you.

>>9649834
No no, just elaborating on what you said, pointing how it's not just about financial security but also about finding a good man you can rely on. Plenty of women are trapped in guilded cages.
Meant nothing by it, just adding to your point.

>>9649837
>abort
Maybe not everyone is a heartless killer?

>>9649882
>le abortion is murder meme

>>9649895
Don't take the bait, anon.

>>9648913
some hair accessories!

>>9648896
Why wouldn't there be an asian girl aiming for medschool? Are you being racist?

>>9649039
I mean I look at my how and how she tried to juggle a career and raising me and hobbies and in the end where did that get her? She's old and busted, she hates my dad, her only daughter can't really say she loves her and she developed a drinking problem. Maybe the housewife way is the way to happiness.

>>9649046
Pretentious? What are you on about? You're the one trapped in a nightmare reality fueled by memes where all men are scumbags with ulterior motives and love isn't real.

>>9649122
Woah this is some pretty heavy stuff but I think I could get there, eventually.

>>9649795
Do it, gull.
I know a girl that makes a pretty penny drawing furry porn and that's on top of being taking care of a 3 year old, looking out for the house and cooking for her husband.
With modern technology it's never been easier to profit off your hobby.

>>9649039
>4th wave
are you making this up? I don't think we're on a 4th wave at all yet my dude.

>>9649895
>le it's not murder if I do it meme
Women.

>>9649266
Dude, JM is huge. If that shit can fit Vysanthe's ass and not yours then you should really consider losing weight.

>>9649909
Nayrt but it's not about her being Asian, it's you describing her as ~virginal~. I've never heard a woman describe another woman that way, especially not someone they consider an equal and a friend.

>>9649927
Vysanthe is average, small-boned with a bit of chub, and things outside of OPs don't exactly fit her that well. A lot of JM is pretty petite, and def not good for boobs.
>nayrt btw
>>9649266

>>9649909
*I look at my mom and how she tried to juggle a career......
jesus christ

>>9649935
It's a thing from my school where we would measure each other up and give each other shit based on how much of a virgin you were. It's not nice but old habits die hard.
I mean I spent the last two years getting pounded constantly and then this girl comes along telling me how she's saving herself for marriage and what her dream wedding is like and rainbows and fairytales and Frozen is the best movie ever, it was like the third conversation we had. She's so earnest and pure it's impossible to dislike her, kinda makes me feel like a big slut tho.

>>9650066
>I spent the last two years getting pounded constantly
what about the maid outfit debacle, babbynonny?

>>9650066
You have a lot of issues, anon.

>>9650066
>I spent the last two years getting pounded constantly
Wait what?

>>9650076
What do you mean?

>>9650083
Don't we all?

>>9650085
I was in a loving relationship with a guy who is a total horndog. I thought this was already established.

>>9650091
are you even into cosplay or lolita did you just come here to complain about your ex(?)

>>9650173
I felt like I was reading a post from /soc/ when she mentioned all of the slutting

Sick and tired of girls from my local comm dredging complaints about meets to cgl

Like we will hear you, talk to the people instead of whining to strangers on the internet.

And the one who posted they're not coming to the meet because of that criticism which the host has had no opportunity to resolve? Bye I guess, I'm sure your friends will miss your company on our holiday together.

>>9649741
seconding all the people saying to get crafty and artsy for a side hustle, but being a house keeper and child carer is a full time job, and it does deserve pay. Even if you did get paid for your time taking care of the house and kid(s) it would still be cheaper than getting a maid and nanny, so don't feel bad about asking for what you're worth. And your money means you you can spend it on what you like.

>>9649913
I've heard it being used a little in academic feminist circles in the last couple years, but even if we're not on 4th wave yet, the point remains that modern feminism advocates for equality and empowering people to make their own choices and stuff.

>>9650289
But how can she be a slut if she's only ever been with one man?

I've been on a diet recently and lost weight but not seeing physical results, however I just went and tried on some of my old school unshirred blouses that previously barely went over my back and had a good 3 inch gap between the buttons in the front, but not only can they now fit my arms, I can do up most of the buttons without strain!
Mega happy, lost 10 pounds so far but 30-40 more to go so then everything is going to fit!

>>9650537
Good job anon! keep up the good work :)

I met a cute lolita at university today. I hope we can be friends. I'm so happy.

>>9644786
I'm super glad for you! that's awesome, keep at it anon. Hope I'm able to be where you're at one day.

>>9645240
Are you the same thirsty chic that posted in the Halloween thread

>>9646897
This is wonderful!<3

Taking a gull to the movies tomorrow.

>>9650644
Taking them to the No Game No Life movie?

>>9650705
No. Taking her to the My Little Penis movie.

I'm so mad and disappointed, I need to vent.
>have been looking for a Roland jacket for a while now, always seems to elude me, plus I'm only looking for black
>see that Boz is re-releasing a bunch of stuff, including Roland in ladies L size, so now I don't have to settle for a men's cut
>have been working a lot, saving up for when I see something I must have
>oh my god yes
>send money to shopping service that has been excellent all through the years I've used them
>so fucking excited, wait all day for response/ confirmation email, plan coords in my head all day
>get response at 2pm Japan time, after they've been open for 5 hours
>no problemo, jacket is still in stock
>"Anon, this is just the jacket okay? No skirt and blouse like in the picture. Can I proceed with the order?"
>uhhh yeah, I clearly said "jacket" in my order request
>send polite email back, look around online a bit, check Boz website after 20 minutes
>Ladies size L sold out
>sinking feeling in stomach
>"The SS must've just picked up the last one... r-right?"
>email comes back 15 min later
>"Anon, it's sold out."
>try not to cry
>eyes welling up

Goddamn it

Got dressed up as a maiko and had photos taken the other day (inb4 cultural appropriation) and I'm weirdly torn on the results.
On one hand I think the cute, rounded style is a little unflattering on me and I should have asked for 'elegant' instead.
On the other, they kept gushing about how my 'baby face' and 'puppy eyes' were perfect for it and saying it was super cute.

Not humblebragging. I don't have a babyface at all and my features are quite sharp/straight, so maybe it's just jarring to me to see super rounded eyebrows and droopy eyes.

>idk why this is such a strong feel, gulls.
>make it stop.

In other feels, I stumbled upon Baby and AP pop-up stores in kawaramachi OPA! First time I've ever been surrounded by so much burando.

>Planning a cosplay that was sort of an impulse but I was really excited to put together
>The final main dress piece arrives and it's just shitty quality
>I can embellish it and try to salvage it somewhat, but the fabric itself is just awful
>I cannot, for my own perfectionist mental health, wear this to MCM in front of people who can actually cosplay
>I've basically spent £50+ on a relatively crappy halloween costume

>>9650840
Is this one of these thing where you rent a costume, get help with putting it on + hair + makeup and then get pictures taken, like with the kimono/geisha dressup in Kyoto? If so, them gushing over how kawaii you are is just part of the service. I'm legit ugly as fuck and they still treated me as if I were the Second Coming of [insert celebrity known for her beauty]. Your initial reaction was probably right and you look better with more elegant makeup. You know your own face best.

>surrounded by so much burando
jelly af
I miss being in Japan.

>Study art
>Look at next weeks timetable since it changes alot
>Only lecture on monday morning
>The week after that is a holiday
>mfw almost two week free time (exept some assignments)

I can't decide should I spend the time sewing since I finally have some free time, or should I go to my parents to the countryside.

>>9650846
Yeah it was, haha. Ahhh well. I still love the photos and I guess if I ever come back, I'd like to do it again with the elegant style, different colours, etc.

Man we went to the Kyoto Disney and Sanrio stores today and it was like a fucking religious experience. Can't imagine how Disneyland and Puroland are going to be.

>>9650849
This is so far off from being cgl related it might as well be completely off topic

>>9650841
but if you're such a perfectionist, why didn't you do it yourself?
I mean, there is nothing wrong with buying a cosplay, but you shouldn't expect it to be perfect.

>>9650091
She's asking if that little stunt you pulled with the maid costume ruined your sex life.

>>9650840
>>9650851
yooo, I think I know who you are. I like your vids and your style~

>>9650916
Definitely not me, but I'm still going to pretend that someone likes my vids and style. ;n;

>>9646847
>>9646869
Just take your burando to a tailor holy shit it's not hard.

>>9651018
To be honest they just sound fat if they think weightlifting makes your arms too big to fit in brand.

>>9651041
Or they're a brolita

>giant closet weeaboo
>working on advertising project with classmates
>one of them brings up how Arby's keeps making anime related twitter posts
>suggests that we can incorporate their type of ads in our campaign to appeal to the same demographic
>forcing myself to go along with it instead of being a dick and trying to steer everyone away from the idea
I need to stop getting so embarassed about this sort of thing.

>>9651055
even worse desu

>>9651055
Yeah, that'd make more sense.

>>9651058
You should work on it
It's childish to be embarrassed about your interests. If you're interested enough in something you'd shouldn't try to hide it, even though there's a difference between that and making it your whole life

>>9651058
It's true no one wants to be associated with cringe weebs but it doesn't hurt to have acknowledge you're into it.

>>9651055
Ugh

>>9651063
>>9651064
Yeah, I'm planning on going all out since there's no point being upset or secretive if my interests can benefit everyone else.

>>9651058
You need to have that weeb pride and use it to your advantage!

>>9651055
I mean, I AM a guy, and I like the fashion. Something wrong with that?

>>9651195
Only that you're complaining about how a Japanese women's fashion doesn't fit. Especially when you're purposely adding bulk. It's like a woman complaining about how men's suits aren't cut to perfectly enhance f-cup breasts.

>>9651058
honestly its so mainstream now, just own it. you dont even have to really acknowledge it or say anything on the matter either. i was afraid of showing my power level because of my previous group of friends, but now that i'm in uni i just do whatever i want and no one says shit. so long as you're not a retard and try to act fake cute or anything, you're gucci

>>9651041
misako herself can't even fit her arms into all brand anon.

male who just got into prop making and sewing.
never really cared much about what people think about me.
(Perks of being a 6'4ft ugly man)
But when my roomies walked in on me working on a sewing machine it kinda shook me a little.
Fair to say i doubled my calories that day and went hard in the gym.

How do i make Cosplay less "Gay" ?

I apologize if this makes me seem naive or immature but im from Scotland and the male power dynamic is a bit weird here .