/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL

>be brand tea party tickets up for sale
>been really sick
>tea party on same day as the soonest doctor appointment I can get
> . . . kinda considers canceling doctor's appointment

package from WW is marked as delivered to "Front Desk/Reception"
I live in a house, with it's own mailbox. No package to be found anywhere. This was my first order from them too...
>Pic unrelated, trying to keep my head up

>>9421144
Maybe it's at the post office, like it's a mis translation?

>>9421147
Unlikely, but damn I wish it was. USPS tracker marks it as delivered and shows the progress bar green.
The real kick in the teeth is that I had a different package delivered today and it didn't click that the tracking I checked was for the WW package and not the one in the mailbox. Didn't realize this problem until 3minutes after the post office closed.
Maybe it will show up in a few days?

I have related and unrelated

>getting sewing machine this weekend
>excited to learn about sewing
>new hobby!
>something fun to do over the summer
I plan on going to the easy cosplay thread and google to see what are good first time cosplay to sew. Do you guys recommend Japanese school uniforms?

Unrelated
About two hours ago someone in a group of loud assholes threw their beer bottle at my window, towards my black cat. If the window hadn't been closed, it would have hit her very hard. My window is fucking cracked now. I don't have a bat or anything, so I grabbed my shitty broken umbrella and ran outside and threw it at their car as hard as I could. Then I told them to fuck right off and went back inside. I plan on telling the leasing office tomorrow, should I tell the police or is that enough? I'm still a bit shook, I can't believe I did that. I can't believe they did that.

>start regularly browsing /fit/
>"cgl girls are such whales!!1"
>one of the most popular threads is fat general
>fatties everywhere
>obsession over manlets and height
>catty to each other

>>9421169
I mean. For the most part, they're not wrong.

>Feeling nostalgic and watch the last unicorn
>Love everything about this movie way too much
>Wonder if there's ever been a Last Unicorn/Amalthea print specificall
>Look around
>Can't find anything
>Be sad

>>9421179
meta's "twinkle journey" is close

>>9421184
Yeah. I saw that when I was rifling through... There's a couple of other ones that were close.
I'd love to have an actual one in a lavender colorway.

>>9421179
damn dude, not enough people like this. Loved it as a kid.
I remember hearing Prince Lir's singing and it kind of ruined it for me watching it again as an adult. But at the same time I get it, he's not supposed to be a good singer.

>>9421184
Pink/ red (can't remember which, I saw it on CoF the other day) is the only decent colorway though, I hate the way it looks in the black and that seems to be most popular

I'm going to a cosplay event this Saturday and meeting my son for the first time. He's five already??

>Get dream job after years of working shit work
>Start costume
>Working my ass off after work on costume
>Loving it, loving my job
>Lose job because of mismanagement of money, boss' daughter and her friend get to stay
>Don't have money to work on costume
>Still doing every little thing I can in the meantime
>industry not hiring at all
>Friend helps me a get job in manual labor
>Super grateful but still hate I have to do this
>Long hours, 6 days a week

Fuck, I'm just so done
Things were finally looking up. I can't stop blaming myself for getting let go, I can't finish my damn costume in time now at all. I'm either going to have to skip the event or just show up half-finished

>find beautiful vintage tea set
>have to choose between tea set or con plans

Goodbye, tea set. Hopefully I'll find one as beautiful as you another time.

>tfw no /cgl/ gf to buy coords for with my vast amount of wealth

>>9421442
>have nice tea set
>friend's big fat granny wanna be buried with it
>tfw

>>9421522
Is this a meme?
Does everyone's friends family want to be buried with something lolita related?
Please tell me it's a joke.

>tfw no /cgl/ gf

>>9421444
I'll be your sugarbaby, anon.

>>9421434
>Lose job because of mismanagement of money
>I can't stop blaming myself for getting let go

Anon....what did you do?

I have a date with a lolita in a few days gulls! I'm not going to blow it!

>>9421571
Be sure to have a lot of money saved up to buy her things. She won't like you unless you buy her things.

>>9421573
How frequently and how much per thing?

Hook me up with that days:dollars ratio.

>tfw no 5'10"-6'1" gf

>>9421444
back to r9k it goes then

>>9421580
(never enough)/day

>>9421160
Hi Anon, that's great that you are getting a sewing machine! The first cosplay I did was Konata from Lucky Star in her summer uniform and I highly recommend doing school uniform as your first try. Just make sure you watch a lot of tutorials and buy material ment for pleated skirts (one that is thick enough to hold the folds). If you have literally 0 experience with sewing I recommend getting/buying patterns for shirt and skirt. Other things like a bow or collar are fairly easy, so just make your own pattern. Make sure to try your garment often, take good measurements and iron the fabric for easier sewing! Good luck with your new hobby and remember practice makes perfect! Your next projects will only get better and better

I'm sorry about what happend to you with those drunk guys ;_; glad your cat is all safe

>>9421571
Just treat her like a normal person. You don't have to buy her things constantly, especially if you're not really in a relationship yet. If a guy I only just met started showering me with gifts I'd be worried about him expecting something in return and thinking I owe him sexual favours or some shit.

>Move to Japan
>Meet a nice Japanese guy, same age as me
>He's interested in Akiba-culture and all that good anime shit
>Don't know if this a golden opportunity to live all of my cosplay weeaboo dreams (with a possible future boyfriend) or does he turn out to be a creepy fucker

>>9421676
Girl, try it and let me know. I was in an extremely similar position and he turned out to be a creepy fucker just looking for an exotic tryst.

My feels
>trying to secure affordable apartment with room for wardrobe
>finally find one that isn't a tiny studio and it has multiple closest: one for work and the other for my dresses
>find out my realtor never sent in the application and someone else got it before me

>be a brolita
>wear dresses most of the time
>wear ouji for the first time at a meetup last week
>feel uncomfortable wearing the clothes at the meetup
>a couple of women made unwanted advances on me

I felt incredibly upset after this. Talked to Comm's Admin and suggested to take a break. I've been seeing a therapist for a while.

>>9421396
wat

>Drafting a pattern
>Suddenly feel really faint
>Realize that I accidentally set the thermostat to 80 degrees

So I fix that, and take a nap and then
>Wake up
>Eat something
>Get back to drafting
>...Food poisoning.

Why is my life this way? Probably because I don't take great care of my health and I'm kind of spacey. The con's in less than two months and I have a test today...

Just gonna lay here and hope I feel better by the time class starts I guess

>>9421676
Sorry, but most likely creepy fucker.
But then again, as long as you keep that in mind, might as well try and see where it goes? Just don't get killed.

>>9421571
Use the opportunity to find out what are her interests outside of lolita.

>big prop I'm excited about arrived yesterday, doorman is holding it
>mom, who lives across the country, is staying with me
>don't want to pick it up while mom is here
>have to hold out for another day

>>9421706
>don't want to pick it up while mom is here
is it a giant dildo or something?

>>9421219
Hes also Jeff Bridges.

>tfw my sister isn't anywhere I can hug her
I feel sad

>>9421707
You're a giant dildo

>finally get my hands on oldschool BTSSB jsk
>absolutely gorgeous
>high quality fabric
>lovely lace
>try it on
>so excited to see the stars shine bright
>mfw

>5'6
>didn't think about old school being made exclusively for petite women

Well, shit.

>>9421745
have you been following me again?

tfw local sakura matsuri is coming up and as usual I won't be cosplaying because I hate how I look.

>>9421585
Depends, are you taller then 6'1?

>Recovering from an illness, only a week of uni left in the semester
>Mostly better, healthy enough to pretty much finish all my schoolwork
>Great, I'll have so much more time to work on fixing some old cosplays-
>Illness returns in full force
I have to present today and I'm a disgusting snotty mess, I'll have to go to bed immediately when I get home... Why this...

>>9421135
>Usually dress in casual or more toned down coords
>Go out in full blown black n white old school
>That moment of panic as you're walking to class
>Tfw people look at you and you regret your entire life up to this point
>Feel like a crazy ita
>go to bathroom
>Look in the mirror and feel cute again
>Feel a lil better
I wish I didn't care so much about what other people think

I hate how popular cookie-cutter old school is getting. Most of the coords just look like people watched Kamikaze Girls and tried to copy Momoko as hard as possible. It's so boring and literally takes the best part away from the style.

>>9421444
If I wasn't a literal cripple that needs a care giver that happens to also be my loving bf; I'd date you.

>>9421573
If your connection is shallow, but kinda there; this is necessary.

>>9421822
They're jelly! Just keep telling yourself this.

>>9421831
It's the backlash to OTT. People are getting tired of having to plan out their coords so much; Oldschool is more "uniform" and any note of creativity sticks out more / gets more attention.

>>9421562
I'm saying maybe I could have done more?
I was top in sales but if I had sold more it night not have mattered.

>>9421746
What jsk is it anon?

>>9421694
I'm meeting my 5yo son for the first time.

>>9421871
elaborate

>>9421863
I'm not sure, I bought it secondhand and the girl who sold it to me didn't drop a name. It's really similar to the Chelsea jsk so maybe it's some variant of that? I love it so I'm thinking of dismanting it a little and adding long straps

I met one of the more important people to me today, and it sucks. They are so important to me, but I mean nothing to them. We've met at cosplay events, and they are close friends with one person who has always disliked me, also a cosplayer. Now I think they also want to avoid me, like the person they are friends with. They owed me some money, and now they wanted to pay back, probably to be able to cut contact with me. They have so many friends they spend their time with, and I'm jealous. I wish that someone would spend time with me, but I have no friends and my closest friends are people who don't really care and have a thousand people they care more about. My life sucks.
We also talked a bit about a planned meetup, but almost no one are interested anymore and I am considering the idea that it needs to be canceled at this rate. And I feel like I'm the last person who should organize meetups because I'm so unpopular so people are probably less likely to go to things organized by me

>>9421893
I believe it's called Waist Double Ribbon Lace Frill JSK, originally released around 2006 or 2007. I wear mine with an off white Karami skirt underneath to add length to it, maybe try that?

>>9421898
I know how you feel. But I have no one to blame for myself for driving people away. I'd long since given up doing meetups and have taken a job that'll suck up all of my social time so that I can't busy myself thinking about things like that. As a bonus I'll be able to have more money for cosplay and brand, so there's that. I'm fighting off the urge to drink in case I never stop.

Don't give up anon, you can still turn things around. There ARE people out there who care or will care about you, and you need you as much as you need them. Just don't let yourself start thinking that it's all pointless, because it isn't. Life is all about experiencing things, and every new person met is a new experience. You'll find new friends, you'll make new cosplays, you'll do meetups and things will work out and you'll find a dozen new things to worry about and work on and solve.

Good luck, anon.

>>9421857
Sorry you lost your job, but sales was your dream job? I absolutely loathed my time doing sales and will never do it again

>>9421793
Not even close

>>9421905
Oh wow, thanks! I'll definitely try that!

>>9421893
That's cute af anon I hope you'll find a way to wear it!

>Want a lolita friend to be cute with
>Be awkward and shy as hell

There are comm in my city but I become uncomfortable in big groups and have skipped past meets. Maybe someday I find someone...

>>9421585
aww being short with a tree gf is pretty cute anon.
I'm 5'11 and my ex was like 5'4 on a good day (basically 5'3) I'd date a shorter guy again but I'm currently liking being single a lot.

>>9421934
Thank you! I hope I can make it work!

>>9421746
bloomers my friend.
cotton tiered underskirts are also a thing. get some good torchon lace on the hem and I think it'll look good.

>revisit old anime I loved in middle school, was really special to me
>started feeling really nostalgic for the fandom, look up old fanart from like 2004-2007
>start listening to old music I haven't heard since I was like 14 that reminds me of that time
>decided to cosplay from it for upcoming con
>hope to maybe meet someone else who really loves the series like I do and we can reminiscence together

Probably won't happen, but a girl can dream, right?

>>9422016
which anime

>been really sick for a few years
>just got out of hospital a little bit ago because my body is failing me
>have been horribly sick, puking, and in horrible pain while doped up on medication for weeks now
>was finally feeling a little better on saturday, not pukey at least
>decided to wear my dream dress to go shopping with a friend because I finally some energy to not look like shit
>felt really happy wearing something I love
>shortly after we started, a group of high schoolers made fun of me to my face and yelled at me

At least people won't make fun of me when I'm dead.

>>9422035
Don't think that way. The world is filled with assholes, but also people that love you. Pay no mind to a bunch of punk kids; focus solely on your friends and family who care for you.

Love yourself, anon.

>>9422035
Were they black?

>preparing a coordinate for a meetup
>updating an old favorite, got some new accessories to go with it, super excited, it's gonna be kawaii af
>day of the meet arrives
>start getting dressed
>zipper gets stuck
>yank it
>eNTIRE ZIPPER parts from the fabric of the dress

cinderella, you shall not go to the ball.
fuck mr. yan

>>9422048
Same thing happened with a F+F skirt zipper for me
Offbrand zippers aren't to be trusted

>>9421691
what was uncomfortable about the clothes? did you just not feel like they suited you?
also i'm sorry to hear that some of the girls in your comm made unwanted advances, but are you just talking about flirting? if you're old enough to browse this site, you should be old enough to know how to shut that down. just be like 'i'm interested in someone else', if they try to pursue the topic to the point of awkwardness.

>>9421898
>they owed me money that they want to pay me back, probably just to cut contact
this is projecting and also a self-defeating attitude
just be happy that they're being responsible enough to pay you back?
>i have no friends and my closest friends
what
>are people who don't really care
why do you think they don't care about you? furthermore, are you a good friend in return?

>i feel like i'm the last person who should organize a meetup because i'm so unpopular
organizing a meetup is a chance to get to know more people and improve your social standing. even if only one other person shows up, you can still make friends with them and expand your circle of influence.
don't give up, anon.

>>9421691
one of the easiest ways to get lolitas to stop flirting with you is to get your cummies on their dresses

>>9422003
>5'4
I'm only kinda short, not pubescent boy sized

>>9422073
Meanwhile, I'm 4'10.
At least I'ma grill so it's not that bad?
I'll never be sexy, though.

>>9421179
Haenuli's Planetary Dreamer always gave me that last unicorn feel

>>9422073
>5'4
>only kinda short

lmao

>decide to start on wig today, looks like an easy job
>5 hours later
>tears
>swearing
>fucked everything up
>had to enlist my dad to help hold stuff while I pinned
>at the end of it all wig is mediocre and will probably fall apart when I try to transport it to the con

Luckily I know how to redo it better for the next con, but fucking hell what a frustrating afternoon.

>>9422078
Are you dumb? I was implying I was significantly taller

How do you convince your bf to go clubbing with you?

>>9422189
say that if you go alone you're likely to fuck some random guy

>>9422076
>4'10
>never be sexy
Are you implying that one implies the other? Because that doesn't sound right.

>>9421875
My ex moved to Alaska while pregnant. That was almost six years ago. Now I'm going to get to meet my kid!

>>9422233
I fall way too far into the realm of "cute" than I do "sexy".
Most people assume that I'm 14 or at the oldest, 16.
At least I make a really good lolita at 26.

>>9422304
How do you feel about your son anon?

>>9422304
enjoy her bringing down the child support hammer. Make sure it's yours

>>9422305
Oh please, you know everyone on this board desires to look eternally 16. You're just humblebragging

>>9422361
I actually kind of hate it, though. It's not as fun as everyone thinks.
I'd rather look mature and sexy.
But I guess it's just a case of "the grass is always greener on the other side"?

>>9422189
Why does anyone enjoy clubbing.

>>9422409
They don't. It's just an easy way to meet easy people.

I've built up a huge Lolita wardrobe, shopping was my hobby, now I have everything I want, but buying lolita for so long that I feel guilty spending money on housey things & other hobbies (art, which is cheap but I can afford workshops with fancy artists I admire now as well as picking up better quality materials) & miss the thrill of the chase at auctions & on new releases... should I branch out into collecting & hoarding it just for the sake of it? Anywhere new I move to I will need a literal room for what I own right now but I don't have a single item I'm not happy with.

>>9422073
why are you making this a competition? are you insecure about your height? cuz if that's the case
>no thanks

nothing ruins relationships like insecurity

>>9422409
>>9422409
its fun grandma

>>9422409
diff anon
I fucking love loud music and dancing. it feels so good being lifted by the music and just expressing all my worries away. it's great exercise and I love meeting people who also like to get silly on a dancefloor.

I'm kind of shy and deal with a bit of social anxiety, but when music and bright lights come on it's party time.
the thing I hate is being danced on without permission. like, I'm there for myself...not trying to get humped.

>>9422450
If you're a party slut I suppose.

Why do lolitas hate sissy lolitas?

>>9422061
>did you just not feel like they suited you?

Basically that's the answer. It didn't suited me after it was suggested.

>but are you just talking about flirting?

No. They wanted to hang around their "boy toy", touching my elbows to see if I'm strong, feeling my cheeks, suggestions to come over late at night "to be their prince." I told them to stop three times.

>>9422072
Did I hear AP released Sugary Sarcasm?

I met an attractive, quietly intelligent boy whilst participating in a research project. He's extremely sweet and gentle, and was quite forward about pursuing a relationship. He's Christian, loves animals and has a huge, fun sounding family. He also knew what lolita was and thought it was great, and even asked how he should dress if I wore it out with him sometime.

> tfw has a hugely traumatic background when it comes to LTRs
> tfw hasn't had a single serious relationship in 5 years as a result, kept everyone at a distance
> tfw want to give it a shot but hugely apprehensive and scared sharing my past with him will scare him off

Why did I have to fall for a narcissistic, sexually and emotionally abusive asshole as a teen, gulls?

>>9422475
>as a teen

There's your answer.

>>9422475
Give him a chance anon, all my partners were shits before I met husband of 6 years

>>9422477
It's true, although at the time it seemed pretty normal for most people in my age group to be in relationships. I was 17, and he was a year older. He started out charming and soft, but gradually made me move away from my friends and family and then was an absolute monster. u.u

So much regret.

>>9422479
These kind of statements give me hope. I just don't want to get cold feet and push him away. Or have him run a mile if/when I share what happened with him :/

>>9422475
Turn him away so he doesn't have to deal with your crazy shit.

>>9422365
You do know coming off as mature and sexy is a matter of what you wear and how you carry yourself?

>>9422460
lmao, have fun being bitter

>>9422465
you know why, anon.
say you liked something fun and legit but very out of the norm.
but then a group of people try to co-opt your fun thing for solely sexual reasons, with poorly recreated imitations of the objects involved in your fun thing.

if they took some other kind of clothing style that was more common and exaggeratedly young and feminine for their kink I'd appreciate it. but the amazon/milanoo dresses they wear...ugh. I'd also prefer they not tag their online posts as lolita...because the majority are not lolitas. they don't aspire to be stylish or build a wardrobe and follow brands/indie designers. they just take a few things, bastardize and sexualize them. the skirts are always hella short with pettis shown.

it's not about the fun thing that I love, yet they always tag their shit #lolita or #lolitafashion. it's totally immodest, misrepresentative and not okay.

>>9422494
>say you liked something fun and legit but very out of the norm.
>but then a group of people try to co-opt your fun thing for solely sexual reasons

This has happened to me whenever i try to play a beast race in video games. Furries always ALWAYS ruin the fandom.

>>9422487
Have fun being a bimbo.
And a few years from now, enjoy being old and worn out and having to live vicariously through trashy reality tv.

>>9421917
I made(or used to) custom clothes. Basically, people come in, we help them design, pick fabrics etc. Then actually sewing the clothes. Making sales was important but the not entire focus, yknow?

>>9422460
see >>9422451

Have you never danced to music?

Only thing a club girl is good for is a one night stand. All of them are easy, and they WILL cheat if they have boyfriends. Just have to be careful to not get any STD's

>>9422504
I agree.
>teehee I'm there for the music
I actually take dance classes at my local dance studio. It's usually some hip hop based choreo. None of us go to the clubs because it's just shitty techno crap combined with lights and alchol complimented with drunk """"dancing.""""

>>9422485
just like my japanese animes

>>9422504
we're not talking about people who troll clubs for dick. the op was asking how to get her bf to come to clubs with her. for shared enjoyment of music, possibly drinks. it's not so terrible. get some friends and check it out one day

>>9422515
>that is dancing

>>9421831
I honestly don't see much cookie-cutter oldschool, I see a heck of a lot more of people trying to be "different" even though only one or two girls successfully pull it off. I really enjoy nicely matched, simple coords so I don't mind it, but unfortunately too few people make their cookie-cutter coords well-matched and well-balanced and instead end up in an awkward zone where they're not doing anything new but their coord doesn't look great.

>>9422515
>get some friends
PFFT anon they probably couldnt make friends even if they tried

>>9422499
Sad, I hope you'll be able to make friends one day, anon. :(

>>9422522
If clubbing is your go-to thing to do with friends, I'm sure the ones you have aren't worth much to begin with.

my bf cheated on me and I'm already more than halfway done with our couple cosplays. We also live together. With all of the other shit that has been piling up, I'm seriously debating on leaving my apartment now to jump into traffic.

>>9422523
Shh, it's okay anon. I'm sure you will make friends one day. Just hang tight, and be strong.

>>9422526
Try not to suck a dick in a bathroom stall anon

>>9422525
he's coming home in an hour to talk about things. I can't believe I was touching him while someone else was too.

>>9422525
What other shit has been going on? Is there anyone you can stay with?

>>9422529
<3 Hang tight.

Ugh, how does every feels thread turn into a catfight? Literally half the thread is just lolitas calling other lolitas sluts, losers, ugly, friendless, etc... Maybe this is why J-fash has such a bad rep in the US?

Don't get me wrong, cosplayers talk shit too, but not to this extent. And shittalking only really happens online, actual cosplayers who go to cons are 95% of the time super nice. Are lolita meetups just passive-aggressive ego farms?

>>9422533
My mom's breast cancer is back and I found out yesterday I was pregnant. He doesn't know, I was going to tell him tonight.

I have a friend, but I don't want to leave because I'm so in love with him and I want this to work so badly.

>>9422538
"toxic femininity"

>>9422538
I genuinely feel that there is more passive aggressiveness in lolita than there ever will be in cosplay....

>>9422540
Once a cheater always a cheater. You still love him yet he had no problems fucking another girl when your mother has breast cancer and you're at a low point. Think of how good of a father he would be. He wouldn't. You're an idiot for thinking things can work out at this point, and if you stay with him you deserve all the unhappiness that will accompany your slow descent into an actual breakup

>>9422548
Oh anon I'm getting an abortion no matter what- I just wanted us to go through this together.

I found out that this happened a year ago, we've been dating for three years now. It was a one time thing. God just kill me.

My friend is coming to get me.

>>9422502
yes.

...

>in my car

>>9422552
I wouldn't count on it happening only once, usually happens more than that. How did you find out?

Also, if your friend is a guy try not to use a rebound to spite your current boyfriend. I only say this as I know nothing about you as a person but that never ends up going well. It's good that you are getting out of there for now instead of confronting him as you are.

>>9422552
Don't stay with him unless you're ready to be cucked again. In which case who knows, you might like sharing him.

>>9422559
the girl he slept with messaged me on facebook because she was "guilt ridden". Knew that we were dating when they slept together. Told her to fuck right off and I blocked her.

Don't worry, friend is a girl.

>>9422538
Women are non confrontational therefor when there is a problem, they don't try and talk about it. Instead they leave it alone and have that problem turns into resentment.

This is also a problem, because when a girl actually talks about the problem they are having with another person they have to hope the person they are talking with is also willing to talk about it, instead of them just hearing the problem and then despising the person because they have a problem with you.

With guys it's much easier. They don't typically shit where they eat, and they don't like having problems to tip toe around when it comes to other males.

>like a thing
>wanna cosplay from thing
>but the fandom is cancer

>>9422451
Club music is boring af tbdesu

>>9422572
So it wasn't only a spur of the moment thing, but him actually dating the girl?

I mean, I know fucking someone else while in a relationship is a deal breaker. But it wasn't only lust going through his mind at the time, but emotionally cheating on you as well.

I don't mean to kick you while you're down, but I'm a dumb guy who doesn't know how to put things softly.

>>9422587
I know, so to clarify, they were never in a relationship. But have been friends since high school. So it is probably emotional cheating.

>styling a wig
>for the first time ever, it turns out ok

>>9422440
Don't hoard for the sake of it, it's stupid, especially if right now you have a closet of stuff you love - you don't want to get bogged down in stuff you don't really care about. Try to pick up more hobbies instead - maybe make stuff you "have" to do your hobby if you feel guilty spending on non-lolita non-essentials (I have this problem too - $100 on a dress I'll sell after a couple of wears, fine, $100 on a second-hand item of furniture I'll keep for years, painful). I cook a lot these days and I honestly get a similar creative expression out of it as I do from lolita - like a coord, cooking is kind of...modular? At first it's hard because you're following recipes without really understanding them, but after you learn a selection of techniques and principles for flavour combinations it becomes about mixing and matching things to make a new tasty dish. Plus I enjoy the challenge of trying to use up stuff that's in the fridge at the end of the week and still make something tasty, or plan a meal in advance. I know people that have got really into fitness stuff as a hobby as well but personally I find it boring - I enjoy hiking but I live in the city and don't have a car so I haven't done it in years.

>>9422598
Well the next few months is going to be hell anon. I've been in the same boat. I hope you have a few shows you can marathon while being being a nicely blended mess of every negative emotion it's possible to have.

>>9422606
>be a guy
>decide I'll try makeup for my cosplay since gulls say it's a good thing to do

I think I should cosplay pennywise after I saw the result

>>9422624
Make up takes alot of time to learn! You'll get the hang of it, anon! Just keep practicing!

>>9422038
Thanks anon, I appreciate this. It's hard to not get down after all the crap my body has been going through but I'll try to keep this in mind.

>>9422043
lol you
(It was actually a mixed bunch, but I got even more bad looks from other people during the day.)

>>9422613
Different anon but I would personally love that list if you don't mind. Anything with mystery/suspense/cliffhangers that are actually satisfying would be great too please as those keep me watching.

>tfw sissy and little blogs keep reblogging my coords
>tfw somebody has probably fapped while pretending i'm a guy in a dress when i'm just a random cis girl

it is an abstract feeling

>>9422573
honestly this is some bs right here
my friend group is split about 50/50 guys to girls and the guys have way more drama than the girls - all of us are easy going and bring up any problems we have with eachother fairly quickly and in a reasonable way so stuff gets sorted quicker before it manifests into proper drama (which we are all to lazy to want to deal with)

on the other hand, a fair few of my guy friends will act nice to each other's faces and bitch about them behind their backs, and will end up in shit fall-outs over stupid drama that lasts for weeks and is a pain for everyone else to work around

honestly dudes are catty af

>>9422650
Westworld
Stranger Things
Versailles
Deadwood
Game of Thrones
Breaking Bad
Better Call Saul
Mr Robot
The Expanse
Taboo
Poldark
Goliath
Hannibal
Narcos
Penny Dreadful
Legion
Quarry
Sneaky Pete
Black Sails
Tutankhamun
Fargo
True Detective
The Strain
Vikings
Marco Polo
The Wire
Rome (2005)
The Magicians
The 100
War & Peace

These ones are the ones off the top of my head. I'd recommend them to anyone. There are more, but I couldn't remember the names if my life depended on it.

>>9422705
Manon here, on average I have been treated the best by women 26 and above

>>9422724
well yeah, they have to treat you nice at that age because they are nearing the end of their prime.

>>9422700
I can't think of an appropriate response to this but I laughed.

>>9422728
It's not so much sexual, as they'll actually listen to me and hear me out when I speak

Cringey and pathetic as hell but everytime I see a cute girl in cosplay or jfash I genuinely contemplate suicide because I'll never be "perfect". The most pathetic part is that it even applies to anime. I'll never be 2D so I'll never be perfect. Please kill me!!

>>9422306
Never met him!!

>>9422774
You can be my imperfect waifu.

>>9422552
I went through the same thing, although I had an abortion within the first 6 months and he cheated on me after the 3 year mark (that I know about). Please leave him. Sentimentality means shit when he's a dick to you. I'm so sorry about your mom, too. I went through the nearly same exact thing so if you want I can give you my email if you want to vent.

>BF of 3+ years moves out of state
>Feel abandoned because my dad has pancreatic cancer and I have no one else to talk to about it
>Decide to be an adult and make it work anyways
>Drive 8 hours both ways to visit him
>Two days after I get back he confesses he cheated on me with a camgirl the night I left
>Feel so bad about myself but I have no other close friends so I stay with him
>Then decide to get my life back into order because I realize I actually hate this asshole
>Dump him
>Make a new friend group, develop feelings for one of my friends
>We've been dating for almost 2 months
>Are already in love, happiest we've ever been in a relationship, already planning couple's cosplays and going to cons

It gets better, hang in there <3

>>9422783
Nothing ever gets better, don't lie to yourself and that anon.

You only get a brief respite before life takes its next steaming shit all over you.
Enjoy your respite; I'll be seeking my next one while fighting for air.

>want cgl gf
fap
>dont want cgl gf

I'm cured

>>9422803
congrats anon
now you know how to solve all of life's problems

>tfw someone you love but never got together with is living their life happily and you still keep contact with them
>tfw it's been 8 years and you still love them but don't particularly want to be together with them, just kinda always look out for their happiness
>tfw you can't like anyone else but them
>tfw they move across the country and still keep contact with you and want you to go to an upcoming con with them
>they'll pay for your flight even because they miss you
>decline using the excuse that it'd be too much to accept such an expensive offer but really decline it because you're afraid of the profoundly intense emotional dissonance you'll inevitably experience upon meeting them in person again
>tfw you wanna cry but haven't been able to in years so it always festers inside, sometimes on the very edge like right now when you feel the tears forming and throat tensing uncomfortably but you stay like this for about 15 minutes on edge before your body gives up trying to make tears happen

I'm the side character of my own story.

>>9422836
Wtf dude, you need to be selfish sometimes.

>>9422836
>When "the someone" could be describing you
It's not gonna work out in your situation either.

This is the type of man you'll get at cons

Are boobs REALLY that important to guys?
Asking for a flat friend.

>>9422877
Not to the gay ones at least.

>>9422877
Honestly depends on the guy. Two of my close male friends and an ex-bf actively preferred smallish boobs, but the guy I'm living with now loves pleb tier fake tits, the bigger the better.

>>9422877
Depends on the guy, as the other anon said. Most guys like bigger boobs, few guys like smaller. Some don't care at all. I, myself like it when the girl is flat as a board.

>>9422891
So you are a pedophile?

>>9422877
The /cgl/ consensus is that...

>all "flat chest is justice" types are closet pedos
>the others will settle for sex but later cheat/leave for a fair breasted maiden
>are gays in denial

But, those are all probably from the same handful of eternally salty flatchests.

>>9422893
Pear shaped women best women
Just like how pears are the best fruit

>>9422877
Kek. Not at all.

I can't go to the con because grandma drowned. FUGG!

>>9422877
>is the most iconic female secondary sex characteristic REALLY that important
You tell me hun.

>>9422877
I guess it really depends on the guy. I like smaller boobs(not flat). But thinking about it know, according to /cgl/ I might be a gay-pedophile...

>>9422932
You browse a board that deals with dressing up, of course you are a closet gay.

>>9422933
fair enough

>tfw I've always been a huge introvert
>start seeing a therapist to help overcome depression and trauma from an abusive relationship
>helps me be more open with people so I can make friends
>start talking in class, greeting people and starting conversations
>people respond kindly but I haven't made any friends
>try being more open about cosplay as a last resort even though it was embarrassing
>still no friends
>mfw I'll forever be a boring background character no one cares about

I haven't had a real friend in almost 7 years. I've been pushing myself so hard to be more social and hoping someone will take an interest in me to the point I get so emotionally drained I break down regularly. It shouldn't be this hard just to feel liked by someone.

All I have left is my mom and she doesn't have much time left. I'm gonna be so lonely

>>9422947
You must be ugly.

>>9422877
Small perky boobs are best. Flat is second place but still better than future pancakes in the making.

>>9422572
this sounds eerily familiar. I slept with some dude and found out later he had a gf and the gfs mom had breast cancer. If your name starts with S this is weird as fuck

>>9422851
Selfish how? Accepting the offer would be hectic for me. I want to but I don't. I'll inevitably break down and have old wounds reopen.

>>9422855
They aren't describing me, they're married.

Hot girl: (puts on eBay wig, no costume)
Internet: 5748 likes!

Me: (assembles kickass cosplay over three months)
Internet: Die, pig!

>>9422947
How long have you been trying and have you tried meeting up with people outside of class? It usually takes me a good 6 months to go from classmates to casual acquaintances, but even then you don't always end up with a friend.

>>9423012
Have you tried being cute/good looking?
Usually works for me.

>>9423012
life sucks desu
even here you have people jumping at any opportunity to berate or negatively criticize any photo
I have not been here long but I just sense tons of hostility in posts

>>9422794
Debbie, do you need to talk to someone? Lashing out on people on the internet isn't good for you

>>9421179
I collect unicorn prints and The Last Unicorn is why!
I really love Angelic Pretty's Royal unicorn, it's made of a gobelin tapestry fabric that feels very magical. I wore it to meet Peter S. Beagle!

Lily of the Valley and Sweet Mildred are indie brands that have both done Unicorn prints in the same style. (I'm not really a fan of chibi style ultra kawaii unicorns)

>>9423081
That middle unicorn design is really nostalgic, we had a decorative dish with the when I was growing up.

>>9422947
Try harder looking for people around you
Try friend finder thread
If neither (and nothing else) works, try the /soc/ Social Rejects Asylum discord server.
If even THAT doesn't work out...
fuck, m8...
post your email and we'll try being friends.

>>9422783
>>9422552
The feels.
>Have LDR with someone I really love
>He sometimes gets really angry with me because I was understandably immature at times (I was 14-18 and he was 30-34, no I wasn't taken advantage of, teenagers can have the genuine desire to be with others too)
>Despite this he was mostly sweet
>Worked long hard hours but I understood
>Would sometimes go straight to hang out with coworkers after work who were female
>Felt suspicious but tried to trust he wouldn't do that
>Move in with him when I'm 18
>wtf he has more girls that he hangs with than I realized
>One of them ends up confronting me, feeling overwhelmed with guilt, to tell me that she's been sleeping with him
>Ask her how long this has been happening
>"Before you were dating him but I kept on even after"
>She doesn't know I was dating him for 4 years, so "before you were dating him" means while we were still LDR
>Find out he was sleeping with different girls throughout our whole LDR
>Despite me being mature for my age and not giving into jealousy
>Had to figure out how I was going to move out
>Along with all the chaos find out I was pregnant

I haven't been in a relationship since and that was 6 years ago.

>>9423171
Wait so you had an LDR, went over to meet him, find out he's banging other girls, and through all this you were having sex with him and got pregnant?

Holy shit how bad can your judgement be?

>>9423171
surely this is some kind of fucked up bait

otherwise a pedophile literally groomed you and took advantage of you and i'm so disturbed

>>9423171
The first step to heal is to accept that he preyed on you. You were taken advantage of because he literally was twice your age, and you at 14 was never his equal. I get being dumb then but don't be a dumb adult and think it was ok. He was fucking and dating girls while talking to a child online.

Pls go out and meet people who are your peers, and try therapy to deal with your abusive relationship.

>>9423171
>no I wasn't taken advantage of
Yes you were, kind of fucking obviously by the rest of your story.
>teenagers can have the genuine desire to be with others too
Desires and feelings can be 100% valid but that doesn't make them ok - or smart - to act upon. You were young and naive and he took clear advantage of you.

>>9423201
>pedophile
When will this meme end? He was off fucking adult women, he fucked her at 18 after she moved in. He was a creep, abusive, a predator, and definitely groomed her, but he was not a pedophile. Stop contributing to the dilution of this term, jfc.

Sage for this stupid bait baiting me. Also OP if it's not bait, keep it /cgl/ related next time.

>>9423173
>>9423201
>>9423202
>>9423205
baited
bodied
blasted

gulls are so easy

>>9423211
Yes, because the people here generally have empathy.

My best friend has pain in her stomach, she thought it might be crohns but she's had a colonoscopy and ultrasounds yet nothing turns up. She's beginning to think it's all in her head (Maybe it is??) but she hurts everyday. She can barely sleep a lot of times. Any ideas? It's so sad that someone can just have pain out of nowhere, while I'm perfectly healthy. It feels so unfair.

>>9423235
There are a lot of things that could cause abdominal pain, including stress. Has she had blood tests?

>>9423205
>He was a creep, abusive, a predator, and definitely groomed her, but he was not a pedophile

you literally just described a paedophile but okay
He was in a relationship with a 14 year old when he was 30, idegaf if it was bait, that's still literally paedophilia

>>9423246
The two of you are using different definitions. Legally, he's a pedophile, but he is probably not attracted to proper kids and is definitely not exclusively attracted to underage girls.

>>9423173
Only found out he was banging other girls after I already had gotten pregnant. I wasn't still having sex with him after the discovery. Everything kinda fell on me at once.The exact timing of events was me fist missing my period but being hopeful it was just irregular or stress induced, and then like a week after having the bomb thrown at me from his hookup. Then when I confronted him he admitted to having multiple fucks.

>>9423201
I understand your concern but I really wasn't "groomed." Certainly this is the case for a lot but is it unlikely for a 14 year old to actually just want to date someone? He didn't do anything out of the ordinary in the relationship - didn't even ask me to call him daddy or any other weird "grooming" like things. It was just a regular LDR really.

>>9423202
I partially accept I was prayed on but at the same time he blatantly put it out there for me in discussion before. I wasn't forced into anything, in fact he was afraid to initiate pretty much anything because he didn't want to push me out of my comfort zone. The first time he visited me when I was 15 I pretty much had to play pseudo dominatrix just to get him into doing anything sexual with me.

I just think my situation was out of the norm for these kinds of relationships.

>>9423205
I meant taken advantage of from the perspective of my age. Him cheating on me with multiple girls over the course of our LDR could have happened to me regardless of his age. He took advantage of my trust but not particularly my innocence.

For reference, he's had sex with me as early as when I was 15 but my body development literally halted by that point. I look exactly as I do now as I did back then. It isn't really weird when you consider it's entirely possible for girls in particular to fully develop their secondary sex traits by the time they're mid-teens. If I put a nude from when I was 15 next to one now there'd be no difference (ignoring the flip phone lol)

>>9423211
This isn't me.

>My only friend who likes Anime cosplay kpop and other stuff didnt show up for school again today

:(

>>9423258
>The first time he visited me when I was 15 I pretty much had to play pseudo dominatrix just to get him into doing anything sexual with me.
Wait a. damn. minute.
This sounds very familiar.

>>9423256
Yeah sorry, I mean, I know from a legal standpoint he'd be convicted of pedophilia, but he doesn't actually have a sexual attraction to pre-pubescent children and does not seek them out to prey on them. This is by no means a positive for him as he's still a criminal, I just get frustrated by people throwing the term "pedo" around because I feel like it hurts victims of CSA by blurring the definition of the people who prey on them. Maybe I am just being too nitpicky in this case though.

>>9423258
>didn't even ask me to call him daddy or any other weird "grooming" like things
Grooming does not always involve "doing weird things" - it involves making the child feel safe, listened to, and like they are in a real relationship with the adult. The adult, instead of doing the right thing and turning the child's feelings down and encouraging them to find a better outlet, instead initiates "grooming" by validating their feelings. You were groomed.

>>9423273
Is anon trolling us by RPing as an anime character or something?

>>9423260
are they dead??

>>9423278
No but I remember hearing a very similar story on another board several years ago. But now that I think about it she was initially 13 in that story and they ended up married, and were both posting in the same thread I think? Can't remember which board.

>>9422836
From one side character to another, you're fixated on them being the only one. You're a side character in their story, but could be the love interest in someone else's and the main in yours. You've got to find that balance.

>walking in cute teaparties just a smidge too small
>get HUGE blister
>this thing is puffy and just smaller than 20p coin
>freak out
>put blister plaster on it
>gently peel it off to replace the plaster
>IT RIPS THE BUGGER OFF
>THE WHOLE THING IS GONE

>>9423211
Anon, it's 'booty blasted', not 'bodied blasted'.

>>9422865
hahahaha wtf??

>>9422898
uhhh, you can be pear shaped with boobs? the pear is all about ginormous hips. remember Pear-chan had boobs

>>9422877
I feel like the main attraction is always nipples.
I heard someone say that if a girl doesn't have sensitive nipples he could care less about the rest of the boob.
big boobs are exaggeratedly maternal and move a lot, but most mature people don't expect their love interests to have them.
I am a gril who likes looking at muscly thighs and thick cocks, but I am a chubby chaser irl and prefer fingers to dicks in bed anyway so shape/size is nbd.

in the end, you're not trying to attract the entire sex, just some of them. not everyone will like your friend and she won't like every guy she meets. just find people who think you're hot and want to have a healthy relationship with you!

>>9422877
As much as the benis is to women.

>>9423322
Most women don't care much for dick.

You guys ever try to be cute and it just doesn't work out, ever?

>>9423292

>>9423323
ha good joke

>>9423333
>>>/r9k/

>>9423277
>it involves making the child feel safe, listened to, and like they are in a real relationship with the adult.

This is a bit silly. Every relationship should have these traits, your partner SHOULD make you feel safe, listened to, and like an individual.

Dating someone of huge age gap isn't inherently wrong, there has to be an action that makes it immoral as opposed to if you were dating someone else round the same age.

A lot of relationships with a huge age gap DO have tilted power dynamics in which the older side employs manipulation and experience over the other, but it's foolish to assume EVERY relationship would be like this just because of the age gap. It can't be wrong simply because you don't like it, there needs to be a reason.

If her were 17 and dating me but acted the same exact way, what makes it automatically wrong just because he's 30? He never exerted any power over me, and never engaged in manipulative behavior. He just shat all over my trust, which anyone of any age can do.

Don't get me wrong, I'm not defending the guy. I hate his guts for what he did to me, but I also hate everyone victimizing me when I had absolutely no issue with the relationship itself. It's like people can't fathom that by your mid teens you already have a grasp on realizing you're an individual, have your own unique tastes and likes, and can understand the consequences to your actions.

I understand your concern but really just think about it logically. It surely is an impossibility that EVERY single relationship between a teenager and an adult is grooming, no questions asked. It's a statistical impossibility. It can't JUST be grooming just because of the age gap, and you can't list off standard cookie-cutter features of any normal functioning relationship but add "child" to it in order to put a negative spin on it.

pedo= likes undeveloped children
ephebophile= likes developing teens
irks me when people make this mistake.

>>9423258
I was also a horny teen, like insanely, but couldn't you have just tried to experiment with someone your age? were you attracted to his age?
I get that you want to defend your individual choices and want to see yourself as some mature-for-my-age exception, but you were so naive emotionally.
the guy was dating a literal teen and would get mad that you acted like a teen?
I'm glad you didn't end up with any diseases from that guy.
I'm surprised he was even employed. if you are in your 30s trying to "date" a teenager, you're likely an emotionally stunted deadbeat who doesn't want to work on your flaws/immaturity so you try to hook a minor who won't know you're gross and think you're the best thing since sliced bread.

you and I are about the same age and I sincerely hope you can get to the bottom of what's sabotaging your ability to get into a good relationship. you deserve a do-over with someone reliable and closer to your maturity level. even if you feel okay, I suggest seeing someone to talk about the relationship. your ex was probably controlling and a slew of other things. relationships aren't supposed to be that way but that has unfortunately been your only experience.

did you have the baby?

>>9423343
girl, you weren't 17, you were 14. it's not just the age gap, it's how young you were. you're obviously grasping at straws here, you know it's wrong.

>>9423343
anon you're trying to ask people on 4chan to think logically

>it's an underage girl dating someone twice her age and defending her daddy issues episode

>>9423343
You ignored
>like they are in a real relationship with the adult
Which is the most important part. You were a kid, you weren't in a real relationship with him, he saw a chance to use and abuse you and manipulate you and took it. Would YOU be comfortable treating a 14 year old boy like he's someone your age, encourage him to be in a relationship with you, and fuck him? Honey, I hope not.

>because of the age gap.
No one is assuming anything because of the age gap. Everyone is shitting on this because no self-respecting non-predatory adult jumps on the chance to be with a minor. If someone is "barely legal" themselves and does this, there's a bit of a grace period, but he definitely knew what he was doing.

>>9422947
This is my exact situation right now too, right down to the depression and trauma.
I'm sorry. I know how miserable you feel, because I'm going through it all too. I'm so tired of being isolated and I feel like it's mentally damaged me.

I hope we both finally make some friends soon.

Well it happened.

My brother wants to be a trap.

>>9423410
I can be your friend

>>9423344
It wasn't his age I was attracted to. I can't help that I liked him, but I was the one who pretty much stalked him on the forums we frequented at the time and flirted around with. He had no social issues whatsoever and a well paying job in IT. And I aborted.

>>9423349
I meant if HE was 17 but acted exactly the same to me as he did as a 30 year old, what difference would it make? I just jumbled my sentence a little.

>>9423388
>like they are in a real relationship with the adult
This is a blanket statement. It can be pulled out to invalidate the relationship regardless of the terms and really holds no meaning since it's objective as to what's even being implied. Reminds me of this video where the head of the DEA is presented with scenarios in which cannabis can be beneficial and her response is like well all drugs we say are bad are..like bad because we say
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kFgrB2Wmh5s

There's no possible retort because it isn't even an argument.

How else is he supposed to treat me? Like an ageplay relationship? Treating me as an equal shows respect towards me as my own individual person.

>>9423372
Never had daddy issues. Still love both of my parents very much and they love me. Both were very supportive while I was going through my abortion. Wouldn't it be bad if he treated me differently than anyone else he was dating just because of my age? If he treated me like he would anyone else then where is the harm?

>>9423417
have you been putting estrogen in his drinks anon

>>9423417
My ex wants to be a trap and came to me for help with it

my ex

>>9423454
why do feels threads always turn out like this

>>9423410
I'm going through the same, though I've come to accept it. 4chan is pretty much the only time I talk to others that aren't conventions which I go to alone.

>>9423454
>How else is he supposed to treat me?
Like a 14 year old. I.e. he isn't supposed to be in a relationship with you, fuck you, etc. I'd go as far to say he probably shouldn't have been talking to you at all if you were making come ons.

I'm a victim of CSA myself, my uncle raped me between the ages of 6 - 11. How your 'boyfriend' treated you honestly sounds very similar to how he treated me, they're nice to you, listen to you, make you feel mature for your age and that's why they like you. You're not like kids your age so it's okay. It's grooming 101 honestly.

I hope you're doing okay now regardless.

Something actually cgl related:
>tfw all but one item has shown up at the SS
It's been 7 weeks or so for this taobao haul. Where is this blouse.

>>9423323
Precisely my point. At most, big boobs turn heads and that's it.

>>9422485

>calling an abuse survivor "crazy"

Stay classy, you bitter cunts. Goddamn

>>9422573

Lmao. Guys rarely ever deal with their problems since they're always trying to suppress every little feeling they have. Your full of shit anon

>>9423507
Yet groups of guys get along with eachother much better than groups of girls. Much less drama with guys.

>>9423522
No. Groups of girls are always very harmonious while guys just fight all the time.
Girls are better.

>>9423454
>How else is he supposed to treat me?
Like a 14 year old. Like I said, you wouldn't cozy up to a 14 year old boy right now, would you? Even if he acted SUPER MATURE and into you?

>>9423507
I think it's more of a "get over it" mentality. Which they are usually able to do with most minor problems with others. It's not like they are really to blame for doing what society has been telling them to do throughout their whole evolution. As soon as a guy adopts being more emotional they tend to cause problems with their male counterparts and other women they know.

>>9423529
kek, alright. Girl power to you. #daywithoutawoman

>>9423529
Bitch, are you conveniently forgetting highschool?
Girls are catty and back stabby. Dudes at least tell you how they feel to your face.

>>9423544
I want to believe it's just bait.

>literally every feels thread ever

>>9423544
Hopefully none of us here are still in high school. Everyone in my life who "tells it like it is" is just a mature person, male or female. There's not really a gender divide. If someone is friends with shitty people, it's probably more on them and their inability to choose good friends.

>>9423531
How men convey emotions to each other is completely different than women. It's low-key and nobody makes a big deal out of it. Women don't even understand it most of the time. Also men turn to substance abuse and other dangerous behavior much more than their female counterparts, so it's not like they magically get over stuff either. They just cope differently.

>>9423499
>Like a 14 year old. I.e. he isn't supposed to be in a relationship with you, fuck you, etc.

Says who? This is appeal to emotion. I was never told I was "more mature for my age" or anything like that, me being young was just kinda matter of fact but not emphasized in any way. How is him being 30 and treating me nice, listening to me, and disregarding my age any different from if he was 16 and doing this?

>>9423530
>Like I said, you wouldn't cozy up to a 14 year old boy right now, would you?
If I liked him, then sure? It'd be unlikely I find one I like, but if I liked one I'm not going to let an arbitrary thing like age get in the way. It's only recently in society that we even viewed such things as taboo anyway. For good reason, mind you, actually overpowering children or abusing them is no laughing matter but theres such negativity to any kind of relationship like this that they're ALL labeled as bad and the only reasons people can state why they are is either through use of projection or appeal to emotion. You were raised to think its bad so its bad without exception.

>>9423566
>It's only recently in society that we even viewed such things as taboo
Right and how were women treated back in those times...really activates my almonds.

I just hope this is all an elaborate troll.

>>9423576
This is a strawman. You can have teenage+adult relationships without regressing in women's rights. That's like going "we really shouldn't let women into the kitchen because look at what happened when they dominated the kitchens!" Not related but loosely sounds like it is because of the context. Also removing options isn't strengthening rights, that's oppression.

wtf is going on in this thread lmao

>>9423594
Thank god it's just a troll.

>>9423566
Girl, yikes. At 14 your brain is still developing, you've never been independent, you're less capable of rational thought, and yes, on top of that, there's the whole "legally a dependent minor" thing.

I'm totally in the camp of "people need to chill the fuck out about teens being sexual, because teens will be sexual" but teens are just not equipped - emotionally or cognitively - to have an adult relationship with an adult. He preyed on you, and worse, convinced you he didn't.

>>9422891
If your gonna judge girls by their tits size then you better have an amazingly toned chest yourself bro.
But let me guess: you don't.

Ime, guys who judge women's bodies are ugly fat neckbeards themselves and just expect women to accept them that way.

>>9422877
Jfc anon, tell your friend to get therapy if she is seriously that concerned over male opinions of her body.
You can't be happy if you're that insecure and living for other people's acceptance of your body. That's toxic for her own self.

>>9423623
>guys who judge women's bodies are ugly fat neckbeards
Are you saying all men are ugly fat neckbeards?

>>9423608
Which is classic abuser MO. Gaslight and convince you that you are "just as much" at fault and that none of it was abuse.

Textbook.

Mein Kampf

>>9423594

>It's oppression to want to protect children (cuz 14 year olds are NOT WOMEN) from abusive predators?

Er, anon, this is embarassing. No one's forcing you to do shit, we're advising you on facts. And the fact is that large age gaps are 9 times out of 10 because the older one is an abuser and knows being with someone younger is easier to get away with abusing and controlling.

>>9422865
h-he was just grabbing his coke f-from under the chair!

>>9422538
welcome to 4chan

>>9423658
Eh, I'm hesitant to go that far (I'm >>9423608 ) simply because I hate infantalizing adults who happen to be in relationships with people much older than them. I've known plenty of people who are in a relationship with someone 8-15 years older than them, and they do just fine/they're not abusive in the least.

However, applying that ideal to teenagers still in middle/high school is ridiculous. When you're that young, you're still mentally developing. I can maybe sympathize with being charmed by someone in their teens, but acting on it is just stupid. That person is a child, and even setting aside legality, their personality is going to change in the next 5-10 years. At 14 they were developmentally incomplete.

>>9423553
Men don't convey stereotypically 'feminine' emotions much to each other, hence why they are usually emotionally dumping onto women. The toxic ways men are taught to cope causes many problems.

But also it's a proven fact that men in general have much higher levels of narcissistic traits than women in general, likely due to socialization. So they are more likely to be manipulative and self-centered than women, contrary to sexist myths.

>>9423505
>calling people who go through generally non-lethal events "survivors" to make it seem more serious
>believing anyone on /cgl/ at face value when they call any stupid bullshit abuse "he said my dress was ugly omg abuse I should dump his ass"

>>9423637

Not all men are judgemental about womens bodies... I'm sorry you haven't met any who are decent?

>>9423683
>But also it's a proven fact that men in general have much higher levels of narcissistic traits

good joke. Give me a source

>>9423623
>Getting pissy at me for having preferences.

Fuck off

>>9423698
Nevermind, I googled it. You're right apparently.

>>9423677

I get that, but I don't see it as infantalizing to state a fact that people really should be aware of. And being a victim of abuse can happen to anyone of any age, not just minors. The disabled and the elderly make up a huge portion of abuse victims because of the inequal power dynamics and their economic, physical, social, etc dependency on their caregivers. (The caregivers are most likely to be the abusers)

And there is ample evidence to suggest that intimate relationships with huge age gaps are indeed often exploitative or abusive.
Most are younger women with older men and the women are usually economically dependent on those older men.

No, this certainly does not mean these relationships are automatically abusive. It's just that they frequently are due to the significant inequality.

>>9423691
so as long as the person is alive it was never abuse? makes no sense dude. I hope you don't actually believe sexual violence (as in rape, not talking fetishes here) is okay.
emotional abuse is also a legitimate thing.
did you even bother to read the op upthread?

>>9423700
Probably because if you won't date someone over their bra size or the size of their biceps, your a shallow tool.

>>9423726
>because if you won't date someone
putting words into my mouth

Guess I'm also shallow if I don't want to date a fat girl as well? People are allowed to have physical things they find attractive on the opposite sex.

>>9423691

Calling troll...

But I'll respond anyway.
According to definitions of psychological abuse, your boyfriend telling you your dress is ugly could certainly count as part of the cycle of put-downs abusers level at their victims to slowly whittle away their self esteem.
And it causes trauma in anyone no matter how tough you think you are.

>>9422877
No. Personally, a cute face and nice hips are more important.

That being said looking at big boobs is enjoyable to the point it makes the eyes wander when an exceptional specimen walks by, but I don't sit around pining for some big bags of sand to play with. They're just a nice momentary distraction.

I'm tempted to be a patron for Katyuska Moonfox to get those lewds but my family would probably notice the payments in the statements and ask what that subscription is all about.

>>9421169
>be a manlet
>getting my perfect (for irl) waifu will be an uphill battle

>>9423756
>uphill battle
is that a short joke?

>>9423761
Uh, no. We aren't bad at climbing.

>>9423766
Yea but your competition is so much taller than you that you need to climb a hill to reach them
BA
>DUM
>>TSH

>>9423722
>if you don't indulge my victim complex and call me a "survivor" of every bad thing that happens to me then that means you think that bad thing is ok and should happen

Goddamn you people and your pure emotional "arguments" are retarded.

>>9423734
No it causes trauma in pansy ass babies who were raised by tumblr and never grew stupid.

>>9423775
oh damn

>>9423776
2 edge 4 me

If the insecurities in this thread get any worse we're gonna have to hire a motivational speaker, jesus.

>>9423785
Oh please do be careful then. I'd hate for you to get a minor scratch from that edge and start demanding I call you a scratch survivor now.

>>9423800
fucking christ anon pop a xanax and chill out

>>9423807
Just because someone is far smarter and more witty than you does not mean they are upset. I can point out how you're stupid and wrong while quite calm.

>>9423810
is that you, HWC? also arguing with people for the past hour on 4chan makes you a retard

>>9423813
No, being born with a defective brain like yours is what makes someone a retard.

And trying to deflect from the real argument by implying someone is upset, or saying they take the argument too seriously is what demonstrates that retardation.

>>9423810
This is so pathetic lmao. I hope you talk like this in real life. It's like listening to an autistic middle schooler.

>tfw your s/o completely blows off going to your local con because he chose to spend a bunch of money on vape shit instead
>any other friends bailed on going too
>all 3 days of con alone
>don't know anyone else going, bad at conversing to make new friends
>tempted to just sell badge, but also would feel bad since it was a Christmas gift

Probably just going to try and attend meet ups and go to panels since me group didn't want to last year.

>>9423623
>Ime, guys who judge women's bodies are ugly fat neckbeards themselves and just expect women to accept them that way
Goddamn the amount of irony, salt, and mcdonalds grease dripping off this post is overwhelming.

You honest to god think ANY man who prefers attractive women must be ugly? I have a strong feeling you're the fat ugly one who wants some gorgeous model to sweep you off your feet (he better be pretty ripped before attempting that) and love you for your (shitty) personality while you look like a pig.

Attractive people want to date other attractive people. It's not a gender exclusive thing, get over it.

>>9423845
You really must know how to pick the winners.

>>9423833
I take it you think you're smarter than me then. Alright, then please explain
A: Why anyone should refer to someone as a "survivor" after going through some event that actually had little to no threat to their survival.
B: Why you think anyone who doesn't refer to those people as "survivors" must also think whatever happened to them was OK.

I already get the feeling you wont.

>>9423845
Go to the con and make new (better) friends

>Be fat
>now not to fat
>tfw stretchmarks everywhere
>tfw I sont be ble to cosplay anything cute
>tfw I have never ever had a bf because Im ashamed of my body

>>9421144
Did you get your package anon? If not do you go to a college where you used to live on campus or have a PO box? I had the same thing happen to me with a package last semester. Turns out for whatever reason my university post office workers picked up my package along with all the packages they pick up for people who have PO boxes on campus. I lived on campus for one semester and did have a PO box on campus at one point but haven't had one in a good while. It was pretty weird that they picked it up especially since it wasn't addressed to the campus and I don't have a PO box anymore.

>>9423729
I called you on being the type who "doesn't date fat chicks" and you just admitted it. That's the very definition of shallow... You think you're justified in saying degrading things about womens large breasts like "I don't want saggy pancakes"? Newsflash asshole: all women age. And no matter how itty, those titties eventually sag. You wanna value women for how fuckable they are, you do you, but double standards piss me off like nothing else.

And don't pretend most guys aren't already into skinny petite girls. Its not special or unique, snowflake. I've been dealing with it since 15. And the guys who're into me FOR my looks are always the "I don't date fat chicks" douchebros who seem to think only women should be held to such standards.

But since preferences are fine, you should have total respect for women whose preferences are only for rich men, right? Afterall, who wants to deal with a saggy pancake wallet?

>>9423845
>tfw vaping hipster (aka mouth fedora smoking) who spends too much money on cancer juice to appreciate spending time with his gf can get /cgl/ gf but I can't
why
even
live
desu
senpai
just
kill
me

>>9423907
No, I don't date fat chicks because it's a red flag to me. They are generally lazy, and have no self responsibility/control.. It'd be shallow of me to say that I wouldn't date a girl based on something she actually cant control. Like height (sound familiar, women?)

>You think
You don't know what I think. You're getting pissy because I just said that I like flat chested girls. I didn't make fun of girls with bigger boobs, yet you're blabbering like I made a personal attack against your fatsacks.

And no, I don't have a problem with girls being attracted to guys who are successful. I have more of a problem with girls being attracted to broke losers who can't do anything for themselves.

>>9423847
Oh it's the troll. Adorable how wrong you are...Actually, google it. The dating studies on men and women prove that more men place physical attraction as their priority when choosing a mate and more women place personality and education as their priorities for choosing a mate.

Many men hold double standards for women to meet the unrealistic beauty norms expected yet seem to think they can be exempt from any standards themselves thanks to society coddling these manchildren. So they let themselves go, live in a filthy apt with other manchildren who don't get off their entitled asses to do the dishes, grow unsannitary beards, eating Cheetos and packing down the beers.

And pitch fits when health conscious, educated, fit, goal-driven women turn them down. I don't hate myself, why would I ever put up with a shit who dissects my worth based on my body parts like a slab of meat? Women deserve better.

Actually my ex was a European model who held equally high standards for himself as he did for women, which was great, but no more models for me thnx.

So, if you're finished projecting, go out and meet non-toxic people if you seriously think sexist shits like this represent ALL men.
They don't. They are just shitty men who want you to think all men are like that.

>>9423859
diff anon here to get real specific for you.
>be me, raised in abusive home
>mother was abused growing up and continues the physical cycle on kids because rage and trauma
>father is proud, controlling, anxiety-ridden narcissist
>must hide all my feelings so father doesn't think I'm judging his choice to hit me and just take every hit
>older sister beats the shit out of me too because jealousy, rage, and trauma issues
>gives me my first black eye at 3 years old, punch to the face
>I internalize everything, believing it's my fault everyone I depend on hits me
>self-esteem is shit by 4th grade, self-hate is sky-high by 6th
>somehow I don't succeed in killing myself
>I even stop trying
>my will for a better life and an escape from my family fuels me to continue and finish high school

one cannot live as a husk of a person. being a fearful, dependent, beaten pulp is a painful and torturous existence. if your abusers didn't succeed in completely ruining you by permanently knocking your lights out, or making life so bad that you do the honors yourself, YOU SURVIVED M8.

I like my life and even have beautiful lolita things to add current and future pleasures to it. psychological and emotional trauma can absolutely threaten your life. everyday that you push through to live for yourself, you are surviving strong.

>>9423888
stretch marks aren't as hideous as you think anon.
they're natural. cover them with foundation for cosplay and apply cocoa butter and other vitamin rich skin stuff in the meantime. I get people want to be unrealistically picture perf for cosplay but that's what makeup is for.

take some time alone. try to decide where these ideas come from, that make you dislike your body. it'll be dangerous to enter a relationship in which all your self-value hinges on the partner's opinion of your body.
you have to like it first. see if you can tackle the shame and find things you like. no one has a perfect body. if you did, you'd probably intimidate everyone and be similarly alone.

>>9423918
what's your definition of fat?
post cgl related pic as example

>>9424001
Damn fatty there's no need to start telling me about your imaginary boyfriends.

And are you seriously so dense that you sit here complaining about men being fat or growing beards while also trying to say women are never superficial and you're so angry about men finding attractive women attractive? Like goddamn.

You're the one who demands you be except from standards while ranting about how so many men don't meet yours. Your hypocritical whinning and sexist views basically make you a female /r9k/er right now.

>and education
Ha. Yeah real great way of paraphrasing "how much money he makes" there. You've sure got everyone fooled that you're not also a golddigger on top of everything else.

>>9423918
>"your fatsacks"
>passive aggressive bitter "sound familiar women"?
>mocked victim anon, said she wasn't abused because "non-lethal situation"

Aaand the abusive personality reveals itself. Hello, troll. I recognized the red flags of psychological abuser. After having dated many sexist psychopathic men who only valued me for my looks, I sure can spot em.
Criminology degree helps too.

Criticizing peoples' unhealthy life choices and behavior is one thing, but that's NOT what you did. And nice Concern Trolling with "Oh I just don't date fat chicks because uwu unhealthy lifestyle"
Half the time women are called fat when they are in healthy BMI ranges. Stfu.
Weight isnt something most can control. Genetics wins out in the end. Medical conditions, medications, eating disorders, fasting, years of dieting, makes ppl gain weight. Just ask the Diet Industry, who have built an empire off this fact.

Despite tons of women struggling with anorexia, body image issues, BDD, and getting addicted to plastic surgery, you still degraded women with large boobs calling them 'saggy pancakes'. I can only imagine the horrible things you call fat women. You truly need help for thinking nothing of degrading women's body parts like you're incapable of even seeing us as WHOLE persons, then acting like ~this is what men do~. No. They don't. Only misogynistic shitstains do.

You keep saying "I didn't do this" then immediately proceed to do the thing. Nice reverse gaslighting bro.

Lol the double standards tho: 'How dare some women have preferences for tall men!' 'But I can prefer skinny flat girls, call fat girls and boobs disgusting fatsacks etc'

Just remember when some shallow girl mocks your floppy flaccid dick, and says she just prefers tall guys with functioning cocks: karma is a bitch.

Get the fuck off cgl and into therapy if all you are capable of is passive aggressively inflicting your abusive attitude towards women onto a forum of mostly females.

>>9422865
Holy shit, he was just picking up his stuff. I feel so bad for this poor guy

>>9424186
Damn this bitch is crazy.

>>9423646

>>9423907
Baittt

>>9424197
It's obviously bait, you moron.

>>9424005
I'm so glad to hear you escaped, anon, and that you're living happy now.

>>9423899
I did get my package! Turns out our carrier attempted to deliver but I wasn't there to sign for it. Why he went and marked it as delivered 20 minutes after attempting, who fucking knows. I got my burando, WW didn't mess up my address for future orders, I'm happy.

>find out a mutual friend has a crush on me
>they're cute, funny, and very into cosplay and the con scene
>still not ready for a serious relationship and don't know when I ever will be
>he understands but I can tell he's upset
>feels bad man
This has been happening more and more frequently lately and I don't know what to do. It's always someone that I have a lot in common with and genuinely like but whenever I try to date again, I end up getting freaked out and I call things off before they can even get started. I know that I'm not ready so I'm always honest and upfront but it's still awkward for me.

I've been single for so long now that I'm kind of terrified of getting involved with someone again. I'm actually at a point where I'm happy and don't feel the need to change anything? It's just weird when I'm at the point in my life where everyone is dating and trying to find someone and I don't want to at all

>>9424001
>Actually my ex was a European model who held equally high standards for himself as he did for women, which was great, but no more models for me thnx.
I lol'd
10/10 effort for waiting so long before bringing up imaginary boyfriends

>>9424368
Don't stress yourself anon. Dying old and alone is pretty fun too!

>>9423566
I can't believe I'm reading this xD
Quo vadis cgl

>>9424005
I'm so glad that you are still here and have a better life Anon!!!!! Wish you all the best

I think I just have to come to terms with the fact that I am a deeply sarcastic, salty bitch. My first reaction to 80% of the stuff I see or read is an eye roll or a mean comment, especially if the content is actually positive and sweet and most people would like it. I try not to act on it, and people that aren't super close to me don't know how terrible I really am, but sometimes I wish I actually was the positive, friendly, supportive person most people seem to think I am.

>pic related
my salty dream dress to fit my salty personality

>nier automata gets released
>fuck yeah, gameplay for other drakengard/nier games was total shit but lore is great, super hyped and started a 2b cosplay
>other cosplays of 2b pop up on internet
>fuck yeah if game gets more popular, more content to enjoy
>all include gratuitous ass shots
>she has a nice ass but why
>annoyed but whatever
>coswhores jumping on this trend
>why. She's wearing a fancy dress, I'm pretty sure there are sexier characters to cosplay
>just cosplay as Kaine damnit
>fotm cosplayer in bst group on fb posts a wtb for a 2b wig
>time passes and she asks for more and more pieces of the costume
>godamnit if you're gonna be lazy about this, at least ask for the whole costume up front
>feel like she's doing this so she can pretend she made the cosplay herself or 'heavily modified' pieces of the costume
>feel jaded about my own costume now

I was working really hard on my own costume, but now I fear that people will see me the way I see a lot of these other cosplayers. I'm such a hypocrite.

>>9424489
Stop projecting on her, jeezus. She's not necessarily in the same headspace or stage of life that you are. You may be anxious about finding a partner, but she's not right now. Leave her be.

I don't care about dressing up but I like tea... how do I get invited to a tea party.

Also stop being sad

>>9424689
Sorry, dressing up is required. But you could try finding some tea appreciation club or something? Good luck on getting better, though!

>>9424694

Oh, sorry, I was telling the people in this thread to stop being sad. I'm feeling pretty comfy.

>>9424695
Ah, my mistake! Thumbs up for feeling well!

How can real women even compete?

>>9424743
They can't

>>9424743
>if you find some that are into you that you are also into
they're soft, warm, react to your touch, can call out your actual name, and can reciprocate feelings as well as affectionate touches.