/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL

>do a lot of dating in my early 20s
>find someone who I think is the right guy for me in my late 20s finally
>over the course of dating for two years find lolita
>start going to meets
>meet girl who I develop a crush on
>don't even know if she's gay or bi
>not enough to break up with bf
>get new job
>develop crush on coworker who seems to also have one on me
>can't stop thinking about these other two people
>starting realize my bf and I don't have that much in common
>would have to move out and don't have anywhere to go
>don't want to give up lifestyle I have that allows me to be a full time lolita
>soon as I move out that would all go away

fuck my life. it's not like I'm not happy but I feel weird even just daydreaming about these other two people but my bf and I do pretty much nothing together. I'm pretty much his roommate that he sleeps next to.

>cosplay as Goku
>pals want to go to Chipotle
>have a burrito
>several hours later
>start farting a ton
>one was really bad
>starts to smell
>woman as Sailor Jupiter points out I have a discolormemt in the back
>I literally shit my cosplay
>go change
>Con ruined
>later same woman asked on the forums asked if they saw Goku
>never cosplayed Goku again
>never saw woman again

She was p busty, but I wasn't interested a friendship cause I felt embarrassed at the whole thing.

>Sister been drawing for some time
>Her own lineless style is not good
>Only does full fledged images
>Tell her she should doodle more to get practise in anatomy and shadowing
>"I don't need line practise since I don't use outlines on my art"
>Yesterday she posted some gift pictures to her friends
>Anime style since her friends wanted it
>Quality AA-worthy stuff
>Today another shitty own style art

How could I get her to doodle and practise outlines and shadows? She can do good art but is really persistent about her style to jump right in the colours without any linework

>>9319843
What you're doing is called monkeybranching.

Much like a monkey swinging between trees has to grab onto another branch before letting go of the other one, or else he'll fall, women attempt to find another mate (usually of higher value) BEFORE letting their current one go.

If she gets dumped before she monkeybranches, that's usually pretty messy for the woman, who could not imagine being single (while there is men who are 30+ that never had a girlfriend).

What you're doing is despicable, I hope your boyfriend finds out you're a cheating whore trying to monkeybranch while you're using him for his financial status/assets ("would have to move out and don't have anywhere to go", and the two lines after that), and dumps you first.

He has to learn his lesson sometime I guess. Hopefully he learns his lesson and realizes why he can never treat western women like anything more than whores, there is no use trying to domesticate them for long-term releationships, simply take the path of least risk to get sex with them, as actually dating/marrying them is a disaster that leads to what you're doing to him, or possibly much worse.

>>9319905
Can I get an example? I'm having a hard time picturing it.

>>9319928
ok, so.. I was with you for a little bit there, lost me at 'Western whores'

>Der Anons,
>Pls ignor trol

>Yor fwend,
>anon

>>9319928
>>>/r9k/

>>9319843
Suffer

>>9319928
Did someone cheat on you?

>>9319957
No because I've never had a girlfriend.

>>9319960
Actually, that makes more sense.

>>9319960
bazinga

>>9319961
>>9319962
I'm too smart to fall for that trap.

I can fuck prostitutes/sluts, but I'm not gonna be in a long-term relationship with one. That's just asking for a financial disaster while you wait for them to cheat, or if you're married (or in a relationship long enough for common-law marriage to be in effect), they'll simply just leave with half your money and your house/kids.

Any man who would be in a long-term relationship with a western woman is a turbo-cuck.

>>9319843
Fucking slut.

>>9319843
And this feel thread is ruined at the first post by a tangentially /cgl/ related feel. Nice job.

>>9319965
Good god.

>>9319965
i wonder (((who))) wants to lower the western world's birth rate?

>>9319965
>tfw to smart for love but just smart enough for cosplay and jfash.

Women are so great and creative and beautiful and empathetic and kind some men are too but a lot are just pompous asses with nothing to show for their arrogance

>Tfw bitter old hag

>>9319988
i mean men designed and created civilisation in a grand competition for women so

>>9319898
How did you not notice that you shit yourself? Wouldn't the swamp ass feeling be a dead giveaway?

>>9319928
>while there is men who are 30+ that never had a girlfriend
Yeah and they tend to be losers or extremely neurotic.

>>9319992
Fuck your right silly me men are better

I'm not talking about in a historical context I mean day to day girls I meet are strong and inspiring and interesting men live sad lives and flirt with anyone that comes within a 5 ft radius.

This is off topic and I'm drunk and sad so I'm just taking it out on guys.

Thread related: havent bought myself any new clothes for weeks and I'm halfway wanting to go on a shopping spree and halfway realizing that life goes on without new Japanese clothes and just wanting to go on a buying hiatus.

Another related feel: my boyfriend hates Japan and won't stop telling me and it is getting old

>>9319998
is your boyfriend so bad that he's negatively influenced your opinion of men as a whole, or something? loud, flirtatious men are simply more noticable

>>9320007
No I'm just a closeted bisexual with a lot of shitty relationships with men and wanting to try women but stuck in an abusive relationship so I can't so I'm just taking it out on men as a whole as I said. Also every store I regularly go to there is a guy cashier who flirts with me and it's uncomfortable and annoying.

>>9320010
there are so many lesbian and bi lolitas and jfash people, anon. statistically speaking, most of cgl is bi women. ditch the asshole, use clothes money for rent or moving somewhere metropolitan, and get dat qt gf

>>9319965
Too smart ? So what you mean to say is you're lonely.

>tfw Richard posts on /cgl/ to get his daily narcicissm supply when the Facebook comms don't provide enough

or is it the other way around, since the topics he """"broaches"""" on FB are just echoes of whatever cgl already hashed out.

from now on, i dub all uncreative bait as Dickfunk. no matter the instigator.

don't respond to dickfunk, gulls.

>>9320013
I wish, but unfortunately you missed the part where I'm stuck in an abusive relationship. any time I try to leave I'm guilt tripped and manipulated. Things in the relationship aren't even terrible right now but I know he's treating me worse than I deserve to be treated and not contributing enough to the relationship and manipulating me. but I somehow can't do anything about. I tried to leave a few months ago and even checked into a hotel room to give him time to pack his stuff up to leave but he called me crying so many times when I was weak and promised things would be better etc...It takes so much out of you to be in that situation. I wish I could catch him cheating or lying so I could have enough emotional ammo to leave him but even then. I hate myself for all of this and for letting him control me and my life if even in subtle ways. I can go on but it's not on topic. I'll finish up with a relatively on topic bit.
A big dream of mine is to temporarily live in Japan (study or work). He convinced me not to study abroad in college, convinced me not to apply to teach there after college, abused me for the single month I went after college, and is now trying to guilt me into not interviewing for the teaching position im applying for in now and it's fucking working and I hate myself for it. Life sucks and he can suck a dick for getting pissy at me for wanting to get drunk alone tonight.

>>9319843
>>9319843
Used to be in a similar situation but as soon as I realized I loved that other person more I left my old bf on the spot. I had to quit my old good paying job and start from scratch again. Moved into a shitty flatshare and was basically starving for months until I found a good job again. Eventually the new guy and I came together and we moved together after a few months. It was the best decision in my life because we really love each other and that's what counts in the end.. But if your comfy lifestyle is more important to you I'd say you don't really love that other person more you just want to fill that hole in your soul with distraction because you feel like your life is unfullfilled. Just don't use other persons for that, you will hurt everyone in the process. If you're feeling shitty about yourself, get off your ass and do something about it. There are many ways you can change your life but making sacrifices is the start of everything. Don't be a selfish cunt.

>>9320018
Do you have parents you can talk to about this? He's ruining your life. It wouldn't be cruel for you to disappear with nothing but a note.

>>9320018
>you missed the part where I'm stuck in an abusive relationship
no, that is why you need to leave. let him cry. if he threatens suicide call the cops. if where you live is in your name not his, give him an eviction notice (30 days). do what you need to. once you are free you will begin to recover and you will eventually look back at this time and wish you had broken up sooner.

i broke up with my entire abusive family. it's hard but not impossible. if you can't do it for yourself, do it for the future unabusive girl or boyfriend who will be so happy to have you in their life.

>>9320021
Yeah. My mom came up last time I tried to leave him. She wants nothing more than for me to leave him as does all of my family who knows about it. But leaving someone you've been with for years is hard and it is damn near impossible when they guilt trip you. Me leaving with just a note would be almost impossible as well as he is almost always home...I couldn't pack up my stuff and leave with a suitcase with him watching. Plus I do still have feeling for him and am terrified of being alone. So I just feel so stuck. Thank you for not trolling me.

>>9320025
Always act in ways that you won't regret 10 years from now. If you don't act, it's possible that you'll be with him 50 years from now. Don't let that be your life.

>>9320026
>>9320023
it's hard but i'll have to try. he has gotten less abusive/shitty over the years so it makes me feel guilty to leave when i guess that he is trrying. it makes me feel like i am just oversensitive or something, like my feelings aren't justified. buti know i have the right to be with someone who more closely aligns with my desires and morals...

I'm dating the local brolita. Problem is, I'm not attracted to him at all when he's in lolita. He's an absolute brand whore, and his personality switches when he's all dressed up. I don't know the name or care about different pieces and prints

When we go to meets, we don't talk to each other much avoid suspicion that we're dating. But realistically, I just don't care for discussions about releases.

>>9320049
why would you not want people to know you are dating?

>almost 28
>have never been interested in sex
>go to cons and see everybody fuckin'
>feel like a freak

What wrong with me?

>>9320067
You might be asexual.

>>9320069
I know. Still, I feel bad because of the stimga of reaching my age without having sex.

>>9320067
You're a lone island of normality in a sea of degeneracy. Chin up and be proud of yourself.

>>9320081
If your friends are judging you negatively because of it, you need new and better friends.

>have dry skin
>dry skin itches
>get dolled up in lolita
>try not to scratch the dry itches because I might tear the skin and bleed into Baby
>for some reason my ass itches
>the skin not at the butthole, but near it
>why is my butt dry
>why is it so itchy
>no one is around and I need to make the itch die
>hike skirt up and reach down bloomers into underwear to scratch that fucking itch
>feel relief, make mental note to moisturize my ass
>turn around
>my comm leader is staring at me
>say, "What are you doing in my house?!"

Fucking bitch

>>9320084
My friends aren't. I just feel kind of embarrassed about it in general, even though nobody would know unless I told them.

>>9320089
It's not something that you should feel embarrassed about, whether among other people or privately in your own mind. Accept it and be content, it's more a virtue than a failing.

>>9320085
>comm leader

What

>>9320018
>Cant handle personal life
>Want to get into teaching

DONT. Get your shit fixed first. Those kids are gonna sense your weakness, and as a new teacher (not at the school but a new teacher in general) they will tear you to pieces.

>>9320018
No one is stuck in an abusive relationship you dingbat. What you mean to say is that you're too mentally weak to tell him to fuck off.

Nothing makes you feel less kawaii than diarrhea.

>>9320067
see
>>9320083
You're the normal one

>fat
>bald
>tfw Chinese con-goers love me because I look like Buddha

>>9320084
This. It's perfectly fine to have no interest in sex. You aren't a freak.

>>9320018
Do you have a support network outside you can travel to? If you do, then just go. Cut all contact. If you have to go back for your belongings, bring some supportive muscle.

I know it's scary, and I know it's hard. But nothing feels better than the first breath you take when you're finally free of them.

Stay with your friends. You will question your decision. You will feel regret, guilt even. But it goes. And it gets better.

>>9320019
Part if me is also afraid of what would happen when I finally do leave. It'd be one thing if I had to be poor again and there was someone who was interested in me... but the guy I'm interested in doesn't know hardly anything about me. I'm afraid he'll find out I'm weird cause I'm into lolita. And I'm pretty sure my crush on the girl in my comm is one sided and she doesn't feel the same towards me/barely knows me.

I will dump my boyfriend soon. I have to start making arrangements for where I'm gonna go first.

>it's another/cgl/ dating thread

>>9320134
Start looking around for cheap apartments in your city and do not tell anyone else what you're doing in advance. Move out and live by yourself so you won't have to depend on anyone else.
It can't hurt to try with your crushes and see what happens, you never know... and there'll assuredly be other people that you'll like, if neither of those are interested. That said, in all honesty and with all things being equal you probably have a better chance of a stable healthy relationship with a girl, so maybe focus more energy in that direction.

Tfw I'm losing weight, going strong on my diet. Know I shouldn't be looking at clothes until I hit goal, but glance at Haenuli anyway and see pic related. Today is last day for preorder and I'm sorely tempted because I have the money, but don't want to buy small when I'm not there yet or buy at current size when it'll be too big. Especially since I want the skirt and the JSK2

>>9320097
This combination of image and post. I'm screaming.

>>9320194
Honestly Haenulis measurements are always bigger than smaller, so id say if you really want it and are working towards it, why not by the small? Chances are its bigger than it says anyways.

>>9320089
Then go have sex, and stop feeling bad.