/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL

Annoying ita recently joined my comm. She started spamming the group page with bad selfies and shitty coords and refuses to accept concrit. She wears terrible coords and then calls the other comm members bullies behind their backs because they gave her useful concrit. I want this slob of an ita to be banned and fast.

>pic related she owns this dress but twenty times bigger

>>9229391
>Be lonelita for a little over a year
>Spend time building wardrobe etc
>Finally join comm when I feel like I have enough to start going to meets regularly
>Go to big meet for the first time
>Most girls seem alright
>Come across an oddball that isn't technical wearing lolita
>She approaches me and explains her dress is hand made
>She's ita as fuck and has greasy hair, tells me she's "disabled"
>Feel bad so keep talking to her
>She adds me on facebook later on
>Messages me and we chat a bit but don't have a lot in common
>Turns out she is just autistic and can't keep a job so she gets govt money
>She always wants to chat about stuff I don't care for
>Try to keep her only talking about lolita
>She hates brand cause she can't afford it
>Give up talking to her
>She makes some asshat post about blm protesters inconveniencing her
>One of the comm mods is black
>Mfw that bitch probably got an ear full
>Got a message from her the other day all "hey its been awhile"
>Basically just ignore the fuck out of her because she seems like a dramawhore.

Icing on the cake is that she told me she bought a lolita dress from hot topic. I didn't bother asking what it was or seeing but she also posted her selfies all over our comm page and no one said anything.. thankfully I don't care about going to meets that much now and she doesn't go to many anyways as it usually costs money she doesn't have.

>>9231245
>Feel bad so keep talking to her

I used to be like that too, now I just ignore them right off the bat unless they're trying to have a productive discussion

>>9231372
Eh, I'm okay with talking to most people and she'd of been fine if it wasn't for the fb messages you know? Plus the dumb entitled post she made.

When we take pictures at our meet it's usually one person taking the pictures on their high quality phone, as the rest of us have kind of shitty phones. The HQ is nice, but sometimes it takes forever to get the pictures onto the FB group/private messages. What do you do in this situation? It makes me feel weird to be the kind of person to send them a PM saying "Send my outfit pics to me asap" but waiting is so uncomfortable!

>>9232047
Jesus stop being a poorfag and just get a better phone. Beggars can't be choosers.

>>9232050
If it makes you feel better I have a DSLR and brought it with me but forgot to grab the battery lol. Also I just kind of hate asking the person nice enough to volunteer to take pictures to take another one with my device, esp if a few other people asked before me.
DESU i'm just thinking of dressing up again on my own and having a friend take pictures with my camera. But it would be nice to see all the group pictures at least.

>>9232047
No one is responsible for your photos but you.

>>9232054
>>9232054
I understand this mindset and usually do take individual pictures myself before/after the meet, but my schedule that day was jam packed. besides, if someone else offers to take picture of you, is it too much to ask to want to see the pictures? Plus, outside pics taken by another lolita are usually better than anything I can get in my apartment during my freetime taken by a normie friend. I'm not mad at the photographer or anything, Im just wondering if there's a better way to handle this situation besides checking my phone for tagged pictures/PMs every few minutes.

Wtf is listed as comm for Finland in that spreadsheet? Anon managing this, would you be so kind and change it to Lolita Finland and Suomen j-muoti harrastajat? I can provide links later.

>>9232058
You need it right this second why? Your 10 followers on Instagram can wait a day, I'm sure.

>>9232062
I don't mind waiting a week or two, but it was a halloween themed/meet coord, so I would like to be able to share before Halloween is over. Also I'm just impatient to see what I looked like! Like I said my schedule that day was full so I had like no time to inspect myself and judge my outfit/makeup/hair so I'm really excited/nervous to see what it ended up looking like.

>sit across girl at meet who looks like she hates me
>never met person before, or don't remember
>worries for half the meet
> Do I smell bad? Is it my coord?
>finally breaks ice halfway through meet
>discover that she's a super nice person; that's just her resting face
>we have a great conversation and enjoy the rest of the event
>realize later how much I was stressing out and ruining my own experience over nothing

>>9232420
Ngl I had a giggle over this. Good for you, anon! You did well.

>>9232058
Have you considered giving the person your number and having them text you the pictures right then? Or do you want them edited too?

>>9232047
I've been on both sides of this, just message them once politely, maybe they forgot or can give you a reason for a delay. They might even send you your pics directly.

>>9232079
This is going to sound harsher than I mean it, but as the person who usually takes photos at meets people like you irritate the hell out of me.
If you want an immediate pic of your outfit either take it yourself or hand your camera/phone to someone else. That's it. Expecting someone else who is spending their own time and money taking photos to have the same turnaround as someone who is paid to do it is ridiculous.

>>9231245
>She makes some asshat post about blm protesters inconveniencing her
>One of the comm mods is black
>Mfw that bitch probably got an ear full

Yeah I can see why you'd think she's annoying as fuck, but still, disagreeing with BLM bullshit isn't the same as hating/attacking black people. BLM inconveniences other black lives too and practices racial violence. It isn't "asshat" to critique them.

>>9232590
I kinda think it's funny that OP conflates BLM (a movement) with being a black individual.
That's like saying all white people inherently support the kkk because of the color of their skin.

This seems to be an odd question, there is a good chance I'll be visiting Fort Lauderdale Flordia for 10 days in a couple of weeks; so which comm is closest to the city.

>I checked the spreadsheet; south EGL is close but the group page doesn't even exist

>no miami?

>>9232590
>>9232597
Sorry, green text stories are shit with he they're worded sometimes so I didn't give the full explanation.
Here's what actually happened.
This girl is disabled, but you wouldn't be able to tell just by looking at her.
She was in a large part of the city and because of the protest, a road was blocked keeping her from getting back home. Now normally this would just be something anyone would bitch about because "weh traffic".
But then she made a post saying the protest inconvenienced her and that she was more important in this situation because she's disabled even though you wouldn't know she is just by seeing her. Kind of like how I didn't know she was disabled until she told me. So there's no way any of those protesters knew about her disability and they weren't trying to just inconvenience her -- they did it to everyone that day. I think she's entitled because there's no way they were singling her out like she made it seem. She also messaged me presumably after she saw that I'd seen her status about it. I didn't respond to the status or message but I'd bet someone else did? I haven't asked cause now it's not my business. I just know she's a dumbass that thinks people doing protests shouldn't inconvenience her. But that's kind of what protests are for.. to stop you from what you're doing and to get you or force you to acknowledge whatever the issue at hand is.

>>9227832
>tfw your comm is mostly handmade/replicas/whatever
>no one ever talks about recent releases at meets
I'm not super bent about this, but I don't come lolita specific meetups to chat about the weather.

>>9232793
Same here anon. Drop me an email? I love talking about new releases and other lolita things which... not entirely possible on this board. And stuff on facebook is so boring and everyone is afraid. Basically looking for a nice middle ground.

I've been an active member of the local comm for a couple years now.
While the majority of the group knows me (it's a large comm) hardly anyone knows me on a personal level and vise versa.
My crazy schedule doesnt allow me to hang out with people often so meetups are my only form of social interaction right now, but I'm sick to death of "you're so cute! You look great!" Conversations. They're stale, shallow, and not genuine at all.

Fix my life for me cgl. I'm lonely.

>>9233062
Find people you have common interests with? Sometimes that won't be in your comm. Instead of going to the next meet, go somewhere else you'd enjoy more.

I've got 2 coords coming to me in the mail soon but I really gotta hunker down and start saving. I told myself I wasn't going to go to anymore meets this year but now I'm tempted because I've got new stuff to wear.

I know I could wear that stuff anywhere and believe me I will but I only joined my comm this year and I want to make friends with people. That takes lots of time and I only go to meets every now and then.
If I stick to my savings plan, should I leave the comm temporarily? I feel like not going to anything this month has already distanced me quite a bit from the people I like. And it feels weird and impersonal to just have people sitting on my fb that I barely use. But on the other hand, it's only two months?

I guess what I'm trying to ask is, if someone disappears from meets for awhile, do people care?

>>9232420
every insecure anon should have this post taped to the inside of their door to reread before they go out.

>>9229391
Are we in the same comm? Our version of this ita just posted her 'halloween' outfit and it's so shitty.

Question for people and their comms - do you let in people who may not scream "this is a lolita" on their FB page? I'm a bit new, half a year in and working on a second coord with a few JSKs to my name, and though I'm intending to wait until the holidays pass to approach my local comm I'm unsure if they'll even let me in. It took many tries over two months and eventually me just having to spam my page with it to get staple groups like Lolita Updates and EGL Mentoring to even let me in. I understand a lot of people make lolita only FBs but mine is one for friends not family and I still want to talk about plenty of things other than lolita.

Feel like such a pathetic newbie even asking this, but after having a mentoring group reject an obvious beginner for a long while I don't know what to expect.

>>9232590
>>9232597
lol

>>9232420
I don't have resting bitch face but I have a serious case of resting sad face even when I'm 100% perfectly happy. I'm glad you made friends with resting bitch face girl, it's not her fault

>>9233152
Just... message one of the admins when you send your join request? Don't be a pussy anon

>>9233152
I was let into the same groups with a picture of my cat as my av and everything set to private. Public posts all bad bar shots.
Really just think you need to be straight forward.

>>9233085
>I guess what I'm trying to ask is, if someone disappears from meets for awhile, do people care?
I mean, if there's someone I'm used to seeing regularly and enjoy talking to them I'll miss them at meets. But nobody is going to hold it against you if you have to skip meets to save money or for whatever personal reasons (and if they do they're not worth your time anyway).

>>9233152
If someone doesn't seem like a lolita I message them to ask where they heard about the fashion etc. If they don't reply I automatically reject (I give it like 4-7 days usually) just cause I don't have time for people who can't be arsed to read PMs.
Obviously not everyone is gonna go out of their way since they might get a lot of join requests, so take the initiative and message them first.

>>9233152
Set your cover photo to a favourite print maybe? Super obvious to other lolitas, but normie friends think it's just cute art.

>>9233062
I'm honestly sometimes really shy in public settings so sometimes "you look so cute" is all I can manage, but I do enjoy talking to other girls in my comm separately away from meets and a lot of them are pretty nice. Basically, you just have to take initiative and find some people you might like to get to know.

>>9232732
oh ok I see now,
dw I didn't mean to snark at you or anything (although, well, my wording was shit). I was just puzzled and misread the implications a little.
And yeah by your descriptions, she sounds pretty spaghetti. I hope you don't have to deal with her a lot anymore.

> Be me organising an ILD meetup a couple of years ago
> Creepy MxF couple attends the meetup
> Guy eventually pms me months later asking if I'm some guy's sub cause his friends told him and his gf so
> Turns out he wants to add me on Fetlife
> Gf pretends to be him asking for the whole convo regarding kinky shit where I clearly stated I had -100 interest

Sooo now it's super awkward when they come to meetups, which is not that often cause sometimes they clash with their weebo cosplay crap

>>9233637

Also

> Be me on a date with a Tinder guy that has lolita friends and had lolita gf/lover
> Guy happens to be a total creep and a bit of a psycho, still wanting to beat the crap out of a boy 10 years younger than him that was actually the bf of lolita lover when he fucked her
> I block him everywhere I can figure out
> He tags me on twitter complaining about me blocking him

So that was 2 years ago, and last summer ILD my friend organised a picnic and he was there and I didn't notice till I was sitting lit. next to him.

Hey Gulls,
If you had a boyfriend that isn't into Lolita, but he drives and you can't...
And you carefully plan things out so he almost never has to drive you...
But sometimes you really do need a ride from him...
What kinds of accessories could I buy him to keep as part of some "emergency arm candy" kit?
He has slacks and shirts, but what could I add to that that would make him blend in better?
He's friendly and likes to socialize, it's just that he told me that he's not going to buy his own J-fashion stuff because he's just not into clothes (however, i've caught him preening infront of mirrors when he does have to wear a suit).

>>9233879
I've never actually tried this so I don't know how it looks in practice, but maybe adding a jabot in a color that matches one of his shirts will do the trick? It's not an insta-ouji accessory by any means but it might help make him look a bit fancier, assuming he's not appalled by frills or lace.

>>9233973
That's a great idea! It shoulds like a good way to fit in without pushing yourself. That's the thing with my boyfriend; I don't want to push him to do full ouji, but I want him to feel like he's not sticking out from the comm if / when he might end up in a photo as part of a group shot or in the background.

Entirely unsurprised because it was an event run by Anime Matsuri staff, but the Shop in Wonderland contests were rigged. The winner of the coord contest was the sister of one of the judges.

>>9234032
when was this?

>>9233879
Why can't he just drive you and go hang out and do his own thing until you're done? Why make him suffer driving you AND spending the whole meet there?

>>9233879
Ask another lolita for a ride and offer to chip in for gas.

>>9232694
Just updated the link to South Florida Lolitas (added it 2 years ago and they changed their name since then)

>>9232059
removed that random comm! Please email/reply with the link to the other one (I couldn't find it on a google search)

>>9233879
like the minimal effort for bfs is to wear a complementing shirt color with the gf, but otherwise, most people don't really care what the bfs wear as long as they stay out of group pics and unless they're slobs

>>9234084
Last Saturday. Only salty because they were giving brand away for the prizes.

>shit went down last year at the lolita events of a con between one of the heads of my comm and one from a nearby comm
>not even a big deal, the girl from my comm was being a bitch over nothing
>head of my comm is still salty about it and openly shits on the other girl if she or the event comes up in conversation
>has talked about it at the last three meets
>that con is coming up very soon
>same lolita events run by the same people
>getting that popcorn ready

i feel like a bad person but i really hope this becomes some drama and i hope it blows up in the girl from my comms face. this head in my comm is your stereotypical bitchy lolita nightmare who gossips and starts shit when almost everyone else in the comm are sweethearts, and i hate listening to her rag on people from other comms at our meets. i hope it bites her in the ass but at the very least i know shes going to get asspained about something this other girl does and that will be funny for awhile. id just switch comms if the other comm werent 2 hours from me and i didnt like the other local girls so much.

There's a guy/brolita in my comm who feels the need to comment on everything about how broke he is. He hasn't even been to a meet afaik but comments even on event pages, "too bad I'm always broke!!!"

Why do people do this? Why comment. What are you hoping to achieve. It drives me insane.

>>9234278
There's several of them in my comm too. As well as someone who lives like 8 hours away from where everyone else lives and bitches that nobody makes meets near them. Make your own meets with other local lolitas? There's at least three of you.

>>9234091
We did this once, but afterwards he admitted that having not found something fun to do, would have rather been a deerstalker nature documentary observer.

>>9234109
Tried this too, but no one's near my neck of the woods.

>>9234195
I'm not too worried about it, but I know how this can sometimes be seen as an inconvenience. It's kinda like how comms are talorent of a lot of things as long as people pay basic respect to the mission statement.

>>9234278
Sometimes I comments on not having money not because I'm looking for pity but because I'm trying to offer an explaination for my actions; meaning, it's not that I don't want to but it's just not in the cards so to speak. Like, I feel better about saying I can't afford to attend an event with friends then to simply not come. Because, doesn't not coming look like I might be snubbing them / ignoring them?

Working on some rules and guidelines for my comm. Message me on my throwaway email if you're interested in giving feedback/suggestions. Thanks famalam.

>>9234313
>I took too long now my email's gone

/polite sage

>in St. Louis comm
>mod literally had to make a new rule that you can't show up in cosplay
>also had to specify that you have to wear lolita to lolita meetups????
>why am I stuck in a place with such a shit comm where people think they can wear whatever the hell they want to a meet
>cries
>RIP the mods who have to actually give a shit about this comm because I sure don't

i look at reddit like once every 4 months and oh my god

>>9234390
Oh god I initially read this as "after I willingly left an accidental spill on my dress." as though she didn't wash it after her boyfriend jizzed all over it.

Jesus.

>>9234395
I thought the same thing when I first read it. "omg i got bullied out of my comm for my cumstains"

my hatred remains the same

>>9234390
>"after finding out i was a kinkster"
how much do ya wanna bet she was openly talking about it on the comm page or at a meet ?
hope she went to a meet and had someone spill shit on her dress again
plus
>into ageplay

>>9234273
Curious about which con this is.
Wouldn't be suprised if it's PDX.

>>9234253
Are there pics of the winning coord?

My comm used to be drama filled, and now it's quieted down. Its nice this way. I was a little shit and started some drama years ago. I'm glad I matured and now my comm is growing upfor the most part. I just wish I could tell the other lolita that I bashed how sorry I am and wish I could go back and undo being a sorry little bastard

>>9234441
probably has a facebook avatar of her with a pacifier and wonders why people are mean. idk what comm this is but i bless them for their purging of cancer.

>>9234511
She's the one in CDC. The coord is cute, but it was by no means the best one there.

>>9234390
She didn't mention anything about being betrayed by a good friend who she confided in about her kinks so it's safe to assume >>9234441 and >>9234544 are right and she flaunted something that shouldn't be flaunted, then whined like a baby when people weren't pleased with her gross overshare. If strangers dislike you for your creepy kinks it's 100% your fault for sharing them with unwilling strangers in the first place.

>>9234368
If it makes you feel better, that situation isn't unique to your comm. You'd think that wearing lolita to lolita meetups was obvious but clearly not.

>>9234390
Or maybe she had a tumblr with those things and someone discovered? Either way, I don't think it's nice to do that to someone. Talking and explaining the problems and conditions would be way better.

But again, we don't know the whole story.

>>9234581
Was there, I thought her coord was definitely one of the top 3. Didn't know she was the judge's sister though, but I see the resemblance now.

>>9234720
It seems like there's a lot of people who join comms just to call themselves a "lolita" or be a part of something alternative. Trust me, if the clothes don't come first for you, then you won't stick around in this fashion for long.

It really annoys me when my friends and I plan meets that people RSVP to, but end up not showing up. How can we possibly have an active comm if no one shows up to anything?

>>9235366
We need to mine Keeping up Appearances for meme material

>>9235569
>when you and the squad pass a rival comm

>>9234449

>>9234972
I just like the clothes. I almost don't even want to be a part of a comm, but mine is so friendly and nice that I like being able to talk about burando and such with them on occasion.

>>9234032
why even go? what the fuck did you expect?

>>9233879
My boo and I are in that situation. He likes the fashion (he can talk brands, releases and what's going on online) but isn't into the meetup aspect of it. He goes off and finds something to do away from the meet and we're both happy. I think it's weird to bring non-jfash people to meets, especially if it's a significant other or (gods forbid) a child.

>>9234273
Which con is this?

>>9235757
feed me moar

>>9235760
It was a genuine statement. How was it bait?

>>9235854
I don't know how you could think it was PDX. Quit trying to stir up drama.

STOP. BRINGING. YOUR. CREEPY. HUSBAND. TO. MEETS.

He eats like a barnyard animal too. I ended up visibly wincing every time he smacked his lips.

My comm has a meet tomorrow and there are about 5 people bringing their husbands/boyfriends to dinner. I'm trying to stay calm but I am getting so annoyed with this trend.

So is anyone else going to the Charm City meet tomorrow with me?

Intermission at the Dracula ballet meet. I'm in awe at everything.

>>9235366
My comm instated a 3 strike policy, where if you kept rsvping and not showing up you'd get kicked out. We had this happen a lot. Talk to your mods about it.

>>9236892
What comm is this? It looks like the Dracula ballet is coming to my city/country soon and I would love to have a meet up for it.

>>9237181
One of the Alberta comms. And you will not regret it. We shelled out the extra dosh for seats in the 3rd row, and it was worth every penny. Everything about it was amazing. You should host the meet and buy your tickets together in advance, so you can all sit together. That's what we did. Maybe it was because it's so close to halloween, but we weren't by any means the only people dressed up. There were fancy goths and vampires left and right in the audience. It was pretty fun.

>>9234627
>>9234736

It was her mistake to mention it at all. See screen cap.

tfw no local lolita to grab by the pussy

>>9237221
Oh wow! That sounds wonderful. Thanks so much for the helpful suggestion.

>>9237385
>being this dense

why can't most ageplayers understand why nobody likes them when they flaunt it like a badge? i've experienced this in my comm where they think it's "relevant to the conversation." gulls, your weird sex stuff is never relevant to conversation at a comm meet. i keep my kink shit to myself and so should everybody else. there were posts on a "little" subreddit too, where one "little" was triggered over being kicked out of her comm for being public about her kink or something.

>>9237221
I am unspeakably jelly, anon!

>>9237221
Im so happy to have seen this because apparently this ballet is happening in my town RIGHT NOW! Its too late to try to host a meet but at least I can go see it all dolled up myself!

>>9235757
I love Keeping Up Appearances so so much

>>9237221
I had to pick between this and a dress and picked the dress. Probably should not have done that.

Happy to see it was good though! Might go next year if there's another ballet.

>>9236774
>>9236835
Make your own meets and tell them they can't bring their significant others if it bothers you that much. You won't be very popular with a lot of people after that, but at least you won't have to hang around boys?

>>9237454
I wish we could selectively ban the greasy ones without offending anyone. I'm fine with the 2-3 boyfriends/husbands in our comm who practise good hygiene, have decent manners and can carry a conversation regardless of whether they're involved in the fashion or not. But for whatever reason 99% of the male SO's dragged to meetups are greasy, have no table manners, stink of BO and either ignore everyone while they play on their DS or loudly talk about wildly inappropriate shit, like whether lolitas are as "easy" as cosplay sluts (actual conversation one girl's husband tried to have with me).

If your SO is a gross creep please leave him at home. If you're too socially retarded to leave home without him then please stay home yourself, too.

>>9237419
At the risk of sounding totally creepy...are you in Europe? Unfortunately I can't catch it tonight or tomorrow here but I'm going to the next time around, in Dec.

>>9237463
>whether lolitas are as "easy" as cosplay sluts (actual conversation one girl's husband tried to have with me)
What the fuck

>>9237464
Not creepy at all, no worries. But nah im in florida sadly. I hope you get to catch it at some point! I might not get to either, I forgot about having to be a big kid and pay bills

>>9233085
Most comms would be totally accepting of that. We had a girl who stopped coming for around four or five months at the end of her work on a masters degree, and the comm missed her while she was gone but welcomed her back with open arms. I think most comms that aren't drama-full or run by babies would be totally cool with you disappearing for two months to do savings.

>>9233637

Wait so they recognize you from fetlife? Or their friend mistakenly thinks he recognizes you from there? Why was the gf pretending to be him in messages? They sound like creeps, sorry you have to deal with that anon

>>9233646
YIKESSSSSSSSs

>>9234441
I'll bet Cat's Tea Party on it, that's how sure I am

>>9234543
You could always just send her a private message, maybe? Personally I think it would be a pleasant surprise to be reached out to like that.


>>9234896
I feel like it could have legitimately won the contest, since it's the only colorful coord in that shot and it sticks out in comparison to the other outfits and is easier to remember? Shop in Wonderland sucks though

>>9232058
That's when you say, like an adult would, 'hey can you email/text me those? my email/number is x'

>>9237454
I think it bothers a lot of people but we just never say anything. It'd be one thing if they dressed up too but most of the time they come in normal clothes and just stand around awkwardly. Definitely planning on doing some of my own meets though.

>>9234581
Her coord is the best one in that photo, that's for sure. Why does every contest have claims of being rigged? It seems like lolitas are just salty that they lost most of the time.

>>9237392
Make sure to indicate where you are on the seating map and list the row and number so others can follow suit easily.

>>9237422
If you're in my comm, I'm hoping to host another meet for the Nutcracker in December and there's another ballet for Alice in Wonderland in March!

>>9235859
This. There are people on this board that desperately want to tear the PDX comm apart for some dumb reason.

>>9237468
Nearly all men are disgusting sex-obsessed pigs. Why are you surprised?

>>9237463
>If your SO is a gross creep please leave him at home.
Unfortunately, the type of women that date greasy creeps like that wouldn't recognize their SO's faults enough to take this advice.

>>9237573>>9237488

Anon that said I was there, this photo is of the winners of all categories I think it was best costume, best duo, and best j fashionista coord. CDC girl won for the best coord. There was other gulls in that specific contest who were dressed beautifully but in my opinion this girl deserved the win.

And honestly I understand the sentiment of not supporting John Leigh but the staff are super sweet and the shop is always nice and clean. To each their own no judgement from me.

>>9237585
I wish my comm went to things like this. The nicest place we go is pastry shops that don't even have tables.

>>9237676

>>9237463
Was this Charm City?

>>9232694
>>9234195
The comm link recently reverted back to the original name. of SouthFloridaLolitas

Be sure to PM a mod in order to have your join request accepted.

>>9234581
Are there any photos of others in the comm? CDC coord does look nice but no way to tell if it was the BEST. Personally I would nitpick it because of the yellow roses, and it just kind of looks like a set. But I also don't see the full coord here.

>>9234390
I don't get these types of people. If they were real lolitas they would wear the clothes regardless of being in a comm.

Also, where is this thread? I don't see it in the subreddit.

>>9238773
she bawwleeted it, probably because people were gently chiding her for sharing her lewd tumblr in the first place and her feelings got hurt

>>9236835
>charm city
I too am in baltimore but have never gotten together with any group

>>9235757
I'd love to hear more stories about rival comms!

>>9238797
>rival comms

you should really make friends with overseas Chinese lolitas if you're into that because there is some crazy competition between comms--kind of like how gangs have the east side west side thing in america. they have issues with other comms because they're from different regions of China.

it sounds like a joke but i'm 100% serious

>>9238805
doesn't sound like a joke

the Chinese are fucking retarded

wouldn't put something like this past them

>>9238810
i can't say i disagree. i'm friends with a few Chinese lolitas who are chill themselves but they always tell me the crazy shit that's going on with the Chinese fuerdai lolitas

shit is wild over there right now and everything is a pissing contest

>>9238826
Any stories you can share?

>>9238805
>>9238810
>>9238826

give me some of those chinese lolita gang battle stories

>>9237454
I hosted the last meet and Husband-chan still brought her husband without asking or telling anyone he's going to be there. I later find out that not only does he have the manners of someone raised in a barn, he's also an idiot and keeps posting REALLY distasteful political memes on his wife's facebook page. It's literally taking all of my willpower not to call him out on it, but the comm does not need drama right now. I really like husband-chan as a person, but her husband is really nasty and makes everyone uncomfortable. I'm annoyed to the point of wanting to just end my friendship with husband-chan because her husband is so irredeemably awful.

>>9239254
Ask the mods to enact a policy for guests and plus-ones to be approved by the hosts of meets. That way it isn't targeting anyone specific.

>>9239257
Our mods are basically nonexistant, they don't do shit or even really come to meets anymore. I've seen one mod in the past year at an actual meet. I've been talking it over with a few members about making our own city specific comm that has active members and mods. I really don't want to cause any drama in the existing comm because they're overall a nice group, just majorly flawed in how it's handled.

>>9238805
Gosh, I wish there was a blog collecting these stories. I come to cgl mostly to read about meetings and cringe, but this would be awesome.

>>9239267
then ask the meet hosts to start clamping down on +1s being brought

>>9235569

>>9235757

>>9239338

>>9239341

>>9239348

>>9239349

>>9239350

>>9239351

>>9239355

Last one. Sorry for the tiny images

>>9239357
Bless you, anon. I didn't realize how badly I missed this show until now.

>>9239375
I used to watch this show with my grandma all the time when she was still alive. Brings back good memories.

>>9239410
For me it was Mama's Family which is brilliant as well in a less sophisticated way.

>>9239430
Also a gif for the holiday season.
>tfw you'll never be as OTT as Eunice

How do you feel about crossplayers at comm meets?

>>9239534
>crossplayers
>at a fashion meetup
Are you lost or just dumb

>>9239542
Don't really see the difference in the fact that one is male and one is female
Fashion is fashion

>>9239534
Anyone is allowed to wear the fashion, it doesn't have an assigned gender

>>9239543
>>9239566
>>9239534
Learn to troll better. Crossplay is cross-gender cosplay and lolita is not cosplay.

>>9234273
Is this about a TX con, by any chance?

>>9239569
Mate I said crossplay because it is the commonly used phrase for males that dress up in female clothing
Lolita or not
Stop being so literal
I asked an earnest question, one which I wouldn't ask to a local group because I don't know how they feel about it
If you think that is 'trolling' than you need to asses your outlook

>>9239569
Where do you live where you have cosplayers at lolita meets

>>9239581
Not that anon but we have a handful of cosplay girls who show up in the same Bodyline/Taobao/Milanope dress and oversized twin tail wig every time, basically to dress up as their kawaii lolita-chan OC. We can't kick them because it's not against the rules to only have one or two outfits but they really get on my nerves.

>>9239585
Why would they get or your nerves?

>>9239587
Because we're a fashion community and they're annoying cosplay weebs who have no real interest in the fashion.

>>9239595
>we are super serious fashion guys come on you cannot wear what I don't want you to wear
>calls others weebs while wearing japanese fashion

>>9239585
>>9239595
I mean you literally said they wear Bodyline to meets so how is that cosplay... sounds like you're mad they don't dress that well and have fun with it. Plenty of lolitas cosplay too but that doesn't mean they're cosplayers when they go to meets in lolita....

>>9239575
I'll bite w/e

>Mate I said crossplay because it is the commonly used phrase for males that dress up in female clothing
>Lolita or not
>Stop being so literal

Crossplay still doesn't have anything to do with fashion at all. It's as >>9239569 said, cosplaying characters of the opposite gender. Lolita is not cosplay.

The term you are looking for, is crossDRESSer, someone who is dressing up and styling in clothes associated to the opposite gender. THIS is where Lolita could fall into depending on the person.

Different words aren't there just for nothing. They exist because they mostly have a diverse meaning. So get your vocabulary right before you open up your ass.

>>9239604
Jesus christ you autistic shit
I used a word that is a common description for fucks sake
How about this
>uhhh hey guys what is like a boy wants to wear fashion!
>huh oh yeah japanese street fashion!
Nigger loli is cosplay anyway, get over yourself

>>9239605

>>9239605
>I used a word that is a common description

If you pick it up as a common description, then just trash your sources, because that's wrong as hell in the sense you want to use it.

>>9239605
That was like asking if we want ketchup on a salad. Lolita being a salad dressing. Ketchup might have some similarities in that it's a liquid food condiment, but ultimately it's completely something else and doesn't belong. It made no sense to ask that.

>>9239410
>>9239430
Man yall are making me miss my granny lol

My comm had our Halloween meet today.
One of the organisers wore a replica.

>>9239770
Were they an ita for Halloween?

>>9239770
Pretty scary!

>>9239600
>>9239603
>implying it's not annoying when people wear the exact same outfit and cosplay wig to every single meetup
If you only have one outfit after more than a year of being in this comm you're treating lolita as a costume, not a fashion.

>>9239866
Evidently, although I don't think it was intentional.

>>9240211
Agreed. And piggybacking off of this, it's akin to someone showing up to say, a high fashion gathering every month or so wearing the same knockoff garment (since OP said it could be Milanope?) and expecting everyone to be okay with it because feels > reals. Lolita is first and foremost a fashion, and it's pretty irritating to see it being treated like a costume or some gimmick for kawaii points or whatever. They're treating it as an opportunity to put on a costume, which is fine for a con, I suppose. But every single meet? Yeah, I'd be miffed, too.

>>9238382
I hope that you all wear MCD.

>>9233152
Some comms have a join request form that you need to fill out and won't approve you until you send it to them or respond to their message. At that time you can just explain that you're new and want to learn more. It shouldn't be a problem :)

I'm potentially moving to the Boston area in the next few months, anyone know how active this comm is?

>>9239534
I don't like guys in lolita at all unless they wear ouji or aristo.

>>9246407
ouji and aristocrat aren't Lolita

they're similar styles for men, but not Lolita

I know this isn't a cringe thread but..

>>9246425
Sorry, *in lolita comms. My post wasn't clear.

Never change, Chanel. Never change.

>>9237385
>why don't lolitas like when I actively play into a stereotype that could get other lolitas stalked, assaulted, fired from their job, etc.???

God I hate stupid people

>>9246502
What the fuck are those measurements

>hips only 2 inches bigger than the waist
>tits are the size of a house

>>9248047
These public fetishists never even consider other people and seem to believe that there shouldn't be any kind of consequences for anything they do or say because in their minds, their own sexual pleasure trumps everything else. Don't want to hear about what someone gets up to in the bedroom? Well tough shit! They believe it's their God-given right to tell you whatever they want and if you don't agree you're a kink shaming bigoted prude.

>>9239357
Anon you're making a salty seagull very happy, thank you for posting these.

>>9248025
If someone else wore this coord people would love it.

>>9236992
I would, but the mods aren't active. I think it's time to make a new comm.

>>9248311
Anon plz. You can see her chub fighting to get out of the corset.

>>9227832
>Join regional comm
>Only meets are at a city that it's a pain to drive to
>Meet finally planned in my county
>Cancelled

What's the Hawaii comm like? I may be going to Hawaii next month.

>>9249270
So why don't you plan your own? It doesn't take that much effort to plan something casual,really. Just pick a cute place and a date. Someone will show and will be grateful for a closer meet.

Soccermom-chan unfriended me on Facebook because she thought I made a post mocking her. It had nothing to do with her and was just saying to not make fun of people who had strong feelings about the election results.

>>9248025
when did she get a nose piercing?

>>9250470
Sorry for your loss? I'm not sure what response you're looking for about a efame hungry girl unfriending you
>not even for an interesting reason

>>9237385
Not just knowing that anyone who connects lolita fashion + sexual age play is automatically shunned almost everywhere.
Who is even surprised by this anymore?
It will never be accepted or an acceptable topic.
Thank goodness.

>>9234278
>>9234302
Bringing up the fact that you are too broke to come to a meet does come off as rude to me because you leave people very little to respond to other than to offer you some sort of 'I'm sorry to hear that' reply.
Surely people can figure out a nice way of saying that they are unable to attend this meet but will hopefully be able to attend a meet soon without bringing their finances (or other personal reasons) into it. It's really not necessary to state such a specific reason.

>>9250034
Kind of a mess, to be honest. There are some nice well dressed people but they're in the minority.

My local comm's invited people from an online magazine to attend an upcoming tea party and something about it is leaving a really bad taste in my mouth for some reason.

>>9252155
I'd feel the same. Meetups are meant to be fun social outings for the comm, inviting outsiders to join in and "document" us like we're on National Geographic makes things weird and uncomfortable.
Do you know for what purpose they invited these people? Is it for an article about the fashion or something?

>>9252162
They did an article about a sister comm a while back, so a follow up piece maybe? I wouldn't have gone anyways because there's a poorly-dressed brolita who RSVP'ed that I'd like to avoid, but I really don't want something like this to become an ongoing trend.

>>9252155
I feel you anon. Back in the day my comm's self appointed queen bee liked to invite people from local tv stations over to our meets, sometimes even without notifying all the attendees. Super fun to be chatting with your friends and suddenly realize there's a camera pointed at you. The programmes always had a "look at these freaks" vibe to them, too. Hopefully your experience won't be so bad.

>>9250470
If this sheds any light on her political leanings, then I'm major side-eyeing her right now.

>>9250034
Which island are you traveling to? I ask because the only comm is on oahu and like >>9251113 mentioned, it's not great

>>9253058
I unfollowed her because her brothers pro-trump crap would end up on my dash. It's a shame because she's fun to hang out with at meets.

>>9232732
What a shit

>>9248025
>>9248326
And the corset is on upside down

>>9238788
Same, anon. I moved to the area not too long ago, and I always think about attending meets, but I never do because of stories like these.

>>9239267
You host the meet, you make the rules.
If you don't want creepy husbands showing up, just allow people who were invited.

It's one thing if it goes towards providing food or renting a venue, but have a meet without charging admission for once! I want to make my own "swap meet event" at the free local library on the date they choose!

>>9238805
>they have issues with other comms because they're from different regions of China
This is a pretty common thing though? Like just the whole "you're from that place and we hate all the people from that place" is so fucking typical.

Why are so many lolitas lazy?? My comm is almost all over age 23 but no one seems to have a full time job.

>>9255300
Because the lolitas that do work full time are probably too busy to go to lots of meets? At least it seems that way in my comm - I've been in the comm for over 3 years and got asked if I was new by someone I thought was new at a meet recently . Not her fault that I've worked most Saturdays this year and that was my first meet since like May.

>>9255300
Same in my comm. They are either students or in part time jobs with no intention to change that because their bf/husband pays all the bills. Good for them I guess.

>>9255322
I've been in the comm for over 3 years and got asked if I was new by someone I thought was new
I know this pain so much. I'm in a comm for years and everytime I go I have to introduce myself to the whole group again because I only make it like 1-2 a year to meets and most of my comm keeps forgetting about me. It's kind of awkward and pointless so I'm thinking about to stop going. I guess many of the full time working lolitas must feel the same. It's not easy to become a part of the group if you're forever the newbie in their eyes.

>>9253058
The thing was that I didn't even pick a side. It was just don't shit on people for their political leanings whether it was making fun of Hillary supporters who were upset and afraid or shitting on Trump supporters because he won.

>>9253190
Her husband is pro trump too iirc.

>>9253965
Just pay the damn $5. that's less than a coffee

>>9253965
Even if it's a "free" venue the hostess still has to clean and prepare the place and clean up afterwards as well. On top of that an entrance fee weeds out people who want to bring their hot topic checkered shoelaces and other non lolita crap, while having no intention of actually shopping for anything lolita and therefore not really contributing anything. Go ahead and make your own ita swap at the library, I'm sure nothing of value will be lost.

>>9255443
The same happens to me!
There is literally only like one girl who semi recognizes me in my comm, because i only make it to con tea parties, and maybe one major meetup a year.
Im not sure if i should just try to have a bigger online presence, or what.

>>9255300
I don't know if I'd call them lazy but my comm does seem to have a disproportionate number of girls who work part time retail on the weekends, are free during the week, and like to cry about how weekend meetups are oppressing them and we should have more meetups on Wednesday afternoons or something. But of course they never organise anything themselves.

>>9231245
Feel bad for her and at the same time not really

>>9232047
I don't mind being camera mom but when they don't thank you after (hrs of editing) uploading or 'like' my pic, that's a kick in the shins

>>9254035
you have a point, but only to a certain degree. like you have people in the USA shitting on anybody who lives in the bible belt because they're stereotyped as all being hicks. that's usually just jokes. i don't think OP's statement can apply to how people are racist or bigoted towards those in other countries or of different skin colors. think about it

ACTUAL hatred for people who are largely the same ethnicity but just come from a different region of the same place you're all from. and it's a widespread truth amongst many Chinese comms and not just an isolated incident. this isn't your typical xenophobia, this is advanced xenophobia. it shouldn't be written off just because it can be seen in other places

>>9248025
i feel like chanel would smell like doritos and b.o masked with cheap old lady perfume..

>>9256151
I work full time in retail management. I rarely make meets. But I'll organize them on rare chances or go out with girls in my comm for lunch/dinner on weekdays. There's a good chunk of people in my comm like this. The other half are students and free on weekends or are lucky enough to work mon-fri jobs.

>>9248025
On a "lolita on a budget" humoristic post from Lolita Humor.
Nobody wants it because it looks absolutely awful Channel. How can she not realize that?

>>9255443
If I only saw somone once or twice a year I doubt I'd recognise them at a meet. Are you active in the comm online? If not then you can't expect people to remember you that much really.

>>9256633
Omg I didn't know that shitty hello kitty dress was hers.

>>9234273
>>9239571
I'm wondering the same, because if so I have a good guess who the bitch is.

>>9232079
You're a cunt.

>>9234395
>>9234406
Pretty sure that's what she meant

>>9237573
>Her coord is the best one in that photo, that's for sure

There's only 2 lolitas in it, so that's not saying much at all.

>>9239254
>keeps posting REALLY distasteful political memes on his wife's facebook page

Example?

>>9237485
Are you a retard? Clearly he just wanted her to be on there and didn't care either way if she wasn't. Aka he wanted her to see his page. Or he's so freaky that he assumes everyone has/should have an account.

>>9234581
something about her face shape reminds me of an ever after high doll

>>9256633

>>9257137
Here's a rant he posted on her page a week ago. I don't want to get banned for sharing polical bullshit, so please keep in mind that this is the insane ramblings of someone a member of my comm is TAKING TO EVERY GOD DAMN MEET.

>>9257397
2/3

>>9257398
THE HUMAN RACE WALKED AMONG THE STARS


He just sits in the back of our meets, eats our food, and smacks loudly the entire time. We might as well just let a crazy hobo into our tea parties.

>>9257397
>>9257398
>>9257401
Well that was rreally something. Does his wife make him take off his tin foil hat at least?

>>9238805
I wish China Gossip was still around I loved hearing bout what was going down over there.

>>9257401
>mild suggestive voice that whispers to them in amiable tones from the tv, internet, and radio to give away their rights, lay down, and go to sleep

>God told me something in a dream

This is so insane it's almost incredible.

>>9257409
I doubt it. She likes all his statuses and posts comments in agreement. I really hope she isn't as crazy, but I'm not sure.

He usually just sits there, eats loudly, and only talks if we mention their recent wedding. (She got married in lolita)

>>9257397
>>9257398
>>9257401
This guy needs to put his energy towards something else.
>Half this country doesn't know lolita is fashion, not cosplay.
>Stay kawaii, my moonchildren.

>>9257446
Did I mention there's a good chance he's packing heat at the meets? My state doesn't require concealed carry permits and they post photos of their weapons all the time. Guns are cool and useful, but he is the last person I think of when I imagine a responsible gun owner.

>>9257449
Oh geez, that's legitimately scary. My comm gets the occasional nutter but at least they don't have guns.

God, there's a young ita in my comm who doesn't know better than to want to take us to toys R us and claire's accessories for a bloody meetup.
She looks up to princess peachie (circa 2012) so much that she thinks replicas are great and that bodyline is some godsend and like all of her dreamdresses are fuckin bodyline/ taobao rainbow vomit.
We're not all fucking new to the fashion, stop spamming tutorials on how to do sweet lolita makeup into our comm page.

>>9257425
If she's not crazy herself she married a crazy dude, is that really that much better?
Thanks for posting that anon, it was a pretty entertaining read.

>>9253190
>>9255457
suddenly, soccermom-chan's makeup makes sense.

>>9256633
>How can she not realize that?
because of people telling her it looks great.

>>9257446

>>9257555
We have one of those too but she's in her thirties and married. She keeps saying how her husband put her on a budget so she doesn't have a lot to spend on lolita and keeps posting "budget loli" sources, like children's stores and Etsy shops that make ugly skirts from old bedsheets. She's really into MLP too, and wants to make a Pinkie Pie coord. People have told her that might not be the best idea but MLP is supa kawaii so totally perfect for lolita!! ^____^
And of course being a housewife, she has nothing better to do all day than post her every single dumb thought on our community. I really hope she gets bored of us and fucks off soon.

>>9250470
I unfriended you because you made a post specifically targeting me and using the same language I had used. But good to know that you're a back stabber who likes making fun of others.

>>9257818
How do you feel about your husband being batshit insane?

>>9257822
Clearly she's just as insane, so...

>>9257818
dis gon b gud

>>9257818

>>9257818

So you self post to CoF threads too I take it.

>>9257818
I want to believe that this is real, but as someone who trolls for fun it's really easy to convince cgl that you're someone without any proof.

>>9257818
Why do you block people who call your costumey coords costumes?

>>9257795
>She keeps saying how her husband put her on a budget
I'm guessing getting a fucking job hasn't crossed her mind.

>>9233879
My BF is good friends with one of the girls in my local comm and I hate going alone to meets because I live in bum fuck nowhere. I want to bring him not only as arm candy but as someone to take photos too so no one gets left out of group shots.

But I don't know. All those stories about girls boyfriends being an inconvenience at meets even though they're doing literally nothing has me wanting to send him to the local arcade til the meet is over.

>>9258300
I have come members begging me to drag my bf to meets. He's a social butterfly and loves dressing up, even if it's not ouji/lolita.
I think the annoyance comes from guys who show up in a t-shirt and jeans who obviously don't want to be there.

>>9258308
*comm wow

but also in my experience most people don't care as long as the guy doesn't look like a scrub and puts effort in not to be awkward.

I mean to click on /biz/ and accidentally landed here. I was very very confused for a second. These are not dank investment memes!

>>9258311
That's kind of cute. Welcome to the vicious politics of lolita, bizfriend.

>>9258311
Kek, this made my day for some reason

>>9250034
The main comm is great. Most everyone are nice and friendly. The ita comm fizzled out.

>>9257886
I'm pretty sure it's fake. Even if soccer mom did read here, she'd never admit to it. She'd just lurk to maintain her ~upstanding role model~ image.

>>9240784
>Dunkin donuts attached to a gas station meetup when

I'd go to this unironically. Tired of trying to find elegant stuff in my rural state

>>9253282
Not necessarily, I have one made like this that's underbust. It's hard to tell since mine actually fits me. I'm so sick of people trying to say it's upside down when the seamstress made it custom and showed me how to wear it

>>9257401
y'all need to kick her out of the comm based on this alone

>>9257818
you and your husband are nuts and you don't deserve lolita

There's this nutcase girl who's friend with everyone in my comm (she seems to force herself yet they seem to appreciate her, i see her mass posting to the most famous one's wall) and she talked to me so badly over what i call "the blouse story" and i finally told her off (politely) then she went apeshit. And now she is probably talking mad shit and lying about me behind my back to my comm.
So i'm kinda scared they will believe her and that i'll look bad.

>>9257397

The first paragraph I actually sort of get the view but he fucking lost me at the viruses. What a way to escalate.

>>9258767
Anytime people start with anti-vac stuff I stop reading.

>>9258767
>>9258802
Same. And then the television mind control and God talking to him in his dreams and now I'm pretty sure even the craziest anti-vaxxers will be like "hey, don't associate us with that nutter!"
I do wonder to what extent soccermom agrees with any of this. Do either of them give off raving lunatic vibes IRL?

>>9258808

'voice of God' shit is a pretty common symptoms in schizophrenics, ties in both with delusions of grandeur and with hallucinations (if they hear them outside of dreams).

Not meaning to armchair diagnose, but 'voice of god' is not normal even for crazy trump/antivaxxer/conspiracy theorists, who are by no means normal.

>>9258808
This isn't soccer mom's husband. This is the husband of someone in small local comm that keeps being brought to meets. I feel bad for abandoning his wife as a friend because she has almost none, but I totally see WHY she has no friends now.

>>9258810
>possible paranoid schizophrenic
>owns firearms
yiiiiiikes I'm almost grateful for my comm's relatively harmless crazies now

>>9258876
Oh you're right, I don't know where I got the idea that this was soccermom's husband from. Whoops.

>>9257397
>being one of those ~ppl need to wake up~ conspiracy theory faggots
Good lord. I thought you were overreacting at first but this guy...

>>9258758
so are you going to elaborate or not anon?

>upcoming holiday meet
>it's the one weekend I have off
>I rsvp but so do 20+ other people
>don't think the venue can take a reservation for that many people
>host just cancelled two meets
>people start asking about said holiday meet
>host says details are TBA

At which point do I give up on this meet and hold my own that same weekend?

>Mfw someone who doesn't like me is co-hosting a comm meet up with a good friend of mine
>that bitch is the reason why I don't go to meet ups anymore because I know she's a delicate snowflake who can't handle being in my presence
>well I got invited to this meet, haven't seen any of my lolita friends because she's monopolizing them, and it sounds like is going to be a lot of fun

I think I'm gonna go lol, this will be fun. Like going shark diving with a cut on your knee. Hurrah for in person comm drama!

>>9259342
Arizona?

>>9259427
There's a reason this board is anon.

>>9239340
spat coke all over my laptop

>>9259293
I'd go ahead and do it. They've already flaked twice and there's no concrete details so why not?

>>9259427
>>9259342
Please deets on Arizona drama.

Participating in a Secret Santa, got the bitchiest Lolita in my comm. Already has said rude things about her potential gift ("probably going to get shit") I know it won't matter what I get her she'll still complain and call me cheap. Wish I could back out....

>>9258308
>come members begging me to drag my bf to meets
> not ouji/lolita

I;m sorry anon but clearly your bf is hot and they want to steal him from you.

>>9259870
Get her actual shit, anon. There's a website for that and you can pick her favorite animal.

Or, if you want to get her an actual gift that'll reveal what a bitch she is... make a donation in her name to a charity organization.

>>9259925
>Or, if you want to get her an actual gift that'll reveal what a bitch she is... make a donation in her name to a charity organization.

This is ruthless. Do it.

>>9259841
There is none.

If you want years old drama check the archives, nothing worth going in to here.

>>9259932
>there is none
Lmao. K.

btw guise, Italianfag here. In case somebody wants to correct the spreadsheet, both Gothic Lolita Zone and Arsenico e Vecchi Merletti seem to have gone down the shitter. Does any Euro comm want to adopt this lone lolita? OTZ

You guys are all such frillfags.

>>9259925
>Or, if you want to get her an actual gift that'll reveal what a bitch she is... make a donation in her name to a charity organization.

Fucking do it anon!

>>9259925
>>9259929
>>9260226
why would that make her look like a bitch?

>>9260237
If she complains, she complains about someone donating to a charity

>>9260237
If you complain about someone helping the needy instead of you, you'll sound like a selfish bitch

>>9257397
Holy fuck I thought at first that maybe you were over exaggerating and that he just posted maybe slightly obnoxious pro Trump posts or something but Jesus fucking Christ this guy is insane

Anyone in SF want to elaborate on the lolita article just published?

>>9260396
where was it published?

>>9260419
http://www.ozy.com/fast-forward/why-lolita-fashion-is-taking-over-catwalks/72289

>>9260396
Haven't kept up with it, but most members seem to be pretty upset at how the author kept mentioning Nabokov.

>>9260396
the first comment on the article is a call-out. apparently the author just wrote whatever the fuck she wanted, even after asking the comm about lolita.

>>9260519
the writer probably found out that it's much less deviant than they anticipated, and are milking on the name to make the article more interesting.

>>9260537
that would be my guess as well. the article isn't even well-written/an interesting read even by normie standards though.

>>9260519
stopped after the descriptors of the clothing, horrible writing sounding like something a sissy came up with

>>9232597
>I kinda think it's funny that OP conflates BLM (a movement) with being a black individual.
>That's like saying all white people inherently support the kkk because of the color of their skin.

BLM supporters seem to believe exactly that. That's why they block off highways and inconvenience ordinary people with jobs instead of demonstrating outside of Police HQ or City Hall.

>>9260519
>man commenting lolita is a 'subtle move against the image of a powerful woman'
> is told lolita is women dressing for women
>'I FOUGHT MORE FOR WOMEN'S RIGHTS MORE THAN ANY OF YOU WOMEN, YOU'LL LOOK BACK ON THIS AND SEE'

These articles don't ever seem helpful

>>9259914
Diff anon but comm members have also asked me to bring my bf to more meets and amazing as he is, I wouldn't call him hot. I suspect it's because he's a pastry chef and often brings delicious homemade snacks with him that he'll usually share with the group. My comm is full of predictable self-serving hos but I love them all the same.

>>9260727
>I suspect it's because he's a pastry chef and often brings delicious homemade snacks with him that he'll usually share with the group.

To think I wasted my time working out and learning how to play guitar to get girls when the really way to their hearts is fresh baked cookies.

>>9259427
>>9259841
OP here. Not from the AZ comm, sorry! Idk if I should feel happy or sad that someone else's comm is like this too

Went to my first ever meet today. It was ok. It didn't really help that they spent 75% of the time talking about other people in the comm I had never meet before

>>9261107
welcome to lolita

>>9261107
That's usually how it works until around meet 4 or 5 (sometimes 3 if you're lucky). The more you come the more you'll get to know them and pretty soon it'll be better than okay.

>>9260738
you're extremely basic and dumb if you think knowing how to play guitar and being fit will get you girls faster than getting them delicious food

do you guys just not pay attention to all the memes even skinny chicks post about food? we love food okay. buy and/or make us food.

>>9260738
Get into chef school, feed us and then we can talk

>>9260738
>learning guitar to get girls
That stopped working after 90s teen romance movies

>>9261107
if you can, do some lurking through the history of the group on facebook (idk if thats the format of your comm but I'm assuming), it'll help you get a better idea of who's who and while if you talk about these people like you know them you MAY come off creepy you'll atleast know better about like who/what they're talking about in the future- but then again you'll probably meet those comm members in the future too so up to you

shameful whining incoming
I went to my first ever comm meetup the Saturday before Halloween at a nice restaurant, and I got there like twenty minutes before anyone showed up and that made me feel like a total dork, and then no one wanted to talk to me as girls started showing up.
When all of the girls had arrived, they all sat at a different table than me, except for two other girls who couldn't fit at their table, and two very poorly dressed boys.
I felt so embarrassed.
I really thought my coord was nice.
I really tried to make friends with everyone.
I don't think I'll ever go to another meeting.
/shameful whining

>>9261685
Seems pretty cliquey. It's shameful behavior when a comm can't even pretend to be courteous to someone new as long as they're dressed decently and act nice.

>>9261685
That's really unfortunate for a first meet, try to go to another with different people in attendance maybe?

>>9258810
I'm schitzo and this 100% sounds like me on bad days.