/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL

>have extremely limited wardrobe
>hate making decisions
>want to look cute
>can't decide what to wear
>desperately focusing on this issue instead of the actual issue which is I need to confront my friend about not going to her house cause she's a huge twat actually

ugh. I am the anon from the last thread that has issues with my friend because she attempted to force me to talk to a guy who tried to molest her.

I just want to ignore her so bad but that's what I always do when I stop talking to people unless I just completely lose my mind and yell at them which I know also isn't the way to go.

I'm so busy with school and taking care of someone who is ill. I'm starting to feel like I am going to fail at both.

>used to have a pristine house, only had a few of my favorite things
>happy relationship, more time and energy to do things
>family sends me tons and tons of junk I dont want, house is a mess
>my new job is physically exhausting, rarely have the time or energy to pick up anymore, wish I had some sort of help and motivator
>I literally just started unpacking and hanging my cosplay suitcase from anime expo yesterday
>Husband's got a work at home job that doesn't require much effort, refuses to help me clean in any way, wont bust his own plate, prepare any sort of food for himself (including cereal)
>if I ever do find time to pick up its met with teasing me for being a hoarder or a slob
>extremely discouraged by the fact I receive almost no positive reinforcement, just mostly negative reinforcement on trying to do more around the house, let alone help
>I dont even like half of the shit I own I'm just too tired and unmotivated to sort it

you know, divorce is messy, but since I've picked up this job and have gotten less time and energy to cook and clean, I've noticed the big issues in my relationship. As a person, I've noticed my laziness start to parallel his and go downhill. The scariest part of this whole thing is I doubt I'll be able to find love again, and I never truly learned to live on my own.

I've tried confronting him on the fact this upsets me, but I actually have a sort of legit retardation where I have trouble speaking- so he blows off any of my arguments as "wrong"

I'm a bitch for asking that he feeds himself, I'm a bitch for asking that he does simple tasks, like get cereal, shallow for asking he brush his hair, take care of his apperance, or bathe more than once a week. and I can't argue. I legitimately can't. its extremely upsetting.

Any time I want to go out and wear my nice jfashion again, I don't. whats the point when he looks like a complete and utter hobo next to me.

sorry for the slightly OT stuff, I just needed to vent. polite sage

>tfw living a sort of NEET life
>moved states for a job but the company fucked me over so I got a new job and quit
>just a part time job that barely has me come in
>to pay rent I donate plasma with my brother and bf
>spend the rest of my money on dresses

Its been good so far. Relaxing and happy. Too bad I move back home next year to finish school.

>>9196795
why don't you donate your eggs?

>>9196799
Donating eggs is much more difficult and tedious then donating plasma.

>>9196799
Id have to get rid of my IUD and aint no way im giving that baby up, I dont even have periods anymore!

Ive thought about it before though, its a lot harder than it seems.

>>9196753
Why did you like/marry your husband in the first place? He seems like a real manchild.

>>9196795
How much do you get for donating plasma? I'm considering it since I have the universal plasma blood type.

good feels:
>wardrobe expanding rapidly
>everything i've wanted, i've gotten
>suit the looks i want to go for because based hafu genes
>hair growing back shiny and smooth

bad feels:
>shedding weight very quickly, visibly ill again
>have to cover self harm scars with makeup because they detract from the image i want to portray
>mfw i just want to feel like a princess but my brain likes to fuck around

>>9196806
>universal plasma blood type

I didnt even know that was a thing.

But anyway depending on where you go you usually get like 5 visits where you make more than you usually do, but like where I go you can make 240 a month if you are going twice a week the whole month.

Its nice extra fluff money, and you are helping others, I just combine it with my people to cushion rent.

>>9196811
Yep.
Type O is universal blood donation.
Type AB is universal plasma donation.

>>9196814
Paid plasma donations never become plasma that gets directly transfused to patients. The centers sell it to pharmaceutical companies which separate out biologicals which are products like coagulation factors. There are several pathogen reduction steps which lower chance of transmission via your donation. It doesn't matter what type you are if you're getting paid.

Hospitals don't like using blood from paid donors for their directly transfusable inventory because one of the safeguards of the blood supply is that the donor is doing it out of moral obligation, not monetary incentive. People who donate for money are more likely to carry diseases and even though the donations get tested anyway, there are such things as false negative results and previously unknown pathogens that we don't have tests for. (The whole industry was shitting its pants over Zika before a test was rush approved.)

>>9196814
Thats very informational, cool info anon!

I'm given up on cosplay. It was fun while it lasted and I still want to craft stuff, but I don't like the community anymore and it's way too time and money consuming. No idea how to tell my cosplay friends that though...

>>9196803
As is the case with most of these relationships, people donot start being this horrible until a long while in. He was charming, well dressed and sociable when I met him, but like I said, these behaviors only started since I got a new job and have less time or energy for things. He blames the condition of the house for his Ill behavior, yet refuses to help at all.

>>9196808
sending good vibes your way anon. i'm sorry about what you go through. i hope things keep getting better.

okay, for me
good feels:
>meds are making a noticeable difference
>im able to eat more, slowly starting to regain weight which is good since id been losing a lot scarily fast and was already underweight
>realizing more what direction i want to go with my wardrobe

bad feels are literally just:
>cat got hit in front of my house, wasn't mine but i saw him often and as i was placing a blanket over his corpse which was Well within the biker lane another car came by and hit it just enough to send it flying up in the air, Thanks Brah
>feel like im never gonna find my dream dress in the cut and color i want, ever, for like forever

>>9196828
This is why you don't get married to someone before you really get to know them as a person.

Not looking forward to 2017. Will probably have to quit cosplaying next year. My sister and my two nephews are moving in with us and money is already getting tight. I want to pay more bills so I'll probably get a second job on top of school. Sucks because cons and cosplaying are the only fun things I get to do anymore. And this year was so great too.

>>9196832
Don't worry, Anon, it'll soon show up around the place. Don't forget to post on sales announcing that you're willing to buy it.

>>9196832
Dont give up anon, I just recently bought my dream dress in the right color, cut, and size.

It can happen!

>>9196833
Stuff like this is how I cant understand how people say living with your partner before marriage is a bad idea.

>>9196753
I'm sorry for you, anon. Hope everything gets on trails soon.

While at that, try to get rid of the things (objects, I mean) that you do not want. That may help you get a little better.

>>9196814
>>9196822
>Tfw also bloodtype AB, but they don't pay for donations in my county even if it's for pharmaceutical companies.
Hmm nevermind then. Helping patients out for free is nice, but companies wanting this stuff for free irks me.

>>9196833
You seemed to be blind to how abusive relationships work, so I'll explain how mine happened
>date for one year
>live together for 2 (before marriage)
>married for 1 and a half years
> took on job and problems arose a year ago, so about half a year after getting married

But if you want to believe I'm some sort of naive idiot who just jumped to marry someone without living with them first and am suprised they turned out to be a "big meanie" that's on you.

Most abusers are cunning and manipulative, and only show their most negative side after they are absolutely sure the person won't leave them, by either tying the knot or manipulating them into staying.

Sure, these types of things do happen where a girl jumps into marriage all too soon without testing him first, but I find your insinuations that I am one of these people downright insulting, and you should be educated enough to know that's not always the case.