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Last one is in autosage and almost gone.
>>9089020

>> No.9122885

>>9122883
I just realized the file is titled "gross". I have no idea why, I just randomly picked this.

>> No.9122888

>>9122885
OP might be German, it's probably just German for "big", as in the non resized version of the image.

>> No.9122908

I'm starting to get really tired of the genderspecial trend.
There are now multiple people in my local comm who insist on they/them pronouns which I refuse to use because that is dumb. I'm sure I will be ostracized for it. idc.

>> No.9122909

Aww yeah. On my way to my comm's Harry Potter meet on a streetwide event to become Diagon Alley.

>> No.9122999

I've been a lone lolita since I started. Always wanted to check out the SF comm since it's pretty close to me but I've been really busy with school and such. How are the typical meets? It seems like a big comm and I'm not sure what to expect.

>> No.9123004

>>9122908
There's one in my comm that doesn't even wear lolita anymore because it's triggering and yet they still come to meet ups in some shitty thrown together boystyle

>> No.9123012

>>9123004
I honestly don't understand how these people function. How do you explain to your employer that they need to call you ze/zir or you'll have a panic attack?
Oh wait none of them have jobs lol

>> No.9123024

>>9122883
New to Los Angeles and curious about what the Lolita and jfash communities are like.

>> No.9123060

>>9122999
There are monthly meets, which are the last sunday of every month. Those are pretty low-key and chill. People just get lunch and hang out in Japantown and take coord pics.

All other events/meets are hosted by individual members and vary in size and scope. I think most of them average around 20 or so people and cover different themes and activities (picnics, high tea, etc.). Because the Bay Area is pretty big, you tend to get certain members at certain meets depending on location but some of the bigger meets or more centrally-located ones will attract people from all over.

All of the meets I've gone to have been very pleasant. Despite being a big comm, there isn't really any drama (that I know of, at least). People talk about certain members either here or on secrets, but it rarely, if ever, leaks out into an actual meet. No one goes out of their way to be overly-dramatic or awful and people are generally really polite and nice to newbies.

>> No.9123063

>>9123024
The lolita comm is fairly active and there are events here and there. In early August there's a mystery + dinner meet that looks fun.

As far as the people go, they're friendly but don't hang around outside of their cliques much.

>> No.9123065

Can anyone give me insight into the Maryland comms?

>> No.9123356

>>9123065
I like the Charm City comm. Granted I'm pretty new and have only attended a few meets, but so far everyone seems like nice, genuine people. Give it a try. Too bad this isn't actually my closest comm, but it's worth the drive for me.

>> No.9123425

>>9123065
I have no idea about DC, but the Baltimore area comm is chill. The quality of coordinates vary ... wildly, but everyone treats each other pretty well from what I've witnessed. Meet ups vary a little bit too, especially in formality, but I've never had a bad time. Worth a shot to see if it's your thing.

>> No.9123436

>>9123356
>>9123425
Thanks, anons. I was hesitant about attending events with the Baltimore comm but I think I might give it a go. Both DC and Baltimore are pretty much equal distance from where I live.

>> No.9123465

>>9123425
DC is the same. They're all nice and the coords vary greatly. I wish they had more meets though.

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>>9122885
I know why it's titled "gross"
>black petti peek
>socks to the calf
>those shoes
>oh god those shoes

>> No.9123471

>>9123356
>>9123425
Would either of these comms be welcoming to someone new who is interested but wants to learn more before buying anything? I'm a marylander too looking for buddies.

>> No.9123480

Depends on the meet but I believe so, yes. I wouldn't recommend showing up at a formal weekend meet in normal clothes, but they have ones during the rest of the week that seem pretty laid back. I think there was one just a few days ago like that, that specifically said you could wear anything, but I didn't attend. Generally in the event description it would say if other J-fashion or casual dress is okay. There is one next week like that, you should go! Also there will be be a swap meet at Otakon if you're going, and of course people will be in cosplay and other attire, so you could show up to that one however and maybe pick up a few pieces to start out. Everyone is very friendly, feel free to post on the facebook page too and I'm sure you'll get nothing but kind responses. I'm new to the area and looking to make friends also and they have treated me very well.

>> No.9123482

>>9123480
oops meant to quote
>>9123471

>> No.9123483

>>9123471
>>9123480
Seconding the swap meet at Otakon, I'm selling a few things and wouldn't mind helping you out and teaching you a bit about the fashion. I kinda just love explaining everything to people lol.

>> No.9123484

>>9123471
I would recommend showing up to the monthly dinner meet. It's super casual and actually wearing lolita is optional. People also bring items to sell. It's a great meet up for beginners to get acquainted with the comm.

>> No.9123493

>>9123480
>>9123482
>>9123483
>>9123484
Thank you so much you all seem very kind and I would be happy to learn more. I am just so shy, but you all sound fantastic. I definitely have a lot to learn and am willing to learn for sure. I will be at otakon this year so I will try and lookout for you all.

>> No.9123495

I've been a lone lolita for a couple of years now I've been thinking of joining the Southern Ontario Lolita Comm? How is it?

>> No.9123502

>>9123063
Not that same anon, but another LA dweller. The cliques are a problem. I've remained a lone lolita in spite of going to a few meetings because the cliques make it ridiculously hard to make friends. If you're not in their circle they won't be interested in talking to you much more than one word replies desu.

>> No.9123610

>>9123502
Same, it's very difficult and has gotten worse over the years. And it seems to me that a lot of the girls only pay attention to you if you're efame.

>> No.9123634

>>9123610
I started attending meets with the OC and SD girls and was able to break in a bit with everyone starting to have mutual friends but still don't know the main LA crew very well. I'm totally down to make some friends through here though, if anyone wants to drop an email.

>> No.9123891

>>9123004
They find Lolita triggering but still come to meets? What the actual fuck. What a complete moron.

>> No.9123896

I love my local comm, but we have lately had a influx of newbies who have horrible personalities and dress like utter shit. Makes me want to start avoid meets they attend. I can't be be bothered dealing with their shit.

>> No.9123932

>>9122908
I hear you, anon. I absolutely refuse to use gender neutral pronouns for special snowflakes because I think it makes a mockery of actual trans people. If someone says they're gender binary or whatever, I avoid them like the plague.

>> No.9123938

>>9123012
You'd be surprised. Most employers these days will cater to any and all stupid gender issues because they're terrified of lawsuits and society as a whole still doesn't know a lot about trans people , so it's hard for most to know where the line is between genuine trans person and special snowflake trend hopper. I think that's why people get away with this shit in comms. In mine virtually everyone hates this kind of shit, but are way too afraid to say anything out of fear of being laboed a big got and possibly getting banned for "discrimination".

I really wish we could be done with all this "gender is a spectrum~" bullshit and that it wasn't socially unacceptable to point out the biological reality of male=penis and female=vagina as long as you weren't being a bigot about it. Yeah, if you're a biological male who wears dresses and lives life like a traditional female, I see no problem in calling you one and letting you use the girl's bathroom or whatever, but these ~gender fluid~ types who just want to be unique need a reality check that their genitals dictate what their gender more than they want to accept.

>> No.9124358

>>9123932
It certainly doesn't help that most of the genderspecials are people already known for being massive attention whores. I could make a list of all the people in my comm I expect to "come out" as "non-binary" in the near future and it'd be pretty accurate.
I agree it makes a mockery of trans issues, however it seems like an extremely large proportion of actual trans people are perfectly okay with random cis people declaring nounself pronouns. If I didn't know enough trans people who just want to get on with their lives, I'd seriously question the legitimacy of this movement.

>> No.9124371

>>9123004
There is someone in my comm that was triggered by people calling lolita fashion feminine

>> No.9124377

>>9123610
You'll be lucky if anyone from LA bothers to say hello to you. I stopped going to their events a while back because I didn't feel welcome. I tried talking and introducing myself to others and that would be the extent of our conversation because they seemed to not want to talk to me. I feel better knowing this isn't an isolated incident.

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>>9124371
That is literally the point of lolita, to be massively feminine. JFC

>> No.9124446

>>9123896
That's con season every year for our comm. We kind of go advertise our comm at the local anime cons and I wish we didn't because all it seems to do is bring in spazzy itas. Luckily most of them fizzle out on their own after a while.

>> No.9124522

>>9124377
It's sad, but the best way to get "in" with the LA cliques is to make friends with someone who is already "in" and have them introduce you. It's really stupid that they act like that these days, but at least at big events it doesn't matter terribly.

If it's not too bad of a drive, the OC comm is a good alternative. They're very friendly (though perhaps a but less well-dressed) and welcoming. SD is also large, active, and friendly, but too much of a drive for most people unless it's a bigger event.

>> No.9124563

>>9124371
Had that happen in our comm as well.

>> No.9124566

My comm is such trash sometimes. One of our members decided to go to the effort of planning a meet even though it's really hot outside and so far we have:
>someone bitching because they live 8+ hours away from where the majority of our members live
>someone who wants to come but doesn't own any lolita or even cutesy clothes (and is also a notorious drama monger in the local cosplay comm)
>someone asking to bring their baby

This hasn't even been up for two hours, the girl planning it is super nice and just wants the comm to have fun.

>> No.9124570

>>9124566
Why is the person that lives 8+ hours away even allowed in your comm?

>> No.9124575

>>9124570
It's a statewide comm for a large state with not a lot of people. People keep hinting that they should make their own comm because there's a couple of them in the same area and can include the people out in the boonies of the neighboring state as well.

>> No.9124590

>>9124371
this a tell-tale sign of internalized misogyny.

they want all of the privilege of maleness plus all of the fun of femininity, minus the stigma of female sexuality. it is frankly insulting to femme bio-males.

>> No.9124607

So glad my comm is finally planning more events. Before Atlanta comm wasn't doing much other than the staple yearly events (cookie meet, high tea, etc.) but now it seems like they're picking up the pace.

>> No.9124621

>>9124446
My comm runs a pretty big lolita 101 panel at the local comm every year and honestly I'm really surprised - knock on fucking wood but we usually don't get much of a huge influx of random weebs at meets. They might join the FB group but in terms of attending meets there really haven't been any spazzy itas that have joined. When we do get new members who come to meets usually they're pretty chill and end up being dressed just fine. I suppose my comm is lucky that way, although I'm afraid that we're overdue and that our luck may end soon. Again, knock on wood.

>> No.9124665

>>9124590
>>>tumblr

>> No.9124728

>>9124566
Idaho

>> No.9124985

I've been to several meets with my comm now and they're very nice. Except the last few meets, we've been in pretty crowded public places, and I noticed they tend to speak inappropriately at times. It's usually just loud swearing, but someone even managed to bring up yaoi last time and I just kind of sat there wanting to die. I was trying to find a good spot to latch on and derail the conversation, but I just didn't know how. The worst of it is mostly just swearing within earshot of families with children.
I feel this can give a bad impression to normies about lolita, but I don't know how to ask people to stop without sounding like a patronizing bitch. It's not like it's a bunch of ita weebs, it's regulars and sometimes the mods. Any ideas, or should I just try to disassociate in public with the people who do this?

>> No.9125004

This is such a dumb question, but as a lone lolita, how do I break into a comm? I'm in the comm group, but when they put events up I chicken out because the same handful of people seem to go every time. I don't know these girls. I feel like it would be too weird to message one of them on facebook and suddenly start a conversation about, well, nothing. I'm much better at doing stuff in person but all of the meets have been very 'chummy' meets. I'm not sure what to do. Should I throw myself into the deep end or just quietly fade out? I'm so anxious that I'd show up and no one will say a word to me. Our styles are pretty different as well.

>> No.9125014

>>9125004
I would make a post on the event page of the next meet you plan to go to. Let them know you're new to their comm and that you'd like to make it to the meet. See if anyone responds and message them to ask what to expect! I joined my comm months before I found the courage to make it to one of their small monthly meets, and they were welcoming.

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>>Too sick to go to meet
>>Pics of the meet show up
>>Everyone is trying to be themed and ending up massively ita
>>Thank god I didn't go to that meet

>> No.9125019

>>9124522
SD has much nicer people in comparison to LA. I wish I lived closer to SD because I like their events and the people in it a lot better.

>> No.9125020

>>9124621
Edmonton comm?

>> No.9125026

>>9125019
Same, there are a ton of well-dressed girls that have been around a long time. I definitely look up to a lot of them.

>> No.9125063

>>9125020
nah, east coast usa.

>> No.9125111

>>9123425
I live in between DC and Baltimore and I go to meets in both comms. Charm City has girls who have known each other and have been doing lolita for longer, whereas DC has more people who are new to the area and new to lolita. Everyone's always very nice to each other though, we generally don't have much drama in either of the communities.

>> No.9125120

>>9125004

>how do I break into a comm

Well I imagine you could decoden your lock pick case, maybe add some lace to a balaclava to hide your face, and wear gothic to blend in with the shadows?

>> No.9125127

>>9124621
I run lolita panels usually, but I rarely see the attendees show up to meets. The difference between lolita 101 and the panel that I usually do is spending a lot more time on how and where to buy, and bringing samples of what happens when you google "lolita dress" and try to buy one, or get a cheap replica. I think that tends to help people a little more.

>> No.9125131

>>9125120
somebody needs to draw this, stat

>> No.9125137

Minnesotafag here, does anybody know if any of the lolita comms in MN are worth checking out?

>> No.9125153

>>9124371
Is it a female saying this?

>> No.9125241

>>9125153
Probably. White cis girls are usually the most likely to pull "I'm trans but I have no intention of actually transitioning" type nonsense

>> No.9125245

>>9123495
at meets theyre friendly and inviting but the FB page is like two people using it as their personal page and posting random shit so its hard to get chatting

>> No.9125272

>>9124985
Well you just used a swear word in your post so I'm curious as to what your issue with them using them? Are they just really loud?
Maybe they don't care and there's nothing you can do?
I'm always confused when I see these posts. Like aren't we all past the "lolitas are lovelies" shit?
Or are you wanting to pretend?

>> No.9125305

>>9125272
You realize that when you become an adult there's a certain level of decency you should have when in public right? Don't have to be "lovely" but have some class, especially if you're out with others looking like weirdos.

>> No.9125307

>>9124985
Aside from your mention of loud public swearing, which is always inappropriate no matter what the case. I would feel no shame in politely requesting that they consider limiting their profanity within earshot of others.

On your other complaint, I don't know how to suggest you steer the conversation differently. If the majority of your comm is participating in the conversation on BL instead of sitting there awkwardly waiting for a topic change there's not much you can do, since they all share similar interests. Maybe next time try to turn the topic of conversation to a fandom you're a part of? You might find like minded people, and if they're comfortable enough to openly talk about thei BL interests, then they likely have other fandoms they're a part of.

But honestly, I don't understand the "giving ab bad impression to normies" thing, unless it's in reference to living doll and dd/lg stuff. Lolita is a loud and in your face fashion, chances are a lot of people that have the courage to wear it in public are loud and in your face in other ways too.

>> No.9125316

>>9125305
Seriously this. When you're out in public at least try acting like you have a bit of class and public training instead of acting like trash because you're swearing like a sailor so loud everyone within earshot can hear you. Not a lolita thing, just a normal person thing.

>> No.9125317

>>9125272
Hey, I swear all the time, but I don't unload in public. Swearing is pretty normal but there's a level of what is socially acceptable. Loudly swearing like a sailor for no particular reason doesn't make you seem like a regular old person, it makes you come off a bit inappropriate and tasteless. Don't need to call everyone lemondrops and speak like a princess from a children's fairytale picture book, but if you're a huge group on public transport or walking through a museum IMO there's a basic level of decency and respect for those around you that you should try to maintain.

>> No.9125320

>>9124665
>doesn't understand sarcasm.

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> sees event for tea party at upcoming local convention on FB
> "Oh boy, a tea party I can go to!"
> clicks on event page
> description and tea party theme is extremely cringeworthy
> ...maybe I'll just continue being a lone lolita

>> No.9125331

>>9125019
I've only been to a SD meet once (haven't been to an LA meet yet) while visiting from out of town, and I agree. The girls I met were super nice and polite. It makes me wish I actually lived there so I could go to more of their meets.

>> No.9125332

>>9125016
Was it a HP meet?

>> No.9125336

>>9122908
Same here. As much as I really love supporting the LGBT community, this whole thing is starting to become too much. The majority of people I see who call themselves ~non-binary~ and use they/them pronouns are cis girls who are feminine as hell, and I feel like they're just doing it for attention, too. It makes the rest of the LGBT community look bad and trivializes situations like, you know, anti-LGBT hate crimes. I feel like I can't say this stuff either because I'm friends with a lot of people who support the community as well.

>> No.9125338

>>9125153
>>9125241
It was actually a guy

>> No.9125367

>>9125332
It might have been.

>> No.9125544

>>9125320
>expecting someone to read into a tone that isn't there

>> No.9125547

>>9125305
>>9125316
Guess it depends on where you live, then. This isn't an issue where I live. I recently quit a restaurant job where I would sometimes play pretty offensive music and one of my coworkers tried to complain to me about it but I always asked the parents of families if they were okay with the music and they were.
I also used to play MtG in a Denny's with some friends late at night and sometimes a newbie would join our game from the game store we went to and would try to shush us for cursing and talking about "inappropriate" things because children were sitting near by and it was never an issue for other people sitting near by, just the person who was afraid of others around them.

I guess I've just seen lots of people not give a fuck about what others are doing so I assume they aren't actually paying attention.
The only time outsiders care about anything a lolita is doing is when they don't know what the person is wearing and they're curious. That's all I've ever seen happen and the girls in my comm aren't exactly "classy".

>> No.9125619

>>9125323
same thing happened to me this week (anon are u from my desert city o shit) and i just get so sick of stupid themes for every meet. can't we just have a regular old tea party for once. ._.

>> No.9125620

>>9125019
i agree with this, too; I came to the SD comm from recently moving to the area and everyone was really really nice.

>> No.9125628

i am fairly new to my comm, im friends with some girls on fb that i have met IRL but there are many active ones I see on fb that I haven't met. sometimes these different ones plan events or meets and the event will say it's "an event for __our group name__" but I won't be on the "invited" list - I realize it's because I'm not friends with the planners - but I'm afraid to go to these meets even tho they're for our comm group, and I don't know if it's weird to go to someone's party or their home or their planned event etc if I haven't met them. Sometimes I will be invited to an existing event by an admin and I think it just doesn't always happen.

This is so long sorry but I'm too embarrassed to just straight up ask someone else I DO know "hey can I go to that? it's a public even "for our comm?" and I guess I was looking for some form of advice.

>> No.9125633

>>9125619
I think so! C's just trying way too hard at this point to promote the theme, even down to her replies on other people's posts, and it's putting me off even more. It's not like this comm is already cringeworthy enough.

>> No.9125642

>>9125628

The event's hosted through the group, right? Apparently the invitation list is fucked up with larger group and it won't invite everyone.

>> No.9125655

>>9125628
I would say it was pretty weird to go to someone's meet at their house if you don't know them. Honestly I wouldn't even invite people I didn't know. Have you actually been invited or can you just see the event on FB?

>> No.9125716

>>9125305
This. I'm so sick of the edgelords in my comm who think that since we look odd anyway, we might as sit go around screaming about fucking and dicks at the fancy restaurant. It would be cringy in a t-shirt and jeans and it's cringy in lolita. Grow up.

>> No.9125725

>>9125628
If your facebook group for your comm has over 250 members, the invites will only go to the organizer's friends in that group. I think it may be different if a group admin starts the event. We have this problem in our comm and it's really frustrating.

>> No.9125736

>>9124371
Did you tell them they're retarded?

>> No.9125742

Has anyone new to a comm ever had people recognize you from the internet when you went for the first time? What was it like? I'm decently efamous and checked out the pages of some of the girls in the comm in my new city, and a few reblog me a lot. I'm a little worried about getting the "senpai" treatment I've heard stories about.

>> No.9125811

>>9125742
Maybe don't overthink it - if it should happen, just tell them to please behave normally.

>> No.9125822

Not sure if this is worth starting a new thread for, so I'll throw it here. Myself and the other mods were considering putting together a fancy but small-scale event for the comm since we've never had anything like that before. The problem is that we just don't know where to begin. We don't have a date set in stone so we can take as long as we need to organise it, but we just don't know how to go about it, what it should feature, etc. We'd probably have 40 attendees at the very most if we keep it within the comm.
Has anyone here had a part in putting together Lolita events for communities that are beyond the regular meetup, and is there any advice you'd be able to give?

>> No.9125846

How old are most people in your comm? It seems like most comms are either teenagers or 25+.

>> No.9125850

>>9123024
I'm gonna be the different one here. I don't have any close friends (nor am I looking for one) in the LA comm and fairly new. I managed to make new acquiantances who wanted to hang out with me at PMX despite me being a complete nobody. They approached me first. At the few meets I went to, I go by myself and end up plopping at a table that has room. I have good conversations with them. I wouldn't call them friends but they do come up and say hi to me despite me being shy and wondering if they even remember me and trying to avoid them because I'm awkward. I wouldn't call them too clique-y. But I do notice that certain groups mainly hang out together.

>> No.9125854

>>9125742
Ive had the reverse happen. Im the nobody, and a semi efamous lolita seemed butthurt everytime i passed her at an event/con and i didnt say hi or knowledge her with more than a smile . Im fairly new to the area, I follow her and like her stuff but im awkward as fuck and im not a native speaker so i didnt want to embarrass myself.

>> No.9125913

>>9125846
Afaik I'm one of the youngest active people in my comm (21 years old). Most of the girls are either at or above that age, with our oldest being around 30 years old. There is one girl in my comm who just graduated high school, but she isn't very active.

>> No.9125922

>>9124985
I tend to swear the same amount in lolita as I do in normie clothes, if not less. I get that not ~all lolitas are supposed to be lovelies~, but at the same time, intentionally cussing out loud constantly just to prove that you're an edgelord is really annoying. We already have a lot of attention on us just for dressing completely out of the norm. We don't need any more extra and unnecessary attention drawn to us. It just makes us look really bad.

>> No.9125940

>>9125619
Deets?

>> No.9125950

>>9125846
Mine is probably 40% working ladies in their mid 20s-early 30s, 40% college students, and 20% outliers (high school students and over 35s).

>> No.9126101

>>9125642
>>9125725
Yeah I think this is the problem; the group is big despite only a small # of actives, sometimes events are made by non-admin. Thes will say "Event for [Group]" but only have ~50 invited, assumed all their friends. It drives me crazy bc sometimes admin invite me to them and sometimes they don't and I'm not sure if I'm not welcome if I'm not "invited". (I can still join though; they aren't private)

>>9125655
Sort of a mix. Some are at their home and I'm invited; those aren't really the question. birthday parties or events near / possibly at their home / regular outings in public that are "for our group" that I'm not invited to but have the ability to join the event? if I made a party at my home I wouldn't make it a public event for the reason you mentioned; I'd make it a private event for people I know

>tfw social media causes social anxiety

>> No.9126184

>>9125736
That would have caused an even bigger sjw shitstorm

>> No.9126189

>>9126101
If an event has been made already and they didn't select "invite all members" there is no way to go back and invite people that you are not friends with (even if you are an admin). Unless your comm is really fucked up then any event made for the comm is fair game. They probably just don't know what they are doing when it comes to making an event.

>> No.9126547

>>9123065
I've been meaning to go to a charm city meet since a few of the girls seem nice. DC seems dead though.

>> No.9128553

any comms in FL?

>> No.9128589

>>9125742
Sometimes if I go to a meet someone will be like "I follow you online!" And I'm like "cool thanks" and usually I'll ask to follow them back. That's all really.

>> No.9129126

I was wondering what do people know about the Lolita comm near Tampa/Orlando area? I might be moving there within the next month and kind of would like to know about the local comm.

>> No.9129252

>>9128553
There's the South Florida EGL comm. Fairly small compared to other comms, but it's pretty friendly and drama-free.

>> No.9129273

>>9128553
Tallahassee, northwest, jacksonville, central Florida. Gainesville has a Facebook page but it is dead.

>> No.9129325

>>9125338
Give him a reality check

>> No.9129331

are some comms in georgia that are drama-free?

>> No.9129409

>>9129331
haha

>> No.9129420

>>9129409
I figured
I need to go to another state

>> No.9129828 [DELETED] 

not lolita but cosplay, we have a guy in our comm that threatens people with physical harm every time someone dislikes his girlfriends cosplays or some shit. He's even threatened with ruining peoples lives, leaving them in wheelchairs etc. desu it was so aggravating that a couple of people (including myself) have decided to take a break from the comm.

>> No.9129835

>>9129828
these threads are for lolita communities.

>> No.9130107

I just moved, and I realized that the comm I'm about to join is much smaller and has less events than my previous one. It bums me out because I'm used to at least 2 events happening every month and some major holiday events planned months ahead of time + a very active Facebook group. It's weird because we are in a much larger city, but I think my old comm just had mods who did a tremendous job of recruiting people and coordinating with other comms.

Without stepping on anyone's toes, I want to help keep the comm lively by planning more little (+ maybe one big) events, with the permission and blessing of the mods.

How many of you guys are moderators for your communities? Do you hate it when members try to plan events on their own with the aim of expanding the comm (in terms of membership but also to diversify the kinds of events hosted), especially if they're new? I appreciate the work of the mods at my new comm, but I would just love to see it really grow in the way I saw the mods in my old community do.

>> No.9130292

>>9130107
I'm a mod for my local comm and I think if it was someone I'd never met/heard of suddenly making a big event it would come across a bit odd. But you obviously have great intentions and want to make your new comm better, which is great! Maybe go to a few meets/chat to mods before mentioning organising anything?

>> No.9130492

How active/large is the SA comm? Moving soon and would love to get involved. I've heard they're pretty nice!

>> No.9130500

>>9130492
SA as in San Antonio?

>> No.9130531

Potentiality moving out of country next year. Don't know what I'm going to do about a comm since I don't know conversational, only basics like "where's the bathroom" etc.
Do I go lone lolita? Or do I try to find a comm and pray someone speaks English? How do you even get into an international comm?

>> No.9130534

>>9130531
Honestly it would be a great thing for your conversational skills to try to get into your new comm

The best way to learn fast is to be immersed. I would try to find one lolita that could speak english though and see if they would be willing to let you in and kind of work with you through your language barrier

>> No.9130538

>>9130531
Depending on the country you're moving to, you might find a lot of people who speak English quite well. Also like >>9130534 said, it would be a great opportunity to learn. A girl from the US joined my non-Anglophone comm a few years ago with zero local language skills and now she speaks it very well.

>> No.9130566

>>9130534
>>9130538
That true! Hopefully they'll be willing to give me a chance. I'm still a bit worried about prejudice and the like, but I've worked in the tourism industry and have had good interactions with them as travelers. But I guess we'll see!

>> No.9131585

When your comm puts a meet together, is it thrown to the community out of the blue, ready-made, time and date set, or do people vote on the best day?

I've been trying the latter since the turnout wasn't fantastic for a while, but it feels so drawn out and then even people who voted for the selected day drop out anyway.

>> No.9131587

>>9131585
some have a set time and date if it's a super casual thing like "hey let's walk around downtown and just hang out at a cafe", but meets that require reservations like going out to eat at a restaurant usually have the vote thing.

>> No.9131593

>>9125846
Mine is pretty much 18-36 year olds. There's one active girl who is still in high school, maybe another, but for the most part everyone is either a college student, working young adult, or a working adult.

>> No.9131635

>>9130531
Ilook on the comm spread sheet. If they have a country comm page, ask in the page/ do a bit of scrolling to find the smaller ones. I'm a little bit further than your position. I moved recently but just before I did I joined the country's comm page where occasional people would visit and post in English "are people wanting to meet In this city between these dates? I'm on vacation here! " and would likely get linked to a nearby comm. I also checked out events posted to the page which are normally hosted by a comm. through that I found the "state" comm as well as the city I'm closest to comm. I've went as far as to contact mod, in their native tongue asking if it would be okay if I joined them with my poor language skills but because my writing is way better than speaking and conversating I haven't gone because now I fear they'll just think I was being humble.

>> No.9131638

>>9131635
Also I'll add most people do speak a bit of English. I think It's safe to say at least one person will be pretty fluent, the rest probably know a bit but are too embarrassed. Some countries you might not have any problems at all such as Denmark and the Netherlands (at least in my experience)

>> No.9131646

>>9130500
South Australia

>> No.9131652

>>9130492
>>9131646
SA comm is good! Everyone is lovely and we're fairly active with at least bi monthly meets.
When you join though, make sure you read the about section.

>> No.9131653

>>9125241
I have found it to more be men that do this then women. I'm white female that dresses feminine and kinda boyish and still identify as female. Doesn't matter if I like to eat muff and ride dick. I'm not "polysexual agender they/them" I'm a Lolita and I dress in a fashion directed at women to look feminine. I'm soo done with this transgender trend. It's just as annoying as chocomint fluffy star clips in ott sweet.

>> No.9131699

>>9131653
These people have way too much time on their hands
I'm probably technically pan but I don't care enough to sit down and figure it out much less tell everyone within earshot. These people need to get the fuck over themselves

>> No.9131722

Are there any comms in the peach state, specifically Atlanta?

>> No.9131723

>>9131722
oh boy...

>> No.9131784 [DELETED] 

>>9131699
It's tumblr politics and rhetoric. The "news" you find on there is very biased and they only tell you what they want you to know to support their agenda. Many news casts are like this, but with research you can get better answers and learn a lot of shit that is false. But the sjw misandrist-I mean- feminist never kissed a girl lesbians want you to feel like you're shit for being straight. I mean I'm what ever the fuck I am but I'm not making sure the world knows I eat muff and suck dick. That's between me and my partners. You can call me he, she, they if you want. But when I'm wearing Lolita, I'm not gonna blast you for calling me "the wrong pronouns" because I "identify as male". Idgaf.

>> No.9131797

>>9131722
Do yourself a favor and go lone. I'm not even in the comm and I know they have buckets of drama. See >>9129331 and >>9129409
for reference.

>> No.9131951

There's a girl in my comm who always says she's going to a meetup and then flake out shortly before the day of the meetup. She's even flaked out a couple hours before a meetup as well. I swear, if this girl was my friend outside lolita, I wouldn't invite her to any of my shit at all. That's how expected this behavior is from her.

>> No.9131971

>>9131951
I hate that, especially when a reservation for a venue is involved.

Similarly, there's a girl in my comm who, when we brainstorm on where to hold the next meet, will always add her opinion. But then she never RSVPs or changes it to "Not Going", mostly because of the cost of such places. Bitch, if you can't afford it then don't say that you'd like to go there.

>> No.9131981

>>9131951
So? People got shit to do outside of lolita

>> No.9131989

>>9131981
Then plan your schedule like a normal fucking adult? jfc
I'm with >>9131951 this is annoying as fuck.

>> No.9131990

>>9131971
There's a girl in my comm who RSVPs to like 70% of the meets but I've never seen her at one

>> No.9132015

>>9131981
No, this shit is ridiculous. Once in a while, sure, it's understandable if it's for something legit like illness or other family situations that pop up suddenly. But every fucking time?! One of the comm mods is like this in my comm, and it's really gross. And i's not for things like being sick, she's definitely cancelled in the past for an alternative event that she's shared on her facebook. I just assume she's never coming anymore, her RSVP means nothing.

>> No.9132025

I feel bad. I've never flaked on a pre- paid meet but then again I've only gone to one like that. In a year I have attended only 3 meets.
I have horrible luck. On the day of or before a meet everything goes wrong. Sickness. Family drama with my sister fleeing drug rehab. Co-workers quitting by not showing up for their shift. Just really horrible luck with making it to meets.
Luckily my comm is still inviting me to most things at this point, but I still feel bad.

>> No.9132028

>>9132025
Its not that they're inviting you, its just too much trouble not to.

I'm really just kidding though, I dont feel that way when i make meets, i just get real skeptical of the perpetual flakes, but no real ill will.

>> No.9132030

>>9131951
About half of my comm do that on the regular now, it's infuriating. It's no problem if someone can't go, but dropping out the day before, or indeed, the morning of, is piss poor unless it's an urgent case.
When people can't turn up they'll often leave a message on the event page but won't mark themselves as "not going" so I have to manually change the attendance or risk miscalculating for bookings.

>>9131990
We have a girl who hasn't been to a meet in five years but she says maybe to every. single. one. and then posts a few days before like "aw sorry I have work, I'll make it next time!" like bitch nobody is expecting you to turn up just mark yourself as not going.

>> No.9132042

>>9124371
A girl in our community once said that beards and mustaches are not masculine in any way and are gender neutral. Anyone could have a beard...

What world are these people living in

>> No.9132044

>>9131585
Our comm had a poll for an upcoming meet two or three weeks back and about 15 people said they'd go on the most popular day. Event made, 3 people attending, meet is this week. People are shit.

>> No.9132045

>>9132042
i've met women with facial hair, though. as in, they have to shave every once in a while or otherwise they get a beard.

and i'm not talking about transgender women.

so technically, yes, anyone can have a beard. it's still considered masculine, though, because it's caused by testosterone.

>> No.9132046

>>9132042
>Anyone could have a beard...

I mean, theyre not wrong on that one.

>> No.9132058

You all take this too seriously. If it's a reservation at a place or a potluck I understand. But if its an open free event, whatever? Things come up.

>> No.9132060

>>9132058
Yeah things come up, but it's still really shitty to leave it until the night before. As a regular host, it's really annoying to have people cancel at the last minute, even if it's not a reservation type affair. It's really rude i.m.o., and it makes you feel like you're wasting your time hosting events when people are so happy to flake out.

>> No.9132074

>>9132060
Except the local lolitas aren't your posse? Especially if you don't talk 1 on 1. Just appreciate who does attend, you'll probably get along with them more.

>> No.9132121

>>9131722
As long as there's H active
The comm is never drama free

>> No.9132134

Where do you all usually host meets? I have the hardest time as one of the only event planners in my comm finding venues sometimes because I live in a shitty apt. Currently really excited though cause the Michael's crafts store will allow you to use their classroom for free, so craft meets are infinitely easier to make happen now.

>> No.9132536

>>9132134
Jo-Ann's does the same thing! Someone brought it up in my comm, but we never got around planning it. I really want to rent out a gallery or event space above a restaurant for winter lolita day.

In my comm, meets usually revolve around a local event or holiday or local historic site - places like gardens/parks, restaurants (there are a couple of tea houses), antique shops, and museums.

We're a pretty spread out group, so we try to host it in different cities in the region. We're pretty lucky that one of the mods live in an spacious turn of the century home, so we've had teas and crafting at her place a couple of times. Gonna try for a game night at some point.

>> No.9132628

>>9131653
I can't stand the transtrender shit. I have a real Trans friend who struggles every day to be accepted as a female. Meanwhile, a high school friend jumped on the transtrender train and swears she's a they and only wears dresses and lady clothes because she's femme. Um OK. She goes on tirades about being called by her biological pronoun, despite there being any reason for someone to think otherwise. Get out of the way transtrender, you're making a laughing stock of yourself and it harder for real transsexuals to exist.

>> No.9132711 [DELETED] 

>>9132628
I've known countless transtrenders and not a single actual trans person. Honestly, my experiences with transtrenders have been so over the top awful that I now approach everyone I meet with gender identity issues with extreme caution, and will not try to seriously befriend them until I've known them long enough to establish they're not pieces of shit. So far, I haven't met anyone who hasn't very quickly set up red flags. I also avoid anyone who wears lolita while claiming to be ftm.

I feel bad about this because I know it literally makes me transphobic, but I don't know what else to do to protect myself from these psychos. All of my experiences with them have been so bad that I don't even post them in relevant story threads because I'm sure half the people would say they're fake, they're that awful. I used to consider myself such a strong trans rights advocate and I still am, but people have taken the movement into such a ridiculous place that I don't even want to be associated with it past supporting them having rights.

>> No.9132713
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9132713

I'm moving to Ohio next year and wondering what kind of com is it.
Are they nicely dressed? Have lots of newbies? Monthly meet ups? Any dramu? Faces to know? Any other interesting deets?

I love my current com and feel like it's going to be hard to transition. However, moving is inevitable so I want to adapt and hopefully my friends out there too.

>> No.9132714

>>9132713
*make friends out there too.

Woops

>> No.9132723

>>9132628
This soundd like my former best friend from high school. She started up my hatred for them.

>>9132711
You're not alone. I am the same way and avoid them if possible. I too have never met one who's seriously struggling and I cannot stand them. I always worry about trying to join a comm because I'm afraid of that kind of shit running rampant.

>> No.9132757

>>9132628
Was your friend one of those people that said they where gay/lesbian 8 years ago when that was trendy?

>>9132711
It wouldn't make you transphobic if you don't want to deal with the crazy of "trans" because of the trend. It would be if you where like that around actual trans people. Most of the people in communities that are the "trans" that we are talking about are not trans. If someone's trans, you will never know it because they simply won't introduce themselves letting you know their preferred pronouns. True trans people act like normal people and don't "prove" to you they are trans.

>> No.9132800

>https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Olq4yUQvdiA

Speaking of MD comms... why is my comm so cringey...

>> No.9132820

>>9132800
That video was so awkward & unnecessary...

>> No.9132824

>>9132800
A lot of them seem to have a long ways to go, but a good portion of them look alright. Infinitely better than my comm. That's not saying much though.

>> No.9132933

>>9132800
A few nitpicks and bad choices here and there but everyone looks pretty solid. Biggest issue is the wobbly camera. Not even close to a cringey comm

>> No.9132962

>>9132713
I wished there were more meetups. We have a number of members who are too busy in their work lives, dropped off the radar, or quit in the last year.

>> No.9133039

>>9132711
I'm the same way. They seem to all be invariably fucking nuts so the minute someone tells me they prefer they/them, or are definitely a guy while making no effort to look anything like a guy I just peace out.
I just mean transtrenders, all the actual trans people I know are fine
I'm curious to hear some of your stories

>> No.9133171

>>9131652
Fantastic! Thanks for the info!

>> No.9133221
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9133221

Wasn't sure if this was the best place but I couldn't find any non-Japan centered travel things and I figure anons from DC/near DC could offer some tips.

I want to travel to DC this Fall/early Winter and see the sights for 2-4 days and was wondering if there's anything I should see or do that's lolita/Jfashion or just outright weeb related. I know there's a Chinatown in DC but I couldn't really find what shops are in it much less if there's anything like a Daiso or anything Jfashion related.

>> No.9133237

>>9133221
Chinatown is a dump. It's all cheap, dirty restaurants... there's really no shopping. Also be prepared to be swarmed by ice hockey fans. Chinatown is right around the corner from the Verizon Center and you'll be going during the Washington Capitals' hockey season. I hate to say it but as someone that's lived here my entire life there really is nothing J-fash related here. We do have an annual cherry blossom festival and Japanese cultural festival but that was in the spring.

>> No.9133241

>>9132711
As an ftm guy who likes lolita, I actually feel exactly the same way as you too. I don't know if I'd ever feel comfortable enough to wear it, but I like seeing people put together coords and I've done some photoshoots with friends fully dolled up, and it was really fun. If I ever tried to join a comm, it would probably be as a volunteer photographer... would a comm even want that?
I've been on HRT for over two years and am about to get my legal name change this year, and for some reason, my friends think they should TOTALLY introduce their trans friends to me at conventions and it is the most uncomfortable shit because it is ALWAYS a girl in a female cosplay who is introduced as a boy and I can just SMELL the tumblr on them. And they usually seem uncomfortable around me too, which is kind of ironic. I just want to be removed as far away from these people as possible please for the love of god stop bringing them to be because you think we have something in common

>> No.9133259

>>9133237
Well that sucks. Are there any restaurants you'd recommend at the very least? Like anything dumpling/steam bun which are my addictions. I guess I'll stick to the museums and the zoo which is why I wanted to go in the first place so I'm not too disappointed.

>> No.9133386

>>9133259
Use yelp and find a hole in the wall dim sum place if you're set on steamed buns.
The other anon is just a poor sport, you can have fun just about anywhere in SF.

>> No.9133411

>>9133386
They're talking about DC

>> No.9133489

What's SD comm like? I heard there was some drama years back, is it gone?

>> No.9133596

>>9133241
This is interesting to me because, it seems like most non-tumblr trans generally go along with transtrender crap.
I've wondered if it's because they actually agree with it or just out of courtesy or something
And yeah volunteer photogs are pretty much welcome I think?

>> No.9133710

>>9130107
I don't mod, but I'm in a fairly small comm and the mod lets me host monthly events when I think of something. I don't know if she likes me but she's really nice and seemed to really enjoy a couple of the meets. Plus it's stressful planning a meetup and I think she appreciates the help since she's the only mod
>>9131585
I got a much better turnout when the meet was planned a month in advance and presented with everything worked out. When I waited longer and tried to get input, the turnout wasn't nearly as good
>>9132134
Museums and cute restaurants. Craft meetups don't get as many people to go, who wants to risk damaging their dresses

>> No.9133737

I've been out of my comm for several years now and I want to get back in but I don't really know how. Most of my old circle has moved on and everyone left is relatively new. Also nobody really invites me to events anymore. I've been putting a lot of thought into it hosting my own event and inviting people I kinda know/some newbies, but do you think anyone would come?

>> No.9133831

>>9133737
If the event is good, there's bound to be some interest

>> No.9133909

How was the murder mystery meet in LA?

>> No.9133929

>>9133909
the clues were kinda confusing but it was fun! food was pretty good too. ended way later than the event said though.

>> No.9133964

>>9132536
illinois?

>> No.9133969

>>9133710
not anon you replied to but I can't imagine how nice it must be to have "cute restaurants" in your area... we have a stale art museum that almost never changes, and not a kawaii thing in sight, thanks to an almost nonexistent Asian community and almost all white people.
there's one Japanese bakery but it's really ugly inside, only the cakes are cute, and there are three tables. our only option is the 1 tea place too far to drive to every month.

>> No.9134040

>>9133489
everyone is really friendly! don't know about any drama, must be gone now. events usually happen like once or twice a month. everyone is pretty well dressed

>> No.9134190

>>9133596
It's probably an unpopular opinion; I'm all for people exploring outside of society's idea of what the ideal of a gender is, but being a girl and realizing you DON'T like barbies doesn't make you not a girl; for that matter, if a cis man likes crossdressing, likes all traditionally "feminine" things, it doesn't mean he's closet-trans. This is 4chan, and here I can be honest without people who know me in real life thinking I'm an asshole for not validating people who are completely comfortable presenting as their birth gender, have no desire to go on hormones, but still scream to anyone who will listen that they're a boy.
Sorry for all the extra info. Maybe I'll try to get in touch with a local comm and see if they'd be okay with me attending a meet to take photos.

>> No.9134206

>>9133386
Like >>9133411 said I was checking for DC and DC anon wasn't wrong.

>check Yelp Chinatown reviews
>awful
>check reviews on local dim sum
>seemingly only good one shut down good location
>only bad location left
>welp

At least I found out now instead of when I got there and got disappointed.

>> No.9134347

>>9133221
Go to the Freer and Sackler Galleries. They're owned by the Smithsonian and one of them is Asian artwork - Japan, China, Korea, India, Persia, etc. They have my favorite gift shop out of any museum in DC and they sell lots of weeby shit. Also go to Hillwood Estate Museum and Gardens. It's a historic home in Northwest DC. Basically it's this huge fancy mansion owned by this rich lady who collected fine china from France and Russia and she also built a Japanese-style garden on the property.

>> No.9134364

>>9134206
Yeah, DC's Chinatown is mostly not Chinese restaurants anymore. It's mostly full of stuff like McDonalds, some taco restaurants, burger restaurants, lots of chain restaurants and stores, but I think that because of a DC zoning law or something they have all the signs in both English and Chinese. Apparently there are some great dim sum restaurants in the DC metro area but I think they're either in Silver Spring on northern Virginia. We do have some good ramen restaurants if you're into that - look up Daikaya, Sakuramen, and Tono Sushi.

>> No.9134367

>>9133039
>I'm curious to hear some of your stories

Here's a few details about the worst of the transtrenders I've known. Her thing is that she really thrives on being "the fucked up one", so of course she hopped the transwagon to have yet another issue to make a huge deal about.
>has asked me not to wear lolita or anything else super girly around her because anything too feminine is ~triggering~ for her
>extreme case of internalized misogyny (on top of not being able to have anything feminine in her presence, she literally says she hates all cis women because ~they don't understand how hard being trans is~)
>literally said that my fiance's friend, who went through female genital mutilation and having a stillborn rape baby, has an easier life than her because she's not trans (she's said this about pretty much everyone we know, but this was the worst)
>makes a big deal about being a "hardcore otaku" and is the most obnoxious weeb ever... when the only anime she's ever watched is Attack on Titan, I've tried showing her things and she hates all of it and won't get past the first two episodes of anything
>loudly discusses fucking men with her strap on and dominating them in public (it's worth noting that she's really fat and ugly, which makes that even more cringey)
>likes to cut herself in front of people and if someone tells her not to do it, she accuses them of being insensitive to her trans plight
>claims to be anorexic, but her roommate tells me she eats all the time, just not around me

>> No.9134379

>>9134347
You had me at weeby shit, anon.

>>9134364
Thanks for the recommendations! I haven't had proper ramen before so I'll try that out. Around here the closest place is an hour away and it had steam buns so I got hooked on them, which is why I was asking. I'm up for trying anything though as long as it's delicious.

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>>9134367
Hahaha, typical. Claiming to be trans while not even making the slightest attempt to pass is pretty clearly just a call for pity points, in the same way as claiming to be anorexic while actually being morbidly obese.

And the end result is that it's harder for people who are actually trans to be taken seriously, or the way SJWs discredit Social Justice.

Why does the LGBT community tolerate such people?

>>has asked me not to wear lolita or anything else super girly around her because anything too feminine is ~triggering~ for her

So much for "Don't tell me how to dress".

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Wanna do an absinthe meet up but it's definitely feels far fetched.

>> No.9134757

>>9134752
It*

>> No.9134815

>>9134405
This girl actually does dress like a dude and could pass for one, but the way she talks about her ~struggle~ is so disgustingly self-pitying and she uses it as a means to feel like she has it worse than everyone else. She probably is legit trans, but she uses it as a way to get people to feel sorry for her and indulge herself in her own self-misery and special snowflakeness just as hard as the most extreme of transtrenders, so I feel like she counts as one.

I'm moving really soon and I'm so afraid my new comm will have people like her.

>> No.9134856

>>9123425
Is there a fb group? I'd love to go to a meetup

>> No.9134866

>>9134752
Getting drunk is it's own reward.

>>9134815
At least she tries to pass. Seems to me that makes her less of a trender, and more of a pity whore using Social Justice as an excuse to shut down anyone who calls her/him on it.

>> No.9134874

>>9134866
but it's not drunk, it's fancy drunk

>> No.9134929

>>9134874
Perfect for fancy dress, no?

>> No.9134948

>>9134929
I've always wanted to try absinthe. Plus I have a few of the redeemable body line dresses I've wanted to wear but never had the occasion to wear it.
I love that my comm is "higher class" meaning everyone has money to do stuff like fancy teas than mall meets but it means I don't have chances to wear body line and off brand coords that can get dirty. The dirtiest thing we have is a fashion walk in the city but it's mostly weebs and fairy kei.

>> No.9134951

>>9134948
I hate absinthe but I can't even lie a fancy drunk absinthe meetup sounds fun as fuck.

>> No.9134960

>>9134948
I've noticed that J-Fashion Walks tend to draw in all kinds of (ita) weebs I've never seen before. Some of them are even part of the main lolita fashion community, but never show up to regular meets, even though meets are public and the general culture here is open. It seems pretty commonplace in other cities that have hosted Harajuku/J-Fashion Walks too.

I think the only exception are local Gal circles who show up to those walk meets. I might be wrong, but it seems like Gyaru is dying out/losing its fervor. It seems like the circles are smaller and mostly made up of long-time friends, and walk meets are the only times they can get together and stand out.

>> No.9134965

>>9134951
Same. Not a huge fan of anise, but I like the process of preparing the drink, and the set up/accessories are pretty.

There's a bottle of it in my house (Parisian souvenir - otherwise I would never have bought it) and it reeks of aged ethanol. I wonder if the sugar, heat, and water makes it way more tolerable.

I think another good 18/21+ meet would be wine tastings or cocktail parties. If I could own my own place or have an apartment without normie roommates, I'd love to invite lolitas over to learn how to play bridge, share some deviled eggs and pies, and try some fruity day time cocktails like bored and snobby housewives in the 60s.

>> No.9134975

>>9133221
Go to Daikaya! Sapporo style ramen!

>> No.9135004

>>9134948
>>9134951

Straight absinthe is kinda nasty, but when watered down and sugared it's yummy, and the ritual is fun, too.

Go to a Steampunk con if you want an absinthe party. They're lolita friendly, too.

>> No.9135041

>>9135004
Yeah I am willing to give it another taste. Like other anon said, I am also not a fan of anise - does it remove that flavor adding sugar to it? I'm just curious.

>> No.9135055

>>9135041
No, but it deadens it.

I'm not a fan of the anise taste either, but I do like opaline. Maybe with more sugar?

>> No.9135102

I might be moving to St Louis soonish. How are the meets out there? I'm not too worried about drama since I am a grownup and can avoid it. I just want to know what sort of meets I should expect and how often they happen. I've all but stopped attending meets in my current hometown due to how boring and repetitive they are, plus they're uncomfortable because the mods allow single men with no interest in the fashion to attend. I'm really hoping St Louis is more fun, creative and less of a free-for-all.

>> No.9135112

>>9135102
I heard they had an amazing party over in Ferguson a few months ago.

>> No.9135238

>>9133909
Pretty awesome. As the other person said, clues were confusing and desu I'm not sure how anyone could have figured out who the murderer was. There was a nice bar on the other side of the restaurant too.

There was some person near the exit or something bashing cops though which was annoying.

>> No.9135249

>>9135102
The drama is pretty much non existent, other than a few itas who complain about everything (but they never come to our meets so who gives a shit) and a few older members who don't like each other. There is a small group of very active members, but the majority of the comm is not active (mods won't do a clean out though). We have not had many meets lately but it's because it's been really warm out and there's not a ton of fun indoor activities to do in STL. But we try to have 2 or so meets a month in the comm. We usually do more low-key meets and hang out as friends rather than do things as a comm because we would prefer not to be embarrassed by the itas and cosplayers who tend to show up and ruin our meets. TL;DR it's a really fun, drama-free comm if you get in with the right people and ignore the itas.

>> No.9135273

>>9135102
I know there's going to be a couple meets in September. Like the other anon said, there are about 2 per month. I know there's going to be at least a couple halloween/witch type meets if you're into that. Last year, they went to a haunted mansion.
The Japanese festival meet in August is not recommended. It's super hot and overrun with itas.

>> No.9135357

>>9134752
I'd be so down if it was actual absinthe

>> No.9135373

>>9135357
Just fyi, Wormwood Absinthe would kill you of alcohol poisoning before you start seeing any green fairies.
So, do you mean 'not sugar water' or 'wormwood or bust' when you say 'real absinthe?' because one in common sense, and the other means you're a tryhard faggot I don't want at my fancy drinking parties.

>> No.9135377

>>9134752
I don't honestly see why it would be. I'd pay good money for a party if the host put that investment into a really choice bottle and some finger foods.

>> No.9135382

>>9135041
The sugar makes the anise less harsh and it is supposed to bring out the flavor profile of the other herbs in the liqueur.

>> No.9135451

>>9135373
Not that anon, but that's not true. I mean yeah, absinthe can kill you, but not before you start hallucinating. Where are you gettibg this information? Also, I don't really think it makes you a tryhard faggot to prefer trying the real deal to the fake shit in the US. If anything, being as pretentious as you are about it is a sign you're a try hard faggot who wouldn't be fun to party with.

>> No.9135467

>>9134752
Idk the kind of people who would be into that would mostly be arrogant pseudointellectual types. Some of the responses already prove my point.

>> No.9135499

>>9135451
What I'm saying is the amount of absinthe you'd need to ingest to have enough built up wormwood to hallucinate is at professional alcoholic levels. Gogh was a professional alcoholic. Can't say that would be a particularly fun evening for a dinner party.

>>9135467
I honestly wonder why people can't just enjoy a fun thing without making it a THING.

>> No.9135578

>>9134752
Might be fun if there were no itas involved

>> No.9135645

just gonna drop this article that talks about the science behind some of the absinthe myths: http://m.mentalfloss.com/article.php?id=56280

please be educated

>> No.9135682

>>9135645
>http://m.mentalfloss.com/article.php?id=56280
Ah, copper poisoning, that explains a lot.
I was going from the plant perspective. Worm wood is toxic, but it's levels are way exaggerated in effect in absinthe. I was under the impression that it was an authors fabrication that blew out of proportion.

>> No.9135786

>>9135041
Also look out for absinthe with less anise; they taste more of herbs instead.

>> No.9135828

>>9135578
I feel like it would be a private meet if we're to happen anyways.

>> No.9136071

>>9135249
>>9135102
Thanks for the info!

>> No.9140295

Bump, what's NY comm like?

>> No.9140754

>>9132962
That sucks. Sounds like the comm is pretty dead.

>> No.9141051

Anyone ever revived a dead comm? Made a comm famous/great?

>> No.9141078

>>9140754
It's not really dead. There are meetups here and there, but not as active as it once was. We have a tea event next weekend.

>> No.9141238

>>9141078
Good to hear.

>> No.9141263

What is a swap meet like? Where do you usually have them? Do you do something else besides b/s/t? Is it worth it?
I've always wanted to host one but I have little to no idea what goes on at one.

>> No.9141289

>>9141263
I've hosted a swap meet before, and it's really fun! It's a good idea to host it in someone's house, especially if there's a small amount of people going. Normally, with parks, you'd have to get a permit to rent out a fixed space for a day. I also allowed people to bring their own food so it was like a mini potluck. I also suggest to have people bring card games and tabletop games as well. It's going to be longer than regular meetups. Since my swap meet was super casual, I didn't make it a requirement to wear lolita. In fact, it actually encouraged some newbies in the comm who didn't own lolita to come to the meet and buy stuff there.

Have people specify what types of payment they accept (cash, PayPal, etc), and bring/make a price list for your items. There was one girl who made her own price stubs by attaching small pieces of paper with the item name and price to her items using string and safety pins. If space is limited, have people bring things to set up their items on, like a wardrobe rack or table.

Overal, it's definitely worth it if you have stuff to get rid of but don't want to deal with online communities. I was actually able to get rid of a lot of my things, try on pieces that I've been curious about, and get some cute items in return.

>> No.9141358

>>9140295
too big to function as a comm. friends hang out with friends and it is hard to meet new people.

but there is a huge range of lolitas of all ages, ethnicities, socioeconomic statuses, genders, substyles... you are likely to meet someone you like eventually.

if you volunteer at a con like WakuWaku or RuffleCon you are more likely to make friends and get invited to events.

>> No.9142933

>>9124522
"They"

Who the hell are you even talking about? I keep seeing this word "cliques" and "they" but you guys don't even name drop.

I'm glad I'm not from LA comm because you all seem like a bunch of needy children who want their hands held at meet ups and want someone to make friends for them. You want to know how to make friends? Stop being an awkward fuck and go up and say hi to people. It's not that hard.

Fucking babies.

>> No.9143022

I might be going to melbourne for a visit. What's the comm like? is it worth trying to meet up?

>> No.9143031

>>9143022
The comm is a decent size but the meets have been small lately. Partly due to the season and partly due to cliqueyness. Pretty friendly overall. Usually there are people happy to organise something for visitors. Just shoot a message to one of the mods since it's a closed group.

>> No.9143058

>>9142933
Janitors clean up name drops you walnut. Not my problem you can observe how this board is run.

>> No.9143059

What's it like in central FL? Might be moving there soon.

>> No.9143434
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>Mega ita in my comm sends me a message
>See first line on phone
>"What are you doing this weekend?"
>Figure she's trying to plan a meet
>"Can you help me move to my new house?"
I barely fucking know you. This isn't what a network of lolitas is for.

>> No.9143511

>>9124665
>>not even tumblr. academic for decades.

>> No.9143552

>>9142933
White knight alert

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>>9132045
>giving body hair gender when everyone grows it

>> No.9143732

>>9142933
Simmer down white knight. If you're shy or have social anxiety going up to complete strangers to say hello is hard. Have a little fucking sympathy. Maybe if you weren't so wrapped up in just talking to people you already know you would notice the cliquishness of your actions if you took a few steps back.
It's even worse when you do muster up the courage to say hello, only to have the conversation shut down by dis-interest, one word replies, and blatant phone staring.

>> No.9143815

>>9132713
One of my favorite lolitas lives there!

>> No.9143851

>>9143557
you do know that that's a thing that people do, right? hence why i said growing a beard (or thick body hair) is CONSIDERED masculine.

>> No.9143918

>>9141051
I'm trying, but it's hard.

>> No.9143941

>>9132713
Where are you moving? I had a friend move to Columbus last year. That seems to be where the activity is. They have a few really good indie designers.

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>>9143557
get out of here, tumblr. The way we wear body hair is 1000% gender-based. Beards are for men, shaven underarms/legs are usually customary for women (most women,at least). A woman with a tiny little mustache is disgusting. Women with armpit hair are disgusting.

>> No.9143960

>>9132713
Welcome! What part of the state are you moving too anon?

As for your questions...
>dressed
We have some really excellent dressers, a few indie brands (Elegy, VoooDooDolly), and a variety of people who are just finding their footing. But we are welcoming and generally pretty chill. Most everyone in the comm is active on /cgl/. Some personalities have fallen to the wayside. Others are interested or active when possible but have a lot going on in their lives, as expressed.

>Newbies
We always have newbies. New people are constantly joining, some leave once they learn what the costs are. There are lots of conventions in the state and we tend to educate potential newbies and set them on the right path pretty quick. Though you will always have slow learners or people who do their own thing, it's whatever (at least imo). Nobody I find that is truly a problem. Everyone seems pretty open to critique and improvement. But if you are looking for a top-tier comm, you may be a little dissapointed. We're sort of salt and pepper. DESU, the better dressed people tend to come out for conventions.

>Dramu
None really. We've had our share of shit-stirrers, but they tend to be outsiders looking to start problems for their own amusement. No real shit goes down in our comm and if it does we don't tolerate it at all and nip it in the bud.

>>9132962
I'll hopefully be back soon! I've felt pretty inactive in the comm because of my job and a myriad of other problems. Thinking about hosting a meet as soon as I'm able because we need some activity and something fancy to attend.

>> No.9144075

>>9142933
Clearly you didn't read what others have said in this thread in regards to approaching most LA members. And you can't post names here because that's considered vendetta posting. Learn the rules before posting you shithead.

>> No.9144120

>>9143946
Women didn't start shaving until WW2 though when all the men were shipped off to war and razor companies needed people to sell to.
It's all a ridiculous marketing scheme, women's shaving cream and razors are even more expensive than men's. Sorry you fall victim to beauty standards that only exist to make you spend money and hate your body.

>> No.9144125

>>9143946
I get mustache but do you really make other people's armpit hair your business? 90% of the time you don't even know if a person has it or not. You sound like an annoying busybody

>> No.9144143

>>9143557
Men can grow tits and even lactate but that doesn't make tits not a feminine trait. Female body hair and male body hair are very different unless someone's hormone levels are fucked up.

>> No.9144269

Do your comms ever do this thing where they compliment a girl behind her back to stroke their own egos? A new girl came to a meet this weekend and girls started gushing about how cute and well dressed she was when imo she looked kinda ita and not that cute at all. If they were complimenting her to her face it would make sense that they were just being nice, but why do it all hush hush? Its like they were in a lovliest lolita contest for who could say the nicest things about the new girl.

>> No.9144275

>>9143946
I don't really think it's that discusting, it's natural so it is there or atleast will be there even if you shave. I prefer being hairless for comfort but can totally understand those who don't want to do it. It's an image created by media afterall. I'm kinda tired of the hairless women image.

>> No.9144352

I'm done with my comm. I'm sick of being the only one to organise everything. Nobody else has lifted a finger in almost two years and I can't guarantee that I'm going to be around for meets all the time.
I don't even see the point of a comm anymore. Everyone is enthusiastic until they realise that they have to pay more than $10 at a meet. I've booked venues for 20 only to have half of them flake out in the two days before. Everyone is afraid of having photos taken so we don't even have that to take away from a meet. I keep trying to stick with it, hoping it'll get better, but it never does.

>> No.9144372

I made a new group for my local comm since many of the members are upset with how our comm has gone since new mods came in. I just don't know if I want to start adding people in the group and how to handle the inevitable backlash the group will have for going behind out mods backs and making a group for people who actually want to be able to talk with each other. Our current group is closed but the mods welcome almost any one who has a remote interest on the fashion. We have had a lot of newbie weeb itas enter that shit up the wall with their "thrift finds" that the group is tired trying to help them. Most of those itas leave the group after about a month or two but are replaced with two more. Since our mod much rather talk about herself and not try with the group, I went against group rules and made a new group for Lolitas more established in the fashion. I don't want to seem like an elitist group, but I know that the mod will feel it is excluding the other group. All I want to do is to have a group where we can talk about brand releases, plan tea and talk to one another without the greasy haired itas shoving sailor moon at us every thread.

>> No.9144379

>>9144372
Hints as to which comm this is? I'm new to my local comm and it's pretty similar to what you described. I wouldn't be surprised if someone tried to make a new comm and I'm worried about being left out in the move since I'm so new.
>I swear I'm not a greasy thrift store cosplay ita

>> No.9144384

>>9144269
I think you need to get on some paranoia meds.

>> No.9144413

>>9144384
But why would people pretend to compliment a girl who's not even cute tho

>> No.9144424

>>9144413
Cuteness is subjective

>> No.9144439

>>9144424
I agree to a point, but I've seen girls with butter colored teeth and a full out mustache get complimented on their smile. Anyone who's trans (or says they are to get privilege points) gets tons of compliments even they look ten times worse than Melissa did. Morbidly obese women get told they deserve to have replicas even cheaper because of that "fatphobia" and discrimination. Black girls get told their outfit is perfect even if they're wearing classic milanoo from head to toe and asked for concrit. The last one is especially weird because where I live black people are the majority by far, then Mexicans, and then South Americans.

You can tell the people saying these things never actually mean it too. Well except for the fat part, a lot of people actually mean that. It's all just to be politically correct and it makes it really hard to get honest concrit even if you are an "evil racist privileged whitey" (who's actually white hispanic but whatever).

>> No.9144447

>>9144379
Sounds like California, Arizona or maybe even New Mexico. But I could be wrong.

Leaning more towards California and Arizona since those two states have comms in dire need of rescue.

>> No.9144457

>>9128553
Northwest Florida Lolita Society is fairly small but we're drama-free and all very lax with one another.

>> No.9144468

>>9144372
Similar situation happened with our comm.
I suggest you make the new comm. It's better to have a functioning comm with dedicated members. You'll be much more productive that way. You're going to get some backlash, but it's worth it. You shouldn't make yourself a mod for the comm though, instead you should hold a poll and whoever wants to run to be a mod should be considered.

>> No.9144618

>>9144468
I made the group like a month ago and never really let it launch. I wouldn't mind being a mod of the group since I was pretty much the only person who modded the other comm as far as group meets and stuff went. The only meets I didn't plan where the ILD and Christmas gift exchange meet. I plan on maybe adding people and telling people a little after school starts since right now it's pretty chaotic for the younger girls in college. May just tell my closest friends about it so they can help me through the inevitable backlash from the community mod and the shit storm she will pull here and on BtBs. Don't want to deal with it alone.

>> No.9144686

How was Chicago mega meet this year?

>> No.9144736

Since we are thinking of moving out to La Canada this year, how is the LA com? I love my local com, we are mostly older girls who like to drink wine and bullshit with new england style, and I'm a bit scared I will be leaving them for teens wondering if they need a petticoat or not.

>> No.9144738

>>9144736
Did you not read any of the posts about LA in this thread or the last comm thread?

>> No.9144782

>>9144736
Be a lone Lolita in LA. It's for your own sanity and heart Heath.

>> No.9144786

>>9144413
Maybe you're just a bitch, anon

>> No.9144800

>>9144447
AZ is at least actually making an effort rn to reduce the group size. It's looking to be around 100 instead of 300 so far.

>> No.9144991

>>9144736
Could you please stop trying to dig out drama from LA comm? It's non existent so stop trying to make up stories and making it seem like this comm is bad.

>> No.9144999

Any Montreal lolitas? I'm going to be over there for a wedding on the long weekend but I want to be far away from most of my family as much as time permits (they're crazy). Are there any meetups happening at that time I could tag along to?

>> No.9145001

>>9144782
Steer clear from the red head one with the glasses

>> No.9145016

>>9123467
Glad someone else noticed

>tfw french
>tfw there is only one com in the region
>attempted to join the comm fb group
>still pending after 1 month

Well

>>9134367
How old is she?

>>9134752
That would be great, honestly.

>>9143946
Have fun hating your natural body, anon.

>> No.9145108

>>9123004
Did the person in question post a piano video to the comm page recently out of interest?

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FFS

>> No.9145267

>>9145264
Please cap comments, please tell me she got her ass handed to her.

>> No.9145525

>>9144991
Yeah there isn't really any drama in LA. Most, if not all of the drama gals don't even show up to meets anymore.

>> No.9145643

>>9133969
You live somewhere with a Japanese bakery and you're bitching? You sound like a massive weeb. The cutest places around me are just little coffee shops and cafes, nothing even remotely Japanese. This city is almost entirely black and white, there are a few Indians and Muslims in the suburbs, but that's it. Our museums are random things that people collected and put on display, many are operated by the villages themselves about local history

>> No.9145902

>>9144800
I really do appreciate that, arizona!

>> No.9145946

>>9144352
Leave it alone. If other people want to plan something just as badly, then they would step up to the plate. Otherwise, let the comm burn to the ground.

But seriously though, don't force the inevitable.

>> No.9146091

>>9145016
She's about to be 24.
>>9143946
I love how pointing out facts always gets you called tumblr these days. At least you can get rid of unwanted body hair, you can't shave off being a massive faggot with ridiculous body image issues.

>> No.9146099

>>9143946
Also, what possible reason is there for it to be gross when women have hairy armpits, but not men, other than being sexist (inb4 stating facts is tumblr) and/or giving into what razor companies have been marketing for only half a century? If anything, it's less hygienic for men not to since they sweat more and have stronger BO.

>> No.9146149

>>9146099
In my experience, women who think hairy armpits on women are gross also think hairy man pits are gross as well. It's usually men who have the double standard that women should put in all the effort and men don't have to do anything. Personally I wish my bf would at least trim his armpit hair.

>> No.9146181

>>9146149
>women who think hairy armpits on women are gross also think hairy man pits are gross as well
This is how I feel, I'm fine with literal all other body hair but I think everyone should shave or wax their armpits. Obviously it's their own bodies and can do what they want but gee I wish I could enforce it on every single person alive.

>> No.9146282

>>9124665
Tumblr is the one of the biggest sources of misogyny on the internet at the moment, anon. It might even beat out /r9k/.

>> No.9146296

Been thinking of getting into a local comm, any idea if there's a living one in Maine right now?

>> No.9147252

>>9133969
Why the fuck do you need Japanese things around? Are you in Japan? Then why would you expect Japanese stuff? What a fuckign weeb.

>> No.9147258

>>9147252
>people enjoying japanese culture and food as well as a japanese fashion?!!
>no way not at all holy fucking shit y'all weebs

This is what you sound like. They're not saying they'll die without it, they're saying they enjoy having options locally. Lay off the salt, man.

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Anybody need a photographer in the South?

https://www.patreon.com/betsyjayphotography

>> No.9148686

My comm covers a big region, but it's mostly concentrated in one city. Most of the meets are 4 hours away from me, so I haven't made it out to too many. But whenever anyone hosts a meet near my city, everyone comes out of the woodwork to bitch about how far away it is. They don't have to go, but there's no reason to complain when most of the meets are close to them anyways.

>> No.9148701

Well. I stepped out of my comfort zone and went to my first meet with my local comm. I've always been a lone lolita but wanted to make some friends. Definitely didn't feel welcome even though I was one of the best dressed lolitas there. Everyone already knew each other as expected, but no one really went out of their way to speak to me or have a conversation when I introduced myself. I'm kinda stuck on what I should do. I guess I could go to more meetups and hope to get to know them better?

>> No.9148704

>>9148701
>I guess I could go to more meetups and hope to get to know them better?
Yes. That's how making friends works.

>> No.9148709

>>9148704
No need for the condescending attitude. I'm sure you're a fun person to be around.

But really though, anyone have any tips for getting into a comm that's already pretty tight knit and established?

>> No.9148751

>>9148709
Ask people about themselves to get them talking to you, then try to join conversations where you have something to say on the topic?

>> No.9148779

>>9148709
So many people come here crying that they went to one meet up and didn't end up with a best friend. Just talk to people and ask them about themselves. If you're having trouble thinking of anything then ask about school/work. Once you find some common ground with someone, pursue it.

>> No.9148795

>>9148701
What were you guys doing? Some meets facilitate conversation better than others.

>> No.9148803

>>9148701
You're an outsider to them. Most lolita won't go out of their way to try and include a stranger when they already have established friends. You need to take the leap of faith and initiate conversation. Talk about what they're wearing, compliment them when you see fit, ask open ended questions. The first couple meet ups are the hardest, but once you mingle around and find common ground with someone, you're in.

Good luck mate.
Also, maybe you being the "best dressed lolita there" could have added to your social isolation. Lolitas are petty like that.

>> No.9148811

>>9148751
>>9148779
>>9148795
>>9148803
Yeah I realized my post comes off kind of whiney. It was hard enough to talk myself into going to a meet, I guess I expected more from it since everyone is so talkative online and stuff. I think what bugged me the most was that I knew a girl there and felt as if she wanted to be friends but she kind of blew me off the whole time. Made me feel a little unwelcome. I won't stop trying though. I'll step up my game.

>> No.9148814

>>9148811
You're on cgl, half of the boards are whine city so don't worry about it. The online community does seem more open than in person comms. It's unfortunate to hear that someone you knew blew you off as well. But it brings me back to my guess that maybe you were too well dressed and they snobbed you for it.

>> No.9148818

>>9148701
>I was one of the best dressed lolitas there
oh yeah anon? post your coord. Not you wearing it, but post the actual clothes.

>inb4 you conveniently don't have a camera

>> No.9148822

>>9148811
>I knew a girl there
How well did you know her? If you were a lone lolita before like you said and weren't hanging out with her on the side you didn't really know her, you just knew of her.

>> No.9148836

>>9148822
I met her at a convention and we were mutuals on social media. I hung out with her for a few days at that con, so I'd say yes, I knew her.

>> No.9148844

>>9148836
Ah thats a shame then anon. I'm sorry, but you should definitely keep going! Dont be discouraged, somtimes it takes a while but you'll find your place in the comm if you keep going. I was in my comm for two years before feeling really comfortable, and my best lolita friends aren't even in my nearest comm.

>> No.9148851

>>9148701
>>9148811
Dude, no one's going to want to talk to because omigosh ur coord is so pretty~ Don't be conceited and make more of an effort to talk to people. Do you normally get by on your looks? As for that one girl, maybe it's harder to talk in a group setting than one-on-one. Maybe try hanging out with her outside of a meet up?

>> No.9148882

>>9144686
fun and a good time! most people besides one nasty looking brolita were really well dressed. really, really hot though. I was sweating bullets.

>> No.9148894
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>>9122883
>fetal alcohol syndrome-chan

>> No.9148936

>>9148894
Was that even necessary?

>> No.9148946

>>9148701
Was it a large meetup? My comm has the issue that the larger the meetup the more people group up and the less they get to know new members. My advice is to find people near you or to go to smaller meetups. If you're truly well-dressed and you don't have a bad pesonality you should have no issue to make friends but with most lolitas it takes awhile before you know enough things about the comm in order not to be left out of the conversation.

Keep in mind is that lolitas can be equally shy to introduce themselves to knew people.

>> No.9148970

>>9122883
Blondie really makes the rest look bad..

>> No.9148976

>>9122883
They all look like they don't quite know how to let go of their scene phases

>> No.9148982

>>9148976
That was a time period much closer to scene, though, and a lot of alt girls ended up in lolita.

Not so say it looks good, but it makes sense.

>> No.9149020

Is there a Pittsburgh comm? How is it? Might be relocating there with my bf and after the trash and drama of the SOL comm kinda hard to optimistic about joining a new comm.

>> No.9149029

>>9149020
What kind of drama? Maybe you are just overreacting a bit?

>> No.9149030

>>9134752
I would love this.

>> No.9149037

>>9149029
Just the usual efame hungry skanks and tumblrina armies. There was of course the girlytoots drama and then pony queen and her army of hive minds going crazy on some newbie who wasn't super active in the comm. She was crying racism and threatened to beat the girl up at a tea party or something? I unfriended pony queen (dont know why she friended me in the first place) when she started obsessing over this chick and clogging up my news feed. Never been a fan of thirsty bitches. Looking for a more adult comm that doesn't feel the need to live breathe eat the tumblr hysteria.

>> No.9149053

Is there a New Mexico comm at all? I can't find anything on facebook.

>> No.9149060

>>9149037
Shit I'm only in Pennsylvania for two to three weeks every 6 months. And it's the same shit but a new person. Although toothoot was amusing to watch cash and burn.

>> No.9149061

>>9148982
Fair enough

>> No.9149170

>>9149053
/208023869252467/

>> No.9149172

>>9149060
What is she even doing now? Does she still go to meets? She still wears lolita according to her instagram.

>> No.9149181

>>9149172
I dunno but honestly don't care. I know she posts the same shit as always but doesn't tag Lolita fashion any more. Lately she's been posting a lot of sitting on the floor mirror posts. I don't know much outside her Instagram. But I don't care so I won't look.

>> No.9149257

>>9148818
Not that anon, but I'd it's anything my comm, wearing brand and not looking awful is enough to be one of the best dressed at a meet-up.

>> No.9149450

How's the Michigan lolita comm? I'm wary to join but don't wanna live the lone lolita life anymore.

>> No.9149817

>>9149257
Right but I still want to see what anon wore that she things is so fucking great that people should talk to her.

>> No.9149915

>>9149450
Michigan is a pretty active comm, at least compared to how it was in previous years. A nice mix of well-dressed individuals and the requisite handful of itas - the member base skews a little older too so there are 21+ meets as well as general ones on the reg.

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SLC comm back at it again.

>> No.9149962

>>9149450
Where are you located anon? If it's northern Michigan...well plan on either traveling or only participating online.

>> No.9149971

>>9149962
South east-ish. I know I'm not too far from most of the comm, but I'll still have a bit of a drive for sure.

>> No.9151528

>>9148701
was this the chicago megameet? that was my first meet up a couple years ago (it's a yearly meet) and i felt the same
also jesus anon you sound really uppity, the reason why the other lolitas wouldn't talk to you is not cuz you were dressed oh-so better than them it's because you're new and they haven't met you yet and maybe because you have a bitchy attitude

>> No.9151765

>>9151528
>>9148882

>> No.9152918

>>9130107
I'm a mod and I love it when members plan their own events because it makes my life easier! But I do think it's best to attend a few meets first or PM the mods and ask if it's OK with them if you host something.

>> No.9153307

>>9148882
yea that aircon fan saved my life.
i had a great time at it!

>> No.9153712

Does anyone know anything about frills of steel (sheffield, england comm). I know it's a long shot since a lot of people tend to be US based.


Moved here recently for university and I'm just wondering how everyone is there?