/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL

>tfw you get abandoned by your only Lolita friend so now you are a lone Lolita once again
>tfw even though they were terrible to you you could talk about prints and such

n-not like I wanted to talk about coords with anyone or anything

>little sister gets into lolita
>convinces me to dress up and come to an anime con's tea party this weekend

Will I be hazed for having a penis? How receptive are most comms to strange dongs in their midst?

>>8963540
As long as you are dressed correctly, hair and makeup are decent and you have manners, you should be fine.

>have extreme butterface
>lose weight, get tan (i know /cgl/ hates tans but pale skin looks hideous on me), get rid of acne, get nice haircut
>still ugly as sin
>want to get into lolita but am seriously considering saving up for cosmetic surgery instead
>mfw

>>8963548
don't have kids please

they'll be ugly too

>>8963548
Enjoy life anon, just be a good person.
Life is short, you'll regret if you don't try it, build a nice coord, put your makeup, your better smile, and enjoy it!

>>8963529
Annoyance at poorfag whining, I'm seeing it more now for some reason? If you can't afford a few coords made from 2nd hand brand, TaoBao or Bodyline, you are too broke for lolita.

For once I'm finally happy with my wardrobe! I don't feel the need to purchase any mains aside from one dress, but I'm not dying for it. It feels good.

>>8963548
The notion that you absolutely need to be gorgeous to do anything is rooted in shallow, insecure people's loose grip on reality. Do what you want, enjoy your life. If Steve Buscemi can be a highly successful actor, looks don't matter as much as people think they do.

>>8963578
>Steve Buscemi can be a highly successful actor,
you do know he was in an accident and that's why he looks and acts like that now right?

his career started before that

>>8963543
I was just under the impression that girls do loli shit to get away from guys, so I wasn't sure.

>>8963548
>butterface
>ugly body as well as ugly face
Do you even know what that word means? You can't be fat AND have a nice body, just an FYI.

>>8963582
He didn't look much different before the accident.
Another more recent example: Adam Driver.

>>8963582
Are you an idiot?

>>8963583
where in the fuck did you get that idea? we want a guy to buy us brand

Gulls, how do I stop being jealous of other people's lives?
I never show it or act on it or anything, but I grew up poor and moved to a much richer country where I'm surrounded by people who all had 'normal' upper middle class lives, have lots of friends and hobbies, are really well-adjusted and don't have to worry about money and stuff. They all had birthday parties and proms etc. Whereas I had to patch up my underwear and socks because my mom couldn't afford to get me new ones. I went to prom in a dress I bought from China. And whenever something nice happens to me I don't enjoy it because I always expect someone to come and take it away or say it was a mistake and make me pay for it. I also feel inferior to those people and always feel judged by them because of my background.

It's gotten to a point where I can't even enjoy cons because I see all hobbies as a waste of money, as mom used to yell at me for buying anything other than the bare essentials (so no candy for your birthday, you get socks, no jfash, you can have a tshirt with a fun print etc). every single cosplay I make I feel guilty about and feel like someone's gonna judge me even though I can afford it just fine now.

I just wanna be positive and fit in with the other kids.

>>8963604
not that one, the other one


the one that looks/acts like an insane Santa

>>8963609
I just thought it was the girl equivalent of going to a sports bar or whatever to get away from bitches.

>>8963622
you might actually be retarded anon

daily Lolita exists

are they just permanently going to the bar for a drink and to watch sports?

>>8963592
I'm not fat, I just decided to lose some extra pounds with the hope my facial features would slim down as well.

>>8963639
so ugly and stupid?

sorry for your life anon

>>8963646
when you lose weight you lose it from all over.

I'm starting to hate being a lone lolita. Don't get me wrong I'm part of a really great comm, but it's in a city that's an hour long drive away. I put up with the commute to be able to hang out with other people interested in the fashion, but it annoys me to no end when I suggest a meet that's a 20-30 minute drive from that city and almost everyone starts saying how that's too far, or they don't have a car so there's no way at all for them to come. I just want a frilly friend who lives closer to my city to do lolita things with. I'm tired of being alone.

>>8963650
yes but how does that change someone's ugly genetics?

>>8963582
>>8963618
You're thinking of Gary Busey.

>>8963540
Keep that strange dong in your clothes and you'll be fine.

My feel? Cgl is boring when there's constant shitposting.
I feel like this every time a shitposter rears its head every couple of months. It's probably just one person arguing with themselves then getting other people to reply, but it's just so blasé at this point.
Chill, you're not funny or getting anyone angry, you're just dull.

>>8963692
>not knowing about housewife-chan

newfag

>Holy Theatre announced
>CGL hates it
>awesome maybe I'll have a shot getting it!
>sells out of two preferred color ways on Japanese site
>I'll get it when it comes to SF
>everyone seems more preoccupied with Charloettes bear so I should have a chance
>went up today
>No ivory OP my preferred cut and color

I'm so heartbroken. My birthdays in a few days and I just wanted to finally get a piece of brand during its initial release and now I'm going to have to deal with an already handled pit stained lacemarket ad IF it even comes up.

Why me.

>>8963712
My birthday's the 19th. Happy birthday to us! Hope you find a dress

>>8963712
I know that feel with the exact same cut and color

we can dream though

>>8963540
Tell us how it goes. I want to brolita even though I have bushy eyebrows but want to see how comms handle dongers first.

>>8963651
I know that feel anon. I'm in a situation identical to this. I can't even make it to many meets either since people always schedule them so last minute so I'm not really close to anyone in my comm. I just want a frilly friend to do frilly things with. Out of curiosity what state is your comm in? Our situations are ridiculously similar

>>8963749
Not brolita, I'm just gonna wear a suit. But you do you.

>>8963749
Be polite and don't act like your special and deserve extra attention because you're a guy and no one will treat you weirdly. Also know what you're talking about, a lot of guys who get into lolita don't. Some lolitas are a bit wary of guys in comms because a lot of them end up being blatant fetishist (it's fine to have fetishes but keep them to yourself), or being drama queens who want special attention for wearing lolita even though they are gasp! not a girl. As long as you make a good impression though, people will generally be fine with you

Well, gulls, I can never go to a local tea party again.

I farted during the ceremony (It sounded like a damn tuba) and everyloli knew it was me.

>>8963759
Chances are no one cared as much as you did, and if you stop going to comms because of the fart, it's gonna stick out more in peoples memories than if you get over and keep going so they can make new memories of you in fartless contexts.

>>8963759
>everyloli

>tfw trying not to panic about house buying
>extreme control issues
>no one tells you fucking anything

>need to finish house stuff before starting new business stuff

>can't buy shit cus money

ughhhh

>>8963583
Boyfriends, brothers, other guy friends we sometimes bring along who dress nicely and are polite are usually always welcome at con teas and even most meets. If it's a 'gals only' thing, we always say so.

>>8963796
hey but congrats on the house though

>>8963616
I had an issue with jealousy too. Whenever I was bitching about someone I was jealous of, I would stop myself and ask, "How is what I'm thinking reflective of me?" I'd usually find out I was bitching because they were a) acting in a way I wish I could (like being bold about sharing their accomplishments whereas I'm very hesitant to brag) or b) acting in a way different from how I was raised but isn't necessarily bad.

First step is stopping yourself whenever you're jealous. Analyze what EXACTLY you're jealous about each time. Explain to yourself why you're jealous, and then explain to yourself why you don't have to be. You're jealous because you're lacking attitudes/behaviors that seem so natural to everyone else, but you can develop those things (ease of mind concerning money, being well-adjusted, making friends etc). It'll take awhile. But remember the things you learned from growing up poor are valuable too- you learned survival skills others don't have. You also don't know if other people have the same background as you, so just try sharing what you're anxious about sometimes. Maybe also you need some buddy to talk to, sounds like you have unresolved childhood baggage.

>>8963592
Ironically, it sounds like you're the one who doesn't know what butterface means.

>trying to get in shape; working out more, eating healthier
>no visible results yet but I know it's going to take a long while
>gonna buy some cosplay things in the meantime to give myself something to look forward to
>tell friends I'm doing a taobao order
>one friend is ignoring whenever I ask if she wants to get anything; I know she's poor but she could at least tell me she doesn't want in on the order
>other friend keeps insisting that she REALLY wants to get the order going ASAP
>have asked her five times for links and details for what she wants
>"oh sorry anon I'll get those to you today or tomorrow" every time
>third friend says he definitely wants some things, but doesn't want to order yet, but doesn't want to be the only person to not order now
Other, not related feel
>Just whirlwinded through Mahou Tsukai no Yome
>fucking loved it
>want to cosplay Elias
>how the fuck would I even

>>8963566
Seconding this. If there are jobless teens able to save up for secondhand brand, why can't you do the same?

>Lost 40 pounds
>My favorite dresses no longer fit
>I'm not even skinny

>>8963694
Shh you'll summon her

>>8963829

>one friend is ignoring whenever I ask if she wants to get anything
>I know she's poor


You're a dick anon. Get the hint instead of asking again.

>>8963751
Not that anon but iktf all too well. Indiana. I live an hour and a half from the city, 2 hours if the meet is on the other side of town. No one my age from my area would be interested, they all have kids and blow money on beer and weed

>>8963847
>>8963694
I'm already here you cunts

>>8963850
Honestly, that might be true. I already offered to buy her whatever she wanted and have her pay me back whenever in installments or whatever, so I don't really feel like I'm being that much of a jerk asking her to just tell me what she wants or say she doesn't want anything
But I do feel like a dick, even though I've only brought it up a couple times, so maybe I will just let it go and not ask again.

Anon with the stress-issue/claimed broken feet muscle bf from last thread reporting in. Just want to say that it felt good to hear other gulls also think my bf's latest stunts are not normal or acceptable.

I'll try to get him to go to a hospital with me. I am sure he will insist that doctors cannot do anything to the broken muscle and therefore going would be a waste of time he does not have. But I will be strong and claim that if he really is dealing with a life-long damage he should get a proper medication for the pain so he can walk.

I sure hope he will stop job searching soon. The fun part is that he already has two 内定 (100% sure job offers from companies that will not be taken back from company side) but is still continuing like crazy. I feel he has become addicted to the hunt itself.

>>8963751
PA but I live in a nearby state. I'm actually in the dead zone between two different comms, the closest one being an hour. The other one tends to have meets that range from 1 and a half to 2 hours away.

>>8963765
Telling people to kill themselves isn't very lolita, bitch.

>>8963923
Tbf she's also killing herself along with everyone in the room

>>8963923
fuck off newfag

My boyfriend has been depressed lately because he won't be finishing school on time for the second time (if he takes a maymester he can graduate a month or two out from now).

He was working out more than usual to go to a future con as Dan from Street Fighter with some of our friends (i'm going as Sakura) but now i think he's lost all his fight. I know his parents have been growing impatient due to the cost of school, but it hurts me to see him like this. He hasn't worked on his gi in over a month and hasn't been sleeping well.

>>8963944
if he isn't doing well in school like that he shouldn't be focusing on cosplay anyway you dumb bitch

do you want his future to be fucked up?

>>8963903
Why are you dating this guy, seriously? Whenever I hear gulls complaining about their bfs, they sounds so awful I can't understand why they're putting up with them.

>tfw when you saved about 600 dollars today thanks to the simplicity patterns sale

Last weekend I saw a lolita-themed comedy troupe at the fairgrounds called "Put the LOL in LOLita". They're super cringey but it is nice to know that there are lolitas in my area.

>mfw lolitas and cosplayers who play the violin, viola, cello, flute, clarinet, bassoon, concert whistle, uilleann pipes, oboe, piano, keyboard, harp, sax, trumpet, trombone, banjo, kazoo, ukulele, drums, djembe, guitar, erhu, accordion, concertina, xylophone, euphonium, glass harp, french horn, ocarina, hammered dulcimer, or jew's harp
>mfw lolitas and cosplayers who can fulfil the role of an orchestral concert percussionist by playing instruments like the triangle, chimes, and cymbals
>mfw lolitas and cosplayers who sing in falsetto, vibrato, or tremolo
>mfw lolitas and cosplayers who can read musical notation or can conduct an orchestra
>mfw lolitas and cosplayers who can sing in constructed languages like Hymmnos
>mfw lolitas and cosplayers who can DJ or use sound synthesis programs
>mfw lolitas and cosplayers who can write the scripts or songs for musical theatre or may be participants themselves in it's showing
>mfw lolitas and cosplayers who may not be able to play music for any variety of reasons but I'm sure have good music taste anyway
>mfw lolitas and cosplayers who can dance
>mfw woodsmen who play the concertina

I just wanted to say I really hate all of you. You suck.

>mfw people say sewing machines are "cheating"

I don't have any reaction images so pretend I posted a good one.

>>8964031
WHAT?

That's even more stupid then the people who say using a computer to make art is cheating.

>>8964031
The only people who would say that are likely butthurt teens with no sewing machines. Handwork is lovely but it's not any kind of a requirement for cosplay or even any historical re-enactment costuming group I've been in except for special categories FOR hand-sewing in certain competitions. Weird.

>>8963944
Help him, he needs you. And help him get his motivation back for school and not his dumb ass cosplay. If his parents are paying his way through school, he should be focusing on that. And you should be a supportive gf and help him focus on the important shit.
>build your partner up for success

>>8963529
>Tfw you're starting to make more friends in your comm and in out of state comms but you're about to move out of the country.

I-I hope the comms there like me.

>>8963759
So many fart stories here. Why do lolitas always have to fart super bad?

>>8964048
I hope you speak the language there if it isn't English. Good luck anon-chan.

When I was younger I could eat anything I like and still fit into unshirred dresses easily.

Now I'm 28 and my metabolism is beginning to slow, I have trouble fitting into quarter shirring even. I feel fat, even though the doctor assures me it's normal and part of aging.

I have dresses that hang in my closet unworn and I feel sad thinking I might have to graduate soon after being in this fashion for 10+ years.....

>>8964110
fatty

>>8964048
Similar feel. Everyone in my comm is so nice but there's a big chance I'll be moving hours away in a few months. Other comms in my state ate pretty dramatic but my current comm is so sweet and chill. Its honestly making me consider changing my career plans, especially because the city I'm in now has a ton of opportunitities anyway

>>8964110
Dont worry about it anon thats just part of getting older. It may less be 'graduating out of the fashion' and more watching what you eat both for personal health and for aesthetics.

>>8964110
... or you can lose weight, y'know, what a sane person in your predicament would do.

>>8963819
Thank you anon. Just wanted to say you rock.

>>8964120
>>8964117

I was underweight as a teenager. At 21 I finally started eating regularly, my period became normal and I hit a growth spurt.

I know I'm not fat and I've been struggling with food.... losing weight now would undo the years of work into maintaining, but at the same time I almost wish I was underweight still

>>8964134
stick your fingers down your throat you fat blob

oink oink

>>8964134
You don't need to be underweight, but you might want to cut back on the amount you eat or look at how healthy you're eating as well as your body composition. Metabolism does slow as you age, you should still have your regular meals but there's no role for calorie-containing beverages or high-calorie-nutrient-poor snacks in anyone's diet, plus you should be doing regular exercise and preferably a mix of cardio and weights/body weight stuff just for your health anyway. Also you will have missed out on key bone density years if you had poor nutrition or issues with your period stopping in your teens (since it implies something's fucked up with your oestrogen which is really important for bone health) so it's doubly important to have weight bearing exercise in there.

posted about this in a past feels thread but need to rant more.

>going to japan with a friend in about a month, to visit another friend who's studying abroad there
>the three of us used to be really close
>me and the girl im' traveling with (J) are still best friends
>the other one (A)...not so much
>idk how J feels about A, don't want to rock the boat any more than necessary or have a picking sides thing
>but GOD A pisses me off so much
>a few weeks ago she texted me and told me she spent all her money on UFO catchers and thus couldn't pay for her electric bill, then complained when her mom wouldn't give her money to pay for it
>has just been texting me and complaining about the most inane things
>meanwhile we're trying to book an airbnb, she said her mom would pay for it but that me or J needed to book it *(????) and just gave us her mom's email address to send the paypal invoice to
>that's not how it works lol. told her that, no response.
>instead of answering me about that she's tagging me in pictures of taco bell??? i don't like taco bell??
>she texted me this morning asking to video chat, around the same time she tweeted about how lonely she was
>i had to work a 10 hour shift, home now and have to study for a big final...have not responded.
>i feel bad for ignoring her but im really busy and i just have no interest in hearing her complain about things that are ultimately her fault
>i don't have the energy to try to be her friend any more. she's immature, irresponsible, clingy, and cringy as hell.
>i feel like a bitch but at the same time i'm sick of remaining friends with people who i don't really care for
>but either way we're going to be in nippon together and i'm going to have to deal with her terrible money habits, bad hygiene, etc.

>>8964197
oh and as more backstory...
I bought the tix for J and I to celebrate our graduations, and kind of felt obligated to tell A that we would be in japan since she had been bothering us to come visit her. before i knew it we had a facebook group of "J, S, and A are going to Japan together and staying together and doing everything together!" which is Not what i wanted.

>>8964197
If you don't want to be her friend anymore why are you going to Japan?
It's hard being a foreigner there.

>>8964201
She sounds like she misses you a lot and is clingy because of that. You're being a bit of a selfish cunt.

>>8964223
She was like this when we lived close to each other too. Literally across the street. She has a lot of issues that she is not doing a good job with dealing with. every time I've tried to come over as moral support to help her deal with issues (cleaning, school work, exercise) she just sits on her phone and is lazy. It gets old. "My grades suck, I'm a mess, I need to lose weight"...but she doesn't do anything about it. I've gone through hard times too and ultimately I had to pull myself through. she isn't there yet. it's been years.

>>8964221
To practice my japanese, to go shopping, to do all the stuff anyone on this board would want to do in japan? I've been before and I know it's hard; had a shit time myself because I was depressed. but that's why I"m bringing a friend this time, because i'm determined to have a good time, and i'm afraid it's going to end up being a shit show.

also her missing me is no excuse for her not getting back to me about our lodging reservations. J paid for the first airbnb (we're going to two cities) and I paid for the plane tickets. We agreed she'd pay for this airbnb. But radio silence when it comes to this. This will be the second airbnb we found. we missed the first one because she insisted J go through the process of reserving it even though A was supposed to be the one paying, and obviously that didnt work.

>Get this cheap shared apartment last autumn
>Really good location, school is in the neighbourhood
>Neighbours are quiet
>Living really peaceful life
>Until recently
>Start noticing these random black dots on white flooring and assume it's just dirt
>Today there were one dot on toilet paper
>Look it more closely
>Fuck
>It's one of those insect that eat textiles
>Freak out since I have fabrics and other sewing supplies everywhere
>Went through my closet and luckily I didn't find any of those there
>Now I'm on paranoia mode

And what I have heard from others the landlord don't really care about thinks like these (some have had mold and they just let it be) since there are many people wanting these apartments and in few years there will be big renovations.

>>8963947
because people use feels threads to complain about the worst in their SOs and not mention the good parts, since it isn't necessary in the context. I'm sure both foot-chan's and shower-chan's boyfriends have good things going on with them since the girls are defending them, we just don't really know the full story

>>8964031
read as: I'm too poor to afford a sewing machine so obviously my shitty crooked hand stitches are superior to a machine

>>8964048
same, I just joined the comm here and made a buddy of equally salty proportions to me, and now I might have to move and I was told I would get an answer like a fucking week ago.

on the bright side
>visit mum
>she's ok with makeup but nothing special
>years ago, when I was still living with her, someone gave her a birthday present of some travel set of makeup brushes
>she never used it
>always had an eye on it, ever since I got into makeup
>back to present time
>notice the brush set still sitting in its box
>ask if I could have it since she hasn't used it in the 7 or 8 years she's had it
>she obliges
>now have a travel kit of makeup brushes in a cute bag for cosplay and lolita meet adventures

the brushes feel pretty good, they're made by amway or some shit but I'm happy with them

>>8964234
Honestly, eventually you guys will well outgrow her (seems like you're on the way to doing that already) and you shouldn't feel ashamed of being organised adults. One of my no-longer-friends was/is probably still like this. She's smart enough to get a degree with honours and has the blonde caucasian English teacher thing going for her, but hated teaching when she was in Japan so worked illegally in clubs, mooched off her parents, spent all her cash on entertainment and somehow still can't manage her life, bills or...anything really. Her litany is "omg I need to lose weight/sort out my finances/stop spending so much on x" but whether it's here or Japan, her parents still foot all her bills when she fucks it up yet again. To be honest, when you're in your late 20s and actually not stupid you've gotta have something fucked up to be that financially inept and broadcast it like being a spoilt only brat is something to be proud of in this day and age. Since she's the only child and her parents are well off I don't think they've ever had the heart to cut her off and tell her to suck it up and manage her own life. Luckily because they do that at least I never had the situation of having to foot her bills.

>>8964009

I'm not so fussed about you imitating me as I am about you being rude and not including the previous thread anon's wine glasses. 7/10 effort.

>>8964414
A-and my throat singing

>core member of cosfam dies
>just woke up from a dream about her
>want to call her so bad
>first con without her at the end of May

Just fuck me up.

>>8964477

Rest assured, anon. Justice will be served. No lolitas, cosplayers, or woodsmen will be left out.

>tfw I'm pretty sure I offended my new (potential) cosplay friend
>we'd only met like a day ago and she unleashed the full extent of her weebiness on me with no warning when I was surrounded by my normalfag coworkers
>I got embarrassed and tried to distance myself without hurting her feelings
>she's now refusing to speak to me and keeps giving me the stink-eye from afar

I realize she probably just got really excited to find someone to share her anime/cosplay hobby with, but I work so hard to have people take me seriously and there she was yelling random phrases in high-pitched Japanese and expecting me to do the same thing back. I still want to be friends! But please learn to contain your powerlevel when we're in public!

>use lacemarket for the first time
>get outbid three times in a row on three different items
>by the same bitch

>depressed
>like really fucking badly
>been hospitalized in the psych ward for the past 2 weeks
>only motivation to get better and get out is because there's a cosplay i want to work on
>and a coord i need to buy stuff for

I'm on a temporary pass home right now, but I hope to be discharged soon

I can do it!

I'd like to apologise in advance for being one of what will probably be the trillion Suicide Squad Harleys this summer.

But my friend is doing Suicide Squad Joker and I'm trying to get in his pants so a girl's gotta do what a girl has to do.

Also it's gonna be cheaper for me to sew than my other plan so that's good.

>>8964925
Just like.

Tell him you want to have sex with him. It'll probably be faster and easier.

>>8964934
Probably. But having a couple cosplay is exciting too.

Also... I'd rather let things progress somewhat naturally. That sounds incredibly awkward.

>>8964270
>random black dots
>one of those insect that eat textiles
Are you sure? I thought only moths did this.

>>8964778
This is your signal you need to bid higher. Or just be smart and get your second hand stuff from Japan.

>>8963578
Ugly girls get shit in lolita, this is not Wonderland. It bothers the insecure ones, sometimes a lot. You need a pretty strong self-esteem to be an ugly lolita. Most aren't as ugly as they think they are but I still see a lot of frustrated posts about no comments, no likes, no notice too. So many mediocre lolitas are unhappy about that too. Everyone cares what others think to a greater or lesser degree it's just how much you are going to let that run your life that matters.
Also many girls get a few procedures done and are much happier with themselves and there's nothing wrong with that either.

>broke up with my boyfriend this week
>feel shit about it so decide to get a manicure and pamper myself tonight
>buy an exclusive lush bath bomb
>going to have a ncie, relaxing bath then head to bed early
>it stains the bath, my body, and my nice new nails
>mfw i have to spend 20 minutes cleaning the bath and not even makeup remover can save my nails

>>8965045
lush is terrible, anon.

>Need to ration my spending like a responsible adult
>End up buying more brand in a futile attempt to fill the emptiness in my heart
>Feel simultaneously anxious and indifferent about everything
Oh, well.

>>8965045
That sucks anon. Take the receipt for the bath bomb back to lush and show them your nails. At the very least they should refund you, apologise profusely and change the formula for their damn product!

>>8965082
Pffft, I used to be part of the UK Lush forum back in the day when the owner (Mark) and other high ups used to interact with us. Tons of people posted this complaint (and many others like products causing rashes, being sold scentless products or perfume bottles that were only half filled) for the past 4 years at least. As long as people keep buying their overpriced crap they'll keep churning it out. There's a lot of evidence on this kind of things and how they mistreat their staff on this blog https://mitheringsfrommorningside.wordpress.com/?s=smell+the+bullshit&submit=Search
>Sage for OT

I'm starting to feel like I'm pissing my comm off.
I've flaked out on multiple times now simply because I didn't feel like going, because my depression flared up and I didn't want to be a total debbie downer at a meet.
I mean I'm trying to overcome this with professional help, but man in the mean time this sucks. I'm starting to bet they expect me to flake and don't take my 'going' seriously anymore. Sucks, and I wish I could explain to them, but I just don't think they'll take me seriously.

>>8965045
Are you from the UK? Bomb cosmetics sell decent bath bombs that smell great, make your skin feel amazing and they don't stain everything. Only thing I find annoying is they sometimes put dried flowers in them, and they stick to the side of the bath when the water's drained.

>>8964925
Disgusting slut.

>>8965199
Stop posting 'going' until you actually are, post maybe and reply a firm yes or no by the time they call for the final headcount. If you reply yes and flake it is a pain to anyone making reservations so yeah, they will get annoyed if you do this repeatedly.

If you trust one of your comm mods you might have a quiet word with her just generally to let her know you have had some issues. That's usually enough to get you set right with them again. Good luck. Try to make a few meets despite the depression, don't let it get you completely, but cut yourself a break and stop feeling you have to go to all the meets. That might make you feel a bit better, maybe.

>>8965213
My problem is, they usually want a headcount a week in advance. There's no way I can predict how I'll feel in a week because my mood changes with the wind.

I'm very tall
with a flat chest

>thanks to me being tall, my bones are bigger, so If I wear a pushup bra with any jfashion outfits I get boob loaf or I straight up can't button things
>the problem is, when I DONT wear a pushup bra, people ask if I'm a man/crossdresser/tranny
>this goes for my regular fashion too.
>people stare at me for twice as long when I'm wearing a regular bra than when I'm wearing a pushup bra
>occasionally someone asks if im a a dude or a lady

I got a cute and feminine babyface so I dont understand.
why do normal think boobs= not man when a crossdresser could just as easily wear fake boobs?

Its really disheartening and makes me feel like shit whenever this happens. Maybe I should just get fake boobs. who cares about looking cute when every time you go out without a pushup bra someone is just going to ask you if you're a tranny?

I'd much rather be able to fit into the clothes I like and people to stop guessing my gender when I go out- but it looks like that's never going to be an option

Even my own mother kept getting second hand embarrassment because of this and when I lived with her she kept buying me pushup bras and bra inserts.

I'm seriously, seriously thinking about the surgery- even if it means I can't wear jfashion comfortably anymore.

I just today noticed my alopecia is knocking hair out of my eyebrow. Just the one eyebrow. I've been working hard the past 6 months taking better care of myself health and depression-wise so everything has been really good lately but now this shit has to ruin everything.
I've put a lot of work into my skincare and eyebrow crafting but fuck me apparently.

>be named Gracie
>find out the comm is calling me "Greasy"

FUCK

>>8965342
take a fucking shower

>>8965218
That's understandable, reservations are usually made about a week in advance. If you are not stable enough to not know if you are going to flake though you've got a bigger problem than what your comm thinks. Reply no if you can't give a firm answer until you are in a state where you can. I hope you get better.

>order Cardcaptor Sakura apron
>excitement
>once it ships remember its coming from japan with tiny asian sizing and I am a fat western whale
>sadness
>it arrives
>IT FUCKING FITS
pretty happy man

>>8965410
Looks a bit wonky anon. Does it fit properly over your boobs?

>>8965417
it certainly does not, but I can wear it and thats all that matters

>>8965342
N O P O O
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>>8965410
Um. No.
This is 'fits'.

>>8965410
I'm glad you have apron. Now you can make like a meido and clean the big mess behind you. Get to work.

>>8965410
Ahahahaha holy shit.

>>8965410
>tiny asian sizing
Were the measurements listed in cm at all because those numbers don't lie

So while out in my frills my car battery died because I'm a damn idiot who left her headlights on. While trying to get the hood latch open and get the jumper cables on, I got grease and dirt on the front of my dress. I havent gotten home yet so I'm just here in the car panicing about stains.

>>8965524
Stop posting and gtf home

>>8964953
I'm pretty sure it is. These looks like tiny beetles being only the size of 2mm. I searched about these and luckily the one I found are really mild case compared to others.

>>8965296
And you can't even really cosplay flat girls because they're almost always short too.

>>8965526
I was stuck in traffic when I posted that. (Like what am I supposed to do in my car? Spit on it? And I don't think a Tide pen can handle streaks of grease all down the front) I've cleaned most of it but I might need to go out and get something tomorrow for some stains on the lace

>>8965474
Well she's pretty fat for Lolita so if she's just a fan weeb she'd think 'oh hey apron, one size fits all for those, yay' and if she's American 'one size' is pretty big here, I'm a US Medium and I usually think they are pretty big on me and big women here do squeeze into them when they shouldn't and lots of stuff is stretchy so...magical fatty excited fan girl logic took over, maybe?
I mean, she posted it and said it fits when it's quite a bit too small so she still doesn't get it that just because it goes on doesn't mean it fits.
I can wear a kids size hello kitty shirt too but I don't. (Usually)
OK, only at home alone, n-no judge, pls.

>>8965474
This photo
>>8965447
This description
About
Have a magical time in the kitchen with this incredibly cute Cardcaptor Sakura apron. A high quality item from Ensky made from cotton and polyester, features an apron that looks like one of Sakura's many kawaii magical girl costumes with Kero-chan on top of your pocket. It comes in a "free" size that would fit most adults. This is a wonderful item for fans of Cardcaptor Sakura that is both cute and stylish. Sold only here in Japan. Great for cosplaying too.

Length: 80cm (31.5in)

Where it hits on the mannekin
What it looks like on unfortunate apron-chan

>>8965296
Are you sure it's not your face, or maybe your voice? Several of my friends are tall with flat chests and the only one who gets tranny comments is the one with the kind of mannish face and short hair. The others still sometimes get shit for having no boobs, but no one ever questions their gender.

>>8965874
>cute and feminine babyface
I'm pretty sure its not the face. though with a bad haircut and bushy brows I can look like a guy lol. but I know what looks good on me and I avoid doing things that make me look manly.

It couldn't be my voice because these strangers haven't even heard me talk before.

When it comes to people questioning my gender I've got it down to a science. this literally only happens when I'm not wearing a super padded bra.
when I'm in lolita people go out of their way to try to make snide comments to me, so there's a much larger chance of it happening.
when I'm outside of lolita it rarely happens, but man do people stare at me for twice as long than when I DO wear a pushup bra.

not to mention, it depends on where you live as well. I've traveled several in more conservative states its more likely for people to approach you on this (including shopkeepers???) while people are less likely to say anything if you're libreral but man by this point in my life I can tell when someone gives me a "boy or girl" type stare.

>tfw I just want people to stop looking at me like pic related

>>8963829
Elias is that skull-headed dude, right? Are you kidding me? He's a piece of cake, I'd be surprised if I didn't see cons loaded with him soon. Order a resin skull-style fursuit head base, jam a computer fan in the nose and embed a battery in the neck/mouth, and if you have any prop making experience you can easily adjust the resin base to have horns/correct brows before finishing it with a nice gloss. Use Buckrum in the nose/mouth so you can see out and still breathe, you might need to either create resin eyes or use an LED for a pupil but know your vision will be completely fucked either way. Sunglasses might be your best bet for the eyes. Go with a DTD pattern for your neck, its a fiddly fucking thing but at least the character design allows for some bagginess. Theres other options for all of this so research it - get over whatever cringe you have with the furries, you'll be a better costumer and have access to techniques normies will never see. Everything else is standard cosplay faire.

anyways, good luck.

>tfw so many old EGL/daily_lolita/LJ blogs pictures and links are dead
I just want to see the pretty pics and stuff forever ;-; isn't there any way to bring them back to life?

>paid all my bills
>paid all my friends back
>still have like 400 dolleridoos to go
oh shit what should i spend it on

>>8965972
save it you idiot

>meet female friend who is into the same things as you and jfashion and stuff
>you are both too shy and awkward to talk to each other and become friends
help

>>8966065
I understand that feeling

I can't stop getting supper salty over the fact that I can't become a famous cosplayer because of my full-time job and university. I barely have time for myself, so my I can't invest too much time into cosplay.
I get jealous every time I see coaplayers in halfmade costumes with big tits get invites or are paid to represent a game. I don't want want a fucking patreon or random donations, I want my money. I also don't want to show my boobs.

I feel that I have to let go that dream.

I can't stop getting supper salty over the fact that I can't become a famous cosplayer because of my full-time job and university. I barely have time for myself, so, I can't invest too much time into cosplay.
I get jealous every time I see cosplayers in halfmade costumes with big tits getting invited to events or are paid to represent a game. I don't want a fucking patreon or random donations, I want my money. I also don't want to show my boobs.

I feel that I have to let go that dream.

>Want to buy cute cgl shoes
>Shoe size 40 EU / 9 US
>HAHAHA
Time to buy more sneakers!

>>8964270
random black dots is bedbugs...
holes are from eating, black spots are bedbug poop

>Feel too fat to wear certain cosplays
>Be 35-26-37 and 5'4
>Fit into brand easily
>Friends always go on about how I'm not fat because of measurements
>I only have a small frame so those measurements make me look huge because I'm not toned at all and it's all squish
>Can't talk about wanting to tone up or lose weight without friends going on about how I'm already thin and should be happy with it
>Beginning to not like cosplay because I always look fat and people laugh at it behind my back

>>8966215
your friends are fat. Work out anyways and just don't talk to them about it since they obviously don't understand. I've got the same skinnyfat issues as you, small measurements but lots of squish that easily folds/is pinched that makes you look a thousand times larger. I know people would bitch and whine or call me anorexic if I talked about working out and dieting so I just keep it to myself. Now that I've lost 20 lbs and look a million times better everyone just assumes this is how I've always looked.

>be in my last year of high school.
>have to work my ass off, because I want to pass.
>one teacher is determine to make me fail her subject. To get back at me for telling the schoolhead we had to turn in our paper a month earlier (on the same day as another big paper), because otherwise she "did have enough time to grade them" *cough* had to grade them during her vacation to India *cough*.
>because of all this: no social life until after finals.
>get invited for a sakura watching meet.
>anon, why don't you come. You're overworking yourself and need a break.
>have the Thursday after 3 big test and the meet is on the same day as a "not obliged" obliged lecture.
>decide to go after the lecture: because yeah, I'm stressing myself out and need a break.
>wrote on the event page I would be later because of the lecture.
> 5 minutes remove from the bus stop for the meet. Get a call from friend.
>everybody is leaving because it cold.
>cold!!! I'm walking around without jacket. That's rare in this country and the time is only 16.30. Plenty of light a head.
>nope, nobody wants to stay a little longer.

I didn't know everybody on the meet, and I'm not thick budies with everybody. But if I heard someone was just about to arrive and the weather was still ok, I would have stayed, even if it was only for a half a hour.

Morale of the story: stay at home and study, like you should have.

>>8966215
>can't talk about losing weight
>so why go through the trouble of losing weight
>hate hobbies because I think I look fat but won't do anything about it

ffs anon, just tone up anyway. If you don't like the way you look, then do something about it without saying anything. This is a problem because you're not willing to do anything for yourself. It's self-inflicted. Stop being an idiot.

>>8966231
I've started doing daily exercises and things which I'm enjoying. The issue is when if I try and talk about it.
example being
> some friends are talking about what they do at the gym and diets and losing weight
> I try and input the conversation and give them advice and such
> Get shut down in the convo because they think I'm too thin to be in that conversation
>I'm the only one to actually have lost some weight at all.

Already lost 8lbs since wanting to lose weight it would just be nice to actually have someone to talk to

>>8966239
Those don't sound like good friends desu.

>>8963548
You'll be fine. If you're insecure about other lolitas judging you, just put a sticker over your face.
Get something done if you really want to, but you can wear lolita regardless.

>>8965410
Not to be a killjoy, but it doesn't fit you.

>finally decided to cosplay my first *~* sexy*~* character because she's my favorite in the source media
>i usually stick to pretty modest/tomboyish girls
>i'm definitely not chubby, weight is on the lower end of normal, but i am definitely no teen animu

i'm really scared that people are going to mock me online. i mean, i know that's a risk you take when you create things, dress up, and go out in public, but it still makes me a little nervous

>>8963616

I sometimes have this problem too, my dude.
It's not super uncommon to feel like you missed something. Like everyone you know went to these special classes to learn skills to be normal people and you somehow missed the memo. Like there's some kind of set method to growing up and developing and you did it wrong. But it isn't that way; a "normal" upbringing is a myth. You should never feel like you're "not allowed" to do something because you aren't the same as the typical person who does. You are just as entitled to do whatever makes you happy as someone who grew up with a silver spoon.
And nobody is judging you. In fact, a lot people admire you for getting yourself where you are now without the crutch of a privileged upbringing. In fact, if you feel like someone is looking down on you, they're probably the one who is jealous. You endured some tough shit to get to where you are now, and you probably have a lot more necessary skills for adulthood than they do. You earned what you have, and they were given what they have. It makes them feel bitter, because you are a hell of a lot more impressive.

>Wanna crossplay and maybe even try lolita fashion someday, hopefully sometime in the middle of the coming summer.
>Do training excercises everyday motivated by the idea of cute dresses.
>Despite my attempts to fix my skin and having a proper skincare routine i still get breakouts/acne.
>Start to lose motivation.
Thinking about visiting a dermatologist, i just dont wanna give up on this.

>waiting to hear back about a teaching job in Japan
>some other people who have applied for the job but had their interview earlier are already getting their responses back
>have to wait at least two more weeks to find out if I get it
>stressing me out like crazy.

I have been doing so much stress sewing. I have more new started projects than I know what to do with now and I cant stop obsessively checking my email to see if I have a response yet.

>waiting to hear back about a teaching job in Japan
>some other people who have applied for the job but had their interview earlier are already getting their responses back
>have to wait at least two more weeks to find out if I get it
>stressing me out like crazy.

I have been doing so much stress sewing. I have more new started projects than I know what to do with now and I cant stop obsessively checking my email to see if I have a response yet.

>come across a question related to lolita
>type up a helpful response
>notice OP referred to it as "lolita cosplay"
>add a note about it being a fashion style, not cosplay
>suddenly notice this person is into DD/lg
>mfw

>have a friend on skype who has troubles affording stuff for her coords
>keep my nose out of it and she never asks
>one day shes crotchety because she tore her leggings or something before a big con in her state and doesnt have the spare change
>mfw its like 8 dollars
>tell her to go to walmart and ill just wire her a 20 for a few pairs so she wont miss the con
>Immediately calls me a pig and "knew i was like that from the start"
>Wat.jpg
>Sends me a picture of a middle finger and then blocks me on skype
>Mfw she knew i was married with a kid the entire time and we only discussed coords and seasons of anime

Makes me paranoid as shit with a female gamer i team up with but shes not onto Lolita Fashion. Atleast i have /cgl/ i suppose

>>8966102
Same. Technically I could do cosplay and Jfash full time if I let my fiancé pay our bills and my parents fund my hobby (which they've already assured me they'd happily do), but I'd feel really shitty about taking their money for something so frivolous. Why can't I balance e-fame with being a responsible and financially independent adult? Fuck this. What makes it worse is that there are a handful of women in my comm who are living the fulltime weeb dream on their parents’ or spouse’s dime and/or loans and they’ll happily flaunt this every chance they get. I know that in the long run I’ll be a lot better off and they’re just digging a hole for themselves, but I can’t help but be a little jelly. Sometimes I wish I could’ve done this shit when I was still a teenager, since it’s considered much more socially acceptable for teens to be irresponsible and self-indulgent.

>>8966561
So she "knew from the start" you were just trying to get into her pants but continued to talk to you anyway? Makes sense.
Sounds like she was in a really bad mood for some reason and decided to take it out on you. Really immature though, I guess nothing of value was lost.

>>8966102
Jesus christ anon, it's like you're astral projecting into my soul.
I don't cosplay often, but I think mine look damn good, but I always get ~90 notes on tumblr for them because I'm not a popular fandom blogger or into super sexy outfits. Meanwhile, some semi-popular online prescience puts on a wig and some old clothes from their drawer and get 20,000 notes and reposted on every cosplay forum.

I think we just need to stop hoping for validation and have fun.

>>8966574
>So she "knew from the start" you were just trying to get into her pants but continued to talk to you anyway? Makes sense.

I suppose? Was really confusing for me, and shes from /cgl/ as well. Was glad to finally have a gull friend on skype just to chit chat with while at work. If it was just a bad day she would have unblocked me by now so we can bitch about sword art summore

>meet some new people when out with some friends
>one of them starts talking about cosplay and shows pictures of her costumes
>people brush her off and change the subject
>I was actually really interested but too socially awkward to say anything
>try to find her online afterwards but no idea where to look
>everything under her real name is 100% normie
>only email address I can find is a professional one
>would feel like a creepy stalker emailing her on her office account to ask to see more cosplays

I'm also a girl and I'm a bit younger than her. Would this make my e-stalking less creepy somehow, or am I doomed?

>>8966628
Nah just be honest with her. And dont fucking call her san or senpai, use your normie words

>>8965141
I like their sugar scrubs though..

>mixed, light skinned, but tan every summer
>cosplaying a character that's regarded as black even though she's ethnically ambiguous "PoC"
I'd be lying if I said I wasn't mildly dreading the potential "whitewashing" cry brigade even though I'm not white.

>>8966760
you too?
I've been contemplating getting a spray tan or tanning some more lol

>will never have a boyfriend that would genuinly like me because I lack what men like
>already considered crazy for being into anime and cosplay
I feel so lonely

>>8967215
>>will never have a boyfriend that would genuinly like me because I lack what men like
being?

>>8967223
flat chest

>>8967230
>when boys say they like flat chested girls but really they only mean flat chested short girls
>if you are a short girl you have lolicon fucks going after you

>>8967215
Bums me tf out whenever I go to a tea-party and see a hot guy hanging off some greasy obesey. What am I doing wrong?

>>8967258
You mean guys can genuinly like greasy obeseys?
I'm not and I already despair that no guy will ever like me for real.

>>8967265
What, because you don't have boobies? It's not that big of a deal.

>>8967274
You think?

>>8967281
Guys care about your boob size as much as you care about their peepee size. Not much at all.

>>8967293
Has there ever been several people made popular purely for their big dick size who aren't in porn?

My mom tried to commit suicide a couple days ago. Her psych evaluation doctor basically implied it was partially my fault because I didn't answer her call for help (aka I didn't want to deal with her calling me drunk and belligerent and telling me what a shitty daughter I am yet again). I'm glad she's going to be okay, but I feel really empty and alone right now.

Board-related, due to all this going on and having to run between the hospital and her house, I haven't been eating very well for the past few days and am frustrated because I'd just gotten my diet back in line for the past month and had lost six pounds to look good in cosplay, and I'm afraid I'm ruining it.