/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL

>love lolita
>all my friends encourage me to wear it
>one friend always takes me coord photos
>that friend was murdered recently
>I threw all my Lolita in a box and put it in the back of my closet
> managed to hang it all back up yesterday
>have packages in the mail
>not even excited to be getting them
She always waited by the library to see my outfit for the day... It's really hard walking past that spot every day and have her not there

>>8677982
Oh, anon, I'm so sorry.

>>8677982
Yeesh, fuck that dude

>>8677991
>>8677993
I'm a wreck, she was super nice too. It's hard going back to school and it's hard walking past the place I knew she took her last breath
>requested time off for a small tea party
I'll see how I'm feeling by then, I love lolita, and I know she would want me to continue to wear it

>>8677982
I don't want to speak for your friend but I'm sure you can imagine she would want you to do what makes you happy, and if lolita makes you sad sometimes then that's okay too.

>tfw male into cosplay and jfash
>have to drink alcohol to use men's room when dressed up
>dat internalized homophobia is too real to cope with sober
>normalfags break bathroom code to stare at me
>unsafe feelings intensify

>>8678006
She would want me to continue to be a lolita, since it makes me happy
The depression is gone but the reality has set in that she was murdered and she is never coming back
Her daughter was a lolita as well

>>8678049
Use the ladies' room. Go with a female friend.

>long time admirer of cosplay/j-fash but too afraid to commit
>spend hours browsing cgl and lacemarket
>have a cosplay list
>finally steeled myself to order something, cheap pink wig off lacemarket
>arrived after a long few weeks off waiting
>I-it's so cool

>Male
>Gigantic geek/nerd.
>Everything from anime to games.
>Gaming srs business, World of Warcraft raiding Mythic Content
>Literally spend most of my time gaming or watching anime when not working or fitness
>All the girls I think are cute aren't into my hobbies
>Start second guessing myself. Think I am ugly
>First cosplay ever at New York Comic Con of a Fallout Vault Dweller
>Can't walk 30 steps without someone asking to take a pic of me
>Still feel like I am sub-par

(Pic related, it's me)

>>8678358
>fishing for compliments on cgl
You might want to rethink that. And while you're rethinking that, rethink that haircut.

>start attending uni
>"hey, maybe I couldn't attract some cosplay friends by wearing an animu backpack. I need more friends."
>I look and act 100% normal aside from this, wouldn't even be able to tell otherwise
>doesn't attract cool friends, only attracts creeps
>walk into uni, get told I'm "beautiful" literally three times a day by sweaty neckbeards who like anime.
>get told I'm beautiful today as per usual
>five minutes pass
>new guy walks by
>"has anyone told you that you're beautiful today"
>"yeah, five minutes ago actually"
>guy literally runs away. He turns around and runs out of the fucking building.
>wtf

Never buy an anime backpack, gulls. Just don't do it.

My best friend just called me to tell me she has gotten married and moved halfway accross the country.
Last I knew she lived 15 minutes away.
Im happy for her in that she got her self out of a not great spot and has better options now. Im really bummed my best friend is gone. She was the only friend I have who really gets jfashion and would get excited with me. I hope she'll be happy but man Im going to miss her.

>>8678361
>question our great leader's impeccable style
You should be beheaded tbh fam

>Want to join city's only comm but know the members from being insane in the cosplay community
>No one else to dress up with
I am fine on my own but knowing the other people who like lolita here are batshit is disheartening.

>>8678325
go for it anon. you will learn a lot from the experience even if you stop after a while.

>>8678373
>>"has anyone told you that you're beautiful today"
>>"yeah, five minutes ago actually"
>>guy literally runs away. He turns around and runs out of the fucking building.
i lol'd

>>8678358
That feeling seems spot on. you look extremely subpar to me

>>8678373
clearly he was just speeding off to go find that other guy who said it and fight him for the right to win you.

>>8678373
I have an anime and a video game bag and it hasn't been so bad. The worst thing that's happened so far was when one guy was awkwardly hitting on me he showed me an essay he wrote on an anime for class and I really wanted so badly to give him advice on his horribly written essay. He didn't even have a thesis statement and it was an academic paper.

>>8678402
The difference is probably that I live in Florida and everybody here is crazy.

Some other dude thinks I'm his OC he created in his self-insert fanfiction. It's the OC that's his self-insert's dead girlfriend. My middle name is the character's name, long brown hair and the girl in his comic also wears lolita so he's 100% convinced and all of his weeb friends now call me by his OC's name when I'm just trying to study in the lobby.

>>8678419
I live in Florida too, actually. I go to Valencia in Orlando. I mostly get people saying that they love my bags or my pins, or some of the nerdy shit I wear. I wore a lolita coord once as well and it was received positively. I'm pretty good at shutting down the people I get really awkward vibes from, though, before they can really get started.

>>8678422
What the heck, lemme go there instead of here please.
I have no choice because there's only 1 lobby near my building to study at and it happens to be where all of the bad kinds of weebs play magic the gathering all day.
I've never actually worn lolita to college yet, they've just tried to look through my Facebook.

>>8678425
I'm sorry.

>>8678373
>being a cunt when people compliment you

>>8678436
I'm sorry I don't care for compliments by sweaty neckbeard weebs who come up to me while I'm studying to compliment me just because I'm a girl with an anime backpack.

>>8678438
i don't think anyone but sweaty neckbeard weebs are going to compliment such a fucking cunt.

>>8678439
do you play magic the gathering too, anon?

>>8678439
>>8678438
Hey can we not do this, just once? Only 300 posts before autosage and nobody else cares

>>8678439
I've actually never been rude to them when they've complimented me. I always say thanks, even though I really don't care for it and find it unnecessary.

>>8678361
Not really fishing for compliments. I just wanted to show off a pic of me because I was excited about the first cosplay I have ever done.
Eh, reading it again myself and it does come off as sounding like I am fishing for compliments. Though I am honestly not, whatever...

>>8678382
I lol'd hard! This actually made me laugh cause I am Korean.

>>8678361
Are you kidding, that haircut is perfect for his cosplay.

But those hobbies are never really attractive, especially if that's all you doing.

>pre-ordered Haenuli's Jellyfish dress a few months ago
>slowly bought pieces to have a cute sea-witch coord for Halloween
>find out all the stuff that went wrong with the sewing studio and that the dresses are delayed
>will I ever have my jellyfish dress? Certainly not in time to wear it when I intended to

Additionally:
>about to order the Holy Lantern MTO, it'll be my very first AP dress
>Waiting for the last item from my first taobao order to arrive at the TaobaoRing warehouse
>waiting, waiting, waiting, waiting

>>8678443
>trying to insult nerdy hobbies on a board about dressing up like japanese cartoon characters

>finally got a J-fash magazine because I'm slowly trying to improve my wardrobe
>reading it during break because I went to class right after the bookstore
>It was more informative than I thought so I was happy until a classmate asked if she can borrow it
>a few pages in she told her friend (she said it a bit quietly but I can still hear it) that it's disgusting

It's not even something too alternative, it's just something like pic related.

> Bought a dress I liked for a decent price
> Kinda expensive, but hey, I'm doing good with my money and it's a cool print
> Holy Lantern MTO comes up
> Okay, well I can afford this too, I just have to pick one main piece
> Meta's Lucky Pack happens
> Promised I'd get it if I could since Meta has been on a roll and favorite brand
> Buy the bigger pack on accident, didn't notice until after the payment
> Oops
> Bank account is still good, spent a little more than I wished but still good!
> FromJapan is finally getting items I preordered months ago, time to pay second charges

A-at least I get paid Friday and that will make up for a lot of excess spending, but shit I spent way too much this month for this damn hobby.

> At least I'll be cute

>my uncle killed himself two weeks ago
>bought so much stuff as some kind of fucked up coping mechanism, bought a load of stuff on my ebay wishlist and then a load £1 hairclips i dont even need
>feel guilty about buying stuff so feel worse
>trying to fill the hole with cute shit isnt working
>buy food to make me feel better cause i feel bad and spend even more money
>im a fucking wreck

>talking to a girl
>seems pretty cool, plays MTG, watches some anime, plays video games
>says she only goes for smart, "nerdy" guys

Admittedly, I am not smart but this is the part that gets me.

>says she's never had a real relationship, guys only used her for sex
>complains that she hasn't had sex for years but wants a nerdy guy
>nerdy guy
>admitted to dating guys only interested in sex
>see:chads
>"wasn't in a place to mentally say no when they wanted sex"

Jesus christ, I thought you guys were bullshitting about women riding the cock carousel before wanting to settle down with a beta. I'll gladly remain a virgin if it means avoiding women like her. Why is 3DPD so disgusting?

>>8678758
I feel really bad for her. It sounds like she's had a hard time with her relationships and opened up to you about it and you're just stereotyping her.

>tfw see posts about me in comm thread
>some comm member has found my tumblr where its a mishmash of porn i draw and other interests including jfashion
>really want to talk it out with them but don't want to start drama
>don't even know who it is

I'm not really active in my comm but they still know me? I'm not sure how to handle this.

>>8678382
kek

>>8678419
I've been going to a mainstream school for 11 years now and I'm going to college next year.

FUck. Northern, Central, or Southern Florida?

>tfw your jfashion icon is on a downward spiral
Ringo why
Who will I turn to for inspiration now

>>8678810
There's no way you're going to find that person unless they come to you. And I don't think talking to them would help in any way judging by their responses in that thread. You could have replied to her directly but it's at bump limit now.
She sounds really immature so she will probably hold a grudge against you which means it might be easy to see who's avoiding you depending on the size of your comm. You just have to hope she doesn't blow it out of proportion by involving other lolitas.

>>8678758
>riding the cock carousel

And back to /r9k/ you should go

>>8678843
I'm just hoping whoever it is won't make this a big thing, as its just a side hobby of mine and I mean no ill when I post porn, it's not some big secret as it's how I make some of my money, and i'm not trying to keep it as a big secret, but at the same time I'm not shoving it in anybody's face.
Hopefully she can keep it calm and not blow this out of proportion, though I cannot help but be a little curious as to who it is.

>>8678758
how is this relevent to cgl in any way?
did you want some female attention so you came here with this ''im a guy btw :333'' bs?

>not an ECE (Early Childhood Educator) but I am an assistant at a daycare.
>Work school age room with 30 kids and only 2 of us
>other worker is still in school, not an ECE yet so because I have been there longer/working in the room longer I took charge because she is dumb as fuck.
>work my ass off, put out activities by myself, no budget to buy stuff through the day care so I am buying stuff out of my own pocket.
>get bitched at by boss that there isn't enough activites out. If I wasn't paying out of pocket, there would be.
>get told I need to "learn my place" by my boss because technically the other girl is the ECE.
> yea. If she didn't just stand there and mope on how much she didn't want to be in SA, but in pre school and not helping. Yea.
>I am stuck being the "disciplinary" teacher, having to set rules because she won't go through with anything. I tell them no, she tells them sure. Fak.
> I am tired and frustrated. And now I am hearing she is going around telling the kids I am no fun. And that everyone likes her more.

I hate my job.

>>8678855
How would they have found your Tumblr? You could try making a vague post so they could contact you but that could maybe cause drama. They seem too close minded. Lots of people dislike lolita being mentioned in a sexual manner but she seemed to take offense to anything which wasn't vanilla.

>>8678855
I'm sure whoever posted about you watches porn on the daily and raunchy hentai videos, so they're a bit' hypocritical. I'm not sure why anybody should care that you draw porn. Seriously, who cares?

>am Lolita
>hooked up with a guy, been txting me regularly showing aftermath interest
>me not fussed, don't want to rush into things but the attention is refreshing
>he requested FB friend add
>seen my lolita pics. Haven't msged since.
>I know deep down its part of weeding out process, but why does it feel so shit?

>>8678913
You didn't care for him so it's stupid to think more of it. Did you send him a lolita pic and he stopped replying? Otherwise I don't get how you think it's based on the pictures alone.

>>8678662
>a few pages in she told her friend (she said it a bit quietly but I can still hear it) that it's disgusting
Jesus why does her taste such shit?

>>8678753
That's really rough anon, I'm sorry to hear about that. Mourning is hard, and trying to find ways to cope with loss is hard, and just keep at it. You don't need to feel bad for trying to make yourself feel better. I did the same thing(bought a bunch of stuff I didn't need) when my grandfather passed a year ago, therapist said it had something to do with wanting to feel like I was in control.
I want to say "I hope you feel better soon" but that's kind of idealistic.

>>8678662
That page has some nice outfits on it. Don't feel down about it, anon. Dress cute for yourself and stay away from that classmate. She sounds like a pretty awful person.

>>8678758
You're kidding yourself if you think "chads" are the only ones that want women around just for sex. Please see almost any thread on r9k with their views on women. If this is real, she's talking to you as a human being not some stereotype you've conjured in your head. Bait please go.

>baby's first bodyline order never arrived, assuming lost forever
>everyone I've talked to about it has warned me that Bodyline doesn't give a fuck about customer service and I'm not going to get shit, just money down the drain

>>8678049
Strangely enough, >>8678080 is right.
If you want into a women's bathroom to pee and they give you a look, just mention the men usually make you feel uncomfortable in your own bathroom. Most women will obviously sympathize and leave you be as long as you don't peak under the stalls.

>deciding between getting TKF and a basic bitch witch coord for Halloween
>"eh. No rush. I get paid saturday"
>MLD:"PUMPKIN CAT LOW WAIS-"
>run home from work to overdraft account
>account won't let me
>fucking cried myself to sleep because I would be immaculate in a size M or L and they'll sell out first
>woke up and L is sold out
>three days til I get paid
> there is no hope left in man

I'm good for it... In three days. I just want to get someone to buy it in advance for me but tht shits shady as fuck to ask.

>>8679067
Chad

Also calm down I doubt they were generalising

>>8678436
Yeah most women consider it a personal insult for unattractive guys to even exist. If one has the gall to actually speak to her it's basically rape in their eyes.

But really I don't know what she was expecting. No shit you aren't going to get Chads hitting on you like you wanted because of some dorky anime backpack.

>trying to plan simple vampire coordinate for halloween meet this weekend
>I apparently fucking suck at coordinating because this is getting ridiculous
>I've gone through three different dresses at this point
>Don't know what I'm doing anymore
>mfw five years of coordinating things has completely deserted me in my time of need

I just want to look like the bride of a very attractive iteration of Dracula

>>8678899
I accadentally posted a coord once, and occasionally reblog jfashion. My artist name is a spin on my own name, so possibly that?
I'm going to let it be, and hope she can move on like I'm going to.

>last five things I've bought on eBay (all cosplay related) haven't arrived
>don't think it's the mailman because all my aliexpress packages have turned up okay
>nothing expensive enough to get customs on
>got a taobao order shipping soon that absolutely has to get here on time
>got all my money back, but i just want my stuff
>getting tired of this shit

>>8678662
iktf anon
I read those mags too (I use the zazhimi app) but most people in my class are just way, way too basic for anything like that

>used to have a terrible eating disorder
>parents threatened inpatient
>went to inpatient
>hell on earth
>discover lolita
>fall in love with the frills
>still has ED mentality that I'm too fat
>starts dieting/working out
>even more unhappy then I was before

>tfw cosplaying as female characters as a male at cons
>guys who try to hoverhand you while taking pictures you with whisper in your ear that they're gay
>get stopped by security while trying to use the men's room
>trying to use the urinal and hear someone take a picture
>kids get super excited at my cosplays and ask if I'm x character, cause that's their favorite, and I can't talk or my man voice will ruin their dreams
>can't hold a relationship where girls know I do crossplay since every one of them ends with the girl feeling like she has to compete with me at cons

>>8679095
this
say what you want about women (inb4 r9k neckfriends) but I'm so relieved that most women have the common decency to not be racist, homophobic pieces of shit like some men are.
Not that there aren't outliers of course, but I'm just speaking as someone who used to get discriminated against on a national basis quite frequently. It was usually young men.

>>8678419
us florida anons got to stick together, the psychos are here in heavy concentration
There's a handicapped kid in my department (blind) who tells everyone I'm his girlfriend. I've never spent time with the guy save for one trip last month when his guide was ill so i helped her take him around. I've only had one conversation with him and he spent the whole time running his hands over the sleeves of my blouse and telling me how nice I must look because my sleeves are "like a princess". I don't even fucking know his name. But apparently I'm his girlfriend and he tells the whole department about it.
>mfw im a lesbian
>mfw he's not even mentally handicapped, just a blind jerk
>mfw my gf wants to beat his ass

I wish I had the courage to post myself to see what kind of lolita style would work for me; however I know ill only be made fun off

>>8679095
>>8678080
Don't fall for the trap. Get exposed as a man in a womans restroom and they'll call security to tell them there's a rapist on the loose faster than you can raise the toiler seat.

>>8678758

Do you really think fedoralords are not also only interested in sex? You think people that euphoric are actually going in for a meaningful relationships?

It's not a binary between Chads and Betas. If you really want to simplify human relationships, it's going to at least be a matrix of both charisma and being a good person. Low good, high charisma is a douchebag, what you call a "chad".
high charisma, high good is a worthwhile person.

Low charisma, high good is a shut-in.
Low charisma, low good is /r9k/. They are no better than "chads", they're just less skilled.

>>8679377
Fedoralords are exactly the same as Chads when it all boils down, they just generally put less effort into their physical appearance and social lives.

>>8678913
>Guy is trying to connect with me
>play coy and (possibly, since you didn't specify) ignore him
>wow, he stopped messing me, it must be my hobby.

People don't like to feel like they're being yanked around or wasting time.

>>8679214
Check that your address is entered correctly in eBay. If it is, put a decoy package on your doorstep (maybe with an ink bomb in it or something you can track the location of), to see if somebody is robbing you.

>>8679227
Nah, homophobia and racism transcends gender. Young men are most vocal because all the testosterone makes them cocky and loud. Most other people who judge you just judge you silently.

>>8679396
At least they're polite about it.

>>8679384
I didn't get "playing coy and ignoring him" from "not fussed/not rushing" at all. Are you projecting?

>>8679377
Why do you bother leaving out physical attractiveness as if that isn't the only truly important factor? Is it so you can pretend you're not as shallow as you really are?

>>8679506
Look at /r9k/; some are hot attractive but I still wouldn't date any of them. Who wants to date someone who projects their insecurities on others?

>>8678049
I've been on HRT for 3 years and I still use the men's restroom without much incident. Nobody has ever been hostile just really confused.

Maybe I'm just in full dont-give-a-fuck mode

Not cgl related but I need to study for exams and I just can't bring myself to start. The sheer thought of studying for some reason makes me feel anxious and all day I'll think about "I need to study" while not doing it and my anxiety increases with each day.

The worst part is that I'm afraid that once again I'll end up studying 5 hours before the exam actually starts and get a failing grade, even though I know that if I study now I should easily pass it.

I'm too ashamed to ask friends or family to help, I already feel like a disappointment. And now I'd have to admit that I can't even sit down and study like any normal student.

That awkward feeling when you see cgl's favorite youtube superstar on an onahole box. I'm just gonna stay away from aliexpress now.

>>8679408
lolita poster here, anon, I didn't post the one you just replied to.

>>8678884

So, say something. Don't just take shit from everyone and sit in a corner complaining.

Tell your boss you need a budget for stuff and your co worker is useless.

>>8678758
>"wasn't in a place to mentally say no when they wanted sex"

Trying to figure out what this even means.

>>8679384
I like to keep cool & calm when meeting new people cos why act eager & desperate? It felt disappointing when he replied 'interesting photos' and then quiet, so I concluded he freaked out before giving anything a chance.

>>8678373
>wearing an anime backpack and not expecting this to happen

>>8678946
Once added on FB, he became a friend who can see my lolita photos. I didn't have to send him anything. Idk, I think ppl who's ignorant of lolita fashion might pass judgment too soon. I probably shouldn't care since it's what I love, but I'm only human.

>>8679589
Anon, please go seek help. It sounds like you have some serious anxiety that needs intervention. I'm sure your university has counselling available (these services usually kick up their advertising around exam season). If you can't bring yourself to do that, please find a tutor. Again, I'm sure your university has free tutoring for all subjects. They get paid to help students like you!

Your friends and family won't be disappointed that you're asking for help.

>>8679648
It means even if he was a jerk she didn't care because he was hot but now wants to somehow see him as the bad guy who took advantage of her and herself as a helpless victim

>>8679220
Anon are you me??? That's my life story.

>>8678419
Fellow florida anon. The sperglords at my campus don't end. They hog a whole conputer lab in the library and play in bronze-silver league. Ew.

>boyfriend keeps ignoring me
>have no friends, bf is the only person I talk to
>he only talks to me once a week
>I talked to him about this yesterday, he said he would work on it, but he's doing it right now
>I could disappear off the face of the planet and he would never even notice
>I keep buying brand to fill the void
I'm empty inside but at least I have 2 main pieces on the way

>>8679589
I have similar experiences to you since I also have really bad anxiety, and you need to get some help. You don't need to have all those bad feelings creating a roadblock. People who haven't experienced it never understand (it's such an odd feeling, but it really does physically stop you somehow), but that doesn't mean they can't be compassionate.

>>8679751
No one wants to talk to someone 24/7. Find friends to ease your need for human contact, you idiot. Don't be the clingy partner who's 110% dependent on their SO. Once a week is really scarce though. Maybe he needs a break, or maybe he's thinking of breaking up.

>>8679762
I don't see how wanting her boyfriend to talk to her more than once a week is clingy. Are you single or something? My boyfriend and I talk at least once a day, and that seems to be the norm for every healthy relationship I've seen

>>8679762
How is once a week with someone you are dating not scarce? I can see not being able to see eachother irl for a while but most relationships have some contact everyday.

>>8679751
How about you make some goddamm friends instead of expecting your boyfriend to do everything for you. Like jeez does he feed you and wipe your ass too?

I also really hope you have your own job and aren't one of those people who mooches money off someone and then gets mad when they don't have free time because of all the work they do to support you

>>8679751
How long has this been going on for? If you're only talking to him once a week then he's not really a boyfriend. Unless he's somehow extremely busy and only has that time. Are you long distance?
It's good you mentioned it to him but if nothing changes then I suggest you break up with him. You shouldn't be feeling empty inside while in a relationship and you shouldn't stay with him just so you can have someone to talk to.

>accidentally make an ass out of myself in the period clothing thread
>asked about average pricing on clothing/undergarments
>people thought(?) i was saying it was all too expensive
>i just wanted to know if it was average/right for stays to be around $500
>cant even look in the thread anymore im so embarrassed
>why live

>>8679799
It's the advantage of anonymity, friend.

Is it just me or do some replies in this thread feel just a bit too /r9k/

>>8679814
So you don't have a job then

>trans
>wanna cosplay cute stuff
>face looks like shit
Sigh.

>>8679222
>>trying to use the urinal and hear someone take a picture
fuck why, jesus fuck the bathroom is a sacred space, i hope they eat literal shit

>>8679251
why would you be made fun of?

>>8679814
it always happens because there are always gulls who fall for the bait when the rest of us long since figured out the pattern.

>lonely and friendless
>get into the convention and cosplay scene because I think it's a good way to get out of the house and meet people
>it's been about 3-4 years and I haven't made a single friend

>tfw came home yesterday exhausted as fuck
>too tired to clean up
>too tired to study
>too tired to even open the package with my new lolita dress in it
>this is my fucking routine since i started three months ago

it doesn't help that I had to work last weekend too.

I'm starting to debate whether I chose the right job for me.

>>8679770
It's more the fact she doesn't talk to anyone BUT him. She shouldn't be dependent on him for all her human interactions.

>>8679776
> once a week is really scare though
> once a week is really scare
> is
Anon, please.

>>8679872

What do you do?

I'm so salty, gulls. So fucking salty.
> been looking for off-campus job after breakup so I can pay for my apartment author having to get a roommate
> try really hard to get a job at the Joann down the street from me
>so sure I'm going to get it, I'm in often, the employees know me and are very friendly with me
> put in online application, do follow up calls, stop in, etc
> nothing
> finally get email saying they decided to go with someone else.
> ugh fine, I can deal, maybe they didn't want to work with my school schedule or something, try not to be salty about it
> go in to pick up a few things yesterday
> as I'm checking out, the half-autistic voice that haunts my nightmares calls to me from behind the counter
>"ERMYGERD ANON-CHAN HERPDERP COMES TO MY LINE HEHE"
> I'm thinking gods, no No...nonononono. What is she doing here?
> Girl from my friend group at university, second most annoying person in the entire group.
She had dropped out because she failed all her classes last year and her parents refused to keep supporting her 22 year old ass and paying for her schooling out of pocket, so she got huffy, moved out and is couch surfing. They took away her brand new car so she's borrowing a friend's clunker. She dropped out not because she was on academic probation, not because she didn't WANT to take out loans, but because she was literally too stupid to sit down with any of the other college students surrounding her and have us teach her how to do her fafsa. Furthermore, the reason she failed her classes was because she would skip all the time to stalk these guys that she would become absurdly infatuated with, then sit and torture us with her speech impediment as she complained about her unrequited love. Her mind will never leave high school, and half of my friends coddle her because they feel bad and want to ~ guide her and help her grow ~ and she seems to be the only one who doesn't quite get that I detest her.

And there she was, with the job I should have.

>>8680101
Well, SHE doesn't have a school schedule to work around, so I guess you were right

Another lolita had the nerve to message my boyfriend with a list of "character flaws" and talking about me as a person and analyzing every fb status I make, even if it isn't lolita related. Its really creeping me out since and I am happy I'm not in a comm where the mods think it is appropriate to police and monitor the other members behavior on social media like some sort of saint I still cant believe she had the nerve to open up to him and talk shit about me like they were friends, lol. he hates her more than I do.

>>8679936
> once a week is really scare though
> once a week is really scare
> is
>Anon, please.
What? I don't understand what you're getting at, OP didn't make any grammatical errors. And it's scarce, not scare.

>>8680101
Let's be salty together, anon
>assignment due on friday
>not your mother's assignment, we need to draft an entire international sales contract, I'm talking chapters and clauses of the stuff
>world's vaguest instructions and I'm a freshman at college so don't know any of the lecturers nor what they want from us
>ask my classmates how they've done theirs
>most haven't
>gimp of a classmate starts bragging about how he's written ten pages
>ask him for advice
>he goes mum, won't tell me anything
>ask another classmate
>she won't say anything either
>they take turns bragging about how many pages they've got
>ask other classmates via viber
>no response
>ask the professor
>no response
Sometimes I think I'm a ghost
On top of that, my bf wants a €1k computer for Christmas and I'm gonna have to dip into my burando fund, but he hasn't asked for a single thing in the 4 years we've been together so I don't wanna refuse him.

>going to film festival with friends
>gonna dress lolita cause my friends enjoy it
>co worker finds out I asked for that day off
>asks what I'm doing
>turns out his band is playing a show that day
>want to go but don't know if I should change clothes or not before
>co workers are a bit weirded out by my power level sometimes
>leaning towards not being all gothed out at a punk show
>going home to change first would be a huge pain in the ass and out of the way

ugh, I kind of hate that I have to be a kind of normalfag at work. Two girls came in cosplaying once and my coworker got all freaked out by it.

>tfw spending hundreds of dollars and days of labor just to not stick out from other people cosplaying the same thing

>>8678373
>my school bag is vidya-related
>tfw still nobody ever wants to be my friend
>not even people wearing shirts and stuff from same game

I also dress incredibly normie for the sake of looking sane so maybe they all assume me to be a fake geek grill. Or I have the resting bitch face. Or both.

>>8680214
the other students probably cheated. i hope the professor responds to you. try being more assertive with the prof?

>>8679936
Whats wrong with "is" there?

>>8679093
Did you pay with paypal? File a claim if so

>>8679112
Message Linda at MLD she might be willing to hold one for you. She's done it for a friend of mine before.

>theme for coord is "moon and stars'
>type in "stars" in search box on LM to see if there's anything good I can use
>Time to spend the rest of my night sifting through all the irrelevant BTStarsSB results

>>8680591
Hey, you're in my comm.

>>8679858
same here
>been going to cons alone for 4 years
>haven't actually made any friends
>travel once a year across country to go to a con with my friends
>its always a blast

i still do very much enjoy going to conventions alone, though it would be so cool if i had some con going friends on my side of the country. it just feels weird that i'm and adult and have completely forgotten how to make friends even when surrounded by people who shares an interest with me. i cant even remember how i made the friends i have currently.

>>8680660
No I'm actually a new lolita with no comm as of yet. Tell your comm-friend aa seagull shares her star related pain though

>>8680699

I'm exactly this.
I just cant seem to actually do it.

It doesnt help that the crowd at conventions seems to be getting younger and younger, and Im already feeling too old to be doing this stuff anymore.

I'm kinda salty.

>Bid on item on lace market
>it's a set I've always wanted.
>it's cheap
>I win
>Get message from seller saying she didn't put a price on it but meant to and she wants $200 for it.
>$200 is not even close to what I bid so no I'm not going to pay that.
>I'm mad, I'm so mad.

I told her to go relist the item f she wants that much. Girl, if you read this, pay more attention next time. You have enough bad feedback as it is.

>>8679637
oh my lord
penis-desu

>>8680758
Are you even allowed to decide not to give the dress after a winning bid? Sounds like a good way to set up a scam. She had the auction running and didn't seem to notice so you should really get the dress. I hope you give negative feedback.

>>8679694
Thanks anon, I'm already in counseling of some sorts, but honestly until last night it didn't hit me what I was feeling was anxiety. It's so weird, I always just told myself it was stress and procrastination without coming to the conclusion I was anxious of all things. I mean I'm on medication to help me focus which helps a little but anxiety meds might be better.

>>8679759
Thanks to you as well, it's so hard to describe to someone why you feel like you psychically can't do it even if you have everything in front of you. The closest to describing I can get is that it feels like everything in your mind and body is telling you to not do it.

>>8680766
No idea but considering how odd this all is, I figured perhaps it's better to just forget about it. I really wanted the set but when things get weird, I get nervous and hesitant to hand over my money.

>>8679589
I was like that for years before, since I went to high school actually. I have no idea if it's normal or not, though. Now I'm ok except for subjects that have to do with math for some reason. Good luck for your exams!

If it's urgent and you have tests soon, try to revise with friends if they're serious enough. If possible try to do that in a place where you're allowed to make some noise: for example in my university's library there are some small rooms where we're allowed to talk so my friends and me go there as often as possible so we can explain thing to each other and other things.

Personally I can force myself to study now after forcing myself to do it everyday at my college before or after lectures and classes instead of staying at home, but I don't remember how I managed to force myself to do that. I don't think it could work for everyone anyway so don't take this as the only solution obviously.

>>8680782
I'd keep an eye on her listings. If she sets another one at $200 it's fine but if she sets another one with no price then you should report the weird behaviour.
I checked the FAQ and it only mentions scammers/non-delivery sellers. You didn't give them any money so I guess they don't really count as either but it does say to report any deadbeats you encounter. Might be helpful if LM says if a seller is allowed to pull out or not.

>>8680835
I'll keep an eye out, thanks. Really, I'm salty at LM as a whole. The mods are worthless. I messaged them about a bad feedback I received that the buyer said was an accident and they haven't responded. It's been months.

>>8680859
Apparently it's just volunteers and they have to look through hundreds of listings a day so they say to be patient.

>Emails will be responded based on moderator availability M-F between 8 AM to 5 PM US Eastern time.

Someone really should have responded to you by now though if they're working in that time frame. But since the buyer left the feedback I assume they should be the ones contacting them. Save some proof of her admitting the mistake anyway.

>> bad teeth, many cavities
>>230 lbs
>>acne and scabs
>>Trying to regain control of taking care of
>>Sabotaged by depression and suicidal or apathetic thoughts every day

>horrendous stretch marks all over lower stomach, biceps, thighs, outside upper chest, lower back
>really affects self esteem and as a result cosplays and j-fashion

feels bad gulls

>>8678066
:(

>>8680931
Same here anon. I feel like I'll look disgusting for everyone for the rest of my life...

>>8678049
I'm that way in the ladies room. I was cosplaying as Russia (apparently too convincing) and a normie lady pepper sprayed me. She ran into a hotel worker and sent them in after me, but they obviously knew of the con, so they walked in on me collapsed over the sink crying and trying to rinse my eyes out.

>>8678453
Go back onto Facebook or smth JFC.

>>8679648
Dude probably doing some verbal manipulation shit.

>>8680771
Good luck with everything.

>sells some stuff on lacemarket
>packages stuff nicely, even including a nice note and freebies, mails out next day.
>leaves nice feedback for buyer after they receive it
>still doesn't have any feedback myself

>into lolita
>finally purchase items
>three outfits
>originally plan to only dress up for cons
>bf convinces me to join local comm
>meetup at the beginning of next month
>want to go but don't know anyone and too scared to go alone
>feel too scared to even post in the group
how to unscare

>Dated someone for a couple years
>Takes me to an awesome local con I didn't know about
>Do couple cosplay once or twice even
>Breaks up with me eventually
>Scared about going to the con again because she might see me and think I'm stalking her or worse

>>8681092
There's no easy way to go on about it, I think, you just have to jump right in.
If the comm is rather small (or if there's no rule against it), make an introduction post telling the comm about yourself (how old you are, how long you've been into lolita, your favorite lolita substyle, etc.); try to get involved in casual discussions and chats on the comm page; post an outfit shot... things like that.
I don't expect you to spam the comm's page or something, those are just ideas you could use to break the ice (online, anyway).

It really depends on the comm because every one is different (and some are more welcoming than others), but more often than not it'll be a lot less intimidating once you actually get involved in it.
Be brave, anon! You can do it!

>>8681105
go with other people and have a great time. if you see her just smile a little and immediately turn back to whoever you are with or your phone or whatever.

>>8681105
semi-related and non-cgl, but
>break up with ex, bad terms, my fault though
>get together with someone who lives near him
>scared of visiting new SO because he might fuck shit up
>he's tried to get me in trouble with my fucking parents before
>mother buys it, she now opposes our relationship
it's ridiculous. I'm fucking 20 years old (but still living with my mother + somewhat financially dependent on her so she still has some leverage). I don't get how my ex can still be this petty at this age

I'd advise you to just go there, I'd just be happy that you've found a cool new con, maybe get someone to go with you if you're scared.

>>8681092
The meetup wouldn't happen to be halloween themed would it? Sorry, just sounds kinda familiar.

>>8681134
I have seen a few girls do introductions, but I joined a few days ago so I feel like it would be awkward to do an intro so late. Though, I know I'm just overthinking it. The comm seems nice and welcoming, so I'll work up the internet courage to post! Thank you for the advice!

>>8681186
No, it's just a casual meet at a patisserie

>had bad fallout with best friend
>bff turns out to be lying, backstabbing bitch who went around spreading lies and shit talking me behind my back even before our fallout instead of talking to me directly to talk things out
>loads of friends and acquaintances we had in common from cosplay comm suddenly stop talking to me/shit talk me because they took her side, even after I found out about it all and exposed her lies
>want to go to cons again but at the same time, I'd be super uncomfortable the whole day having to see and pretending to ignore two faced bitches and feeling anxious because I don't know the full extent of the group of people former bff poisoned with bullshit

Ugh

>>8681252
I realize I don't know the specific details about your falling out, but if the friends you've lost besides her mean a lot to you, I urge you to try to talk to them. I spent a year not talking to someone I thought didn't like me because he'd had a falling out with my friend. At the end of the year we had an indepth conversation about the whole and it turned out he'd been avoiding me because he thought I hated him. I had no problem with him and he had no problem with me, but we spent a stupid year not talking because of poor communication.

I hope it blows over quickly for you. That sounds rough.

>>8681272
The other friends were mostly people I enjoyed hanging out with/talking to at cons or group meet ups but we weren't exactly close. It just left a really bitter taste in my mouth how none of them ever bothered to know my side of the story and just believed the lies she told. I suppose that in the middle of this mess I got to know what people I definitely don't need in my life.
Long story short of the fallout, she had some issue with me (I still dont know what it was to this day) but instead of talking to me directly (we were super close and talked every single day), I noticed she started talking to me less and less, barely answered my messages, gave every excuse to justify not saying anything and got to the point of accusing me of having a problem with her and not saying it to her face (???), when I confronted her about the situation. I eventually told her to fuck off because I got fed up with that bullshit and just tried to move on. Months later I found out she had been talking shit all the time she had been giving me excuses, spread lies to our mutual friends about me and tried to steal money from me.
I don't think I'll ever know what was the original issue was, she never said it and just makes everyone believe I was the bad bitch who told her to fuck off for no reason.

Thank you anon. It was rough but it's been a couple months now and I've mostly moved on from it. It just came back to me because I want to start going to cons again and I will have to see all these people and feel anxious all day. Thankfully I still have good people around me so maybe if I go with them I'll feel more "secure".

>constantly starting new projects
>always get most of the way in
>always give up or lose interest once most of the work is done

>>8681314
Man this exact thing happened to me except with a fellow artist instead of a fellow lolita. She was a chronic shit-talker and though I and others knew it, she was an expert at painting herself as a victim and everyone always tried to baby her as a result. If you ever disagreed with her or suggested she do something she didn't want to do, you could bet that she'd either vagueblog about you or immediately go to someone and talk about how awful you are. I got sick of it and stopped tip-toeing around her and started being direct, and she immediately withdrew, and still calls me "abusive" to this day.

My suggestion is to just work on finding new friends and rekindling any old friendships that may have been neglected while you were dealing with her drama-mongering ass. Work on your cosplays and make them look amazing and show them all up. Join a new community! Just get out there and get your mind off of shitty people.

>built incredible lolita wardrobe in college working my ass off
>found normal, well dressed friends online
>graduate school and struggle to find well paying jobs that dont want 80hrs a week
>"friends" devolve into weirdly shady people and don't include you in their groups anymore
>stressed, feel like theres something wrong with you
>become hermit
>dont touch wardrobe
>cycle of depression sets in
>feel old and disappointing forever

the secret feels

>>8681347
I'm sorry you had to deal with that too, anon. I hope you're doing well after all that crap and that she'll quit bothering you completely (wow, still calling you abusive to this day, over the shit she did..). I'm just glad you got rid of that piece of human garbage.
Thank you for your suggestions, they're what I'm trying to do at the moment! I live abroad now and have trouble making new friends but I'm trying to get back to cosplay and I'll have a chance to meet the community here and hopefully make some new friends. Also, I did recently get in touch with an old friend and despite us being so different and not having seen eachother for years, it was so nice to see her again.

>>8681359
Is there a comm in your area you could interact with? I've been pretty down about my life too, but it's refreshing to dress up and socialize with people. Try dressing up just to go for walks or to read in a library or cafe. I'm sorry you've had falling outs with your friends. My social life took a nosedive after college too. I'm still trying to find friends. It's hard and very lonely.

>>8679506
Same reason I left out shared interests, political compatability, sense of humor, general outlook, ambition, hygiene, general personality compatability, style, excitement levels, importance of intimacy, and all the other thousand of things that go into general compatability and mate selection in humans. I was making a point about simplification.

>>8680165
She is probably trying to steal him from you. That sounds like a really poorly - enacted character assassination.

>>8680591
"stars" - "BTSSB" -"shine"

>drink too much
>smoke too much
>casual criminal
>no demure shy gf
>can only attract painfully basic party sluts

I would love nothing more than to date a traditionally feminine lifestyler but any I may come across would be repulsed by my life choices.

>>8681573
stop being a alcoholic criminal then

>>8681577
I don't know how

>>8681590
Seek professional help. I'm serious.

>>8680952
this isnt fagbook fuck off with your cancer

>>8681594
All the therapy my parents dragged me through as a kid has made me very jaded of the mental health care system as a whole, it all feels like snake oil to me. Besides, I couldn't afford it if I wanted to.

I appreciate the advice though.

>>8681605
Join AA or see if there are other support groups in your area for your situation. If you're in school or have medical coverage, you may be able to get counselling for free, depending. Therapy as an adult can be much better because you have the power to leave and not go back to that therapist.

You're better off changing for yourself than some imaginary future lolita girlfriend.

>>8681573
>>can only attract painfully basic party sluts
You're such a scumbag that only women whose judgement is clouded by substances who otherwise wouldn't touch you with a bargepole will go near you.

>>8681573
Soak your cigarettes in vinegar or hot sauce. Use a nicotine patch and start chewing gum or toothpicks. Switch to an e-cigarette, and then steadily decrease the potency of the juice you buy.

Calculate how many packs of cigarettes you smoke in a week, then how expensive that habit is in a year. Put that on a big piece of paper and hang out where you usually smoke, put a copy in your cigarette box.

Stop doing crime. You can stop, there is nothing keeping you from doing crimes, and any reason you might come up with is just an excuse to try to cover up your weak moral fiber.

Alcohol is a much harder habit to kick, I suggest trying to go to AA, or asking friends for help.

The ultimate solution to fixing your problems is to mentally externalize, grou, p, and personify your negative behavior, then murder the shit out of it. If you view bad impulses as a negative external actor upon you, you can cultivate a stronger sense of self removed from your negative behaviors. Most people think of their flaws as part of their identity, and so are resilient to the notion of change. Visualize a self free of flaws. This is your truest self. Now manifest it.

>1st year teacher
>school-wide costume party next Friday
>planning to surprise students with Pokemon cosplay, they all LOVE Pokemon
>had this planned since the beginning of the month
>today, team lead asks us all to go with the same theme
>say I had already planned a surprise for the kids
>"Well, can you surprise them with our team theme?"

I'm trying to come to a compromise where I can wear what I had planned half of the day and wear the team costume the other half. I made this entire cosplay in anticipation for the event because there had been no notification about staff guidelines of any kind until today, a week before, when we've known about the event since the end of September. I don't want to spend more money on something I never even planned on being.

>>8681041
Iktf but on the oppisite side.
>find dream dress on lm
>seller holds it til I get paid
>pay as soon as I can
>gets it in the mail with a lovely handwritten note
>overwhelmed with feels and work so I haven't been able to leave feedback
>I'm planning on sending her a hand written note thanking her

>best friend rarely puts on her only lolita dress
>mfw those moments when she does
SHE'S CUTE, CUTE!

>>8681668
Eh, I've got fwbs in a few different cities so I figure I'm not up to that level of a degenerate.

>>8681659
Again, I appreciate the advice, but I'd be lying if I said I didn't enjoy this lifestyle a little. Yeah being lonely sucks when you're broke and starving in an unfamiliar place, but the freedom of having no commitments is what keeps me here. The booze is just for flavor.

>>8681698
You don't really sound like you want help at all.
You don't deserve a cute demure girl.

>>8681698
>enjoys no commitments
>wants gf
Yeah, have fun with that one. If you want someone, you have to give them reasons to want you in return, and you're not exactly overflowing with them right now.

>>8680957
Did you press charges? That's a really extreme reaction.

>>8681700
You're right. She wouldn't deserve to put up with my shit either.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NPp7bkxY4KI

>recently got a job at an airline carrier after months of not finding a job to use my master's with
>pay isn't gr8 but healthcare, retirement, and other gr8 perks
>airline has a lot of contracted partners
>can get cheap tickets
>like traveling first class to London for $100, for example
>we are even contracted with the carrier who has the Hello Kitty airplane
>want to go to Japan with my bf because for both of us it would cost less than $200 roundtrip
>only catch is that employee tickets can be bumped off the aircraft for customers anytime, so I would have to go during an unpopular time of year
But still, for that price it would be worth it. I'm already planning our vacation for next year.
>tfw

>>8677982
I have a feeling i know who you are or who your friend was. if you love it, do it for her, because she would want you to be happy.

>>8679220
where is the lie though

>do mostly crossplay at cons
>coworkers found out that I went to comiccon and keep bugging me for pics
>pokerface.jpg
>office is having a halloween contest
>everybody keeps asking me to enter some sick costume
>closet full of only crossplay
>don't want to get fired from my job deep in the bible belt in case someone gets crossplay confused with being homosex
>mfw I get an email from the director of our department asking me to represent us well in the costume contest and now I have to make a shitty last minute non-female costume that I probably can't pull off

>>8681698
>nothing wrong with my drinking and smoking(both very expensive hobbies)
>broke and starving

>>8681698
>>8681573

>is a drunk who doesn't want to go to AA
>smokes
>is broke
>will fuck party sluts who probably carry STDs


Oh wow what a fucking catch. Definitely someone I will bake muffins and make the bed for.

No one will want you until you improve yourself. Sorry, but even if you managed to find your mythical submissive waifu she isn't going to change you. Only you can change yourself.

>>8679645
the sad thing is I have said something.
But my coworker has sucked up to my boss so much she is practically kissing her ass. So I will always be at fault. Its a pain. Found out that her and 4 other people (there is literally only 8 of us in this small daycare) that talk about me behind my back, WITH my boss. Can't stand working with catty bitches.

I really miss my friends. My closest friends have moved all across the US and Canada and I only get to see them maybe once a year in person. We have so much fun hanging out for that one weekend a year, it makes me sad sometimes when I'm just sitting here alone.

>>8681797
Ah, the Bible Belt. I too live in the South, and honestly, seeing how much sway all that shit has over so many aspects of life around here makes me wish I could go back in time and prevent Christianity from ever taking off.

>>8681688
Why not ask if you can make the team theme pokemon or cartoons/tv shows?

>>8681950

The team lead made an executive decision to have us all dress up as characters from the same book series and I'm the only one out of six who is questioning the idea.

>>8681797
Just say you don't want to do it you spineless homo

>>8680957
what the absolute fuck
i hope that worker helped you out at least

>>8680957
That's ridiculous. A few times I've seen males in the ladies room. I may do a double-take, but I assume that maybe they are ill or it's an emergency and just leave it be. I don't really care if men are in the ladies room as long as they're just doing their business and not peeking into stalls or anything like that.

I've been to events where the line to the ladies room is excessively long and nobody is in the men's room, so a bunch of ladies get together and use the men's room. I don't really care, it's a restroom, not a changing room or a shower.

I hope more places in the future just go with those private-room bathrooms so people (male, female, cross-dressing, or otherwise) can just do what they need to do in privacy without harassment.

Sometimes I spend my evenings looking around at cute clothes that I can't afford and I'm too chubby to fit in. I like thinking of all the coords I can make and searching around for things that look particularly good so that I can link my friends to it.

I'm getting my life together and I'm losing weight at a really good pace, so there's no reason to believe that I won't be able to dress cutely within about a year, but for some reason I'm still depressed. A year seems like a huge amount of time and I can't stop worrying that all my efforts will be fruitless. It doesn't really help that I'm a taller-than-average person with broad shoulders, wide hips, and big feet, because I know that I'd be a tight fit in asian clothing even if I were skinny. I feel like I'm going to get my first dress and go wild with excitement being able to wear lolita after all this time, then it'll turn out that it fits like shit on me and that I don't look cute at all.

>>8681716
Women don't get in trouble for assaulting people silly anon.

>>8682048
You'll be cute, anon! Don't get discouraged if the fit is weird on your first piece. As a tall lolita, it can take some extra work to find flattering pieces. Keep at it, and live your dreams.

>>8681850
>>8681861
lol yolo tho

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kF4KkXLxW0Q

>>8682014
In all the schools I went to, including my college right now, there are many more gendet neutral bathrooms than the gendered ones. Most people don't care as far as I know, it's there so we can pee/take a shit anyway. I've also never heard of anything creepy or illegal happening in bathrooms,besides kids doodling on the stalls' doors.

>>8682054
Just like men don't get in trouble for raping people. :^)

>>8682201
Oh sure, yolo. But then dont whine that you're 'woohoo, party hard!' lifestyle doesn't attract throngs of submissive stepford-girlfriends. Light up, and get used to junkies and party sluts.

>>8682225
>most vilified crime in the entire western hemisphere
>population at large so desperate to combat it they'll punish men for it over even the tiniest suspicion that they might have done it or sometimes even with no suspicion at all

Before trying to throw out your "no u"s you should probably make sure what you're saying it about makes even a tiny bit of sense. Especially when the story that spawned the whole conversation to begin with disproves you so hard. You can't even walk into a bathroom as a man (or even looking like one) without people attacking you and calling authorities believing you're a sexual criminal. How exactly is this "getting away" with rape? Meanwhile women getting extremely reduced or even sometimes no punishment at all for crimes is a documented and irrefutable trend.

>nothing I like has a fan base in my city
Sydney is such a shit place.

>>8682233
youre sweet you remind me of some girl I used to be in love with

>>8682239
Wasn't there a woman who got off with a slap on a wrist for being a pedophile because she said she was embarrassed about the whole thing?

>>8681573
I dunno anon, I was traditionally feminine and quiet and shy, whilst my ex was extrovert, loud, a smoker, drug user and dealer, casual criminal and antifa activist.
We were a weird matchup, but it worked for quite a while. I think in part I wanted to change her a bit so she wouldnt be in danger so much, whilst she wanted to change me a bit so I'd be less averse to it.

Im not saying you shouldnt try and give up smoking and crime (because you should) but at the same time, it also doesnt mean what you think it does.

>>8682201
>You only live once, so make sure it's as sorry and unfulfilling as possible.

Okay

>>8682239
Stop sperging out on obvious joke/shitposting posts.

>>8681252
I know how you feel.

>Had a falling out with some girl in my lolita comm
>Two years later, I haven't talked about her at all but she continues to rant about me on tumblr and twitter
>Everyone basically took her side and didn't bother to ask me for my side of the story.
>Find out through her petty posts that they were all talking behind my back anyway because I was "annoying" when I had a huge wave of bad luck and depression hit me.
>Wanted to talk this out with her like an adult, she ignored me and continued to spout more bullshit.

I really want to go to cons or maybe a meet up again, but it's gonna be really awkward or people will make an effort to make me uncomfortable so I can leave. I wish the best of luck for you, anon.

>>8682303
I'm one of the other anons replying to OP, I feel like we should form a support group. "Why are bitches so god damn shitty" support group.

>>8682303
Our stories are so similar anon, I was also going through a depressive phase (moved away, always alone, etc) and since we were so close, I clung to her a lot and apparently that was "annoying" as well. She had some other issue with me but I'll never know because whenever I confronted her she accused me of being the one having some problem with her and not talking it out, lol (while continuing to spout more bullshit behind my back). After I found out about all the things she had been saying, the lies she told, the money stealing attempt, etc, I tried to confront her again, got blocked and she just went around playing victim and insulting me after I exposed her shit, many people still took her side.

I really wanna go to cons as well but it'll be pretty much like you said.
I wish you the best of lucks as well anon, I hope we are both wrong and that we can soon return to cons and have a great time. It's not easy but with a nice group of friends, things can be different. Of course seeing those bitches will always be uncomfortable but we can't really let them dictate our lives and ruin the fun for us.

>>8682014
I stopped at a store the other day to pick up some stuff. The customer in front of me was freaking out at the possibility that a man might use the ladies rest room. Even told the cashier to listen in case she screams because she was so scared a guy would go into the same bathroom as her.

The cashier and I just kind of rolled our eyes. I ain't even anywhere near the bible belt.

>bf collects Pops figurines
>he thinks they'll retain their value
>always searching for the sets
>they're so ugly and cheap
>they're like beanie babies for geeks
>he seriously browses amazon to buy them for a triple markup from scalpers after LE releases
>all they do is collect dust once he has them

I feel biased because I actually like anime figurines, but afaik those DO typically retain worth and are fun to look at. Pops have a predictable style and most are just fugly renditions of great characters. I hate these things SO DAMN MUCH aughh!!

>>8682380
ive never understood the appeal of those things either tbh. They're just overpriced hunks of sweatshop plastic with disney characters slapped onto them.

I want to be active in lolita again but I'm not getting a facebook for the life of me. That place is toxic. My most miserable acquaintances do nothing but browse it and complain about other people's lives, there's no sense of privacy, and you have to use your real name.

feels bad man, I wish the livejournal comms would pick up momentum again. Seems like we were a lot happier as a community back when our personal lives weren't so mixed with lolita. Still salty af, but happier.

>>8681535
>>8681535
I would have thought the same since my bf is asian and she seems to have a fetish, but she is married? It was just really underhanded and sneaky, and showed me how petty and backstabbing lolitas can be.

Anxious anon from the other day here, I took some over the counter stress medication that I use before tests sometimes, and I can't believe the difference. Not so much that this is enough, but I believe that the ritalin I took before was giving me the opposite effect; making me more anxious.

It's so silly I've had these problems for years but only now do I truly realize that the root of my problems is my stress/anxiety on it's own. It's not a symptom of other things.

Thanks for the helpful tips everyone, it really helped me.

>disabled
>want to go to local meets but not sure about going without a friend/bf because I often pass out
>bf doesn't do jfash
>worried about comm thinking he's a weirdo
he likes lolita and he actually knows a bit about brands and stuff, loves it when I wear it, but I just remember endless bitching about "so and so brought her bf and he wasn't even dressed up" and nope

>>8682269
I think she got like 12 months or something; but yeah; she repeatedly raped a child and got a small sentence because she regreted doing it and was embarressed

Anyone arguing men aren't demonized by the modern left (Schools/Unis in the west actually have Teach Men Not To Rape seminars and shit) whilst females get away with abuse/assault (look at the duluth model, etc)

There is a rape epidemic in places like Sweden thanks to immigrants; but feminists/libs ignore that because it would mean foreigners weren't compatable with a free/white society

>>8682309
I'm actually down for this. Support everyone by laughing at the bitch's blog rants.

>>8682313
I actually went to go to a huge lolita event and everyone from the comm just glared at me and continued to talk loudly about me. In all honesty, I think dealing with bitches is something that every girl has to deal with unless you're super lucky with making the right type of friends.

>Mom said she noticed I was getting really into lolita
>asked for some dress names I was looking at
>give them while confused but excited
>comes to me this month
>gives me two packages
>open and see the prints of the dresses I wanted
>legit started crying?
>open them but dont look at them right away
>hug mom 100 times and she leaves and asks me to try them on
>they fit perfect
>show mom
>upon further inspection later, they are replicas

I don't know what to do gulls. They're high quality for a replica, but I just don't feel right wearing them. I know my mom won't understand either.

>make $30 selling drugs yesterday
>first time, totally ripped them off
>super excited because i have enough to finish ordering shit before deadline
>have to snag wigs first before the listings end
>come up $10 short
>shit
>check costume delivery date
>Nov som- Dec 29
>convention is new years' weekend
>check duplicate listings
>all the same

>>8682387
Maybe you can start a LINE group? It'll take a lot of effort to make it active, though. I tried to make a nanchatte seifuku group for my area on LINE and only one person joined even though I thought I gathered a ton of interest in a previous thread.

>>8682423
Is say wear and enjoy them, why are you so concerned with everybody else? It's sweet and kind, and if they dress fits wear it!

>>8682428
I'm concerned because I see the kind of stuff that gets posted on BTB and on threads here about people who wear them. I might just wear them myself for fun, but I wish I was brave enough to wear them to a meetup. One of them was my dream dress too...

>>8682402
If you need another person to be with you at the meetup, make sure to prepare for it in advance: First and foremost, ask the host for permission to bring another person who isn't a lolita (explain the situation if necessary, though I doubt you'll have to go into detail).
If the host is okay with it, your friend or boyfriend don't have to wear lolita or ouji if they're not comfortable with it, but if they're dressed smartly (a button up shirt, a nice skirt or dress pants, clean, elegant shoes, maybe even colors that match your coord?) and look groomed and clean, I don't see a reason why anyone should bitch about it.

>>8682397
battling anxiety myself, best of luck to you

>>8682423
wear them for fun, but not to official meets or tea parties.

later maybe have a conversation about replicas.

>>8682423
My mom offered to buy me a HL replica, since she knew how much I loved it (before all the re releases)

Wear it anyways anon, it's a kind gesture from her, and she didn't know any better

>life became hell
> haven't purchased Lolita in months
> finally
>dress pops up I've always been looking at
>buy it on lm
>life pops up
>explain to seller
>she offers to hold it for me if I put down a deposit
>starts crying while reading the message
Everything is going better than expected. Bless you lolitas that will hold or do payment plans during struggling times

>>8677977

>just want to waste away into twink mode

Just be an /fa/ regular, you'll eventually turn into a twink like everyone else in that hell hole

>>8682380
It makes me sad when people buy mass-produced stuff pretty much because they think it'll be worth money some day. It's not how it works. Even if it does increase in value, its usually not that much anyway, or you have to hold onto it for 10-50+ years and clutter your home up with boxes of stuff. He should really be investing his money some other way, or just spend his money on something he can enjoy/use instead.

... But I know how difficult it can be to break this to people, too.

>>8677977
>student
>about to invest a LOT of money into furniture
>home has always been a pigsty because I've always been poor, so I'm excited because I finally get to be cosy and decorate how I've always wanted
>know I'll have to move out of the country in a few years (studying abroad, travelling a lot) so all this stuff is gonna go in the bin
>can't sell the furniture bc country I'm studying in right now only has one popular trading site and it's auctions only, plus I don't speak the local language very well and the buyers are always flaky

It sucks
I hate being poor, everything at home always makes me miserable because my bf is a slob and I can only ever have hand-me-downs from his mother because we live in her gaff and she's a bit of a controlling cunt.

And when I go back home it'll be the same, I'll either live with my parents or be poor for a few years again by myself in some kip. Then I'll get married and have kids so I'll never get to have a cosy girly flat. Everything always has to fit in a single suitcase.

>>8680864
>Apparently it's just volunteers and they have to look through hundreds of listings a day so they say to be patient.

The thing is though is that they don't do it AT ALL. There is zilch moderation now and they won't accept new moderators for some reason.

>commission really expensive costume
>total comes to around $600
>the more i think about how much i spent, the more i regret spending it on cosplay instead of lolita
>could've had 2 new brand jsks
>costume will never sell for as much as i paid
>drowning in regret

>Spot a beautiful girl at a convention
>Absolutely starstruck, pretend to go to the bathroom twice so I have an excuse to walk by her again
>Way too shy and embarrassed to say anything
>Meet with my friends downstairs and tell them about the girl
>One of my friends says "Okay, hold on, I'll be right back."
>He leaves for about a minute or two and then comes back down
>"Okay, she's waiting upstairs to talk to you."
>What
>Friend tells me he went up, introduced himself and told her that I really wanted to say hello to her but was too shy
>Told me that she was upstairs waiting for me to go talk to her
>Walk upstairs and she's actually there waiting for me
>Can see her looking around
>Have a fucking heart attack, I didn't actually expect this to happen
>I get really nervous having one on one conversations so I'm afraid but I desperately want to talk to her
>Gather up a sliver of courage
>Fire alarm rings, everyone is evacuated and I lose her in the crowd
>Spend the rest of the night drinking in sadness in my hotel room
I think about it probably every day, fuck I wish I had any self confidence. How do I get the courage to just walk up and talk to people? I don't think I'm ugly I just get so nervous around girls.

>>8682814
I have never had this problem, least of all at cons. I just din't understand it, there is a 100% chance you guys have at least something to talk about, you're at a goddamn anime con!

>>8682767
>get job
>get money
>move out
>don't marry
>live in girly bliss for the rest of your life

>>8678358
>contacts/cuter glasses
>better hair
would do you a world of good m8

>>8678358
I am a cute chinese girl and i think you are a cute boy. But your interests are what repel woman. Looks don't matter that much for boys.

>third year in college sucks
>exams aren't anonymous anymore which is disadvantaging because of my ethnicy/race/whatever you wanna call it that everyone hates in my country
>teachers and lecturers are incompetent as fuck, even I could be better at their job
>these two fuckers in my courses won't stop making fun of a friend and I'm never here to witness it myself and tell them to stfu and mind their own business
>they still have a good reputation somehow, I guess everyone like shitty people in this city, no wonder we have a terrible reputation in the whole country
>even teachers lick their assholes and give them better grades than everyone just because they sometimes make terrible jokes and disrupt every classes ever
>stupid brats have slightly better grades in translation courses than most students because mommy and daddy paid for them to study abroad for a year or semester and they won't stop bragging about how talented they are
>shit grades because of shit health that makes me tired and nauseous literally all the time no matter what
>shit schedule
>can't even use my hobbies to make myself feel a bit better about myself

At least I still have a con to wait for, it's in one month, it's not too long, right? That's so pathetic, I can't believe that's the only thing I look forward in my life right now.

>>8682834
You sound like you are deluding yourself. Look at your post again, read what you read. You paint yourself to be competely blameless. Your bad grades aren't your fault. Your bad reputation is not your fault, it's because racism. Other people doing better than you in class isn't your fault, it's because they bought their grades.

You have an excuse for everything. Every flaw of your own you write off, every success of somebody you don't like you ascribe to them getting unreservedly, or through unscrupulous means.

Take a long hard look at yourself. Identify your flaws. Until you realize what you are doing wrong, you will never be able to improve your situation, and if you don't realize you're the one digging, the hole will keep getting deeper, and you'll keep searching around trying to find the asshole who must be building a dirt wall around you.

>>8682862
I actually already identified my flaws/problems years ago and I'm trying to improve myself. I simply didn't mentioned them because it has nothing to do with studying, really (except for my shitty health but doctors only started to care now even though I asked them what was wrong with me years ago). Before that I wasn't even trying to study and I still had much better grades than now, even though I've changed and I'm doing all my homework and reading my notes everyday this year.

I never said I had a bad reputation, I said that my name is very obviously not a French one (because I'm in France) and now that exams aren't anonymous anymore any teacher could see my name and grade me according to some bullshit idea they have of me. I'm not sure where you got that I had a bad reputation, maybe I didn't write it very well because I didn't read what I wrote before posting.

>>8682874
Look mate, I used to do the whole muh discrimination thing way back in the day (traveller parents), but one day you'll just wake up and realise people don't actually give a shit about you or your race/skin colour/ethnicity/name. Not even a little. What they DO give a shit about is whether you act like a cunt or not. And more often than not people who paint themselves as perpetual victims tend to be selfish and cunty. Think about that for a bit.

>>8682422
Omg anon, that is horrible. Your comm sounds like an absolute hell if everyone is just that damn rude and disrespectful to the point og glaring at you and talking loudly about you in your presence. Wtf. I'm really sorry you had to deal with such thing.
I haven't really joined my local comm and we're very likely miles apart but I'd totally hang out with you so we could rant about all these bitches.

>>8682309
OP here, I'd totally be down for something like that.

>>8682380
Pop figurines are the ugliest figurines I've seen in a long time and I seriously don't understand the appeal.
I was gifted a couple of them some time ago (which I obviously politelly accepted, the intention was good) and the quality really isn't good for something their price.
I've bought cheaper anime figurines with much better quality.

>>8682789
Hey anon, if you really want that costume, its totally gonna be worth it! Enjoy wearing it and don't worry about what you spent on it.

>>8682884
Then tell me why security try so often to check my handbag whenever I go shopping when I just ENTER their stores, or why people ask me the very first time some super personal shit like if my parents want to force me to marry a cousin in Morocco just because that's how it is in "our" country, even though I was born and raised in France.

Also, good for you if you can ignore how people see you, but I can't do that when people paint me as a thief or an extremist muslim before they hear me or talk to me. Even I hate how SJWs complain about racism when it's not there, but you seem to be very aive too in a different way.

>>8682397
I hope you find a good balance between your medications annoy, and good luck with your exams!

>>8677977
Been there, anon. I felt like shit and stopped working out etc for a year and just managed to fuck myself up worse. Suggestion (basically letter to my past self) Go to the gym, etc. Get fit but not bulky, just get slim and you'll be fine to cosplay most things.

>>8682896
Okay, but how often does this actually happen. Try to look past your confirmation bias, and think, "Out of the last ten times I've gone shopping, how many of those times was I stopped?" or "How many people have honestly asked me this?" It sounds like you're hyper aware of the ability of these things to happen, and that's just making your situation worse because you're anticipating this stuff.

>>8682494
>>8682898

Thanks to both of you! I'm going to quit Ritalin since it doesn't help and just makes me feel worse, and try to find another solution instead.

>>8679654
It was a totoro back and it doesn't look too obnoxious. I dunno what I was thinking either.

>>8682913
>Out of the last ten times I've gone shopping, how many of those times was I stopped?
I'd say 3/4 times I don't remember very well anymore because I got so sick of this I decided to almost only order things online. I'm not complaining too much about that last part because I get very good deals that way. Also, I get asked these things as jokes most of the time, which is annoying on its own, but I recently got asked similar things very seriously too, someone even thought my accent was because I'm an Arab even though it's because everyone from my city in France talks this way. Maybe you're partly right and I'm expecting this to happen more often than it actually does. I have a hard time staying positive these days.

>>8682916
I see a lot of people with cute totoro backpacks or handbags and they were always wearing different style of clothes, I'm surprised this of all things could attract weirdos.

>Baked my first ever cheesecake today
>Was super easy to put together
>Only had metal pan, so had to line with parchment paper
>Shape is kind of wonky because of that

W-Well, I have to let it cool off so I guess I'll try it tomorrow to see if I did a good job. It is a greek yogurt pumpkin cheesecake that I made for my friends and mine's cosplay making get together night.

>>8678373
Oh hey I did something kind of similar when I was in uni

>Look normalfag as fuck but want friends to watch animu with
>Well, yolo
>Bring out laptop to courtyard on first night and turn on Hetalia
>Next day I am recognized by people as "that girl who was watching Hetalia in the courtyard
>I made a bunch of friends

Yay me. Someone had to break the awkward closeted weaboo ice, and I was beyond the point of giving a fuck about people knowing my powerlevel.

>>8682936
If it's really bad, can you decorate it with fruit or something?

>closet-cosplaying Orihime from Bleach because I only had to buy the hairpins, $3 cosplay
>going to be a bit shit but w/e it's just for a Friday
>mention it offhand to bf
>he goes bright red
>"I-I had a crush on her when I was 14-15"
>never seen him as flustered
>I love my adorable weeb trash bf

>>8682951
>adorable weeb trash

>>8678373
The way you phrase it makes you sound like a cunt, but yeah I can get how you feel. I've seen that shit happen and it's always uncomfortable to watch.

What kind of backpack were you wearing? If it was Attack on Titan or some shit you were basically asking for it.

>>8682943
I was thinking of just sprinkling some spice on top and then covering it with whipped cream. I guess I should invest in a silicone baking pan?

>>8682971
not the backpack anon but >>8682932

>captcha: select all bags
>both pics are coolers

>>8678833
Doesn't matter, they're everywhere. Male, female, high-school or college, the autistic will always shadow the world. I just don't get how people like this are able to stay that way so far into life. I was open about my interest in anime and got laughed at for it when I was a kid. It's all the anti-bullying shit that's going around. The autistic are allowed to be autistic without consequence. They form clans and yell anime shit in the hallways without fear of being reprimanded. The world is going downhill.

>>8682981

yeah def

>>8682991
As someone's who autistic, what the fuck are you on? Autism isn't going to ruin the world.

>>8683000
>autism isn't going to ruin the world

Going to a convention in a week.
Now to keep an unconfirmed social anxiety at bay, and kill the fucking lonely feeling when I leave the crew for hours at a time to check out panels that I'm interested in.

When I'm alone at a con, or even at the Theatre Bizzare a few weeks ago, crowds suck.

I need a shrink.
And to act desperate after not having any meaningful relationship for 4ish years...-

>>8682941
Not the person you're replying to but I'm so jelly, anon.

I decided to give no shits anymore and just leave my powerlevel out in the open and I can't seem to make friends in uni at all. I've also been made fun of for watching anime on my laptop during lunch break.
On the other hand, there's a couple of people in my class who are quite social and who are open about watching animu and they have plenty of friends in uni so, I'm thinking that maybe it's just really my problem/people just don't like me

>>8682991
>The world is going downhill.
said every old fart since the dawn of time.

>>8683022
Well, I guess some advice I could give is to not watch anime in the lunch room. It's just asking for basic bitch normies to laugh at you. If you're in a lounge area or courtyard though, it's more chill and there's less people, so no one really cares. You should try talking to one of the people in your class who are open about anime! Maybe try to grab lunch with a few of them or just try to jump in on a conversation about what they're watching.
I really liked to dress nice (before senior year ruined me) in college, and a lot of my friends were very big on makeup and such. Kind of shitty but it always helps to be good looking, and when you're in a group of well-put together losers, you can just all laugh at the people laughing at you and they stop because it's obvious you're talking shit about them. Try to gain some confidence, anon! My fake confidence in college revolved around me just being upfront and confrontational to people, so I think a lot of guys wound up afraid of me because I acted like I could beat the shit out of them.

>>8683041
I did it in the lunch room but only because it's a small common room more than anything and it was nearly empty, just some dumbass walked in and felt the need to give me the "oh god, anime" eyeroll and scoff and I never did it again. It also doesn't help that people seem to think that all I know about/care about is anime, just because they are aware I watch it. It's a bit frustrating.
I do talk to them, in fact they're basically the only people in the whole school I talk to regularly but I'm not really part of their group and don't get invited to much at all, so I just spend most of my time alone. Doesn't help being so far away from home and in a country with a different language than my own.

It was much easier back home when I had my group of friends to feel more "protected" and open but here is just really lonely. I'm also pretty awkward/shy so I've fucked a few chances of making friends with people with common interests (still kicking myself over finding someone in my school who's into my favorite series and not having been able to go past a couple sentences and an awkward smile).
I should take your advice and get some confidence, really. I'm trying to work on it..! I'm currently trying to get into jfashion because I usually feel really nice and get a confidence boost when I dress nicely, so I'm hoping it helps.
Thank you for your advice, anon!

>>8683059
Join a club and try to be more social. Like unless you are joining an anime club, dont bother with showing your power level. Talk to people, ask to sit with people who are in that lunch room, and most importantly ask them to go hang instead of waiting on them.

>>8683059
>Doesn't help being so far away from home and in a country with a different language than my own
A-are you the fellow Irish anon studying in Italy?

I feel kind of betrayed.

>be me
>been in a comm for not very long, made a few friends
>talk to one girl whom I've seen at a lot of the meets I've been to so far
>she compliments my coord
>super happy because she's so much more experienced and she has great coords
>sees her fb sales post
>she's selling a bag I want for super cheap (only on her fb, I checked her LM and it wasn't listed
>message her saying I want the bag and I can pay immediately
>"No worries, Anon. Pay me at the next meet."
>a week later, message her again about the bag as a reminder
>"Oh sorry, I put it up on LM and someone else already bid on it."

Knowing how she usually handles sales, I really can't tell if she forgot about me or if she actually cares that much about those few dollars.

>want to make a john cena themed coord for a fashion parade
>only know the basics of sowing
>wouldn't even know how to make a john cena theme work
>my dreams of making john cenalita a thing will never come true

>try to sew
>machine jams, damages fabric
>try to adjust the machine, but it happens again
>"fuck it"
>start sewing by hand instead
>boring, takes forever, not neat enough
>"fuck it"
>fabric sits in a box until I give it away

Every fucking time. I need more patience and a better sewing machine.

>>8683041
Kind of dumb, but any tips on faking confidence? I'm in college and was known as the quiet nerdy girl in hs, so I'm trying to be more outgoing and come off as a normie. I haven't been very successful...
How did you do it?

>>8683155

>dad loves garage sales in our area
>for some reason a ton of people are selling sewing machines
>we have 8 or 9 of them now
>they're all damaged in their own little ways but if we could be bothered it'd be easy to fix them all
>we're too lazy though so I just use one machine while the other ones are stacked and hidden everywhere in our kitchen

We also have 4 guitars of varying kinds. Again, ruined in their own way. Wish I could just throw all these machines at you until you found one you liked haha.

>>8683158
I wish you could, too. I appreciate the thought.

>>8683156
hahah don't worry anon, I feel you. I'm actually shy af, in high school I'd always hide behind my best friend and let him do all the talking because I was so shy with new people. I kind of still am.

Uh, well I got to college after a pretty shitty hs experience and was like "my whole life I've dreamed of making very good friends and now is my chance." So I kind of just forced myself to be confident and talk to people. You'd be surprised how nice people can be and willing to just talk about shit.
Also, it really helps how you dress. How you dress is kind of a reflection of how you feel about yourself. If you're just wearing unflattering graphic T's or pajama pants and frumpy pants, you just come off kind of blah and you feel blah. Dress cute, you instantly feel cute. Tress tough, you feel tough. Same with how you walk, throw ur shoulders back and walk with your head up and it's like BAM instand confidence and people move out of your way.
I was also fed up with people walking over me and treating me like shit, so at a certain point I wound up telling some kid to fuck off in front of people. And it just spiraled into me calling people out for being a dick and not dancing around the issue. I guess the way I held myself was like I was always ready to fight, like physically fight people. So I wound up with a good few dudes being legitimately afraid of me? Even though all I ever wore were sundresses and pastel sweaters lol.

An odd side effect of all of this was I never realized how much people are willing to try to placate eachother or sweep issues that need to be addressed under the rug rather than just flat out admitting what is wrong and dealing with it up front.

>>8678377
youre her best friend and didnt get invited?

>>8683162
*dress, whoops

>>8683162
But how do I know if I dress well? I kinda like to wear pic rel kind of stuff so I always worry that people think I'm some gothic lesbian or something. I just don't feel comfortable in flowy, girly clothes...

>>8683167
imo your sense of style looks a bit like k-fash right now

but there's always resources on the internet if you're hesitant - read up on color theory, body types, face shapes, "dos and don'ts of fashion" etc.

>>8683167
That's instantly 70% better than what I've seen a lot of college kids wear. Essentially, anything that is not sweat pants, ugg boots, and a hoodie is stylish. Hell, skinny jeans and a nice shirt is more stylish than a lot of the people I went to school with. But like >>8683203 said, just browse online. Go on Lookbook or something and just get ideas. For example, I look best with the silhouette above waist a-line skirts give me. So all of my skirts are cute a-lines and I just wear a crop top or tuck in a pretty colored shirt into it. I also keep this clothing color theory chart I found on tumblr on my phone for when I'm shopping at the mall to coordinate things. Just like, dress what makes you feel the best out of a basic understanding of styles and how things lay on your body.

>>8683163
More like it's a one sided friendship

>TPP passed today
That's all I need to say. Here are some related articles that will help understand what its about and how it effect seagulls

https://www.eff.org/deeplinks/2015/06/senate-passes-fast-track-we-can-still-prevent-tpp-train-wreck

A little more relatable thread (from a kinda cringy source but it gets the point across)
http://goboiano.com/original/3219-anime-and-cosplay-fans-could-become-criminals-with-new-international-trade-agreement

>be me
>into angura-kei
>brownish skin, looks like a muslim
>big lips
>beard grows fast af
>tries to make some visuals anyway, being inspired by guniw tools
>failing as usual
>stop trying to make visuals, let beard grow while trying to dye hair white

pic related
Don't know/gaf about how to dress well anymore

>>8683309
i wanna fuc

>need some fast cash
>offer small commissions, stress the "small" and "simple" aspects because I don't like stressing out
>everyone that's come to me has asked for IMPOSSIBLY ORNATE coats and dresses with lots of color blocking and 8+yds of ruffles
>mfw people apparently have a skewed idea of what simple means

>>8683234
>today
>links months-old articles

what country are you in? we do need to do more to protest it but unless my googlefu is weak as fuck, it has not passed in the US Congress yet and Obama has not signed it into law.

>mfw my daughters Evee dress is ready to go and her first con is tomorrow

6 hours left on my 10 hour shift and then we're leaving, technically, later this morning once we pick up the dress from getting a zipper installed. She admitted that she hopes people ask for pictures and i hope someone does so her feelings aint dashed.

>>8683071
There are no clubs that Im aware of, unfortunately (much less an anime one).
But I'll give a go at your advice, in fact I casually suggested going out to the movies together and they seemed to like the idea, now here's to hoping they won't drop out. I'll try asking them to hang out more instead of waiting. Thank you!

>>8683075
I'm not, sorry anon..!

>going to see a friend who lives far away in a few weeks
>nervous as hell because she's super dear to me but she's really cute and I'm gay
>she mentions there's going to be a tiny con near where she lives right when I'm visiting, asks if I want to go
>sure, I start picking out an old cosplay to wear
>"hey anon in case our wigs arrive on time, we could do these two characters we both furiously ship together"
>internal screaming

Give me power to not fuck this up, gulls.

>>8683155
you have to make sample stitches on the fabric you'll use, and adjust the tension and the like. it also depends on the fabric and if you threaded the thread correctly in the machine. if it even jams on some simple cotton, you might take it to an expert who can clean and maybe repair your machine

>trying to make a coord for Halloween
>buy a petticoat for the skirt, which is a bit over my knees
>the petti is way too long and sticks out a lot at the bottom
>get desperate and order some cheapass costume petti with prime
>reviewers say it's shorter than the description length, which turns out to be perfect for my womanlet frame
Whew

>>8683221

>TFW I only really wear sweat pants and hoodies anymore

they are just so comfy.
Im not really self conscious about my appearance or the way I dress but goddamn I know I should dress better.

>>8683221
>I also keep this clothing color theory chart I found on tumblr on my phone
Link?

>>8683162
I like you, anon

>>8683146

Oh man, Cena fan AND lolita?

Let's get married.

Sorry I don't have any sewing tips

>>8677977
I know your pain, I really want to cosplay shit like Lao G, and senior pink; but I'm not willing to let my body degenerate just for cosplay...

>mfw the cape thread

>>8683811
If your petti is too long, you could try rolling the waistband down a little bit to make it shorter. But yay, you a petti that works in time!

>>8684048
>mfw the first one to suggest crushed velvet

>>8683919
it's pic related. i just glance at it when to make sure i'm not making any stupid choices

>>8684115
Forgive me if I sound like a right idiot but the basic color would be the main piece and the secondary color would be an accessory? Like, if I have a navy dress, beige tights would work with it? I've always put outfits together by how the colors mesh but never really considered one color primary and the other secondary.

>>8683412
if shes under 10 then people will ask for photos or is still super cute and not a bratty tween

>browse eBay generals on the reg
>see a lot of seagulls rave about these tights
>finally buy them
>get super excited when they arrive
>show /fa/ bf
>literal disgust on his face
>"anon those tights are the worst please never wear them"
>"Oh...well the girls on /cgl/ like them"
>"anon don't take their fashion advice they're idiots"
>still haven't taken them out of their package

Lol I'm still going to wear them. My wardrobe is fairly normie so I was just going to wear them with solid colored dresses and skirts with flats.

>inb4 dump him
I give him shit for spending $200.00 on a pastel colored jacket.

>have been trying to sell a dress for a month that I keep reducing even though it's already way below the market value and I thought it was popular
>stupid buyer on eBay opens a dispute on hefty priced item the day that the tracking number shows that it arrived in their state. Took 5 days to ship it, wtf. Could tell it was a nightmare buyer as they sent heaps of messages asking dumb questions before they bought it (listen to your instincts)
>dream dress came up for sale and by the time invoice came through, dispute was open and now that my balance is in the negative I can't afford it

Fuck, I hope someone buys that dress or the asshole closes the dispute soon so I don't get blacklisted/miss out on the dress.

>>8684286
Oh, and I cut my fringe way too short so it emphasizes my ugly nose and eyebrow and I've broken out horribly thanks to some horrible cosmetics so I'm going to look hideous at the Halloween meet

>>8678373
stop complaining, you should feel honored that guys actually want to talk to you. I'm always trying to do little things to my appearance to show that I am a geek and I try to attract geeky guys and the only ones who go up to me are girls.

Anyone here who just randomly buys stuff when sad/alone/depressed who could give me advice?
It's like I'm trying to fill in the holes with material stuff.
Do you set a montly budget for these sort of purchases? Do you force yourself to shut your laptop and move away for an hour to stop yourself from hitting the "finalize purchase" button?

>>8678843
Just saying, sometimes people who have a problem with someone don't actually start shit on 4chan because they know they would be prime suspect. So definitely consider other possibilities too before you decide who it is, >>8678855 .

I stopped talking to one girl because she did some things I am really not okay with, but I just distanced myself from her since we weren't super close. Even though I am a bit butthurt, I wouldn't start posting shit about her online or trying to ruin her rep. Not everyone is like that, but some people are.

>feel like i can cosplay comfortably once i get thin enough
>get to 95 lbs
>still uncomfortable with my body/face in literally anything
kill me
>fucked up teeth
>cant afford lolita
>socially retarded NEET
kill me again
getting braces in next month though but still...sigh

>>8684200
You're perfect together, anon. You both have shit taste.

>>8681180
Fuck your mum sounds stupid

>>8684448
Have you tried looking less ugly / like a lesbian?