/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL

How do you trade dresses online while still getting protected by paypal?

Don't know if anyone is interested in AP's Milky Berry, but there's one on ebay ending in 30 minutes for less than 200 right now. The same person also has some other brand/ bodyline auctions ending soon.

>>8611304
Do it as simultaneous purchases for an agreed amount?

>>8611312

Like via lace market or something, buy them simultaneously for say $100. And then suck it up and fork up the paypal fees I'm guessing?

AP USA's sale started at 3 pm.
By 3:02 the shoes I wanted were gone.
Rip.

Is Lockshop back to shipping on time or is it still messed up?

>>8611393
What sale? I checked the site but haven't seen anything.

>>8611514
I guess it wasn't a sale, they released a new print and restocked a lot of things.

>>8611516
What print is it? I'm not a member so I can't see it

>>8611523
You can see the prints without being a member, anon. It was wonder gallery.

>>8611393

Is anyone plan on getting BTSSB Tricky Nightmare Factory? I was trying to hold off for AP's Halloween print..but Baby's got me sold so far.

>>8611625
just saying, nightmare factory is AatP

i'm not getting it because i hate the franken in the print, and the accessories are all regretsy tier
but then again, i did get a spot with an SS for the AP halloween print so eh, take this with a grain of salt

How does a guy with no friends in the lolita community get into lolita?

Yeah sorry I derped. I think I need to see more pictures of AP's Halloween Print but we shall see.

>>8611653
you don't

>>8611625
Yep. I am getting the purple JSK II. It is so cute and I wanted it the moment I saw it as a background pic on another dress. There are some pics of AP's print and I really wasnt impressed.

On the other hand, I am really trying to not like Succubus. It really pretty much I know that it is not a style that I wear QQ

>>8611653
Same as anyone else.
Buy It, wear it.

Last couple of hours to use your Buyee coupon, so if there are any auctions you're sitting on, go for it anons~
I don't like Buyee that much, but I've already saved almost 5k in auction fees.

What are good colors that go with navy/ midnight blue? I'm very new to lolita (as in I haven't bought my first outfit yet because I'm trying to make sure everything will look nice together)

>>8611770
A lot of people like to pair gold pieces with navy. It usually looks nice.

How many of you anons are getting Baby's Stardust Fantasia?
> I'm honestly thinking I might end up buying multiple colors of it, I love it

>>8611770
Gold or silver usually looks nice.

>>8611787
it was released late august, i think everyone who wanted to buy it has already bought it

>>8611770
burgundy/wine/bordeaux (ie red) goes well with navy as well

>>8611770
wine/dark red, cool pinks

>>8611787
Since it's still up for reservation, better hurry up. I got the sax already and I am really excited to get it

>>8611737
Thanks for letting me know! Just placed a snipe bid for an auction that ends tomorrow, fingers crosseddd

>>8611947
pls don't be the same auction as me

Is there a helpful online resource that you girls would recommend to a guy just getting into the fashion? I want to start out with goth lolita but its kinda hard to tell good sources from bad ones as a complete novice. Ideally I'd like to get proficient enough to join a local com without being a gross ita or come off as a pervert (I just like the fashion and wearing girl clothes in general) thanks in advance for any help!

>>8611770
Mustard yellow and golds. Ivory, deep reds. Silver.

>>8611770
oh and brown

>>8611967
Why are we getting an sudden influx of these kinds of posts?

>>8611966
What are you going after?

>>8611967
There's no brolita guide for guys, if that's what you're asking.

First, for general crossdressing advice, cgl sometimes has crossdressing or crossplay threads. cgl's archive is at https://archive.rebeccablacktech.com/cgl/
Type "crossdress" or "crossplay" into the search box, click on advanced, select "search in" : "OPs Only" and "Results" : "Threads" , this should give you some of the previous threads we've had, you should be able to find some general tips on passing for a girl, including makeup tips and body shaping stuff.

Or, start a new crossdress/crossplay thread yourself.

For a detailed breakdown on what the different clothing items are called, different silhouttes, you can read the lolita guidebook: http://thelolitaguidebook.tumblr.com/post/114063979402/introducing-the-lolita-guide-book-a-modern-guide

The older lolita handbook is at http://lolita-handbook.livejournal.com/ , might be easier to read since it's not as detailed as the guidebook, but it's also outdated.

Both guidebook and handbook are written for girls, so be mindful of your measurements, dress to your body type: if you aren't skinny and small, look up advice for broad shoulders, watch out for the dress lengths. If you don't fit into women's shoes, AnTaiNa on taobao makes custom shoes, or ask in the shoe thread where to get shoes for big feet.

If you're stuck on how to put together a whole outfit (eg-what bag goes with which shoes), look for the coord help thread, it's where lolitas give each other advice on what looks good together as a full outfit.

Other than that, it's mostly trial and error, even if you're a girl. I would suggest doing a little bit at a time, eg- spend a weekend trying to figure out makeup, another weekend figuring out wigs, before doing the full thing at once. Selfpost to the coord help thread and ask whether you look bad, before going outside/to your local comm.

>>8611993

Probably one guy posting in multiple threads. Meh, every noob has to start somewhere.

I feel like I'm the only noob that never asked for help. I did my research, spent months putting together burando coords, and never had that awkward ita phase.

>>8611993
My guess is cgl was posted on some fetish board and these dudes are getting off on looking for lolita to help feminise them?

I remember a lolita saying they kept like spreadsheets/docs of how much they spent on lolita a month or whatever. Anyone have examples to share? Trying to get more organized

>>8612052
Do people generally assume guys wanting to be a brolita are all creepy fucks? I know some might be, but the ones Ive seen are pretty cool and might even already have a gf.

>>8612196
No, what's fishy is a bunch of guys showing up here all at once asking to be spoonfed how to become a pretty princess.
Brolitas who are actually serious discover the fashion the same way girls do and don't come begging for special snowflake asspats.

>>8611653
buy lolita?

>>8612046
I think it's a lot easier to avoid an ita phase nowadays since there are so many resources and shopping is so easy.
Back in 06 when I started it was still pretty difficult and expensive to get brand, sites were all in Japanese, and there wasn't nearly as much photo sharing as there is now. Bodyline was still 100% shit, and there weren't all those affordable Taobao brands so if you didn't have a lot of money your options were handmade or EBay disasters.

For the record, what is the equivalent sizing of AP shoes in other scales?

I am US 8 to 9.

There is no more shoes in the sale, but I want to be ready for the next.

>>8612046
Also what is your age? if you started old enough to understand money, use of cards,internet, etc... unless you are a little genius.

I know rich Lolitas who dress like shit, though, with burando even.

Anyone has that meme image that has a guy with a MTG prize and a Lolita with a headpiece made of wires or stars? Both in a super weeby room.

The headpiece is based in a real Lolita who did it herself... I think she wore it with Mercator Antique shop.

How do AP shoes fit? I'm a 9 and wanted to get a large in the sale today but was hesitant. I heard they run ridiculously small.

>>8612271
I think in lolita shoes you usually need an LL to fit a size 9

>>8612271
Im 9 and use LL

>>8612275
>>8612280
Thank you, anons. I haven't seen their glitter heels in LL so I'm just gonna accept defeat here.

For JetJ - would Size 1 or Size 2 suit a 67cm waist?
My only concern is my waist. Otherwise I'm flat as an ironing board.

Do you mind if I post a pic here and ask about the fit of a dress? I don't trust fb or my family to give me an honest answer.

For JetJ - would Size 1 or Size 2 suit a 67cm waist? 68cm is the typical max. for the waist.

My only concern is my waist. Otherwise I'm flat as an ironing board.

>>8612294
I don't see why not anon!

>>8612297
Thanks
So to begin with, I went from 58kg to pretty much 70 kg this year (fat, not muscle. Yes, I need to get fit.)
I wanted to know if this dress is giving my boobloaf, whether the empire waist (band thing? It's still a natural waist cut overall) is cutting too high on the bust, and whether I look flabby. I usually like loose fitting/ high waisted dresses provided they hit under my bust, not on it. I'm standing up straight, not sucking it in but if I slouch/ relax I look chub.
I feel like I am boobloafed, but the weird empire band is the main issue (I'm tall but I don't know if it's meant to be like this) I'm wondering if I need to sell it after all. It's 2004 Mary Magdalene so I wouldn't take it too hard if I didn't fit. Or I could lose weight but it would take a long time.

>>8612321
I don't know about boobloaf but the band should definitely sit under your bust, having it sit over your bust like that makes it look ill fitting. Not a good look imho.

>>8612321
Anon, the bust doesn't fit you. You'd need to be an A to even consider fitting into a dress that small at the bust. Also, the actual 'ribbons' down the dress look so bizarre and I don't think you could fit a blouse under it, even if it is an OP.

Tbh 70kgs isn't too awful. You look tall enough to pull it off but I can't imagine any sort of weight loss is going to fit your bust into such an unflattering dress.

>>8612329
I'm pretty sure the ribbons are just untied neckties.

>>8612196
No, not all, some are totally respectful, but I've been around the fashion long enough to call a spade a spade. I used to be naively accepting and have learnt from unfortunate experiences. Nothing wrong with a proper brolita, it's the fetishists who don't keep what should be private to themselves, especially whilst invading what is primarily a lady space.
>>8612202
Thanks. We've got to trust our gut feelings.

>>8612329
>>8612327
The ribbons are cross neck ties hahahaha, I just couldn't be bothered doing them up for the picture.
I think it's fine without a blouse but I would wear it with a bolero or cardi probably.
Thank you for your honest feedback! I don't think my bust would fit with weight loss either. It's annoying because the dress is actually long and reaches my knees otherwise. Is it hitting correctly on the model? I never could find other worn pics.
Ah, sale time I guess. I was told around 160 in perfect condition. Bye old DD.

>>8612334
That's what I thought too, but they're too far apart unless it's to cross and tie at the back?

My initial thought was cording or raised seams running down the sides and I wanted to burn it until I noticed the shadow on the right side of the largest photo.

>>8612343
As another anon with DD (also large arms), it looks a little tight? but if it's not that much tight then I would also wear a bolero or cardi with it. they can be pretty useful for that reason. the downside is they cover up stuff like the chest ribbon, but that might be a good thing in this case.

>>8612343
>>8612345 again, I meant DD in the chest and for some reason didn't read that as dream dress (am just really fucking tired atm) sorry about that lel

>>8612343
Sorry anon, I'm really not well versed in oldschool! I've seen a lot of dresses with super high underbusts like that but they are almost impossible to fit unless you're incredibly petite.

I would even venture to say that it's a tad too high on the model. Take into account the angle that the photo was taken in and note that the seam is actually facing down toward the camera. It's a cute dress, but it isn't for you anon. :(

>>8612321
I'll give my advice to you straight.
The fit:
Looking tight all over with strong bra imprint, you could perhaps try with a few different bras and see how you go.

Losing weight:
You sound like you're planning on slowing dropping back to a lower weight so you could always wait till your mid-60s and see how you go.
Also depending on your period cycle your boobs may or may not get bigger so factor that in.

Selling it?
If you want to go for it, otherwise if it's a dream item then maybe try wearing with a cardigan/ bolero with lots of ruffles over the top to hide the bust issues

>>8612344
You amuse me
>>8612345
Ah yes you could tell I was dd, I was always told I was a b by normies. The ties tuck pretty readily. I'm getting a nice cardi that mucht match so I'll try it but I hate having dresses I have to cover because of fit. Weight loss would help with the arms at least, ugh they've become awful.
>>8612348
Well I am a dd as well kek
>>8612350
Devo, oh well. I know some girls who would fit it, but whether it's their style...

>>8612321
I think this dress is for really flat-chested girls anon. You're not too fat for this dress, just to busty.

>>8612352
I recently learned that I've been buying bras in the wrong size so that might be it.
It was better with a high compression sports bra but it hurts my back and you can see the straps. Welp I think it's destined for a girl with smaller cups. I like OPs mainly because of the minimal layering as I live in a very warm climate.
Thanks so much everybody! I'll try it with a cardi but otherwise expect it in the bst soon. It was a dd because I thought it would really suit me. Well, it wasn't my preferred colourway anyway. I'll be on the lookout for mature strawberry prints. You were certainly more helpful than my mother.

>>8612365
Calling I.W Classical Strawberry OP
It comes in a long version and has elastic on the sleeves to help with bodice fit and arms

http://lolibrary.org/apparel/classical-strawberry-op

>>8612369
You're a doll, it doesn't quite have the elegance of the mm but I do like it in the pink and ivory, especially since it has elastic sleeves and a long cut. I'm a fan of iw's ops, they're somehow forgiving on my bust despite the rep for their jsks. I'm only 85-6cm funnily enough. That one yolanda jsk is nice also. I loved the embossed print on the fraise op, I wish vm or mm would release something like it again with their modern sizing, and no stupid fake empire waist.

>>8612271
Have you measured your foot? The large glitter heels is 25 cm. I'm a size 8.5 and those heels were a little large on me

>>8612321
Way too small (very tight over the bust, shoulders, and stomach) and totally the wrong cut (that bustline...) for you.

Out of curiosity, why does it always take so long for stuff from YJ to get somewhere within Japan? Does it take a week for bank transfers to clear or something? I rarely see anything arrive in under two weeks.

Does anyone have any recommendations for tea length pettis for longer lolita dresses? I'm having trouble telling how much poof I need. I've found lots of square dancing pettis but they're way too much. Pic related is about how much poof I'm looking for.

>>8612837
I actual think Malco Modes 580 (known as the "lacey petticoat" on F Yeah Lolita) would work well for this. It's on the longer side and doesn't jut outward as much as the 582 or other square dancing petticoats.

This is kinda OT but since you guys are talking about bras, are there any particularly good measuring/sizing guides? The ones I've found with Google are giving me bullshit results or maybe I'm just deformed.

Does anyone have advice for crinkly cotton dresses? I just bought a baby dessert op and the arms make so much noise every time I move, I'm wondering if there's some stiffener still in the fabric that needs washed out, would throwing it in the dryer with fabric softener help?

>>8612863
Go and get professionally fitted at a proper bra shop (not Victoria's secret or whatever).

>>8612863
I would head to /r/abrathatfits
They have a sizing guide on their sidebar

Do you guys know where I could get a lavender long sleeve blouse or at least three quarters of a sleeve.
I checked lacemarket and only saw shirt puffy sleeved kind.
Ebay has nothing and no taobao stores had anything other than pink.
I don't know of many storenvys, but I'd be willing to buy from one.

>>8612916
Short puffy*

>>8612916
Try commissioning one from glitter tale on facebook. They take custom orders.

What happened to the ciciwork shop on taobao? I got redirected to guang.taobao.com

>>8612886
>in the dryer with fabric softener
Have you ever done your own laundry in your life?
If you're not afraid of the color running then handwash it. Hang it up and let it dry. I wouldn't put it in the dryer at all since it has cotton lace.

>>8612922
Thanks.
Also what if I just bought a white one in a cut I liked and dyed it?
Commissioning things is much more timely, and I'd rather something show up in a month. I may end up just going with the white color scheme like I thought of from the beginning.

>>8612916
I just got a lavender blouse from AP's website. They have a few cute ones right now.

>>8612923
They've changed their name to Sweet Dreamer
sweetdreamerlolita.taobao.com/

>>8612925
Did you even read what I'm asking? I'm not interested in washing it, not unless it's required, I just want to soften the fabric. I was hoping that putting it in the dryer on a no heat setting in a netted laundry bag with a dryer sheet would do the trick. What's the best way to make cotton less stiff or is this considered normal for the op?

>>8613088
I'm not that anon, but what you original said was a little confusing, you said fabric softener which, personally, I identify as being the liquid you add to the washer. Then in your second post you say "dryer sheet" which is, obviously, the softener sheet (non-liquid) that goes in the dryer. Both do essentially the same thing in different ways. This anon >>8612925
probably did not read the pause between "needs washed out," and "would throwing in the dryer" and interpreted your question that you planned on washing and drying, rather than what you intended, just "drying".

To answer your original question, if you think the stiffness is related to chemical starch, putting it in the dryer with a dryer sheet will probably not help. I'd personally hand wash in cold water, maybe just water with nothing else (usually I add in a dash of oxyclean) and then dry flat.

>>8612863
(Inches method) Measure your under bust, measure your full bust. The under bust is your band size, the difference between the measurements is your cup size. So a 28 underbust, 32" bust would be a 28D (32 - 28 = 4, 1" = A, 2" = B, 3" = C, etc). If you have an odd underbust measurement, you'll probably want to try going both up and down to see which is more comfortable. At 27", I go up to 28".

This gives you a good place to start, but will typically need to try on a number of bras to find one that fits you right. The shape matters, and some brands run small or large. I have bras in three different sizes that fit me because the shape and brand sizing are different.

>>8613118
Sorry you're right, it's always a bit of a shock to come back to those kind of replies.

Thank you for your advice.

>>8612321
I've seen girls look way worse in something like this. Try a minimizing bra and if that doesn't work cardigans are your friend.

I dont know where to ask this. So for halloween, we are having a nice/fancy masquerade ball/tea party. We are renting out the clubhouse of one of our members' neighboorhood. I was asked to help out, but im really at a loss since it will be my first real tea party/meetup that isnt just casual dinner or getting drinks with the comm. What kinds of activities do you think would be fun/appropriate? Everyone is pitching in $15 to go to food, decorations, and prizes, and im really crafty, but i dont know what things others would be interested in since i have no experience in that field. I dont want to let my comm down!

>>8613174
Depending on how well the group knows each other and how big your group is, you could do that Bingo game that the Chicago lolitas did for their annual megameet (bingo sheets include things found in a lolita coordinate and you have to go around and find the lolitas who wear them) - it's an excellent ice breaker.

Other games can include

>lolita/halloween themed pictionary
>dress making challenge: each group have to make a dress out of office/crafting supplies (iirc, the Singapore lolitas did this) - better for a medium sized group
>lolita themed worst case scenario or never have I ever - also better for a medium sized group

I wouldn't over-do the activities because you'd want some time to give people to mingle and eat; I'd pick no more than two games.

I'd try to keep your gift bags simple and because it is hard to figure out what everyone likes, I'd try to keep it Halloween themed. Try adding

>thank you notes
>candy
>kawaii stickers (halloween ones are good too)
>scent sachels - you can make it Autumn themed with something spicy scented or with cute Autumn themed fabric
>creepy cute accessories

Or you can make cute Halloween themed candy bags and fill it with nice stuff like the mini Halloween themed popcorn box and other nice-tier candies - the souvenir is the decorated bag (I'd still add a small handwritten thank you note). Google Halloween goodie bags for ideas.

If you're group is over 21+ and people want to stay for an "after party", a Hocus Pocus drinking game would be fun (make sure that everyone gets home safely though or arrange it as a sleep over, which is good for closer friends).

>>8613230

Decorating should be fun and easy. I'd try to make it look like a creepy Gothic mansion as much as possible. I'd also google halloween decorations for ideas, but so far I like these and I don't think they'd get in the way of clubhouse rules.

>spider webs
>spider plastic spiders
>Halloween themed hanging silhouettes
>decorate Chinese lanterns as Jack-o-Lanterns

Food: try to keep a good sweet and savory ratio. I think that it might be easier to have a potluck, but if people are already pitching in money, be sure that most of it goes toward renting the space, and budget enough to serve the number of people going (I learned that there tend to be a lot of leftovers for these kinds of events). If you people are up for bring their own food to share, have a google doc spread sheet or something for people to see what they're bringing (and either way, be sure to mention anything that can cause a dietary concern, for example, contains nuts).

Spoopy themed party recipe ideas:

>"lady fingers" shaped cookies
>Jack-o-Lantern cookies
>carrots and dip - arranged like a Jack-o-Lantern
>finger sandwiches (you can use Halloween shaped cookie cutters)


Music - keep it low, but just enough to set the ambiance. Be sure to prepare a playlist on your iTunes or invest in Spotify unlimited to avoid commercials. Here are some fun, lesser known suggestions:

>Of Montreal (dance-able psychedelic rock with spooky themes)
>Graveyard Train - horror themed country music
>Nick Cave - Red Right Hand
>Bauhaus

And classics:
>B-52s - Rock Lobster
>Monster Mash
>Nightmare Before Christmas OST
>The Addam's Family theme
>Michael Jackson - Thriller, Somebody's Watching Me
>Blue Oyster Cult - Don't Fear the Reaper
>Superstition - Stevie Wonder
>RHPS OST
>Ghostbuster's theme song
>Le Freak - Chic
>Gorillaz - Dracula
>Misfits - Halloween
>Echo and the Bunnymen - People are Strange

I'm trying to place an order on Atelier Pierrot's website, but I keep getting an error that says "Your name ( phonetic) " Please enter full-width Katakana."
Their instructions on placing an international order are pic related.
So I'm following the instructions, but then I get an error that says to do something different.
Anyone know what to do about this?

>>8613289

I think just convert your name to katakana using a web tool for that field.

>>8613306
See I would think that, but then the next part of the instructions says this
It's just your name again normally

>>8612321
No offense to you in particular at all, anon, but as someone with totally small bust-line and buys a lot of second-hand, just please don't force yourself into clothes like these. It clearly doesn't fit you and it's not good when you resell it to people like me. I've had some stretched out MM pieces, probably by people who shouldn't have tried them on to begin with.

The bust and even the shoulders look too tight. It's really better you get a bigger brand or even get custom made. You don't look fat or anything, it's just clearly a petite dress not made for someone of your body type.

>>8613356
Hey I get you, I also dread stretched out brand (I'm not as big measurement wise as I look, the corset lacing is just tightenwd)- that's why I'm only trying it on and selling it now, I don't want to ruin it, especially since it's such an old/ somewhat rare dress.

What did you all get with the AP sale? I got the Melty Chocolate Shoes because I Had A Need.

>>8613367
Also I'm 5'8-9" for reference if that puts my frame in proportion. I don't think I've stretched out the elastic from it since it was only a few minutes and it looks the same, but it does have shirring channels so I'm sure it's replicable.

>>8613320
I had a similar issue when filling out the angelic pretty one. Iirc, you might need to change your auto fill or auto translate settings. Whenever I input my name in katakana, my browser was switching it to letters when I went to submit. Try clearing your cookies or using a different browser.

>>8612835
It's like buying anything off of eBay or LM. Shipping speeds will depend on when private sellers can get to a post office and ship the package. A lot of official secondhand shops that sell through Yahoo are pretty fast with shipping though. My SS has received packages from those sellers in around two or three days.

>>8613374
When does it end? I might get some small bits if it's still on when i get paid.

>>8613374
Just these two things for now.

>>8613283
I love you, anon. I love you for your "lesser known" taste. You and me, we should be friends. You got that shit dowwwnnn.

To add to that:
> Chelsea Wolfe & King Dude; they have some great occult-themed folk together
>Clan of Xymox
>Sisters of Mercy
>Tuxedomoon

>>8613524
Lol. Yes. I'd love to be frands. I love talking about geeky shit like cosplay and about lolita with my comm, but I'd love to have more rufflebutt friends to go to shows and record stores with.

>Chelsea wolfe
Damn I almost forgot about her.

>>8613616
That's one thing that's gone kinda stale with people in my comm. I like all of them a lot, but talking about things like music and movies is just totally lost because if it didn't come out of Japan or Korea, then they don't give a fuck about it and don't care to give it a shot. I understand not being into certain things, but when it comes to trying to take interest in a person outside of lolita it's like the effort just isn't mutual.

Sorry in advance for the rant:

Why do sellers make sales posts and then just not reply to comments/messages for multiple days, especially when they go out of their way to point out that they want ~quick sales!!~
It's been 48 hours, bitch, get back to me already.

>>8613634>>8613634
I'll admit in being a weeb, but I wish more people would be more open to other Japanese music. Kyary isn't the only thing that came out of there.

Anyone applying to be a model for the Dream Fantasy Theater fashion show?

>>8613289
>>8613320

For the record, the top one says your name in kanji, and the lower one says you name in furigana.

Unfortunately for those of us who aren't Japanese and have neither of those, it's always hit and miss with trying to fill in the form. On the lower one, definitely translate your name into katakana and use that.

The upper one is where you'll have to try and see what works. Some sites accept the same name in katakana, some sites accept a name with alphabets.

>>8613289
You should just email them. I've always ordered via email and if you order over a certain amount (I think 200K? Twice I've ordered a blouse and a small piece of jewelry) they don't charge shipping.

>>8613478
what color is that blouse considered?
I looked through AP's site and I'm looking for a lavender blouse but I feel like those are more blue?

>>8614055
Lavender is a bit bluey/ grey, actually. The pinker colour is more of a lilac imo. Lavenders never match in lolita.

Are there any Japan-fags here who can help me out with purchasing from Yahoo Auctions? I don't need a shopping service, since I have relatives who okayed me to send packages to their house for me to pick up in a few months. But my Japanese is shit and I don't have any Japanese bank/phone/anything. I bid on a skirt thinking I could just use my debit card like an idiot and I just won and I have no idea what to do.
Is the kantan kessai simple settlement thing like a paypal balance? Can I just chuck some money in there off my debit card to pay for now? It looks like I have to do some sort of confirmation, and of course it didn't accept my American phone number.
I obviously can't do bank transfer.
I searched the archives, but I didn't find anything. I did find this:
http://life-in-japan.com/Y_How_to_Use_Yahoo_Kantankessai.html

>>8614066
>Lavenders never match in lolita.
Fuck.
I'm gonna just do pink/white then. Maybe some day...

I thought about doing mint too - but finding mint shoes I'd like is hard.

How the fuck do you guys buy stuff in the proper shades JUST by seeing stock photos?

>>8614094
>buy stuff in the proper shades JUST by seeing stock photos?

I don't. I have 4 different lavender prints, 1 lavender blouse (all from AP), and the blouse only matches the print from the same series, so I have 4 different shades of lavender already. I'm getting a pair of lavender shoes (also AP) from the sale and god knows if it will be similar to any of the other 4, or a totally different shade altogether. It's the same story with other colours, though. There's a navy blue hairbow here that leans towards nearly-black turqoise instead of nearly-blue, it literally matches nothing in my entire wardrobe even though I own 4-5 dresses in blue and navy from AP, aatp and moitie.

Except for black colourways from brand, I always buy the matching headwear along with a main piece to avoid matching problems, it goes a long way to looking like you match. I try not to have my heart set on doing a particular coord with specific items until they've arrived and I can see whether they look okay together or not, and it also helps to know what colours go together so it's easier if things don't match 100%.

>>8613935
I am! I'm really excited. Bought a VIP pass for it too.

>>8613860
I had a buyer who stopped replying after I mentioned the shipping, at least be polite enough to tell me you are no longer interested.

>>8614202
This. So many times. Jesus, I'd even be willing to make a deal with them on some things but nope.

>>8614083
It even says on the page you linked that the site doesn't accept foreign cards. If you don't have Japanese bank account, credit card, or live Japan and can do bank transfer or conbini-pay you're SOL

Dolly Cat rerelease this weekend!!
fuck, i didn't think it'd happen this soon, but i have the money and i am excite at least
curious, since this could be my first time ordering from AP. about how long does it usually take before the dresses are shipped out? i know it can take months but what about rereleases like this one?

>>8614232
Since its rerelease and not made to order that should mean they have the dresses in stock

So about 2-5 business days

I'm sure that this is a really dumb question, but how long do brand reservations usually last?

The periods between
>When an item is announced to reservations opening.
>When reservations open to when they close.
>Reservations closing and orders being shipped out.

>>8614202
I've been trying to sell some stuff on facebook sales and lacemarket and this happened at least 15 times so far.

I'm very close to selling my stuff to the next thrift store instead. I would get much less money but wouldn't have to waste my time any longer on pointless conversations.

>>8614249
depends on how fast the pieces sell out. of course if they sell out, the reservation closes when they sell out.

IW has theirs open for a good week before closing and then have the "available now" release about one or two weeks after that. i think baby takes a little longer, their reservations are open for about two weeks, and are available between two to three weeks later. not too sure about meta, and AP doesn't do reservations

>>8614232
Can we start petitioning AP for re-releases of popular dresses like Cinema Doll & Chocolate Rosette?

>>8614276
Include Holy Lantern and I'm with you!
But wasn't Chocolate Rosette already rereleased a few years ago?

I remember some anon who wrote an e-mail to AP in japanese and encouraged us to copy it and send it as well. I don't know if anon ever got an answer.

>>8614258
baby's reservations can last for a while. I ordered sugar bouquet beginning of this month? and reservations have been open since July

>>8614202
I'm totally fine with outrageous international shipping, I just want my dream dress.

>>8614327
Same here, just paid $50 just for shipping, but at least my dream dress is finally mine.

>>8614232
>Dolly Cat
What are the chances of getting something from AP/US this time? Last time was a blood bath.

Random ass question - what's the weirdest thing you guys have done to get money for clothes?

If you order from AP with Tenso, does it charge you as soon as you check out from AP or not until the order gets to Tenso for shipping and all that?

>>8614507
If I remember right, AP processes their charges in batches so it might be a few weeks before you actually get the charge from them.

>>8614222
Fuck
My dad did it for me from the US before, I don't know what was different then.
Thanks for the info anyways, anon.

>>8614494
I'm hoping to get the stupid headboard in pink. I have never ordered through the AP website, do they accept debit cards?

Would this vest look okay on a skinny guy or is it cut for someone with a bust? I'm new into vests.

>>8614559
You're better to go for a brand that makes things for blokes, such as AatP, Moi Meme Moitie, or Atelier Boz. They all make bloke-cut vests.

>>8614556
Yes but I believe for overseas you have to make a Tenso account.

>>8614278
Maybe it will happen as with Misty Sky, when AP ~ kindly~ encouraged everyone to stop doing that.

>>8614559
there is no obvious darting so it might sit well

lolitas wear compression to fit into brand a lot anyway

>>8614094
Mint is even worse than lavender if you're trying to avoid color matching problems. AP has at least 3 distinct mints, one of which is really aqua blue as far as I'm concerned.

Opinions? How do you think this will sell? I really want to get my hands on this and I'm worried it's going to sell out before I can get it in the colour I want, like the stain glass print.

>>8614194
This is what I thought. I just have to buy a bunch of shit until stuff matches.

Why do we give ita's such a hard time over this then? Because now it really seems like haha, you're too poor to buy 4 different shirts to see what color they are in person.
Even as a non-poor person, I don't want to buy 4 different blouses just to see them in person especially if it turns out I don't want them. Yes, I could sell them, but then that's even more work from me and stuff doesn't always sell.

I'd buy matching headwear from AP or BTSSB if I liked the head wear, but I don't always. Sometimes the head dress is some maxi pad looking thing and I don't want it.
So then what? I'm just shit out of luck?

I like lolita, but I don't like everything about it. I'm really picky and would be super disappointed if I waited for a month for a damn blouse that cost 100 some dollars and then it's not even the right shade.

>>8614604
if you really want it put in an order through a SS like chibitenshi

>>8614278
I would assist in hounding AP for some Holy Lantern. Who else is up for it?

>>8614566
Yep I have that. Last time I ordered from a website that uses tenso was with Liz Lisa and they don't accept debit cards. just wanted to make sure there were no hiccups with this bloodbath but then again if AP USA will be releasing this to then I would have a second chance at it

>>8614572
I remember they flat out said no when there was a huge mail in request to make it MTO. Two different things though so hopefully if they rereleased Misty Sky they can listen to other re-release requests

>>8614600
Yes, the Mercator Antique Shop special set isn't a minty color that I had hoped

How many people ordered Bun Voyage from PepFox a few weeks ago?

I just got an email about their shipping delay and the change of buttons. I actually wasn't aware that they had star buttons for the straps, but I'm happy that their taking the effort to ship them out individually to those who purchased the dress.

I think they are handling the situation really well. I can only imagine how stressful it must be for a small shop to try and keep everything in order.

What are some favorite places for solids? I'd like to get some more solid color dresses for daily wear, but I don't have enough time to make them anymore. I'm thinking of getting some secondhand burando nonprints. I'd like to try taobao, but most stores I've seen only have printed/extravagant pieces.

>>8613935
For the face shots do they want an all natural no make up look or with minimal make up like eye liner?

>>8614712

Miss Point has some dresses that are nonprint, so do Akane and Alois

>>8614712
It depends on your style. Innocent Word do some really nice, more readily wearable every day casual dresses that aren't too flashy, and are solid colours.

>>8614712
Innocent World! Their simple solid pieces are to die for, perfect for daily wear.

>>8614721
>>8614726
>>8614730
Thanks for the information!
I should have specified that I'm looking old school/2011 sweet lolita style. But I'd love to have some IW for more normal-fag events.

>>8614712

What kind of budget are you looking for?

Innocent world is good. Jane marple and etc solid color pieces also go for relatively cheap on auctions. Taobao wise, you should check out updates for reservations indie Lolita brands do, but Akane&alois do very good quality toned down pieces as well as Miss Point like anon said. Surface spell is another good one, but their ready stock tends to disappear quickly.

Being the classic brand whore that I am, I really really like VM and MM. I have a tweed dress from MM and now I'm hooked and can't wait to get my hands on another one.

>>8614742
In that case, BTSSB and AP's non printed pieces might be more to your tastes. Maybe Cornet as well (though those are usually very frilly, in-your-face sort of old school), or MAM.
On a similar note, there's a super cute floral print MAM JSK on Y!J right now that you might like. Its price dropped several times, I think it's going for about 5300 BIN.

>>8614742

The beauty of IW is its versatility. I have a couple of pieces which can pass as non-lolita pretty easily, with the right choice of blouse and foregoing a petticoat. On the flip side, it also works really well for big, formal lolita events. such as Regalia the other week. I wear gothic lolita, and have more IW pieces than I do stuff from more seen as gothic brands.

How long does it take for melikestea to respond after placing an order?

>>8614810
She answered me pretty fast my e-mails, at the same day at least.
My order was not that long ago too, hope that helps

How does everyone wear their maxi pad headdresses? With the ribbon behind the ears or in front? Any good example or worn pictures? Thank you!

>>8614768
Is it true IW pieces don't have high turnover like Baby and AP? I've heard a lot of people just keep the pieces if they ever leave lolita, since it's easy to work a lot of them into a normal wardrobe.
I'm going more classic and I'd like to know if it's a good idea to buy secondhand with IW or if I should just get it straight from the brand.

>>8614876
Depends on the piece. Some of the brand new ones are popular enough to sell out through reservation, and many of them (even some of the less popular pieces that end up on sale) are extremely difficult to find secondhand because people do seem to like hanging on to them, so if you really like a certain piece, you better get it when you can.

Not to say that they're impossible to find secondhand, there are very good deals out there if you look thoroughly.
You just need to know what you like and what you're looking for, and have patience.

>>8614857
I think it depends on your face shape and wig style.

>>8614094
>>8613478 here. The JSK I'm coording and the blouse I posted are both from AP so I'm just gonna pray they're the same color.

>>8614920
>>8614876

I agree. Secondhand sales sites do have plenty of Innocent World items, but like >>8614920 says, if you're afer a specific piece, it can be hard to track down. I've been after a specific piece for a year, and not seen it come up in that colourway even once.
The keeping stuff after quitting lolita to work into a 'normal' wardrobe is easy to see. I bought two of my dresses with the potential for workwear in mind specifically for when I need to be a bit smarter.

>>8614693
they almost always have delays, i never expect to get anything on time with them
but yes the good thing is that they are quite responsive to communication

>>8614232
Retarded question, but google fu wasn't working for me. What time exactly does re-releases go online for sale? It's been so long since I ordered from AP that I forgot.

Sorry for the noobish question, but I haven't sold anything online in several years and I need to thin out my lolita wardrobe pretty badly.

From what I understand, USPS doesn't seem to track overseas anymore unless you buy crazy expensive shipping. Am I wrong or should I just stick to selling only within the US? It makes me nervous because paypal's seller protection seems to suck unless you can prove tracking all the way through.

I just woke up from a bizzare dream. I'm sorry if it seems long and irrelevant, but it's too funny to share and it's related in the end.

>hear gossip in the neighborhood about someone cheating in someone
>random girl shows up and starts hitting my room's window and wall on outside w/a long 2x4
>girl think it's me; Im ready to call the police, but think I should reason w/her first
>explain that I haven't been in a relationship in ages, don't even know her bf, and that he just happens to be my neighbor

(My mind made up the last part; I'm single irl though)

>girl finally leaves and she's still furious
>I go to an irl ex's b-day party (wtf, why)
>everyone is hanging out and angry girl is there
>she thinks I'm going to steal him away and keeps darting angry glances at me even though I'm sitting far away from him
>somehow everyone is nearly naked and I flip at how that just happened
>his dad shows up and says, "you guys keep it down OK?" - lol
>I rush to get my clothes on and leave to the kitchen for food
>party is slowing down and guests want to help tidy up
>this time angry girl is in a well coordinated sweet lolita outfit, I think chocolate themed iirc
>she tricks me into carrying her half of the party's garbage
>as I take the garbage out, i ask a guy hanging out with us if it's worth trying to be friends with her (im from tiny comm irl and have been trying to find more Lolitas to join on our meets)
>"No, anon, she's a fucking bitch."

I woke up thinking about how if I meet a bitchy girl like that irl, even if she wore the latest prints and coordinated very well, I couldn't bring myself to have her join our comm because even though im not responsible for other people's actions, people like that would bring a lot of unnecessary hurt feelings among individuals.

I think the bizarre part was that the girl sort of resembled a childhood friend which is weird seeing how she was a really nice person.

>>8614630
I'm over Holy Lantern anons .. Unless AP is ready to come up with some new cuts, I can't love it anymore. The same goes with Honey Cake, both would be a million times better with nicer cuts.

>>8615033
noon japan time dude.

>>8614232
aw yiss. I asked Tenshi to get it for me ages ago, I'm so ready to finally get my hands on it.
fucking stupid adorable cat dress will be the death of me, but at least I'll probably have it in time for Rufflecon at least?

What is an appropriate amount of time to wait before trying to contact a seller about buying something? I commented on a girl's sale post on FB and sent her a message, but it's now been over 2 days with no word. She hasn't even read my message.
I also guess I don't know how to contact and actually get through to her if she isn't on facebook.

Do you think there will be a bloodbath over AP's Horror Garden ? I have a mighty need for it in the black colorway.

>>8615168
Considering the interest that it has, a big one

>>8615140
I also asked Tenshi to get it for me and even though she said I may not get my preferred cut/colorway she was basing that on it being in-stores at random only, and it seems like now it will be online too as well as guaranteed in stores (not randomly), so who knows, maybe I'll actually get lucky??

just. fuck damn am I glad I contacted her before this announcement and avoided the fucking huge rush I'm sure is following me. I thought it wouldn't be until at least a month from now god
>come on Tenshi, be my savior again pls

>>8615168
fuck. am i the only one being reminded of a cross between Puppet Circus and Iron Gate here??
i wish we had clearer close-ups of the print itself...

>>8615168
Any other photos and release date?
My googlefu and reverse image search come up with nothing

No Release date yet that I know of...

>>8615237

>>8615240
>>8615241
I'm personally praying this is such a blood bath, they take extra orders for this. I need that OP like the rest of you.

>>8615168
I don't know if it's just the lighting in the picture but the dress looks so shiny to me. Still I might purchase it if I can manage to wade through what I imagine will be one hell of a horror bloodbath.

>>8615241
fuck i want the skirt this needs to hurry up

>>8614232
AP USA usually has their release like what? A week or two after? When I tried to get mine through AP USA, site wouldn't even load in for me and others, it fucking sucked.

>>8615207
I didn't think it'd be for another month either, which was why I bought a bunch of shit like accessories/bags. GDI, I'm gonna be so broke this month.
>worth it for the kawaii cat life r-right
>tfw asking bf for those Necomimi brain wave or w/e ears for birthday to use in a coord with dolly cat

>>8615543
>Necomimi brain wave or w/e ears for birthday to use in a coord with dolly cat

>>8615543
Anon, I am in the same boat... I should be saving but fuuuck. I want that fresh dolly cat...

>>8615546
Not that anon, but someone in my comm used those ears for a hello kitty themed coord and they looked super cute. She covered all the straps and stuff with a wig.

>>8614623

>buy a bunch of shit until stuff matches.

Not really. You'll honestly have an easier time if you cultivate your colour sense, do colourful coords and don't rely on specific items matching 100%.

For instance, the most basic bitch coord that you can almost always fall back on, is a matching set of blouse and legwear in ivory, white or black (whichever goes best with your main piece), and then bag and shoes in a colour that "goes with" your jsk colour instead of matching it 100%. Blouse and legwear in those colourways are pretty easy to find, so you'd only need to worry about matching shoes and bag to each other, and making sure the colour doesn't clash with your main piece.

For sweet, normally it's a white blouse and legwear, and pastel matched shoes and bag (the bag matches the shoes), the combination usually works with almost all pastel colours and looks decent with some of the brighter colours AP puts out. If you ever feel befuddled by unmatching things, this coord is one you can always go back to.

So, you don't really need to buy four lavender blouses just to maybe find one that matches. It's just fun to have lavender blouses, and it's really great when you go through your closet and realise there's a match, but it's more like a bonus (if you found it by chance) or an additional burden (if you insist on a matching lavender blouse) rather than something every lolita must do in order to not be ita. Mostly we shit on totally mismatched itas because here's this basic coord that almost anybody can do, and yet they insist on having a lavender blouse that doesn't even match the coord.

How to make lolita friends online? I'm friends with lolitas that live near me, but it's hard for me to maintain an online conversation? How to approch someone without being obnoxius (sp?) or creepy?

>>8615681
Exact same thing here Anon! I always hear people saying how their online friendships are great/ more meaningful/ they can say anything to online friends, but I can't even keep up a conversation online, even with people I already know. It's just too awkward and talking like that feels forced.

>>8615681
>>8615690

Honestly it comes down a lot to other interests and how well your personalities blend. Yeah, you might like lolita, but how far can a conversation on lolita go without getting repetitive?
Like if you have high standards on behaviours such as post people do on here, you're gonna find it hard to maintain a conversation with a lolita that might be an obnoxious weeaboo and "XDDD what ships do u like?" all the time. That is if you're actually judgmental like the rest of us. So you're going to have to find a different sort of person which in turn may be boring as fuck.
It's like that, and so on and so forth.

I've tried making online lolita friends and it's fucking impossible lmao

>>8615241
I NEED THAT VEST.

>>8615746
Oh not just lolitas, this is a problem for people who I am friends with in real life. I just end up ignoring their messages half the time. And with lolita friends, even if we have similar interests, I feel overly cautious. I dunno. We can hit it off in person and I'll be a chatterbox but then I'll never initiate an online convo. I'm terrible to talk to.

>>8615240
So. Will this definitely be a bloodbath?
Will this definitely be scalped to hell and back?
It's sounding pretty fucking popular already, but I do wonder if it'll be the next Holy Lantern/Iron Gate/Puppet Circus/etc. Or at least the next Celestial.

>>8615052
Just say 'US buyers preferred but International buyers must pay for shipping that includes full tracking coverage. All international buyers must ask for a shipping quote before purchase'

>>8615690
The only time I ever made online friendship like that was over tumblr when both of us had blogs with a lot of niche interests on it that would start the conversation and keep it going. Way more niche than just lolita. One of those friendships is dead now, the other is my boyfriend.

Damn Meta's on fire.

>>8615849
Is that new?! I need that dress in my life

>>8615849
>kuri to risu 2.0

>>8615849
Oh my goddess! They're nailing this season.

>>8615270
I think it's shantung fabric like Twinkle Carnival

>>8615849
this is literal perfection. I don't have the money for a new release at the moment but I might have to make an exception.

>>8615849
I just want that collar. Is it part of the dress or a seperate item?

>>8615849
>Meta's on fire

>Not "Kill it with fire"

Never thought I'd see the day.

>>8615849
>>8615921
Kill it with fire tbh

>>8615921
Meta has always been a clusterfuck of brilliance and "what were you thinking". They seem to be upping their game and having less misses lately, though.

>>8615908
Separate item
Check lolita updates

>>8615937
Different anon it's detachable but it's not listed as a separate item for sale....

Generally meta is more for bigger girls but the new release says 88cm上がり that means until 88cm it stretches correct? Even with shirring? I'm about a 86 bust and I don't want to be boob loafing it.

>>8615939
Most of their back shirred things are listed around 86 - 88cm, which is the unstretched measurement. Princess Wardrobe Pinafore (which was listed under their plus size tag) was listed as 88cm. It can probably stretch up to 100 - 105cm.

Seagulls, I'm really worried that my package is going to be sent back to DreamV /again/.
I tried ordering shoes year before last and had a similar thing happen at the Chicago customs, and I'm beginning to think they just fucking hate me.
No updates on USPS' website, either.

>>8615849
I will break my capsule wardrobe rules for this one. I need this on my body.

>>8615976
Is it registered mail? That shit takes forever, and sometimes they forget to scan the package until it's in your state. You could try calling the USPS hotline and see if they can give you any more info if you're worried, but I would just give it a little more time.

>>8615987
It's EMS.
I might call them later. I'm mostly worried because the last time something happened like this my shoes were just sent back from Chicago as "not deliverable to sender" or whatever without them even attempting to deliver them to me (I live in Michigan).

>>8615241
Damn this is gorgeous.

Do you think your chances are better on the AP official shop, or waiting for when gets released on the AP US site?

>>8615849
That little squrriel purse though. Its so fucking cute

All I want are a pair of cute comfy flats that will fit a size 6. Are there any brands who can provide this?

>>8615849
More excited about this than horror garden. When is the release date?

Do you need to wear lolita to reserve an item at AATP in person? I'm asking because I think AP has a rule with having to wear one of their items when buying new releases so I don't know if it applies to other stores with new releases or reservations...

>>8616094
Nope.

>>8616073

Innocent World do some pretty flats now and again, they might have what you're looking for

An item I purchased arrived with what look like a few animal hairs on the inside. Would it be appropriate for me to mention this to the seller? It doesn't bother me (I have a cat myself) and won't affect my feedback, but I thought it might be worth mentioning so that she lint rolls/whatever a bit more thoroughly in the future. I don't want to come off as a bitch, though.

>>8616195
I think if you contact them privately just to let them know it should be okay
does the seller mention that they live in a home with animals anywhere?

>>8613283
you are so disgusting

>>8615240
yes!! mofo skirt, yes!

>buying a cutsew on LM, solad as new with tags
> communication with seller was awfully slow, she read messages fast, but wouldn't answer for a week.
> cutsew arrived and was shipped without tracking and insureance despite me asking for it
> oh, well price was the same and nothing happend, she might just mixed things up.
> looking at the cutsew, tag looks like reattached and it smells like fabric softener
> pissed but can't prove anything, so be it
> try it on and discover a really big and easy noticable makeup stain inside
> okay now I'm really pissed
> write to seller, sent proof photo and tell her that I'll leave a negative feedback (I didn't yet)
> seller writes back incredible fast, telling me that it has the be from the first owner and it would be over the top to leave her negative feedback, she would have give me part of the money back and make up is easy removable anyways. If I would leave her negative feedback, she would leave me some too.
> all my wat, what did I do wrong?
> write back, tell her I didn`t leave feedback yet and would be willing to find a compromise
> 6 days later she did read the message but no answer

I'm not sure what to do, as I never have this happen before. It was clearly her fault for not looking at the cutsew and claiming it is new with tag even if it clearly wasn't. Even threating me with negative feedback is ridicoulus but honestly, I don't want that negative feedback for myself as I didn't do a thing wrong.
So what to do now? I'm at a loss.

>>8616237
Call her out for her shady behaviour, and leave a negative. Message the mods with proof of your problem and the evidence of her threatening you, in order to get the negative removed. I've heard they can be a bit slow to fix it.

>>8616237
Leave negative feedback, for sure. She's a shitty seller and obviously only responds when threatened. If she does leave negative feedback, go to the mods and get it sorted out.

>>8616203
No, they didn't, but there was definitely some sort of hair/fur there that couldn't have been from me/my cat (esp. since I opened the package in my car).
I'll just try to mention it as politely as possible.

>>8615976
I'm having issues with them too. Mine left Japan on the 10th and no updates about my package arriving in the U.S. Bought some clothing and 2 pairs of shoes.

>>8616266
Never mind, just checked again and now it shows it arrived at transit office of exchange. Never had EMS take so long before, hoping there isn't any issues and mine ends up being sent back.

>have multiple packages in the mail - 1 from cali, one from japan, and one from two fucking hours away
>tracking hasnt updated on anything since leaving their usps facilities to get to mine (all several days ago)
>they are all several days late
what do? Should I be worried? Has anyone had something like this happen to them?

>>8616304
My experience with USPS is that once they get to the facilities they usually don't care much to update the tracking. Often I'll have the package before the tracking updates.
How many days has it been Anon?

>>8616318
the Japan box is 3 days late, box from 2 hours away is 2 days late, and cali box is 1 day late (said it should have delivered yesterday). I wouldn't be so upset if it were an isolated incident but i have THREE boxes that have mysteriously disappeared at a post office that usually updates my tracking rather meticulously. I'm getting a bit freaked out, that's a lot of money to be in invisiblepackageland.

>>8615849
All these mushroom release lately. Hope this means they've been reading our print idea threads and I'll get my tasteful guro print.

>>8616333
i would kill anyone for a nice guro print

That AP print is going to be huge, I have such a feeling. It's just something that appeals to a larger crowd than their usual so-sweet stuff, like Puppet Circus, Celestial, Katarina etc did.

Unrelated, do you guys have any methods for flattening creased lace/netting? I searched but I didn't have much luck, maybe I was using the wrong terms. But I received an IW bolero with some lace that's sitting kinda wonky, but I obviously don't want to just take an iron to it. I'm trying to learn how to take care ofmyy wardrobe. Should I just steam it in the shower?

>>8616383
I usually use a regular steam iron with a pressing cloth and go over it very lightly, not actually pressing down on it but just enough to smooth it out and let the steam soften it so I can arrange it with my hands after.

>>8616383
I agree with you, but I can't help think that it's not very original... And I know lack of originality doesn't mean it's a bad dress or anything, just that I can't help think it looks like a taobao brand trying to replicate moitie and holy lantern at the same time. Also I can't help think that the collar and sleeve details look kind of clumsy? I don't know, I hope that it does go big because I like the idea, just not the execution haha

How do I spray starch a petticoat?

>>8616426
You spray starch on it

>>8616429
kek A+ answer

I know this is a very stupid question, but i'm a newbie to lolita.I've been studying and into the fashion for maybe two years and I'm finally dressing in it.
For my first blouse should I go pink or white? Both blouses I have my eye on are secondhand but my parents are both unsupportive so I can only get one for the moment.
Both would go with the skirt (bodyline soft cream in sax) for my first coord. I'm interested in all substyles of lolita so the white would work for more looks even though it is very sweet in construction (peter pan collar and so on). I should go with the white blouse right?

>>8616324
I would imagine that it's okay. I'd wait another day or two and then get worried. Sometimes USPS just goes through extreme periods where it sucks.
I'd kill to have a usually punctual post office though. I live in a large metropolitan area and my post office doesn't like to update anything.

>>8616473
Yes, get white

>>8616473
White blouse without a doubt.

>>8616475
>>8616476
thank you! i just wanted a second opinion to make sure I was making a good decision

I'm in the US, shipping internationally (Canda) for the first time. The buyer asked me to mark down their package and I'm wondering if I should do it or not. I'm not very familiar with the pros and cons of doing so, but I remember reading some pretty lively discussions about it a while back. I know that it limits compensation if something happens to the package, but the shipping method they chose only covers about $50 anyway.

>>8615976
>>8615994
I've had an issue with them before where they didn't write my postal code on the box, so it took forever while the mail service tried to figure out where to deliver it to. So it could be an incomplete address or something like that. Mine did show up eventually.

>>8616339
I mean, that would kind of solve your problem if you did it in a white dress.

>>8616429
Do I turn it inside out first or do I leave it right side up?

>>8616496
I wouldnt be so worried about the shipment to Canada. If it was going to somewhere in Europe yeah I might not want to do that. In the end its what your most comfortable with.

What's the general consensus on Bodyline wigs? I'm tempted to try a few honestly but not if they're bad quality

>>8616531
I've bought a couple from them and they're pretty decent given the price. The caps are enormous though, I have to wear men's sized hats and Bodyline wigs are still a little too big for me.

Gulls, help me
I really want AP's Horror Garden skirt but then I may not have enough money for future AP releases until after the holidays
wat do? get Horror Garden or keep my money available for future releases?
>tfw i tend to like almost everything AP releases when it comes to prints, fuck

welp. looks like i got sent the wrong item i purchased (from lacemarket) for the first time. i'm going to give the seller the benefit of the doubt, since the items seem mostly equal in value, but i'm kind of laughing because i wasn't expecting this at all. has anyone else ever experienced this and if so, did you end up getting the item you wanted in the end?

>>8616426
why would you do that? Just wondering because my petti is deflating

>>8614258
when did ap stop reservations?

>>8616846
Where have you been? AP only does reservations on very special occasions and has been doing that for years.

>>8616574
I'm with you there, anon. I'm strapped for money atm too. What I do is think of how much a blood bath a print will usually be. This print is going to be one of those.

If you really want to push it, don't buy this release or wait for what will probably be a rerelease or reservation.

Jesus, how long does IW take to get back to you about one item? Trying to buy a simple sailor dress and 11 days later still no invoice..

>>8616596
This happened to me on LJ, many moons ago. I just contacted the seller and sent a photo of the item she sent me and asked if she would pay for the return postage and send me the item I was suppose to get. She felt really bad about it, I didn't leave her negative feedback, I'm sure that it was a honest mistake.

>>8615636
Ah but I do see this often in the ita threads, that pinks don't match and so on. I want to avoid this and yeah, I don't want to buy every fucking shade of lavender blouse. But I also don't want to just do pink/white all the time. Like yeah, I can fall back on that and it's easy to put together, but I've already got a pink/white combo with another dress.
It's not about making this easy, it's just a matter of trying to distinguish colors based on super bright stock photos. And I can find reviews for brands like AP, but not for indie shit on taobao. That's part of why I come here, but again, not all of them are gonna get reviews so how am I to know other than risking it.

>>8616910
A looooong time, since they're still having a sale.

when will baby release their chocolate print? the wait is killing me, having to watch them release all these shittier prints first

What are the chances of Meta's new series selling out on reservation? If I want to get something, should I set an alarm?
Sorry if this sounds noobish. It's my first time ordering from Meta (or buying any Meta), and I've been conditioned by AP-style bloodbaths.

>>8616952
I ended up setting an alarm for the witch in the forest series at 3 am and it didn't sell out until that evening or the next day.

Not sure though how popular this series is though but I'm waiting till the morning. I'm still trying to decide if I want to get it

>>8616952
Depending on color and cut it could be a blood bath. My pick for sell-out is the fur collar jsk in cream. I'm hoping to nab a Button-down jsk in cream.
I think most popular colors:
Cream, brown and green last.

Jsk's before the OP

>>8616940
>want this dress for summer
>I bet I'll get it by winter next year

>>8616974
Collar JSK in antique white is my first choice. 5pm Japan time is like 4am my time, and I usually wake up around 6.
I guess I'll probably just set an alarm, but I'm a bit nervous.

Does JetJ, MM, VM, Boz, or any other brand you wouldn't think give out lucky packs? I didn't know Moitie did until quite a while ago and missed out on theirs. It hurts more to assume than to just ask. Still mourning my Moitie lucky pack.

>>8617075
JetJ had one a month or two back.
MM, VM, and Boz do not offer them, to my knowledge.

>>8616974
I hope no one likes the green because it's the only colorway I want.

>>8615052
If you have an IW Letter main piece I'll gladly shell out the absurd shipping to Aus.

>>8616499
that was the joke anon

I'm completely fucked..Do i :
>wait for AP Horror Garden
>reservse Meta Little Squirrel
or
>reserve AatP Milky Rail Train Ouji shorts

3 things i want all badly, but i can only have one.

>>8617186
Horror Garden, anon. Over the other two it will be the definite bloodbath, judging by all the predictions

>>8616910
Actually just went through this with IW. I waited about ten or so days before I made a polite inquiry about it. They replied super quickly and said it was ready to ship. Shipped out a couple days later and arrived working about three days. The invoice is the longest part.

>>8617232
Yeah, just after I sent that email, they replied saying that they were waiting for the item to arrive from a physical store and it just arrived at the warehouse. No idea when the invoice will actually appear though.

Oh god I love my mom-
I was getting off work and she texts me saying she has a surprise for me when I get home. She loves my frilly dresses that I've recently been buying (Just got into lolita a few months ago). So I get home and she has a bag and hands it to me.

Inside is Magic Tea Party's Zodiac JSK...and a replica of AP's Misty Sky JSK.

Love you mom, even if you do buy my replicas.

>>8617247
That was the case with me as well! There invoiced me the same night, and I paid immediately and they shipped out a few days after. Hope it doesn't take too long for you anon! Like everyone else said, they're probably a bit busy with the sale happening as well.

>>8617250
dawww anon, my mom did the same a few months back she got me a replica of Holy Lantern OP...

I wonder how she even knew how to find that sort of thing, half the time she forgets how to use wechat..

>>8617186
Horror Garden will be the biggest bloodbath, and I think even with the hype there's no fears on Little Squirrel. It's cute and popular but the only bloodbath of Meta's I've seen where nothing was restocked was for the TJ rerelease. Witch in Forest's first to sell items (spirit cape for example) were/are restocked. Meta is most forgiving I think.

I did something super stupid.
I selected cash on delivery payment for AP. I know is not correct, but I thought I was selecting credit card.
Now Tenso messaged me telling me the package was rejected.

I need help, gulls, anyone has dealt with this?

>>8617281
>>8617250
That's so sweet!
My mom bought me a pair of fishnets that had a bow design on them, and some lacy ankle socks that look like they belong in a porno.
t-thanks mom.
At least she meant well.

>>8616920

No, again, not really. We've got a noob posting nitpicks in the ita threads at the moment (and getting bitched at for it), but one mismatched blouse will only make you nitpick material, not outright ita. And given some girls will nitpick things like biscuit bags being worn with chocolate dresses because of their OCD, being nitpicked isn't that big a deal. It takes being so colour mismatched that your eyes feel the need to squint (or look away) in order to be ita material, not just one mismatched item.

If it's not about being easy, then yes, expect it to be hard, and expect to buy some items that will arrive a different colour. Again, much easier if you don't insisit on single-colour coords, for eg do a pink blouse with a lavender jsk instead of trying for the exact same shade of lavender in both.

>>8617075
>>8617079

VM offers them, follow their blog for release dates, sometimes the blog link goes to a different page than anything on their shop. They also did some kind of set earlier this month/last month. You have to be fast though, they always sell out by the time I read the release page (but then I'm not after the pack as I always worry I'll get the OPs that don't fit me).

>>8617075
Boz offers them. You can find some opening posts if you google it. No idea when they offer them though, they haven't done so yet this year to my knowledge.

Anyone seen this bag in real life or in coord shots? I am wondering if it's more like navy or if it's greenish blue like this pic looks on my monitor (and will clash with navy).

>>8616211
ikr. Patting herself on the back for her obscure taste and then crediting Somebody's Watching Me to Micheal Jackson, what a joke

>>8617347
I always quadruple check my info before submitting orders directly on AP because of shit like that. Can't help you there, anon.

>>8617673
At least she can spell Michael. That really is him (and Jermaine) singing the chorus so she's not totally wrong.

>>8617075
do anons know when Moitie normally does LPs? in-store only?

>>8617075

Boz does lucky packs at Halloween and New Years. Halloween is in-store only, New Years is online and in-store.

>>8617700

Moitie is online and limited at Kera (I think last time was EGL only). New Year and there was one back in July or something.

>>8617347
If it is something you really want, gonna have to find a SS to order it for you and pay those fees

Is Infanta of Lolita Dress on Aliexpress the real Infanta?
And similarly, it's pretty well established that my-lolita-dress is a taobao reseller and not a Milanoo front, right?

Sorry for the babby-tier questions, I'm in desperate need of a coat and Infanta told my shopping service that they didn't have any more in stock and weren't planning on making more, so I'm desperately scraping for reputable stores to buy leftover stock from

I have a question, I just won an auction and I noticed it says (according to google translate) JSK Set Kachu. What is a kachu, does that mean I get the matching headbow as well? The description and photos are sparse.

>>8617716
Yes, that is their store. They even link it from their taobao store if you ever want to verify.
Yes, it is a reseller.

>>8617703
>>8617677

is just sale stuff. Damn... I did like 4 separate orders, only the first came normally, so I got confident and clicked where the symbols reminded me without translating as usual. Stupid fuck.

I sent emails to both, Tenso asked to talk to AP. Yeah right.

Emailed them.

I will just report back what happens.

>>8617718
I'm pretty sure that "kachu" is "katyusha" which is indeed a headband/headbow.

>>8617730
Cool, thanks a bunch. I've grown soft from using the same SS forever

>>8612837
When I was a noob and got my first petti, it was a F+F one and since I was new I got it a bit too long for knee-length dresses. But it turned out to be the perfect length and volume for tea length dresses because it's an organza-tulle mix and the tulle crushed down a bit over time. So I would recommend a F+F petti at custom length- let it deflate a little bit, and it will be the perfect volume.

>>8614604
Holy shit how did I miss this, a totally-not-Rottenberg rerelease!? I wonder if I should use the money I set aside to pay for a figure release later this season to buy it, Rottenburg is the last dream print I've yet to get my hands on... I just hope this won't be a 100+cm lengths release like the last several JSK releases have been, they make me look like a hobbit at 5'.