/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL

>>8576324
*only, not own

>posing as hot bitches to sell panties online for bill and burando money
>doing demented shit to the panties like farting hard on them
>bf thinks it's hilarious
>it's actually pretty difficult convincing guys to send the money
>they mostly want free pics and cheap pussy in person
>I almost feel bad for the /soc/ and reddit girls from whom I'm ripping these timestamped pics from
>blatantly state I want an anonymous sugardad on every ad and profile
>yet pushy douches still show up looking to get free shit and meet ups

Almost feel bad for the girls I'm posing as, not that I ever thought sex workers were respected but holy damn guys treat these girls like absolute meat.
Some guys are approaching these profiles, with COMPLETELY hot girls who are wayyy out of their leagues, and only offering like $100 for sex in person lmao. Like holy shit, I feel dirty for just witnessing this aspect of sex work.

>work more hours for con
>closing nights left and right
>co-workers love me since I'm doing the late stuff
>car breaks down
>gonna be pricey
>all good, I'll still go to con
>mom confronts me
>'anon, my labs from the ER aren't good, I might have cancer'
>starting to feel a bit defeated
>work on stuff for con
>get custom made lolita sash
>it's stunning
>come home from late shift
>mom and her fiance fighting
>'you don't love me! You don't respect me!'
>huge fight
>cry as I sew last small thing for con
I want to be excited for con, but life is just fucking me raw right now. I look over at my Lolita coord that I've been talking about non-stop and just shake my head

I wanna jump off a bridge

>scuffed favorite pair of BL shoes really badly a couple days ago
>go on BL site to buy a new pair
>they aren't there
>remember that they were offered during the 1000 yen sale
>fuck did Yan retire my favorite shoes?

They were so nice because they were casual enough to wear with my normal clothes but also cute enough to wear with lolita too.
I hope he restocks...

>>8576371
What kind anon?

>>8576373
These ones.
Iirc Yan dropped the price a bunch of times before the 1000 yen sale so it's possible that they didn't sell well.

>captcha: pick all the outdoor pools
>only one outdoor pool, the rest are 2 pictures of the ocean, 3 houses, 2 cars, and a bowl of fruit

>>8576358
>act/pretend to act like a subhuman
>wow why I being treated with such little value

>>8576385
Anon
I want them too
I would love a pair in black for my nameless poem coord
We're in this together

>>8576396
But some whores are treated like they're valued. That's the difference between a $50 stripper and a full fledge ho like JNig. It's a building up a base sort of gig. obv. Would be hard to do if anon is only faking to be other people.

>>8576358
I sell panties sometimes (with my own pictures, not stolen ones) and the pantysluts act like I'm some sort of princess or goddess. I wonder why the difference in attitude?

>>8576409
Do you have a nicer profile and do you sell on a specific website?
The profile I made up is as impersonal as it gets just because I have to bullshit about remaining anonymous. The shots I picked look like the same girl but I think the ones I'm using are pretty hot, maybe they're just not leaving much to the imagination and giving away too much at once? The picture qualities are also pretty amateur.
I just never knew there were so many factors in the online kink world.

>sorry for OT

>>8576358
>>8576396
>>8576400
>>8576409
>>8576413
y'all are gonna get this thread deleted

>>8576417
>yfw you have no face over all the other off topic arguing in previous feels threads
Don't report or make a big deal of it and janitors won't notice. Simple.

>>8576413
Pretty much exclusively on Fetlife. I use my real profile, which includes my bio, my list of kinks, my pictures, and people can also see my post history from my profile. My bio includes things like what books I like and my hobbies. I have a lot of face pictures and most of my pictures are fun, not sexy. Most of the photos are done by professional photographers.

>>8576422
Thanks for the tips anon, I'll have to readjust my strategy.

>>8576417
I sold a pair of panties that I showed to the seller by taking a picture of me wearing only the top part of one of my cosplays with the panties before. That's cosplay related. It felt fun and risque. That's on topic for the thread.

Since starting lolita during this time last year I've since collected thirteen dresses, nine of which are burando and eight of those which were top tier burando dream dresses. Since finalizing a payment plan for my most recent dream dress purchase, I feel content with the state of my closet for the first time since I started. I dream of a super large wardrobe filled with top tier burando and over 100 main pieces, but I don't need it all right now - I can wait until next year to start seriously spending money again, when I'll have a lot more saved up and budgeted. That's four or more full months of no burando spending whatsoever, no serious need to search for dream dresses every day on every secondhand site and no more soul crushing feelings when I lose auctions or miss out on a good price. No more worrying on if I'll have enough money for the next burando purchase should it pop up for more than expected. It's such a freeing feeling. But on that note, I still can't wait to start adding to it more next year, if at an easier to deal with pace.
>never went into debt for burando or anything like that, but I was still keeping heavy track of my spending, so it'll be really nice to not have to do that as much later.

>sells item on Lacemarket
>buyer has 20+ positive feedback
>message and invoice buyer
>buyer never responds
>why

>>8576480
don't worry, you'll come back and see that you missed out on a bunch of dream dresses which sold for way less than what you're willing to pay, and they won't show up again in ages

>yes i'm salty af

>>8576518
I try to not think about that, because that was me for all of this year up until now, pretty much. But at least any of those dresses wouldn't be my ~top tier~ burando dream dresses, they'd just be regular dream dresses, so it'd be much easier on me overall even if I missed a bunch of them all at once.
>but I know the feeling and I feel you, anon.
I hope your dream dresses turn up too!

>selling item on LM, cgl, FB
>tell buyers it is up on multiple mediums and let them know of bids and offers
>Buyer bids on LM, tell her people are also offering on FB
>she offers starting price+$50 more
>tell her someone has also offered that but she was first so she gets priority, she is fine with this
>Auction ends
>'I'm only paying the start price anon, that' show much it says right here on lacemarket'
>inform her that even the start price was offered before she bid
>'I'm contacting my lawyers anon, that price was only on offer that day you are scammer,I'm letting everyone know'

I will never sell again.

>>8576536
Aw come on anon, I'm telling you one day you'll be able to look back and laugh.

>Meetup with new comm
>I'm NEET extraordinaire but still try to be friendly and nice
>sperg out 4 hours in, eventually people split into smaller groups and I stay alone
>People I do try to talk to don't really seem to want to talk to me, end conversations after 1 sentence
>Just me and my steaming bowl of spaghetti

>tfw for the sake of time and your sanity you need to dumb down a design

my...my machine doesn't like topstitching nice curve shapes.

>>8576536
Next time just direct everyone to LM. I don't mean to piss you off, but I feel like that's kind of shitty on your part, really. You should have told her from the get-go to post the higher bid on LM if she was willing to pay it.

>want to get into lolita
>feel way too ugly
>nose too big, chin too big, skin not clear enough, genetically caused undereye circles, etc
>could have my dream wardrobe and I'd still be unhappy because of my face
>get tempted whenever I see anything related to lolita anyway

>Be poor student in poor country
>Be admitted into dream master's degree program
>It's very far away and in a city expensive for my family
>Consider getting a part time job to cover dorm expenses
>Turned down everywhere because of schedule incompatibilities
>Denied scholarship because my academic record is 6.995 and the cutoff grade is 7.00
>Goodbye 3000€

I just wanted to put less financial strain on my parents and I feel like a piece of shit. I improved so much in my last two years but now I feel my depression relapsing. Also,

>Birth control gave me stupid big boobs
>Unshirred dream dresses do not fit anymore
>Can't twin with my best friend
>No money to alter them
>Birth control is saving me from monster periods that have managed to send me to the ER and nuke my finals before
>Feel horrible about my body

I can't win. Just thinking about all this made me cry, its still three weeks before my Master's starts and I'm already fucking terrified.

>>8576997
anon don't worry about that. Having an ugly face is actually not much of a problem in lolita. Lots of popular lolitas are weird looking by conventional standards. And even then nobody cares if you cover your face when posting coord photos.

>>8576997
Do it anon, I have all of those features too and it doesn't stop me from wearing what I want.

>>8577099
Not sure if the European system has anything like this, but is work study or being a teaching/research assistant to a professor an option for you?

>>8577126
Not my country, at least. Public universities receive almost no funding and many times the actual professors are chipping in to pay for our materials and various stuff that should be included in the state budget. I could offer myself as a helping hand but I wouldn't receive a dime, and even possibly make workers uncomfortable because they might misconstrue me as expecting to receive money and not just volunteering.

>>8576995
I agree with you completely anon, so not pissed off, I would have saved a lot of grief if a single medium was used.

>21, working part time and going to school
>trying to improve in lolita
>progress is slow because of low funds
>won't graduate for another two years
>practically guaranteed job with solid pay
>but I'll be at least 24, old af
>I'm not going to be able to afford my main hobby until I'm a goddamn maester
It feels like all the lolitas I see online are <22 tops, I'm scared by the time I can afford the fashion I'm going to be too old to look good in it/fit in. I'm still working on coords now but progress is slow.

>Been planning cosplay group for 8 months ish.
>Costumes are elaborate
>Have enough faith in the group that everyone could make these in a week
>Don't nag about getting it done
>Con is 2 months away
>2 of the important members flake, one stops responding to posts.
>Now we need to find people to fill gaps
>Now we are having to look at 2nd rate cosplayers to fill the gaps who we're not 100% sure could even make the things.
>Group is missing 3 major characters out of 6
>Thanks girls

whenever i drop out of a group at least I find someone to rep me.

>>8577145
Anon, a good portion lolitas are 23-30.

>>8577145
>currently 25
>still have 2+ years left of school, going back to learn a different field since current field is not compatible with medical issues I've developed
My old af self still wears lolita at least.

>>8577150
Forgot to add
>Other members have already started to make their costumes for the less important characters.
>They've committed and it's too late to swap now. Even though they would be better at the core few

>>8576364
man anon, that sucks. I hope that everything gets better and that you have a great time at the con.

>>8576385
I've wanted those shoes for so long, but Yanners doesn't have my size

As I get older, I've gotten really insecure about my age and don't like to think about it at all. It's to the point where sometimes I forget and think I'm a year younger than I am but then realize I'm not and feel bad.
But at meetups I always get asked my age I say "I would rather not say" a lot of times girls will keep asking or get offended, or it's just awkward. I wish they would just stop asking but it happens all the time.
What do I do? Do I just suck it up? I don't think I can lie because sometimes the idiot bouncers at bars say my birth year out loud sometimes.

>>8577319
Let me guess, you're 25?

>>8577332
nope

Sorry not completely /cgl/ but I gotta vent
>bond with coworker through complaining about how we hate our job
>end up becoming really good friends
>discover she has a very negative outlook on everything
>tell her something interesting I learned or watched
>replies with, "that's weird"
>don't even dare to mention an anime I'm watching or cosplay I'm working on because she'll be judgemental
>won't listen to any advice I give her about school when we're in the same degree plan and I'm two years ahead of her
>called my boyfriend worthless because I didn't ask him for a ride to school one day instead of my roommate who was already up and not doing anything
>also made fun of him after I told her how upset he got when I told him we may have to put down our very old dog
>said she hated a friend of mine because the friend "liked" her boyfriend when they were all in high school
>beat her dog to the point of no movement one time
Like, fuck. There's having an opinion then there's just being full of hate. Her current boyfriend is really into anime so we have something to talk about but when he left she groaned about how she has another person to listen to talk about anime. What she said about my boyfriend really upset me but to be fair when we first started talking my boyfriend and I were going through a rough patch and of course I vented to her about it. My boyfriend supports me in many ways but she doesn't care to listen. What she said about my dog though was completely uncalled for, especially since she knows my dog personally and always says how much she loves her. She wants to be a vet for goodness sake and she makes fun of someone being upset about a possible euthanasia?

Please accept this reaction image for my off topic rant.

>>8576385
god fucking damn it, I wanted a pair of these in red too because they would've looked really good with my toy drops JSK...I'll be really sad if yan really did get rid of them. for months though he never friggin restocked any of the sizes, but I guess that's because he planned on discontinuing them apparently?

>>8577345
>beat her dog to the point of no movement

really? and youre upset she said something mean about your boyfriend? why are you friends with this trash?

>>8577345
Beats her dog and wants to be a vet? How about no. Bitch sounds psycho.

>>8577319
there is no reason anyone should have to reveal personal information in a casual setting.

just say you're a sorceror and you need to keep your stats a secret, lest your enemies use them against you.

I was going to slash my wrists but then I remembered I have one of my dream dresses in the mail and I don't want to be hospitalized before getting to wear it.

>>8577374
this.

dump her anon.

>>8577374
>why are you friends with this trash?
Because I'm spineless and I worry if I stop talking to her she'll have a breakdown or something. She's very mentally unstable. She was freaking out about her dog and knew what she did was wrong but that was a very uncomfortable conversation to have with her.

>>8577393
It's weird. She says she loves animals but complained about every patient we saw when we worked together. Like, if a dog wouldn't sit completely still or a cat wouldn't be completely quiet then she would complain. She's not even 100% sure on the vet thing though and if you're not 110% certain then vet school will not be worth it.

>>8577401
If only dumping a friend was as easy as dumping a partner. We have a class together though and there isn't much space to avoid her in there. I'm leaving for my graduate program next year (hopefully) so after I make it past this semester then I won't have to see her as often.

>>8577411
If her mental stability rests on you this is really REALLY unhealthy. Leave. Now. I don't care how awkward it is in class, if you enable someone as fucked up as this you will end up like me. My 'best friend' conned me into making three outfits for free while humiliating and insulting me, ruined me financially and socially in retaliation as soon as I realized I had to get out. These kind of abusive friendships build slowly, and if you recognize that she is unstable and angry and don't get out now you have nobody to blame but yourself. It -is- just as easy to dump a manipulative and threatening friend. You set healthy boundaries and if they cross them, let them go.

>>8577398
>tucks you in bed with fluffy freshly dried blankets
>gives you a bowl of ice cream with the good sprinkles
>brushes your hair
Anon you're going to be alright, I promise. Work and bills suck but there's people out there that will help you get through this, I'm sure. We're here for you if you need us! Focus on that dream dress, we believe in you that you can get through this.

>>8577411
you are sacrificing your happiness for someone who will never be happy or even okay with life. you are wasting your life on someone who cannot function.

beating animals is always a warning sign of other types of violence. it doesn't matter that she was upset at what she did, it matters that she is so damaged that it happened in the first place. her claim to love animals while displaying irritability you describe at them is another red flag, anon.

she's not going to change, especially if you don't give her any consequences for being a shitty, negative, selfish, unempathetic, and cruel person.

>>8577430
not the anon you're replying to, but this warmed my heart up. even though it wasn't directed at me, it was nice reading it as if it were

>>8577411
So do the two of you work at a vet clinic? and that's what your class together is for? If you don't inform your boss/teacher that she is *beating animals nearly to death* than you are a terrible person and should feel terrible. She needs to be removed from the program ASAP. bonus, you won't have to deal with her.

>>8577411

please reread these over and over
>>8577422
>>8577433
Their dubs were brought to you for a reason.

>>8577576
this.
Hopefully they take away her dog too.

>building otome wardrobe
>several dresses and accessories on the way
>daydream about the multiple coords i could make with these items
>while on closet child, see skirt
>does not fit into my wardrobe, could never incorporate into an otome coord
>i must have it
>find the op and jsk for a reasonable price
>all the money i saved for otome clothes would go to this dress i would wear only once ever
>i could build a more cohesive wardrobe if i spent it on accessories and such
>but its my dream dress...

conflicted feels

>>8577576
I agree, she should be removed from the program. Send her a message telling you that you are tired of her negative attitude and do not believe she should be around animals. With any lucky, maybe she will go get the counseling she needs. You are doing NO ONE any favors by staying. You're not helping yourself, her dog, the future animals she might work with, and you're not helping her either.

>get drunk with a friend and suggest going to a con together (neither of us have been for a few years and want to get back into it)
>the original con we planned on going to comes and goes and we don't make it , we're both busy, nbd
>she's going to study abroad for a year so our choices are limited
>we decide on Dragon Con, sep 4-6
>I recently got a weekend job, I was going to ask for Sunday off and head over Friday night (dont work Saturdays)
>I needed to give 14 days notice and I totally forgot when I was in last sunday, and I dotn work again till this Thursday, leaving me with only 9 weeks notice
>they most likely would let me take the day off but it would look really bad, plus its labor day weekend so its possible they'll need me anyway
>my friend made me promise we could go to a con before she left for study abroad but it looks like it won't happen...
>she'll be really mad at me so I'm thinking of lying and just saying I asked and they said no
>ugh why did I ever mention cons around her she's so much more serious about anime than she is about real life...

>>8576385
Damn, these are his best design too.

>>8577411
Start talking to an adviser. Tell them that you have seen "someone" in the program beating an animal and you need to talk to someone in confidence.
With any luck, either they or someone else will talk to you about it. I have a feeling that things will be a lot clearer once you talk to some of the people in your program. For instance, they might make it clear that this person is very dangerous and will be removed. So she won't be in your classes any more.
Just, talk to someone in your program. You don't have to bring up names, but tell them you are considered about someone and tell them that they beat the dog and they will tell you where to go from there.

> been huge boobed since puberty (5ft)
> finally got a breast reduction
> can totally wear brand now
> will be able to work out and get into shape and look amazing in cosplay and lolita
> in such pain right now from surgery
> dreams so close but recovery

>>8577718
I'm happy 4 u.

>>8577430
Thanks anon. There are people to help and support me, its just they're all abroad right now so I'm all on my own. I tend to let things get to me more when I don't have a friend to tell me how ridiculous I'm being.

>>8577718
Wow, hope the pain goes soon!

May I ask how big boobed you were?

>>8576511
Ugghh, I know that feel all too well. I've finally found my dream jsk in the colorway I want and in a price I'm willing to pay, but the seller hasn't replied in months.

>>8577723
Thanks!
>>8577728
My smaller size was a DD or a DDD. The bigger one was never truly measured but a bit bigger than that. Now is the waiting game to unwrap myself on Friday and see my size!

>>8577746
I hope you're a nice bouncy B.

>>8577746
Ahh okay, good luck! I'm a 30E (I think the UK E is equivalent to the US DDD) and I hate the way I can't wear any JSKs or OPs without looking fat or lumpy - I Always wear a Skirt with some sort of shirt - I have a 25" waist so aim to show that to make myself look better in Lolita. It really bugs me that there isnt a nice JSK/OP which can accommodate average western frames with bigger breasts.

>>8577757
I am excited to wear a blouse without gapping! I can finally wear a lolita skirt with a blouse! I was 98cm around so I could wear some jsk but boob loaf. Now my dream dresses will fit great!

Besides the pain I say get it! I got it all paid with insurance so it was perfect

I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place. I love lolita and love wearing it.
However where I live, the comm is half dead and the rest is ita. The larger area isn't great too. It seems most people around here have very little in their life going on other than lolita. Those who do are obnoxious as hell. The sort who do the -my illness is worse/better than your illness- or are the most self absorbed people ever. Or they have such a tight knit group of friends that they don't want anyone new.
I made a few friends in lolita, but we really bonded over things other than lolita. They're good friends but don't dress in lolita much or go to meets or events anymore.
So I've lost all will to go to events and meets. Sold half my wardrobe.
I don't like wearing lolita outside of meets and events, because I'm worried that daily wear will damage the clothes. And I have to wear practical clothing because of the work I do.

But
I'm halfway into a fashion course and I've found a love for setting up photoshoots.
So now I just want to do photoshoots like full on fashion shoots but when I tried to talk to my comm about it they called me attention seeking and an ita and more insults.

I like getting pictures of nice outfits so I can keep the memory and loo back at it. I'm soppy like that. And the photos from events and meets are always sub-par at best. If I could get semi-pro photos I'd love it.
But I know everyone would just hate on me for it.

>>8577422
Anon I'm so sorry to hear you went through that. She doesn't have hobbies, especially ones would require effort on my part, but if she did she would do something like your "friend" did. I now realize it has been building slowly. She seemed like such a sweet person at first & once I began to pull back the layers I saw she has some serious issues.

>>8577433
100% agree with everything. My boyfriend told me the same thing when I told him about her dog & other situations but I didn't take much note of it.

>>8577576
>>8577597
>>8577672
I guess I should clarify: we worked together but left separately for separate reasons. She works at a different vet clinic now & I work in the biology department on campus. The class is for our BA in Animal Science, which is not connected to vet clinics but a common job for Pre-vet students. Anyway, I don't think I could tell her boss because she's dating her son (weird situation). I'm not sure what all the school could do based on my accusations though. She gets good grades & has no criminal record so she wouldn't be labeled as a troubled student (I think). I do have a professor in the department I can talk to but she knows my friend & I may spill the beans even if I meant to keep it anonymous. Should I just email her & say I have a friend in the program with anger issues (sometimes directed towards animals) and see if she knows of any outlets to contact?

>>8577580
I didn't even realize the dubs until now! The dubs have spoken.

>>8577684
The thing is, I didn't see her beat her dog. She texted me right after it happened but I don't think I have it on my phone anymore. She brings it up like she got a bad grade in a class; like she's upset but not doing anything to change. If I keep her name anonymous how can she get out of the program or the help she needs? Not sure how I would phrase that.

Really, thank you for all the replies. Didn't realize this was bad enough to start my own thread. Should I so I don't derail this one?

>>8577718
Good for you anon! I had many big-breasted friends in cheerleading and they were always upset about how the tops couldn't fit properly. I hope you buy yourself something nice after the recovery.

>>8577145

In what world do you live, where a 24 year old is super old?

You are barely going to look different in 2 years, barring you getting fat as fuck or other outside things.

>>8577397
>just say you're a sorceror and you need to keep your stats a secret, lest your enemies use them against you.

That sounds cringe as fuck.

Either
A. Make up an age
B. Tell the truth, because who cares

>>8577319
Is that you, PT? She just celebrated her 30th :')

>>8577799
I understand with no history an initial complaint might not be taken seriously, but a "paper trail" needs to start somewhere. If a note of concern is made in a file somewhere, and something happens later on then they can start to see a pattern. If no one ever reports anything, than no pattern will ever be recognized.

Talk to the professor, you can even start off by saying what you did here "I didn't witness it, she texted me right after it happend, she brings it up lightly and like she won't change. I didn't know if I should tell someone, but I'm worried about her" They will know what, if anything, to do.

>>8577836
You're right. And who knows? Maybe someone has reported something about her already. I'll email the professor and see if we can meet or just continue to email. She's very involved with the Pre-vet students so I feel she would offer the best advice. I've also had her for a few classes so she knows me well. She may figure out who it is since my friend has her for a class this semester but hopefully with all the students she teaches a semester she'll forget I had friends in her class.

I read about you lot with your fashion addictions all the time, but this week I really scared myself. I spent a whole bunch of money and nearly hid that I did it.
Treading carefully from now on.

>>8577799
Keep it in this thread - it'll get deleted otherwise.
What I mean is, bring it up anonymously initially to get a feel for what they are going to do. They will either say something like, "she is a danger and you should tell us who it is so we can get her out of the program." Or, they will make it clear that there is little that can be done. That's why you need to talk to them. And try to keep evidence of that text message she sent you!

>>8577858
Anon, remember to talk to your professor about anonymity first. Say that you want to talk about this sort of thing because you are concerned for the mental well being of a classmate, but you want to know that your name isn't going to be written down anywhere near these things.
Keep yourself and your education safe, to be honest if your friend is a psycho she'll blame the people closest to her (you or her bf) if something is done and shit hits the fan anyway, so it's best to make sure you can at least be convincing when you say it wasn't you.

You should slowly start distancing yourself, too. Start talking about anime and the course itself a whole bunch.

>>8577884
By "them" I mean program advisers, teachers you trust and the like. Think of at least 2 such people you trust and approach them with this. I guarantee you will be fine, and you will get a lot more answers from them than you will from /cgl/.

Everyone is promoting Lolitadesu's lucky packs but I broke one of my fucking teeth so my money is going to getting that fixed. Never think you have "extra" money or something stupid will happen!

>>8577099
>Birth control gave me stupid big boobs
>Unshirred dream dresses do not fit anymore

I feel you on this one so much ;_;.

>>8577774
>I got it all paid with insurance

That's ridiculous.

I can't believe some of the frivolous shit insurance will pay for. Then try to bone other people on legit things.

>>8577681
>>8577357
>>8577239
>>8576398
Can we please all beg Yan to bring these back on the BL Facebook page?
They're one of the few shoes I own that work for lolita and normal wear.

Not cgl related feels:
>train ticket machine rejects my card
>no cash because I'm dumb
>closest trustworthy atm is 2 miles away
>homeless man that I bought a coffee and bagel for weeks ago gives me cash from his own cup
>thanks to this man, I got home safely
I feel really bad because my carelessness could've caused him to miss a meal from mcdonalds or a convenience store.
He's always in the same place so he's getting a hot meal for sure tomorrow.

Semi-cgl related:
>parents freak out about me almost getting stranded
>transfer strangely large sum of money into my account despite the ticket machine being the problem
>mfw now I have money now for AA stuff but idk if I can make it to any cons next year because of school

>>8577884
>>8577887
Sure thing. I'll keep the anonymnity as much as I can. I can't think of any other professors though in the program. The other one I would talk to is someone I'm going to ask a letter of recommendation from so I feel asking for that then following up with my friend's situation wouldn't really work...I can't find the message! It happened earlier this year and we text a lot. I do have a message of her alluding to it though.

>>8577885
Definitely. I'm so close to graduating and want to get into a good graduate program and I don't want anything to mess it up. I've been trying to distance myself but since school started I see her more. We've gotten to where we suggest plans, like, "let's grab lunch soon" but never do. She's not the type to push on plans so even if she suggests we do something she won't remind me or double check that we're still on. I feel bad for not replying to texts though since she knows when I'm free and when I'm not.

>>8577917
breast reductions are serious things. big boobs will fuck up your back and shoulders permanently before you even hit 30.

>>8577940

Surgery IS easier than not being fat and lazy I suppose.

>>8577951
>implying that everyone who needs a breast reduction is fat and lazy
>implying no naturally large breasts

Anon, I'm not fairly thin (26 inch waist) but my boobs (36 inches) are big enough to start fucking with my back.
>inb4 that's not possible
My mom's side of the family and naturally large breasts and my dad's side has naturally small bone structures.

>>8577951
oh okay you're bait

>>8577892
It's marked up closet child stuff.

>>8577951
Most people I know who have had reductions done were petite, skinny girls with HUGE boobs. And they already had pain issues.

>>8577936
Yeah I hope Yan brings them back - I wear those and the RHS as both Normal and Lolita. Those shoes have gone byebye and the RHS prices have shot up... They wear out in about a year of normal wear so do I just buy the V Westwood RHS which will last forever or do I beg Yanners...

>>8577976
OK I feel better now.

>>8577939
Asking for recommendation and bringing this up at the same time isn't a bad idea. If anything it will make you look more sympathetic.

Venting about this here because I’m too embarrassed to talk about this with my irl friends. It’s related because this is influencing my hobbies, since I can’t have them right now:

Three months ago I traveled four states away to move back in with my parents after I was done with my master’s degree because I didn’t have a job lined up in my area. My long-term bf came with me as well. We lived in an economically depressed area so there was nothing there for either of us. My parents initially offered us this opportunity because they argued that there are tons of jobs here, they even helped us move. We told them that we couldn’t contribute much bills-wise because both of us had to save up, and they seemed to accept our conditions. The first few weeks here were tolerable, but they’ve been getting gradually worse.

As we’ve been living here, my parent’s finances have been in a stark decline and it has changed both of them for the worse. Particularly my mom who has had financial stability nearly all her life and is now facing this sort of hardship “for the first time in 30 years.” My stepdad tries the best he can with his job (~$60k) since my mom is a retired teach and gets a $1200 monthly pension. Our new health insurance under Obamacare does not cover our healthcare needs (I got denied help for my acne and gastro problems just short of picking up the meds for them), yet my stepdad now has to pay $12k ($1000/month + $12k deductible) a year because he make just above the qualification for cheaper insurance. We’re all trying to live, a technical family of four, on less than $50k a year. I wish I could file as an independent so I could get Medicaid/food stamps, but my parents like claiming me as their dependent because of the taxes.

>>8578086
My stepdad had been my best friend nearly all my life, but now I barely recognize our relationship. He’s under so much performance pressure being the sole breadwinner, and the physical toll at his job, that he’s angrier now. He snaps at me if there’s dishes in the sink (doesn’t matter who caused them), or if anything in the house is out of place. My parents are a little old school in regards to sexism; I’m often yelled at if food is not prepared and ready for everyone, if the house is not cleaned everyday, if the grocery bill is too expensive, or if laundry is not done for them. They never expect anything of my bf, even though my bf does occasionally help me.

Things are made worse by the fact that I’ve had two interviews since I got here, yet neither had gone anywhere. I got my hopes up the first month because I was invited to work in an office for one day, and then never heard anything back despite calling twice. The closest thing I have right now is a panel interview coming up in September, but my mom scoffs at it and says the office job is “bimbo work.” She’s extremely resentful towards me for not getting a J.D. degree, and argues that every law student is successful and had I done so I would “be making $80k/yr right off the bat.” This is a naïve and incorrect view. She also berates me because she feels I don’t “try hard enough” in my job search because I haven’t been on my laptop every waking moment looking for one despite the fact that I’ve applied to over 60 places with follow-up calls included. My new comm friends in the area have tried helping me find work but it’s either unreasonably far away (1hr+ commute), or I haven’t heard back. I'm grateful for their help either way.

>>8578091
My mom believes she is being “helpful” by shoving jobs and internships in my face that I am not qualified for but thinks I should apply to anyway. I don’t have a technical degree, yet she pushes jobs with technical qualifications in my face. When I tell her it’s pointless, she screams bloody murder. She’s gotten into hours-long arguments with me because she yells that I don’t think about my “future” and my career (because six years of college degrees wasn’t me thinking about it I guess?). I tell her it’s because I just need to accomplish the basic goals of getting employment, moving out and being able to stabilize my loan bills first. She hates it when I say that, but it’s the truth. I can’t focus on being a professional when I don’t even have a life in order for myself.

In the meantime I’ve been selling my blood and lolita items in order to pay off some of my incoming bills while I remain unemployed, but my mother considers this “beggar behavior” and shuns me for trying. She whines and cries and says “I WISH U WOULDNT DO THAT” when I go to donate, however, she has also yelled and screamed at me before when I asked for money. I feel in this situation that she cannot be trusted, and is inconsistent and contradictory. She’s the type of mother who says “you can tell me anything,” but turns into a monster when the things told are not favorable. I haven’t been honest with my mom about how suicidal and depressed I feel for years because of this (I was diagnosed with anxiety; she called my pills “voodoo”). Not that she “believes” in depression, anyway. I’ve tried going to meet ups with my local comm to feel better, but whenever I return home I’m yelled at because my mother has the “IF I’M NOT HAVING FUN THEN NEITHER ARE YOU” mentality. She’s flat out said that.

>>8578094
Basically my mom is an antagonist and an instigator. She takes a healthy behavior that a parent might do (say asking about my goals) but twists it into justification to chew us out every. single. day. relentlessly of what dumb, useless shits we are; me in particular. She blames my stepdad for our financial situation and wishes that she could “trade him in for a new model.” She resents that she doesn’t lead the lifestyle she’d had before. She regrets moving here, and everyday she threatens to walk out on us because as far as she’s concerned, none of this is her fault. She doesn’t “believe” in mental help, but she displays narcissistic, bipolar, and OCD tendencies.

Today I knew my mom was in the mood to have a yelling match. I knew she was going to go off so I begged my boyfriend to go for a walk with me when he got home from work because I wanted to leave the house until she settled down.

>>8578095
But it was too late. She delved into arguing with my stepdad first, and before I knew it she was blowing me out about my future and job search, like she does every single day. I try not to react, because if I do she knows she’s mashed a button and will continue to attack the issue if she notices that what she’s said has had an effect. Kind of like a troll. She went in the other room to rampage at my boyfriend for a bit, but since he is very patient, she was not getting her reactionary need satisfied. I began sobbing because I just wished my last biological parent wasn’t such a mean person. She saw a tear from me, and came storming over from her confrontation with my bf. She got in my face and yelled “WHY ARE YOU CRYING ANON? WHAT THE FUCK ARE YOU CRYING FOR?” I knew I couldn’t win, so I walked away and went into a different room. Stepdad tried to diffuse the situation, but it never avails. Instead my mom yelled at my stepdad and screamed “WHY DIDN’T YOU BACK ME UP ABOUT WHAT I SAID TO HER?” My mom realized she went too far, but instead of calming down or apologizing for her behavior she victimizes herself and projects her behavior onto everyone else. She hollered “YOU ALL JUST THINK IM SOME BIG BULLY BITCH, WELL IM THE ONLY ONE WHO THINKS ABOUT ANYTHING AROUND HERE, IM SURE YOU’D ALL LIKE IT IF I JUST SLUNKED INTO MY ROOM!!!!” After that, she stormed into her room and slammed the door behind her, like she does every other day. I’m half-surprised she hasn’t tried to manhandle me or hit me during these times, because she used to.

She is like this every single day.

I think about suicide a lot, anons. I hold on to this slim principle that things will go back to normal once I get a job and move out, but I feel really, really awful that I don’t have a healthy relationship with anyone in my family. It makes me feel really alone.

>TL;DR Life is suffering and people suck

>>8578102
even your tl;dr was tl;dr.

>>8578104
At least you read it, anon. Nobody else tends to care.

>That bittersweet feel of my best friend leaving lolita but also selling me a bunch of her old pieces and accessories.

>>8578102
My husband's mother is the same way. Now she has to borrow money from us and it takes a lot of the steam out of her sails. She used to say a lot of nasty and untrue things to/about him. When you come into your own and she's stuck in the same place it'll be easier.

>>8578102
Anon I have a mom who's weird about money like yours, but not as bad. We live together with no one else so she takes out all her frustrations on me, and then rolls her eyes when I get upset or cry. Your mom is a lot worse, I sympathize a lot.

You have a long life to live, so take it one step at a time. You're doing everything you can, please know that. The job market is a mess, but it's getting better.

Is there any way you could live with your boyfriend or spend less time at home? I know it may not be reasonable, but it's worth a shot.

I believe in you.

>have a younger sister
>sister is a textbook horrible person with horrible friends
>have always been mocked by her for wearing jfash in public, even casually
>just brush it off, hurts but she's a kid
>new school year starts
>sister is in uni now but moved to an out-of-state school instead of the local uni like me so happily wear jfash daily
>forgot about her friends
>turns out her and her friends have been taking photos of me from behind if they see me on campus and have been passing them around on snapchat to laugh at me

I mean... it's one thing to be made fun of by strangers, it happens. But really? A bunch of 18 year old girls doing this to me specifically, on purpose? This shit fucking sucks. I was just about to start feeling comfortable wearing lolita in public again and now I have to fucking watch my back for these spoiled brats. If I catch them in the act I am going to go on the ATTACK.

>>8577718
>5ft anon who has also been huge boobed since puberty
>considering breast reduction in the very far future but
>"in such pain right now"
a-anon, can you detail the process and recovery or... is that pretty much what it amounts to... (lots of pain?) i'm terrified of being in extreme pain after, i have really bad anxiety that reacts to that sort of thing.

>a few years ago
>stopped hanging with cosplay "friends" because didn't want toxic people in my life
>one of them tries to add me back to skype today
>I decide to ignore and block immediately
>now feeling regret cause no friends

Just trying to reassure myself it was the right thing to do.

>>8577961
>inb4 that's not possible

I thought that a 10" difference was quite common?
My measurements are 38", 26", 40" and I don't have any back or neck/shoulder issues as a result - Although I've been raised to maintain 'perfect' posture.

I wonder if that has something to do with it?

>>8578116
Nobody else tends to care because it's tl;dr.

>>8578086
>>8578091
>>8578094
>>8578095
>>8578102
You should check out the Narcissist sub-reddit. They're very supportive of each other and you might come away with something or find a way to better handle your situation. Things will get better anon, just hang in there.

>>8578207
https://www.reddit.com/r/raisedbynarcissists/ here is the link

>>8577145
The fb i'm following have way older lolitas than me, past 24 some reaching their 40s in few years. I'm 24 and i'm staring to get into lolita seriously. I admit i feel old at times but not lolita related, it's more my social limited life duh. At least thinking of lolita make me feel better.

>>8578202
Anon I've been through that, and come out the other end. I had a group of friends I talked to every single day on Skype, but within our communities we would find someone who we hated for a couple days. Various things happened and eventually that person was me.

I cut off all contact with all of them. Some on bad terms. At first it was awful, I felt awkward and didn't know what to do. You probably still feel a bit closed off, or afraid of making new friends.

Soon enough I reconnected with other, more positive people I had been friends with in the past. I now have a perfectly sized group of friends, all with positive and open personalities, and the best boyfriend I've ever had.

Do not take back toxicity. It will only make things bad again.

>>8578205
It's not that common - the genuine hourglass figure is pretty rare - I have it too but I don't know anyone else irl that has it. I'm 37"-25"-36" but I wear corsets so the waist goes down to 20". As for back pain - I get it sometimes due to boobs but I was also trained for posture at school (British Private Girl School education...) so I guess it's just luck that you don't get it!

>>8577145
Anon I'm 22 and I'm frustrated too because I've been into lolita so long but now that I have a steady income I also have steady responsibilities.

But, what helps me is the fact that all my lolita friends with amazing closets are 25-30 years old with college degrees and careers. They dress incredibly well and are free to spend money on whatever clothes they want because they put their time and effort in already.

Don't worry about being 24 or older, by then you'll have an even better sense of your own style and what your wardrobe needs. When you graduate, your life is going to get so good, you'll be glad you put in the work. Good luck!

>>8578190
Hi! Anon who got the surgery here. Pretty much went to the plastic surgeon. He said I was perfect candidate. I got neck pain, not really back pain but also shoulder groves. Send other doctors report as well as his to insurance. Hat call back yay approved!

Had to by a big bra with no underwire that clasps in the front. No pain mess for a week and no food or water after midnight the night before. Go into surgery on Monday morning. Got drawn on my doctor. Only pain is pinch from iv. Wake up hours later in a bad with wrappings around chest. There is pain but meds take care of it. Yesterday (the day of the surgery) was awful because of the general anesthesia. Got nausea and didn't eat. Today a lot better. Still on pain meds and can't lift arms and have drains for fluids but ate! Get drains out friday!

>>8577145
There are a lot of older lolitas. I'm going on 28 and still wear pastel sweet. The older you are, the better chance of having the money to buy what you want. It's also not like your going to look old at 24, you might get a small wrinkle somewhere but you won't look 60.

>>8578165
Same. But my sister + pals are 25. And she's older than me.
And they go to cons to do the same.

>shitty ldr with some guy for a month
>i end up saying we can only be friends, but we keep talking on the phone for another month because i don't know how to shake him off nicely
>all he talks about is how he can't find a job
>every time he calls, it's when i'm browsing yahoo auctions
>finally manned up and told him to stop bothering me and bothering with me
>tfw i can finally shop for my husbando's merch and lolita in peace

i know i'm a bitch for maybe stringing him along, but i could never reject anybody's call, and he was always the one who called me in the second month

ugh, I'm kinda stressed.

>school I changed to fucked up shit, was promised I would start in second year because I already did the same course (but with lower quality), they made a mistake and now I have to fix shit
>receive less student grand than expected because my dad got paid more at work, have to loan a part to be able to pay bills
>wanted to work this summer, not place I applied at gave me a call back, feel bad, feel old
>try to keep my shopping addiction under control, but still feel bad

>am 5ft9
>waist size is 91cm
>tfw can't get any cute shorts or tshirts from online store like shop dogdog or white lily because I'm curvy with a belly
As it stands I'm working on my diet by not being a fat fuck, but this feel still really hurts

>>8578205
>>8578236
I'm from America aka land of the hamplanets where a 10 inch difference is considered a huge difference if that makes any difference. Most people I've seen around me at work and school are shaped like rectangles (not a lot of difference between bust, waist, and hip).
I've never had any sort of posture training so I've been noticing that I slouch more than before now. I just started corset training and I find that even having that bit of support makes me sit straighter than before.

I don't even fucking know right now but man the feels are real
>be me
>be super fucking busy for the last few months, not really look at much lolita shit
>have a fucking minute
>look at most recent ap release
>it's hideous
>and also sold out
>mfw I see the measurements, now I understand

>>8577099
If you can open an etsy or something that might make you some cash on the side. If you can't craft/dont have time, sell craft supplies from Taobao or ebay. It won't be much but it's something.

>>8577145
Lolitas have a messed up views about what old is..

24 isn't old, a lot of lolitas are way older than you. I don't know why you think you will be too old, unless your goal is to look like one of those "kawaii desu" toddler looking girls that have plagued lolita. I personally think if you are worried about something as dumb as age getting in the way, you never truly were into the fashion in the first place.

>>8577319
I think most girls go through this at some point in their lives, it's not easy getting older in a society that values female youth. A lot of us are also into Jfashions and Japan values youth to the extreme which doesn't help.

You need to learn to accept that there is nothing you can do about getting older, everyone will age, it's a part of life. Lying about your age won't help and will only make you feel worse. You don't have to tell people your age, it's no ones business. If they get upset, that's their problem.

>>8577145
>thinking 24 is old as fuck
Grow up, anon.

>>8577951
See >>8577983
Fatasses wouldn't get breast reductions because big tits are the only thing they have going for them.

>>8578091
Is a 1 hour commute really that crazy where you live? My job is a 45 min bike ride away (no public transport) and my boyfriend commutes a total of 3 hours a day by bus and train, and I've never considered that to be all that long. Come to think of it, my mother has a 1.5+ hour daily commute, too. Is it unreasonable because there's no public transport in your area?

Just woke up from a nightmare where I had to shoot people in a merry go round and if I didn't kill everyone by the time the first rotation ended, whoever I killed became a zombie and ate me.

Sorry I had to share I just can't go back sleep.

To keep on topic though

>house cleaner says she sees a lot of myself in her because I have a lot of toys and comics and stuff
>apparently she means this as a bad thing because she thinks I'm trying to live in a fantasy land
>try to explain I keep a lot around for reference because I like to see how other artists do stuff.
>she doesn't understand. Starts picking on how I dress.
>I've never straight up wore lolita in front of her but sometimes I use my simpler pieces casually. Apparently I dress too childish because I wear a lot of black and flared skirts?
>I just don't have many options because more fitted dresses would look awful on my giant hips with my giant legs.
>tell her thank you so she will leave
>have lolita crisis and think about selling my entire wardrobe

I'm not trying to live in a fairy tale, I just wanted to feel pretty. I don't care if a random nobody says something but u always worry about how people I know view me. I guess I just look like a fool.

>>8577936
You're a good person anon.

>>8578453
The first part... before I started going on /cgl/ I didn't pay any attention to the fact I have had nasolabial folds for as long as I know.
But now, I can't stop thinking how much great my face would be if I didn't have them, or that there's no way I can cosplay because I'll just have butterface anyway.

Growing older in general wasn't a concern until I started looking into jfash because everything is so fixated on looking as young as possible.

>>8578483
Maybe tell her that you're paying her to clean your shit, not run her mouth?

I can't even begin to imagine being so rude so my employer!

>>8578483
I just woke up from a nightmare where my teeth were falling out and the dentist wouldn't help me, so I baked them into a cake for the tooth fariy.

Anyway your housecleaner sounds really intrusive. You're paying her to clean, not play armchair psychologist. Is she an old lady? My grandmother does the same thing, where she's constantly sticking her nose in younger women's business telling them how to live their life. She's probably just trying to hep but doesn't see how her advice of "don't have hobbies or dress the way you like because then no man will want you and if you're not married by the time you're 25 you have failed at life and will die a spinster" isn't exactly welcome or even helpful at all. You can have fun hobbies and be a functioning adult, anon. Don't worry about it.

>>8578536
/cgl/ can get really toxic sometimes.
All of my friends, both younger and older, have at least some form of wrinkles or nasolabial folds, barely noticeable unless you're really REALLY close. Many have all kinds of flaws, some talk too much, some don't talk enough, some have crooked teeth, some are kind of dorky and awkward. And you know what? Nobody cares, they're still amazing, lovely people. One girl with a lazy eye, otherwise really nice, had some nasty harridans in a Guess store laughing at her because of it. They were like 30+. This says more about them and their nature than her.

Honestly dear, I suggest getting off /cgl/ for a while. It'll do you a world of good and it's always nice to unwind and remind yourself that the kind of stuff you see here is really extreme and doesn't reflect real life in the least.

As for my feels... Today I tried to befriend this girl who seemed kind of aloof. I wasn't being pushy I hope, but I'm naturally just very high energy and talkative so I'm afraid it might overwhelm some people. I tried to make conversation, invited her to walk home with us, tried to talk to her, most of the time she was just standing alone and wouldn't even respond. I don't wanna make assumptions because I used to be the awkward shy type myself, but she said she was really sporty and works in a rather social environment so I wouldn't take her for a shy girl. I'm starting to assume she just doesn't like me so I backed off, but it's a bummer. I'm trying really hard to make friends but no cigar. I don't even know what I'm doing wrong.

>wake up
>check email
>lace market email oh goody
>see this shiz

Nah man. It's Wednesday.

>>8578540
>>8578547
I guess the reason she felt she could be so intrusive is that she is from our church and we can't do things like tell her to gtfo or we would get in trouble with them. She's probably a bit older than my mother but I'm judging by how old her son is so maybe she's older. Basically this is why all my friends are non religious heathens. They look at me and go "you're an artist, youre allowed to be weird" and call it a day.

>>8578558
That might be a good idea, because I also feel bad anytime someone posts "white girls age badly lol" or similar things. Again because of how much looking young is seen as the best thing in jfashion.

>>8578686
>intrusive church people
Those are the worst. I can never tell if they're just on a concern trolling power trip because they know they're backed by the church or if they genuinely think they're helping, but either way it's annoying when people downright refuse to back off. By "we" do you mean your family/roommates? If they think she's annoying too, maybe you can get together and find a way to politely but firmly tell her that her opinions are not appreciated or at least irrelevant. IMO her lack of boundaries seems like a perfectly valid reason to fire her (because who wants someone like that having access to your home?) but I don't know if that's possible in your situation.

Whatever happens, just know that there is much more to life than appealing to nosy church people and her opinion on your hobbies and interests doesn't mean anything in the long run.

>>8578737
I think she's genuinely worried but because she doesn't understand the situation. My family and I seem to get that a lot with foreigners. We had a hungarian woman living with that reported my mom to the church because a massage therapist came to the house and it was a man. I'm the only one that seems to be upset but she's also broken several if my things and never anyone else's so I was bad to begin with. I'm going to ask if I can just cut off access to my room. Lady doesn't seem to understand I collect comics because I'm a cartoonist and I need them for work and lolita is part of that as well so it's not some evil thing. She said she stopped her son from buying comics because he's too old now. Poor kid is 18. I think in the future he is going to run in the opposite direction.
Thank you anon, now I don't feel so bad.

>>8578747
Where do you live? What kind of church is it? Sorry, I'm just curious.

>>8578547
I get the teeth falling out dream all the time, I hate it so much!

>>8578755
NY so it's not like the Bible Belt or anything. As for the kind I'd rather not say but most churches tend to be the same in how people get treated as far as I can tell.

>>8578536
Most of the girls here are obsessed with false images, models and idols. There is a reason why there are so many Asian phone apps that can hide wrinkles and make you look like a stereotypical "kawaii" plastic looking doll. Then of course, models and idols are chosen for their looks and they don't represent everyone.

Look at street snaps, a lot of Japanese girls have nasolabial folds. A lot have wrinkles and you can see how caked on the makeup is and it gets in their wrinkles. Also, a lot of girls here think every single line or wrinkle has to do with aging, I have seen kids with nasolabial folds and under eye wrinkles. Some things come down to genes and facial structure.

Try>>8578707
>because I also feel bad anytime someone posts "white girls age badly lol" or similar things. Again because of how much looking young is seen as the best thing in jfashion.
Don't feel bad about that. A lot of people here are Japanophiles and think they know everything about Japanese people from anime and Jpop culture. Even Japan freaks out when there is someone who claims they look younger than they are.

>ordered a wrong cut holy lantern replica because the site wasn't clear, but it starts to grow on me, so yeah
>finally could get rid of the last dress I had for sale, agreed on a trade, okay by me
>got some clarity on my new school year

you lose some, you win some I guess

>>8578132
I think you're right anon. Thank you.

>>8578136
I don't know at what point she became so obsessed with money, but I don't remember her always being this way, which makes how I feel even worse.

My bf and I moved down here so we're living with them right now in the guest bedroom. Bf is currently saving up for a car, and then after that we can save for an apartment deposit and be out of here. We don't expect to stay here any longer than late October, but it's hard.

My mom has been wanting me to break up with my bf because he "doesn't make any money and has no future." Idk, I've seen my mom base her relationships and ex husbands on their financial net value and she's always been miserable. Even now, it has gotten her nowhere.
I'm in love with my bf not for his money (or lack thereof). He has a shitty mom too and an absentee biological dad, so we both share a lot of the same feelings. He's a great comfort and companion to me for those reasons. He thinks my mom is insufferable and a very twisted person, so I know none of this is all in my head at the very least.

>>8578207
I've been reading all those posts and my mom's behavior is so alike! I would just feel bad making a post because it's tl;dr, and whereas my mom has been mainly emotionally manipulative I feel she pales in comparison to the legit physical abusers I've seen posted in that forum. It's so scary the amount of people who should not be parents!

>>8578478
No public transport, unfortunately.
An hour commute is indeed doable, but if it's high stress and doesn't pay very well then I don't think it's worth giving up the more local job I have the panel interview for in September, that's all.
>3 hour commute
Damnnnn son.

>>8578565
If you're in the U.S. priority might do it, but with no mail on Sunday, it'd be close.

Just happened recently and it's hitting me pretty hard

>be me
>gets invited as a cosplay guest to a charity convention last May
>running a panel
>having a performance as well
>feelsgood.jpeg
>fast forward to this week
>boyfriend texts me that college will be taking 100% of his life for the next year, even having to quit his job to keep up
>tells me he can't attend with me to convention or anything else for the next year, not even my birthday
>depends on him for tech, moral support, etc etc
>has to contact convention that I cannot attend anymore

Imo, it's all my fault. For one, we were so excited about this and didn't even think about his schedule before we made the commitment and depending on him so much that it effects me like this. It's a wake up call for me honestly.

Although, I honestly do need help at this convention I will be a guest at. It will be my first time as an invited guest. I really don't know anyone else personally who can help me last minute like this. I'm stuck and on the edge of a breakdown. It's an amazing oppertunity that I have been waiting for and now it's gone down the shit hole because of me.

>>8579167
>100% reliant on boyfriend to the point where you won't even try to do something on your own

Sure is 1950's in here.

>>8579177
That's why I said it's a wake up call for me. I honestly do need to stop being dependent on people (not only my boyfriend) and I do hope to improve on this. It's just this was bad timing, especially out of all the events i was looking forward to this year, but at the same time I'm kinda thankful because it gave me the wake up call I needed.

>have been lusting after tea parties for over two years
>never bought them due to having too many shoes already
>find a pair NWOT for a very low price
>buy them
>sohappy.jpg
>wear them out
>take them off in the evening
>damage all over the sides of my Misty Sky socks

is this a thing Secret Shop tea parties do regularly or did I get a bad pair?

>>8576324
Anon are you me? My college is a certain art school in the south and I'm determined to wear lolita not matter how hot it is

>>8579114
>It's so scary the amount of people who should not be parents!
and yet those of us who do not want children are accused of being selfish.

parenting wrongly is perhaps the worst thing you can do to a person. prolonged childhood trauma fucks a lot of people up. the world would be a much better place if narcissists stopped procreating.

Cgl-related:
> Sold item on lacemarket for the first time
> Buyer sent money, everything is good, I'm going to ship it tomorrow in the morning
> Sudden severe food poisoning at night
> Oh I'm gonna be okay in one day, no big deal
> 4 days passed, I can only barely walk around the house for 5 minutes or less
> Contacted buyer on the second day, apologized, told her about shipping delay
> She hasn't answered me
> Pretty nervous that it seems shady from my side

Non Cgl-related:
> Strict raw vegan, no cooked or processed, dried food, oils or seeds/nuts for 2 years, only raw veggies, greens and fruits
> feeling nice, almost dealt with food issues and anorexia
> decided that I should eat about 100g of steamed broccoli just when I recover from poisoning since it will be more easy to absorb
> eating and hesitating if I'm doing something right
> anxiety and OCD levels to the roof
> afraid that I got fat and ruined my gained health by handful of broccoli in like 30 minutes
It's not even logical, cmon, brain

>>8579312
I can't seem to understand someone wanting to live on only raw stuff. my younger sister is going crazy with that vegan/raw food stuff too, I feel bad for her. really no offense, but to me these people seem like the jehovah witnesses of food. I don't really mind you wanting to be a rabbit, but don't shove it in my face.

>>8578437
I'm confused about this - my bust/waist difference is 8" and my waist/hip difference is 11" but I feel like a literal rectangle for some reason. Am I just delusional or is it possible to look like a rectangle with these differences anyway?

>>8579366
> Don't shove it in my face
What? If I say that I eat these and these kinds of food on anonymous board in feels thread how is it related to shoving one's views on nutrition to someone's face? I understand that your sister might be narrow-minded and brags about you going to die of meat every day so you take an easy path by venting on every vegan-vegeterian person that you see, but that's pretty silly.

>>8579167
What exactly do you need other people to do that you can't handle yourself? Maybe if you think about it you can find ways around so you CAN handle it all by yourself. And it's good that you've realized you're too dependent on your boyfriend.

>>8577936
>homeless man that I bought a coffee and bagel for weeks ago gives me cash from his own cup
My heart

>>8579380
Not that anon but I'm assuming they just made a general statement because honestly most vegan people I've met try to tell you how amazing it is to be vegan at every opportunity they can.

>>8579015

I'm still waiting for Westerners to realize that Asian people aren't perfect little plastic people.

>tfw my dream dress appears to be available according to a secondhand sales site
>CONTACT SS IMMEDIATELY
>sit here shaking in anticipation even though it may take them 24 hours to respond due to different time zones
(WHERE'S CT WHEN YOU NEED HER)

>>8578788
Uh, no, that sounds like a cult. I've never heard of "getting in trouble" with the church by telling off a housekeeper, or being "reported" for having a masseuse. It's not scientology, is it?

>>8579114
>I would just feel bad making a post because it's tl;dr
Don't be, they're there to help you, the other anon was just being a bitch.

> whereas my mom has been mainly emotionally manipulative I feel she pales in comparison to the legit physical abusers I've seen posted in that forum
Emotional abuse is just as bad as physical abuse.

I still encourage you to make a post. It isn't a contest on whose parent is worse, it's a community to help people who have been affected by narcissists in their life. It's the equivalent of not going to the doctor's because you feel a small infection isn't as bad as losing two limbs.

>>8579217
I once had a pair of tea partys (antaina ones, though) where the inside spontaneously disintegrated one day after having owned them for a few years. They basically melted into the tights I was wearing. I think it's a fairly common occurrence because they're just not good quality shoes.

>>8579573
Fuck. Things like this make me nervous to buy lolita shoes. Considering stepping over to brand shoes. I know they're not the best quality but I can (hopefully) at least expect them not to ruin $30 socks.

>>8579586
I've been pleased with the Bodyline flats I've owned (way more comfortable than tea party replicas for sure and have never left marks or melted on my legwear lol) but now their prices have gone up and more and more people seem to be complaining about receiving items with mold on them. Why must getting nice lolita shoes be such a tedious challenge?

>>8577961
Same here my underbust is 32 and my boobs are 44 in
I'm really looking into a reduction sometime soon because it sucks not being able to dance or run like anyone else. I get plenty of exercise but my back is suffering.

After 7 years of on and off lolita I just bought my second ever dream dress, and my first ever brand dream dress (first was a Taobao). Money is finally less of an issue and I can really be the lolita I have always wanted to be.

>>8579494
That won't happen till we round them all up, send them to Japan and force them to live there for a while. Then maybe they will realize that everyone doesn't look like a kawaii princess or a 25 year old year who looks 10. Hopefully they will also learn that Japan isn't some kawaii magical wonderland.

>>8579618
I don't think a billion or so people could realistically fit in Japan

>>8579367
You can depending on how the fate is distributed. If you have narrow hips but a lot of fat on your butt, your measurement could be high but from the front you can still look like a rectangle. Your curves would be apparent from the side in that case.

>>8579492
I may be completely off on this, but I think this stereotype has more to do with the fact that people think the most vocal represent the whole. There's a joke about how if you meet someone who's vegan you'll here about it immediately, but if that isn't true, and you've met lots of vegans/vegetarians before and they just haven't brought it up, then how would you know? You'd go on believing that all people of X group talk about because you usually only know that someone is a part of X group IF they talk about it. This may be completely off-base of course, there's no statistics to source from, but I've met plenty of vegetarians who I only found out were vegetarian after eating with them and asking. Of course I've met the more vocal kind too, but it seems like bit of a stereotype that all are super vocal/braggy.

>>8579616
Have a great time lolita'ing anon!

>>8578102
Borderline personality disorder is a hell of a thing. My mom has it and acts a lot like that. She was so paranoid about "being made the bad guy" but would regularly beat the shit out of me and my siblings.

>>8579702
Reminds me of women who have done something genuinely bad and when confronted they deflect it with "I'M ALWAYS THE BAD GUY!"

>>8579702
Can you go ONE thread without talking about your mentally ill mother?
I get that it's horrible but enough is fucking enough. Also not every crazy bitch has that, stop armchair diagnosing people with a shitty disease that a minority of people have.

Like I get that she wants to burn your dresses or whatever but for problems like that you need to talk to a therapist, not cgl. I come here to read about lolita and weebs, not mentallers, especially not the same one every fucking thread.

I feel so inadequate when it comes to cosplay.

Like, I'll see my friends doing super detailed, amazing cosplays and while I'm happy for them doing such a good job at this, I can't help but get depressed about me still being stuck with simple cosplays all over.

I mean, I'm aware that there's some factors contributing - for example, them having more free time since they're not so invested in their studies and they study less challenging subjects, one of them also has significantly more money than me (from her parents) so I suppose it's easier to afford materials for elaborate cosplays like that.

But I still can't help feeling really fucking useless and uninteresting compared to them. I know it's bitter and stupid but it makes me want to give up on cosplay. People keep saying cosplay isn't about attention and I do agree to that but when basically no one cares about the things you put a lot of effort and most of your money in, it gets frustrating as hell.

But hey, maybe it's not my skill level, maybe I'm just too ugly to cosplay.

>be me
>meet guy online and start chatting with him
>"weird hobbies" comes up and I send some pictures of me in lolita
>pretty sure he thinks it's the other kind of lolita due to the nature of our meeting
>mfw

>>8578102
Sounds like my mom.
Anon, it will get better once you move out. Trust me on this. I believe in you!

>First day of classes Monday
>Walked by a girl wearing a pretty blue sweet coord
>Was in a rush so I didn't get a chance to say anything or even see what the dress was
>Hoped to see her again, haven't yet
>Don't know why I expected to at a university with 18,000 students

>>8579737
Don't give up anon, I saw a girl wearing a gothic cooked in a university of about 13,000 people and still managed to meet her again!

>>8579753
*gothic coord
Damn phone, get your shit together.

>>8577398
same
>suicidal thanks to abusive relationship
>remembered i have my first brand purchase
>and blouses and pettis to wear with the two JSK's I own
>making general plans is the only thing keeping me alive

>Always plan cosplays out way ahead of time
>To the point where I have a shit ton of wigs since I usually buy them first then plans fall through
>For once decide on last minute cosplay
>I've got enough time and Arda's US based and I always get it within like three days.
>Don't even like Arda much, but hey.
>Order wig.
>Pay extra for expedited shipping.
>Five days later, get shipping confirmation.
>Uh????
>Tracking refuses to update
>Turns out it wasn't even shipped on Monday like the email said
>Tracking finally updates, turns out it was shipped yesterday instead.
>Fuuuuuck.

I mean, I realize it's my fault. I should have planned ahead and all that shit, but I feel like five days for processing is a bit excessive and shipping it out the day you send the confirmation is pretty courteous.

>have birthday party
>half of my friends don't show up
>feel really bad about this because I most likely got them sick
>want to buy them dinner to make up for it
>deathly afraid they will insist on paying

I got everyone sick including my boyfriend and I pretty much panicked over my birthday getting ruined and then somehow ruined it myself.

next time I'll just go to work and get them sick.

>Has an amazing husband
>He likes lolita and J-fashion (not in the creepy way)
>Tells him about Ouji
>Falls in love with it
>Starts buying AatP items to coord
>Holy shit I literally have a Ouji accessory now

>>8579814
i am jealous of and happy for you both

>independant ouji
>would like a platonic lolita friend to coord and pose and act all shoujo-tier with

>>8579817
Hey thanks!!
I hope you'll find a lolita friend to be cute with soon.

>>8579769
Here here anon. Whatever keeps us going.

>>8579727
Fuck you bitch you don't get to decide whats cgl acceptable

>want to cosplay
>ugly
The worst of all feels

>>8579879
Oh yeah anon, totally the worst of all feels when there are people struggling to stay alive in this very thread.

>>8579889
Comparing feels isn't going to help anyone, plus people handle issues differently.

>>8579672
Yeah look, that's the difference.
Most vegetarians have a different mentality than vegans. It's also easier for them to eat at a local restaurant, so you have a bigger chance not to notice it.

However, as soon as you know a vegan on a more personal level (no, of course I wouldn't know from every vegan that I'll bypass on the street), you're going to know it because of their rants. Because their vegan lifestyle is so involved in their personal and work life. That they don't even realise how much they involve veganism in every thing they do and talk about.

Every vegan who goes "not every vegan" simply doesn't notice how much they talk about it themselves. Because it is every vegan, some do it intentionally, some don't.

>>8579942
Depends on the vegan, though.
If someone simply doesn't like meat/dairy/eggs and ends up vegan, you probably won't hear about it much.
If they're the type that only uses vegan/organic products (lotion, hair care, etc.), winds up in animal rights protests every weekend, uses the term "bloodmouth" for anyone who isn't vegan, etc., they're the radical type that honestly cannot shut up about it.

>>8579953
>If someone simply doesn't like meat/dairy/eggs and ends up vegan, you probably won't hear about it much.
But they'll probably end up as vegetarian, then, if it's a simple dislike of things. Vegans meticulously go through ingredients lists to make sure xyz isn't in their products, while someone who doesn't like meat/dairy/eggs might only just avoid those things.

>>8579953

Not liking dairy and eggs and meat doesn't make you vegan though. It just means you don't like those things.

Vegans are technically not supposed to be consumers of ANY animal product. This includes honey, leather goods, wool goods, etc etc etc. You can see how very easily this turns into an obsession because most of the time and energy is suddenly spent on trying to find things that don't have animal products. I think this sort of investment tends to weed out moderates and breeds extremists, which leads to why extremist vegans are so common.

>>8579942
Salty-much? Who hurt you?

>>8579953
you aren't a vegan if you don't use vegan products

no, i'm not a vegan

> Starting university in October
> Last month with a full paycheck
> Happy that I manged to save enough to not work during my first year at least
> But no work means less money for lolita
> Last Taobao order for a long time within the next few days
> Feels sad

For some good feels
> Started dating a new guy
> Pretty nice, not too sure about him because of reasons
> He really likes my lolita hobby
> Chatted a bit today and found out he'd really like to try wearing ouji if he had the money for it (also poor student)
> If things work out I may have a ouji boyfriend someday!

>>8579971
Veganism is not about being perfect. It's about using compassion to guide your decisions to reduce cruelty to animals the impact on the planet that animal products create during processing. This IS a case of the loudest mouth gets the stereotype.

>win a lawsuit for broken ankle
>pay off medical and lawyers with enough money left to buy precious burando
>start planning trip to Japan too
>decide to open a college fund for my niece with my Japan money
>her mother (my sister) cries
>such feels
>by the time my niece is in college, 7k will probably barely cover one class

>>8580040
imagine a lifestyle vegan who is also a lifestyle lolita. it would be the worst.

>>8580060
Mega special snowflake 2.0

>>8578165
Do we have the same sister anon? Mine is just an overall bitch.
>makes fun of my clothes
>screams if I disagree with her or tell her to not spend all day on her ipad
>while I'm cooking dinner she'll start making mac and cheese or some shit like that out of spite

>>8580060
>mfw that's me
oops.

>>8576324
>generally bored with life
>only hang out with girlfriend mostly, but get along with lots of people and have a reputation of being funny
>go away for the summer to study
>meet amazing people
>actually have close friends for the first time in years
>doing things constantly
>actually feel confident
>come home
>no more confidence
>don't talk to the friends I made a lot
>I know they're busy but I'm worried they're just annoyed with me
>have a shitty job so hopefully I can travel again
>so miserable and lonely that I either binge eat or spend all my money
>realize that cute clothes are just a temporary way to feel happy but have no other ways to cope
>can't keep spending money like this
Fuck gulls, I'm so lonely and pathetic

>>8578165
Whenever I read about shitty younger siblings I feel glad that I didn't let mine walk all over me as a child.

>>8579559
Oh nah. By get in trouble I mean they would talk to us about it and politely ask us to be nicer next time. I just don't want to rock the boat because I had gone through an issue with my ex who had a somewhat high position and negative stuff came out and my family had to change where we attend and my ex was kicked out entirely. The new place is generally a nice group but I have a hard time dealing with them because I don't play nice and happy all the time but I don't want to cause my mother problems. I just feel alienated to begin with and this incident made it worse.

>be shitposting on /int/
>someone starts a thread with some random maid costume wearing girls as OP image
>another anon asks for more pics of girls in "lolita costume"
>triggered.jpg
>anon gets more pics of more super shitty maid shit in response
>mfw

the rest of this site is at basic bitch level when it comes to fashion. there is literally a board for EGL and cosplay, you have no excuse not to post decent pics.

i am glad /cgl/ exists and that it has standards. this is a priceless resource.

>all my friends are moving away/already have moved away
>I am stuck here
>I have no friends left here and I don't meet people well
>don't spend money on going out anymore
>spend all my money on lolita clothes to make me feel better
>lonely as fuck and now broke as well

On top of everything the guy I had a giant crush on is moving so I decided to make the moves on him but as soon as he got his he left and hasn't talked to me since...

>>8577951
are you in every thread, anon? Get a life.

>>8577345
>beat her dog to the point of no movement
I don't care about the rest, just please report her for animal abuse and get her dog out of there, if it's still alive.

>>8579729 Ugh, this is exactly how I’m feeling at the moment.

I think I'm letting online "cosfame" get to my head. I got a lot of likes/follows on facebook and tumblr for a cosplay I did last year (which was from a flavor of the month anime) and I haven't been able to keep up the momentum. I feel like my skills have improved a lot in the last year, but whenever I post a picture of what I've done, I'm lucky if I can get any likes/notes on it. I don't know if I'm not posting at the right time or if people just don’t care about what I’m doing unless I’m cosplaying from whatever’s hot right now.

I know that this is probably stupid and that you shouldn’t cosplay just to get noticed, but like , I get frustrated when it feels like no one gives a fuck about what you’ve been working on, especially since the rush of attention was what motivated me to start upping my skill level and improve my cosplays in the first place.

On top of that, all of my friends are more famous that I am and they have people that actually give a shit about what they’re doing and as much as I love cosplaying together with them, I always feel like I’m riding their coattails whenever I do. Which is stupid since they’re my best friends, and we’re just having fun.

This sounds so attention whorish and I wish I could stop worrying about it. Cosplay is my one creative outlet and I used to have so much fun doing it. I hate the idea of losing motivation for it because of something so petty and trivial.

>>8580284
I feel the same anon but i have few friends and also.... not near my place. I just spend for lolita to put coords to wear not so often (the occasional meet), i want to get plain stuff to wear if i go out alone. And it doesn't help many lolitas have social life.
>>8579769
I feel the same. Well not self harm suicidal but i was badly bullied and betrayed by an ex friend and thought about suicide. At least lolita make me feel more confident, it's a lifesaver.
I hope you can escape this situation anon!It's not good for you.

>friend threw me away for her "loving" boyfriend because i told her that she was in a toxic relationship
>she is, more than 5 other people agreed
>bf says that he's going to beat his future wife and kids to keep them docile
>she thinks that's a logical thing to do
>says that people who are telling her this relationship is toxic are the reasons why her boyfriend is serial cheating on her
>says we are the root of all of this relationship's problems
>uses each person's insecurity to insult them until other people unfriend and block her
>decide i don't want to associate with people like that anyways
>tried to insult me post-friendship breakup
>"you're a freak who spends too much money on your creepy hobbies. what kind of person over the age of 5 wears frilly dresses and dresses up as cartoon characters?"
>"lol ok whatever. have a nice day."
>permablocked her

>inb4 "ANON YOU'RE DISGUSTING YOU SHOULD'VE HELPED HER INSTEAD OF DITCHING HER"
he point-blank said to her face that he thinks she's annoying and he doesn't care about her.
she doesn't see a problem with his obsession of plotting out kidnapping a dog and eating it. (Yes, he did formulate a real plan as to which people kept their dogs unguarded. New England beware.)
he cheated on his fiancée with her and he broke off his engagement to date her.
there's many more super fun stories. all of this and she still thinks he's the sweetest, kindest man she's ever met.

the problem is both of them: it's him as a person and her willingness to turn a blind eye to everything he's done and said.

>>8580418
nope, she's an adult, you were right to dump her.

why not call the police about the dognapping plan? establish a paper trail in case something happens.

>>8580418
I just last week lost my best friend because of her abusive boyfriend. He has flat out said he hates cis men and wants them to die, to my cis boyfriend. Her bf would not fucking cut out shit talking to the point where it was making me uncomfortable. He's extremely manipulative and guilt tripping and I know he is going to destroy her self-esteem. But you can not tell people how to live their life, and if they are that obstinate in staying with someone abusive nothing you say will help them, just make them angry at you for questioning them.
-pat pat- You can do it anon, find some good friends to take your mind off the loss.

>>8578483
Just get rid of her and get someone new, serves her right for being rude.

>>8580418 here. follow up on the situation:
>talked to my boyfriend about it
>berates me for ditching her despite that she very harshly insulted me (we were very close before she got into this relationship so we talked a lot about our insecurities)
>gives me the whole "some people are just highly emotionally dependant" spiel
>nope.jpg
>this one has to go too
i know it sounds like i run through relationships like water but no i can't handle that my BOYFRIEND is telling me that someone who blamed all of her life problems on me before driving a knife into any insecurity she could remember is right in this case and i'm just too emotional.
maybe i am too emotional since this is very stressful for me. i can't even tell right now. i'll probably regret typing this in a couple days.

>>8580440
i'm not friends with this nasty piece of living garbage on any sorta of social media but i'll ask around for the texts he sent about the plan and gather as much proof as i can.
thank you for the advice, anon. it's a very good idea.

>>8580441
>He has flat out said he hates cis men and wants them to die, to my cis boyfriend
ew this one stinks of tumblr sjw.
thank you and i hope you're doing well too, anon. i have some very good friends who are willing to listen to me vent. thank god for them.

>>8580441
>He has flat out said he hates cis men and wants them to die, to my cis boyfriend
what the fuck, that's tumblr transtrending to the fucking extreme

>>8580458
Same here, I have some amazing friends so I bounced back pretty well. Losing three years like it was nothing just hurts no matter where it comes from though. Best to let these types learn on their own.

>>8580461
I didn't mention, but he also thinks he is a literal bird, and said he hates anyone who cosplays the same character as him. Glad he's gone tbh, just miss his gf.

>>8580467
>and said he hates anyone who cosplays the same character as him
fucking hate this. i don't care who says it, you don't own any character for fuck's sake

>¥20520 order is now in customs
>Needs to be under 150€ value or I pay 12% tax on top of the regular 19%
>Customs will convert the yen to euro using the daily exchange rate
>Value was 148€ when I made my purchase
>Is 150€ now
Stop investing in Japan please.

>>8579559
Lots of small church communities are like this, actually.

>>8580458
>berates me for ditching her
Sounds to me like she's the one who ditched you, actually. What were you supposed to do, keep hanging around someone who is actively trying to hurt you and drive you away? Fuck these people.

>>8579844
Actually I don't, the mods do. you sound mentally ill yourself. I suggest to take it to /adv/ where you lot belong.

>>8580497
>not buying through a Shoping service and having your parcel marked down

it's your own fault anon

>>8580560
Not that anon, but a friend of mine once had a parcel marked down significantly and then it got lost, so she only got refunded a fraction of the real price by insurance. I'm really paranoid about marking things down after that.

I'm a sad virgin and my period is late.
I just don't want to be bleeding at Regalia because my periods ruin everything for me.
Come onnnnnn you stupid vajonga, you've given my cramps, my tits ache, why are you not dropping the gross stuff yet?!

>>8580615
You need a vampire prince boy toy to slurp all dat uterus up for ya

>con is less than 2 weeks away
>ok crunch time, gotta finish my cosplay
>suddenly get a call from my sister, mom is in a hospital, not sure what's wrong with her yet
>poof, all motivation to work on cosplay gone

It could be nothing serious but I'm scared to death and I don't know what to do.

>>8580621

>fromjapan have been dicking me about for months, not giving me refunds, not chasing deadbeat sellers.
>feels shit.
I should find a different japan auction ss
>but that cart system

>>8579840
One step at a time, I guess.

>>8580391
we aren't together, but it's hard to break away from the cycle because i loved him a lot and it was hard to see his insecurities blind him. but it's been a year already and all i have are an inbox full of threats against my friends and panic attacks, so i had to cut him off.

>>8580615
Wear OTT guro classic, anon. It's your only hope.

>>8579942
>However, as soon as you know a vegan on a more personal level, you're going to know it because of their rants

You're a dumbass.if you think this is a rule that defines all vegans ever. I'm a meat-eater who lived in housing complex for two years where we'd make communal meals that were split vegetarian and vegan, because half the house kept strictly vegan. Everyone had different reasons for it - some were animal-related, but some kept vegan just because they felt it was better for them and preferred that kind of food. Many of them I have no idea why they kept vegan because - shocker of shocks - they never cornered me in a hallway to rant about the vegan lifestyle. One of them who I still know ten years later will occasionally go through periods every few years where he eats dairy/cheese because for him it's a food preference that he just prefers, unlike the bizarre militant obsession idea you seem to think is a hard and fast rule.

>>8580383
I know that feel, anon, but if it makes you feel better it's a slippery slope.

>Cosplaying for years and years
>Eventually accepts that I'll never get noticed for my craftsmanship, and is okay with that
>Gets into flavor of the month series, makes some stuff for it.
>Suddenly people are posting me to CGL/recognizing me at cons???
>Feels good, man, tries to keep the momentum by making more cosplays. Still love the series so why not. Keeps getting likes, keeps getting fangirls.
>Puts actual effort into maintaining social media and networking.
>Attending more and more cons, making more and more cosplays. Life becomes sewing.
>How do I stop this crazy train.

I love the recognition because I put a lot of work into this hobby, but it's an uphill battle unless you get lucky imo. It's been a few years since this happened to me, and sometimes I have to stop and wonder if it's stupid that I spend so much time on cosplay. I still love it and I only make things that I want to, but the cosfame brings a sour note to it. I'll post photos now and get annoyed when they don't break 2k notes. Related, I have friends who will express a joking annoyance when their things don't get as much attention, or they when aren't also invited as con guests, because they don't realize how much effort I put into maintaining that notoriety. Once you get a taste of cosfame, it's hard to go back.

>>8580383
>>8580830
A while ago I experienced a few months of lolita e-fame and my first reaction was to feel uncomfortable and withdraw a bit from the online community. At the time I was kicking myself for doing this because hey, who doesn't want to be popular? I might not get this chance again! But now I'm honestly glad I didn't get used to it or let it go to my head so I can still enjoy my hobby in peace. I'm impressed with people who can keep this stuff up because I'm pretty sure I would have burnt myself out in no time, and I don't even handmake all of my outfits!

>>8579492
I just recently befriended a vegan and it's one of the worst decisions I ever made. To top it off, they're a psycho SJW to boot.
I mentioned a BBQ I was having recently and she sent me a five paragraph essay in PM why I shouldn't eat meat and animal produced products.

Breast reduction anon here. Day 4 after surgery. Feeling pretty awesome! Had a horrible headache yesterday but breast area doesn't hurt really, just itchy. Tomorrow I get the drains out and see how they look!

>>8580877
I'm so jealous, anon. I don't have a big bust, but I'm a terrible hypochondriac and have fibrocystic breasts so I'd love to just get rid of the pair of these fatbags on my chest. Every time I feel a lump, I break down and cry and think it's the worst. Pretty sure my doctor is sick of touching my tits.

>>8578070
I can see how it could work, but I would be going in during his office hours unannounced and I wouldn't want to hold any of his students up. There is a help line our school has I want to call first since they guarantee your anonymnity. If they say I should talk to a professor then I'll shoot him an email and set up a time to talk with him.

>>8580367
It's still alive. How can I report without proof though? I don't have the text where she admitted to the act, just one alluding to it. She's also told me she threw her (small) bird across the room once because he bit her or something. Again, no proof. She always talks about how much she loves both - especially on Facebook - so I wouldn't have much evidence.

My life is about to get really busy and as childish as it is I'm really sad because there'll be no time for unplanned tea parties and most events. I'm such a baby.

>>8579492
>>8580875
Just chipping in to support >>8579672 because I have a bunch of vegan friends I didn't even realise were vegan until asking about it, and as a result I've even asked them about their reasons and learnt stuff. Overly vocal vegans are so annoying and make me want fried chicken.

>>8580128
You need another hobby that doesn't cost money so that you can keep busy and not buy things, such as exercising in some way, or even cooking because it takes so long and you're generally eating healthier things than packets of chips.

>>8580949
You don't need proof to report somebody, just a suspicion. It's the same with reporting domestic violence. You might not have proof, but somebody will investigate it if there is concern.

>first day at starbucks
>was told on the phone to show up at 7am
>k
>alarm doesn't go off or I somehow turn off my own alarm before my boyfriend can even hear it go off in a deep slumber
>wake up because other potential employer who I now have to decline because it's been over 2 weeks and she didn't get back sooner or called my refrences so I assumed I didn't get it
>it's 9:30 am
>start freaking the fuck out
>suicidal thoughts that were very much deminished after finding out I got the starbucks job coming back
>quickly get ready and look deshevaled as shit
>freaking out in the car
>show up at 10am
>manager is outside
>fuck
>begin my profuse apology and hope my firing isn't too painful
>"did really I say 7? I scheduled you for 1pm!"
>break a little inside, and make a joke about buying a new alarm and tell her I'll go back home then and clean myself up.

crisis averted

I can go on knowing I can buy myself bruando now.

I wish I could make some friends here that weren't in open relationships, into BDSM or kink or cam girls. Almost everyone I meet is like this. I desperately just want to make nice normal friends whos sex lives aren't on display all the time.

>>8581131
I had something like this happen recently....got hired at an amazing job with graveyard shift hours. Had to go thru a few weeks of training first. went in to day one of training at 5PM and got out at 10PM. the trainer said the second day of training was from 10 till 5....since my schedule hours were like 6PM till 2AM I assumed it was 10PM to 5AM...so I stayed up really late, think 6AM, to prep for such weird hours of training. I woke up a 11AM to calls from my trainers, texts from my supervisor, and even my parents whom my job had contacted because they were worried i had gotten in an accident or something. yep, training was at 10AM. I had a nervous breakdown and cried but rushed in and apologized to everyone within a 5mile radius and surpisingly they didn't fire me. UGH. High five for keeping our jobs anon.

>Looking up bodysuits nd similair things to see if there's any good bases I could build a plugsuit off
>Half are catowman suits and the other are zentai fetish suits
>why

In other news, does anyone know if they make red or pink wet-look ones? I'm not crazy about the metallic ones.

>>8576324
>starts new job at ice cream place
>parents acknowledge that fact
>got job strictly for burando
>my entire paycheck goes to groceries

I just want to look cute, damnit.

>>8581278
Be my friend, anon.

>>8581306
I wish ;-;

>have cosplay facebook page to keep cosplay separate from personal/family stuff, as well as potential employers
>mother joins facebook
>to my horror, discovers my page, she can't figure out how to send a message but she can find my facebook page!
>shares a recent make-up test of a slutty anime chick I'm going for a group
>hoards of family and middle-aged women now like my cosplay page
>going to be exiled from the family when they see my slutty costume
>secretly relieved

>got my car back
>they said it was on them
>super happy
> they put gas in it
>ultimate top tier dream dress arrived
>parents aren't splitting up
My mom might still have cancer, but things are looking up!

>>8580458
>>nope.jpg
>>this one has to go too
It's refreshing to see someone take control in these threads tbh. Do no harm but take no shit anon, you got it figured out.

>>8581314
>>secretly relieved
this surprise ending made me smile

>>8579312
Doesn't sound to me like you've dealt with your food issues at all, bruh. Humans are omnivores, you don't have to eat meat but your diet sounds severely lacking in protein, and that could be why it's taking you so long to recover.

>>8580560
I don't know where you live but 1 out of 10 times marking it down does jack shit. They don't care, they just want you to show the damn bills and pay your share.

>>8581383
*9 out of 10

>>8579312
You obviously haven't dealt with your anorexia in the slightest, but just given into it. You're constantly on such an extreme diet that your body is too malnourished to get over a simple food poisoning.

>>8581278
I love how you are. I get so cringey when i see that BS.
>>8580659
I'm glad you had to cut him off! I had to cut contact too from that friend cause caused me anxiety and panic attacks for the mental damage done ( love betrayal and attempts to destroy my self esteem). It would get better with time, don't worry.
>>8580467
>wat.jpg
That is insane.

I broke up with my boyfriend recently, the relationship just lost its spark. I thought I'll be fine out of a relationship because I wanted to start my slate clean but now I'm worried I'm not going to find someone that shares all my hobbies, my old boyfriend didn't share all of them and thats what made my love for him deteriorate, we just liked different things. But I have such an array of hobbies (I'm often called a jack-of-all-trades) I'm scared I won't find someone who likes them all or wants to participate, I just want a cute gf/bf who I can share my hobbies with, thats not too much to ask?

>recovering from 9 years worth of severe depression that ended up royally fucking up my life
>loser shut in with no friends. parents are absent, guiltrip me if I try to talk to them
>have to be on my own with this
>decide I should just go to a con and have a fun time, meet new people, and actually try to make an effort to not be miserable.
>yeah! I'm gonna own my life and be happy!
>bought ticket a few days ago, con is in a few months
>excited!!!!

>end up being too scared and wanting a refund
>'what if I have a panic attack. what if it'll be a shitty time. what if everyone will hate me'
>this is all bullshit, self-pity talk to make me feel sorry for myself and continue being a lazy miserable shitlord
>but... still really tempting to just refund my ticket and not even try
It's like at this point I really want to deny myself any happiness because I'm too afraid of not being sad anymore. In retrospect it sounds stupid as hell that some weeb convention will determine if I have the will to move on with my life and have the confidence to be happy, but I guess we all have to start somewhere.

>>8581607
On top of that I think the only reason he was alright with breaking up was because he likes a mutual friend (I'm not that fond of them), even before the relationship was over they were super friendly with them and blanked me, it makes me feel so upset he might have just broke up with me to be with them.

>>8581607
You don't need to share ALL of your hobbies. Hell I don't even share one of my main hobbies(baking/drawing) with my boyfriend.
You still need to be and will be individuals in the relationship, even if you have a lot in common.

You just need to be with someone who has goals and values that align to you.

Like again my boyfriend isn't into a lot of the things I'm into but generally he participates if it's a group activity or I need help.
We get along great because at out core we're similar in the things we want which is:
-travelling
and
-trying new things/food

We're also similar in ways that don't conflict and compliment eachother.


If you pigeon hole people, you're never going to be happy with what you get.

>>8581610
Go to the con anon! You'll feel so much confident. Sometimes we really don't want to do things and think it'll be a terrible experience but we do it and find out that we actually like it. Even if it wasn't that great it's better to know that rather than spend the rest of your life miserable over what-could-have-been. Don't worry anon! You can do this! I believe in you! I want you to think about how much of a great time you're going to have, when you feel scared about going reason with yourself, if you have a panic attack most people there will understand, a lot of cosplayers have them too, just learn where security are and nip over to them if you're feeling like a panic attack is coming on, and don't fret about not making it to them because other cosplayers are very very nice and they'll help you. I can say for myself it won't be a shitty time because you'll see so many cool things and cool costumes, think about what kind of things will me there! Noone will hate you either anon, convention goers are all super nice people and they won't lie to you nor hate you, just go out there and pep-talk yourself, you're gonna go, you're gonna have a great time, and you're gonna be loved, don't take no for an answer! You go anon I believe in you! Tell yourself everyday with a smile in the mirror; "I will have a great time, I am loved, If I'm scared it's normal." I believe in you pal.

>>8581607
You need to lower your expectations a bit because it is unrealistic to think that someone needs to share all of your interests. It is far more healthy to have something that is your own thing to do, and have your own space and your own friends. When you are with someone who shares literally every part of their life with you, it gets suffocating.

You should be looking for someone who has common interests with you because you want something to talk about, but if your 'love' left because he didnt like something that you like, then you will never be happy with someone.

>>8581610
Honestly anon, you have to make the effort to do the thigns you don't want to do.
I'm in that same kind of anxiety/depression and I've been actively working on it for about 2 years.

Organize yourself and think about the things you can work on, start with the simple and immediate things.

For me I started with social anxiety stuff like making myself go out alone and making an effort to innitiate conversations with classmates.
Although atm I have issues with dealing with conflict since it makes me feel very guilty. Right now it's messaging a woman that I can't take the nanny position because she hadn't contacted me for a month or my refrences so I assumed I wasn't hired, then got hired somewhere else.

Try to think as logically as you can to keep yourself calm(works for me anyways, not always but it helps)
In this case logic would dictate no one is going to "hate" you for refunding unless they weren't your friends in the first place. At most they'll be a bit confused/bummed out and ask you what the problem is which all you have to do is give yourself the confidence to properly explain.

Just chill and take it slow anon, people are more understanding than you think.

>>8581610
as someone with really bad anxiety: Just do it. You're never going to get better staying in your comfort zone all day. It'll be scary and you'll be very unsure of yourself, but you're going to be glad you did it.

>>8581618
I know we don't need to share ALL of them but I just want to be able to have them participate in the things I love like cosplay, lolita, speedrunning et cetera and I want to participate in things they love, I know we shouldn't like everything but some things are just deal breakers for me if we don't share them as hobbies or have a mutual interest in them.

>>8581621

My love left because we just didn't have anything in common, we had polar opposite tastes in things and it made me scared when he found out that I didn't like his favourite things because I was worried he wouldn't love me any more. When he didn't like anything I liked I felt like I couldn't really talk to him about anything, 90% of our conversations just became talking in a group chat and occasionally noticing eachother

>>8578086
>>8578091
>>8578094
>>8578095
>>8578102
Anon I was going to criticize you for not greentexting but you can't paraphrase this kind of stuff. Your mom sounds terrible and it's unfortunate you can't kick her out and just live with your step-dad. Where do you live if you don't mind me asking? My mom gets $1200 in disability a month. We live in southern New Mexico where things aren't too expensive and when I lived with her we didn't live lavishly but stretched our dollar pretty far. With $1200/month from your mom and $60k/year from your step-dad it doesn't sound unreasonable. I know the long commute doesn't sound good but if you and your boyfriend could find a job a bit far maybe you could tough it out for a couple of months and save up for an apartment closer to your jobs.

I wish you all the best.

>>8580040

Found the vegan

>>8581613
>it makes me feel so upset he might have just broke up with me to be with them.

But, you broke up with him

>>8581821
We mutually agreed to it, it wasn't really either or, we both broke up with eachother, I feel like he only agreed because of that.

This must be something that everyone reads in this kind of threads. But whatever.

>tfw feel too old for lolita
>tfw cons sucks in my country
>tfw too fat for gyaru
>tfw browsing through lolita dream dress threads and fall in love
>tfw too poor
>tfw liking creepy cute
>tfw menhera seems cute for faceless pictures.
>tfw place i live is too hot for mori.

I don't have a thick skin to wear j-fashion, but how do i love most of it.

>>8579889
Being ugly sometimes makes me feel like I want to die? But that's because I'm already crazy, idk how original anon feels.

>>8580441
This exact thing is the reason I am so scared of dating girls (specifically lesbians). I love women, so much, but holy shit lesbians are fucking crazy with the tumblr stuff. I have cis white male friends, I can't date someone that's going to treat them like shit. It is the worst.

>>8582151
it's a trans.. man... though..
not all lesbians or bi girls are like that. Tumblr is literally just a disgusting cesspool and I hope it crashes and burns soon.

>>8582161
Oh no I know it is in that situation, but the behavior reminded me of a lot of the lesbians I've seen. Shit like <this behavior> makes me afraid of dating <unrelated group>. Sorry if that was unclear.

It really is. My life has been much better since I quit using it, only drawback being I now have no cosplay communities left besides here, and I'm not exactly raring to post myself because of the ugly. (I once posted a picture of my eye asking for help with waterline/eyebags and the eyebags were so bad they derailed the thread. It was bad.)

>>8577885
> if your friend is a psycho she'll blame the people closest to her (you or her bf)
I can double, no triple confirm this. Crazy bitches always lash out at those the worst under their thumb. I'm the anon from earlier who was forced to sew then humiliated, and yes. As soon as I cut her out she threatened to sew me for her electricity bill (only 15 dollars higher yet her ballpark was in the thousands? and the electricity was only high so I could sew her bullshit for free) and car repairs on a car I never drove. Make sure you have anonymity. If you can't get it for sure, I say cut it loose. Protect yourself first.

>>8581278
this
People always think I'm into that stuff because of the way I look/dress, but in reality I'm vanilla as fuck. And I don't want to talk about sex with someone I barely know.
Also
>meet someone cool, get their tumblr
>they reblog 9000 "choke me, daddy" or "bdsm and drugs" or "give me ur huge dick" posts
>disappointment ensues

>>8582168
No worries. But really, I've had crushes on girls only to hear them talk about dicks like they are disgusting and say they don't want a 'spoiled' bi girl. As if showers aren't a thing, and bi-phobia doesn't hurt people. Anyway kind of off topic sorry for that.

>>8581607
Sharing ALL hobbies, especially if you have a lot, is definitely too much to ask.

>hit a financial bump due to longterm chronic illness
>don't qualify for income assistance because of student financial aid
>student aid will not be reimbursed until mid-September
>and will be distributed in twice a month checks through May
>meanwhile, late fee after late fee piling up on bills
>make about 600/month via part time job
>triage what bills need attention first
>tfw ending up with $170 in late payment fees this month so far
>on top of $440 in bills
>too scared to check credit card interest accrual yet

goodbye, last of savings. goodbye, halloween coord. goodbye, WakuWaku. goodbye, sense of being a functional adult.

self: stop being sick or figure out a way to make money despite pain.

>at least landlords are understanding and are deferring rent till September
>will still be playing bill catchup through Halloween though

>>8582279
Have you called each bill collector and told them about the hardships you are currently facing. Some companies are willing to help if you reach out to them and explain what's going on.

>>8580615
Period anon here, update time.
Still no period and now I have a bad cold.
What have I done to deserve this?!

>tfw cosplayers who don't even make their own costumes get to go to conventions around the country/lots of online recognition
>spend months slaving over the sewing machine
>end up too broke to do anything after finishing the costume

>>8582355
Stress, Illness and dieting can affect your period. Maybe think about a moon cup? They are good for around 10 hours.

>>8582355
Try to relax, stress is only going to postpone your period. Take a long, warm bath and get some extra vitamin C in your system.

If you've been taking medication: check if period irregularity is a possible side-effect. Also, if you've lost a lot of weight recently, or are naturally quite skinny, that might also play a factor.

Do whatever you need to do to feel comfortable at Regalia, even if that means stacking 7 maxi pads on top each other, but don't let something silly as a period ruin it for you. Stock up on some wet tissues too so you can keep your hands perfectly clean (while you're still in the stall) when you go to the bathroom. You're going to be fine anon. Relaaaax.

>>8581278
I don't understand how people can be so open about that shit. I like pet play but I'm not about to tell someone I just met all about it. Hell I don't even like telling my close friends about it its just kinda awkward and embarrassing!

>planning my first lolita coord I've done in years
>getting a lot cheap accessories of aliexpress just for the sake of I can't fnd anything else that matches, and they just seem to have a lot more variety?
>the coord colors are cream, lilac and periwinkle
>find the perfect pair of shoes in periwinkle, shitty stock photo, they're $55, they're scalloped like the blouse, reviews are good
>apparently they custom make them to your size too
>can't find them anywhere else
>finally just decide to suck it up and get them and take the risk, normally I'd never ever spend more than $20 on aliexpress, it's not worth it from an unreliable site of sellers
>seller communicates well, can't send me a better photo because they're being made, ships the item quickly, get an awesome vibe and I'm really excited
>get the shoes, open them
>they're fucking lavender, not periwinkle
>heart sinks

I mean I guess I could paint them or spray paint them, but I'm really shit at painting.

>>8581278
Tch, I'm into BDSM and all that, but I don't want to make friends with everyone who is either. I don't even see why it's relevant unless we intend on fucking at some point.

It is really annoying how a lot of people use social networking sites for hookups. I just want to make easy friends..

>>8581298
Look up PVC catsuits, I guess? That's what the shiny ones are made of.

Breast reduction anon here! Got the drains out! They look awesome! I am a B+/C cup now! Still in a little pain but feel pretty good. Gant wear underwire or do strenuous actives. Btw they took 1 lb of weight for one and 1.5 lbs from the other!

>>8582398
Agreeing, people think I'm a major vanilla prude because I always shift the topic away from sex, but I'm into some pretty intense bdsm and I assume a lot of people do the same in the privacy of their bedrooms.
I wish I could tell these people that if we only know each other through the lolita comm then we don't really know each other, and to please stop ruining my high tea by talking about it!

I love a crude chat with my friends in a bar, but girls trying to out-edgelord each other in public possibly within earshot of kids is just embarrassing.

>>8581278
Should we make a friending thread? It's been a while since we last had one.

>>8582418
Post pics of them?
If they're lavender, I imagine you could easily sell them. What size are you anon?

>>8582472
>Agreeing, people think I'm a major vanilla prude because I always shift the topic away from sex,

I feel you on this part, just because I don't like talking about it so openly doesn't mean I'm a prude.

>>8582472
>girls trying to out-edgelord each other in public
reminds me of school and work

> got my first piece of brand today (2nd hand Tralala trying to start getting into gyaru )
>gets here super early, really cute
>Try it on and it fits pretty well but its short and makes a slight boob loaf
I'm at my lowest weight right now and a lot of my friends are starting to say I have a problem. But I know if I lose maybe another 5 pounds or so the dress will fit even better. I don't know whether to wear the dress out and risk getting called a fatty or just lose a bit more weight so I can optimize the kawaii.

>>8582472
Me too, well i'm still a virgin girl but i watch hentai, i love not usual sex stuff, gentle femdom, not much rough practices and i never talk about this to people except select few. Sex life must be between close doors or very personal, to not make people unconfortable. I hate to talk about sex stuff to people i'm not super close, for example i would never go in a sex toys party, fetish parties because i'm too shy and private about sexual topics.

>>8582573
Whatever makes you enjoy the outfit fully anon

>>8582418
Anon, check out angelus leather paint if you're feeling adventurous. That shit is made to repaint that kind of material (both leather and non-leather kinds), doesn't crack, doesn't scuff easily if you add a finisher, and does not show brush strokes after 2-3 coats unless you're being a massive derp about it. I've painted so many cosplay shoes with this stuff before and love it.

>>8581394
>"obviously given into anorexia"
Alright, Dr. Dipshit. Obviously you have no clue what you're talking. also, it's easy as fuck to meet your protein needs with vegetables and fruits. Plus food poisoning CAN knock you down for days.

>>8582573
Western girls just don't fit into asian brands super well unless they have a petite bone structure to begin with. Try a minimizer bra instead of dieting for the sake of a dress. Your friends being concerned seems like a pretty good indicator that you should not lose any more weight.

>>8582573
Well, do you have a problem?

>>8582613
>Fitting into clothing is all that matters
>Regardless of health

You've got some strange priorities. If her friends are concerned enough to vocalize their concerns about her health, something is amiss. Maybe OP is quite thin for her height/bonestructure and just doesn't see it, or maybe OP could stand to lose weight but her friends are worried that she's going about it poorly. IMO this is poor advice.

>>8577398
Remember to cut along your veins bitch, not across them.

>>8582763
Aww, did the wittle anon have a bad day?
:^(

>loooove sweet lolita
>have 3 dresses I adore
>its so hard finding shoes that fit the aesthetic for my huge feet and I'm getting tired of having to schedule orders from antaina
>ordered said shoes and they dont fit my feet, so I may have to walk around NYC w/ shoes i know are gonna kill my feet
>wear shoes that break aesthetic and get posted on cgl for looking like shit or have swollen feet and look cute
>I would have more options for classic lolita styles
>have been told my face is more suited for classic as I have a "early 20th century beauty" look apparently
>I'm getting older too, don't wanna be an adult baby
>I love sweet but...it seems like the world is against me
>maybe I should give up and sell all my sweet and buy classic

>>8582489
That'd be nice!

>>8582966
>>have been told my face is more suited for classic as I have a "early 20th century beauty" look apparently
>>I'm getting older too, don't wanna be an adult baby
>>I love sweet but...it seems like the world is against me
>>maybe I should give up and sell all my sweet and buy classic

Same here but I don't give a shit. Maybe I will look better in classic but it's not a style I like. Also, I wear the dresses because I like them. My goal isn't to look like an actual underage loli wearing lolita. I'm not sorry I look like like an adult when I am one, I'm an adult who just like cute sweet things.

If you like sweet and that's your style, no one can tell you want you can and can't wear. I rather look stupid to some people but be happy than to feel miserable while fitting into other people's expectations.

>>8577936
You are an adorable person anon.
But it warms my heart how they just are so nice. Once my puppy didnt lile its new treats so i gave them to that homeless man's puppy who was so so happy to have treats. I brought the dude a sandwich with still warm bread and he was so thankful and the dog came to lick my hand to say thanks...i nearly cried

>>8578547
Nightmares about teeth falling or rotting or whatever reflects your anxiety over your appearance and how other perceive you.
Another meaning is that you are scared of making a fool out of yourself or you fearing being powerless in a situation or even something as simple as related to money (toothfairy and all that)

So I'm feeling pretty upset and I don't know what to do with these feelings. I had a friend who was a real hipster when it came to anime and cosplay. Like only (in her opinion ) obscure special snowflake stuff. Our friendship has been over a little while now because she really started saying and doing mean things to me when really other things were pissing her off. Basically she treated me like her emotional punching bag and I had to cut her out of my life. But recently she's been making it a big deal to our mutual friends that she love love loves Sailor Moon. Now to give some framework to why this bothers me. Sailor Moon was a huge part of my childhood and something that inspired me to go for my dreams. It's a big part of my life. And I swear I'm not some anime nazi that thinks you need a certain pass to enjoy what you enjoy. But this girl literally told me SM was shit and magical girl stuff was basically hentai. She made fun of me for liking it and put me down. So it burns my toast when she runs around to our friends calling herself Princess Serenity making a stink about loving the show before the "tumblr posers". It just hurts because I feel like shes doing this on purpose as some mental mind fuck. I can't explain why else she would 180 over something she knows is important to me. On the other hand I could just be paranoid and she just genuinely learned to love the show. I'm probably being petty and bitter because I feel like it's my thing and I don't what to share it with someone who hurt me so badly. But damn.

Someone slap me cause I'm a fucking idiot
>yeah anon, I'll fill out your group
>if you buy materials i'll pay you back later
>materials bought, working on cosplay
>1/3 done and she fucking bails for no god damned reason, 'stress' or something
>all the fucking fabric is cut, most of the trim has been used
>can't return fucking any of it, she blocks me after a simple argument
>mfw I'm out 100 bucks because I'm a fucking idiot that though 3 years of being best friends meant more than shit

Last time I trust anyone, no matter how long I've known them. Apparently it's not a good indicator of how much of an asshole someone is.

IT FINALLY CAME, MY PERIOD CAME.

>>8583160
For a second there, I thought you said the man was so grateful he licked your hand.

I met a cosplayer at a con who I'm crushing on hard, but I don't think he thinks about me much. He gives me fitness advice and stuff, but I'm always the one to initiate contact. Feels bad man. I guess it's not a big deal, it's not like I'm emotionally invested in a guy i've only met once (and then didn't even talk to in person), but he seems pretty engaged and interested in our conversations when I message him, so I wish he'd message me first sometimes. I should probably just give up.

>>8580615
Anon, stock up on pain killers and emergency tampons/pads + an extra pair of underwear. If you are unprepared you're in a room full of females, someone will be able to help you.

>Dealing with a stressful job where some co-workers are unprofessional, blunt and outright rude to clients.
>Keep clients happy by being polite and helpful but it's putting a big strain on me.
>Stopped buying lolita for now because I have a backlog of dresses to wear, start buying cute homeware instead.
>Big tea party coming up and there's a person I have bad history with going. I know she'll avoid me but it makes me anxious anyway.

>tfw you miss out on a holy grail dress that was listed at a great price

>Put on weight
>weigh 150, 5'4 36-26-37
>Carry most weight on hips and thighs and bewbs so I have quite a dramatic waist and wear a 22" corset
>JUST fit into brand on my boobs, loose around waist.
>Everyone says I'm thin because I fit in brand.
>Never been this heavy and I have stretch marks up my arms and legs.
>People keep saying I look good and curvier.
>Gone from B cup to D cup

>Want to lose the weight to get to where I'm comfortable
>Most recent cosplays are low cut and my boobs look great in them.
>Scared if I lose the weight my boobs will vanish and cosplays won't work.

>College is over, nothing to do all summer until uni
>Gain weight
>Bust somehow magically shrinks 6cm
>Waist gets 10cm bigger

mfw I just want to be cute and wear cute dresses

>>8582465
Congratulations anon! Hope you recover well. That is quite a weight lifted.

>Finally post my info in a friend thread
>Immediately after /fit/ assholes de-rail the thread
>My info will probably get ignored.
>No /cgl/ gossip buddies for me.

>>8583987
Congrats anon!

No greater relief exists in this world.

>>8583987
I hope it's finished in time for Regalia!

>>8577398
cutting is the method of suicide with the joint-lowest success rate along with OD on non-prescription drugs (which I wouldn't rec either, very messy and unpleasant and you'll get turned into a human pincushion in hospital from all the cannulas and blood tests). All you'd end up doing is giving yourself ugly marks and potentially landing yourself on a psych ward.

>dealing with depression
>estranged family, trying hard to be closer with friends but no one actually wants to talk to me or cares until they remember I'm in the background and available if they need help or support
>I just really want to die. There's nothing left to live for. My boyfriend will move on to a better girlfriend and only some people will pretend to care because I was someone they knew. Others won't even bother
>I want to wear pretty lolita dresses and cosplay and have a family someday but none of that matters when I'm messed up and mentally ill with no support base and I'm screaming out inside for someone to help me but no one notices
>trying to find out the best way to commit suicide

>>8585820
I've been where you are anon. Have you tried talking to anyone about how you feel outside of the internet? I'm sure your boyfriend would listen to you.

>>8585820

One of the symptoms of depression is feeling like nobody cares about you, or are better off without you.

Another symptom is an internalized feeling that you deserve to feel that way, which causes you (along with the first) to self-sabotage communicating how you feel to your loved ones.

You may feel that you are dropping hints, but you probably aren't being add obvious as it feel.

Now that you know that it isn't you, but the parasite that is depression causing that, you can fight it. Tell your loved ones /directly/ exactly how you feel. Talk to a doctor. This is not an "or" option, do both of those.

As soon as possible. Because despite what it's forcing you to think , you don't deserve to feel like shit. Depression is a needling little monster that sucks you dry and tells you it's your fault.

Fight that son of a bitch.

>>8582615
thanks! Is it easy to mix colors?