/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL

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dude same i dont know why but i get so much of that when i haven't shaved it's gross

>>8566187
>find a bestie
>she becomes lolita crush
>we mess around
>she becomes really harsh, cruel
>not moving on at all

My heart hurts every time I see her and since she's in my community I just want to lay down and die.

>tfw every night is another risk of sleep paralysis
>last time I didn't even hallucinate or have a bad dream
>I was dreaming I was working at a dress shop and browsing around for sweet dresses
>next thing I know my eyes are open but my body won't move
>I don't even like sweet

>>8566210
I hope you get better anon, that must hurt but it won't one day and it will just be a memory.

I just got my wisdom teeth removed and my parents generously stalked up on ice cream, yoghurt, and Jell-o

only problem I hate sweets

so out of desperation, I tried blending Doritos in to a smoothie--no luck and now my teeth are bleeding vvvbad

>>8566222
trips don't lie. your subconscious was telling you something.

>>8566210
ha are you me? some lolitas are stone cold. shit sucks.

>>8566239
Why did you blend Doritos?? And why doritos?!

>>8566239
Euugh I got mine pulled last year and it was awful, I feel for you. Try some soups, mashed potatoes, maybe unsweetened applesauce?

>>8566239
Straight up half and half? A friend had his jaw broken and had to intake a shitton of calories but couldn't stomach anything but fucking half and half.

so who snagged something off of closetchild's update? the site is being a little bitch and loading blank pages for me when i click the "motto" or "next" buttons.

found skirt related, not buying it but i kind of like it.

>>8566244
It's the first time I really believed Lolitas were bitches. Ha fucking ha.

>>8566252
I own that skirt. It's a bit smaller than the listed measurements, but I can't bring myself to sell it. Anyone else had mishaps like that?

Has anyone ever dealt with vaginismus? I've never been able to fit more than a finger inside myself without intense burning and pressure. It's frustrating and affecting my sex life since I've never been penetrated in my entire 4 year relationship with my boyfriend. I tried being patient and just seeing if it'll eventually go away when I get more used to him fingering me but it never did. I feel ill never be able to have a fulfilling sex life.

He's understanding and works with me, but I can't help but feel he'd be better off just getting a girlfriend he can actually fuck.

>>8566245
I needed something salty and yummy and not creamy

>>8566263
Egg flower or miso soup?

>>8566262
assholes are tighter, mouths have flexible tongues.

has he gone down on you or are you guys mostly focusing on PIV shit?

>>8566262
gotta learn how to relax girl

>>8566263
Semen? I-is it THAT kind of slumber party on this thread?

>>8566262
If it's been that long with a loving relationship (like really loving, don't give me bullshit) and you can't masturbate then I'd see a doctor.

At that point it sounds like like it's psychological and more like a physical issue. Especially if you're interested and want to have sex.

If not then you really need to sit down and think about shit, because sex isn't normal and wanted by everyone.

Vaginismus anon, I don't have the same condition but similar ones. Have you been seeing a gynaecologist? My long term partner and I rarely ever have PIV intercourse but it is possible.

>>8566268
I fear my asshole hurting even more than my vagina so am 100% too scared of that idea. My jaw can't stretch enough to meet his girth so I can't fit more than his head in my mouth. I also have a really sensitive gag reflex that triggers even when just brushing my tongue. I pretty much exclusively give him habdjobs with some licking and tip kissing, and I already know he sometimes just jerks off instead of asking me to take care of it some days. He just says he sometimes wants to just run a quick one out without much buildup, but I just always feel self conscious that he's saying that to make me feel better and just isn't sexually satisfied.

Yes, he's gone down on me. I prefer that, he's good at it. Yes, I've tried tons of lube and penetration after 2 orgasms, still painful.

I'm dating my childhood best friend.
He's borderline perfect. Loves lolita, asks what colors my coords are going to be so he can match, supports me in everything I do, gets along great with my family, good in bed, offered to buy dream dress, ect ect ect
But recently I've had the suspicion that his Marijuana habit has turned into an addiction....
I usually don't care but he always tells me he's going to quit and then he goes right back to it. It's not like I tell him I don't like it, he just says "I think I'm going to quit smoking for X Y and Z" (usually health/I'm sick of it/I hate stoners/it's too expensive) but then goes right back to it...

One night it really bothered me so I asked him not to smoke at a party (something I've never done before and haven't since) and he flipped the fuck out on me.
After that night he told me "this has officially gotten in the way of our relationship so I'm quitting smoking indefinitely"
At this point he'd said he was quitting so many times that I didn't believe it, but he doesn't take anything about our relationship lightly so I had hope.
Sure enough, he asked me if I was okay with him smoking a few nights ago, which really really hurt but I told him I didn't care.
He puts up with all my weird jfashion shit, so I don't feel right telling him not to smoke, but it kills me that even after a big fight over it, he can't seem to stay away.
It's not him getting high that bothers me, it's that he can't seem to stop and I'm worried about him and how this will affect our future together.

Thanks for letting me vent, I don't have any girlfriends I can talk to

Found IRL lolita girlfriend who is half parts sweet, half goth princess, and equal parts great at doing my waist ties. I'm actually pretty useless -- today she washed our blouses while I smoked hookah. I was thankful yet baffled at why she picked me.

She's also an occasional gull, so I'm hoping she reads this when she's at work in 6 hours.

>>8566278
Talk to him. Like I know you need to vent, I feel it, but you should talk to him in a non-stressful situation. Just sit him down and say "hey, you've mentioned that smoking bothers you for 1,2,3 reasons but you go back to it and I was curious if you're looking for more support to kick it or if you just want to do what you do?"

Try your best to be nonjudgemental, understanding, etc.

I've had many a stoner boyfriend say they're gonna kick smoking and then just back track but the snappy response to your questions seems odd.

>>8566272
>>8566274
I should visit one, but I'm currently uninsured. I recently filed for obamacare though, so if I ever get that I want to give it a shot. I'm just so nervous about going, I don't want to be told I can never comfortably have sex. I fear getting confirmation on not, even if I'm pretty sure its possible to overcome.

>>8566278
I don't know if that's totally fair to compare the two. Like, do you feel if you wanted to tomorrow, you could move on from lolita? Or is it your own sort of addiction? Weird question but context is helpful

>>8566285
Congrats

I had a terrifying the dream the other night that my iud had perforated. I've been having a lot of heavy cramping and bleeding lately which is unusual for me. I don't know if I should seek medical advice or wait until another follow up appointment with gynaecologist.

>>8566262
I went to my gyn for her to do the physical test for vaginismus. She gave me a numbing cream and said its organic pain but it's also coming from a mental block.

I was like wtf why bother sex if I'm numb? So we tried non-latex condoms and it became more bearable. Invest in dialators if you can. If you're really dedicated, find a clinic in the USA that specializes in it. There's a handful. I was satisfied enough after dialators. I'm just not Uh, durable.

Is polyamory out of the question for you two..?

>>8566287
If you have vaginismus and have never had treatment for it they are definitely not going to tell you that. You can get all sorts of stuff (physio, internal massage, medications etc) to help. It's a process though not a magic cure all.

>>8566295
Seconding this for infinity

>>8566287
Obamacare came through pretty fast for me, I'd call customer service (if you have time, wait is usually 1+ hour wait) and just get your info through them until they can assign you to a doctor's office.

Also you could go to Planned Parenthood-- good, sliding scale pricing, etc.

>this thread

>>8566291
I'd call up my doctor, at least if they think it's really abnormal enough to worry, they'll tell you to come in.

>>8566262
You have a problem that isn't that unheard of in women. Go find a woman doctor though since male doctors really don't understand issues we go through. You might have to take some medicine and put on a lot of lube and do a lot of foreplay to get you comfortable and relax. I have heard some doctors recommend to start using toys to get used to the feeling of being penetrated. Sometimes it works, you just need to find what makes you comfortable and have your boyfriend understand your problem and be willing to help. Also go to therapy to vent with your boyfriend if he is willing to go since sometimes venting helps you become more comfortable with your body and relationship.

>>8566286
My problem is that he's so supportive of me in everything I do so I don't feel like I have any right to tell him that I'm uncomfortable with him smoking.
I also have almost 0 problem with weed, I just don't like that he actually seems addicted

>>8566288
I totally could not move from lolita at the point I'm at now. It's really an obsession with me, which is why I don't feel okay with telling him to stop smoking, and why I haven't spoken to him outright about this.
at the same time if we actually have a future together, I don't know if I could handle him smoking all the time...

>>8566267
miso soup!! I hadn't thought about that!!! Thanks Anon, youre a teeth saver

>>8566278
It sounds like an addiction on your boyfriend end. Talk to him in a quiet and comfortable place when he is feeling good and okay. Tell him what, >>8566286 said and be willing to go with him to support groups and other stuff to show him you are there for him and tell him that you want to help him for your future together. I hope it all goes well!

>>8566307
If you're uncomfortable in a situation with your SO you should always be able to talk to them, no matter what it's about. Physical dependency with weed is almost moot, but I could see having a psychological one-- especially if he points it out as an issue then tries to stop only finding himself in a situation (IE a party) in which he'd rather be stoned.

Talk to him. Literally the best thing you can do for yourself and for him.

>>8566309
Don't starve, Tooth-Anon. And please don't blend any more doritos.

>>8566262
I used to think I had vaginismus, I couldn't even fit a tampon in there, let alone fingers. Turned out it was a combination of just being small down under and the fear from the first couple of times we had sex being reinforced every time I tried again. It took me about five years and a minor operation before I could finally have sex. Honestly, it still hurts a bit when we start, but it fades away quickly.

Visit a gynecologist when you can - I read further down that you are currently uninsured, but when able to, you really should - since they can confirm whether it's purely physical or actual vaginismus. If it is that, you can go to a sexologist for treatment. They will often require your boyfriend to come along for some of the sessions so make sure he's actually willing. They will 'train' your muscles to not react to penetration with pain anymore.
Take matters in your own hands! You can do it!

Vaginismus anon here, thanks for all the kind advice everyone. I feel a bit more relieved. Was just having a bad. Night because even though I still orgasm through the pain, the release of emotions post orgasm commonly leads to me just crying over the ordeal and having to be cuddled and comforted in tears. Tonight was particularly bad because it was the most painful it's been in months and I thought I was improving. It just felt like a huge roadblock in progression.

I'll try seeking medical help. I'll give planned parenting a try and see if obamacare can hook me up with a doctor fast.

>>8566187
/fit/ told me that if I stretched towards the ceiling then to my toes while whispering "grow grow grow", I'll stop being 4'11.

why live if I can't get HUGE

>shitty Asian girl genetics

>>8566309
You can also try some curry ramen, just the soup part tho and some calm chowder, gerber baby food that are the soup and veggie flavors.

>>8566307
Your situations are different. Seems like Lolita is part of your identity and not an addiction. In his case, he's recognized it's an issue and tried to quit but can't. A relationship is a two way street and it's built on honesty. Don't be afraid to voice your concerns. Sure he does a lot on his end but that shouldn't be conditional on your own complacency with his actions. Talk to him and be honest. If you feel that the relationship will be hurt if he smokes all the time then tell him. Tell him that you're afraid he's addicted, and that you're willing to help him through it. Don't be judgmental if he relapses because it happens. Try your best to help but if he doesn't put in the effort, you'll have to decide whether you can face that or just move on for your own good.

>>8566328
Planned Parenting will lead you to the right way anon! They are very understanding and it seems like your boyfriend cares about how you feel which is nice and lovely. I hope he understands your situation and that you get better and remember, just because you took one step back, doesn't mean you can't get back up and take two steps forward instead; it's all a progress that will take time.

I've been on antidepressants for a month and a half and they've definitely taken care of my panic attacks but most of the day I feel like shit. And really tired. Like I am stuck in this neutral mood and I can't get happier or sadder. It's also destroyed my sex drive, I feel bad for my bf having to deal with my changing moods. Hopefully this upcoming con helps since I'll be super social all weekend.

>>8566337
That's long enough for your to adjust, anon, have you revisited with your doctor? Anti-depressants should help make you feel more human and draw you out of the fog (granted sometimes it can feel like not dealing with the panic attacks are a gift enough).

Being social helps some, but you can't put too much stress on your lack of sex drive or yourself or it can knock you back a few steps, you know?

>>8566340
If your medicine doesn't help you feel better, talk to a doctor. A youtuber that I follow said when he started, it took some time to find the right amount of medicine he had to talk to feel better. You need to tell your doctor how you feel with full honesty and they will help you. Good luck on getting better anon! We are here for you.

>>8566337
Antidepressants are all different and they behave differently per person. You might need to visit your doctor and see if you can switch to another prescription and see if it helps. Granted you'll need more readjusting but it might be worth it for your peace of mind

>>8566239
The nitrous from my wisdom tooth removal was the fifth or sixth best high I ever had

>>8566277
Tit jobs, feet jobs, etc. try that out maybe your bf will like it. Just some soft licking and kissing feels like nothing on your dick.

>>8566262
As someone who can barely handle a day without fucking my boyfriend, I feel legit sad when I read stories like this. I'm guessing you're a virgin? If you are, it's possible that you're just especially tight and sensitive, it's not abnormal for virgins to have this problem, not just girls with vaginsmus. You might just want to suck it up and try full on penetration a few times. If you do that, you can't pussy out for it to work (didn't realize the double meaning until after I typed it) you have to at least last through it a few minutes each times otherwise it won't have an effect. Just remember, almost every girl's first time a lot, and the next couple after that. If by the fifth time, you don't feel better, you should see an OBGYN.

>>8566270
It's not that simple, it can be extreme enough to require surgery.

>>8566210

>>8566278
When he asked you if you were okay with it you shouldn't have told him you didn't care. Because you obviously did care.

>>8566353
at least someone's getting off.

>>8566345
i found it mediocre and the loss of control terrifying
how long did it take for the pain to go away?

>>8566278
Does your boyfriend have depression or anxiety issues or anything like that? It might be possible he's unintentionally using it as medication and doesn't realize it. Depending on the person, weed can be extremely helpful with that sort of thing. My girlfriend tried to quit pot and became a complete psycho and I just thought it was a combination of lack of weed and the fact her period was coming, but she stayed that way for months. We went to therapy to help her and during the very first session, the shrink said it sounded like weed was helping her stay calm and she should just go back to smoking since there was no reason for us to keep her off it (we live in a state where it's not illegal, so most shrinks have no problem suggesting it).

They key is moderation, imo. It sounds like your boyfriend smokes it too much. It would probably be better to just have him cut back.

I forgot to take my birth control one fucking time and because of that I've had my period/weird spotting for 2 months straight now and I want to die

>>8566357
Like two days

>>8566353
>girl decides to stop being tsundere to anon
>after a tear filled apology and reunion, they make love
>girl goes back to be tsundere toward anon
>anon cries tears of sorrow this time
>lather, rinse, repeat

>>8566307
I think the difference would be that he wants to quit, you don't want to quit the stuff you're doing. You're okay with him smoking, but not okay with him struggling to keep his word to himself.

So it isn't really being unsupportive. I see it as the opposite; you're supporting him in what he really wants to do. If he wants to quit but can't trust himself, then he may need your help in the situation. He's spoken with you about it rather than keeping it to himself, so I see that as a subtle call for help. Talk to him calmly about it. Let him know that you're okay with the smoking, but you want to help him quit if that's what he wants. Make sure that he understands you aren't prohibiting him from doing it, you're helping him achieve his own goal he set from himself.

He seems understanding. He probably just blew up on you that one time because he felt you were being judgemental in context, and maybe it hurt him a little. I assume he properly talked to you about it after he calmed down considering he said it was getting in the way of your relationship.

So, help him. Just make sure he understands that beforehand that you are trying to help him. If he asks if it's okay to smoke, tell him no but explain its not "no" for your sake, but because you see him struggling with his resolve to quit and want to support him. Chances are he'll make excuses, try to be strong and not give into them.

so uh. crushes amirite?

>meet someone
>thirst after him hardcore because I'm a sperg
>he doesn't show interest back
>no longer crush on him
>the second I stop crushing on he starts thirsting after me
>couldn't be less interested

nope. nopity no, you had your chance, fuck off.

>>8566187
Yassss. I missed these stupid threads.
>haven't shaved since a little while but i'm lazy and my pubic hair zone is kinda irritated...aoutch
>got some discharge today too in the morning
It's awful when it happens like nooo it's all sticky and it feels all wet afterwards and ugh
>period is coming
But i'll put a pad beforehand this time, there will be no cute panties ruined mother nature, not this time motherfucker.

>>8566262
You too?! I had sex with a girl last week for the first time and after she prepared me really well she was able to slip her pinkie inside of me without it hurting to much. But if i tried or when she tried before it hurted, she told me i was super tight (still virgin) so that may be that? But when she entered a second finger (and took my virginity without wanting since she knew i wasn't really ready, but we are so close so i was ok with this) it kinda burned a little but it was going ok, i think it's all about how you prepare yourself and i'm kinda nervous so i tend to tighten even more. After she has gone down on me it was easier.

>>8566337
I used to take anti depressants and it made me this way too anon, well after a while it kinda stopped but you should probably change your medication if that seriously goes to that point i have a small libido already but it was litteraly killing it.

>>8566376
>the guy I liked didn't show interest soon enough for me so fuck him
Yeah, you sound like you're not ready for any kind of relationship that would end well for the other person

>>8566378
>tfw you always forget /cgl/ is full of girls who actually like girls and not just snowflakes hopping the LGBT train
Ladies, please continue.

>>8566389
It's ok anon, we are many.
All the homo.

>>8566239

I had my impacted wisdom teeth removed in January. I didn't eat too much but I definitely didnt eat sweets. I stuck to very soft foods and ate mostly cottage cheese and greek yogurt. At least that way you are getting some nutrients. If you like cottage cheese you can also enjoy it savory style, I know some people put salt and pepper on it. Other things I'd think to eat is maybe oatmeal or other soft cheeses? (like ricotta).

>I had a tonsillectomy at the age of 17
>having wisdom teeth removed was a walk in the park compared to that

>>8566294
Polyamory has come up in discussion before, but it'd hurt me and he knows it. I'm bi, but super picky with girls. He's super picky as well, and even if there's someone we could both agree on, he'd feel uncomfortable knowing I was hurt.

>>8566364
When i forget to take my birth control pills i get period cramps like hell is happening inside of me.
First i get bad cramps, but i'm saying REALLY bad, i get dizzy and nauseous because of them, then it hurts so bad i'm crying and nothing can stop them except maybe one or two meds to stop it after half an hour, i usually ended up vomiting while crying in pain on the toilet.
Apparently my cramps have the force of a woman giving birth (but like,without any meds given or shots or whatever)
Stay classy.

>>8566382
day 1 he says he likes me, but when I show interest he's turned off and doesn't want to talk to me, but when I lose interest because I'm being avoided, he's suddenly interested?
I found thirsting after someone who avoided me unhealthy, and It took me a while for me to get over him.

I'm not going to rekindle those feelings and put myself on an emotional rollercoaster.


He's just the type to want what he cant have, so fuck that noise.

>>8566262

I used to have a similar situation as you anon and it really sucks. Basically I had gotten a rip in the lining of my vaginal wall and even though it had healed, the scarring wasn't as elastic as the rest of my va jay jay. Even touching the spot was super painful. Sex was painful all the time and it took years after the fact to get better. Even though now its improved, I have a mental block that sex sucks so I'm very unmotivated to do it. Latex-free condoms I find help a lot, lot of fore-play because you need to make sure you're in the mood, and if all else fails I'd see the doctor. Also I'm not sure of your situation but make sure you dont have any STIs? A lot of STIs will cause painful sex so if its a possibility you could have one, i'd check it out. Tbh a lot of them aren't that scary since most are curable, so don't feel too panicked if thats your case.

>>8566397
Horror stories like this make me feel so beyond lucky for how mild my cramps are, the worst they get is occasionally bad enough to make me lie down for a bit. Although, I stopped taking my BC pills and skipped this month's period and am worried that the only reason my cramps weren't that bad was the pill, and when I get my period it's going to come at me with the force of Genghis Khan's army.

>>8566351
For someone who has sex a lot you are ignorant on how to have sex. It isnt just something you are supposed to suck it up and deal with the pain. You are not supposed to be in pain from penetration, even the first time. Most people have issues from being nervous and not aroused enough, which means foreplay and doing it at your pace. Dont just shove a dick in there and expect it to work.

>>8566378
You just sound nervous, since oral helped a lot. Being tight is not about being a virgin, you naturally will loosen as you are aroused and lubricate, and are tight when not. The only way to get a looser vagina is actually through childbirth. The best thing you can do is to masturbate as then you are in control and can get over the nerves that way while figuring out your body.

>>8566271
In what universe is semen yummy?

>>8566187
My period is causing me to become constipated and I hate it
Also I had a car crash several weeks ago and every time I'm driving and pass another car on the road, I have flashbacks to it

>>8566399
Did it occur to you that maybe he was just scared because he really liked you and got really nervous when you did back, so he needed time to get his shit together? I know a girl who was never asked out before or had a boyfriend, and when her crush told her he liked her, she angrily accused him of lying to her to mess with her head and ran away. Most people would have been like "I ain't dealing with this crazy bitch", but he was understanding about it when she apologized shortly after and they're been in a wonderful, loving relationship ever since. The fact you don't consider any motive other than "he wants what he can't have" is indicative that you won't do well in a relationship because you jump to conclusions and assume them to be true without even talking to the person about it.

>>8566337
They might not be the right antidepressants for you. Talk to your doctor/therapist and see what they have to say, I had a similar problem with mine too, they were causing me to feel sort of numb all the time.

>>8566408
>For someone who has sex a lot you are ignorant on how to have sex.
>You are not supposed to be in pain from penetration, even the first time.
I wanted to believe you're trolling, but I don't think you are.

https://www.google.com/webhp?sourceid=chrome-instant&ion=1&espv=2&ie=UTF-8#q=pain%20during%20first%20time

>>8566408
Completely agree. If you are tight, you're not going to solve it by sticking a dick in there. Also 'deal with the pain'? I don't see why she should when there are alternatives. Anon might need to see a gynecologist about this, but I agree that being nervous and not aroused enough might also be a problem. Also, if you are on birth control, it might cause dryness. My girlfriend stopped taking it (would have been pretty useless as I am a woman too) and we never had a problem with lubrication afterwards.

>>8566417
Not that anon, but pretty much all the sites that show up from the search (which doesn't exactly mean much, as you just demonstrated that people wrote articles about a pretty widespread myth) talk about 'slight discomfort' or 'hurting a little' which is different from being in pain.

>>8566433
>Completely agree. If you are tight, you're not going to solve it by sticking a dick in there
If she's a virgin it will unless she actually has vaginsmus.

Why are we now not accepting the undeniable fact that most girls' first few times hurt like hell?

>>8566391
I am sorry I just had the chance to use this right now, thank you.

And welp guys my period came today and I need to vent. I have killer cramps that you can literally feel my damn uterus move if you press hard enough on my pelvic. My boyfriend always tries his best to support me during this time but it makes him stressed since I get mood swings, faint, vomit, extreme diarrhea, I can't eat food for 2 days or else I will vomit, then the next three 3 days I am constantly eating and bleeding hard. Last 4 days, it's okay but I bleed alot. Is it bad that I bleed through my clothes every 2ish hours if I don't change my pads? I have to use pad diapers for bladder problem just to make through some extra 45 minutes before it soaks enough to bleed through. I literally can't sleep for 6 days since I have to constantly change or risk bleeding on my sheets or my bf's leg since I wrap my legs around him at times. He doesn't mind the bleeding but he is concern that I faint constantly and bleed through my clothes a lot and very easily. Should I go to a doctor guys?

>>8566437
It's very much a sliding scale. My first three times hurt so bad I cried, and several of my friends were the same exact way. Anon shouldn't go right for sex until she goes to a doctor to see if she has vaginsmus, but the pain she's describing isn't as uncommon in virgins as you guys seem to be under the impression of.

Any suggestions for good lube?
I'm taking the pill (lutera) and it's great, no mood swings, weight gain, and barely a period. However, my vagina is like the Gobe desert. :/

>>8566350
Oh, I do footjobs. He likes those, I'm just not good at them. I should practice more. As for titjobs
>tfw A-cup

>>8566409
I like drinking pickle juice and straight vinegar out of jars, like tons of msg and salt all over my meals, and my boyfriend loves pineapples. I guess I'm not the norm. Even though I can't fit him in my mouth, I love aiming him to finish in into my mouth.

Fuck, now I'm horny but he doesn't come home from until another like 4 hours.

>>8566336
He is! In fact, it's only because of him I still have hope and I keep trying after all these years. He always comforts me and tells me it's okay, how it isn't my fault, how I'm not broken, and how he still enjoys himself with me sexually even if he can't penetrate me. He refused my offer to let him fuck his high school crush when she was coming on to him just so he can at least experience actual penetration (he's never done it) and was concerned about how I'd feel about him taking the offer. Not that I would blame him or be mad, I'm not the manipulative type to tell him to do one thing and get mad at him for doing it expecting him read my mind, but it would still hurt me even if I let him and he knows that without me saying it.

>>8566438
It hurts, but thats why you do foreplay but since sex ed is pretty bad in most places with lots of misinformation, your first time can feel uncomfortable at first of course! But should not result in extreme pain that makes you end up in tears like the anon said in her other post.

If you are still here anon, go see a specialist and tell them what is happening because it sounds like vaginsmus and for sure can tell it is.
>God mother has vaginsmus but because of her ignorant husband, he says just to take the pain.
>No.jpeg
Remember it's not suppose to hurt like hell that makes you end up in tears. Hope you have luck in getting better anon.

>>8566444
Dammit anon, I love fluffly lovely dovey couples and get teary eyed when I hear boyfriends that genuinely love their girlfriends even when it can be a bit rocky. He's a keeper anon, don't forget that. That man truly loves you anon and now I am in tears.
>I am not crying, you're crying

>>8566448
I think that also depends a lot on the guy. I was wetter than the Pacific Ocean my first time, but my boyfriend's dick was massive (eight inches and so thick I couldn't wrap my fingers all the way around it). There's only so much you can do to ease the pain, tears were inevitable.

>with bf for a few months
>he's been staying "visiting" at mine for a month and a half
>in too deep to ask him to get out
>pays for food sometimes but
>always wants sex, everything is sexual to him
>complains when I wear lolita when we're out instead of "normal dresses"
>doesn't help clean
>feel smothered by him
>we got together when he confessed to me while sobbing after I'd just gotten with another guy I'd liked
>panicked and broke it off with guy because I did like current bf for a while before and didn't want to hurt him by letting him think someone else was on my mind
>why the fuck
>what the fuck
>fucking regret.jpg
>lost my shit in June for a while because I'd hurt him so bad, can't forgive myself
>we don't talk for a while, easier on him to get over it/deal
>get back in touch with him recently and talk like old times
>really miss him, even just as a friend to chat with
>bf keeps quizzing me on him
>went to meet him for tea a while ago
>"anon why are you dolling yourself up to go see him?"
>@ me who always wears makeup
>"so anon how is x"
>bf keeps looking into laptop screen
>no longer comfortable around bf

TL;DR: shoot me

>>8566444
I haven't met a lot of people who drink vinegar so yep, I don't think you are in the norm. Actually I don't mind swallowing at all, I honestly find it pretty hot. It's pretty much the only thing I miss about being with a man. But semen has always tasted bitter in my experience, not just salty.

Anyone else here meet their s/o at a con?
>tfw met super qt 10/10 boyfriend at a con rave
I feel so lucky, but the older we get, the more awkward it is to explain where we met. It's kind of embarrassing.

>>8566461
Anon get out. Get out of this. The reason why you got together with him in the first place is not right. I know you had good intentions, but don't get with someone because you don't want to hurt their feelings, I did and I was unhappy for four years.

>>8566461
Break up with that leeching faggot. You don't like him, he's an adult, I don't know why you think his feefee's are your responsibility.
Don't let someone you don't even like that much walk all over you because you don't want to make him feel bad. He's making you feel bad and he obviously doesn't give a fuck.

>>8566461
That doesn't seem like a healthy relationship. I would get out like >>8566468 said. I was in a similar situation and it literally fucked me up big time for over 4 ~ 6 years. I can't even remember how many it was because I was so bad and unhappy, it made me forget everything. So get out as fast as you can.

>>8566278
>borderline perfect
>doesn't give a shit about you enough to get off weed
Sup doormat, you actually have the borderline worst boyfriend l. Only thing left is he starts beating the shit out of you, cheats or kills you

>>8566441
I guess I was just an exception then. I just wonder if you and your friends had tried fingering and using extra lube before penetration, because I had and it was only slightly uncomfortable. A lot of people I talked to just went from nothing to PIV and it honestly baffles me.

>be me
>be 18
>still virgin
kill me now, I'm not even that unattractive. I've gotten to the point now where it will just be awkward if I do even get with anybody.

>>8566307
Except he is a subtle control freak

>>8566468
I tried, I'm so scared. I broke it off with him in June and came crying back because I was scared. I could've put things right but I didn't, I just hurt everyone more.

What's worse is that most day-to-day stuff seems fine, but I just want to cry so often. We have laughs sometimes, but that's not enough to sustain this. He gets serious and almost angry over small, harmless things sometimes. He's never hit me or hurt my physically like that, and I don't think he would, but I suffer really badly with my nerves.

>>8566461
So you cheat on him and now wonder why he doesn't trust you? Lol. Dump the guy before you damage him even more

>>8566479
>be me
>first real sex experience at 20
>currently in a great relationship and no complaints about sex at all
Unless your partner is a complete asshole, they won't mind. You're 18, not 38. Give it time and don't lose hope!

>>8566487
I didn't cheat, I just met up for tea and a chat. I'm a mess but I'm not that much of a mess.

>>8566484
Never say they won't get physical because you never know. Get out now, run to a close friend or family member. Let someone know the situation you are in just in case something happens (god forbid it tho). He is unstable if he gets angry and serious if its small things especially if its nothing and harmless. You need to get out fast. I was in this situation before and suffered hell for it. Be careful anon and please get out soon.

>>8566479
Awkward? Lol anon your so cute and innocent. We can fix that virginity issue without awkwardness

>>8566484
I can see why you would be scared. Do you have any friends who can support you with this? Maybe stay with them for a bit and try not to think about it? If he gets angry and it makes you upset or nervous, you don't need to wait until he resorts to physical violence to have a reason to leave. Your wellbeing comes first.

>>8566490
....you need to word that better then

>>8566494
I have some people who would support me, but I can't leave because it's my place and all my stuff is here. I need to get him out somehow. I want my space and my life back. I'm considering letting it slide for another week or two when he should be getting a place with some of his friends. It's not ideal but it's less terrifying.
Sorry if I'm coming off as a bit short, I'm just shaking as I type this because I've been playing everything off as great to everyone so far, friends, parents, everyone thinks we're doing great. I'm worried that nobody will believe me if I suddenly say things aren't at all what I said they were.

My boyfriend is very tall, like 210cm tall. I'm not tall at al (160cm).

> 69 is impossible.
> Doggy-style wihout a lot of pilows under me is impossible
> Fuck and kiss at the same time is very dificult
> Me on top makes me spread my legs lige a circus contorsionist.

Buuut...
> Cuddling sex feels super good and comfy
> He holding me on the air while standing feels amazing
> Amazing with tongue

Anyway the sex is always great, but I wish we could try diferent positions from time to time.

Tall/Short problems anyone?

>>8566496
I'm not sure what's inherently sexual about going to starbucks but ok

>>8566484
Also seconding what >>8566491 said, you never know when and if someone will get physical.

>>8566503
You said got with other guy, nothing about tea or fucking starbucks

>>8566484
This is how it starts. I always feel like this discussion never gets through but I still try. The anger is just the beginning. You need to understand that it's a form of manipulation. Anyone willing to manipulate you like that is capable of anything down the line. The further you allow this to go the more dependent he'll be of you and he'll do more things to keep you around. If you're afraid get help in any form (family, friends, cops, etc) and just break it off. I'm sorry to be so brutally honest but I've seen this shit happen too many times

>>8566507
I think we have our wires crossed
>single
>i liked guy A a LOT (current bf)
>guy A doesn't like me
>also liked guy B
>get with guy B
>guy A comes crying after I get with guy B and I feel awful
>break up with guy B
>get with guy A

Sorry if it wasn't clear.

>>8566504
I don't think he has it in him, but you're right that I'm better safe than sorry. I have a friend coming over today and we'll be going into town, so I'll see if I can chat with her, I trust her a lot and she's fairly unbiased.

>>8566501
No need to apologize. I've been there before, although it wasn't this bad simply because I was younger and didn't know what abusive behavior was, I just shrugged it off as normal and now thinking back about it I realize it was scary as fuck. You do what you can for now, try to stay safe. I don't know how your relationship with your friends and parents is, but you could try to explain this to them, considering how worried you are I'd say they are very likely to believe you.

Ex has a long time gf that had a bad habit of ripping off other people stylistically.
She ripped off my friends hair style within a week of my friend posting a picture, cut color length, to the T all because her boyfriend complimented my friend. Gf is into the whole tumblr 90's trend but notice when I start posting in lolita and cosplay and OC, she's posting lolita and cosplay ideas. I find out she's a closet weeb and loves death note.
>misa is her goth lolita idol now
I'm not sure if she's ripping off me or just a deluded weeb since I found out my ex wanted to ask me for a job (he's been trying to talk to me again, he and I are cordial with each other but not friends) so yea I can't really do much about this since she pretty much turned her friends against my best friend and I'm guilty by proximity apparently so I'm just equally a bitch too
>her logic
Sorry for ranting, she rustles my jimmies by other cringe things she's done.

>>8566513
She ripped off a lot of people too but I wanted to keep it cgl related- sorry forgot to include that.

>>8566489
I hope opposites really do attract so I end up with someone that isn't an asshole then.

>>8566523
Well, there are people who are pretty misanthropic but still care about the wellbeing of their (few) loved ones, you don't have to worry too much about it.

>>8566502
>Is 140 cm tall
>Bf is 180+ cm tall
>Doggy style is fucking hell. Its either me or him
>Has to have millions of pillows just to raise my hips high enough for missionary
>He can't kiss me while fucking but atleast he can hold me tightly

It sucks in some ways but I like him being way taller than me. It feels just right with him and since he is more of a giver than receiver, I hardly give him bjs since he likes going down on me instead. Even though he is fit as well, he is such a cry baby and cutely needy when we are apart.

Atleast we have some big bears to protect us anon.

>bf breaks up with me due to sudden post-college long distance
>both heartbroken, he was a wreck at the time
>suddenly invited to visit him 2 months later (he offered to pay for travel and hotel if I wasn't comfortable staying with him, though I insisted on paying)
>has booked fireworks show and con tickets even though he doesn't like cons - I think he's also planning a closet couple cosplay
>he's trying to win me back and MASSIVELY suceeding
I'm excited, anons, and need to share. I think he might ask me to move in with him as he's moving out from his parents' soon.

>always been les curious
>fantasise about having a lolita SO all the time
>I'm too scared to ever act on these feelings
Crazy cat lady here I come

>>8566531
That's great anon! Wish you luck and happiness comes to you both!

I could use a woman's opinion on this, fellow gulls

>met a new friend years ago
>gradually get to know eachother up to the present time
>all of the same interests, same sense of humour, think she's beautiful
>but she's already in a relationship
>have other opportunities with women but feel like it's all a waste of time because I compare them all to her and they don't come close
>have no intention of trying to break it up, she says she's happy and that's all I want for her
>but at the same time still want to tell her how I feel

Should I tell her or just not bother?

>>8566545
Wait until they break up, then tell her. If they don't break up, don't tell her. Don't place your own feelings above her happiness.

>>8566530
Big bears are best men.
He is also very needy and cute when we are not together.

Mine loves bj, but I also like giving them, so win-win in this case.

>>8566531
!!!Good for you anon!

>>Ive had sexual fantasies of my current bf crawling back after dumping me

make him beg and buy you things, anon

>>8566545

I would try to date other girls anyway, just going on lots of casual dates will help you break away from your attachment to her. There's no hope in finding someone else if you don't give anyone a chance.

>>8566551
Thanks, this is solid advice. Dumping that on her would only really lift a weight off my own shoulders and doesn't really show any kind of consideration for how it'd affect her or our friendship.
>>8566565
Yeah, I see what you mean. I have no problem with casual dates or even fwb-type situations with girls I know, but I usually know immediately whether or not a woman is serious relationship material after a few conversations with them; you just get that click, and so far there's been nothing. I guess I just have to keep looking. Cheers for your post too.

>>8566332
I'm 4'10" and weigh 87 lbs , I know the pain. My niece who is 10 is taller than me...

>>8566258
dude i own that skirt in navy, and it's super tight on me but i can't bring myself to sell it. i think we can assume it's something to do with the print

>>8566397
Same anon, I got my period durning a con and spent an hour in the bathroom crying and vomming

Only good thing was that the staff just finished cleaning the place so no yucky floors. obvs didn't make/leave a mess.

>>8566262
I agree with anon saying you should see a doctor

BUT ALSO it's sooo possible to have a satisfying sex life without penetration

You can get your bf a fleshlight and use together, the flight model is ~40 dollars
>gave it to my bf as a gift, he loved it

If you learn to give good head and/or stand anal I'm sure he'll be fine living without piv sex

If you can still use your clit get a good vibe and use it together

God there are so many things you could do, if you're open-minded enough you can end up getting/giving better orgasms than lots of couples get from just banging.

>>8566578
I'm starting to believe this is a problem with Baby/AaTP. I own a skirt from them, the waist is listed as 62-73cm or something similar and it's super tight on me with a 70cm waist.

>>8566239
*stocked
That was a terrible idea. Doritos should only be enjoyed as tacos. It's gonna hurt unless you use a straw, and even then

>>8566417
This is wrong anon.

You shouldn't be in pain from penetrative sex unless something is out of place physically or psychologically.

You need more foreplay.

>>8566439
Yes. Go see a doctor. This is way worse than most periods.

>>8566461
It does sound like it's come to the end of its time Anon. Talk to him about it like an adult and say that you just don't see it as going anywhere.

>>8566479
A lot of people have their first sexual encounter after 18, Anon.

I did and I don't regret it. A lot of people have told me that they would have waited for someone else/a later age if they'd have realised the reality of the situation.

You're ready when you're ready, and you've found someone who you want to get it on with. No shame.

>>8566439
See a doctor ,worse than most and they should be able to help.

>Tfw soon to be 20 year old chick
>Never masturbated or gotten further than some intense rubbing
>Has no urge to fix that but wants crush's D real bad

I've always wondered what the fuck is wrong with me, I know nothing is wrong with masturbation but it just doesn't interest me.

>>8566466
I did, we were both volunteering at the time. But we were friends first before we got together, so we just tell that story instead.

>>8566622
Some people just need someone else to be there for it to be worth the bother. There's nothing wrong with you Anon. A large percentage of people never ever touch themselves, and that's fine.

>>8566607
I've had sexual experiences with a past boy friend but I was pretty young at that age so it was all pretty tame and then as well with a guy a sort of had a thing with for awhile. He asked me out but crippling self esteem issues and still probably do and said I'm sorry but I couldn't but told him I did like him but obviously didn't expect him to wait. A year after that I hooked up with him again but he didn't want to talk about it after. I can't really blame him for it though, I was a total mess both times, first time I was literally apologising, the entire time.
I also don't really like the idea of the attention being on me, at all, I have never really let a guy touch me. I have also never really masturbated properly or had an orgasm, even when I watch porn I usually watch gay stuff because I find it far more interesting then hetro.
I just feel weird because I am all for people having sex and strongly believe that men and women shouldn't be judged for their amount of sexual partners or anything and most of my closest friends share the same views. I feel like I am even cheating them in a way because they are also very pro masturbation and I have never told them i have never even had an orgasm.
I just want to be a normally functioning sexually active human.

So, I've been on birth control for the past two years now, it was pretty normal side effect for the most part. I.e mood swings, bit of weight gain, etc. But the past 6 months (ish) I've been getting weird brown spotting the week before and the week after my period. It just looks like old blood and there's not very much of it. It's pretty annoying and i'm kind of worried. I would say it's affecting my sex life, but it's not because I never really want to have sex anymore. I'm kind of bad at taking my pill at the same time every day and I've missed it completely a couple times, so I'm thinking this might have something to do with it? Does anyone have any similar experiences? Whenever I look anything up online I end up convincing myself I'm going to die from cancer ot something.

>>8566607
I lost my virginity at 14 to a boyfriend who ended up being abusive(not physically but emotionally and mentally) and who manipulated me into staying with him for 4 years. So yeah, waiting until you're older and less easily led is a much better idea imo. I wish I did.

I've only ever had sex with my current boyfriend, whom I've been dating for a really long time.
He's all around lovely, but absolutely TERRIBLE in bed.

I don't even mind that much, I don't usually have much of a libido so I'm fine with just light snogging. But he seems to want to do it a lot more and I just... Can't bring myself to tell him I don't want to do it because he's so bad at it.

And before you say anything, I've tried guiding him, telling him what feels good and what doesn't, everything. But he just doesn't get it and always gets frustrated if we have foreplay for even a wee bit longer than usual. I'm also not very experienced myself, obviously, so I may be just iving bad advice but for me it never actually feels good. It always takes too long and it's so tedious that I grow bored of the whole thing after five minutes, which is usually when he starts pounding into me and it fucking HURTS. Not to mention that he rarely orgasms as well, usually it's just so much ado about nothing.

I'm at my wits' end.

>>8566641
it's prolly just old blood. I got that shit when I wasn't on the pill.
Have you tried setting an alarm on your phone? I usually take mine at 9pm because I'm usually at home and if it makes me feel gross, I can just go to bed.

>>8566328
Vaginismus anon, don't despair! Like one of the other anons I used to suffer similarly but eventually it got after about 3 years.
For me I think it was finding the right person who made me feel safe and didn't get frustrated or have a scary size, but you already have that love there, so you might be able to work through it faster than I did.
For some people dilators really do work, but for me it was getting away from the internalised guilt and fear whilst just taking a lot of hot baths and getting to know myself. Although I still have rare days where I can't, now that I can have sex like a normal person I'm less obsessed with it.

>period starts
>get a migraine the same day
>over a day later and it still hasn't gone away

On a more positive/Ho note

I'm in a long term relationship, and it's gotten better than it was, but I have a baby crush on our one friend and I feel really bad about it. To make it worse he's into me too, as far as I can tell. It's one of those things where I just really, REALLY want to hold his hand, you know? He's weeaby like me, and loves to play minecraft. Both of these things my boyfriend isn't interested in (though he does watch anime). Every time he comes up to visit he goes everywhere with me, like if I go to the gas station to get drinks or if drive even further to pick up breakfast for everyone. He always asks if I'm coming with when he's getting picked up to come to our house. We both get comments on how we look "anime" (silly, I know) so we kind of joke around about that.
I'm kinda fat right now, though I dress cutely sometimes. My current BF doesn't really want me to dress in jfash because he's afraid I won't be able to take the ridicule, no matter how many times I told him I know it'll happen and I don't care because normies don't have a valid opinion on what I'm wearing. Baby Crush asked about the clothes I wear, and when I told him that I'm holding off to lose weight he told me I should just do it anyway.

Idk. I guess he just makes me feel super accepted so that's why I have a baby crush on him. I feel so bad though, because even when my boyfriend is right there I still really want to hold his hand. He always sits next to me when we go out. I'm losing weight again, because I want to be slime and be even more anime looking for him. This is so dumb. I hate feelings.

>>8566663
*slim not slime lol

>>8566660
Yeah, but it's the fact that it's been continuing for the past 6 months and I only have a week of not period/spotting that's bothering me. And yeah I have an alarm set, I even have an app for it, but sometimes I don't have my phone on me when it goes off or I'm busy at that particular moment and forget about it until an hour or two later. I take mine at 5pm because it was convenient while I was working. I might change the time to earlier or later and see how I get on.

>>8566666
It's Lucifer's child, quints confirm

So I want to get on the pill guys but I am worried about weight gain since I am trying to get healthier and lose it. Does the pill really add a few extra pounds? Will I get mood swings?

>>8566671
depends on the pill/your body chemistry. this first pill (FE24) I took made me feel crazy. The one I'm taking now (lutera) is all good except some vaginal dryness. you really need to do the 'try it and work with your doctor' approach for the pill.

>>8566652
That sounds horrible. For what it's worth, my boyfriend was like that was well, at the beginning. We were both inexperienced so I couldn't blame him much. He had somewhat low confidence due to his inexperience, and I could immediately tell when he got more anxious about it if I asked him to redirect the pressure or reposition or whatever he needed to do. He still tried his best and worked with me, and it took months, but eventually he was able to get the hang of it. I used to feel like I was better off masturbating than having fun with him, but now I can't give myself nearly the amount of pleasure he can.

Part of it was also me, and my mindset really, I can't entirely blame him for that. My expectation of it going to end in failure combined with my fear of never being able to have a fulfilling sex life made the whole ordeal into kind of a self fulfilling prophecy. I had little experience and honestly even had difficulty getting myself to cum sometimes. I didn't want to admit it to myself, but I was as much at fault as he was. Eventually it worked itself out, but I of course have bigger problems that I still deal with even if he can consistently give me orgasm now with toys and oral. On the other hand, I'm the one who feels like I never truly improved in giving him pleasure, and even if I can give him orgasms I feel they're not as fulfilling for him.

>>8566661
Thanks for the encouragement. I hope I don't have to do surgery or anything complicated.

>>8566277
Anal actually hurt me a lot less than my first time having piv sex. Just use lots of lube and take it slow, not to sound vulgar but your butthole loosens up pretty quickly. If you're too quick you'll get what feels like pretty bad cramps for a minute, but it's very different from the burning pain of being too quick in piv or what you experience and it really isn't unbearable pain or anything. Not to try pressure you or anything, but hopefully to just ease some of your anxieties maybe. It's not as scary as people make it out to be.

>>8566545
Seconding dating other girls whilst you wait for her anon. Tell her that you're going to start dating because you feel you should be getting it there and let her know what's going on with you, don't do it in an aggressive way and ruin your friendship. Heck, maybe she'll even realise she likes you after she doesn't get to have you all to herself. If not, you might meet someone else.

>this fucking thread
Women are insane.

>>8566663

You sound somewhat youngish but I'm not saying this as an insult. Basically you just have to think about your feelings and prioritize. Do you like your current bf? Do you plan on making a long lasting relationship with him? Does he make you happy?

If your current bf isn't satisfying you or making you happy, maybe it's time to move on and give baby crush a try.

But if you really like your current relationship enough to fight for it and be happy then do that. Tbh I think it's quite normal to be small crushes on others while in a relationship, but if you're truly wanting to stay in your current relationship you will try to keep your emotions in check so you can stay committed and happy with them.

And if your conflicted because it's difficult ending a long standing relationship, just tr to get it over with. It can be painful but think of new opprutinities you'll have because of it (like baby crush). And if in the end you end up being single, well then take some time to focus on yourself and love yo self < 3

>>8566277
Get an anal training kit. Your ass hold kind of loosens up on its own after a while, but don't just go shoving a whole cock in there. Start with your pinky finger and just play around a little. Use lots of lube. It's probably your best option right now, tbh.

>>8566671
Not entirely related to your question since the side effects are the same, but have you ever considered getting an IUD? I'm really surprised most girls don't go for those. Cheaper in the long run, no risk of forgetting to take it at the proper time or having to worry about keeping it scheduled, and lasts for years.

>>8566652
I'd sit him down and have a serious talk with him. He has to consider your needs too and not just his own. If he's not willing to try to improve for you then why should you even have sex with him if it does nothing for you? I'm sick to death of boys with that kind of attitude towards sex, it's selfish and unattractive.

Just posting this here, it's a good read.
http://www.telegraph.co.uk/women/mother-tongue/11554595/Pornography-has-changed-the-landscape-of-adolescence-beyond-all-recognition.html

It's less about the porn and more about all this anal talk in the thread

>>8566685
Oh gosh, thank you anon. I really wasn't expecting a kind response tbh. It really helped to hear that it's normal to have little crushes on others while in a relationship, I feel less guilty about it now. You're right with all of the other points too. I guess I have some thinking to do.

Hit month 7 of not having my period. Went to doctor and she thinks it's a STD or I'm pregnant. Told her I'm a complete virgin-- says she doesn't know what else it could be.

Any other gulls missed it for this long?

>>8566684
Women have bodily functions that they need to discuss with other women so they can be reassured that it's normal or be told that they need to do something about it because there's literally nowhere else to get information besides going to a doctor and paying money or dodgy websites that all conflict each other?
Yeah, we're insane.

>>8566704
Are you on the pill? I know some people stop getting periods completely when they go on the pill.
Other than that, I'm not sure.

>>8566707

Nope. I also get cramps and the like right before you get it but nothing.

Just came out the mental hospital 2 weeks ago and I still feel like shit and I don't trust my therapist. I still have suicidal thoughts and a plan but I don't wanna get out back into the hospital, it's nice but I rather not be there. I'm on antidepressants and have to take 3 anxiety pills a day (plus more if needed) and I feel like it doesn't do anything. I have a psychiatrist appt in September, hopefully I make it through next month.

>>8566695
I read a similar article a while ago. To the femanons who tried anal sex, can I ask what is it about it that feels good? Not being sarcastic or anything, just genuinely curious, I enjoy rimming but anal penetration does absolutely nothing for me.

>>8566696
It's absolutely normal. It's perfectly fine to appreciate others, you think he doesn't check out other girls on the street?

The only thing you need to remember is to keep yourself in check and BACK OFF the moment you start developing a crush. That way it'll hurt you both a lot less.

>>8566695
This is great. So many young people think that they have to do things because it's expected of them. I was one of them. Nothing against porn, but people need to realise that it's not the reality, it's mostly staged.
>I have a mighty need to help all the young girls being coerced into doing things with their boyfriends that they shouldn't

>>8566704

If you have anorexia or other ailments, that will stop your period. I used to be on the depo shot for birth control.after I came off it i didn't have a period for a long time, maybe 8 months

>>8566681
He's suggested it but won't pressure me into it. I also have this overly hygienic anxiety from my strict parenting from a germaphobe mother. I can't shake the disgust out of my head at the act, even if I know it really isn't a big deal. It took me forever just to get over sharing the same cups with him, or letting him give me oral (boy was I missing out). I even still have trouble with French kissing, honestly. I know there isn't anything I should worry about; but I had a mother than would spank me with a belt for something as small as not washing my hands AFTER dinner or after taking off dirty clothes to put in the hamper, or wiping the family keyboard down with alcohol wipes when o finish using it.

So, maybe I can, but I have so many anxieties I need to get over. I'm just glad he understands.

>>8566456
Same anon, my bf has a similar dick but I was a virgin and super nervous the first time we had sex, it was definitely a process trying to get it in and I felt crazy sore for days after. Hell my cervix hurts if we have sex more than twice in a day since we always get carried away and go too hard.
Best of luck to the other sex-anons, my best friend had a mental block that took her a while to work through but she's happier now and can manage fingers and the occasional PIV sex. There is hope!

>>8566716

I have depression and anxiety also recently started dieting. It's just a little freaky not having it for so long. When you did get it was it 'bad'?

>>8566711

I love anal penitration but I haven't worked myself up to actual anal sex yet. I love the idea of dp and being completely full. Things in my butt feel good but I'm not a huge fan of them sliding in and out a lot? That can be painful. I either just leave it there, sort of wiggle it around, or small strokes of penitration instead of lengthy ones

>>8566719

The first few times yes. Not too much pain but I don't regularly get horrible periods. But the flow was crazy. Also when it did come back it was still somewhat irregular in its cycle but it's evened out now

>>8566711
I've tried it a few times and it either hurt like hell so much so that I'd cry or it felt really weird, like there shouldn't be something up there. It feels violating. It does nothing for me, personally. But that could just be because it mentally freaks me the fuck out due to an ex manipulating me into doing it :/ But everyone is different so I'd say try it once or twice at least. Just do it properly and use a LOT of lube. I cannot even describe the pain if you do it wrong.