/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL

This was before my time but I recognise a few familiar faces.

>Lolita from another country is visiting your comm
>Praying minimum amount of itas would show up.

>>8495270
That's what you get for coddling itas in the first place.

>>8495183
Same, though what I want to know is who keeps trying to make this picture a thing, there are so many different comm group pictures available now

I'm a lone Lolita in upper western Michigan (downstate). I can't find any trace of a community online anywhere. Does anyone know if one exists, and if it does, how do they all get together? I'd appreciate it, thanks.

>>8495731
We have one community, it's based in the Metro Detroit area, but I know there are some lolitas farther away who are still a bit active on the page and look to get together as well (because I'm not sure exactly where you are). You'll be looking for the "Michigan Frill-itia" on Facebook, we have casual meets once a month, but do special events or separate get together a pretty often as well. It's a very nice and laid-back community!

>>8495281
I'm not in your comm but I like this picture. I recognise some people and see their improvement. That's a good thing, right?

Are there any English speaking lolitas in Hong Kong? I know they've got a comm but I was told hardly anyone there speaks English.

>>8495731
Michigan's comm has really been picking up steam in terms of activity levels like >>8495737
mentioned, and even though there's still the lingering stigma of not being the best-dressed comm, everyone's super-friendly and helpful.

Fun comm story!

>Having a huge meet up for a con.
>We all meet at the giant coffee house a few blocks from the con.
> Lolitas hanging out being cute.
>Young asian lolita approaches me and asks to take a picture with the group in broken English, excitedly pointing to her dress and mine. She was wearing J&J
>It turns out she wasn't with the group! She was a random tourist who happened to be a lolita and happened to be in exactly the right place at the right time.
>The magic of lolita, bring people together.

>>8495846
aw.

There's an "International Harajuku Fashion Day" being run by a mod if my comm, it's fine for me to show up in lolita right?

>>8495864
Yep! Those events are for celebrating all jfashion and getting the wearers together, so they're open to lolita, fairy kei, visual kei, decora, etc

>>8495846
That's so precious, I can't imagine how happy it must have made her!

>>8495731
There's really only one Michigan comm and it's mainly focused in the Southern areas. There's another comm I believe but I don't believe it's very active.

>>8495846
That's adorable.

>>8495277
You say that as if you can be an ass to them in public.

>>8495270
If you are in the SF comm, there is hope.

>>8495270
Chanel?

>>8495743
What? English is commonly a second language in hong kong

>>8496429
OH THANK GOD. I CAN'T WAIT FOR THIS BITCH TO LEAVE.

>>8495864
ATX?

>>8497275
eh not really, its part of school but you'll still get young adults struggling with english. Also depends on where in HK.

>from HK, but living in aus

>>8495057
How is the Colorado comm doing, I don't meet them often like other do or planned more. The closest one is a swap meet on the 29th of august

>>8497322
No, DC.

>>8497315
Unfortunately San Lorenzo is still in Alameda county.

>>8496295
No but you don't have to invite them to every gathering either. If they are sometimes excluded or slightly snubbed, they might get the message quicker and fix their shit.

>>8495057
baito.

>>8497349
thats bris com lol

>>8497817
It's been done. She then complained about being autistic.

>>8495057
I wish we could see the trainwreck of a coord of the girl with the hot pink wig and cat ears must have

a while back an anon made a poll for NYC lolitas for a picnic in the park or something. what happened with that?

>>8497349
The CO comm is fine. Most of the regulars are well dressed, but there's a few itas/newbies/LOLcows that show up occasionally. NDK is also coming up, and will have the lolita boutique and AP tea party.

>>8497355
>mfw i live in NoVA and kinda want to go to this but i know it'll be full of itas

>>8499059
I think if you can't dress yourself decently within the lolita fashion rules and maintain a measure of social appropriateness in public in a group, you shouldn't be expected to be invited to meets.

Yes it's going to exclude some but we aren't all besties here, and we spend a lot, including money, time and effort to have events and it is also not fair to let a few ruin it. I do not think it is too much to ask that people uphold a few basic standards if they expect to be invited out.

Let the comm have 1-2 free for all meets where the admin can babysit the socially awkward, the noobs, the weebs... but organizing smaller more selective meets otherwise is the best, and makes more people very happy.

>>8499163
It's not even that she dresses badly. We have plenty of questionable dressers in the comm, and they're still invited with open arms. It's just that she's been blatently rude to several members of the community and has really questionable opinions on subjects that she insists on posting publicly. That's why no one wants to interact with her at a meet. Not because of her autism or because she's an awkward ita.

>>8499343
She defended a banned member of the Comm who had blatant misbehavior with members and a general disregard for the fashion. I think that sums it up about her.

>>8499059
boo fucking hoo

>>8499128
I always wonder whether or not I'm in any of those categories. And how I can improve on them into acceptance

>>8497817
How on earth would you do that though? I don't like coddling itas, but outright excluding them from community events would surely perpetuate the "lolita elitist!!11" archetype. Even seasoned Lolitas would find it to be pretty rude to exclude people.

>>8495057
What do you girls do in these things?
What's a comm?

>>8499485
Private get togethers of just friends. Not the whole comm. Several comms do this. Also, more expensive events with shorter notice will often keep lots of the poorfag itas away. Or limited number of tickets/spaces. Tell people you don't like 'sorry, no tickets left'. Be creative.

>>8499866
A comm is a community, usually a group of locsl Lolitas. My comm likes to go to the bar and also have tea parties.

My entire comm is full of itas and not just I can only afford bodyline itas.
but
>wa-lolita wearing
>brand shaming
>handmade disasters
>square dancing dresses
>petticoat-less
>cosplay lolitas

There's no hope for my comm myself and two other girls are the only ones that look nice, but it's so embarrassing to go out with the rest of the comm. All they do is talk about cosplay, whatever recent anime they are watching, and their otps.

I'm the only one that wears brand and they all make me feel shitty for dropping a lot of money on my coords.

>>8499926
I'd visit a nearby comm if there was one and also invite the 2 presentable ones out to do things. Maybe just go with the comm to a couple of things. And dress up alone. I'm sorry your comm sucks, Anon.

what's the standard ettiquette if there's more than one comm? i've heard the comms in my area hate each other and i don't know if i can join both. i don't want to say my area because it'll be obvious it's me who was talking about them when i join up out of nowhere...

>>8500052
No harm in joining both at the start to see who you fit in better with, surely. You're new, you can hardly be expected to be filled in on comm drama from ages ago. If one comm has a problem with you playing the field when you're new, they're probably not a very good one.

>Go to Mechacon.
>Excited about meeting the Nola comm.
>Everyone in the comm was cliquish.
>Only made friends with the few out of towners.

Later I find out they're like that to everyone.

>>8495270
The meet turned out ok I think!

>>8499105

I only got a few votes on my survey for the best date, but I'm still down to organize it. I removed the July dates so now the general consensus is either 8/15 or 8/16, which is a little less than a month away from Yanise's event, which I really don't want to detract from. But anyone interested can still vote here!

https://docs.google.com/forms/d/1wHnUbaMoflfgT156nsPrYNQvcdcd_mQVZnEwqy92GQI/viewform?usp=send_form

>>8500325
Some of them are. I think a lot of them are just very awkward and shy. Sorry you had that sort of experience.

>>8500325
Yep. That's how I felt too.

>>8499343
honestly start giving her ban warnings, it's only a matter of time before she slips up badly enough to be banned if she's being genuinely rude

>>8499926
I'm sorry anon. Have you thought of joining another comm?

Lol at the girl in the NYC comm trying to host her birthday party full of random strangers instead of friends because she wants a lolita themed party.

>>8501745
>>8501882
It's ok, it was just a one-time thing anyways. Just felt disappointed because I have a mutual friend who is close with the girls in Nola, said they were cool, but felt they were stuck-up than shy.
If I wasn't sucking up to them or e-famous I was tossed aside.

How do you guys even join comms?
I've been on the fence on joining my local comm or not for a few years now, but I just think it's so weird.
Like you don't know these people and you only share a fashion interest with them, yet you all sit there wearing weirdo clothes and spend a few hours with each other. What do you talk about? Just lolita? Anime? Fashion in general?
It seems so random.

>>8503235
I had a really good experience when I first joined my comm as a newbie, but my comm is known for general friendliness. Going to a big meet, public meet is good for starting to meet a comm, because you can circulate and listen into different topics and see if anyone is talking about things that interest you. Lots of people discuss lolita, of course, but last time I went to a big meet I walked around from group to group and heard people talking about topics ranging from video games to politics to circumcision. If you find people who you enjoy talking to, you can further engage them in conversation or add them on Facebook or whatever.

>>8503235
I was given some great advice when I was on the fence about joining my comm: Join up, check it out, give it a go - you can always leave if you don't like it. No one is holding a gun to your head to make you stay if you don't want to but meanwhile you could be missing out on some fun stuff and new friends.

>>8503423
Oz comm?
I gave similar advice a while back and I always hope that the person came and enjoyed themselves enough to stay.

How's the Cambridge comm, if there is one? I might be moving to the UK soon.

>>8495057
I'm in a somewhat tricky situation and was wondering what you gulls though. I'm about 1.5 hours from the Atlanta comm and my only transport is a bus ride that's 80$ round trip, which seems somewhat ludicrous. Is it worth it to go to meets there? I've lurked their group but I don't want to go to a ton of meets if I'm dropping 100 dollars just to get there and pay for meet activities. Is anyone familiar with the culture there?

>>8503788
*thought

>>8503235
I like the community feeling. I've met a lot of good friends through my comm. Some of us are very different from each other and that's fine, but you're bound to find some people you share other interests with.

>>8503235
I went to my first meet up a couple weeks back..we just got snacks, dinner, walked around a bit and got to know each other. Discussion was mostly on lolita, like prints, current events, lamenting bodyline's hiked prices etc. But there was plenty of talk about just general interests too. It was just a social gathering where everyone was dressed nice and took pictures. Pretty fun! Definitely looking forward to more meets.

I'd say go in to just socialize and look at pretty outfits, to start. You'll probably figure out your own reasons for joining as you go along

>>8503776
Cambridge comm is pretty small but has good lolitas. You can easily join up with neighbouring comms for meets too

>>8503235
Joining a comm is like meeting any group of new people e.g at work, university, sports club
First it is one common thing that brings you together but as you spend time with each other and get to know each other you find many other things that you share and you take an interest in their life outside of what the original thing that brought you together was.

>>8503788
Overrated. Too much drama for me.

>insert rant regarding sf comm here
Poor mods

>>8504322
>tfw Chanel/Ariella posting in FB group again.

>>8504335
>tfw not only this, but some newbies are trying very hard to act like they've been around for ages

>>8501381
well, put in my two cents!

>>8504322
Lol Saturday and/or Sunday meets should be fun guizzzzzz

>>8504335
Did anyone get screen caps before the post was deleted today? Saw the post but missed the comments...

>>8504384
I wish. I only saw it a few hours ago when it had four likes

>>8504384
Were there comments?

>>8504413
Don't think there were any. But a different post

1/3

>>8504433
2/3

>>8504441
3/3

>>8500325
>>8501745
>>8501882
They really are all just super shy and tight-knit (the comm is relatively small and it's always the same faces who show up to every meet up). If you were to actually join the comm they'd be the same way, but warm up eventually

>>8503235
It's not that weird, people join clubs/organizations/etc. for one hobby and make friends not solely based on that hobby. And for me, my comm provides me with people to talk about my favorite hobby with since everyone else in my life is painfully normalfag

>>8500325
They feel like Houston 2.0 to me.

>>8504384
I'm assuming that Chanel posted some bullshit? I completely missed this, summary plz?

>>8504524

Oh hell no, Nola girls are above houston. I have a few girls from both comms and nola just needs time to warm up to people. I can say that this year was stressful for alot of girls because all of a sudden people became interested in them because of BTSSB versus actually coming to the con to go. Nola is a small comm so when all these HLC girls and other out of state girls are coming,they close mental doors so they don't end up like HLC.

>>8504551
"Guiz Melissa is going to this non-lolita event that over 200 people RSVP'd, just so you guiz know."

>>8504586
Why would she tell them that?
Wasn't she his biggest advocate?

reading these threads always makes me feel so relieved about my comm, I feel like I hit the jackpot sometimes seeing some of the drama that happens in other places.

in old pictures so many people look terrible but it's changed a lot over the years. everyone is pretty friendly, drama is non-existent, mostly everyone dresses well, and it's not crowded with young teenagers either. thank you mana sama

>>8500325
Hm... me and my friends didn't have a hard time at all socializing with the NOLA girls. We're from out of town too with little outside contact beforehand.

>>8504593
Seems like she will post anything for the sake of posting, and legit thought she was helping by bringing it up. She's not the type to "think before you speak".

>>8503792
Aww, that sucks. I was hoping they had a good comm when I move there soon

>>8504696

>AHAHAHAHA

Has Seattle cooled off yet? I'm moving there at the beginning of the school year, wanted to know what was up.

AZ comm,
This is a really stupid question that I'm afraid to ask while in non-anon
But who exactly are the admins?
I know Dianna and Candice but are there any others? Alex seems to act like an admin but I don't know if she's officially one or not. Huyvan is probably the best dressed in the comm, but I don't think she's officially a leader either.
Is there a list somewhere?

>>8504709
I'd say so!

>>8504175
Really?

>>8504937
Dianna cherice and candice. I dont know where everyone is getting "alex is a mod" from. You dont have to be a mod to host events or answer noob questions. And being best dressed or whatever has nothing to do with being a mod either. There have been a few well dressed girls in the past that if they had been an admin i wouldn't of stayed in the community.

>>8505228
Cherise is a mod? I haven't seen her at a meet in a really long time.

>>8505260
Mods don't necessarily go to meets often, man.
Only one of the mods in our comm does

>>8505260
I had an issue somewhat recently and they added me to a group chat with all three of them.

>>8504335
I'm new to the sf comm. what's up with her? Other than her frequent comments.

Lone lolita in Lincoln, UK.

Where are you, girls?

>>8505320
No.
Chanel and Ariella are two different girls.
Here's a tip: use warosu or some other site and search by keyword.

most of the new girls are chill and wouldn't go on here to search for deets- they would just ask someone.
Are you really in the comm?

>>8505360
there is a group. so search on facebook

>>8505320
Ariella stalks down random girls in the comm and spams AANI and the SF comm page with random shit.
She went to AANI thinking that no one know about Etsy like gurl it's 2015.
She begged someone to buy her a Chess Story dress on the comm page because she isn't allowed to buy shit online.

>>8504562
That's good to hear, ish. I thought I was just getting pushed back but I guess that's why. Being shy is both a blessing and a curse. Hopefully you guys warm up to us out of towners.

>>8500325
I'm super sorry about that. It bums me out to hear that because I always feel we are pretty chill. Please, join the facebook group and introduce yourself!
tfw tried hard to make sure everyone was talked to

>>8504562
This because we only had 26 people at the teaparty last year, this year we had 60. We had a massive in surge of new people and it was a huge production. If anyone had any issues though, you can always contact the lolita coordinator for mechacon, I'm sure she'd be happy to talk to you guys

>>8500325
Sorry you feel that way. Allot of us were on staff for the convention. It was our first time with a brand too. So we hardly had any time or sleep to socialize like we normally do. As for being cliquish I can see why some members feel that way. Allot of us have known each other since we were teenagers. I promise if you try to talk to us at a meet up or online you won't have an issue getting to know people.

>>8501381
>>8499105

Votes are pretty evenly split between Saturday 8/8, Saturday 8/15 and Sunday 8/16 so I've trimmed it down to these three dates. I'll make a few last calls ITT this week and post the date Friday, feel free to email me if you want a reminder!

https://docs.google.com/forms/d/1wHnUbaMoflfgT156nsPrYNQvcdcd_mQVZnEwqy92GQI/viewform?usp=send_form

>>8499134
I-I'm not ita, anon-san.

>tbh I tend to avoid "Harajuku fashion walks" because I don't get the point of walking around in the hot sun just to have dozens of tourists ask if you're in a play.

>>8506436
This, my comm's fasboon walk is taking place super close to where I live and even though I feel like dressing up today and looking cute I can't bring myself to want to go

>pretty sure it's only the ita newbies of the comm anyway

>>8506395
it says i must select exactly 3 options, lol

can you reduce to 1 or 2?

>>8495057
Can anyone tell me how the San Antonio comm is like?

>>8506896

lol whoops

fixed! https://docs.google.com/forms/d/1wHnUbaMoflfgT156nsPrYNQvcdcd_mQVZnEwqy92GQI/viewform?usp=send_form

>>8508609
thanks! i am getting excited.

>>8508609
Just voted! Thank you for doing this anon. Do you have an idea when you'll post meet details by? I assume they'll be in this/next comm thread?

>>8506926
Why, you gonna be at San Japan?? We're relatively small, and relatively close-knit. We have a mixed bag of styles and coording levels. There's really not much to say about us, there's not really any drama, we like to chat shit as much as any other human being, and we try to be welcoming of newbies so just come hang out with us.

>>8509119

This Friday!

>>8506238
I just wanna say I had like the exact opposite experience with NOLA. The very first meet I went to I was treated like a regular. Everyone was super friendly and warm. Stuck up is the last phrase I'd ever use to describe NOLA.

>>8506238
This is exactly what I think caused it. Aside from the shyness, there was just a lot going on and everybody was trying to make sure things went smoothly.
I hope anyone with a negative experience will give us another chance. We really do try to be friendly and welcoming.

>>8510075
Thank you for sharing your positive experience.

Are there any Missouri comms? I've searched for some, but I could only find a deactivated livejournal.

>>8513127
>Which part of Missouri? There's a Kansas City comm and I'm pretty sure there's one in Columbia, and another in St. Louis.

>>8503450
Yep, Oz comm. Took your advice and it turned out to be a good experience. Thank you, Advice Chan. I try to pass it on when I can.

>>8513223
Glad to hear.
I'm curious as to who you are, but I'm sure we've met by now.

>>8513350
We more than likely have. I'll give you a hint if you like. Pic related, ask me "what did one seagull say to the other seagull?" next time you see me. I don't keep it secret that I am on here but I don't go around blurting it out because I know some of the other girls are sensitive about this site from past experiences. I don't want some shit posting troll pinning me for any crap they want to stir up in the group.

What's the Indiana community like? I want to join in but I'm kind of scared of how horrible things might be because I've never seen any pictures.

What's the Savannah/northern Georgia/southern south Carolina comm like? I'll be going to SCAD for college in September and I swear to god art school attracts both good lolitas and tumblr kei/special snowflake itas
The last time I was there visiting the school I saw 2 or three itas

>>8503788
Have you tried looking at the other comms. Im not from GA but I know there are at least two comms over there

>>8513653
The Comm is good and the Admins are sweet. If you're moving to NW Indiana, you should consider joining the Chigothloli Comm.

>>8506238
>>8500325

I was actually bummed I didnt get to go and meet the NOLA comm. I had some friends who went and it looked like they really enjoyed themselves. Especially the fashion show and tea party.

>>8513800
Come see us next year, or visit us and we can plan a meet!

>>8513906
If my friends go again, I will definitely try to go too

>>8513799
I had heard that they get super paranoid about members using /cgl/, and that they get pissy about people swearing in public. I'm the last person to not understand trying to reign the teenaged weebs/itas in, but, it sounded a bit much tbh

>>8513127
There are on facebook. I'm in St. Louis but not really part of the comm. What part are you around?

>>8514053
Oh also the fb group is called St. Louis/Missouri loiltas.

>>8513144 There's actually 2 KC comms now.

>>8503944
is the cambridge comm active still though? I live elsewhere but my parents are in cambridge and the facebook page is completely dead (different anon here)

Is the Seattle comm worth joining? Or is it still a dramu pit? I'm possibly moving there soon-ish.

>>8514108
It's not super active like Leeds, Bristol, London etc. but if you wanted to do a meet up I think people would still come

>>8514104
Is it because of those two girls who just don't get along? For a while i knew there were two "groups" but one was mostly just the older girls who were better friends.

>>8513980
>they get pissy about people swearing in public
lol well you've obviously never been to a meet, the comm doesn't give a shit about swearing as long as it's not obnoxious. one of the mods swears like a sailor.

>>8514104
How did that happen? Deets?

Any local Seattle lolitas who maybe want to hangout and eat sometime in the first week of August? My boyfriend, 2 friends, and I are coming up for Ti, but we don't know much about the area and I kind of just want to meet some people.

Also wondering what reactions are like in Seattle? I was wanting to bring some of my coords.
Nobody cares here unless you're in a big group or dressed OTT sweet.

>>8515008
>>8514180
I think so. But it was more that the group of friends wouldn't show up at any meets where that group wasn't.

>>8504524
Uh, no, not even close.

Do other comms have a problem with people wanting to come to meet-ups not dressed in lolita? I don't get that. I waited til I had a halfway decent coord before showing up to a meet. Seemed like common sense to me.

>>8516489
Our comm has had it happen a few times. It's usually either friends/boyfriend of someone attending (which is only a problem if they're there to rubberneck and don't talk to anyone), or someone from another comm who is visiting, but couldn't bring a coord due to baggage space restrictions.

All in all, I think we've only had one person try to attend a meet to "check out the comm" without wearing lolita, and she got an outfit together before the next time she showed up.

>>8516542
We had a girl show up to her first meet not in lolita, without telling us beforehand. And it was a slumber party meet. When none of us had ever met her before. At lunch she put sugar in her water and drank sugar water. It was... an experience.

>>8516605
My only question here is why would you invite a new member to a slumber party in the first place? That seems like a recipe for awkward from the get-go.

>>8516623
It wasn't my event. Our comm is really tiny, and the admin just invited the entire group. Normally the same few people show up to each meet. This one had been in the group for a while but completely inactive til then. Why pick that as your first meet up to attend?

>>8516829
I meant the general "you", not you particularly.

Still, probably wise to make meets held at home a bit more selective in future. Not just because of weirdos, but also because of more limited space constraints.

>>8513655
I have been to one of the Savannah meets and they were all very nice. Some people were kinda meh dressed but they weren't quite full on ita and weren't obnoxious or anything. I enjoyed it and will probably go to some more meets with them.

>>8516605
Wait... did she also have packets of sugar in her car? I think we are in the same comm!

>>8515033
i'd love to meet and hang out, anon! btw, there is a big swap meet on aug 8th if you want to meet a good amount of the seattle comm

>>8516489
I don't see why this is a HUGE issue. If it's something like ILD, yeah, obviously, just don't come. But otherwise what difference does it make if you have one person on the side dressed down? If that gives them courage to wear lolita next time, then whatever.

If they consistently come to meetups without a coord that's another issue.

>>8516489
Generally yes. That's what the meetups are for. There are a lot of people who are not used to wearing lolita by themselves in public, too, so the meets can offer such individuals a "safety in numbers" thing going. Let's face it, we all look like freaks in these clothes to normal people, but at least if a douche-bro decides that we're fodder for jokes, they'd have to face an entire group instead of half a group. (Also, let's face it, any attending "fan of lolita" who doesn't have full coord yet is likely to be a raging weaboo who cannot dress themselves well in regular clothes, either, so there goes the slim possibility that we look like a group of Bohemian artists)

I usually put down two exceptions to the rule: meets where the host explicitly states a lax dress code like "casual lolita and general J-fashion" (this is super-nice during summer), or a swap meet where some people are either leaving or entering the fashion. I've gone to a swap meet before where someone bought her very first piece (brand, too).

>>8515033
Like another person said, you should come to the swap meet!

>join comm
>someone i need to avoid is there, surprise!
>related to an unstable person who stalked and harassed me, who according to her did nothing wrong
>panic
>join a bigger comm further away that i know she cannot afford to travel to

fuck. it's not like i needed local lolita friends or anything, i have 4chan.

Would it be weird to have a meetup for doing each other's hair and makeup? Hair and makeup are a big part of looking good in lolita and I've noticed that some girls in my comm (including myself, tbh) seem to struggle with them whereas others always look amazing. Personally I was sort of able to teach myself how2makeup but when it comes to doing my own hair I'm a total mess. I'd love to have someone else do my hair and learn new 'dos but I'm afraid that a meetup like this would end up too much of a one-way street and that neither the girls who could help nor the girls who really need help but aren't aware of it would want to come.
>tfw grew up tomboy without sisters
>I just want to experience girly girl time once in my life and learn how not to suck at hair

>>8518474
I think we're talking about different people which just makes it that much weirder, haha.

>>8518493
Our comm is REALLY small. When there are only 4 people at a meet, one person not being in lolita stands out a lot more. Not saying it's a huge issue, it's just annoying to me.

>>8518691
I would love a meetup like this. Hair, nails, makeup, the whole shebang. It would be so cute and everyone could go out for tea once they're all dolled up. I can imagine someone giving another person a shit makeover or burning someone's hair with a curling iron bc they have no clue what they're doing though, lol

>>8518691
This is a creative idea. Generally if there is a big meet in our comm and some people from out of town come, we will stay at someones place the night before and get ready all together.
There was a couple occasions I had to help someone else with their eye lashes and one time where all of us helped a girl who wanted help with her makeup.

>>8509621

Last call for voting for the date, I'll post it tomorrow & in the next comm thread.

https://docs.google.com/forms/d/1wHnUbaMoflfgT156nsPrYNQvcdcd_mQVZnEwqy92GQI/viewform?usp=send_form

>>8518646
Hi batty! It's funny how you love to claim to never go on cgl when all your posts are blindingly obvious

I'm helping to organize a themed meet, but I realized I don't have anything which really actually fits the chosen theme. The event is 3 weeks away, and I'm not even stressed yet, which is scary in itself.

>>8505627
Not previous anon and I already know about Chanel and Ariella, but even though I'm in the community, I'm not close with anyone and wouldn't know who to ask. Maybe previous anon's the same.

>>8516605
Maybe she is an alien...

>>8495057
who's that azn boy at the back
is he qt
pls post him

>>8520296
What makes you think it's Batty?

What is the So Cal comm like? I'll be moving there soon and checked out the fb page. It looks very generic and like not much meets going on. Is it also split into many secret groups like the NYC comm? How can I find the comm with no drama?

>>8520995
Haha, I definitely considered that.

And expanding on what I said in >>8518705, of the 5 people attending our meet tomorrow only 3 plan to wear lolita. It kinda kills the whole "strength in numbers" vibe when half the group isn't in any sort of j-fashion.

>>8520296
i am the anon you are replying to. your worldview seems very skewed if you are convinced you know who i am. maybe see someone about that paranoia before you get into unnecessary drama.

what other posts do you think are her?

tip: i don't selfpost anywhere except /cgl/ and have never participated in a comm before.

>>8504709
LEL

The shit stirrers will never calm down.

>>8521729
It's split by region, and all of them are pretty laid-back/drama free for the most part. There's separate sub-comms for Los Angeles, Orange County, San Diego, Beach Cities, and Inland Empire. LA and SD are the largest and most active.

>>8520834
that's why anon suggested to use warosu or some other archive site.
All you have to do is look up "sf comm," or "sf," and you're in business.
Or pay attention to who posts annoying things, and then search their respective names

>>8518930

Voting's over, Saturday August 15th's it! Open to suggestions for where to meet, I'm not really familiar with Central Park above 65th.

>>8522309
No real opinion on location here either but are you planning for the picnic to be potluck? Just wanted to ask if you have an attendee # estimate based on number of votes so we can plan how much to bring along for snacks.

>>8522326


9 out of 20 people voted for 8/15, I'd estimate 8-12 people will come?

anyone else miss arizona drama?

Any thoughts on the best UK comm?

>>8524078
No

>>8524078
No. Stop trying to make drama where there is none.

>>8522309
there is a statue of Alice and Wonderland, i can look up the map. it would be perfect.

>>8524097
Google maps is derping but the site says it's "East side at 75th".

http://www.centralparknyc.org/things-to-see-and-do/attractions/alice-in-wonderland.html

what do you think?

>>8524106

>>8524106

Yassss this is perfect. Let's meet at the statue around noon.

I want to feel bad for the Melbourne girls who showed up, but I'm laughing too much at the people they're hanging out with.

>>8525818
fixed

>>8525818
You can feel bad all you want but everyone had a great time today and everyone was super friendly. There was only a couple of cringe worthy people there and everyone else was pretty much normal.

Take your salt somewhere else.

>>8525836

No need to get your kawaii uguu Harajuku girl knickers in a twist, sweetie. Or did you organise this shitfest?

>>8525822
Feels terrible for those girls, they're so sweet and kind. Hate to see them associated with such a trainwreck.

>>8525839
So let me get this straight, lolitas are only allowed to hang out with other lolitas? Any other fashion wearers aren't acceptable is that it?

>>8525842
>>8525836
80% of the other people look like they dressed themselves in the dark. Not because of their style but because of how they fail to execute it. Now fucking chill. I'm sure there were friendly people around there, but this ain't facebook and if people want to laugh at fashion disasters let them.

>>8525836
>>8525838
>>8525839
>>8525842

>>8525842
You sound so bitter, are you one of the terrible 'fashion wearers' in the pic?

>>8525844
It's fine to point out the fashion disasters but unfair to call this event a trainwreck when the organizer worked super hard to make sure everyone was having a good time and taken care of.

>>8525846
That depends on what your definition of terrible fashion is.

>>8525822
I love how Cat does her serious face in every photo when she wears gothic.

You fuckers have terrible personalities. How about you go fucking do something productive instead of sitting on this shitfest of a board and judging people for being themselves. I bet you fashion police asshats dress like ita's anyhow. Prove me otherwise bitches kek
OR ARE YOU TOO SCARED TO POST YOUR UGLY FACES ONLINE?

>>8525822
Thanks for singling out the stuck up whores of Melbourne #lolitabitch

What do you gals think about the Dutch comm? Is it any good? Are the girls nice?
I'll be moving to Holland next year and thinking of joining their comm.
As a shy person I already find it difficult to join a comm and it will be the first time I join a comm that isn't online so I'd love to hear about this one.

>>8525864
>stuck up
lmao wtf. do you even know them or are you just trying to stir shit?

>>8525864
Oh sweetie those girls are the nice ones.
A stuck up one would've turned and walked away at the first sight of this mess.

*chanting*
BITCH FIGHT BITCH FIGHT BITCH FIGHT

>>8525864
Stuck up or have standards? You do not seem to have enough class to tell the difference, my condolences.

We all know lolitas are just rich gals with no style trying to fit into their elitist fantasy land. kek what a lolfest.

>>8525875
That's right, i forgot you where Queen of Fashion chan *bows*

Jesus christ gulls, don't take the fuckin bait holy shit

>>8525889
Swallow it like the dicks down your throats haters

>>8525886
>bawwww i have no taste so ill sarcastically make fun of others
Anon that's not how it works, get that log out of your eye before you check others' specks

>>8525869
The Dutch comm is a nice comm. Not much drama and people are very nice. It's a big comm for a small country. We have more than 500 member. About 150 of them are active. Most of the activities are planned at the facebook group, so if you want to join the comm it's a good idea to join the facebook group. It's called ''Dutch lolitas (official facebook group)''. There are meet-ups every month. Most of the meets are in Utrecht. I would recommend you to go to a smaller meet. It's easier to get to know people that way, especially when you are shy. Big meets are also a lot of fun, but it's more difficult to get to know other lolitas well.

I really want to join my local comm, but it's super small and tight knit. It's like 5 active people who seem more like a group of friends. Some meets start at the comm leader's home. The FB group feels super personal since she's announcing celebrating her birthday at her new workplace and all that stuff. It somehow feels super awkward being in the group, because to me they are a bunch of strangers...

>>8525838
That's probably her, she lurks here.
Never did taken a shine to her. kek!

>>8524070
Cool, thanks! Can't wait for the meet!

>>8524106
>>8524562
Works for me. It's constantly swarming with families and kids crawling all over it just so everyone is aware/comfortable with that.

>>8524090
The UK lolitas are normally members of multiple comms & very friendly. I don't really think we are that bothered about which comm is best its just seems summat or nowt.

>>8495846
This is super cute, anon! I bet it made her day.

>>8525818
Was this a lolita meet or a general j-fash meet...? Wtf

>>8526262
Oh derp, I just noticed the sign. Nevermind.

>>8499134
Is NoVa an active comm? I'm moving to Williamsburg, VA next year, and I think SoVa is completely dead, so I was hoping for an active Virginia comm.

i'm so fucking done with wonderbitch posting in the SF comm facebook group like she's a part of it. she should go back to the dumpster where she belongs and stop shitting up a comm that purged some bad members.

>>8526150
i guess if it's too busy, whoever arrives first can move within eyesight to a less crowded area. a group of frilly people would be hard to miss.

>>8526669
and by "whoever" i meant that in a plural sense! not just someone wandering off alone.

>>8526649
Woah woah woah what's going on now?

>>8513655
There actually aren't many lolitas in the Savannah area. Savannah in general is pretty much surrounded by nothing.
There's a few people who dress in jfashion and a few lolitas so you will see them around.

I'm so done with the two chick from ATLcomm derailing 2 threads at once. Who the fuck is the lolcow one and what did she do?

>>8513653
I live in Indiana and haven't actually met the Indiana comm. They do all of their meets about 2-3 hours south of where I live, so I tend to stick with Chicago. If you're moving to NWI, then there's a small cluster there that's part of Chicago comm and everyone is really cool. It would be nice to add more!

>>8526677
Oh probably Wonderfinch posting an essay about something that doesn't matter. I've hidden most of her stuff now since her Larme Kei complaints.

>Be a black lolita
>See WF complaints about skin whitening in larme kei

She makes my eye twitch with things that don't matter given it's from fucking Japan where there's little to no darker skinned people. I don't know how people also don't think about the positive effects of skin "whitening" to get rid of blemishes and dark marks on your skin; it's just a bad translation and should be skin brightening. With her being half-white it's such a pain to see her always pull the race card with Jfash... It doesn't have to be the only thing in life that identifies you.

>>8499059
>im making a lot of people uncomfortable
>im trying to be normal
>wah wah wont accept me how god made me

if you know youre bothering people yet youre still trying to excuse not actually taking the time to behave like a normal person, why pull the "god made me u have to accept me" excuse? she literally admitted shes making people uncomfortable with her actions.

mental illness isnt code for "my actions are okay". you can still control a lot of your actions, and even if she did have stuff she can't control its HER responsibility to apologize, not pull a "this is who i am, accept it" card.

I'm moving to Portland this winter and I've just started getting back in to lolita. How is the community there?

Are there any decent lolitas in Wyoming?

>>8527446
Garbage.

>>8527451
no

Anyone a part of or knows anything about the Rochester/WNY comm?

>>8506436
I recommend going to one with the one mod with the dreads solely to watch people terrified of her when she tells them to go the fuck away and stop harassing girls in the comm.

I'm also kind of confused as to who that Kawaii fashion comm is for. Is it for j-fashion General? Oh and why has Geek Girl Brunch taken over the comm too like I'm sorry but that is six kinds of cringey.

>>8495057
I'm living in Europe. How do I find a comm that I could join? Contry I'm in might be too shitty to have one.

>>8528232
https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1evXegSoFbfEXn8o0joeA-KFvolNKPKllgvaYqNgvOiw/edit#gid=1

Have a look for a comm in your country here.

>>8528206
Rochester used to be notoriously awful a few years ago, no idea how they are now but I'd hazard a guess that not much has changed.

bump for the NYC picnic!

is there anything we should do other than show up at a certain time at the Alice statue with food?

>>8527446
It's pretty big, so there's a wide range of people, both in coording ability and personality. There's a pretty distinct split in the group, one side wears almost exclusively brand and hang out together pretty often, the other wears a lot of offbrand and Bodyline and tends toward less expensive meetups, like potlucks. Both are pretty friendly in my experience, except for a handful of bad apples. I think it's easy to find someone here who you'll get along with.

>>8531130

I made a flyer! Gonna post it in BtB this week too, you can R.S.V.P anonymously in the comments there so we can have a headcount.

>>8531307

Also just an FYI for anyone nervous about this being an open meet posted on across the internet, I'm really good at telling strangers to fuck off in case any creeps show up and bother us.

>>8531314
i am good at not giving any fucks also, though i will probably be mega nervous and shy at first.

not sure about posting it to BtB but the mad scientist in me wants to see how it will all turn out.

>>8525982
You wont be able to become friends unless you invest spending time with them. Now thats not to say you can invite yourself to whatever meet pops up (especially ones at people's houses or personal celebrations like birthdays). I know personally in my comm when we have new people who show up at group meets and really make the effort to show up/introduce themselves to everyone it has more of an impact.

>>8525982
I didn't know any of the people in my comm before joining. Just send the mod a message and try and attend a meet that isn't so personal. If their fb page is included on public lists/is the official group for your area, it isn't weird. Try it, and if it doesn't work out, you won't really have lost anything.

>>8531307
Excited for this! I'm having a bit of dilemma over what to wear given how warm and humid it's been lately. I hope the weather gives us a break.

Crossing my fingers that work doesn't try to stick me with a shift on that day last-minute.

>>8531307
>>8531314
>>8531455
What would happen if someone we don't want shows up?

I wouldn't post this on BtB.

>>8532299
yeah BtB might not be a good idea. a lot of us are already interested, do we need that kind of attention?

we can RSVP via email. it would increase accountability too.

>>8526697
what?

>>8500325
Ditto. Mainly talked to other out of towners.
I did talk to one local girl but she had went to the tea party alone. Liked her. She was silly. I wished I could've got to know the other NOLA girls. At least, introduced.
It got less awkward around the end of the event. I don't know if I'll go again if they have another one. I have to think on it.

>>8502842
I felt awkward those 2 'press' girls where there. Admittedly, I stayed by my friends to avoid them.
I'm sorry if you where around that table and we didn't talk. I'm pretty shy.

>>8532403
I think the other anon said it well, a lot of the members where involved in the lolita events so socializing time was extremely limited. I'm from out of town as well, and this comm is always very welcoming when I visit. If you aren't too far maybe go to one of their meets and get to know everyone?

I know there's a listing of the regional comms. Is there a listing of fb based lolita interest groups (such as sales and styles)? I figured it'd be easier to ask here before I start searching and compiling. I believe there's also a list of tumblr accounts, too, but help me out if you can.

A friend and I are planning on putting together a lolita panel about communities, including our own and things one should know about lolita comms (ex: etiquette, activities, etc.). I liked how with lj it was easy to list everything in one place, but I hate having to search key terms for anything relevant and it seems like I see new community suggestions on my side bar.

>>8532579
but* I mean, and I hate having to search key terms.

I'm debating on whether or not I should bring up cgl because of taboos and stigma of 4chan. I might end up risking my reputation. I wouldn't say to check it out at all, but rather to be aware of its existence and what to expect (ex: read the rules, be over 18, have a thick skin, lurk first). If a majority of the guests are obviously young looking, I wouldn't mention it at all, however, I wonder with the influx of new comers, how have other people discussed the darker sides of being involved in a lolita community (the gossiping and wanking).

>>8531307
Please post pics here after. NYC seagull who can't make it.

>>8528270
>the comm in country I'm in is closed.

>>8533096
Closed as in inactive or closed as in you need to be approved to join?

UK Lolita here. I never hear much about comms here (unless it's drama). How are your local comms, friendly? Well dressed? Fun?

>>8533127
Small com from a backwoods state with primarily bad dressers. Some of us have started going out of state to attend other com's meets.

>>8532299
>>8532313

Eek too late. I think the nature of the meet makes the possibility of 'someone we don't want' showing up inevitable anyways. Plus I think the people who would 'out themselves' as lurking cgl AND btb probably overlap at least a little. I hope this doesn't deter anyone from coming out, I expect it to be a relatively small group so hopefully people will be smart enough not to post//rag on anyone's coord//photo if they choose to share it.

>>8533622
you could probably contact the BtB mods to retract it.

>>8533622
Ugh, we don't need a knife welding ita at the meetup. /sarcasm

Anyways good luck. I hope there won't be any drama. I know how secret NY meetups are.

>>8533096
Anon, closed just means you have to request to join, most comms are like that so weirdos can't get in.

I would like to know some things about the Paris comm. Are they nice? Is there a lot of drama? Do they have an oficial page or something like that where I can find out about meets and events? I may move there next year for studies and I would love to know

>>8534351
Forget about the page, I just found it. (Still would like to know the other things though)

anyone know deets behind ellejay's ban? sf comm just posted about it

>>8534631
No. Though I hope this will allow Chigothloli the excuse to let everyone know that a certain individual will not be let back into community if the individual ever returns to Chicago.

Did the SF Comm get more active Mods for their lolita comm after the MB ban?

>>8534641
They got 2 new mods. One is an organizer, one pops up to a few things, the original mod is still pretty quiet and isn't active in the community.

>>8534641

The mod is still pretty lax for the most part, she only posted one message about don't spam the FB page and one about banning Ellejay. We are more than okay with not having a draconian power tripping mod tbh.

>>8534641
Chicago is better without Ellejay. The mods are unlikely to let her back.

>>8515056
It wasn't just about people not showing up. It's about how certain people in the group were being treated. Lolita is fashion. It's not an exclusive club. It's supposed to be fun for everybody. Talking about kids around people that have kids or excluding people under 18 because an adult decides to call one of them a bitch is unacceptable. That is not what this thing is about. It's about being fancy and shit. Having a good time and meeting new people. Besides, it takes too much energy to be a sandy vag. More time needs to be put on having a good time, not making things good for friends and saying "Fuck everybody else because we run it and we do what we want." That's the wrong mentality to foster when dealing with an array of people. You have to do what is best for the entire group even if it means not going to a bar wearing Baby (because that's totally safe). I mean, things look better now, but it never should've gotten that bad.
>drops mic

>>8534880
I'm not even remotely involved in any of this, but your vag is the only one looking sandy from where I'm standing.

>>8534747
Why was she kicked from chicago?

Was it also for "sexual contact" reasons?

>>8534631
Woah. I'm a Chigothloli and I don't recall her getting banned. I just remembered that her carelessness and attention seeking behaviors caused some tensions among the members, and I thought that she had left on her own accord (with these tensions in mind).

>>8534747
I personally hope that this is the case. I thought it was weird that she did show up to a meet up earlier this year though.

Other than the required shit about Kate, any deets about the Pittsburgh comm?

>>8535494

It's a fairly small to mid sized comm. Everyone mostly dresses well and has decent coords. But if a host doesn't kiss Kate's ass turnout for the meet will be small. Other than that everyone else is pretty chill. It's been pretty dead for a bit though.

>>8535516
Deets? I met Kate and thought she was a snob. Did I judge her wrong or ...

>>8533635

Good call.

>>8535713
She is a snob but she has efame so everyone puts up with it.

>>8535713
She was pretty personable all of the times I've spoke with her. She's not as intimidating as she seems.
A lot of recent meets have had a low turn out or just have gotten cancelled due to lack of interest. In my opinion, summer is the worst time for lolita because of layers and heat, so that could be an additional reason for lack of activity.

>>8526697
They have the whole thread about the comm on /pt/. Right now people are fighting over who's really responsible for drama that's been following Holly.

I'm enjoying the drama tbh

>>8534631
also looking for deets on this. the mods are trying to put a new anonymous reporting system in place to keep harassment from happening in the future but it just seems like a good way to stir more shit.

>>8535971
Is she as much of an edgy cold hearted unfeeling bitch as she claims to be in that video?

>>8534631
>>8536790
It's shame she got banned from the SF Comm. Hopefully ElleJay has some good lawyers.

>>8536816
Ew

>>8535713
When I met her she was really chill and nice. I actually ended up hanging out with her for a while and really enjoyed talking with her.
>>8536793
She said a few of the same things (about having a hard time opening up to people) when I talked with her, and with the shit she gets online I can't really blame her or say that I'd be much different. Kinda hard to be super friendly and open towards people when there's a good chance they'll be talking shit about you the second your back is turned.

>>8535713
Tbh you probably caught her at a bad time. I've spent the past week hanging out with her and she's very friendly and relaxed. She gets a really bad rap online, so I assume she's usually more guarded when she's at big events.

>>8536816
Whatever, she left a week before the ban anyway.
It's not like she was active.

>>8531307
hey when should we RSVP by? has anyone emailed you yet? at work atm but i hope to remember to email tonight.

My country has two comms,
I've recently joined the big comm who are full of brand and glorious coords.
I've been wearing lolita for 6 months.
May god have mercy on my soul.

>>8538415

I've only gotten one email but way more votes. RSVPs by Thursday would be great, but not necessary.

>>8531307
MFW I show up to this just to find out who puts my pictures in the ita threads.

>>8538664
gotcha

>>8538673
kek. do it, anon. face your fears.

>>8538551
Sounds like you'll have good role models then! Don't stress, just do your best to improve. Don't expect to be perfect right away. I'm sure they'll be happy to help you!

>>8538664
Same person who sent you the email. i'll be there. Are we going with snacks or actual food or both for the potluck? I can't exactly cook so whatever i bring will likely be store bought (but tasty).

>>8536851
Hmm. It's kind of funny how people have talked to her and found her ok, but then there's LACE and that documentary blowing up a relatively common issue.

I'm introverted and usually unapproachable too - the resting bitch face is my normal face, but damn, that doesn't mean, I've got to make an art film about it.

I hope that Kate eventually grows some thick skin. Not everyone's going to like everything you do or say, and that's ok.

Ugh, fucking A. I'm getting a number of people trying to get into my comm, but there's no way of checking where they're coming from since their profiles are kept private (I can't even message them) and I suspect that two profiles are actually the same person.

idk if people just don't read, but it's not like the comm has some vague and cutesy name, and there's a description there that tells people where we're located.

Anyone else having the same problem?

>>8539512
I reject people if I can't see any info or lolita stuff on their profile. I figure if they are serious about joining they'll PM me after to ask to join/explain

>>8539512
Everyone is asked a series of questions before they join such as where are you from are you a Lolita etc if i cant message you or your profile is empty or looks like a spam bot i reject your request

>>8538551
You'll do fine anon! It's good to get into a comm like that because (unless they're awful people) they'll help you get a better grasp of the fashion through example and through advice if anyone's willing and able.

>>8535321
>>8535348
Ellejay wasn't officially banned from Chicago because most of her issues were interpersonal and didn't affect the comm as a whole but >>8534747 is right. The mods won't let her back and almost didn't let her back during this last stint in IL. She had a falling out with the mods when she stayed with them at Acen last year and they tried to confront her about her alcohol & painkiller abuse and she flipped out on them. She left the comm when she moved back to SF and unfriended almost everyone recently so an official Chigothloli ban would be overkill at this point anyway.

>>8539512
Our comm has a rule where you have to message a moderator with the secret handshake (we have a "password" hidden in the rules), and answer a brief three or four questions. Anyone who doesn't has their request denied. Most try again repeatedly. A few generally go "ooooh" and get it right eventually.

If you can't be bothered to read the tiny set of rules before trying to join, who wants you around?

>>8539966
Your mods sound reasonable.

>>8533127
Friendly and fun with no drama but very small. The bigger comms in the surrounding areas definitely have their fair share of drama.

>>8539807
I should really do the questionaire thung. My comm is growing and I've noticed that only a handful of them actually attend meets, let alone wear lolita.

>>8540606
Thing*

I haven't seen the Southern Ontario comm mentioned. Are they pretty chill or are they known for drama? I haven't joined it yet.

going to a meet at an art gallery soon. don't know most of the people going. none of them have many public lolita photos, so can't check if they're ita or not. a few good lolitas I'm friends with are coming and I'm cripplingly scared of the fact that we're all going to look crap because of potential ita abundance.

>>8541031
Be a grown-up.

Enjoy the art.

If they're ita and unpleasant, at least you'll know for next time. But enjoy the museum and don't stress about how their appearance is supposedly going to impact you. Most normal folks can't tell the difference, regardless.

>>8534888
Opinions are like assholes. Everybody has one. We're all entitled to think what we like. My point is that lolita is about having fun. People getting stupid over clothes takes away from that. Call me a sandy vag all you like, but I still think it's wrong to mistreat comm members or make them feel uncomfortable. That's not how it's supposed to work. And if that's the way that people want to carry on, then maybe they don't belong in a comm setting. That kind of negativity and tension is uncalled for.

>>8539297

I think snacks are fine, I'm bringing a plate of cookies and some Arizona tea lol. Bring whatever you'd like!