/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL

>>8522050
Inb4 derail and delete but I got one for ya:

>told my friend about the lolita ap dress I got
>she's been to Japan and told me how she loved seeing all the lolitas there
>she is super excited for me getting into this hobby
>my bf is talking about moving and getting a house for 10,000
>tfw all the money I save up is just gonna go to a house

I can at least have one coord this year....

Inb4 10 grand for a house?!?! It's just enough to put down, then we'd have a huge loan to pay off.

>Meet two cool people at an anime convention (they don't know eachother)
>pretty much standard to me to bring up I have a boyfriend to everyone upon first talking
>hanging out with them is the best time I ever had, I haven't had friends of my own in years
>Boyfriend tells me he's uncomfortable with me hanging out with them
>I'm aspie as fuck and have no idea why he feels this way
>tell him to fuck off and that I've finally made friends so he should be happy for me

>some time passes
>yesterday one of them casually told me she and her bf were interested in doing me
>today the other one asked me to basically be their sex fantasy and RP with them

WELP

So do you guys ever just wear lolita alone at home, admire yourself in the mirror, and think "Damn, I look cute"? 'Cause I do.

>tfw lolita gives me self-confidence

>tfw just worked out coord will cost me over $600
this kills the jew

>>8522060
I'm not sure where you live, but in America usually 10k for a house is a REALLY great price.

>>8522060
> Basic house in Cali in a not crap neighborhood is 100k at the lowest.
HAHAHAHAHA.jpg

>>8522852

I think she just means the down payment, which can mean as little as 3.5% of the price of the house. The max the house would be is 285,000, which isn't a bad price all things considering.

My question is why is she buying a house now when things are bad and she's worrying about even making the mortgage every month? Maybe she should talk to the bf about whether it's the right time to buy a house atm. It's a huge investment.

>Met someone I ended up falling in love with at a con back in Feb
>Exchanged skypes, tumblrs, numbers
>talked constantly, ended up falling for them more
>They live 6 hours away
>Meet up again at con, decides to tell them how I feel
>Friday, Saturday, cannot muster enough courage despite me being at their side constantly
>Sunday, chase them down at the con, they're leaving in 20 mins
>Confess to them in a full AP coord, telling them how I feel about them
>Gets rejected, and ends up crying
>gets home, cannot look at the coord at all, dies a little on the inside

I literally have no attraction to anyone, so me really intensely liking someone is a big issue to me. We're still friends, but I can't help that I just killed the friendship.

>>8522872
oh okay that makes way more sense.

I agree though, or consider a town house. Depending on your local home economy there could be some rent-to-own options. That's my plan next year. If jumping into a large mortgage every month is freighting or going to be a huge strain on your wallet try with a smaller place. You could sell it later for a higher price, or rent it out and use the rent to pay for the place itself.

>>8522099
I've never actually done otherwise.

>>8522893
Rent to own is always a bad idea. Basically you're paying off someone's escrow, and they have every right to kick you out right before it's paid off. You'd be paying more for a /maybe/ at best. Some serious loopholes that rely too heavily on the true owner not being a dick, and the paperwork being solid.

>>8522880
Something similar happened to me and we stayed friends. After a few years of flirty friendship we both ended up single at the same time, stuff happened, and fast forward to our 5th anniversary. So um... good luck anon. Hang in there. But don't close yourself off to the idea of finding someone else attractive!

>>8522060
the average for a house is 20k down payment

>>8522094
Eh can be friends with benefits? If they are kinda hot or at least charismatic? I have four of them all girls like me, my age,... except for a dude. one has a boyfriend (the dude in question) that gets involved,other one has a boyfriend that like to hear about it or get to watch.
Third girl has no bf but we love soft BDSM and kawaii crap. Sometimes its just two of us or three of us or four of us girls together. Soft and sweet lesbian love all night.

>made friends at uni yay
>they find out i cosplay
>"anon pls lend us wigs!"
>"sure!"
>"anon pls lend us cosplays!"
>"...of who?"
>"any!"
>you fuckin normfags want to cosplay just to cosplay ugh
>"sorry I can't, I don't really lend cosplay sets"
>"well can you do our makeup?"
>"sure if u bring ur make up and brushes!"
>"we don't have any >A<"

are you fucking serious? of course i turned that down too but in what universe do you think that's okay... note that I don't even know these people that well =_=

I was a naive idiot and added them on fb too now it's going to be a real chore phasing them out of my life ugggghhhhh

>people constantly say you should back up all your photos
>have a 128 gb memory card that's no even full yet
>I should be fine. what kind of an idiot loses a memory card anyway
>lose memory card with five conventions worth of photos in it
>most of my photos I uploaded only on facebook
>exif data stripped
>images compressed to shit
>start uploading everything to flickr
>so many low quality photos missing exif data
>autism flaring up
>feels bad man

>>8522970
you deserved that for putting so many events on it.

>>8522966
>I have a boyfriend

>not to mention they're not attractive

>>8522968
Uggh someone just asked me to borrow a cosplay!

Nope.jpg

>>8522050
>doing first cosplay with ldr boyfriend
>spends two weeks sewing constantly, i am dead inside
>two days before 25 hour train ride
>"oh dont worry anon, my mom has a sewing machine you can finish it here"
>relaxes until its time to pack

>gets here
>asks for sewing machine
>he asks his mom
>"its broken"
>i now have to draft my patterns and ship them back home to my mom to sew and then pay for rushed shipping to get them back to me in time for the con
>this was supposed to be a relaxing vacation

>nothing I want to buy for months
>dream dresses everywhere
>new releases that I actually love for once
>can't afford it all

I want to have everything because I'm greedy and it makes me sad knowing that most of these items will be hard to find again

>NEET for almost a year
>barely have a lolita wardrobe
>keep telling myself I'll get it together and get an income and end up with a great wardrobe
>never do
>complete failure
>feel like shit

>>8523097
Iktf anon. Sorry.

>>8523087
I've barely known them for three months and they're acting as if I owe them shit, I don't really see how I'm in the wrong for being a bit salty about that

>Halloween at highschool
>Go dressed as Trainer Red
>Go to the gamer group
>OhMyGoshIt'sAsh.jpg
>Facepalm into my pichachu

>>8523150
I think they were sharing your misery, anon.

>went to a tiny 4 hour con today
>met a new lolita
>had a blast
>had tea for the first time every
>got olive garden afterwards with a close friend

Today was probably the best day ever for me and I'm so happy

>>8523161
oh sorry, I jumped to conclusions. my bad

>>8522050
>usually go to San Japan and Dragoncon each year
>my cosplay group has become smaller and less enthusiastic each year, making the trips just feel like a waste these days
>no one really planning to go to either con
>get surgery, so I'm still hobbling around as SJ is going on
>got a new job, and only one person to share pricy DC room, so I just look at Dragoncon FB guest updates and feel sad I can't go

>an extra in my favorite movie whose onscreen for less than 5 seconds has a really cute outfit
>almost looks like a classic coord
>find really similar pieces on auction until I have pretty much the same outfit
>so fucking happy every time I wear it
>feels good man

>be best friends with another weeby chick for 14 years
>always have her back no matter what dumb shit she says or does
>stuck with her even though most of her friends turned on her
>help her with cosplay stuff whenever I can and go with her to cons, even though I work full time and don't cosplay
>she eventually gets cosfamous and makes tons of obnoxious new cosplayer friends who don't like me
>makes time to hang out with e-famous coswhores but not me
>ignores me when I need help, starts insulting me
>acts like I'm annoying her when I talk to her
>only calls me when she needs a favour

E-fame ruins people.

>lolita gets a qt /fit/ cosplay boyfriend
>finally a spouse that shares the same interests!
>bf cares more about sports and parties
>gets dumped
>fuck

>>8523090
...it's just fucking cosplay good lord you are stupid.

>>8523189
iktf anon... my best friend became cosfamous. I'd be lying if I said I wasn't jelly that people donate for her to do costumes and go to cons and she gets lots of amazing opportunities, but her new attitude is what pisses me off.

>other efamous "friends" (who she told me she doesn't like which is awkward af) are now a priority for her to hang with/talk to
>makes no more time for me even though I have been there through a lot of good times and bad for many years
>barely talks to me anymore, only sometimes to bitch about other e-famous people and her relationship
>recently flaked out on me on a huge, important thing for a bs reason

I no longer consider her a friend anymore and it sucks. But really, while e-fame ruins people I also feel those who let it ruin them must not be very good people to begin with.

>>8522060
Are you British anon? Everyone's talking about how cheap that is but I've heard people over here put down £8k immediately for a house, but that was a good deal.

>>8522870
wow, a shitty old half-house in my city is $800k, my 3ksq/ft house in the suburbs is also $800k.
Anything new in this city is 1mil+

>>8523090
It would be cheaper to just go to a thrift store and buy another one.

>>8523189
reminds me of my old best friend

>be friends with a horrible weeb/koreaboo for 7 years
>she loses all her friends since she's so obnoxious
>I stick with her, I'm her only friend, and enjoyed hanging out with her, she was endearing in a retarded sort of way
>she's daddy's girl, would throw tantrums until her dad handed her wads of cash, not even joking
>fat as fuck, insists on saving herself for a 9/10 asian guy. has to be asian
>calls herself caucASIAN


>one day, I upset her dad by scratching her older bros car while out running errands for her
>she drops me as a friend completely over this small incident since she doesn't want to upset her father
>haven't heard from her in 3 years


Anon, you can't save what was shit to begin with, it hurts, but its life.

>>8522752
>not having a $600+ coord on average
pleb

>>8522872
Houses that cost 285 grand? (live in sydney where average is 1 mill)

>>8523557
heck anon houses in syd are topping 1 mil now. Even cabramatta costs up to 800k+ now for a shitty one bedroom shithole.

>>8523577
You meant minimum right
Even western suburb housing commission area shitholes are expensive

>>8523581
woops, yeah minimum 1mil +. No luck ever buying a house here unless I inherit my parents house. Don't know when this housing bubble will break. Urgh.

Having to deal with a complete copycat coswhore. I've had my fair share of them already but this bitch is a complete stalker it's creepy as fuck. I'm surprised she's not looking through my trash right now. Not that I wouldn't put it past her, she brags about being crazy.

>>8523586
At least you've got a decent suburb going for you, by the sounds of it, though it makes it even harder to live somewhere close to home then
We're all fuckedddd

I want to move but I don't want to buy a house (because I want to move to another city relatively soon after) and there are almost no rental houses available.

>>8523600
Based more in the south-west than cabra but yeah, fuck moving out.

>>8523586
Same problem here. I live in Hornsby, where house prices are around a mill (mine 1.5 mill), Housing sucks

>>8523619
prices, I mean

>>8523619
I'm around clemton park,a house on my street sold for 1.3 mil (and then rented out immediately) and another on the street further down sold for 1.5mil... doesn't help that everyone is buying at least 200k+ more than expected.

I remember my parents saying that our house was bought for like 700k or 800k like 15 years ago.

>got broken up with a week and a half ago over text
STILL ALIVE. STILL ALIVE.

>>8523657
I got broken up with over fb messaging as I was too tired to go on skype. I'll probably never get another bf who won't find lolita some fetish thing or thinks it looks cute.. I'm probably going to end up like Momoko now.

>>8522970
>not dumping your memory card after every shoot
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xHyVa-itUbs

>tfw all of your friends are getting into SU
>tfw you don't see the appeal
>tfw all they're talking about is SU now
>tfw feeling left out

At this point I want to watch it just to feel included again.

>>8523809
At least the visuals are nice

>>8523809
I don't get it either. I watch one episode and the main character kid was just annoying.

>pulled the trigger last night
>dropped $500 on my first coord
>go to bed
>lay there thinking about it
>I don't even like sweet
>I just turned 30
>I just loved that dress tho
>I am a taller version of Pixyteri with less chin
>I'm going to look like shit
>What have I done?
>I feel like the biggest idiot ever
But...
>I will try on that dress
>Probably never wear it out
>sit and adore myself in the mirror

>>8523165
No worries, I can see how it might have come across as sarcastic.

But nope, my boyfriend and I cosplay these characters and now that her new bf is cosplaying the one she wants my costume.

Too bad. That's not how this hobby works! Plus, I intend to wear it on one of the days.

>>8522966
because everyone shares your desire to obtain fwb

god forbid some people are strictly monogamous

>introduced friends to a show a while ago
>they're now all super hyped about it, thanks anon for your wonderful contribution
>now doing big cosplay group
>except not me because different cosplay friends also in group
>would have been awesome to join in but I don't want to charge in like an ass
>will probably end up at con alone because not part of ~the group~
the real kicker is that a couple of them are asking me for help with how to make stuff and telling me how excited they are and I'm just sitting here with my sad feels

>>8523822
I like some of the designs, especially Lapis Lazuli.
Too bad I can't help but keep thinking how everything seems soo.. tumblr about the show. It's probably the fandom and the drama I've seen going around.

>>8523825
Friends told me it's like the 20 first episodes or so that suck and after that it gets good.

>>8523952
>first 20 episodes
that's like half the show

>buy ultimate dream dress, super excited
>have to go to family reunion for a week so i put mail on hold
>sees that package is at the post office until the 31st
>be home longer than expected, so i edit the hold mail request to end hold mail date for august 3rd
>my flight was canceled and won't be home on time
>time zone differences fuck me up since i live 17 hours ahead of PST, edit request sent too late,
>package is now being returned all the way to france
>fucking livid right now

I sent USPS an email asking if they would send it back my way, but I don't know if they'll do it because it is an international package. But I am so fucking mad right now, I thought there was like a 10 day period where if I didn't pick up my mail during that time they would return to sender? That's what the USPS hold mail page told me anyway and it hasn't been over 10 days.

>>8522050
Getting skirts that are too short
>Only 5'5

>>8523090

Can you ask your bf or his mom if they have any friend who has sewing machine? or buy one in a thrift store as >>8523483 said it's not bad to have extra sewing machine if you are using often.

I was in a car accident this week. An old fuck ran a red light and hit my car. Luckily we had a witness confirm the old man ran the light, but I'm afraid of any out of pocket expenses that will have to put my lolita budget on hold. I hate that this man is making my life difficult right now because he's too old to pay attention to lights.
Also he could've hurt my kid who was with me.

This sweet person right here...

;_;

good feels:
>new to otome
>going to wear first coord to favorite band's concert next week

>meal prepping and pushing self in gym
>hitting new PRs and losing weight
>planning on making consultations for cosmetic surgery in a few months
>tfw i will look the way i want soon

>trip to japan only 6 months away
>threw away a lot of normalfag clothing
>rehauling wardrobe mostly for trip

bad feels (not directly /cgl/ related):
>money problems with parents
>"lend" them money
>be sad that i'll never get it back
>total car they bought for me 8 years ago
>they say they will give me the 3k total loss check
>still less than lent money but not going to complain

i feel bad now and told them that they can keep the money if they need it. obviously not going to ask for the difference. it's just that they told me they were going to start paying me back months ago and haven't even mentioned it since i gave them the money. both of them come from families where money has torn everyone apart, so i hope they aren't going to get worse with their finances. luckily my boyfriend has pretty much given me his car.

>>8523809
Ugh I hate that feeling (and also SU). Hopefully they'll come across something else soon that's better that you all can bond over.

>around Nov 2014
>this will be a year of new life experiences
>wanted to volunteer at a convention; applied to several and got accepted to a few of them
>wanted to restart my local Lolita com; contacted admin of local FB group and had discussions on places to meet and events to go to
>started new health regimen which cleared up my face almost entirely
>wanted to wear Lolita more often
>make a point to stop being walked over all the time, to stop being such a people pleaser to the point of my own happiness was being disintegrated, to stop over caring what strangers think of me
>things are going my way
>End of Feb 2015
>absolutely horrifying life changing upset happens
>cue crippling depression
>Health goes to shit
>face gets fucked up again
>want to burn my Lolita because I don't feel like I deserve it
>instead of only over caring what people think of me, am now afraid of being judged to the point of anxiety attacks everytime I walk out the door
>push away everything I loved to do
>dressed how I think people would want to see me and not judge me for being "odd"
>decline every volunteer job I received
>ignored my local com

>few weeks ago, have a bit of a breakthrough that no matter how good I will be, if someone doesn't like me or hates me, it'll never be good enough anyway
>developed a mantra of "Just do you, fuck everyone else"
>childish but it works
>slowly getting my life back of track
>panic attacks are at a minimum
>hoping I didn't burn too many bridges when I was trying my best not to throw myself off of a bridge on to an interstate

TL; DR - I have no friends, sorry for the rant

>>8523952
>the 20 first episodes or so that suck and after that it gets good.
I do not have the patience for that.

>>8524011
who is this person?

> Find dream dress on Rakuten auction
> Ok price, decide on my maximum bid
> My usual SS doesn't buy from there
> Decide to use Zenmarket
> Mess up the order and forget to put in maximum bidding price
> Send them a message about it
> Feel like a idiot
> Get a message back confirming that I'm a idiot because it's direct buy and not a auction
> At least I'm a happy idiot.

>>8523952
I never got this point
Like, if you like something how can a website ruin it for you? That's like saying cgl ruined cosplay or Lolita. But I guess that only counts if you legit want to like it.
I really don't see anything "tumblr" about the show either, I'm not even sure what that means

>>8522951
20k between two people is 10k

Related
>study a lot during school
>no time to sew
>summer comes around
>take 3 classes and study for/take important entrance exam
>no time to sew
>finished last class Sunday evening (online)
>finally pull out my sewing machine
>infinite happiness
I don't think I'll get to all my projects but at least I'm doing some alterations.

Unrelated
>birthday yesterday
>bf's 3 days before mine
>his sister buys us a nice ice cream cake with our names on it
>roommate has eaten more of it than the 2 of us combined without asking
>didn't even wish me a happy birthday yesterday
It may sound petty but fuck our names are on it, you'd think that would constitute for asking for permission to consume. And eating someone's cake without even wishing them a happy birthday is just rude. He eats all the food in the house, uses so much electricity, and is plain lazy. I really wish we could kick him out but unfortunately our house is the best for many reasons and can't get a different roommate.

>trying to lose weight for cosplay and j-fashion, especially since I want to try lolita
>cut out food I really love that I know are my vices
>have been doing daily exercises - 25 sit ups, minimum of 10 push ups, 30 lunges and squats, crunches, plank, and more for the past 7 months
>daily jogs for 2 months
>just started dance once a week
>tired all the time and muscles ache
>no weight loss or size change :(

If it gets to the end of the year and there's still no change I won't know what to do and will just have to accept permanent fatty-chan status.

>>8524316
Related, I bought a cake for my room mate's birthday but unfortunately got the date wrong, he thought it was funny and didn't mind, so we offered it around to our house and ate it ourselves over a week when they declined. Next week is his actual birthday, we're both at uni on small budgets so I can't afford to buy him another cake and suggest to my friends someone else does. They don't. He has to buy another birthday cake, with me apologising for everyone else. The majority of our room-mates do not wish him happy birthday, or get him a present or card, or anything, but they all attack this cake when he's not in the room so he barely got any. I was pissed as all hell. Who the fuck does that?

>>8524337
Go to a doctor?

>>8524337
Sounds like there might be underlying issues though, so your best bet would be to talk to a doctor, if you know it's not diet.

Though do you mind posting what your average day looks like food-wise including what you drink?

>>8524345
I'll tell you who does that: ungrateful leeches. Sure they'll take something that will benefit them but won't even show gratitude to the hand that fed it to them. And it would be considered petty to write "please ask before eating" or "only for people who wish anon happy birthday" notes on it so there's no winning. You could take him out to get ice cream or a dessert from somewhere like Chili's and split it between the two of you. That way only the people paying will get a piece.

>>8522968
Why would you use emoticons on an imageboard?

>>8524337
You may have a thyroid problem. I would get it checked out. Get blood tests. You'll want to make sure that you get a full thyroid panel as well as getting thyroid antibodies tested. You might also have to look up specialists in your area. But with medication, it can regulate your metabolism and help you to drop the weight properly.

>>8524385
To be fair my diet is not great, but I thought it was "normal" enough that the exercise would still help.
>work 3-4 days a week part time, 6 hour shift normally - this involves heavy lifting and wearing heavy boots
>tortilla wrap sandwich for lunch, normally with cheese, or salad. occassionally a french stick sandwich with ham and cheese, or a ham salad with croutons. I do sometimes snack on chips if I get hungry, more than I should. That is probably where the problem lies.
>dinner is normally some kind of oven-cooked chicken with potatoes and veg
>drink mostly juice, cola on weekends - again where the problem lies
I don't want to lose a lot of weight, I'm not particularly large, just a bit overweight. I'm just confused because a two years ago I ate junk constantly and only did two hours exercise a week and managed to lose a lot of weight, and that was when I had McDonalds for lunch at least once a week. I'm hoping the dance once a week will have the same effect.

>>8524471
Were you gaining weight before this? If not, to the doctor you go.

You might right now only burn away enough calories to stay at the same weight, tho I still feel like you should visit a doctor, to at least ask them about it.

>>8524479
Yeah, I did gain weight a while ago out of my own stupidity. I will probably see if the dance makes any difference, as it's more intense, and if that doesn't work, I'll go to the doctor. I really appreciate all the advice!

>>8524471
Try counting calories for a few days. A lot of people underestimate their calorie intake.

If you're like me and snack when you're bored, try something low-calorie like strawberries. I used to eat a ton of them, but I still managed to lose a lot of weight.

If you're worried, see a doctor, because it could be some sort of health problem.

>first I go to a con on heavy days of period
>scared to wear cosplay
Fuck.

>>8524471
Definitely agreeing with the other anons about seeing a doctor, but just to try and add some alternatives out there, I have a few other suggestions.

First of all download an app like MyFitnessPal or LoseIt to track your calories everyday and see what you're actually putting in to your body instead of just guessing. It helps a LOT, trust me.

Second of all, you may want to consider either getting a personal trainer or joining a Gym with training or classes available. I joined Snap Fitness and do their team training classes. It has been a huge help in learning how to exercise properly so I'm actually reaping the benefits instead of doing a lot of work for nothing.

Hope these help!

>>8524232
It's a very special snowflakey show, and most special snowflakes inhabit tumblr.

>>8524316
>>8524345
I sort of had the opposite happen.
>birthday about a month ago
>I feel like shit all day
>class I'm taking is pretty brutal
>boyfriend insists on taking me out
>meh. whatever. I'd rather be in bed, tbh
>he elaborately stages a shit itinerary for me
>go to park, park looks like shit from recent flooding
>he wants to take me to comic store, but we're like way too dressed up
>we go to nearby bookstore instead
>find a couple of books I've been wanting
>I buy them... he made no offer whatsoever. Meh.
>rushes me to Italian restaurant that I'm kinda meh about
>fucking had a bouquet of fake magnolias (they're my favorite flower)
>candlelit
>I barely touch my food. It was alright, but I was still feeling like shit
>I'm getting pretty grumpy, just want to go home
>He has the fucking waitstaff bring out a birthday cake.
>I really fucking hate being put on the spot in public
>I get mad at him
>I sit there and watch the candles continue to burn out of rage
>He blows out my candles
>We sit there talking passive-aggressively
>Waitstaff brings out extra plates.
>It's a whole lot of awkward
>I don't touch the cake. I feel sick. I seriously don't want any.
>He gets the waitstaff to wrap up the cake so I can take it to go
>We get into huge fight on the way to my house

Like seriously. I was livid. I really hate surprises like that. I don't have like crippling agorophobia, but I enjoy not sticking out in public. This could have been much less awkward if he had invited friends or family to at least dig into the cake.

>>8524501
Definitely going to try counting calories! And making more of an effort to cut out the chips and cola and snack on healthier things. Trying to make the salad a daily thing too. Unfortunately I can't afford a gym, and because I don't drive (saving up to get a car) there's not one near enough to walk to because I'm in the ass crack of nowhere.

Thank you all so much for the advice, I feel much more motivated now!

>>8524498
How revealing is the cosplay? Tampon, night-time pad and safety shorts should cover you.

>>8524232
Don't get me wrong, overall I don't let public opinion define what I like. It just has to do with the show's general appeal rather then the fans.

Also let me explain what I mean with 'tumblr" from my viewpoint as someone who hasn't seen a single episode.

>gems are genderless
>most gems look like females
>they all have distinctly different body types
>despite being gems with weird skin colours, most of them do look like they're from different a ethnicity/race
>that entire pastel colour palette for the show

None of these are bad qualities for a show, if anything good or interesting ones. But they sure do hit points that tumblrinas love.

>>8524514
Some people swear by never drinking liquid calories. I would say try to limit it.

>>8524514
It's actually best cut out juices too. Since they have very little fiber or pulp (where most of the benefits of eating fruit are at too), you don't really feel full from it and it's not much better than soda in that regard. I know the switch sucks, but try water or tea (homebrewed is best, packaged stuff is usually loaded with sugar) instead.

>>8524536
I'm one of those people. I got in the habit in high school when I was out on cheer trips my coach didn't let us drink anything except water or tea (maybe to cut down on the food bill too). Since then I only drink water and tea. I do put creamer in my coffee but that's just once a day and <100 calories. I get a "tummy ache" if I drink more than a small sprite. I can't really drink mixed drinks either since I have to drown out the alcohol with coke so I get an upset stomach and tipsy at the same time.

ANYWAY, my sister drinks a lot of liquid calories and while our physical fitness varies she would weigh quite a bit less if she stopped drinking soda twice a day.

>>8523184
What movie was it anon?

>hookup with girls at conventions and in my city pretty regularly
>feel nothing special for any of them
>get pretty bored of hooking up with people
>do it anyway because it's all I know
>meet a cute lolita whose local, we start hanging out
>she's funny, smart, qt, wears mostly AP
>we start dating
>young software engineer, dat yuppie income
>starts asking me to buy her burando
>buy her nothing, time goes on, she breaks up with me
>she was trying to use me for dosh
>tfw too wealthy for burando loving grills to actually love me

>>8524519
Tampons never work with me for some reason.
I'll try shorts + nightpad. Just the way my legs are that make pads = hell.

>>8523912
yep, thought it was sarcastic. damn I hate people like that... your pic is perfect to how I feel haha

>>8524414
haven't used 4chan in a while and... let that shit slip. here's an image if it makes you feel better anon

>going to anime con soon
>wearing only western cosplays and lolita
>not steven universe or homestuck or anything but still
>it's a fucking anime convention
I've become the people I hated most.

>>8522872
>My question is why is she buying a house now when things are bad and she's worrying about even making the mortgage every month?
Not sure where you're getting that as its not anywhere in my post... things are not bad perse, we're tired of paying rent for eternity, also my bf would be paying most of it, not me.

Also not gonna say where I live cause its great to see you all make silly assumptions. But he just saw an ad for a house that said 10k down. Idk about where you guys live but where I live, you can talk to people who own the house and discuss payments. We'd be buying the house from someone else, not some sketchy money making reality business.

Also my friends have a condo and a house, and they did it the same way. Not only that but I'm pretty sure our roommate would pay us rent to pay off a mortgage. That's what my friends did and it worked.

>>8522870
GOOD THING I DON'T LIVE THERE.

>>8524505
wow... bitch

>>8523405
idk whats it like being so boring you're comfortable with dropping two cosplays you've spend tons of money on already just because of a sewing machine mishap

>>8524505
You are a piece of shit

>>8524505
Holy fuck you are a total cunt
He was making an attempt, on your birthday, which is only once a year. He wanted to make it special.

You sound like a snotty brat
>my bf did nothing for my bf
>i was sick though
>not even a card

>>8524505
Wow you are seriously a piece of shit. I would have dumped you right then and there. I don't like surprises either but for someone to go to such great lengths for you and for you to literally see absolutely nothing wrong with how you acted towards him is disgusting. What a shitty entitled person.

>>8524505
To be fair, I don't know how long you've been dating but your bf should know if you hate surprises. Surely it's something you talked about? If not, you probably should have mentioned to him before (and made sure he took it seriously) that you hate surprises and could he not do something like the above. I would have loved someone doing that for me and the fact you wouldn't even blow out the cakes just seems petty and unappreciative of the fact that he clearly put a lot of effort into this. Not his fault the park was flooded, or you had a bad day.

>>8524505
So your bf went out of his way to do things that make you happy and try to cheer you up and instead you go to cgl and complain about him?

You sure seem like a nice person.

>>8524505
did you communicate to him BEFOREHAND that you didn't like things in public?

either way, you were an absolute, raging cunt. apologize, break up or off yourself.

>>8525409
I've never understood the hatred for western shit at anime conventions, but I'm probably being a dumbass.

>>8524337

It just sounds like you aren't working very hard.

25 situps and 10 pushups is basically nothing. You need to increase your volume/intensity over time.

Weight loss is mostly diet though.

>>8524337
You might be eating too many calories still. Download myfitnesspal, it's a godsend, seriously.

>>8524337
If you're having muscle aches anon, consider that you may be actually forming -muscle- while losing fat, hence the perceived stagnant plateau. I understand how you feel; it's extremely difficult to ignore the numbers on the scale, especially after browsing cgl where everyone considers an arbitrary number whale status. Have you actually -measured- yourself though? Have your measurements gotten leaner, have you lost an inch that you may not have noticed? Do your legs look less flabby? Those are variables that may not necessarily make you go down a size, but they are considerable changes in two month's time. I had to exercise for at least four months before I noticed changes in the way my clothes were fitting, so don't beat yourself up. Everyone is different, and if things really don't change in another month then see a doc.

Anyway, some okayish feels:
>post-grad, no money, moved far away, living with parents, too depressed/broke for hobbies, had two interviews but never got called back, applying to five jobs a day, worst time of my life, etc.
>found out there's a plasma center about 20 minutes away
>"Hey, at least I could donate twice a week and make $100 and help people while I'm at it."
>did it but I have severe needle anxiety
>the needle is in my arm for over 45 minutes
>tfw not allowed to close eyes, so I lay there and curl my toes and quietly squirm while trying not to look like a tweaker

I'm happy I did it though. I was able to get a few gifts to write back to my overseas friend and pay for shipping and treat myself to some nice food.

>Never been a popular lolita nor have my coords gotten much attention.
>Posted on cof before and didn't get many likes.
>posted just recently and it got quite a few, and heaps of positive comments.
>Now I am scared to ever post again because I don't think I will ever be as well received again and won't live up to that one post.

>>8523952
Honestly I just try hard to turn off the tumblr I'm seeing and it works OK. Don't think, "hm these gems are two people with female pronouns dating that is representation of a minority cool" etc etc, I try to think "heck yeah this is a cool kids show Ruby and Sapphire are great for each other".

Honestly what keeps me interested are the detailed animation scenes (not all of them) and some of the writing is great. I also like the fact that Pearl's weapon noise sounds like a pokeball.

>>8524046
Proud of you anon

>>8524571
Perhaps try making fruit-only smoothies, they have whatever was in the fruit and taste great too. I use frozen strawberries and blueberries and fresh leaches

>>8526022
Uh, *peaches.

leaches have too many calories to drink

>first time buying a blouse directly from brand
>struggle with justifying the price but urgh I love it
>finally gets to me
>looks horribly on me, doesn't look good with any of my dresses
>all that regret
>okay, selling it is. Post it up to a sales community for the original price without any hope, but one can try
>mfw somebody with excellent feedback bought it after a few hours

I was sure to struggle getting even 2/3 of the orginal price, if so. But everthing turned out so well. All that happyness.

>>8526022
On the topic of smoothies, I do protein ones using frozen banana, protein powder, almond milk, vanilla and cinnamon. They're super filling and taste amazing which is impressive considering protein powder tastes god awful.

>>8525995
Hello! I'm the OP, thank you for the encouragement, it helps a lot more than anything else.

>>8525987
Downloaded myfitnesspal, actually very surprised with how many calories I could be getting through!

Again, thank you everyone for the help.

>lone Lolita for a good few years
>went to my first meet
>everyone was pretty nice, but it wasn't what I was expecting
>everyone had friends and I didn't really click with anyone
>came home
>cried for about 3 hours
>don't know why

Now I have this nagging voice in the back of my head telling me to give up Lolita now and I don't know what to do.

>>8526047
>protein powder tastes god awful

I mean, if you get the awful tasting stuff it does.

TrueNutrition, Optimum Nutrition among many others make good tasting stuff. Chocolate is generally safe, I really like their chocolate peanut butter. I generally stay away from fruit flavored ones. Vanilla would be good to mix with fruit juice/smoothie

>>8526106

I'd try and go to a few more meets at least. It's hard to make friends the first time you meet.

>>8526156
I'll keep trying to tell myself that, I don't have any friends and I always get my hopes way too high about things.
I kept hovering around this girl /cgl loves and trying to make conversation, but I think she started feeling uncomfortable so I stopped.

>>8524046
they will understand if you talk to them

>>8524471
replace chips for carrots or other veggies that are crunchy and def cut all sugary drinks and try and do 2 liters of water daily.

>>8524514
if you are wanting fruits try making a smoothie with fruits, some yogurt, and veggie juices. Yum. I go to jamba sometimes and get a fruit smoothie and have them put veg juice instead of fruit juice.

>>8522099
yes it's awesome, staring at windows while walking is nice too :) (lol I'm so bad but it gives me ++ confidence)

>>8526003
that's how its gone for me..... unless its unusual like black girl lolita or muslim or ott ap it's going to just collect dust.

>>8523809
at least it's not homestuck

>>8526215
Black chicks in lolita isn't unusual, and basic coords get plenty of likes too. Maybe your outfits just suck?

I'm sick of seeing this article gd everywhere, it's making me dislike her
>I'm all for hijab lolitas
>but jfc this isn't an outfit stop sharing it to CoF

Whats the point trying to compete with sewn things any more? Where I live the past few noteworthy comps have all been worbla or just showy things that win.
To the point where previous winners just enter comps with winning costumes again and again.
Even a ballgown like one of Yayas wouldn't even get placed unless it had a gimmick.

>>8526398
What's worse is when my normalfag friends post it to my page thinking it's a brave new trend in my "fashion thing" and being forced to be nice about it. I hate that article and I really, REALLY don't see how this is a victory for a westernized Muslim.

>>8526003
similar feel
>post to CoF on a Friday night
>get like 3 likes lel ok
>get about 80 likes when I check fb the next day
>except no comments so it's buried under photos from meets on the current day
>slowly get less likes and then none
>wow
Pretty sure the coord wasn't bad, although the photo I took wasn't great. I considered asking a friend to comment to bump it, but decided that was dumb. I need to start observing for the best time.

>find a cosplay bf
>he is cute, understanding, not a dumb guy with "make me a sandwich" attitude
>usually great sex
>one day he is super horny
>I'm not, I say we can have sex later that thay (I have stuff to do)
>he doesn't care he wants a bj
>I suck it for a while and say we can continue later
>he doesn't care again, undresses me and fucks me
>says "sorry I can't hold it anymore" and comes, apologizes againg for not making me come
>mfw
>I cry to sleep, woke up 3 hours later
>he has no idea why I'm angry
>he understands after I tell him, cannot forgive himself for what he has done
>I cannot forgive him either
>but I don't want to broke up too, he is my cute and understanding cosplay bf
>didn't talk to since
>no idea what to do

>>8526566
I think you two should just brave it and talk about it to get over the awkwardness right now, even if it feels shitty.

>>8526566
get a new cosplay bf

>on /cgl/ for j-fashion
>like anime a lot
>find conventions, cosplay, and most of the attendees beyond embarrassing
>most people into j-fashion are either too casual or adamantly deny any weebiness
>nobody to discuss my weird hipster anime with

>>8526566
i'm with >>8526603. it sucks but i don't think you should be with someone who clearly, at the end of the day, doesn't respect your boundaries. that, or you guys should at least really spend some time talking about what happened before making a decision to break up. obviously you know him better than we do, so i don't know if he would keep his word that he'd never do anything like that again but for me personally i would find it very hard to trust him again even though you mention that he understands and his upset over what he's done.

>>8526566
I was in the same situation with my ex. Honestly, you should break up with him, because a lot of people would class that as rape and without sounding too much like a tumblrina, that could happen again and be an indicator that he will do shit that hurts you and not care again. That's just not a good boyfriend.

However, when I was in the same situation, I didn't have the balls to break up with him, so I sat him down and told him exactly why it hurt me so much, why it was wrong, and that if it ever happened again I'd be out the door without looking back, and he never did it again. It sounds like he didn't understand why what he did was wrong and so potentially deserves a second chance, but if you have ANY suspicions of him hurting you again get the fuck out of there and run for the hills. Be safe, anon.

>>8524614
Good on you for not letting yourself be used by a gold digger.

>>8526566
You literally cried yourself to sleep after he did that to you. Like god I hate tumblr but if you repetively said no that's rape dude.

>>8523932
>>will probably end up at con alone because not part of ~the group~
>the real kicker is that a couple of them are asking me for help with how to make stuff

Tell them to get help from people in the cosplay group. If you are currently helping them with anything, tell them that you can't help anymore and to ask someone who is in the group. Assert yourself or be a doormat forever.

>>8526566
yeah.. break up with him. he doesn't respect your boundaries. and is he not capable of just jacking himself off? god.

>dream dress popped up
>decent price
>need to save money for a con
hopefully it'll be there once I get back

>>8526566
most rapes are perpetrated by someone the victim knows and trusts.

talk it out. no matter how difficult it is. he needs to know how wrong this was and you both need to establish respect for each other's boundaries. if he doesn't seem to get it, leave and don't look back.

love yourself anon.

>>8526106
The same thing happened to me for my very first meetup (I cried so much when I got home I ended up giving myself a killer headache and going to bed while the sun was still up). I think I expected to at least be able to come away from it and say I made some new friends but I felt like I didn't fit in very well, and it really affected me. I took a short break from lolita in which I re-evaluated my life a bit and when I returned, I attended a few meetups over the course of a few months and ended up really forging some great friendships. I can now say some members of the comm are like best friends to me. Basically, don't fret anon. I think underwhelming or shitty first meet experiences are surprisingly common, and definitely don't mean you should leave the scene altogether. Give it another chance when you feel up to it.

>>8523828
Don't worry anon, I'm sure you will look adorable!

>have wanted to cosplay husbando for a long time
>afraid to do so because his outfit is quite complicated and I really want to do him justice
>just learned that hints have been dropped regarding a remake/remaster of his game
>if it ends up being true, the release might be the perfect moment to cosplay him
>but what if I fuck up due to lack of skills

>>8526960
Just do it anon, you sound dedicated enough that whatever you produce would make your husbando proud anyway.

Out of curiosity, what's the cosplay of?

>get cosplay gf after a good month or so of flirting
>she's like a 7/10
>was understanding, clicked really well
>we were both comfortable with each other
>great sex
>adventurous
>eventually violence comes along
>I don't hit back, yet get hit, pretty hard
>we would have hard times getting along at cons
>I tried to talk her down but couldn't
>I broke up and was scared
>felt vulnerable
>still feel vulnerable at times

>>8527011
It's Gabranth from Final Fantasy XII, nothing's confirmed yet but I really hope the rumor is true. In any case, I'll do my best to make it as good as possible.

>>8527025
It's good that you broke up if she was being abusive. If you haven't yet, perhaps consider going to a therapist for the vulnerability issue? Best of luck, anon.

>>8527080
We broke up, it's been a while now.

I feel much safer than I did before, yet I know what to look out for now so I don't get dragged into that cycle again.

>>8526566
You should dump him, anon. He is not a good bf. Sex is something that should be enjoyable for both parties, and desired by both. You deserve somebody who wants to make you feel good, not just themselves. If he doesn't understand why you were angry, clearly he is not thinking of your thoughts or feelings. He is selfish and as far as I'm concerned, that is rape.

I can't believe I've somehow gotten into this situation but how do I get my friend off /r9k/? That place is going to ruin him and I fear it's going to tear our friendship apart if he starts buying into the misogynist bullcrap there.

>>8524505
I don't think you're a cunt anon. Sometimes it's hard for people to understand what feeling apathetic or depressed can do to you. I do think it's of the utmost important to communicate these things to your partner. It's very easy to just become passive aggressive because they *should* know, but honestly, if something isn't right you NEED to tell them.

>>8527115
react honestly and tell him it's not a healthy place.

>>8526398
the sad push for western, feminist islam is a huge joke. we're so hungover with white guilt from invading the middle east nobody wants to admit it's a terrible religion for women

>>8524505
You sound so fucking entitled saying that.
When girls do that and completely reject a guy's kindness like that it just makes him feel like shit.

>>8527112
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>>8527192
Actually no, but good try.

>>8527115
>my brother started browsing there, now he browses the red pill
>he will rant whenever he sees anything about a female, for example an interview with a female actor on tv
>will point people out in public, for example if they have coloured hair, and say how they are an sjw cunt
>right wing, spouts opinions he has heard on the internet like 'california is a nanny state' and 'gays are ruining society', 'women are taking my jobs to fill quotas' despite rarely leaving the house, and not even being american.
>extremely aggressive, hates women
>hits/ attacks me to make a point about equality and that he 'can hit women because it's equal'
>honestly scared for my safety
R9K, not even once. I'm moving to my mothers house because he threatens to kill me.

> wating at the bus terminal
> In lolita
> had a long day at work
> It's cold, starting to get dark, I'm tired
> Bus finally arrives
> get on with everyone else and take my seat
> get all the way to my suburb before I hear it
> crying
> look around confused trying to find the source of the sniffling
> other people are too
> find it
> an Asian girl
> wearing a sailor uniform so clearly a Japanese exchange student
> obviously she's realized she's on the wrong bus
> passengers whispering to each other
> "What do we do?" "don't want to scare her" "poor girl"
> I don't watch a lot of anime and don't speak even the weebiest of wapanese
> but there is one word I know I can say
> and it applies here
> leave my seat
> approach this poor girl, on a bus, in a strange country, at night; she's no more than 15
> "Daijoubu?"
> girl looks up at me like I'm some kind of lolita guardian angel sent by Mana and Misako themselves
> Her name is Emiko
> tearfully and in broken english she explains she thought this was the number 70 bus not the number 40 and now she doesn't know where she is or where she's going
> explain the situation to the driver who kindly pulls over so I can call this girls worried host family and tell them they're going to need to come to the bus terminal in town to pick her up
> Emiko is still a bit teary
> obviously this has been an ordeal for her
> I know just how to turn that from upside down
> Kyary Pamyu Pamyu
> Play Popponpon on my phone
> Emiko recognises it and starts smiling
> other passengers start trying to sing along
> obviously none of us get much beyond the chorus
> "PonPon Dash-ee Day Sheba ee-ee ee-ee no!"
> Emiko is laughing at us by this point
> People getting off at their stops tell her good bye and wave
> Skip my stop so she won't be alone on the ride back into town
> Her host family are waiting for her at the bus terminal
> They've been worried sick about her
> Say our good byes
> get a hug from her host mother
> go home

>>8527164
Feminism and Islam will never mix. Islam is a totally fine religion for women but a lot of the viewpoints completely contradict the hot mess that is modern day feminisim. The religion is not at all oppressive or misogynistic like the media will have you believe, you just have to take the time to actually learn about it.

Also... hijab lolita totally defeats the purpose of hijab. Muslim women (and men) cover their hair and bodies so that they will not attract unwanted attention from people, as it inspires envy, lust, and other negative feelings. It's also discouraged to wear lots of jewelry, brightly colored hijab, tight clothes, makeup, and other flashy accessories for the same reason. Modesty is key.
Soooooo I really have no idea wtf the hijabi lolita are thinking, but you're also not supposed to judge your fellow sisters loll.

But I really don't think it has anything to do with "white guilt". I think it's just the nature of Westerners to try to swoop in and "save" the perceived victim, when in reality they (the victim) most likely doing fine. Those chick's definitely not oppressed though, and feminisim in Islam will hurt way more more than it helps.

>>8527242
>The religion is not at all oppressive or misogynistic
enjoy being property then

>>8527235
You fucking win.

>>8527242
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CUHGCIW0Oes Take a word from Hitchens.

>>8527250
Lmao muslim women aren't treated as property any more than they are here in non-Muslim countries. The Quran literally tells you to honor your mother over anyone else because she birthed you and raised you, and to treat your wife with honor and respect. But whatever, you can choose to believe propaganda if you want. No skin off my back.

>>8527217
Lock his ass up

>has spent a year and a half on 5gb per month hughesnet hell
>has been banned twice for "proxies" bc of hughesnet
>finally has switched to uverse after roommates tired of the bill going up
>can finally use the internet like a normal human again
>can finally use brand websites n shit at my house and not at my friends houses!!!
>can finally make brand releases without having to go to friends houses!!!
>can finally order brand not second hand!!!
>is no longer confined to just 4chan (4chan was the only thing that could load when internet was throttled)
>ordered a bunch of taobao shit today to celebrate
>feelsgoodman.jpg

>>8524505
If he knew you hate being taken out in public, I really have no idea what he was thinking doing all that. Honestly it sounds like he wanted to do something more for himself/to make himself feel good.

>>8526566

Well, maybe he shouldn't have been so pushy.

But, it's mixed as fuck signals to give him half of a blowjob then try to cut it off.

Did you ever flat out say no?

>>8527235
>> I don't watch a lot of anime and don't speak even the weebiest of wapanese
>> but there is one word I know I can say
>> and it applies here
>> leave my seat
>> approach this poor girl, on a bus, in a strange country, at night; she's no more than 15
>> "Daijoubu?"
i don't care if this is real or not, i am smiling and it is raining on my face.

>>8526419
Been dealing with the same thing. Sucks and makes people not want to enter.

>>8524316 again. My BF told me he offered our roommate the cake and told him to eat as much as he wanted. We were talking about our celebrations last night with a friend and our roommate was in the same room just smiling and acting happy, so maybe he thought he told us happy birthday but just forgot? Anyway, not mad anymore since I'm maxed out on sweets for a while.

>>8525821
>>8527118
>>8527335
Agreed. Communication is key and if you told him before about how you don't like surprises then it's his fault for putting you on the spot like that. Even though you told him you weren't feeling well I'm sure he didn't want the surprises to go to waste and that's why he dragged you out. My BF doesn't like much attention on him either so at our birthday celebration I made sure we did everything the same time so everyone wouldn't be staring just at him.

>>8527339
"later" = not now = no for now at least back off. Her boyfriend essentially raped her after she turned him down twice.

>>8525995
Oof I've donated plasma once and never again. It was a big ordeal and had to stop early because I was getting lightheaded. It was a little embarrassing since I saw some people just hanging out on their laptops like it was nothing. If you can, keep it up! You're saving lives and earning some money at the same time.

>>8527339
It's really not. She made it obvious in her post she was telling him no, and you know how fucking insistent a horny guy is? He probably begged for a BJ and she felt obligated to indulge. My ex was the same way (insistent about sex, asking for "just this," and then pushing me to do more because otherwise he'd have "blue balls") and the same thing happened.

>>8525995
>>8527519
> mfw where I live, you get no money for donating plasma

How do you feel about cosplaying characters "accurately"?

On one hand, I understand that you want your cosplay to be as perfect as possible, but on the other hand it's also kind of depressing isn't it? It just came to my mind today that we're actually supporting unrealistic & harmful female body standards by cosplaying many popular female characters (in example almost all anime characters).

It would be nice if we cosplayers could unite and say "No!" to the unhealthy body images presented to us and just cosplay whatever character we want no matter if their body type "fits" our actual realistic bodies.

>>8527730
This is a powerful idea.

>>8527730
Exercise and healthy dieting has proven very beneficial for my cosplay and my life, no thanks

>>8526746
Don't worry, I already foisted them off onto their other cosplay buddies since I can't be bothered helping in this situation and I've already been enough of a doormat by not calling them out on it, but eh. Will haul myself out of the salt mines eventually, just frustrating having unreliable weeb friends.

> places an order for a petticoat with Bunny House
> emails them a few days later inquiring about order
> "Making time is 10~15 days and when we shipped it we will send you a tracking number. Thank you ~!"
> waits three weeks
> still no update
> emails them yesterday asking if they've sent the petticoat yet
> "Your petticoat has shipped since 22/7/2015"
> tf

I really would have liked it if they gave me the tracking info the day they actually shipped out my order...

>>8527839
aw man im nearing the 3 weeks mark. i'll wait a few days to email them to give them a chance

>>8526574
>>8526603
>>8526640
>>8526648
>>8526731
>>8526749
>>8526785
>>8527112
>>8527339
>>8527518

Thank you guys. I thought I'd called a tumblrina after posting that but your support means a lot.

Actually no, I never said flat out "no" but I said I'm not in the mood and we can do it later.
I also understand why it is confusing for him because sometimes I agree to have sex even though I'm not horny and I get into mood in the middle of the business. I think he thought this can happen again. But yes, he was so pushy.

We talked about it and I'm sure he understands why it's wrong. We also started acting normal-ish but my fear is that he will forget about it. He automatically thinks everything is okay if I act normal after an argument but generally those arguments hurt me deeply and they don't heal that quick.

Gulls, give me some honesty. I apologize if this seems like this doesn't belong in the right thread, but I'll shoot.

I'm planning on inviting a non-lolita male friend to a meetup I'm hosting. Here's the gist: my comm doesn't mind non-lolita friends at meetups at all as long as they're not creeps or assholes in general, which I know for a fact my friend isn't. The meetup setting is more casual hangout at a favorite local restaurant than a formal tea party. Even though my friend and I have a lot of common interests, like cosplay and video games, he doesn't know that I wear lolita. In fact, even if I were to end up asking him to come, I wouldn't even mention the lolita aspect at all. I would just ask him if he would like to come to a get-together farewell party I'm having with some friends.

What do you guys think?

>>8527760
>Exercise and healthy dieting has proven very beneficial for my cosplay and my life, no thanks

Enjoy your bulimia / anorexia.

>>8527928
> exercise and healthy dieting
> exercise
> healthy
Where does your bulimia and anorexia fit in, binge-chan.

>>8527927
You should mention him about lolita if you are going to invite him. Save him from the shock.

>>8527235
This is absolutely adorable anon

>up 2 pounds in 2 months
>celebrate by having Starbucks
My doctor is so happy and so am I

>>8527235
I'm sorry, I thought of this image the instant I read "daijoubu".

>>8527971
It's also about as much of a real story as this.

>>8527928
But just in case you're serious; there's healthy and unhealthy ways to look at weight loss for cosplay or lolita. I've lost some weight for cosplay recently, which surprised a lot of people I know because I've basically been thin my whole life. But now that I've been working out regularly I find a lot of aspects of my life besides my appearance have improved, because working out is actually really good for you. Cosplay may have spurned my decision a little bit, because a lot of characters I want to cosplay have thinner waists than I default have, but it ended up being healthier for me in lots of different ways.

I think what is unhealthy is cgl's occasional obsession with hitting certain measurements or numbers without paying attention to what their body can handle/wants. My waist is ~26-27" right now, and I could get down to 25" before I start getting truly frightening (wide ribcage = skeletor time). Some people my height can do less, and sometimes that gets to me when we have measurements threads or get on a talk about weight loss, but I just take a step back and remember that everyone's body is different. I think a lot of people here would be happier if they did the same.

>>8527989
Bus anon here; I know the story sounds like one of those 'a Japanese guy said I was a marshmallow girl and kissed me uwu' ones and if it hadn't happened to me I'd probably think it wasn't real either. I'm just happy I was able to help Emiko out. Oh and the only reason I know what Daijoubu means is I read a tumblr blog of laughable dubs/ bad subtitles to kill time and the one that stuck with me was a screen shot of an anime girl asking some other character in English
"Are you Daijoubu?"

>>8528111
>"Are you Daijoubu?"
...Which reminds me of when I was in Japan a few years back with some non-Japanese speaking friends, one who got confused one day and started saying "Gomenasorry" to people he bumped into.

>be me
>wears toned down lolita to uni
>walked into lecture a little late and asked some girl to move so I can get into a seat
>it was the least disruptive seat to get into in the theater
>sits next to her
The next day
>sees girl in the lecture for the same subject with her group of friends
>loudly telling her friends about how a weirdo sat next to her and she couldn't spread her stuff out
>'OMG she was so weird and gross'

Shut the fuck up cunt, even with my petti I still take up less space than your fupa.

>>8528128
Wow, yep, I can believe that 100%
That's hilarious

>>8522872
Where I live houses are around $700,000. My house is social housing because poorfags- a victorian house with shoddy wiring, no double glazing and is slowly cracking in two, divided into two apartments. The houses either side of me are $3,000,000. I can't move out because the rest of my family will lose the house and because... Well when does someone drop $1mil on a house fresh out of school. I feel bad because when my parents finalky agreed to split up my dad started sleeping on the couch and I started sleeping in the bedroom with my mother (my bed is broken and I have mobility problems) so right now my bedroom is just full of my lolita so my dad can't put his clothes in there

Now he and my little brother creep in at 5am to get their clothes and wake me and my mother

>>8522966
Sounds sweet

My bf and I crushed on the same girl and I got to spoon between them once. Nothing happened but it gave me the warm fuzzies. I like fwb but still have to have genuine affection for them

>>8527730
>>8527747
That, genuinely, reeks of social justice warrior. So long as the cosplay isn't completely destroyed by your preportions then you are good. I don't expect anyone to turn their abdomen into a twig in order to cosplay a character, just look good doing it.

The world shouldn't have to change to appeal to a nichè group of people, though variety isn't bad I prefer having my characters be as aestetically pleasing as possible most of the time.

>>8523673
I met my bf online 5 years ago when he was, ironically, literally the only guy on the site who had never seen my pic threads, so when we were no longer long distance and he saw me wearing lolita all the time it was a shock to him (and I'd assumed he'd seen it all before) He's the normiest of the norm, wearing the same poli shirt and khaki trousers day in day out to deliberately detract attention from himself but even he is developing his own eye and taste for lolita. You'll find someone you emotionally connect with again, then accepting your princess dress up will come secondarily

>>8527927
How close are you with your friend?

>>8527235
I really want to believe you, but I just have a couple questions:
> Why is the girl wearing her own school's sailor uniform if she's in another country attending a foreign school as an exchange student?
Exchange students are not required to do that and they usually don't want to stick out more than they already do. I could understand if it was blazer/cardigan/vest style uniform, but in any country that is not Japan or at least within Asia, the sailor uniform is unfortunately regarded by most people as a sexy costume. If anything, wouldn't she be wearing her host school's uniform or, if they don't have one, whatever fashion style she likes outside of school?
> Why did the bus driver have to pull over so you can call her host family on your mobile phone?
Bus drivers usually have a time sensitive stop schedule and when they are more than a few minutes late, they get penalized. You have your phone with you so you didn't need to use a public booth, and you didn't get off the bus you were on because you said the other passengers said bye to her when they left later on. That part is the most confusing.

I'm sorry, I seriously want to believe you but everyone hates stories like >>8527989 and you are conscious enough to admit that yours sounds like one.

>>8527907
Frankly I don't think anyone of us has enough details or know either one of you well enough to even comment. The entire situation seems weird as fuck, has anything like this happened in the past?

Not a drawfag but I lurk in the thread, post sometimes, I like seeing all the art. Makes me sad whenever someone's clearly put time and effort into a picture and the OP either doesn't see it or ignores it.

two recent feels

>feel a tad guilty for spending a lot of money on lolita and back to school stuff, but also selling a few things, so it's not too bad

>tried a 70B bra from the Primark with their separate silicone fillings, and I feel so much more confident than with my current A cup. I'm thinking about plastic surgery for my boobs to get at least a B cup in the future

>>8528179
when we had exchange students here they wore their own uniforms (they were here 2 weeks max), but HOST students (over a year) were given our uniform to wear for the year.

>tfw second degree burn from hot glue

>>8528239
10 years later and still have the scar, good luck anon.

>tfw never gonna get laid because black male
there is no worse existence in the world than being a nice black guy
literally invisible to white bitches
JUST

>>8527344
>>8527235

I have had 4 years of hell and am sleep deprived in the wake of a nervous breakdown. I've been crying since 5am but I genuinely felt all the warm fuzzy feels for all parties involved reading that, distracting me from my problems for a moment. Thankyou for sharing

>guy i have a crush on can suddenly come to a convention
>posts in group fb
>"i need somewhere to stay guys"
>"oh! i have room. you can stay on my floorspace"
>oh my god anon you did not just do that
>what have i told you about typing before thinking

this could either go fantastically, or so, so badly.

>>8527217
I'm worried my brother is going down that road with the amount of time he is spending on these sites. I've been sexually assaulted quite a few times and I stupidly decided to confide in him when a guy started literally interrogating me as I waited at my bus stop. My phone had been stolen that week so I couldn't even give him my number if I wanted to but when this guy spat at me then stood over me, looking me in the eye saying I'd 'better have a better excuse next time' (and he knew where I lived) I was shaken up. 13 year old brother sits there thinking of EVERY reason it was my fault and I must of provoked him to make him get threatening. I can't even sit on a park bench a few hundred meters from my house in broad daylight without a guy literally just whipping his dick out at me

>>8528195
Drawfagging aint worth it. I've done it on several boards and while you make the days of same anons, it can also turn nasty. Depending on which board you're on, there's a surprising amount of drama surrounding free drawings for anonymous people on the internet.

> had surgery last week
> suffering from post op depression
> don't feel like doing anything at all
> con is coming up, only thing I have been excited about all week
> doctor tells me I can't go, despite the fact that another doctor had already told I me could
> I really think I could, but I don't want to get hurt somehow and hear 'told you so' from the second doctor
> fml

>>8523189

Same story here. Then I got better at cosplay and started getting more attention, and now look at who wants to be friends again!

Pisses me off even thinking about it.

>>8528319
I bet you're an overweight (=American way to refer to obese) 5/10 and your crush is at least a 9/10 Chad-tier.

Don't worry, nothing will happen.

>>8528322
It's just sad he thinks that way at such a young age. Wonder if he gets those ideas from his friends or online.

>>8528212
I know people might have asked you before but are you sure you were wearing the right size? I was bullied for being flat chested in primary school so always had it in my head that I couldn't be more than an A. I continued to squeeze myself into A cups to the point i got breast tissue migration. Finally got into a 30C to begin with then as the tissue went back to where it was meant to go I'm now sitting at 30E. They're still not massive but I've got something; I thought about getting implants at one point and wonder how many women go under the knife when they had tits they didn't even know about!

>>8528324
Why not hire a wheelchair or something? That way you don't have to worry too much about idiots bumping into you etc, especially if you had a fairly big op and it was in the abdominal region. On occasions like this I don't think it's excessive. If the subject comes up, just be honest and say you're still recovering from a major operation.

Put it this way, if it's serious enough to stop you from going, then it's probably serious enough and acceptable enough to use a chair on this particular occasion.

>>8528348

>>8528348
Bullshit. If she was the uglier one of the relationship, she wouldn't get invited to "sleep" with him "on the floorspace". She's clearly the more attractive one but she has a "crush" on the guy because he is rich / has high status in the hotel community. That's why he offered it to her in the first place.

>>8528261
If you feel entitled to 'white bitches' they can probably sense your attitude anmile away. Don't act like white women don't fuck black men or black men don't have it better than black women. All you have to worry about is that they won't be disappointed when they see your dick

>>8524337

First off, 25 situps, 10 push ups, 30 lunges etc... thats basicly nothing. You need to keep making your workout harder and harder as time goes on so you sweat your ass off, and drop into bed after it unable to move. Then rest next day, then repeat the agony the next one.

Also if you were a bit on the fatty side, losing fat and turning it into muscle could mean muscle buildup.

But fuck, if my fat uncle, like literally giant beer belly and chubbs as fuck manlet, could lose all the fat and belly in 6 months, you can do it too. But he cut out all alcohol, all sweets, and seriously watched his diet, while working out like a beast.

>>8528362
>using the N-word to refer to a black man

naice..
naice....

>>8528359
yes, I have the right size, went to a lingerie store a while back and I did have a 70A. I'm not really flatchested, they suit my bodytype, but I guess one cupsize up would look a tad better and make me less childish looking in normal clothes

>>8528366
heres your reply

>>8528368
what the fuck is wrong with you? you literally called him the N-word you cunt >>8528362

do you even read what you post?

>>8528367
At the end of the day, It's your body anon. I wanted my boobs to match my gigantic ass and pear thunder thighs, but it shouldn't matter so much in a proportional girl. Some very elegant drapey things look nice on a smaller chested women (Keira Knightley dresses well) I hope whatever you decide you're happy, because that's what's most important x

>>8528360
I second this. My surgery got rescheduled at the last minute to the day before my birthday and I was already booked up to go to Amsterdam the day after from months in advance. Ended up going in a wheelchair

>>8525677
>>8525655
>>8525636
>>8525611
>>8525821
The problem is that he did know, but he was more or less doing this all to spotlight himself (which was the most infuriating of all-- he wanted fucking public sympathy), since he wants to look like "the ultimate boyfriend" when in reality he turned out to be a super awkward guy (not quite r9k tier, but he's close). FFS, I'd be sitting and doing my homework and he'd randomly seriously go, "Hey, let's go into my room and make out." WHAT PERSON DOES THIS? That's the LEAST romantic thing I can think of. He doesn't have a job and would sit in parking lots near my work and waited while I worked to make sure I was working. He's a fucking sociopath. I'm not being ungrateful.

I've pretty much cut off ties with him. I don't feel like I'm being unreasonable.

I have no idea who else to tell this too.

I just got a body pillow cover of Yuno Gasai in the mail, when I opened the box there was a live spider running around in it.
I'm terrified of spiders, not just a little scared, but mortified.

The spider is now somewhere in my house, /cgl/.

>>8528468
The solution is to burn down the house, anon.

It may help to spray your corners and baseboards with anti-spider stuff. It's usually good for a couple of months. If the spider runs across it, its nervous system or something begins shutting down, so you may get a surprise dead spider somewhere.

>>33601540
>This year Uni schedue happens to be shit
>In long distance relationship, so with my shitty Uni schedules we will barely have time to meet
>He's moving even farther away to get the job of his dreams
>If he moves, there's a good chance we won't be able to meet again for 2 or 3 years
I can handle the distance, but I'm afraid he can't and will want to break up with me. I want him to be happy but it tears me apart because I love him so much that I want him to be by my side forever. If this doesn't work I'm giving up on love.
/cgl/ related because:
>The anxiety over this whole ordeal is making me turn to food
>Gaining a shitton of weight so I can't into cosplay nor lolita anymore
>It doesn't even matter because even if I could there's nothing I enjoy anymore
>My days are mainly spent in my pyjamas crying over chinese dramas

>>8528468
i know this feel.

i know spiders are usually shy and harmless, but the phobia is real. i once sprayed my whole room with Raid trying to catch one, and i shake out clothes and shoes before wearing them just in case.

what you can do:

>clear up clutter
Deprive it of places to hide and hunt. bugs of all kinds like clutter.

>vacuum, dust, etc.
same idea as above. also if it's a web-builder this might destroy its house and force it into the open.

>carry flyswatter with you always
you are faster than you think. be prepared and do not flinch.

>lights on everywhere
if a room is dim bring a flashlight with you

>remember it fears you more and probably just wants to be outside
you are a huge terrifying monster who could trample, eat, or murder it. there are few spiders who can harm humans while you have many tools to dispose of it. you will win eventually.

>if you feel bad about killing an innocent creature
it's murder or living with heightened stress and anxiety, which takes a toll on your body and mind. it's just a bug. maybe it came from far away and would be an invasive species in your area; maybe it is local and got into the box through its own wiles. it doesn't matter. it is not an endangered species and the loss of one idiot spider who got stuck in a box will not affect the environment that much.

>however, bees are in trouble
so please use bug spray indoors only, if you can't kill it through mechanical means.

>>8527907
I'm assuming those other times that you agree when you're not in the mood, you are actually agreeing and not saying "not now" or stopping halfway through to reiterate that you would rather try again later. Bring up your fears to him, tell him you want things to be normal again but that this was a very serious thing and you don't want him to forget it. One conversation about it is probably not enough. Something similar happened with me and my current boyfriend once, not quite the same but bad enough, but after we talked about it several times, he understood why what he did was wrong and has never, ever treated me that way again in the three years we've been together since. It can be normal again, but it might take some work and time, and you're not wrong for feeling hurt or anything about it. If he's not willing to make the effort to make you feel safe again, it's not a relationship you should stay in.

If he ever acts pushy or forces you to do something you don't want to do again, not even something sexual just something you've said you don't want but especially if he tries to make you have sex when you don't want to, LEAVE immediately.

>tfw you thought you finally found the one girl
>she turns out to be just another Tumblfluidkin like most girls who post on /cgl/ (in example)

Why is every girl I like infected with the SJW insanity sickness?

>>8527519
Besides my fear of needles, the process of becoming a new donor was so tedious it was almost not worth it. My bf and I both went. I had an "appointment" scheduled for 10:30, and another at 11:00 for him, we arrived at 10:27am but we didn't finish until 3:15pm. If you want to read the whole story, it's kind of TL;DR.

First of all, their check-in "system" was terrible. When we walked in there was simply sign-in sheets for "new donors" and "donors," so obviously we put our names under new donors not knowing how to ask about our appointments. There were no directional signs, no nothing. Regular donors simply signed in, went to an electronic kiosk, and waited.
The staff made themselves entirely unavailable to ask questions, they didn't even make eye contact. After about 40 minutes of waiting we got so irritated that we hadn't been called, so we went up and were told "Oh, you had to tell us about your appointment!" as if any of them could be assed with our time to begin with.
The female nurses (phlebologists?) treated me terribly, while they treated my boyfriend peachy sweet despite neither of us having a different attitude.

The female nurses decided to check-in and examine my bf first instead of me, when I had specifically named the first appointment for myself since I knew I would be a slower donor, and hence I could get a headstart instead of making him wait. For whatever reason, all of that was ignored and we were separated during the entire process from this moment forward.

I was finally handed a questionnaire which had asked if I had eaten anything four hours prior before I came. Both myself and my boyfriend had eaten oatmeal and water at 8:30am, but since by the time I took this (11:45am) I wasn't sure what to tick. When I showed ambiguity the nurse told me what I had eaten that morning "wasn't good enough." I pressed her to explain what that meant, and if I could eat something quickly from the vending machine.
(con't)

>>8528579
She said no, and demanded that I walk my ass across the street to order food at one of the fast food chains (how healthy right before a donation…). So I did, but I was a little mad because my boyfriend was not stopped; his sugar, cholesterol, and blood pressure screenings went fine. When I returned with my Popeye’s, I went back up to the nurse and I explained that I had eaten and if I was good. By “good” I meant, “okay to proceed?” She seemed irritated that I had interrupted her conversation and bluntly yelped a “yeah” and continued casually chatting to a non-staff gentleman at the counter. I was given no further instruction for the next 25 minutes.

I was called back to the counter and a different nurse instructed me to read a new donor booklet. It had about 8-9 pages with some really fine print, a lot of it was stuff that was already explained to me. I did make an attempt to read and reached the 7th page (~2 minutes) before I got called for the finger-stick screening process. I brought the book with me to the stands, but was promptly halted by the nurse. “Did YOU read all that?” I replied that for the most part I had, and only had about a page left to skim. “YES, but did you READ ALL OF THAT? THERE UH QUIZ LATER YA KNO.” So again, I was shooed away. So I finished reading a whole 40 seconds later. I wasn’t called back up again for another 30 minutes. When I finally did it was a different nurse. I could tell she had good intentions to let me know about the process, but she had some pretty unprofessional habits like reading my screening results and weight out loud for everyone to hear. It’s as if I pissed in these nurse’s cheerios somehow.
(con't)

>>8528576
did they buy badges recently

>>8528582
What badges?

>>8528579
>>8528581
I finally made it to the back an hour later where I had my picture taken, took the big ~*~SIX QUESTION MULTIPLE CHOICE QUIZ~*~, and got a physical. The nurse who gave me a physical was again, with good intentions, but so unprofessional. I had worn a sundress with a cardigan; I had in mind comfort and hoping that this process would take only three hours max. The nurse had a problem with my dress and insisted she “protect my modesty” by putting her labcoat over my legs out of concern that I would FLASH ERRYONE. She even insisted I not wear a dress next time (even though there were older women wearing dresses there too). Not only did I not “flash” anyone, yet even other patrons and a nurse said I looked nice. Had it only been a one-time comment too, but she ‘jokingly’ made the flash comment at least another six times.

Of course when the physical was finally over my boyfriend was already more than halfway done with his donation. I was also put in another section of the hall, when I was hoping to be seated next to him to help quell my anxieties. But nope. A bunch of other shit happened too but I think ya'll get the idea.

Anyway, just to end this I’ll say I made it out. I just felt I was treated discriminately. My boyfriend even got a “special donor card” from the nurses that he can use next time to bump himself up on the waiting list. I received no such card…

>>8528585
im guessing no then
never mind

>working on outfit for convention
>can't really justify spending more on accessories I wanted
>see friend I talked about outfit with posting
>friend is doing exact same themed outfit
>using exact same ideas I had told them about for mine
>friend posts daily updates on outfit progress
>feel really petty and low
>cave and spend money on accessories to out do them
>post pictures of outfit on social media
>get a lot of compliments
>friend asks me where I got accessories from
>nope so hard

On one hand, I feel like shit because I dropped $75 on stuff I didn't need out of petty jealousy that someone "dare to take muh ideas" but on the other hand, if I hadn't felt that way then I wouldn't have ended up making such a nice outfit. Even though now I'm really wary about who I tell my cosplay plans to because now I'm afraid that I'll have more "Oh, you're cosplaying that person? I love that, I'm gonna do that too!" problems in the future.

>>8528261
>tfw had a black boyfriend
>tfw now I only have AIDS

>>8528261
You must be beta & cringe as fuck then
JUST
kill yourself

>>8527235
anon. i hope you got Emiko's number and that you two become best friends. if not if you see her again be sure to get her number! or give her yours!

>>8528173
We used to be coworkers, but since I left my job, we've added each other on social media. I normally don't have people from work on my personal social media, and neither does he. We would basically goof around with each other at work whenever it was appropriate, and we'd go into long conversations about things we liked, like anime, video games, etc. Out of all my former coworkers at that most recent job, I got along with him the most.

tl;dr He's really chill, and he's a former coworker that I'd like to turn into a friend.

>go to con
>see everyone cosplaying and having fun
>wonder whether I should try to get back into it myself
>do some research into a few different cosplays I'd be interested in doing
>the cost of this fucking hobby holy shit
>my dream cosplay would cost more than my car
>tfw forever sad and poor and wondering what the fuck kind of life people at cons live that they can afford this hobby

Like honestly I have a decent income but it just feels wasteful to spend that much on costumes that I'd wear maybe twice a year. Sure, I can afford to drop several hundred on a costume, but I could put that money towards a house, or put it away for travel, or anything infinitely more useful than cosplay. I've never had expensive hobbies so maybe it's a mindset thing.

> Get a new job
> Finally paying off debt
> Finally saving money
> Boob job finally not too far away

I think the only negative is not being able to fit in brand but I'm happy regardless

>>8528700
>drop several hundred on a costume
Anon, no. You can get full costumes off Taobao or even eBay/Amazon for under $150 these days as long as you're not wanting to cosplay anything in armor or super elaborate.

>>8523809
>>8523825
I'm a rabid SU fan, I fucking hated Steven and Greg for like the first 10 or 15 episodes. The show really starts when Connie shows up in Bubble Buddies, Steven's character growth starts when he isn't "the one being protected" but find someone he wants to protect.

That said, the fans are already past the point of jumping the shark. Just stay away from the tumblr fandom for SU and enjoy it peacefully.

>>8524046
It is so hard to keep to the "just do you" manga, particularly when people can get so insulted that you do you and not them.

But, your life sounds a bit like me. IDK if it is succeeding.

>>8528804
Same here. I found Steven annoying as fuck for the first few episodes, which was why I was so put off on SU for a long time. The characters really do grow on you after a while, though. Plus, I really like the songs on SU.

>>8528796
Unfortunately most of what I like isn't very popular so I'd have to commission most things. I have literally zero craft skills and no motivation to learn (very clumsy and scared of fast/sharp things like sewing machines), so if I want my obscure 2deep4u shit, I'll have to commission it.

>>8528804
thing about steven is that he is a child, so he acts like a child

>>8528128
>gomenasorry
hah, oh my god
>bump into someone in a crowded store in Japan
>"I'm sorry" out of reflex
>oh shit I'm in japan
>turn around to say sumimasen
>it's a tall ginger white guy
>"no, it's nothin, mate"

>>8529024
God speed, anon.

>>8524337

lol are you me? I been walking two hours a day and check my calories for two months and had the same weight. However, I tried my dress on and the fit was different than before. I found out actually I lost about an inch on the waist and lost other parts as well. It's really odd.

>>8528579
>>8528581
>>8528586
Ah man and I thought my experience was long. The whole check in process took a couple of hours but I didn't know about the differences when signing in either and waited much longer than I should have because no one greeted me and told me. I didn't eat breakfast (didn't regularly at the time) so the nurse made me a sandwich and a snack though. I must have lucked out because my nurse was a nice guy. If it was pretty recent I'm sure you could report your experience and claim the nurses were being sexist and whatnot. May not do anything since they're run by the government though.

>>8528128
> at work
> see a table with two people talking to each other in another language
> "Hmm, maybe they're Japanese. I'll go talk to them in Japanese!"
> walks up to them and asks, "Daijoubu?"
> people turn towards me and give me blank stares
> thinking to myself, "Why aren't they responding?"
> realize right then and there that they're Korean
> abort abort abort

>>8528557
I feel really bad because in my house, the bathroom window is left open a lot, and spiders get in. If I see a spider in the shower, and it's heading for the water, I kill it with the water, because if it's stupid enough to head towards the big scary human and the torrent of water, it clearly wasn't going to make it very far anyway.

>>8529100
Thanks m8. I actually just spent the last hour looking at my finances and realised I could probably afford to do a payment plan even on my ridiculous dream cosplay without hugely eating into my savings plan for a mortgage, so maybe I shouldn't feel so sad because I'm not really all that poor.

>>8529240
Why would you even say "are you okay" to anyone to start a conversation?
You could have just said konnichiwa or konbanwa or even hello.

>tfw quirky personality
>can't tone it down at gatherings
>end up embarrassing myself around older adults

Idk if it's even considered quirky, maybe awkward but it's cute because I'm a girl? I can't compare it to Zoey Deschanel because I haven't seen any of her work. It's not cringey or weeb enough to be posted in a cringe thread, but at times I feel I go overboard around older peers. Maybe it's social anxiety since I spend so much time studying I don't talk to many people outside of my house, family, and small circle of friends. I just end up spilling my spaghetti when someone asks about my hobbies/interests since they're pretty "different" compared to my peers. I'll be getting a job soon so maybe that will help form a more professional dialect.

>>8524505
>>8528434
>Someone tried to do something nice and special for you
>it must be because they want to feel good
what a bitch

>>8526566
I don't think I call it rape exactly as it is pretty grey, but you need to be stronger with him. Oh later doesn't always properly register as a real no to people, it's a pretty weak bendy answer

You need to actually go no fuck off it ain't happening. Really that is a lesson for all life

I want to be a convention Maid Cafe employee, but I'm worried my lolita friends will look down on me.

>>8529626
work is work, don't let some salty bitches get in the way of anything that can go on a cv

>>8528179
bus anon here again. Pretty much every school in my country has a uniform and since most exchange students don't stay longer than a few months to save themselves the hassle of buying or borrowing the uniform of the school they attend they just wear their own uniform.

The bus driver pulled off because she could see she had a clearly distressed passenger and wanted to know what was the problem when I explained what was going on they remained off the road so there wouldn't be so much background noise when I called Emikos host family. She was just being kind and trying to make thing easier.

>>8528670
bus Anon
I didn't get her number, she's 14-15 I'm 26 I'm glad I could help her but if she's going to make friends here I'd want them to be around her own age. I'll just be happy if I get to be a funny story she tells people back in Japan

I'm on a diet to better fit my lolita clothes. CGL capcha keeps showing me food. Fuck.

>Current capcha: Select all the food. Come on 4chan.

I love doing cosplay with my boyfriend.. I just really wish I had a female friend that cosplayed too. Most of the duos we do could benefit from another girl, and it would be so much fun to just have another cosplay friend.
>tfw live in the middle of nowhere
>any local cosplayers are pleb-tier and/or tumblrtards

>>8529806
i felt the same way
then i moved into the city
and couldnt stand anyone

>short and tiny as fuck with no titties and no butt
>have a really young looking face so most people mistake me for 14 when I'm 20
>want to cosplay mature and curvy characters all the time
>never do it because the only characters I look good as are loli and kid characters

my dream dress is up for super cheap right now, but i just spent all my money while on vacation.
>tfw this always happens
maybe i should just stop going on vacation

>mfw the OP I want is on sale, but the colorway I want is out of stock
>mfw owns a nice wardrobe with a majority of red items
>red don't match

Also:
>miss friends in the main comm; live too far to frequently attend meets
>want to attend cons because I can weeb out and be with faraway friends
>conflicted: cons are essentially the same every year and want to travel abroad or different states

As much as I want to live closer so I can attend meets without spending extra on cons, I'm not in the best financial state to do so yet, and idk if I'm ready to let go of the comm I created (let alone know who to pick as a new mod because I know others were looking to move away).

On a nicer side of feels, I've hosted a meet up with the most people in our comm ever, and although the youngest attendee was a tad annoying with trying to impress us on her knowledge on the fashion, it was understandable with being young and eager to get involved, and reminded me of myself when I was her age. It kind of sucks that a majority of our comm are much older, but hopefully, she'll be able to connect with someone her age and I look forward to seeing her first coord. I get really bored easily at work, and I've been imagining taking the younger members under my wing, letting them oggle my huge wardrobe and try on my pieces, and having a private tea party in my home. Too bad I recently downsized my wardrobe and limited myself to a specific style now but hey, a girl can dream.

>tfw you've been lifting to lose weight
>tfw puffy sleeved blouses and cutsews make you look like a linebacker.

I just want to be kawaii and /fit/

>Birthday on Thursday
>"Alright! I haven't bought any dresses in a while because I've been concentrating on traveling for cons and cosplay, so I'll splurge!"
>No dresses I like within my budget since just went to a con.
>Hell, all the dresses I like on LM right now are super popular so of course they're expensive.
>"Okay! That's fine, I guess! I'll get this really amazing looking official replica prop for my next cosplay!"
>Realize the only time I can get my brothers' birthday presents are next week
>Have planned a really cool, but expensive presents for them.
>"A-Alright! Next week!"
>Con the weekend after.
>School starts after that so hours will be reduced and I need to save up.

With a slew of bad birthdays, I just kind of wanted to spoil myself for once. I'm really excited to get my brothers their presents, but it's just a bittersweet feeling. At least my dad offered to get me a hotel room for my birthday so I don't have to day trip to the next major city again.

>go to first big con
>gonna get a shirt a cute guy wanted to give to me since he got eh wrong size
>go to lolita tea party in banging coord
> Feel beautiful as fuck
>cute dude is flirting with me the entire con
>having fun with friends
> one night while he walks me to my hotel he grabs my hand and holds and once we reach the elevators he kisses my head
>ride back with him and hold hand with him like 80% of the time.
>now both happily texting each other
I feel very happy with where i am right now. I was feeling pretty rough for a while and after this con i feel great

>>8530119
#justFujoFantasies

>>8530081
:( Welcome to the world of being a wide-shouldered woman, anon-chan.

>>8530081
it's ok, you can still get plenty of free bf tickets on /fit/

>>8530081
I know those feels, anon. I know those feels.

>>8529937
L O N D O N
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I hope your boyfriend gets put in prison for being a pedo so I can replace him.

>make handmade bloomers
>recently getting a ton of mail from sissies

I don't judge, but I could really do without hearing why they want them. A memorable message was quite long and said something like "it's embarrassing when I'm outside and ladies comment about my pretty panties." Aside from that, just weirdly time consuming requests that no other group of customer bothers me with. I don't want to be rude and not reply, and hey money is money, but at the same time replying just feeds into their fantasies and it feels kind of gross to be dragged into that. I ignore the ones that cross the line but it still icks me out.

>super excited for con
>always prepare myself
>every time I'm super happy about something, something always comes up
>eye open for anything unusual
>wildfires about 20 miles away
>itsallgood.png
>mom has a family meeting
>She's crying
>last family meeting was about the divorce
>siblings and I are freaking out
>labs came back from E.R. Visit
>She's meeting with a cancer specialist

I'm so depressed right now, nothing could have ever prepared me for this.

>start birth control pill
>suddenly all the urban legends about birth control start becoming 3real5me
>mood swings like whoa
>huge boobs
>maybe? weight gain (i sincerely doubt it because my diet has changed for the worse)
>fuck this shit I'm going to keep taking it so I can finally fit MM

>>8523777
heh char siu man wise words

>>8530081

I have never seen a girl who is anyone near as muscular as she thinks she is.

>>8530250
>>huge boobs
Sorry but being a fatty mcfatfat doesn't count as huge boobs. Don't blame your 'sudden weight gain' on the pills.

>>8530265

I went from a BMI 17 to a BMI 19, wow, such a fatty.

>>8530276
>lying on the Internet
alright

>>8530249
woah wtf life? I'm bummed out for you, anon. I really hope everything picks up for the better. If you ever need to talk, we'll keep the feel threads alive even with the janitors taking them down.

>ehugs

>>8530292

>thinking i have any stake in lying

Whatever makes you sleep at night.

>>8523158

Trainer Red and Ash look almost identical, anonymous, especially when it's a cosplay.

>>8523189

She was always a parasite, she only was able to shrug you off when she didn't need you anymore.

>>8530293
Thank you anon, I appreciate it

>move to new city
>biggest city I've ever lived in
>excited to be closer to some con friends
>realize I'm not actually very good friends with any of them
>try to make plans but no one seems that interested
>now planning on going to several events by myself

I know I can still have fun on my own but wow I haven't felt this lonely and unwanted in a while

>>8530219
jsut try to keep objective. I've a friend who recently came out as an adult baby, and while I still see him somewhat as a big brother, I just ignore most of his adult baby stuff. I care about him, so I let him be, but ofcourse it's different when they are your possible customers. if they go too far, just tell them so, and that while you respect their choices, you have the right to not want to hear too many details.

>>8530368
I'm not into adult baby fetish, but in the kink groups I'm in at least, there is a huge as fuck emphasis on not exposing your kinks to unsuspecting strangers without their consent. Of course, there will always be the occasional asshole couple doing hardcore whipping in the park, but it's pretty underlined in most parts of the community.

I just don't get why this hasn't been an issue in the sissy group as of yet. Either that, or she's getting a ton of autists who can't keep their fetishes to themselves.

>>8524471
Sorry to break it to you anonymous, but chips are a huge source of calories simply because they're calorifically dense and very unfilling.

Juice honestly is no better than soda in a macronutrient sense. Yes, it doesn't have additives or HFCS, but it's still tons of sugar and empty calories. Drink water instead. If you must have sweet, use the non-calorie water flavor squirt things (these typically lack aspartame, which some people care about)

Bread is better than tortilla if given the choice, as a single tortilla, depending on size, can have the calories if 3-4(!!) slices of bread. Tortilla seems like a healthier choice because it's thinner, but they're fried in lard and very dense. Go with whole wheat bread. I like the Double Fiber myself.

Cheese is empty calories, despite the Got Milk slogans, you can cut dairy more or less entirely out of your diet and not suffer for it.

And as others have pointed out, 25 sit ups and 10 push ups is nothing.

If you have honestly committed to the program and aren't lying by omission, then it sounds like you have a good drive, but lack information, probably getting most of it from Dr. Oz type sources (not an insult to your character, those hack pop fitness half-truths and bullshit is where most people get their info).


You should head over to /fit/ and read their sticky.

If you prefer to do body weight exercises (I.e. Without machines and weights) I suggest you try the 100 Push-ups program and the Couch to 5k program. Both work very well.

Arm yourself with knowledge.

Super dumb feels, but I'm on a virtual pet site and my dream pet name is currently taken, but the user hasn't been online in about a year. Their account is being cleared on the 12th and all their pet names, as well as their username, will be available again. I'm so so so happy because now I'll finally have Gyaru and I can make the kawaii gal I've always wanted. I am going to be commissioning so much art for her I swear.

>loser still going on pet sites kek

>>8530187
What the fuck does that London shit even mean. I keep seeing it in shitposts.

>>8530690

brb camping out so I can steal your name

I think my comm hates me.
>So I have a speech impediment and I'm dyslexic and I just really struggle with all sorts of language, just in general.
>They are always speaking fondly of Japanese things and pronouncing them correctly, all studied abroad ectect
>they can't even guess at what I am saying when I try to pronounce things like Misako's name and shit
>I mean I could not say the word squirrel after more then 10 years of speech therapy I don't know what I expected.
>Its funny because when I think of the word squirrel I can say it but if I try to read it I can't pronounce it, thanks dyslexia.
>Most of Japanese goes like this, too many letters, my brain does what it wants. I'm a bit better with kanji reading since I have less to fuck up and I'm working on a memory of what I think the word is, but spelled out? fuck everything. LET'S JUST TOSS SOME RANDOM LETTERS IN THEIR.
>I don't want to tell them all my bullshit baggage
>mfw they causally make fun of other people that can't Japanese
>It is hard to avoid talking with them without using any Japanese words, because, well, lolita, but I will speak in loops to try not to.
>they must think I am such a fucking idiot

>>8530827
>guy thinks you're attractive
>"wah, I am being raped!! shitpost, shitpost, SHITPOOOOST"

10 years later you will be begging for attention of this kind.

Enjoy it while it lasts, entitled cunt.

I don't know if she wants me because I could support her lolita hobby or because she is actually into me. So far she has been been nothing but cute but she's always telling me how good she would look in one of those $500 outfits..
Help me lolitas what do I do?

>>8530987

Would you drop her if she was a gold digger?

Like, do you think you will ever get another girl?

>>8531011
Probably.

Yes, but I like her because she's as broken as I am, or at least that's what she made me believe.

>>8531038
erm stop with that emo shit, don't get into relationships with people because they're 'broken' etc like she's the ONLY PERSON EVER who could understand you, because there's plenty of fish

secondly if she's a gold digger or making you suspect that she is, you gotta tell her how you feel. She might not know she's doing it and you have to put your foot down and say 'look I'm not going to buy you that', if you don't then congrats on never growing a backbone.

>>8530690
curious. anon, does your pet site start with an L?

>>8531306
You're right about the emo shit, but I like it. Thanks for the advice anon.

>>8531355
sorry for being so blunt, I was cranky earlier. I do stand by what I said though, also if you feel like the only person you can be with is someone as 'broken' as you then you aren't ready for a relationship right now and need to focus on yourself, seriously. Wish you the best and if she's a gold digger, drop that shit asap.

The next anon who posts in this thread will become my girlfriend, whether she likes it or not.

>tfw your dream dress pops back up again sooner than expected
>WHEN YOU ACTUALLY HAVE MONEY
it's scalper priced with OBO though. fffff I hope they accept my offer. it's not lowballing at least?

>>8531549
>>8531802
>>>8531802
oh
>b-but anon, i am a girl (and not really looking atm)

>>8531815
>whether she likes it or not
He sounds serious anon.

>>8530935
I'm not the person your reply was directed at, nor am I even female, I was literally just asking what the finch the London thing is meant to mean.

But if there was any doubt you were shitposting, it was cleared up by this salty as fuck reply.