/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL

> Looking back I now see she was coming onto me by the questions she asked which at the time i just took for banter

could have had a con hookup but i always play it safe and not assume every girl being nice is hungry for the d

>Decide which character I'm going to cosplay
>someone in my comm immediately decides after I say which character that they also want to cosplay that character

am i a terrible person for feeling smug that my costume looked way better?

>>8436751

didn't know last one autosaged and posted a reply to an anon about the job

>had a fight with someone over being a terrible friend
> didn't delete me from FB despite projecting flaws so I could be the bad guy. Proceed to ignore their existence and go about posting my progress
> I'd make statuses
>immediately person would sign online and linger
>didn't think anything of it until it was 2 weeks of the same thing
>get to con
>I'm doing my own thing
>everywhere I turn, there they are. Staring as if expecting me to go to them
>think nothing of it the first and second time
>by the end of the weekend I was done
>still refuses to talk to me but told a mutual we were kind of not friends

I don't even know what the hell. The photos coming out are bad thread worthy but I don't think I'm salty enough to post them. But yes I mad I had to duck and weave to avoid.

>>8436724
Nope

>>8436788
Honestly anon, either delete them or exclude them from your statuses. At least that's what I would do, I understand wanting to be the bigger person but that shit creeps me out.

>>8437034
Yeah I'm starting to.
It's déjàvu. Had it happen with all my exes. It just makes no sense to me to be that creepy to someone and not think you're innocent.

>takes less than 24 hours for package to get from closet child to UK
>takes over a week for parcelforce to send out a customs payment letter
>it's literally been sat "awaiting payment" this whole time and i can't do shit
>meet it was meant for has already passed
>skreeeee

>person looks like they might be on the higher end of 'average' weight
>fatty

Could be worse I guess, but

>person is sickly thin, looks very underweight
>"how dare you say that, some people are naturally that thin no matter what they eat"

You know that metabolism isn't a thing that only works as an excuse when you're thing, right? If fatties can't use it, then skinny people can't use it.

>>8437546
Yeah, fuck skinny people. They have it so easy, they never get shit on like fat people do.

>>8437583
Lose weight then

>>8437288
Literally the first thing I'll do if there was no law for a day is destroy parcelforce.

>>8437583
That's not my point, I just think it's hypocritical to say that fatties can't say 'slow metabolism' but that saying how you eat tons of shit and never gain because of 'fast metabolism' is perfectly okay.

You can't have it both ways.

Fat people need to shut the fuck up and stop complaining. You have complete control over your weight.

I'm stressed.
>I'm 25 and I'm studying for getting my second degree, but in this University you have to approve 7 subjects, which are really hard, if you want to start the actual career. I have approved 5/7 last year and I this year I doing the other 2.
> Less than a month after I started uni, I got a job which is 10/10. Co-workers are great, bosses are great, payment is great, everything is great.
> Yeeeeeeah, money for cosplays + other things.
>I like the job but I arrive so late because I live really far so I'm always tired.
>I'm so tired.
>I don't want to do shit at weekends, I travel too much everyday and I'm constantly thinking on my work. So when weekends arrive I just want to lay on the bed, eat and sleep.
>First 2 exams arrive. Oh shit. Failed both.
>Depression.jpg
>Didn't touch any cosplay related project.
>Dropped one subject because I fall behind.
> Same shit with the other one.

I'm mad because I wasted 4 months because I was so tired and I didn't managed good enough my time for Uni and now I have to attend this classes again and I just want to fucking start my career.
I know it sounds stupid, buy I'm mad at myself.

>>8437593
You're dense

>Con is in about 2 weeks
>None of my cosplays are finished
>Work schedules me ~10 more hours than I am used to
In addition:
>Order nude colored stockings because I can't stand tights for smooth legs in cosplay
>ETA: August
>mfw

Pray for me seagulls.

Seriously sick of the whole AM/John thing. It's getting so overblown. Not defending him at all, I hate both sides. He is totally a creep yeah, but aside words + the whole wig thing its not that big of a fucking deal. As far as I know he never tried to touch anyone. Oh boohoo some guests/models were unfed! Oh the horror. They are not some divas, or international supermodels. Just lolita enthusiast volunteers who happen to be cute enough. They don't HAVE to be there and model, they can go get food on their own.

Nude colored stockings can be bought like anywhere. Go to a mall, or order from Amazon.

Sick of all these newfags not knowing how to reply correctly

Anyone else get pissed off when you see someone use worbla for literally everything? Why does everyone think it's some wonder material when there's better things on the market.

>>8437795
I ordered them from amazon. My issue is that I have both pasty skin and thunder thighs to accommodate to.

I fucking hate how male oriented 4chan is. Especially on the fashion board. Every once in a while I forget that it's 100% male and I go there hoping for normal fashion shit. Fuck I hate it.
The worst thing is going to /d/
God I just want a female centered thread that ISNT FUCKING GUYS THAT TURNED INTO GIRLS
cant there just be a girl thread for girls once in a while. I just want to get off properly ;-;

>>8437846
I feel the same, also /a/ reminds me why I hate 95% of anime these days. What kind of /d/ things do you feel are more female centered?

>>8437846
Or worse, women as livestock. Of the few female oriented threads on /d/ that aren't futa, women being dehumanised (bimbo, hypno, ganguro, brain drain, etc) in some way dominates it.

>>8437886
>not muh fetish
Youre on /d/, like, holy shit. Its degeneracy for degenerates. Get over yourself.

>>8437886
>>8437852
>>8437846

It's /d/... it's fetishes
If you want to make a 'female-oriented' thread just go make one.

>>8437790
Damn those wont be there in time. Make contingency plan now.

missed fantastic carnival, it was the only thing AP has released in awhile that ive liked. those rabbit ears on the salopette...

Unfortunately after friending a comm member I got along really well with, I learned she's dumber than a box of rocks and is on the bandwagon for every Bullshit trend ever. (Anti vax being the one I'm most disappointed about.)

I really want to stay friends with her, but every time I see one of those statuses I want to scream.

>annoying "friend" who always wants to do group costumes with me
>cons in a little less than a month, I'm finishing my costumes up and working on my own projects
>she hasn't even started any of hers
>she's going on a two week vacation before the con and asks me to make her costumes for her
>offers me 10$
>10$ for an entire costume
>I say I don't have the time and that money isn't enough
>"anon, you don't make it for me then I just can't do it"
>it was her idea in the first place
>my costume is a fan design that matches hers which is canon
>ohwell guess we don't have to do it then...
>"but anon I want to do it so bad it'll ruin my con if I don't!"
>manage to convince her to make it herself
>goes COMPLETELY off the design saying that it doesn't matter
>doesn't make the same style dress as me despite our characters having matching patterns
>ignores any tutorials I send her because "tutorials don't work for her"
>whining because "I've put too much pressure on her"

her fabric choice was horrible and cheap and she skipped out on accessories to "save money". Never again....

Even though I'm losing weight, I'll never be able to do some of my dream cosplays.

I've lost about 50 pounds, and I still have about 20 to go before I'm at my goal weight, but I can't do any midriff bearing cosplays. I have hormonal issues which causes a lot of excess body hair, especially on my stomach. Shaving and hair removal creams don't work because the hair grows back so quickly (literally within a few hours) and I can't afford laser treatments.

I guess I can just do bodysuits and tight fitting things?

>>8437846
See 'Gifs that make you want to suck cock' and 'female POV' threads. Besides, I tend to find the lewd boards are generally more tolerant of females. Just don't unnecessarily specify your gender like /fit/ guys used to do here.

>>8437886
There are also women with those fetishes, it's not like they're male-only. In fact, I'd say it's relatively common for a woman to have a degradation or dehumanisation fetish.

>>8437886
Lol, the 2 people I know who are into the 'women as livestock' fetish...are women.

If people don't like the threads posted, hide them and make your own. Whining here solves nothing.

>>8439026
>>8439017
Wow way to play into the trolls, retards. "Lol but women like being objects!!" How fucking stupid are you

Got so close to goal weight. Changed birth control. Weight started piling on quickly. Thought it was because I was having bad seasonal depression, inactive and not eating right. Gained close to 25 fucking lbs in the course of 8 months. Been back to healthy eating, calorie counting, portion control, strength training, cardio, everything I've done before to lose weight. Nothing is working and I'm either maintaining or gaining. BMR is at 1518.45 I've been eating less than that on most days or at that. Even during the bulk of my weight loss, I'd do well on most days and one or two days where I had a big dinner didn't effect me at all and didn't hinder my weight loss at all. I'll straight up gain a few lbs now. Not normal at all. I'm close to being in the obese range again and last year I was at a healthy weight.

Think back to before I was taking BC and was at my fattest (215) that I was showing signs of what could've been pcos. Usually bc with high female and low male is used to correct that problem. Mine has medium amounts of all hormones. When I started bc all the weird symptoms I had went away, especially after losing weight, never thought of seeing a doctor for it when I had the insurance to do so. Could probably be a thyroid problem too.

Going to get pills straight up changed to something I took before and I know worked in the meantime. But it could be a few months before my body is used to it. Might also be awhile before I can even get an appt with a doctor and get this issue straightened out or even find out what I have. But hopefully I can get back to losing weight.

My dresses don't fit right anymore and I have to wear a binder and a compression sports bra to even get remotely where I was before to get them on and it looks like shit. I can throw all plans for finishing my cosplay in time out the window too.

I'm so angry and frustrated at myself.

>going to small con with friends
>be anxious and shy, but since we agreed to all cosplay together I actually feel confident enough to do it
>show up at con
>friends both in jeans + t-shirts
>"lol we didn't finish our cosplays in time whoops lol whatever"
>only spotted one other cosplayer at entire con
>constantly asked for pictures while friends keep their distance
>nobody to hide behind
>end up going home after like an hour
>friends accuse ME of party-pooping

Whyyyyy can't I find any nice ankle or OTK ivory/light yellow socks anywhere that aren't brand? I can easily sew on lace myself but I just can't find a decent base anywhere. Everything is either too white or too grey/brown. I don't want to do a brand order just for something I'm going to wear out in a year.

>>8439758
forgot my picture of the colour I need

>>8439711
>one other cosplayer the entire con
Wow, that convention really was small.. and shitty.

>>8439758
Have you tried sock dreams?

>>8436724
>am i a terrible person for feeling smug that my costume looked way better?
Honey this is cgl, you're among friends, no worries

>>8437763
Hang in there, anon, failing classes sucks but it'll at least be easier for you this time!

>>8439758
Try dying it with tea.

>>8439758
Find cotton ones and tea dye them yourself.

>>8439890
I hate sockdreams. Ordered a pair of ruffle ankle socks from them and they were just a pair of overpriced leg avenue socks.

I'm planning to cosplay Alice from Virtue's Last Reward. I found a tutorial to fake big boobs but I'm also interested in seeing how feasible a body stocking to cover my abdomen would be. I have stretch marks and I think it would be easier to just deal with a body stocking than having to use body paint to color them out. Any advice besides "Don't do it" would be helpful.

>its really hot
>really humid
>can't swap out blouse for chiffon
>cant go sockless
>going to convention in july
>can barely cope in pyjamas

i am going to die.

>first time paneling at a con, really nervous
>longtime friend promises to attend, the content is relevant to her anyway
>the day before i went with her to a group photoshoot outdoors
>sweated it out in my cosplay while taking pictures of her, since she didn't want to pay for a private photoshoot but still wanted nice pics of her cosplay
>she promises to be there to support me in turn during the panel because "that's what friends do!"
>panel rolls around, she gets up and leaves after literally 10 minutes to hang out with some guys who were heckling my fellow panelists
>they were the only people to walk out on the panel, which was a pretty good success
>still feel awful about it
>she proceeds to ditch me at every available opportunity for the rest of the con
>won't return my calls or have any meals with me, disappears for literally 24 hours at one point
>refuses to even speak to me in front of her new "con friends"
I still feel so shitty about it. She never apologized, let alone admitted that she'd treated me at all unkindly. I finally got up the nerve to casually ask her where she went after she left my panel, and she pretended to have no memory of it. It just hurts all the more because of how long we've been friends. At least I know better than to ever attend a con with her again. Sorry gulls, I hate to complain like this, but there's no one else I can vent to.

>>8436621
>Starting a job that I'm not 100% on.
>Sexually frustrated as fuck because no time left over from training for said job.
>Still a virgin.
>Wanting to cosplay this september, so now also stressed about loosing weight.
>Might loose virginity at con but not 100% sure about that since the friend I'm going with is hotter than me, and might take attention away.
>No fuck buddy to just relieve stress because all relationships scare me accounting for all the abusing fucked up exes I have had.

Fuck me.

>>8439933
Do your research Anon. Unless the picture was a fake, lots of sellers re-sell leg avenue stuff. Buyer beware. Don't they have a return policy though?

>>8441551
She's acting like a shit. If she doesn't cut it out, distance her and connect with some new friends.

>>8440231
Thin socks, stay indoors, battery operated fan in your bag. Stay hydrated and don't be too hyper. Lots of deodorant.

>>8441551
Personally I'd just counter with con friends of my own. Not in a "Take that!" sort of way, but legitimately try to make new friends and if they turn out unsavory, drop them while it's still early.

I know what it's like to have a long term and especially childhood friend who turns on you and it stings. But not all relationships were meant to last forever. Much easier said than done to drop someone, again, I experienced it. But it's usually better to vomit than stay sick while praying the feeling goes away.

>>8438999

Use wax or an epilator.

>>8437690
You can't instantly lose weight unless you have money to get it removed with surgery.

You need to shut up.

I'm sick of all these rainbows on my Facebook.

>>8442135
sup /lgbt/?

>>8442135
>>>/pol/

>>8442198

Not him, but having seen screencaps of it, it's pretty annoying-looking regardless of your stance on gay marriage.

It's 35/95 degrees and the sun is scorching the shit out of everything but even in this hellish weather people still heckle me for using a parasol with my sundress. I know it's not raining motherfuckers but there's an UV-index of 10 and I'd prefer not to burn to a crisp. Everywhere I go I get these heavily sunburnt people who are too stupid to even wear hats yelling at me because I'm actually bothering to protect myself.

Why are people so dumb?

>>8442316
Because parasols are an anachronism and they really stand out no mater how plain they are. Strange how they rustle people's jimmies to the point that they bellow in the streets though isn't it...never thinking how odd that behavior is, to be screaming at strangers in public.

>>8442316
Try sun screen instead?

>>8442316
>mfw used to live in a country where summer temperatures would go up to 42
>mfw it wasn't even in the meditteranean, just a former commie shithole full of concrete jungles that make matters 10x worse
>as a result, my body's full of little (benign but ugly) moles
But if it helps, wear one of those fancy wide-brimmed sunhats, a shrug and sunscreen, they go well with fancier dresses and people generally don't make much of a fuss about them compared to parasols. Plus, parasols don't really block all the UVA either, and a thick hat just might do a better job of it.
But I hear you, whenever I wore sunscreen to go for a run people (especially teenage bydlos, if you consider them people) would comment something along the lines of 'hurrr, she's got cum on her face'.

>>8441608
Kind of random advice, but I was just talking to a friend about this and it's not good to have a fuck buddy for cons usually. It depends on where you are, but if the community is tightly knit you're setting yourself up for failure.

I think you should try sorting out you issues first and try for a relationship again when you're ready down the line. If my comm has taught me anything, fuck buddies will ruin you more than a basic relationship will.

>>8442135
I'm sick of rainbows and I'm all for the gayness. I can't tell anyone the fuck apart.

>>8442335
> I can't tell anyone the fuck apart
This. Plus some people aren't even doing it for /lgbt/, they're just desperate to fit in with the latest fad.

> like Hillary

>>8442352
>mfw people will vote for Shillary because of her vagina rather than her political views
it's Obama 2.0

>getting ready to go to a meet
>in a poly relationship with 3 people so my place gets messy as hell
>one of my boyfriends is helping me get ready and the floor is just a mess
>one boy alone is messy enough, just multiply it exponentially
>gets boyf 1 to help lace up my corset
>he's usually gentle I trust him (u-usually)
>laces it up really carefully because he's kind of a skinny gentle guy
>"is that tight enough anon?"
>kind of pudgy towards my lower waist
>"no just a bit more anon"
>boyf 2 comes home from store
>just... puts 3 plastic bags all over the messy counters
>gets spaghetti sauce and junk all over the bags and some of the boxes
>well fuck
>steps forward quickly and AP socks get stuck in some kind of a watery, gel-ish liquid
>it's glue all over the floor from boyf 1 making a shield for cosplay, but of course figure this out later
>"get the bags out of the sink"
>boyf 2 doesn't even care
>"oh, you look cute in that! need help?"
>NO I DON'T because he's got ape hands compared to boyf 1
>doesn't really pull hard but pulls way too fast
>sharp pain in my ribs
>horrified look on boyf 1's face as I act like I got an arrow in my side

Now my lower ribs are bruised and one of my new AP socks is ruined. Don't have rough, well-intentioned men handle any of your lolita.

>>8442325
>>8442331
I combine sunscreen/lace shawl/hat/parasol for maximum protection since I'm quite sun sensitive. The parasol has an anti-UV coating. One big plus of the parasol is that it also keeps me cool, which sunscreen obviously doesn't. Along with my water bottle it's the main reason I'm not fainting all over the place.

>>8442324
I understand that people aren't used to seeing parasols around anymore and that most people think "umbrella!" when they see a sheet of canvas on a stick, but it's depressing how apparently nobody makes the connection that it could also serve as portable shade. All these people are wandering around in the sun looking like lobsters with an attitude of whelp my skin is on fire, but whatcha a gonna do? Cover up and keep to the shade, that's what you can do. Damn, people.

>>8442332
This. I have had con sex twice, and both turned out to be kind of damn crazy.

>>8442369
Are you complaining about your brand or humble bragging about your men? Either way, clean your house, ugh.

>>8442369
>guaranteed replies

>out in lolita
>getting a bunch of stares where I usually get none
>eh whatever, it's no surprise people stare when I'm dressed weirdly
>arrive at destination
>turns out my thermos was leaking and my backpack was leaking coffee everywhere
>probably the reason people were staring
>none of it got on my skirt, thank Manabananasama
>contents of bag are soaked
Thanks for notifying me so I could save my phone, assholes.
>did they think the dripping coffee was part of my coord or something

>>8442371
I think you kind of just have to suffer through the comments. I use a parasol when im in the city because its 10F+ degrees hotter in town from where i live. Luckily we have a handful of older asian ladies who wear the long sleeves, gloves, huge hat, pants combos when its 95F+. Also a friend of mine has a sun allergy and she gets terrible terrible rashes or blisters all over her face if she has it exposed directly to sun beams for more then a handful of minutes

>>8442316
I take medicine that makes my skin sun sensitive. My parasols plus sunscreen and lightweight but covering clothes are my constant daily companions. Luckily, no one gives me crap, they sometimes stare though. Chicks tan and spray tan here though and I'm pretty darn white so I'm never sure what they are staring at!
I wear long sleeve lolita blouses year round so I'm living proof one can get acclimated to it.

>Was a hot 125 pound grill with nice body and looked hella fine in visual kei, goth, and lolita
>Was pretty chubby before but due health problem I lost weight
>Bought a shit ton of brand and bodyline dresses due to new body shape
>Entered senior year in hs
>Made us do a shitty project for the whole year that made us go to professional ppl in careers to do their job for free while still doing AP classes and volunteer hours on top of it all
>Just transferred in the middle of the senior project shit *knows no one with a college or uni degree cause person can't be family/blood-related/family friend to do project*
>Made me do a whole year's worth of a huge stressful project in less than 4 months with everything else mentioned before
>Gained over 50 pounds due to stress
>Most of my lolita dresses and visual kei outfits don't fit anymore and also $1000+ of cosplays
>Graduated *barely* and got into college
>Started to go to the gym to lose weight
>Spring term rolls around, took hard classes
>Was losing weight but mom still called me fat and lazy
>Got stressed due fucking fat mom and college mid terms and finals
>Dad got sick so I had to miss 3 weeks of classes
>Fell behind in classes and gained weight again and more
>Couldn't drop no more so fml
>Started to ditch classes to hit the gym instead and not eat unless it was a fruit
>Got sick and lost 12 pounds in less than 2 weeks
>Still got called fat and lazy
>Lolita was my only escape from shit, lucky some brand still fit pretty well on me even tho I was bit chubby
>Said fuck it to everyone
>Sad that it will take me forever to lose all the weight but I gotta fit into them brand dresses

I am not like "OMG LANDWHALE" cause I still have a well developed waist line and not lumps or rolls and my fat is more on my belly so I kinda look prego when looking from the side but man I just want to lose weight fast to fit into my old clothing and look good for myself and bf

>>8442572
You can do it, anon. CICO and do a little exercise and you'll be amazed at how much easier it is to lose weight. It can be tough but you can do it for the burando.

>>8441551
Fuck her. It sounds like all she wanted was attention and as soon as she got it, she left you high and dry. Personally I would sever ties because people like that will just continue to disappoint.

> get new dress in the mail
> looks good on me but it's a little tight
> decide to lose some weight so it fits better
> tell bf about my diet plans
> "Right, when I suggest you lose some weight you won't listen yet you change your mind for a dumb piece of fabric"
> starts a fight over this

If you really think I should lose some weight, just be glad I found a reason that encourages me to go through with it. Wanting to fit into my dress is a better goal to me than doing it merely because someone else says I should. Especially if said person is obese while I have a healthy BMI.

>>8441551
I'm sorry a long time friend treated you this way and still won't resolve it with you. That is a hard thing to accept. But after you have now made a decent attempt to figure out why and make up with her, and she won't, I think you owe it to yourself to let it go and not be too worried over it.
Obviously she isn't.
Since you are doing interesting con activities, I hope the new friends you make will treat you much better.

>>8442507
I hate, hate, HATE this about the social setting I live in. I say that because people telll me how blunt others are in other places of the world. Anyway, that's terrible and I know exactly how you feel. Nobody ever says anything, ever. When I see someone has a boogie sticking out, something on their shirt, or even a string caught in their hair, I tell them and will even hand them a mirror if need be and I find it more rude that people don't say anything over.

And people always thank me profusely when I do so.

>>8442572
Your mom sounds like a cunt

>>8442674
>over.
Whoops. Ever

I should add I'm not going up to these people and loudly declaring these things either. I say "Excuse me" and even add an "um" for non hostilities sake, then tell them discreetly without making it obvious if it's something particularly embarrassing.

>>8442674
I try to tell people when I can, but I once tried to tell a woman her nose was bleeding and offered her a tissue and got the dirtiest look ever for it.

>>8442674
I'm glad here it isn't like that, or at least not that much. Today I even got offered a band-aid for my heel because it was bleeding (every time I get new shoes I must suffer) and the lady was very kind about it even though I refused.

Posted this in the peeves thread >>8443261 but it probably belonged here instead though.

Anyone else have roommates or con friends who force everyone to wake up at obnoxious hours? Her giddy attitude and restlessness makes it even worse.

>>8443278
>>8442674
My country is so weird in that regard. On one hand everyone is helpful and tells you when there's something wrong ('hey, your wallet fell out of your bag'/'your tights are torn in the back'), on the other... If you stick out even a little, you're the talk of the town. Small town in a small country, fml. Once I've had a gaggle of schoolgirls giggle behind my back because 'oh my god, what language is that (points to my weeb shirt)... oh my god!'

The thing that makes my blood boil is when people post random things that have nothing to do with cosplay on their cosplay pages.

I'm following you for your tits and costumes not your stupid ass life, I don't give a shit about that. Keep that on your actual Facebook or tumblr.

>>8443354
Or when people post political/SJW shit on their lolita/cosplay fanpage.

Tumblr is starting to piss me off, I go there daily to see posts about jfashion, video games, anime etc. Because I can't find other good websites for that. But my friends are posting more and more hypocritical sjw bullshit and they're just annoying and in general. I still don't know if I should remake a blog to get rid of them or if I should unfollow them for good (I mean, I still like them, just not as much).

I recently started a cosplay page and decided to make a few comment posts on a "promote your cosplay" group.
All these fatties immediately started liking my post
>literal shit tier costumes
>begging for likes like starving animals

I backed right the fuck out of there, I realized what I did was very bad and I'm also mad that a group like that is allowed to exist. What a cesspool.

>>8443533
Do what I did, delete your blog, wait a few weeks, make a new one, strictly follow only the ones you like.

It might take you some time for a true comfort zone though, I followed some aesthetic blogs and even some of those go "wow fuck white people" and will randomly reblog selfies of black girls that don't fit in with the general aesthetic the blog tries to go for, and are obviously only to appear nice.

>>8442362
IDK bout you, but i'm voting for bernie.

>>8443555
I don't think I'm ready to do something like that because I'm using my blog for so long and there are things I want to keep there. I'll probably keep it on a hiatus and start a new account though but I already tried that once and it didn't work (too lazy to update it).

>>8442625
Your bf sounds like a fucking prick.

>>8442625
I was going to agree with your boyfriend, until I got to that last line.

What a fucking hypocrite, I hope you told him to get his fat ass into shape.

>>8442572
Please do it healthily anon. It's going to take a long time, but it will be worth it.

I'm a pretty tiny girl (30-23-32) and that's part of the reason why I got into wearing lolita because I knew I'd be able to fit into everything. The last two times I've bought a dress secondhand the seller didn't let me know that the dress was stretched out. I wouldn't have spent $250 on a dress that was damaged. Please be honest with the shit that you sell!!
>tfw too small even for lolita

Not cgl related but I need to vent I'm so annoyed

>Have bad cough for 6 months
>Finally see doctor
>Its walking pneumonia
>Tells me to go get a catscan to see how bad it is
>Goes to appointment and sits around for an hour
>Lady at front check is checking my insurance
>My primary care doctor had to pre authorize with the insurance and she didn't.
>Can't get scan done because of that.
>Time wasted

It really bugs me that she pesters me to get the scan because "I could die" and then doesn't do what she has to in order for me to be able to get the scan. Apparently its not that bad if you fucking forgot.

>be friends with girl since third grade
>show her hamsteak after years of no communication
>i was a shit-tier weeaboo
>she gets into animes and mangoes with me
>then she turns really weeby and starts liking hetalia and won't fucking shut up about it
>we start an snk au roleplay
>just us two
>it started off light-hearted and funny but she bought shit like rape, necrophilia and pedophilia into it somehow
>never had the guts to tell her to stop

>got high
>did the do
>she's spewing all this "you're beautiful uwu" shit and i'm like pls no can i just get there thanks
>i faked it because she didn't know the first thing about sex
>she threw up afterwards
>thanks.jpg

>pipe up a few weeks later
>rp has been going for about seven months now
>"hey anon i think this has run its course"
>she doesn't speak to me for two days

>i get gf
>she isn't happy at all

>break up with gf after three months
>con the next day
>i tell her i probably won't be in the brightest of moods because no gf and i was also really ill
>we go to con
>she threatens to just abandon me because i was mopey
>i tell her i'm not enjoying the con and that i'm gonna catch the train back
>right in front of me she calls her friend and asks her to get the train to the con because she's on her own
>says bye
>no hug
>no nothing
>alright
>thank you
>for that
>thanks

>next day she sends me a message
>"anon i know you weren't feeling great and that you'd just broken up with gf but you really bought the mood down yesterday and ruined my day :((((("
>nope
>fuck off
>goodbye

haven't spoken to her in nearly a year now. glad i got her out of my life honestly, she also had crushes on all of my other weeb trash friends that were creepy to the point of stalker-ish if anyone wants me to post those

>>8443763
She sounds horrible tell me more

>>8443763
post em

>>8443722
Im in a similar situation with my gallbladder right now. Its not on :/. Its her at fault but hope you can get it sorted.

>>8442371
I am so with you. Like I completely understand. Fucking idiots where I live refuse to walk around with umbrellas even in the rain. Get told I'm not a real Portlander because I use an umbrella when it's raining and fucking 30 degrees out. No wonder everyone gets sick here.

It must be annoying to have to explain what a parasol is all the time.

> Go for fashion degree at some shitty school to become great at cosplay
> Do mediocre work, get fashion degree, work at CVS, not con famous
> Watch friends who NEVER worked on their craft and went to business or law school or teaching end up as guests at cons


I done screwed up.

>>8443334
Oh my god, I need to know what country this is.

>>8443267
God I hate this too. Why are people so ungrateful?
The other day one of my co workers didn't want to do something, so I offered to do it and some how this outraged my boss? Like why did I have to get bitched at, when I was trying to help.

>>8443325
kek.
Why do you have to room with her? She sounds like an uber weeb. Or just a hyper active teenager which is gross. Please don't hang out with those.

>>8443354
>I'm following you for your tits and costumes not your stupid ass life
wow, you sound like such a caring individual.

>get bf $400ish present because he deserves it
>tell him not to get me anything
>bf buys me AB headdress and ciciworks witch hat
>not a lolita, just an admirer
>become anxious because literally nothing to wear them with
>impulse buy shit at f21 yesterday
>regret it when home

>today
>at least i can get my nails done
>realize house keys are MIA
>can't lock up house without them
>bf doesn't come home until 6-7pm
>call out of work
>can't even get nails done

>>8443836
Because you should focus on your own work.

>>8443781
Aw dude that sounds like it hurts. I hope we both get better.

>>8443533
Do you use tumblrsavior? I follow a handful of girls who post beautiful stuff but get preachy from time to time. If they have the decency to tag their SJW rants you never have to see them.

>>8443719
How old are you?

>>8443719
Lolita isn't a small girl fashion anymore, even if you buy directly from a brand. Fatties ruin everything.

>>8443719
>>8443886
The feels anons, the feels

Why is everyone wearing the Boz Roland jacket now with their completely generic coords?
Don't get me wrong I love the jacket and I love outerwear with lolita but the it's such a specific masculine/ega/goth look that covers so much of your outfit, it looks silly if you just slap it over your regular feminine outfit. And Boz actually makes short jackets that are so much more flattering for the lolita silhouette.

>>8443719
thankfully i've never purchased anything that's been stretched out, but when i read the measurements listed on second hand sites, i'm always disappointed.

>>8443886
Not to sound like a brat but I've put together some pretty nice coords considering I'm pretty new to lolita and I feel like they are under appreciated because I'm not a fatty-chan just a basic thin lolita with a good coord.

>>8443555
>not enjoying pictures of black girls
pfft.

>>8443917
Unless you're some kind of tumblr sjw bait like a POC, trans, brolita, fat, etc. you will probably often times get under appreciated

>>8443895
I don't hate this as much as I should. I think a plain dress would look much better than the printed one. It's nice to see something different.

>>8443688
Why on earth would you agree with him starting a fight over her finding motivation to lose weight? Why should "hey you could lose a couple pounds" be more motivating than losing weight for something she actually cares about? You sound retarded.

>>8443917
Post a coord. Doesn't even have to be worn.

>>8443930
>being illiterate

>>8443931
I realize this, it just sucks.

>>8443965
>I followed some aesthetic blogs and even some of those go "wow fuck white people" and will randomly reblog selfies of black girls that don't fit in with the general aesthetic the blog tries to go for,
You referring to that?
Why does it matter that they post black girls other than your aesthetic meme garbage?

>>8443985
If I follow a blog that is dedicated to post pictures of cats, then I don't want to look at dogs.

>>8443985
If I followed someone who kept posting pictures of racing cars between lolita I'd unfollow them eventually. Aesthetics is all I use tumblr for so having my feed cluttered with competently uninteresting things bothers me. Despite your reply I think if you're being honest you are the same unless you do follow thousands of people regardless of how much you like their content. No memes involved.

>>8444013
>racing cars between lolita
Are you talking about berlin--chair?

>>8443763
You must be 18+ to post here.

>>8444023
That was a completely made up comparison but now I'm curious. Who?

>>8443774
>>8443773

you ask i provide
also there's only really one of them that was to a really creepy extent but this should give you an insight
greentexting because it's easier

>be friends with cute guy
>she finds him through me when we get back in touch
>we all (me + her + him + few other buds) hang out once at a little fair
>goes smoothly so now we're all stupid anime trash nerds together wahey

(all of this is pre-rp stuff so)

>start planning trip to next con
>massive con in the capital that requires a five hour drive to reach
>there's six of us going so we book one hotel room for all of us
>she starts acting weirdly around guy friend
>sitting on bed together laughing about something that she wouldn't stop repeating
>none of us thought it was funny
>she sleeps in bed next to him and banishes us four to the floor

>con doesn't go too well because i'm a shitty host basically
>we all did snk cosplay
>she did nothing with her wig, no makeup, nobody really could distinguish her character from another one
>whatever, we had some fun, we bought shit, cool, at least nobody got hurt

>notice more updates on creepy girl's tumblr
>three of cute guy's old selfies in a row
>hmm

>she starts reblogging his selfies around three minutes after he posts them
>she tags them with "anon yeah hi ur cUTE OMFG WHEEZES" and shit like that
>like that annoying typical blonde at school who constantly tries to get the hot guy's attention
>don't bring it up
>whatever

>go round to her place one time
>we dick about on her laptop
>she has my guy friend's tumblr bookmarked
>and his facebook
>and three of her open tabs are various pages of his blog
>try to make a funny
>"ha wow you must be obsessed haha lol"
>if looks could kill

>have one of those "omg u like him" "no i don't" "yes u do" "teehee maybe i do" convos with her
>she admits her crush
>to me, not to him
>he doesn't find out about this until a few months later
>he's normally cool with stuff like this but even this weirded him out

>>8443830
remove kebab

>>8444030
i'm 19 anon try again

>>8444051
topkek

>>8443985
It's about the fact that it obviously doesn't fit in with the normal type of fashion they'd reblog, and just overall doesn't fit in with the rest.
I don't give one shit about the race of a person as long as they fit in with the rest of the blog, but those type of selfies do not. It also tends to come with commentary such as "Black women are beautiful, and we should spread it" as if to guilt trip you in reblogging it.

>>8444039
I can't remember what her old tumblr url was before she changed it but I think she was a semi known lolita. She posts gothic stuff, lolita and sexy cars

>>8443873
I only use xkit and I can only use my shitty laptop to do anything so I can't use the blacklist extension or it really slows down firefox. They don't tag anything anyway and they're the kind of people who think sjw posts shouldn't be tagged so if someday I'll be able to blacklist things it'll only be the usual buzzwords. I don't think tumblr savior still works, at least not always, right? Correct me if I'm wrong.

>>8444059
Or some asinine comment written in the typical tumblr style:
>"oH MY GoD u butiful Nubian fairy uwu everyone should know about this enchanting cocoa goddess!!!!11 *heavy breathing*"
>"#signal boost"
>"# I wanna suckle her creamy chocolate titties"

>>8444073
>I refuse to tag my post because everyone needs to see this!!

>>8443842
She's my best friend's long distance girlfriend. Cons are some of the only times they get to see each other because of college and stuff. I like rooming with my best friend and the girlfriend is a nice person I just hate how jolly and energetic she is when she throws herself out of bed at that hour. There was even one time when she started screaming and "playfully" beating my friend with a yard stick because she was pretending she was Link and my friend was the boss apparently. Friend thought it was funny, but for me it was just extra trauma to my eardrums.

>>8444075
And sometimes with a lovely dose of "hashtag blacklivesmatter beautiful ebony women are getting killed each day by white people"

It feels really awkward when I follow an aesthetic blog that posts and reblogs mostly neutral living spaces, photos,and simple asian fashion, and then all of the sudden it's about politics that border on SJW views.

>>8444084
That's it basically. For them to tag their posts Id have to lie about being triggered by some specific contents. I would never do that, it's insulting enough that 14yo on this site think being midly uncomfortable is having a panic attack.

>>8443325
oh my god, i am this person every day of my fucking life, and i hate it. i contain it because i'm not an obnoxious fuckwad, but it sucks so much being the only hyper morning person in a room full of grouchy, bitchy people who act like they can't deal with the world without coffee even though they just got 8 hours of sleep. no one wins.

>>8444059
Or, if the post gets really popular it becomes accompanied with its own oddly specific "protect xy" post.

>"protect jewish trans girls who have one foot uwu"
>"protect mentally ill otherkin whose minds make them think that the fanta they're drinking is really the lava from the lair their true dragon self was born in u w u"
>"protect schizophrenic poc who wear gothic fashion and really love white horses with brown patches u w u"
>"protect self-diagnosed autistic korean demiboys with purple hair who have touched carpet at least twice in their lifetime OOWOO"

>>8444030
my post entered the void but i'm 19 anon try again

>>8444073
>>8444075
>>8444087
Or, if the post gets really popular it becomes accompanied with its own oddly specific "protect xy" post.

>"protect jewish trans girls who have one foot uwu"
>"protect mentally ill otherkin whose minds make them think that the fanta they're drinking is really the lava from the lair their true dragon self was born in u w u"
>"protect schizophrenic poc who wear gothic fashion and really love white horses with brown patches U W U"
>"protect self-diagnosed autistic korean demiboys with purple hair who have touched carpet at least twice in their lifetime OOWOO"

>>8444075
>>8444113
I hate sjws as much as the next person but damn you sound bitter

>>8444113
I've read so many of these posts that I always wonder if their posters are serious (and ridiculous) or if they're trolls.

>>8443946
Here's a crappy collage of a recent coord, I know it's not the best I'm new and learning.

>>8444128
I completely understand why you don't get any praise. This is 3,5/10. Basic with thump down.

>>8444137
What you suggest changing? Or how can I make this better, I want help.

>>8444140
God I can't type
What would you suggest changing?

>>8444128
yeah, i agree with >>8444137 in that it's basic. head over to the coord help thread.

>>8444149
Thank you anons!

>Irritating as shit acquaintance has burned her way through the local goth, steampunk and lolita communities.
>Makes a huge post about leaving lolita and how she's going to sell all her things.
>Good.jpg
>Has finally found acceptance in the furry community.
>Sharing new bodyline prints with captions like "soo tempted!" and "want!"
>Terrified she's going to wear lolita with her fursuit.
>Plsdon't, fuck off out the fashion already.
>

I'm going to a con today (I know I should sleep right now but fuck it) and it's at the other side of the country so I'll take the train. Problem is, it'll be the first time I'll go to another city so my mother will go with me even though I told her not to. She'll spend all the day making fun of me for being a useless piece of shit who spend money on things I like. Literally the only reason she insisted is because since she's disabled her train ticket is reimbursed. Next time I'll go without telling anyone jfc.

>>8443533
Bro download tumblr saviour and blacklist all the SJW buzzwords.

>>8442417
I don't just have them, I have a girlfriend too but she was at work. Also you've never been in a cosplayers place two weeks before a con clearly. Straight lolitas are pissy Jesus. Just because I have boyfriends means I'm bragging?

>>8442420
Poly people exist. Wow.

>>8437690
As a skinny bitch I just wanna say that this mind set really isn't fair. I can sit down and eat forty burritos and I don't gain any weight, whereas others can go over the 1,000 cal a day mark as they healthily should and they gain a ton. I don't even work out. Sometimes shit just isn't fair, and I can't imagine making time to work out when there's so many responsibilities and hobbies that need to be done as it is.

>>8444172
Furries are the bane of every community. I've had numerous goth and kink scenes ruined by those assholes. Go full Purge if ANY of them start talking about getting into Lolita. Do it for the greater good, anon.

>>8444621
>>8444621
There's a split in the local furry comm, I know several of them who are well adjusted, in jobs and relationships and view it as a craft. Then the rest are 16-20 year olds who spam petplay stuff on their social media and make animal noises in public. Guess which camp she falls into.

I've got no issues with whatever fetishes people have, just wish these retards would keep them to the appropriate sites and venues, instead of rocking up at the local boba tea place in a collar and lead.

>>8444644
Squints into the depths of your soul, tbh, anon. So, how DO you know about the local fur scene so much?

>>8444653
I know 3 of them through cosplay and it's a small area, probably around 50-70 in the cosplay/alt scene. It's pretty hard to miss them when you hear the fucking squeakers from down the street.

>>8444686
Oh, I see. God, what's it like having furry neighbors? That sounds like some kind of cruel comedy show you're living.

>>8444691
It's pretty shitty, on their meetup days they invade the comic book shops and all the boba tea or sushi places so I've just started avoiding the city centres on those days. There was a facebook video of one of them dodging through traffic and bothering security guards because "lel so randum".

The few I know are quite chill, they do a lot of cool costumes for cons like the Skeksis from Dark Crystal and a few Disney costumes so I genuinely sympathise that their hobby is a den of autism.

There is no porn of my OTP.

Godfuckingdammit. Where the hell is my R34??

>>8444748
look harder

>>8444748
Become the porn you seek. Cosplay it, learn to draw, or commission it.

>running my own mini comm
>transitioning brolita
>other qt girl, a ton of potential
>6'3 woman who looks like a man
>girl who is constantly complaining about 'my life is so hard having a retard for a brother'

I need to get closer to the main comm

>>8444748
That feel, anon, that feel.

>>8444748
Now I'm curious. Who is it?

>>8443886
In Japan it never was. Skinny girls wear Gyaru and related stuff, chubbier girls wear Rori. Ask any Japanese guy to describe a lolita. He will always use the word 'debu'. They do not sugar-coat this shit.

>>8444756
My google searches are now frightening. The closest I am finding is cheek kisses. WEAK SAUCE.

>>8444758
Am honestly thinking about commissioning. I do fanfic, and am actually writing some now. Maybe I can try to get an art swap for some fanfic.

>>8444764
We know it well. /hugs

>>8444772
Well as much as I'd wish it to be anime to fit in with this board, right now I am lusting after some Bioshock 2 Sinclair/Delta.

Yeah. Thank you based 4chan, that my shame may be anonymous. But you can't tell me that man's Southern voice doesn't touch something deep inside.

There's a handful of fics out there, and a few fanarts where they kinda kiss, but I am a lusty woman and want to see some hardcore suspenders and diving suits dammit.

>>8444128
Super cute

>>8444128

I think the red bow would look better than a pink one. Would really help tie it all together.

>>8444801
But the bow is already red?

>>8444788
Then why were early lolita brand items so tiny? Even now a lot of brand is meant for smaller girls.

>>8444453
There was no reason to bring your poly relationship into that post. I don't preface similar things with 'as a straight girl in a monogamous relationship...' if that has no bearing on the topic, it's presumptuous and TMI.
That's why it seemed like a brag or self-important.
It's your overshare that's rude, no enlightened person really one cares who or how many people you are involved with or your chosen type of relationship. It's just gauche to reference your sexuality or relationship details matters needlessly for strangers in an unrelated conversation.

Poly people exist. So do spiders and clouds. I don't really need any of these specifically referenced unless they are relevant to the topic.

>>8444811

In the pic they write "Bow in pink not red" so I'm assuming OP just didn't have a pic of it in pink and substituted the red one.

>>8444453
Yep, we do exist.

>>8444812
39kg is considered thin in Japan. When I was 58kg I could fit into old brand. So it was still made for fatties back then.

>>8444812
They were still bigger than comperable gyaru sizes at the time. Don't take my word for this, go to a source. Ask some Japanese.

>>8444817
Damn, how did I miss that.

>>8444827

Haha, it's ok. It was written in a light pink font so it's easy to skim over.

>>8444581
As a fellow skinny bitch, I agree. I sit on my ass for most of the day and eat junk even if I'm not hungry. I can and do eat whole packages of bacon by myself in a day, then snack on shit like hot cheetos all the time. Yet I'm petite and "look" healthy. I'm the most out of shape fucker but no one says a word. Let's be real, none of the people hating on fatties are concerned about health.

>>8444842
the way fatties are unhealthy is for more reasons than just like cholesterol and shit that you've got going on. even if it's genetics, putting on weight is an issue in and of itself. just the weight has more negative effects than any thin person with a shit diet. this whole healthy at every size shit is a load because the body puts on weight because something is wrong, it's not just that some people get lucky and others arent, those are very rare cases.

just being overweight will increase a lot of risks for diseases and conditions you will never be at risk for.

also fatties are disgusting to look at and most of them have shit attitudes to go with it.

>>8444748

Same anon: continued to delve into tags. Someone just defined "puberty" in a fanfic.

God help us all.

Every time I see someone stir up shit online I remember why I don't join the groups anymore, don't comment and post on my comm's facebook, barely ever even post my outfits on my blog. I'm so burnt out on how everyone is so bitchy and manipulative on the web. It's sad but 4chan's anonymity honestly feels like the lesser of two evils. At least here people are honest with each other.

I guess this is vaguely seagull related

>Be nearly 3 years ago, have girlfriend at the time
>Convince my NEET, loser friend to come to a party so that he can meet someone
>I start chatting people up and introducing him
>He tries using a World of Warcraft pickup line on one particular girl, i'm torn between cringing and laughing
>I find a girl heavily into goth/lolita/cosplay, she makes most of her clothes, incredibly skinny
>I introduce my friend to her and but she seems to be much more interested in me
>Keep making excuses to leave so that they talk, but when they go their separate ways, I bring them together again
>This happens a bunch of times but nothing comes of the night
>They keep talking afterwards however, eventually they start dating
>I inevitably cosplay for a con, invite the two of them and my GF, it was super fun, yadda yadda

Fast forward to today
>Things have turned around completely
>Haven't been to a con in over a year
>Formerly NEET Friend now has job, still in that relationship, has been working out for a while
>I'm now the one with no job or gf
>I have friends, but still feel lonely
>Recently hang out with this friend and his gf
>We're just helping her stitch some stuff together at her house
>Forgot she had a sister
>Hang out with the three of them, I seem to get along with the sis
>Start coming over there more frequently
>Act pretty normal and social
>Sister gets embarrassed and apprehensive with me around
>Found out she was in an abusive relationship
>Last time I saw her, we hung out until 5 in the morning playing video games and laughing at stupid shit
>I can tell she's sexually frustrated but she's also incredibly nervous, so no moves were made

Not even sure what the fuck to do.

>>8444039

Aussie (??) gothic lolita that has a hard on for the Top Gear presenters and posts nothing but high end cars between lolita posts.

>>8444815
>Poly people exist. So do spiders and clouds. I don't really need any of these specifically referenced unless they are relevant to the topic.


kek

>>8444812
Most normal size western girls can fit into the majority of popular brand. It's NOT 'meant for smaller girls'. Where are you getting this bad information? Don't you read measurements? Compare size charts? I'm a US 10 and I fit most but Moitié.

>>8444823
58kg is fat? Damn, I'm 54

>>8444812
>Even now a lot of brand is meant for smaller girls
lol no it isn't

>>8445736
Put down the cheeseburger debu-chan :^)

I'm so bored with drama. It used to be like 99% of why I came on this board and now I still read up on it but I'm like, who the fuck cares? Maybe I've moved on.

When did mediocrity become enough?

>spending money on store-bought cosplays
>not spending that on some accutane or something

>>8446096
It didn't. In cosplay or lolita. Guest or not, many of us think this kind of thing is tacky unless just an amateur beginner is cosplaying from their closet for fun. People going to this con should protest.

>>8445834
I think the quality of said drama has severely diminished. It used to be good.

>>8441627
>>8441668
>>8442603
>>8442669
Thank you all for the advice. I'm doing my best to follow it, since her behavior has only worsened in the weeks since the con. I hate to cut off such a long-standing friendship, but she hasn't been the girl I used to know for a long time. On a positive note, I did meet a whole new group of friends after the con. I'm planning on attending future cons with them; they're very kind and creative people, and it's a lot more fun to hang out with them anyway.

When a game comes out in Japan that won't be here for another 6 months and people post spoilers anyway because "I want to cosplay them!"

I don't care they want to cosplay this or that character, so I've been muting everyone (it's twitter so I can't easily avoid tweets) who's posting about it.

I really do not care that I'm a salty bitch about it, I just do not want to see spoilers the moment I even want to check my goddamn notifications.

>>8443853
>caring about anything except nice tits and good outfits.
go to tumblr to do that bub.

I really, really hate men. I really wish they would all just fucking die already.
>inb4 omg, SJW!
No I just recognize men are a fucking scourge that need to be deleted from life. I really rarely hear anything good about them, every other day it's "man sets dog on fire then beats it to death" man throws acid on kittens" or "man goes on shooting rage trip, again" or "man throws baby off cliff" or "man kills entire family" literally what the fuck do they do? Maybe once a year one will invent something useful but 99.9999% of the rest of the time they just horrifically fuck everything up. Then they make women out to be the bad guys when it's obvious to everyone who isn't delusional that 95% of violent crime is committed by them and them alone. They cry about false rape accusations and how biased this country is while men in countries with lax rape laws gang rape everything they can get their hands on including children. What a joke. It's a disease that effects the whole chromosome, any country with lax laws has an extremely large percentage of the male population engaged in violent crime. Meanwhile they cry about our "matriarchal" society where maybe 1 woman out of 10000 is a piece of shit who cries wolf. I really hope the next virus only affects Y chromosomes.

>>8437821
go to a dance store and get dance tights.

>>8446986
>if you have feelings you must be from tumblr
nice 4chan stereotype you are

>>8443992
Yeah, cause pictures of dogs are bad and worth complaining over.
I bet you ask to speak to managers in retail stores.

>>8447026
>>8447031
Both of you, can't you read?

>Book a room and plan to hog the bed so I say I'm gonna pay for half
>Have to bail out of a con
>Still pay the half the room cause even though it's over four months before the con
>Friend (A-ko)was supposed to have someone with her (B-ko)
>Find out 2 weeks before the con B-ko bailed months ago
>A-ko tries to ask me to cover it (fuck you I'm already paying for a room I'm not gonna make it to???)
>she says that she only has $20 in her acc and she has to take food with her
>A-ko promises to pay for B-kos part
>Find out that A-ko went behind my back to beg the other roommates to help her pay even though I specifically said she needed to deal with her own mess
>A-ko also starts complaining about not wanting to go and how terrible the con is going to be
>Con starts
>She buys over $500 worth of merch
>tons of pictures on social media of her meeting people n shit
>Ignores me for an entire month afterwards
>Comes out of no where blaming her shitty con on me.
>I tell her off and havent spoken to her since
>Forever salty that she didnt even think to thank me for paying for half of a room that I didnt even stay in.

>>8442332

Insanely good advice, where the fuck were you two years ago?

>>8442507
Next AP print "Melty Coffee"

>>8447142
I would cry if someone released a coffee print.

>>8447200
Infanta has a coffee print

>>8447200
This comes close actually.

>>8447035
I'm not two people

>>8447304
That doesn't change anything.

Due to significant life changes and financial issues, I recently quit lolita. I just received payment for my absolute favorite piece and I'm trying really hard to be okay with it. It's a bit old and not a well known piece, so I got it for a good price, but it's absolutely stunning (at least IMO) and I managed to sell it for more than I got it for.
>feeling down, bf knows this
>tell him what a great profit I'd made selling off my wardrobe to make myself feel a little better.
>"Yeah, I sold that old dress for more than I expected, isn't that great?"
>"That's too bad, I want to see you in it one more time!"
>"Well, it's been paid for, it's not mine anymore so it'd be really weird.. "
>"Just wear it for me one more time!"
>repeat, etc.
I really don't like the idea of wearing an article of clothing after I've sold it, but also this made me sad and regret selling it even more especially if I tried it on for the last time, and I told him this and moved on with the conversation.

>continue positive (or more like rationalizing) thoughts
>"Yeah, there are a bunch of other less costly fashions I can try. I'm thinking something maybe sexy and cute"
>bf scoffs "that's not you though"
He does this anytime I want to try/do something he doesn't find acceptable. Admittedly, I'm a quiet, introverted shut-in and that's why I didn't dress in lolita often- I loved the aesthetic but not exactly the social aspect.
>"my friends invited me to come with them to this party" "my mom just got me this cute crop top" "that alcoholic beverage sounds like it'd taste good"
>"that's not you"
Well, no, characteristically doing these things isn't LIKE me, it's almost as if people change! Years ago when lolita wasn't me, he was okay with it 'becoming me' but a crop top? Nope, not HIS gf, impossible.

I'm still going to wear what I want if I can. If he doesn't like it then I guess he can fuck off and go find his definition of 'me' somewhere else because I'm stressed and just tired of everything.

>>8447445
I'm really sorry you're having to say goodbye to your dresses, but it's good that you can look on the bright side. Your bf, however, sounds a bit bratty. Have you tried telling him this stuff? Or that trying something new is what will make you happy? People grow and change, and trying new things is good. Don't let some whiny dude keep you from wearing clothes you like, especially not if he's more concerned with his ideal you rather than who you are as a real person. Best wishes, anon.

>>8447445
I used to be pretty straight laced and quiet and had friends who felt the same. Then I started trying new things when I got out of high school, like make up and alcohol and trying to go to parties. And my old friends gave me shit for it, acted like I'd changed really drastically when I was just branching out a bit. I'm the same person, I just tried some new stuff that got me out of my comfort zone and gave me some confidence in social settings. And I found that I only like those things sometimes, and the friends I made through those activities were totally cool with me not always wanting to party or dress sexy. Way more understanding than my old friends who wanted nothing to do with Changed Anon who had a cocktail or two on the weekends.

I'm babbling. What I mean to say is, do the things you want to try, as long as you're not hurting anyone, and people who give you shit for it can fuck off. You'll find better people who don't try to decide who you ought to be for you. Sorry he's being a dick about it.

>move to new area
>attend lolita meetup
>I'm really open to most people
>made some friends rather quickly
>whereas with two other people I feel insta-judged
>like I can tell these two girls in my comm didn't like me for reasons based on their body language
>maybe I was talking to some lolitas they didn't like in the comm
>try to politely enter into a conversation and they ignore me, don't make eye contact, and generally talk over me and ones they don't like
>befriend them on fb anyway because it's just good etiquette when befriending almost the entire comm

>time goes on
>making plans/online convos with my friends
>these two others I've mentioned just seem to really not like me
>I've tried liking their photos/statuses
>I don't see much because I have a feeling they customized it so I can't see their stuff
>that's fine, privacy is okay?
>they rarely like anything I post or pay any attention to me
>but that's okay because we don't have to really talk or be buddy-buddy?
>right...

>recently
>posted some controversial article on my fb page
>generally all of my political discussions don't get personal and everyone is pretty civil albeit pushy
>suddenly some asshole I planned to date forever ago and haven't talked to in years makes a backhanded personal attack out of the blue
>for whatever reason one of the girls who didn't like me shows up in the conversation
>likes the backhanded comment the jerk made
>mfw

Usually I'm not the type who's all "BAWW Y DONT U LIKE ME ;___;" but...ouch? I just hate these hot-cold games where it's really hard to ignore how much someone in your hobby blatantly doesn't like you for a reason that you don't really know about.

I've put on some weight recently, and it's been so hard not to slip back into bad ED habits, especially with cons coming up. I want to get healthier and stronger, but I feel like such a fat pig. I hate everything about my body right now. I spent most of this evening just getting more and more upset with myself in the mirror. I don't even have nice tits or ass. Disgusting. I want to be underweight again. At least then I looked good in all my cosplay pictures.

>>8441608
>So much sexual frustration.
Use your hands you retard

>>8447491
IMO stop being a doormat and just remove them from your flist. If they don't want you around and have hidden their updates from you, then clearly they're only on your flist so they can keep tabs on you. Fuck that noise. Get rid of him, get rid of them, enjoy the friends you have made.

Where the fuck are the janitors when you need them. Useless trash.

>>8447491
Honestly, they just sound bitchy. Be normal, enjoy everyone else, stay polite with them at meets but don't bother interacting online. Even unfriend them eventually if nothing changes. I'm sorry, I'm 100% the "why do they HATE me baaww" type so I know those feels too well, but it's just a thing for some people. The best you can do is ignore them, cut them out if necessary, and have fun in the hobby with people who don't suck. It's shitty that they're like that to a new girl, though, unless you've got some old drama floating around from your last comm.

>>8447511
Point taken anon, thank you for the slap of sense.

>>8447523
I'm used to being feely-cozy because of how good things were in my old comm. We were only about 10~ girls max and I was on pretty good terms with all except for the one token girl who behaved in the same manner with the ignoring/being frank behavior. We didn't have much drama aside from 2-3 itas, but even then drama never exploded much and nobody excluded anybody unless they were rude.

I'm trying to cope with adages like "Not everyone is going to like you and that's okay" etc, but yeah...meh.

>>8447551
Just delete them and be the bigger person at meetups. I am totally that girl who will hate for no reason and I'm sorry to say but they are probably sending screenshots to each other and making fun of you.

>>8447491
I have a little subset group of 'friends' on FB that I'd rather them not see ALL my friends posts. I then post my stuff to 'friends except x group' . There are reasons to stay friends with some people to avoid fuss but you can be smart with your settings to control who sees your posts.

>>8447567
Wonderful. But ah well, if I don't know then it can't hurt me. I laugh at bullshit about high school friends who I don't really like anymore with my bf, so I can't say I'm guiltless. I just remain polite so I don't actually hurt anyone.

>>8447582
Makes sense.
I do that with my family because I don't like them seeing what I post.

>find dress I've been looking for on Lacemarket
>message seller
>listing disappears
>not even 'sold', just completely gone from LM
>seller hasn't read message
>not sure if LM fucking up or if they deleted it or what
>I just want my dress goddamn

>>8447623
Sounds like it got sold somewhere else and the seller forgot to take the listing down

The comm in my area has lately become swarmed with the fake trans "im a boy" girls who dress in ultra feminine lolita. I can't fucking stand it because it's so fake. I just can't take them seriously and I really don't want to interact with them at meets.

The swarm of tumblrspeak on 4chan, fuck me. Even /b/tards are adding "tbh" to the end of every stupid sentence.

/cgl/ is the worst because they're the most tumblr-oriented but it's so subtle to where it somehow passes on this board.

Shit like
>"u r" this, "u r" that
>just the letter "o"
>"tbh" at the end of EVERYTHING
>"lol ok"
>lol everything is gay!
>irony is the only type of funny
>not even trying to use question marks

Fuck the cosplayers posting pics saying "lol im ugly" "lol trash."

Fuck this stupid trend. Not using great grammar is whatever, it's just the internet, but this crap is deliberate and stupid. It's just a warning flag of who to avoid.

I think I just gave myself a headache. And inb4 anyone replies with tumblrspeak, that's just predictable and unfunny.

>>8447869
Wtf is the "im trash" trend? I see attention seekers use it everywhere. Can somebody explain?

>>8447869
I agree with this completely. When I'm chatting casually with friends or posting on twitter or whatever, fine, I'll shorten things. But here we're all anonymous, we don't know each other, and we're here to talk and communicate. Using intentionally horrible typing/spelling just makes communication that much more difficult.

>>8447882
tumblrinas think being self deprecating is cool because they just discovered it cause most of them are like 16.

>>8447994
What's sad is that I most often hear it from the over 20 age group.

>>8447869
Tbh is not 'tumblr' it's what a lot of young Brits use. Omitting question marks is what lazy people do and has nothing to do with tumblr, how about you stop being underage and realise that not every piece of slang comes from tumblr and that they are influenced by the outside world as well.

>>8448016
Self deprecating humour is a sign of insecurity which isn't a thing reserved for tumblrinas either. Honestly your misinformed moaning and bitching sounds cringier than tumblrspeak itself.

>>8448060
mine is from self experience? I remember when I learned what sarcasm when was when I was a kid - I thought I was such a cool edgy kid for being sarcastic all the time.

Now I know better and that I was just a faggot.

>>8444128
Clashy and tacky as fuck. Please burn those stockings

>>8437288
Gaby?!

>>8448082
Don't out people like that

>>8448047
Dude I never saw "tbh" before tumblr. In real life people say "Honestly..." or online it used to be "imo" which at least makes more sense than "tbh." If they have to write tbh after tons of shit, is everything else a lie or what?

Do Brits say "to be honest" in real life? Because that I can understand if its actually already in their vocab, but you wont hear a tumblrina say it out loud. It's the new period.

>>8448121
I'm aussie and I defs say to be honest (and fortnight). Tbh is used a lot for texting as well.

>>8448148
I'm Canadian, and 'to be honest' is in my daily life too. I'll sometimes switch it up with 'to be candid' because I like how that word rolls off my tongue, but that usually sounds a tad too pretentious for casual speech.

>>8448121
East coast american here. The phrase "to be honest" or tbh if texting/Iming is common. "Honestly" might be more common, but I hear both in real life all the time and have before tumblr.

Most people say "to be quite honest" irl

>>8447445

Sounds like lolita is his fetish, or he just wants you to be his doll.

>>8448121
Irish here, 'to be honest' is fairly common where I live. It's also everywhere online and many people seem to have taken after Brits and now shoehorn 'tbh' into every other sentence.
'In fairness', 'to be fair', 'tbf', 'tbqf' et al are also popular.

I absolutely despise the "haters gonna hate" sentiment. Sometimes, yeah. People are going to be spiteful for the sake of it, but a lot of the time? If someone says something you've made is ugly, it very possibly might actually be ugly. Get over the criticism, take it on board, and stop puffing up every time someone says something negative. Also, knock it off with making a Facebook status about how you were "attacked" by someone any time you get a bit of critique. Jesus.

>>8448403
But a lot of times people DO just hate for the sake of it.
>her teeth look weird!
>her knees are too knobby!
>ewwwwww MOLE!
>her nose looks like a beak!
>her hair is too messy!
>'she looks ugly' in a coord thread
So what are you gonna do, have tonnes of plastic surgery because some salty cunt told you you're ugly on /cgl/? Nah, haters gonna hate.

>>8448422
Where in the world did anon ever say anything about physical appearance? They are obviously referring to criticism about someone's sewing, or coord, or craft. Not physical looks. You missed the point entirely.

Not /cgl/ related:
Found out my dad (who has stage 4 cancer) is going into hospice. Feeling particularly helpless and also hurt that he was never around for 22 years and then we only got about a month of time together before a fight drove us apart.

Actually /cgl/ related:
Its a little disheartening that /cgl/ can't discuss hijab in cosplay/lolita. Every time the topic comes up there's misinformation everywhere, and last time we had a thread I tried to correct some of it but the thread got eaten by the janitor before it even started getting nasty. I've been around long enough to have seen how threads like that went in the past so I can understand the desire to delete it, but I wish it was actually given a chance.

>>8441551
She's probably a slut that ended in those hotel room orgies

>>8442371
You should try those Darth Vader visors I see on old Asian ladies :^)

Imo sunscreen is good enough and you're not going to get skin cancer that easily. Unless you're a ginger you really have no reason to be protective from UV.

>>8448534
>unless you're a ginger
;_;

>>8444128
Agree that it's basic, average and casual. Leg/footwear isn't lolita so no points for matchy-matchy. No accessories besides head bow are shown. I wouldn't really think to compliment it But I probably souldnt critique it since it technically follows the rules. If I wore pink headbow, I'd want pink somewhere in the socks or shoes though.
Casual isn't overly popular right now so I think you have to work extra hard on a casual coord to make it compliment worthy. But then I dress for myself, not to chase compliments or count likes.

>>8448521
the thing is, as much as these girls try to work with what they have, only a fraction of what I've seen can actually be considered lolita. Maybe it would help if more of them tried out classic where there's more of an a-line dress and it just feels not so lacking because they miss out on a lot of volume.

>>8444128
>complains that people must be not loving you because you're skinny and everyone is a fat loving meanie
>posts basic bitch coord

You aren't under appreciated, not every single person new to the fashion magically gets drowned in praise. And it's not just coords, it's also pictures and how you present yourself in general.
It isn't because everyone else is fat and you're skinny, stop being so pretentious and fix your outfit.

>>8442572
Honestly focus on school and if possible minimize communication with the cunt mom. My mom is super negative as well and even my all her family knows it. I've tried all my life to blast her with positive think but Idk maybe she needs therapy. Anyways don't stress on weight just focus on a healthy eating lifestyle. A good diet can help a lot. I know some people stress eat but stress itself can also gain weight. I hope you continue the good fight against your weight and succeed in school. You can do it.

Why am I so ugly?
If I was just a little less ugly maybe I could actually cosplay characters I really like. Sigh maybe if I lost more weight or something.
Life is suffering annons

>>8448521
Sorry to hear annon. Just finished scattering my mom's ashes. She had stage four stomach and ovarian. They say it gets better, I'll let you know if it ever does.

>>8437846
>>8437886
So start spamming female oriented threads. I would be grateful for those that stamped out the futa degenerate threads.

>>8439026

Indulging this for a woman was asked for me recently. I feel like it's common though I am biased by experience within the kink community. Obviously it's much more rare for them to actually want to follow through. In this case she wanted to be called over sporadically and without warning to be used, and then when not in use she would do the whole petplay thing and be naked on the floor while I kill noobs on the Internet.

>>8437846
Ugh, I just wanna discuss normie fashion like a civilised human being. Most of the shit there now is
>DAE Rick? XD
>Memecore dressed by the Internet shit
>models
>is breathing effay?
>skincare thread riddled with dumb faggots who ignore everything written about skincare and just go "I use soap and I'm fine lol" or "skincare is for FAGS, get accutane!"
>flaming and calling everyone ugly

And when there are female threads they devolve into shitposts, thirsty faggots, attention whores attention whoring, and underage guys chiming in with their oh-so-valuable opinions ('lol ugly' or 'basic bitch')
Also
>guys butting in to talk about what looks sexy and what doesn't and which girl they would impregnate

fuck
None of this applies to tripskank btw

Venting subjects:

>when slutshaming actually happens.

>when i read your awkward weeb story and whether the other person was shittier or not, a few more SIMPLE WORDS exchanged between the two of you would've likely resolved or helped to explain whatever the fuck was going on.

ffs smile and enjoy life you shitty weebs. <3
I love you all.

>>8445817
Would Japanese people consider a us size 4 as fat?

>>8449540
Yes

>>8449540

I just need to vent so bad, I think I posted in the wrong thread before so

>Girl in my comm agrees to buy dress from me, I tell her I'll try and have it out asap
>Get sick and stressed from exams
>Keep her informed and also mention that post office is busy due to it being Easter
>Find posts on cgl, realise it's her bitching about me not sending the dress out even though she was fine in our messages
>Force myself out of bed to go into town and wait in line for ages, sends dress and inform her that it's sent
>All fine but still annoyed that she couldn't tell me over fb message that she had a problem
>Thankfully anons on post thread all defended me, made me feel a bit better

But seriously it stressed me out even more than ever.

>>8449540
US size anything is fat by virtue of being American.

That said, I used to be a US 4 and fit into a Japanese M, so I'd say no. Now I'm a US 2 on account of illness. Rattle rattle.

>>8449580
Also is it just me or is selling dresses a hassle at times? I held a dress for 3 months! And in the end she didn't even buy it. I won't be doing that again.
I totally get where you're coming from anon.

People also don't understand that the post office isn't always that close either. I can't imagine trekking down to mine being sick

>>8449584
I'm pretty sure a US 4 is actually a size 8 or some shit. The vanity sizing over there is insane.

>>8449595
US 4 is EU 38 iirc, so Euro M/S

>>8449590
That has happaned to me way too often. Now I don't do holds unless I get a non-refundable deposit

>>8449590
Never ever agree to hold things for that long. Tough shit if someone thinks that you're being unfair. It's annoying to have to do that. I only hold things for other people if they have to request a shipping quote and even then, it's only a week.

>>8449597
38 is M/L

>>8449595
All of the sizing numbers from sewing patterns to retail clothing are contrived and arbitrary anyway. I wish sizes were given in inches/cm so we could stop wasting time.

>>8449604
Yeah I learnt my lesson. Never again that's for sure. I was just so sure that she was going to buy it.
Thankfully I re listed it and sold it to someone else for a better price so it ended up being better off

>>8449607
Mango has it as M/S and 36 is the only smaller size so idk

>>8449612
35-25-35
Is that fat in Japan?

>>8449624
here's a size conversion chart for comparison
Apparently Mango does vanity sizing too because my b/w/h haven't really changed and according to this it says I'm a UK 4, but my trousers say US 4/EU38 and fit me just fine. Jesus Christ this is why I always measure myself before buying anything to make sure I'm not going mental.

>>8449624
Ah, it's a bit different here. 32 = S, 34-36 = S/M, 38-40 = M/L etc

>every time girlfriend goes to a con and I can't, I worry she is going to get fucked

:')

>>8449628
I'm sorry, but yes. Anything more than stick is chubs

>>8449639
Yeah iirc that's Italian sizing.

>>8449628
I have no idea. 35 bust might be on the top end or too big for a lot of Free Size stuff.

i actually do look for con pussy while at cons and i only talk and take pictures of cute girls

>>8449646
So Japanese men are sexually attracted to sticks? WTF happened to men being attracted to tits and ass

>>8449664
beauty ideals have nothing to do with what men are attracted to and everything to do with the current trends.
In the 20s flat teenage boy bodies and short stature were seen as ideal. Look up 'first Miss America'.

>>8449664
>japanese men
>men
You won't get a japanese man to jump on your snatch unless you're 2D

>>8449664
>>8449671
>>8449673

>>8448121
Where do you live that people never say "to be honest"? I live in Texas, and I hear it all the time, along with "in all fairness", "to be fair", "to be frank", it just depends on the person and the moment.

>>8448534
>it also keeps me cool
>it's the main reason I'm not fainting all over the place

>>8448121
Brit, and we do. It's usually used to soften the following phrase a little, eg. "I don't like it", to "to be honest, I don't like it".
But that's British politeness, not this tumblrina uwu bullshit.

>>8449584
In the UK, we're all four sizes bigger - not sure why, but...

>>8444849
If we're talking about health, there is two types of fat. There is external fat that is obvious, and fat that coats your organs. Some people gain the latter, so they look totally skinny, but I know multiple skinny girls (university age) who ended up in the hospital with diseases that are associated with middle-aged overweight people.

>>8449540
I really don't think westerners should be concerned with what Japanese people consider fat or skinny. Every East Asian girl I know is pressured by their families or friends to be thinner, even when they're already skinny and petite as shit that they'd look disgusting if they lost any more weight. My friend who is Chinese wants to be "35kg again" and her parents keep telling her she's fat when she's like 40kg, and so many seem to have terribly unhealthy eating habits. It would seem nothing is good enough?

My first love dumped me because jacking off to 2D girls and playing stupid video games are more important to him. He never really loved me, not for me, at least. He only liked me because he thought I was just like him, only a much younger girl that he could have sex with. I keep having feelings like, "If even he couldn't love me, no one will!"

After that, I finally admitted to my only friend, who has been brainwashed by college weeaboos into weird otherkin shit, that I began to care about her as more than a friend in the past, and got, "I did too, but don't worry, I"ll find you another man!" in response. She wants to cosplay together too, but going to conventions is an idea that simultaneously excites and fucking terrifies me. I know we would probably be made fun of by the types on here because neither one of us has talents pertaining to costume making, but I want to have fun, too.

I lost almost all my interest in anime-related things because of my ex's obsessive attraction to only that, I can't stop seeing things and knowing how he would think about them. My brain has a permanent line drawn between my old hobbies and him. I can't pick up any new things, only things I have already seen or read or what have you. I can't look past fanservice or ecchi stuff anymore, either. I actually feel sick to my stomach.

I'm financially able to buy j-fashion and lolita things, but I don't have anywhere to go, no one to share it with but my parents, and if there are communities even slightly near me they probably won't work out. And I don't mean them being tumblr or ita or whatever, I don't care about all that. I mean they will probably will not want to deal with my severe anxiety and depression and obliterated self-image.

I don't know how to make friends and I am afraid to make them online, because last time I did, I met my ex and various additional male sociopaths in the process.

I feel very empty.

>>8450616
Congratulations anon. This is the perfect time to force yourself to move on.
Become your own best friend and learn to enjoy loneliness. I know it sounds really fucking sad but it's actually quite nice.

>>8444453
poly people are fucking degenerate

I have wide shoulders a big bust and wide hips with a little chub here and there. J fashion looks awful on me and im completely jelly that I will never be able to pull off any cute things you guys can. I just come here to draw and admire you while I sit here in my normalfag gear.

>>8450634
I did that once before and abandoned my carefree lifestyle for my ex. I gave him everything I had and in return I just wanted him to care about my feelings. I know it sounds whiny and childish, but nobody ever cares about my feelings. The only people I attract are legitimately broken crazy people, but regular people frustrate me too.

I have so much love and kindness to give but nobody ever wants that out of me and when I bring it up, all I get is "I didn't ask for it".

I always thought that I was meant to be alone, but I didn't want that... Oh well. My family will always be there until they die, and always support me, so that's a positive.

>>8448521
>>8448545
For fuck's sake, the original bloomers (pic related) fit perfectly well-- I think hijabi girls could pull off a lot of historical coords with them. However, we're seagulls, so we need a 9:1 drama to content ration at all times.

>>8449691
What discourse? We aren't fighting, just confirming my suspicions.

>>8449664
>sexually attracted to sticks

No, they're sexually attracted to women who look like little girls. Hence lower weight often means no boobies, undefined legs, and little ass = prepubescent girl who needs protection and/or control.

I can't fucking take it anymore argh
>have auburn hair and eyebrows but short, thin brown lashes and brown facial/body hair
>think dark-haired guys with ginger beards except the other way around
>not too hairy elsewhere but very pale and have faint muttonchops down to my chin and a moustache
>literal genetic middle finger
>wax
>they grow back
>wax again
>they grow back, as usual
>repeat ad nauseam
>finally stop seeing dark hair there
>sitting by a sunny window
>out of nowhere, entire face full of brown hair, brown sasquatch eyebrows and a full-on she-beard
>go outside properly, can't see anything
I just want to be kawaii.... Now I'm gonna be paranoid about other people seeing it too

>>8437765

So is your fupa

>>8450883
Fuck that noise. I'll stick with my boobs and butt since I can still squeeze them into brand.