/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL

>>8161160
>Her parents are letting us live with them a few months to help us save up for the wedding, and most of the other wedding expenses (venue, rings, cake, etc.) are already covered.

Maybe you should get a more stable financial situation before you have to give up living in your own place for a few months for a day of celebrations.

>>8161176

The wedding is just one thing we're saving towards, we also want to mortgage a house instead of renting. I have the credit, but it's hard to save for a down payment while you're renting. I'm not a trust fund kid, and I just finished paying off medical debts for several asthma related emergency room visits. No offense intended, but some people have to make sacrifices to move forward in life.

>>8161176
A lolita dress is going to set them back a couple hundred, max, and it's less than a lot of actual wedding gowns. That's not enough to rent anywhere.

>>8161160
What about designing and commissioning a dress OP?

>>8161325
Even the made-to-order wedding dresses Baby puts out are on the cheaper end if you consider that many brides drop several grand on just the dress.

I think Elpress has some nice longer dresses. Look into them?

http://item.taobao.com/item.htm?spm=a1z10.5-c.w4002-9456829064.65.ylJYtN&id=12553935285

what about this dress?
http://www.babyssb.co.jp/onlinestore/b39op309/

I'm getting my dress from an indie brand called 4 o'clock. Linda is really sweet and an excellent seamstress. She has a few wedding type dresses and she could also design a whole new dress just for her. But she is pricey (500-1000 euros at least)

>>8161376
this is honestly one of the most beautiful lolita/lolita-like wedding dresses I've ever seen 10/10.

>>8161376
I hope your dress comes out better than mine did :/

>>8163153
Are you the person who commissioned that Elegy chick?

>>8163163
Nope, why?

It's a good idea in mind, but in real life and photos, lolita wedding dresses will look frumpy (due to non-model posture, too much going on in the shoulders/collarbone area, tea petticoat length, etc) or make her look like a child bride. Remember that your guests will all be wearing normal clothing.

It's better to get a dress that's lolita or retro inspired like this anon >>8161376, or alter a lolita dress. Have you looked on Modcloth?

>>8163153
Did you order that dress? What happened?

>>8163188
I commissioned her for a dress that didn't fit me because she admitted to cutting the pieces wrong. I ended up getting it altered by a local seamstress but the dress still looks like shit.

Her construction is great, don't get me wrong, but if I'm paying $400 for a dress I expect it to fit me.

>>8163192
Fuck. This is the first bad thing I've really heard about her and I searched for a lot of reviews beforehand. Was this recent?

>>8161176
This. Why does everyone rush into marriage? It's not some kind of trophy.

>>8163192
Ate you fat or something?

>>8163197
Yeah I commissioned her 2-3 months ago. I haven't put any reviews up yet because I'm torn about the entire transaction. She was really sweet and all, but what a waste of my money.

I asked for the skirt to be AP length since I like my dresses to be above my knee, but she made the torso way too short, even though I said I had a longer torso. She also had to draft up a smaller pattern to fit my frame and forgot to adjust the armscye... so the torso was too short, and then arm hole was too small, making the dress ride up 2-3 inches. My seamstress had to let it out from the straps as well as opening up the armscye, but now the neckline sits so low on my chest that my bra is always exposed (not that it matters if I'm wearing a blouse) and the dress is still an inch too short for my taste.

>>8163216
Did she not have you measure from the pit between your collarbones to your waist? Did she offer a refund or anything?

>>8163216
For a couture item that could be considered total failure of contractual consideration, and you should be able to either get a full refund or a new dress. Have you contacted her about it since getting it altered and it's still not to your taste?

>>8163227
Nope and if I had known I would have given it to her. She only asked me for my height, bust and waist measurement. She said she used the torso measurement in relation to my height or something. This was my first (and last) time commissioning a dress so I had no idea what I was supposed to give.

She paid for the cost of the alteration, which was $25, but that doesn't fix how awkward the dress sits on me anyway. After our conversation she said she's asking for the client's torso height now

BASICALLY if you are not her mannequin's size, I'd be a bit wary. I was much smaller than her dress form so she didn't catch the mistake until the dress was already finished and shipped off to me.

>>8163238
Whut. I've done a few commissions in my time and if I'm charging that much I send out at least 1 muslin mock up to get a handle on fit at least of the bodice (for lolita, the skirt is so full who needs to see what the fit is there). Also I send out pic related for my client to fill out or similar

>>8163238
>been thinking about it now and it might be that I made a mistake with altering the patterns and forgot to cut out the underarms deeper myself

These are fucking amateur mistakes, what the fuck

>>8161372
This
I think a baby wedding dress with an underskirt would look the best.

>>8161376 is also beautiful though.

>>8163238
Hmm, I'm sure I'm smaller than her dress form. But she did ask me about torso height. Still makes me rconsider though, I haven't paid the deposit so I still have time to back out. If it looks like shit I won't have time to find another.

>>8163238

Can you please post pictures of the dress? I've been in love with her stuff for so long and I'm in disbelief she would make a mistake like that.

>>8163243

This is how a dress is supposed to be commissioned.

Did she not send you a mockup?

>>8163299
Not that op but I don't think she sends out mockups for smaller girls unless requested. She told me she usually only sends them to larger girls because she is used to making smaller dresses similar to her own size. After hearing what op said, I'm requesting a mockup.

>>8163299
if anyone starts up an indie thread I'd be more than happy to post there. didn't mean to throw OP's thread offtopic

>>8163186
Ugh, I'm worried about this...

>>8161372
Op, I second a dress like this one. Maybe add a white underskirt or something.

>>8163186
do people even make wedding dresses with this neckline?
I'd really love one but its really not the "in" thing right now...

>>8166788
They do! Alfred Angelo recently released a Disney princess-inspired collection.

>>8161160
Based on the two pics you posted, if she likes longer dresses and doesn't care about prints, why not go with something vintage that is Victorian or Edwardian-inspired? There was a lot of that in the 1970s.

>>8163186
Did you just tell someone to buy a wedding dress from fucking modcloth?

>>8163199
Weddings don't get cheaper but family members keep dying. Just because you are a forever alone spinister doesn't mean people are rushing or see it as a trophy.

This is my dress wedding dress

But i's from AP so it's most likely two inches too short

It's a Taobao dress, but this is Classical Puppets' Elisabeth Bride OP http://www.clobbaonline.com/index.php?p=1_43

>>8169084
This is the first "lolita wedding dress" I've actually really liked. The tea length really makes it.

>>8168989
>what are short wedding dresses

>>8169092
The dress is shorter. That model is wearing an underskirt.

Married or engaged seagulls, may I see your ring(s) and where you got them? Are they cartoon/lolita-inspired?

If others could chime in with rings that they're looking at, that would be wonderful.

>>8169139
Someone I follow on FB got this as her engagement ring for it's Frozen-like look. Seems like a big commitment to base on a recent film but okay.

>>8169151
Wow. I can't lie though, that ring looks pretty sweet.

>>8169139
Ring isn't lolita related/inspired but I think it's a really pretty and dainty ring

>>8169151
Honestly, it's nice enough and doesn't have a direct connection to Frozen that it can stand on its own ten years from now.

>>8163197
It's not her only bad review.

http://egl.livejournal.com/19455356.html

tl;dr strung a customer along, didn't do everything she promised (giving button/fabric options etc) shipped it wrapped in a small cardboard box with nothing but a plastic bag, then when the customer expressed dis-satisfaction she lied about when she started the coat.

>>8169139
my ring is a gold band with a half carat oval sapphire and two .25 carat oval diamonds on either side. I like it because unless the sapphire sparkles in the sun it looks black and my coords are all black. Fiance has questionable taste but I'm proud of him on this one.

>>8169162
>>8169180
I went and found a picture other than a render and it's a little less impressive IRL.

>>8169191
Really disappointed about this, I was hoping to commission her someday.

>>8169211
That looks nothing like it. Where are the other gems?

>>8169220
I have no idea. I don't have much contact with her so I didn't even notice they were different until I directly compared the pictures.

>>8169151
Those stones will look so tacky in a couple years when those wacky kids grow out of Frozen.

I thought this dress was cool. Ignore the model's face, she looks crazy.

If OP's fiance wanted to go more retro, 1950s vintage dresses are pretty classy looking, and can probably easily be worked into some sort of coord.

For the classic lolita bride?

>>8169283
I like the style of this dress. Where did you find it anon?

>>8169324
Not that anon, but it's Ellis Bridal #11317.

>>8169139
Not married or engaged, but I really hope my ring is an art deco style ring from the actual era.

>>8169347
ooh I found a retailer that sells Ellis near me! Thanks anon, you da real mvp.

>>8169139
Dunno why its sideways but here is mine wanted black but settled.

>>8169037
Same, I fell in love the moment I saw it. I only wish I could get rid of the cross decal.

>>8169415
>>8169777
Learn how to resize your photos, damn.

>>8169365
Sorry for the late reply, but that another anon beat me to it lol. But yeah, OP said their fiance wanted to go loli for the wedding and likes classic designs, and I thought that dress was a nice median between the two. Hope you find a dress you like!

I want to wear Lolita to my wedding, but my mother really doesn't want me to, so I'm going with one of the Disney gowns by Alfred Angelo. It's more fitting anyway, since we're having the wedding at Disneyland.

>>8169139
I did things massively out of order (marriage ceremony so he could move to my country, but no wedding reception). For that, his parents gave us rings for me as a gift, but he said he wants to get me a "real" ring eventually.

I think I'd like a Claddagh ring (He is Irish, and the meaning is really lovely), with a coloured stone. Example.

>>8169139
Mr. Husband bought my engagement ring and wedding band as a set from a local jeweler. They're estate pieces, 14k gold, he replaced the diamonds in the engagement band with garnets. They didn't have to be resized, which was nice since I wear a 5.5US ring size. Really, I love how they don't look like the big clunky hunk of diamonds an silver that mainstream jewelry stores push.

>>8169933
goatse ring

>>8169998
Thank you for the sentiment, anon. Better not get a red stone with it.

>>8169139
I've never been a fan of yellow gold in general, and definitely not big into diamonds. Got a white gold band and a heart-cut ruby for the gem. (Ring from Diamondere)

We are looking at getting wedding bands from JensHansen; they made the rings for the LOTR trilogy and The Hobbit. My fiance is and always has been big into Tolkien and I'm enough of a fan that I'd go for it. They've got everything from classic yellow gold to palladium for materials, and you can get them with the cheesy poem:

>One ring to show our love,
>One ring to bind us,
>One ring to seal our love,
>And forever to entwine us.

around the outside in Tengwar and a custom message or image engraved inside too.

If we don't go that really dorky route, I'm just gonna get the band that matches the engagement ring and he'll pick something he likes.

I saw Sailor Moon inspired rings somewhere that were nice--I'll see if I can hunt them down.

>>8170035
Attaching the rendered image for the LOTR ones while I look for those others...

>>8169998
Cannot unsee. Thanks anon

>>8161176
>>8161187
>A few months worth of saved rent will pay for a wedding and down payment

I..... what. Are you trying to skate by with purchasing a house for a 5% down payment or something? I am seriously scratching my head at this right now.

>>8170156
OP mentioned that things like the venue, rings, and cake are covered--so I would assume that decorations and the actual clothing are the only major expenses left (unless they didn't secure catering). That isn't too expensive unless you make it that way.

FHA loans will take as little as a 3.5% down payment, so it really could be just a few months to save up for a cheap house.

>mfw planning a wedding and home-buying too

Of course, the bigger the down payment, the better off you are.

>>8169892
which gown? Just curious

>>8169139
Mine was quite the standard issue silver band with some historical details. Definitely nothing to write home about.

>>8169151
ew

>>8169777
But the cross decal is the best part!

>>8169347
>>8169830
Ily gulls. Found the dress (not the ellis dress, but another super gorgeous vintage-esque one). It's amazing and I got it and I wouldn't have gone to the place without this lead.

>>8171138
Oh wow, that dress is stunning! I'm glad my picture helped you. Any plans for your hair, accessories, etc?

>>8171138
Omigod this dress is the tits. I'll have to google and find it. Congrats!

>>8171148
I'm going leave my hair down and curl it. I have no accessory plans yet and I need to get the shoes soon for fittings. I'm trying to find some cute short heels similar to picture attached so if you magical amazing gulls have suggestions that would be cool

>>8171178
It's Justin Alexander 8720. Thanks guys!

fuck i have a mighty need for that dress

>>8169037
I'm looking for that dress now to get married in October :(

>>8161368
Agree'd Elpress L has some very suitable dresses. I have to wonder though. Is your fiancee even interested in lolita? If she was one I feel like she would already know where to get one, or know where to look, or be posting this question instead of you.

http://item.taobao.com/item.htm?id=35888948968&fromSite=main&spm=a1z10.1-c.w7352531-9456829045.4.76VqDF&_lang=zh_CN:TB-GBK&thwarea=cn&toSite=main

>>8170173
Yeah but a 3.5% is just irresponsible. I realize that 20% is out of the question for a lot of young couples but rushing into the literal minimum probably means you aren't ready for home ownership, especially when your best money saving tactic is to move back in with your parents.

>>8172523
I wouldn't do a 3.5%, myself. We've elected to rent a cheap place for a year and save 15-25%, depending on my salary after graduation.

However, I have seen some folks pull it off. If they are ok with bleeding out money for a longggg time and can cover the expenses, power to them I guess.

To keep it on topic and stuff:
Are there lolita-friendly wedding accessories anyone thought was cute?
Just in general.

I'm specifically looking for something with pink/white roses and pearls, but that's not really something you'd find in a wedding section.

I'm getting married this fall and honestly the 'only' reason is because of the dress. We already own a house together, I have a ring, I had just not been set on if I wanted a traditional ceremony. After seeing my dream dress I can now picture just what I want and it's not so daunting anymore. We even have a huge backyard to do it in. I'm a baker so that helps. I want to do kind of a garden tea theme.

>>8172915
If you don't mind my asking, what dress is it?

I'm getting married in August, it's going to be in a victorian mansion. Ideally I'll have a tea rather than a cocktail hour, a cute ceremony, and a comfortable but classy reception.

I had the dress picked out a while ago, but it didn't fall into place for us until we found the venue.

>>8173022
It's AP's Katrina in white. I have two shopping services looking at the potential rerelease but my friend also offered to pay part of it as my wedding gift. That'd be great if I could find it 2nd hand!