/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL

>>8162373
>tries to take a photo without you noticing
>gets their camera out without any sense of shame
>unsubtle staring

Steampunk. Living doll fashion.

>"This is that Japanese thing, right?"

>fondling your petticoat

>>8162378
>worried about randoms snapping pictures
when you're dolled up, you gotta remember girl, everyone who isn't in lolita is a peasant basically, what they do is so far beneath you it shouldn't even register as a blip on your radar. Exude maximum princess mode and let them do whatever as long as it doesn't physically harass you, its the right way to act with the normals.

"I like your cosplay!" / "I like your costume!"

>>8162373
what is that ita monstrosity in the back

>>8162390
Didn't say I was worried, this is a thread for creating a bingo card of typical normalfag reactions. People were discussing it in >>8157389

You remind me of Nicki Minaj!

>small child thinks you're a princess

I'd actually consider that kind of a hard mode one, it's never happened to me ever.

>>8162385
>HOW IS YOUR SKIRT SO POOFY

>insult normally aimed at goths
>catcalling
>for some reason no-one's staring at you today and you can't figure out why

>>8162378
Bonus points if their sound is on super loud so you (and everyone else in the vicinity) can hear their camera going off while they were pretending to be texting.

"What are you wearing?"
not sure how to write that to get across the way people say it, not in a casual way but in a really incredulous tone of voice.

>old lady compliments your outfit
>someone serving you in a shop tries to act normal but is obviously really confused

>>8162396
I've gotten this more than a few times. I think it's the tiara.

I've only been asked if I'm going to a convention(no one has asked if I'm in cosplay yet)

and "Are you in a play"

both times this has been while in a group with other lolitas. I'm mostly left alone when I'm by myself, but maybe it's because I dress in non-print classic/goth

>are you in a play?
>are you in a movie?
>do they shoot a movie here?
>are you a cosplayer?
>Is this some kind of... roccoco victorian history thingie?
>It's not fashing yet!

>>8162405
oh I forgot
"OH I know! You're in that Living doll/Dolly fashion!"

the other week had a Japanese woman come up and ask for pictures with us

>>8162373
>goes outside dressed like a poor imitation child's plaything
>is astonished when dressed ridiculous garners ridiculous attention
you're worse than the chicks who wear the shirts with sayings like "my eyes are up here" on their chest. seriously this is a containment board for my future patients

Got a new one recently:
>Are you filming a show? Where are the cameras?
2015 version of "are you in a play", I guess.

>>8162422
We're not astonished, we're entertained.

My favourites are the references that don't make any sense.
>raisin lady
>hey little red riding hood where yo sheep

>>8162422
>tries to bait one of the easiest baited boards
>fails this hard
Did u even try m8

>"Are you going to a party?"
>Mary Poppins
>people openly laughing
>group of teens give you a compliment and you can't tell if it's sincere or sarcastic
>weeb attacks you
>get called a weeaboo

Hard mode:
>see another lolita but she's really ita
>see another proper lolita
>mistaken for a prostitute

Some guy called me a whore a few days ago and asked how much I charged for the evening. Kept on pestering me too.

"Are you going to a party?"

Is someone actually going to make bingo cards? We've played Ita Bingo at a meet, this seems more fun.

>sexual comment
>French maid comparison
>homeless person comments on your outfit
>overhear people bitching about you
>overhear people admiring you

And then these aren't things you really get from people on the street but people you know.

>"But it's so childish, anon!"
>"But it's so expensive, anon!"
>"That outfit would be so much cuter if you showed a bit more skin."

>>8162435
>raisin lady
top kek

>>8162451
I'm the one who posted the thread but I can't because I'm on mobile until tomorrow. If anyone else wants to do it, feel free.

I just thought it'd be a fun idea. Kinda like those Michelin "I Spy" books or video game achievements, it makes you feel better about shitty experiences when you can turn them into a game.

>>8162452
If they ask you to show more skin, just let them know that most lolitas are camwhores in their spare time anyway.

You and cosplayers are just trash, I wish all women were banned from 4chan, you've never made any funny original content.

>called a slut when only thing showing is your face
>brolita assumed to be female
>manfaced loli assumed to be brolita

I don't know what you guys run around in but if you dress like the sweet girl on the left it's no surprise they think you're a weird kind of prostitute. Some clothing can be perceived more sexual than something that covers less. OTKs and thighs showing is more sexual than no socks at all.

>>8162373
>What is this thing?
>Hey, please explain
>I like your anime outfit!
>Can we take a picture with you?

After one person takes a picture, more people come and becomes a whole big crown and ugh

i made one cos it seemed fun.

>>8162422
Hey Sieg.

>>8162479
All the questions have been making me consider making a brochure or something for lolita jfc
Especially at meets people interrupt and spend like half an hour interrogating us.

>>8162481
oops, i didnt read the thread entirely.
my bads

>>8162460
How can one fail baiting this hard? Did you even try at all? This has to be some kind of record for worst bait ever. And that's saying something, with the amount of baiting /cgl/ has. You should be proud, or something.

>>8162490
It's Sieg, finally getting tired of tripfagging.

>>8162487
I've considered making business cards for my comm. Just explaining that it's a fashion and having a link to hellolace or something where people can read more if they're interested. It'd save a lot of time instead of having to talk to irritating people who don't understand that if we're at a cafe, we're not there to talk to random people, we just want to have our fucking tea in peace.

>>8162460
I wish refuse was banned from the Earth too but I don't see your ass floating up in space so I guess we'll all have to deal with it.

I'm really irritated with all the bait and the trolls right now, god people are obnoxious.

>>8162495
But this guy is like, worse than Sieg. At least Sieg tries sometimes.

>"I like your costume"
>"Is it a hen night?"
>obvious pointing from afar
>"Cinderella!"

>>8162487
Yeah I think sometimes lolitas can have a bit of a defensive attitude towards people asking questions but when somebody is bothering you for a half hour while you're obviously in the middle of something that's really super rude and a waste of everyone's time.

All of >>8162049

>>8162380
>Steampunk
Jesus I thought I was an isolated case.
>wearing Snow White JSK with flowery accessories
>no leather, no steampunk colors
>not even any brass jewelry
>"You look like a steampunk Snow White."
Just what

I'll make some bingo cards too when I get home from work.

>>8162479
>one person takes a picture, more people come and becomes a whole big crown
Should definitely be a bingo entry.

>>8162452
>homeless person comments on your outfit

Wearing Lolita in LT detected

>>8162487
Like >>8162496, I've considered doing business cards. Something with a link to 3-4 references or articles on the subject and maybe our comm's Facebook page.

Is it unbecoming for women to like cute things?

Generally, most of the stuff on this board would be artifacts of girlhood. Most contemporary adults would put this kind of frills and such away in favor of more mature clothing by the age you are at.

Doesn't it bother you that only kids and fags like cute stuff?

Someday, you want to be with a handsome man right? There's no way you'll find one interested in this kind of costumes, he'll probably be short, fat or nerd, because otherwise they have no reason to like this stuff. Not very conducive for a future if you ask me.

pic is me btw

>>8162514
I am that anon, but what's LT?

>>8162520
>pic is me btw

Topkek. You wish, neckbeard

>>8162520
Not really replying to whatever the fuck this is but in general, when people make comments about "don't you want to be with a man" I can never tell if they are serious or not because I find it hard to believe people still have this kind of mindset about women and yet somehow some people do still think like this.

For me it's hilarious because men are disgusting and I'm asexual with no desire to be in a romantic relationship so when people say shit like that I'm like, "Nah but thanks for playing."

>assumed to be a meido
>VenusAngelic is mentioned
I was gonna add Lady Gaga and Katy Perry to the Nicki Minaj entry above but we might as well lump them all together into a "compared to [insert celebrity known for outlandish fashion choices here]" category

Don't know if it's worth a bingo entry but one time in Melty Cream Donut someone thought I was representing a donut shop and asked if I was handing out samples or coupons.

Here's a new one: Are you part of the skating show?
> Girlfriend and I were wearing Lolita to go to a skating meetup, and some championship event was in town.
Like, seriously, does this look like a skating costume??? No. Having worn them previously in another life, no, no they do not. I'm not wearing in a bejeweled stretch velvet leotard and a skirt that barely covers my ass.

>>8162527
Guy in the pic has an meh/10 face anyway and looks like a twat as well as sounding like one. But baiters gonna bait.

I wear lolita a lot and I only ever get asked where I get my dresses.

I.E.

>'Your dress is really pretty, where did you get it?'
>'It's from a shop in Japan, I got it online.'
>'Oh.'

If you didn't wear sugar puke OTT everywhere, no one will talk shit. I also wear sugar puke OTT, but only wear classic or gothic in public.

I need two mo:
1.FREE SPACE

2.“Little Bo Peep!”

3.“Alice in Wonderland!”

4.“It’s not Halloween yet.”

5.“Are you in a play?”

6.“What is this?”

7.Catcall

8.“Nice costume!”

9.Living Doll comment

10.Not-so-discreet photo

11.Openly laughing and pointing

12.“Can I take your picture?”

13.“Did you make your own clothes?”

14.Steampunk comment

15.Touch clothes without asking

16.“How is your skirt so poofy?!”

17.Old lady compliments your outfit

18.Princess comment

19.Reference to TLC’s My strange Addiction

20.“You look beautiful!”

21.Unsubtle staring

22.Fondling your petticoat

23.“Red Riding Hood!”

24.x

25.x

>>8162556
>If you didn't wear sugar puke OTT everywhere, no one will talk shit.
Don't talk bollocks, I wear exclusively classic and gothic and I've had many of the responses in this thread (though variations on the theme of stares, photographs, "What are you wearing?" and "Where do you get your clothes?" make up the majority of my experiences).

>>8162550
Touche. Body 9/10. Wiener looks a bit on the small side. Face, ugh idk man, like a 3/10. The face really kills it.

>>8162520
too gross and muscular.

>>8162535
The one time some dudebro asshole started raving at me about how my clothes weren't "as sexy as [I] think they are" and I'd never get a boyfriend etc. etc. my husband, who was a foot taller than him, snuck up behind him and rumbled in his ear "Why are you bothering my wife?"
Dude looked like he pissed his pants and then he just walked away without saying anything and disappeared into the crowd. I think he might have been drunk. My husband isn't even that intimidating, just 6'5" with a very deep voice.

>>8162566
I vote "overhear people bitching about you", "overhear people complimenting you", "Are you going to a party?" or "Weeb comes up to you and starts spilling spaghetti everywhere"

>>8162566
Also I'd make the My Strange Addiction one a more general reference to reality TV (so like Hotel of Mum and Dad and other crap too) or VenusAngelic

>>8162556
I don't even own anything remotely sweet and I still get shit from strangers sometimes. Less so than some other girls in my comm, but still. Especially from teenagers.

>>8162576
Agreed. Honestly if I saw that guy on the street I'd avoid him.

>>8162520
My 6'2" scotsman would beg to differ.

Try harder next time.
And don't skip leg day, it isn't a good look.

>>8162583
These are all good! OK I'll add those and take out the My Strange Addiction one.

>>8162520
>implying being a nerd is undesirable
What the fuck do normalfags talk about on dates anyways? All the bf and I talk about is nerdy stuff (animu, books, games, etc). After that, there's really not much that interests me.
Do guys like this just flex instead of saying words?

>>8162578
That had to be hilarious oh my god. Probably was drunk but sometimes I wonder if people are really that stupid even when sober anymore these days.
Makes me wish I could hire a burly lumberjack looking bodyguard to intimidate hecklers, things would be so much funnier.

>>8162597
They talk about boring shit like lifting and da gainz.

>>8162576
Compensating for something? He seems to be rocking a micro penis aswell, but then I am spoiled with my husband

>>8162520
Why not use a picture of a good looking guy?
1/8 bait.

>>8162595
Yeah, it's best to keep it international and avoid references to things normalfags outside the U.S. aren't likely to know about, like TLC or Hot Topic.

>>8162605
Oh Jesus, I know a few guys that do this and it's so fucking boring. Other sports conversation, like about football or climbing or cycling, is better than lifting because it leads into discussion of tangential things like the countries they wanna climb mountains in or whatever, whereas lifting is just like narcissism and numbers inside the same old gym.

>Are you like amish or something?

Ive heard this said to me while in sweet lolita...

>suggestion
>>8162637

>I went through an [x] phase too!

>Being called Emo/Hipster/something similar that doesn't make any fucking sense

>>8162572
The face doesn't even look right for the body, like red, burnt, teenage white boy face and then a torso of a completely different race.

It's kinda creepy looking, like some sort of Frankenstein's monster type deal

People yelling "HAH, COSPLAY!" or Emo/Steampunk/etc. with a snotty know-it-all voice, amazed at their own vast knowledge of subcultures.

>>8162520

>>8162676
Oh man, people getting into arguments with you about what lolita is needs to be a bingo card. You know, people that think lolita is lolicon and then when you try to tell them what it really is just act like you've been brainwashed into some sort of cult and they know more about it than you.

>>8162683
fucking loved this ep

sage for OT

>>8162705
Ep? It's a series? Link plz

>>8162716
It's from Always Sunny.
>http://itsalwayssunny.wikia.com/wiki/Dennis_and_Dee%27s_Mom_Is_Dead

Girl in a tracksuit and gross unwashed hair pointed and laughed at me.

>'Mary had a little lamb...'

Blows my fucking mind when you people act so uppity about people thinking your outfits are weird. You are part of a niche group of people who are a very closed off group of people as it and you expect them to realize what Lolita fashion is? You obviously don't wear your outfits out "just because" or because "it's comfy" - you're out for attention from everyone else or you want to so overly-glam yourself that you want to keep your ego up even in a crowd of strangers. It's honestly quite pathetic, and I'm a fat, single neckbeard who can't cosplay worth a shit and has no fashion sense. Sure, there's some great outfits, but most of it is ita strictly because of the personality behind the people wearing them.

You're a bunch of degenerate attention-whores who spend absorbent amounts of money on clothes to boost your self-esteem instead of learning better social skills and picking up more productive hobbies. Hell, what do you plan on doing with your life in 10 years? 20 years? Are you going to be a 40 year old mom who sports lolita everywhere because you can't grow up? I'm a weeb but at least I barely drop any money on anime and I don't let my "hobbies" completely devour me as a person. Fuck, just seeing you fashion autists sends me into a sperglord rage.

16/10, infini-salty. Always.

>>8162866
Calm down friend. Everyone expects weird reactions, it's just fun make fun of the one-liners peasants give us.

>>8162866
>spend absorbent amounts of money

BRB using my super absorbent cash to soak up frustrated cry baby tears

>>8162875

Sorry, sorry. I just have really needed to get that out of my system for some time now.

>tfw you absolute adore all things cute and frilly
>tfw you can't wear lolita unironically as a masculine guy

>>8162422
shitpig detected, nice try

>>8162876

Exorbitant* dang, hush hush. I made a whoops.

>>8162597
>flex instead of saying words
lolol
maybe a few grunts too

>>8162866
A neckbeard lecturing lolitas about their lack of social skills and productive hobbies.

Kek

>>8162520
You don't count, you are clearly a fag.

>>8162894

Well do you have any counter-argument to anything I've said? Do you want to bother, that is? It's splitting hairs, the pot calling the kettle black, but I honestly find a lot of cosplayers more repugnant than fat, greasy weebs. And being an outsider, the most I can possibly imagine making outfits can help with it being a seamstress, if that - don't you guys just buy your outfits anyways?

I know a chick who literally just works two jobs strictly to pay for outfits, gas money and convention tickets so she can go to every convention humanly possible, get glammed up and stagedive into photoshoots to eat up the attention. It's all she does. She has no other hobbies, she has no other interests and she has no long-term goals. It's pretty pathetic - it'd only be worse if she were schmoozing off her parents or a boyfriend.

>>8162520
>>8162866
> /fit/ here.
Best normal fag reaction.

>>8162879
>>8162884
Jfc are you seriously going to act all timid and beta after posting that shit-fit? You just called an entire group of people 'degenerate attention-whores' because you're fucking jealous of them. When you said you 'made a whoops' did you mean in your diaper?

Also
>fat
>neckbeard
>"masculine"
Top kek. Suck it up and buy the clothes you want instead of taking it out on others, you child.

>>8162902
Other person but, there are irresponsible people in every walk of life.
There are many lolitas with real jobs, husbands, lives, etc that use their spare money on Lolita. I have a minimum wage job and I can afford buying things every couple of months just fine.
It's just choosing to buy lolita rather than going out to eat/movies/etc.
It's not that big of a deal.
Again, calm down.

>>8162902
Well considering you think most lolitas do nothing but buy clothes and go to cons I'm going to say you don't really know many lolitas.

>>8162909

I didn't even say I'm fit - I said I'm not even not that much in shape. It's terrible though because I really do wonder if I'm a normalfag sometimes.

>>8162910

>buy the clothes you want instead of taking it out on others, you child.

I don't believe that buying cosplay makes you a good cosplayer, so I don't. Besides, I'd rather spend my money elsewhere like vidya gaems. It's also reassuring that if anyone expresses any disinterest or animosity, it makes them immature. That's a great statement; very convincing!

>You just called an entire group of people 'degenerate attention-whores' because you're fucking jealous of them.

Why the fuck would I be jealous of a bunch of ostentatious, self-absorbed girls who use cosplay and fashion as a crutch for their emotional needs? Not calling all lolita fashion girls out, that is, but a good lot of you know you're guilty. It's nothing to be ashamed of since everyone has problems but it's certainly not enviable. I plenty much enjoy what social interaction I have with people.

>are you seriously going to act all timid and beta after posting that shit-fit?

Believe it or not, people can express their opinions without using the caps-lock key and needing to be in a raving rage throughout. Sage for off-topic.

>>8162910
B-b-but u meanie lolitas

>>8162922

Well you're right about that, and in that regard I don't really have much elbowroom to judge others based on that; it's just a very negative outlook I have based off the view I have actually met.

>>8162916

>there are irresponsible people in every walk of life.
>It's just choosing to buy lolita rather than going out to eat/movies/etc.

Now it's this kind of responsibility that I wish I saw more often. Maybe I just don't get out enough in this strange world of yours (most likely it is). This kind of thing warms my heart though. I'm not even angry at this point though, just emphatic.

>>8162927
>>tfw you absolute adore all things cute and frilly
>>tfw you can't wear lolita unironically as a masculine guy

>>"I'm not jealous!!!!"

>>8162933
It's ok. I assume you're a fatass in your mom's basement eating cheeto puffs over the computer trying to making lolitas ~salty~. We can all be pigeonholed into stereotypes.

>>8162933
>Now it's this kind of responsibility that I wish I saw more often. Maybe I just don't get out enough in this strange world of yours (most likely it is).
I mean, you do the same thing, except you spend your spare money on video games or whatever it is you like to do. It's normal.
The thing is with Lolita is that you have to save up and take big hits to your wallet instead of a bunch of small transactions.

>>8162939

>dat image

Thank you Anon, I needed that. No matter how many times you say it however though, I really am not that jealous. Sorry.

>>8162947

>I mean, you do the same thing, except you spend your spare money on video games

Eh, I'd contend with you on that, as it's strictly entertainment, but that's close enough I guess.

>>8162946

Yes! Let the shitflinging continue! Oh God yes I'm loving it. Yes, please, please! More!

>>8162927
>besides, I'd rather spend my money elsewhere like vidya gaems
>vidya gaems
> "ur hobbies aren't productive!!!"

>>8162956

Well my argument was that I play video games on the side as a hobby, versus seemingly being wholly absorbed into buying outfits. But like >>8162947 said, it's moreso just giant chunks at longer intervals than a constant, which I'd guess would give the look as if it were more obsessive than it really is.

>>8162953
Not shitflinging. Just pointing out everyone has their own stereotypes. Lolitas being self absorbed cunts and neckbeards being fatass losers. Stahp trying so hard m8.

>>8162866

>>8162964

>Just pointing out everyone has their own stereotypes.

Fair enough, Anon. Fair enough. Does it seem weird that I find this sort of arguing/discussion to be endearing? It feels kinda' strange myself but eh.

>>8162956
are men really this stupid?

This is a perfect example of getting the person who thinks they know more about your fashion choice than you do trying to explain to you why what you're doing is so wrong.
I believe we're going to fill out the entire bingo card just in this thread.

The only way to save this thread now is for bingo anon to deliver.

>>8162970

>>8162974

I never said I know more about anything than anyone - I was stating my feelings and opinions. Also

>are men really this stupid?

WOOO, SEXISM!

>>8162481
Some of these are still cool and funny for a bingo card though. I laughed. Effort appreciated.

>>8162902
Lots of lolitas handmake dresses or accessories. I've been sewing since I was eight, but just recently got into lolita, so I haven't made anything yet.

Most lolitas have other hobbies and interests. Lolita fashion might just be the most expensive. Loads like anime and video games. Lots like sewing, knitting, or crafting. Lots are into sports or exercise. Lolitas are pretty varied as a group and individually may be into pretty much every hobby anyone else could be into.

The people on this board like to blow off stream from their regular lives by admiring new dresses, chatting about their experiences wearing the fashion, gossiping, or whatever comes to mind. It's not really any different than people who chat about the latest anime, what their daily experiences are, birdwatching, politics, sports, the news. It's just another thing to talk about.

As for personal responsibility, many of the lolitas with bigger wardrobes have well paying jobs that allow them to afford new items regularly. Others might save up and treat themselves. Why do you care if other people are buying things that make them happy?

As for this topic, it's just about the mild frustrations of being asked the same inane questions by people that are curious or annoyed about why you dress differently than most. This is just a tongue-in-cheek exercise to illustrate all the conclusions other people jump to. Don't be mad.

>>8162949
I believe you when you say that you are not jealous, but I would rather call you a hypocrite. Really, anon, is spending money on clothes, that can be used to be an ice breaker (as many lolita's found here for comm's) for socialization, or to present themselves in public really all that pathetic. For fuck sakes, at least we are going outside rather than staying in a basement all day. Is you hobby of video games holier than thou when all you do is basically stare at a screen and press buttons all day? For the love of fuck, I play video games too but I know what is a waste of time and what is not; and video games are on the productive hobby spectrum. Besides, it's not like people that play them are all perfect angels.

3/10 for making me reply and not be a complete cunt about it, anon.

>>8162991

I like you, Anon. You're very collected and thorough. I can definitely appreciate the effort of bothering with me to write a post like that. Thank you.

>>8162520
>you want to be with a man someday right

laughingwhores.png

>>8162902
Most of the lolitas I know and associate with have decent to good jobs, many in established relationships with their shit together. Granted, I'm older and by this point if you're still living in your mother's basement getting uguu kawaii with your 2 day a week minimum wage fast food job there's something going on. Yeah, this happens, but by and large you need money to afford this shit. There are plenty of stories of people mooching or getting sugar daddies, but the majority of us do the decent thing and work.

Married, we're home owners, I may not have a degree but I have a full time job and I do decent things on the side related to interests to make extra money to afford lolita as well as other hobbies.

Please do not make broad generalizations because you just know this one girl. Most of us are pretty responsible.

This thread by and large is just about the kind of reactions you get in public wearing this stuff by normal people who don't know better. No one is getting offended, salty or upset that it happens. It's just sharing common and often humorous experiences. Nothing more.

>>8162998
>(as many lolita's found here for comm's)
STOP WITH THE FUCKING APOSTROPHES

>>8163001
>assuming we give a shit about your approval

Fuck off back to /vg/ already, you're derailing the thread even though you've stopped outright shitposting.

>>8162975
Please.

>>8163017

[SHITPOST GOES HERE]

>>8162902
Care to tell us your carefully mapped out plan for the future, which university you attend, your GPA, extracurricular activities, where you see yourself in 20 years, current job and income level, etc. etc? Because for a fat, single, neckbearded weeb "with no fashion sense" (or other redeemable qualities?) you seem really eager to cast judgement on someone who works two jobs so they can afford the lifestyle that makes them happy. I'm not saying it's a wise decision, but neither is diabetes and congestive heart failure, which you may be at risk for, based on your assumed weight and lifestyle habits. (Sitting on your ass playing video games, sitting on your ass saving mediocre animu pictures, sitting on your ass whining at girls on the internet, and so on.)

Or, you could just tell us how many challenging books you read in a month (on average) so we can better sympathize with the intellectual burden you must bear when confronted with those that would squander their mortality on fleeting vanity, or something :^)

>>8162597
I wonder this, too. I guess sports and whatever's on tv?

>>8163039
that file name. you really think a neckbeard could be that hot if they lost 50 pounds... pffft. neckbeard is more than just being fat.

>>8163044
normalfag life sounds so boring

I'm not the OP, or whoever originally said would make this but. I made it anyway.
Any suggestions/changes/mistakes?

>>8163063
darn I'm late to the party
:<

>>8163069
Only a couple of minutes, yours is like, 10x cuter. wow
I just assumed the original person gave up since it was taking so long.

>>8163069
You put "touch clothes without asking" twice.
>G and B, 4th row.

>>8162902
Is that "chick" the one who rejected you lmao?

>>8163010
Sorry, that is what I get for not reading over my shit. I accidentally deleted my whole post just as I finished it and really didn't feel like it proof reading it, because I was minorly pissed off at my mistake. I made a couple minor errors, calm the fuck down.

>>8163075
I knew it was weird but I had one leftover and not two
replaced it with "oh like the book lolita? instead

Oh god, this is bringing me back. One time I went with a friend into the city, we were both in lolita and underage (16) so her dad was with us. Her dad is a security guard for events/people, so he wore his badge thing from his last job, his jacket, and his earpiece. So happy my coord involved a tiara, bitches thought we were from another country and rich af/famous/whatever. A few people came up all nervous expecting that we couldn't speak English. And if some creepy/rude person came up to us, my friend's dad would go up to them and be like, "I need you to step back." and hold his arm out all professional-like.

So sad she's not into lolita anymore, no more cool experiences like this. But she did give me one of her dresses, so that's ok.

>>8163094
>I need you to step back

I'm dyin' over here.

>>8162556
I get asked this A LOT. I had one woman just so determined that she was going to order a dress for her daughter. I had nothing to do so I humored her and told her about brand sites. She asked, "So how much does an outfit cost?" And I just stared because I didn't want to be rude or make it sound like I was flashing money about but she prodded me, so I told her a few hundred dollars. She almost seemed insulted, then asked me about cheaper options. At this point I was getting a little fed up so I just told her to google a site called "Taobao" and said I had someplace to be. I feel I should have explained more but she was taking personal offence to the price so I got a bit annoyed.

>>8163101
It was probably one of the best lolita-related experiences of my life. I'm glad you enjoyed.

>>8162902
Why is her life a bad thing? unless she wanted friends I don't see why this is bad.

>>8163105
Well too bad, she cant afford it. Some things are more expensive, not your problem if she cant afford it. Throwaway fashion has wrecked real clothing. Lolita is on the low end of pricing in mid tier fashion brands. Many lolitas complain about how expensive it is, but what they don't realise is that other fashion brands will cost far more than lolita, and their clothing often uses less materials and less time consuming details to make.

>>8162520
"pic is me btw" top kek

>>8162597
I think about this so much. I have nothing against normalfags, but what's it like growing up without shit like anime and comics and videogames? What the hell do you talk about and do in your sparetime? What's it like not knowing what hentai is?
I'm almost jealous. I wish I was a cutie blonde popular cheerleader in high school instead of the glompy weeaboo in the pikachu hat and badly dyed hair in the corner of the library.

>>8162597
>>8163165
>implying there's nothing outside of animus and mangoes
music. books. tv and movies. food, cooking, restaurants and bars. concerts, events. pets, family, friends. sports, outdoor activities (biking, hiking, swimming, skating, skiing, boating, nature walks, you get the idea). hobbies and personal passions. day-to-day life, gossip, celebrity news if you're a particularly boring person.

>>8163149
11/10

>>8162866
The word you're looking for is "exorbitant".

>>8163165
autist detected

>>8163224
This is what happens to a lot of only children actually.

>>8162520
i feel so trelled

>>8163063
>>8163069
I have never heard the word "unsubtle" before today.
I googled it and I guess it's a word now, but it sounds really clumsy, like you know you want to communicate that something is the opposite of subtle, but have never heard the words "blatant", "clear", "apparent", "outright", or "obvious".

tl;dr: I guess it's a word but it's inelegant as hell.

if I saw someone in lolita irl is there anything nice I could say to them that they'd appreciate?

I mean I'm not gonna come up and start talking about secrets threads but idk if giving any indication that I know what their hobby is about would be weird

>>8162395
Thats only if you're black. if you're white you get called lady gaga.

>>8163257
so you're saying the word is not really subtle?
hmm, I wish there was a more succinct way of saying that...

>>8163266
"I like your coord"
Shows that you know somewhat what's going on in a respectful way.
Seriously, the girls I know get so excited when someone compliments them on their coordinating rather than just on a piece of the outfit.

>>8163266
"Is that dress [insert burando here]?"

So I am betting that neckbeard also wrote the muscleman post.

Ugh.

>>8163266
"I really like your style." But then I really don't like it if someone then asks me questions/is using it as a conversation opener. I don't answer questions that strangers ask me.

>>8163266
>>8163280
By saying coord (pronounced like co-ord, not cord) they will know that you know what lolita is, because coord is a more lolita specific term. Like on /fa/ they call them fits rather than outfits, lolitas call them coords.

>>8162520
If you wanted to troll you should have picked a photo of a man women would find attractive, not a man that other men think women find attractive.

Pic related

>>8162984
>Comes in here mansplaining about why we shouldn't like x feminine hobby and suggests we do X masculine hobby
>THIS IS MISANDRRYYY!! ;_;

>>8163393
yo i don't care how much you just hit his attitude on the head never use the word mansplaining. i'm a tumblr level feminist and that word makes even ME want to barf.

>>8163383
hot damn.
I think that men also think "hot women" are vastly different from the female definition of being hot. Just wish I knew what it is so I can get me a bf.
>tfw no qt3.14 bf.
>>8163393
People who use the word mansplaining in a serious context are equally as retarded as those who call sexism on everything.

>>8162513
Honestly why are you even in this thread

>>8162401
Or you're in a dark area and the flash goes off

>are you in a play?
>are you an actress?
>are you going to a child's birthday party?
>is this a fetish?
>where do you get this stuff?
>That dress looks cheap (only told to me when wearing brand)
>you'll never get married if you keep dressing like this
>'I wish my grand daughter dressed like you and not like a slut'
>Is that your natural hair?
>Are your eyes really that big?
>Can I touch it?

>>8162373

I opened up the pic to see the short girl with an even shorter petticoat and then noticed the girl at the back seems to be actually holding her skirt up to the side??? What is even going on in this pic?????

(sage for ot)

I'd contribute but other ppl already contributed.


>>8163091

saved, tq

>>8163383
I'm pretty sure that only /cgl/ finds this particular brand of feminine man attractive. (Nothing wrong with that.)

I think he looks too... Fragile.

>>8163807
I like that, brings out my domineering side.

>>8162902
Um I enjoy card, board, video games along side living on my own, going to college, seeing friends and working.
I'm fine at life, Lolita just enhances the fun I have. 💁💅👠💄👸

>>8162404
I didn't wear a tiara but got called one. It's the poofy skirt.

>>8162462
Haha, that first one.
Slut must have changed from chick with a messy room, to promiscuous, to woman who stands out for some reason.

>>8162566
"Slut/whore/prostitute" comment

>>8162566
"Slut/whore/prostitute" comment

>>8163165
I hardly talk about those things... I talk about opinions, the world, philosophy.. bring up random things I'm into and find common grounds, otherwise I leave early. For me its stuff like the paranormal, arts, business, ask about their life and the rest above.

>>8163063
>>8163091
I'm the OP and I saved both, thanks anons! I like both.

Now I wonder if I can use these at a meet without the word normalfag causing offense among those that don't 4chan...

>>8163094
This is hilarious, her dad sounds great.

> people assuming gothic lolita's are into satanism and don't want to enter churches

I once went sightseeing with 2 normalfag friends while wearing a gothic coord and they were very reluctant about visiting a church with me. They thought my "strange black clothing" meant I was against it or something. They said they didn't want to offend me by going there.

Just because I don't believe in god and wear black poofy dresses doesn't mean I'll burst into flames as soon as I set one foot in a church.

>>8163966
Are you sure? Have you set foot in a church before, anon? HOW DO YOU KNOW YOU WILL NOT BURST INTO FLAMES????

>>8163840
this. Fragile dudes are hot.

>>8163338
There have been similar trolls on a few threads recently, hope they get bored soon.

>>8163962
This. Fragile dudes are less likely to try to force me to have sex with them when I don't want to, guilt trip me into letting them fuck me or keep touching me when I tell them not to.

Fragile guys are cool.

>>8163773
I get "is that your real hair?" a lot. Or, better, "How did you style your hair like that?", then genuine shock when told it's a wig because "It looks so real!" I've even got this at conventions, where you'd think people would be aware of the concept of wigs. Guess they're just used to fake-looking cosplay ones.

It's kind of reassuring actually. Whenever I go out in a wig I feel paranoid that it looks like a wig and people will think I'm really weird/a prostitute/got cancer as a result, but normalfags just don't have much awareness of realistic wigs' existence, so it doesn't occur to them that you might be wearing one. While out in a general alternative outfit with a wig with a beanie on top, one girl started gushing at me about how perfect my dye job was and how she wished she could get a gradient fade like that. She was shocked when I told her it was a wig even though it wasn't a particularly realstic one.

>>8163797
I have no idea what's going on in the pic, I found it on Google.

>>8163174
Pretty much this. Music, concerts and raves, normalfag fashion, what they saw on YV last night, their job, their college course, their upcoming holiday plans, things they've seen in the news or on social media, that new place that opened up downtown, their love life, car modding, films they wanna see in the cinema...

>>8163807
It's silly to suggest that only seagulls like guys like that, but although personally my tastes are a little more masculine, I definitely prefer him to the guy in the troll's pic.

>>8163840
This. Although I like dominating masculine guys even better.

>>8164024
That's actually not true at all, anon. Fragile dudes are totally likely to guilt trip you into having sex, even if they're not as able to be violent or aggressive as a meathead (and are probably still able to overpower you anyway). There's a category of abuse just for guys that manipulate you by playing the victim card constantly, acting like they're too weak to survive without you looking after them or threatening to commit suicide to prevent you leaving them, guilt-tripping you into things you don't want to do and calling you insensitive or inconsiderate to their feelings when you call them out on it. Watch out for it.

>>8164039
>That's actually not true at all, anon. Fragile dudes are totally likely to guilt trip you into having sex, even if they're not as able to be violent or aggressive as a meathead (and are probably still able to overpower you anyway). There's a category of abuse just for guys that manipulate you by playing the victim card constantly, acting like they're too weak to survive without you looking after them or threatening to commit suicide to prevent you leaving them, guilt-tripping you into things you don't want to do and calling you insensitive or inconsiderate to their feelings when you call them out on it. Watch out for it.

shit
I might have fallen for that shit at one point.

>>8163002
Every time we get that sort of troll, I laugh because I'm a lesbian.

>>8164041
Well, I only know about it because my mom fell for that shit. When she finally broke up with him for real he showed his true abusive colours and turned into a deranged stalker, outright lying to all his friends and family so he could portray himself as a victim, threatening to never speak to his kids again (not me, younger half-siblings) and to sell the house and make them all homeless, and generally being scary as shit until the police got involved. The social worker and lawyer told us this sort of shit was not uncommon. So yeah, be careful.

>>8163979
Well I...I.... Shit, you're right Anon, I don't even know if- Oh god, I could have been killed!

>>8164070
I have had people assume I was a Satanist om both goth and gothic lolita, but it's rare enough that I wouldn't give it a bingo entry.

>>8164089
Openly assuming gothic lolita's are satanic is rare indeed.

A more regular occurence for me is teenagers who think it's funny to make cross signs with their fingers when I walk past them. Or the usual "filthy gothic" insult.

Back when I too was a normie I saw my local con at a boba place and I def stared but then I asked them if they were lolitas and mentioned that I've always wanted to get into lolita and they were really sweet and invited me to join their group even though I looked like a horrible sweatpants-clad monster. I hope that was a pleasant interaction for them because I was really impressed and kinda awestruck!! :O

>wear a very sweet black coord with a very sweet print
>big headbow, tea parties, candy and cookies and bows all over dress, cutesy makeup
>people still call you emo/goth/deatheater/satanist because BLAACCKK OMG

>>8162520
I know this is a troll, but I'm genuinely curious. Why do men whine about girls having too high of standards, but then whine about girls not picking some ugly muscle beast to date? My boyfriend is short with a baby face and loves ouiji fashion... I've never felt the urge to date someone super fit... I don't understand their way of thinking, honestly.

>>8162866
Meanwhile, a good majority of lolitas on /cgl/ have stable jobs and their own houses which is WHY they can afford hundreds of dollars in clothes.

please crawl back to your mother's basement, weeb.

>>8164025
I have a few friends who currently have or used to have crazy colored hair and they encounter the complete opposite - people on the streets are convinced it just has to be a wig, even when there are no bangs and show a little roots.

To the point when they had their hair yanked without a word let alone permission while on the bus like a DOZEN times. And it just boggles me so much, because there is absolutely no positive outcome: you either painfully pull on their real hair, rip a lock off a wig or remove it completely from a strangers head (publicly to boot).
Every single of those scenarios warrants a beating.

>>8164180
Guys like to believe girls have impossibly high standards to justify their own shortcomings in dating and not feel any need to change or improve. But then it turns out girls are actually quite happy dating regular guys, just not him in particular and he perceives that as a great global injustice.

>fedora spergs all over a girl trying to impress her into a date
>she refuses
>well of course she did, she wants some fantasy 10/10 stone abs prince with a private yacht and a foot long dick, bet she'll die alone lol
>girl starts dating a nice normal 6/10 guy
>omg what a whore she probably suck dicks by a bag wouldn't want that dirty slut anyway

>>8164180
they only whine when they can't get any fanny and blame all their problems on women "not knowing what they want" and "having shit taste"
It's the same kind of people who shit on others for liking different things.

Honestly, a lot of people like many different things. I wouldn't mind dating a babyfaced prettyboy, but I definitely wouldn't be opposed to dating a muscled meathead so long as he is a genuinely nice person. The thing about gymbros is that they tend to be douchebags into having ons with clubgirls so that's why some people avoid them.
Bearded bearmode guys are my favourite though
>all that cuddle material
too bad a lot of them love dick

>>8164180
>My boyfriend is short with a baby face
Mah nigga. My boyfriend is pretty tall (6'1", unless that's considered manlet now) with a babyface and I find him to be the cutest. But he's also charismatic and not a neckbeard with nice guy syndrome.

>>8162535
I think people aren't in a special mindset when they say that. It's more that they want you to have someone in your life that will be the closest person you'll ever meet.
Even people in a relationship faces thing in their life where they are all alone. Be it the suffering of losing someone dear to you or something else, there are times when no one can help you and you're all alone in front of your suffering.
A significant other can be the one thing stable in your life, the other person might be the crutch until you get better, the other half that will help you feel full again.

I might be optimistic, but I'm mainly talking about older people who know how hard it is to be alone. It's often parents and grandparents who talk about that, not your same-age friend who just think your vagina is going to close if you don't have someone boning you once every week.

>>8164328
I've never really had older people say that sort of thing to me, it's always been young people with the mindset that sex is VERY important and probably bitter that I don't care what they think.

Your explanation about why somebody might say such things is good though and I think a lot f times when older people say that, that is probably usually the reason, though I'm sure there are some churchy types who feel marriage MUST happen and you MUST have babies.

>>8164334
>sex is very important
dfsjdksdkjf
some of my acquaintances used to comment about how my relationship is "totally over" because I don't have wild animal sex with my boyfriend 5 times a week on every surface in the house
fucking hell, it's been 3 years since and we're still together, yet they STILL sometimes comment about it
I don't go around calling people loose harlots when they have sex outside of a relationship, so why do you care about mine?

>>8164328
That makes sense, but if they say it in response to excentric fashion choices it's still extremely douchey. It's
>Don't you want to find love? It's great to have a SO who cares for you
VS.
>Nobody will ever love you if you dress like that!
If you're looking for someone who will truly love you and will always be there for you, wearing poofy clothes from time shouldn't be a dealbreaker. Hell if someone threatens to break up with you over fashion choices they probably aren't The One anyway, so why bother even trying with someone like that?

>>8164159
To be fair, emo did a little bit of that cutesy x black thing back in the day (I remember Hello Kitty being popular), but it's still still pretty ridiculous comparison.

>>8164041
I'm sorry anon, it's more common than you think. My sister dated a guy like that and so have several of my friends. And you didn't "fall for it", he manipulated you. He's the douche.

>>8164340
I think they mean in the sense of being sexually compatible with one another. If there's a guy who wants to only have sex once a week while his partner wants it everyday, there's bound to be problems with the relationship. The outcomes can vary from the high sex drive person cheating on their partner, or the guy gives in and has sex everyday as a way of satisfying his partner for the sake of keeping the relationship going.

>>8162435

>>8162525
Little tokyo in L.A. skid row adjacent

>>8164882
I HAD NO IDEA WHAT THEY MEANT BY RAISIN LADY AND JUST SEEN THIS PICTURE AND NOW I KNOW AND NOW I CANNOT STOP LAUGHING

Please let me get called the raisin lady at some point in my Lolita life

>>8162385
My mum actually lifts up my skirt and petti to show randoms, who ask, my bloomers. I can't even.

>>8162520
I'm a sweet lolita and my bf loves qt stuff (lolita fashion, rilakkuma, etc), is 6'4, muscular, handsome (we both like videogames) so you really shouldn't generalize

>"Your eyes look trippy"

>"Your wig looks so delicious I want to eat it"
um...ok?

I was out with friends a few days ago and overheard someone tell the person they were with that we were dressed up for Purim.
I'm not jewish, I had to look it up.

>>8164882
ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

>>8165197
are you me?

>>8167442
>Purim
Oh shit I forgot my second favorite holiday. I can't believe I missed out on hamantaschen.
Purim is actually a Christian story too iirc, there just isn't a holiday around it.

>>8167442
I didn't know about Purim before--sounds like a fun holiday. I want to try a recipe for those triangle cookies; they look good.

>>8163149
4/10 guido tans turn me off

>>8162373

>where something out of the ordinary
>get surprised when people are caught of guard and curious
>getting bothered that random people don't know about your Japanese fetish-wear

This is why everybody laughs at seagulls.

I've only been out in lolita twice and I've already ticked off so many...

>>8168238
I didn't check "can I take your picture?" because that's to be expected at a convention.

>>8168238

>>8162373
I've never understood "are you in a play?" because as far as I know, actors and actresses don't just waltz around and get food in their costumes before or after plays. Their directors and costumers would flip shit.

>>8168311
This a thousand times, and yet it's the most common question I get asked.

>>8168311
I think some people just blurt out the first thing that comes to their mind without thinking it through. Their process is probably something like weird clothes -> costume -> "are you in a play???"

>>8168311
Even in highschool, they drilled it into us that people should never see you in costume/makeup if you're not on stage because it's super unprofessional.

>>8168311
Now that I think about it, the RARER "are you filming for TV/a movie?" question that initially seemed stupider than the play one because duh, do you see any cameras?, actually makes a lot more sense.

>>8163091
No bingo, but the medley of comments I got today at a gathering.

>>8168358
Makes sense. Most people just ask why I'm wearing a costume and when I tell them that it's not, they're surprisingly polite.

>>8168720
I laugh at the "what is this" reaction because I always hear it in Derek Zoolander's voice.

>>8168733
Will never hear that the same way again. Hahaha omg thank you for that.

>>8168311
>mfw I was asked if I was in a play by a taxi driver at 8:30am on Christmas Eve when I was going in to work

I was wearing jeans, doc martens and a peacoat with my hair up in a bun.
I thought I was just having an auditory hallucination from being asked that so many times in lolita.

Apparently it was my makeup that made him ask. (I'm goth-level pale and I try to brighten my face a little with pink blush. So normalfags think obviously I'm part of the Beijing Opera or something.)

I just tried to laugh a little and said I think actors usually get their makeup done for them... IN the theatre... a little closer to curtain call...

>>8162378

>once saw a Loli dressed girl
>asked if I could take her picture
>cause I've never seen an actual Loli dresser in person
>her eyes widened and she smiled a perfect parabola
>just seemed happy I knew what Loli was

And I'm normalfag looking as fuck, no one expected me to know what Loli stuff was.

>>8172098
>loli dresser

kek

Actually, pretty recently a friend and I were at a tea festival and a lady came up to us and asked if we were lolitas/asked to take a picture with us. Apparently one of her FB friends is into the fashion,BJDs and the like. It was really refreshing.
>awkward moment when I was in Liz Lisa and not lolita but just smiled politely anyway

>>8162373
Sauce on the dress on the right?

>>8169507
>Apparently it was my makeup that made him ask. (I'm goth-level pale and I try to brighten my face a little with pink blush. So normalfags think obviously I'm part of the Beijing Opera or something.)

Uh, not to be mean but it sounds like you can't do your makeup very well.

An amish man asked me if I was a cowgirl while I was wearing gothic lolita. I just told him that I think I would have some trouble riding a horse in this.

>>8162520
Bait but I quite like women who are into this kinda stuff, personally.

I play Rugby and the contrast between an atmosphere of controlled violence and silly sweet stuff really puts my mind at ease.

>tfw no qt lolita gf

I was once in a full coord waiting for my friend to pick me up for a photoshoot, and while standing there I had some disgusting guy with food on his face come up to me asking where the church congregation was.

>>8168311
>>8169507

>august, con is happening
>dress a bit OTT since I'll be helping with a j-fashion panel
>get a taxi to avoid dealing with people on the bus
>driver asks "are you doing a show today?"
>yyyyyeeaaahh, I do
>welp, technically true
>drive up to the con place
>tons of cosplayers and weebs all around
>"Oh my, that's a big one then"
>pay, thank him and quickly run away

>some random taxi driver is now convinced that anime cons are actually ginormous stage shows

>>8172152
I don't do it badly. I've posted myself in draw threads a few times and no remarks were made. It's just that foundation that matches your skin colour and pink blush is less popular here than heavy fake tan, tidemarks, and bronzer.
Out of the ordinary = "in a play".

I live in a very small town but i wear lolita everyday, so here are some of the things that have been said to me since i started wearing lolita out.
> "Have you lost your sheep?"
> "Are you one of those lesbians now?"
> "Are you going to a gypsy wedding?"
> "Are you not embarrassed?"
> "Does your mother know you dress like that?"
> "Did you loose a bet?"
> "Why aren't you wearing normal clothes?"
> "Are you on the game?"
> "Are you a CanCan girl?"

as well as many other insulting things. it usually gets a far better reaction in the city, people usually just say it's nice and ask to take my photo there. but in my town, i've gotten some shocking responses. not to mention the amount of times drunks or rowdy men pull up my skirt passing by. It kind of sucks how they react but in the end of the day, i wouldn't stop wearing Lolita just because people are retarded.

I get the "random people staring for an awkward length of time."
what i have started doing is, looking them dead in the eyes, and i smile and wave. Sometimes i ask if they want a picture.
and that one time i was so pissed of at a guy staring me out of it with his girlfriend is simply said "yes, i was in that porno. would you like an autograph". His girlfriend then proceeded to look very very horrified at him.
was quite wonderful really.

>>8169507
>Ghostbusters pic
>pale
>pink blush
>peacoat (it's newish right?)

I know who you are. And whoever said you can't do your makeup, is wrong. You look stunning errday.

>>8174255
It is newish, yes. And anon was just assuming. (I knew somebody here would recognize me from that pic alone...)