/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL

>meet up is approaching
>have been planing my coord for a long time, generally excited
>friends all canceled ue to various reasons
>I only vaguely know the rest fo the comm, but I'm not close to anyone
>mfw

On the one hand I've never been to a meet up without a friend, and I barely know the people in our comm. Sure, I can do some small talk but most of them are close friends in various cliques so I'm not sure if i wouldn't just feel awkward and left out.
On the other hand I'd really like to go because I have the coord ready and miss dressing up. Not to mention the next meet up is over two month away...

>>8142775
Hey, at least you'll look good! It can be nerve-wracking to not have your friends around during a meetup, but I guess you could take this as a chance to get out of your comfort zone just a bit. Good luck!

What exactly does it mean to talk dirty?

>>8142820
Well you sit down and talk about dirt, like sediments, potting soil, dust. That kind of thing makes some moist... for planting seeds.

>>8142828
Tell me more about the dirt Nee-San.

>want IB diploma
>course registration forms need to be signed by teachers
>haven't been doing well in English class lately out of ennui, but need to have it as one of my HLs
>don't know how to convince the teacher that if I try hard enough, I can handle it
I'm considering pretending I want the class as an SL, having her sign, then erasing it and writing in HL if I can't convince her. The only problem is that the DP Coordinator is literally her husband and I'm scared they may talk about it and realize what I did.
What do?

>>8142949
>IB diploma
you have to be 18 to post here

>>8142949
The evidence suggests that you CANT handle it. I'm a teacher and I would not sign for you. Not that I wouldn't think you're smart enough, but you're obviously not dedicated enough.

And academic dishonesty isn't a good way to start your academic career.

>>8142820
To say lewd things

>show programming TA my revised code for last two labs
>only one part of it is wrong
>TA maintains 6/10 for both
>tells me if I fix them, 7/10
>I then present my recent lab
>works perfectly, nothing wrong
>"but this is not the way the professor wanted you to do it"
>6/10
>spent all weekend correcting those three labs
>new lab due tomorrow
>haven't done it because of this bullshit
>now backlogged with four labs that I need to do
>fucking chinese TAs

I'm about to rage quit from all this stress. I hate data structures.

>>8142949

IB is a huge waste of time, especially if you're not going to do well in your HL classes. save yourself

> tfw terrible with studying
> tfw also terrible with stress
> tfw doing horrible in uni

Well I'm fucked. Not that I haven't passed any classes at all but certainly not enough.
I'm just awful with stress and self control which causes me to do absolute fuck all when it comes to studying.
I can't drop out either because I need a degree and I'm afraid that if I'll stop now I'll have an extremely hard time getting back for when the new year starts.

>>8143051
Good luck anon, data structures are a bitch

>>8142949
IB is a waste of time most of the time.

>>8142820

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZBsFntczDoM

I just want to say that I am really grateful for all the seagulls and everyone on lacemarket that have ever bought my stuff. I have become somewhat of a hoarder when it comes to lolita due to stress at work and every little bit that I sell helps me clear out my closet.

>tfw happy feels

>>8143023
then I talk dirty all the time

>>8143096
Have you tried doing small amounts every other day?

Like 20mins or something

>too busy with school to even think about cosplay
>too busy on /cgl/ to even think about school

It'll be okay.

>>8143185
Are you me.

>>8143187
My work was going so well until I told myself I'd take a small 4chun break

>>8143184
I should probably try that. I'm very all or nothing which pretty much ends with nothing all of the time.

I know this is weird but
>Consumer Behavior's teacher is really cute
>he's cuter that me
>whatkindoffeelisthat.Mp3
>since then I'm lurking in the crossplay threads to find ways to be a cute shota boy

I don't even know what's going on

>fracture my arm in an accident a few months ago
>medical bills have been taking forever to get here/get 80% paid
>parents are being supportive but haven't mentioned that they're paying them
>literally $1000 bill hanging over my head (thanks ambulance fees, I should've just gotten a ride)
>biggest con in the state is almost a month away and I can't work on my "biggest costume of the year" due to not wanting to spend any money on supplies until everything is paid for

I can make a ballgown in less than a month, r-right?

>>8143408
>medical bills
>ambulance fees

>>8143411
i grew up in a city where if the fire dept came out to your home you would get a bill in the mail (few thousand dollars)

>>8143411
Shit sucks man. My mom almost got hit with a 2k bill for a 15 minute ride. Thankfully her doctor kept her from having to pay.

>>8142775
This could be a good opportunity to get to know some of the other people in your comm! It might be a little awkward at first but if I were you, I'd still go since I already put so much work into my coord. Good luck and have fun, seagull

>>8143240
make him your cute shota boy

>>8143424
also when people assume insurance covers emergency vehicle charges (doesn't) ambulance services are third party/ private-sector

Oh god you guys

>girl i know from online group is getting into lolita
>girl has shit for taste
>my horror when she's posting milanoo and eBay links, not even bodyline-tier stuff
>my even worse horror when she's calling it "loli" and "sweet loli" INCESSANTLY

ugh, it's a horrorshow. i barely know her, i have no way to jump in and try to stop this train wreck from happening. on top of that i'm new to lolita myself, my first dresses haven't even arrived yet/i've never worn a coord out, i am in NO PLACE to be advising people on this fashion in any way. she's really nice but very naive and thinks that all lolitas are super-sweet mahou shoujo who would never be mean, it's like she lives in a fairytale or something. she's 29 but she really does seem to think and act like a child

should i just let this unfold without trying to help? what do, /cgl?

>>8143428
I don't want to be sempai
I want to be shota

>>8143460
oh
go for it anon

>>8143411
>>8143417
>>8143424
Yeah, it's kind of ridiculous. Pic related is what my hand looked like at first. They only suggested I take an ambulance because my bpm was high (after a five-car accident which is completely abnormal, right?). That and the car was totaled but my boyfriend fucked up while signing up for insurance and we got no coverage for it. I'm just happy this all happened when we could both afford paying for a new/used car.

>got laid off from my office job 4 months ago, living the NEET life
>recovered from a foot injury that took 2 months that I still believe might be re-injured
>look for work
>good call center jobs are hard to get and most office jobs want someone who can handle 3+ tasks at the same time
>Problem is, I'm horrible at mutli-tasking and organization
>Retail almost never pays beyond minimum wage and requires me to be on my foot

I know I need to get over my insecurities especially since I'll have some bills to pay real soon but I feel like I'm fucked no matter what I do. I just want to work with decent people and get decent pay without wrecking my feet or hands.

>>8143474
Oops.

>>8142775
My fav meet up was the one where I was in this exact situation. I got forced to reach out to girls I never would have talked to so I could have a ride, and as a result, made two new friends- one of which I still keep in touch with, four years later.
I had so much fun. I hope you get the same result!

>tfw don't have the balls to go to the coffee shop and ask out the qt there

>work hard, long ass hours
>only get to enjoy lolita on weekends
>got a pretty good little wardrobe going
>feel happy to have safe spaces/events to wear lolita in
>boyfriend super supportive
>not feeling like shit about myself anymore
>suddenly boyfriend nicely requests that I not wear lolita anymore bc he hates the attention I get
>can't even respond
>tfw completely heartbroken

I really don't wear lolita everywhere, only to meets and our 'nerdier' venues to hang out with our friends where it's pretty safe/there are plenty of other friends who wear alt fashion. Now all of a sudden he's trying to form some kind of compromise in which I only wear it every other weekend. I get where he's coming from, but after investing this much time and money into it I'm pretty sad.

>>8143887
something had to have triggered the 180 turn around from being okay to not being okay, I feel like "i dont like the attention you get" is vague as fuck

>>8143408
Why do you americans have such a problem with medical bills. In my country you have to have a health insurance, it's required by law. The insurance companies literally have to take you if you're not insured.
I'm just so baffled everytime; how can a first world country have their people worry whether they can afford getting basic medical help or not.

>>8143887
>>8143934
Ask him if she really doesn't like the attention that YOU get or if he isn't more uncomfortable with the attention HE too gets when you two are out in Lolita. If he feels uncomfortable with the attention he gets maybe you can work something out, like wearing more toned down stuff.

If he dislikes the attention you get - well, what the fuck? It's not like you dress all sexy with your tits and ass hanging out nd go to nightclubs to flirt with strangers. You're just wearing a strange fashion and he shouldn't be concerned about the attention it gets you unless it's something super negative or you live in a dangerous neighbourhood or whatever. But since you mentioned you only wear it around safe spaces I see no problem in that.

All in all: TALK to him. Seriously. No seagull can solve this for you. Aks him why the 180 degree turn, and make sure to tell him you love the fashion and don't feel comfortable changing your style just because he has some shitty vague reasons why you shouldn't wear a frilly dress.
He better comes up with a damn good reason, otherwise it's time to sit down for a talk.

>>8144134
He probably had someone give him a nasty comment towards her. This happened to me once, guys have a hard time admitting that they're trying to be protective so they get all huffy over their own feelings and act like derps.

>>8144107
"Insurance" here is required by law, but it barely covers anything. For some reason the US has a problem with nationalism(read communism) and they assume anything that is paid for by the country for others is going to make us into a police state overnight.

>>8143887
I agree with the other anon. Something must have triggered the change; people don't just do 180 flips like this. Try talking to him about it.

Related feel:
>move to new city several months ago
>still no lolita friends
>rarely wear lolita but everyday wardrobe has finally become cohesive
>wear Milk/fint/ank rouge/JM/Wonder Rocket on the daily
>start dating Korean guy who is very nice/sweet in general, things are getting kind of serious
only one problem:
>he frequently makes comments about how my sense of fashion is kind of "loud" and "very cutesy"
>also comments that he thinks Koreans have best taste in fashion, that he likes simple things, etc.
>mfw I feel like I can never let him know/see my lolita wardrobe

It's especially hard for me to deal with because my ex boyfriend was super supportive and would encourage me to wear it out on dates and whatnot. The BF still tells me I'm cute and whatnot, but it sucks when he basically tells me that he thinks I have shit taste in clothing compared to Korean girls.

>>8144166
To put a positive spin on it, maybe he's just clumsily encouraging you to try out Kfash because he thinks you'd look extra hot in it. Let's face it, stuff like otome and casual lolita is really modest, so guys who are all about it aren't the most common. On the other hand, kfashion has more miniskirts and emphasis on the legs, so... I have a feeling he's trying to ogle your legs more, anon.

>>8144172
Maybe. The way he talks about it definitely makes it seem like it's more that it's like too cute for him, though. He'll look at other people and point out that there's too much frill/fluff, too many ribbons, too many cute patterns, etc., and I'm just kind of left standing there awkwardly looking at my own frilly, patterned clothing. We've also talked about how he doesn't like undergarments that are too lacy/cutesy because it weirds him out, and I was just kind of like "you're shit out of luck there."

I like kfash, too, it's just not as easily available to me as casual jfashion is, and my wardrobe has finally reached the point where I can mix and match pieces easily.

>>8144107
Unfortunately it's not something you have a choice in if you live here, so I can understand your confusion. Like another anon said, insurance is required and every little bit costs money. But the ambulance is the worst, costing like $3000.

>>8143934
>>8144134
I have no idea what may have happened. I pressed for a good reason and he said he doesn't like other people constantly looking at and talking to me. He refused to talk about it any further and did the 'forget about it, whatever' thing. So confused.

>>8144211
>he said he doesn't like other people constantly looking at and talking to me. He refused to talk about it any further and did the 'forget about it, whatever' thing.
He's probably just jealous because of all the attention you get, just has he said. I can kinda see where he's coming from and I think he's not the only guy who is a little confused and jealous when their gf constantly gets attention. But most boys would never want to admit that.

Question is, what do YOU want? Dress down so your bf feels more comfortable, or telling him you enjoy dressing up and that you don't want to change? It's a difficult topic.
Personally I'd try to find a compromise and tell my bf that I might dress down sometimes for him, but if he doesn't like my clothing style and the attention I get then, well, he needs to grow up. As long as you don't wear anything revealing and flirt with everyone who dares to look at you I don't really see the problem or any reason to completly change for him.

>>8144211
Tell him he should learn about the fashion and dress up in ouji with you. Or just learn about it and talk about it with the people who approach you.

I get that he's jelly, jealousy is a normal human thing. But shutting you down isn't the healthy response. The far better response would be for him to step in and share, or at least obviously support, your passion. That way you can still do you, and he can display that he's a good boyfriend so anyone with ulterior motives can step the fuck off.

>>8144139
>>8144195
It's really sad to hear this, especially when I constantly see people on here or on tumblr ruining their life over medical bills.

>>8144221
Yeah, it's a first for me to have to shell out this much for medical bills and it sucks knowing that I didn't even need the ambulance and am currently paying off a used car as well. I just don't think I'll be able to afford all the costs for my next cosplay since I wanted to go all out for this con.

Ex's new girlfriend commenting on my cosplay.

Haha, oh no honey we aren't friends.

>>8144300
this reminds me of something that some bitch said to me once
>school festival
>meet friend and her friend
>take a picture of them for the festival album on fb
>caption: "some friends at the festival" because I cba to explain how well I know each of them and it's nobody's fucking business
>she gets tagged in it
>she comments minutes later: "Aww she called me a friend lol how pathetic"
that's how you sound right now

>tfw start dating normalfag guy
>he's incredibly nice, genuine, and generous
>but will he like my lolita
>show him a dress on my phone one day
>"oh wow anon that's beautiful! What brand is that?"
>"Oh it's MM" I say stupidly
>a few days later
>"anon are you into japanese lolita?"
>lol oh shit
>"do you have outfits?"
>so I show him my tumblr
>he thinks I'm beautiful in those outfits and he really means it
>he wants to take me to really nice tea places
>isthisreallife.jpg

Dear god I think I hit the jackpot.

I don't want to wake up from this.

>>8144300
In this vein,

>ex's mom starts following my cosplay Twitter
>he dumped me a year and a half ago, we do not speak AT ALL
>mom is certifiably insane, likely histrionic
>please leave me alone

>>8144309
How is that remotely the same to being annoyed by an ex's current squeeze trying to act all buddy-buddy?

>>8144316
what makes you think she's trying?

>>8144312
Can't you just block her?

>>8144310
That's adorable.

>>8144320
She's going out of her way to comment on anon's cosplay photos. Honestly that's not really something most people do to their current SO's ex.

>>8144322
She hasn't said anything or interacted with me, but yeah, I think I will.

>>8144300
At least your ex's new girlfriend attempted to be friendly.
I sent mine a video about super robots (he really loves super robots), and it was the first time I spoke to him in 6 months. I soon got a few responses from this girl going on like "He's with ME now. Why do you two keep talking to eachother???? Why can't you two just let eachother go?????????"
'Cept her spelling isn't anywhere near as nice as mine, and she was significantly ruder.

>>8144331
Well, nothing of value was lost.

>working on my master's in NY
>parents recently moved to NC
>it's kind of granted between us that me and my bf are going to move south when my program is finished
>dad booked first class tickets for me and the bf to visit over spring break
>it'll be good because that way we can scope out the area and see what the job market is like
>parents insist the area they're living in is "hip"
>I just realized I've never heard of any cosplay/lolita stuff out of NC
>bf says there's a Amtgard group but that's it
>tfw I might be alone
Please someone say I'm wrong and there's some sort of lolita comm or cosplay scene in NC...

>>8144221
I can't even really afford insurance. Most insurances will cost more than the surgery I need by the time I get the deductible paid off. So I'm using my highly limited diet to just lose weight. You'd be surprised how much being in pain is a good motivation to lose some extra pounds.

>>8144331

>>8144342
There is! Apparently it's never talked about because it's super low-key and relatively drama free. Search for "North Carolitas" and you'll find their facebook page.

>I'm an NC lolita too
>too shy to join the comm
>help

>you'll never find this girl

>>8144359

>>8144342
Can't tell you about the lolita scene, but central NC has a huge NY expat population. One of the few other places in the country you can get real bagels and decent pizza.

Girlfriend left me some weeks ago after years going out with her. We were supposed to be together "forever". She enjoyed cosplay more than I did, but still I was happy being her partner and doing skits together. Truth is she did most of the work and I was a helper.

She wants to keep being my friend and keep doing the same cosplay things, but it's not the same for me and I feel horrible whenever I talk to her as if never nothing happened.

And yet she now has this special "friend" with whom she has some serious cosplay projects. Dunno if they're going out or not. But it's like if all our projects didn't exist anymore.

I still love her a lot, and she knows it. What can I do?

>>8144359
Please anon don't do this to me I have so many feels for If you are the one. Forever in love with that one contestant who wore lolita and was really ditzy but also threw mad shade, and the cute bug eyed girl who was obsessed with teenage mutant ninja turtles

>>8144364
> talk...as if never nothing happened.

I have no advice, as I'm going through something similar, but shit, this is terrible. It may be your ex's way of coping, but it hurts

>>8144370
Yeah, I even say things I said when we were together, and sometimes she also does the same, but it's like if she doesn't realize.

>>8144359
>>8144366
sorry bro

>>8144352
Let's join together anon, I'm pretty nice and I wasn't on the receiving end of any NY drama.
>>8144363
Wow, I'm surprised, but not surprised. NY is getting to be a shit place to live. At least there will be decent pizza...

>>8144379
thats cool bro im not a bro tho bro

>>8144364
>>8144370
Remove yourselves from your ex. Completely. Block or hide them on facebook, twitter, tumblr, skype, etc. You can let them know that you're doing it, or not, but I advise doing so similarly to this:

>Hey [Ex]! I just wanted to let you know that I need a little space in the wake of our breakup. I want to maintain our friendship, but for me to do that healthily, I have to put some distance between us for a bit so I can re-center myself as an individual, and no longer consider us a couple. I hope you understand this!

You know, not that exactly per se, but you get the idea. If you stay around them and "act the same" then you'll take much, much longer to get over them. Get away from them for a while and focus on yourself and strengthening your friendships.

>>8144385
>Let's join together anon, I'm pretty nice and I wasn't on the receiving end of any NY drama.
Aw, that's a sweet idea. Would you like to swap skype SNs and chat? I'm actually fairly new to NC as well.

>>8144394
Actually, I took this route once and it didn't end well for me. Keeping in minor contact is more helpful than attempting to avoid him. He's big into a fandom I am, so occasionally speaking to him AND seeing his name everywhere is better than seeing his name everywhere and just being in pain.

>>8144389
that's surprising

how do you stand it here?

>>8144359
>>8144366

>>8144389
>not a bro

>>8144398
Still, the occasional chat and hangout should be a far cry from what you used to do. I guess my main point was don't let yourself act the same around them and give them the same emotional affection they got from you while you were dating. I hope things look up for you, anon!

>>8144394
The problem is my friends are her friends too, and my life until now was 100% focused on her. And truth is I can't think of her as a friend.

>>8144411
>mfw my first reaction is to congratulate you on trip-dubs.

Don't worry, anon. It's my life, and I'm taking charge of it. That bastard won't get my heart again.

>Mom decides to steal one of my lolita cardigans for her vacation.
>No mom it won't fit you please don't
>But anon, I never ask you for anything!
>She takes it
>She is stretching it out
>I bought that thing with my shitty paycheck
>Tell her she can just have it
>Sit and cry

I just hate how my space and things seem to belong to everyone and my opinion doesn't matter.
God dammit mom

>>8144399
this is one of the most female populated boards, i can appreciate constructive criticism and catty bitching but considering i browsed /b/ since i was 12 i have developed a thick skin.

>>8144409
>see pic related

>>8144421
if you are the one- battle? v nice

>>8144419
>trip-dubs
Damn, I didn't even notice. Cool.

>>8144417
I've been there too. Just try to distance yourself as much as you reasonably can. Politely decline invitations to hang out if you'll be in a situation where it's just you and your ex, or where you'll be the odd man out.

My personal experience was
>finally break off disaster of a relationship with boyfriend
>turn around and get a qt3.14 gf
>ex bf whines about wanting our relationship to stay the same
>i'm pretty lonely since gf is long distance and i don't have a ton of friends, so i agree
>"it'll be just like it was before we broke up, just no making out!"
>he's nice and understanding at first
>is encouraging when i'm depressed and pays for food (i was poor as fuck then) when we go out since going out was usually his idea
>in return i do my best to keep the relationship relatively similar to what we had pre-breakup
>occasionally sacrifice time with gf to deal with his whining
>he eventually meets some girl he likes
>he immediately starts being more aggressive with me when we chat
>stops wanting to do things with me at all
>starts picking on not only me but my mother as well

Finally just removed him everywhere, and good riddance. Dude was insane levels of undiagnosed autism.

>>8144417
Hello Anon are you me?
Keep your friends and find a way to deal with her being in that space, but don't be afraid to invite them to do stuff without her, or to find some other new friends as well as your old ones. LIVE YOUR LIFE ANON. Live it for you and not for her. You can do it. I promise it feels like a cloud that won't stop looming over your head now, but you can make a space in your life that she isn't involved with, and then from that have the confidence to slowly push her out of your shared spaces too.

I still have to room with my ex at cons if I want to be near my best friends. For a while last year I considered quitting but a lot of people told me to hang on in there and 'not let her win'.

I booked a few cons for 2015 because she wasn't meant to be cosplaying this year. Guess who's coming now?

It's getting better though. Most of the stuff she does doesn't bother me any more.
Give it a year and I might actually be back to my old self.

>>8144309
Sure I'm a bitch. I'm surprisingly fine with that.

It's inappropriate to comment on my stuff if we've never met (and will never meet) if you are dating the person who broke my heart, and are aware of that. It's coming into my space and forcing me to look at you.

Not quite the same as someone referring to you as a friend and then shooting them down.

>job fair today
>no suit
>going in a turtleneck

Whelp. Anyone know a place online or a store in the US that sells quality but inexpensive blazers for petite asian sizing?

>>8144331
I mean look on the bright side Anon, this means she considers you a threat. Even she herself admits you're better than her.

>>8144428
>in return i do my best to keep the relationship relatively similar to what we had pre-breakup

Same here, but it's just there are "missing" things. We both hug eachother but nothing more. I don't think it will never become aggressive or picking on me because she's gentle as fuck.

>>8144429

In my case I was the one dumped and she still considers me important. And she is also a qt cosplayer so expect lots of white knights. I think I still attract her physically, but at the moment her feelings are not the same anymore. I wish they were!

So tl;dr, she doesn't want anything bad between us, but I want to recover our relationship.

>tfw lots of her cosplay pieces in my apartment

>>8144446
ok.

Give her back all her stuff. Start organising things just for you, not in a mean way. Just in a 'we broke up so now I need my own space' way. Have a conversation about that with her if she gets upset about it, and explain you aren't trying to exclude, you just need to find your feet again.

Organise to meet up with her to hang out every now and again. Like once a month, or whatever you're happy with. This will keep your relationship.

The important thing now is not her. It is you. Make sure your life is something you want to be a part of. Don't make it a shrine to her. Eventually, it will be bigger than the space she once occupied. And she will hopefully have a amiable place in it.

>>8144444
mirin quints but not wanting someone to talk to your bf/gf when they have history is not exactly considering them better.

in related feels
>get qt bf
>he has never had a gf before except for this one girl that cheated on her bf with him and almost got him to sleep with her at some point (he said no and then she called him gay)
>he is kind of obtuse
>she finds out he's seeing me
>oh teehee that's so cool
>suddenly she whines about her parents being mean and invites herself to stay at his place until she finds an apartment
>he accepts and actually tells me, actually believes her shit
>I hear about it and say I won't be in the same place as her under any circumstances
>he tells her to gtfo
>she miraculously finds an apartment for rent the next day
she'd been orbiting him for a while after that until I told her to stay the fuck away. I understand if you stayed friends though, but otherwise I don't see why you should stick around.

>>8144450
i think he means he wants them to be a couple again. but if you said she's a qt expect her to already be with someone else.

>>8144451
Yeah, but I think you still need to take a short break from each other, especially if you still have strong feelings for the person. Otherwise it generally tends to get messy, you get trailed along (whether the other person intends this or not), and you'll likely get hurt.

Taking a short break to collect yourself, focus on yourself as an individual, and find new things really helps, in my experience.

>acquired qt bf
>used to be the "forever alone" one
>friends can't make fun of me being single anymore
>bf also cosplays
>invite him to cosplay with me
>which is also cosplaying with my friends
>shit is flipped

how do you balance this, anons?

>>8144467
I think you responded to the wrong one maybe?

>>8144469
Just make sure you don't drop your friends to be with him the whole time and they should just be happy for you and learn to accept his presence.

>>8143448
Post her in the ita threads.

>>8144454
>>8144467
Yeah, first reply is right. Don't want to tell many details as she is a common /cgl/ lurker but let's say she's done more for me than anyone else iin my entire life. Actually, she gave me a reason to go on.
At the beginning it was hard not to overwhelm her but I think now we talk pretty friendly (aside from my feelings).

Thanks for the advice, although it will be hard since I haven't got almost anyone else to support me.

Hey seagulls, not sure where else to post this, but i need some help. it's feels related i guess.
So I sold a girl a jsk on lacemarket. i was wary since she had no feedback but i sold it to her anyways since i was getting desperate to sell it. I took an extra day due to personal issues so instead of asking me what was going on, she filed a claim and my money has been stuck in dispute for five days now. I posted the tracking number so it should be okay. I need the money soon and i can't get my money i transferred from the bank because of the dispute. I've e-mailed paypal twice and they haven't replied to either e-mail.
She just messaged me back after ignoring my previous message saying she won't release the funds until she receives the dress. That's going to be today. I'm worried i wont receive the funds at all and i need the money right away so i dont have to pay the additional fee to my ss. this whole ordeal has been a huge emotional strain on me and i don't know what to do if she doesn't send me the money...I'm considering now calling the P.O and asking them to return the dress to me but i don't know what to do.

>>8144557
You can call PayPal over disputes. There should be an number somewhere on the site. They actually do listen to you. And it's not up to her when you receive the money but PayPal.

>Wants to do Samurai Flamenco cosplay at the next anime con near my birthday.
>Talked about it for months on /cgl/ and exchanged ideas.
>Really excited about doing it because it's one of my favorite anime series and rarely done. Nobody enjoys it in my anime community or know what it is compared to Monogatari, Yuri bear, Durarara, Ass Class or other shows.
>Trying to make the outfit (The first season one.) Since I around five months this one should be easier right? Gets started around December or so. Looks for helmet too.
>Nope. It comes out a hot mess. Looks bad.
>Panic sets in so I'm trying to salvage the jumpsuit but ask around for commissions (this is in January) so I don't look bad like some lame on Bad cosplay.
>Chubcakes, a ton of other people doing commissions for cosplays are all full.
>I decide to try Taobao in desperation but it's CNY (In January,) with some sellers and isn't making any progress in communication.
>Seller says they can do the outfit except the helmet with Yoybuy (I ask this in January) but then says that they can't with TBT when I get ready to order. They go on CNY vacation.
>Praying that they can do the outfit since my attempt to make it failed and have no other option.
>Can't find ANY bicycle helmet that looks like Masayoshi's helmet (suggested by /cgl/) because of the weird side things. Most helmets cost around $300 here because I have a big head.
>Tries to get it commissioned then since it would look exactly what I want. Asked prop guy in December (just in case I couldn't find the helmet in my city) and the guy says ok. >He doesn't reply to emails after. Already have the money just in case for it. Email again in January and they said that their email was lost. Same waiting game. Doesn't reply.
>Tried another commissioner and the same thing happens.
>mfw it's almost March now and I have nothing.

>make stupid post
>move on
>two people out of a few thousand keep hounding and derailing threads whenever i post/someone mentions it
>its been over a month since it happened
>mfw

>>8144630
People tire of the same drama eventually anon, unless you said something meme-tier lulzy it should go away completely in another month when there's fresher material to shit about with.

>>8144651
newer material DID come up, but apparently somebody still isn't done with me. oh well, not like i can't take it (i've been on cgl for years now) - it's just... tedious at this point.

like guys c'mon it's getting pathetic now.

>>8144630
If you post here just don't go on 4chan in a month or so unless you're a tripfag.

>>8144557
I know this isn't particularly helpful to you right now, but transfer your money from paypal to your bank account as soon as you get it next time. It's a huge risk having any money in your paypal balance.

Leave her negative feedback once this is sorted out and contact the mods on LM and see if they would ban her as this isn't how the game is played.

Good luck anon!

>>8144655
it's elsewhere.
also
>noice

>>8144630
Are you the one posting in the Chess Chocolate coord? If so, it's because you still keep posting the same coord. If not, then it must be some other annoying thing prople are grabbing onto. Otherwise they'd have let it go.

>>8144660
>elsewhere

Unless it's real life anon don't go there for a month. I can't really give you advice since you won't tell us where this 'place' you are trying to avoid drama at. I mean if it's not here then where?

>Sorry if you mentioned it before and I didn't see it though since I've been considered slow.

>>8144665
nah its cool. i dont usually post on there, just lurk/rate posts and even some of the higher-ups are saying it's pathetic how these few are being nobs.

>its a farm
>and not the one starting with lolcow
>the other one

>>8144663
pfft god no

>>8144671
Just avoid it for two months or so. I used to cause drama at this anime community for the past two years and now nobody knows wtf I am unless I bring up my name in details. I even went there as an anon and nobody STILL knew wtf I was kek.

>>8144663
My first thought, as well.

>>8144571
>>8144659
Thanks guys. She filed the dispute so quickly after sending me the money i didn't even get the chance to do anything with it.. But I am expecting negative feedback from her as she lied about the ship off date in a recent message, which sucks, since i'm worried it'll ruin my reputation as a seller.
Anyways ill definitely contact lacemarket after all this and i called paypal and the lady said they release the money once the package is received so i should get it by tonight. regardless this has been very frustrating.

>tfw no gf

>>8144363
>>8144385
>decent pizza

Only in chicago

>Grandfather passed away last year
>Kind of out of the blue, kind of expected
>Took a combination of stomach cancer, pneumonia, a chest infection and a blood clot in his neck to kill him
>He was like Superman to me when I was younger, so it put me in one hell of a state
>Fast forward to last week
>Showing my Grandma one of my cosplay pics (she's glad I'm doing something creative, apparently)
>Says she wishes my Grandad could see it
>unexpectedfeels.png
>Her eyes suddenly light up
>Asks if I want another wig
>She shares a mildly amused look with my dad
>Goes to fetch wig
>Dad explains that it's just a wig my Grandad used to arse about in at parties for a laugh
>Expect party city
>It isn't
>Grandma returns with short curly coppery-brown wig
>Not shiny, looks great quality
>Really good fibres for an old wig
>"It's by some brand called kanekalon or something, not sure if it's of any use to you"
>Skin patch is fucking huge
>Vintage wig of immense quality, thank you Grandad!

But then

>She gives me the wig
>It smells like their old house
>I spent so much of my childhood there
>Every memory of my Grandad comes hurtling back at me full force
>Barely make it home before I burst into tears hugging this fucking wig
>I miss him so much

>He's been gone for over a year, but he still managed to help me out and make me smile
>He's still superman to me and he always will be

>>8144107
because we're idiots, anon

sage for off topic but did you know that when Richard Nixon was president, a healthcare bill in the united states failed for *not* being universal enough? and now obamacare is the opposite of universal =\

>>8144139
what's cute is we're already a police state, but we still don't get free healthcare

>>8144781
>chicago pizza

>>8144172
This is a pretty good point. He's saying "simple" but he really might mean less modest

Althoguh to be fair I've always found k-fash to be just as sweet and cutesy as j-fash, just with lighter colors and maybe slightly less "loud"

>>8144310
you did hit the jackpot, anon. congrats on your cutie normalfag supportive bf!

>>8144768
>>tfw no gf
Came here to post this.

>>8144815
Ooh, feels. At least you got to know your grandparents. Mine live in a different country so I was only able to meet them twice. My grandpa on my mom's side passed away from the same issue. I'm kind of worried that I'll end up with the same problem as I get older (IBS to stomach ulcers/cancer - and cancer doesn't exactly run in my family).

>>8144967
>wanting normie bf

>>8144310
Oh God that reminded me about something that happened to me:
>Arguing with crush about how cute he is, I jokingly say "You would look good in kodona, I will dress you in kodona and you will like it"
>The conversation dies here and we don't talk again
>A week after that, we meet
>Suddenly he tells me "Oh! I have been doing some research... In kodona, is it really necessary to carry around a lollipop"
>W-wot
>"Yes, I have been reading many websites and pretty much all of them talked about carrying lollipops!"
>Find out he has been doing extensive research the whole week. He can tell appart all the substyles of lolita, knows different brand and can even name some prints.
I was so happy.

> watching /r9k/ rage over this feels thread

I suddenly feel a lot better, haven't laughed this much in a long time.

>>8143417
>i grew up in a city where if the fire dept came out to your home you would get a bill in the mail (few thousand dollars)
Libertarian paradise

>>8144768
Lol what are you looking for in a girl anon?

>>8144932
>implying that other places have good pizza. and it's not a matter of taste.

>>8145024
MY JEALOUSY KNOWS NO BOUNDS

Everyone knows that normalfags that you can get into things you like are better than basement dwellers who MIGHT like things you already like (but it doesn't matter, because they're probably sperglords).

>>8145076
A cute neet weeb girl who doesn't like to go outside and sometimes wears cute clothes

>>8145137
I fit that bill but I'm not considered cute by most people outside of a good fuck. Sorry. I'm pretty much a lazy neet who only works because it pays bills and gives me merch.

>Used to weight 57kg due to medication
>I'm 180 cm so that's bad.
>weight around 60kg now

>>8145148
>outside of a good fuck.
No offense man but if you fuck random people you're not really my type.

I wish you the best though

>>8145029
That's a 10/10 thread. /r9k/ once again reaffirm their status as the lamest board on this website, somehow surpassing /pol/ and /jp/

REEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE

>>8145251
do you want to talk about it robot-kun?

I thought these threads were banned?

>>8145229
>Surpassing militarized /a/

This is bullshit.

my period is chunky today

>that feel when I just took my measurements for the first time in months and I've lost two inches off my waist
>maybe my burando will finally start fitting decently again

I can't even describe how good this feels, seagulls. I gained a whole bunch of weight because of bullshit depression reasons and I only started trying to get healthy again as of a couple months ago.

I'm still pretty lumpy and not nearly as /fit/ as I want to be (I still get winded going up stairs) but it feels really, really good to finally be climbing out of the hole. Let's hope I can keep it up.

>>tfw accidentally stumbled onto the lewd camsite of a cosplayer I know

This is not a feel I ever knew I would feel. I have no idea how to bring it up with her, or if I even should.

>>8145394
Congrats! Don't get off tracks though you can easily gain it all back, wishing the best for you

on same topic:
>Recently started to get /fit/
>not working on cosplay bcuz muh /fit/ness
>realizing con is soon
>will have to make costumes with /fat/ body
>cry

>>8144815
Anon...

>>8144215
>>8144219
Thanks anons! I agree that matching outfits at the next event might help him feel more included. Until then I think I'm going to take a break for a little while until he sorts his feelings out and we can talk about it. He's going to look way too hot in aristo, I might be the jealous one now.

>>8145471
Thanks! I'm definitely still a work in progress and I'm going to keep it up. It's just really gratifying to see some quantifiable improvement, however small, since I don't see any real difference yet when I look in the mirror. Good luck to you as well!

>>8145162
>Who said I fucked random people
>I barely go outside unless it's work or the doctor or Lamestop Amiibo stalking.
>mfw

I haven't had sex in five years. I'm a video game NEET anon. People in my city think that since I'm ugly and an NEET/introvert that I'm desperate for vagoo or a good dicking.

>if you want to cynical I look like a black version of the girl from Watamote.

Since some girl from/cgl/ post on /r9k/, I decided, why not come here and ask some stuff.

Do you actually hate guys who go on r9k, or is it just the ones that hate women and people in general, etc.?

If you hate everyone who goes there, why?

Do you think a guy from r9k is hopeless and shouldn't even try?

Have you ever talked to anyone from r9k?

And finally, what's the best con to go to in the UK? Also, how autistic is it to go alone?

Have a picture of my dog as a reward for answering these shitty questions.

>>8145831
Ignoring almost all of these questions but my boyfriend went on /r9k/ when we were still in high school and not together. He turned out okay but he never seemed like the robot type in the first place.

It's not autistic to go alone. Lots of people do it. It's sometimes a lot easier because you won't have to deal with a group schedule.

>>8145765
For some reason the people around you will def see the difference before you do, it might take a month or so before you realize the changes. Talking from experience (before I gained it all back)
>more crying
depression affects my body too much and in the wrong path

>>8144815
Oh, anon, my grandpa used to do the same thing, only with actual shitty quality wigs. He had a variety that he'd just show up with after disappearing upstairs for a couple minutes. I'm right there with you!

>>8145831
I go on /r9k/ sometimes. I don't hate anyone there, but there are plenty of robots that I find pathetic. Some are hopeless, some aren't. Some are really trying and struggling, and I feel for them. I would sometimes participate in those video chat threads (Omegle/ChatRoulette). Some of the guys on there are actually normalfags, but most skip to the next person as soon as they see a girl. Kek.

>>8145831
Guy here, I think people who go on /r9k/ are the scum of the Earth. They are the most pathetic, autistic, sad bunch of faggots that I've ever had the displeasure of meeting and conversing with. Go back to your fucking containment board.

>>8145831
You're such a good boy anon!!! Maybe we'll go out with you if you prove your not like the r9k meanies!!

>>8145831
Most of the girls hate guys that go on /r9k/ and a lot of guys do because everyone needs a group more pathetic than them in order to not feel like such pieces of shit (which often just leads to circular hate).

Also that thread was terrible, Jesus people REALLY need to learn not to take the bait it's like a fucking feeding frenzy.

>>8145837
Thanks, I just don't know what the shit to do alone or it just feels unnatural, like dancing alone in the middle of a party.

>>8145882
I think anyone who goes on omegle can be considered daring and normal.

>>8145896
:^) you must mad, here's a cute doggie to make you feel better

>>8145900
I'm afraid of relationships and I'd be a horrible person to date because of my inexperience, so I don't really care about that.

>>8145919
I enjoyed that thread, it's fun to see guys being that thirsty and mad.

>>8145831
I hate the autistic women haters only, well they hate people in general from what i see and they are the most vocal from all the /r9k/s. Only few are good people that need only help the rest is scum that deserve to be alone and desperate with their one sided thinking.

>>8145926
I'd call you a bad person, but bad people don't really care about that.

>>8145926
Some day, you're dog's going to die.

>>8145831
>photos has fb filenames but I can't access them
c'mon anon I just want to see a picture of you!

/r9k/ is a pathetic board because it is all about self-pity/blaming others for your problems. Some people on there probably have severe anxiety/difficulty communicating (autism spectrum), but that is no excuse for the misogynistic circlejerk that takes place all the time. The whole "robots" vs "chads" is retarded as well. I'm pretty unlike your stereotypical jock, but just because I am tall, relatively fit, and have social skills, I would be labelled a chad. Just retarded. So to answer your questions:

>Do you actually hate guys who go on r9k, or is it just the ones that hate women and people in general, etc.?
The only reason to go on /r9k/ is either to shitpost or to laugh at how pathetic people are. I don't understand how anybody could take the board seriously.
>If you hate everyone who goes there, why?
Because you guys blame the world and don't blame yourselves.
>Do you think a guy from r9k is hopeless and shouldn't even try?
Exactly what I'm talking about. Why do you care what others think? It's about what you think. Be confident in yourself before you start to look for women.
>Have you ever talked to anyone from r9k?
No
And finally, what's the best con to go to in the UK? Also, how autistic is it to go alone?
There is usually a help thread up that you can check.

>>8145846
>For some reason the people around you will def see the difference before you do

It's because you see yourself all day, every day. Most people only see you a couple times a week/month.

Take pictures every week or so and compare them if you want to see some changes.

>>8145926
>I'd be a horrible person to date because of my inexperience
... you realize we all start somewhere, right?

>>8145831
>>Do you actually hate guys who go on r9k
I really pity most of them. People that express hatred at that level (if they aren't trolling, which I assume lots of them are) generally feel that way because they're wounded. It's really not unreasonable for people to feel desperately alone, especially in this digital age.

>>Do you think a guy from r9k is hopeless and shouldn't even try?
I think people from /r9k/ are varied and no generalization applies to any of them. However, I believe that people at the bottom of the ladder do themselves a disservice if they never try to climb.

>>Have you ever talked to anyone from r9k?
Many, many times. I've made a bunch of real friends through that board actually.

Your dog is a qt. How can you be sad with such a nice friend? I had a kitten when I was depressed and it really helped me out.

>>8145928
I avoid threads like that, I generally don't understand why people feel hate towards others when they did nothing against them.

>>8145933
?

>>8145938
I know, pretty soon actually, I'll be pretty fucking depressed since she's been with me for 12 years so far.

>>8145941
I'd rather not show a pic on 4chan.
I've been boxing and going to the gym for 8 years, average height, but my looks and social skills are utter shit. I'm not really blaming anyone aside from myself for my problems.

I've been on arcanine since the beginning when it was a great OC board, guess I'm there for nostalgia.
I blame myself 200%
I'm working on my confidence, but it's not going well.

>>8145949
I just don't want to fuck up a relationship for someone I'd love.

>>8145963
Thanks, best beagle in the world.
I'm not really depressed that much, I just don't like myself. I'm living alone, working, studying, training, so I get only a few hours a week to feel shit about myself.

>>8145972
>I'm not really depressed that much, I just don't like myself. I'm living alone, working, studying, training, so I get only a few hours a week to feel shit about myself.

That's amazing anon. I really respect that. Most people who post about feeling like shit on the internet are doing it inbetween videogame and masturbation sessions. I mean, I'm sure you play videogames and masturbate with the best of us, but the fact that you've got drive is really impressive. Keep studying! Keep training! Make yourself into a masterful human being! I'm cheering for you, anon!

>>8145972
Infact! There is no need for these losers to hate people that don't know or they did nothing to them, they were just friendzoned but well it happen to everyone, also to myself that i'm a girl and it hurts i know but it's useless to hate an entire gender because they just rejected you. Handle rejection is a mature thing, stuff that most people on /r9k/ don't understand. I'm glad that among a sea of pathetic haters there are good guys like you and that are willing to improve themselves.

>>8145831
I'm from /r9k/, I don't hate women at all, I just hate dating. It sucks.

>>8145972
>I just don't want to fuck up a relationship for someone I'd love.
Communication is key, then. You two should be able to talk about your problems and work things out if it's getting a little bumpy. Relationships aren't always going to be perfect, but they can work if you put effort into it. Also, remember to compromise and don't be the only one to make sacrifices otherwise you're just going to be unhappy (and don't expect her to make all of the sacrifices either).

>I'm working on my confidence, but it's not going well.
Are you taking care of yourself and dressing well? It helps for a lot of people here, could help for you (and the world needs more snappy dressers).

>>8146017
I just do it because it's the only thing I'm really good at. I don't really have a goal I just enjoy the small things in life and I hope something interesting happpens to me one day.

>>8146020
I mainly hate myself for my shortcomings, so I don't blame anyone else, I wouldn't date me either so I can understand girls.

>>8146026
21 old virgin so I never really did it.

>>8146046
I've never been with anyone, so I feel like I'd fail in every part, mentally, sexually, financially, etc.

I'm /fit/ and I dress relatively well I guess, I'm just not attractive face-wise.

>>8146066
>I've never been with anyone, so I feel like I'd fail in every part, mentally, sexually, financially, etc.
Aaaand that's why you communicate. No one's born with some mystical dating knowledge, they learn it through trial and error. How many times have you fallen from you bike before you were able to ride it properly?

>>8146066
At times i hate myself as well and i admit as a girl i went all angry in the past aganist all the male gender but hopefully i overcome this and i feel more positive. But at least you know what you thought it was only your fault and you didn't blame anyone.

>>8146086
Except my bike didn't have feelings and needs, I could wreck it freely when I failed without caring about it. Also I'm the kind of guy who worries about stuff he can't change as well.
I'd just be unsatisfying to be with and while I know I'm never going to get better if I don't do it, I just don't think I'd find a girl who'd be patient enough for me. I fear that if I'd get dumped/rejected or whatnot I'd get even worse and I need to be at least functional to take care of my dog and help out my mom occasionally.

>>8146104
Never saw any point in blaming women. As I said, I wouldn't date me if I were a girl.

>>8146109
You won't ever get better if you don't try, anon! You can do it! So a person dumps or rejects you. You don't have to deal with that person again, but you still got the exp from dealing with them. Now you can use that for the next person. And so on and so forth.

Don't think of you getting rejected as the end of the world. Think of using their bad tastes. You're climbing on top of them to find something better each time.

>>8146152
It's just that when I think about being rejected I don't feel like that says something about the other person, rather it seems like it just shows that I'm shit.
If I got rejected more than once, I'd just feel like I'm a proven failure.

>>8146109
>You don't want to date because you don't want to mess up and hurt the poor girl.
>You don't want to date because you're not pretty enough for the poor girl.

I dare you to spend 10 minutes in a con horror stories thread and still say that you're worse than all of the exes and crazies. None of those people would even care enough to improve, either.

If you want a gf, you don't even have to start your level grind with dating. Crossclass conversation etiquitte from platonic friendships. Practice social observation by planning clever birthday gifts for your mother. Level up your self confidence by being a hotel room filler who isn't completely horrible. There are a lot of ways to become a more socially able person without putting so much on the line.

>>8146193
Maybe it would help to get rejected, then.

Fail faster, fail better. Once you've proved the theory that you're shit, then there's nowhere else to fall to. From there, you can start to figure out why it is that you don't live up to the standard of who you want to be.

>>8146200
Nice doge, how old is she, also what breed?

I visited those once and yeah, I saw some bad stuff, but I feel like being someone who can't make the first move and is inexperienced is even worse than those people.
I'm perfectly fine with women who I don't have any interest in, I just talk to them as if I'd talk to a friend. I'm definitely thinking of trying to start slow, but so far I feel pretty shit about the whole thing.

>>8146205
I already know my bad points to be honest, and I'm working on changing the ones I can, but there's far too much I can't t change unless I change the others, it's a catch 22.

>>8145831
As a whole, I think /r9k/ is pretty pathetic. Some guys are cool, others easy to hate. I can sympathize with their feels, more or less, but their apathy towards self-improvement irritates me to no end. I'm not opposed to helping people, but I would like it if they would listen and TRY instead of just being "Oh, I can't do that" to everything I suggest without lifting a finger. Yes, being successful in life and romance is hard... but face it, life's hard and we all just have to play with the hand we're dealt. There's no point in trying to one-up the other in terms of misery.

The reason people say arcanines are hopeless is because they lack the motivation to even try. If they tried, they wouldn't be hopeless. People in general do want /r9k/ to get heal (I think). The world's not out to get you; it doesn't resolve around you. As soon as you understand that concept, you can stop giving so many fucks about what people think of you and be more confident with yourself.

Yes, I've been on /r9k/ and its Omegle a number of times, and I have talked to arcanines. Usually without letting them know that I'm a grill, because then their attitude does a 180.

Not autistic at all to go alone. I personally prefer going alone to be able to mingle / integrate myself into groups better, but that's just me.

Also, cute dog.

> sorry for long post

>>8146234
> doesn't revolve, not resolve

Also, you don't need to be born with a innate skills to be able to socialize well. A lot of it is practice and mirroring those who are better at it. And even if you're really good at socializing, there are times you still fuck up. C'est la vie.

>>8146216
Now, I've had some pretty terrible ideas before, but I think this one might be a gooder.

How about recruiting some well meaning seagulls to drag you around a convention? Set up a day where some kind extroverts absolutely overload you with people and places. (Set up a bolt hole, just in case) Worst-case scenario, at least you'll have a "worst" experience to compare new things to.

She's a Staffordshire Terrier mutt, and she's a rescue dog so we're not quite sure.

>>8146109
>Except my bike didn't have feelings and needs
Completely missing my point. If you're going to have such a defeatist attitude, why are you here? Naysayers are the worst kind of people. If you want to change, you have to actually put in the effort to change, otherwise stfu and accept that you're going to be a failure forever. God, you're the worst kind of person and I have to deal with you constantly. There's a problem. You recognize there's a problem. You want the problem to go away, but you don't want to put in the effort of fixing said problem and instead of using the suggestions given to you, you make excuses as to why you're not going to do them. So, do you actually want to have someone you can grow old with, or do you want to die alone?

>excepted a shit post due to /r9k/
>everyone ended up having a good and normal conversation

Wow you seagulls you never cease to amaze me.

>>8146262
I suppose you could say we've lived.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VSZ2zR56yQo

>>8146234
It's a mix between people who don't want help because they're simply assholes and people who got hurt far too much.
Also there's many generally perceptive guys there, like me, who see every single flaw about themselves perfectly and I guess it makes for horrible self-loathing.
As I mentioned the whole hating girls stuff if beyond me, I don't blame other for my own problems.
Thanks.

>>8146253
I don't know if people really do that, or how they'd go about doing that or if anyone would even be up for it.

Those are some fucking great dogs honestly, wouldpet/10

>>8146255
I'm trying it's just that I'm generally pessimistic, I've come a long way from my original state.
I've always believed hard work pays off since I went from a 50 kg skeleton to 90 kgs in 4-5 years, it's just that I feel weird when I work hard on something and don't see results, the suggestions were perfectly fine otherwise.

>>8146234
>Usually without letting them know that I'm a grill, because then their attitude does a 180.
I know it's expected, but this still upsets me so much. I was talking to a /jp/ robot and he seemed pretty cool. I was terrified to give him my skype, though, because then he'd realize I was female and treat me completely different. So I just started avoiding him.

I can't say I have the best social skills, but situations like that don't make it any easier for either of us.

>>8146262
Seagulls are pretty chill when they're not talking about who ordered 50 dicks off of ebay and sucked them all.

>>8146283
A few flaws is normal. Girls have them too, and most are very perceptive about them. The thing is: it's the big picture that counts. No sane person is going to expect you to be perfect off the bat. What matters is whether or not your other traits make up for it or/and that you're willing to compromise and change.

Its not really cgl related but I've been feeling hard
>had a GBA as a kid
>Middle-school happens, shy, no friends, depressed
>Parents blame it on my video games and take my GBA away
>Not allowed videogames since
>as I get older, my family tells me I can get a handhold as long as I pay for it with money I've earned from working
>Mow lawns, open etsy store
>buy a DS
>Parents take it without telling me
>tell me thats "not a real job so it doesn't count"
>tell me they've donated it to the local hospital for dying children
>whenever I get upset about them taking my videogames they tell me about how I'm a selfish asshole and how my systems are with kids in need
>aquire many videogames throughout the years, parents would take them and get off on the fact that I would stress out trying to find them- wouldn't even tell me they took them.
>if a friend leaves a videogame system in the house they'd take it too
>"dying kids, anon"

skip forward a bit to when I move out
>don't talk to parents after moving out
>get text
>pic related included
>"hey, anon, look what you're father found! if you talk to us we will send them back to you!"

that is one hell of a conflicted feeling.
they LIED to me. not only did they hold this over my head for YEARS using the "donated it to dying children" but they never even donated any of them? And AFTER I move out they are using it against me to try to get my attention? What?


>tldr; parents take my shit away from me telling me they donated it to dying sick kids, never donated jack shit and are trying to use my belongings to bait me into talking to them again.

>>8146283
If you're anywhere near Central Canada, I'd be up for it personally (Though I can't exactly call myself extroverted)

You could ask in a con thread for someone to hang out with, or you could start a thread of your own along the lines of "somebody please drag me around a con". From what I've seen, the lolitas are usually looking for more people to dress up as well. You might end up with a giant lollipop, but you'd have someone excited to have you there.


On an aside, you seem like a genuinely decent person, and I'd like to say I've made a friend here. Would you like to keep in contact?

>>8146313
I'm bad at seeing myself in a big picture, I'm pretty sure of that. Obviously some flaws are acceptable but I feel like I have too much, but I might be wrong, I'm pretty willing to change though.

>>8146326
In the UK sadly, but thanks. I might try your idea, if people are really up for stuff like that.
My skype is unclejackkkk, and my e-mail is thiswasnotavailable@yahoo.co.uk, you could practically blackmail money out of me with those dog pics.

>re-doing an early costume right now
>sewing stretch PVC onto spandex
>reminded how I fucked up that early costume so much
>I make poor decisions.png

>>8146318
Dude, those are straight-up emotionally abusive parents. I would not get back in touch with them for that. If you're brave enough, you could confront them straightforwardly (over email, if that's comfortable) and tell them basically what you've written here. I'm sorry that you grew up with such shit parents, anon, but congrats on moving out and recognising how awful they are.

>>8146318
reddit/r/raisedbynarcissists is a place where they might be able to offer some emotional support here, if you need any.

Sorry if linking reddit is taboo here.

>>8146318
Woah, your parents are fucked up.

>>8146318
Tell them you hope those material possessions was worth you losing all respect for them.

And tbh those you can easily get second hand from stores now. Plus new new new new 3ds out and shit.

>>8146347
That place is a goldmine, I love it when I come across a random subreddit, check the all time top links, and find some great posts
/r/raisedbynarcissists/comments/27pokr/a_hour_ago_nmom_got_herself_arrested_i_still_cant/

>ass has been getting godly from squats/exercise
>two months ago notice panties don't fit anymore
>poorfag so I can't just go and buy some
>panties have been irritating me more lately
>look at butt in the mirror
>right there on my right cheek
>a god damn fresh scab

So.. best place for comfy panties?

>>8146318
Fuck your parents anon. They lied to you and you worked for those. Having an Etsy store is legit.
Go talk to a lawyer since this involves money, I bet you can get your stuff back without having to deal with them and their emotionally abusive shit.

If you live in the US, I recommend going to avvo.com and telling your story to see what a lawyer thinks you should do.

>>8146318
Don't even reply to them. Wastes of air.

>>8145162
>No offense man but if you fuck random people you're not really my type.
That's why you don't have a gf.

> have a really close friend interested in lolita
> much larger than me
> wants to wear a fully shirred AP dress I have to a con next month
> don't have the heart to tell her no
I'm so worried she's going to ruin my dress...

>>8146666
hah you're a pussy anon, that dress is going to get ruined so bad you won't be able to blame anybody but yourself

>>8146318
Bruh just pretend everything's cool, take everything back and last minute before slamming the door tell them how shitty they've been to you and done

>>8146666
Ask for a deposit saying the dress is expensive and cons can be messy so you want to make sure you can get it dry cleaned.

>>8146705
That shit doesn't work with emotionally abusive people. If she goes to get it, they'll hide it again just so they can talk to her.

I feel like that's not the whole picture though. Like there has to be a reason why they wouldn't let her have the gameboys. Whatever that reason is, it's some diluted garbage that makes them want to control their daughter through trickery. No doubt in my mind they'd pull the same shit.

>>8146716
I can honestly tell you that their reasoning was
"you're too addicted to this and we want you to do better at school"
I do admit that I went overboard with pokemon emerald (playing it in my freetime nonstop), but videogames or no videogames didn't change the fact that I was depressed and introverted. (as a kid I would tell my family the reason I was depressed was because they always would take my favorite things away but they insisted that it was because I wasn't their ideal child. (aka in sports, honor student, same interests, so on)

My family has always been very controlling.

I want to abandon them completely but I also want to see my younger sister again.

I hate this emotional rollercoaster.

>>8146716
>If she goes to get it, they'll hide it again just so they can talk to her.
That's just one more reason to take her parents to court and prove how shitty they are. If she ends up going though even not getting the package she can straight up tell them why they're abusive to her and still are, anon will be able to leave that garbage family in class. But if they're not willing to change or give her stuff back then she might aswell make it clear to cut the ties forever- and if they attempt to contact her, restraining order up their asses. If they can't realize how delusional they're acting on the day of confrontation they never will, if they play victim it's just going to make anon's mind even clearer about the situation.

>>>/r9k/16683207

Is this guy REAL?

Would you?

>>8146732
>I want to abandon them completely but I also want to see my younger sister again.
Let me tell you anon that my mother has been one mega bitch towards me and only me, throughout the years it was just becoming more obvious that she hates the fuck out of me but the moment I realized how abusive and controlling she was towards me and the moment I moved away, she tried to lure me back but never apologized. She kept on playing victim and so on BUT, because my younger sister demanded to the lawyer that she still wants to see me, I still see her every weekend. You can do it anon, you can leave your abusive parents but still keep in touch with your sister and heck, if possible, take care of her. My younger sister doesn't want to cut the ties with my mum but that's another long story that is not worth your time. It won't mean much, but I believe things will get better for you and I wish for it because if I could do it, you can also.

>>8146746
everything was nice and funny until the dd/ll part

>>8146666

Tell her you can't because it's currently listed on eBay/some forum.

If she sees you still have it later just say you got tired of lowball offers

Nice get BTW

>8/10 gf
>do couple cosplays together
>play the video games together
>2 months into relationship
>says she loves me
>felt bad because I didn't feel as much affection for her
>end up breaking up with her a couple weeks later
>explain that I don't want to lie about my feelings for her
>ask if we can still be friends
>stops talking to me
>avoids me
>I regret it
>I wanted to be amigos...

I know I fucked it up, but I didn't want to say nothing when she says she loves me, yet I don't want to lie about me loving her. I explained it all and apologized multiple times, but I suppose this isn't something you can forgive. And now I've been alone for quite a while again.

>best friend always says I can't handle a real relationship
>wow thanks bud

>>8146756

You're the one who replied to him aren't you?

>>8146900
You didn't fuck up, anon. You did the right thing. If she continued operating under the impression that you guys were romantic, and you're just not, then you would have been leading her on and lying to her. It sucks that you lost her as a friend, but that's how these things go sometimes.

>browse Closet Child
>see dress
>price is okay
>I considered buying it before
>I totally deserves this, sure!

>suddenly, remember that I already own another cut and colourway or the same print
>I don't really have much to coord with this dress, plus the colour is not what's usually in my wardrobe
>remember that I need more cardigans, boleros and blouses
>remember that I plan a taoabo order
>I don't really need another dress that I cannot really coord, and I should buy more important versatile items that I lack like blouses and cardigans and headwear
>also wanted to save up for new releases
>and for various cons/tea parties taking place within the next few month

>don't buy the dress
>notsurewhattofeel.jpg

I-i did the right thing cgl, right?

>>8146900
There's still the possibility of friendship I think? When something similar happened to me I basically felt like I couldn't be friends with the guy until I was out of love with him, we finally started rebuilding some sort of decent friendship about 18 months later.

>>8146900
Yeh Anon give her space for a while and then recontact her sometime when she isn't in so much pain about it. She might be happy to hear from you once she's processed the whole thing.

>>8147106
I think that is the right decision if this wasn't some dream dress you've been chasing for a while.

>>8147106
>I don't really need another dress that I cannot really coord
There you go anon.

>>8146286
Same. I have a thing for awkward nerdy dudes (I fantasize about being bffs with the Lone Gunmen, they're just so interesting and cute) but awkward nerdy dudes often don't seem to want anything to do with me. I don't know if they hate me or are intimidated by me or what, but it's pretty upsetting. Plus knowing that /r9k/ exists made me kind of paranoid about the guys I do know because what if they're secretly misogynistic assholes who despise me purely based on my gender? What if, after happily-albeit-awkwardly chatting with me after class, they take to their laptops to complain to 4chan about what a vapid slutbag bitchcunt I am? I just want to be friends.

>>8147140
Holy cow sorry for the enormous picture!

>rooming with friends for con
>think it'll be fun
>they get all excited over alcohol and not even in a dignified way, but in a "lol let's do shots and snapchat it this is sooo cool!!!" way like stupid college freshmen even though we're all in our mid-20s
>they're all drunk or hungover the whole con and I spend the weekend as the designated everything trying to keep them from embarrassing themselves too much and feeding them nausea and headache meds

>>8147358
>>they're all drunk or hungover the whole con and I spend the weekend as the designated everything trying to keep them from embarrassing themselves too much and feeding them nausea and headache meds

Well did they ask you to be their mother or did you designate yourself to be in that position to give you a sense of superiority about the entire fiasco later on? If you were smart you would have separated yourself from the fray as long as possible until they cooled off. It's impossible to send a message that you're disapproving of their behavior when you're actively enabling it and then getting angry that they carried on anyway.

>>8147364
Nobody officially designated me, but I'm a recovering alcoholic who never drinks anymore and it was silently understood when they started going that that's where I was going to end up. They did come at me with various requests over the course of the weekend, and I didn't feel right saying no.

I know they didn't actually need me and I could have left them and wandered around alone for a while, but I'm socially anxious/retarded and feel comfiest in crowds when I'm around other people I know, so I'm not sure if it would have benefitted me much.

>>8147385
>but I'm a recovering alcoholic who never drinks anymore

Your friends sound like pieces of shit. I'm not saying they should bend over backwards and give different codenames for alcohol around you but shit. Fuck 'em

>>8147385
If you re really a recovering alcoholic, why not tell your friends that you feel uncomfortable around them when they are too drunk?
No one likes to be the babysitter for drunk friends, but especially when you are recovering yourself they should be a little more understanding.
I'd talk to them and make clear that you don't feel comfortable when they are too drunk, that you don't like having to look after them and that you'd prefer if they didn't drank so much.

If they can't do this, ditch them for the next con and go look for better friends to go with. Or go alone. I'm not very social either but at most cons I'd rather be alone that babysitting my irresponsible friends.

>>8147385
I'm also a recovering alcoholic/addict... I don't go to parties at cons. Period. My real friends understand, and we hang out at other times of the con.
Thus I don't have to deal with any of this, especially considering I have had "friends" try to slip me alcohol in the guise of soda.

>>8147140
>Plus knowing that /r9k/ exists made me kind of paranoid about the guys I do know because what if they're secretly misogynistic assholes who despise me purely based on my gender? What if, after happily-albeit-awkwardly chatting with me after class, they take to their laptops to complain to 4chan about what a vapid slutbag bitchcunt I am? I just want to be friends.

This. Anon, this is my exact feel. I just want to be friends ;-; I feel like I have a lot in common with those types of guys, but they're usually so unjustifiably angry at my existence as a female that they forget that I'm just a person. I guess maybe I should make female friends, but I've always had trouble talking with other women. I guess I'm too socially awkward, since I can only talk about anime, cosplay, and video games. I know that's my own fault that I'm uninteresting, but I wouldn't mind a female friend who put up with that.

Sorry I turned this into a self pity party. I'm a NEET who hasn't left her house in a few months now, and the loneliness is getting to me.

You have immaculate tastes, by the way.

>can't stand a girl in my cosplay comm
>everyone loves her
>don't hate her, but she rubs me the wrong way in every way possible
>sometimes feel like I wouldn't care if she got hit by a truck

I feel horrible. She is not a bad person, I guess one of the reasons I don't like her might be that she has never really felt even remotely sad or down about anything, and tries to give stupid generic advice to depressed or sick people and is a huge clingy goody-two-shoes.
I've tried to like her, and I really want to be able to. At least I can keep myself civil around her and just cringe when I get home.

>>8142701
I'm TERRIFIED of looking/being like Pixyteri. Our faces are quite similar, I'm quite chubby as well, and also my dream since I was a baby was becoming an idol, and I don't want to let go of that dream because it's probably the only thing I want in life; but I don't be a lolcow like Pixyteri. Also I don't want to be ugly.
I want to be hit in the face by a truck so I can get surgery.

>>8147651
Anon you sound jelly and bitter. You don't know anything of what she goes through or experience. As far as you know she might be doing that because she's going through problems and it's better than being a basic bitter bitch.

You need to stop and re-evaluate yourself.

>>8147645
I've been the robot Omegle a few times but I find it hard to talk to people, a lot of people seem distracted or disinterested, and it's hard to talk to them. Then I start having flashbacks to the few dates I've gone on with girls where I had the same issue and I start wondering if I'm just a boring person.

I don't mean to sound like a newfag, but what's the point/topic of /r9k/?

>>8147651
What >>8147749 said.

> she has never really felt even remotely sad or down about anything
This is complete bullshit. Just because you never saw her that way, doesn't mean that she doesn't have her own problems. She might be the kind of person who keeps her troubles very private and wrapped up.

>tfw you want to learn how to machine knit

>tfw new machines start at $300+
>tfw hobby machine is supposed to be utter crap

I just want to make pretty shit.

>>8147789
> What it's mean to me
Creative and original discussions

> What it is
Containment board for tfw no gf.

>>8147851
> what's it's meant to be
Dunno what happened there.

>>8147651
you dont like her because she makes you feel like shit about yourself and who are you/what you do as a person. by comparison you're shit, and you can plainly see that, but instead of seeing that and changing for the better it's easier for you to be lazy and try to hate blame away the feelings.
>>8147749
plus this

>>8147140
>>8147645
>>8147782
I know how you feel, .
I've found the best way of dealing with guys like that is sort of looking deep at your own feelings and seeing if they're genuine or not.
It's pretty easy to tell when someone is legitimately a nice guy, and when they're a "nice guy."
There's a sort of, I don't know hollow desperation in their voice?
A waver here, an antsy gesture here, expecting you to do certain things, complains about other things.
I'm not saying good guys don't do that, just that the ones you should form a friendship, or more if that's what you're going for, are usually the ones who don't really care that you're female.
That doesn't mean they disregard all femininity on your part, just that they don't make a big deal about it, and you're comfortable around them.
Like, there shouldn't be any pressure on you when you're with them.

Though thinking about this, this more applies to people in general.

>>8147651
>I guess one of the reasons I don't like her might be that she has never really felt even remotely sad or down about anything, and tries to give stupid generic advice to depressed or sick people and is a huge clingy goody-two-shoes

People thought I acted like this a lot, and I've got major depressive disorder. I just like taking advantage of the times that I'm happy by trying to be up and spread joy, and I try to keep the spirits of others up. They don't know I self harm, and I've had two suicide attempts, and I'm going to therapy twice a week, and I don't think I need to "act" how that way. People like you are fucking cancer. Fuck you.

>>8147749
>>8147848
>>8147896
>>8147959
Ok, I should have been more clear about that part.
The thing is she has said herself to me and other close friends we have in common that she is unable to relate to us when we are feeling down because she has never even been sad over break-ups.
and yes, I am probably jealous.

>>8147957
Not really sure what my post has to do with "nice guys" I just think that the vast majority of robots aren't excited about their lives so they hard to talk to because they don't think anything they have to say is important.

>>8147967
I've never really been sad over breakups either (maybe because I always did the dumping), and I have terrible depression. When I was still seeing a therapist it was so bad I'd cry every session.

>>8147991
Well then you're just not talking to interesting people.
Also don't date robots, seriously don't.

>>8147967
I'm >>8147959 and I've never felt bad over breakups, either. In my mind, it's for the best because I'm absolute shit and they're just going to something better, so why feel bad? Idk, I think my self esteem is so low, that I don't expect better, so I'm not really surprised from breakups. It's like, "Oh, took you long enough to realize I'm not worth your time. I hope you find someone amazing."

That's still a silly thing to judge someone on, but I guess I sorta see where you're coming from now.

>oh i havent checked my notes in a while i'll just
>screams.jpg

how can one person do so much

>no lolita/j-fashion in that list
>literally scoured through everything only for fandom posts
>not even my main fandom

>>8147991
>I just think that the vast majority of robots aren't excited about their lives so they hard to talk to because they don't think anything they have to say is important.

That's... really disheartening. I feel really bad, reading that. Fuck.

>>8147994
> tfw your chin is nearly as big as PTs
> can't afford surgery

>>8148019
It could be worse anon. You could have a tiny receding chin and an E.T. neck, like me.

>>8148009
He your stalker

>>8148049
>>8148019
>broken my nose twice
>I look like a Jewish Owen Wilson
>no monies for surgery
Plastic prayer circle, anons

>>8148114
how in the world did you break your nose twice?! are you a boxer?

>>8148122
First time was when I was a child and my dad dropped me on my face
Second time was ball to the face during a game of handball
Rip in pieces

>>8148012
Self-hatred can do a lot to you. I remember I'd have trouble with coming up with hobbies and interests for myself because I felt I could only list video games since it was the only thing I had done for a while, despite the fact that I like a lot of other things.

Also I notice that the Yandere generals and Role-Reversal Generals are pretty popular because of the desire to want to feel important.

But that's all I have for playing armchair psychologist.

TFW no gf

>>8148019
>>8148049
>>8148114
Lets start a gofundme for the sake of our chins.

>>8148009
This has happened to me before, except it was literally all likes and they didn't reblog anything.
I took the time to count every single post they liked, then went to their archive, handpicked things and liked the exact same number of posts just so they'd know the experience for themselves.

>>8148009
>homestucker
Why am I not surprised

>>8146318
Verbally destroy them and then never make contact with them again.
Abusive human trash.

>>8145831
Seagullbot here, started going to r9k about a month ago. Some of the stuff there ranges from totally ridiculous to disgusting.
But I go in there strangely to make myself feel worse, specially after the lastest events that involve a girl I know and appreciate.
I hate myself very much, as I think that I (and my body appareance as whole) are most probably the roots of my problems and failures (even indirectly) that in these kind of moments appear like ghosts reminding me what a huge mistake I am.

Also, from what I've seen (specially on face threads) some of them actually have hope even if it's just due their physique, on the other hands some robots seem to be too proud of their miserable lifestyle that they won't change it a bit and feel invaded when outsiders go into their lawn.

>>8145831
Jesus, that dog looks cute af.

>>8148009
This happened to me once before. I guess they were just going through your blog because they thought it was nice. Still weird as fuck though, and messed up my activity graph.

>want to sell all my impulse buys from a couple of years ago
>everything has gone down in price and/or is so useless that no one would be interested in the first place

Fuck my ~14 year old self in particular for going through a kpop phase and constantly doing dumb shit (I have sets of tiny photocards that cost, like, $30). I feel so guilty about how I wasted so much money even if this was way in the past.

>>8146347
>>8146399
I just, I just gotta vent about this.
Huh, looking at this board I don't really think my parents are exactly narcissistic, but they were assholes that failed.
I say that because I basically had to raise myself since I was 4, and obviously I've never really had any idea what I was doing.
I remember having to deal with stuff like >>8146318 went through, albeit they just said they were taking them away.
And in general all of my time was wasted on what they wanted me to do, you know all that stuff.

But I don't want to say they're narcissists because in the past few years after some huge emotional breakdowns and trauma.
I've stood up, told them to shut the fuck up and listen to me for a change, and basically managed to repair them through sheer "no bullshit"-ness.
They were always misguided, not really self centered, though they did all the same things. It was more because I'm in general a tough read
and they still have no idea what to do with me. But that doesn't excuse what they did.
And it's not like we're completely there yet either, but it's getting better.

>>8145831
>Do you actually hate guys who go on r9k, or is it just the ones that hate women and people in general, etc.?
Nah, hate's a lot of effort. The misanthropy gets tiresome though.

>Do you think a guy from r9k is hopeless and shouldn't even try?
Nope, though there's probably some issues that robots should get sorted out first. Mind, that doesn't mean becoming a chad.

>Have you ever talked to anyone from r9k?
I've done some lurking and commented in a few threads, but beyond that no.

> Also, how autistic is it to go alone?
Not especially. Although most of the appeal of cons is hanging out with other nerds (and unlimited streetpasses) though, so it might be worth it to go to a meet-up or something social. Also if that isn't your reason for going, make sure the reason you are is.

Your dog's pretty cute, by the way.

>>8148369
Funny. speaking of physiques, I started lifting out of misguided vanity and continued due to self loathing.

Five years later, I've got a pretty good physique. I'm still riddled with problems, but body image isn't one of them anymore. And when it was clear a couple years back that I was on the right track, I started to improve other aspects of myself - not stuff I wanted to have to impress people, but stuff I wanted.

the problem with /r9k/, from my brief visits there, are that their methods of taking their minds off their problems are transient and fleeting (consumer entertainment). Once the flow fades, it's business as usual. The problem with /fit/ is that they obsess over fixing their bodies even when it would be more productive to fix their Spirit.

>tfw bra changed from 34 C to 32 DD
>tfw fitting options have decreased in anything cute, where I used to fit into VM/MM
>tfw also can't find cute bras anymore
>tfw haven't gotten to dress up because cold as fuck (moved from Texas to NJ, didn't get to bring my coat)

i'm just a barrel of depression due to the cold sapping my motivation

>>8149482
That's like saying becoming a millionaire is bad because it's not easy to handle a lot of money.

>>8145926
>I'm afraid of relationships and I'd be a horrible person to date because of my inexperience, so I don't really care about that.

Same here, I simply have too many faults.
I'd have to lower my standards too much to be able to get a relationship.
I realized I'm not dateable no matter what I do.

You seem to already have it figured out, just stop caring.
I gave up on relationships and I just try to improve my life.

>>8149656
Are you a qt?

>>8149657
Kek, really funny anon.

>>8149658
If you're not a landwhale there's hope.

>>8149660
I'm not a guy, friendo.

>>8149587
Not really? Not being able to find nice affordable bras is annoying as hell and can get very expensive, and not everyone thinks bigger boobs are better. I wear 28C and I absolutely would not want to go up a cup size.

>>8149663
I'm a guy*, fuck me I need more sleep.

>>8149663
That was my point, m8.

>>8149667

Read >>8149665 , sorry

>>8149657
at least you admit that looks matter most

>>8149675
For a lot of people yeah, it's no secret. I've known a lot of people who go purely off of emotional though.

>>8149656
What faults are that bad?

>>8149677
>Unattractive face
>5'10
>small dick
>generally unattractive body

I won't list the faults that aren't physical because they aren' that bad aside from insecurity and they can actually be changed.

>>8149678
>5'10
Stop listening to /fit/ memes.

That feeling when you're a nonfat lolita with a (natural) twenty-eight cm difference between bust and waist whose favourite Japanese brands are AatP and VM.

>>8149678
How small m8?

>>8149690
It's not the worst, but it's definitely not ideal in most cases. I never said I was manlet.

>>8149694
6x5, I'd be somewhat ok with the length, but the girth is a joke. Added bonus is that I like girls who have bigger butts.

>>8148152
I feel you, I have spent my whole life looking for hobbies. I don't even enjoy video games, I just have nothing else to do. I used to enjoy camping but I live in a shit country for it, my swordfighting group didnt work out, archery didn't work, and everything else I'm interested in is so obscure that I'll probably never meet someone else into it.

>>8149696
m8 pls, you're literally average. Stop worrying so much.

>>8149690
My last girlfriend left me for a guy who was 5'3.

>>8149701
not him, but being average doesn't mean you're good

>>8146746
>daddy/daughter play
>controlling what I wear for every date
>taking fashion inspo from /fa/
Pass.

>>8149703
Doesn't mean you're hopeless either.

>>8149705
he's not hopeless but pretty fucked, that's perfectly enough when his other points don't make up for it either

>>8149706
>stop eating like a fat faggot and start working out
>Gradually get over any social anxiety and be slightly less of a sperg

There, now he's moved up from fucked to challenged.

>>8149701
Average isn't good, like the other guy said.

>>8149708
I've been doing muay thai since I was a little shit after my grandpa took me, so no problem with how my body is fitness-wise.

I know there are other lolitas near me, or at least people highly interested, because they post on anonymous social media like yik yak and whisper. I know there's one that lives down the road from me because I saw them selling ita shit on craigslist. I'm not sure if that means they are ita or were ita. I wish the closet common wasn't on the far side of the state from me. I really want to connect with the few I've seen posting locally but I'm afraid from all the horror stories on here of them being massive itas or worse huge weebs. I've finally gotten away from the awful clutches of my college anime club. Ugh.

>>8149713
*closest comm. Stupid phone.

>>8143448
People starting lolita at 25 seems hopeless

>>8144166
Korean guys are just pretty abrasive, but he would probably also be disappointed if you did exactly what he wanted.

As somebody who as dated most kinds of east asians, i'd say that J-fashion savvy Japanese or Hong kongers are the best with Lolita stuff and main land chinese guys(scrimp and save mentality) and Korean (simple muted style) guys are the weirdest about it.

>>8144331
ugh don't get me started, my ex's gf has banned him from talking to me, she just doesn't get that we're bros and there was nothing romantic going on.

I guess she's paranoid cause he cheated on me to be with her.

I'm not interested in him, girl, I just like having my geeky niche interest friend.

>>8149736
>he cheated on me
>we're bros
tip top doormat

>>8149678
why art thou shitposting on 4chan, Your Highness?

>>8149776
Because someone asked me a question and I answered.

>>8149772
she'd fuck him if he asked

bitch cant say no

>>8149736
>my ex's gf has banned him from talking to me
Why do some girls do this?
If I thought my boyfriend's chatting with another girl or ex was that much of a threat to my relationship I wouldn't be dating him. That's gotta be uncomfortable as fuck.

One of my exs dated this super possessive ita bitch for four years and she did the same thing despite the fact that we only ever saw each other in public at anime conventions. Apparently I was such a "threat" to her relationship that he told me she would verbally instruct him not to go near me at the con and he would have to sneak off under her radar in order to have a few casual words with me. He'd always tell me about her shit talking me too even though I never really did anything to her besides silently judge.
>after he dumped her for being a NEET deadbeat she tried to friend me on fb
>topkek

>>8149696
>6x5
>small
Fucking kill yourself. You're slightly over average. I hate faggots like you who spend so much time in a fantasy world that they don't even understand how the real world works.

>>8149801
his size is spot on average for a white male in the western world, also average isn't really ideal

>>8149808
For who? His ego? Either way, 6x5 isn't fucking small. That's like saying you're 6'2" and short, that's fucking stupid.

>>8149819
jesus fuck when did 6'2" become the average height? I guess most guys are manlets now

above average has always been the ideal for most girls

it's definitely partially his ego, but otherwise size matters a lot so it's understandable to be worried about it

at least he deals with it in a normal way

>>8149824
>it's definitely partially his ego, but otherwise size matters a lot so it's understandable to be worried about it

I thought that vaginal canals were only 4-5ins? Does size really matter all that much?

>>8149772
It was like 10 years ago and we only dated casually, idrc
>>8149782
I'm gay now

>>8149836
unsettling

>>8149878
I don't understand, anon.

>>8149887
He realized his penis was below average on a forum and commented on it.
Also, no a vagina is bigger than 4-5 inches when it's actually aroused.

>>8149892
>He realized his penis was below average on a forum and commented on it.
lol

>>8149897
Search up on Elliot Rodger if you're looking for keks, there's a lot more.

>>8149892
AHAHA FUCK, I'm not Elliot Rodger, I swear. I just feel like most guys make a way bigger deal about their dicks than necessary. I'm mostly just mad that fucker called himself small when he's a solid average. 6x5 isn't micro dick territory.

>>8149912
He's not small, but he's average at best.
Girls don't really go mad for an average dick.
Men hate not being special, we want more than to be a "meh" fuck, we want to be in the top 10 at least.

>>8149664
Goodbye, cute Taobao bras. Goodbye, cute bras from Victoria's Secret.

Hello boring plain bras.

Seriously, all the cute ones are usually the size-boosting ones, and I really don't need to go up to G-cups. I have a hard enough time finding clothes that fit my bust but don't have huge shoulders/waistlines/generally make me look like a potato.

At least it's easy to find turtlenecks here...

>>8146746
Not with anyone on 4chan that's for sure. I've dated guys from /soc/ - they're all psychotic.
I feel like I have a daddy daughter thing going on with my boyfriend but not in the creepy way. He just takes care of me really well and calls me baby girl every now and then. He likes to buy me stuff and it's pretty harmless. And we have completely normal sex, no role playing or anything like that.

>>8150055
>I've dated guys from /soc/ - they're all psychotic.
Wow, girls really are stupid.

>>8150059
Why is it stupid to try and find people in my area that I thought I would have things in common with?
I know /soc/ is somehow considered worse than /r9k/ but like, I moved to a new city, I had no friends and I spend a lot of time on 4chan so I thought, hey why not? And it's not like I could make off topic threads on /tv/ or other boards to find people to date.

Besides, it was just something I tried, after about the 4th date with someone I stopped going there to meet people because they were all assholes. I did meet one girl on there but our interests weren't close enough. She was a cutie tho, that's for sure.

Am I also stupid for going on okcupid? Jesus christ. Why are people so judgmental about dating habits.

>>8150079
You're simply shit at finding good guys, plenty of great guys on 4chan.
By your definition you're a horrible cunt too since you browse chan.

Okcupid is OK, but people rarely use it nowadays.
Honestly if you can't find anyone RL, you're kind of fucked unless you get lucky, sadly I know the feeling.

>>8150079
Because you went on /soc/ - Attractive Robot Edition despite its bleak reputation and were still surprised when the people there were awful.

>>8150081
>You're simply shit at finding good guys, plenty of great guys on 4chan.
I found a great guy not on 4chan, so it doesn't matter.

>Okcupid is OK, but people rarely use it nowadays.
A lot of people use it where I live. I met way better people on there than I did on here.

>Honestly if you can't find anyone RL
Oh but I did.

>>8150083
I never understood why it had a bleak reputation and no one would give me a straight answer, it was usually just "Its bad, don't go there" but that was only told to me by a dumb guy I know that goes to Reddit, so you can see, I didn't trust his opinion much.
Why is it bad? I only met like 4 people on there in person. I'm sure there are decent people on there? Like I said. That girl on there seemed alright when I skyped with her, we just didn't have that much in common unfortunately.

>>8150092
The fact that you managed to find someone good doesn't mean you're not shit at it.

My mother found a great guy after 5 fucking horrible relationships.

I meant rarely used as opposed to shit like Tinder. Okcupid used to be way bigger back in the day.

Boards having bad rep is generally retarded.
We get called sluts and cunts by other boards, r9k get called miserable virgins, soc gets called vain sociopaths, fa and fit get called homos, etc.
There's groups of shitty people on every board, no exceptions.

>>8150092
Because it's nothing but the worst attention whoring narcissists circlejerking. You take the worst parts of /fa/,/r9k/,/v/,/fit/ & here, and you have /soc/.

>>8150055
I feel like a friend of mine has the same. We're completely platonic, but I'm a poorfag and he's wealthy, so he'll make sure I've eaten, and I have a place to stay, and such. He kinda sees me as the sickly girl in anime, and so he's super protective/paternal towards me. It's really cute.

>>8149664
28C is not that big though. You're sister sizes with 32A. I'm a 28DD. The real problem is anything under 32 band size because 90% of brands don't make them.

>>8150098
>The fact that you managed to find someone good doesn't mean you're not shit at it.
I was in a really good relationship before the one I'm in now but he had to join the Navy and he was only 19 so I ended it because I didn't want to bog him down with a relationship while he was going through bootcamp. Also I was his first and I don't think most people stay with their first so, I wanted him to be free to do whatever he wanted if he's stationed in a place like Japan or Korea. I'm sure he is loving the other asian girls he's meeting.

>My mother found a great guy after 5 fucking horrible relationships.
Most of my relationships aren't horrible? In fact, the only really horrible relationships I had were the people I met on 4chan (With the exception of one who we met as friends and are still friends but he doesn't frequent 4chan, he's a lawyer and doesn't have time, I just happened to get lucky and meet him). You're clearly projecting and upset at this point. I'm not your mom, anon.

>I meant rarely used as opposed to shit like Tinder. Okcupid used to be way bigger back in the day.
I'm sure? But in my area a lot of people make fake fb accounts to fuck with Tinder (even my friends do it and I've run across their fake accounts haha) More people here use OKC, I've lived here for 3 years now, I think I know the area better than you.

All in all, you are terrible at trolling, respond if you want but lol, you are so mad.

>>8150100
The people I met were not attention whores? They didn't post pics until I emailed them and I only met people in meet up threads in my area. And one from one of those soulmate type threads but he was an idiot and we had nothing in common other than we lived in the same area.

>>8150129
It seems like you're the one who took it badly, I wasn't angry, I was giving my honest opinion.
Obviously I could've been wrong, I just said what the most likely possibility is.
I don't know why you wrote up that story but cool.

You're the one who seems to say people who go to 4chan a lot are shit even though you're here as well.

I'm suprised many use OKC, my area used to have tons of people now it's not even close to that.

If you thought this is trolling then I guess you should stop taking shit so personally and relax.

>>8150141
>relax
I'm not that anon, but you've been projecting and asking her to justify her life this entire conversation. Don't try to act like you're just talking when you're being an obnoxious shitlord.

>being under 6'2" and having a penis smaller than 7" means you can never have love and intimacy

Literally the shittiest meme on this website. Or maybe that's my 6'3" priveledge speaking? Actually I wish I were maybe around 6'1".

>be at a meetup last night at a barcade
>sitting on a barstool between two people who are standing up, we are having a nice conversation
>my head is actually even with their heads (I am not used to this)
>want to stand up but can't because then I would feel tall/out of place

So glad I'm not any taller.

>>8150194
You do have to admit that the pros outweigh the cons by far though.

I think that most guys don't think they'll never have intimacy because of thoes things, they just think that it's going to be significantly harder to get and not worth the effort.
Let's say you're short with a small dick, obviously there's a girl out there for you but finding this girl may take ages and frankly getting constantly rejected, etc. for years is not worth the final price of finding someone.

I actually agree with that anon who just gave up and focused on everything else.

As for your height, you're about the cutoff for not being awkward, that's why you feel like that.
6'1 is still taller than most and is about the best I guess.

>>8142701
>>8142701
>planning on doing first cosplay (Derek Stiles, Trauma center (under the knife 2 variant)
>Tfw worried about looking shit
>dont want to let /cgl/ down
>worry that nobody will recognize the variant as it is only present in 1 game (and is different to the most well known one (second opinion))

/cgl/ both a blessing in that I have high standards and a curse in that I have no confidence

>>8150176
This. You might not have been intending this, but it's definitely the way you came across.

>>8149587

Nah, because the reason her boobs randomly got huge is because she gained like 30lbs

>>8149700
>I used to enjoy camping but I live in a shit country for it

How can you be in a shitty country for camping? Camping is literally the absence of stuff. Just go to the woods and sleep there. You are camping now.

>>8150129
>I didn't want to bog him down with a relationship while he was going through bootcamp

Wow, you are a total cunt. Abandon the guy who is going to fight for his country, because it's inconvenient for you.

>>8150212
>small dick

What world do you guys live in that girls somehow magically know instantly what size your dick is? Do they ask for measurements when you meet them?

If you get to the point where they see your cock, it's obviously pretty serious. There is basically zero girls that will leave you at that point because of the size of your dick. And if they do, they were no worth it anyways.

>>8151964
I don't think their problem would be getting laid, it would be actually keeping the relationship or the sex going on afterwards and size is important for that.