/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL

>tfw really need a shit
>but parcel

>>8115078
Best use of this reaction image I've seen yet.

On topic
>credit card bill from surviving these past few months was insanely high
>got student loan refund in the mail
considerably less due to taking two extra classes than previous semester
>will have to pay off bills and strictly budget the next 4 months on $200 and a $60 per week income
>no burando for me
>at least bf says he'll help buy food and stuff
>he already helped me pay an electric bill
He's a good people. I'm really lucky.

Off topic, and it's TL;DR
>a few months ago
>sign up for The Vagina Monologues on campus
>been in the production twice before
>while I don't care for the SJWs it's important to me because the money we raise gets donated into a battered women's shelter

>the play directors for the past two years, however, have been going on a power trip about attendance
>will send threatening emails about missing only one (which is 3-4 hours long) and threatening to kick people out
>generally they have a lot of nerve considering this is volunteer and not affiliated with school credit; also many rehearsals aren't real practices and a waste of time
>needless to say this has disenchanted and alienated a lot of people
>not to mention the feminist directors have developed a reputation

>a month into practices my grandfather died
>I had to watch him die a very agonizing death, to this day I'm still depressed
>graduate studies made my depression worse
>as a consequence some days I felt too tired to go to rehearsal
>I was hoping the directors would understand considering the death of my relative, last year of grad, and the fact that I was already familiar with my part from previous years in the play
>sent a few emails but no director ever got back to me
>until a few weeks later I got a nasty email from the director
>she accused me of not caring about the production, how everyone else is working so hard except me, and how she's considering kicking me out
>write her back an email chewing out her as and informing her of my dead grandpa
(con't)

>>8115093
>she replies "oh well I didn't know anon you should have told us and BTW my grandpa passed and so I know what you're going thru but I still showed up for rehearsal so it still stands that you will get kicked out if you miss one more"
>tell her bitch as I quit
>apparently lots of people dropped out too because of the director's bulls hit

>fast forward to today
>their opening night is tomorrow
>the advertisement for it compared to previous years has been relatively silent
>nobody talks of going
>not even a lot of peoplease going on the event page and it's mostly the cast members
>tfw I hope they fucking bomb and don't sell out
I know I'm being selfish and horrible, because ultimately it's women in need who don't get the money that would help them. I just want to see those bitch directors have their big fat bulldyke egos popped. Assholes.

>>8115097
Oh and forgive the typos, my phone hates swearing.

>>8115093
>>8115097
what cunts

>>8115097
I swear I've heard several tales about directors of the vagina monologues being massive cunts to people involved in productions before. Maybe it's something about the play?

>>8115093
Do you go to FMU or do they just do Vagina Monologues at a bunch of other schools? Cuz if you do, I know the prof ur talking about.

>>8115117
Ironic, isn't it? You'd think feminists would want to be supportive of other women, especially when those women are in a production dedicated to helping other women.

Instead, the production has turned into a pissing contest for every tyrant theater major "feminist" looking to pad their resumes. The power-tripping over attendance is just a perk that makes them feel like real directors of something. With people like them calling themselves feminists, it's no wonder people confuse self-important little cunts with a special snowflake complex with real feminists who aren't about being the center of attention whom want to help others.

>>8115129
No I go to a SUNY school. The Vagina Monologues is a production that's held across a number of campuses on the same weekend. Typically womens' student unions and/or feminist groups are the ones who sponsor and organize Vag Mo, so if you have them on your campus, chances are it will be a thing.

>>8115097
Well it's just your grandpa. I watched one of mine die a year ago and that was sad but expected, old people die eventually. My dad died two weeks ago, I'm 23, can you imagine how that feels in comparison? Honestly unless your grandpa raised you and you're especially close it sounds like a bad excuse because the play was boring.

>>8115141
>watching someone die
>"You have no reason to be traumatized anon"
...Really?

>>8115142
Oh, she's traumatized now, not sad? Do you expect the director to know the death the witnessed was so horrible when you just tell her your grandpa died?

>>8115146
Being depressed is more than being "sad," watching someone die can be traumatizing. Everyone has a right to how they feel when they watch a relative die.

Honestly, you sound like the director. Even if the director didn't find out until after the email, her response was still unprofessional. You can't try to one-up someone's experience and not expect them to be angry about it. It's sad that you lost your dad, but just because you're handling your loss a certain way doesn't give you the right to tell other people how they should feel about it.

>>8115137

Oh I didn't know, I just know we have it here too

>>8115141
>can you imagine how that feels in comparison?
Considering my abusive biological father abandoned me on a street when I was 13 and I've never spoken to him again, in a way, I know how it feels to lose a dad. Nonetheless watching my grandfather die was horrible, there's not a day I don't think about him or death.

...do I know you? Do you know me? You seem to be taking this a bit too personal.

>>8115146
I am pretty traumatized about it actually, yeah. And of course I didn't expect the director to have psychic abilities. However I wanted her to have some empathy for my situation after she found out. Instead she treated me like an asshole and implied I didn't care about the production when in actuality that was far from the case.

>>8115149
Thank you.

>>8115162
>>8115149
The issue I have with this is that according to your own post you only told her your grandpa died and expect her to be like "oh sorry it's totally fine you didn't come to rehearsals, I'll keep you on my list, come back whenever you want." But a grandparent dying is just way too normal for adults to go through. A depression or ptsd are much better things to expect her to understand.

>>8115172
>and expect her to be like "oh sorry it's totally fine you didn't come to rehearsals, I'll keep you on my list, come back whenever you want."
Well, and you may disagree with this, but she should have said just that. People handle losses differently, and usually when someone brings them up as a reason why they missed an event or work shift due to mourning, funeral viewings, or burials they're excused without issue. My work place gave me two days paid leave when I told them my grandparent died and I needed time for the viewing.
>But a grandparent dying is just way too normal for adults to go through.
This is a really callous statement for you to make. Grandparents are not old pets, they're family members. Seeing them die is no less awful just because lots of people experience the same thing.

>>8115174
Two days is two days. Not several rehearsals spread out over weeks. In b4 I'm the feminist.

>>8115178
>implying I missed several rehearsals
No, I missed two.

You're delusional if you think that a quarter of the cast dropping out and the show not being sold out the day before the first night isn't indicative of this being a director issue.

>>8114959
>>8114959
>feel out of loop with anime and manga
>try to get back into watching series like i used to
>have plenty of time to watch shows
>cant seem to find the motivation
>boyfriend cosplays, watches a lot of anime, etc.
>he has a group of friends to go with to cons
>invited to several meets with his cosplay group
>secretly want to weeb out and go but feel that everyone is probably watching anime that i haven't even started on
>don't know where to start

Help Seagulls, I need recommendations. I miss the hype of watching anime and waiting for the next episode to come on.
I want to feel the hype. My power level is too low.

>>8115185
maybe it's because it's the vagina fucking monologues

>>8115306
Or maybe the shows used to sell out weeks in advance and there was a better cast atmosphere and community. Cunt directors destroy their productions if they're shit enough, I don't know why you can't accept that.

>>8115141
You want to drop that one-upmanship right there anon, it's one of the most disgusting character traits someone can have. You are a bad person with very little empathy and regard for others.

.

>tfw hitting on a hot girl at a con
>tfw her bf comes out of nowhere
>tfw you're mirin hard and cant contain the homo
>tfw try to hit on him instead but he rejects you

>>8115334
It's only cause I'm so depressed and traumatized. Please be kind. ;^)

>>8115350
So were you trolling or...?

>>8115141
I worked postmortem care at a major hospital. It's still fucking upsetting when someone dies even if it's expected. I dealt with funeral homes, families, and bodies several times a week for two years and everyone in my department made gallows humor jokes and puns but we still occasionally got choked up over people we met three days before.

Let people mourn or not mourn in any way they need to, it isn't for anyone else to judge.

>>8115097
I recently lost my grandfather too, you have my sympathy anon.

>>8115804
This. I've worked in a hospital, and it's really sad sometimes. It doesn't matter how anticipated a death is, it is still a death. Using familial deaths as tokens in a pissing contest is downright disrespectful.

>go to pretty well respected private college
>want to be a pre-school teacher
>my freshman adviser tells me I should do their teaching program/major
>program slowly starts to suck more and more as time goes on
>realize I can't be a pre-school teacher if I'm in their program
>try to switch out, but their reluctant and they tell me some lies to keep me in
>tell me I can do both, they'll help me make a combo major with early childhood
>talk to the head of early childhood/preschool/Montessori department
>"yeah no that's not how it works"
>"and yeah they're not very helpful they pull this stuff all the time"
>welp
>email my adviser to figure something out
>"oh yeah maybe you should be independent study"
>I look into maybe making my own major, I figure out all the classes I need and I make sure they count for the core curriculum I need and that I'll have enough units
>I'd even graduate a semester early with my plan which would allow me to start the early childhood masters and credential program sooner rather than later
>email adviser my plan and ask to set up a time when we can meet
>two days go by no response
>email her saying I'll stop by her office hours
>"ok see you then!"
>go to talk to her and she again tries to make me stay in her shitty program
>I say no thanks
>she them proceeds to tell me to just submit my individualized major proposal
>offers no help with it what so ever
>just tells me to do it
>mfw
It's like what am I even paying for...I thought your advisers were suppose to help you navigate all this college shit...It's not even like she has to meet me half way I'm doing most of the planning.
Anyways, not really /cgl/ related, but when I meet with her I wear some of my nicest frills to give me strength

>>8115804
>>8115813
Agreed. I've seen a lot of people die (and certified a lot of them) and every single one is different, some people you are almost glad that they've passed away because they had terrible quality of life, some barely affect you and some make you bawl your eyes out driving home and have existential crises. People deal with death differently depending on their own personalities, their relationship with the person, etc. etc. but the most appropriate response is to assume that it was sad and a traumatic experience for them and respond accordingly. If it wasn't then that's fine, but it's far more hurtful to not acknowledge or dismiss the possibility of those feelings.

>>8115162
Anon, I have never met my father and also watched my grandfather who raised me die in pain. Its been a year and a half now, I think of him everyday. I hope you will be well.

>>8115078
where is this from??

>Complained about a guy in a feels thread
>The same guy whom I got into an argument about over some Japanese stuff, flirted with me, argued about Monogatari, etc.
>Thinking about selling his stuff/threatening it with ebay like anons said here on /cgl/ because he's taking a long time and Shopping Mall Japan can't hold it forever.
>He suddenly gives me $100.
>"Anon keep it! I hope it covers shipping/etc.! Sorry about the trouble."
>Mfw now I feel like shit for bitching at him.

I think I might be a hypochondriac tbh
> nauseous for nearly 2 months straight
> go to doctor and get bloodtest which shows nothing
> "Maybe it's just your mental state that's the cause anon"
> I can go with that

> Irritation lump in my armpit that swells up and hurts
> dissappears after some days but the lump is still there
> this was back in November last year
> Probs a month or two later it swells up and hurts again but dies down after some days.
> Forgot about it
> just now, sewing cosplays and I touch my armpit and the lump is still there but it doesn't hurt
> wtf
> gets super anxious and think I got cancer or some shit even though it's probably nothing.

I'm on contraceptive pills so I guess that's what makes me even more nervous since it says in the packaging that breast cancer is more often seen with women who are on the pill. However they probably just write it so no one sues them.

>>8115913
Get it checked out anon. It might just be a cyst which does happen. I used to have lumps in my armpits and it came from using the wrong deodorant. Changed brands and I never had another lump again.

>Unless you have the four boob syndrome from wearing the wrong bra size.

>>8115931
I'll probs try to get a doctors appointment tomorrow just to get my nerves down but yeah it may just be a cyst.
Also I don't wear a bra so it can't be that but deodorant mighttttt be the case? Or maybe it's from shaving

>>8115934
>Don't wear a bra.

I don't either anon but that's because I'm trans though lmao.

Yeah I used to use Arm and Hammer and ended up with cysts. I changed to Degree and I haven't had the same problem since then. It could be a break out, a cyst due to the wrong deodorant, etc. but it's not cancer anon so don't have fear.

You got us seagulls behind ya.

>>8115913
You're probably fine, but definitely get it checked out. I had a weird lump under the skin of my neck for a while that I was pretty worried about, but it just turned out to be a swollen lymph node or something. Apparently you can get them in your armpits too, so it could be that. It always pays to be certain about these things.

>>8115830
I am sending you major frilly vibes anon!

>>8115830
Hang in there, anon. I got screwed over by the "biology" department in my college for a good year and had to switch to the psychology department. Ended up graduating a year late.

>Been into lolita fashion for a while and have a few second hand AP and BTSSB pieces but never been able to afford new brand
>somehow manage to snag an AP Candy Sprinkles JSK Lucky Pack in Lavender
>wear it for the first time at a convention that March
>stupidly don't eat anything all day and only drink a bottle of water and a can of Coke
>on the car ride home start to feel super sick
>start throwing up in the car, but managed to find a ziplock bag so throwing up in that
>hoping that I'm not getting it all over myself and my dress
>make it home, stumble inside, take off all clothing except cami, bloomers, and underwear and toss it in a frilly pile
>continue vomiting, roommate gets concerned, calls urgent care hotline, nurse on-call thinks I have dehydration, recommends trying to get me to drink water and keep me warm
>spend night semi-delirious, eventually fall asleep
>wake up with a terrible headache, slowly remember what happened the night before
>check dress, praying that I didn't throw up all over myself
>I threw up all over myself
>spend the next day trying to get the stains out, nothing works
>since the only thing in my stomach when I vomited was water and Coke, the stains on my dress are likely not organic but from the dye in the Coke
>all the stain removal advice I can find is for organic stains and oil-based stains, pretty sure you can't remove dye without damaging the dress

If anyone knows how to safely remove an inorganic stain from a washable AP print JSK, please let me know.

>>8115910
Are you kidding? You're such a fucking pushover, he's still a shit who should've paid you in the first place and he's just trying to buy you off now for his crappy inexcusable behaviour. I remember this because I was one of the ones telling you to just flick that shit off on ebay.

>>8114959
I hope that you're not the buyer I've been trying to contact for weeks (but then again, it would be awesome for the both of us). I was going to check if I had gotten any updates, but then my internet shat on me and I have to reset my password.

>>8116076
Goddamn it. I'm sorry, I was really hoping that you were the person I had in mind. The seller of a jsk I've been hunting for hasn't messaged me since January 22nd. According to LM, it's still unread. I wonder if there's another way to get into contact with that person.

I hope that your potential buyer gets back with you!

>>8116062
Have you tried OxyClean stain release? You'd want to test it somewhere like a waist tie on the inside first to see if it'd damage the dress.

That stuff has saved so many articles of clothing I can't even explain.

Uh, well.
I have not cosplayed in a while, but I kinda need you guys help.
I have a costume party to attend soon, and I'm teach children and teens from 7 to 17 years old. I also recently got a bf, and I somehow hoped to get a costume that would please both him and the students.
I have a ton of anime costumes, specially shoujo anime from the 90's and up until about 2005. I also have decent sewing skills and could make something simple.

What would you guys suggest for a costume that would look good enough to impress a new guy, popular or cute enough to get the approval of the children from nowadays, and still somehow fit in my taste (shoujo/magical girl) and skill level (meaning, no Disney Princess dress)?

>>8116112
One of the outfits from bee and puppycat maybe?

>>8116095
I actually haven't, yet. I was concerned it was mostly for organic-type stains, but I'll give it a try. Thanks!

>tfw perfect old school JSK on maidenclothing
>haven't worn lolita since 2011, I would love to take this to the next con I'm going to
>tfw won't be able to afford con if I buy the JSK
fuck me in the eye, I hate this

>>8115967
>>8115969
Thanks guys it means a lot

>>8114959
>grandma dies a month ago
>lots of talk about how she lived life to the full, how we should all emulate her in that respect
>go out and buy stuff for new hobbies
>decide to take the leap and get into Lolita
>"Yes I am living life, this is great!"
>one month later
>customs charges everywhere
>realise that two outfits will not make me a lolita
>I'm gonna have to spend this much on every outfit
>at least
>whathaveidone.jpg

I'm not saying I regret buying burando - I was really happy when it all arrived in the mail, and I can't wait to try it all on and go to my first meet. It's just that I'm usually a very frugal person - I've never spent the amount of money I paid for just one dress on even a whole outfit before. While I know I have the money to do this, I can't help but worry.

>>8115141
Wow, what the fuck?

Anon, you clearly have a lot of fucking issues. Please go and deal with them somewhere else.

>>8116229
>think tfw means that feel when
>every other board uses at that/their face when
>i'm new on /cgl/

>post pic from fb of old classmate on cgl to mock certain famous cosplayer
>somehow it's found out by classmate and friends
>only explanation would be someone screenshoted it to cosplayers page since 100% certain no one but me browses cgl
>I out myself since I must protect honor
>epic fb fight ensues
>cyber bullying, could be taken to court, "go back on 4chan and apologize for what you've done" lel
>I am legit sorry...well, only kinda at the time for saying some things so I make up with the guy privately
> everything is cool, no opposition hates me anymore, peace is throughout the land

>months later pic shows up on PULL
>and more months later, now seeing it's the header for an ED page

>what have I done

Im supposed to be a soulless impenetrable bitch and yet I feel so much regret and guilt. I wish I never would have posted.

>>8116518
You reap what you sow.

>>8115141
>I had a worse tragedy so you aren't allowed to feel sad about yours
why do people do this shit

> one of few people in my friends circle who isn't well-known or have a social media page
> keep making plans with said friends
> see the amount of attention they get and feel 2nervous to go through with plans
> dat anxiety
> endless cycle of planning shit I don't wanna go through with, trying to find new stuff to do, etc etc

>>8116439
>I've been on /cgl/ nearly a year now
>spent that whole time thinking tfw meant that feel when

>>8116518
>people getting butthurt about old pictures of themselves
Are they in high school?

>>8116551
We aren't, and the white knights were newly graduated then I believe.

the thing was that the pic was new, and came with some nasty comments from me. basically "here's some info about this guy, he's a poster child for the fanbase" but meaner.

>>8116561
Sorry that sounds worse than it was, it wasn't just a pic of him but it was him with stuff directly related to the cosplayer.
I'm not sure why I'm being vague since it'll inevitibly be posted here eventually anyways.

>it hurts

>>8116561
It's really not a big deal in the grand scheme of things, people say and do much meaner.
Obviously some of what you said has truth to it if it's being picked up by other people.

>Go to little brother's b-day recently. He's 13 now
>Party is at his dad's/my ex-stepdad's place
>His new wife's mom is there. She's never met me before until now.
>Suddenly here "Oh anon's brother, who's your little friend?"
>We both look around until we realize she meant me.
>"I-I'm his older sister" (acually second oldest at 19)
>"oh lol sorry anon thought you were his girlfriend. You look 12"
That blow to the ego. Didn't hear the end of it that night

>coworkers make plans to eat with each other after work, don't bother to invite me even though i'm right there
>old 'friends' who i introduced to each other regularly meet up and have just cut me out
>have a best friend, but i only see and talk to her once every three-four months
>never made lasting friends in uni since I'd never see them after the semester and it's hard trying to make a friend from 150+ people
>not sure how I would go about making lasting friendships anyway
I'm just going to be alone and invisible forever.

>>8116550
>been on /cgl/ for multiple years
>always thought they were interchangeable and the meaning depended on context

>>8116805
Ahh anon, I know that feeling. Do you have social anxiety? I've struggled with mine for ages, but even now I just have a small core group of friends that I have to steel myself to talk to. Good luck, hang in there!

>>8116550
It does, though.
>mfw = my face when
>tfw = that feel when
>iktf = I know that feel
>tfwiktf = that feel when I know that feel

>>8116811
Not social anxiety really, more like I am shit at making conversations with people, especially with larger groups so it's easier for me to just stay quiet and observe because I never know what to talk about. Plus I have an issue where if someone is constantly talking to me (like everyday) I get sick of talking to them because it's exhausting for me.

I just need friends who I can talk to every now and then ..

>someone i was friends with online was found dead a few hours ago
>utterly heartbroken even though we werent really close
>just waiting for the tumblr retards to say shit like "oh its ok he was a truscum and deserved to die uvuvuvuvuvuvuvuvu #tw suicide #tw transphobia #tw binary trans people"

i was going to work on cosplays but now i'm completely drained of any and all motivation.

>>8116833
Holy shit anon, that sucks. You have my sympathies.

>mfw -5 degrees with -40 degree wind chill
>mfw it's warmer in fucking Greenland than it is in Pennsylvania
>mfw house has a horrible draft so I can't escape this cold
>mfw can't wear anything cute because I'm forced to dress like a marshmallow to keep the slightest bit warm

not cgl related but
>b me 4 years ago
>try to break up with bf of 8 months bc the most he'd done is hug me a few times but he always makes me feel bad about trying to break up so I pussy out last minute
>finally get the balls to break up with him but it's over facebook
>mom and dad "jokingly" tell me what a heartless bitch I am for doing it
>I'm a fucking freshman at the time give me a break
>his friends do the same on the downlow for like a year
>fast forward to last week
>find shitty hot topic necklace he gave me
>decide to check in on him on fb
>he knocked up some ugly fatty that's 3 years younger than him
I know he didn't do anything mean to me directly but it feelsgoodman

>>8116842
You do sound like kind of a bitch.

>>8116845
I am but honestly I'd rather people call me a bitch over legitimate reasons rather than "you broke up with a boyfriend that flat out refuses to be romantic with you over the many months you've dated"

>>8116848
Perhaps he refused because you're a total bitch.

>>8116849
A bitch? On cgl? Never.
I'm gay anyways so I could fucking care less he never bothered to get into my pants.

>>8116854
Then why did you post your off-topic buttfrustration about it in a feels thread if you "couldn't care less"?

>>8116857
Because the current situation elicited a schadenfreude esque "oh honey" reaction and I felt like sharing. I couldn't care less that he didn't get in my pants, but the fact that he couldn't wait to between some fat ass's legs within this context seemed a bit funny to me. Besides, feels threads aren't exclusive to "oh no x happened to me I'm so sad" stories anon, although with this thread in particular I wouldn't blame you for assuming so.

>>8116867
I meant off-topic as in not /cgl/ related. This is a cosplay and lolita board, not a "muh boifrann fucked a fatty hurr hurr" board.

>>8116868
Half of these posts are off-topic but I don't see you getting all butthurt over the other ones. At the very least I bothered to forefront it with "not cgl related." If you're the fucking content police of the thread you're doing an absolute mess of a job.

>>8116867
>>8116868
both of you shut the fuck up

>>8116842
>my bf moved on from me and got someone prego
Uh...so what? Maybe he's happy with his decision. You've got someone special for Valentine's Day, am I right?

>have con last weekend I'd been really hyped for
>loads of friends going
>including bff who I stayed over with in London
>she hasn't been to a con in years
>we finally get to cosplay from the same series woohoo
>arrive a couple days earlier since I'm making her costume for her
>all is wonderful

>friday the con is holding pre-meet/party
>get there late
>that's okay we have an entire weekend of fun ahead
>good times are had

>saturday con day
>wake up early cuz I haven't finished her costume yet
>Con starts at 10.30
>we'll be a bit late but that's okay
>
>
>
>we arrive at 6pm
>I've missed 8 HOURS of the con working on some unflattering mess because holy shit gurl I didn't realise you'd gotten so chunk
>end up having to take off parts of my own costume since I didn't have time to fine tune them and they were being awkward
>feeling shit but hey ho we're here now

>beef adores anime but has mind like a sieve so forgets everything
>can't do the fun things same-series cosplay calls for like references, acting in character, etc
>so little sleep over past few days I can't think straight
>can barely talk to all the friends I'd been looking forward to seeing without sounding like a soggy retard
>broke ankle and got cast off very recently, overestimated how well I'd do on it
>have to get high af to quell the pain so I can party
>same shit sunday pretty much

>overall kinda crappy time
>oh well just looking forward to being home
>on tube
>has to stop for reasons
>causes me to miss my coach
>all the tears - gojira.mp3
>have to wait an extra 4 hours
>relieved when I'm finally back home in bed

But wait, there's more! I woke up with a disgustingly painful cold due to being so run down, and having so many transport mishaps late at night in the freezing cold during the weekend. Only just starting to feel better now. Holy shit that was more hassle than it was worth jfc

>>8116842
Your ex would rather knock up an unattractive fat person than go beyond the realm of hugging you. Ouch.

Not really cgl related but

> meet super cute guy at work
> get along really well!
>develop huge crush
> think of all the cute couple cosplays we could do
> make subtle hints that I'm interested in him but too shy to say it out right
>bitch who hates me finds out
>one day during lunch "hey do you like anon?!"
>"haha what no! she's like my best bud! i'd never think of dating her!"
>cue smug look on bitch's face
>t-that's the sound of my heart shattering
>avoid him like the plague for a few days to nurse my wounds
>feeling better, continue friendship like nothing is wrong
>he starts dating this chick
>she's cheating on another co-worker with him
>they're both dicks about the whole thing and treat it like a game to see his long he takes for him to notice
>realize dude has been a huge douche all along
>dodged a fucking bullet

>>8116877
There was once a time when /cgl/ feels threads were 90% cosplay and lolita related, then newfags came in and got the wrong idea by thinking it meant "let's all rant about our personal problems that no one cares about." I'll admit, I do miss the days when I could relate to other feels, say "iltf" and lol about it rather than feeling like I'm obligated to give people advice for their boring, irrelevant problems. Call me butthurt all you want, but plenty lf seagulls feel the same way.

I'm just pointing out that your feel was boring and didn't contribute anything to the thread except for making you sound like a shitty person. Seriously, unless your boyfriend is some kind of a lolcow that we all know about and laugh at together, nobody cares.

>>8116889
Iktf*
Fucking phone

>>8116880
With knocking up a 16 year old? Sure if he's happy I'm cool with it but yikes the dudes 20 now. And yes I do, my reservations fell through so we'll just have a cozy night at my place, thank you for reminding me I almost forgot that was tomorrow haha.

>>8116889
Then I'm sorry I bored you dude and I'll remember that for future reference.

>>8116891
>4 year difference
Scroll up and there's a 40 year old dude dating a 20 year old.

>>8116901
Oh oops, that was another thread. I think that was in the worst con experience one.

>>8116901
Yikes. I mean the 16 year old's underaged but dating a dude as many years older than you as you have been alive? To each their own but shit man that's a bit much

I had a falling out with this chick a few years ago. It sucked, because she was my best friend and cosplay partner. I didn't expect it or anything; one day she was just like "I want all my stuff from your house back, here's your shit, don't talk to me anymore". I was heartbroken but what can you do?

And everything was cool until this one con. Out of nowhere she starts a rumor that I was trying to get one of my friends to cheat on her girlfriend with me. It spead and after that con, a lot of people in the community started shunning me. A year or so later, she sees me at another con and acts like we're still best friends. Like, I don't even know, it was fucking weird and uncomfortable. I try to avoid her as much as I can, though I'm always civil when I do see her because I don't want to look like a bitch.

Now I know the reason she ditched me was because she started making friends with super popular cosplayers and didn't think I was good enough. Also found out she's been taking credit for store bought cosplays, as well as the shit her friends make her. Fucking disgusting.

tfw your best lolita friend is actually not lolita, at all.

>most my lolita friends are either awkward fans or frenemies
>never know who you can share things with, who will get butthurt and jealous because you bought a thing you've been saving for (and I mean when sharing the news tactfully or in passing convo, not a brag fest) or who will try to sabotage your tea reservations or break up your friendships or other ridiculous things.
>Alternatively, they think it, and you, are the coolest news in the world and therefore share it with all the parties above without realizing you didn't want it out there.
>the only person I feel comfortable sharing my purchases or other fortunes with, shopping together, eating out all dressed up together, and I know won't be bitter and really enjoys my company, wears black milk and designer hand bags, and is the furthest thing from my outlandish frills.
>and you know what, we look pretty awesome together

I know there's good lolita friends out there, just haven't found them yet and I'm worn out from looking right now. I'm fine with this.

>need some sewing junk for cosplay
>mom says she's going to joann's for yarn
>come along because it'll save gas and why not
>place is fucking packed (valentine's day brings out the worst crowd)
>find perfect fabric despite the long lines and very angry middle aged women
>mom is taking eighty years to pick out one damn ball of yarn
>ask if we can go because the loudness and crampedness is stressing me the hell out
>says she'll just be a minute and that I'm only asking because I've already got my fabric
>30 minutes pass, she's dicking around the cross stitching area
>I'm having a full blown panic attack so I'm losing my goddamned mind over here
>She says she'll just be five more minutes.
>Just hand her the fabric and tell her I'll pay her back and I'll be in the car.
>Wait and cry in the car for about 25 more minutes until mom comes back
>"I can't believe you pulled that shit back there anon. You've gotten so much better, I just expect more than that from you"
>mfw

>>8116940
Anxiety aside it would drive me nuts waiting for somebody to pick a fucking item like that.
I'd rather hear someone say "Oh sorry I'm browsing around I'll probably take another 20 minutes" than lie with that fucked up "Just another minute tee hee" BS. Ugh.

>>8116940

Nah, your mother was in the complete wrong on this one. Don't worry about what she thinks.

>>8116971
>>8116949
Thank you guys, I needed reassurance. I just hope this doesn't soil my cosplay plans since looking at the fabric makes me feel eugh right now. At least I know to shop alone now, gas cost be damned.

>>8116882
Btw, and I feel bad for thinking of it like this, I've noticed every con I've been to with her has ended up shitty. Maybe it's just coincidence but I dunno, I feel having your life long best friend should only improve it all. Anyone else have it similar?

>>8116940

An addendum: if you're having issues with anxiety, just remember you're not the center of the universe. Nobody honestly gives a shit about you for more than a passing second if you're a stranger.

>>8116980
You sound like a huge baby, honestly.

>>8116888
Looks like you came out of the situation well

>>8116922
Bitches be crazy anon. Don't let stupid rumours get you down, your real friends will stick by you.

>>8116991
Some people, no matter how close they are, just don't travel well together. I went on a trip to Europe last year with two of my friends (who are best friends together, I was a bit of a third wheel lol) and they fought the entire time to the point where I spent a night going back and forth trying to console them after they were crying in separate rooms.

Maybe you should take a look at why you're not having a good time with her. Talk to her about it; maybe she feels the same way. If you're both great friends I'm sure you can have an honest conversation about the best ways to make sure you're both having a great time at cons.

>>8117051
This. Just because someone's a close friend, doesn't mean you'll live well together.

> mfw my friend and I fought about cleaning up all the time
We end up just rooming separately, but we're still friends.

I've having a crisis about how people view me.
I know it shouldn't matter, but lately I'm not involved in a lot of things and the illogical side of my brain is blaming it on how i now dress 'normally'.

>>8116929
I have one lolita friend. It's okay anon, just because two people both happen to like frilly dresses doesn't mean you need to be friends. I used to be kinda a goth kid and wasn't friends with a lot of other goths. Clothes don't dictate your personality.

>>8114959
>today
>want to give cookies to the boy I like
>get a bag of assorted cookies from a bakery, and go up to him before class starts
>"[boyname]. Here."
>place them next to him and walk away because I'm a pussy
>wanted to say "Here, it's for you" but chickened out
>hear a soft "What" as I leave
>he asks me "W-W-W-Why'd you give me cookies?" in the middle of class
>murmur "Because I wanted to" or something
>later find out he first asked my friend "Why the hell do you have cookies, and why did you give them to me?" when I wasn't in the room (he was assuming that they were from my friend, not me) and she told him absolutely nothing
>end up laughing and joking about the whole thing
>in the end, he eats them and shares/fights over them with his two best friends
>my own friends later tell me he's an idiot for not realizing my intent, and that his best friends could immediately tell
>go home
>realize what I did was actually incredibly creepy and a bad idea from the start
>try not to feel bad as this turns into yet another cringy memory to add to a large, large library of social fuck-ups
>don't know how to fix this
please someone kill me

>>8117200
Say to him "ANTA BAKA", then ask him out on a date.

>Is trying to order some charms to give away free at a panel.
>Want to get like three out of a box in the other sets.
>Website says (1 box 600 yen blah blah)
>Suspecious of this so ask SS service to inquire about it.
>SS asks me to make a deposit.
>"Alright cool." So I give them the deposit and wait. Tell them to ASK before they buy.
>SS emails me picture related.
>mfw

Ugh I didn't want to get the whole box for all of them! That's like $150 bucks!

>>8117200
I hope I don't weird you out by saying this, but coming from a lesbian's perspective, if a shy and awkward girl gave me cookies and spaghetti'd afterward, I would find it adorable. I know that there are a lot of guys who would think it's cute too. Shy girls are cute.

If he thinks less of you then he's an asshole not worth it, though it sounds like he might have just been confused about it rather than offended. Keep on being adorable, you sound like a really generous person and deserve somebody who realizes and appreciates it.

>>8117200

least you tried, but yeah, don't listen to the people trying to soften the blow, that was cringey as all hell

the good news is it's really only a big deal to you. there's no problem on this scale that some communication can't fix, just woman up and tell him the deal

>>8117223
You don't weird me out and that made me feel a bit better. Thank you anon

>>8116833
well i guess i was wrong. it wasnt sjws who were disrespectful first.

>time to leave the internet

>>8117251
Who the heck was your friend that people feel the need to weigh in on their death?

>>8117257
a fairly well known and popular truscum. so literally hitler.

>>8117258
in fact, here.

>drakensberg.tumblr.com/post/110882475647

>>8117247
How do I approach him exactly? I'm really shitty at this. I already know
>Just so you know, when I gave you those cookies it was because I really like you anon
will just make things even cringier

>>8117272
Just go up to him and say, "Hey, I like you, do you wanna go on a date?" If he says yes then exchange numbers and plan a date. That's it, that's the best way to go on a date. Every person, ever, is insecure.

>>8117272
how about
>hey I think like you, wanna go on a date?

>>8117251
Honestly it's never SJW who pull shit like this
For me it's always "truthers"

>>8116805
Maybe you're an asshole?

>>8117272
Oh yeah, and remember, if you go on the date, you probably are gonna have to give him some hints if you want him to do something. If at the end of the date, you wanna kiss him, or you want him to kiss you. When you two hug, you gotta give him the Hug+1, to let him know that you wanna kiss.

>>8117251
Hey anon, if it makes you feel any better, at least most people seem to be very sad of the news and posting positive comments, please try to ignore people like the one in your picture

>>8117297
What's the Hug+1?

>>8117200
>eh nandatte?
> just like in my korean pictographs
try to a little more direct with him, youre adorable for doing what you did but some guys are just dense

>6 months ago
>started dating my bf
>has treated me better than anyone I've ever dated before
>we've been living together for months and things are real solid

>I used to put up with a lot of assholes and abusers because I had shit self-esteem
>I feel embarrassed
In particular, I feel really embarrassed about the cosplay guys I fooled around with. They just didn't give a shit about me but I put up with their bullshit anyway because I was attracted to them and didn't think I could do better.
One in particular tried texting me the other night, when mind he ignores me most of the year, about how his dog was dying, how he needs emotional support, and heavily hinted that we should "meet up." I basically avoided it, but it feels bad that I actually used to dote on these assholes who didn't need me except when they needed an emotional tissue or a fuck buddy. It's going to be awkward running into them at our convention this year.

>>8116829

So you basically just want someone who's willing to read your mind and exist based on your whims. Nah, that's not what friendship's about. Sounds like you aren't adult enough to have a healthy relationship with anybody.

>>8117387
Have you disclosed any of this stuff with your bf, he should be understanding if you explain how you felt mentally about the guys and not just telling him, "btw i fucked these guys at cons"

>>8117321
Don't think of a hug that you would give to a friend or a relative, those are light content and quick.

Hug him, hold it for a bit, you could say that you had a great time or something, retract a bit while still holding him and look into his eyes, lean in a bit, if he leans in too, you're good.

Lolita doesn't make me feel happy anymore and I think it's mainly because of the online "community" (although it acts a lot like a fandom sometimes) and also keeping up with the increase in release saturation. I am also starting to feel overwhelmed by online bullying, nitpicking, and negativity whereas I used to love it (well not bullying, but the drama aspect of it). I only have a few irl lolita friends but I had to move four months ago and I haven't clicked with anyone in my local comm. Also I am getting old. I think it's time to sell my crazier frills and just keep subtle things while being a lone lolita. It shouldn't be a big deal, but leaving makes me incredibly sad for a reason I can't explain.

>friend is new to lolita
>wants to do wa
>sends me links to bodyline wa
>tell her that most wa lolita coords end up looking like costumes, and they shouldn't be attempted by someone whom is entirely new to the fashion
>"But i think it looks beautiful~"
>Tell her again that it's very hard to pull off
>A few days later she posts it into the lolita fashion mentoring group
>mentor tells her straight up that the ones in her photo are cheap and look like costumes
>"so you're saying I should stay away from wa? I really want my next coord to be wa"

>>8117393
Not that anon but why? Some people are just very introverted and while they can appreciate and get along well with friends, they don't want to be around them 24/7. I love my bff but spending a lot of time with him (or anyone, really) wears me down, so we meet up every other weekend or so.

I feel like I am having an identity crisis.

I am 28 but for a little over a year I have had this unexplainable desire to be supa kawaii deshoo. I have started latching on to the color pink, wanting to dress in those casual japanese uniforms (sweater vests with the bow/pleat skirt) and other girly "youthful" clothes, surrounded my room with stuffed animals and kawaii (PINK) things, watch moe anime, watch/learn those weebly dance videos and listen to those kawaii weebly songs, and buy super pink sweet lolita dresses. (I have a wardrobe full of otome and sweet, but not much OTT other than the new pink dresses I bought.)

I'm lucky in that I still look like I am in my early twenties, however I feel too old for this regardless. But... for reasons I can't understand, it has such an appeal to me. I don't want to ageplay or do anything sexual in regards to acting younger than my age, but it's almost like I want to... be... a high school anime character.

What the fuck is wrong with me. Fear of aging? Wanting to live out a weeb phase I never went through? I hate that I want all of this and hate myself, but I want it so badly.

>>8117575
Quarter life crisis?

>>8117588
Might be. I missed out on a lot of my high school days (became home schooled as a sophomore due to severe depression) and still to this day have social issues. I had no friends for like, 5 years though so no one to be a teen with. I am married though in a happy relationship and have a best friend, and am living adult lief. But I guess I never went through being a teenage girl? That makes me feel even more fucked up though, because I want to indulge in these things but I feel sick for doing it.

>>8117575
Girl, you are still pretty young, it's not as if you're turning 48 or something. Getting older is depressing for everyone but it shouldn't stop you from being the kawaii mofo that you are. By all means, live the kawaii life and remember that age is just a number, some people never mature past their teens/twenties, even into old age, and they're fucking fun people. You should always strive to be the person who has a youthful personality the rest of their life.

>>8117575
>>8117597
or maybe your tastes just changed? I am 27 and I never really liked pink, cute clothing, etc when I was younger. I just slowly started getting into pink, cute clothing and cute things.

I don't want to be a child again or a teenager, I just think my tastes in things have changed. I don't worry about being too old to dress in cute clothing or liking cute things and I look my age. I know plenty of people way older than me, like a 60 year old woman who loves all things Hello Kitty and cute.

Try not to over think it, tastes and interests change.

>>8117615
I love old people who are still youthful at heart, they are fun to be around and aren't grumpy.

>>8117626
I know right? My parents are friends with a man who is 75 years old but doesn't act a day older than 20. He's a total delight to be around.

>>8117398
I meant awkward as in having to face the guys I used to fool around with. My bf knows about the guys I've dated/fucker and he doesn't really care because he knows it's just my past.

>>8117393
Where did you get any of that from what she posted? She's talking about being introverted. Nothing she said leads to the conclusion that she's self-centered and immature. Perhaps your just ignorant of other types of people?

>>8117620
My eyes are watering, thank you for giving me hope anon.

>>8117221
tell them that's not what you wanted

>>8117680
Already did anon. It's JST so it's a waiting game. I hope this isn't a big deal though.

>>8117512
>>8117651

More self centered children who have no empathy. I know plenty of types of people, and I know plenty of mindsets, and I can honestly tell you (if you aren't a samefag) that that person's thought process is unhealthy and immature.

>>8117874
Why the hell are you talking about empathy now? I obviously am being empathic towards her so that really didn't make any sense. Do you know what empathy means? Also, just because I think your wrong doesn't mean I'm in any way the same kind of person. I'm just, ya know, being empathetic. Her first post does come off as a bit childish and attention grabbing but the second post was a more in depth explanation of, at least in my opinion, why she didn't like being introverted and would like to make friends she can see once in awhile.

>first time going on a Valentine's outing in a couple years
>ask bf if I could wear lolita to dinner
>he said yes
>mfw
I'm so excited seagulls, in my full getup too. I think I'm going to wear my CDC jsk.

>>8117874
wow someone's bitter

>>8115141
>Well it's just your grandpa.
Statements like these scare me. I really hope if I ever live to be involved in my future grandchildrens' lives they won't feel so indifferent towards me. This is really, really sad and pathetic.

>>8116432
i feel the same, anon. even though i haven't gotten into lolita that much and haven't bought any burando, i feel so sick when i think of spending hundreds of bucks on one or two items.
hopefully we will both be less frugal!!

>>8116841
I live in montreal and I can sympathize 100%
just want to look kawaii...

>>8115093
>>8115097
are 'vagina monologues' common this time of year because of v-day?
my school is putting on a vagina monologue show (opening night was yesterday though), and for a minute there I had the silly idea that maybe you attended my school, haha.

sorry about your loss. and for that really insensitive director. and also for that >>8115141 who was an ass, trying to make emotional pain into a competition.

>>8117957
Yep. Vagina Monologues are held across many campuses on "V Day" weekend.

>tfw I haven't cosplayed since May of last year

Part of me misses it, and part of me is just...kind of ambivalent. Maybe I'm growing out of this hobby. Maybe I'm just too busy. I dunno.

>>8116062
>wear it for the first time to a convention in March
>I threw up all over myself
but
>it is currently February
>implying this happened nearly a year ago
>stains remaining there for a year

anon... what took you so long?

>>8117009
try living a day in a socially anxious person's shoes dumbass

>>8117975
>muh social anxieeeeety
I had such crippling anxiety that I constantly searched for escape routes in case I got sick, which I felt often, not because I actually was but because the very fear made me so.
I cried in school, left for the office many times.
But I got over it because I became an adult.

>>8117897
I hope it turns out well, anon! I'm just wearing a salopette with regular heels this year for dinner with mine, my compromise for him since I'm frilling up the rest of the weekend.

>mtf
>don't pass very well, especially in abnormal jfash (southern US based so it draws a ton of attention)
>don't know how to contour
>love sweet lolita
>don't want people to think I'm an ageplay fetishist
>don't want people to think I'm a male crossdresser
>just want to look like a cute girl in cute dresses
>why /cgl/ why
>life is so depressing

>>8118024
potsy pls

>>8118049
def not potsy

>day before Valentine's day
>gonna pick up the bf for a romantic weekend!
>get off from work, gonna go pick him up
>check phone, bf texted me
>anon the friends I am with want me to stay overnight!
>you should come over too!
>I hate these specific friends of his very openly, they screwed both of us over multiple times but he still keeps trying to fix their friendships
>still being pressured to either go there overnight or let him stay alone
>my Valentine's morning will either be spent alone or with people I hate

Cool. I wasn't originally supposed to work tomorrow either but my manager asked me. She offered me chocolate covered cherries as thanks... So that's kind of an awesome feel.

>>8118072
I can relate
>today is my brother birthday
>plans with bf tomorrow
>was gonna pick me up after I'm done hanging out with my brother
>'my parents are asleep and I don't want them to get mad if I bring you over this late'
>was planning on spending the night preparing for tomorrow, fixing wigs and stuff
>tfw gonna be spending the night alone instead
>don't even wanna go out or dress up tomorrow because I feel so shitty

>>8118093
H-hello I can be your valentine I can squat a lot and Ive got huge gloots

>Family is out of town till monday evening
>just got paid
>bought even MORE stuff to add to my backlog of shit I want to do, but can't bring myself to actually do
Feels weird, on the one hand I love doing all the stuff I got.
On the other hand I always feel too much like shit to actually DO any of it.

>go to book hotel for only convention I really go to
>the link on the conventions web is not working
>Post on there Facebook page, say it is probably sold out in the group blocks, they will update latter.
>No announcement to it being sold out
>No working page
>well fuck you I will book outside of the block
>Find out the hotel has one option where you pay the full amount up front in full
>or you pay the 300-400 more option to just pay after like usual.
>100% paid in full up front non refundable 1k
what the fuck how is that ok? Like, what if something happens or I can't get the time off?
>whatever I will just call them tomorrow and see about booking with the convention block.

>>8118108
Hey amigo, go somewhere where people meet other people and or hookup.
Anyone there alone is guaranteed to be single on Valentines Day.

>really, REALLY bad at editing lolita photos
>all I have at my disposal is meitu and gimp
>people generally like my outfits but comment on how they dislike my filtering
>I just never know when to quit
>tfw nobody who I can talk about my photos with to get a second opinion

>>8118299
Don't filter. At best you'll make the colours in your prints look wonky, at worst, you'll look like a tacky hipster.

The very basics of editing photos are contrast and brightness. This will make your image look sharper.

To be honest there's no need to edit a picture beyond that unless you're trying to go pro with this.

>>8118299
Try using https://pixlr.com/ if those two aren't working out for you.

>Kitchen roach infested
>leiseowner bitches that no one is allowed to spray roach poison and leaves food out
>thought my room was safe
>go away for a week
>open clothing drawers
>clothes covered in roach shit
>roaches crawl out of the drawers
>a fucking colony
how do you remove roach shit from clothes, they destroyed my kokokim skirt

Jesus I need to move, I'm just renting till I can afford a house

>>8118546
Tell him or her to fix it, it's their responsibility if you rent. Bring up lawyers and the contract if you must.

>>8118546
I'm pretty sure that's against the law for them to do and you can lawyer up and sue, go for it, don't be dumb, document everything.

>>8118552
>>8118551
My roomates and I surrounded the leiseowner and yelled at her yesterday and are looking for a place to live.

Its going to be a long while, and I'm not sure where to place my clothes now.

>>8118569
Put them in bags and double bag that shit, triple bag it if you wish.
Just be sure to shake the clothes out first. If you can, try to put what you won't immediately wear in a car or a friend's/relatives home

>>8118546
Oh god anon. I grew up in a hoarders house and would get roaches in my bedroom. I can only imagine how bad it must be for you.

Googling. It seems that regular detergents should be able to get roach feces out of your clothing.

>>8117009
and you sound like an absolute delight at parties

>>8118581
What did you do about yours, also, I think I know who you are

>>8117874
You sound like a cunt.

>>8118601
I ended up moving out. Thankfully I never got roaches in my clothing but I did get them crawling on my pillow. My stuff usually got ruined by the cats and dogs in the house.

And you might. I've shared before on cgl about growing up in a house like that.

>>8117910
Then be involved in their lives too? I mean, if you are like my grandma, who lives in another country and I barely talk to, I'll be sad, but still it's to be expected? I had a coworker bawling this week, because her grandma died. She hadn't visited the lady in 10 years, and she only lives a state away. It's like ... is it grief or guilt?

>>8118597
At least I can go to parties :^)

>>8118676
And I understand where people got the social anxiety thing from but it wasn't the reason I started freaking out. It was more a combination of claustrophobia and my senses getting fried. But you know, it's cgl, so I don't know why I expected anything different.
Anyways, nonnie you seem to be confused. You have to be invited to parties to attend them, and based on your attitude, I'd say no one would bother to invite your self righteous ass :^)))

>>8117597
I'm going through something similar.
I'm 26 and started lolita/otome last year after a period of long depression and binge drinking. I missed out on a lot at high school due to being a social outcast and my family not having much money. I finally have a nice paying job and a great partner so I actually feel like I can begin this area of my life were I can focus on being cute and not have to focus on needing extra money to make sure my parents can pay their bills.
It's nice to be able to look forward and have some time to learn about myself.

>>8116833
>>8117251
>tfw made friends with someone online
>skype with her on a fairly regular basis
>one day some anon starts sending them hate out of fucking nowhere
>drama ensues, I spend several nights trying to comfort this friend
>find out she had committed suicide through a "final post"
>mourn her death with other mutual friends
>months later, move out of state due to dad changing jobs
>I'm working at a store in the mall and I see someone who looks and sounds exactly like old friend
>decide to say "Hi _____" just to she if she responds
>mfw she looked back and bolted the fuck out of the store
>mfw I realized she was faking her anon hate for attention and asspats
>because histrionic people do shitty things like that, people will doubt deaths/suicides on the internet

This world makes me so sick sometimes.

>>8118706
that's fucked up dude

>yfw Valentine's Day

>>8116437
You must be close with to your grandpa?
To be realistic you cant really morn death of people you don't know. You can be sad about it though. I never knew my dad and when people ask if I miss him I'm like how do I even.jpg.

>>8117575
I'm 30 and I'm dealing with the same thing, anon. Just got into lolita and jfash, love pink and soft colors all over again, etc.

>>8117597
Sounds like maybe your reason is similar to mine? I'm finally financially stable, I have a house, a car, a long term relationship. Had a shitty, stressful childhood - very little fun to be had, back then. So my mind is turning back to more frivolous things for fun now. Also it's not like ordering from Taobao or Bodyline was a thing when you and I were teenagers.

If I hear one more thing about how going to see 50 Shades is so wrong I'll explode. I get it, I read the damn books. But so what if I want to see it because I like the main actor or that I want to see it adapted and make up my own mind about it. I shouldn't have to boycott if because they all hate it.

Sorry it's not lolita related

>>8118765
Hold on, anon, let me /cgl/ify your post for you.

>If I hear one more thing from my comm about how going to see 50 Shades is so wrong I'll explode into my true form, Mr. Yan. I get it, I read the damn books. But so what if I want to see it in my new Milky Cross special set because I like the main actor or that I want to see it adapted and make up my own mind about it and get reference for possibly cosplaying it. I shouldn't have to boycott if because they all hate it. Those cunts.

>>8115097
I bet you 2 billion dollars she would have been more lenient if it was your grandma that was dying/dead.

Unrelated but
>TFW first Valentine's Day in years in which I have a boyfriend
>He's a total sweetie
I'm so happy I could cry hold me /cgl/

>someone finds out im (ugh) pagan
>OMAHGAUD ME TOOOOOOOOOO MY WITCH NAME IS RAVYN DARKNESS MAGYK
>WHAT DOES YOUR WAND LOOK LIKE
>HAVE YOU EVER SEEN A FAIRY
>ARE YOU OUT OF THE BROOM CLOSET
>LOOK AT MY ALTAR THE STUFFED BEAR IS THERE TO REPRESENT THE GENDERLESS GOD
>WHAT DO YOU MEAN GODDESS/GOD THATS TRANSPHOBIC
>YOU'RE AN ASSHOLE YOURE NOT A REEEEEEEEL PAGAN

i have never been more embarrassed of this shit in my life

>cgl related
bodyline sale when

>>8117895

I'm not the anon who posted that comment, but I definitely thought along the same lines

>I just want someone to talk TO
>not talk with

>I don't want to talk to you everyday
>I don't want to talk to you less than once every three months either
>why can't I talk to you only on my timetable?
>muh social anxiety

Personally the second post came across pretty much like she was waving her social anxiety as a free pass to be a bit of a dick when it cames to maintaining relationships.

I could be wrong about OP being a dick, her posts were very short. I'm just saying I can see how other anon got that unfavourable impression.

>>8118768
Congrats, man

>>8118773
Aren't 'to' and 'with' interchangeable? Or is talking to someone like talking at them?

Not the anon, just confused about english terms

>>8118790

Doing something to someone implies that you're, well, doing an action on to that person. The other person may or may not be a willing particpant. You can even do things to pieces of paper, toys, inanimate objects.

Doing something with someone implies that you're both in it together, both actively participating.

HAD SEX FEELS BETTER!!!!

>>8118769
what does being pagan actually mean though?
is it just praying to a bunch of irrelevant gods whose actual religion died centuries ago?

>>8118819
nah. sometimes its more of a mindset rather than the actual deities involved. and if its not hurting anybody, i dont see the problem with religion.

>inb4 m'atheist

>used to have a close group of friends and a girlfriend
>girlfriend leaves me and the group of friends stops inviting me to stuff
>get another group of friends
>they are all antisocial as all hell and I never see them

>the cosplay I'm working on will cost so much and at the moment it's so shitty and I'm not sure if it's worth finishing
>my childhood best friend is now trans
That's basically how my life has been recently.

>>8118830
Sounds like quite a ride

>>8118766
+1
>>8118820
You seem pretty cool. Enjoy doing that thing you do.

I decided to turn down a lolita meet so that I could just spend Valentines day with my bf, even though I could have done both I was just too lazy to commit to both- but now it's the middle of the day and he's not even dressed! I'm not annoyed at him, but I regret being so lazy myself and not going to the meet, what a waste of a morning!

>>8115283
are you a female me?
except >tfw no cosplay gf

>>8118766
Love it. Thanks anon!

>>8117597
Holy shit anon, are you me? I became a totally friendless homeschooler (and had to repeat a year) because of severe depression/other mental health bullshit in sophomore year too. I'm still in high school but literally the only person I talk to IRL is my mother.

I feel like this has definitely fueled my love for childish things because I still feel like a middle schooler mentally. But thankfully no one seems to be too disgusted by it since I get compliments on my outfits from strangers and whatnot, even though I've heard that I look older than my real age (18).

I HATE having a young women body, I just hate it.
I want to look young as much as possible and i wish so bad i could go back to my 14years old body.
I just don't like what i see,i feel too tall,too large,... my weight and measurements are totally "ideal/average" here in Europe.
What is happening to me /cgl/ Why do I want to look like a child/young teen so bad? I'm not even into lolicon it disgusts me tbh.
But I am so obsessed and i'm only 18 like shit i should be doing other things that worrying non stop about looking old.

>>8119232
You're overreacting anon. 18? You're still a baby and not even legal enough to drink in the USA. You need to chill out and enjoy youth.

>rural NY
>snow all day errday
>bf and I wanted to go to dinner for Valentine's Day
>he even said he'd be okay with me wearing lolita
>our favorite (re: sanitary, good restaurants) are an hour drive away in a city
>he doesn't drive so I do

>we're getting hit bad with snow right now
>I tell him to check the weather and make reservations locally just in case
>assures me it will only be "light snow"
>"Uh boyfriend this could get very stressful for me, the thruway has a tendency to shut down in storms, and the restaurant you want to go to only seats 40 people so unless you make reservations chances are slim that even if we go through the trouble of going there that we'll get a table...."

This just in: Coworker just told me thru way closed as I typed that last part. Welp, I was going to whine about my bad feeling about the situation but now it looks like it resolved itself.
Guess we'll just have to dine at one of the local shitholes. Less stress for me, it just sucks that we couldn't do something nicer.

>>8119232
Because you're afraid of the wrong kind of attention that you may get from men due to not knowing how to deal with it.

In related feels
>body of a child
>face of a 30yo
Thanks, ma

>>8119251
Dropped pic

>>8117972
I got frustrated and gave up trying to get the stains out and just put it back in my closet (it's been through the wash a few times, so it's clean, just stained). I recently went through my lolita clothes to put them into storage and just kind of stared at it for a while.

Plus I had a hard time coming to terms with the fact that I have brand that I've thrown up on.

>>8119245
>>8119251
I am often mistaken as a 14 years old minimum and 16years old maximum even though i never wear any makeup because "oh my god i could age faster if i do" so i just take care of my skin like crazy. But i just can't stop worrying and i even worry about some random gulls and people opinion like "Oh dear what if some anon on /cgl/ think i'm not pretty or chub or something" That's so silly but i can't help but give a damn about it.
I still feel like a child inside though.

>bf and I have sex
>he cums, goes to play vidya
>im hanging here but okay
>wait for him
>throws hints
>try to fap but feel unsexy
>vidya's over! Wooo!
>bf says he's tired
>tell him that I want to cum too
>he tells me no since he's not feeling well
>oh
>fap silently behind him
>his presence helps
>I cum, he doesn't know

I am the saddest piece of beta shit in the world.

>>8119232

Well, you are only 18. Being a woman is new for you, you are just changing from a girl to a woman.

New stuff is scary, you will get used to it

>tfw I'm running a maid cafe event at my school
>tfw we've spent months planning this
>tfw it's going to be a free event so food is gonna be free
>tfw i make a post on 4chan about it to my community and on facebook too to see if anyone would come
>mfw no one even messages me/emails me about it and shows 0 interest

>boyfriend works really hard but doesn't make enough money to make ends meet
>I've loaned him almost $2000 over the last year to help with crisis situations (he totaled his truck last winter and had to buy another used car etc)
>he has to work a 12 hour shift today, on Valentine's Day
>before he left to go to work this morning, he had to file his taxes online
>he had $5000 taken from him in taxes this year so he was psyched and thought he would finally be able to pay me back with his tax return money
>filled out the forms and found out he was only getting back $390

He got really depressed when he saw the numbers and started crying because he feels guilty about owing me so much money. We've been broke for so long and have had a string of really bad luck over the past few years. He was recently hospitalized for 5 days with diabetic keto acidosis because he didn't know he had type 1 diabetes, so now he has a huge hospital bill to worry about too (he doesn't have insurance). And his mom has an inoperable brain tumor and her doctors say she won't last much longer.

>>8119437
Anon that is so super shitty. Wow, and to feel all this on Valentine's Day of all days. I wish on my lucky bamboo and stars that things get better for you and your boyfriend.

>>8119444
Thanks, I appreciate it. I keep hoping that we'll hit a point where things can't get worse and shit will slowly start to improve, but it hasn't happened yet. At least we aren't homeless or something though. I think I might get drunk and rewatch all the Harry Potter movies to try to cheer myself up. Tired of laying in bed crying, eating chocolate, and listening to Purity Ring, but I'm stuck inside for the weekend because there's a huge blizzard hitting here tonight.

>>8119418
I'd go to it, anon!

>>8119386
dump that faggot

>>8119437
That sounds so awful. Hope you guys can hang in there.

>>8118655
Both

>Have 1 friend irl
>Haven't talked to my mom in over 2 months
>Don't like my dad
>Don't like my classes
>Don't like myself
>Can't even get away from this house
>Cry in the shower because it's the only place where I know I can't be heard
>Just want to let it all out and scream
>Probably have some sort of complex relating to not getting enough attention as a child
Maybe I'll just go wander outside tonight and blow off some steam.

>>8119386
>not cumming from sex
>not being able to cum when your guy cums
>not having a guy who makes sure you cum
>not having a guy who gets turned on from you fapping

>mtf
>don't think I pass like 80% of the time
>girl friend tells me I'd look good in some of her lolita attire
>have some doubts but okay, go with it
>spend some time preparing
>she says I look fine and not to worry
>go around for a while
>the highest amount of jeering I've ever gotten even while dressed normally

It's not like I wasn't prepared for it, but why would she say I looked okay? Why would she expose me to that? I feel like I don't want to ever go out again.

>Called in to work on Valentine's Day.
>That's okay, not like I had a date anyways.
>Working three extra days over next two weeks. No two-day breaks.
>Con in two weeks.
>Haven't even started my cosplay.
I feel doomed.

>>8119526
plz be in the GTA

>>8119576
Sorry, anon. I'm in California.

>>8119437
Do you live in the US that you have to worry about hospital bills?
I really don't understand how such a develoled country hasn't figured out their people's health insurance yet.

>fat as fuck, heaviest I've been in my entire life (155 lbs @ 5'2")
>apt a wreck
>zero motivation to do anything besides make it to work each day
>should feel great - have a job in my field, health insurance, lovely hobby and friends, nice husband and marriage

At least I have a psychologist appt on Tuesday...

>>8119535
Thanks, anon.

>>8119598
Yes, we live in the US. The stupidest part is that he doesn't qualify for state Medicare (they told him that it's because he doesn't have any dependents and makes too much money) and it doesn't seem like he'll even get a tax credit for getting insurance through the Obamacare marketplace. We're just praying that he qualifies for the hospital's free care program and that he can somehow afford to get on health insurance, otherwise his insulin will be very difficult to afford. Even with the coupons the hospital gave him for $100 off one prescription and a free 3 month sample of another, it cost us almost $300 for a 5 month supply of insulin (I had to pay for that for him too). I'm just grateful he's alive because he could have gone into a coma and died if we hadn't gone to the emergency room when we did.

>>8119598

Outsiders always bitch about US and their health insurance, but if you want to bitch about that, there is plenty of stuff in your own countries that aren't perfect.

Health insurance is a scam to be sure. But, people in glass houses and such.

>>8119512
>Purity Ring
At least you have excellent taste in music. In all seriousness, though, I hope you guys will pull through all that bullshit. Don't lose faith that things will start going uphill eventually!

>>8119834
The U.S. has a lot more problems than my country, be sure of that.
Also I love how buttbothered yanks get when someone shatters their image of the best country in the world. Mmmm, lardy yank butthurt

Too fat and ugly to get a valentine this year so I went shopping at the beach with my mom. I'm in my 20's and I still hang out with my mom.

>>8119834
Yeah I hate not being able to gun black people down with no repercussions.

Not to mention that awkward moment when you get to the polling booth and there are more than two parties to choose from.

>>8119555
You probably DID look okay, anon. People are just rude.

Were you wearing sweet? Apparently that garners negative attention no matter who is wearing it.

>>8119232
Did you suddenly start growing taller or something?

Body changes are weird, especially when they happen suddenly. You'll be okay!

>>8119870
Anon, there's nothing wrong with hanging out with your mom. I hang out with mine too and I'm 24.

>>8118769
I hate these people so much.

Normally I hate censorship, but I would burn all of Silver Raven Wolf's books on sight now that I understand how incredibly off-base they are.

>>8118688
OHHHHHHH.

>>8119853
I live in the US and I have literally never encountered someone here who didn't have a laundry list of shit they hate about this country - not even when I lived in the south. That said, every time I go abroad, particularly within the UK, there's someone doing exactly what you're doing and getting super invested in "gotta prove them hypernationalist yanks wrong!" You're aware that stereotypes aren't always valid, right...? The US isn't just what you see on the Jersey Shore or whatever.

>>8119437
Anon. Start looking into programs that can help. When I had a 2.5k hospital Bill, I was able to get it taken care of because our income was low enough that I qualified for MediCal.

>>8118546
Dude don't just shout at that landlady, get actual lawyers involved. Sue that bitch.

>tfw tax return season
>decent return (felt like it should have been bigger though) & paycheck on Tuesday
>BUYALLTHELOLITA.jpg
>tfw bills before frills

>>8114959
I can't fucking stand guys who act like they're hot shit when I can see right through them.
When I don't know something or am not sure, I say 'correct me if I'm wrong' or 'at least I think so, not sure' or 'I may be mistaken' or whatever. But I know some guys from my lectures that talk out of their arse all the fucking time when they clearly don't know what they're talking about and confuse everyone else in the process.

There's one guy in particular who learnt everything he knows from TV and actually gets real uppity about his supreme knowledge of history. He's an arsehole and talks down to everyone who hasn't heard of something he has, usually in a very rude and blunt manner. He thinks he knows everything and whenever I correct him he starts to backpedal harder than a pro cyclist and usually disregards my comments until some other guy corrects him as well. Then he finally skitters away with his tail between his legs.
Worst of all, I know he likes me and I know that he's doing a fair bit of it to impress me (he told someone else and I overheard it) but he's such a wanker and I can't stand him.

>>8115141
Are you autistic or what?

>>8118024
I'm in the exact same position as you m8. Except I like gothic lolita more.

>>8115141
Is this bait?

>have sexy roommate
>roommate is also chill as fuck
>almost intimidating
>get drunk together and have sex one night
>become fwb
>things goin good
>roommate suddenly becomes whiny needy selfish inconsiderate bitchy manchild
>extremely annoying
>clings to me like a needy child
>that's okay the sex will make up for it
>"anon i think you're getting too obsessed with me, you're too needy over sex."
>literally taking care of him like i'm his mom
>try to talk to him about it
>he gets bitchy and blames everything on me
>gets all melodramatic, tells me he wants to kill himself
thefuck.png
>expects me to comfort him
>wakes me up at night "wah anon my room is cold can i sleep with you?"
>bitches when i so much as say hi to him or ask him if he wants dinner
>"anon you're so needy, you should move out!"
>"please stay here anon I wanna be frieeends!"
>mfw

>>8119922
I like you

>>8120167
Leeeeeave anon leeeeeeeave.

If I was in your position, the next time he passed me off, or called me needy, I would have gotten up, get a pre-packed bag, and leave for a week or a month. Turn off my phone, and ignore the shit out of him. Go back home, pretend I never left.

>>8114959
>Short attention span
>hoard shit
>always try to clean my room, but get distracted and it just ends up looking worse
>going on for years
>yesterday decide that I'm going to fucking do it
>Blast music, only take a few breaks
>look at cute rooms for inspo occasionally
>get a ton of work done
>closet and cubby pillow area clean
>almost finished with desk and floor
>I'm so happy cgl I never thought I could do it
>going to ikea after I'm done to reward myself
>feels good

>>8118024
Not mtf, but look into a looot of tutorials for how to pass. Also, trans girls who use waist training look great, try that maybe? You can do it anon!

>>8121025
Good job anonette! Keep up the hard work!

But when you go to Ikea, make sure to check online what you are looking for. It is a place filled with temptation, so buy only things that will harmonize with your other furniture.

>>8115097
>tfw all grandparents died before age 6
>tfw only close family I'll have to experience dying are my parents
at least you got to know yours

>>8121065
Thanks anon! I was actually planning on just looking and picking stuff out there, but I might have to check out the site too! At least I know what stuff I need (curtains, comforter, and hamper)

>>8116816
tfw was "their face when" before newfags started thinking it stood for "that feel when"

I feel jealous. So jealous. Jealous of tumblristas and youtubers with lots of followers. Other people with lots of followers want to talk to them, and fans have one-sided conversations with them, or shower them with praise or hatred. They're noticed in their little circle. I'm trying so hard to get noticed, but the only thing that I've accomplished is feeling even more isolated. I take good quality pictures, write tutorials, and post posts and videos every other day. What am I doing wrong? When will I be popular enough to be known as a friend and not a fan?

>>8115913
I get these a lot. It's probably a cyst. I'd still get it take care of while it doesn't hurt, since its less messy. I didn't and yeah, popped cysts are not fun
>tfw had to work at 11am and I had a cyst pop on me at 6am

Man this sucks. I'm still trying to get a helmet I need for a cosplay and the person who said they wanted to do it never responded back after emailing them twice. I'm tempted to just move on to another maker but how long does a helmet take to make?

To make it worse the materials I wanted to get can't be shipped out until March for the rest of my cosplay because of the Chinese New Year.

>>8121718
I'll add you. What's your tumblr?

>>8121718
It's hard to say without seeing the content. If you are posting all that content that often though with such little response, something's going on though. Most people who post that much gain followers. Now I'm curious who you are and what you are posting.

>>8117910
It's not sad and pathetic, if you don't know somebody, why would you be upset by their death? My uncle killed himself not too long ago, and it didn't really mean anything to me because he'd disassociated himself from the family early enough in my life that he was just a vague memory of this lanky fucker who played the viola. It was watching the family I did know mourn that got to me.

>tl;dr, if you want somebody to care, be a part of their life

>Someone finally responded to my roommate search post for an anime con.
>They all smoke weed and drink a bit.
>Wtf is 'a bit.'
>mfw

I don't mind if people smoke weed or drink but I'm sort of scared to have a repeat of a bad con experience.

>>8117009
I'm not socially anxious, but my gf is, and it's no joke. it's not weakness, or insecurity, or just being awkward and uncomfortable. It's really like a mental condition or a compulsion, you can't help but get worked up because your brain won't shut the fuck up about it. She's told me that she knows that people aren't giving particular attention to her, or judging her harshly, but as soon as she's confronted with a social situation her brain kicks into overdrive constantly self-judging and double-guessing and worrying. You can't say, "Just don't worry about what they think,' because she literally cannot help it.

I'm not saying that some people claiming to have social anxiety aren't just awkward dorks exaggerating their mild discomfort at having to talk to people, but social anxiety is a serious difficulty that people have to cope with. In my experience, it's especially hard because it's often accompanied by some other attention deficit disorder that lays the groundwork for that type of unstoppable thought barrage.

I'm also not saying that it's okay to tell people suffering from it that it's okay to just retreat to a hole and wait for somebody else to make the effort to get to know them, like anything else, you've got to work on it. I've been with my gf for a few years, and because of gentle coaching and encouragement, she's way better at handling it than she used to be. We went to Katsucon and she went to a few of the /cgl/ meets and made a friend and talked to the hotel staff and barely dropped her lasagna at all.

I got sidetracked somewhere, but yeah, it's no joke.

>>8118769
That fucking feel.
>>8118819
Sometimes, but more often it's sort of like, being spiritual, and practicing some sort of ritual or holding a belief set because they help you connect with your spirituality. I've always felt that sort of religious pull, but none of the established religions ever fit, so one day I just decided I'd use the words that felt right.I'm not like, 'slaughter a goat to the bright lord of souls' or some shit, but I'll mentally recite a small prayer to whatever the fuck the thing is I feel.

>mfw I sound like a schizoid.

>>8118765
>because rape and abuse wasn't a reason enough

> preparing for first ever AA (hopefully this summer's con)
> end up looking through old art
> mfw I drew better four years ago than I do now
That's what happens when your parents catch you drawing porn and ban you from drawing for a year, I guess. Still, I can't believe I am envious of younger me.

>>8121941
I'd rather not break anon, but I guess more details should be given like the other anon said.

>>8121950
I have 18,000 yt subs, 555 tumblr followers, and about 900 twitter followers. It's not really about the numbers though, it's more like the feeling you get when you're posting pictures of your vacation on facebook, but see that one of your other friends went on a tour to europe that same week. It's like a race I can't keep up on, and it's tiring. I'm definitely on a steady gain, but then some people get fans overnight. Also I'm at that point where I don't have 100,000 subs, so none of those people find me lucrative enough to be chatty with. I want to do collabs, and fun stuff, and meet people, but I'm really tired of being the one running around all the time organizing that stuff while seeing people get that stuff handed to them. I'm having a pity party, I know. It's what I feel though, and it sucks.

>>8121025
Good job buddy!

>>8119437
you're probably not religious but I prayed for you.
that sounds really rough, I hope things turn around for you.

>>8121025
>Got excited thinking you could be my gf posting
>"going to ikea tomorrow"
>Not gf
>Sadness

>>8119247
yeah, it snowed so bad here I couldnt even go pick up my boyfriend. I havn't seen him all weekend ]:

>>8118830
>childhood friend is now trans

Must be a really weird feeling

>>8118706
thats crazy

>>8122201
Sort of related, just a funny story.
>High school gives out laptops to every student
>Love drawing, finally have full-time Internet access for source material to practice with
>End up with massive folder full of nudes and landscapes and interiors and all kinds of shit
>One day, get called to princpal's office, suspended for porn content on laptop
>So confused, always used used home computer for porn when nobody was around if imagination wasn't enough
>Didn't even consider all the nudes and porn stored for sources
>Realize a week after suspension that that's what they found
>mfw school staff thinks I'm a lesbian with a fetish for fancy architecture

>>8122203
Maybe if you reached out to some who have less subs/followers than you, you'd feel a little more like you have something good. I know it sometimes lifts me up to give someone else a hand up. From what I've heard though the slog from unknown to being known on YouTube or in the blogosphere is long, slow and boring so you'd better focus on something that makes you happy regardless of the online fame. Develop what makes you unique and focus on what makes you happy and it should show more in your posts and videos. In these posts here, you kind of just sounded shallow and hungry.

>>8122215
Well, I'll be going later in the week. Maybe I am? Are you M?

>>8122203
>tfw you have so many ideas for audiocasts and videos and comics and shit
>Great computer rig, great equipment, have a few awesome projects done
>friends are too autistic, lazy, or far away to help
>I just want my ideas to be reeeeeal

>>8122201
>ban you from drawing
that honestly breaks my heart anon.

>>8122240
No. :'c
I applaud your success, enjoy your new furniture, and for the love of God set yourself a spending limit or they'll trick you into buying an entire new house.

>>8122247
I still doodled at school, but because I had to constantly hide/destroy my stuff, I ended up not drawing as much. Inevitably, I got really rusty at it.

>>8122246
god that's how I feel about my friends.

>"duuude we play video games together already let's just start a channel"
>I get everything set up, banners, schedule, rigging
>ask why they aren't doing their part
>"too hard and too high"
>tfw

>>8122278
FUCKING EXACTLY THIS
I made graphics, made banner, made opening sequence, did the legwork to figure out when everybody could get together every week to record and shit, all I need are the fucking bodies.
>"Sorry man, I just don't think it'd go anywhere."
>*Constant dicking around during single actual meet*
>mfw they still think the one video I half-assedly pieced together from a Civ V session is the funniest shit, but they still won't commit.

>>8122239
You're right about the shallow and hungry bit. But I feel like it's an end process after being jaded. I've been doing this for 5 years. Don't get me wrong, I started out like you said: it made me happy when I was a baby blogger.

If I weren't shallow, I wouldn't be feeling this way. I'm upset with my jealousy, and I'm upset with wanting more. I guess I'm afraid of stopping the chase for my dreams; the finish line is sort of far away and it's been a marathon, to put it metaphorically.

>>8122307
you know my pain, anon

>>8114959
>Not big on animu and mangoes, but love vidya
>Want to cosplay so hard, always thinking of ways to build bitchin' props
>gf cosplays from weeb shit and is super into helping me
>mfw all my favorite characters are women
>mfw bodytype is nowhere near being able to pass as a chick
>mfw think her lolita and pretty dresses are fucking awesome too
>Don't want to disgrace beautiful frills and awesome characters by cramming my wide-shoulders and manly legs into them
>Settle for planning cosplays for gf and supporting her lolita habit to live vicariously through her
>Spend time redesigning female characters into male variants just so I can catch a whiff of my dreams
>mfw I'll never get to feel the tickle of a feather collar and drag a Transistor around while my glorious red curls bounce with each step.

I'm not even a little bit homo, I just want to bring honor to my waifus.

>>8119386
Wow that person sounds insanely selfish, even using hands quickly after sex to make sure you get off too is quick and easy. Is he selfish in other areas of the relationship as well? Maybe you should move on?

>>8122257
Thanks anon!

>>8122378
>You will never be Red
Anon, why must you remind me?

>>8122452
Because these threads exist to share our pain. Be strong brother.

>>8122237
>fetish for fancy architecture
That's so fucking hot.

>>8114959
>black friends
>two of them always go after me because I'm white
>white people this
>white people that
>check your privilege
>always bitch about white people
>look at me
>constant teasing is getting to me
>want tell them off but idek
>Omg all white people should watch 10 years a slave
>tfw am I second generation immigrant
>constantly blaming me for slavery and racism in the United States
>help
Too afraid to get two sjw on my back; I'm so tired of everything right now.

>>8122459
Just don't talk to them.

>>8116518
in america, you can get charged for telephonic harassment (that's what it's called) for posting hateful messages, or seemingly harassing stuff like that.

it's a 500 dollar fine or two months in jail. Happened to my ex. lel.

>>8122465
Life doesn't work that way, anon.

>>8122458
Why do I like 4chan.

changing the names in this story
> be me
> talks to a girl in my comm the very first two meets I've ever gone to
> really nice girl, incredibly sweet
> fast forward to about a week or so after the last meetup I saw her
> in normalfag clothes in college
> sitting in a building lobby talking to a bunch of my friends
> sees girl walk by in normalfag clothes as well
> me: "hey, i didn't know she went to my college!"
> calls out to her
> me: "Hey Crystal!"
> Crystal doesn't answer
> calls out again
> This time, Derpette looks at me, but shoots me a glare and walks faster
> confused as to why she acted like that
> fast forward again three weeks later
> lying in bed on my phone
> sudden realization: was calling her the wrong name by accident
> her name is /Delia/, not Crystal
> mfw

>>8122531
That random "Derpette" was supposed to be "Crystal" instead. oops

>>8122219
We were also mutually each others first crushes. It's a really weird feeling.

I can't decide whether I should stay working at my full time job as a barista that has a comfortable wage yet pretty shitty working conditions or leave, work part time and study to become something that I'm really passionate about (fashion design). Can I revert back to the life of being a poor student and not be able to spend money on lolita and cosplay as much as I do now?I don't want to put any financial pressure on my boyfriend or anything like that either...it's been on my mind since the new year and can't get rid of this feeling that I'm going to rot working in hospitality and soon I'll have wasted the best part of my life stuck somewhere I hate...

>>8122819
Is there a community college or something near you where you can study in the evenings while still working full-time?

>>8117575
>>8117620
>>8118756
Bless you anons! I'm 22 and never really got a chance to be kawaii due to living in a shitty country town first then my ex being in a cool metal band therefore I had to be cool and metal. Now that I'm with someone who loves me for me I can do shit like buy a giant fluffy hello kitty rug for my bedroom and collect alpaca plushies. I'm struggling to make my self kawaii though...I feel too old and salty yet I envy lolitas so much but I'm proud of my progress and maybe I will be kawaii one day. I love the feeling that I get when I look at something pink, I get all excited over a colour it's great!