/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL

> SJW lolita friends bitch about catcalling and unwanted attention
> ...Yet glorify getting "kabedon'd" by a random handsome stranger

Ladies, please.

>in bathroom at con pooping in stall
>wearing dumb beybade cosplay
>no toilet paper
>asks for some from fellow pooper
>he hands some over
>shouts LET IT RIP

>>7956627
>SJW lolita friends
There you have the problem anon.

>tfw lolitas in your comm clearly look down on your for wearing a lot of indie and off brand
>tfw you can afford and fit into most brand, you just prefer indie prints a lot of the time
>tfw explain this when asked
>tfw everyone still thinks you're a poorfag or automatically less well dressed because there isn't a Btssb/AP/whatever price or tag on your body

Man, sometimes the people in this fashion can go fuck themselves. Sorry I don't find most brand pieces to be worth the price tag. I even have a few in my closet because I did love them enough to buy them, but no, that's not good enough.

>>7956641

>>7956789
Keep doing your thing anon. People can be irrational about it, but if you coord well and look put together and like your own style, keep it up. There's plenty of ugly brand stuff out there and nice indie stuff. Anyone that looks down on you despite your reasons isn't worth worrying about.

Good luck with the brand whores.

>>7956627
Do people really do this outside of anime, manga and otome games? It's borderline sexual, intimidating and a flagrant invasion of personal space.

>>7956808
I do it jokingly with those of my friends who also watch anime and read manga. Admittedly, it's more horsing around than anything else.

>>7956616
>Tfw someone said they wanna buy a dress you've been trying to sell for 2 months and they never message you back.

I-it's okay. Maybe they just need more time? Maybe another two weeks will suffice?

>>7956808
Yes. A lolita friend of mine got this done by this "hot guy" at a recent con meet up and now my whole comm won't shut up about kabedon.

>>7956808
Wtf does Kabedon mean?

>>7956871
How to google?

If you are encountering this term for the first time, “kabe-don” means pinning someone up against a wall so that they cannot escape, a common pose in manga when a, typically male, character wants to converse intimately with the object of his affection. The term comes from the word for wall (“kabe”) and the sound made when you hit a hard object (“don”).

>>7956805
Haha, thanks. I agree. I'm seriously not going to pay hundreds of dollars on a dress I don't even really like just because it's burando, and I do coord well (not amazing, just okay, but certainly not anything to sneer at). I mostly don't care, but it still sucks that, even when people know your reasons, some of them still like to act like they're better lolitas. But you're right, not people to think twice about.

>ap tea-party in scandinavia
>only own bodyline dresses
>don't have the time or money anyway to be there

It hurts.

>>7956873
It's pretty much the first time I heard about it.

I guess it's time to give up my weeaboo license.

>>7956789
This is me but with solids and simple cuts. I do wear brand, mostly IW, but I have no interest in border prints whatsoever. A bunch of the girls in my comm seem to pity me over this and assume I'm a poorfag because I don't even attempt to snag the newest Dreamy Midnight Twinkle Whatever as soon as it comes out, like they do. They once linked me to a really ugly IW print that was going for cheap on Closet Child as if they were doing me a favour and then got all indignant when I was like "okay but no thanks".
Wtf do they want from me? I'd imagine they would be happy to have less competition. I don't care what they wear so why would they care what I wear.

>>7956808
I should hope not, unless it's a joke between friends like >>7956812 said. If someone I hardly knew randomly pinned me to a wall and got in my face I'd probably freak the hell out and possibly knee him in the balls.

>>7956950
They're embarrassed. You're embarrassing them.

>tfw rejected from Lolita EU FB sales once again
>why won't you let me buy from you ;_;

> tfw I could lose every single last cel of fat and I still wouldn't fit properly into jfashion

Being tall is suffering for both normalfag clothes and jfash, and I don't even have long legs, so instead I'm a stumpy looking tall person.

>>7956961
Embarrassed as in I make them feel bad about themselves or as in they don't want to be seen with me? I'm a wallflower anyway, it's not like I ruin their pictures.

>see dress on auction site
>holy shit that's a great price
>put in snipe bid
>get outbid and lose auction
>¯\_(ツ)_/¯
>mfw girl I know brags about winning the auction
>ihateyou.jpg

>Have incredibly awful day
>At least I have my lolita stuff to make me feel better
>At least my clothes will never betray my trust

I am pathetic

>>7956977
I meant the latter, but I was just trying to be funny or something. I realize now it was an incredibly bitchy thing to say, I'm really sorry.

>woke up in intense pain, thanks chronic illness
>hidden-zipper on one of my btssb jsks ends up breaking
>decides to wear much loved ap skirt instead, end up finding a small dot stain
>fuck everything

>bought fabrics
>have the patterns
>no motivation to start doing anything because I'm always so tired after work and then tell myself I'll do it tomorrow

>>7957013
>apologizing for being bitchy on cgl
I'm really torn about this new trend of politeness on this board. Like, it's cool that you're being considerate human beings more often, but...cattiness is fun. Hm.

Dog ripped my petticoat as I was leaving for a meet up. We rent the back house and my husband's aunt and her family live in the front. We have to go through the backyard to get to the front. Their husky wanted attention and likes to nip hands and bite clothing to get it. She bit my petticoat and ripped it. I'm just glad it wasn't an expensive one.

>>7956873
I honestly looked at the word and thought "it sounds delicious" but then I realized that I was really thinking about katsudon.

Please take my weeaboo card away.

>>7957067
I don't want to judge but it sounds like the husky has too much energy or they are not exerting it enough. Husky dogs are working dogs and will tear up shit if they don't work off that energy.

>>7957013
It's okay! I wasn't upset, just confused. Honestly if they really are embarrassed to be around me then screw them, you know.

>>7957047
It's not that new I think, /cgl/ has been randomly nice and polite for as long as I can remember. This is the kind of place where you and some anon can be metaphorically ripping each other's hair out in one thread and have a perfectly amicable conversation about shoes in another at the same time. Apologies over misunderstandings happen relatively often compared to other boards. It's quite funny.

>>7957035
>iktf
Cutting the fabric is always the biggest hurdle for me. You have to iron it, clear a space and lay out the fabric, lay out the pattern pieces in the most optimal and efficient way, trace and cut, and make sure you're not doing anything stupid because good luck making a blouse with two left sleeves. When I come home from work I just want to sit on the couch and hand sew, not go through all that hassle.

>>7956808
It's under the same category of "sexy, but only in fiction" as most of what gets written into romance novels. You read those and you think "oh, hot." But half of the shit in those novels, if someone actually did it to you, you'd probably run the other way. Because what is sexy in fiction is rarely sexy in reality.

>>7957145
They don't give her enough exercise and attention. Not to mention it's still a puppy(less then a year old) she has access to their garage and she's constantly chewing up stuff she finds in there. There's new stuff in the yard every day.

I don't have the time and energy to take care of their dog. They really shouldn't have gotten a husky in the first place since they don't have the time, energy, and discipline for her.

>>7957209
I agree anon. I'm just venting for you. Like it annoys me when I see bad dog owners. Especially ones that tear up other people's clothing and they pass it off as a thing that dogs do.

>about a week or two ago
>coming home from market
>see girl wearing a headdress, boots, knee high lace socks and black coat/jacket
>can't tell if meido or goth loli
>want to go over and talk to her
>look kind of bummy with messed up hoddie and too many bags
>don't want to seem like a creep
>go home and wonder if she lives in the area or just visiting

>>7957382
>don't want to seem like a creep
Doin' a great job there, pal.

>>7957246
It annoys me when I see bad dog owners but it annoys me a lot more when someone starts lecturing a dog owner or a mother on how to care for their pet/raise their child. That shit gets me going, especially when my older sister was pregnant and went for walks without my brother-in-law. I'd walk with her and in the bus or a park there'd be all these creepy middle-aged women and moms "giving advice" and chiding her for petty shit because it's "bad for the baby". Then they get butthurt when she snaps and tells them to fuck off and blame it on "pregnancy hormones".
It's eerily similar with dogs, everyone always knows best but the owner.

>>7957424
It's back seat management anon. I don't enjoy it either but in a dog's case if there is a bad owner it can be detrimental for the area or a person's welfare. That's why pitbulls are banned in my city. Too many stupid owners who let their dog grow out of control and nobody bold enough to say anything about it until the dog killed a kid or another person. So it's like do you say something about it or do you ignore it until something stupid happens.

>>7957465
True, true. Or people who get a big dog just because of small dick syndrome and then don't do shit about training it.

>at party
>drunk and flirty with friend's friend
>feelsgoodman.jpg
>friend leaves to go clubbing
>friend's friend has panic attack because they're both from out of town and she doesn't know where's gonna stay
>she starts puking
>I look after her
>take her home to mine
>she pukes some more
>tuck her into spare bed
>next morning
>make her breakfast
>friend picks her up
>after she's gone find her headband on my door handle

What is going on?

>>7957886
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Maybe excuse to come back later. Who knows.

>tfw the entire Me!Me!Me! thread

>Check tracking to see if my package is out for delivery
>See it's on the truck and decide to wait at home for it instead of going out
>Wait for hours on end, making sure I'm ready to rush to the door just in case they try to ring the bell (they usually give you about two seconds to get to the door otherwise they decide you aren't home)
>It's late now so I decide to check the tracking page
>"Attempted delivery" about 3 hours ago
> What the hell? They didn't even ring the doorbell.
>Go outside to check the box to see if they left a slip.
> NO SLIP

I hate the post service here.

>>7957906
LET ME GUESS. Auspost again?

> Gay couple
> Want to cosplay something from anime together
> Both of us are short
> No good options

Life is hard :(

>>7957906
I know your pain anon. Adding on:

>Ordered copy of Dangan ronpa 2 LE for the Vita
>Tracked shipping with USPS
>Checks every single day even though it's signed shipping because paranoid (it is Dangan ronpa)
>Waits two weeks or so
>Package doesn't come
>Checks tracking online and it says "Delivered"
>Calls the post office
>Tells me to go down personally
>Talk to the manager
>Nobody knows what happened to my package
>Nobody knows who delivered it

Thank god I called the game company and they told me they could sent it again signed express shipping.

>>7957925
Auspost again.

>>7957935
>Both of us are short

Does it matter? Just cosplay whatever.

>>7957903
All I can hear,
I Me Mine, I Me Mine, I Me Mine,
Even those tears
I Me Mine, I Me Mine, I Me Mine,

>>7957935
Boku no Pico

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HXHT9QgVg7U

>>7957943

>certain friends think lolita is fetishtastic because of anime
>generally ignore their bullshit because I've known them all 15+ years, and they're a bit dippy
>only still friends with them really out of habit really
>one is massive conspiracy theory nut about EVERYTHING in the world
>earlier today ...
>conspiracy theory nut goes on a spontaneous rant on one of my (3 month old) photos about how lolita is being used to mind-control "real" nerds into letting girls into their "safe spaces" to exploit their goodwill and steal their thunder
>"no offence, you're different"
>"you were geeky before you found lolita"
>"and you're not dating one of those alpha-bros, so we know you're cool"
>"(boyfriend) is such an ugly mug, it's clear you're with him because of shared interests"
>rolling eyes until he starts making remarks about my boyfriend
>right
>nope
>unfriend him because annoyed, and ignore his requests to readd me all day
>other friends in the circle start losing their shit
>"He was right! He was right!"
>cue harassing, stupid comments on the photo
>they "knew" I was faking all along
>how dare I use them for favours
>"What favours? You mean those times I drew free art for your D&D campaigns? Or the times I did your business cards for your con photo page? Or that time I contributed to that go-fund-me to see your LDR girlfriend?"
>more ranting and raving and so on
>just unfriended something like 15 people in one go
>that feel of relief at offloading a pile of neckbeards in one go

>certain friends think lolita is fetishtastic because of anime
>generally ignore their bullshit because I've known them all 10+ years, and they're a bit dippy
>were my only friends through a pretty turbulent middle-and-high school period
>still friends with them mostly out of habit really
>one is massive conspiracy theory nut about EVERYTHING in the world
>earlier today ...
>conspiracy theory nut goes on a spontaneous rant on one of my (3 month old) photos about how lolita is being used to mind-control "real" geeks into letting girls into their "safe spaces" to exploit their goodwill and steal their thunder
>"no offence, you're different"
>"you were geeky before you found lolita"
>"and you're not dating one of those alpha-bros, so we know you're cool"
>"(boyfriend) is such an ugly mug, it's clear you're really with him because of shared interests"
>rolling eyes until he starts making remarks about my boyfriend
>pretty used to the "fake geek girl" thing, but get irrationally pissed when people go after my boyfriend
>right
>nope
>unfriend him, and ignore his requests to readd me all day
>other friends in the circle start losing their shit
>"He was right! He was right!"
>cue harassing, stupid comments on the photo
>they "knew" I was faking all along
>how dare I use them for favours
>favours?
>You mean those times I drew free art for your D&D campaigns? Or the times I did your business cards for your con photo page? Or that time I contributed to that go-fund-me to see your LDR girlfriend?
>more ranting and raving and so on
>just unfriended something like 15 people in one go
>that feel of relief at offloading a pile of raging neckbeards in one go

>>7957424
When I was pregnant people kept touching my stomach "for luck".
Keep your fucking hands to yourself, filthy trash, I swear to god.

>tfw 45% customs fee AGAIN
fuck this

>>7958170
>women are evil snakes leading men astray with their mystical feminine wiles!!!1
Good fucking riddance, anon.

>>7958188
reposted up here >>7958174 because of weird posting issues/left some details out.

But yeah. Definitely good riddance. I already had the majority of their actual posts filtered off of my feed. Lots of lolicon moe reviews/figs and weird softcore porn from that Steampunk Couture chick (I can't remember her name to look her up, she's extremely thin, has massive lips and white hair). So nothing of value really lost.

>>7958178
Or stroking/pulling long hair. People are assholes.

>new to cosplay
>working on boots for the first time, using a lot of vinyl for the outfit to recreate a leather look
>have no fucking idea what I'm doing

I have made a mistake

>>7957067
That's why I hate dogs.
The dog of my mother-in-law likes to jump on you as a greeting and she thinks it's cute. Even if they are covered in dirt.
So glad I wore an offbrand cardigan over my brand.
And I get shit for hating these creatures.

>not bad at keeping my 'autism' low (chronocial depression and schizotype disorder, no meds but with psychatric following)
>pay attention to people, smile, try to be kind and not too blunt etc
>my mind is totally occuppied by something else these days
>as long as I don't have the answers to my questions, I'll still partially focus on it all day everyday
>direct effect is that I'm tired and prone to headache
>indirect effects : I can't be patient and kind, I lack of focus too hard to even pretend.
>social disorders start to show
>yes your friend is a non-empathic, cold, blunt bitch who look forward to see more formalined human brains deep inside, I'm sorry.
>I still don't have any violent access though
>my nerves are fucking strained by all of that
>someone who don't like me decide to undermine my reputation in my comm at this very moment.
>they'll never know how close they are to actually being killed.

I look absolutely calm, but I'm really about to snap. I'm restless and I'll be 'till I find my answers. Why can't I function normally ? I'd give everything to not live like that.

>>7958422
I'm sorry if you're struggling but this legitimately sounds like the Introduction for a 14 year old's role play character.

>>7958424
maybe the fact that I'm ESL ? That's also why I vent anonymously on the internet, I don't want to come of as some snowflakey emo chick.
You made me chuckle btw.

>>7958329
You get shit because you hate a whole species despite them being completely trainable. If that person trained their dog properly, it wouldn't jump like that. Hate the owner, not the dog.

>>7958422
Are you literally 10

>>7958329

Idk man, maybe you shouldn't wear brand around things or people who you know could get it dirty.

I hope you don't have kids because I bet you're going to blame them for getting crayon all over your brand.

>>7958431
It's not just that. I always hated dogs like some persons can't stand cats. I hate their natural behavior ("Oh look how excited he is!"), I hate how 99% of them looks, I hate to hear them bark, I just genuinely dislike them. But I understand how I'm biased regarding pets.
I'm a cat person and I don't mind them losing tons of cat hair, having a snag on some clothes (I'm extra careful with brand though) oorcleaning after them.

>>7958437
Well the difference is I think dogs are disgusting but kids are cute.
If they are very small it's easy to keep my brand away from them and when they are older I think it's right to blame them for their misbehavior.
I never touched my mom's closet because I knew I'd get shit for it.

It's really nice to vent my disgust about dogs on anon when I always have to pretend that I don't mind them when visiting family and friends.

> talking to someone
> mention a random subject you like a lot
> "oh I HATE that so much"
> mfw

Now I don't mind discussing things with people or them saying it's not their thing, but goddamn why do people feel the need to tell you how much they hate something when you obviously like it a lot, or rather it being the absolute first thing they mention. And I'm talking about stuff like games or certain dresses.

>>7958477
>I hate their natural behavior ("Oh look how excited he is!")

I don't dislike dogs but I hate that too, hell i hate that with anything including kids "Oh they're being loud and annoying in a public place? Nah they're just being little kids~" for fucks sake just train your dogs and teach your kids some morals

>>7958479
Cat people are cancer

I had an audition for a play yesterday. I flubbed my lines so I don't think I'll get the part. Shame, it's Waiting For Godot and I really wanted to play Gogo.

>extremely thirsty for APs Celestial series
>is 5"10

>>7958479
>when they are older I think it's right to blame them for their misbehavior
It's right all the time ya moralfag, you're going to be one of those parents who lets their kids do all sorts of shit and never stopping them because "they're just kids".

>>7958505
I feel you, those OP's will never fit us unless we start cutting of limbs

>suddenly start noticing ants in laptop
>there were ants in old one, but I thought that was because it was old as shit, there was shit caught in the keyboard and I used to eat near it
>kill them whenever I see them but they won't go away
>don't want to use bug spray on laptop because dangerous
>read somewhere to use hair dryer to blow out anything that may be caught between the keys, but read in the same place that'll fuck up the keyboard really badly and melt the keys
>nowhere around me has people who know what the fuck they're doing when taking apart computers and laptops
>scared my computer will be kill
>don't know what to do

>>7958575
my hair dryer has a cold option

>>7958575
Can you put your laptop in a baggie and put it in the freezer for a while?

>>7958578
Won't the moisture damage the LCD screen, though?

>>7958477
My boyfriend feels like that too. He also is always worried that big dogs could snap at any moment and try to bite me when I'm petting them. He said that whenever he's around a big dog he always thinks about how he would defend himself if it suddenly attacked him.

Which is why we have cats instead.

>>7958575
???
?
???
??
Ants in a laptop? What?

You're vile. Absolutely vile. You don't get ants from one laptop alone, your house has to be infected with all kinds of vermin. Clean your whole house top to bottom, keep all foods in tins and containers and your ant problem will disappear.

>really like guy
>guy really likes me back
>start dating
>freak out because it's too good to be true
>break up with him because I DON'T EVEN KNOW

Why is it so scary to be happy?

>>7958477
I feel the same. Aside from super well-trained service dogs I cannot stand to be around those animals. Hate them. Being jumped and salivated on isn't "cute", I don't give a fuck if that thing is happy to see me. Get it away from me. Most breeds are super ugly past their puppy stage, too.
When I hear someone has a dog as a pet I actually think less of the person. Of course I keep this to myself because I know it's silly.

>>7958617
you're a dumb bitch why would you do that?

>follow cosplayer who seems really cool on tumblr
>she becomes more and more obnoxious
>send her anon hate
>afraid she's going to find out who I am

I mean, all she could do is maybe trace the IP and get my city, right? Maybe I made a mistake.

>>7958598

Maybe she lives in a tropical country. Ants are really fucking hard to keep out and the least of your worries there.

>lost a lot of weight
>down to 95 lbs
>want to keep losing weight
>therapy not helping
>forcing myself to eat bread to prevent my weight from dropping, even though I want it to
>hate my body in the mirror

To keep it cosplay related...
>don't want to cosplay anything revealing because I feel too fat
>logic has no power here

>>7958670
Because I hate myself I feel like I need to be punished all the time.

>>7958617

I can't decide whether he just wasn't the right fit for you, or if you have severe underlying issues regarding social situations. You should be comfortable with people you date, not freaking out because of all the anxiety coming at you at once.

>>7958685

Never mind you answered here >>7958684. Yeah you do have issues.

>>7958685
I'm only comfortable when I'm either miserable or making someone miserable. In this case, I got both and now I'm wallowing in self-pity because this is pretty much an MO by this point.

>>7958683
I wish I knew what to say but I do want you to know that you're not alone and that you can overcome this. You're beautiful. Please don't give up on the therapy because it isn't working right now. Please stick with it.

>>7958676
Yeah, pretty much. Don't worry about it unless you're someone she could guess by knowing what city you live in, though.

>>7958617
>>7958687
you're going to be posting tfw no bf in a week aren't you? fuck you

>>7958698
>tfw no bf in a week aren't you?

Considering /cgl/, I find this hilariously close to impossible.

>>7958684
> not asking him to dom you and punish you when you're a bad girl

>>7958720

/cgl/ is full of hyperboles, but if you hang out here enough, you'll find pathologically awkward people dominate. Only a small number are slutty cosplayers looking for a lay every other weekend. The rest of us are neurotic shut-ins with various personality disorders and varying stages of social anxiety, if not outright psychotic.

>>7958729
Well, I know that. It's just that everyone I know from /cgl/ is way too attractive that I find the concept of being single too hard to believe.

way too hard

>>7958732
did you even read her posts? she said she broke up because it's too good to be true. she has issues and not about her appearance

>tfw lolita is becoming more and more OTT at exaggerated levels
>most brands now have busy prints and designs with many bows, chiffon details, lace, etc
> dislike this
>also i have heard next year the rise of lace/chiffon monster dresses will increase along with chain like head pieces
>all i want is old school stuff, solid or simple patterned gothic dresses or busy sweet prints with simple designs
I feel i'm the only one that dislike the latest lolita trend.

>>7958762
why sad tho

use this to your advantage, everyone's offloading their old brand for next to nothing so they can buy the latest releases. now is the time to shop, my friend

>>7958588
>put your laptop in a baggie and put it in the freezer


Uh. What fucking moisture? In a freezer all of the moisture is frozen to the sides of the freezer, and the laptop is in a baggie, so nothing could get in to it anyway.

>>7958507
By older I mean like 2 yo. Of course parenting starts at birth, but there is no use in grounding your 5 month old baby. Appropiate parenting at the right age.

>>7956893
It will probably suck anyway

I'm at the hospital right now from an overdose, I already told my partner about this so he might spread the message if I do happen to die waiting for my turn. The overdose started kicking in and I've already passed out 3 times, now I just feel high. I'm short on breath sometimes but that's alright, I guess...
To make it more /cgl/ related, I'll miss this board. I'll miss my chance for all my cosplay projects and my friends will end up alone. I feel bad now, kinda. If I'm about to leave, I just wanted to let somebody know that don't fucking mess around with pills and medicine.
And maybe that I regret not finishing everything that I started. Finish what you begin anons, I didnt make a huge impact in the cosplay community buy I've enjoyed it while it lasted- that is, if I'm gone soon. Though they're not acting like I'm about to die so who knows.
Anyways, be careful anons. Do what you enjoy and don't hold back, save up for your dream dress and complete this coord you've been working on. Cosplayers, don't give up. Sewing is hard but it gets easier with practice, you can all do it! I believe in all of you! I wish people did as much for me.
If I do survive, I'll make this life worth while and work hard for my hobbies and academic future. If not, I hope I've left enough in the help thread to leave in peace.

- anon

>>7958762
I'm just really happy that the patterns in Otome no Sewing are very simple and suitable for old school. This is probably in part because those are easier/cheaper to draft but it means I can make my own simple wardrobe tailored exactly to my measurements without needing to figure out how to draft patterns myself. I won't be covered in glorious burando, but I'll live.

>>7958797
ha faget

>>7958801
I am, I probably will be twice the faggotry if I don't actually die.

>>7957424
To be fair, a lot of people don't treat animals correctly even if they think they do. They don't seem to think they're as serious a commitment compared to children, which is fair, but because of this they cut corners with training and care, and it can be frustrating to people who actually know how to take care of an animal.
Granted, not every dog or child is the same and some may have issues that require the owners/guardians to treat them a certain way (such as an older dog who isn't walked much due to arthritis or a kid that doesn't get outside often because of an illness), but some things are just unacceptable, like prong collars for dogs and smoking close to toddlers/infants.
This got a bit out of hand and I'm not entirely sure if I made sense, but I guess my point is this: if someone sees a parent or pet owner treating their child/pet obviously badly, I think there's reason to intervene. But some people take the chance to criticize others at every tiny flaw when really they're making mountains out of molehills and don't realize that the other person doesn't care for their opinion.

TL;DR: There's a point where correcting someone on behavior is ok, but people need to learn to mind their own business regarding petty things.

>>7958802
If you live now you took that overdose like a champ

>>7958799
I saw the Otome no Sewing projects and i loved them!! They also got some mori/country themed pieces i would love to get but i can't sew at all.

I can't stand anyone in my comm. I'm slowly starting to accept that I might be a psychopath and should probably stick to being a lone lolita.

I don't have many friends. I have my best friend and my boyfriend that I hang out with regularly. I'm nice and friendly to people at first, but once the relationship starts to delve into more personal and emotional matters, I don't give a fuck and drop them like flies. Sometimes I'll make friends with someone on a superficial level, like well go shopping or talk about makeup, which is great - until they want to hang out on a weekly basis. I also drop them.

I don't talk poorly about my comm. I just don't care enough to make mountains out of mole hills. I used to read BtB for enjoyment and now I find it asinine and petty. Lolitas call me their lolita-senpai or something, I guess it was a running joke but now I actually have younger lolitas looking up to me.

I'm a pretty rotten person. I've pulled a lot of PayPal disputes and claims and won a majority of them. I make sob stories and the seller/buyer believes me and ends up forking over their money/dresses. I've also befriended lolitas that sold or gifted dresses to me for really cheap/free when I honestly don't really care about their need to be validated by me.

The strangest thing is that everyone calls me nice and sweet. Whenever I get posted on cgl or btb I get white knights (or just one, idk) defending me until the end. I wish I knew who you were so I could at least say thank you or something (I have no idea what's an appropriate response) because that's way too much effort to be investing in me. My old comm keeps messaging me when I'll be returning back home for the holidays because they miss me. I'm so confused.

I guess I should be apologetic for deceiving my comm but I just can't. I never lead them on to believe I was this glorious majestic being - their perception of me is all sorts of fucked up.

>>7958806
A friend's friend had a similar situation and waited 5 hours in the hospital and is still alive and well. I may or may not being a pussy about it.

>>7958797
>no ragrets

>>7958594
I think your boyfriend is right anon. My mother-in-law's dogs are the best-behaved in their ggoup of neighbors and even got special training. But lately my bf's parents were too busy to keep up the training and these so called angels started barking at other dogs and their owners to a point where they almost attacked a jogger.
Every dog has the potential to attack you and flip their shit, and still my father-in-law is more afraid of my cats which will rather hide under my bed and only scratch when persecuted.

>>7958575
compressed air canisters are used to clean keyboards and dont fuck up keys

>>7958676
>sending anon hate instead of just unfollowing
How petty.

>>7958829
>lately they've not been training them
>suddenly they harass other dogs and joggers
this is not an instant change, dogs do not suddenly become aggressive when they aren't being trained. however if they're not getting enough exercise or arent socialized with other dogs regularly then it makes sense for them to be frustrated and aggressive.
that or the dogs all somehow have neurological problems that caused them to snap
what kind of dogs are they?

>Trying to explain good starter Lolita dresses to a friend who wants to start Lolita
>Explaining how it's meant to look
>Say "If it looks like something a maid or anime character would wear it's not Lolita"
>She goes "But I want to look like a maid!"
>UM. NO. Deep breath, try to explain.
>"Well that's not Lolita."
>"It is! I've seen all these pictures! And Bodyline has dresses in their Lolita section that look like maid dresses so obviously you can! You're just being snobby!"
> Just kill me now. I don't even want to be around for the fallout that is her first Lolita coord.

>>7958816
Maybe you don't want friends because you're scared of commitment or that they won't turn out to be good people?
I know that's why I stay away

>>7958877
You can wear aprons in lolita, but obviously they're more pinafore style or old school. Try to show her the difference between acceptable apron lolita and cosplay apron lolita.

Telling someone they can't do something will just put them off, but by telling them they can do something but they have to do it right they will be more open to making sure they do it right.

I hate getting that feeling of depression that makes you unable to do anything, I'm glad I have to work later because if it weren't for that I probably wouldn't bother with showering or leaving the house. I hope it goes away soon because there's a lot of stuff I could be doing instead of feeling like shit.

>>7958842
They are former death-cell dogs from portugal, oonea podengo-husky and the other a podengo-labrador.
My bf's parents go on long walks with them for several hours on a field, they just stopped seeing the trainer.
When they walk alone with just one if them they are the sweetest dogs, listening to them very well. But when you walk them together they flip their shit at other dogs. We once walked them on their behalf and I could barely hold one of them back. My mother-in-law even got her fingers crushed once when the dogs saw another dog in the distance.
They used to meet other dogs at the field, but almost stopped completely after their dogs started misvehaving. Neurological problems are probably not the cause, since one of the dogs has epilepsy amd gets her medication and both see a vet often.
They are really desperate at this point, who has time to walk two dogs seperately for several hours?

>>7958836
>tsking people about anon hate on 4chan

>>7958920
>relative has death cell dogs
Well shit bitch, no wonder. If it were a bichon frise or something nobody would be having problems.

>husband is fantastic at crafting and sewing
>he has really poor time management skills
> will pick a simple costume but gets really agitated when nothing goes his way or is too tedious
> always yells at me a few times while we are working that he is only doing this for me etc. etc.
> I always tell him that I'd rather cosplay without him because he always gets pissy.
> he mumbles it off and manages to finish up every time.

mfw he wants to make a worbla armor this con season.
I'm so afraid he's going to either get bored with the work or screw up while taking it out on me ( even though I have nothing to do with it, it will be his first cosplay outside of couple cosplays with me).
And because I've never worked with worbla myself I won't be able to really help him if he throws a tantrum ( I usually keep working on his stuff until he snaps out of it and it seems to help).

>>7958926
Yeah well, I would've never gotten them, too. But their neighbor has a pure-bred labrador which went to a dog school and they have no less problems because they don't bother to train him. They let their dog fight others, as long as he wins they are fine with it and they refuse to castrate him.
It's always the owner's fault, dog's need constant training and strict rules to behave good, you can never slack off.
Unless it's a tiny dog, nobody cares if a tiny lil shit barks their soul out at you.

>>7958930
Anon, I know that feel.
I've got parents who are into this shit, but don't know how to do ANYTHING. When I visit them offering to help, they don't want it, but the second my dad has to rip one god damn seam he starts to freak out. They also want to keep doing things way above their skill level. I can't stand it.

>>7958698
This is the first time I ever fell in love. I feel I should be begging for him to take me back, but how do I ask such a thing, how do I justify what I did?

>>7958329
Yeah because it's stupid. You should hate the owner not the dog. The dog is being a dog. It's a domesticated animal. It's like wanting to kill a baby because it poops on itself.

>>7958479
>Kids are cute

I guess you haven't been to that one thread here then about the babies/kids at cons or the 13 year old pulling cosplayers wigs.

Seriously you blame a dog when it's older but not the shitty owner? I hope I'm not reading this right.

>>7958575
Maybe you should figure out how you have ants in your house first.

>>7958816
seems like you at least feel guilty on some level, so i don't think you're a psychopath.

you're just a bit more selfish and asocial than the norm, no need to despair over it

>>7958971
You seem like the type of person to get so wrapped up in your own drama that you forget that other people exist.
If you have really 'fell in love with him' you would take his needs and his thoughts into consideration.
Relationships require some acts of will to keep it together, and you apparently need a force of will to make you give a fuck.
You can write off your own inexcusable behavior by saying
>"haha, I'm not happy unless I'm miserable!"
or you can scrape yourself together to resemble a not broken ass human being and make an effort.

>take off work for lolita meet-up on weekend
>meet isn't until 11
>usually have to be up by 5:30-6 for work
>fuckyeah get to sleep in a bit
>set alarm for 8
>4am rolls around
>dead asleep
>suddenly cats
>cats all over me
>cats knocking shit off my nightstand and wrestling in the middle of the bed
>cats pawing at the wall in the corner trying to get a spider
>cats and noisenoisenoisenoise

Fucking hell, you assholes. WHY. EVERY WEEKEND WHY.

>>7958989
Original poster who got her petticoat ripped. I actually like dogs and we own one too(My dog is a tiny 7 pound toy poodle though) my poor dog can't even play in the backyard because their dog is to rough with her and they leave the dog outside all the time because she chews things in their house.

I'm annoyed that my petti got ripped and the family's lack of discipline with their dog. I've had to kick the dog off me before when I had my son in my arms. The dog has already caused two of their kids to bleed from biting.

>>7958971
just say what you told us, it's pretty self explanatory.

six months ago, my bf of two years dumped me with no comprehensible explanation, then a few days later he came back telling me that he was sorry and that he'd made a mistake.
turns out since he was going to leave the country for several months at the end of the year, he wanted to break up with me so i wouldn't be sad waiting for him or some shit. that's close to the most retarded thing i've ever heard and i was pretty angry and hurt at the time, but i still took him back after some yelling.

tl;dr just tell him the truth and give it a try, you've got nothing to lose

>>7959015
I think there needs to be an owner intervention for that poor dog.

Pet peeve is stupid owners who don't know how to handle dogs or train them properly.

>>7958816
>miight be a psychopath
No, you're just stupid.

>>7958971
Just be 100% honest and tell him you messed up because you liked him so much or something. Honesty is the best policy for the long term.

> Has gender issues
> Used to play with boys toys and video games as kid
> Cousins used to call me a man and people mistake me for a guy in real life all of the time
> hated heels, dresses, anything girly
> Hates girl gender because of double standards with being a girl
> Family thinks its a phase
> Dislikes being a girl even more when puberty starts
> Doesn't like periods or boobs at all
> People still call anon 'sir' 'mr.' etc. before they do a double take
> Some people still think I'm a man
> People who don't think I'm an easy fuck and try to hit on me/stalk me
> Now around mid twenties and still doesn't feel comfortable being a girl
> Only girly thing anon likes are shimapan and certain cosplays because "I love that character!"
> Really low self esteem
> Was made worse due to shitty relationships with guys calling me 'werewolf' 'beast' and 'manly' and only good for a fuck
> Thought about going on the T but it causes my hormone levels to be out of whack so doctor says its a no go.
>Can't do surgery because too scared/doesn't have six/ten months to take off of work
> "You're just confused anon, it's just a phase" by everyone around me as an adult.

To make it worse my family is old fashion and used to be into incest.

>>7959059
You're mistakenly drawn the conclusion that your unhappiness in life stems from the fact you're a girl. Swapping genders is not the magic fix you think it is. In all probability, your life will be worse. Your interests do not define your gender. You're not trans, you just have shitty self esteem and have blamed it all on being female.

>>7959059
uh, sorry girl, but you sound more like you dislike your own fucked up image of what a girl should be instead of like you legit want to be a guy. so yeah, i understand why people around you think it's a phase. you should probably not take gender stuff that seriously, especially at that age. seriously, that's painful to read.

also
>Doesn't like periods
yeah, unlike all these other, girlier girls that fucking love periods

>tfw run into guy at con I ran into last year
>tfw I think he's trying to ask me out because he's super forward in asking to meet up next week and more aggressive in befriending me than my friend who's married
>we have no friends in common at all either
>tfw I'm <0% interested because he's three years younger than me, absolutely no shared interests, I'm moving country in less than half a year, and this is the same dude who sent me a slightly creepy text from last year about cuddles and shit a day after i met him

Should I just tell him beforehand this isn't going to end up in dating? That's what a friend suggested. At the same time, maybe I'm just vain and perhaps he just wants another friend, but I usually don't get 'i'm hitting on you' vibes from dudes I usually hang out with the way I'm getting from him.

>>7959059
I used to have some gender hiccups too (ie feeling like I'm not a good enough girl bc no make up, etc) but I've recently come to terms with the fact that I can dress masculine and act masculine and the world doesn't end. This is turn has made me a lot more comfortable with dressing feminine when I want to. [nospoilers] I also realized I was gay as fuck, but that probably isn't relevant to you [nospoilers]

>>7959059
bruh, i recommend going to a therapist

>>7959077
are you a trans detective? damn

>>7959091
They don't need a therapist, they just need to get off tumblr and stop defining gender by stereotypical roles.

>>7959077
>>7959080
>>7959091

Are you anons girls? Question: What do you like about being a girl? Do you enjoy having sex as a girl? Do you enjoy having a boyfriend/

I actually went to a therapist but they couldn't find a solution to this other than being alone or having a good dicking.

>>7959059
1) don't refer to yourself in third person
2) you sound like a legit tumblrina
3) don't date fuckwits
4) not liking periods or boobs is really not that fucking special
5) you don't have to wear dresses or do anything anyone tells you regarding clothes
6) you just sound insecure as tits
7) are you 14

>>7959109
>What do you like about being a girl?
I don't know, I don't see it as anything special. I have a vagina and tits but that's all there is to it. I don't see myself as a girl first, I see myself as a person first so it doesn't really matter to me. I guess I like my hair and eyes.
>Do you enjoy having sex as a girl?
Err I suppose, my libido is very low though and sex is usually the last thing on my mind. I'm really vanilla when it comes to these things.
>Do you enjoy having a boyfriend
Not all girls enjoy having boyfriends but yes, I do. I'm married.

I just don't see being a girl as a big deal is all, unless I get bullied for it. But even then I call that person a sick cunt and move on.

>>7959015
Holy shit that sounds fucked up.
I have an English Bulldog and she's the sweetest, most well-behaved little couch potato in the world. Farts a lot, though.

>>7959109
It's definitely not black and white like that. I like what I like. It's not an issue of what you like about it, having tits and curves isn't anything good or bad to me, just neutral. I am girly but also not girly. I wear kawaii shit and dolly myself up, but I do generally more 'bro' things like watch UFC and drink dark, strong beer. Those things don't make me a girl or a boy, they make me a person.

The real issue is when you hate your body and what it includes to a point of hating yourself. That's the dysmorphia, there are other forms of dysmorphia as well, anorexics have it, it eats you apart.

It's perfectly reasonable to be insecure or uneasy about both your body and your hobbies relating to stereotypical gender, but they do not define what your body can and can't be.

>>7956950

Like all things anime and manga it's okay if really attractive people do it

>>7959101
>>7959116
>tumblr

Nope I'm just a dumb ass. I don't even use tumblr. This is my first time posting in a thread like this and I already regret it.

>>7959126
Well I come from a really old fashion family so maybe that's why. They feel that all of the 'girls' in my family should be into makeup, dresses, high heels, the whole stereotypical nine yards.

They found me not wearing heels as 'odd' and 'strange' and 'just a phase' so they constantly pushed this on me when I didn't want such a thing.

I actually considered removing my breasts and my vagina because I really couldn't stand them. I hate sex in general, especially because I have a high libido and it's almost always painful. Also there's the whole "I have to always take it," feeling from doing it.

Yeah I was abused/bullied a lot because "lol are you a man or a woman," and they said I couldn't go on medication even though I had social anxiety. Most of my stress comes from the fact that I don't like my body at all.

Also I'm from the USA which really pushes 'gender roles' in everything here. As a person they feel that me being a 'female' is what I am instead of a person.

>>7959109
I don't attatch anything about me to my gender. I just am who I am and I can do what I like without having to divide every attribute or interest into little categories.

>>7959137
This anon sums it up extremely well.

>>7956627
I wouldn't be weirded out if I were kabedon'd by a friend, but a stranger doing that is just creepy no matter how hot.

>>7959144

It's worse in other countries, jesus christ. I'm living in Europe right now and guess what? Gender roles are just as bad, if not worse. Stop being so US-centric and all 'woe is me Murrica is soooo bad.'

>>7959144
It sounds more like you were just pressured into hating roles that your family expected of you than anything else. I feel like you've gotten a warped view of everything as a result.

Also, I live in the USA as well and while gender roles are prominent, you will not escape it as a male. The media is very black and white about gender for both males and females, making it equally difficult for people with weaker wills to be happy if they don't fit the mold exactly.

>>7959155
I definitely agree here. Other than that anon's obviously really closeminded family, the US media only appeals to really dumb people so you can ignore it for the most part.

>>7959158

Ah, sorry, I missed that part and kneejerked at "Gender roles are so bad in the US." They aren't, if you live in the right places, but I agree, in the wrong places, gender roles are pretty bad. I was very lucky my parents are mostly forward thinking and encouraged me to put my own interests first.

Apologies anon, I think I reflexed a bit too much. Best of luck with your journey.

>>7959144
It sounds to me like your family really contributed to how uncomfortable you are in your own skins.

I always thought one of the things that get people not being comfortable with their gender is because of how stuck they are on expectations of masculine and feminine. It gets drilled into our heads from a young age so much, no wonder you get people thinking something is wrong with them.

>>7959109
>i am.
>i don't like being a girl, i'm a girl. it's not an opinion.
>i do.
>i do too.
i notice you only asked very closed and shallow questions, but i'm not surprised.

>>7959156
>Escape it as a male

I don't want to escape though. I just feel that I can deal with the stereotypes of being a male more so than a female but the point is moot though because I could never been a true male by society's standards. Even if I get the surgery I won't be happy.

It's like you said. The USA has prominent gender roles and society itself is really black and white when it comes to it. My family included. I'm weaker willed so I'm not happy because I don't fit the mold exactly. That's my problem.

I say I have gender issues because society and my family push the whole "Being a male is so much better than a female unless you're a whore," which pisses me off.

>>7959147
Well you're blessed then. I can't do what I like without having someone to judge me or divide whatever I like into categories.

>>7959171

There's therapy out there so you can reconcile your differences with yourself. It won't change if you want to become a boy or remain a girl, but I think it would be helpful before you consider gender reassignment to consider some sort of therapy to help you move forward, because sometimes gender reassignment can be a pretty emotional journey as well.

I'm sorry you're in this situation anon. Your family sounds shitty, but I hope you can make the best of it.

>>7959181
Like I said I was just venting but anon >>7959168
and a few other anons took it too literally. I never understood why seagulls on this board think that posting things like "LOL tumbler" and mocking is going to make a person go away or magically come out that they are from tumblr.

>>7959181
I'm going back to therapy. I can't change the situation I'm in but I am working through it. I'm just venting on this thread.

I know that gender reassignment surgery isn't going to make my problems go away. I don't even think like that. But it sort of rustles my jimmies when people think that I'm some special snowflake from tumblr that's cis/intersex/wolfcian.

I've been called 'sir' and 'mr.' for years and was even escorted out of the lady's washroom by security because they thought I was a man. That kills your self esteem badly.

>>7959171
>Well you're blessed then.
no, that anon is just normal. just get away from your family for some time and you'll notice society's standards are a lot weaker that what you're imagining. most of the world doesn't care, and from what you're saying, a lot of people would think your family is the weird one.

>>7959005
This, every time ffs.

Also trying to find a reaction image, and this is all I could find.

>>7959202
I don't really know to be honest. Most of my (ex) friend who do whatever they want and fuck the world ended up in jail lol.

>>7959216
dude, i don't think anyone has ever been to jail for being a girl that plays video games and doesn't wear heels

>>7959144
>I'm from the USA which really pushes 'gender roles' in everything here
I'm >>7959126 and I was raised in an extremely Catholic family surrounded by absolutely nothing but rocks and sheep. Trust me when I say that the US isn't bad at all, and the it isn't the centre of the world.
>As a person they feel that me being a 'female' is what I am instead of a person.
Now that's just bullshit. Your family just sounds toxic, it's not the entire country that's in the wrong here.
I just get the feeling that you're really insecure with your gender and what your family has done is not right at all. But you're just helping the cause by conforming to the stereotype instead of going against the grain. My mother tries to guilt me into wearing a skirt and having "feminine hobbies" daily, and implies that I'm a loose harlot even though I cover myself up more than a nun would and have never had sex outside of marriage. Those people just have their own way of thinking, they mean well but they'll die off eventually. The sooner you stop bending to their will the sooner they'll stop enforcing them on you.

>>7958992
Yes you're reading this wrong. I blame older KIDS for their behavior (and by kids I mean older than 2yo but younger than 10, upwards they are teens).
I always blame owners for a dog's misbehavior, but I dislike dogs for having an intimidating behavior naturally.
Like a hamster or a cat don't need any training to be not-annoying.

>>7959225
>I think you missed the whole point.

>>7959231
Well I think it depends on the family to be honest. I pretty much disowned my family so I'm thinking about just moving out of the USA to get a fresh scene in life but I have to deal with the shit here first. It's a toxic cycle because well see the previous post of me being escorted out of the washroom because I wasn't a woman.

>back home for the holidays
>tfw homework and final projects due dates are getting near
>just want to browse shopping sites and junk
>mom won't stop pointing out how thin I've gotten
>honestly haven't noticed any dramatic weight changes
>don't go to the gym anymore, but I still bike/walk to class
>carb loaded diet from workplace probably hasn't done me any good
>tfw tired of the fat and skinny shaming these days

Fuck you Meghan Trainor.

Also
>tfw want a long-term career, but feel limited to underemployment
>tfw haven't found a subleaser yet; probably going to have to pay for the apartment
>once the lease is up, loan repayments starts
>additionally: winter car problems
>tfw scared that I won't have much left to budget aside for lolita and cosplay hobbies

>>7959235
That's just your perception of it. I don't think dogs have an intimidating behaviour at all, they're always so friendly and cheerful while cats are aloof and glare at you with a murderer's eyes, they just make me uncomfortable.
Yet I don't say "I hate cats" because that'd be stupid and I know a lot of them are sweet creatures.

>>7959244
i think you did, and have been for your whole life, but suit yourself.

>>7959235
>intimidating behavior naturally.

Just admit that you have a fear of dogs. I'm not a dog lover or a cat lover but I was never afraid of a dog unless it was showing hostile signs.

>>7959244
How about focusing on moving elsewhere in the USA? You yanks have half the continent, people can't all be the same in every state.
But the reason you were escorted is because they thought you were a man. You were wearing men's clothing and dressing masculinely, I assume. That's one example of people being treated differently because of their gender - if you were a woman in a men's loo, you would probably only get odd looks or be politely told to leave.
The grass isn't greener anon, you're just surrounded by cocks.
Maybe try dressing a bit more femininely so people wouldn't mistake you for a man?

>>7959247
Oh yes it is my perception of it, just like I think these "murder's stare's" are just "meh" or sleepy faces.
But my hate is simply deep rooted disgust. I can't help but interpret everything every dog does as disgusting.
It's kinda like I as brought up with the perception that dogs are dirty and disgusting and cats are their mortal enemys. Naturally as a really cat-loving person I glorified every kitty and hated every dog. Now I treat my cats like my little babies and hate to be approached by a happy dog.

>>7959267
That's a really unhealthy way of thinking, anon. Maybe try hanging out with some small, fluffy dogs at first?
My mum was scared of dogs all her life but changed her opinion when we got a little Maltese. Now she combs her fur and plays with her all the time.

>>7959259
I am a bit afraid of big dogs, but I also think it's disgusting to enter the apartment of a friend and a dog comes running at me rubbing his wet nose on my leg or jump on me with his dirty paws and everyone is like "Awww" when I'm innerly like "Baaww".
Dogs simply are intimidating, you won't see a cat or a bunny running to a strangers all excited.

>>7959192
>tfw I'm in the process of getting evaluated to see if I am intersex

I'm not a special snowflake this is my life....

>>7959257
>anyone has ever been to jail for being a girl that plays video games and doesn't wear heels

What point was you making outside of shitposting? I wasn't even talking about myself when I quoted >>7959216 so I don't know what you are talking about. I was making a joke.

2/10 for making me respond.

>>7959246
>carb loaded diet from workplace probably hasn't done me any good

You don't make your own lunch anon/

>>7959274
Nah I'm perfectly fine with my thinking. I tolerate dogs and would never show my views, people view me as a cat-person who is a little uneasy around dogs and I'd like to keep it that way. Also I know way more people who hate on cats for no obvious reason to the point of my father-in-law almost throwing up at the thought of cats and not visiting us and pretending to be allergic. I don't see why I should change when I'm perfectly fine living jolly without dogs in my life.

>>7959288
but... it wasn't really funny

Hey Seagulls, let me tell you what has lead me to why I never talk shit about any seagull in /cgl/(or any Anon from boards /a/, /m/, /jp/ and /o/, for that matter)

>Be at AX'14
>Sit on a corner to charge my phone since I can't take pictures anymore due to the battery being 5%
>3 cosplayers drop by near me to fix ther cosplay
>suddenly, a cosplayer cosplaying a bomb ass Suki from Avatar starts talking about /cgl/, let's name her Y
>!!!!
>I asked them if they actually went to /cgl/, surprised, they said yes
>finally notice one next to Y who looked gorgeous cosplaying a character from Kill la Kill, she's having a hard time walking due to her cosplay, let's name her X
>mfw my brain stops for a fraction of a second, jumping back a year and a half at one moment where I used to laugh at her Homestuck cosplays
>Mfw I realize it was the same person
>I blurt out, "Wait, I know you, you're X(her real name), right?"
>She looks at me, dumbfounded
>Another realization occurs, this time from 2 years ago
>I look at Y and say "and you're Y(her actual first name this time), right?", something I deduced due to my aunt having the same name(it was a very old Spanish name)
>She looked dumbfounded
>get to talk to them a bit, they're cool guys
>Post on /cgl/ about it, lamenting on what I did and how creepy I was throughout the whole event
>Get a message in Facebook from X saying "I don't think you're creepy"
>Both relieved and TERRIFIED about what happened
>To add insult to the injury, another cosplayer friend who went as Maria on the past AX proceeds to post on our Facebook group saying "Dammit Clockwork, we saw your posts about AX in /cgl/
>WE
>WE
>WE

I felt like I was being pursued by a hivemind, A SEAGULL HIVEMIND.

>>7959282
Where does it say anywhere that I'm getting evaluated to be intersex? Quote me.

It's like if anyone mentions gender issues you gulls jump the gun.

>>7959265
It was a single stall loo. I went in after a lady went out and apparently she reported to security that a man went into a lady's stall and they knocked. I peeked out and security literally pulled me out and grilled me until I showed them my id. I wore a coat like this as well as some jeans. It was the dead of winter and I went to the hospital because I was having side pain.

The point is I don't like dressing feminine at all and I look manly which is part of my anxiety. Unless I do a 180 on my looks/surgery I will always have to deal with this.

>>7959171
>I can't do what I like without having someone to judge me or divide whatever I like into categories.


You will always get this anywhere regardless of whether or not you are male, female, intersex whatever you think you are or something. If anything you should go to therapy to raise your self esteeem.

You yourself are actually trying to put yourself into a category as well, which is just like what you claim is bothering you.

Gender reassignment isn't always the answer and can often times make things worse for people who are just not stereotypically adherent to gender roles or just low self esteem.

I do think a good first step for you is to stop pushing your bad feelings on your gender and start actually realizing it's what people think gender should be that is pissing you off.

>>7959296
Not the same anon but why not leave them alone? If they feel like this let them.

>>7959171
>society and my family push the whole "Being a male is so much better than a female unless you're a whore

Honestly that's just stupid. It sounds like you're taking literally things like muh patriarchy etc, when in reality males and females both have it bad, barring the rich biggoted white CEO types.

I do believe that some men, (rich white upperclass CEOs) do actually make society worse, but for everyone not just women.

>>7959311
>reading comprehension

that said, if you don't feel confortable with feminine clothes and don't want to be bothered anymore, maybe you should just dress like a guy, go to men bathrooms and be done with it. you don't have to be a man (or even feel like one) to pass as one.
thought that would only work if you actually really did look like one and the security guys weren't just blind retards.

>>7959321
see >>7959192

>>7959305
>know they go on /cgl/
>post on /cgl/ about them anyway

Dumbass.

>>7959311
Where the hell do you live anon? Alabama or some shit? You need to just move to a city honestly, there are much more varied people in the city(hipsters) who look like dudes but are girls and they do just fine. Come to Boston.

Also, /cgl/ has kneejerk reactions because tumblr makes everything shitty for everyone. Tumblrites pull shit like "teehee I wear skirts but also like sports I must be genderqueer or intersex etc~" and then they wear that shit like a badge of honor when most people struggle with living day to day with being labeled as weird or freaky. Tumblr is just the worst.

>>7959332
I already did see that. She must live in a tiny town in the south and is expected to be a southern belle or some shit.

>>7959337
it's a cautionary tale, and they already know about it for a long while now.

>>7959323
We mostly do our thing and they're doing their thing. But still, family y'know. It's not like we have a grudge on them, I certainly won't force them to come especially not if they want to bring their dogs, my poor cats.

>>7959351
you sound a bit mental tbh

>>7959340
>South

Yeah my family grew up in Mississippi. Which is why I mentioned the incest part. That's another problem I will not go into.

>>7959338
>teehee I wear skirts but also like sports I must be genderqueer or intersex etc

Hell no I don't feel this way. I actually took an evaluation and considered all of my options and accepted the fact that I wasn't/shouldn't be on the T or even do the surgery.

My issue is what anon >>7959331 brought up. I want to pass as a guy, dress up as a guy, and go in men's bathrooms because hell I look like a guy, I suffer from hirsutism and it's more comfortable to me but I feel that being born as a woman/having a vagina and tits makes it hard because how the hell can I even pee?

Gender issues=/=I think I am cis/intersex/trans.

>>7959280
Its because cats and bunnies doesn't give a shit about you

>>7959362
there's usually stalls in men's rooms because men too have arseholes and need to shit.
And plenty of men piss sitting down.

>>7959362
from what you told us you seem to already pass as a guy for the most part though?

>>7959362
>how the hell can I even pee?
very easily, by going into the stall. guys have to shit too, you know.
and in all my life as a girl going into men's bathrooms when the lady's are too crowded, i've never seen any without a stall.

and i just said you could dress up if that made you feel more comfortable, not that you had to actually be a guy. you can be a girl that looks like a guy, nothing wrong with that.

>>7959356
Mental what?
I don't understand why it's crazy to dislike dogs. People cringe about rats, snakes and some even about cats. I'm not even open about it. I'm not obligated to like all animals am I? I don't wish they would die or something, I just don't like dogs.

>>7959377
That takes balls, man. Public men's room are the worst.

>>7959372
The only problem is that what would happen during a lunch time rush?

I'm sort of paranoid because I heard people who had issues peeing in men's bathrooms. I don't want to end up being assaulted because some dickwad finds out I have a vagina and thinks I need a good dicking.

>>7959373
Yep. I thought about it and took the evaluation but as I mentioned I didn't want to get surgery because it's surgery. I do bind though for the most part.

I was frustrated the most that seagulls assumed that I wanted to get the surgery/that I was transexual. No I don't feel that I am trans or intersex. I have again gender issues due to my shitty city and my shitty family saying that since I was born a female I can't dress up as a man or go into men's stalls and I must be this or that.

>Hahahahaha

>>7959379
better than waiting 30 minutes because the architect couldn't figure by himself that a bathroom with only stalls takes more room that one with both stalls and urinals

>>7959380
don't think too much about it, it's because cgl is constantly confronted with transtrenders who don't actually have any form of (gender) dysphoria but rather want to feel like the most special little snowflake in town. So basically we're kind of wary of anyone who says they have gender issues at this point

>>7959380
>seagulls assumed that I wanted to get the surgery
you're the one that wrote this, right?
>Can't do surgery because too scared/doesn't have six/ten months to take off of work
you told us you couldn't have surgery, of course people assumed you wanted one, why would you complain that you can't have something if it's not something you actually want? the fuck.

>>7959388
I understand. I just wanted to clear up that assumption. God tumblr makes me cringe enough. Being compared to it was even worse.

I'm almost six feet tall so yeah that doesn't help either.

I'm at a loss. People bug me to shave my face because "girls don't suppose to have hairy faces," but I want to keep my facial hair because it helps me pass as a guy.

>>7959168
>>7959109

The reason why I asked such dumbass vague questions and my initial post is because most people say when they find out that I'm female: "Oh you're confused you don't/shouldn't dress up as a man. You need to shave your facial hair, shave your legs and wear more feminine clothing. It's just a phase. You really want to wear those heels. You don't like having sex because women don't have sex. You really want to show off your boob so don't bind them."

It's not just my family but my job pushed this too (to the point that I got fired over it.) Like I couldn't wear the same clothing as a guy. I had to wear a 'third piece' that wasn't a tie because I wasn't a guy.

>>7959402
yeah, i thought the shallow questions were just a way for you to feel bad about yourself for being different, but i guess they just show you're pretty confused about who you are and what you should be.

now i'm kind of bothered by what you said about sex, though. what did you mean by "I have to always take it"? is it just a "girls always bottom" kind of feel, or a "once it's in, keep going" thing? because if it's the later, it's no wonder that it hurts for you.

>>7958575
That's how you get ants, Anon

>>7959288
I would and I used to when I worked in retail, but I work at a restaurant now.

>>7959430
I'm sort of uncomfortable about sex due to bad boyfriends/abuse which doesn't help my sexuality. It's like a 'girls always bottom, once it's in I don't care how you feel because I feel good,' vibe I get from men. It goes back to the 'is the grass greener on the other side," because none of my ex bfs had to deal with this insecurity and for once I want to just top without having the feeling of 'taking it.'

Plus my ex bf told me I was loose as hell and that me not being lubricated was my fault. So I don't really enjoy sex/anything near my vag even though I have a high libido.

Most girls I talked to don't have issues with sex to the point that they don't wish they had a vagina. They seem comfortable with having sex with men, dressing up in heels or cute boots, or if I go by EGL doing coords. Doing something like that is not only uncomfortable but makes me feel bad/disgusted.

>>7959396
Again I was vague because I was venting. I haven't been here long enough to know that 'gender issue' is a trigger word on this board.

If I did do the surgery I would have to take months off to heal which is impossible not considering

>the fact that I don't want to do surgery/surgery is too risky in the first place/having surgery wouldn't change a damn thing.

It 'might' make me feel better but there are too many risks involved and it's stupid to just do it if there are other safer solutions. So far dressing up as a guy is easier and using the men's washrooms but my only problem is the gender role issues at work.

>If you female you can't do this job because it's only for men.

>You gotta wear this or that if you are a man or a woman.

>Blah blah blah

I try to ignore things like this but when it's pushed in my face it brings me down.

>>7959544
You have a lot more issues with many things other than gender or gender roles. You need all kinds of therapy, anon.

>>7959544
that's compounded stress. You need to get psychoanalyzed.

>>7959559

Psychoanalysis is the worst form of therapy, hands down.

I obviously can't recommend what type of therapy would be best for her just from a fucking wall of text, but I can tell you psychoanalysis is pure horseshit.

>>7959551
I never said I didn't need therapy. I was just venting on this board. Hell most of the people who use this board need some serious help.

lol I can't believe I'm having a conversation on /cgl/ of all things. Yeah I'm going to leave after the next post.

>>7959571
Damn anon, you're really defensive.

>>7959578
No I'm just tired of people posting over and over again I need therapy when I already admitted that I'm going back. You want me to bring up the posts that said this?

Hell it's like telling a fat girl that she's fat over and over again. She knows she's fat. Saying that she's fat isn't going to make her skinny. Saying that I need therapy isn't going to make me suddenly get therapy nor fix my problems.

Still later.

>>7959585
I meant the part when you keep accusing people of misunderstanding you, they seem to understand pretty well.

You've said "I never said x" a few times and it's kind of unnecessary.

>>7959544
>once it's in I don't care how you feel because I feel good
yeah that's what i thought, look no further, sex feels bad for you because every single one of your boyfriends was a cunt with no idea about what he was doing.
the fact you have so much self-estime issues probably didn't help since i'm guessing you weren't able to make it clear they had to stop either.
it's perfectly normal to dislike sex after this and i'm sure you could feel better with someone that isn't a selfish ass and some communication.

also, your family sounds crazy, so just in case, i'm gonna say i hope you know masturbation is a thing for girls.

>>7959569
it's still some form of therapy. for the case. of that one Anon, anything helps

Simple feel

>finally organized my sewing box after 4 years
>tfw spools are now aligned and buttons aren't scattered all over the place

>sex with gf
>she immediately rolls over and grabs phone
>weeb music starts playing
>fucking Love!Live! game is getting in the way of romantic cuddles
>tfw when partner is more 3dpd than you

>>7958797
sooo not to be a party pooper but ya gone or nah?

>>7960227
Well that's a turn off.

>sell something to friend
>she tells me she'll pay me soon
>couple weeks ago she texted me how she bought this and this
>month and half later now
>still no money

>>7959305
>use a trip
>oh noes people remember things I post!!!
You could just take off your trip to shit talk. For all we know that's what you're already doing.

I'm in a pinch right now.

>see earmuffs
>they are real rabbit fur

I think wearing real fur is murder and people buying real fur coats are supporting the cruel murder of minks and other animals.
But these earmuffs look so nice and fluffy and I don't know if they maybe are made of the fur that's left when rabbits are killed for food.
Hmm, what does cgl think?

>>7960496
It depends on how the animal was killed.
Hunting etiquette calls for using the whole animal so I wouldn't mind wearing something from fur obtained like that. I already have a coat lined with reindeer fur that my dad killed.
If it is mass produced, I wouldn't wear it unless it's cow leather.

>>7960227
I sometimes do this when my bf interrupts my game or reading to have sex. I'll help him orgasm but afterwards I'm just going to keep doing what I was doing before.

>>7957925
>>7957943
https://au.finance.yahoo.com/news/post-offices-risk-closure-due-190454658.html

Seen this yet?

>either 50% of current post offices will face closing down
OR
>postal rates will go up again while services offered decrease

Either way, we're fucked.

>>7960504
Problem is, I don't know if it's a byproduct of rabbits that were meant as a food supply. I think eating animals is ok so I support that you should use the whole animal. But if they killed the rabbit just for their fur I wouldn't want them.

>>7960525
What if it's from a situation where the rabbit is a pest animal/invasive species where they have to be culled to protect indigenous environments?

>>7960492
Nah man, I've had this name for 5 years and with over 48k posts.

>>7960528
That's rather special, I doubt a fashion accessoire would be made from such a rabbit.

>buy cute new dress and blouse
>dream about how cute I'm gonna be
>finally get them in
>bf loves them, says I look super cute
>I feel like something if off and I think I look like trash
>every fucking time

I-I'm just being too critical of myself, r-right? I know I look cute in some stuff, but this new skirt just seems to fit awkwardly, even though its made to my specific measurements.

>>7960531
I dunno anon, rabbits reproduce like crazy and are usually more pest than anything else.

>>7960525
Is it from China? If so, it's in all likelihood made from rabbits that were specifically bred for their fur. China gives no fucks about animal cruelty.
Honestly you sound kind of hypocritical.
>fur coats are murder and cruel!
>but these earmuffs are cute and I want them so I'm open to alternative interpretations~

>>7960540
Hm, it's from a japanese site so they might be produced in China.
It really sounds a little hypocritical, but I simply doubt a mink fur coat is made from a byproduct while rabbit fur potentially is. Like my grandma has a fur-blanket made of the rabbits they ate on their farm back then in russia. Many of my leather things are made of the byproducts of beef-production. I'm not an animal rights activist, but I'd rather not buy them if the rabbits were killed solely to become a fashion accessoire.

>>7960566
Pretty sure eating rabbit isn't really a thing in Japan. They're probably murder bunnies.

Also its spelled accessory in English, you're using a French word. I assume English isn't your first language though.

>>7960532
Don't care so much about looking awkward. You'll always look awkward to somebody. If you feel good in it everything's fine.

>>7960640
>implying that amerifat don't use French words to sound smart

>>7960640
Ah sorry, I actually know it's accessory, but I'm not a native speaker and often use the suggested word's of my phone when I'm too lazy to type every word. I didn't pay attention.

>>7960646
Not 'accessoire' we don't.

At least not any right-minded person who doesn't want to look like an idiot. If English isn't the first language its sort of an understandable mistake, otherwise it's just pretentious.

I'm upset for what is kind of a stupid reason, which makes me feel even more guilty and upset:
My wardrobe is really un-cohesive. I tried really hard to get a solid basis with cardigans, blouses, legwear and shoes but nothing actually looks nice together. I have like seven different browns going on that clash really badly and if something does have the right colour it's the wrong shape or doesn't suit me. Even though I have more brand than when I started out years ago I'm still pretty much in the same place. My boyfriend keeps commenting on how many clothes I have but I honestly feel like I have nothing to wear. When I do go out I usually just wear something super bland and non-offensive. I want to start attending lolita meets but I already know I will look like a hot mess next to everyone else. I have maybe two outfits I'm comfortable with, but they're quite plain and I wouldn't want to wear the same thing to every meetup.

I want to ask that anon who is making collages for people for help but I doubt they can really do anything for me, since I have so few main pieces.

Sorry for whining. There's nobody I can talk to about this because it's such a dumb problem. I'm way too upset about this but I feel like my entire wardrobe is a waste of money and I should sell everything and just go back to wearing jeans and shirts. But I have no idea how to sell things and I worry that I'll regret it...

>>7960773
I had the same problem with headbows once, mainly because I just bought thing that were cheap and fit my wardrobe a little. F.e. I ended up with a black rose headdress because my main color was black despite only having a few colorful florals and bows being a main theme in my wardrobe.

I suggest you decide for a few main colors for your main pieces (mine are dark red, ivory, black and dusty rose) and a few colors that you can use for filler ppiecesthat compliment the main pieces (mine are black, white, brown and dark red).
Then keep in mind what shade of these colors you want to keep. I have darker reds, so bold red pieces won't do. Also my browns are warm and I can't buy pastel pink things for my dusty rose dresses.
I would also decide what the themes in your wardrobe are. Do you have more ribbons or mre florals? Do you have many things with pearls? Do you have gold or silver elements? Any patterns like dots or stripes?
Keep the themes in mind but don't overdo them. F.e. if you have a floral dress pic one or two colors of the flowers but don't start wearing a flower thights with a bunch of flower things.

>Have con this weekend
>Going to participate in the masquerade
>Got sick, can't get out of home for 3 days and feel generally terrible

It seems that every time I'm to wear this costume I get sick...

>>7960773
I have the same problem.
I have a bunch of things that fit really well when worn alone and they're so plain you'd think they'd be universal, but it's always the little details like the neckline that ruins it for me. Maybe I'm picking nits here, but it kind of bothers me.
Another problem I have is that everything is just so damn small in my apartment. I can't fit all the cosmetics in my bathroom because I have one IKEA shelf I have to cram everything into.

>mfw bodyline order arrived today
>mfw i didnt have to pay customs

> leaves NYC after living there 2 years
> all my home-state friends who cosplay have moved on with their lives
> out of touch with them, hard to try and hang out with again because I'm an awkward shit.

> Get a job at the best fabric fucking store in the state
> Get told by boss I get 40% off all the fabric.

Ah yes, now a perfect excuse to rekindle friendship with others.

>>7960773
Maybe we should have some sort of wardrobe help thread, because despite how big my wardrobe is, I never seem to have matching legwear, and it really pisses me off. Also I'd like to have a wardrobe thats flexible enough to use for old school gothic, and basic sweet, but somehow I always look ass.

>>7960974
I think a wardrone thread would be awesome, but I think you'd have to post your whole wardrobe to get real help.

>>7960980
I'd love a rori wardrone thread tbh

>>7960984
Best typo I made lol

>>7960794
I think a big part of my problem is that I mostly like classic but have this one oldschool sweet dress that I'm really attached to. I keep buying things that I could wear with it but they never work out AND don't go with anything else in my wardrobe.
Also browns are starting to become the bane of my existence. I now have a brown coat, brown OP, brown JSK, brown blouse, two brown hats and brown boots but only the coat goes with one of the hats. Everything else clashes really badly. It's maddening.

>>7960873
>fit really well when worn alone and they're so plain you'd think they'd be universal, but it's always the little details like the neckline that ruins it
This exactly! Or how it fits at the waist. So many of my stuff makes me look boxy, especially when layered.

>>7960974
I'd love that.

>>7957955
Do it.

>tfw strangers think they can touch me
I have an afro, and it's like my hair is public property that everyone can touch because "Oh, but it's so EXOTIC!". When I'm in lolita and wearing a wig, people will come up to me and touch my dresses, tug at my skirts etc instead.
Keep your hands off me, filthy casuals.

>>7961038
My bff5ever also has super curly fluffy hair and people are always trying to touch it, especially when it was long. He's a really sweet guy who doesn't want anyone to feel bad so it was often painful to watch him squirm whenever someone demanded to touch his hair. It was usually young teenage girls, who would then get all blubbery when he (politely!) told them to fuck off. Being 'exotic' and 'ethnic' probably makes this worse but my friend is white in a primarily white society. People are just really weird about hair for some reason.

>>7961038
people used to do that when i had butt-length ringlets, along with asking me how i curled it. (they get rather disgruntled when you say "my scalp".) now i have a mohawk and people generally don't want to touch it unless its put up.

's fucking liberating mang

>>7961038
I have curly brown-reddish hair (posted it a while ago actually) and people touch it all the time, it's not really a question of exoticism, it just looks poofy and soft to them.
If I try to tell them to stop, they will just get angry and say "but what's wroooooong, I just want to touch it to see how soft it is!" and then I look like a cunt.
Now I stopped caring so I just tell them to keep their grubby hands off my hair and see with their eyes, not their fingers.

>>7961038
I never understood people who do this...! I have fairly good skin since I never wear make up unless i'm in cosplay or whatever, and the amount of people who poke or go to stroke my face is absurd. It freaks me out and I don't get why people think it's ok to randomly start poking and touching someone else....

>tfw nothing gets your blood pumping in the morning like good old rage for no reason
>tfw you follow comms just for this reason
>tfw you play 'if you can't say anything nice don't say anything at all'

>>7961038
>bright green afro
>true suffering

At least people ask before sticking their hands in my hair. I'd probably punch someone in the jaw if they just came up to me and started touching my hair.

>>7961072
I don't even care about being polite anymore, I snap at people very quickly if they don't pull their hand back immediately. It's happened too many times.

>>7956616
So I posted like a month ago about my hedgehog, but she got worse and I took her to the vet again and he suspects it's a degenerative, neurological disease...

Sorry, I don't know how to make this cgl related except I'd sell all my burando and would do pretty much anything for this little animal. Pretty devastated right now, gulls.

>>7961202
Aw man, I'd hug you if I could anon. Just remember that even though your pet is really sick and may die, they'll live on as long as you remember them. And if your hoggie does die, it's sad, but you can start a new story with a new hedgehog. You can keep those memories alongside any new pet you have. It's not replacement, it's not "filling a hole". You love that hedgehog, and they love you too. And that's something that can't be wrenched away from you, no matter how hard death tries,

Pic related. It's my dog who was put down a year and a half ago after we found a growth on her spleen. They were going to operate but we couldnt get her bloods to stabilise, so she went on steroids and human anti cancer medication. in the end we decided to have her put down. It's tough having a really sick pet, but it does get easier.

>>7961202
Oh no, that fucking sucks, anon. I guess just try to make her life as comfortable as possible, and if worst comes to worst, you can at least be glad you made it the best it could be for her.

>>7961202
It's guinea pig anon. I'm sorry about your hedgehog, just remember that you were a lovely owner with a lovely little prickly friend. I'm sure the moments you both had made her life wonderful.

>>7961202
I lost my cat last year to diabetes, we caught it too late to manage it successfully. Sometimes, there's only so much you can do. I tried my very hardest to nurse her to health, but her organs started failing, and she died on my lap regardless of my efforts.

I'll feel with you, anon. Every pet owner is in that position at least once. It's hard to feel so helpless.

>>7961215
>>7961216
>>7961229
>>7961221

I honestly wanna cry right now because I'm really touched by all of the support from you all. You're being more supportive than my friends at this point... Thank y'all so much and I'm very sorry for your precious losses.

I got into a fight with my dad yesterday and today we got into another fight regarding the one the day before
> he doesn't let me explain myself
> he kept saying that what I'm saying is shit
> Says I shouldn't yell at him even if he's yelling too
> everything is my fault apparently
> Keeps changing the subject or screwing up the conversation but blames me for "manipulating our conversation"
> occassionally laughs me in the face or make fun of me if I tell him my opinion
> I blurt out that all his kids are gonna end up hating him if he keeps up with his shit behavior
> tell him I hate him
> I feel super bad about it
> Come out some time after and tell him I didn't mean to say that
> "no but you said it" leaves and slams the door
> oke dad

I just want to stop fighting with him jfc, it's not making it easier that he doesn't listen to me

>>7961270
I hate to say this anon, but I've just started swallowing my thoughts around my parents and staying quiet because I know their views differ from mine on pretty much anything. I'm not telling you not to stand up for yourself--honestly it's very brave of you to do it--but sometimes avoiding conflict and confrontation is the best thing (especially if you're still dependent on your parents or guardians.)
Please take care, though.

>>7961270
Cut him out.
Don't put up with toxic people in your life, even if it's your fucking parents.

>like several guys in my classes
>the only ones that seem to like me are these two ugly, fat black guys in glasses, one of them with a literal neckbeard
>mfw
I don't mean to be shallow, but this is just too much. They're surprisingly smart, but complete 2/10s. Jfc why does this happen to me

>>7961270
why the fuck do I know a lot of people from /cgl/ with this issue?

Whats up with /cgl/ and dads?

>>7961270
Do you live with him? Usually people's relationships with their parents improve tremendously once they move out and aren't forced to be around them all the time. Also your dad sounds like an asshole so getting away from him sounds like a great idea.

>>7961290
Idk man my dad is practically my best friend. Though in my experience most of the time people complain about relatives on here it's their mother or an SO.

>has anorexia tendencies and body dysmorphia, very low self esteem and depression
>all of that is scaring me away from cute lolita dresses and cute fashion
>no matter what i try i always feel worthless and ugly, the people i get attached to always dump me for an ex, new friends, new hobbies,...
>i dress super tomboy,confused with my gender on the top of that and crap but drools over cute things and wish i could wear it.
>was super friend with a lolita about 3 years ago (we were RPing our OTPs and weeb stuff and being happy) before she dumped me for K POP and new friends then realize today that she became really normalfag/kinda ratchet and all different when accidently stumbling upon her twitter. it made me sad idk why
>no friends into cute things with problems that i could help feel better and that could help me feel better too
>no friends that i can send funny images and cute stuff to
>no friends that i can send a cute letter with a little gift to
A-At least I have my Rilakkuma plushie that I can hug when I cry...

>>7961307
I have a wonderful relationship with my father. He's the only other person in my family with diagnosed GAD, so he's the first person I call when I need to vent. I love my mom, but she's really clueless when it comes to mental health shit, and sometimes she says tactless things without realizing it.

But also, realize that anon who's having issues with her dad may not be able to move out right away. Sometimes funds can be hard to come by, even with a job. Hope they can get out of there as soon as possible, though.

>>7961357

Gah, that's really sweet anon. It's really good you have someone who actually understands your GAD and can empathise with you, and especially better he's your dad at that.

Sorry, I feel all fuzzy and warm inside reading that and I just wanted to tell you.

>>7961285

Because you are probably a 4/10 at best or kind of a bitch?

>turning 20 today
>having nice dinner with parents at home, time for dessert
>suddenly mom gets up
>"[Anon's dad], didn't you receive a gift for her ?
>be confused because I already got a small gift from them and we usually keep any big gift for later in the month when we do a party with all the family
>dad leaves and comes back with a bigass giftwrapped box
>so fucking confused
>open gift
>pull pretty cardboard box out
>"PFAFF" is written on the side
>fuckfuckfuck is that what I think it is
>yes it is
>a brand new sewing machine
>so fucking happy

And I didn't suspect a thing. God I'm so happy

>>7961615
Congrats!

Sitting in the bathroom with the door locked crying and on my laptop because the boyfriend has decided to flip out and start throwing shit (kitchen utensils, including sharp stuff) at me because I didn't cook him dinner.

Apparently he sent me a text saying he was working late but reception is bad here and the wifi was down so I didn't get it. Haven't seen him this angry in ages and no idea how I'm going to make it right.

>>7961647
If your boyfriend throws shit at you because you don't cook for him, he's probably an asshole and you should most likely not feel bad.

>>7961647
You make it right by dumping his abusive ass.

>>7961647
Leave him if you can, or have a talk with him about how he overreacted and that his aggression makes you feel unsafe? You can't be with someone with issues like that in the long term and not address them. Get out now while you can.

>>7961647

Uh how about you dump him or if you're scared to you start making an plan with a trusted third party to escapay his ass?

Everyone gets angry for irrational reasons, but only shitty people start fucking throwing around shit like they're a toddler. You need to dump him.

>>7961647
Anon, you don't make that right.

You leave him. He's abusive and psychotic. You did nothing wrong. Get out of there any way you can, as soon as you can.

>>7961647
wow

>>7961647
Don't listen to the bitches telling you to break up with him.

Sit down and talk about these things. He could have had a bad day and not meant any of that shit he said. Sometimes, speaking as a man, we get like that. We go a little crazy just because work is stressful or whatever.

Don't inadvertantly ruin both of your lives. You could end up really hurting him if you walk out on him.

>>7961681
If he is throwing things he is not safe to be around. Well adjusted people get angry, yes, but they do not starting throwing shit. He was putting him and her in danger. I'm sure enough of us have been abused and can see that nothing good can come of this so I will kindly ask you to step away and shut the fuck up.

>>7961691
>responding to this level of bait

kinda pissed off at white people and the darren wilson verdict.

coming to /cgl/ because i know you gulls are liberal and hate white racist bullshit as much as I do, cheer me up.

>>7961693
I'm sorry. Stuff like that just gets to me.

>>7961691
Have you been in an abusive relationship or something?

> cosplaying since 2007
> still no cosplay buddies
> watch videos of groups of cosplayers having fun
> tfw no cf

Just got out of the bathroom, spoke to him. He apologized and hugged me and said it would never happen again. Cooking dinner for us now.

>be me
>at Uni party with a friend
>I arrive an hour later than her, she's already a bit tipsy
>we do some shots and I drink a little faster so I can get on her level
>we dance together, holding hands
>checking out guys together as we have both been without a relationship for quite a while
>attempt to talk to some guys, no luck
>fuck it, we do more shots and flirt with the very attractive barkeeper

>stick together the whole time
>dance together the whole time
>get more drunk
>start kissing each other on the cheeks
>more dancing together, casually touching each others bodies and boobs especially
>no homo
>start making out
>n-no homo
>the attractive but gay barkeeper keeps giving out free drinks because he's convinced we are a cute lesbian couple
>end up drunk, I go home with her, we pass out on her bed in spooning position

>next morning, still not sober, we dismiss is as drunken friendly interaction
>no homo

What the hell is happening. During my teens I never went out only within the last two years I actually went to partys and met people and made a few experiences. So far I always thought I was straight because, well, it was the easiest and also I had zero experience in anything. B-but maybe I am not as completly straight as I thought? I feel stupid saying this I am also not 100% sure how to feel about this and don't want to talk to friends about this and be labeled as the attention whore who suddenly hates men so much she turned into a lesbian or something like that.
>what to do

>>7961701
But it's still just bait. It gets to me to, but like I said in another thread. Murrica has holiday right now and all the trolls are alive and well since they're out of school for a few days.

>>7961691
I guess I just dislike the idea of ending a relationship so suddenly like that. It happened to me (being on the receiving end of it) once.

>>7961719
>the attractive but gay barkeeper keeps giving out free drinks because he's convinced we are a cute lesbian couple

I'm gonna try this now

>>7961724
So far it worked well with straight guys (obviously haha), but appareantly it works with gay guys too because... Queers must stick together? Idk.

>>7957906
Kek'd at that pic

>>7959192
It sounds though anon, i am genderqueer and still have issues being feminine bc shit self esteem. You can make it with the time and therapy.

>>7959005
This is why my cats don't sleep in my room anymore

>>7960885
This drawing. My sides.

>>7961694

>>7961713

Bro you need to fucking sit him down and discuss what he can do to prevent this from happening. See if he wants to go to anger management therapy or something. Promises are fucking empty unless you can back them up.

I am sincerely worried for you. I really hope things work out for you, one way or the other, but you can't live with someone throwing shit (especially fucking kitchen utensils) at you.

>>7960530
>1 post is going to hurt so bad I'm religious to my trip fag posts it's a sin to not post with my name

>>7961776
lol @ the belief that most men are any different to that.

not the person you're replying to btw.

>>7961776
>>7961790
>lol that most men are any different than that
>any different from petulant child in man body who throws things and threatens

yeah. No. He's not the only one out there like this, but he's not the norm for who you want to be with. And if you are like that, go fuck yourself, you fucking toddler, and grow up.

>>7961719
>I feel stupid saying this I am also not 100% sure how to feel about this and don't want to talk to friends about this and be labeled as the attention whore who suddenly hates men so much she turned into a lesbian or something like that.

Nah, you can explore your sexuality if you want to, it's not that black and white. Think about it and let it happen, maybe you're bisexual, maybe it's a phase, only one way to find out.

>>7959305
It's because you post way too fucking much, and you're annoying enough to be remembered easily.

>talks to lolita senpai
>spill spagetti
hold me gulls

>>7959116
newfag doesn't know what greentext is

>>7960439
don't be beta and ask for the money. maybe she forgot.

>>7961348
I'm so sorry anon. I feel you. Hang in there okay? You're adorable and deserve to feel adorable. Get help, hug rilakkuma, buy some brand, and join a lolita comm. Your old friend isn't worth your time, make new lolita friends who are almost as cute as you.

>tfw slightly jealous of sister who is only 4'10
>5'9 with babyface
>Feel like amazon whenever i stand near her
>Will never cosplay characters I like comfortably.
>Can't feel comfortable standing next to her in public.

It wouldn't be so bad if I didn't have babyface, then I could cosplay mature characters.

I mean it won't stop me from cosplaying but, it sucks having people around me in pictures.

Also, I feel like an amazon around most my siblings. Only my older brother is taller. I have 4 sisters, only one comes close to me in height. The other three don't pass 5'2, it makes me feel awkward standing near them.

>>7958797
I think you're the anon I talked to in the other thread.

Well uh... Hope you are alive?

>>7962634
pics? u sound cute :q

I'm in my 20s and still live with my parents. Mum wanted to give me some money to go towards a JSK for Christmas, so I was really excited and bought something I thought I really liked. A few weeks later, a dream dress appeared on LM. I can afford it with my wages but know I shouldn't get it because it would ruin her gift to me and I feel so spoilt for wanting to get it as well. My bf hates the amount I spend on Lolita, which isn't much and is always money I work hard for (when I buy something new he refuses to speak to me for at least a day), but he wants to save up to buy a house. He refuses to rent somewhere with me as he sees it as a waste of money, but we don't earn enough to get a mortgage. I'm not good at saying no to people, so he's talked me into booking an expensive holiday with him to somewhere I don't even really want to go to. I love him but I'm starting to resent him for treating my money like it's his. My job has a 2.5 hour round commute and I have been diagnosed CFS with depression, so after a year of struggling at work I've had to hand in my notice as it's got too much. I've applied for local jobs but I haven't heard anything yet. I think all this has made me want to spend more on Lolita as a sort of escapism, but I know it isn't really sensible. I'm sorry if I come off as a brat/poorfag. I'm not saying "it's unfair I want more" or anything like that. As you can see this probably isn't really about that dress but I don't know who I can talk to. I just feel that having it would make me feel better for a while.

>>7962697
Wow I'm really sorry for the wall of text, I was on my phone

>>7962634
I'm tall with a baby face too, I know what you mean. But maybe it will help to talk to your sister? She may very well be jealous of your height and youthful looks! Cosplay who you want, no one really cares about height. Some magical girl characters are a lot taller than others in the group and still look young, maybe you could do that?

>>7962712
I'm not exactly the time to talk about feelings. Either way I don't see her much so, at least it's not something i need to think about a lot.

I will back into cosplaying once I lose weight. I try not to let my height get to me. though once I'm in costume I stop worrying about things so much.

>>7962697
>I love him but I'm starting to resent him for treating my money like it's his
As you should. Have you sat him down and talked to him about this? It may not be the nicest conversation, but it's important to set boundaries within a relationship, and since you're not married to him or running yourself into debt, money should be one of them.

>>7962887
I've tried, but it's a difficult subject; he doesn't seem to get that his goals (owning a house, big holidays) aren't my goals. He seems to have this image that we will buy a house and then get to spend our money after, but I've tried to explain that we won't have any money left if we do that, and it is going to take years to save up so we would be better off at least renting than living with our parents.

He doesn't earn much, which is fine, but he thinks as I have a degree that I should be making all the money (even with my current health conditions) and he has turned down higher paying jobs. I'm running out of ideas of how to talk about it with him.

We have been together for a long time, he has been really supportive of most things in my life and I know that he cares a lot for me, but money seems to be ruining our relationship.

>>7962909
It sounds like you're not very compatible to be honest, anon. If you don't have the same life goals then why are you trying to more onto the next stage of life together? You don't owe him anything, you don't have to stay with him because it seems like the easier option, either. Your life is yours, your money is yours and you should be able to do what you want with it. Learn to say no to people.

>>7963069
Thanks. I think this is just something we need to work through, and I do need to learn to say no. I don't think staying is the easier option, we have been together for a long time and I don't think I could lose him over this