/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL

>tfw no bf

>>7838465
>tfw no gf


where do you meet girls when you are 21 years old and not going to college?

i live and study at home (cant afford my own place)


is it even worth trying if dont even have a good place to bring back a girl? when i dont even have money to spend on nice dates?
>pls respond


>pic related it's me


i am studying right now to get a job in the near future so don't count me out as a total quitter

>>7838481
you don't. no one wants a NEET who's still living at his mom's house.

drink a tall glass of water while you're at it b/c you sound thirsty as fuck.

>>7838509

ok i wont try yet then. i honestly didnt even feel lonely for most of my life but ever since i started watching rom coms last week ive become dreadful

i'll just keep studying until i can get a job

>new Sailor Moon anime out
>"Heck yeah, childhood memories, why not watch it?"
>start to watch more anime again
>get slowly pulled back into various fandoms
>spend more money on animu articles
>discover japanese fashion styles, start new wardrobe
>discover more and more new good mangos
>watch more animu
>brother is total weeabo, start taking recommendations from him and talk about animus
>mfw I slowly turn into a weeb again
Feels good man. It's been a while since my hardcore animu phase, but all the old feels are coming back. I am not even really fighting it anymore. Guess I was born to be a weeb.

>>7838516
Dude, stop watching romantic comedies. They will fuck up your expectations of relationships like nothing else.
Put off actively looking for dates until you have your shit together and for goodness' sake stop watching shitty movies.

>tfw you are petite as fuck
>have a cute baby face
>tiny hands and feet
>no hips
>GIGANTIC BREASTS
>look bad as sexy mature women
>look lewd as cute DFC girls

>>7838532
Oh Anon, I feel you

>5'6"
>not petite, but not tall either
>hourglass shape, big breast, small waist
>round face, neither cute nor sexy
>too awkward and dressed too cute to be sexy
>not really cute though too
I'm something akwkard in the middle. My body is more on the "sexy"-side, but my clothes are more on the cute side, but I naturally neither look nor act cute. I just don't *feel* sexy or want to dress sexy, I-i just want to be cute

>>7838532
>big breasts
>no hips
Ew.

>>7838547
>tfw 5'8
>tfw big bewbs and hips
>tfw average face
i just want to look like a little girl

>>7838516
Is there a girl version of this?

>4'10
>petite and flat
>sewing illiterate
>everything is too fucking big

>>7838557

>tfw you run into your cosplay crush.

>>7838552
Know that feeling... Only thing is, I am 5'2 but still have big boobs, hips and non-cute face. So jealous of girls who look like cute lolis.

>>7838552
We are the same anon.

>>7838570
boob reduction, plastic surgery
no helping height tho

>>7838562
I've always found it confusing how this chart correlates facial features with hygiene. I'm probably a 6/10 going by the faces of the girls in that rank but I'm notoriously fussy about hygiene and flattering clothes. On the other hand I know a girl who would be a 9/10 and flew all over Europe to work as a model but, when not 'on the job', would go for days without showering, routinely murdered her hair with bleach (the main reason she stopped modeling) and had body hair denser than some dudes I know. There might be a slight correlation regarding very fat/unattractive girls who no longer give a fuck but overall it makes no sense to link the two.

>>7838552
Me too Anon, me too.
Worst is all the shit I get for dressing cute. "Why do you hide you body?" "Why don't you show more of your tits?" "You could look so sexy!!", etc. I don't want to look sexy. I can't pull it off, I don't have any sexy vibes, and I don't feel comfortable dressed that way. I just want my cute clothes. But as soon as you got some boobs, people expect you to show them off for the sake of humanity or whatever.

>>7838585
Anon it's a shitty chart from the internet, made by men who probably have no idea about hygiene anyway (and also stuff like make up, shape wear, push up bras et ceterea. We all know that 4/10 that is suddenly 7/10 with make up and the right clothes). Take it with a huge grain of salt.

>>7838562
>average korean
top kek

>>7838547
>>7838552
>tfw tiny flatchested body
>tfw cute face
>tfw stunted growth from nutritional malabsorption from painful bowel disease

Being tiny and cute is great and all but I wish I could go a day without pervasive discomfort at best and crippling pain at worst.

>losing weight
>on medication
>doing therapy
>generally feeling good about myself
>feeling hopeful about life in general

Oh, anons. There may be an end to suffering after all.

>>7838562
Huh, I was reading this expecting to come out hating myself but I placed higher than I thought I would. I've always considered myself to be a solid 5, but there's a girl who looks pretty similar to me under 7. Huh.

>>7838589
You're right. I keep expecting things on the internet to make sense, especially things coming from guys who try to shoe-horn their own flavor of 'logic' into everything. I need to stop doing that.

>>7838602
I wouldn't describe it as accurate. I would put all those 5, 6 , 7, 8, 9's one rating below than what they appear to be on the chart. Either that, or I have high standards. Everyone has different preferences / ratings though. One guy's 7/10 girl could be another's 5/10.

> move to new city for university
>all my friends that used to attend cons with me are either back home or moved to different states for college
>will be my first time attending a convention without any friends

>>7838612
In both charts there are some people in low ranks I'd rank a few numbers higher and some people in high ranks who are kind of ugly to me, especially in the guy chart. Numbers 2, 4 and 5 in rank 8 are quite unattractive to me, and #2 in the 9/10 row also looks derpy and chinless as fuck. Was this chart made by straight men?

>>7838612
Exactly, and some people just drool over certain aesthetics more than others. My 9/10, my friends think is "meh", and their 9 I wouldnt look twice walking down the street.
Charts near useless.

>>7838628
>tfw friends think I have bad taste in men but all the men they drool over have really fucking weird faces
I never got the hype around Ryan Gosling, for instance. His eyes are squinty and too close together and his jaw is practically nonexistent - he's all chin. And even that is wonky.

Of course there are some general things that make people universally (un)attractive. We all look at symmetry and certain ratios that suggest there weren't any significant developmental problems, but beyond that it's all personal preference. Also both charts predominantly feature white people and someone who grew up surrounded by people of another race, and therefore a different standard of common facial features, will have different preferences.
The people who put these charts together are probably fat neckbeard spergs anyway.

> Bought and sold a lot of my wardrobe this year due to style change and being smaller.
> Spent money on main pieces instead of blouses.
> Found a few dream dresses.
> Slowly gain weight over a few months.
> Started new bc a little while ago, constant bloating and weight gain also.
> Almost everything in my wardrobe has no shirring.
> Lack of blouses, socks or headwear.
> Can only wear a few dresses due to fit issues and lack of coord options.
> Becoming less and less interested in lolita.
> Feel terrible about weight/body and question why I'm in the fashion.
Feels bad man.

>in eastern europe due to jerb
>people are perpetually angry
>gypsies fucking everywhere mugging people and selling scrap metal
>everyone is poor except for politicians and criminals
just like home
holy shite we really are the Slavs of the Isles

>go on dates with really cute girl
>my first everything
>she's really into me
>not traditional dates but stuff like hiking and watching netflix together
>out of the blue stops texting me
Fuck. It's been three days and it's already killing me.

>>7838658
text her "ayy girl wanna fuc"
that usually does the trick

>>7838547
>>7838532
feel you

5'2"
101lb
32D (okay not the hugest boobies but still too big to look good/properly fit in the kawaii styles i like...)

>got my eyebrows done
>buying new makeup tomorrow
>learning how to style myself
I'm going to look 900% better after this.

> tfw you can fucking figure out what's flattering on you
> so much money spent on muslin and patterns
> need to do adjustment on every bodice

36" upper bust, 38" full, 28" rib cage, 19" across back, 5' tall = nothing fucking fits above the waist

>have petite qt 3.14 azn friend
>tfw I'm the ugly friend
>ugly like, 'pre-plastic surgery korean with a manly jawline and tiny eyes' ugly
>tries out jfashion instead of normalfag clothes
>weird looks, sometimes insults
>friend tries out same jfashion style, but compliments are thrown at her from every direction
>keeps telling myself I dress nicely for myself
>crumbles at the thought of being born pretty and getting away with dressing differently

also
>tfw every guy I liked only interacted with me to get closer to my attractive friend
>adds even more insecurities when guys approach me now
>tfw friends are all in a relationship and their idea of helping me is setting me up with other ugly/weird people they think belong in my league

>>7838562
I have never understood this chart. How is 6a on the same row as 6f or 6h?

>>7838695
>tfw my lust for azn girls makes even avg azn girls super qt and below average still qt in my eyes

>gay coworker started working here about a couple months ago
>He's apparently going out with someone in HR
>Kid has power since he can easily tell his bf in HR and file complaints
>He slacks so much, we all have to make up for it
>I get fucking mad and tell him to get off his faggot ass and actually do something for once
>Serious meeting about bullying and sexual preferences in the workplace
>I get called into HR today
>"So Mr. Soto, I received a complaint from another coworker that you were bullying anon "
>I received a verbal warning and am currently under supervision
>kid tells me I better watch what I say in the parking lot before I get in my car
>I force a smile and tell him I will
>Jesus fucking christ Im so fucking mad right now

>>7838710
Did you actually call him a faggot?

>>7838710
>workplace allows employees dating
that's disgusting

>>7838714
Yeah
I should've watched what I said but shit man, this nigger was getting on my fucking nerves

>>7838715
They don't
No relationships or relatives allowed apparently, but its pretty obvious they are going out.
No one seems to say shit, and Im pretty sure if I say something they will accuse me of "making fun of peoples sexual preferences" or some bullshit

>>7838715
my ex was like that, everyone there was fucking each other. Drama was endless and they complain how work is nothing but problems and stress from other coworkers.
Solution: close your fucking legs

>>7838723
>uses homophobic slur
>upset when people are not okay with this
If you're annoyed with this guy for being a lazy shit then call him a lazy shit, you dumbass. Now you've invalidated any complaints you may have about his behaviour because everyone has you pegged as a bigot.

>>7838523
I'm slowly starting down this path. I've been watching more anime and reading more manga in the past few weeks than I have in years. It's got me excited about my cosplay list again, but at the same time, I'm really embarrassed when my boyfriend walks in and sees me watching yet another weird Japanese cartoon.

>>7838731
I really didn't care about him being okay with it or not.
Pretty much everyone but the new manager hates the guy, not for being gay, but for being a lazy shit.
I've been working here for like 2 years and everyone knows me as the "respectful young man" (lol) so the other employees testimonies basically got me off the hook for a final/written warning.

>>7838481
Didn't you ignore a bunch of advice from the old thread?
What do you want people to tell you?

>>7838769
He's living in denial.

>>7838695
>>tfw every guy I liked only interacted with me to get closer to my attractive friend
>>adds even more insecurities when guys approach me now
>>tfw friends are all in a relationship and their idea of helping me is setting me up with other ugly/weird people they think belong in my league
>>tfw I'm the ugly friend
Haha Anon are you me
Seriously, I'm the ugly friend too.
I can spend 2 hours on hair, nails, make up, getting dressed in cute, fitting and probably expensive clothes and my pretty friend can get away with throwing on some tshirt and leggings, no make up or anything and STILL recieve a million compliments from strangers, girls, boys, bartenders, whatever. Everytime we went out, the guys who talk to me usually ask me what my hot friend's number is or if she is taken. It is depressing.

>>7838710
Go over the HR's head and speak directly to your district manager/ corporate HR. This shit doesn't fly anywhere but in scam rings, and businesses are very touchy about it if they know what's good for them. Out the bitch.

>>7838769
>What do you want people to tell you?
"I'll be your girlfriend, anon! I love whiny NEETs who still live with their mothers!"

>>7838695
>>7838774
Life is unfair in general anons.
Think of it this way: Your band-aids got torn off early. Eventually these 'pretty' friends of yours will start to age, sag, and get theirs too. They will have to deal with knowing that their once beautiful youth will fade with every new wrinkle, and will be replaced by girls who are younger and even more beautiful than them. They will begin to realize that the majority of people are superficial and shallow, and don't respect a beautiful mind or accomplishments that help better humanity.

Everyone gets their wake up call, it's just a matter of time.

>>7838710
>>7838777
This. Having to kiss this loser's ass because of where he likes to park his pants snake is not worth the elevated blood pressure.

>>7838774
Joining the crowd.
Feels bad man.
And since she has always been a little uncomfortable with dudes she would always request that I come as well. Which resulted in that the dude interested in her had to get a friend to pity double date me. Fun.
I'm not even hideous, I'm just totally the ugly friend in her shadow. We are both asian but she is small and petite and I'm 5'3, almost as tall as many dudes in Asia. Feels bad.

Recently my confidence is just really low. I take care of myself and I usually feel pretty and people sometimes tell me I'm pretty, but in my head it just feels like things you say because you are supposed to say them. I have zero charisma, and even though I've tried to build some for years it just feels like I was born without it.

>>7838723
>I should've watched what I said
You really, really should have. I would have been all aboard for calling him a lazy ass who doesn't do his portion of work. Unfortunately you shot yourself in the foot using a slur. Would've been no different if you called a black slacker a nigger or a female slacker a cunt.

>tfw no low self-esteemed azn gf who is considered the ugly friend to her superior azn counterpart

>>7838780
not that guy but
>I have a promising career and currently over 20,000 in just savings alone. Will be making 6 figures in a year or two.
>A family villa in a quiet place in South America, mine to inherit and visit at anytime.
> I have no interest in luxury cars, just have something functional and reliable but not trashy or beat up.
>7.5 complexion, not too dark not too pale olive skinned. physically fit, but not /fit/ levels of homo.


yet no girls flirting with me at cons or other social events.
no weeb gf to dress up for and vice versa.
I want just someone to validate my worth and to return the favor. Do couple cosplays with and wake up with her even if she is groggy in the morning.

>>7838532
I was in the same boat (except the hips) until recently. Went down a cup size due to weight loss. They're still big, but small enough now that I can bind them without pain if I need to strap those fuckers down.

>>7838805
> tfw not an anz

why even life

>>7838794
>tfw slowly coming to the realization that I'm not smart, creative or socially adept enough to do any of the things I want to do or contribute meaningfully to society
>tfw my appearance is the only thing I have going for me
>At least I'm cute? That's a good thing, right?
>reads this post
>fuck
I guess I'm lucky enough in that I've managed to snag a guy who genuinely seems to love me and wants to start a family with me in a few years. I'm really starting to feel that having children with a good man and raising them to be decent people is the only meaningful thing I can really do at this point...

>>7838823
Volunteer.
You don't have to be a creative genius to be part of your community, or volunteer at a soup kitchen.
And if someone gives you shit for doing that then that makes them the unproductive assholes.
Also please. for the love of humanity, don't deduce yourself to a human baby incubator and professional sandwichmaker to feel you have a purpose.

>>7838826
where's that "these are my accomplishments" picture with the knacker woman and six infants in prams

>>7838811
What does that have to do with the whiny NEET upthread, though? Sounds like you should have no problem finding a girlfriend as long as you're actively socializing and not a complete asshole. Do you just sit around and wait for girls to come up to your and flirt with you?
If you want to start attracting women without any social effort on your part, start flaunting your money to bring in gold diggers.

>>7838823
>doesn't feel they are meaningful
>thinks their only accomplishment is hooking a guy
>contributes not a lot
>"I feel that I can raise decent kids."
No, just focus on yourself first. People who jump into having kids before they can figure themselves out are often shit parents. Kids only complicate the problems you're already dealing with.

>>7838811
Maybe you're just ugly.

>>7838832
>Do you just sit around and wait for girls to come up to you and flirt with you?
Is it wrong to do this? I do this and it makes it easy to figure out if a girl is coming on to me since I've never once approached a girl. I have approach anxiety and just shy overall, what can I say. It is not uncommon for me to be approached at a con or other social events though.

>tfw you can't rant on here because you know your friends lurk around /cgl/ sometimes and you know they'll recognise your feels story
>i just want to sit here and cry for a little bit damn it

>>7838843
You won't get laid much that way and will potentially mistake girls who are just being nice for flirting

>>7838794
>Your band-aids got torn off early. Eventually these 'pretty' friends of yours will start to age, sag, and get theirs too. They will have to deal with knowing that their once beautiful youth will fade with every new wrinkle, and will be replaced by girls who are younger and even more beautiful than them. They will begin to realize that the majority of people are superficial and shallow, and don't respect a beautiful mind or accomplishments that help better humanity.

It's funny Anon, but my pretty friend already knows about this, and has incredible anxiety over losing her looks despite being only in her early twenties. She is seeing a therapist right now for various reasons but this is one of the main reasons she started seeing a shrink.

>>7838823

You don't need to be a rocket scientist or signle-handedly save the world, Anon. Being a good person and a good parent is already more than many people can say about themselves. Don't worry too much. Go volunteer like the other Anon suggested, get a job you like, don't be a dick - that is what makes a good and respectable person.

>>7838832
was trying to state that with or with a job and income its not a given that a relationship is easier to obtain.

I refuse to show anything above average wealth since I dont want to be a Sugar Daddy or have a golddigger gf. I want someone who shares my interests and that is laid back and then spoil her a bit. Which is why I look for humble/poor girls since they know the value of the small things.
>>7838843
Well I often approach them but dont want to seem like a creep for flirting with them on the spot. Take a pic and compliment them, dont know what else to do from there.

>>7838826
>>7838834
>>7838850
You're right. I think the problem is that I somehow managed to surround myself with teachers and doctors and human rights activists and scientists who are working on shit like cures for neurodegenerative diseases so compared to them I feel like such a waste of space. My parents always told me I was intelligent and would grow up to do great things but now that I'm actually trying I realize that I'm not that intelligent at all. I'm not smart enough to be a scientist but I'm not dumb enough to be blissfully unaware of how useless I am. It sucks.
I just sort of hope that my kids end up inheriting my partner's intelligence and ambition and follow in his footsteps so that I will have contributed at least something to the world. Having children is pretty much the only thing he isn't able to do without me.

>>7838854

Probably not as well off but similar boat. Working on my social skills so I can be better at this. I realized sitting around waiting for girls to approach you will get you either gold diggers or people you will feels is below your league.

Have to make the effort to find your own qt3.14 gf

>>7838859
>My parents always told me I was intelligent and would grow up to do great things but now that I'm actually trying I realize that I'm not that intelligent at all. I'm not smart enough to be a scientist but I'm not dumb enough to be blissfully unaware of how useless I am. It sucks.
I feel you there, sis. It's just part of growing up - almost everyone I know was told that too, now we are adults and suddenly realize we are not the special snowflake our parents told us we were.

>I just sort of hope that my kids end up inheriting my partner's intelligence and ambition and follow in his footsteps so that I will have contributed at least something to the world. Having children is pretty much the only thing he isn't able to do without me.
Come on, don't be so harsh on yourself. There is so much wrong and stupid within that I can't even properly begin. Just because you did not invent a rocket that goes to mars or cured Ebola doesn't mean you are useless and your children will be the only thing you contributed to the world. With that thinking, I predict your children won't have the healthiest attitude themselves, by the way.

Like the other Anons said: Go volunteer. Rescue a pet. Adopt a kid. Organise fundraisers. There are so many small things than can and need to be done, whining about not being a genius who cured aids surely won't help anyone. You re a smart and wonderful person that can make a change, even if it might be a small one.

I hate girls with small tits

>>7838843
Nigga this ain't DearS
qt3.14 alien grils aren't gonna fall from space into your dorm

she can be attractive but if I dont think she is cute enough, i wont hesitate to talk to her normally
if she is a cute azn I instantly freeze up and cant utter a word , like you would if you saw a royalty, I cant explain it better than that. Like they can be completely approachable but I feel like Im piss her off if I would talk to her.

>>7838873
shit taste

>>7838876
B-but I'm an attractive half-azn with a great bod. qt3.14 con girls spill spaghetti when they see my six pack

>>7838889
Whats the point of having a six pack if you're beta and can't talk to girls?
Work on your communication skills rather than your sit ups bro

>>7838900
I never said I couldn't talk to girls, I just can't approach them

>tfw half Asian but its the bad kind

Why is being filipino so bad?
I didnt ask to be born part flip and I feel like ill always just be the dirty nigger asian and neither my hispanic family accepts me nor my flip family

>>7838901

Then work on your approach then your sit ups. If you really are attractive the girl will be spilling spaghetti as well.

>>7838901
Its the same thing man
its just walking up to + talking

>>7838905
Learn spanish and tagalog
That way you can trick bitches and switch inbetween ethnicity depending on the girl, if you seem like both
Tagalog is pretty easy too
>tfw mistaken for flip so many times

>>7838547
>>7838532
>5'7"
>not super taller but taller than all the girls in your group, especially in heels
>curves, and not the fat kind
>decent tits
>dem hips and thighs
>skinny waist
>body can look womanly and sexy, but...
>babiest of baby faces

I hate everything. My face works well for cute characters, but my body is just too mature. If I try to cosplay a sexy character, my face makes it off putting.

>>7838905
if youre a girl youre already my type. Hate full blooded mexichicks but like someone that understands our culture right from the start. My ex had issues with it, she so uncultured even for her own people wtf.

>>7838889
I know a full blooded asian that is getting ripped but his face looks like some one sucker punched him at birth.
> not being a Mayan God of Fitness.

>tfw want to make masks out of the heads of stuffed animals
>don't own any large enough
>large stuffed animals are expensive

Guess I need to learn to sew better.

>>7838762
So you need to learn to express yourself without being a prejudiced piece of shit. If your problem is that someone is lazy, tell them or HR that exact thing, don't go throwing slurs around, you retard.

>>7838921
I have the opposite problem.
>petite frame, small breasts and hips, slender
>severe face

Dammit. I'd love to do the queenly intimidating sort of characters but I just can't sell it.

>>7838905
>tfw KoreanFlip

My Korean in-laws don't accept me because I'm "dirty," tanned, and cursed with the Filipino nose. I don't have that much friends because "Filipino people are weebs and full of drama." Can't get a job ran by Korean people because I don't look like their precious 2NE1 members.

A-At least my husband loves me.

I have barely any con friends as of yet, granted I've only been to two cons and am just getting into cosplay (only one built so far), it just feels so vast I can't talk to everybody and I don't entirely know what to do. I recently distanced myself from all my old friends because they started getting into rough shit like stealing and selling Xanax, I didn't want anything to do with them. Always been a closet weeb and now I'm just being more open about it. Also how do you keep in touch with people, is it weird to ask for someone's FB or # after one or two days of con? I can throw some serious parties (which I've seen on other threads is a plus) also I've been regarded as a decent looking guy on other threads here as well. Ive got money as well as a large truck and a motorcycle for transportation and pops' job gets us various hotel points like crazy (another plus I guess). I just really don't know where to start

>tl:dr blank slate and trying to make con friends, and I need help

>>7838854
>I look for humble/poor girls since they know the value of the small things.

You sound like a creep, and the women around you can probably sense that. I'm 100% positive you don't have any female friends you're close to, but on the vanishingly rare chance you do, ask them to be honest with you about what you can do to be less of a walking turn-off.

Also, don't try to pick up cosplayers, that's only a step above trying to pick up people working retail.

>finally figured out that I have ADD
>am self-employed and work on commission
>so damn hard to get shit finished on time
>like, it's not even fucking funny
>want to get medicated
>look for psychiatrists in my area
>can't find any that take my insurance
>hospital has program and will take my insurance
>yay!
>6+ month long waiting list just to be accepted
>fuck
>call mental health center
>apparently I'm not a "severe" enough case to be accepted
>go to your doctor, anon!"
>Go to doctor
>"I can't really help you. Go to a psychiatrist, anon!"
>Call hospital about their psyche program
>"We can't really help you for long while, anon. Call your insurance!"
>call insurance
>"Go to your doctor, anon!"
>FUCKING FUCK FUCKITY FUCKING SHIT
>Well, hopefully I can call the mental health center again because I am definitely having thoughts of suicide over what a degenerate piece of shit I am who can't focus or get anything done
>ha! ha ha! ha!
>ha.

cgl related because I'm a seamstress and stuff.

>>7838927
Matthew pls calm down lol

>>7838955
most of my friends are female but ok.
I just dont like girls who think every and any event is an excuse to buy them stuff even after dating for just a week. I get paying the bill but you cant ask for $$$ gifts on the spot, that makes it obvious that youre a golddigger
Someone like pic related is what I had in mind when I said poor/humble.

>all these Secret Santa groups starting up online and at work

Fucccck I'm so excited to start shopping, drawing and making shit for other people

>>7838927
is faggot really still a slur?

>>7838989
Yes. On 4chan it may be something like a term of endearment, but in the real world it's still a slur.

>>7838989

>>7838975
The problem here is your shit taste in girls, Anon. If all the girls you know behave like that (expecting you to buy them stuff anytime and $$$ gifts every week), well, get to know better girls.

If you think every girl is a gold digger and expecting the guy to invest $$$ on every occasion, and think you should date a poor/humble girl to avoid that... Than sorry Anon, you are completly socially retarded and don't deserve a girlfriend anyway.
"Waah wah all the girls are gold digger, only humble girls are date worthy ;_; :( :(" sound like guys who think girls who wear revealing clothes are all slutty bitches, or that asshole who thinky chubby girls should be grateful and fall on their knees for a blowjob because you granted them your precious attention.

No girl I know expects the guy to buy them $$$ gifts on every occasion, and none of the girls I know would appreciate dating a guy only becuase they are poor, and therefore they have to be grateful for every like penny you spend on them like that is a measurement of a good relationship. Pls Anon, think about relationships and hw they work, than you'll soon figure out why no one wants to be with you.

>>7838769
>>7838780
>>7838780
>>7838769


>projecting this hard

i got two replies and one of them was basically saying i should read other people's problems and the other being a guy just saying everything is goign to be alright.

>>7838989

>>7839009
> tfw you weren't baiting

Idk maybe it has to do with the fact english isn't my native language so I don't see the problem as much with that term

>tfw not a kawaii azn

I mean I'm a pale Scandinavian blonde but sometimes I wish I looked like SNSD or Misako

>>7839010
Well that's understandable
But yes, 'faggot' is a negative term for a gay person

>people itt falling for the b8 from the r9k shill
Heh, nope. Not even once. There's a formula here.
>tfw no gf
>but all grills are beaches and shores who want the $$$ I certainly don't possess
>I-I'm not socially maladjusted...no u

>always thought getting with girl who already had a boyfriend was a shitty thing to do
>thought that it was bad to enable a cheater like that
>yesterday I spend the whole day having sex with a girl who's in a realtionship
>my moral sense isn't as strong as I thought

>>7838952

Decent looking. Lots of dish. Connections. You are sheltered anon. You have no personality to speak off. You are like your post said. A blank slate.

>>7839024
>always thought cheaters should kill themselves
>cheated on ex
>still think cheaters should kill themselves
>lack the resolve to do it

That was years ago. Everyone's a hypocrite sometimes, but some mistakes are much bigger than others. You and I are in a club, and our membership cards say "ASSHOLE."

>>7839035
>killing yourself because you made a bad sexual decision
So do you have an incurable STD? Did you give it to the partner you cheated on?

You made...omg...a bad moral decision like everyone else does on the planet at some point! It's not special. Too bad people put fidelity up on such an untouchable pedestal that they seriously believe it's worth dying over. Just imagine how many hormonal high schoolers would be jumping off bridges right now if that were the next rational move...
See a shrink.

>>7839029
I've always been kinda sheltered, coming from a family with money we've never really had any problems so to speak, yet unfortunately we've also never experienced the growth that comes from dealing with said problems. What I'm looking for is advice on how to
fill that blank slate

>>7839044
I just really, really don't like how much I hurt my ex. He was emotionally wrecked for a long time. I don't handle guilt well at all, still have nightmares about shitty things I did/said as a kid.

You're right in that I'm overreacting, though. I am seeing a therapist, and one of the goals she outlines for me was to acknowledge and move past guilt.

>>7838654
I feel for you anon but...
I told you, did I not?

>>7839052
>I just really, really don't like how much I hurt my ex.
It's not just about your ex, you know. You're a person too and your feelings evidently were equally as hurt by an action that was perhaps rushed, impulsive, or forced upon you in a tense situation.

Yes, it's a shame that your ex was devastated. But you know something? Emotionally stable people eventually get over it and forgive it.
If you two weren't married, had nothing to divide upon ending the relationship, didn't develop any STDs, and you didn't get knocked up then what was really lost that cannot be healed with time? Some trust issues? Kid stuff compared to some truly devastating challenges that you may come to face yet.
No ex relationship is worth dying over.

>>7839044
Yo don't lump the rest of us in with cheaters. All the dumb decisions I make only affect me.
>not cheating on partner
>untouchable pedestal
It's really quite easy, actually. It's definitely not something worth killing yourself over but it's certainly a shitty thing to do that, no, not everyone does at some point in their lives.

>>7838654
Sounds exactly like where I live, just without the heroin problem

>>7839006
Nigger I fucking took time out of my day to give you pointers, and you should have read those other posts already because they were for no gf/bf sperglords like yourself.
>"They have nothing in common"
You coward. You can't admit it to yourself but there's nothing unique about you or your situation.

Here's an anime of the shittiest MC who is a Hikikomori that is still better than you : Welcome to the NHK.

>>7839061
>All the dumb decisions I make only affect me.
Give it time and it will become more obvious that you are. Everyday in some cases.

Also, do you use plastic bottles?
Do you drive a car?
Do you buy goods make from sweatshops made in China, Mexico, or India?
The fact is you make a morally compromised decision that effects people everyday whether you unconsciously or indirectly do it.
Sorry, I don't take kindly to the morality police who think they're above wrong just because they haven't committed a certain action...yet.

>Apply to fitness club thinking they won't respond
>They do
>Mfw when I'm that soft skinny, not toned at all
>Do I pretend to like fitness or???

>>7839075
>you don't like fitness
>you apply for a fitness club
>"Should I pretend guys?"
So....why did you do it exactly? What do you think they do in fitness club? Snack and talk about how skinnyfat they are?

>>7839005

Not that anon but if you go around showing you have money it attracts a certain crowd. The reason you and your friends probably value every dollar cause they are dating other poor people that can't afford to spend lots of $$$. Not every girl is a gold digger but only those ones will approach cause most "normal" girls will feel you at out of their league.

Your advice about just meeting new girls? Well that was his question from the beginning. If only it was that easy to walk up and just start talking to people...

>>7838800
To me it sounds like you need some time to figure things out away from this friend.

You don't need to be alone or to ignore them entirely, but it sounds like you're too supportive and nice to other people for your own good.
If you would like to become more charismatic, it is a skill you can learn, and you have the power of the internet and a bunch of people willing to give you pointers. The key to charisma is confidence in yourself.
Your friend is attractive more because she has something to offer others as opposed to just being pretty, she holds a conversation well, she's entertaining, or she just listens better.

Do something that makes you happy outside of your time spent with this friend, it will help you develop yourself outside of her sphere of influence. If you pick something with a strong community around it, you'll have things to talk about with complete strangers, and you'll be offering more to the table that just your looks alone.

>>7838811
If you'd just start getting your feet wet and asking girls out, you'd have better luck.
For goddsakes don't be another Elliot.

>>7839067
Mte.
>"I contribute to the pollution of the environment and brainless consumerism that destroys lives but HAHA I am still morally superior because I haven't fucked another human being while going out with another human being yet!"

I guess people choose to ignore the former because it's not as visible and immediate as the latter?

>>7839075

dont worry about it.

>>7839005
but thats not what Im saying at all. It was an exaggeration.
No one is going to be any which way by default I know that. Nor has to be indebted when pampered. Its just that out of experience, the less the girl has the more she focuses on the relationship itself and not how much he's willing to spend. It was more of an example of what can factor in as a red flag or not.
Just want someone that genuinely shares similar interests and to keep each other company and bond in doing so.

>>7839107
>Its just that out of experience, the less the girl has the more she focuses on the relationship itself and not how much he's willing to spend. It was more of an example of what can factor in as a red flag or not.

Still Anon, I know what you mean but it makes you sound incredible awkward and kinda douchey. Money does not determine a girl's character. There are a lot of poorfag girls around that look for a richer bf to pay for whatever they want, and a lot of rich girls who don't want their bf to buy anything, because they have all the money to buy it themselves.

I feel the same way sometimes for the same reasons. All of the people I am surrounded by make money and are really talented in the tech field and I'm still just a bottom barrel cashier.

The way I cope with my goals being so far from reality is I started making a garden, not physically, I live in an apartment, but I've created a list of all the plants I want to grow.
Over half of them are poisonous as I've come to realize, so I've been researching their toxins and learning about biology here and there that will doubtlessly be of use sometime later.
Actually I've started looking into becoming a Toxicologist because of my little garden idea.

You don't have to start big, you don't have to be a big person to do great things, just start small.
I have no idea what my work will accomplish later, and I can hazard a guess to say your friends didn't either when they started.

Chill out and learn to accept yourself, if you can't be a scientist, make the best goddamn bread this side of the hill, or knit the fluffiest socks, or have the best 'good night' song.
You could even get really good at persuasive essays and do blog journalism.
Who knows?
You might have a sharpshooter's eye and would be great at archery or rifle shooting, but you've never done it so you don't know.
You don't have to be perfect, just know what your demons are and don't let them speak for you.
You'll be a better person, and your kids will learn from you that imperfection is human.
Don't force them to be scientists, but encourage them to enjoy things, and get good at them so it can improve their lives later.

>>7839118
This was to:
>>7838859

>>7838958
Get your doc to refer you to someone for the suicidal thoughts. At the very least if you're in CA you'll get a Med Card.

>>7839113
makes sense, didnt try to come across that way. Just getting tired of falling into that cycle though. Either crazy or trying to dine and dash.
Whats wrong with wanting a cosplay gf though? I actually wouldnt mind funding her hobby if its something were both into.
Im not new to relationships, its more Im done dating basic women and trying to find out how to start dating my "own kind"

>>7839075
Just tell them what you want to accomplish, and they'll help you get a diet plan / the exercises you should do together. If it's any good they won't just expect you to come in chewing creatine anon.

>>7839134
Oh, I meant for a job. As in, I would be a membership consultant there, not a member. Sorry, I worded that so weird.

>>7839065
>nigger

there were no pointers at all. i dont know what you are thinking of and for the common part there really wasn't.

i read the whole thread and it was mostly girls saying tfw no bf because they are spergs

none like me and my original post which asked the question where do 21 year olds who arent in college meet girls.

you really are stretching things

>Saw a girl on campus yesterday walk into campus with one of these Sailor Moon sweatshirts
>Looked super cute and I wanted to compliment her but she was walking so fast
Why is it every time a girl wears something cute it's like the thing's statted to increase movement speed? Drives me nuts.

>tfw got results for the second part of licensing exam today
>good news: I passed!
>bad news: barely
>even more bad news: this is bad for job apps
>tfw I probably need a bottle of vodka to get through these apps

Whelp, at least I don't have to worry about taking a 9 hour exam again?

>>7839061
See, I thought that way until I almost did it and I came to realize it's hardly that simple in life.

Yes, some people *are* just cunts with poor impulse control. Some people really are just uncaring, or actively want to hurt you, but for majority of the time a relationship's dynamic will turn out to be a lot more complex.

Yes, it's good that you'd never do it, you can feel good about that, but you don't have to set it aside as only committed by some special, terrible group of people.

I almost cheated on my partner, and later came to find out that at some point, I had been cheated on. I can't even describe all the feels, there's a lot involved in there that's too tl;dr for this post. But right now our relationship is so freaking good that if that's what had to happen to get us to this point, then so be it. People make shitty decisions, they hurt each other. They also have the capacity to change and grow from their mistakes.

>>7839162
Friends or friends of friends. If you can't make any friends there's little hope of you being able to keep a girl"friend". I make friends by finding people at cons who are the same fandom as me. Cosplaying from that series makes it 100x easier to connect, but it's not necessary. Good luck, and godspeed.

>>7839204
Do the job apps require you to state your score? Just put pass on your resume and you're good to go.

>>7839182
I was gonna make fun of you but then I remembered this one time I saw some lady in the mall with a Keroro handbag

I wanted to make note of it but suddenly she was SANIC

>>7839236
They can tell that you're about to bother them and gtfo.

I basically have the proportions of Gipsy Danger.

it's OK, I guess. Kinda wish my torso was longer

>>7838794
>this is what uggos actually tell to themselves
>s-someday, r-right?!
>;_;

>>7839084
She's actually moving away in a few months for a while, so we are definitely getting time away from each other.

She's a good listener, other than that she is awkward and shy in a good kind of quirky way. Guys eat it right up and want to protect her. Heck I'm protecting her half the time from creeps at cons and what not. We have gone through a lot together and you are right that I always want to be nice and supportive of my friends, to the degree that It might not be that good for me. (I'm basically the non-boyfriend girldude in our bromance. I'm guessing it might not be surprising to say I always cosplay the dominant dudes when we pair cosplay?)

And the more I write the more I realize that it will definitely be good for us to be apart for a while. I guess I'm kinda jealous things always happen around her? Which is weird since I'm sure she feels the same. I have a lot of things she feels she lacks.

I have low self-esteem but high confidence most of the time. (The bad achievement-based type of confidence that shatters as soon as you fail at something.) I'm working on it. Books and the internet help. Felt nice just writing about it. Thank you for reading and taking the time to reply.

>last night
>bored as fuck
>let's go to egl
>oh, the banner is so perdy
>scrolling....
>my face

>>7838695
I know that feel. I hate my wide feet and all, but I'd rather deal with one physical flaw than two. My stupid jaw decided to grow out crookedly, so I'll never be photogenic with a million selfies until I actually get surgery on it, in which I should, but it's too fucking expensive to do it in the U.S.

Apparently, it's considered a cosmetic problem (even though I am diagnosed with TMJ and symptoms could worsen with age), but if my jaw gets injured, my insurance should be able to cover a majority of it, and this is why I ride my bike without a helmet.

>>7839182
Probably because she's used to getting more negative comments than positive ones so when she sees someone checking her out she make run for it before that person gets the chance to ridicule and insult her. Same reason you often see alt girls with big headphones and resting bitchface. It sucks that it makes us unapproachable, but keeping assholes at bay is often more important if we want to stay sane.

All of my con friendships became awkward and strained because of issues and it makes me sad.
I also want to join a local Lolita comm, but I don't have a big closet. It will probably be fine if I joined now with the little that I have, but still. I don't to be the newbie ita.

I don't know how to convince myself that my boyfriend treats me like shit and I should leave him. I tried to detach myself from him and it only made me cling on to him more.

>Tells me how stupid I am
>When he phones me while he's hanging out with his friends he'll yell at me and make me look like an idiot
>Calls me a cunt, a bitch, a retard, a tool, you name it and he's probably called me it on several occasions
>He has a terrible temper, but once he's seen he drove me to tears by how he treats me he'll apologize
>Has been spending very little time with me lately
>I don't get why I love him
>I don't even know if I love him, or if I'm just clinging on to someone for emotional comfort
>While he's away I try to tell myself to just think of all the shit he puts me through and forget about him
>I end up doing the opposite

God, I feel like I'm going fucking crazy. I don't have a single person in my life except for him. Not one. I try to take my mind off him by doing something else, but I can't! I end up blaming myself when he's the one who fucking treats me like shit. It's as if I'm having a battle with myself.

>>7839250
>seventeen year olds think this isn't the sad truth of life
It's okay, we were all young and naive once.

>>7839182
What this >>7839280 Anon said.
I always avoid looking into people's faces, I always walk fast, listen to music and put on a big bitchface to keep assholes, creepers and unwanted comments away. It's sad but that's what you have to do once you decide wearing something attention grabbing. I probably missed a lot of people wanting to compliment/talk to me without intending to do so... So don't give up! If you see her the next time, try to make clear you are a normal human being and I am sure she is more than happy to talk to you.

>>7839285
yeah nah youre fucked
first step is getting over him yourself then breaking it off otherwise you will repeat the cycle. If you need emotional support you have us, we're probably not as bad as him and there are a few guys on this board who you can chat with if you just want a guy to talk to.

>>7839182
Sometimes when I wear kawaii things I get nervous about looking like a fool and unconsciously walk faster.

It happens. Sorry anon!

>>7839285
>I don't have a single person in my life except for him.
This is literally the biggest reason why he has so much power over you and you can't seem to leave. Not having anybody, especially not IRL, means the worst part of an abusive relationship (the breakup) will become even more difficult.

First step is find people. You don't have any family?

>>7839285
>I don't even know if I love him, or if I'm just clinging on to someone for emotional comfort
>I don't have a single person in my life except for him

You just answered your own question. Please leave him. He doesn't respect you at all.

>tfw shitty sjw mods everywhere

>>7839285
http://thestir.cafemom.com/love_sex/138933/15_signs_youre_in_an

>>7839285
Guess what? You're in what one of my friends calls the abuse triangle (Karpman drama triangle). Best of luck getting out.

>>7839375
http://www.fortrefuge.com/Karpman-Drama-Triangle.php

>tfw realizing I just bought the last lolita dress in stock from an online shop

>>7839220
>>7839220
thanks for the actual advice. too bad my friends' only friends are me and themselves.

i dont go to cons because im too shy and embarassed to show power level

>don't even have a reason to wake up in the morning, just hoping something doesn't break making my life even more inconvenient.
>costumes I want to do are becoming more and more difficult, and I don't have the sewing skills or really the interest, so I probably will have to swallow my pride and buy some costumes.

>>7839306
No, I don't have any family. My mother and I haven't spoke to each other in 6 years and my father isn't around.
I'm not good at making friends.

>>7839312
That's the scary part. I know he doesn't. I'm scared of leaving him. I won't have anything.
I wanted to get myself to realize how terrible he is for me, but I just end up clinging to him more. I hate it. I don't know HOW to stop it.

>>7839233

Yeah, we're required to submit our official scores, unfortunately.

I'm holding out hope because I know some classmates of mine who applied last year with 'barely passed' scores and still got interviews, even though they were applying for more competitive programs. Furthermore, I passed both times and a lot of programs I'm looking at are looking for 'passed both tests after 4 attempts' or something along those lines, so I'm hopeful.

Worse comes to worse I can always try again next year after I beef up the resume, but at least I passed and don't have to take the test again.

>>7839285
You have us for emotional support, but I think maybe calling the NDVH and talking to someone there could help.
>http://www.thehotline.org/

If your bf is the nosy kind, open that link incognito. They have a chat you can use instead of calling them too if you can't call.

>>7839204
I didn't even go to my licensing exam and quit my insurance job buuuut good luck to you, anon!

>>7839406
If he's abusive and dragging you down, you have less than nothing right now - having nothing would be a gain.

Talking to someone knowledgeable can be a positive step.
http://www.thehotline.org/what-is-live-chat/
http://www.loveisrespect.org/

>>7839107
Hey, genius, have you ever considered that humble/poor girls work harder on the relationship because they want to establish a bond that will lead to your money? They could be playing the long game on you.

>>7839387
What was it? I want to know if I should hate you or not.

I visit this board almost exclusively for these threads, and I don't know why.

>>7838562
This chart is all fucking over the place

>>7839266
I miss the good posts on there. Now it's all newfags who think that egl is still where stuff is at. Now people are moving to facebook and tumblr, and here.

>meetup this weekend
>only three other people going
>eleven maybes
>Stuff still in the mail
>please switch to going
>hope people aren't coming because I'm far away and not because they don't like me

>>7839457
Not gonna say~
Though if you are in a schadenfraude-ish mood, I settled for a colorway that wasn't my first or second choice. Not too upset about it, especially since I forgot to get the matching blouse.

>tfw your friends have been acting like bitches lately
>tfw you realise they might actually be jealous of you

I just wanna be your friend gdi stop acting like we're 5.

/cgl/ related because we met ages ago through a lolita meetup.

I wish you'd put your hunger for cosplay fame on hold and just hang out with me.

>>7839162
You're the one stretching shit mang. I lid it out, even gave you an idea of what to start with. As to 'where' as in, physical location, fuckin open your eyes. I said get a hobby, there are places people with hobbies go, get hobby, go to place, talk about hobby. It's not that hard to figure out if you stopped letting yourself be mollycoddled.

>>7839491
Same here anon. I need to get a fucking life.

>>7838873

>>7839016
>SNSD
muh nigga
why can't i be jessica or sunny

>>7839758
you can. they've all had plastic surgery. not even real azns look like them.

>tfw I'm selling all my BJD and vinyl toys for more lolita and otome
>I wonder if I would be resorting to this if I had a steady paycheck
>oh well

Decluttering's always good, I suppose.

>>7839758
I just want to be as cute as Sunny one day...

>>7839767
I dunno, they had to be pretty cute to start out with, right? .....right?

>get up early and do housework to get it out of the way
>time to sew!
>lay out fabric you want to work on and turn on the iron
>start pressing out all the storage creases and folds
>suddenly
>iron stops working
>notice fan has turned off too

So apparently, using anything heat-generating in my house at the moment trips the "safety" breaker and turns off all power. This means I can't iron my fabric. It also means I can't toss it in the dryer with a damp handcloth to get the creases out, because that also trips the breaker. So basically, I have the choice to sew with wrinkled, creased material or not sew at all. And I'm kind of fucking annoyed.

TFW I made a really good cosplay for kid sister. All I need now is to try it on her and make final adjustments but she won't let me because it is "good enough". She also refuses to wear makeup or do her hair to suit the character because she doesn't really care that much about accuracy even though she is supposedly a HUUUGE fan of said character.

Im tempted to not let her wear the cosplay and to fit it to myself instead if she is going to be a little shit about it.

These feels what do I do with them

>best friend with chick for over ten years
>people usually asks why friends with her
>I can pretend normal but friend can't
>both into kawaii shit and generally socially awkward
>I realize shes a shit friend
>has new boyfriendo true wuv and started notice things
>is there for me financially and help like moving and things that dont inconvience her
>emotionally unavailable, rarely makes time for us, especially with new boyfriend its become glaringly obvious
>patronizing when I go off in tangents and spaghetti about mango and animu
>i'm her wingman in social situations, but stands around awkwardly when I ask her to help me out
>dedicated an entire week to celebrate her siblings bday
>still waiting for the fancy dinner she promised for my bday
>in august
>never calls barely texts back
>has told me she didnt want to hang out cuz she wants to rest or catch up on sleep, but with new boyfriendo she gets 5 to 6 hours sleep
>I thought I loved her at some point
>realized it was more a Basil to Dorian Grey thing
>she was my everything I would do anything and try anything for her
>today last straw
> I confronted herba couple weeks ago about her selfishness, she cried I cried and she promised to change.
>last week was sibling week
>today we were supposed to hang out
>dress up and clear schedule
>"hey sorry I thought that was still in the airsince neither of us actually said a definite yes, now I have other plans, but like I said last time, I usually have wed and fri free, so let me know :)"
>:)
> :)

....im ready to call it quits. I cant anymore, I originally thought she was trying to hurt me (which she rid admit to doing bc of stress...) but now I almost positive its a fundamental problem she has within. She asked me for patience that time we spoke all srs, but I dont want to be in a friendship where I give and give and she takes and gives back in the physical sense.

am I overreacting? Am I so autistic that this is a normal adult friendship?

>computer breaks
>cousing says it's impossible to fix
>ask him if he could build me a new decent computer so i can play stuff on it
>he says yes

>that was a year ago
>still no computer
>he recently gave me another computer that he said it was almost as good as my old one
>i can't even open the sims 2 in this fucking computer wtf

i'm so annoyed and my mother won't even let me use the money for my grant to buy me a new one.

i know i'm probably acting like a child because i just want a decent gaming computer but it annoys me to have tons of games without being able to play them.

i wish i knew shit about computers so i could actually know how to upgrade this computer or build a new one but i don't know shit.

>>7839845
Omg sorry for huge post, this is first time I post in feels threa for me, I just reply usually, but im so sad and mad and urgh. I don't think she uses 4chan but if she sees this yeah call me. Like asap.

typing from a tiny ass window in galaxy, how do I enlarge this freaking thing.... I apologuze for the glaring spelling errors I missed orz

>>7839819
My lil'bro is just like that. How old is she? If she's under 10, just let her be. If she's under 14, then just convince her that it's important that she looks like since she's going to model and represent your sewing skills. If she's over 14, then just let her be and she'll probably learn from her mistakes later on if she's not a huge sperg.

>>7839848
There's tutorials all over the internet. The only thing really worth being worried about when building one for the first time is installing the CPU properly. The rest is just doing your research beforehand to make sure the components you buy are compatible.

http://www.logicalincrements.com/

>>7839845
I'd honestly say just drop her if she's knowingly treating you like shit. I'm not sure how you confronted her, or what was said, so bear with me: confront her again, but this time tell her it's over and don't give her room to weasel her way back into your life. Tell her that she's treating you like shit and that you don't need an inconsiderate asshole as a friend. Be blunt, be harsh, and make her cry, it's the only way to get through to people like this. Make her realize her faults and again, I can't stress this enough, don't let her weasel her way back in. You don't need this, you deserve better, and you've put up with enough shit already. Block her everywhere and don't read anything she might try to send you.

>>7838710
>Called him a faggot
Honestly, you're lucky you didn't get fired immediately, becuase I would have at my job. That kind of behavior isn't acceptable in a workplace, anon. Grow up.

>>7838710
>Not realizing most people would go to HR if someone called them a faggot, despite dating them.
>Not realizing you're lucky you didn't get fired.

Dude, it doesn't matter if he's lazy. Call him out on that, but slurs are a double edged sword. Maybe you'll get under their skin, but chances are it'll come back to bite you, no matter who it is.

If I were you, I'd go complain about him being a lazy sack of shit to someone higher up. Don't bring up that you called him a faggot or it'll bite you in the ass, but they'll probably look into it or hear about it anyways if they do a proper investigation.

>>7838723
Homophobe. Racist. Expects to keep his job. LOL.

>Send e-mail to pre-order dress
>Finally get reply saying reservation period's over
> be sad
>Go look at page again
>Reservations ended the 25th of AUGUST

I'm an idiot

Man, I'm so fucking annoyed. It's weird that as long as I've been around this site (let alone the internet), I still get worked up over the male-dominated boards (or maybe I'm just noticing it more; I want to say it's the latter).

I love music and love cooking, but I hate feeling fucking unwelcomed at boards (and even in real life situations) or I feel like I have to hide my gender just because I'm a girl. I'm so fucking sick and tired of the "tits or gtfo" mentality. I don't even care if people are just joking around. It's fucking 2014.

Talking about lolita/J-fashion and cosplay on other forums (leddit/fb) just doesn't happen, and addition to egl's downgrade, I'm glad I can depend on you cgl.

>>7839288
I'm the exact opposite, when I put on my cute and/or J-fashion clothes I feel more confident and smile at people who walk past if they catch my eye.

>>7839967
>>7839972
>>7839984

>>7838465
Depression made me lose 20lbs...
But Im too depressed to work on my cosplay

fuck this feel

>Sees a dream dress on lm
>It's 80 bucks more than the last time a seller posted it
>Only difference is that there's a headbow included
>mfw apparently a headbow costs $80

Dunno if I should contact the seller and make an offer or just wait till the seller lowers the price.

>>7840009
The reason it's like that is because 95% of the time if a girl reveals her gender it's completely unnecessary and she's doing it to get extra attention to her post from thirsty fucks. Why the fuck do you need everyone to know on /ck/ or /mu/ of all fucking places?

>>7840033
Its not needing to know, but if you have to change the way you would say a sentence on a goddamn anonymous image board, it gets fucking annoying

>>7840038
As a guy on /cgl/, I totally understand and empathize with you.

See what I did there?

>>7840033
I generally don't feel the need to do that either and I prefer the anonymity.

Thing is,people have seriously assumed that I was a guy on other boards (not just those two) and because of the context of the conversion, there are occasions when I have to correct them.

>OP: Hey, guys, I want to make dinner for my SO, any ideas?
>Anon: lolol, she's probably not going to eat whatever OP's making

Feel threads happen in other boards, too.

Even in boards/threads where I just lurk, it's so depressing to be lumped in with casuals and it's unfortunate that a majority happen to be females.

Man. I seriously need to come up with some resumés and do some job hunting. I know it'll save money to move back with my parents, but I enjoy the "freedom" of not living at home, there are more job opportunities here, and a friend offered me to move in with them. The location isn't exactly nice, but the rent is cheap and I'd love to co-care for his dog (I've always wanted one). It would be a nice change from living so close to campus. I'd just have to deal with removing dog hair from my clothes all of the time.

>tfw decisions, decisions.

>>7840038
completely agree with you. I've been going to some guys boards too and never thought I needed to tell "hai guyz ima a grill"

Recently been dealing with the fact my father sexually assaulted me and my brother when we were kids.

I confronted my father about it and left now I'm looking after me and my little brother which isn't bad because I've lived out of home before its only bad because I want him to live a good life yanno and I can be a bit silly.

I'm worried like I'm to emotionall damaged for it to be sensible for me to get into a relationship? I think girls would probably be turned off hey like at what point do you tell a girl that I guess. I'm worried I'd be a bad boyfriend now because of that emotional baggage, really. I'd hate to think i'd hurt someone because of it. So now I'm really afraid to get into a relationship or even pursue girls really which is fucking shit. I loved a girl and i sorta still do but it was an affair and she chose him not me, got burnt hard as.

oh well man its also bad because ok this sounds fucking stupid but girls generally go for me i think because like im pretty tough and scary and do crimes and stuff but im actually really sensitive and it seems that they're always surprised

>>7840090
I guess that's some kind of thing you have to talk about later in the relationship? if the girl likes you enough she'll understand, no worries.

also, so very sorry for you, anon! take good care of you brother

>>7840101
Oh it's alright thank you, I'm honestly not upset about the abuse I guess more about losing my father and creating a rift in the family. I'm gonna try and take good cre of my little brother he's such a goof hahah so it's good he's got me I guess. He wouldn't have been able to confront dad because he's scared of him so i guess i did the right thing but it hurt alot hey.

Yeah my fear is like to create guilt or something. Like any kind of negative emotion like sadness or whatever just creates more negative emotions and i want me and whichever young lady i'm with to be as happy as possible hey. My last relationship was an affair, with her being the one cheating and it got to the point where she said talking to me and knowing what had happened made her feel disgusted and I'd never want my presence to influence someone like that.

>>7838516
Why are they all white and either plain or ugly? I'm willing to bet a self absorbed white guy made this.

>>7840090
My boyfriend was raped, knew it fairly early on. I didnt care. Everyone has "emotional baggage", its called being alive for more than 6 years.

>>7840115
Thanks anon, sorry if I'm coming off a sook I am just nervous about this I guess. Men (myself included) forget alot of the time that women actually can like you for who you are and you don't have to create an image or identity to project to em like they're some sorta weird other species.

>tfw night before a con/meet you cave and pick at your skin

everytime.jpeg

>>7840110
**girl
You mean a self-absorbed white girl.
A guy would put "I am 10/10. Date me."

>>7840139
ughhhh I have almost the same issue. whenever i don't sleep I get extra greasy and the night before a con I'm always up until 5am packing, fixing things and worrying. so BAM zits everywhere for the con.

>>7840142
if it was a girl they would be better looking and less guys-guy, if it was a girl on 4chan there would be more god-tier azns. I can see your bitter MRA poking through

tfw you fapped to this set 3 times before realising Psylocke don't even looked Asian

if I'm extremely shy is there anyway I'd get a gf? I feel like I'm annoying people when I talk to them at uni, and other than that I really have no idea how to talk to people.
d-do I have any kind of chance?

>Want to go to an anime convention
>None of my friends are willing to go
>Join anime club at my college trying to make some friends to go to a convention with
>The entire club is nothing but meme-spouting spastic idiots and I can't fucking stand them.
>Entire time I'm in a meeting I'm nervous as fuck that one of my friends or fraternity brothers is going to see me sitting with them.

Should I stay in the club? They're going to a convention later in the year and I'm more than likely not going to have any other way to go to these cons at a future point of my life. I just want to go to one before I lose the chance to.

Is it possible to chat with people from /cgl/ and make plans that way? I just want to have a good time and talk to people about anime without having to worry about their BO problems.

>>7840199
/cgl/ girls are scared of frat bros seeing their powerlevel? is this the same as dudes being scared of hot girls seeing them in a weak position?

>>7840188
[spoiler]no[/spoilersdontwork]

>>7840188
If you're at a university you probably have a gym, if you haven't already start lifting. Probably wouldn't hurt to shove your cargo shorts in the closet and take a trip to /fa/ too.

Join a club if you haven't already, all clubs party. From there just try your best to be confident in yourself and talk to girls. The key thing is to not be afraid of rejection. You can't sit around all day with your thumb up your ass for the perfect moment cause it won't come. It's okay if you make it somewhat obvious you're interested in a girl as long as you're friendly and engaging enough.

>>7840188
Yeah, if your parents arrange the marriage for you. (happened to one of my friends)

>>7840202
>/cgl/ girls are scared of frat bros seeing their powerlevel? is this the same as dudes being scared of hot girls seeing them in a weak position?
I don't really understand your post, when did I say that /cgl/ girls are afraid of fraternity brothers?

>>7840203
kill me
>>7840207
eh, I'm not into partying.
>>7840209
okay, yeah, I have no hope, I get it.

>>7840213
>eh, I'm not into partying.
Even if you're not into partying I really doubt you're not into having fun.

People do different things at parties you'd be surprised how often people end up playing Melee or just sitting on the roof doing nothing. You can go to parties without being into the party scene, I know I'm not.

>>7840212
>Entire time I'm in a meeting I'm nervous as fuck that one of my friends or fraternity brothers is going to see me sitting with them.


:^)

>>7840219
I'm not a girl though, I'm a guy.

>>7840221
you are one raging faggot

>Close friend gained weight due to depression.
>A lot of her wardrobe doesn't fit her anymore.
>She's slowly losing weight again, but she can't buy new things in case they're too big when she loses all the weight.
>Feel bad about getting new things because she's limited to about 4 main pieces right now.
>She doesn't want to attend meetups because she keeps having to wear the same things.
>Find a really cute skirt on LM for $40, tons of shirring and it'd easily fit her current weight and would fit her when she lost weight.
>Find nice chiffon blouse in thrift store to match.
>Planning big meetup next month and the skirt should arrive by then.
>I can't wait to see her face when the skirt arrives. I'm looking forward to seeing my friend happy again.

>>7840188
>>7840203
>>7840207
>>7840213

dont listen to that guy


lifting does very little unless you do it for 4+years with hard work and good diet. or unless you take steroids

people say lifting doesnt take much time and there is lots of time in the day but if you are going 5 days a week around 1.5 hours a day it adds up. and the fact you have a limit of giving fucks in one day and you dont want to waste that on lifting if you arent even going to look good.

half the hot guys in hot guy cosplay threads that are swole are on steroids and the other half is photoshopped and makeup muscle.

im srs you will only look try hard with very little results

>>7840223
How?

Even if the answer is dumb I'm curious

>>7840227
By those first sentences and pic related I honestly thought this was going to lead to you being happy you get to use her clothes she doesn't fit in anymore.

>>7840228

>>7840228
>lifting does very little unless you do it for 4+years with hard work and good diet. or unless you take steroids
>half the hot guys in hot guy cosplay threads that are swole are on steroids and the other half is photoshopped and makeup muscle.

You clearly don't know much about lifting. You can get pretty substantial results after just a year and the reasons to lift go beyond just aesthetics and health, it builds confidence. When you experience you're body getting stronger you feel better about yourself and you're more likely to put yourself out there.

>>7840227
You're a lovely friend. I hope everything goes perfectly and she's delighted with everything.

>>7840233
I'm a bit limited for reaction images as I'm on my phone right now. I honestly feel terrible when she offers to let me try on her clothes, I often just say they're not my style because I feel like I'd be rubbing it in.

>>7840235
>>7840236

you guys must have been lifting for 6months~1 year to be like that.

you think you are going to keep growing at that rate and pace?

you think noobie gains last forever?

you think you are going to be like chris jones/ matt ogus?

i fucking laff. your gains will slow and you will see.

post pics of your bodies with timestamp i guarantee you guys havent even lifted for 2 years

AND I GUARAN-FUCKING-TEE you will not post time-stamp and dont even try to spin this off as a gay thing because i know you guys are going to try and pussy out with the low hanging fruit of an escape.

>>7840251
>no replies

>>7840265
>im right once again
>mfw

guys get a lot of hope in their first year of lifting. i went through it myself and saw people in /fit/ and my real life friends go through it as well so i am quite jaded
you can lift though if you purpose is to just become a better you but dont think it will make you aesthetic or girls will be significantly more attracted to you

>>7840199
make a general thread about the convention, and then suggest a meet to any anons that happen to be going.

>wear cute otome outfit out shopping
>guy comes up to me and whispers "I want you" in my ear

>>7840251
>>7840265
>>7840274
I really don't see what you have against lifting. Look, here's what I look like but I've only been lifting for about 3 months and I used to weigh 240 pounds, now 185. I never claimed to be ripped even though I hope to be by the end of this year.

You're right in that gains won't be so great after a year or so but that's not going to stop me from lifting. My body gets stronger everyday and so does my perception of myself. it's worth the time and effort I've put into it.
>>7840285
Do anons normally communicate through IRC or Skype beforehand? I don't want to room with people I've never met before.

>>7840297
>>7840297
>>7840297
>>7840297


sick that you had the balls to post so i wont rip on you too hard but got dammit dont be telling guys to lift like some sage if you look like that.

its painfully obvious you are sticking your arm to your side with all your might to accentuate your arms and shoulder + hide love handles (you twisting your torso ever so slightly helped as well).

i know the camera tricks because i used to post progress pics all the time on /fit/ as well


you will be massively disappointed when you find out just how slow it gets over time.


>PS
i did say that lifting is fine if you are just trying to better yourself. just dont expect to get significantly aesthetic or significantly attract more girls.

people are use to seeing guys on low doses of steroids so they think most natural lifters look subpar

>>7838547
>hourglass shape but tiny boobs and not a very big butt
>waist is just god-awful ridiculously small

>>7840322
i suggest losing weight if you want get defined as one or the other

skinny faces usually look great

>>7840312
>>7840312
>got dammit dont be telling guys to lift like some sage if you look like that.
Fucking lol man, and frankly if you don't think lifting helps aesthetics in some way you're fucking crazy. I'm not going take some sperg who demands photographs after hearing "lifting helps" from people seriously. If you had something better to show you would've posted it.

I lost 60 pounds, almost doubled my strength, and GREATLY improved my facial aesthetics by getting off my ass. I don't need to look like Zyzz to tell people lifting helps, and I'll only get stronger the longer I stick with it.

>>7840329
great of you to just ignore 90% of my reply to fit your delusional fight against a "sperg"

its always the guys who havent even lifted a year who is always this hopeful. seeing their noobie gains they assume it will keep going and wont slow down much

also i wont post a pic because i already have an instagram that has pics of me in a pretty recognizable bathroom and i dont want it to ever get linked up to /cgl/

you can imagine all you want though because you can trick yourself and other unawares but i can see through you and know exactly what stage you are at in terms of thoughts on fitness

>>7840337
>also i wont post a pic because i already have an instagram that has pics of me in a pretty recognizable bathroom and i dont want it to ever get linked up to /cgl/
Holy shit you're such a colossal lying faggot. Next time I see some fat nerd doing some dumb ass double spaced typing thing I'll know it's you.

>>7840324
I'm skinny as shit, anon, I have nothing to lose but my organs at this point.

No ana pls, but I weigh 95 lbs at 5'5", I have a genetic disorder that makes it pretty much 100% impossible to gain more weight unless I drown myself or don't shit for a week.

I have a little bit of fat on my thighs, but everywhere else is pretty much bare minimum. I don't think there's a fix for it.

>>7840339
its probably hard for you to imagine but people actually use instagram.

in lots of cases including myself have 2 instagrams one for personal shiz and the other for lifting. if you think thats weird you havent been looking around much

needless to say i do not let them overlap as in there is no face pics on my lifting instagram and there are no pics of me shirtless or in my bathroom in my personal one.

>Decided to lose weight at the start of the year
>5' 6" 230lbs
>manged to get down to 140lbs
>never been so disgusted with myself
>went from fat with decent skin to average-ish with the most disgusting flabby skin ever
>can't even stomach looking at myself in the mirror
>neet with no friends, never leave the house
>considering gaining all of the weight back and pretending this year never happened

It would probably make my skin worse but I can't afford any surgery options

>>7840345
>get off your lazy ass
>exercise

>>7840344
My problem isn't that you use instagram you fucking nerd it's that you're trying to convince me that there is no fucking way you can take a picture of yourself without being identified and that someone who is so anti-fitness would actually have a fucking lifting instagram.

Just admit your full of shit, it's 2:30am here but seriously I'll be sure to give you shit next time I see someone doing your stupid double space thing.

>>7840297
Hey, I'm pretty sure I know you. You post on /r9k/, don't you?

>>7840352
Nah, never been.

>>7840348

where would i go and take a pic of my body other then my mirror in the bathroom?

also what can i say about instagram other than that i like the little attention it gives me. i dont have many followers but i still feel good when i get likes or nice comments. i know it wont translate in to the real world but its just a guilty pleasure and that is why i have two accounts

and you keep saying im anti fitness when i clearly stated twice that i am all for fitness if its just to become a better version of yourself. im only anti-fitness when spergs on /r9k/ /fit/ and /cgl/ think its going to make them significantly "aesthetic" or get significant more attraction from girls.

i have said this a total of 3 times now so if you keep on accusing me of anti-fitness or shit than i have no words

>>7840352
also lmao you post on /r9k/ strong life

>>7840090
Anon, the fact that you're able to confront it and discuss it is really important and a very positive thing.
I spent 3 years with somebody who was sexually abused as a child, but refused to acknowledge it any way. The only method they felt comfortable telling me was through Facebook message and any face-to-face discussion about it caused them to cut me off. I was madly in love with them up until the day our relationship ended, but in the end they just couldn't handle that I knew what had happened and pushed me further and further away.
I was never put off by what happened to them, and it never changed my opinion on who they were. Any decent person would feel the same, so I wouldn't worry.

fuck off /fit/

>>7840355
>>7840358

I'm not even sure what you guys are talking about, but I'm pretty sure I've seen that guy's dick before on /r9k/. He seems extremely familiar.

>>7840345
Lift some goddamn weights.
You've gone from fat to skinnyfat.
Go to /fit/, read the sticky.

>started out interested in cosplay because of absolute qt who does it
>she barely knows I exist

>>7840361
No

>>7840108
I lost my brother leaving my abusive family cause he's too brainwashed to think he deserves better, so take that as a positive. Create happiness within yourself, find peace and I guess it's good that you're worried about this affecting relationships but as long as you don't expect your partner to fix you it's okay. The right person will accept you as you and not as your past and help you be happy with who you are today. Don't give up

I am so sick of some people thinking they can trashtalk other cosplayers.

I can forgive someone who makes cosplays nitpicking others, because being able to pick out flaws can help you see flaws in your own work. And I can forgive a little complaining about people flaking from someone who at the very least USUALLY gets things done.

But that's not the case.

They flat-out trash everyone else while sitting there in the same 100% borrowed or, at best, bought off someone else costumes and too small wigs they ALWAYS wear. If you can't even figure out a wig is too small, you don't get to laugh at someone else's.

>>7840199
If there is truly no one decent at the club just don't. It's not worth it. You can always make friends at cons or arrange something on CGL.

Forcing yourself is seriously not worth it, especially if you are worrying about the social consequences. If you are having fun I'd say ignore what your friends or fraternity brothers would say, but you don't even seem to have fun so just flee from that anime club before it's too late and you become one of them.

God damn it J, rek your mother in the fucking asshole already and tell her to give you more freedom. (okay, not literally or anything).
Bad feels:
>tfw a few threads ago had super good feels about spaniard ldr bf across the pond
>tfw his mom swapped rooms with his grandmother and is now right next to his room
>his mother is apparently sort of tyrannical and has supersonic mom-hearing
>miss his voice
>feel selfish for wanting to skype with him because he has a life/responsibilities/preparing for uni next year
>havent been able to verbally speak in almost a week
>suffering so hard
We are still pretty "new" at this thing but speaking to him makes me really happy. Good god this sounds terrible, I belong in a shitty novel.
Better feels:
>hate sappy shit
>have been cold to J
>we end up on sour terms for most of this week
>finally swallow my pride and apologize (even though he was wrong, I feel)
>slowly opening up and trying to be more warm
>trying so hard to take things extremely slow but can imagine spending my life with him
>my mom and grandma both approve of him
Really hoping I can catch up on my schoolwork so I can go to uni there next year. (i have slacked a ton on it, homeschooling is terribly boring.)
>J is too sweet
>It is almost sickening
>he is diabetes-kun
>"I thought you said no cheesy stuff? I'm joking. I do miss your voice too, it's been some time since we last Skyped."
>"I will probably be able to Skype tomorrow evening... Depends on the amount of homework I have."
>o-oh diabetes-J-kun
>no, do your schoolwork before we speak again it is more important.
>tfw just want to be good gf
>tfw this turned out way longer than intended
Sorry anons, so many fucking feels right now. I'm in that "first few weeks/months" stage, I guess. My heart swells when I speak to him, even if it is really sporadic since we are 6 hours apart. I hope this feeling lasts.

I am so fucking mad at my SO.

He's been abusing pills. I'd be OK with him using pills every now and then (he uses uppers because we have long, shitty work schedules), but apparently he was full blown fucking addicted to this shit and I didn't realize the scale of it because he'd sneak off and do them. He's getting off it them right now and it's so bad that he's going through withdrawals.

Well, we have to be at work soon, so I get ready early and I'm just lounging around, waiting for him. I see we have to leave in ten minutes just to barely make it on time, so I go to the bed room to check on him and HE'S STILL ASLEEP. I wake him up and he tells me he's not going. Ok, great, except that totally fucks me over because A) He usually drops me off before he goes to find parking since I HAVE to be on time and no one notices if he's 20 minutes late and B) I currently don't have enough gas in my car to make it to work, so I will be even later if I drive myself since I'll have to stop to fill up.

If he had just fucking TOLD me that he wasn't going 30 minutes ago, it would have all been fine. But nooooo, that little bit of common courtsey was apparently just too great for him. 30 minutes ago he called out to me and when I asked, "What?" he said, "Nothing" and I guess he went back to sleep. It's not like he was incapable.

>>7840499
I am so sorry for what you are going through. Rehab is only a start, and it can get him clean, but being sober and living a sober life is going to take him time. Please understand, your boyfriend is an addict, and addicts don't get better, they get sober. Addiction is a life long disease, that only he can take care of, so it doesn't matter if you are there or not, it's not going to make him get clean. Take care of you first. It’s important that you understand this and keep your eyes open. A relationship with your boyfriend means a relationship with his addiction as well.

>having a crush on your friends boyfriend

why am i the biggest piece of shit in existence

>>7840629
go for the threesome

Hey seagulls, join the migration to the promise land. Let us have our old /cgl/ back.

The way is infinite.

/fit/ and /r9k/ always ruining feels threads

>wake up to happy sunny day
>whee, i will wear lolita and go out and have fun today
>go to wash up and get dressed
>pull down PJs to piss
>red stains
>loli plans ruined for the day

>>7840481
being Italian/Spanish I can tell you we are the corniest/dangerously cheessy people. Kinda happens when you literally have a Romance language. Still I think you shouldve thought this through, some people love it some hate it. Traditions and customs run strong in our culture. Just keep an open mind and youll be fine.

>tfw you spot another lolita "in the wild"

>>7840685

I love that feel. Also, that feel when someone recognizes your style.

Does depression usually make you feel like not eating as well?

>>7840629
There's nothing wrong with being attracted to someone as long as you don't act on those feelings.

>>7840714
Increased or decreased appetite is a symptom yeah. I suffer from anxiety rather than depression and I tend to yoyo between the two extremes if I'm having a particularly bad day. Best thing to do is to have small meals throughout the day if you don't feel hungry.

>>7840714
It makes me not want to eat at all.

>>7840714
Yes, loss off appetite is very common.

Just watch out anon- self screening is one thing, but self-diagnosis is not a path you want to go down.

>>7840685
tfw when you spot a lolita who's also an Ayu fan on the internet

>>7840714
It makes me want to binge eat.

>>7840732
I'm not sure how to approach a doctor about depression. Psychiatrists here cost like 500$ for a single hour and that's not money I have.
>>7840730
>>7840728
In addition to not wanting to eat I'm having a hard time leaving the house and just interacting with my roommates is very grating on my mentality right now.

>>7840737
Maybe talk to a school counselor?

>be into lolita since middle school
>never actually have the guts or money to buy anything
>get bf
>things go wellish for two years
>finally work up to a decent job
>making good pay
>feeling confident
>buy my first dress
>show bf
>bf hates it
>bf hates lolita in general
>well this sucks
>just don't talk to him about it
>bf stops talking to me
>bf won't sleep with me
>tfw we are on the verge of breaking up because I like to wear frilly dresses

Two and a half years down the drain because of frills.
The fuck is that about.

>>7840737
Have you thought about online stuff?
MoodGym is free online CBT.
A lot of countries also have free services available. If you're in Australia try checking out Headspace.

>>7840748
he cant be neutral?
I say move on, find someone cute who cosplays, they are usually going to be fine with lolita if they dress themselves up too

>>7840748
Your bf sounds like a huge faggot for getting so worked up over you wearing frilly dresses to the point of breaking up. Maybe it's for the best. Who knows, he might pull this shit again when you find a different thing that excites you and he disapproves of it. Don't let your bf control you.

>>7840748
fuck him, break up. do what makes you happy anon.

>>7840752
>>7840755
It pretty much looks like I'm going to have to break this off.
It's just really disappointing since we've been together so long, and it's not like I sprung it on him out of nowhere, I've always worn liz lisa and otome.

>>7840757
we're here for ya.
dont let people dictate what youre allowed to like and enjoy.

>>7840748
Are you sure there weren't any communication issues before this? It sounds pretty damn extreme for him to be reacting like this to some clothing.

>>7840762
Thank you new sister <3

>>7840765
Yeah, in the last few months he's been getting distant.
He started going to a new college where there's a ton of Asian girls, which happens to be his fetish.
I've kinda been getting the feeling he wants to get a real life kawaii anime girl.

>>7840767
Ugh, sorry to hear it. If he's willing to sabotage things over something as minor as this it really isn't worth your time and investment in the relationship. I wish you the best of luck and the finest of frills.

>>7840635

We're bringing the oldfags back

>>7839575
What do you expect from a lonely loser NEET who still lives with his mom? Of course he wants to be spoonfed.

>>7840748
Sorry you're dating some asshole who can't associate with you because you want to look adorable from time to time. Seriously, what the fuck is his deal? Try talking to him about it, I guess, but if he's going to keep being a butt, dump him and find someone who isn't a jerk.

Like, my boyfriend of almost three years doesn't dig girls with short hair, but I wanted to cut mine recently, so I told him what I was thinking, and while he's not crazy about it, he's not going to break up with me for wanting to look how I want to. And this is my hair that he has to see every day (unless I put on a wig), not just some dress I'll wear occasionally. I do not comprehend your bf, anon.

>>7840767
>average Asian college girls
>more kawaii than adorable lolita gf

Haaa. Nope your way outta there, anon.

>>7840748
>>7840767
Your bf sounds like my ex. He was also really stubborn about not tolerating an interest of mine, and he constantly talked about how Asian girls are perfect and how I should fix my appearance to fit his standards. He was quite manipulative and never cared about my feelings in general though, so it wasn't surprising.

I broke up with him over a month ago - no regrets - and he still obsessively texts me trying to guilt trip me enough to date him again. (I blocked his number but I think he texted from a different one this time.) It's amusing because he still doesn't see what he did wrong.

>>7840770
>>7840778
>>7840779
You guys are right, and more supportive than any bf.
Thank you, I honestly think this is the push I needed to get out of this crappy dead relationship.

>>7840783
Holy shit people actually talk like this and believe this shit works? Kudos to you for getting the fuck out of there.

>>7840783
>dat chatlog

Oh. My god.

>>7840784
Where are you at anon? I would love to just chill and have tea with you while you ride out the aftermath.

>>7840787
>>7840790
And those texts were only the beginning of the latest pity party too. He proceeded to go on about how he's "fucking dying" and that I should talk to some random friend of his so she can get us back together, jesus christ.

Warning signs like being controlling and disapproving of simple things like clothes or whatever have a big chance of leading up to full-on craziness, I guess. It's better to be alone forever than stuck with a creep.

>>7840783
Oh fuck. That sounds like my ex.

>>7840009
I get you, anon, and I've never felt the need to ~reveal my gender~. It's just that many boards on 4chan are implicitly anti-female. When women are talked about they are referred so as a different species, certainly not as a group of people who might be participating in that same discussion. I've never said "btw I'm a grill" but I still feel incredibly unwelcome on most boards here. And like >>7840061 said, they always assume you're a guy too and you're not allowed to correct them without being insulted. One time I mentioned my boyfriend in a thread-relevant context and I was called a fucking faggot who needed to get AIDS. I felt that this was still much more welcoming than the response I'd get if I told them that I'm actually a straight woman.

>>7840055
/cgl/ is still not nearly as hostile to men as the rest of 4chan is to women. Seagulls get annoyed when guys use their gender to validate their opinion ("Speaking as a guy, I think your costume makes you look dumb. You need to care about this because I'm a man and your entire meaning in life is to appeal to men, yes?") but literally nobody gives a fuck when it's actually relevant. We get uncomfortable dudes in the makeup threads all the time and they're always treated with just as much respect as any other poster.

>>7840230
Anon misread your post and now they're embarrassed which is, of course, your fault. Don't worry about it dude.

Anyway about your Thing: if they're really that horrible, don't force it. But if going to that con is important enough that you can put up with the club for just a little bit longer then you can always just treat it as a source of hilarious weeb stories to tell your bros when you get back.

>>7840783
>dating someone who browses r9k
I feel ya sis. Never again.

>>7840794
Illinois, near St. Louis, any luck?

>>7840798
>He proceeded to go on about how he's "fucking dying"
Is it terrible that I feel like you should have just said "Okay bye"?

You girls don't have the right to complain about anything, you can literally masturbate for a living. Us guys can't do anything like that :^(

>>7840829

>>7840828
So close, well not really.. Texas lol
would totally skype with you in a virtual tea party though

>>7840833
How is that bait you dumb woman?

>>7840841
>unlimted_bait_works.jpeg

>>7840839
>tfw I moved here from Texas three years ago
Man, I should have just stayed home.

>>7840799
>>7840817
Dating this sort of person is a special sort of hell.

>>7840828
Hahaha, I followed up with something along those lines. I just went off on him and said I'm entirely done with this by now and don't care if he's flunking or dying and to fuck off and never contact me again. Hopefully that got through to him.

Here's some more chatlogs from August just for laughs. (At one point I had just given up and started using reaction gifs of my celebrity crush.)

>>7840861
>*pouts*
>stuffs
>I just have to do something extremely stupid

Dude I'm pretty sure it's illegal to date a twelve year old.

>>7840867
He had the sense of humor and dependency on his parents of a 12 year old too. Funny thing is that he's 20 (older than me) and blamed the break-up on the fact that I'm immature.

>>7840880
Such a classic, my ex did the same to me after he cheated on me. Kudos to you, anon!

New thread: >>7840886

>>7840861
this is pretty fucking bad

>>7839285
We broke up last night. I can't stop crying and I feel like I'm going to throw up when I look at food.

>>7841098
Stay strong anon. He's an asshole and you deserve so much more.
And if food feels like hell at least try to get some liquid like soda or milk.

>>7841098
that happens to everyone, it'll pass.

try to do something that usually makes you feel happy/comfy/safe, and keep at it even if it doesn't seem to help any. start with small things maybe.

>>7841098
Kind of funny how your story and pic reminds me of punpun/aikos relationship
Just stay strong man, just don't pull an Aiko lol

>>7839064
I'd take heroin over pikeys/brown pikeys anytime

>>7839813

You need to do something about that, your breakers shouldn't trip that easily.

It's either on the way out and needs replaced, or you are overloading the circuit. Plug into a different room on a separate circuit.

>>7840801
>literally nobody gives a fuck when it's actually relevant
This is what I meant thought?
It just feels that >>7840033 has been used to stating her gender or having her gender be relevant to the discussion. I can understand /ck/'s quip about "She's not gonna eat it anyway lol" since it's a quip based on the question which, lacking detail, might have been "/ck/ wut feed so lol". SO is fairly genderneutral.

>>7841221
>>7841098
>>7840880
>>7840880
>>7840867


how do all of you seagulls meet these crazy guys

no fedora but srsly you guys have the most immature and sperg boyfriends

thats what you get for meeting guys who like animoo i guess

>>7841512
Some of us get boyfriends because at the moment it feels like the relationship can work out.
Sometimes that moment just happens to be during anime club while we're non-ironically wearing cat ears, a leash, and a Naruto headband.

>>7838562
>lived my whole life thinking I was a four
>turns out I'm a six

Party time.

>>7840171

Psylocke was originally a British woman. You are good bro

>tfw trying to lose weight in an emotionally abusive household
I just want to be the cute cosplayer/lolita

>>7841098
Good fucking riddance. You deserve so much better, anon. Being apart from him might hurt at first, but you'll be very, very thankful for the break-up eventually.

>>7841512
Obsessive text anon here; we met on 4chan (of course) and getting together was definitely impulsive on my end, which I highly regret.
I'm relieved as fuck that it wasn't a "real" relationship because I'm sure he'd be standing outside my house right now if we didn't live in different states.

>>7840725
ah but that's why i feel bad, because i am not doing anything these feelings won't go away.
how do i make the love go away anon

>>7838654
>being in Eastern Europe
why the fuck would you want to be there anon.

>>7841098
go to the friends thread, find people and forget about it

>>7840828
>near STL

Dude, I swear, that area is a fucking void. I've only met one girl from the STL area.

>>7838677
I'm happy for you anon. I got my brows done earlier this year and they were too thin and really horrible and they still haven't fully grown back.

I'm still doormat chan.