/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL

Nearly every dream I remember is about finding cute clothes somewhere for cheap. It seems I'm more obsessed with clothes when I'm asleep than when I'm awake.

>>7808644
I remember when I wanted to wear a spaghetti strap top out on the first truly hot day of summer and my mother stopped me to say it really wasn't appropriate. It was the same top I'd worn all summer the year before with no issues (except sunburn). But because in that year I went from flat as a board to maybe a small B-cup, my favourite warm weather top was suddenly lewd and wrong and I had to find something else to cover up with. I was so upset, I felt like there was something horribly wrong with me.

>exact socks i need to complete my coord are for sale
>seller refuses to separate them and sell them apart from the skirt in the set
>why
>why do you do this

>taobao order probably won't arrive before the next con I'm going to
>it has all the stuff for one of my coordinates in it
>want to look my best in front of a comm full of new people because I've never been to this convention before and it's pretty far away
>i just want to be pretty

>>7808887
Because she'll make more money with the whole set. Maybe she is willing to split if she finds a buyer for the skirt? Some sellers are willing to split the set in that case.

>After some recent drama, I decided to give up on joining my local comm
>Someone said that they were going to revive the anon group that has nothing to do with any of these people
>That didn't happen
>Anon, please come back

>>7808901
>>After some recent drama, I decided to give up on joining my local comm
What happened there, Anon?

>>7808900
Yeah, I'm still waiting. Wish I had $250 on hand so I could snag the socks and resell the skirt

>>7808906
What skirt/OTK set are you looking at?
If I was interested in the skirt I would definitely agree to split the set because I hate OTKs.

>>7808693
Op, honestly in real life I never cry about dresses or lack of funds, so I guess I'm more concerned about it asleep too. I don't know why I cried, actually, I think because I was still half asleep.

>>7808905
The comm was posted to a comm bitching thread and they decided to flood the thread like a bunch of angered rabid animals. It's a shame because I just got my the pieces too my first coord.

>>7808939
Why don't you just wait until the drama dies? You could consider going to a meet up anyway.
No idea how big your comm is or what comm it could be because too lazy to lurk the archive, but usually it is only a small part that is dumb enough to participate in drama. Some members of my comm got posted to ita-threads or fatty-hate threads and have unleashed some drama, but no one irl cares and they are easy to avoid. That said, we usually don't end up on cgl as a comm, and my comm has around 80 members, and usual meet ups are 15-30 people so there are plenty of reasonable people.

>>7808958
Oh no, I'm totally staying away from the ones involved the in the drama. I'm more sad that someone offered to make a group to replace the seagull group didn't pull through. The girl that ran the old group is too busy with work and all her meets seem really fun.

>>7808911
http://www.lacemarket.us/usakumya-chan-is-a-petit-patissier-skirt-set/

Buy it now is $225, I'd drop like $40+shipping for the socks, I'm seriously desperate

That feel when you got too fat for brand due to medical issues.

>I guess I'm damned to Chantilly

>thrifting
>find a cute ass party dress that totally flatters my body and makes me look super hot
>didn't bring any money so I just think "oh, I'll come back later and buy it!"
>come back a fews days later
>IT'S SOLD :(
Tbf I kind of deserve it for not coming back to the store sooner, but it still stings...

>"lolita is stupid why am I spending so much money on fucking piece of fabric?"
>"I need to get my life together"
>"heeeey, I need that, that, and that dress."

Am I allowed to post a general creative person feels/rant on here? It's marginally related to cosplay and I want to get it off my chest but if not I'll go elsewhere.

>tfw finally have a proper petticoat to wear
>tfw first time ever seeing the proper silhouette
>crying happy elegant tears

It's just a tiny thing, but seriously, I finally felt like a lolita with that petticoat.

>>7808693
>I remember when i wanted to wear a spaghetti strap top...

Anon, mine was a blue and white striped halter. To this day, I do not wear spaghetti straps. I also can't handle being told [x] is "too sexy" simply because of the shape of my own body, which I am trying to keep covered.

>anonnette, that heart bib JSK might be too sexy
>annonette, that's a... really nice turtleneck
>annonette, you always look so sexy in sallopettes!

Especially when the fashion is supposed to be modest to begin with, my own "I'm sorry my body is a distraction" issues make me more defensive.

>>7809017
Left out a line, I meant my story was exactly the same as yours, mom pulled me aside, wore it the previous year, except it was a spaghetti halter. Sage for second post

>super excited about con and cosplay and everything is fantastic
>"I can do this!"
>not_so_fast.png
>con is closing in fast, costumes still not done
>some parts come out fantastic, others look like crap because I have no idea what I'm doing
>why didn't I start this sooner
>trying not to cry when things slowly start taking the turn to worse
>can't shake off the feeling that I'd be much happier without this hobby because of all this stress
>I just want to dress up as my favorite characters from my stupid chinese cartoons why is this so hard

I'm a talentless piece of shit who has managed to turn everything enjoyable into something awful because I literally can not stop stressing and judging.
Fuck me.

>>7808693
>>7809017
>mfw puberty hit and I get mosquito bite boobs and barely any ass
>full bust measures only 29"
>30" hips at biggest part of butt

A-at least I'll always have a qt rori body I guess.

>ripped back open on a waterslide
>fucking destroyed brand new sukumizu
>burn the fuck out of my arm at work the same day
>covered in bandages and bruises from the amusement park
>good thing lolita covers all this up
>it looks like I got beat

>>7809028
>ripped back open

wh-what!?

>>7809013
I've had this exact feel! I didn't feel like a "real" lolita (even in my dream dress) until I got a petticoat with the right shape. I put it on, looked in the mirror and it was the first time I truly felt like a princess in the fashion.

>>7808977
S-sorry Anon, but it is really not my style! I wish you good luck though! Maybe post a WTB for the socks?

>>7809032
There must ave been something sticking up out of the slide, and my back is bony as fuck. I posted in the sukumizu thread, but basically I have this huge gash/scrape thingy on my back. It's sort of deep in one spot and the rest is just my skin.... peeled off. It's really gross. And it really hurts. My mom's been awesome and helped me bandage it up the past few days, but when I take a shower it fucking HURTS.

>soft water
>soap
>in open wound

>>7809005
Anon are you me

>>7809044
Sue.

>>7809033
>I've had this exact feel! I didn't feel like a "real" lolita (even in my dream dress) until I got a petticoat with the right shape.

Holy shit Anon, you found your dream dress before you found a decent petticoat? How is that even possbile? There aren't that many well recommended petticaots around...

>>7809048
Ehh it's not worth the time or the money that I don't have up front to hire a lawyer. I told the lifeguards about it, it's whatever. The park would probably just claim that I was doing something wrong or I wouldn't have gotten hurt or something anyway. As long as it doesn't get infected and I need to see a doctor, I don't care.

My sister went down the same slide after me and she was fine, so I don't even really know what happened.

>>7809024
Rock it proudly, anon. It is an advantage in this fashion.

>>7809052
I don't know. DDC came up in an auction and I threw money at it. Got a better petticoat after I bought the dress. I'm bad at doing things in order.

>>7809033
I swear it's the best feeling ever.

>>7809052
Not the anon you quoted, but mine took a while to arrive from China while the dress only took 2 days. It might have been the same with the anon you quoted.

>>7809024
So jealous, Anon. Everything has it's pro and cons, but I would love to trade my body for yours. I have big hips, a 97cm bust and a 74 waist and I wish I could have qt rori body. Instead I get stares from creepy strangers, a spaghetti top or anything that reveals a bra strap is inapproprate clothing and my boobs won't let me fit into many burando pieces.

What pisses me off the most is that I have a friend who has a body like yours, and every time she goes out she is the one who has men all over her (and I don't mean creepy ones, but the cute ones too) while I get zero attention; and it's not like I am butt ugly or have a hideous manface. Why do I even have these fucking boobs? I must be doing something wrong.

>>7809078
>>7809073

Ah, nevermind my guessing then.

>>7809079
I'm lanky and awkward, so I don't get attention from guys, usually. My arms are stupid long, and my legs I guess would be desirable if it didn't look like I was knob-kneed.

I'm similar in proportions to Choke, but I'm 5'5" instead of 5'10", and completely flat.

Honestly I'd be happy if I had a little more booty. I can live with a flat chest because no bras ever.

>find amazing dress on ebay
>spend three days dreaming about it
>last day of auction
>too cheap to pay the buy it now price even though I could afford it
>get outbid
>price is now higher than I can actually afford
>auction ends
>spend the next three hours crying

Well, I think I'm done doing online shopping for just about forever.

>>7809083
>I'm similar in proportions to someone who worked as a high-end fashion model
>which is terrible oh no
Anonnnn!
It sounds like you need to work on your posture or something, and figure out what is and isn't flattering on you. Tons of models look lanky and awkward before they get scouted and trained to not look lanky and awkward. And since you don't actually want to be a model (I'm assuming) your height doesn't matter/is a bonus because you won't tower over everyone even when standing completely upright.
What I'm trying to say here is that you should get your shit together and go look fabulous. Also that I'm jelly because I'm a lumpy pear and half the reason I wear lolita is because it hides my lumpiness.

>>7809041
I have in several places, just waiting to see if things turn out ;_; thanks though!

>always commuted from friends' places or own home for con
>finally nut up and get a hotel room because of how inconvenient it is to drive and pay parking
>start looking at hotel rooms and rates for con in early 2015
>the convention center hotel is completely booked up
>adjacent hotel is booked up
>look at nearby places
>even for 4 people per room it's fucking expensive
>tfw I understand why people stuff hotel rooms now

>>7808995
That's the one down side to thrift shopping. You see something, you better jump on it or it's gonna be GONE. Going into thrift shops without funds is a sure fire way to tears.

>>7809085
Wait, the auction price went higher than the BIN? That's not a thing...

>>7809128
Diff anon, but yes it is. On ebay, the auction price can surpass the bin, but that only happens to idiots.

>>7809110
Oh honey, use hotwire.com

>>7808646
>second week of uni
>decide to wear lolita since it's the first day it hasn't been 60-70% humidity and 85+ degrees
>suddenly adorable girls everywhere telling me they've always wanted to dress in lolita
>freshman girl telling me that her sister is a lolita and seeing me made her happy b/c she's homesick
>art history professor loves it and asks if I want to do my final term paper on rococo and lolita
>security guard in a store I passed gives me a thumbs up
sometimes I forget how wonderful this fashion is, I spent all day smiling because of how nice everyone was!

>haven't taken anti-depressants for a few days because I can't afford new ones (my own fault for being too optimistic about my budget)
>hello moodswings
>read article today that made me so happy I called mom and told her about it
>cries as if the world has gone under because I can't find my 3ds charger

It's at times like this I'm happy I'm single, any boyfriend I'd have right now would have to deal with a lot.

>>7809096
>posture

admitting to having 100% completely shit posture.

A coworker of mine told me that I should be a model, but 10+ years of dance couldn't teach me to be graceful, it's not happening.

I like lolita because it smooths out my pointy bits and makes me feel pretty instead of gangly.

>>7809170
This makes me so happy reading this.

>>7809172
Ohhh you poor thing, I know that feel all too well. I hope you're able to sort things out soon! Maybe call your doctor and ask if they have any samples they can give you to hold you over until you can get your next pack? Some doctors can even authorize a month free or something if you just ask. They're more concerned for your health than they are about putting money in the Pharm company's pocket, trust me.

>building my first coords for AWA
>i've been hyping them up to my friends since dragon*con
>need socks
>AATP diamond socks because they match both vests i'm buying
>they've been sold out for three months
>ok well let's go find them on a secondhand site
>should be the easiest thing to find because there's like 20 different colorways and multiple ones would work
>spend two days searching through several FB and LJ sales comms, rakuten sites, lacemarket, closet child, yahoo.jp, mbok...
>absolutely nothing
>m-maybe I can get them from AATP's pop up shop! y-yeah, that might work...
/cgl/ I just want to be a qt ouji and have fun with my local comm...

>>7809143
>tfw I never even thought of that
and after they go through so much effort to have their commercials on all the time

>>7809186
Don't feel sorry for me, it's my own fault after all.
I was actually considering doing that after reading your post but now my friend is forcing money on me so I can purchase new meds tomorrow. I'm so thankful I'm literally crying and I don't know what to do with myself

I'm extremely humble as a person and am usually the one helping my friends out economically if they have any troubles, so I'm really confused right now. I don't like having the tables turning when I'm not prepared no matter the outcome haha

>"it's getting chilly, I should get a coat I guess"
>bid on cute coat on LM
>SO messages me 2 days later
>"anon guess what i just ordered you the most adorable coat!! :) i can't wait to see you wear it with all your coords!"
>shit
>message seller, explain situation, knowing SO-coat will get worn and not-SO-coat will sit in closet
>crossing my fingers that they'll be understanding and won't mind relisting
>seller "well to me it was a done deal so you better hope someone outbids you"
>fuck

I guess I can just resell it if I have to. Oh well.

>>7809310
What a dick seller.

>>7809312
I mean on one hand I understand, but on the other hand I'm like.. would it kill them to be a little more understanding just this once? They even told me this has never happened to them. I've also never tried to back out on a bid before, I'm always super prompt with payments. Kinda dumb but I'm actually sort of close to crying over this, I already have so much to deal with and I'm the absolute worst at sending mail so I know listing it is going to stress me out.

>>7808887
>dat sense of entitlement

>>7808646
That reminds me of a lolita dream I had
>Have old school baby dress as firrst burando
>this is also true in dream
>dream self is reading cgl
>anons are saying that they don't bother with any special cleaning stuff, they just stick it in the wash
>okay well if cgl does it its okay
>throw in wash
>already done
>it's hanging to dry
>huge part of the skirt has some hole sorta like on torn up jeans
>pull on one of the strings hanging
>dress unravels
>wake up terrified and crying

>>7809008
sure

>>7809310
You bid on the coat, its only proper you buy it in the end. Whats with you people?

>>7808646
ah fuck anon that note made me cry too
>>7809024
woo plank twins
look at it this way anon, we can be chic and gamine and wear fashionable things without worrying that our baps will distract the masses... n-not that they would make senpai notice me even then, or anything

I used to dress in baggy clothes (oh boy did I ever look like shit) because I was ashamed of my body, and I still am to a degree. It's just that everything I grew up with (TV, games, people etc) was kind of eh towards women in my area, like calling them slags and making fun of perfectly normal things that women do as if it's the most embarrassing thing in the world (you menstruate? what a harlot!), talking about "fucking slags", "pumping and dumping", admiring T&A openly and looking at your breasts as you talk without giving a damn about what you're saying...

And when I did dress full "girly" I felt like a piece of meat pretty much 24/7 and people were treating me both better and worse depending on where you look from.

Now I dress like a genderbent Yank fratboy (picrelated pretty much) and get comments about being a carpet muncher or a "man" but honestly I don't even give a damn any more.

>>7809360
Of course it's proper, no one is claiming it isn't, but sometimes things come up unexpectedly and it's nice to know that the lolita community isn't "fuck you bitch I've got mine" in case of such unexpected events.

>>7809360
Oh god, I think you're the seller aren't you? I'm sorry, I'm just so stressed at the idea of having to resell the coat to be honest. If I win it, I win it - I hate having to back out, and if it's really a hassle for you to relist and you desperately don't want to, I'll buy it of course, but it doesn't mean that it's not frustrating to hit a wall when you're hoping for sympathy.

Sometimes I wonder why I didn't take up knitting as a hobby instead of lolita, my poor, poor wallet

>be me, sitting on my bed, browsing the net
>mom comes in
>sits down with a worried face, chats a little with me
>"Anon, why are you always sitting on your bed. You are young, you should go out to explore the world! You have all these nice clothes and you never wear them!"
>I can't tell her I barely have friends and that none of my friends are going out much
>I know she is concerned because I haven't been on a date for over a year and never bring home a men or even talk about one (because there aren't any anyway)
>made exactly one friend at Uni after 2 semesters
>tfw even your own moms thinks you are extremly socially awkward and pathetic and totally wasting your life

I don't know what to do. I have though about going to therapy before, and my mom kinda suggested this too. But I am so afraid because my life isn't that bad, all the problems I have are the ones I fucked up myself, and I should be grateful to have a great family, a few very close friends, a job, a place to live, and my dream major.
But then again, I have been failing at Uni because I couldn't bring myself to do anything despite loving my major, I spend all my money on expensive clothes and I often feel terribly alone because there is no men in my life who cares about me. I never go out and meet people (because I have no idea how to go out and meet new people), just like the pathetic social inept girl my mother thinks I am. And the worst is that I really feel bad because my mother worries so much but even that can bring me to drag my ass off my bed and actually do something. Maybe I am just the unlucky person who just happened to end up with a shitty personality.

>>7809387
why not two coats?

>>7809413
Ahh mostly because I don't feel I'll use two and I would feel bad just letting one languish in my closet. I'm not a daily lolita and I'm meticulous about cleaning my outerwear/keeping it nice. Plus I'm a huge sap for my gf so I'm way more likely to wear anything she gets me.

But honestly knowing me I will likely end up with two coats by the end of this! Maybe it'll be nice to have the options? I'm just anxious, I don't want to hurt my gf's feelings by implying her coat wasn't enough for me after she went out of her way to get it.

>>7809387
You made a commitment to buy an item at X price and you really should follow through on that regardless of your situation. If you win it just resell it. Your lack of planning isn't the seller's problem.

>>7809421
Think of it this way; more coats = less likely to damage one = longer lifespan

>>7809364
Jesus Christ anon, where on earth do you live where people get treated like that..?

>>7809421
>I don't want to hurt my gf's feelings by implying her coat wasn't enough for me after she went out of her way to get it

Just explain the situation to her - you placed your bid before she bought the coat for you, you really appreciate her gift but could not back out of the sale because you already placed the bid and the seller would not agree to re-list the coat (which is perfectly fine behaviour from the seller).
Wear her coat and maybe re-sell the other of you do not like it, and I am sure your gf will understand the situation and act like a mature adult.

>>7809413
not that anon but stop being a greedy cunt
it's clear you just want some more burando cash even at the expense of another lolita, so fuck your shitty aforementioned "fuck you bitch, I've got mine" attitude

>>7809428
If I tell you I'll remind myself and cry

>>7809432
Yeah! I'm just a big baby when it comes to her haha, I'll be honest.

>>7809426
Mhm, I'm sort of psyching myself up for keeping it by thinking like this, thanks anon!

>>7809422
>lack of planning
I didn't plan to get a gift, who the hell does? Jesus, you're awfully fucking sandy considering I already said I'd pay.

>>7809422
>lack of planning
>BF surprised her
Ok anon I think you should follow through on your commitment but this seller is a retard and I'm not endorsing it but keep in mind LM has a 4 strikes rule on deadbeat buying.

>>7809440
>I didn't plan to get a gift, who the hell does? Jesus, you're awfully fucking sandy considering I already said I'd pay.

Someone's mad they don't have the money to outbid you and no qt gf who gives them nice and expensive gifts.

>>7809389
As an avid knitter/crocheter, no you don't. Many have giant stashes that cost a hell of a lot of money (especially if the yarn are hand-spun and hand-dyed).
I could probably have bought quite a few dresses if I didn't spend the money on yarn.

>>7809024
We have similar bodies (my bust is even a little smaller than yours) and I have zero complaints to be honest. At least I can wear low-cut shirts without getting weird looks.

Too bad I'm 5'7 so I will never have a true loli body despite being mega thin and flat everywhere.

>>7809440
Is it a possibility to give the coat you bid on to your gf?

>>7809444
Funny how seagulls are so swift to pick the jealousy card. Believe me, 99.99% of you are not even a blip on anyones radar. Not even Choke is worthy. Plus, jealousy is a inferior emotion to have because you yourself feel like youre inadequate.

>wandering up to foodcort because I forgot my lunch at work
>pass security guard
>"honey you don't need to be eating something you should loose weight"
>i am chub, 150 at 5'8" and loosing...
>try not to cry
>cry a lot
>go back to work and tell coworker
>she reports his ass
Hope that fucker looses his job

>>7809454
Ahh she's shorter than me and not into lolita, more a punk tbh. It would look.... hilariously adorable on her hahaha. I'm laughing just imagining her in a frilly coat that goes to her ankles. Thanks for that, I needed it.

>>7809450
I think many hobbyist think "Oh if I did this, instead of this, I'd save so much more money!" and then you realize, nope. we all just end up putting a lot of money down into our hobbies, especially ANYTHING that requires material costs(whether it be something already manufactured, or you have to make it yourself)

>>7809453
Man, I wish I was thin and flat everywhere. I don't even have the big boobs working in my advantage, I just have gargantuan hips and and an average waist/bust. Pearshaped bodies a shit.

>>7809460
I'm into video games AND lolita. It's the worst, let me tell you.

>>7809458
Heaven forbid anyone tells you to put that donut down because they're concerned with your wellbeing

>>7809439
i call bullshit
>remind myself
>implying you don't know where you are
it probably isn't even that bad

>>7809459
Haha oh well. Though you could challenge her to punk-ify the coat or something.

>>7809460
That is true. Though I am making money to fund said hobby by selling what I make, so that's something good at least. (still need to get rid of all that yarn I collected, though)

>>7809389

I'm with >>7809450.
Also Anon, there's one thing many people tend to forget: If you have a hobby you are really passionate about, chances that you will spend a lot of money on it are very high, no matter what you do. Seriously, it's a little annoying how people always seem to forget this. Almost nothing in this world is for free, deal with it.
Think about fabric prices if you sew, the prieces of cameras and matching equipment, the guy in the other thread who came from /k/ and had just spend 3k on a new rifle, expensive sport gear and gym memberships/food/personal trainers, collector items of any kind, high end fashion, travel costs if you want to explore the world, painting equipments, gaming PCs, ecetera, ecetera...

Personal pet peeve when people accuse me of spending too much money on a $300 dress while they are buying a 1k camera or doing an expensive trip through Australia. It's just different priorities.

>>7809465
>implying some random security guard has a right to criticize her weight, especially when 150 at 5'8" is considered a normal bmi index.

>>7809433
I'm not the seller?

>>7809439
That's the Smithfield horse market.
Oh anon, no. Wear what you love, you're not alone!

(Having said that I absolutely love the style in the other photo you posted, so you're winning either way to me...)

>>7809473
>criticize
>bmi index
Topkek

>>7809465
Man, at 5'8" and 150lb she's definitely just chubby, no more than that. Even if she were bigger, commentary like that is nothing resembling concern, it's just self-righteousness and a need to feel better about oneself.

>tfw decided to make cosplay for upcoming con
>con is in four days
>excitement mixed with soul-squeezing panic

>>7809478
This.
If you're concerned about somebody's weight. You don't flat out tell them DON'T EAT. That shit is counterproductive and starving yourself is a stupid method to do so. I's a sure fire way to be miserable and relapse back into your old eatting habits. You change your diet, count your calories, exercise, etc.... if you want to lose weight.

It's in the same vein as telling a skinny girl to go eat a sandwich. It's not helpful, it's being a stupid asshole.

>>7809466
r u 4 real m8

>>7809462
That actually sounds like one of my favorite body types, honestly. It might just be the lesbian in me talking, but I think female bodies are cute in general as long as they're not landwhale-status.

>>7809499
Same here, I always had a slight pervy crush on this one girl in my gym class who was veeeery pair shaped--super rounded hips and very tiny, but present, breasts. I'm really fond of pear shapes.

>>7809172
Pharmaceutical companies often have an insurance to afford prescriptions that they offer to low income individuals/households. Might want to look into that, as well as what the other anon suggested for free samples to tide you over.

>>7809491
>>7809478
Boohoohoo. When will you people learn that fatties are disgusting?

>>7809342
ah yes how dare i expect that my money should be able to buy something that is for sale

>>7809516
I'm definitely offput by overweight people and I'd personally never have sex with someone who was obese, but being offput doesn't mean "hurr durr time to publicly shout at people!" - seriously, how fucking childish do you have to be to behave like that? It's embarrassing.

>>7809516
150 at 5'8" isn't fat, dumbass

>>7809410
That's your victim talking. You are the person you have chosen to be, anon, and no one is more in control or cares about you as much as you should.
If you want friends, make them, if you want to be social, start practicing- fake it until you make it and stop being afraid of rejection- what is someone going to do? Say no?
Big deal, think of the possibilities and running yourself ragged to avoid it is much harder to deal with than the reality.
You've spent a little too much time in a fantasy world where everything is a little more dramatic and important than it really is.
You'll die one day, you might as well take a few people out with you.

>>7808887
Why not just sell the skirt yourself afterwards if it's so difficult to find the socks only for sale?

>>7809528
>You'll die one day, you might as well take a few people out with you.

Define how you see friendship?

>>7809439
If anywhere it's an Eastern block country, and they have bullshit opinions on people anyway.

>That feel when you're a bostonfag that wants to go to AAC

I really don't want to drive up to NH every day but on the other hand I don't want to get a hotel room because it's expensive and the sponsored hotel is already sold out

plus I'm working on my first real cosplay for it and I don't know if I'll have it done on time, suddenly stress :CC

>>7809465
Lol wow you're a sandy cunt

>>7809455
>That edge
My sides are bleeding

>>7809465
Shut up you disgusting hambeast.

>>7809533
As well as anyone does, but one day I expect to die and for my friends to throw themselves on the funeral pire because they'll miss me too much when I'm gone from the world. No biggie.

>>7809528
You are right with everything you say Anon but if it'd be that easy I wouldn't be whining to a bunch of strangers on the internet but go out and make friends. It's like telling a fat person to just eat less - they already know it, the problem is somewhere else. And I am not sure where.

>>7809410
>all the problems I have are the ones I fucked up myself
>I have been failing at Uni because I couldn't bring myself to do anything
>I often feel terribly alone because there is no men in my life who cares about me
>Maybe I am just the unlucky person who just happened to end up with a shitty personality

To me it seems like you've seriously trapped yourself into negative patterns of thinking - you're not necessarily feeling bad because of your situation, personality or faults. Sounds like depression or something depression-related to me and I think you need therapy anon, or at least reach out to a uni counsellor if you can. Getting out of those patterns is rarely as simple and easy as 'just doing it' so don't set expectations for yourself too high just yet.

Please get some kind of professional help, and if you're anxious about reaching out then make your first step something small - like googling local and internet services, calling a helpline or planning to talk to your mum or friend about it. You have a lot of your life ahead of you so even small actions can make a big difference in the long run.

>>7809210
Have you tried chantilly instead? They stock diamond socks.

>>7809170
This story just made my night anon. I may just have to get the courage up to wear lolita to school.
>tfw theres a part of me that hopes I'll meet a lolita from asia since my school has a shit ton of asians

>>7809582
uni/college is different from HS. i would refrain from dressing lolita to HS.

>>7809559
The way I figure, the best way to express 'I see you, I know what you're going through' is to offer some words that might help you figure out what you're looking for in life.
I know that it's unlikely that anything I say is going to be directly taken and translated into your life, but maybe you'll introspect a little and think 'well maybe anon has a point and I should look into this further' and you'll find a solution that meets your needs on your own.

I'm very susceptible to my own victim complex, and it's really sneaking when it comes up. I'm growing as a person trying to deal with it and not let it turn me into someone awful, but it keeps me from really enjoying my life and keeps me from harm by avoiding the social contact I desire.
It also likes to put a wedge in my relationships and drives me into my own self-indulgent pity parties that get me nowhere. It's why I haven't been to college since I graduated and why my career goals feel like pipe dreams sometimes, even when I know that if I start SOME momentum, I'll run with it. It's why I hide and ask other anons like me for guidance and acceptance, but I normally find myself in /r9k/s threads more often to do this.

You just need some momentum, some steam- motivation.
You aren't the only one with this problem and you don't need drugs to fix it, necessarily. If that's the road that will get you where you want to go, pursue it with caution, but really you just need to take a hard look at your life and see it for what it really is and figure out what it will take to keep yourself going forward.

It's very easy to become stagnant anon, the hardest part about it is just STARTING, the rest becomes easier with practice. You have a wonderfully adaptable mind that is the human race's only gift. I don't need to be the one to tell you that for you to start using it- you need to make this heart knowledge and let it guide your actions accordingly.

>>7809602
Ran out of room, means I really should stop talking and let you figure it out.

>>7809535
Okay yes except that is literally Smithfield Horse Market in anon's picture.

>>7809491
Agreed so hard. When my girlfriend was back in middle school, she had just a bit of pudge, not even chubby. Apparently her mom kept making comments like "you shouldn't wear that shirt, you're too fat" and shit like that, and would go back and forth like "ew are you really eating that" or "you need to eat whats wrong with you"
Every time I see that woman I want to slap her

>>7809537
Another AAC-goer! Or at least a possible one? I'm trying to decide if I should go with a comic book cosplay even though its an anime con or lolita

>>7809458
That's awful anon. There are many options in foodcourts anyway, you might of been going to get a salad (it doesn't matter what you were getting) and that security guard had no right to say that. You are also not chubby anon, it's just most girls on cgl are short and do not understand that being over 130 is okay. I'm the same height as you and weigh a little less but was called a fatty/chubby on cgl when irl no one says this.

>>7809535
>Eastern block
That's a knacker on the picture, but he shares quite a few similarities with his Slavic cousin, the bydlo, so I can understand the confusion. And our country might as we'll be in Eastern Europe all things considered.

>>7809620
Between Russian Orthodox and Roman Catholicism, there is not much room to embrace diversity.
And that anon is most definitely not fat. Because that would mean I'm fat, and I am most certainly not.

>>7809462
No, pear shaped is next desirable after hourglass. And for lolita, it would likely be most desirable. The shittiest body type is mine, I've heard it called a goblet. Huge boobs, thicker middle, no butt and fit/thin legs. Apple is pretty bad, but it is not the same - apples have a thick ass shit middle and everything else is small.

>>7809615
Ooh!! Sorry to bombard you with questions but have you been before? I haven't and I'm trying to figure out if it's worth it. Also do you know if there's a cgl meet?

If you're going multiple days you could go with cosplay one day and Lolita another?

>>7809613
I have a friend with a judgmental mother. Bitch even said stuff like how "Your wrists are getting fat" and "You used to be so much cuter when you were little"

Her wrists? Are you shitting me? She's not even remotely chubby. The woman is a fountain of negativity.

Also speaking of nicer mom's. I got a text from my mom today saying "I shipped you a box, should get there in a few days, hope you can use it"

So apparently I have a mystery box in the mail from my mom. Not sure what it'll be considering they just took me shopping on Tuesday and bought us a ton of stuff, including new furniture.

>>7809655
These threads always make me glad I have such a good relationship with my parents. Took 20 years to get there with my dad, but. My God. There are just so many horror stories of parents saying/doing shitty things in these threads.

>gosh I should really be careful with my money and work towards moving out soon
>oooh cosplays to do and filament reels to buy!
help

>>7809656
It was pretty much the same way with my dad. My dad was a complete and total dickhead growing up. Including doing hard drugs and so on.

He used to be on really bad terms with all his kids, but he's now in his 50's and turned his life around. He fully admits he completely fucked up being a parent and is now spending his time focusing on being a good grandparent and trying to make up for how he treated us growing up. He didn't make excuses when I confronted him about the abuse he did, and he made no excuses for his behavior and apologized for it. Which is a miracle onto itself for a man that would never apologize in the past.

It's been quiet the transformation. He's seriously mellowed out, no more drugs, and has a good relationship with my brother and his family(also helped that he moved away from the people who were a major influence on his behavior)

At one point I was ready to completely drop all contact with my parents because of him but he's really trying to be better.

Honestly my mother often says similar things, I try not to take it to heart because I genuinely believe she doesn't mean it hurtfully. I'm 5'4" and usually 110lbs, my wrist is 5.25" which makes me "small framed" so the weight I look best at is on the low side and I don't carry extra weight so well.

Recently I gained to 116lbs, and because I'm apple shaped I gained it all on my stomach and my mother pointed it out and said I should be more careful to watch what I eat and not gain anymore or I will become fat, lol.

Not super cgl related, but I am ridiculously cheap. I know it isn't necessarily a bad thing but I can't seem to buy expensive cosplay stuff etc without feeling super guilty about it. I don't know why I'm like this, considering that I've grown up with very generous parents both with six-figure salaries. I just want to spend all my cash without feeling guilty about it ;_;

>>7809655
>tfw my mom would buy ice cream
>tfw i would get some after dinner sometimes
>tfw she would pinch my thighs and shake her head at me
i was 5'5'' and 115lbs at the time
she raised me on portion sizes and shit so i knew i should only take 2 scoops but now that i live on my own any time i even try to have ice cream i think about that and feel guilty as fuck

>>7809675
I'm a lot shorter than you at 5'1" and at the time did this exact thing to me I was also 115lbs, which granted isn't skinny for my height but it's also not fat I don't think. Jokes on her though because she ended up with Hashimoto's and now she weighs more than she did when she was 9 months pregnant with me.

>>7809668
Anon, I'm jealous. My dad would never really admit to me that he fucked up, and he'd always turn it back into a "well it was your fault too" bullshit argument, along with the classic "I got treated worse by my parents, get over it". He lost all his opportunities to truly make things right with me when he died.

>cgl related: now i use his money to buy lolita

>>7809647
Yeah, I've been! It's a nice con. I've only gone to a few, but it's nicer compared to what I have done. It's big enough that there are lots of vendors and stuff to do, but small enough that it isn't very crowded and there's space to move and have big costumes and dresses.
sadly it looks like i can only go for one day though. haven't heard anything about a cgl meet.

>>7809683
heh. im sure shes jelly now (get it)

>>7809685
Well my dad's mother was a royal bitch so he got a lot of it from her. I think as he got older he realized he was turning out to be just like his mother and finally realized he needed to cut it out or end up losing his family. His sister is pretty much exactly like their mother though.

>>7809582
>be in college
>Chinese girl is my roommate
>never really talk with her although we get along well
>six months later, lease ends
>I poorfag back to my parents' house
>give up lolita due to lack of interest/funds
>months later
>go with boyfriend to local Japanese festival
>see roommate
>she's decked out in fucking gorgeous Haenuli
>all of my willpower to not start spaghetti'ing with adoration

>really careless with money as a kid, spent it as soon as i got it
>mom is/was super frugal and could be considered a pennypincher
>dad is/was more lax and doesnt mind
>fast forward to now, when im in my junior year of college
>past couple years have made me just as cheap as my mother is, yet with the anxiety of my dad as an added bonus
>parents always criticize me for not spending money on luxuries and for trying to support myself instead of relying on them
>"anon, you shouldn't worry so much, you're not completely independent yet"
>"anon, buy yourself something nice"
>can tell mom feels bad about influencing my stressful financial habits
>dad gets frustrated with me due to my unwillingness to treat myself to nice things

I still buy things for myself, but I always have a set budget, and I never let myself go over it. I try to keep at least 800-850$ in my account at all times in case of emergencies, and only allow myself necessities most of the time. I couldn't imagine having less than 500$ in my account, I'd probably have a breakdown.

Doesn't help that almost all of my friends have none or very little sense of financial responsibility, leaving me to worry like hell that I'll get too relaxed and end up that way.
>mfw friend says he's only got 40$ to his name after a con

I hate to be the killjoy who's super strict and won't have fun, but being in debt is one of my worst fears; which is completely ridiculous considering both my parents have great salaries and we're pretty well off anyway. It wouldn't be a big problem even if I did fuck up.

I wish I could relax a little, but I guess I'll deal with buying small amounts of cosplay material at a time.

Growing more and more upset over people who dont reply to messages on comm_sales. Found a dress that I fell in love with and the only person selling it isn't replying.

Oh well...

>>7809670
Every time I go home to visit my mom is like, have you been losing more weight? It's bad to be overweight.

Then she asks if I've been eating properly and complains I don't eat enough whenever I go out to eat with them. Oh well. It's an improvement over, "why do you have so much meat?" (translated from chinese) that she used to ask in high school.

>>7809128
I think that once someone places a bid the bin option goes away.

>>7809096

To be fair, a decent amount of models aren't even attractive.

>>7809788
My mom is like this too whenever I visit on school holidays, she keeps commenting that I'm "wasting away" and tries to get me to eat more because I've lost 15lbs since starting college 3 years ago, so I guess this means I look super emancipated to her. But it's not even that I've really lost much weight, it's just redistributed itself since losing my teenage pudge, and I feel great about the way I look, so I wish she would not bring me down like that.
Meh, she's a Jewish mother though, and the stereotype of Jewish mothers being worrywarts that make you lots of food is one with definite merit.

>>7809895
Emaciated not emancipated, thanks iPhone... Grr

>>7809670

Man, it's so nice being a dude and not a tiny little girl.

I gained like 20lb and no one really noticed.

>/cgl/ related
Just had a kinda cool (at least imo) idea for a cosplay, that should be simpler to do than the original

>>7809895
Mine does the same thing. It's very annoying. I think part of her problem is that I'm 15-30lbs lighter than she was at her lightest, so she just can't wrap her mind around me being thinner.
>tfw mother worries over the possibility of me having an eating disorder more than my very real and vocalized suicidal ideation

On a cgl note, my small frame makes it a bitch to find jsks that don't gape at the chest.

>Best friend back from study abroad.
>We hadn't known each other long before he left, but we pick up like we were old friends.
>Fucking yes.
>Get the chance to show him my lolita wardrobe, he thinks it's adorable
>Get dragged dancing with him and a couple other friends tonight. I sucked but it was still fantastic.

Fuck /cg/ I have no gif to express myself right now.

>>7809924
Thankfully my parents we're pretty nonjudgmental when it came to looks and body shape.

I think the only time my dad said anything was when he said an ex-friend of mine looked like a troll. But I think that was more to do with her nasty attitude and the way she treated me then her actual appearance.

>>7809895
Wow, are you me?

I have a fairly stereotypical Asian mother though, and she had the same sentiments about my body when I was through with high school. I know she means well and all, but it was pretty damn hurtful. I had to constantly remind her that I'm eating as I would at home, but my body simply made some changes after puberty.

I feel so neurotic about buying anything now because I've wasted money on stuff I've only either used once or just disliked having gotten at all. Like, I want to buy a cosplay. I want to buy video game accessories. But I have to justify it and make sure I get my money's worth. With video games that's a bit easier because I'd judge the value based on how many hours of gameplay (I'd usually try to go for one dollar an hour, so if I buy a $40.00 game I better play it for forty hours at least). Meanwhile I might wear a cosplay like, once in a while. That is why I opt for cosplays that have normal clothes because at least I can wear that for every day use. Like if a character wears black shorts, I'd buy black shorts which I can use for that character and also use for just going out normally.

I want to buy things but I want to know I won't regret it. It's driving me insane.

>>7809912
Eh, I mean I know girls my height who could probably carry a 20lb weight gain and at least not look *significantly* worse, but with me it all goes directly to my waist, nowhere else. I'm convinced it's possibly the most unflattering way to ever gain weight on your body because there isn't really much real estate on your stomach for the fat to occupy. It doesn't help that I have almost no muscle to speak of.

I get a lot of gushing over "OMG you're so lucky you're naturally thin!" and in my head I'm like "bitch I'm not naturally thin, I maintain this carefully because I start to resemble fucking Patrick Star after gaining 3lbs."

>>7809023
Learning to pace your work (as in do one thing at a time and if you're unsure about that particular step find reference materials and learn it) is not intuitive. Maybe it's even less intuitive for me because I have ADHD but I manage, that being said-- you are not a piece of crap anon, you have high expectations of yourself and you need to learn to match those expectations to reality.

Make a check list of each stage of your project, then make a realistic goal for each day (maybe ticking off three or four steps an evening.) When you get comfortable with that then stretch it and do more.

>>7809981

tbh i don't see no wrongs here. you just seem like somebody who is responsable with their money, for someone with this hobby at least.

did you grew up with a family who was broke when you were younger? you sound like somebody who is just used to taking care of their money and that's sort of the thing you get from growing up as a poorfag, i'd know

>>7809671
This is just like me! Except sometimes I actually spend more money trying to be cheap because I buy shitty stuff and it falls apart. Or I don't buy the stuff I really want and get sad

>>7810069
We weren't really broke or poor, just middle class, I guess. And like, I've just made impulse purchases, bought things or paid for things that I ended up forgetting about, dismissing, or replacing. I'm a little cautious about it now.

>>7808646
I had a dream like this the other day!
I was looking thought the latest kera and saw that Cats Tea Party was being re-released.
I was so excited and contacted my SS, and was first in line.
Then I woke up.

Lyk dis if u cri3d.

>>7810159
i crievery tiem

>havent been to a meet with the local comm since april of last year
>wardrobe has barely grown/improved
>meeting up with most of them at a con coming up very soon
>coords going to be sub par
>friend coming with that im going to be dressing up in my things because she doesnt want to feel out of place
>choices will be even more limited

I feel so fucking shit. My coord last time I saw them was actually pretty nice but I dont just want to do a repeat, but it seems that or mediocrity are my only choices. I wish I could devote myself to learning how taobao works so I could get a decent amount of blouses, socks, shoes, accessories so I could actually go to meetups. Oh well, getting back in touch with everyone should be nice. I just hope my normalfag friend has a good time.

My boyfriend had a strangely elaborate dream about my handmade lolita pieces winning some big sewing competition.

It was really sweet.

>>7809778
i usually just think "oh well i can't spend the money if i die so i mayaswell splurge and make myself happy now"
i normally keep 300/400 for emergencies but if it gets below that bc rent/food/days out i just try to not mind too much and work more! it's good to spend money and treat yourself. i grew up v workingclass and even now it's hard to justify spending more than 5 bux on "stupid" stuff, but i just buy it anyway bc i want it !

>>7809410
You need to vent all this negativity. A therapist won't tell you "you shouldn't be depressed because in fact you have it good, next to others".


I'm like you and I let things spiral out of control to the point I had thoughts about doing an hero; I thought I would be a bother and a shame for my parents; I was conviced through and thick I would be thrown out of my first year by Christmas. I hadn't been able to start working, because, 'you know, if you don't work and you fail, it hurt less heh?'. Being all alone didn't help me; I wouldn't go meet people, I was afraid of their reactions.
But the thing is one night, I was thinking how I could disappear in the least painful way for my family, and I opened my eyes. What was I doing?
The next day, I steeled my resolve and called my GP right away, before I could chicken out and go back to "me".
For one hour, I cried in her office.
And you know what? She was more concerned with my well-being than myself, and didn't say a thing about my thoughts of disappearing; she didn't tell me I was a coward for wanting to disappear without suiciding. All those things I thought.
It turns out more often than not, the way we view things is skewed. My situation wasn't bad, right; I even had a chance to redo my year, and my problems are seemingly gone. That doesn't prevent(ed) me from feeling like a shit at the smallest thing, I'm like that. But I had a problem and won once against myself; I even try to meet people.


tl;dr: I think you should go see someone you know is trustworthy; a medic is fine for that,and will be able to help you. I agree with >>7809560
and >>7809528 in that you can make your momentum by making the first step to go out of this thing you're in. And however small the step, when you'll think everything is going down and crashing, just think about this moment, this moment when you were stronger than you thought, when you reached out and tried. If you were able to do it once, you'll be able to do it again, right?

>>7809210
>AATP diamond socks
Which colour? I've got some brand new ones laying around.

>>7809471
>boyfriend spends thousands of dollars on camera equipment he never uses
>"omg you bought another second hand dress for €100 wouldn't you be better off saving that money instead"
sigh

>>7809778
I know this exact feel!
After I moved out my parents started throwing money at me "for food and vacations and nice things" and when we're out somewhere they literally tell me to take advantage of them and their money. It took me a long time to get over this feeling that spending money on anything but necessities made me a terrible person even if I earned that shit myself. This went on until I had over €5000 in the bank and came across my dream dress on CC and now I'm finally starting to allow myself to buy nice things every other month or so.
>tfw boyfriend is a pennypincher from a poor family
>tfw I can't tell him what my clothes cost because he'd definitely disapprove
>even though I have way more money than he does
>and he's too proud to have me pay for his shit
>well then I'm going to spend it on myself, asshole

>>7810193
Taobao isn't that complicated, anon! Even I managed it and I'm a total derp who didn't figure out online shopping until a year ago or so. Just use a SS with a good grasp of English so you can email them with any questions you may have. I used TaobaoRing.

>tfw Fairy Angel is too dang cute

>Dear Princess,
>The new items are arrived and wait for your looking.
>There are JSKs, onepiece, and blouses.
>have a nice shopping.

>>7808974
comm?

>new laws pass so that my doctor cannot prescribe me my anti psychosis medication
>need to see a psychiatrist to get them to allow my doctor to start giving me them
>earliest appointment for one i chose is the 25th of november
>dont have enough pills to last till then
>trying to find a new psychiatrist
>crying because if i stop my medication i might do something stupid

i dont know what to do

Guys, how do you go acting as a mediator?

One of my friends is getting a cold shoulder from another friend of mine, and I told her I'd find out why.

Is this even a good idea? I have the message typed out and everything, but tbh, I don't know the girl I'm going to bring it up to too well. I'm afraid she'll be all like "well anon she'll have to take it up with me" and then she'll think I have a problem with her, which I don't.

>>7810429
Sounds like NYC.

>>7809464
how about videogames, lolita, cosplay and traveling?
I end up being mediocre in all of those because I can't focus enought to be exellent at one.
But it brings me many experiences, and I consider it something really valuable, so I've got that going for me

>>7809389

I do jewelry designing as a hobby other than lolita. Let me tell you, taking up a craft will only have you allocating your money to a different hobby in the craziest ways imaginable. I'm a sucker for vintage beads, so sometimes if I don't spend on lolita, I end up spending maybe ~$50 on cameos from the 1950s. >>7809450 has the right idea.

>>7810458
oh man
I have ten+ hobbies, mostly crafts (knitting, sewing, crochet/ ect)
I have so many different projects just lying around most of the time until I get the urge to pick them back up and finish them, cri

>be me
>hate pink, it looks like intestines and gross body parts and crap
>observe wardrobe
>wtf 2/3 main pieces are pink
> 3 of them are more tasteful reddish pinks I can deal with
>1 is this disgusting tartan jsk that is the exact color of muscle tissue

TFW concerned about why pink brings disgusting images of organs and various body parts to mind.
First greentext excuse me if I failed.

>>7810480
some people just have colors like that! Certain shades of yellow gross me out because it looks like vomit to me
Pink tartan is terrible btw

>>7810485
This jsk is truly something awful. I want to sell it but my mom bought it for me so it has sentimental value.

>>7810480
Anon I feel you
>never been a fan of pink
>take a look at my wardrobe
>tfw 1/4 of my wardrobe is pink
I usually end up with dusty pink, but still, there is so much pink in my wardrobe and I did not even realise! Don't write a colour off because you don't like it, there might be some shades that suit you well and that you really like. For me its dusty pink, while I realised bright pink and pink used in many Sweet items do not suit me.

>TFW concerned about why pink brings disgusting images of organs and various body parts to mind.
Eh, it just happens, Unless soomething traumatic happened to you and pink triggers some kind of trauma or you have to vomit every time you see it, I wouldn't bother. I really dislike the yellow colourways of AP's dresses because it reminds me of vomit somehow (that kind of vomit when there's nothing in your stomache anymore and you just vomit up bile and stomach acid)...
If you dislike certain shades of colours just sell the dresses and get some clothes you really like, in a colour that isn't gross to you.

>First greentext excuse me if I failed
Nah, I have seen worse.

>tfw no gf

>>7810452
definitely nyc, the only girl that I can think of that ran an old cgl group and then dropped off the face of the earth is NYCAnonLoli.
Some one really should take over, the dramu in nyc isn't even fun anymore, it's just tiring.

>>7810270
Sorry anon, I was asleep when you posted this, hopefully you come back to check the thread. I've written a list out of the ones I can use, but don't want to clog up the thread. Could you e-mail me please? Thank you so very much.

>start eating less foods and better foods to lose weight
>go visit parents
>sister just turned 30 and still lives at home
>because she doesn't like living alone, although she's perfectly capable of paying for shit and has lived on her own before
>she's basically OCD but my parents don't seem to notice
>only eats vegan and organic shit and claims she isn't vegan
>won't eat any food from restaurants or things other people have made
>has a vigorous workout routine that starts at 4 in the morning
>if she goes off her routine or someone gets into "her space" [she has basically claimed the kitchen at my parents house], she will throw a passive-aggressive bitchfit
>always asking people "is my butt to big?" or talk about her body to people in a way that makes them feel awkward and uncomfortable
>I start talking about how I started "dieting" to my mother
>sister overhears and rolls her eyes
>"omg, why are you dieting?"
>like she hasn't been "dieting" for 10 years
>fuck you
>finally just say "why? You afraid I'm going to be skinnier and prettier than you?"
>she goes quiet-mad and storms away
>I keep going. "Don't want another person to be jealous of?"
>she goes downstairs to her room and slams the door
>my mom says nothing
>"Mom.. you know I'm right."
>Mom just shrugs and shakes her head.

I don't give a shit anymore. She's been doing this since high school.
She can't find a bf because she's so damn self-righteous, unyielding, uncompromising and generally neurotic!
Mommy and daddy always reassuring her that she's so pretty, and she's not ugly, but she's so damn self-centered.
Please, insert how you don't wear makeup but still probably look great into the conversation again, bitch. Or how you eat organic and how it's so healthy and how everyone should do it.
She figures out a way to turn EVERY conversation to her, then wonders why she has no friends.

shut. the. fuck. up.

>half-assed on-topic because losing weight for lolita

>>7810579
Honestly you both sound like snots. Let your sister live her life, you shouldn't be trying to do what your parents need to. God, I feel bad for your mom, being dragged into the middle of your squabbling like that.

>>7810579
Your sister sounds like an extreme version of my older sister.

>everything has to be about her
>pulls horrid shit, but my mother always
excuses her for some bs reason
>is obsessed with fitness and healthy eating, and will bitch out everyone else for not following her shining example
>constantly makes jabs about my looks or weight (called me 'fat dyke' when growing up)

>>7810579
Your sister sounds like an extreme version of my older sister.

>everything has to be about her
>pulls horrid shit, but my mother always excuses her for some bs reason
>is obsessed with fitness and healthy eating, and will bitch out everyone else for not following her shining example
>makes jabs about my looks or weight (constantly called me 'fat dyke' when growing up)

>be a successful singer
>enjoy looking at lolita fashion
>want to wear AP and Baby
>tfw you can't wear lolita cause it would be considered bad fashion and everyone will look down on you
>tfw you can't join your home comm cause you're too famous

You girls should be lucky. I want to wear lolita, but I don't want to hurt my career. Shit sucks. :(

>>7810585
>"snots"
>the fuck, anon?

I let her live her life without interfering. She pays my parents rent, which is the only reason I don't kick up a fuss. I know they appreciate the extra cash.
I don't give a shit about what she does anymore as long as she
It wouldn't be so bad if she didn't act like a second wife to my father, being condescending as shit to him and telling him what he can and can't eat and stuff. It makes my blood boil.
He puts up with it because
>"We need to show your sister the love and patience of Christ."
>mfw

Considering this is the first time I've said anything, I think I'm well in line.
Plus, my mother has told me on numerous occasions that she has nearly had it with my sister, but needs to be "compassionate", per the request of my father.

>>7810593
I feel you, anon.
Sorry you had to put up with such bullshit. I hope you're in a better environment now.

>>7810605
>weh weh, I'm so successful, please pity me

>>7810585
>you shouldn't be trying to do what your parents need to
>implying parents should tell her sister she's just jelly
>implying her sister isn't 'doing what the parents should' by telling her not to diet
>snots

Are you an only child or something anon? Whatever it is you need to chill. Here, have a cute bunny to calm down.

>>7810605
Why dont you just fucking do it and stop caring what people think? As long as you're not ita, and you can refer to /cgl/ and other guides for help, no one will care.

Plus if youre successful you probably have more money than the average person on here. Use it to buy delicious burando.

>>7810610
You don't know the pressures of being successful and how everyone looks at you. It stresses me out because if you make the wrong move, everyone will call you out. You can't be independent and you can't live your own life sometimes. It upsets me that I can buy lolita, but I can't wear lolita outside the comfort of my own homes.

Sometimes there are days when I need a time out to get away from the pressures and be normal. Go see Roman Holiday and see why.

>>7810605
Wear it then. people will give you shit but its your image.
you'd gain followers for it too.

live out my personal dream of becoming famous and hiring collageanon as a wardrobe coordinator? (she digs the idea too)


do it, don't give a shit. but don't say lolita fashion when asked about it. Call it Japanese fashion, people are weird about it.

I wish you luck and if I don't see you pop up in nice lolita coord I'm going to be sad.

I feel weird seeing your post because I kept brainstorming the other day about how being a famous/semi-famous lolita actress/singer might work and how must suck making friendships/relationships.

if you want to talk, here is my email. you don't have to discuss who you are with me at all, and I understand, but if you want a lolita friend I'll be glad to talk with you/help you out/whatever

>>7810643
Alright hun, no one forced you to become famous. I also strongly doubt you're actually famous enough to have people following you 24/7

>started uni this year
>instantly recognizes a handsome cosplayer from local cons I've been to in the past
>he super hides his power level, just like me
>mfw I'm very tempted to bring it up so I can be his friend. or suck his dick.

too bad I'm 100% spaghetti

I'll be modelling for Metamorphose this month and I just saw what I'll be wearing. Everyone else on the spreadsheet has really nice dresses that are easy to pick shoes for (we have to bring our own shoes) and I get a lace monster in a weird colour that I can't even figure out what shoes to bring. I'm still excited to model for them but I feel kinda jealous towards the other girls.

>>7810662
to be fair, it's a meta fashion show so I don't know what you were expecting.
Anyways their lace monsters tend to sell out pretty fast so it's not so bad that you got that eh. good luck with shoes anon!

>>7810662
Well, it's Meta... It is always either really good or extremly bad, there's almost nothing in between. At least it is not a cheeta print.

I wish you good luck on finding shoes and having fun modelling though!

>>7810635
>you can refer to /cgl/
>Taylor Swift or someshit mentions the cosplay and gothic Lolita board on 4chan in a single interview
>/cgl/ fucking swarmed with 12 year old itas/weebs and newfags
Nah thanks

>>7810662
Do it up old school babby.

>>7810676
Eh? When did that shit happen?

>>7810676
>refer to as in look at, take advice from
>use /cgl/ as a reference
Also mentioning that you browse 4chan is probably more harmful to a singer's career than dressing like a strange frilly fluffball. I hope nobody would be that retarded.

>>7810662
Black clunky shoes go with EVERYTHING

EVERYTHING

>woke up this morning
>look into mirror
>acne the worst it has been since I was 15
>holy fucking shit I am so hideous

>>7810713
I feel you, this has happened to my this year too.
All I can advise you is: GO SEE A DOCTOR. Seriously, the sooner the better. Find a good doctor in your town and make an appointment. I tried to solve the problem on my own because I was too lazy and too ashamed to have acne again at the age of 20, but of course nothing helped and it went worse until i finally went to the doctor and got some help. They will know what your skin needs and what the cause for your acne is. There are people who went to college for this shit and tons of stuff that can help you.

I finally went to a doctor six months ago and I am almost acne free and my scars have healed a little too. Nowasays I can get away with a little concealer and powder. I am sure it will get better Anon, have a virtual hug!

>>7810713
I know that feel

>talk to boyfriend
>we're being cute
>we look into eachother's eyes lovingly
>I'm about to go in to kiss him
>notice he's not looking at my eyes anymore
>staring strait at my forehead
>"you have a bunch of zits.."

every time. period breakouts are the worst.

>wake up
>what to do today
>use dads credit card to buy 8000 dollar dress
Fuck ya im satisfied with my life now

>>7810720
When you say doctor do you mean like a general one or a specialist?
I'm hoping it's just a combination of having a lazy weekend and period breakouts like >>7810721
(i'm due in the next few days) they're not forehead ones, just all over my chin and sides of my face, like a beard. ;_;

>>7810724
w-what dress was it that cost 8K?

>>7810668
>>7810662
I think they look nice in their own way just it's not something I would ever go for. I guess trying out something new won't hurt though.
>>7810687
Yeah, I'm sorta thinking old school and bringing a selection of RHS/classic shoes. I'm thinking if I bring pink, white and black I could see what socks they give me and decide.

>>7810724

>>7810725
I have a zitbeard too, anon
and mean period shits

>>7810643
>pressures of being successful
famous does not equal successful
>Roman Holiday
Anya was a princess, you are not. You chose to be famous, you weren't born into fame. You know nothing about living life under the spotlight since childhood.
You are compensated with money for appearing in public. It's what you get paid for, it's your job, it's what you agreed to. Now suck it up.

>>7810605

>>7810745
That looks like a bad porno.

>>7810650
>can't wear lolita outside the comfort of my own homes.
>my own homes
>homes
>plural s

Not trying to say that people who are already fortunate should not be able to still pursue additional happiness, because they absolutely should, or that you should have to bottle up your complaints just because someone else has it worse. But someone with real prince and pauper syndrome would probably not have mentioned that. Fantastic troll, you.

>>7810643
>can't wear lolita outside the comfort of my own homes.
>my own homes
>homes
>plural s

Not trying to say that people who are already fortunate should not be able to still pursue additional happiness, because they absolutely should, or that you should have to bottle up your complaints just because someone else has it worse. But someone with real prince and pauper syndrome would probably not have mentioned that. Fantastic troll, you.

>>7809017
When i was a teen, i had more "uncovered" tops with more low cuts, now i don't have anything about this except for a long spaghetti top but isn't really flattering on my tiny shoulders and bust, i look better with fully covered tees, non low cut and with poofy sleeves, like lolita cutsews.
>>7809024
Puberty ended years ago and hopefully left me a small A cup, tiny shoulders and arms but i have a bit of hips and thighs, well at least i can fit lolita and also AP salopettes in my 20s and not looking like i outgrown the dresses.

>>7810605
>not being wacky like Lady Gaga with her fashion expression
>not being cute like Kyary Pamyu Pamyu

Also what >>7810693 said, if you just browse /cgl/ or other safe boards then that's fine but I'd think you had a secret bitchy/salty/sandy attitude for being here since 4chan brings the bad out of most of us

>:(
And stop with that, we don't like emoticons here (it's also an obvious cry you're new)

>>7810745
She'd actually be kind of cute in that without that god forsaken mini hat.

>that ugly hair do
>that boobloaf
>lack of black jewelry to tie things together

Okay, actually maybe not.

>>7810801
She'd also be a lot cuter without the blowjob faces. I get that hypersexuality is part of her brand but I wish they didn't try to involve lolita in that. Reminds me of those godawful pictures of Jessica Simpson in lolita where she's just lifting up her entire skirt like a toddler who made an oopsie.

>learned to sew, always make my own costumes now
>friends with chubby-chan on Facebook
>chubby-chan complaining about not being able to buy a cosplay in her size excessively, or about getting money for cosplay
>chubby-chan studied textiles for two years, but can't be bothered to learn how to sew
>silently judging
Now proud that I know how to put together my own stuff, and have lost weight this year. Everything's just working out for me

> btssb is doing a fashion show at local con
> really want to apply, super nervous
> get 'photographer' friend to take a few photos for me
> have to have head shot and fully body shot
> somehow pick the worst outfit of my life in my nerves
> manjaw in all the pictures
> icantsendthese.jpg
> send them anyway, nothing to lose
> get selected by btssb to model for them despite all of this
> is this real life

Mine isn't actually sad. Just happy feels today. We all need to have those sometimes.

>>7809324
Dude, just resell the coat.

Why the fuck would you freak about this, just relist the coat immediately. What's the seller going to do? Be annoyed?

>>7809374
Something coming up where you need to spend your money on something like an emergency is one thing, but your boyfriend buying you a coat so you don't need that one anymore is completely different.

>>7810871
Congrats cutie.

>>7809518
The SET is for sale, not the socks on their own. Fucking get over it.

>>7809655
My mom calls me a skank and tells me to stop wearing that "stupid chinese shit" because it's too expensive or something.

I wear like $5 skirts from ebay that come to my knees.

>>7809440
I'm not that anon, but I think it's rude to ask the seller that. Is it even the same coat? Do you know? What's the issue with having 2 coats? I have 4.

>>7810875
I guess you didn't see
> I already have so much to deal with and I'm the absolute worst at sending mail so I know listing it is going to stress me out.
and
>>7809387
>I'm just so stressed at the idea of having to resell the coat to be honest
and
>>7809440
>I'm sort of psyching myself up for keeping it by thinking like this

tl;dr mailing stuff stresses me out because I'm super busy and would hate to make a buyer wait if things come up and keep me from getting to the post office in a timely fashion, plus I'll just keep the coat anyway. Reselling the coat has nothing to do with the original seller and everything to do with me being an anxious, busy twat.

>bf of 2 years is being sent to North Korea to live with his uncle for 6 months
>in a year
>when we were supposed to be moving in together
>I can't afford rent on my own
>I'll be 22 still living at home thanks to this
>he doesn't even want to go, his mom's making him
>he won't stand up to her

What am I going to do /cgl/

>>7810875
>>7810901
>>7810882
Good lord, suddenly so many sandy replies to something I thought was already resolved. I already said downthread that I would purchase the coat. This is a feels thread. I was bummed that the seller wasn't understanding of my situation and I shared my feels. I wasn't looking for an argument, debate, or even a ton of sympathy.

>>7810903
>going to North Korea
>North Korea

Lolwut
Seriously though, he should man the fuck up and stan up to her. If he does not want to go he should be able to get out of this. If he goes now, what do you think you future relationship willl be if he can never voice his own opinion over aothers, especially a mother??
Also: North Korea?? What the fuck? That is the cherry on top. You better talk some senses into him.

>>7810902
I just think that no one gives a fuck, anon. Stop acting like a little bitch.

>>7810911
Stop replying to it and let them be sandy cunts. The drama will die down soon enough.

>>7810605
How famous we talking, anon?

Would any of us know of you? (not asking you to name yourself, just curious.)

>>7809537
BOSTON
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>>7810911
>thought this was already resolved
Stop fucking replying then you idiot.

>>7810915
Oh jesus I'm retarded, it's South Korea. His Uncle is moving back to the states in two years, so she wants him to go now so he has somewhere free to stay. She wants him to go fo a full year, but fuck that.

I was thinking about trying to save up enough to go with him. His mom doesn't take our relationship seriously and it's awful and he's such a pushover he won't say anything.

>>7810917
tbh I'm starting to think that the seller linked the post to her comm or her friends and now I'm uncomfortable with the idea of giving her my paypal/address...

>>7810896
Your mom sounds like a cunt.
What is with all these cunty moms ITT? My mom would never say things like that, she pretty much views me as a more successful (ha! if only) version of herself and wants me to be happy and give her tons of happy little pink grandbabbies.

I can't imagine having children and then constantly putting them down and making them feel like shit. What kind of asshole would bully their own child? I'm so sorry, anons.

>>7810917
>sandy cunts
No one here is being sandy, anon. If the other anon would stop replying with sob stories for attention then people would stop getting pissed off.

>>7810930
>no one here is being sandy
>follows that up with a sandy as fuck sentence

>>7810916
>no one gives a fuck
>that's why people are still replying hours later!

>>7810930
>sob stories for attention
>in a feels thread? Preposterous!

I'm not even involved in this (inb4 "hi buyer-chan1") but fucking hell, you sound sandy as fuck. She said she's buying the fucking coat. Get over it.

>>7810929
I was just wondering the same thing. My mom takes photos of my cosplay and I have to fight her not to put them on her facebook. That's embarrassing, but not... awful. I feel so bad for all these anons with less-than-loving parents.

>birthday is in two days
>Call parents who are at our beach house for the weekend to see if they will come back for thursday
>mom says "No"
>realize she isn't actually joking she actually forgot or just doesn't care
>no heart to tell her
>filling the void in my heart with binge shopping

>>7810941
Thanks, I was wondering if anyone else noticed this shit but I was getting too flustered to even reply, haha.

I think I am going to message the seller on LM and try to reiterate to her that I want to buy the coat, I just figured asking if she wouldn't mind relisting wouldn't hurt, given the situation.

This has really gotten out of hand, all for a coat that won't even cost me $100 shipped.

>>7810941
Stop replying and this will go away.

>>7810954
Fucking. Stop. Replying.

>>7810964
This is a thread where discussion is not uncommon, pull the sand dildo out of your vag please

>>7810954
>This has really gotten out of hand, all for a coat that won't even cost me $100 shipped.

You know, I was one of the first people defending you against sandy anons, but you really do need to stop replying to everyone, you're starting to bring this hate on yourself. I know this is a feels thread and that you just wanted to vent, but you're really the one causing things to get out of hand at this point.


Part of me is legitimately wondering if you have aspergers or something...

>>7810433
go nuts, convince yourself you can wrestle a bear, become a legend.

>>7810721
kek, facescrub/mask

>>7810967
Listen bitch. Coat anon keeps wondering why people keep commenting and why this got 'so out of hand', yet she won't stop replying and wondering why everyone's on her ass still.

been buying lots of burando, realize that I've spent tons of money. "oh anon it can't be that bad!"
>My account had over 3000
>not I am at 260.

And....now I am selling my closet what have I done.

>>7810968
Yes, you're totally right; I just happened to be in the thread replying to other posts when the new replies came up and I didn't consider how annoying it would be. I'll stop! Polite sage, and I'm done.

>>7811049

Maybe make a budget next time, and start htinking about what you really want to have in your wardrobe.
Many Lolitas are like you at the beginning (me too, except I had less money). You start and just throw your money around, and later discover your own style and that half the dresses do not fit them.

>>7810946
Awwww maybe she is actually joking and she'll surprise you for your birthday? I'm sorry anon, treat yo self in any case.

>>7810579
>She figures out a way to turn EVERY conversation to her, then wonders why she has no friends.


Your sister might be a narcissist.

>>7811095
>armchair diagnosing
no, stop that. she may be self-absorbed but that doesn't automatically mean she has a disorder. God damn you people.

>>7810981
>acne
>scrub

>>7811098
the micro bead scrubs aren't as harsh, the walnut shell stuff is terribad.

>>7811072
I am trying to sell a few pieces right now and If I can manage to do it I'll have 600 back...which would be nice. Thank you for the advice anon. I'm really angry with myself for doing this. I saved my money really well for basically a year.

>>7810944
Aw, she's just proud of you. Overeager parents can be annoying like that ("Hey look anon I met this woman whose daughter loves Japan you like a Japanese thing too so I gave her your email and now you can teach her 14-year old to make beautiful Japanese clothes just like you do isn't that FUN?" mom pls no) but in the end they mean well. You can talk to them about what you are and aren't comfortable with and they will at least try to accommodate you because they want you to be happy. When parents are being assholes and either don't know or don't care that it's making their children unhappy, there's not much the kid can do but get the fuck out of there and hope the parent changes at some point.

>>7811106
Don't worry Anon, you can do it! I suggest making a wishlist, a cohesive wardobe, and a budget you stick to.
For me, after I did this I actually ended up spending less money than I calculated. I now stick to my wishlist mainly, I know my style, tast and what I want to wear so I do not buy dresses that don't fit my wardrobe/are not my style, and carefully choose each piece I buy. Therefor I buy way less than I used to, I got some savings and bought pieces that I REALLY like, love to own and wear.
It might take a while to get there but you can do it!

>>7810926
Oh my god anon, I was terrified that your boyfriend was somehow going to North Korea. There's a BIG difference.

> put up JSK with matching socks and headbow for sale on LM
> state I'll only sell as a set
> girl asks if I could split it because she doesn't want the whole set, only one piece
> nope.jpg
> she throws fit and starts spamming my inbox
> goes from begging to whining to threatening to insulting and back to begging, rinse and repeat
> shit's been going on for a week

I can't even.

>>7811162
top kek.

>>7811162
Report her immediatley. This is not acceptable behaviour, and the admins should do something about it.

>>7811168
This. Also, maybe take some caps for later laughs/story-telling if there aren't too many personal details.

>>7811162
Hahahahah, and shitting up this thread too, scroll up a bit, she's been here in all her glory. Well, assuming you are in fact the seller of the same set the other anon was so desperate to get the socks from. The situations are too similar for it to be a coincidence, so I'm going to go ahead and do that until it's proven otherwise.

>>7810920
EYYYYYY

>>7811195
if you look at the thread you'll see she was in for a skirt; even posted the link. See >>7808977

>one day my boyfriend unexpectedly sees me browsing cgl on my laptop
>he's curious and wants to know what this site is about
>tell him about 4chan and its various boards, that it's mainly rubbish and I just browse cgl for the lolita related stuff
>he now posts /pol/ and /int/ memes all the time on his facebook

w...what have I done, h...how do I stop it?

>>7811223
>/pol/ memes on facebook
Burn him. Douse him in gasoline and set that shit on fire. He will thank you for it later.

>>7811223
>Guy discovering 4chan from his GF

I feel this is the wrong way round for some reason.

Also if he posts 4chan shit on facebook he doesn't deserve to live.

>get sent to counselor after having a mini breakdown in school
>counselor starts asking me about my parents and childhood
>I fucking hate psycho-analysis
>I give her some details and then ask her directly how this will help my current problems
>"Well I think that by exposing those problems you'll be helping yourself cope with them"
>wat.jpg

I'm not used to this counselor thing. Do I keep going with her or do I request a different counselor who hopefully has a different approach to these things?

I really am not comfortable with the whole idea that my childhood was mentally scarring. I wasn't beaten up, I wasn't punished more than other kids, and my family has only gotten weird and strained in the last several years. I feel like I should go to a different counselor who deals with the present more. Are all counselors like this?

>>7811223

Just be straight with him. Tell him only idiots and teenagers that want to be cool do that. It won't impress his friends and anyone else that goes on 4chan will just cringe and potentially avoid him in the future for fear that he will be one of those awkward as fuck people that only speaks in memes, has no opinions of their own, and thinks they found some super secret internet club.

There may be no hope. You could show him this thread so he knows it isn't just your opinion. Try your best to save him from himself.

>>7811096
narcisissm isn't a disorder.
the story of narcissus centers around a boy who became so infatuated with his own reflection in the water of a lake that he literally took root there and eventually got turned into a plant so that he could look at himself forever
So a narcissist is a self-centered and vain person

>>7811261

It can become a disorder though.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Narcissistic_personality_disorder

>>7811252
In my experience, yes. Maybe my experience was just shitty but every single counselor I've seen has tried digging random shit up from my childhood to explain me being weird and anxious all the time. I spent almost ten years seeing various counselors and psychologists who did this for a few months until I felt like I was wasting my time again and stopped going. It was only recently that I met a good one who immediately spotted that I was exhibiting ASD-like problems and behaviour.
>test for ASD
>DING DING DING YOU ARE A WINNER
>suddenly nobody is interested in my totally normal childhood anymore and I'm actually getting the help I need
You just need to get lucky, I guess.

>>7811252
Therapy is all about having a good relationship with your counsellor. If you didn't feel comfortable with their methods, talk to them about it and tell them the things you want to talk about. If they continue to push you to talk about irrelevant stuff, go to a different counsellor and keep trying until you find one that works for you. Do your best to work together. People don't always click right off the bat.

>>7811259
>yeah, I don't see another way, he needs to get this straight before it is too late. This just goes too far, he's not only embarrassing me, but himself even more. I don't even understand why he's doing it, he's an outgoing confident guy who doesn't need to hide behind stupid memes and spout them around in order to feel important. I hope he only got the wrong grasp of 4chan or something and understands that what he does in not socially acceptable.

>cuddling with bf
>suddenly, bf says "you know it's funny that the hair on your cheeks is mostly light and soft but then there's a few thick dark hairs in random places"
>WHAT
>get mirror & tweezers
>can't find any dark hairs, even in natural light with magnifying mirror
>tell boyfriend that next time he spots one he has to grab my tweezers and remove the motherfucker
>"Don't be silly Anon it's not that big of a deal"
>WHY DID YOU TELL ME
what if everyone else can see them too oh god

>>7811304
It's ok anon, we all get them with age. I've got a few that like to pop up every now and then under my chin, but I just pluck them and move on.

>>7811304
Maybe your bf is just an idiot and doesn't know what eyebrows are. Don't stress out about it if you can't find them.

>>7811195
That sort of thing happens more often than you think, anon. That is, where someone is selling a set and won't separate it, but someone out there wants one certain part of it that they've been looking for/wanting *forever.*

>>7811261
Im like a thousand times sure that narssisius grew old and died by the lake and the forest nymphs, whod fallen in love with him, covered him in white wild flowers and so they named that flower narssisus

>>7811261
>>7811346
I thought he fell into the lake because he became so obsessed with his reflection.

>wants to sew lolita and normalfag clothes
>total newbie at drafting patterns, but know sewing basics
>finds out about the Lutterloh System by chance
>seems easy enough
>tfw it costs $129 new from their site
>stalks ebay and finds one for cheap
>not sure if ruler is included, but can get later elsewhere so bid anyway
>win it at less than $30
>tfw owning the bidding world for a short while

I really shouldn't be feeling so happy to win an auction, but it's so rare that I feel like a fat kid in a chocolate shop. Not to mention I got $100 knocked off the price.

>>7811346
The plant sprang from where he died. There are two versions out there that say he either drowned or died from hunger and thirst. The nymph mentioned in the stories was Echo, who was spurned by him.

>sage for OT

>>7811367
Forgot to mention that she did not put flowers on his body. Nemesis decided to punish Narcissus by luring him to the pool.

>>7809096
>lumpy pear
that's the perfect way to describe my body type too. I mean I look fine when I wear flattering clothes but if I wear a bodycon my ass looks practically obscene and the rest of me looks like all one, not particularly feminine shape.

>>7809172
Find a boyfriend who's crazy too, that's the best thing (if he's accepting because he's crazy, not just a crazy asshole.) And being off anti-depressants SUCKS. Make sure your meds come before other things, and if you really can't afford it, there might be a way to get the government to pay for it. (At least where I live in CA we have Medical.)

>>7811261
It is. What I was trying to say is that there's being self centered and being self centered to a point of a disorder. This is not it, Wikipedia is not a diagnosing tool, and whoever uses it as such should fuck right off back to Tumblr.

>>7811392
Being a narcissist and having narcissism are two different things, sort of like how being depressed is different from having depression. I actually know someone who is has narcissism and they are an awful, awful person.

>>7811268

Huh, I get anxious all the time too. I guess I'll have to go counselor shopping then. The current one kept probing my childhood and I'm like "... uh yeah, I got disciplined. That's why I'm not a brat," but she kept pressing on it. I'm fairly sure a lot more people would be as messed up as me if she thinks my childhood is to blame, that's all.

Not to mention the main reason I went in to see her was because I have a shitton of stuff to manage (applying to jobs, getting licensing exams done, etc.) and just wanted to manage the current problem until everything straightens itself out. I guess it's frustrating to dwell on childhood problems when my current fears are if I'm going to even get a job in the field I'm working in by next year.

>>7811270

Yeah, I'll talk to her next time about it. I just didn't know if it was her job to bring me out of my comfort zone or not, because I get that one needs a wakeup call sometimes. But this was just weird.

Fucking Chicago customs. I made a taobao order, and it was sent to Chicago 3 days ago. I know EMS can take 5-15 days from China, but fucking christ, I order things from Japan, they go to New York, and I'll get them 3 days after shipment. I know I'm probably being ridiculous, but I would feel so much better if I at least KNEW that the package was in Chicago at this point.

>>7809410
Are you me, anon? Well my mom at least doesn't care if i dont date or bring home a bf but oh well, at uni i didn't many friends, it's a bit easier on high school if you are lucky enough to find good people. I spend money for casual AP burando shit, well not much but still i fear to not use that much my items and i suck to do full body pictures of my coordinates to upload online. I can't even study that well because i tend to procrastinate and even if it's my dream major, i'm still not that good. Today i also failed an exam.
Issue is people like us has an hard time to escape from the social isolation, i can only (sorta) easily meet people online and also find a boy i would like, but i'm also picky about romantic relationships so the searching is not easy at all. Well at least for girls someone we would like after some time could appear, i think now for me happened but still not sure. So, i bet you would find online a bf (because well if you dont go out as me there is no choice) just have some patience.
>>7809528
Anon, isn't easy to do this for social inept people. That is more easy to say than to do in real life. If you were asocial as us you would understand.

>>7811421
Please read:
>>7809602

>>7810579
I know exactly how you feel my sister is the exact same, she just returned home after studying aboard for 8 months, thing that my mom payed, but she says she did, which is a total bullshit

good luck with your sister

>>tfw no bf

I'm surrounded by nerds, I even have chemistry with a lot of them and some of those are even qt, but I swear to GOD not a SINGLE ONE is traditionally masculine. The beardy hipster types, the hairless bishounen types, the chubby neckbeard types, every goddamn one is a disappointment when I get to know them.

I just want some guy bigger than me to push me around and dominate me in bed, maybe even take me on dates and spoil me a little. As much as I want to be a princess I realize that's completely unreasonable but these people don't even check a single tick on my list! They're all clingy children and goddamnit MOST OF THEM ARE SUB. Like why the fuck is it so hard to find a guy that wants to dom a tiny girl? Why do these guys keep finding themselves attracted to me? Do they seriously think I've got a strapon under my pettis? The last lumberjack type I almost thought had potential ended up wanting me to force him to wear my fucking skirts I SWEAR TO GOD I can't even express my disappointment towards that entire event.

Do you other seagulls have this problem? Am I just randomly surrounded by a sea of subby manchildren or is this a trend in the overall population? I really want a bf who likes the same weird shit I do but at this rate I think I'm going to have to start looking outside nerd circles for romance.

>>7809170
mfw this never happened

>>7809172
>(my own fault for being too optimistic about my budget)
Don't try to reword irresponsible. Start making better decisions.

>>7810605
>be successful
>be monies
>buy brand
>buy wigs and fancy makeup and circle lenses
>leave mansion in middle of night like ninja
>change into lolita disguise in public restroom
>go to meetup
>ninja back home when done

I don't like having sex. I have no sex drive. One time I tried I found it tedious. I haven't found a single person willing to date me so far.
One and only time I have I let the guy fuck other people (because he said I was selfish, even though I disclosed in the very beginning of the relationship what it's gonna be like) he "accidentally" fell in love with a girl he was shagging and left me. Not making that mistake again.
Most people who do try give up after a while, and I can't blame them, but it hurts to know that I'll be forever alone.
I wish I didn't at least get crushes, but I do and it's pretty much the worst feeling ever having to tell yourself not to bother again and again.
If I were religious I'd probably become a nun or something, at least that way I wouldn't be accused of being "grumpy because I need to get laid xDD"

>inb4 uggo/fatty
I'm quite normal looking

>Anxiety really getting the better of me lately
>Have stopped going to cons because I never have a good time because I'm freaking out all weekend
>friends have mentioned they think I'm a little.. off balanced
>I agree actually
>Want to go to a doctor and try being put on meds for anxiety
>Don't know where to start
>Have never had health insurance
>Getting some soon, but don't have a doctor
>See a therapist every once in a while, mention to her that I want to try anti-anxiety meds
>She brushes it off and won't talk about it???
>I can tell my no-fun attitude is starting to irritate my friends, I just want to get better before I push all my friends away
Any anons have advice on what I'm supposed to do? I know this isn't heavily CGL related, other than this stupid shit is ruining every time I try to go to a convention. Even now I'm so ashamed of how fucked up I am that I can only ask an anonymous message board

>>7811685

Not trying to tell you to change or that you are wrong.

Just want to bring up the option that maybe it wasn't that great because you only tried once?

How many things have you been good at the first try?

>>7811685
That really sucks, anon. Have considered talking to a doctor about this? Maybe there's something about your hormones that could be helped so that you could enjoy sex and have the healthy relationships you long for.

Might be a long shot, but if that suggestion doesn't work out, I hope you find that rare person that's compatible with you.

>>7811685
That really sucks anon. Lacking sex drive is really the worst since sex is actually great, and you're just randomly not allowed to experience it.

Have you considered that you don't really know your kinks? I mean, there's plenty of stuff that I used to avoid since it was "weird" that I've lately been really into since I let myself try it. The internet is a wonderful tool for this.

If it makes you feel better I know a ton of other girls who have this problem. It can actually be attributed to a lot of things though, if you're concerned, so maybe you should look into it?

>>7811685
He probably wasn't good. I've never had sex with a man, but I know that the quality of sex goes up each time I do it with my girlfriend. Practice makes perfect, I guess.

>>7811727
>next few cons I'm going to are local cons
>friends coming in to town and I think they expect me to host them
>would love to have them....
>but at the same time I get anxiety when more than one person sleeps over because of stupid irrational fears
>don't know what to do

>have sniper bid in place for dream dress
>someone else bids higher
>quickly put in a real time bid
>successful highest bidder
>about to win auction
>seller suddenly cancels auction seconds before it ends
>die a little inside

>>7811686
I fshe doesn't want you to have meds, it's probably because she thinks you can do without by working on yourself. Meds aren't a panacea, they aren't a miracle solution; if you thought that, I think it's normal she didn't push in this direction.
Do you think you're strong enough to fight your anxiety by yourself?

>tfw you are seriously considering taking up going to church just to have an excuse to wear at least some of your burando

I'm a classical lolita living in the sticks so there aren't any cute tea shops to frequent... However there ARE a buttload of churches. I'm not religious at all but... finding a beautiful church (maybe catholic?) to attend and dress beautifully to... Is this just a totally terrible idea? Ugh.

>>7811685
I have the same problem, although I do have a long-term boyfriend who I have sex with semi-regularly. I just view it as a chore, like doing the dishes. When dirty dishes start piling up I go wash them, and when my boyfriend gets 'amorous' I lay there and make appropriate noises. I know that sounds horrible and he himself has often told me that I don't have to do anything I don't want to do, but I just know that if I tell him I don't like it and stop having sex completely then our relationship wouldn't survive much more than a year or two.

I am definitely NOT telling you to do what I'm doing because this is a great way to feel violated and start resenting someone. The only reason I'm okay with this is because it isn't really unpleasant for me - just tedious as you described it - and he's a truly wonderful guy so I'm glad I get to be with him. So for me it's just part of being in this relationship.
For you it might be a good idea to visit a doctor for a checkup just so you know it's not due to your hormones being out of whack. I did the same thing as part of another test and for me there's nothing wrong, it's just how I'm wired. Another option is that you're just asexual. Inb4 'gtfo tumblr' because yeah it's very rare, but it's possible. In that case you're probably best off finding a partner who is also asexual but that could be quite difficult.

>mood cycles constantly between "i love cosplay costumes costumes costumes" and "I want to be cool and normal and have socially acceptable hobbies"
>don't want to be a quitter
>but also want normal friends

>>7811875
Anon, I appreciate your dose of reality, but I promise I don't think meds are a magical solution. I've expressed such to my therapist, and made sure she knows that I'm not expecting a cure-all. All I want is to find out what type of doctor to go to in order to ASK about getting on meds. I just have no medical history so I don't know where to go.
>Do you think you're strong enough to fight your anxiety by yourself?
No. I've been trying to make myself better for the last few years and I've only gotten worse and worse.

>>7809613
That's...my mother to a T. So bad that I actually ended up not eating anything else than glutinous rice, eggs and gallons of green tea for a month without even realizing it. When my roommate came back I started to cook again, so it's ok, but I dropped two pants sizes.
The worst thing is that I'm pretty happy with my body, but having her constantly telling me that I'm too chubby just push me down.

>>7811425
At times the biggest and hardest step is starting to get out at least partially by meeting some new friends, for example going to lolita comms. I will start soon to join a jfashion comm this month so it would be a little start. Usually i go from having few friends to go out sometimes to not going out at all with friends because well maybe i had the wrong type of people around me. I know i won't go out that much with the comm because most are far from my little town but at least i will have some social gathering and start again to have a more "interesting" life. Joining a lolita comm would be a good start i think. I have another issue that i cannot solve yet.... i have a driving anxiety more when i meet other cars in the streets if there is no one or no pedestrians/cats/dogs on the streets i'm ok driving. That is another issue i need to overcome.

>I just bought Innocent World's Flora JSK
>I have a wedding coming up and I want to wear it in a normal fag way
>my mum sees it hanging in the laundry and goes on about how beautiful it is
>she suggests that I wear it to the wedding

Gahh, it feels so nice to have her approval. I know it's just a dress but it made me feel really upbeat to know that she liked it as well.

>Finally got another paycheck, save some of that to get apartment.
>Day before I had $20 left because I overspent on Otakon, and had to buy presents for my mother and autistic brother.
>Went apartment shopping and found at least two apartments that won't eat half my paycheck and in decent places.
>1,000 for 368ft studio or pay 1,300 for a 550 1 bed or in iother apartment 1,200 for a 550 ft studio or 1,370 for a one bedroom.
>Need a apartment that is affordable, has enough space for my future home, and is actually available by december...
>It's going to be a long two months...

>that moment when you realize your entire family thinks you're gay because you never had a boyfriend

What can I say? I just love my Chinese cartoons too much.

>>7811685
Maybe you're just asexual?

Since I happen to be. But I would advise you to take the other anon's advice first to make sure it isn't a mistake and perhaps have it "cured"

Otherwise, I can sympathize with most of your worries and can say once you grow with it, you start to accept it and be more at peace with it.
The only real problem is finding another partner who happens to have a healthy sex drive, and like the other anon side, you sort of have to compromise but then it becomes a chore and I can say the man will definitely sense it and feel discouraged about it.
Then on the other side, if you do tell the man you're asexual, he'll feel like it's a challenge, much like viewing you as the final boss in a game rather than as a co-op player.

But there is another choice but it's sort of difficult; You can try to find another asexual man but those are of course, rare. Which is why I hope you're not asexual but if you are, there are internet support groups for asexual people so you know you're not alone.

>>7812855
*said

I'm a gothic lolita and I think I may be into ageplay.
I haven't tried it yet, but I've recently started to really love to fantasizing about having a daddy.
I don't know how to feel, actually.

>>7812049
>>7811685

Genuinely curious, not hating: Why have a boyfriend at all, if not for sex? What are you getting out of a partnership that you wouldn't get out of a close friendship? Is it just hand-holding and cuddles and stuff like that that you want?

Also, and I realize other anons have said this, I'd recommend branching out into thinking about kinks and fetishes and sexuality. Two years ago I was in your exact position, feeling neutral at best about sex and just going through the motions, but then I really sat down and thought about what turned me on and what I wanted in a sexual partner, and I've been a lot happier.

>>7813376
I'm not that anon, but the idea of sex repulses me and I've never understood how one can look at somebody and think "I want to fuck them." I've never even been sexually abused or anything, sexual things just all seem barbaric and disgusting to me.

Like you said, there's also other ways to show intimacy like cuddling and kissing, and I don't think partnership is only about the physical part either - just being a couple with someone who I truly feel a romantic connection to would be the most important for me.

If I were to be honest, I think it's narrow-minded that so many people act like sex is the main thing that keeps relationships together and that you can't express love without it. At risk of sounding like a Tumblr snowflake here, I don't think it's so wrong to just be asexual without having people act like you're broken and worthless because of it.

I got fired this week, from my first job, from completely out of the blue.
No burando or fun ever, afterall.

I recently moved and got a new job and have been freaking out all week that I wasn't going to make my rent this month.Turns out after I did the math I make a lot more then I thought I did.

>tfw it's getting cold enough to start wearing lolita and mori-girl comfortably.

My Nameless Poem OP shipped well over a month ago - ordered straight from taobao with a SS - but still hasn't arrived. I contacted my SS and she said that other girls have yet to receive theirs as well and that I just need to be patient...I don't know what to believe anymore since the other taobao order I placed after my Ista Mori order has already shipped and arrived.