/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL

>tfw I love a lot of j fashion styles
>tfw I don't want to commit to one
>tfw I don't have the money to fund 3 different styles

also.
>tfw I see the guy I like is relatively famous in our area so lots of fujoshi are thirsty for me
>tfw some of girl cosplayers are 10000x cuter and closer to him than I ever could hope to be

>con weekend, tryna meet new people and learn a bit more about myself
>only found 6 out of the thousands of people attractive
>four out of six are lesbians
>I'm a straight male
For fucks sake, I'm practically asexual, and the only girls I happen to like are fucking lesbians. Why?

>>7792309
You have shit taste m8

I want to kill myself.

>>7792356
Stop going to wizardchan, it has never helped anybody.

>>7792356
same boat here. Fuck that picture is accurate.
I used to have a gf. and i was almost happy. then she broke up with me out of the blue. she was still there for me, the only person i could ever talk to. Someone who at least cared about me, enough to admit me to the fucking mental hospital when she thought i was about to kill myself.
she recently told me she doesn't want to ever talk to me though. It wasn't out of anger. I guess just being tired of me. I can't blame her though honestly. No idea where i'm going right now or why i'm still doing anything at all

>>7792365
She got you admitted because she didn't want to deal with you, and didn't want people to blame her if you offed yourself. Whether you would've of not doesn't matter, you now are labeled a defect and lost you're rights(if American, at least) until you get them back. Maybe she doesn't want to talk to you since you're a dependent joker who she doesn't want to have leeching her energy.
Fight to get your rights back and be seen as a regular citizen since being out on a psych hold strips you of them, if US.
Listen to some podcasts about how to man the fuck up and get back into the game or to just be able to be okay with who you are, and fix yourself into who you want to be. I'd suggest a couple podcasts that helped me if you want, but don't want to just spam them out since I think that'll be advertising without being asked.
And stop talking to her. End it. You can find others, even if it's only people to chat with and talk to and nothing else.
You can be okay, but you have to put in some effort.

>>7792356
This was me. Then my dad died, we lost our house and I got my shit together.

>>7792380
I got out of there after a day they deemed me as not a big enough risk to myself to keep me there overnight. But I think you're right that she just didnt want guilt for it.
But fuck me, the breakup and everything happened immediately with no notice. Shit hit me like a truck. I still love her a lot and cant get shit out of my head. I was already a wreck before, this just made things a lot worse.

>>7792383
>I got my shit together.
How?

>>7792356
sorry, don't know those feels. I hope i'm not a normalfag

>>7792387
Fuck off chad

>Go with friends to dcon
>Friends I'm with consist of boyfriend and my best friend and a really good friend.
>Now my best friend and the good friend have previously dated, but they broke up almost a year ago at this point and they are on really good terms
>Goal of the weekend was to hook the two of them up with people from the con
>Good friend starts eyeing a cute guy
>Best friend doesn't find anyone that tickles his fancy
>Finally convince good friend to talk to cute guy and they end up hooking up at the rave
>Success!
>Or so I thought
>Best friend is now upset, understandably, about seeing his ex hook up with someone else
>I don't know what to do as he's not responding to any attempts to find someone for him as well
>Yeah, he probably shouldn't care but he's human
>Now I feel guilty for feeling happy about our hookup success because I didn't think the odds of it happening were good [while she is attractive, he's a semi popular person]
>Life is complicated

Today is my 24th birthday and I read this just yesterday on wizardchan. Should I give up?

>>7792162
I just had a cricket jump in my hair
So hows everyone's night going?

>>7792385
It only looks like it was out of nowhere to you, ask some of the girls on here: plenty of times they have been considering things like that for a while before they do it. If you did nothing immediately wrong, like caught cheating, then it's been building up. I say still check on your status, if a 5150(I believe) form was filled you need to appeal it. If you were a mess before then you need to work on you before you do try to get in another relationship. Do something if you aren't right now, get a job even if it isn't your passion, go to school if you can to try and get closer to something you think you'd like to do. I'm not saying "follow your dreams", that's bullshit. Find something you'd be interested in or think you'd be good at and find passion in that afterwards, you're job isn't who you are.
And find some damn hobbies if you don't have any real ones, maybe some that'll help out some metaphorical hair I you're chest or something that'll help you find peace and quiet.
What do you do now and how old are you? I don't normally reply to a lot of these even when I have something to say about it, but what she did to you really pisses me off.
If you need someone to chat with email is included, I think, mobile so not sure if it worked, let me know if you really want it. Although one usually busy and replying may be spotty.

>>7792401
If you actually believe this bullshit, you're already doomed.

>>7792405
yeah it built up. judging by it it looks like she just didn't love me anymore.
right now i'm 19 just working minimum wage at a target. nothing i'd call thrilling but it's my first job and i haven't fucked it up. I am trying to get some more hobbies which is why i'm on this board in the first place.

>>7792411
You're only 19? Shit buddy, you'll be fine if you work on yourself. Don't worry about the girl, more will come with time. And you've got more than enough time for education or trade school if that's something you think you want to do. Cosplay is cool, but maybe one or two more wouldn't hurt. You can tell me what you might be interested in through email so we don't eat up too much of the thread. And If you like listening to things maybe a couple podcasts or websites to help give you a kick in the ass. I think email field failed so just posting my email for a different board in the name field.

Where did all those years go?

>>7792431
>>7792401
>>7792356

>people bringing Wizardchan posts to /cgl/, the board with the highest keinbernd concentration on the internet
This has bad idea written all over it.
"Horrifyingly bad idea" might be more accurate.
"Hilariously, horrifyingly bad idea."

>>7792445
They're the kind of guys who end up killing themselves because nobody ever cared about them.

>>7792486

Offering superficial concern or saying "don't kill yourselves, your life can improve" tends to make them even more upset.

The place helped me through some shit, and gives me a place to talk about feelings I can't express anywhere else, but it's not a place you can show to anyone who doesn't already belong, man. They don't understand, and it can mess up a normal something fierce. Look at the girlfriend-having, legitimately employed, hobby-exploring, socially adventurous 19-year-old keinbernd in this thread, suddenly questioning whether or not he should live. He doesn't need the wizard's discourse in his life, and seeing other people who live in that deep darkness won't be the relief for him that it was for us. Knowing that other people actually knew where I was coming from and what I was feeling kept me stable, but seeing how dark the hole can get might make normals lose their footing, and it won't make the wizard's lot any easier.

I fucking hate it all the bitches on Lace Market overcharging for shipping and noting that they charge paypal fees. Fuck you money-thirsty bitches, stop being shady. If you have to pull that shit just add to the price of the piece and note "free shipping and no fees" - you'll sell more that way.

I bought a new jsk and some accesories but feel really sad for some reason. None of my clothes goes and I know exactly what I need to make a super versatile wardrobe but I just don't want to buy any of it and I don't know why. I just feel... Sad :/

this thread turned into a beta thread real quick

How do you know when you're in love?

>>7793013
when your penis is erect

>>7792559
Yeah, fuck betas. Everybody knows these threads are supposed to be for alpha males.

>Filed a paypal claim
>Seller has put in tracking number that says item has been delivered, but says it's a Tracked Return

I haven't received an item so it's obvious it's a fake, I hope paypal doesn't retard on me or I'm screwed

>>7793229
Oh just piss off back to /r9k/ or /pol/ or /b/ or wherever you lot come from these days. Make an OkCupid account or something, at least that way people can get a good giggle out of it.

>>7793013
when you're pooping butterflies

>>7793013
love isn't real.

I am so unbelievably pissed right now. I booked an apartment in Tokyo for two weeks in October, they took my money and gave me a confirmation number. THE MONEY LEFT MY POSSESSION, AND WAS IN THEIRS. THIS IS CONFIRMED. There was a momentary snafu in which the bank didn't want to process the amount even though we told them about it ahead of time, but it was solved in exactly 28 minutes. I know because I have the emails and other records to prove it. I then proceeded to make all of my families travel arrangements with this apartment in mind. Just yesterday, after I sent an email to the host asking which train stations were closest to the apartment, they tell me that someone else booked the apartment while my payment was pending.

THEY HAD MY MONEY. THEY HAVE HAD IT FOR WEEKS. THE PAYMENT WAS PENDING FOR A DAY, DURING WHICH THEY SAID THEY WOULD HOLD IT FOR ME. THEY SENT ME A CONFIRMATION NUMBER, AND SEVERAL EMAILS ENSURING THAT THE APARTMENT WAS BOOKED.

Then they proceed to offer me a nearby apartment, that is smaller, has no wheelchair access and is only available for a few of the days we needed. I said no to that, and when I asked how someone else could have taken the apartment they replied with this
"As I said, your payment did not go through and we cannot hold the apartment unless we are sure that your bank does not later reject the money. we have had multiple bad experiences like that where the guest even stayed at the apartment and later reverted their payment. we list our apartment on multiple websites and its quite common to have multiple bookings on the dame day for overlapping dates."

First of all, they never said the payment didn't go through because it DID go through and they have my money, and then if that were even true WHY OFFER ME A DIFFERENT APARTMENT? Then they offered me a full refund, for the payment that didn't go through? Right. There was a rather large booking fee with that apartment and if they try to keep it I will rain down pain upon them.

>>7792356
I graduated college and am holding down a steady job using said education, I refuse to ever become a normalfag. I'm okay with being a well adjusted weeaboo.

>>7792401
I disagree with that last paragraph.

>work 9 hours on busiest day this week
>get time and a half
>minimum wage went up this morning
>mom made favorite dinner

feels good cgl and I have the next two days off

>24
>relatively new to cons and cosplay
>suck at meeting people
>feel like shit after every con bc I don't have any friends who are interested in cosplay
>how the fuck do you make cosplay friends at 24?

I think I look awful in Lolita, no matter how often my friends tell me how pretty I am, because I'm Mohawk and have cheekbones that could kill a man. It makes me look wide faced and not at all kawaii.

>>7793861
I wish I could've worked today, it was hot as hell outside and a waste of a day

>tfw I want to be invited to cons for cosplay
I am the scum of the earth.

>>7793866
Bet the cool older friend who buys alcohol

>switching Universities, class starts tomorrow
>want to make a good first impression, unsure of what to wear
>kind of want to wear lolita, but two hour commute including a train and a subway
>kind of want to wear normalfag clothes to avoid attention, but don't feel as pretty in normal clothes
>worrying myself sick over the most trivial thing

help me, /cgl/.

>>7793903
Wear what makes you feel confident, dress it up a bit and be cute anon!

>>7793013

>>7792401
Is this douche complaining that, despite having nothing going for him, no women are good enough for him? Jesus.

>tfw not pretty enough for senpai to notice
I hope that by the time I'm done fixing myself, senpai will still be available.

>>7794002
Care to go into more detail?

Recovering from an eating disorder. I actually hate the way I look underweight, which is luck with these kinds of issues. Every time I gain weight some ridiculous thing happens and I run out of my medication. By something ridiculous, I mean my family. Manchild head of house can't even understand being quiet in early morning hours but he gets worse when he knows I'm not doing well. Every. Damn. Time. I keep feeling optimistic but I have passive thoughts wondering why. I mean this has been so consistent. He thinks providing for the family - his only accomplishment - is him being used. Because his wife is depressed and kids are messed up - that's clearly us being bitches, not anything he does. Last week he almost overdrafted their joint account because he shouldn't have to wait for payday to get take out, which was 2 days away at the time. I just want to gain weight and get out if here.

>>7793903
Damn, that's a long commute. I imagine it just being uncomfortable to travel and wear full on lolita, but do what feels most comfortable.

How about something loliable? Maybe wear one of your blouses or cutsews with a pair of jeans or a skirt and flats? idk what's in your closet.

Went to a con recently and saw my "first" decently dressed lolitas.
Really pretty brand clothes, nicely coorded.

But really fucking underwhelming. I'm sitting down one end of a hall going "is that it?"

Why do they look nicer in photos?

Keep buying new lolita pieces but hardly ever get to go to wear them as my comm is about an hour trip away and I live in a small town with no other lolitas.

>mfw first cosplay commission
>mfw someone actually trusts me enough to let me craft magic
>exercise is doing well for me, not huge changes but I'm feeling stronger and better
>have friends whom I see semi-regularly
>mfw insanely positive aura all around

I am poor but tthe happiest and most stable I've been in my life, I'm not even lonely. Who needs a boyfriend right now at all?

>>7793902
could work

>>7794073
Yeah, it's kind of brutally long.

Loliable is defnitely a possibility, thank you!

>>7793871
probably would look awesome with gothic lolita

I have started to defend Yaya Han, what is my life coming too?

>>7793990
Is English your third language?

>found a nickel-sized bald spot near the top of my head, don't know how long it's been there
>grandma had alopecia
>bleached hair about 2 weeks ago
>desperately praying i just temporarily fried my hair follicles

I'm going to my primary care provider to see if she thinks I should go to derm & get it biopsied but just ... ugh

>>7794397
Holy shit, this happened to me for about a month in middle school and it was fucking terrible.

>>7794411
thankfully my hair covers it pretty well, which is why I didn't notice it till 2 days ago, but it's scary. did you figure out why yours happened? has it happened again?

I'm so sick of being wrong for being skinny, I'm sick of being shunned for it, I'm sick of these nasty fat chicks thinking their "curves" are hot.

I will steal your boyfriends before you can eat them.

God dammit.

>>7794442
Fatties are the worst, anon. I hate how people point to the "fat isn't necessarily unhealthy" studies to justify their massive fupa and waist-length arm flaps. Every fucking fat person I know eats tons of junk food and drinks soda. It's disgusting and undeniably unhealthy. Sometimes I want to just encourage them so they'll die faster.

>>tfw want to do lolita + my fetish but it could easily get weird if things were revealed
>>tfw they go so well together but just don't feel comfortable
>>tfw doing it alone in my room is just not the same

>>7794442
Bitch please
You an go cry about it in in all the places that cater to you.

Whats the matter some fatty call you out on your bitch behavior?

>>7794471
whats the fetish?

>>7792309
>I'm practically asexual

>>7794127
Me too, anon, me too

>>7794483
See, this is what I mean. It's worse when you tickle a tubby nerve and they get upset like this. I just wanted to post muh feels.

I'll leave you to the last word after this in order to not derail this thread.

>>7792356
>that pic

>mfw at least you first world NEET fags have autismbux to fall on.

>>7794431
Oh that's good. When I had it, it stood out like a sore thumb. I think it came about because I was scratching my head a lot and that damaged the follicles. Again, fucking terrible.

>trying to redo wardrobe
>looking for certain items instead of splurging
>site has the perfect basic collared blouse and pair of shorts
>store/site has a special where you spend $50 get $25 back after
>total comes up to $29
>trying to kick coupon logic, kind of wanted to do the deal but really shouldn't spend money for the sake of getting it

Eh...

I'm pretty bad at talking to people, especially at cons.

>>7794442
As someone who was once a twig, to someone who got pretty obese and is now working toward being fit nobody is ever going to stop shunning you for your appearance and choices.

If you're the least bit fat you're a fucking hambeast. If you're moderately thin, you're a skinny bitch who needs to eat a sandwich. If you're fit, you're a man.

Bawwing and bragging is going to get you no asspats because we all experience this shit. I've seen it all.

>>7794463
>. Every fucking fat person I know eats tons of junk food and drinks soda.
And I know a fuckton of people who are thin, drink way more soda (usually diet) eat at least 3,000 calories a day and never gain an ounce. But I fat people who eat healthier and work out and could outrun and outlift them any day. So your point is moot.

>>7792356

I posted in the last thread, update...
>break up with bf, move back to parents to save up/go back to school
>ex sat on his ass for 3 months and has nowhere to live
>he's homeless, literally homeless and sleeping on a street somewhere right now at this moment

I don't know what to do. He showed up at my work in a manic state, asking for money, obviously breaking down. He told me to text him when I got home from work, but it's been an hour and I still haven't...what the fuck does he want me to do...? What am I SUPPOSED to even do...? I'm scared, I don't want to abandon him and leave him to fucking die, but what could I even do?

>>7794558
>If you're the least bit fat you're a fucking hambeast. If you're moderately thin, you're a skinny bitch who needs to eat a sandwich. If you're fit, you're a man.
Sounds like you just don't hold your weight very well. Maybe you're ugly? Oh well, I can't tell over the internet

>>7794497
Diapers...

>>7794574
holy shit, I was in this exact same situation a few months ago...

Anon, please realize that it is NOT your responsibility to care for him. You made your arrangements, you have your priorities and goals, you do not owe him anything. Was it a good/mutual break up and you guys decided to just go separate ways? If so, I don't think there's any harm in helping him -if you can-. If he was just generally shitty to you and fucked you over/took you for granted/cheated on you etc. he can go fuck himself because HE got him into this situation. NOT you.

If you want to help him, maybe you can ask around to some mutual friends and see if they will let him couch surf for a bit. Perhaps get a resource list of shelters or homes for youth/young adults. I hope things work out for you, and I hope you realize that it's totally his fault for just fucking around for 3 months.

>>7794584
Oh, hmmm.. not my thing at all, but why can't you do it? if you mean wearing that out in public I don't see how others would find out. It's not like anyone can tell whats under all dem ruffles.

>>7794585
Yeah, it was mutual...I just don't know how to help him. I don't know anyone that would let him stay at their house. I'd ask my parents, but he actually already lived here with me before for a few months and I don't know what happened, but they fucking hate him. Oh, he just texted me...oh, this sucks.

>>7794558
My point is every fucking fat person I know eats like absolute shit. Fatties just use the HEALTHY AT EVERY SIZE! to justify their disgusting, vomit-inducing looks despite the fact that they AREN'T healthy. Skinny people who eat like shit at least don't look gross, don't take up too much space on transit, don't bitch and moan about how "boo hoo I just want to date 10s but they're not into me", and don't shit up fashion by complaining that they need cuter clothes just as cheap as skinny bitches. Fuck off.

>>7794592
Shelters or put a call out on social media. What about his family? It's good you're helping him but this is completely his responsibility. He won't die for being on the street, lots of homeless people do it.

>>7794002
> tfw not pretty enough for senpai to notice
> tfw senpai is also in a relationship
i'm just doomed, this always happens ;_;

>>7794589
Yeah see, that's the reason I'm so torn. It is actually possible to hide them, especially under bloomers and tights, and it /definitely/ makes it easier to deal with tea-sipping meetups for hours without having to rush to the bathroom constantly and hike up all the stuff I'm wearing.

Also, I've got a tiny bladder for various reasons (indulging in this fetish so often + naturally small = yeah) so it ends up being kind of tough to hold it.

But... the smell. I don't go #2 in public ever for obvious reasons but I do wet them all the time and I'm pretty sure it would be possible to sniff that out. Maybe not probable, but still possible, so I'm terrified. I'd be shamed out of my comm for sure.

I guess it's not really fair to foist this kind of thing on people who aren't expecting it but the itch is still there! Sigh!

>tfw no bf

>>7794599
his family are both on the coasts/too far away to do much, and from what he told me they don't even have places of their own? I don't know. It's not my responsibility but I feel like a shitty person to let him rot in some alleyway while I'm comfortably up in my parent's house.

He just texted me, he's at his friend's and he can stay there for 2 weeks, so at least...wow, that's a relief. I'm so worried...

>>7794607
Dude, just say you have a bladder problem/condition where you need to wear ones. If they out you, you say this and they'll feel like shit. Bring a spare diaper?

I don't like people mixing fetishes and lolita but I mean if you're keeping it to yourself, quietly, then that's okay.

>>7794615
I really know what that feeling of worry is like, especially when it's out of your hands. I hope it doesn't interfere with your goals/working/saving for school. If he's going to have a safe space to stay for a couple of weeks, my suggestion to help him would to stay on his ass and text him to make sure he has a more permanent place to go and possibly a job???

>>7794609
>tfw bf thinks lolita is creepy

>>7794625
This is all happening right now over the course of a few days. I mean I went to work today, and I will again tomorrow. Where he is now is like 30 minutes from me. I wish I could do more.

>>7794607

I don't see anything wrong with wearing diapers if you need it for your small bladder, even if it's your fetish.

I would be really careful, though. People in the middle of indulging in fetishes tend to be a bit loopy due to all the happy hormones, between that and smelling like piss, you might find that girls start keeping a distance. Not so much shaming you out of the com so much as avoiding you because it's unpleasant to be around you.

I think if you really wanted to indulge in the fetish you should just bring it up with your partner so you can rolelplay. Or, if you're looking for a partner/playmate, find one through fetlife or some other fetish comm. Don't go through the lolita community, when shit hits the fan they might actually out you, full name and all, and your future employers may come across this shit later on.

My friend is stuck in an abusive relationship with her ex. He has a bunch of mood/personality disorders and is in therapy and on medication, but he's one of those "I feel better so I'll stop taking my meds" assholes. If she says anything that rubs him the wrong way, he explodes, cursing, yelling (well, YELLING, since their "friendship" is online), copying something he said that he feels invalidates whatever she's upset about and pasting it over and over and over. Even better is when she gets upset and shuts him out, he makes shitty vagueblogs about how she's abusive and how she's ignoring all those times where he's "tried" and had "better" reactions - as if they make all the times he's exploded and screamed at her okay.

I've told her to stop talking to him, to ditch him, but she apparently can't. They've been "friend" for years and years and I think she's afraid of feeling lonely without him, or maybe he's got some real dirt on her. I don't know.

>>7794672
*friends for years, not friend for years

Also he does this thing where he keysmashes/hammers enter and talking to him is completely impossible then. Everyone I've known - myself included - that has ever dealt with him when he does this shit now avoids him like the plague. Except my one friend.

>>7794607
there was some diaper-chan lolita that posted her feels before where she actually went a long time wearing diapers to lolita meets and hid it well until she outed herself when she brought lolita friends over to her house and they saw the diaper packages in her room with no baby in her family. she was shamed from her community. you could pull it off but you'd have to be super secretive about it.

>>7794672

Time to keep your distance, anon. It's one thing if she actually confides in you that he has some real dirt, and the two of you can start figuring out her way out of the mess. It's another thing when you've told her repeatedly to not talk to the guy and she can't stop due to her own mental problems. Don't let her suck you into her drama.

>tfw really short
>tfw overweight
>tfw huge tits that make me look way fatter on my small frame
>everything moves even with a good sports bra
>want to cosplay q t pettanko loli characters but can't because of giant udders
>have to wear a large in everything because of my breasts even though everything else is closer to a small or a medium
>tits make me look fat in anything loose or not form-fitting
>neck and shoulder pain all the time even with well-fitted bras

im so fed up i want a reduction i hate how big my fucking cow tits are i just want them to be a better size for my frame god damnit

>>7794638
his life isn't your responsibility even if you feel bad for him. he has to figure out his own life now, maybe this will be a wake-up call for him that he didn't have during the 3 months he leeched off you and did nothing.

>>7794777
>tfw overweight
>have to wear a large in everything because of my breasts even though everything else is closer to a small or a medium

Which are you? Overweight, or a size small?

>>7794769
I would except we live together. Makes keeping my distance pretty hard. Plus she's one of my closest friends, so... I dunno. Every time she complains about him I just repeat "ditch this asshole" - hopefully it'll sink in eventually.

>>7794817
i am a chubby chan on a small frame
i am squishy but have tiny shoulders, short arms, short legs, and a small ribcage but huge titties
you can be small and overweight, its way easier to be overweight when you're short

>>7794859
> its way easier to be overweight when you're short

No, no it isn't. You just look more disproportionate and gross when you're short and fat.

>>7794863
what, are you dumb? If someone that was 5'10" gained 10 lbs, you would notice it way less than if someone that was 4'10" gained the same amount. That'd be like 10% of their total weight gained, while it'd be basically unnoticeable on a taller person.

>>7794863
I think they mean it's easier to GET overweight when you have a small frame, but no, that's bullshit, I am very petite and it's easy for me to stay skinny - I just don't eat as much as my taller friends.

>>7794859
As for you, you just have to get over your body type and stop being in denial of what you have to work with. Stop letting yourself pig out on snacks, get off your ass for once, and give up on the pettanko unless you plan on getting a reduction. There is no shortage of cute/short/busty characters to cosplay, go for one of those instead.

>Fiance and I go to a cosplay/geekery social event every week
>We give a guy a ride there every week
>We don't ask for gas money, we do it because we like having more people at the event
>He was recently fired from his job as a sales associate for a tiny local board game store
>He tells us he's opening his own game store
>"Oh! Cool!"
>He tells us he can offer us way better prices than the place he used to work at
>"...What? How?"
>When he got fired he took all their wholesale contacts with him
>Sells games for pennies over the wholesale price, makes his business contacts blacklist the store he used to work for
>All so he can "teach them a lesson for firing him."
>I don't know what to say so I ask him if he's legally registered his business.
>He says he has... but then he keeps talking
>He lied on the forms and claimed he has a brick and mortar store "They never check those things"
>All this to fuck over the little tiny local game shop he used to work at
>I'm starting to get a good idea why he was fired

I don't know what to do Seagulls... I'm a small business owner myself, so seeing him try to pull this shit is making my blood boil. I'm almost at the point where I want to kick him out of the carpool, but that seems unfair.

Regardless, I'm pissed. He's been freaking out recently because a friend of ours that he had a thing for got engaged to her BF, he's been rambling about how he doesn't deserve her and I'm kinda scared about how vengeful he may get if he'll go to this length because of a job.

Sorry for rambling, but it's been freaking me out.

>>7794878
>assuming everyone who has titty problems must overeat and not exercise
>maximumbitch.jpg

>>7794672
Well, as you can probably already tell, abusive guys tend to latch onto people giving them attention. Like human sticky glue.
Your friend probably has a lot of naive empathy for him and is stuck in a cycle of trying to nurture him in the hope that he'll improve. I would know because my abusive ex is still in my life (online, anyway) and he certainly has no dirt on me.

Why don't you suggest that her constant fighting with her ex makes you feel uncomfortable? That you don't like seeing how he upsets her? Also if he's doing all of this in your living space then you have double the right to say something about it.

>>7794866
Your bodies also have different caloric needs being different sizes. If you eat the same amount as someone a foot taller than you, of course you'll get fat. That doesn't make it EASIER to get fat, it just means you overeat.

>>7794896
Did you read her post? She said she's overweight. I have titty problems too (F cup, gotta use a minimizer to wear lolita) but I'm a skinny bitch because I know how to portion control.

>tfw no chubby gf

the struggle is real

>>7794910
>because all overweight people must not be actively exercising and trying to diet
Again, you don't have a right to that assumption.

>>7794905
You are completely right... plus I think emphasizing my discomfort might help her see how wrong this all is? I dunno. I'll sure as fuck try it. I just want this asshole out of her - and by extension, my - life.

>>7794915
lol tumblrfaggot

>>7794919
You're annoying.

>>7794921
You're so new it hurts.

>>7794923
...except I'm not and you're still a twat.

>>7794919
>>7794923
>TUMBLRFAG UR SO NEW XD
>>7794921
>annoying
Seconded.

>>7794929
>>7794926
Butthurt fatties detected.

>>7794931

>>7794915
>you don't have a right to that assumption
p sure everyone has a right to assume that someone who makes excuses about being fat because they're short is cutting health corners elsewhere.

short does not = gets fat easily. Short just means you're fucking short. Small people burn less energy and generally get hungry less often. If you have to say "WAHH BUT IM SHORT SO I GET FAT EASY!!!!" you're just full of shit and you need to learn how to manage your calories/sugar intake better.

>>7794939
>p sure everyone has a right to assume
It's so funny because nobody has a right to assume anything about someone else.
You -can-, but it doesn't make you right.

Now secondly, I don't care about this whole "shorter equals easier to get fat" argument, but I do know that I have to be more strict with my calories than my taller friends and if I gain the slightest, it shows up more noticeably.

In any event, are -you- new here or something? Not everyone is out to be ~*~le epic trololol~*~

>>7794942
Why are you bothering? It's obvious the anon you're talking to is the ripe age of 15.

>>7794942
I don't see where there's any ~le epic trololol~ going on, I see people getting analpained over someone being told to get their shit together after excusing their own weight problems by saying "boohoo but I'm short."

I'm short too, and yes, if I gain as much as a tall friend it would show more (fucking obviously) but that means I have to watch my calories, not snack incessantly, and get off my ass every once in a while. I was harsh about saying this to Shortfat-chan because of her stupid excuses about her height making her fat easily. Height is not an excuse, if anything it's a reason to work harder, and the bullshit about "wah but fat people already know this!" should be left to hugboxes like tumblr.

>>7794948
>don't see where there's any ~le epic trololol~ going on
See
>>7794919
>>7794923
>>7794931
M'kay, so stop defending your actions. You're being a tool.

>>7794950
If you think that's any sort of trolling, that's sad.

>>7794948
You're really mad about this....

>>7794951
Oh sorry, maybe it's just shitposting because it's still worthless bullshit either way.

>>7794952
Not at all, I just have a harsh tone and don't like coddling people or softening things for people making excuses already.

>>7794958
>"I just have a harsh tone"
No, you're an obnoxious basic whore who gives herself asspats because you totes show those weakling short fatties what's up.

Ugh.

>>7794958
I like how I wasn't "coddling" or "softening" anything, just merely telling you not to assume certain things about people. Are you sure you're not the SJW here? What's your tumblr?
I don't have one but I know you do.

>>7794964
>Ugh.

It's honestly this kind of complacency and sensitivity that's leading to more people just letting themselves go, giving up on looking good. Honestly you can call me basic all you want, but making excuses for being fat that amount to "i just can't help it!" is a huge waste of time and fucking insulting to boot. You can help it. Signed, a short former fatty.

Kind of a related feel to the discussion/banter so I'll post it here:
>be overweight all my life
>made a huge lifestyle change a year and a half ago
>lost a good 60 pounds and have been keeping it off so far
>compared to my previous attempts where I'd regain within months
Problem is
>friends bitch to me all the time about their weight problems
>I listen because I'm a good friend
>I want to talk about my weight struggles too
>y'know because weight loss IS frustrating even if you're doing it right
>just because I'm fatter friends don't listen
>they all become nutrition and exercise scientists when talking to me
>patronizing me about diet and workout techniques when I've literally lost more than them in a year than they've lost in a decade
>they just assume I'm doing something wrong because I haven't magically become a size 2 in a year's time
>mfw
They really don't get it.

>>7794968
>implying I'm the one making excuses
And you're lecturing me about sensitivity? Get over yourself.

>>7794965
It wasn't even a real "assumption" though, as I pointed out, it was based on the fact that she was making pathetic excuses for why she was overweight. You don't magically gain weight just because you're short, it happens because you're not eating appropriately for your body type. Also: no tumblr.

>>7794969
Just ignore them, and thumb up for your weigh loss, anon.

>>7794970
Are you the one who bitched about being fat due to evil, evil shortness? No? Then you're not making excuses.

>>7794973
>Are you the one who bitched about being fat due to evil, evil shortness?
I'm pretty sure neither me nor >>7794965
this anon is the same person who blamed their weight on their height. So you can drop it now. other people are browsing this thread and chiming in I'm sure.

>>7794969
Then stop talking to them about weight. Just tell them you don't want to hear it. You could always just point out that you've lost more than they have, but they'd probably get butthurt.

BTW, good for you. That's an amazing amount of progress. When I was a fattychan I was only about 30lb heavier, but since I'm under 5'5" it looked like some serious chub on me. In the end it was as simple as adding some walking to my daily routine and cutting out sodas and massively cutting back on snack foods/treat trips to get burgers. Just curious, what's your lifestyle routine now?

>>7794976
Why do ex fatties always sound so bitter towards other fellow fat fats?
Do you see your own history in their behavior or something?

>>7794979
Yeah. It's like being a former weeaboo. It makes watching weeb behavior all the more painful. I'm actually a former weeb too and they both give me the same awful secondhand embarrassment.

>>7794980
You should let it go.

>>7794984
Bitching is cathartic and fun though. Besides, I wish someone had actually said some of the above shit to me way earlier when I was fat. Harsh advice is good IMO.

>>7794989
Really? Because you're giving off a constipated vibe like you've been legitimately upset for the past half hour.
>harsh advice is good
No it isn't, and it's often about as helpful as telling someone who's depressed really cliche advice like "Just be yourself." Every fattie knows they should eat less and exercise more, but obviously, their issues go deeper than that.

Not that I'd think you know, considering you've only ever been 30 pounds overweight and project the excuse-making you did at that weight onto others because you did it too.

>>7794990
It helped me. And you're seriously comparing being overweight to being depressed? Ha ha, oh wow.

>>7794991
It helped you? That's nice, but then again you were only ever 30 pounds overweight. How long did that even take you to lose? Try having to lose 50, or even 100 consistently over the course of years and having to deal with asshats who think biting peoples' heads off with advice is being 'helpful.'

And the point wasn't to compare depression with being overweight (though they tend to go hand in hand), just that trite little snippets about issues on 4chan don't actually help.

>>7794993
Hey anon
>DONT MAKE EXCUSES
>STOP EATING
>EXERCISE
Let me know how many pounds you lose this week, I know my advice is harsh, but I'm so smart you can't go wrong and I know you're stupid enough to have not thought about any of that c:

>>7794994

>>7794994
What was actually said:
>stop blaming your weight on your height
>cut back on snack foods
>get up and move more

I didn't even say omg stop eating snacks entirely!!! Just cut back. Too many people say "STOP EATING EVERYTHING BAD!" when they give advice to fattychans, and that's just fucking impossible. Cutting back is usually enough to make a huge difference. And moving more doesn't even have to be exercise-specific, it can be as simple as walking to places more frequently.

>>7794999
>>stop blaming your weight on your height
Stop making excuses is also what you said and it's the same thing.
>cut back on snack foods
Well you're assuming the anon is snacking in the first place. Second of all, you're telling them to stop eating something.
>get up and move more
EXERCISE FOOL!

Get your head out of your ass, this backpedaling is embarrassing to watch.

Say a girl invites you to share a hotel for a con. Just the two of you, because there's no such thing as room stuffing where you are. It's a twin room, if that changes anythings.
Will you immediatly think she wants you? I mean, I do like him romantically, but he's in too much of a mess relationship-wise and I just want to enjoy the con right now, while he's the first person I've befriended in my new town that would come with me. What's the best way to approach this?

>>7794999
No, you weren't that sensible. This is what you originally said:
>Stop letting yourself pig out on snacks, get off your ass for once, and give up on the pettanko unless you plan on getting a reduction. There is no shortage of cute/short/busty characters to cosplay, go for one of those instead.

You sounded like a bitch and now you're pissed that people are calling a spade, a spade.

>>7794993
I'm nice about helping friends out with their diets IRL if they make it known they want help. I don't even mention weight to my overweight friends unless they want to talk about it, since I know they're very conscious of it.

As much as snippets on 4chan don't actually help, posting on 4chan about how you're tragically fat thanks to your height doesn't help, either. Since I had been in the same position, I sniped at her about blaming it solely on her height. She obviously was in the same boat I was, since she still wears SM-MD clothing - she doesn't have a lot of weight to lose, same as I didn't. The posts she made were very telling of her situation. I wouldn't have made the same reply to someone bawwing about XXL clothes.

>>7795004
But anon, that's just prudent and harsh advice :o How could you be so mean against ex fatty sage sama? She didn't do nuffin!

>>7795007
>posting on 4chan about how you're tragically fat thanks to your height doesn't help, either
And?
Because people aimlessly bitching on 4chan about their problems is something new? Fuck no, the issue is you projected an issue that you dealt with onto someone else and now you're all bent out of shape because someone told you to cool it.

>>7795000
Nice trips. "Stop making this very specific bullshit excuse" is not the same as a generic "stop making excuses". Everyone fucking snacks, everyone. And most people don't realize how much they sit, getting up and moving helps a lot.

I stand by everything I said. I was just a cunt about it. No backpedaling, just trying to lay it out in more sensitive terms for the babies.
>>7795004
I sounded like a bitch intentionally, see
>>7795007

>>7795012
I'm enjoying the replies, actually. I haven't seen people talk like this on /cgl/ in a while and actually find support. It's interesting to be honest.

>>7795013
>Everyone fucking snacks, everyone.
Nobody argued that they didn't.
But telling someone to stop "pigging out on snacks" isn't as big a wisdom as you think it is. It's just rhetoric; everyone knows you shouldn't over-snack.
>>7795013
>I sounded like a tool intentionally
Ftfy, and I'm done.

>>7795017
I never said it was wisdom. It was rhetoric, yeah, but translating "stop pigging out" to "cut back on" isn't that big a leap.
>I'm done
Cool.

>>7795021
Except one makes you sound like a bitch and the other doesn't. So don't get mad if people call you a bitch if your intention all along was to be bitchy?
Idk, you don't even make any sense at this point. You're just some indignant ex fatass who's all buttblasted because some anons called you out. You're pathetic.

>>7795021
So you admit you've just been wasting time with spewing out useless rhetoric and not actual advice? Cool to see that you've invalidated your entire hour of arguing with just one post.

>>7795022
I'm not mad? People think I was committing some sin for telling a smallfat that blamed her fat on her height to get her shit together. It's not even projecting - I'm a short busty former smallfat, she literally said she's a short busty smallfat. She came around to bitch about wanting to do cosplay that was unrealistically far removed from her body type, I said "get your shit together and go cosplay cute busty chicks instead". I was cunty but I wasn't making wild assumptions about her. TBH I think everyone else is projecting my flippant "advice" onto their own weight issues.

tl;dr - I'm replying not to make myself look like less of a bitch (I dun curr about that), I'm replying because anons think I'm assuming shit about this person I'm not.

>>7795001
I'm trying to understand...are you saying that you're the girl and you're trying to invite a guy to stay with you who's in a bad relationship right now?

Because yeah, you're just inviting yourself to drama and getting caught up in whatever shitstorm there may be brewing.

>>7795001

>Will you immediately think she wants you?
I'd think about it, but let it play out and see if she makes advances

Depends on how close your relationship is to him. Do you hang out a lot as friends? Do you two flirt?

>>7795028
it sounds more like she's the girl, she's inviting the guy, and the guy's life is too much of a mess to be in a relationship right now

>>7795001
Just be upfront about how you'll be splitting the cost of the room and make it sound all business, and how you're looking forward to checking out con stuff. Also ask him if he has any friends who would be interested in rooming with you to cut down on costs? That might help.

>>7795027
>think I'm assuming shit about this person I'm not

But...you were and are.
What do you think an assumption is?
Telling a person "Yo, your height has nothing to do with your weight!" is one thing.
Telling a person that they should stop pigging out on snacks they're allegedly overeating on, implying they never 'get off their ass,' and to give up their cosplay character when you haven't even seen a pic of what they look like is some MAJOR bitchy assuming.
It's really that simple. There's nothing more to argue here.

>poor willpower
>out of shape but not fat
>have no conviction to exercise
I really need to be forced into doing things to follow through on them. How do you train your will exactly?

>>7795035
If you're a smallfat it's incredibly likely that you have those shitty little habits that are relatively easy to cut back on and make simple fixes for. I assumed she had those habits that the vast majority of 4channer (and normalfag) non-/fit/izens have, yes, I have no problem admitting that. And I see no problem with it, tbh. Sorry that upsets you.

>strong willpower
>not out of shape but fit
>have conviction to exercise
feelsgoodnottobefat.webm

>>7795042
You have no problems being this bullheaded because you're a shameless dumbass.

>>7795045
Come on, it's fun.

>tfw you visit Japan
>tfw fat people are practically non-existent and the ones you do see are treated like outcasts and lurk in the shadow
>tfw this is a world you want to live in where fat people are outlawed

cgl related feels
>tfw i'm not fat and can fit in my brand

>>7795049

You've not heard of marshmallow girls, I take it...

>people don't like shortstacks

>>7795049
>whitey goes to Nippon and thinks they're less of a social leper because they're not fat
Hue

>>7795062
>implying I'm white

>butthurt fatty detected

>Live alone
>Pretty much a recluse
>Colleagues and parents keep saying I should get a girlfriend
>Not really a club kind of person
>Ask for suggestions on where to even meet women
>If it's not clubs it's "Somewhere you enjoy so you have mutual interests, anon"

How am I supposed to meet women with similar interests if outside of conventions it all occurs at home.

>>7795063
Nah, you sound pretty white.
>weeaboo detected

>>7795064
>looking for a relationship at a club

NEET confirmed

>>7795064
Meet chicks at conventions. Just don't go for the autistic ones and obvious attention whores.

>>7795066
>Colleagues
>NEET

I see reading comprehension is not your strongest point

>>7795070
I wouldn't consider your online friends you play WoW with your colleagues

>>7795064

Do you just want to meet people or are you actully looking for someone to fuck, date or marry?

Looking to meet people:
- Charity work: soup kitchen, pet shelters, community centers, neighbourhood patrol
- self improvement: Toastmasters, AA, idk neet help groups?
- hobby: ballroom dancing, gym, volunteer at cons, put together cosplay groups, run an anime/game/manga blog and chat up visitors


Looking to fuck: Fetlife, Craigslist

Looking to get married: Dating site/company, Mail order bride.

Eh, take your pick.

>>7795073
Someone is projecting hardcore. What's got you so bitter today?

>>7795076
>truth hurts
>they must be projecting!

lel

>>7795079

>>7795082

>>7795083

>>7795083
Hey there Dropbox

>>7794498
You can't spell asexual without "sexual"

>tfw 20
>tfw look very young
>tfw want fit guy with nice beard
>tfw those guys don't really go for cute girls

>>7795107
i don't get it

fit guys don't go for cute girls or bearded fit guys don't go for cute girls?

>>7795107
fit guys with nice beards usually go for cute guys

sorry

Con in a few days.
Coord not finished.
Literally only three hours spare each day.

If I stay up all night before the con I'll look like shit.

>>7792356
>tfw 23-year-old autist with social anxiety, not medicated
>trouble getting jobs because weird and quiet
>trouble keeping in touch with friends
>sometimes too scared to even leave the house

>tfw still managed to get a master's degree in the sciences
>tfw getting married next year
Feeling pretty good about myself now, definitely no pressure to give up my interests and go normalfag.

>>7795114
I had one intrested in me but he was your typical nice guy, fedora and all..

>>7795112
Neither seem to here
I just want some nice beards

>>7795129
Maybe you're not looking hard enough

where in bumfuck do you live that you can't find a qt fit guy

>>7795028
I'm the girl, yes. He broke up with his ex (a month ago now) and he is quite hung up on her.
>>7795030
We do, actually. We talk a lot in person and online, we have a really good friendship going.
>>7795034
I'm comfortable with him because we're friends, but I've never roomed with strange guys before. I guess I could try. The horror stories I've read on this board make me a little insecure on that idea though!

>>7795142
Sweden, in a town where 90% of the population are foreigners, I don't mind that but none are very attractive

>>7795038
you need to want it bad enough.
You don't want it, so as if you're going to do HARD WORK for it.
& yes, it is hard work.

>>7795107
maybe you're not as cute as you think you are.

>>7795159
Well looks are objective, but I am by no means ugly, and I have a smashing body, but I don't show it.

>tfw you show your /b/tard brother the kigurumi you want to order
>"that looks like a diaper fetish thing anon"

>tfw expecting package
>not leaving house because expecting package
>not trying out new coords because what if the package arrives when I'm in my underpants
>basically not doing much of anything I want to do because I'm waiting for that fucking package
>feeling on edge all day because I'm an anxious wreck who doesn't like opening the door to strangers (yet buys shit online anyway because physical stores are even worse)

>5 pm
>it's still not here
I just sort of assumed it would be too big to fit into the downstairs mailbox but now I'm starting to think it was forced in there anyway.
>tfw my boyfriend has the only key and he won't be back until 8 pm
>frustration

So uh. Let me tell you about my first world problems.

>>7794883
I would report him to the BBB, notify his last job anonymously of what he's done and nope the fuck right out of there.

>>7795107
I know your feel bro

>tfw 19
>tfw I just want a tatooed/bearded/long haired metalhead or hipster guy
>tfw I'm just surrounded by them everywhere but they don't even look at me
>tfw I guess they just want someone who look older or more womanly

Man, every day of my life people stop me in the street to say how cute/pretty I am, and like every week or so someone ask me to model for them. I didn't use to think I'm pretty but apparently it's the case, so why ain't am drawning in cuties ?

>>7795152
But Swedish guys are all cute, bearded and /fit/. You aren't lucky, anon-chan.

>>7795391
There's pretty much no swedish guys where I live, and I live in a big city..

Copy pasta from auto sage thread because my search didn't catch this feels thread for some reason.

>have a photo shoot
>photos look terrible.
>I look terrible.
>No one told me.
>FUCK.

>>7795394
Where is it ? So I can avoid it when I'll come in Sweden.
>tfw I just want a fit, bearded, long-haired viking boyfriend

>>7794510
>>7794127
I know this feeling... It's been my dream to have a wardrobe full of lolita, though, so. Oh well. Just gotta find excuses to wear it!

>>7795397
Just outside of stockholm, if you want viking guys you'll have to travel high up in sweden or to norway

>Used to enjoy buying lolita regularly
>Move to a bigger flat with bf (5 years together)
>Bf flips his shit and decides to break up
>Leaves me with an expensive flat and bunnies to take care of

So I need your advices seagulls. After partying like crazy and being an overall dick, ex-bf hints he wants to come back after a few weeks. In the meantime to boost my confidence I went to hang out with lots of cute guys who seems waaay better than previous bf.

Should I :
> Get old bf back because he knows me, I'm used to him, I would have no more money problems and get back to shopping.
or
> Live like a poorfag (literally I have 100€ left for the month to feed myself and the buns) and seek cute bfs/girlfriends (?) that might or might not be better than old bf ?

Also I can't really seek roomates because I only have one bedroom. Plus old bf still sometimes sleeps at home because he didn't find a new flat yet and I feel bad pursuing other guys while my ex is still here, or making my ex homeless for the matter.
Also one of the guys is a fucking pro seamstress that loves lolita and would love to sew Rococo/Marie-Antoinette dresses for his girlfriend.

>tfw the cute new girl at work remembers your name after only telling her once
Feelsgoodman

>>7795430
Don't stay with your ex just for money because that won't end well, but if you have feelings for him still then it would be fine to get back together. It depends on why you broke up I guess.
Pick whatever you value more and what makes you happier, but you're better off finding someone else now than in 2 or 3 more years if youre just going to break up again.

>>7795430
Start looking for a new flat with roommates. Move out of the expensive one and find someone who isn't a dick.
And don't feel bad at all or let his welfare influence your decisions. He's the one who decided to dump you and move out. He's officially not your problem anymore.

>>7794863
i work out 3 times a week for 2 hours each time and i eat less than 1300 calories a day. i am still overweight and i still want a reduction. being short makes your "overweight" weight an incredibly low threshhold in terms of your BMI, if i were even two inches taller i'd be almost normal weight. my doctor and i have discussed it several times.

i am not blaming my "weight" on my small frame, i'm saying it's easier to be classified as "overweight" when you are short. and my huge tits look like ass on my small frame/short stature on top of that.

fucking so many assumptions going on in this thread, so much sandy vag. jesus. can't i complain about my feels without everyone jumping all over each other and assuming fatties are lazy fucks and "not trying hard enough?"

>>7795442
Don't worry anon, reasonable anons understood what you were saying.

>>7795442
Whoa, 2 hours of workout sounds like way too much. Is it cardio? Pilates? Weight training? I'm curious because I've always heard spacing out your exercise/doing it more often but for not as long is better for you.

Also if your doctor is going by BMI still, you might want to seek a second opinion, BMI is outdated shit.

>>7795440
>>7795437
I kinda oversimplified the problem, but yeah there's a huge issue with me being used to him and having never dated someone else before so I don't know if other guys would be worse or not. The thing is , he waited so long now that he looks ugly and mean compared to the other guys (that might be dicks too, who knows ?) and I don't trust him anymore.
On the other hand he's the only one that was close to me in the area, I got no family nor close friends here so if I need help I'm in deep shit.

Thankfully for the flat I'll have government help in a few month, so moving out after renovating this one will make me lose more money as I paid 1 month worth for the agency and would pay the same if I move out. Not only that but I have huge furniture I can't move by myself or store away for a while. It's financially manageable but I'll have to eat like a poor kid for a while and kiss shopping goodbye which just sucks.

>>7795442
You may be overestimating your workouts and underestimating the amount of calories you're eating. It's really easy to do both. Also if you're as super short as you say you are, 1300 is definitely maintenance-level, not weightloss-level.

>>7795459
I was about to say this too. Personally when I was losing (I'm 5'2") I was 1100 cal a day max.

I still can't get over 2 hour long workouts, that sounds exhausting, and probably requires a higher calorie intake to make up for wiping her out.

>>7795430
As far as I understand it, he's not currently paying any rent but still sleeping over. If so you can't make him homeless because he made HIMSELF homeless. Tell him to help you with rent or get the fuck out and not come back.

>>7795442
>>7795450
Other short anons get it.

I feel you, sister.

>>7795454
Another anon. I usually go to the gym 3-4 times a week for two hours as well. An hour on cardio, hour on strength training. I never intend to be there that long, but I end up doing it anyways. I used to do three hours since I would do an hour of cardio on the machines, an hour with weight training, then jump in the pool for more cardio. My trainer said that it was fine, as long as my body was handling it well, which it is.

On an unrelated note, my feels was about fitness.

>Go to a con.
>Eat like crap because all my friends didn't want to go to the one healthier option.
>Get pretty drunk and already being a clumsy person + alcohol didn't mix.
>Huge ass bruises all over my legs.
>Can barely walk.
>Crying because I feel like a sack of shit for not going to the gym for the past four or five days and was going to make up for it today.
>god fucking damn it.

At least I don't work until three tomorrow. I'll just give my body another day to heal since it already feels a million times better than yesterday. Had to leave the con early because I just couldn't walk around.

>>7795459
This. I'm 5' 2" and I usually do calorie cycling with an average of just under 1100 cal plus high intensity intervals, last time I lost a significant amount of weight in a shortish time period (6 weeks) I was training for a half-olympic triathlon so really focussing on speed work for middle distance, but I would never have trained for more than 90 minutes maximum (and that was when I was basically practicing the triathlon itself)

>>7795488
On a related note, not unrelated. Fuck, I'm tired. Sage because I'm stupid as fuck.

>>7795459
>>7795469
>>7795492
Jesus, I don't think I could last that low. I maintain at around 2500 cals at 5'6" and I lift weights 4x a week + cardio 4x a week. I'm autistic when it comes to counting calories. Yes female. Shorties have it bad.

>>7795455
That's what dating is Anon. You never know how someone will turn out unless you go out with them.
Personally I think him just up and moving out and sticking you with all of those expenses shows that he's a selfish prick who didn't even consider how his actions would effect you.
Sure, making friends in a new area isn't easy but just go out there and try new things. Look online at group meet ups in your area or sign up for a free class of some kind.
Talk to your friends and family back home..some of them might be more than happy to travel out and help you move if necessary.
Hang in there and good luck to you Anon.

>>7795635
Yeah you seem right. I don't know what to think of it as he lost his dad a few months before but still, that's a huge dick move on his part especially since I begged him to stay, offered him a lot of alternatives but he wouldn't give me chance. Outright said he hated me and left me wallow alone in my sadness.

Welp I guess I won't take back his sorry ass though I won't leave him homeless either. Thanks dears anons for the advices

>>7795038
I feel the same.

I hate running or doing stuff just for the sake of doing it. On the other hand I like martial arts a lot, so look into sports you really enjoy.

If anything I try to do stuff like never take elevators, skip one stair (like take them 2 by 2), I try to do squats whenever I go to a bathroom, drink a lot of water, dance around, strech in the morning or afternoon in bed etc.
Dancing games are pretty great too.

>Short, vaguely ginger, guess from where, studying international business in Northern Europe
>Every bleeding day for the past year and a half people are after making fun of for my appearance, get "you workin' for that pot o' gold?" comments rather frequently, potato jokes... the works; say nothing and let it slide
>Boy calls a girl from whateverstan 'kebab' on our facebook a few days ago, in joke; she flips a tit, starts behaving like a spastic calling him RAYCISS
>"Well it's like this for everyone, ever since I came here I've been called a lepr-"
>"IT'S NOT THE SAME UR RAYCISS CHECK UR PRIVILIJ"
>every single argument she disagrees with is met with "DAS RACIS" or a variant thereof
>shitstorm's a-brewin' now because some of us dared to defend him


to make it /cgl/-related:
>one of my classmates likes going to cons and she seems rather nice. Have I made a con friend at last? Find out next time!

I'm attracted to a cosplayer but if I approach her people will probably think I'm a huge creep and just want to get into her pants.

no beta shit story here but why are chicks so defensive and assuming of males?

>>7795693
because you're not a 10/10 greek god

>>7795693
Have you actually approached her or are you just assuming and being arseblasted without actually having talked to her? Because you know what happens when you assume.

>>7795665
It sounds like you behave really beta and let people say racist shit to you and you're getting pissy that someone brown stood up for herself instead.

>>7795696
>you know what happens when you assume

I don't. Yet you're confidently asserting that I do.

>>7795699
>racist
except that it isn't racist since I'm white and so are they, innit
The difference is I can tell banter from insults and she likes playing the victim.

>>7795665
go back to your pot of gold

I know this may sound a bit strange but...does anyone else get extremely depressed when they're doing exercise like jogging/cardio?

I've read articles that say that exercise helps combat bad feelings, but holy shit, when I'm in the process of doing them I think about a lot of bad shit. It takes everything in me from stopping and bursting into tears.
>be me
>running my third lap of a mile
>inner monologue
>"Oh fuck I'm so fat I'm already out of fucking breath it's going to be embarrassing as shit if I can't even make it a mile GAH"

Idk. Maybe I have feelings of inferiority from when I was in high school. I was technically obese then too but I did JV soccer, cross country, and I was a paid lifeguard. Still didn't stop people from giving me shit about my weight during practices/work though so sometimes I wonder if some of that negativity didn't subconsciously imprint whenever I do exercise now.

>>7795695
I wonder if that's true.

>>7795696
not going to lie, I haven't so this in itself is an offense to said person I am attracted to but .. I am also worried that people will look down on me. call me skirt-chaser, etc.

is this not a legitimate social concern or am I being beta about this issue itself?

>>7795703
get this over with for everyone else
> maek ass of u and me, etc LMAO!!!

>>7795703
You make an ass out of u and me, m8

>have wavy/curly hair
>glasses
>scar above my right eyebrow
dunno what to do

>>7795711
You're going to be called 'Arry Po'er no matter what so might as well just think of a few neat jokes and go with it

>>7795711
roll with it? those particular characteristics shouldn't play a role whether you're attractive or not.

glasses? maybe you need a nicer pair?
curly hair? maybe you need a different hair style that embraces your natural hair but doesn't look like a mop?

I guess it depends what the scar looks like.

>>7795711
What do you want to do about it?
How big is the scar?
What's wrong with your curly hair?

>>7795707
Just go with it. You have legitimate grounds for concern, not going to lie, but it tells more about the girls than it does about you. She thinks you're a creeper? Oh well, her issue. You know you meant well and there's really no reason for anyone else to think otherwise, so everyone else is on your side.

>>7795726
funny thing is that I normally feel this way about different issues. I guess it's time to take my own advice from someone else.

>>7795711
Won't be able to comfort you about curly hair, for I hate them. I think they are very polarizing, some people really like them.
But scars are cool and you can use lens instead of glasses.

>>7792402
At least it was only a cricket, Anon. I just took out my dog in the pouring rain and found out far too late that a brown recluse birthed it's spawn inside of my umbrella.
So I just got out of the shower, hope there all off now. :)

>>7795773
You should have burned your hair off

>New lolita to local comm
>Meetups are sparse
>Not into anime or cosplay so there aren't a lot of overlapping interests
>Making friends is hard and I am pathetic

>>7795773

I feel like I'm done.
I try so fucking hard everyday just to function like a human being. I've been doing my best for 5 fucking years, but it's gotten me nowhere. I give up.
I hate being alive. I'm sick of being sick. I'm tired of being tired. I don't want to be in pain any longer. I can't do anything I love any more. If this is what being alive means, I don't want it.
I don't care any more. I want this to be over.

>>7795706
I get similar feelings biking to work everyday.

>>Holy shit I'm already out of breath? Look at these other cyclists, they're going so fast, what the fuck is wrong with me? I'm such a fucking weakling, I have to try this hard just to be on PAR with what other people do normally? etc etc etc

Unfortunately in my case I just end up seething in rage and hurting myself as I push to keep up with $4000+ carbon frames on my fucking Trek mountain bike.

Don't let yourself get too sucked into self-deprecation, however edifying it might feel at the moment. Weight loss in particular takes TIME, and the most important thing is dedication, not immediate results.

>>7795706
>"Oh fuck I'm so fat I'm already out of fucking breath it's going to be embarrassing as shit if I can't even make it a mile GAH"

that right there is the voice you need to prove wrong

>>7795801
these feels
i feel them

Not related to cgl:

>working on obtaining in-kind donations through local businesses for an upcoming fundraiser
>decide to reach out for those who've helped us generously last time
>everyfuckingtime: "Oh, yeah, well, the owner's out and we don't know when they'll be in, but we'll let them know"
>calling in or visiting in person every week
>either no one remembers me or no one wants to help out
>today: on the phone with manager at one restaurant
>said he never received any donation letter
>asked to stop by before 2pm
>drive to the place at 1pm
>fucking restaurant decide to go on a 4 hour break

cgl related note
>won a blouse for 1900 yen today

I'm kind of worried that it wouldn't fit because the seller never posted the measurements, but I think it would be fine. I just don't get why Japanese sellers don't seem to go into detail about the items they're selling. Do they just not bother?

>>7795706
>"Oh fuck I'm so fat I'm already out of fucking breath it's going to be embarrassing as shit if I can't even make it a mile GAH"

It's not just you, or overweight people. I'm fairly skinny and I can't run very far either

>>7795711
Own the curly hair. Too many people hate naturally curly hair for various reasons, but you make it your own and you'll be happier.
I wanted straight black hair like my sisters, but I gave up and just embraced my curls and I don't regret it.
>naturally curly haired asian anon

>>7795706
>>7795821
For most types of exercise in general and running in particular, how much and how often you do it makes a great contribution, at least as much as your weight or body fat %. things like lung capacity and stuff take a while to work on regardless of how fat or thin you are. if you don't run often you'd probably get that 'stitches' feeling because your diaphragm isn't used to this much activity

>>7795819

If you don't know the measurements of each and every brand item, you are not a true lolita and you deserve to be doomed forever to ill fitting frills.

Yeah, I don't know either. It's how I managed to end up with a long dress once.

>>7795711

What's wrong with curly hair?

>>7795706
I get depressed jogging because it's boring as fuck and I'm really rubbish at it. The type of exercise you do definitely makes a difference.

>>7794629
>tfw I know this feel

>tfw my dream dress is never for sale on the comm and I will probably have to wait for a re-release to get my hands on it

>tfw my dream dress is never on the comm and I will probably have to wait for a re-release to get my hands on it

>tfw skinnyfat
>tfw people still think my body is real cute
>but i still hate it because muh body dysmorphia
>mfw i have chronic fatigue and asthma
>can't work out because shit genetics
A-Am I going to be fat for azn forever? ; _ ;

>>7796090
I eat well and not too much (1200 calories maximum)
rarely eat real junk food and never ever drink soda

>>7796090
>skinnyfat
>bdd
>cfs
are you me or what

>>7795773
You're a brave soul anon

>>7796090
Could you maybe swim?

>>7795801
Please don't kill yourself

>>7796090
You could try walking.
Back when I weighed 250 I actually hurt myself trying to jog and I had to do physical therapy for my knees for a few months. I was encouraged to keep walking though, and the walking did help me lose a few pounds and also keep my appetite in check.

Plus in general it can be relaxing.

>>7794002
>>7794605
do I know you. today I just told my underclassmen that I was kind of in a relationship. my underclassman seems slightly interested in me and seemed disappointed after I told her that. plus the time you posted is 10 minutes after me and my under classmans lunch ended. I hope this is just a coincidence.

>>7795801
Don't give up, anon.
Are you receiving any kind of professional help?

>>7796160
That reminds me
>girl tells me she was crushing on me
>tell her I'm not interested + in a relationship
>"DUMP HER ANON"
>no, fuck off
>"YOU ARE SUCH AN ASSHOLE I HATE YOU WHY DOES NOBODY LOVE MEEEE"
jesus christ
as if I'd dump my girlfriend for a crazy cunt who encourages me to cheat, that's fucking disgusting

> Sell old bodyline dress on facebook sales.
> Friend from cosplay community asks to buy it.
> Doesn't get paid for a week so agree to hold it in exchange for 25% deposit which is paid.
> Agrees to pay Friday.
> Tries to paypal me the money, is unable to send me it for some reason.
> Can't do online bank transfer because "forgot my password, I'm locked out lol"
> Says she'll go to the bank Monday and transfer it there "Oh I forgot and fell asleep sorry"
> Says she needs if for this Saturday.
> Suggest Western Union.
> B'awws about $5 service fee
> Only pays once I refuse to ship it out unless the money is in my account before I go away on vacation.

I'm so damn tired of dealing with flaky buyers who try to mess me around with payment because "we're friends lol"

>>7796178
I say this a lot more nicely than I put it, but I basically tell my friends "Hey, either pay me up front or no deal."

Too many lessons I learned from high school/undergrad 'friends' trying to jew me out of even simple things like gas money. I learned the hard way.

>>7795704
>studying international business
>not trying to maintain a flawlessly professional interpersonal image online
>ESPECIALLY concerning matters of tasteless language toward people of other ethnicities

I hope you have copies of your P45 and P60 handy, mate, otherwise you can forget GOLD, you'll be lucky if you have a pot to piss in.

>tfw most close friends are either slightly overweight or sjw
>tfw I can use cgl as my outlet to make fun of ugly and fat people anonymously

I'm a horrible person but it's nice to have somewhere to vent my vain, mean side and keep pretending to be a good girl around my friends. Love you cgl

>>7796183
I don't do payment plans without an up front deposit non-refundable deposit, bar one friend who buys large amounts regularly from me and always pays promptly. All this hassle over $30 fucking dollars. She offered to get the bus over to meet me but couldn't understand I'm at work all day and planning for vacation. I don't really understand why she complains about a service fee which would have cost the same as bus fare.

When everyone acts like being skinny means you must look like pic related, no ifs, ands, or buts.

>on computer looking at lolita dresses
>friend sees, asks more about it
>pull up lolibrary
>he sees the name, says "oh, I have to read that book soon"
>oh shit
>goes into long lecture about how the fashion was named after the book

I've been friends with him for a while and he knew I wore lolita, but this is the first time he's tried talking about it. He knows next to nothing about the fashion which is what annoys me the most.

I'm not very religious but I'm starting to wonder if some kind of higher power out there just does not want me to be happy.

>>7796090
Anon, I use to have bdd before too. It's really tough but don't worry you'll get out of it one day. I'm still not super happy with how I look but at least I don't feel suicidal or I can at least go outside now.

>>7796203
She has a legit med condition tho

>>7796186
Nobody was using foul language, certainly not me. Besides, most people here will either be secretaries or opening kebab restaurants. It's not a university, it's a polytechnic.

>>7796213
There is no "higher power" out there, that's just fantasy.

>>7796203
I don't know ANYBODY who would refer to that poor, diseased woman as being the average 'skinny' girl. Fucking hell, what a victim complex you must have.

>>7796227
She does, but whenever someone disagrees with someone on this board, they're either fat/jealous/hungry skeleton. Whenever a thin person is discussed, you'll see how many replies dubbing them anorexic, hungry, no tits, etc. It's retarded and I'm tired of how extreme the logic is.

>you're skinny? you must be starving.
>you're criticizing someone? you must be something I don't like!11!1!!!!!!
>you're not skinny, not fat, but in between? landwhale lolita.

>>7796307
Have you not ever posted on this board before?

Lol, fucking seriously?

>>7796315
What exactly is your point?
Are you being ironic? Sarcastic? Do you legitimately believe that post?

>>7796318
What exactly is your point?
You know, other than getting pissed off because someone had a post you couldn't identify with/are in denial about.

>just realized that for the past decade of my life I have not had a single day where my skin has been clear
>consistently there are always at least 10 pimples on my face
>even with dermatologist antibiotics
>even with strict skin regimen/cleanliness
>tfw
Why is genetic acne such suffering?

>>7796324
>What exactly is your point?
See >>7796307
Also you're a god damn retard with serious delusion if you think that post >>7796203
has a lick of truth to it. Did a landwhale call you a twig recently? Get over it.

>>7796338
>I haven't experienced this personally so it doesnt happen!1!1!!!!1!1!!

You get over it, cunt. ;3 Don't like what I posted? Hide the fucking thread.

>>7796349
>my single anecdotal story about how a fattie equated me to a woman with a real disease means EVERYONE thinks of my body this way, WOE IS MEEEEEEE
>don't like what I posted
>hide the thread
Huh? You're not the whole thread.
You need to get over yourself, massively.

>>7796355
You're the only person needing to do any sort of personality overhaul and maybe get your ass some Valium while you're at it. It's a feels thread and I can post whatever the fuck I want. You didn't need to reply to my post or even get so cunty about it, just because you never experienced it or don't agree. That's what your damage is.

Don't like it? Tough shit. Clean the sand out of your vagina and stop trying to act like a person reacting how any other person would to a cunty remark is suddenly this unforeseen thing.

>>7796355
>>7796338
lol nigger are you t-t-t-triggered?

>>7796361
You deserved it.
>bawww I think my body type in particular is being targeted
No, it's really not. Fatties, weebs, mentally challenged, and minorities get shit here too.

And I have seen much more leniency with thinner girls than I have with any type of muscular or fat girl here. You have a victim complex.
Don't like what I say? Then tough titty ;3
"Hide the thread."

>>7796331
Are you me?

>>7796361
You compared your plight to a woman with an actual disease and you expected people to empathize with you? Nobody on cgl thinks of a skinny girl as someone who is stick thin with a condition that doesn't allow for them to store fat in their bodies....

>>7795665
Seems to me that you need to learn the ways of Remove Kebab.

Do Serbian soldier cosplay with new con friend.

>>7792356
>Went to college
>Got degree
>Be pretty much normalfaggy except for still playing video games an going to a con here and there
>Have many friends, go out all the time
>Work out, get complimented on my looks
>Gonna be 30 next year an still a kissless virgin
I don't get it, even the Weeabos I knew found love.

>>7796213

Even if there were a higher power, what could you do? If it doesn't help you to believe in one, why bother? Just forget about it because even if there is, it's not relevant to your life. Sorry if this sounds kind of nihilistic, but I think it's the opposite; make the most of your life while you can :).

>is pretty good at drawing
>wants to do the artist alley thing
>another part of me wants to cosplay too
>so many ideas for costumes, but would want to exercise to get rid of the skinnyfat
>feels as though should focus on either one or the other in order to improve on them

My passion is drawing, but I just love to dress up in costume and have a good time meeting people. I'm so torn up about it. I know I could do both, but I pick intricate costumes that seem like a hassle to wear at a booth. It also doesn't help that many of my friends cosplay a lot.

>>7796399
>high school
>anon you're so cute!
>school is full of girls willing to put out, so I stay the cute one, but no one is interested in having a relationship
>college
>anon I love your outfits, you're adorable!
>dress too nicely, people are intimidated
>get reputation, no one is willing to try to approach me aside from quick compliments
>20 years old, kissless virgin that has never been in a relationship

How did I fuck up this badly. I promise I'm not some scary asshole [spoiler];_;[/cglhasnospoilers]

>>7795430
Don't ever ever ever take a bf or gf back. It's a slippery slope into unhappiness.

>>7795442
Maybe change up your workout? What bra size do you wear?

>>7796468
I feel you sister, but you're only 20, there's still hope.

>>7796405
You are going to need to take a bathroom break at some point, right? Have someone or even a few people to take over your booth while you take your breaks and plan out where you want to be during the con.

You are going to need to take a bathroom break at some point, right? Have someone you trust to take care of the booth while you take your breaks and plan out where you want to be during the con (how much time you're willing to spend at your booth versus time at meets/panels/events). If anything, you're going to need some kind of company. It can be hella boring when you're on the other side of the table.

>>7796405
You are going to need to take a bathroom break at some point, right? Have someone you trust to take care of the booth while you take your breaks and plan out where you want to be during the con (how much time you're willing to spend at your booth versus time at meets/panels/events). If anything, you're going to need some kind of company. It can be hella boring when you're on the other side of the table.

I'm full of feels.

Mainly lonely feels. I think I'm an attention whore and I don't know how to go on about getting the attention...

>tfw last semester at university
>tired of living near inconsiderate college students - from dumb freshmen to super seniors with serious drinking problems
>up stair neighbors are elephants
>hippie neighbor blaring his guitar; sororities down the road are doing their initiations (fucking - stop screaming; some people have to be up super early)
>have to go to sleep soon - got class in the morning and I think one of the roommates have to work at 5 am.
>roommies got back from the bar - a little louder than usual, but whatever.
>just.so.done.

It's not a fun prospect, but I actually would not mind moving back with my parents and dealing with a nagging mother if I can get away from all of this. The downside is that I feel like I ought to buy as much lolita as I can until I move back, mostly because of said mother. She's got the right to be concerned about me when I'm going to be responsible for paying back my loans. I still want to be able to enjoy my hobby though. I probably won't cosplay at all until I find my own place which is fine actually because I want to put money aside for that as well.

>tfw someday I'll find a house that's the right size for me and fill it with kawaiigoods.

>>7796188
I know that feel, anon.

>tfw I'm a SJW with a degree in sociology who gets asked to write about feminism
>tfw I anonymously shit on fatty-chans on /cgl/ and starve myself to stay thin

>>7795706
It's not that you're too fat. It's that you're doing something new and nearly everyone sucks when they start something they've not really done before.
It's like any other thing..you practice and you start to suck less and less until eventually you get good and start feeling confident in your abilities.

I just took up swimming (I've never been good at it) and I've learned that I'm rubbish at being able to pace my breathing but hey, you have to learn it to keep going so I'm going to continue to choke and snort water up my nose until my body finally realizes "Oh hey, it's this way..Cool. I got this."
Eventually you will have it. Just keep at it Anon and good luck to you!

>>7794442
Take those bitches down, anon

>>7796377
>nobody on cgl

New as fuck, aren't you? Maybe bother to read more threads.