/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL

>cosplays from homestuck
>terrified of tagging my cosplays because i don't want to end up on cgl(i really fucking loathe attention)
>still want to get con-crit but feel like i only get asspats on tumblr and by friends
>what do

>tfw no cosplaying gf

>>7651429
Do it anyway. Self post in the HS thread and be clear you want con crit and hopefully you'll get what you need.

Wish I could hang out with the lolitas in my community outside of our regular scheduled meets.

I've offered and they all seem excited at first, then never contact me

>>7651442
i might tagwhore on tumblr and specify i want concrit.

I basically took a break from my Skype Group.
I'm not sure how I feel, it's only been two days, I fear that they're talking about me as we speak, I am just a paranoid gal
But my confidence at negative 33.
I used to smile in the mirror and think of myself as okay without being vain, but now I every time I look in the mirror, I pretty much start tearing up.

I'm feeling dead right now.
Kinda wish I did join in the first place.

>>7651450
You won't be getting concrit on Tumblr, trust me... this is probably the only place you could receive it.

gonna post this here because on any other board I would be eaten alive

>been seeing this guy for a few weeks
>today he told me he wants to be "official"
>get along with him splendidly, we can talk for hours, something I wasn't able to do with my only other boyfriend
>also over six feet tall, muscular and wealthy

I can't believe my luck seagulls, but I'm loving it.

>>7651460
Yeah, they'd probably be 2 nice with their stupid bullshit.
"NOTHING'S WRONG! YOU LOOK AMAZING"

>>7651465
So check out the HS thread: >>7650300
For the longest time all we've done is just talk about other cosplayers, hardly any seagulls talk about their own stuff, so it wouldn't hurt to stop by so people can give their insight and crit.

>>7651461
congrats, anon!

>>7651470
I'm not them, anon.
I'm just agreeing with you.
Seagulls are pretty nice if it's a coord critic though.

>>7651460
>>7651470
>>7651465
i was more thinking that if i tag my pic a log someone else might post it, and since im asking for con-crit mAYBE someone would give it. idk. thank's for the suggestions tho!! i might look into it.

>NOTHING'S WRONG! YOU LOOK AMAZING
i've literally gotten this message in all caps lock. and this was a year ago when i did babbys 1st troll makeup

>>7651473
Thanks!

> making a really obscure cosplay
> not very happy with one prominent part of it
> not sure if there is any reason to even wear the cosplay anywhere

>gotta replace mascara and eyeliner soon
>over 9000 options and mixed reviews

Why is shopping for make up so migraine inducing?

>>7651544
If cost isn't an object, I just got YSL's Babydoll mascara in black and I'm finding it really great. Benefit's They're Real! is pretty good, too.

>>7651544
Maybelline Falsies.

>>7651478
what cosplay?

>>7651461
You know what has to be done now.

Not /cgl/ related but

>go to cardiologist
>asks if I ever have numbness or tingling
>tell him I do when I get migraines
>"Wow, you get true migraines!"
>after I told him I'd been to a neurologist who diagnosed me
>nofuckingshit.jpg

>>7651544
Better than sex. Forgot who makes it, but it is fucking awesome from the reviews I've seen. Cheap ass mascara that does a bang up job: NYC in the blue container. I wear it daily and fucking love it. Can't get it currently and give you the proper name cause I have a baby in my lap. Lol

>No luv, don't volunteer in India! There's disease and poor people!
>No luv, don't volunteer in Belarus! There's rapists and sex trafficking!
>No luv, don't travel by train! You'll have to sleep in the uncomfortable bunks and you might get mugged!
>No luv, don't go on a vacation to Greece, there's organ traffickers!
>no luv, don't go to an anime convention, there's rapists!
>GOOD GOD why are you so lazy, go do something, be an adult!
fuckin hell mam

>>7651578
Anon, I'm legit crying when reading this.
This is basically me and my mum.
Fuck, maybe I'm just sensitive, but it hits me hard.

Job interview went really well today and I move onto the next round so hopefully I can get out of my crappy minimum wage job.
I also reserved pic related and I can't wait to receive it in the coming months. It's my first order from TaoBao!

>>7651581
>No luv, don't cry! People might think you're emotionally weak and try to take advantage of you!

>>7651461
you lucky girl! Go rub his pecs for the rest of us!

>already own venus and mercury.
>trying to decide if I should just buy the whole set in the sealed box dealy thing.
>fuck it owning two of the same is better than owning like four of the same from buying them individually.
>just opened set.
>the only two I own are the only two variants in the whole box.

This is the silliest feel but man I'm feeling lucky now.

I told someone I really liked them and they just didn't feel the same way. I've been sulking and being bitter about it for a few days now. I grow attached to people far too quickly. I'm an idiot.

>>7651736
Are you me?

Eh. No friends, no friends for a while now. It's weird because i'm old enough where i should have found my solid friend group, but never did. I know I should be sadder about this, but it's just kind of turned into acceptance. A very depressing one. It's really hard to find motivation to interact with my fellow lolita blogs and post coords.

>Finally take the plunge and bought first lolita dress
>It is burando
>Came in the mail today
>Fits lovely

I am so happy. It's so beautiful and cute I can't wait to create more coords with it and buy more dresses!

>>7651785
you and me both, anon. I mostly hang out on 4chan when I need to vent or talk about something, and am at peace with my sad, sad reality.

>>7651461

Wait, you have a boyfriend already, met a better guy and are going to transition?

>crush on this guy
>he says he likes me back
>was alone with him for a while yesterday and he didn't ask me out
>ignored me today

boys are so confusing.

>>7651785
same. i feel almost too old to find a good friend group at this point.

>>7651809
we can be sad and alone together
if thats not too desperate

>>7651813
he either sperged out or isn't interested anymore. my money's on the first.

>>7651814
n-not at all!

>>7651811
Think she meant, only other boyfriend, as in from the past

>>7651794
what piece anon?

>>7651817
whats your preferred contact method anon?
/totally derailing thread uhhh

>>7651827
i don't quite understand the "gonna post this here because on any other board I would be eaten alive" part

>>7651836
2012 Innocent World Lucky Pack Beige JSK; I really love how simple yet lovely it was and it's really nice and basic to create coords with.

>tfw send my taobao shit to grandparents bc its safer
>theyre racist as fuck
>"why do you want to support them you need to wear american clothes"

>Really in love with the Drink Me series by AP
>See someone is selling the OTKs in my favourite colourway
>Seller is rosaire
>Don't want to risk buying from her
also
>tfw i'll probably get banned for mentioning rosaire
>anyone of the vendetta fags obsessed with me get off scot free regardless of shitting up every thread i'm in
>inb4 this thread gets shit up by vendettafags

>>7651813
When the sea turtle retreats into its hardened shell, just give him time - he'll show up, especially when there's teriyaki barbecue chicken

>>7651855
I always joke how I'm fucking up the american economy. i feel you

>>7651855
my grandma likes going to the dollar store and then being surprised when she can't find anything there made in america

>>7651813
I did this with my current BF, I fucking sperged out so hard the next day, and he had to initiate the conversation, even though I was the one who confessed to him in the first place.

Maybe just try asking him if he wants to be a thing.

>>7651736
Story of my life, anon.

>Start cosplaying Asuka about a month and a half ago
>Eva hasn't been getting that much cosplay attention so I figured it would be cool since I don't see too much cosplays from it at local cons
>tfw suddenly all of my friends are planning Evangelion cosplays, mostly Asuka
>tfw I even notice that majority of my friends have just started watching Evangelion
>tfw I go to the local anime store downtown and see that there is a shit ton more EVA merch and when I ask why, clerk tells me that EVA is getting popular again.

I'm glad people are getting into the series again, I just really don't want it to turn into the next KLK or SNK with cosplay since it seems like everyone is going to be cosplaying Asuka now.

>>7651937
dropped pic, whoops

>>7651544
I've tried lots of mascaras including several expensive ones ($50ish dollars) and I actually prefer Covergirl's Lash Blast over any of them, even MAC.

>>7651944
i like 'they're real!' or something by... benefit I think?

>want to cosplay from eroge bc a lot of favourite historical figures! cute as fuck designs!
>can speak japanese, actually play the game and get really fucking into it
>end up playing both games to completion and loving it fiercely, become very protective of it
>put up cosplay plans
>people start jumping on it asking to join me, what it's from, "oh I just googled it, i should do this person!!1!"
>know very well that none of them will ever actually play it and several are very icky about eroge

Can't I cosplay something for once without everyone and their dog joining in and not bothering to get into the actual thing

>>7651937
evangelion is nothing new retard. don't pretend you're some special snowflake for cosplaying it, it's always been big. also you're costume sucks if you're that fugly ass asuka from the gta who's been spamming all over cgl

>tfw I fell in love with a married man four years ago and still can't stop the feels no matter how hard I try.
>tfw I'll never have him and nobody else will ever be as perfect as him.

>>7652054
how do you know he is perfect if you haven't been with him? Because if you have...

Anyway, my point is that people tend to exaggerate their crushes' virtues and make them to be better than they actually are. And if you've actually been with the guy, he's clearly no angel since he cheats. And if he cheats with you, he'll cheat on you.

>>7652077
>And if he cheats with you, he'll cheat on you.
This, a thousand times.

>>7652077
We kissed once while drunk and he immediately told his wife about it. That was about three years ago though, and that was it.

He's just one of my best friends and it ruins everyone else for me if I can't talk to them like I can talk to him. I haven't had a relationship work out even slightly well since I've met him because I can't get along with anyone like I do with him. I want to find someone to get over him but it never works.

>>7651853
gorgeous first piece anon!

>trying to find a character that suits me
>be 20/m
>caught in that halfway point where i dont look young enough for any cute characters, and i still look too young for any manly characters cuz babyface

>>7652090
man his wife must really trust him to let him keep hanging around your puppy love ass

>>7652054
>>7652090
Sounds like oneitis.
Just don't go all Christine Chubbuck about it.

I wonder if the OP will get banned as I did for making a feels thread too, even though it was specified as /CGL/ only feels and had a relevant picture. The moron janitor then proceeded to delete all if my recent posts which were all /CGL/ related. But apparently feels threads are worthy of bans for being off topic. My god the janitors here are useless and the reason why this board has gone to shit.

>boy A is attractive shy fit Cosplayer I'm into
>boy b is bancho with anger issues but we click
>boy A is afraid of commitment because of his job
>settle for boy B
>be beta and 3/10 so I can't really complain

At least I didn't get too attached.

>tfw your friend still hasn't paid you and she's probably already off to spain.

I wonder why I'm still friends with her. oh well, if I can't get the money, at least I can try to get the bag that I paid for her.

>>7651461
I KNEW IT! HEIGHT DOES MATTER

>>7651811
What the other anon said- I've only dated one boy before and we weren't that close. The "eaten alive" part was just because on other boards, some anons will automatically be rude to females.


>>7651571
I giggled.

>>7651689
Thanks! Hopefully soon heehee.

>>7652223
Of course it does. Anyone who told you it didn't was trying to spare your feelings.

>>7652229
i'm 6 foot so i'm not that short but the manlets were wrong and /fit/ was right!

Good things:
>Do first cosplay ever, a couple days ago
>I put tons of work into it, not wanting to set a bad habit, burned my fingers a couple times.
>It's Metro Last Light
>>7637759
>People seem to dig it and snap lots of pictures of me, some even want me to do action poses and all sorts of stuff
>ask me lots of questions about how I built it and how long it took (do I tell them actual work hours? or the sheer amount of time I designated but dicked off and only worked intermittently?)

bad stuff:
>No one to really go to cons with, girly I used to go with with ran off with close friend, and neither of them do cons anymore. (how do I into cosplay friends? MUN friends are so straight forward to make compared to this)
>Stuck wandering around a lot at the con (inbetween panels that is, but hey, at least it netted more pictures I guess)
>Couldn't spend more than 20minutes at a time inside the building without cooking to death (Fuck EVA foam and a German flak jacket was a poor choice of attire for a late june con lol)
>I thought it looked like Dogshit to be honest (I seriously was surprised so many people wanted pictures, half of them didn't know what series it was from, so maybe it didn't look half bad)

worst thing:
Can only Find like 3 pictures out of at least 40

Best thing:
>Pic related
I got to say "do you want the helmet on or off?" sooo many times and I was aven' a giggle about it.

So many feels, but still, 10/10 would do again!

>withdraw from college because life
>taking online courses instead
>get placed on medication last month after struggling with my problems since i was younger
>actually feeling a bit better
>being more productive
>losing weight, slowly
>hanging out with boyfriend more
>get in touch with close friend i haven't seen since hs graduation
>going to start learning how to sew since no plus size stores where i live
>keeping tabs on dresses because I want to get into lolita when I have the money + am slimmer

starting medication was probably the best choice I've made in my life. I feel like I'm growing and breathing again.

The other day, I was feeling so terrible that I decided to go shopping, but it didn't help much. I was so tempted to steal something, too. I was really, really tempted. It was only $16.00 or so and I ended up buying it anyway because I knew I probably wouldn't be able to live with myself if I did that.

All it was, was just one of those portable battery things so you can charge things without needing to find an AC outlet. Unfortunately it doesn't work with my phone, but it works with my tablet and hopefully other things.

But like, I don't know, was that like, normal to think that way? To think, "okay, I'm feeling really awful, maybe if I steal this and get this I should feel better"?

>want to do group cosplays
>done/planned a couple before with friends but plans end up falling out, or we're almost never with one another during the con
>too shy to ask anyone to do a group cosplay with me

>>7652264
congrats anon! I am glad it's working for you.

>>7651411
>Made a new friend on Skype
>She's totally cool
>fuckyeah.jpg

Pen pals are great cgl

>>7651861
tru

>tfw excited for babby's first con
>tfw it's 3 months away
>tfw only have normalfag friends

>>7652463
feels, I know them

>>7651815
He is pretty shy.

>>7651861
made me smile <3

>>7651884
I might eventually. I'm really shy too though. I'd probably spaghetti too hard and ruin it.

>>7652233
>be me
>pretty good week so far, no complaints
>read this thread
>i am manlet
Well, time to fall back on my age-old tactic of buying my relationships. At least I was born into money!

>tfw ugly
>tfw it will never matter how well I am dressed, I will always be ugly
>tfw no one will ever like my outfits because my face ruins them

what's the point

>tfw no ugly lolita gf to comfort and call pretty

>tfw you procrastinated hard as FUCK on something that was going to be really sick, but AX is starting tomorrow.

I fucked up...

>>7651853
This was my first brand jsk as well. It's beautiful and so versatile! Nice choice, Anon.

>organize potlucks and picnics for my friends
>starting to get annoyed and pissed off at my one friend who I'm sure is an Autist; everyone else brings actual food and he's always cheaping out and never brings actual food even though he can definitely afford $10 to make some god damn salad for 5 people
>him: what should i bring, should i bring my rice krispies again?!
>me: probably best to bring actual food/no desserts since we don't want to end up without any real food
>him today: I'll bring Cheese Puffs!
I know it's over reacting, but he does all of these little things that annoy me ex:
>me: Just spent Xhrs cleaning my closet, maybe I'll sell some of it
>him: what's the point of buying clothes that you're never going to wear again?
>shut him down because he's being an ass and none of that implied I didn't wear my stuff

but I can't not invite him.
Even for my birthday and shit, all of my city friends don't mind/like him but my town friends and my boyfriend really dislike him because he's always saying aspie asshole shit he shouldn't. I tried to be understanding about it and defended him because he's pretty reliable and is nice enough to give rides to people who ask, but god damn.

>>7652495
You do realize that you could always cosplay characters with large faceshielded helmets. or face wraps. I know a girl who got in a car accident and burned the ever loving fuck out of her face, but she cosplays sheik soo...

>>7652539
Well that's fine for cosplay, but not lolita. Which is my problem.
I wear the little medical masks with the cute prints some times.

>>7652543
I don't know a god damn about fashion or lolita or even looking like a decent human being, but perhaps you could also intergreat a hijab, shemagh, veil, one of those wedding/funeral shrouds as well, if your are looking to mix it up

>>7651476
probably not. unless you're totally amazing never before seen perfect or horrendous, mspa gen will likely skip over you. don't worry, we don't bite.

>>7651855
>shes trying to get my parents to stop sending me money for this because she thinks all chinese people are communists

>>7652228
Yep
>post feet
>pls be in london
>fuck off you attention whore
>fuck you bitch

>>7652241
>cosplay friends how

do you have any interest in more popular cosplay themes? dunno how big metro is, but if you can find something with a meetup youre bound to meet people or at least be more likely to when youre into the same thing

>everywhere I look there are "GURL GAMERZ" "GIRL NERDS" and the like
>play videogames, watch animu, read comic books, play Yu-Gi-Oh, FUCKING COSPLAY
>still hard to get a gf to do these things with

I didn't really care until somewhat recently... ;_;

>>7652495
I feel you anon ;_;

>tfw am too shy and anxious to bother with lolita, especially comms.
>tfw am ugly anyway
>will probably be laughed at

A-at least I can draw myself in pretty frills, r-right?

>>7652495
>>7652656

>tfw no ugly gf

Imagine a girl so ugly she never left the house, you'd be the only person who would pay her mind. Her hardened spirit, her grateful touch. A developed personality from being forgotten for so long. Her face would be so distinct from all other girls', you'd soon grow attracted to it from familiarity. You'd start to see the other girls as the ugly ones; your unsymmetrical disfigured goddess would represent a deeper, transhumanistic beauty, beyond base and evolutionary instincts. You would be the only one to be able to appreciate her looks, while others turn away in disgust. She would be yours to keep. While other girls' allure fades with time, your attraction for her would only grow more and more with each passing moment together.

> summer before starting college
> fuck yeah time to get a job and earn some money so I can save up for cons!
> mfw nobody is hiring someone who's over 18

fuck this stupid ass place so much

>>7652295
Yeah but its usually murder instead of thievery
Thank god we dont live in Minority Report, amiright?

>>7652531
Your birthday your rules, dont invite the fuck.
Own that bitchiness, Queen Bitch forever

>>7651411
My A/C broke last night and there's a heat advisory happening

>Lord have mercy on me

>>7652295
I feel the same way sometimes, don't be too hard on yourself. The point is you didn't steal it. Just because you thought about stealing it doesn't make you a bad person. You didn't actually do it and that's fine.

>tfw been eating right the past couple of days and lost and discover that 2 inches of my waistline was just bloat
>tfw I've been horrible to my body, please forgive me

>>7651860
Exact same feel as you anon.

>>7652472
What height?

> have crush on guy
> shit happens between us and I realize he's the love of my life
> he initiates relationship but cops out of it after awhile
> tfw alone and thinking about him all the time

It would have been better if it never happened

>>7651459
Every time you look in the mirror from now on, look yourself in the eyes and list the things you love about your appearance. Repeat it out loud several times. Add a new item to the list each day. If you can't do this, a simple "I am beautiful" will suffice.

>tfw sewing your lolita pieces is more satisfying than buying pieces.
>tfw it has become more about collecting than wearing.

>>Buys a nice hakama off of rakuten for a future cosplay
>>It arrives today
>>Fits well, since I'm really skinny and also matches my kimono I've had for years
>>now feeling self conscious about wearing it because I don't want it to be labeled as cultural appropriation

Thank you tumblr

>>7652031
Why would you tell anyone about it if you're worried about them joining in?

>>7652183
I think the friends thread got deleted too. And I remember the fap thread sat around for a really long time. Why should /cgl/ even have janitors/mods if they're going to be crap?

>>7652304
I don't even know how to ask people to do group cosplays with me. Should I ask them to make their own? Do I make theirs? If they make it themselves, how do I insure that it looks up to par?

Man this cosplay shit is hard.

>>7652659
Talk about control issues...

>>7651860
Lol you're retarded for many reasons. Good luck finding your ~*dream items*~ again! :^)

>>7652314
I want to make penpal friends, but whenever I see someone offering I always procrastinate messaging them/chicken out. Never mind the fact that when my life gets a tiny bit hectic I do this to my irl friends too.

>how do into friendships
>at all

>>7652963
Apparently, respectfully celebrating other cultures through traditional wear etc. = appropriation. fuck tumblr and its collective bullshit.

If I saw anyone wear folk dress from my country, I'd be stoked.

>>7652963
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0USsMKUFd4c

>>7653027
I'll be your penpal anon! email is in field.

>>7651860

I know you probably don't want the colourway I have, but I have the cream and gold ones I've been thinking of selling for a lil while.

> Trying to lose some weight so I can look better in lolita and cosplay
> Lost many pounds during the first week
> Already halfway there
> Fuck yeah, I can do this
> Only a few more pounds 'til I reach my goal
> Suddenly weight loss stops
> Try exercising more, eating even healthier,...
> Nothing works, I'm stuck at the exact same weight
> Hunger gets worse with each passing day
> Eating fruits and drinking a lot can't soothe this empty feeling in my stomach
> Reached a point where the food I eat during the day barely fills me
> Feel like giving up
> I'm so close though

I expected it would eventually stop being easy but shit. The immediate results encouraged me to go on and ignore the hunger. Keeping to a diet while nothing is changing is torture.

>>7653096
Are you sure you're measuring your food correctly? I mean if you're eating at a deficient you'll lose weight. You aren't except from physics, lol. Do you have a kitchen scale? Measure all your food and keep a strict food journal. I lost 50lbs that way with minimal exercise.

>tfw post about being skeptical about a buyer
>banned

fuck this, this janitor is god awful. All the bullshit is left but mention ~~you know who~~ once and you're fucking banned

>>7653124
I kept track of it mostly by counting calories actually. Didn't consider measuring my food since ordinary counting seemed to work fine. But I guess it's worth a shot.

>basically a shut in 24/7, either sleeping, browsing the internet, playing weeb games or watching anime
>dream of meeting really cute but weeby guys at an anime con
>get ridiculously close to fucking them, but suddenly notice a rectangular box filled with text right under them
>wake up
>mfw
I'm literally dreaming of being in VNs now, not even of having actual interactions with male human beings. I feel like I'm in this too deep.

>>7653206
At least you dream about them

I got like no friends
>work
>gym
>vidya/anime
>dream about work
>repeat
Haven't talk so someone from the opposite sex my age for like at least 2 months ;_;

>>7653206
>tfw NEET
>gym
>anime
>browse cgl
>avoid masturbation
>wet dreams consist of masturbation and not actually having sex
wat.jpg
I need to get out more

>Go to con alone
>Meet a bunch of friends and tag along several bands through the day
>Meet new people, we bound instantly
>Snapped by a japanese fashion magazine
>Got a bunch of freebies because I'm 'cute'
>Someone I don't know come up to me and spaghetti about how they follow my blog and they love me
>everythingwentbetterthanexpect.jpg

> Am 22, just got my degree and returned home.
> Need to find a new nerd haven to spend my free time.
> Find a place in the poor section.
> Any port in a storm...
> Start hanging out there, my D&D campaigns begin to get popular.
> One of my girl players starts hitting on me.
> 6/10 at best, but girl gamer and anime fan.
> "Anonette, how old are you?"
> She's 16.
> nope.gif
> Turns out she's been involved with older guys than me before.
> Is also a huge drama llama and somewhat popular in the nerd haven.

If I want to continue my enjoyment of this place with my new friends, I have to play her game in some capacity, but I have no experience or wish to experience a jail cell for corruption of a minor or similar.

>Just graduated from art school
>Parents are super understanding and are letting me have the summer off (worked a full/part-time job since I was 17) as long as I do all the yard work and home repairs
>Feel like a piece of shit since my portfolio's small and all of my friends have a shitton of tumblr followers
>Now have the ability to make art for me, but never had the chance to do this before. Where do I even begin?
>Taking it slow, but not used to NOT working.

I feel so weird. I went for illustration, and I want to do kids books, so it's just a matter of bulking up my portfolio some. But I've always wanted to be an active blog (tumblr) poster with doodles and stuff, and now that I have the chance I'm so self concious of everything I do. I've definitely improved how I've wanted to since graduating, since my senior year was just one shitfest of not sleeping, not eating, and mental exhaustion which left me with zero time to even doodle and not worry about thesis.

I've never had this sort of...artistic freedom? before, since the schools I went to before college were very strict and you'd be punished for doodling in class. So it was really hard for me to adapt in college since I was so used to paying attention in class and taking notes instead of doodling for fun, and I always gave my homework my all. Plus, I've worked a manual labor job to help pay my way through school since I was old enough to get a job, and now that I have some time to myself, I don't even know where to begin to do what makes me happy....It also doesn't help that I'm good friends with a lot of, tumblr popular artists I guess, and I see how successful they are and such, but I've always been so self concious with my work.

Sorry for bitching, I'm just really confused/conflicted at the moment.

All my friends are going to AX this weekend and I couldn't go abloobloobloo.

No really I feel super lonely and depressed about it because this is the one year I really wanted to go.

>down almost 20lbs
>still getting stronger
yay
>still look like shit
>still can't find a job
boo

I feel like the patriarchy cannot be stopped for good, ever. It's like the evil is inherent in men from birth.

>>7653473
blame sexual dimorphism. larger gender = bigger dick
>srs

>tfw like going to cons with friends but can't find any cosplays that suit me

being a 6'5" tweaker is suffering

>pet has tumour
>go to vet
>too old to operate
>scratched and chewed the area raw (theyre known to do it - to try and get rid of it)
>given antibiotics to clear up the area
>bit me this morning so clearly in pain
>do i put down while hes relatively ok
>eating, sleeping, doing normal rodent things
>or do i wait until he's worse so he can stil have time with his buddy then put him to sleep when he's too ill to do normal rodenty things
>too many pet feels

I love my pets but man i hate decisions like this

>>7653473
Not sure if serious but so called patriarchy is only a radicalized form of late capitalist abstraction as it affects the domestic sphere.

>>7653096
Stop freaking out about weight. Go by how your body looks, feels, and even measurement. Weight is a really bad way to measure progress, there's water weight, muscle growth, and many things that contribute to the numbers on the scale. You may also have hit a plateau, so try researching how to shake out of it. You also need to look up "refeed days," which allows your body to continuously burn fat instead of trying to store it. Try making healthy meals that taste good so you don't feel like your depriving yourself, that's what can cause you to completely quit, and also don't be afraid to have a cheat meal every now and then. It will all come in time, you're doing great! Don't give up now after all of that!

>>7653473
>>7653476
>>7653484
>>>/r9k/
good sirs

>>7653480
If it's a rodent, better to put it down. Especially if it's in pain.

>>7653487
>i've never been to /r9k/

>>7653485
or she could just take stims ^_^

>>7653488
That's what im leaning towards anon. I just don't want to do wrong by him. (yesyes it's only a rodent etcetc, been told this before...hah)

>getting reasonably popular on tumblr for my art
>want to meet up with followers at con
>know a lot of SJW-types follow me, deathly afraid of running into them

>>7651411
Have a really nice AR-15 that looks sooo operator tier the way it's set up.
Here come feels:
>Stuck buying a way shittier looking airsoft gun for Umbrella corp cosplay.

Why can't I just strip out all the internals and bring no ammo, why they do this?

>>7653506
That's no fun feel. I can kind of relate. I used to go to tumblr a lot, collecting and sharing fashion and travel-related images, but now I've stopped because a couple of people I follow, while they post cool lolita images, have been posting a lot of your run-of-the-mill SJW stuff and praising poorly dressed lolitas (just because they're neither white or Asian). I just want to block certain images, but tumblr apparently doesn't do that (or I'm blind) unless I unfollow those people.

>>7653506
If you're in cosplay, just leave a message on your tumblr like "Hey guys, I'll be at x con dressed as so and so! So if you see me, say hi!"
I doubt the SJW people would go out of their way to antagonize you, but your other followers, they'd be more than happy to say hi. I've done it a few times, and it's great to finally put a face to some of my followers.

Just give it a shot!

>>7653530
Also a friend of mine on fb has been very fervent about posting feminism related stuff. I'm fine with that stuff in moderation, but it's almost every status. I have really mixed feels about third-wave feminism, thanks to the internet.

Anyway, kind of a dumb feel, but

>finally acquire decently versatile lolita wardrobe
>most everything is better suited for the fall/winter
and
>have the whole summer to myself
>gonna go to the gym; gonna get swole
>nope
>working 40+ hours/week because people have been taking off left and right
>I guess I have money for brand now
>scared that nothing will fit me because I haven't been properly exercising

>>7653487
What the fuck is wrong with you. /r9k/ is a dark spire of patriarchy.

>>7653473
I don't think it's inherent as you are saying but I do kind of believe that misogyny itself is an inherent quality
>>7653550
I get really tired of the feminism stuff and just end up unfollowing people. Every once in awhile I check back to see if they're still doing it. Any kind of politics posted over and over again IMO is really annoying, if I had some friend only posting about anti-gun legislation or legalizing pot all the time I would unfollow them too

>>7653582
It's just a fundamental difference in what you use it for I think. I want to laugh at funny pictures and catch up with my friends. I want an escape from reality, not to be constantly reminded I'll probably never be hired in my field.

>>7653493
Different anon, I would say its a good idea because you clearly love him very much. Im going to get a bit sappy for sec so I apologize but he is not only a rodent, He is a friend and being you care about. It would be no different if he were a cat or a dog. I had to put down a pet of mine and it was really hard but I felt it was the right choice in the end.

>>7653591
Ahahaha exactly. Yeah, I want to use social media to gossip with friends and check out new fashion and shit. So it's really jarring to see random posts discussing rape statistics or whatever else. And I am sure you will be hired in your field, tumblr tends to exaggerate

>>7653599
The trick is just to unfollow anyone who posts stuff like that, or use tumblr savior (i think it's working again?)

And thanks, but it's so obnoxious to see "women are x times less likely to be in science!!"

>>7653480
If the antibiotics make him feel good for a little while I would wait until they are about to wear off and make him really comfortable in the meantime.
I'm not really sure how they work but I have to give my cat steroid injections sometimes and she's really active for a week or two and then back to normal.
good luck with your friend :(

>>7653618
>>7653594

Thanks for your inputs anon, I'll probably arrange a day soon.
It's sad because even if the antibiotics do work he will just make it bad again by chewing etc and I don't want to see him as bad as some of the photos I've seen.

Google "gerbil scent gland tumour" if you want to see what I mean. NSFL tho as a warning.

>>7653493
Just because it's a rodent doesn't mean your love for him is any less real. Still, as a vet tech, my inclination is to lean towards putting him to sleep while he's not miserable if you know there's nothing that can be done to save him. It's hard, but it's so selfish to keep him alive and slowly deteriorating because you can't pull the trigger on the decision.

>>7653541
I'm not afraid of SJW people antagonizing me, just being a fan of me. I already know there are some specific people who are hugely of that mindset and adore my art. And those sorts of people politicize literally everything, so there's no doubt something like that would come up in just a friendly conversation with them.

I wish I could avoid them entirely but alas, even deviantart is starting to be a safe haven for their ilk.

>>7653627
Poor little guy :(

>>7653006
>I think the friends thread got deleted too
Yet we've had that thread with the Nami cosplayer up for over a week now. I don't post in the friends thread, but what's wrong with it? What rules does it break that 100+ posts about a girl's boobs and appearance doesn't?

>>7653631
I agree with you anon. I noticed it yesterday and the vet diagnosed yesterday and I'm going to call tomorrow so I'm trying not to let him hang around too long. Thank you. <3

>>7653635
If enough people report a thread it auto deletes supposedly
I don't know why people would report it though unless they just thought it was too /soc/

>>7653632
Want to be really famous? just pander to them
Meet up with them and one of them will probably say something like "your fanart of blahblah really spoke to me as a pansexual genderqueer"
You don't really have to know what that means, just agree and be like, yeah! That's what I was going for! I'm so glad you felt that way! What aspects of it did you like the most?
Then they will spread the word to all their demisexual transspecies friends and bam, tumblr popular

>>7653640
>a pansexual genderqueer
>tfw if i were to label my gender and sexuality this is what i'd use
>why do tumblr sjw's have to give everything a bad name

>>7653644
Honestly I'd probably be able to label myself some snowflake thing too, the different between you and I and tumblr is that we don't do it

>>7653644
Why does it need a label if it's not explicitly gay, straight or whatever? I don't even fucking know what my orientation is, nor do I care. Do what you want, it is what it is. There, done.

>>7653640
That's the exact opposite of what I want. If I say or do one thing that they disagree with they will fucking ruin my entire life.

>>7653652
Pretty much this.
If I liked a transsexual person I like them. Sometimes I feel promiscuous and sometimes I don't. Sometimes I feel feminine and sometimes I feel masculine. Why does any of that need a label? I think it's just a teenager mentality, to box yourself in to a given group.

>>7653644
This.
>never feel any strong gender identity, uncomfortable with looking or acting stereotypically feminine or masculine
>pansexual by the tumblr definition
>don't breathe a word of either to anyone because tumblr snowflake kiddies have effectively ruined both

>>7653506
>Wants to write a comic.
>Main character is a blond, straight, cis dude.
>Knows SJW will tear up despise it will have other characters.
>not sure how to feel.png

>>7653666
Just don't say things they disagree with anon. As long as you don't say anything overtly racist, sexist, or homophobic, even if they start controversy over something you will find normalfag fans who click to your site over the controversy because they think it's stupid.

>>7653685
I know that feel anon.

My main comic idea involves the antagonist having darker skin. Even though the main protagonist has dark skin too (it takes place in fantasy India), I'm afraid that a few other protagonists having lighter skin and fighting against the antagonist is going stir up some shit.

>>7653685
Can you make him do feminine things sometime? Be a feminist? Question his sexual identity occasionally? Fall in love with a transwoman even if she really just acts and looks like a woman?

>mfw I never heard of nightvale
>mfw it sounds like an updated lake woebegon aka shit my dad listens to

>>7653687
Someone called me a transmisogynist for drawing futa and calling it futa because apparently futa is a slur against transwomen (which it really, really isn't).

You don't understand. There's no telling what will set these types of people off.

>>7653692
Dunno, I feel like even if I add these stuff SJW still will tear my character anyway for a/b/c reasons (being blond, straight and cis the main huge reason). Besides he's not into marriage or something (huge spoiler on my comic), so I don't see him wanting to date a girl, be trans or cis.

>MFW its been a while I hear Nightvale

>>7653694
SJWs love converting people and drawing more people into their mutual circlejerk so you could always just apologize and say you didn't realize and have now educated yourself and have will check your privilege daily
But yeah I do understand why you don't want to be around these types

>>7653530
Xkit has an extension to block post, it's quiet handy.

>>7653550
The fact that you don't like seeing feminism just shows that we need more feminism.

>>7653363

16 might be legal depending on where you live.

>>7653732
Hush

>>7653732

>>7653717
I wanna make a game based on checkers and call it privilege checkers

>>7653797
Make a cheap remake of this - https://www.indiegogo.com/projects/the-arkh-project

>>7653550
>40 hours a week means you don't have time for gym

That's what every other adult at the gym works, anon.

>mfw friend search thread got deleted
>tfw no girl friend to talk fashion/drama with

Here's the map if you guys are interested. https://www.zeemaps.com/map?group=1026052

>>7653823
I still can't believe they got away with this scam.

>>7653842
I sorta feel bad for the people that donated to this scam.

>>7652219

This sounds eerily familiar to something that happened to a friend of mine lately: US or UK anon?

>tfw have mostly sweet wardrobe
>accidentally acquire classic dress
>can coord at least 3 different ways with pieces already in wardrobe
>tfw is this destiny?

>>7651813
>tfw he texted me today
>tfw he says he doesn't have time for a relationship

kill me

>>7653638
You are being very brave, this sort of thing is miserable to go through

>>7653823
>https://www.indiegogo.com/projects/the-arkh-project
this was a scam? on the surface it looks like a cool idea. Game concept is interesting at the very least

>>7653652
it's like some people tend to have a better understanding for something if it has an actual name. personally though, idgaf for labels and let people think whatever. If they think I'm just a flamboyant male or a chick with manface that's fine by me as long as they don't cause a shitstorm.

>>7652054
Anon, I have a similar story to you but with an ending
>become close with married man (married for over 10 years)
>know each other for 4 years, never had any feelings for each other
>Last year fall suddenly, deeply, and mutually in love.
>He immediately asks his wife for a divorce because he "didn't know it could feel like this."
>We never even touched
>Now together
>Living together
>Super happy, planning on getting married.

Keep breathing, bang some people just for the sex, you will get over it eventually and whatever you do don't try to break up his marriage. He sounds like a good guy if he told his wife about kissing you immediately, but imagine if, like 4 years down the line if you were his wife, he told you he kissed some girl at a party on accident?

I'm just saying, anon, I feel you feels- don't chase them.

>at the grocery store
>see some guys around my age looking over
>they smile and look over again in the parking lot before driving over to the package store for party booze
>mfw normalfags are actually checking me out but all I want to do is eat my clearance lean cuisine and watch the anime I torrented

>>7653963
Ooh yeah. The chick who was/is in charge had already been known for flaking on the games she was making and a lot of warning went out about this being doa when people were interested in donating. I checked their Tumblr for the game about a month ago and it hasn't been updated in a long time. If you google Arkh project you'll probably dig most of the old info up.

>>7653973
You sound like a cunt and I hope he does the same to you as he did to his wife.

Having some mixed feels

>slept with best friend a while back
>period almost two weeks late
>all pregnancy tests are negative
>can't see lady doctor for two weeks

but on the other hand

>just got bonus at work
>have comic books and new bathing-suit on their way
>three day weekend
>might actually get some sewing and cleaning done
>gon make me a skirt
>may even go through closet and donate some clothes

>tfw you have new members join your happy, thriving community
>tfw they turn out to be obnoxious otaku-squealing-weaboo-flag-waving-irritatingly-poorly-socialised-idiots
>tfw they offend people repeatedly, insist they've done no wrong, and can't understand why people don't like them after the fact
>tfw on top of this, there's multiple other dramas with long-term members coming to a head

I'm trying to keep out of the muck pile and remind myself why I love this fashion, but there are days where it's actually quite difficult to remember why I stay involved in the community.

>>7652233
Well, men don't need to be crazy tall to be attractive IMO. I sure as hell don't like when guys are too tall and I feel the need to carry a stepladder with me so I can kiss you whenever it feels right. Actually I've been in stable relationships with guys that were my same height or even a bit shorter than me, but what I do feel most comfortable with is whenever I have a bit of wiggle room to wear high heels without towering over my partner.
>tfw current bf is exactly that tall

>>7654006
I can understand where you're coming from anon, but in my neck of the woods it would at least add some flavor and interest.

>>7654013
Crazy, offensive weaboo does not leave a good taste in the mouth, anon. There are other ways to keep your life interesting.

>>7654006
I know exactly what you mean, anon. It happens to our comm every summer. I try to just lay low until it cools down and school starts back up, it's ungodly hot here anyways.

>>7653027
Actually I sold her a dress and we just kept chatting afterwards

I'm sexually frustrated, sex with my boyfriend suck.

The sex I had with my ex boyfriends were all much better, this situation sucks.

>>7654065
Why does it suck? You need to actually talk about it with your bf if you want to get anywhere.

>>7653920
I'm so sorry anon

>dream dress goes up on Lacemarket
>don't get paid for another 10 days
>listing expires with no bids
>message seller saying I can pay in a week, would they be willing to sell it to me?
>they finally reply after an agonizing wait
>tell me I'm second in line

guess it wasn't meant to be this time around.

>>7652050
Holy fuck anon

>Trying my best to loose weight
>loosing as expected then all weight loss just stops
>Binge yesterday because of personal shit and work shit
>up a pound this morning
>WHAT THE FUCK.
>Really down on self and angry
>Get period today
right, this explains everything.

>>7654120
Don't track your weight, track your measurements. Muscle weighs more than fat, so it's not uncommon to exercise and gain weight

>>7651411
>Tfw not a girl
>Tfw look weird cosplaying as a girl
>Tfw can't have children

>>7652295
It's fine to feel temptation. What's really hard is not going through with it. It's great you were strong about this.

>>7654120
expect to be bloated and to go up in the scale because of water weight from binging and your period

don't lose hope! go back to eating right and you'll flush the water weight out. if you ate mostly carbs on that one time binge, there's a good chance it actually helped break through your weight loss plateau and you're back to dropping fat again

>>7652634
At this point, I don't even think about trying on this website. People get so much crap which is obviously expected. Pretty much the best thing to do is ignore since pretty much every anon is a hard-headed ass.

>need therapy for issues
>need money for therapy
>need job
>fail at getting job because of issues

>>7654147
>Tfw too socially horrible to work.
I got fired from mcdonalds because I was too slow and stumbled over basically everything.
Hopefully I can get a nightshift job somewhere and not have to deal with so many people

>>7652090

I was in a similar-ish situation.. my best male friend and I couldn't get together without unintentionally rekindling crushes we shouldn't have on each other (I was in a relationship with his friend--yeah..), we had some problems about opening up and sharing feelings like that due to my relationship, and we always ended up distancing ourselves from one another if these feelings got too heavy (it wasn't ever very messy, but very troubling for both of us.) Four years in this relationship, and around the time I did a lot of "changing for the better" (got fit/dropped drinking a ton/winnin at them cosplays at conventions), I was reflecting on how discontent I was with my partner. We had been in this long, committed relationship but we just weren't really compatible and it was making me unhappy. Friend-anon shows up again in my life, we actually legit talk about our feelings, and after a rocky break up, him and I end up together and holy shit I've never been happier.

Badly summarized story short, I left a fairly long relationship for someone because chemistry.

I feel like shit
>be 18 going to be 19 next year
>be applying to college
>be from an academically successful family (parents went to prestigious schools, most extended family went to ivy leagues>
>have younger girlfriend who is going through the process
> Gf gets straight A's at private school. 2100 on SATs
>be barely getting B's get 1700 on SATs
>none of the schools anyone thought I was going to go to are an option anymore
>I am becoming worried i can't even follow the career I want anymore
>Feel gross and stupid
>I feel horribly jealous of my Gf because she is prettier and smarter than me
> I feel like I am failing in life and every attempt I have made to fix things has just fucked me over

>>7653150
Everyone whined that they were sick of seeing her posted. Now if you do, it gets deleted and you get banned for vendettas. Now you're whining that you can't shitpost her. Lol you gotdamn retard.

CGL I need your advice and help now please.

>asking around for cosplayers to join my team for a plan
>Asked a cosplayer, he says he will think about it
>Subsequently asking another cosplayer whether she is interested in it
>She says she will think about it
>Now both of them telling me they are interested to join me
>NOW HOW DO I DECIDE?
>HOW DO I REJECT THE OTHER ONE WITHOUT BRINGING IN DRAMA ONTO MYSELF?

I know I am stupid and I should not ask multiple people at once for a character spot. I learnt my lesson... And now I need to settle this, any advice?

>>7654196
would seem reasonable to give it to the person you asked first

or maybe the first person that got back to you and told you they were interested

>>7654196
I'd say pick whoever you asked first! So when questions are asked you say "They were first in line sorry"
And if they ask "why wasn't I asked first" say they were more convenient at the time? (not sure about this hopefully they won't ask that)

>>7654200
>first person that got back to you and told you they were interested

I'd go with what this whoever said first were interested gets first pick

>>7654200
The first person I ask is the female cosplayer, the one that reply to me first is the male cosplayer.

I think it is up to me to pick. However, may I ask for suggestions on how to reject the other one nicely without insulting the person?

>>7654214
If they are adults then simply saying someone else got back to you first should finish it.

If they are children then I suggest getting new friends.

My cheekbones are really starting to show their true glory and are even getting little shadows underneath. i'm gonna cosplay all the pretty boys.

>>7654182
What career do you want?

There's no time to be in a slump, let's start brainstorming.

>Used to be best friends with someone, now we're just friends
>Don't know how to tell them I miss them and want to be best friends forever again

>>7651411
>My family riding up with me to NYC
>I'm going to the grand opening of BTSSB
>Sis isn't interested in fashion and mom mega ita-ish about it
>Mom actually wants to come with me in the store

CGL how can I tell my mom that I don't want her to come with me? I love her and all but she's mega embarrassing in public

>tfw moved to new city
>tfw know nobody
>tfw waiting for the next con to meet new people and seagulls
>tfw lonely until then

>tfw the person who owns the location you want to hold a halloween lolita party at, sounded like a drunk dude.

I have no idea how this will end

>>7653632
Honestly, I've found most SJW strangers don't really bring that up IRL. It's a lot easier to reblog than it is to bring something of that sort up and talk about it.

>>7654182
Bad grades are not the end of the world. Go to your safety school if you can't go to your original ones. Retake the SAT if you can. Build up your experience in the field you want to go into. Join an organization, find side projects, get a part-time job, and network as much as possible. People like passion. If you can show that you really want to be in the field that your career is related to, your grades can be overlooked. You're getting a clean slate in college so bust your ass and don't let the prestige of the school get to you.

>>7654660
Tell her that only long time customers like you were sent an invite and she can't be admitted...Or something? Or find something that will entertain her even more than tagging along with you. And let her do that instead

> Be 12 year old me
> Had crush on Bishie-kun from my class for long time (like 2,3 years?)
> it's a secret, nobody fucking knows
> we drift apart because different schools
> Be 22 years old now
> had a boyfriend for 2 years
> we're dating okay but I know marriage isn't happening in the future
> friend threw a party, my ex classmates turned up
> oh bishie kun is coming? Nah I'm totally chill, nobody knew, anyway and I have a nice boyfriend san now
> Be at party
> bishie kun appears
> I'm totally normal...normal...oh fuck my heart is fluttering!!
> Be chatting in group of friends including bishie kun
> he's so manly yet gentleman-like at the same time
> enjoy his presence so much

>go home
>can't stop thinking about bishie kun past five days
> everyday I contemplate sending a text to bishie kun but I know I must control myself
>wtf it's like I became 12 years old again
>will probably never see him again, not in the next few years
>Why am I being unfair to boyfriend-san

>all these mixed feels
>can't express feels to anybody
>so I put them on cgl

>>7653363
>> Start hanging out there, my D&D campaigns begin to get popular.

Fat anon, pls, don't post your dreams on /cgl/. This is even less likelier than you ever getting a chance to lose your virginity to a girl.

>>7653201
Try having a cheat day. Sometimes your metabolism just kinda hiccups, I don't know what the science behind it is, but sometimes having one fatty meal with tons of calories will kickstart the weight loss again.

>>7654850
>fatty meal
carbs. less fats the better

>>7654780

Text Bishie and if he's interested, dump BF-San; you're being unfair by dating him if you love somebody else. If Bishie has no interest, bail, have a sit down talk about your relationship with BF and nothing is lost.

>>7653941
>>7653638
>>7653634
>>7653631
>>7653627
>>7653618
>>7653493
>>7653488
>>7653480

Thanks everyone, he's booked in for Sunday. :(

>>7654904
Vet tech here again. I'm so sorry for your loss. I know how hard this can be, especially when you feel helpless to do much else. I lost 3 cats last year to various unexpected things (cancer, FIP, complications during surgery) and it really devastated me. I know you've probably got people telling you he's "just" a gerbil, so you shouldn't feel this bad about it, and I'm here to tell those people to go fuck themselves. You can grieve over whatever the fuck you want, it's your pain not theirs.

I finally got around to watch Twin Peaks so I'm feeling really surreal atm.

>>7654543

You go with her anyways, like all the other kids who aren't terrible children. She is your mother.

>>7654875
Rationally speaking bishie kun is not a good choice for many reasons. He is a really nice guy but we are from very different worlds. Can't imagine having any common goals with bishie kun to build a happy relationship with either.

Boyfriend san and I easily don't have that problem...just that we've been together for a while, and we are at that age where you wonder about whether you stick with him the rest of your life.

> Boyfriend san is devout Catholic
> Insists his future children only attend Catholic schools, go to church on Sundays because Catholic upbringing is perfect in his eyes
> I am an unholy bastard

I'll just wait for Soulmate-chan to appear one day. I hope that day will eventually come.

Yesterday I went to a little lolita tea party with my two best friends. All dressed up. 30 minutes in I start to feel sick. I have to run to the bathroom and throw up! Thank god It wasn't all over my dress or any of my brand.

"Hold her head bow guys."

>>7654543
Seriously anon? Your family is riding up with you and you're complaining? They sound super supportive, I know I'm jelly of that. Besides, it's not like anyone would ever go "OMG, your that girl with the mom..."

>21, finished high school with good grades, got into college on a scholarship
>move to another country because of certain things I cannot disclose here that involve my future career
>don't speak the language, all the colleges there have no undergraduate studies in English aside from trade schools for immigrants which is basically "learn how to manage your kebab restaurant" or "learn how to be a hairdresser"
>21 now, can't have a job, can't study anything other than that
>ayy lmao

>>7654997
oops, I meant to write 19 on the first line

>>7654997
You're probably already doing thing, but make a serious effort to learn the language, you'd be surprised how quickly you can pick it up. Even if your spoken skills aren't good yet, speak it wherever you can, because it's the only way to improve, and try not to fall into the trap of only or mostly making ex-pat friends because it really hampers your language progress something fierce. Also, some colleges have support for students having trouble with language, so you could ask around? Sorry if this wasn't helpful.

>>7655003
>doing thing
Doing THIS is what I meant, sorry.

>>7655003
Nah, it's helpful, and I'm trying. But I lived in Ireland and now I live in Finland, so... You can imagine the ungodly language difficulties I'm having.

Also when I attempted to sign up for university here they wouldn't give me any starting points (that you get by virtue of finishing high school) so that's automatically -100 points on the ranking lists, which means that if you're not a Finnish citizen or you haven't gone to a school for diplomat spawn abroad, there's no way in hell you're getting in.

>>7654997

ugh that sucks. maybe you could get a job at a grocery store or something and meanwhile study up the language? is that a possibility which exists? also you seem fluent in english which is always a plus

>>7654997
You can learn any language in the world in 6 months if you put the effort.

>>7655012
It's unfortunately quite impossible to get a job in grocery store or anywhere in Finland if you don't speak Finnish. I feel sorry for you, I have heard many times how difficult it is to be foreigner in Finland. Have you tried to apply for ammattikorkeakoulu (university of applied sciences)? They often have degree programmes in English. I was considering that option to make my English better. If you have applied to ammattikoulu (in English? College?) I don't think they have programmes in English. Ammattikoulu in Finland is often thought to be a school for those who aren't smart enough to get to university. Anyway, good luck! I agree with you that the university point system sucks, I don't think at the moment I could get any points at all. They keep changing it more complicated every year.

>>7654988
>we are at that age where you wonder about whether you stick with him the rest of your life.

What the fuck? You're 22. What the hell are you talking about? How long have you been together? Unless this relationship has been going on for 5+ years, why would you feel obliged to stick with this person the rest of your life?

Even 5+ isn't enough. YOU'RE 22 YEARS OLD. You haven't even lived a quarter of your life and you're deciding what you're going to do for the next 3/4ths of your life?

Are you high? People change, life changes, what you want will change. Why stick with this guy if you're just looking for another soul mate? Why are you even looking for a soul mate? You're 22.

Shit, my friend was right. It's like people think that there's some sort of pussy or dick shortage out there, trying to marry themselves off. What the hell. People are out of their damn minds.

Sage for not-/cgl/ related.

>>7654967
oh god, just watched the pilot episode after reading your post

it's sooo good but too much drama for me to handle, can't watch anymore

>>7654376
>>7654766
Thanks you! hearing a bit of encouragement is really helping. I really want to get into neuropsych so it still seems a bit daunting.

>>7654996
>it's not like anyone would ever go "OMG, your that girl with the mom..."
Diff anon but I am pretty sure somebody was shit on for this reason. Can't remember who though. Her mum looked really ratty iirc

>>7655068
Uh yes I actually think of the future? If I marry younger I can easily have 2~4 kids which is most ideal imo but if I marry late my body may not be up to that so I'll probably not have children. To me marriage isn't all about kokoro going dokidoki and / or being romantically in love with each other. So I do think ahead.

Loving someone =/= Will work out if we date =/= Will work out if we marry

>>7652963
I thought that whole thing was just a joke

Don't take the SJWs seriously

>>7655126
Why get married at all, then? To tie someone to you? It seems like this is all out of fear, that you feel like you won't get the chance later on.

Kid, your body will be able to handle having children for a while yet. And that's all assuming that you'll decide to have kids. You might end up not wanting them, or deciding to adopt.

If you're not marrying for love, what would you be marrying for? Wealth, power, fame? Fear?

What does marriage mean to you?

Looking to the future doesn't necessitate you considering marriage already.

>>7655126
cool future as a baby maker with someone you may or may not love. what a strange and antiquated view of marriage.

>>7653242

Same thing happens to me since I've never done anything

> trying to find a job for the summer
> everything is too far away

well shit

>>7655126
>To me marriage isn't all about kokoro going dokidoki and / or being romantically in love with each other.

>>7654988
>Insists his future children only attend Catholic schools, go to church on Sundays because Catholic upbringing is perfect in his eyes
I don't know about you, but that's a massive red flag for me.

>>7655151
>Your opinion is wrong!

Let her do what she wants, who cares either way?

>>7653834
Is it considered weird to just email those looking for the same things instead of making your own post?
I didn't want to add yet another "looking for exactly what these three are!" when I could just email them, but no responses, so I figured they found someone, or it might be creepy to respond without posting your own and saying "btw I'm >#######".

>mfw I just wanna be somebody's senpai!

>>7655008

Uh, having just come back from Finland a) everyone I met was incredibly friendly and pretty much fluent in English and b) making an effort over a week in tourist areas was enough to pick up bits and pieces.

Suck it up and buckle down. If you really must and you're in the south learn Swedish but be prepared to have everyone assume you can speak Finnish and reply in it. Yes it will be hard, but having a second language under your belt will only make you more employable in the future.

>tfw find the perfect guy
>he's a sjw
>all our fights have been related to something i posted on tumblr that he finds offensive

>>7655151
I thought the same, seems returning to the 50s.

>>7655271
A vacation in Finland is not the same as actually studying there. My issue isn't that people don't speak English, which they do, because if they didn't I wouldn't have been offered a job here in the first place.
The issue is that even if I do learn Finnish, which I'm trying to, I won't have a high enough score to get into a decent school and won't be able to compete with the natives here, so a kebab restaurant really will be my only choice.

People in "the south" don't speak Swedish well at all. People in the west, like Vaasa and Turku, do. I live in Helsinki, and people tend to speak Swedish quite poorly. And I am fluent in two languages aside from English.

The score process is as such: 100 points max on your high school grades, and 100 more on the entrance exam. Even if I score 100 on the exam I have low chances of getting in because I get no high school points, at all, because I finished Irish secondary education which doesn't reward you any baccalaureate points and serves pretty much as a ticket to a Commonwealth university, if that. Get it? No points = lower on the ranking list = lower chances of getting in.

As for your comment, being a tourist is fucking different from living in that country, so please stop being so awfully patronising and talking out of your ass because you read fuck all out of what I wrote. Bits and pieces and casual conversation is not enough for me to score a job or get into a school of any kind (legally) and the language itself is more complex than saying hello and goodbye. And I never brought anyone's politeness into question, so I feel like you just wanted to brag and act like an expert.

>>7655279
>tfw your perfect guy is literally a huge sensitive faggot

>>7655253
Well, if you are male, 98% chance they don't want to talk to you

>>7655295
Yeah, sorry, I shouldn't have been so abrasive.

I do still think that you should try and learn the language, though. How long is the job for? Can you put off university until you move back?

>>7655295

Jesus, someone woke up on the wrong side of the bed.

>body preparing for that time of the month
>hurts to remove hair
>acne errwhere
>tired as fuck
>con weekend starts now

>>7655309

I noticed. All of them in my region wanted to only talk to females.

No friends, only sadness.

>>7655318
I already speak the language enough to hold a casual conversation, like I said, but the issue is learning the niche slang related to my field and business slang in general. I'm also very self-conscious about conjugating verbs and such, and am always afraid of sounding like an idiot.

If I did apply to the university, back home, the issue would be not being able to come back here, and aside from everyone making a drinking gesture with their hand when I tell them where I'm from, it's a very nice place. I'll apply next year and take some language courses or something in the meantime, so it's not all completely lost. Only thing I'm eternally arsepained about are those points.

>>7655321
it's a sensitive spot of mine, sorry about that.

>>7653834
I made a new friend search thread.

>>7654415

>find really cute dress in sales group yesterday
>message girl that i want to buy it
>get a reply back today
>awww yisss
>"Sorry, that dress has just been sold today!"
>mfw

I haven't really left my room in a week, outside of getting food and using the bathroom.

I just feel so unmotivated to do a single thing, and I keep sleeping really late, waking up in the afternoon.

I feel really guilty for a friend of mine's problems right now, cgl. We were really close friends about a year or so ago, and had plans to get an apartment together when she started college. I was totally up for it as soon as I got a job, but I had problems finding one for a few months and before I knew it she was pressuring me really hard to get the apartment ASAP. I didn't know what to do and I certainly couldn't afford an apartment while jobless, so I kind of just fell off of the internet and out of my social circles for nearly 6 months to avoid my problems. Which was a mistake, but... well, it was in the past so it's pointless to regret too hard. Anyways, that pretty much killed our friendship and she instead lived in a college dorm this year.

I saw her at our local convention and we talked for a minute or two, but I was in a rush so left without saying too much to each other. Later, I saw another of our friends who I'm still somewhat close with, and she told me that this former friend had pretty much flunked all of her classes and got herself kicked out of college. And I kind of know it's not my fault, but at the same time I can't help wondering if maybe my decision not to try harder to get the apartment and live with her kind of started this decline? But then I think, no, she always thought of college as a big party anyways, so maybe it was inevitable... I go back and forth between blaming myself and not and it feels bad man.

>Passed first year of uni
>Start volunteer job in two weeks, although it's unpaid it'll give me something to do
>Going for high tea with my two friends next week
>Going to my first LARP in two weeks
>Get to look after my pet bird I had to leave behind when I moved whilst my parents go on vacation, spoil him with all the treats
>Had a bout of anxiety recently but I'm feeling a massive improvement

I'm just really happy that for once everything's looking pretty positive

I feel like shit because the patriarchy has once again ruined my life and took the only man I ever loved from me

picture related

>>7655627
Who's that?

>>7655634
Jean from Attack on Titan. Or what's left of him anyway ;_;

>>7655645
My condolences.

>>7655627
as far as I know this is fake

>>7655107
I had thought so as well when I watched the pilot episode but I couldn't stop thinking about it and ended up watching like two episodes per day even.

>tfw no qt 3.14 cosplay gf

It's... pretty frustrating.

>knows nothing about makeup
>puts on makeup the same ever single fucking day because don't know how to otherwise
>usually always does it wrong anyways because usually foundation, liner, and lipgloss just doesn't cut it


Anyone know of some super cute, pretty simple makeup tutorials?

>>7655794
shit, dropped my image

I'm starting to fall out of love with my local lolita community. It's just gotten way too big and I find myself not getting along with as many people. I'm glad I've managed to make friends that I can hang out with outside of meets but I wish we could hang out in lolita more often.

>>7655794
I feel your feel and second your request.

> Tfw you like popular things and cosplay from them despite them having disgusting fandoms
> Tfw you just want to enjoy what you enjoy and have a good time without being seen as one of THOSE fans

>>7655746
Get the fuck out,virgin dcum.

>>7655307
i'm not even allowed to say faggot around him or he'll get all mad and ignore me for the day

>>7655930
You shouldn't say faggot anyway? It's a fairly offensive slur.

>>7655939
>>>/tumblr/
>>>/killyourself/

>>7655939
>lewheredoyouthinkyouare.webm

Even though personally I don't say it myself. Just seems kinda strange to me how you're telling someone not to say that on this site of all sites...

>>7655949
>>7655947
Why would you ever say things that are regarded as the "norm" on 4chan IRL?

>>7655930
Well if you're straight then yeah, don't say it because you have no right to. Faggot.

>>7655960
My boyfriend and I use them when talking to one another (usually about something we read on our respective boards), but we have also both been going on 4chan for longer than I would like to admit.
If you're using them in any sort of normal context, then ehhh. Though I feel like if anon's bf knows she goes on here he should be able to get over the fact that she occasionally slips and uses the word fag.

My feel is that I am still waiting for a seller to ship a dress that I bought 2 weeks ago. Their terms say up to a week, and they responded to my message apologizing for the delay, but goddamn, I wanted this for a meet up tomorrow.

>>7655279
You must be really fat and ugly then, because a "perfect guy" would never be a beta pussy / sjw / mangina like that.

Not just what men would consider a loser, but also the vast majority of women (attractive ones especially).

>>7654996
Yup, just because they're supportive doesn't mean that they aren't annoying.
It's not like the store opening is the focus of the trip; we're all doing our own thing

>>7655658
It better be fake

>>7656013

Considering you have a BF, that makes you a normalfag

>tfw two hours till sailor moon.

>Meet someone at a con
>Hit it off great, hang out for a while
>Seems like they legitimately like talking to me and hanging around me
>Post con, find their profile page and add them
>Never gets added

I know it's totally reasonable if they didn't remember my name out of everyone over a weekend, or if they don't recognize me out of cosplay or something, but it makes me feel really insecure when it happens.

>>7657217

Did you send a message or anything with your friend request?

"I was X cosplayer at Xcon, we talked last weekend"

Just a little reminder so they know who it is.

anyone got that pic of "what men want vs what women want"?

>>7655521
you are not guilty for anyone's decisions. it was her decision how to live her life, and she can't blame you for something which was her fault, which is, getting kicked out of college. don't worry about it that much.

>>7657217
I know that feel.

Every year, one week before a con I manage to put a hole in whatever I'm working on. Every damn time.
>whhhhhhyyyyyyyyyyyy.jpg

I had to put my best friend of 12 years down today.
He was the nicest dog, he loved everyone, but he loved me the most. We got him when I was in middle school on some school holiday and I spent the entire week with him. He cried and cried outside of the shower when I finally started to get back to my normal routine. He used to use my pillow more then his own bed...And I grew up with him, I taught him tricks and let him out at 3am when nether of us should have been up. And then I moved out for collage.
I moved out and barley ever went back to my parents house. I barley ever went to see my best friend except for holidays, and then we would barley sit together. He really never grew out of sitting in my lap.
And then he started to get sick. He started to get tumors on his bum. And I did not want him to sit on my lap when I was with him. I would still sit beside him and talk and pet him I guess, but even that started to get less and less. I last saw him a few weeks ago for my birthday, I brought him outside and back in and gave him a cookie. He could still sit and give me his paw like I tough him, but he could not remember how to lay down....I barley pat his head and did not stay for very long...

>>7658214
I knew it was coming, every time I went home to see my parents he was worse and worse. My mother called me on Wednesday to tell me he had stooped eating, the medicine that they had given him was not working.. I knew what my father wanted when he called me at 9am this morning, but I could not pick up the phone. My body knew this morning when before that I woke up with my alarm and couldn't even motivate myself to shower.
I'm so bitter and mad at myself.
When I went to see him today he did not even wag his tail at me, it just swooshed side. He did not even howl hello. He stood on top of the hill and waited till I came up and pet him and told him he was a good boy. I stood with him a long while, fallowing him as he lumbered around showing me all of his spots as he tried to pee on them but could not. I rubbed his ears like he used to love but he did not moan...
I pat his head all the way to the vet, and sobbed and sobbed and sobbed.
For some reason he always hated walking into the vet, but once he was in he was always so happy to see the nurses. The nurses loved him, and they recognized us right away like they always did. There was never any 'checking in' with Gunther.

>>7658216
He was always the kind of dog that everyone loved and knew by name. Even the vet looked like she had been crying, she tried to crack jokes like she usually did while my parents signed the release forms.
"Oh, this one is just saying that he has not bit anyone in the last 15 days, and don't say he has because I will know you are lying"
They took him away and gave him the first sedative...he was so drugged when he came back and he went right for me, berried his big head in my chest and looked around confused. I pet him and I pet him and he nuzzled and tried to get into my lap but he just...did not have the motor skills to do it and..I did not help him.
Instead he laid at my feet and the nurse gave him his final injections. He went peacefully in to a relaxed sleep and laid his head into my lap. He looked so relaxed and somehow happy...so much more happy then how sick he had been...

>>7658218
but why, why the fuck did I not just let him die in my lap. Why did I not visit and play with him more. I stayed with him and my family for a while after he had passed, kissing his head and saying my last good buys...It took everything I had to lift his heavy head from my lap...Then my dad decided to take his collar off. I wanted to run, I wanted so bad to run and scream and claw my fucking eyes out, I miss him so much.
I have been trying so hard to pull myself together at all today, my cats bring me no comfort...Nothing will ever fill the void in my life that he left, my big cuddly friend who wanted nothing more then to be in my lap. I can't get his eyes out of my head, or his smell, or the feel of his fur, I will never feel it again, nor will I ever wipe his slime off my face.
All those years wasted when I abandoned him and went off to school, and I couldn't even let him die in my lap.

And that was really long and probably has typos everywhere but I can barley see the keyboard anymore so whatever, I'm glad I got it out

>>7658221
Fuck anon, I lost my dog the same way this year. it was one of the worst losses I have ever experienced. Give yourself time, you need it. It won't stop hurting but it will get better. Although it is hard to think that you could have been there more, you really seemed to be trying your hardest. seeing someone you love suffer that much is going to make things harder on yuo too.

How to break up with a depressed and possibly suicidal bf, /cgl/?

>be really busy all year
>3 months until Con
>busy with exams and job
>1 month until Con
>start cosplay
>going along nicely
>suddenly, sewing machine breaks

fuUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUuuucckkkKKkk me there's still 3 weeks until the Con, but I can't deal with this shit right now

>>7659071
chill nigga, this is supposed to be a fun hobby

>>7658744
There are many ways, but don't let his suicidal tendencies get in the way of it happening.
If you think he's genuinely going to do it, alert his parents or friends.
Don't let anyone talk you in to staying with him.

>>7658744
I've been through this crazy twice. Say you have to break up now because you're both under stress, you want to remain friends, and then slowly distance yourself. Cry and ask him to go to therapy and once he's better and functional you'll think about being together again.
After 6-8 months when you know he's in therapy/doing better, stop talking to him altogether.