/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL

>>7525211

>when people complain about glass pearls, grosgrain ribbon, and other 'mediocre' materials being used in crafts
>when the same exact shit is used in brand

Glass pearls have an evenness to them that nothing but high grade (i.e. expensive $175 single strand necklaces) pearls can achieve. In short, they're good for necklace patterns that need symmetry and evenness. Of course, there are also different grades of glass pearls (highest being Swarovski, which uses a process simulating the creation of actual pearls) and you would need to choose carefully between meh, good, and better brands to get a glass pearl that doesn't look cheap.

Gosh, this grinds my gears so hard. What do you think these BTSSB necklaces are made from? I guarantee you they aren't freshwater pearls. Probably not even Swarovski, considering how much a single Swarovski pearl pendant can go for.

>>7525230
Ay, grosgrain ribbons are perfectly fine yo.

>>7525230
I didn't know that people actually wanted really nice materials, especially when I make something well, but out of mid-tier materials, make it affordable, and most lolitas are too cheap to buy it.

I guess on this note, it grinds my gears when people use plastic pearls when you can get nice enough glass for the same price.


And while I'm at it, when I see my friends post really nice handmade things on Facebook, then say they won't buy them because they're too expensive. These same people drop tons on shitty brand things that aren't as nice and weren't half as lovingly made.

>cosplay's coming along very well and very quickly
>suddenly
>NOW YA FUCKED UP, NOW YA FUCKED UP
This seems to happen to me so often. Maybe it's just a sign that I need to stop for the day or something, but I'll be doing just fine and then I'll hit a certain point where maybe I didn't look at the design hard enough or patterned something wrong, and it just goes spiraling downward.

>>7525252
yo dude, this happens to everybody. you already know this probably, but you should really just take a break when you start making mistakes while sewing, because they just cause you to make more mistakes. (virtually) anything can be fixed though, dont sweat it

Whenever I see a fatty-chan say that only "anorexic bitches" can fit into brand and throw tantrums about how limited the sizes of lolita clothes are I just want to slap them. I just lurked for years and didn't actually get into lolita because I was convinced if I wasn't super thin I could never wear those cute dresses.
But then one day I decided "fuck it" and took all my measurements and went on a shopping spree. Turns out those whales were just butthurt morons and the only thing that really limits my shopping is my shoe size. I could have started building my wardrobe years ago rather than just last year. I missed out on so much. I changed jobs right after getting into lolita too and lost a lot of disposable income.
Man this still steams me.

>brother likes a girl
>girl is a huge anime fan
>brother is a /b/tard normalfag who thinks Cowboy Bebop is underground
>they want to group cosplay together
>girl says she wants to be Gloomy Bear Super Sonico
>Girl asks him if he's seen super sonico
>brother has no idea what super sonico is but says he "loves that anime!1"
>he's trying so hard to impress girl by pretending to be ~*an otaku*~
>gives me shit constantly for liking anime and video games
>but gets me to type to her on facebook to talk about anime and cosplay on his account so he can look ~sugoi desu~
>mfw he's fat and planning to cosplay Super Sonico's manager to impress her
>he's really an asshole too

I don't know if AX this year is going to be amazing and hilarious, or terrible and cringeworthy

>>try to cultivate qt hobbies in myself so as to further my qt image
>>attempt baking
>>artisan bread is easy, fail extremely hard as soon as I branch out to sourdough, still can't get it right
>>attempt to make candy
>>whatthefuckamidoing.tiff

WHY IS BEING QT SO HARD

>started working on a cosplay
>Coming along great so I take a break.
>Break has been going on for a few weeks now.
>Keep telling myself to work on the cosplay but I convince myself since it's not much I can continue to put it off.
>con in a month
Procrastination is literally the worst. I hate that I catch myself doing it and it demotivates me to finish.

>>7525263
Holy cow, this is a disaster waiting to happen.

>am shy and socially awkward so it's hard to make friends, but desperately want to get into comm
>have a friend who's in the same boat as me, we're close and share these feels together
>recently getting more and more involved and meeting new people in the comm
>try my best to feel happy for her, but can only feel jealousy
>hope that she doesn't completely leave me after making better, cuter new friends

I know it's extremely shitty of me not to feel happy for my friend who's doing well, but I can't help it. I feel like a terrible friend for feeling jealous and wanting to hold her back. I wish I could say that the only problem I have with this is that I don't want her to leave me behind, but it's more than that. I don't want her to have more friends than me. I feel extremely shitty.

>>7525263
High potential for hilarity, but I feel sorry for you and that girl. Let us know how it turns out.

>>7525211
Reposting from the other thread because it got swept up in the shitstorm:
>wants to cosplay Matsutaro in his Yukata from the OP
>know exactly how I'm gonna do it and I'd look just like him
>tfw no one follows Matsutaro but me and it will almost definitely not get a second season
>tfw the manga was never scanlated, so people who don't know that sports manga always start slow and dropped it immediately are going to kill my only chance of seeing it
Thanks, guys.

>be brolita for about a year, look like awkward ugly fat mexican girl
>completely freak out my parents and the public
>feels horrible
>sell my entire collection off and become ouji
>look super cute, parents love it, no one is horrified of me in public
>feels awesome

don't ever try to be brolita. if you're a cute boy, don't waste time being an ugly girl

>>7525300
b-but girl clothes are so much prettier and softer

DON'T KILL LA KILL MY DREAMS ANON

>>7525275
>>7525284
It's like an anime
"My little sister can't get me laid!"

>>7525328
I know, I felt this way at first like "wow this is so much less kawaii how will I even do this cry"
but once you're all dressed up with all the fixings, it's just as meticulous and cute, just boyish. if you can look like an ugly but passable girl, you'll be an amazingly adorable boy, it's very freeing

>Cosplayer posts about how they are gonna quit cosplay
>They list reasons like how it isn't fun and the community is mean and it isn't like it use to be (like 4 years ago)
>Give them best wishes and sucks they are quitting
>Messages me to tell me they weren't quitting.
>Happens 2-3 times a week from different people

Gaining attention by stating you are quitting cosplay is now a trend.

>look up #cosplay on instagram
>full of underage blog posts
>all whining about parents/petty immature drama/ under age high school level complaining
>"omg im looking terrible today guis "
>cringe worthy weeaboo typing/replacing english words with Japanese
>no styled let alone cut wigs
>all those fucking long thick bangs past the lips
>"omg thanks for followers" with only begging and posting follow for follows

why do girls fucking do this?
and your followers dont cont if they only are for their own whoring of followers, it doesnt make u legitimately popular if EVERY SINGLE ONE of your followers are not even paying attention to your posts and just scrolling past them.

also
>putting #qtpie #kawaii #cutegirl #model on your own post

fucking kill yourself

>>7525266
To be fair, making candies is pretty hard. I had to take a class in it for college, and there was so much rage and frustration. Even tempering chocolate is easy to fuck up if you know what you're doing. Making candy is definitely a more advanced technique. Honestly, if you want to get into baking, start off with something easier. I would recommend pies, cookies, and maybe cupcakes. If you want to get into cakes, be ready for a lot of practice. Baking cakes is pretty easy, but the decorating part takes a lot of time and a lot of failures.

>>7525392
Lol I'm an ugly but passable girl, maybe I'll also be a cute boy (haha doubt)

Pathetic that I was born a girl but I'm lucky to look "passable." Maybe if I go to Tumblr a fifteen year old can jerk off over my """genderqueer""" ass.

I have a con in a month and I need to get back to sewing.

But I'm sick and mildly injured, and that's worse than just being just one or the other.

>go to a meet in my not-so-local comm(2h+ away)
>40+ persons
>maybe 10 well dressed lolita max
>why.jpg

Everyone was sweet, really, but why were they so badly dressed ? They were a few things to nitpick in the best dressed group, but they were at least well groomed and cute.
And no fucking excuse, because out of these 10 girls, we had two chubbier ones, wigs and no wigs, dramatic make up and almost no make up, brand and offbrand, classic gothic and sweet, young or older lolitas. Proof that it's just about making some kind of effort.

The good side is that I didn't knew most of them but a soon as we saw each other we flocked together, and it was like instant friendship. We had such a good time !
The bad side is that we may have appeared elitist by being in our little group, but they were a lot of other small group so I hope it wasn't a problem.
Anyway I was pretty baffled to see so many bad outfits at once. I mean it doesn't struck me at cons because you may want to wear something funny and girly but not as strict as lolita and play around with it, but this was a planned lolita event, you had at least two month to come up with something nice. Why didn't you try ?

>>7525619
Was this the Sakura Matsuri meet?

>>7525625
Nope, but not going to say which comm, I want to stay anon.
Sorry to see that happens in other comm too tho.

>>7525628
I think it happens in any comm.

>starting to into lolita
>terrible at accessorising
I can do everything else, but accessorising seems like an important part and I don't want to appear 'plain' but I don't know where to start with all the jewellery.

>>7525636
I think I will try to plan some lolita pajama party or a more expensive meet to get rid of nice but noisy noobs. Hell, even 15$ for a tea party seems a lot for them.
Too bad my place is not nice enough to plan a tea party at home. I have plenty of meet idea but nearly no local comm and not so many strong bonds with other lolitas.

>>7525640
Colours:
>Pick three colours max for your total outfit
>Use one of these colours for your accessories if you can
>IE: Dress is black with lavender and blue accents; pick jewellery that has lavender or blue accents

Metals:
>Does your dress have metal elements on it (D-rings, buckles, eyelets, etc.)
>If yes: match your jewellery using that metal
>If no: check your shoe buckles and use that as your baseline instead.

Themes:
>Does your dress have a print?
>If yes, use that print to determine themed accessories (IE: cherry print, cherry jewellery; vampire print, bat/cross/gothic jewellery; animal print, match the animal; Alice in Wonderland print, Alice in Wonderland accessories, etc.)

>>7525640
I nearly never wear accessories too, but that's because I'm lazy. Stuck with the rule of three : fancy earrings, nice necklace, cute ring, elegant bracelet, pick three and leave out one, except if you are going for OTT.
As for Lolita related accessories (i.e. headdresses, bags etc), it's all about color coordinate. I like to have a statement piece in my outfit, a unique and really nice bag or hat can make the difference.

>>7525247

Ew, who uses plastic pearls ever, besides for toddler jewelry?

I was sort of referring to this post. I don't know what this poster wants in her jewelry. French milled ribbon is doable since that's mossbadger's specialty, but if she wants anything above a nice glass pearl, that's pretty much impossible without shelling out >$80.

I agree with you too. Both ends of the spectrum are ridiculous.

> Starting to show signs of vitiligo.
> summer is around the corner
> only have one long sleeved chiffon blouse
> going to have to wear tights and long sleeves to feel confident in loli
> mfw I always covered myself up 98% time

>>7525645
How will you match your bag then? Especially with bags that have unique shape and colour. I'm usually fine with the accessories but bags are always a headache to me.

>>7525723
I usually carry pretty plain bags that coordinate in terms of colour. The only fancy/themed bags I have are a couple of heart pochettes from Baby and a Pirate purse from AatP.

But if you've got a really unique bag, you can certainly make that the focus, or pair it with prints that have the same theme. Like AP's shaped bags or Baby's Usakumya bags.

>>7525723
Actually, this might help. Here's an example for you of a coordinate of mine.

The colours I chose were red, blue and ivory from the print. The socks I chose are the socks that match the print, with a pair of red suede boots.

Since it has gold tones in the print, I chose gold tone jewellery (necklace, buckles on the cuff, earrings). Since it's a pirate and treasure themed print, I used a sailor collared cardigan, a boater hat (not pictured), and a treasure chest purse to get that sea motif in. The necklace matches a rosary seen in the treasure pile of the print.

>>7525460
Agh, why can't I be like a normal person? To me, candy is the easiest thing in the world, perhaps because I've been doing it since childhood, but fucking normal-ass steak or chicken? Nah nigga, you gon look stupid and fail miserably! Not only that, your SO hates sweets so you can't even make what you know!
Fucking hell.

>>7525273
Relating to this so much right now. I started a cosplay back in January for a February con, didn't end up finishing so I said I would just take a break, stop procrastinating and take my time, do a really great job and just wear it to the next con in May. Con is in 3 weeks and I've barely touched the costume (and I've lost most motivation to finish it now ugh).

>>7525230
>>7525247

Yoo, that really grinds my gears. People drop like $20 on a single plastic AP ring, $25 on a Claire's chain necklace plated so thin the color rubs out after one wear and than complain that handmade is gorgeous, but too expensive? It's sterling silver wire wrapping, of course it's not gonna cost fucking pennies.

Meanwhile there's an influx of girls starting their own "shops" and "indie jewelry brands". Even though all they do is same as always fimo food, either from ready molds or shittily handmade with visible fingerprints and leaking silicone "decoden". Of course while still charging professional prices. People see that, associate the overpriced mediocrity with all of handmade and artists who actually do great things get screwed over.

>>7525651
Oh! That's me.
I personally don't mind paying more for nicer things. (I'm a bit bias on the subject of pearls since I like fresh water) If I remember correctly, that designer had really poor photography.

>>7525467
this incredible b8
do you WANT tumblrfags to come here?

>>7525263
My brother is just a neckbeard who has horrible hygiene and gets offended by people telling him to enjoy the days we have really nice weather.

Him being a massive twat is why there's a recurring joke of getting voice actors at cons to make fun of him.

More of a moan, but I've twice had sellers not buy tracking i've paid for, and refused to refund it when I ask them. One kept giving me bullshit excuses before I gave up and asked Paypal to sort it out for me. She did eventually admit she hadn't brought it, but still wouldn't refund me.

What really grinds my gears is when sellers just shove items in the envelope or box without first wrapping the item in something. The amount of times I received parcels with tears, holes, gaping boxes or it's got damp and the items had no protection is crazy. It's like sellers want people filing claims for goods damaged in transit.

Even clear tissue paper would offer a shitty level of protection. Wrapping the item in some sort of bag would be ideal though.

>>7525670
Oh hey, I know these feels! I have severe eczema and serrbharoic dermatitis. I love loli because it allows me to cover everything up and still look cute.
> tfw gorgeous long ringlet hair naturally, but having to wear wigs because scalp is flaring up and you feel ugly with it on show.

>>7525939
It makes me sad when there's no note either. :(
I usually place the item in la large zip lock baggy, then squeeze the air out and wrap it in tissue before adding a note and shipping it.

>>7525957
I used to send nice, handwritten notes, but people never really seemed to care and half of the time didn't even bother to return feedback.
I've recently stopped doing it. I feel bad when I'm packing the item up, but damn, I hardly have time to ship out items with work and classes, much less write cute notes for unthankful bastards.

The girls in my comm are having a meet this week to celebrate several of them getting full-time work, and it bums me out because I've been unemployed for a long time. It restricts my buying and participating in the community and while I am glad that things are picking up for them it just makes me face the reality of my very limited budget and life, which dressing up in what I did have usually distracted me from, funnily enough.

>>7525941
>tfw seborrheic dermatitis on face
Haha, suffering. I was diagnosed with the scalp kind last year and dandruff shampoo worked fine, but then it migrated to my face and holy shit, it was worse than what I had on my scalp. I finally have prescriptions for the stupid condition, but if I even forget to use one thing or use product that wasn't prescribed for the dermatitis, tight dry flaky skin all over my face. Can't even use sunscreen. My face will just get old and gross and there's nothing I can even attempt to do about it.

>>7525957
>>7525962

I really appreciate getting notes or gifts in my orders. Notes more so then gifts, funny enough. It makes me happy, and gives a warm fuzzy feeling if you want to be cliche.

I always point out my appreciation to sellers when they include this, and it annoys me that others don't have the courtesy to do the same. If you have time to buy stuff, you have time to send a quick thank you. Same for leaving feedback, which literally takes less than a minute if you exclude any additional comments. I had a seller tell me she didn't have time to leave me feedback, yet she had time to chew me out in a PM for asking her about it. I just had the EGL mods remove the feedback I left for her.

>>7525964
I know a similar pain, anon.
>tfw unemployed
>tfw bf has job
>tfw bf also gets offered jobs out of nowhere
>tfw bf doesn't even apply or ask, is just offered jobs for being very friendly and relatively attractive
>happens to him like once or twice a month, seriously
>one day at Home Depot getting supplies
>start talking to employee on floor
>turns out to be manager
>ok I don't know shit about hardware, they chat happily while I pretend to look busy and browse
>eventually hear "Oh, would you happen to be looking for a job?"
>why am I me and not him
I'm trying to be more like him, but I just seem to come off as awkward rather than friendly and employable. I'm massively jelly of him when it comes to things like this.

I just realized someone in my major is also into cosplay. And she looks really good in a lot of the stuff she does. I want to ask her out, but she's got a boyfriend and I don't have the confidence for that kind of relationship

Right now I'm writing my Will and giving specific instruction on what I want done with my wardrobe.
I'm also finally setting up a spreadsheet with a pricing guide so my family knows what to sell my items for.
I'm also considering giving a few pieces to girls in my local community, but I'm not very close to any of them. I guess it might just be a little odd for them to get a dead girls dress, especially if it's just because I thought they were a sweet person.

I meant to do all of this after two efamous lolitas passed, but I never got around to it. However, my partner's young cousin passed unexpectedly on the weekend so I realised that I better get my shit together.

If I pass in the near future, I know how overwhelming that would be for my family. My Mum is aware that my wardrobe is worth a lot, and she has also mentioned how she knows it's worth far more than what I let onto. I think laying everything out clearly would make things a lot easier for her because she wouldn't have to stress about gathering all the info she needs for sales.

>>7525273

Same here. My jacket has been sitting on the frame for a month and a half now.

I wanted to strangle something after this ordeal:

>pay for decent quality materials for costume
>make it, pretty nice construction
>wear costume, shoot is nice but friend who promised me to edit our pictures never did
>that's a big let down for me
>kinda regret making costume, wasn't that high on my priority list and pictures didn't pan out as promised
>whatever, I'll sell it and recoup materials cost
>nope.jpg cheap ass motherfuckers aren't willing to even pay that
>costume looks pretty good, better than most others who have done this character
>finally sell it after a year of it being listed
>costume is now about half what I spent on material cost, this was for a full costume (aka well under $50)
>buyer gets it
>proceeds to make complaints, most of which are complete BULL FUCKING SHIT, one of which is about quality and others the buyer admitted to having read about in the description
>buyer themselves wears those horrible Chinese garbage cosplays, paper thin cotton/the works
>I don't even have an adequate reaction image for that feel
>lose out on sale, probably got scammed


I swear this was the costume from hell, I am so bitter about how it worked out. I wish shitheads who don't know what materials and time cost would kindly butt the FUCK out of this hobby. I was literally giving this away and this buyer acted like I charged them big bucks.

>Uni exams and assigments getting to me
>Moving out in the summer to live with bf, parents keep asking if I have a moving date yet, making it clear they want me out.
>Older sister is getting married in a week, has been the centre of attention for the past year now, completely taken over family life.
>Haven't been able to go to a meetup for nearly two months because of uni work.

All my worries feel so petty but I feel shoved out of my own home and I miss dressing up and feeling pretty.

>>7525989
You'd also be a major cuntrag if you made a move on her. Plus, if she cheats on him she'll cheat on you.

When people do a Kimono from scratch, but they wear it wraped right over left (unless its a ghost character).

>>7525467
Agh, the unjustified self-hatred dripping off of this post. I feel bad for you anon. You probably look fine, and most people don't think about it probably. You might even know that, and it doesn't help anyway. Even though media and a few outspoken shitstains would have you believe this world is all about looks, it's not. Some people will like you and value you for your character no matter what you look like. And as for jobs, yes attractive people get hired more, but in the end your success comes down to what you can do.

>>7526352
Sounds like lolita is your stress reliever/escape. Everyone needs something like that. People aren't working machines. It's okay to feel unhappy that your outlet has been missing from your life for 2 months.

>>7526474

Left over Rice.

It's a way to remember your kimono is always Left over Right.

>>7526509
Lame. Using stupid jokes to remember makes you less smart.

>>7526489
I enjoy other things but they're very time consuming. I play WoW but I've promised myself I wouldn't buy my subscription until after my assignment deadlines because it's such an easy distraction. I also enjoy LARP and cosplay but they're both time consuming hobbies. I have these co-ords I've been itching to wear but can't because I haven't had the chance.

>>7526512
>being this sandy over mnemonics
You might want to calm down, anon.

>>7526512
>Oh no, I used a clever method to help me remember something, I've lost so many brain cells!

Puh-lease. What kind of backward thinking is that? You must not be very smart after if you think that inconvenience is the way to live.

>>7526590
After all*

Man, you'd think I could remember to type that extra word with me ranting on about memory tricks

I fucking hate when a costume has things in pairs, and the first one you make turns out perfectly, and the second one looks like shit despite the fact that you did everything literally exactly the same way. I'm having the problem currently working on my Sailor Senshi glove rolls; the first set looks perfect, and the second looks like absolute ass, and I just keep making it worse somehow. Fuck.

>tfw friend would be the perfect other half to your dream couple's cosplay
>tfw they absolutely refuse to be a part of cosplay
>"dressing up as a cartoon character is stupid, anon"
>"I don't have the time"
>"I can't make clothes why do you want me to do this?"

I offered to make their entire cosplay for them and they literally won't even have to lift a finger. The only thing they have to do is take pictures with me when it's done. But they won't even do that.

The perfect cosplay is slipping away from me because my friend is too weirded out by cosplaying. I wish more people understood this hobby.

>>7526747
I'm in the same boat but luckily i'm fine on my own. I wanna be Haruko for FLCL with my friend as Mamimi and all I needed her to do was find the shoes. Her response after I made the costume and bought the wig, Ta-kun plush and camera was " where am I going to find her shoes, I don't wanna do this anymore." She couldn't find brown fucking loafers...

I've been in lolita for a while now,and the only dresses i've ever bought are AP prints. Last week i bought a non print btssb dress and it arrived today,and its probably my favorite dress now. It's comfortable,long,heavy,the fit is nice and the lace is soft. I'm really glad i tried it out and i'm not sure if i'll be able to go back to AP prints. I love them,but theres something about that dress that i just really like.

I just remembered there was a chick in middle school who always used to draw lolita shit and be way into the weeb lifestyle minus video games.

One time there was a special drawing event where you were given a square piece of paper to draw whatever you want on and everyone put stickers on the one they liked the most.

She drew a really good gothic lolita which got a load of stickers. I took them all off and put it on my smiley face smoking a joint.

Though if you could list all the mean things I did in my past that was certainly low on the list. I was a top class dickhead.

She probably comes here now. Oh, and there was also a guy who had a load of imported hentai doujins. He probably does as well.

>tfw it's my birthday today
>tfw kind of weirdly shitty birthday last year, so I turned notifications for my birthday off so I wouldn't be disappointed by a lack of response
>so obviously the attentionwhore.jpg in me is disappoint when I get no notifications on my page
>I shouldn't care but I weirdly do, except everything is my own fuckin doing wtf you stupid bitch
>there's a really cheap dress on auction
>already spent money on taobao order, should really be saving money also should be studying

Should I go for it? It's really cheap and my favorite color, but ugh, SS fees and shipping....

>>7526848
If you can afford it, go for it!
Consider it a birthday pressie for yourself!

>>7526789
Ah wow you were a shit in middle school.
If it makes you feel better I'm sure a lot of people realized that she got the most stickers anyway, since they would have remembered seeing that.

>>7526848
Happy birthday, anon!
You should buy it for yourself as a present.

>>7525273
>haven't been able to work on armor because of inconsistent weather and my garage gets cold as hell
>finally warming up
>get some armor done
>only have three days until free comic book day
>may 4th right after
>still have gauntlets, soft parts, everything lower body left to do
blehhhhh

>>7525247
If one looks hard enough, there are indie brands that use real pearls (freshwater, spherical with minor imperfections) at reasonable prices. Horae Designs on Etsy has several necklace-plus-earring sets in the $25-$50 range.

>i need to get into shape
>but i just keep sitting on my ass
>what do

Any tips for a lazy sloth to get into shape?

>>7525905

TBH I wasn't a fan of her designs either (pandering too much to current trends and bleagh, the attempt at classy fandom lolita) but as someone who works a lot with swags and 'loops' (for lack of better term) in my necklace designs, glass pearls are just easier for me, both pricewise and for working with.

>made a new cosplay friend and she's really nice and we have a lot in common
>find out she's close friends with someone who I was not on good terms with in high school
>small world is too small

Now I'm so paranoid to be friends with her in case that person finds out and says all these lies about me. They were the type to over-exaggerate things and play victim back in HS (ex. forcing people to drive her to places, pay for her food, do her work in projects and then play the "It's because I'm bisexual isn't it? You're such a homophobe and I'll tell everyone" card if she didn't get what she wanted) and according to former mutual friends, still does.

I hate that even now despite not seeing her in years, she still has some control over me.

>>7526910
Try to turn workouts into a game.

>>7525432
>putting #qtpie #kawaii #cutegirl #model on your own post

Not just cosplay related, but seeing all the stupid things people do to look good on instagram these days drives me nuts. People deleting most of their pictures once they reach a certain # of followers so it looks like they have a lot of followers when they "barely" post and tagging their pictures like
>#asian #girl #cute #selfie #selca #photography #likeforlike #everysinglevariationoftheseries'name
then deleting all the tags once they get enough likes. Someone needs to break your camera.

>>7526848
happy birthday anon! buy yourself something pretty.

>my friend from high school plays league of legends from time to time!
>I convinced her to try cosplaying and she made a really great Nidalee costume. (I sewed it but she made the prop and styled everything herself)
>TFW new local cosplay buddy who lives super close so we can work on shit together.
>feels good man. It hypes me up and I can help with what limited experience I have.

>>7526860
>>7526879
>>7526970

Thank you anons! The taobao order was kind of supposed to be my bday gift to myself, oh well. Off to buy the dress~

(or bid and lose oops)

>>7525211
>Quit highly active job due to chronic fatigue (8 - 12 hours on feet without breaks kind of thing)
>Enroll in course for less active job
>Course forgets to enroll me in term 2 subjects, thus charges me more
>Pretty damned broke as is, just keep getting broker.
>Can't afford Lolita at all.
>Live with bf and his parents, "Oh anon why don't you go back to chefing?"
>Want to slap them.

I loved my job, I didn't care about the long hours or infrequent breaks until I got sick. Now I'm getting these assholes on one said telling me I should go back even if I was passing out in the kitchen, and then I'm loosing money doing this course to do accounts administration.

>>7526848
Happy birthday anon!
I know what you mean, though. I just completely deactivated my Facebook for that one day because I was afraid of the lack of response I'd get, and got disappointed. It was a shitty birthday, and it felt even worse when none of my closest friends wished me a happy birthday at all. Overall I got a $5 gift from one of my classmates, $100 from my parents and some cake, but it was a pretty shitty day.

>literally 4 people wished me a happy birthday
>3 of them being my family members
>extremely shitty feels

goddamn I mean couldn't my CLOSEST fucking friends wish me a happy birthday?
Thinking about it makes me really bitter now. Sorry for the rant, guys. Happy birthday again, anon.

>birthday
>ask mum for money for a jacket, because I've been wearing one for seven years and it was thin polyester that has fallen apart
>ok sweetie I'll send you some
>get enough money for jacket, yay!
>so many holidays now, so I don't work and I get paid by the hour at work so I can't even pay my rent
>money from jacket goes to food because I haven't made any money due to holidays
>tfw no birthday present after all

>tfw friend snipes a dress off me on comm sales.
>tfw it doesn't fit her to she sells it to me slightly cheaper.
>tfw this is the second time this has happened.

>>7527012
I'm sorry this had to happen on your birthday, anon. I hope by next year, things are better for you and you have a fantastic birthday.

>>7527142
I can't tell if this is a good thing or bad thing. I mean, it's nice that you get stuff cheaper because of it, but if your friend has a habit of sniping shit you want, she sounds kinda shitty.

>Know girl since we were 6
>As I get older I'm interested in her, dare I say love her
>I get her into anime sometime in Highschool
>We're in college now, Girl I'm interested in doesn't approve of cosplay, thinks the characters should stay in their anime
>Doesn't date because she can't find a guy as nice as me
>She explicitly says she doesn't see me romantically

The feels

>>7527467
are you ugly?

>>7527451
It's extremely annoying when she does it but not gonna lie I get a a smug satisfaction when shit don't fit her.

>>7527492
I asked her once and she told me I was a 6/10
So probably.

>>7527525
>above average
>ugly

women

>>7527527
I should mention she won't hang out with me for a week or two if I go to cons in cosplay. But besides that she practically lives with me, and she loves going to cons with me if I don't cosplay. I really like her but I like cosplaying too. What do I do?

>>7527546
who gives a fuck, used goods

>>7527546
Does she have a husbando?

>>7527558
Yeah. Alucard from Hellsing.

>>7527556
B-but she's a virgin. She's never had a boyfriend.

>>7527562
>B-but she's a virgin. She's never had a boyfriend.
Is she not a woman?

>>7527563
She is, but if she had sex or a boyfriend, it was before she was 6 years old. I've never seen her with anyone, and I've seen her every day of my life.

>>7527567
It was rhetorical, I was insinuating that because she is a woman, she is used goods

man i just dont even fucking care anymore
i want to die

just eat her pussy, bitches love that

>>7527562
>does cosplay
>knows who her husbando is

>>7527572
>man i just dont even fucking care anymore
>i want to die
well that escalated quickly

>make accurate version of comic-book character's outfit
>find sniped pictures of ass everywhere
>"Well, what did you expect, your ass is hanging out"
>make modified version that covers more and that I'm more comfortable wearing
>"inaccurate therefore it's shit!"
I can't fucking win, can I.

Also, totally not cosplay/lolita related but my dog got skunked last night and even though we've bathed her and scrubbed everything with skunk neutralizer the house still smells and my eyes are watering aaagh

>cut own bangs
>job interview tomorrow
FUCK

>>7527546
Never give up what you enjoy over a woman.

This is gonna be a hard pill to swallow, but if she doesn't want you that way, there's probably nothing you can do, and it's pointless to give up cosplay for her sake.

I'd recommend finding friends that aren't her.

>>7526848
Go and get the dress anon, it's your birthday you deserve it.

I kinda understand that feel. I have quite a good one this year but something just taints it quite badly so yeah...
>a close friend whom I know for almost a decade
>decided to ditch my birthday dinner to stay at home
>reason to stay at home being a cosplay friend is staying over at her house for a cosplay shoot held at tomorrow
>said cosplay friend did not want to attend my birthday dinner as she does not know me
>even though I offer to pay for her portion
>at the end said close friend still attended to talk to other attendees of my birthday party
>mfw she just walk in, throw me a hap-hazardly wrapped gift, and talk to our mutual friends instead
>mfw seeing the gift, when I am the one who handmade birthday cards and wrap birthday gifts as best as I can for her

>>7527629
The smell of skunk comes from the high oxidation number of sulphur in the skunks spray. Thus, you need something that'll react with it to lower sulphur's oxidation number.

1 part hydrogen peroxide and 6 parts water would make a decent solution for cleaning fabric and clothes that can normally we wet-washed.

Also, leaving open cups of vinegar around the house should help get rid of the lingering smell in rooms.

>>7527440
Thanks anon! That cheered me up a lot, you're so sweet!

>>7525980
if he's able to get a job so easily, why doesn't he just help you get one? like i dunno..

>"oh actually, i'm not looking for work, but my girlfriend is. Here she is..."
It's that simple.

>>7528195
Because they might not hire her? Because she might be in a completely different line of work?

This fucking janitor grinds my gears. Thanks for banning me for my one off topic and in no way offensive comment in a completely derailed thread while leaving almost everyone else in tact, cunt. Thanks for allowing threads entirely unrelated to this board aside from throwing the word "cosplay" in the title while deleting actually useful or at the very least on topic shit all the time. Yeah, I mad.

>>7525939
Did you get refunded from paypal in the end? You technically could have gotten all your money back because they would have had no proof you signed for your package.

>>7528296
I got the same shit at least three times.

>>7528296
Reported. Stop talking shit about Powergirl, she is my future girlfriend.

>>7528296
agreed, I"m rather annoyed by the amount of useless threads and shit from other boards that's allowed to stay on here

im eating cherry crumble and it's really nice. that's all.

>Moving out soon.
>Applying for jobs.
>Two of the companies I've applied for I used to work for and left on good terms so I'm confident in my chances.
>One has shortlisted me for interview, the other company is still processing my application
>Nice change when it comes to job hunting

>>7528817
Congrats, anon! Are they places you really to work?

>>7528825
They're both just part time retail jobs but I worked for one of the companies for two years and another I had a seasonal job with last year and the conditions and pay were better than most of the retail jobs I've had. I would prefer an admin job but I need something that fits around my uni hours.

> When people describe clothes in clothing sizes rather than measurements.

>>7528879
This. I hate when people are like 'teehee, i'm a small' or 'size 6'
bitch, that means nothing to me. I need cm/inches

>>7528908
Oh god this just reminds me of all the people I see order on taobao or from chinese ebay sellers and ignore the flat measurements to choose their size by S/M/L. Their clothes always end up too small and they get mad like it's the seller's fault for making everything run small.
The flat measurements are right there! USE THEM.

>>7528879
Agreed.
And also
>worn photos with model holding out the skirt
>worn photos with long ass wig covering majority of top
>worn photos where 10% of the clothing is showing and the rest of the photo is a person
This is mostly Taobao, not really second hand clothing, usually.
I want to see what the article of clothing looks like and how it hangs naturally on a person. Take a photo of it laid down flat if you want to show off the skirt. Half the time there isn't even any pattern to be showing off on the skirt anyway, so it's just annoying and useless. If the listing is for a wig, by all means, display the wig, but if it's for what's underneath it show THAT instead.

>really happy with progress on cosplay I'm making
>sewing machine slowing down dramatically and squeaking
>fix it
>happens again
>and again
>and again
>mfw

I just want to keep working on this without all the stops and starts /cgl/

not /cgl/ related but still

> make the terrible decision to check symptoms of atypical depression online
> mfw I tick all of the boxes

now this doesn't instantly make me go 'omg I'm sooo depressed' but considering I've been holding off looking into my depressive episodes for years, this might be a good moment to talk to someone about it.

>>7526848
>last birthday
>dad had a complete shitfit and embarrassed myself and my boyfriend in front of my entire family the first time they met him
>cried most of the night, day completely ruined
>never again.

It could be worse, anon.

>>7528908
Yeah, I'm a UK 8 but in some stores I've been as a 6 and in others a 12. Clothing sizes vary store to store and western clothing

>>7527629
Tomato juice, anon.

>Trying to scramble money together to buy Letter Keys and Rabbit
>Finally transfer money, go to buy it
>Someone else did it 10 minutes before I could

I've had the shittiest luck with dream dresses recently

>>7528296
What happened? What did you say?

>find dream dress on lace market
>bidding on it, auction runs out of time, I win
>even receive little 'you won!' email
>happy day!!!!
>go back to the auction to look at dress
>somehow it was autobought AFTER THE AUCTION HAD ENDED by another user
holy fuck, I'm so pissed off at lace market right now. I'm honestly crushed that I missed my dream dress because of such a weird loophole in the site, I don't even know what to do with myself right now.
>Even worse, I messaged the seller after to ask if it was a glitch
>she'd already contacted mods, they sided in other user's favor
>she said the other user couldn't even pay for it, they had autobought and afterward asked for a payment plan
>mfw I could have paid in full

>>7529270
what the tits

>>7529270
What item was this for, anon? wtf

>>7529278
Honeycake OP in Yellow. I've been looking for this goddamn dress for ages, I just recently got the money together for it, I feel like I'm gonna end up blowing it all now on other things that will make me feel better. like hookers

>>7529288
Wow, that's really fucking shitty. I'm sorry, anon.

>>7526910
Pick up a sport. Regular classes/practices/meets/whatever will keep you motivated to go.

I've been wanting to get into cosplay for years, but I never really found a good place to start. (Beyond learning some of the basics of sewing, at least.)

On the plus side, at least I can mend my clothes when they start falling apart.

>be me
>into Lolita for about a year now
>joined the forum of a local comm a few month ago
>too shy to ever consider going to a meet up

>fast forward to now
>Comm hosts one of their big official meetings
>consider going there
>friend offers to come with me
>stalk the event page for weeks
>don't dare to to say "I will enter"

>today, two days prior to meet up
>decide to keep spaghettis in my pocket and officially confirm my participation in meet up
>immediatly panic
>write admin (because too spaghetti to use forum) if friend could come along
>friend contacts me, tells me she might not have time
>spaghettis burst out of my pockets
>sit in front of the computer, panic mode
>what am I even feeling

I really want to join a comm, but I am just so shy and spaghetti and afraid I will end up being an outcast. Everyone already seems to know each other, and all of them are great Lolitas as far as I know, while I am just a beginner. I do have a coord planned but now I feel completly insecure, especially since no Lolita friend to critique my coord.... And I am really bd in engaging with new people, and am especially afraid since it will be a small gropu of about 10 people all knowing each other.

>pic related, my fear of how this might turn out

I follow someone on Tumblr who has a mild case of e-fame-to-the-head and if you try telling them anything you get insulted and don'tevenpostadifferentopinionbecauseiwillunfriendyou.
But most recently:

>>Two days before event
>>'lolololol I'm gonna put my wig in fabric softener'
>>How do I tell her it's not gonna dry before Saturday?

>>7526551
would wearing stuff while you study help, it may sound superficial but if you feel pretty it might improve your mood, and thus your productivity

>Be me lone lolita
>Join comm
>Be semi active and make friends with girls in the comm.
> Become part of an inner circle.
> Become closer to girls in inner circle.
> Hang out outside of meets on occasion.
> Some things in common outisde of lolita, different styles they are all nice and I really enjoy learning more about them.
> Start to become friends with another lolita.
> Start talking online, and hanging out.
> Realise how much we have in common.
> Similiar personality, interests other than lolita, similair style in lolita, similair music taste (not very common in lolita community/people my age), she loves my favourite band (always a dream of mine to be friends with a lolita who appreciated my favourite band), even has big feet like me (never had anyone to go shoe shopping with now I have) and many life experiences are similair.
> Start hanging out more and even go on double date everyone gets along really well.
> Have I found the rumoured lolita bff seagulls? A best friend? I haven't had a best friend or many close friends since highschool. It's only really been my boyfriend.
> Wow it's really strange we all have so much in common and I can't believe I'm making quite a few close friends.

>>7529270
Sorry but if I was the mods I would have sided with you seeing as you won first. I'd appeal (if that's possible)

I have an aversion towards dresses that are known to be commonly replicated. Not that I dislike the dresses themselves, but I don't want to be accused of buying a replica.

After a "fuck you" encounter with Lacemarket in which the site went down right as I was going to make a bid on my dream dress, I begrudgingly purchased another dress with bunnies on it, because it fit the theme of an outfit I wanted to do.

Turns out that AP Toy Fantasy, unbeknownst to me at the time, is a semi-popular replica.
I kind of panicked, hoping that the seller sold me AP and not a knock-off.
Luckily, you can tell it's real from the AP custom lace. Whew! It was real.

>Put on AP dress.
>Barely fits, but I have been losing weight + bought a chest binder, and I manage to get it on.
>88cm chest MAX and 68cm waist MAX
>I look fucking cute as hell.
>Worth it.
>Now realize why people get angry about replica-chans.
>I worked hard for this shit and now I can wear this beautiful burando.

I previously was neutral on the subject of replicas, but now..

What have you done to me, CGL? Why do I feel so guilty now for having these thoughts? I USED TO BE SO NICE AND UNDERSTANDING.

>>7530856
Good. One more for the anti replica camp. Congrats on your dress!

>>7530856

What I hate is that people are not too lazy to lose weight, but to lazy to take 5 minutes to research one of the countless alternatives there are.
Seriously, I am a fatty by Lolita standards too (97 bust 74 waist), and I love classic Lolita dresses, and I adore Mary Magdalene. I know I will never fit most of their dresses. Do I buy a replica? NO. I just look for other original designs to fit my fat ass into; taobao, Innocent World, whatever, there are tons of other options than being cheap and an art theft, and it leaves me feeling even more satisfied because I put work into an original coord rather than being lazy and just buying some shitty replica.

>>7530856
I never have owned a replica and probably won't although bodyline's atelier pierrot corset skirt replica does tempt me as casual wear but I'll probably just buy the original when it pops up in black...I never see it for sale anymore.
I'm really glad you appreciate it anon.

>owe friend money
>but dream dress is BIN on auction

doing the right thing is hard

People not responding to your messages. Jezus, don't sell or buy things if you are not even going to bother with communication.

>>7530950
I know that feel.
>come into money
>want to get a dress from infanta
>I should be investing in my business instead

We can work through this together, anon.

>person on lacemarket messages me about an expired auction
>shows interest in the item
>asks for shipping quote
>message her back immediately and tell her I'll try to get her a shipping quote
>finally get the estimate
>message her back
>never hear from her again

Fuck, I just want to sell this obscure dress..

When people give unnecessarily hostile, backhanded "advice" in help threads.

>>7531039
what's the dress?

>>7531042
such as?

>>7531048
>such as?
Lurk more. Seriously, you've never seen this before?

>>7531033
its so hard. because it's like someone might buy this dress now! and I can pay back that person later, like when I get paid next week. But I have been saying that for a while now...

>>7531052
Annoooooonnn, that's not good. If you buy the dress now, you HAVE to make paying your friend back top priority. I know how you feel, but at the VERY least pay your friend back first thing next week if you HAVE to get that dress. It's not fair to you or your friend since they're not getting paid back and you're just feeling guilty about it.

>attempting to make bath bombs for the first time
>want to get good enough to make them as gifts in the future
>it's okay if I fuck up, I'm sure they'll look crappy anyway
>h-ey, this is actually not that hard and pretty fun
>oh shit why won't they stop puffing up
>the internet says to put them in the oven to dry faster
>it just makes them dissolve faster, discard almost all of them in the sink
>the only one that survived was the last one I made out of leftovers that will probably stink like hell

Godammit I wanted to be proud of myself

>>7530950
>>7531033

Here are some good money tips I use that leaves you with left over money.

http://i-want-cheese.tumblr.com/post/70500133882

>>7531129
Thank you for this. Reading it will be good at a time of weakness.

>>7531129
>"The third thing you're going to do is stop spending so much crap"
stopped reading right there

>>7531057
well, she kinda things I already paid her back...so she won't know the difference of whether I do it now or later....
>i am a shitty person you dont have to tell me

>>7531193
The whole point is you have a month of spending only on essentials, at the end of the month you put half your money in a savings account fo emergencies and the other half is your 'fun' money.

>>7531252
why wait a month and half half as fun money when I can use it all now as fun money? I have some money in my savings already and know my budget so not seeing the point.

What grinds my gears:

Committing to buy an item, leaving paypal for said item (and a comment saying all this on top of a PM), only for the seller to start negotiating sale of that item with someone else. All in the comment section where i've said to invoice me as i'd definitely like to buy.

I want to call her out on this, but i'm afraid of being called a drama stirrer. Nothing big, just telling her she's been unfair.

>>7531340
I dunno, you could technically leave negative/neutral feedback if you've left your paypal but I guess you would have to contact a mod to decide on that as it's in a grey area as they never invoiced you.

I get annoyed when sellers decide to take payment plans that last 2 months over me being able to pay upfront and in full because they previous person commented first (and have been umming and arring). It's a bit dumb on the seller's part but frustrating sometimes.

>>7531340
I think it's probably geared towards people who don't budget strictly... I use Mint for pretty detailed budgeting, so I easily know by mid-month how much fun money I have for Lolita and cosplay. But for someone who doesn't budget, I can see that method being very effective.

>>7531448
Oops, misclicked and meant to reply to >>7531260
My bad.

Cross over cosplay.

I don't really know why, but it really bothers me.

I just want this "Slave ___" trend to stop. It's not cute. it's not sexy. It's trashy.

>>7531448
i just do that in my head. I know what I'll need for rent/utilities/food, so...

>>7531484

I didn't even know that was a trend.

I'd be somewhat more acceptable if it wasn't done so poorly.
Then again maybe not. I'd quite tired of sexing up stuff that doesn't need to be altered to be sexy.

>>7531484
I'm honestly just tired of stupid bitches making Peach and Zelda look slutty when they are the complete opposite. There are a ton of slutty characters to cosplay-- leave the actual modest ones alone. God damn it. It grinds my gears.

>>7525263
Man the taste here is so bad, it's hilarious. Oh please post pics. And people think that fake male geeks don't exist.

SJW in my comm. God forbid they found out how much I love Disney's Pocahontas.

>>7531831
>not Tiger Lily

>be me, have a weird roommate situation
>I've complained about them here before several times, so if any of this sounds familiar it's probably not a coincidence
>basically I live in a small house with... five other people now, composed of my boyfriend and his high school friends
>crowded but rent is cheap and I'm a student so no fucks given
>anyways, to today
>main guy who takes care of making sure the bills are paid attempts to kick me and bf out for reasons that don't exist
>he makes a big ordeal out of it, pisses off both me and the bf understandably and we go off on him
>he gets upset, can't take the confrontation and leaves for his dad's for a few days
>while he's gone, me and the rest of our roommates go through house records and money situations because we don't believe the reason he's kicking us out
>not only are we right that the reason is impossible, but we also discover that he's been severely overcharging us rent
>would never let us see the bills so we were always concerned, but the other 'mates knew him since childhood so trusted him
>all of us at this point are incredibly pissed off, talk about confronting him and all moving out together
>he comes back, says he's "decided to let us stay" because he realized he was destroying all of his friendships
>that's the end of it
>everyone's forgiven him
>no one's even brought up the fact that money's gone missing
>I threatened to call our realtor to get the full story but he claimed if I did we would all be evicted(??)
>bf got worried and made me promise not to
>as I'm the only one who hasn't forgiven him, I'm pretty much left out of all activities and games the 'mates play together
>no food is bought for me, am rarely talked to by anyone outside of the bf anymore and everyone avoids the rooms I hang out in
>ok

1/2, Part 2 will have at least a little bit of /cgl related feels.

>>7531596
I think it's an okay parallel considering what Princess Leia wears normally. I also didn't realize this was becoming a trend, though, so I'll probably get sick of it soon, especially if they're all so poorly made.

>>7531857
2/2

The only thing keeping me sane is me and my boyfriend are moving far, far away in September, and we've all sworn to go apeshit if he raises rent again (he's lowered it to a proper rate atm). If I'm forced to stand alone on this, so be it.

And for the related feels:
>since I'm almost always alone now, depression has been spiking
>keep forgetting to take anti-depressants
>feel like shit, always tired
>and of course, depression spikes means shopping addiction returns
>can't get away from lacemarket and ebay
>have already spent all of my disposable income for may on jfash
>luckily I anticipated this and reserved a PO box so my boyfriend won't scold me for spending so much
>but I still feel like crap and my empty bank account is not helping

>>7531835
I don't have much of an opinion on Tiger Lily, but I do find the "What Makes the Red Man Red?" amusing.

This is kind of inspiring me to go out of my way and make a side blog of things that SJW would find offensive.

>>7531129
>don't use a credit card
This only works if you have no self control, which I guess if you need the powerpoint, it's fine to abide by. Credit cards are to show your accountability to pay off big purchases, like a house, car, whatever the fuck you obviously aren't paying off in one go. If you intend on having something big in the future, practice budgeting for a while but you'll need a credit card.
>AutoPay
That's going to lead to a lot of problems if you don't keep track of how much money is in your account. Keep a calender and pay off your bills a couple days before they're due instead. Just got your paycheck? Look at your calender for future bills. If any are due within a week, keep in mind not to splurge your money everywhere.

Sage because that shit annoys me.

>>7531868
I hope things look up for you anon, I'd recommend seeing if you can get some sort of written agreement for the rent with all house mates signing so you have proof if he tries to fuck you over again.

I love moth-loli anon. It may be multiple anons but if it's just one anon, I love that anon.
Every time she shows up talking about how much she wants a moth print in lolita, it makes me smile a little.
I want a moth print too, moth anon.

>>7532237
Hm. I might do a mock-up print and some OP designs. Bluexwhitexbrown and Orangexwhitexblack?

>I want to make mothloli's dreams come true. ;~;

>Order wigs for con well before I'll need them for
>Get tracking details about a month and a half before con, plenty of time as shipping usually takes like 2-3 weeks
>Two weeks later and tracking hasn't updated from "Picked up"

>>7531340
Are your initials A.W.?

Genderbend Cosplays, females taking a male character and making a female version by making it shit and showing their tits. Sick of it, just fucking stop already.

>applies to help out a small vendor that goes to different anime cons
>briefly mentions i like to cosplay in my email to the manager
>manager responds back disregarding the entire message and demands to see my cosplay pictures

btw is it worth working most of the day in a dealer's room just so I could get a free pass to a convention, or is it better just to buy my own pass and not have to worry about work? I've never done this vendor stuff before so I don't know how annoying it gets

>>7532503
this

>>7532557
I'm inclined to say no, but that's because I usually get in as a panelist at conventions, which is usually more time-efficient.

However, screw-heads that just do panels to get in for free make the legitimately good panelists look bad, so if you're not good at public speaking and don't have anything interesting to say or show, don't do panels.

I learnt my lesson not to buy shoes from China. Especially when I'm not 100% sure if they fit. They weren't very expensive so I didn't lose that much money(it would cost more to send them back from here to get the refund). And usually I'm very strict about the quality of shoes, I guess I got too excited with online shopping so that's enough for now.

>be me
>see Lolita thread on forum
>newbie asked some question, oldfags came to help
>join the conversation
>everything goes well for the first few pages

>weeks later
>thread reeks of newfags constantly asking obnoxious and easy to google questions like "OMG guys is it safe to order from Clobba?!?!?" and "Can I buy these Lolita dresses from ebay??????" and "Wow omg I would never spend 300 dollars on a brand dress xDD My thrift treasures are so Loli desu ne??! Bodyline is so awesome you guys! :D :D"
>oldfags stopped posting because thread is mostly filled with aforementioned itas and newfags asking the SAME fucking questions over and over and over
>cringe everytime I visit thread

I have only been into Lolita for about a year myself, but these people just make me mad. Seriously, spend fifteen minutes researching in the web about Lolita. I have been a clueless newfag not long ago, but at least I did some minor research and did not annoy the hell out of everyone by asking questions you could google within 2 minutes or look up in the threa itself.

/rant

>>7532614
>be me
This is what grinds my gears

>>7532619
>This is what grinds my gears

I remember another anon from another thread who ranted about this. What's wrong with that?

>>7532632
Because who else would it be? If you are telling a story about another person, usually there's context clues.
Saying 'be me' assumes that we know something about you personally, and that there's some sort of quirk about you that makes your situation unique.

>>7532643

It is just an old tradition on 4chan to start a greentext with >be me. It is frequently done on /b/ or /fit/ too. many "famous" (or rather infamous) greentxt stories start like that.

>>7532619
>>7532632

Oh man, I totally read that as >>7532632 hates herself...

>>7532668

No, I meant, I read it as >>7532619 hates herself because she's her.

.... sorry, I'll go to bed now

>>7532643
>>7532619
People can also start stories about someone else
>have friend
etc.
It's just part of the board culture. I never really used to use it but now I will more often, just for you, anon~

Not /cgl/-related, but I really hate it when in ads/movies/TV shows and people are shaving their legs but they're already smooth and hairless

>>7532683
I actually laughed out loud, because it's so true. Same thing with face wash commercials and make up remover stuff.

>>7532685
I'm glad I'm not the only one! That bothers me too, but I guess no one wants to see someone with acne on TV. Also, those ads make me really want to wash my face. The shaving thing gets to me the most though, same with waxing.

>People who put cosplay before feeding themselves and paying the bills.

I know this girl who only has a couple hundred in her bank and no job. She received some money the other day and she was excited because instead of buying proper food with it she can go to an event. And when I try to talk to her about it she always has an excuse of how shes not being irresponsible. Not much more I can do because its her money but sit back and watch her fuck over her life. This isnt the first friend either I have seen do something similar.

>be at the beach
>seagulls everywhere
>keep thinking of you all

Their shrieks and honks are like home.

>>7532698
> Imagining lolitas squawking and fighting over burando
> One lolita is thrashing a blouse with her mouth

Fucking christ I snorted part of my lunch

>>7526932
No idea if you'll see this, but just in case-

A couple years ago I got in a fight with a girl I'd known forever, and after that I wrote off all our mutual friends/acquaintances as lost causes since I assumed the same thing- she'd either spin our fight as entirely my fault or just straight up tell lies because she could be pretty vindictive.

But since then, I've talked to several of them, and they all either hadn't heard what happened or if they had, informed me that they didn't care or didn't believe she was the only wronged party.

DON'T LET THAT FEAR DICTATE YOUR FUTURE FRIENDSHIPS. It is at best baseless, at worst a crappy way to live your life. If that girl is as manipulative as you say she is, your new friend is probably already aware of that- in which case, she'll disregard any potential lies about you. And if she doesn't, she may not be all that good of a choice to make friends with.

on topic:
>tfw want to cosplay but wear glasses
I can wear contacts (and used to shell out the extra cash to have them on hand) but since I like wearing my glasses every day I stopped buying them and can't justify it to myself to get them just for two weekends out of the year.

The last couple times I just wore them with my cosplay and took them off for pictures. But now I've got 'hipster' styled ones and /cgl/'s massive hatred makes me fear the silent judgements people'll make if they see me walking around in cosplay with them on, even if I do take them off when someone asks for a photo...

>>7532387
Oh my god, I'm in the same position.
I'm so worried, I really need my shoes and hair accessory.
There is still 3 weeks left, but man. My paranoia is going insane.

>>7532729
Just get cheap circle lenses for cosplay, girl...
They're like $15-$20 a pop if you can find cheap sellers for GEO and EOS stuff.

>>7532745
What? You completely missed what I was talking about. But that's okay, it was a silly and minor gripe.

>>7532753
Oops, sorry.
I thought you meant can't justify getting actual contacts, which are much more expensive, so I figured you could just go for cheaper contacts.

>>7532729
i also have clunky "hipster" glasses and i just take them off whenever i get my picture taken

like, if someone doesn't care enough about my cosplay to ask for a picture, then they don't care enough to be concerned with glasses v/ no glasses in my opinion

plus like, cons are full of average people and hardly any hardcore cosplay critics so it really, really doesn't matter

it's the same as removing a badge for a photo--badges look just as bad if not worse than glasses with a cosplay so

My comm is shitty as hell. Filled with itas, weaboos and Replica-chans. I have a small group of friends and we are the only ones who own decent wardrobes (with more brand mainpieces and offbrand/indie/bodyline fillers. We work hard to buy our stuff!). Of course, they call us elitist biches and they leave us out of meetups and never invite us to events they organize.
>They organized a "Brand Fashon Show". Only ONE coord had a Brand main piece. All the rest were replicas and bodyline. They had a girl walk in a shitty DOL Sugary Carnival skirt and Called it Angelic Pretty.
> They submit pics of themselves to places such as Japan Lolita Assosiation wearing replicas
> They are having a fight because 3 or 4 of them want to be Kawaii Ambassador. These 3-4 ladies dress awfully and prance around in replicas. They want Mi-chan to come to our country... but I really, really hope it'll never happen: Misako-chan wuld DIE of secondhand embarrassment.
>They desperately want media attention from overseas, but all I can think of is how much second hand embarrasment I feel. They dress so ugly :(

>Put down a down payment for a dress I really like
>A few hours later a girl messages me offering to sell me my dream dress
>tfw I can't afford it now cause I'm buying the other dress

>>7532784
What country?

>tfw I'm fat and my body looks lumpy and disgusting
>I fit in standard lolita sizes but just barely
>My boyfriend says he loves me and my chubby but I hate showing my stomach and hammy legs
>tfw I'm an emotional eater so when I get sad I eat junk food and feel like shit afterwards
>I've lost 40lbs before and gained 30lbs back. I can diet but every time I try now I fail. I know how to diet but I'm too weak to stick to it.
>I'm doomed to stay fat and ugly and I hate it.

I wish I could just not eat or feel hungry. It would make things a lot easier.

>>7532870
peru

> literally sheltered in hospital until last couple of years because of medical advancements
> want try going to a con and cosplay but keep hearing about how make-up is necessary
> Literally can't even apply lipstick properly

I really wish I had the pressure and safety net of learning this while growing up in school or something.

Too afraid of looking gaudy while learning makeup, which is stupid looking at it objectively, but I can't help it.

>>7532906
just keep it simple and basic
>foundation
>cover up
>a light amount of blush on the apple of your cheek
>mascara
>fill in your eyebrows and get them shaped

so what's wrong with you/how old

>>7532906
When all is said and done, no one really cares. At a convention, fans of the series are going to be excited to see you cosplaying, so don't worry about it and have fun.

If you want to figure out makeup, get a bunch of really cheap stuff and take a day and have fun with it. Make yourself hideous, make yourself pretty, and see what works for you.

>going through my manga/anime collection to sell stuff at incoming convention's second-hand thing
>lot of yaoi from my teen years
>suddenly the first yaoi book I ever bought 10 years ago
>get emotional and not sure if I want to sell it after all despite I don't even read yaoi anymore

>>7532942
Which convention? I have a ton of manga I'd like to unburden myself of.

>>7532889
Are you me? I barely fit my burando and "started my diet today" (a stressful day and some sweets didn't help).
I just feel shit, but I'm too busy with uni to diet.

>>7532948
Desucon in Finland

>>7532918
In short, my heart is too large and inefficient, and my lungs have to work harder to keep me alive. A lot of complications at birth that just segued into a pretty shit body. Father made the decision to just keep me in the hospital after Mom passed away.

Barely 20, any more personal details would feel a bit too bloggish though...

>complains about how 16 year old sjws think its RADIQUEER to uphold gender stereotypes under the guise of ~destroying the gender binary~
>"SHUT UP YOU PISSBABY SHRIMPDICK PSEUDO-MAN SCUM GOD YOU ARE TRASH LITERAl trhhrasash I Asnn SO TRIGGHErersd RigHT NONW i hope SYOuh re PrODUD of YOursellf oppreSSIVE SpATRIASOCAHAL AShiTLOSr D"

> tfw training for competition
>tfw I'm in the best shape of my life
>tfw too muscular for my dream dress
>>7532901
I was thinking about doing a foreign exchange to Peru. Besides the itas, is it okay?

>>7532967
Yeah, I guess there are some nice girls here. I don't wanna be mean, they just stress me out so much with all the whining and speshul snoflake syndrome. I wish there were more good Lolitas here, I can count the good ones on one hand.
If you are interested in culture, food and history, Perú is really great. But our jfash is pretty bad if you ask me. Of course, you can always google and see for yourself.
If you decide to come, i'd love to hear from you :)

>>7526848
Happy birthday, anon. I definitely know the feel.
My last birthday, my dad threw me a 'party' and invited all his friends since I didn't really have any. Was fine with it. Looking forward to drinking and barbeque. Drunk mario kart wii. Sure man.


Not a single one of his friends show up. He goes to the casino after an hour. I sit alone at home and play starcraft

More of a confession I guess.
I have this "friend" that is a complete tumblrtard weeb idiot. She means well, but is so terribly obnoxious and rude sometimes, I wish she was an ita so I could post her to btb and cgl just for the satisfaction of her being torn apart. I am so tempted to convince her to do a ~sherlock lolita~ thing for this purpose. I'm restraining myself.
inb4 I'm an asshole I know.

>>7526779
I know the feel anon. I bought two dresses off yj this winter (first real lolita, not counting shitty bl and offbrand). I got a polka dot ap op and a pinkn old school btssb jsk. I was more excited for the op, but now I like the jsk a lot more. It's cuter and comfier imo.

>>7530668
Don't worry anon! Despite what the internet tells you, most comms are super nice! And even if your coord isn't top-tier, they'll cut you some slack since it's your first meet. Compliment somebody, ask questions, get to know people, you"ll have fun!
I was nervous as fuck before my first meet, but they were all super nice and sweet, even though I was poorly dressed and slightly weeby.

>>7530710
Congrats anon! Glad it's going so well!

>>7532503
Almost all the daves that do this. It's awful. I needed inspiration for a dave cosplay, either attractive boy but no/bad wig, or fat/unbinding girl.

>almost finished with a costume
>oh no, this minor detail no one would notice isn't quite as perfect as I'd like
>spend hours trying to fix it when you should be working on another cosplay
>almost ruin the whole thing when you'd have no time to remake it
>hooray it looks marginally better
I'm so frustrated. This costume would have been done a few days ago had I not obsessed or this tiny thing. This is why I always finish costumes I start last minute (no time for this shit) and never once have finished something I've started months in advance, because I'll just nitpick it until I want to set it on fire. /annoyed rambling

On the upside
>tfw you can tell this will be your best costume yet
>surprise, you don't actually suck if you actually take the time to do it right!

Haven't heard back from a seller for days now...

>>7533153
haaa, you are me and i am you

What is currently grinding my gears is when friends make plans with you where you will be doing them a favor and then flake out on you last minute or are super super late. I am supposed to help a friend with hair and make up for an event tonight. She is supposed to here now. She hasn't finished the outfit I was supposed to help her make yesterday- except she blew me off and now I am waiting around.

>Selling loli stuff
>Interested buyer appears
>Asks how much shipping is
>I tell them
>They complain about the cost of shipping, then give an offer of the price I'm asking for the item itself
>Essentially asking for free shipping

Why even ask for a shipping quote if you're not interested in how much shipping is actually going to cost to send from the other side of the world? It isn't even that expensive. I dunno, just a slight annoyance.

What grinds my gears are people with shitty work schedules. I can't count how many times people have dropped out on cons because they're suddenly scheduled to work, or dropped out on plans like on fucking weekend nights because they have to work. They all also never seem to have any money so what the fuck are they working so hard for? I always have money, I work steady hours, have normal time off, I pay student loans and way higher rent than most of these people (Many who LIVE AT HOME and don't do to school so what exactly are there expenses supposed to be) and its not even a glamorous job so I literally don't understand what the problem is and why these people who live at home and don't pay rent, food or loans never have seem to have any time or money.

>>7533769
Oh man. My sister and her husband each make ~100k each. They own their home outright, use their own on-land bore water system, etc.

My sister is CONSTANTLY bitching about how she's too fucking poor to eat anything other than chicken nuggets and microwaveable mashed potato. Literally 5 days of the week they're eating chicken fucking nuggets and mashed potato, with the other 2 being take-away.

It got to the point where her ~10-year-old daughter was in the hospital for disgestive issues before she stared buying proper food, and it's still OH BLOO BLOO I'M TOO POOR I NEED TO BORROW MONEY OFF OF YOU, POOR SISTER WHO IS A FULL-TIME STUDENT AND SURVIVING VERY WELL OFF OF AUTISMBUX.


>mfw this is irrelevant to the thread

>>7533783
Nah its totally relevant. What the fuck are they spending all their money on? People who make 100k and are "poor" fascinate me, its like a primer in poor financial decisions.
I'm still trying to figure it out. I've noticed the people who work full time are more likely to keep up with their obligations than part-time slaves I guess? I do work full time but I don't make a ton of money with high rent in an expensive state and it's more cumulative hours than the part timers who live at home and are "so busy" all the time. I hold second jobs, too, cook dinner almost every night, have to clean my entire apartment myself because I don't live with mom and dad, yet I'm still the last person to drop out of a meet or con because "work is too much!" what the actual fuck are people doing.

>>7533783
Oh shit, they make ~100k EACH? I'm fucking done. It reminds me of the hilarious articles "proving" how you could make 100k and be poor, by using these two yuppies and breaking down their ridiculous high food expenses, private schools and expensive college for their kids, expensive pet bills for pedigree pets, expensive mortgage on a mcmansion, etc.

>>7533783
>>7533796
>>7533807
>http://www.cracked.com/blog/6-things-rich-people-need-to-stop-saying/
I know, cracked isn't the best source for information but it might help to explain your sister's thinking. Though, to be completely honest, she sounds like she's terrible at budgeting.

>>7533783
Did they buy their house with a loan from bank? When people buy big things like that(cars, houses) they need a loan and then they pay it back for next 20 years.

I guess that the more you earn the more blind you get with money. Also then you're more likely to raise your status by buying stuff. My brother is like that, he spends money on unnecessary(in my opinion) status symbols like a cabriolet even though he shouldn't.

>>7533146
Thank you kind anon. I hope things are going well for you too.

>>7533783
>two people with a combined income of $200k cry about being poor
>tfw dad is sole income and makes ~$250k
>he planned his income so well that we shrugged off the housing bubble even after moving into a too-big house

I mean, he didn't have any extra money to go on vacation for a couple years, but it's not like we had to eat fast food the whole time. Some people confuse me.

>Small community
>Work really fucking hard to improve in cosplay and work and stress your ass off for each costume
>The better I get, the less people are interested in me and my costumes
>People start thinking I'm an uptight and arrogant elitist cosplayer without even talking to me just because my costumes are good and I'm kind of shy around new people
>Eventually nobody wants to get to know me and stops asking me for groups because "they're afraid they'd look shitty in comparison"
>People get mad at me for cosplaying someone they wanted to because "I set the bar too high and ruin their self-esteem"
>What the fucking FUCK.

I'm so lonely and bitter about how all my hard work has been a waste. I know my costumes are good, but each one causes me a load of stress because they don't turn out to be good just because I've mastered the art of summoning magical cosplay elves to aid me but because _I_work_really_hard_.

>>7533832
I have a friend who is very similar. He works full time, has minimal responsibilities/bills, but never has money to do anything because he impulse buys t-shirts and video games and books and comics and expensive shoes, etc.

Some people are really bad at managing their money and by the time they get around to needs rather than wants, they're broke as fuck.

Do you know what frustrates me? The amount of Replicas for sale on the FB sales comms. Seriously like fuck I would want to pay $120 for a stretched out, wrinkly, crappy looking Oo Jia/DOL knock off.

This is more of a problem in the plus size comm than in the others comms but fuck me is it annoying.

>slowly trying to get into cosplay community
>see super cute girl who has mutual friends
>know she's pretty popular
>accidentally send friend request while checking out her profile
>oh shit
>know she's online because she's commenting on my friend's stuff
>no acceptance or rejection
>feelsbadman.jpg
>wait a couple days, cancel friend request because just feels so shitty
>skip to six months later
>went to convention, did cosplay that got a good amount of attention
>got to know more people
>receive friend request
>from that popular/cute girl
>feels so good

> been cosplaying for nearly ten years
> been though many phases, done elaborate shit, done crossplay, done ruffly Chii dresses
> these days cosplays otaku moe animu
> having fun
> but getting old
> doesn't look like 16 year old any more
> doesn't want to cosplay anything else than kawaii schoolgirls

Everyone seems to transition to crap like comic cosplay but I have literally zero interest in that and I watch a shit fuck ton of anime, so I'll cosplay what I watch. Even if I'm 10-15 years older than the characters are. Who cares, no one recognizes anime characters in anime cons any more anyway. Just have to be careful that I don't end up looking like Yaya I guess.

>>7534035
I know how you feel. I do look younger than I am(24) but I still know I would look ridiculous when cosplaying some cute middle school girls. I mostly watch that kind of shows so I haven't cosplayed in a long time since I don't want to pay effort in making a costume from some Western shit. So these days I'm mostly just anime fan instead cosplayer.

>>7532587
if you're a girl then the most annoying part will be guys hanging around your booth to awkwardly flirt with you (whether you're attractive or not. they'll still do it). You also have to watch for people trying to steal shit. Plus putting up with generally weeby behavior in general, like girls squee-ing over their husbandos etcetera. But otherwise it's pretty easy mode. If it's just getting in for free you want, then you could probably manage to put in less hours of work by volunteering for the con itself, but if the vendor is actually paying you then that's a better gig imo.

>>7534096
oops, replied to the wrong post. It was supposed to be to this one >>7532557

it's like shes not even trying anymore

>>7533957
Don't worry Anon, I'd be your friend if I could. I would love to talk shop with you! I never have anyone to talk to about this stuff. I'm not that great but I wouldn't be jealous and would actually love to have someone great to cosplay with. Then again, I usually choose characters that aren't done often so I don't have to directly compete.

All your hard work hasn't been for nothing!

>>7534035
This is how I feel about my age/appearance, but I only just started getting into cosplay at 24. Shit sucks. I'm trying to do all of the youngest characters on my list right now before I get entirely too old to even try.

>>7525266
You attempting to be QT is QT in and of itself.
The trick is you have to act like I never told you this.

>>7525266

Protip: much easier to eat a game controller.

>tfw unmotivated to do anything
>tfw can't stop thinking about suicide
>tfw it's especially bad when I drive
>tfw can't put off getting my license anymore and have to get it in the next few weeks

>>7533973
I was implying the opposite. Money planned so well that even in the event of a recession and a salary cut, we were okay.

While I live under that roof with no financial responsibility and a full-time job and still feel like I have no money because I can't afford to move out.

>>7535218
Seek help, anon. I'm in the same situation as you, I have my behind the wheel test this week and I know I haven't practiced enough, so we'll see how much it kills me when I fail and have to do it all over again.
Your health is more important than a license though, so I would try to get some professional help asap, sooner than your driving test if you can.

Some more feels
>me at age 10 or some shit
>fucking fatass
>one day something is wrong with me, I think I randomly got really painful splotches all over my legs
>mom takes me to doctor
>"Sorry, Mama Anon, looks like your little fatass is very close to becoming diabetic"
>extreme dieting ensues
>diet stops because fatass little me cries over less fucking food and Mama Anon feels bad
>grow older
>no diabeetus
>still fat as fuck
>mid-highschool, l shed pounds without noticing just from eating less and walking to school
>today, mid-college, at best weight of my life, look okay but still fatty (BMI around 24, I think)
>count calories
>eat healthy
>gym every day
>still live with Mama Anon because haven't yet saved enough to move out, plus convenient for school
>calls me anorexic for watching what I eat
>constantly complains about me wasting my life away spending too much time at the gym
>meanwhile Mama Anon now has diabetes
>has changed very little about her diet and exercise, despite family's concerns
>has just resorted to trend diets and diet pills
>tfw I offered to pay for her gym membership and tried to convince her we could have fun working out and getting healthy together
>tfw when the thought of mother daughter bonding time gives me warm fuzzies, since I've never had that sort of relationship with my mother. Our relationship has always been pretty shitty, actually
>tfw she always rejects in the most angry, disgusted manner possible
>tfw want to get her a nice treadmill for Mother's Day
>tfw don't know what to feel now

>>7535469
Your mother sounds childish. The fuck is wrong with some people? She's supposed to set a good example for you. I'm sorry anon.

>>7534099
Kind of figured halfway through.

>>7534096
Another thing to mention about volunteering, though, is that at one convention I was at, I got in for being a panelist. While I got in for only 3 hours of work, the convention held a banquet after the convention was over in honor of all the volunteers. (Panelists weren't allowed in, unless they were a volunteer also.)

So even though they had to work at least 18 hours, they got an exclusive celebration just for them afterwards, which was cool. I'm glad that convention seems to be treating their volunteers well.

>>7525211
1/2
>anxiety through the roof the past few weeks
>huge amount of pressure at work to sell stupid overpriced shit nobody wants to buy in a failing business
>manager gradually becoming more bitchy and rude, gossips about coworkers to me and makes fun of them for being poor or having bad spelling even though they're nice
>manager spiteful that i took a week off to see my long distance bf for spring break even though she gave me that week off months in advance
>missed counseling appt to go to work last wednesday, despite anxiety, thoughts of self-harm, and low self-esteem
>get bitched out for stupid shit by constantly angry balding coworker twice my age still working part-time at a minimum wage job
>calls me an asshole for forgetting something on a day when i was completely exhausted and stressed from my last week of classes
>had a final exam the next day, completely unable to study because of my coworker's shitty behavior
>ask manager if i should tell HR about him
>she tells me that he's "not the one that's a problem" and that if i had been "actually working" he would have never chewed me out, and that it's my fault for not having my "priorities straight"

>>7535767
2/2
>manager schedules me to work during a final exam
>explain i can't miss my exam that day or i'll fail
>"ask to take it early"
>if i do i'd have to work the entire day before it, thus having no time to study
>"lol well pick up another shift, what about tuesday"
>final paper due on tuesday, and have to study for final on wednesday
>also using wednesday to study for oral exam on thursday
>"the regional manager is going to be here all day on wednesday, you can't just miss and say you have an exam"
>tell her that "i literally cannot change the date of my exam or i'll fail it, i've told you i'm extremely limited on availability this week and i can't do anything about that. my academic priorities are very important to me and i'm sure you understand that."
>"you're not making work a priority at all."
>all i can think of is who the fuck in their right mind makes a shitty minimum wage retail job a priority?
>racked by anxiety, tell her i have no choice but to resign
>hand her my politely-worded, typed and signed resignation letter
>"this doesn't just happen in the real world without two weeks notice. you're so unprofessional."
>try to be brave, still shaking, fills out resignation form
>go home, actually happy
>for the first time in months i don't feel miserable all the time

many of my friends, my parents, and my boyfriend had noticed how much my job was taking a toll on me and said i should quit a few months ago. they all stepped up to support me when i quit, and almost immediately noticed i was much happier and seemed way less stressed than i was before. at least i got some retail experience so i'll get a job hopefully later this summer. in the mean time i'll clear out my lolita closet for extra cash and do some things i've been putting off for almost a year: spend time with my bf, see a friend i only see once a year, and take some time to actually make my counseling and medication management appointments so i can actually start to recover from my depression.

Ok, feels.

I'm jealous of my lolita sister. I'm prettier than her, but she is so thin. I'm round faced and look chubby even though I'm kinda petite, but she is stick thin, with a thigh gap and all. She can dress /fa/shionable as much as she wants to, but I'll never fit these wonderfull clothes. She can dress as goth as she wants, she will always looks classy. If I dress goth, it looks like I just borrowed my clothes from my friend's closet.
Everytime she have a new lolita dress I feel the need to try it on. It wouldn't fit in my wardrobe most of the time, but I want to wear it, I don't know why.

I feel really strange because she is kind of my best friend, and it doesn't happen with other friends of mine.

I honestly think it has to do with my dominant nature. She is depressed, so I naturally want to crush her, that's why I'm so envious of what she have. The kind of 'I deserve it more tha her' feeling, even if I absolutly don't think that and would never try to hurt her in my life.
I'm such a bad person.

When people shitpost about ageplayers in the lolita comm. I'm an ageplayer and it IS the reason I'm attracted to/wear lolita. Deal with it.

>>7526848
happy birthday anon. get yourself that dress, you deserve it.
I didn't get any notifications on my birthday either last week, so I know the feeling.

>>7535469
>tfw when the thought of mother daughter bonding time gives me warm fuzzies, since I've never had that sort of relationship with my mother. Our relationship has always been pretty shitty, actually
I'm really sorry about your situation anon, it's nice to see that you're getting healthier and have tried to change though. But I can relate when it comes to shitty mom relationships..

I've just never gotten along with my mom no matter how hard I try (she a hardcore, Asian catholic that grew up in a strict household). I've always tried to make conversation with her but she never seems interested, always blows me off, and complains that American (and Japanese since she knows I'm into anime) culture has brainwashed me even if it's something about school or general life. Even the smallest mistakes I make, or ones that are out of my control, she blames on the fact that I don't go to church anymore.
>catches a cold
>"Look, God is punishing you for not going to church. See, I never get sick because I'm holy."
>printer runs out of ink when printing out a project
>"God is punishing you for procrastinating. You'll never learn will you?"

When my bf's mom asks how my day went or goes out of her way to do things for me, it makes me all flustered and stuff. I really wish my mom was like that to me...

>inb4 lmao u live with your mom still
My house is a 20 minute drive from my school, not going to spend all that money to live on campus.

>>7534266
Awww thanks anon, you really made me feel better. It's been a long time since someone's said stuff like that to me! I'm so desperately lonely and I keep trying to make new friends but even though I try to be as friendly as I can be people seem to take a distance because "they're not on my level" and/or "I wouldn't want to talk to them anyway". That's bullshit, I'm just as awkward as the rest of you...

>want to sew
>all day got no energy for it
>11 at night
>suddenly have energy
>but it's too late to start and/or get overstimulated before bed

>>7535914
Me every time

>want to volunteer at Hyper Japan
>need to prove British citizenship
>no passport
>nothing else seems to come up when I google alternatives

This is hardly fair, I would understand if I has immigrated but I was born here, and I've never left the country.

I've also seen people say that they've never had to prove it before this year.
>typical.

Just got my photos from the photographer of a recent shoot
God I looked damned hideous. I hate my face shape. Its lumpy and odd shaped in the wrong places + deep ass laugh lines = either sad looking lolita or unsuccessful trap.

I've quit.

>>7535813
my dads like this but more for things like getting A+ on a test or something
"God made you pass that test :^)"

>>7535947
Oh or even worse, some sissy fetishist.
I fucking hate my face.

>>7535937
Does a driving licence count? I know it sucks I have friends who never intend to drive but got their provisional just to prove ID.

>>7535970
A driving license doesn't prove citizenship, but it is useful for photographic ID. They need something like a birth certificate.

>>7535937
Get a notarized birth certificate.

>>7535971
>>7535973
I've never known if a birth certificate would work seeing as I could just use someone else's name and id. Worth a try though, thank you.

>>7535970
I don't know, but I don't have one of those either. I have no photographic id at all. (which sucks seeing as i always either have the fear of being rejected for things, or I actually get rejected, I look like a child)

>>7525966
I'm lucky in that it rarely flares up on my eyebrows/nose - it is the worst thing in the world and I don't like going out in public when it does. I have a different skin condition all over my body, and yup, I can use one brand of sunscreen and everything else causes a reaction (the worst was sun cream I had on prescription, oddly enough).

Do you have any coping mechanisms for going out in public, or for when you have meets? I don't want to skip meets because of my skin, but I also don't want people talking behind my back about how bad it looks.

>Come to the realisation that l would be such a better lolita if I was pretty.
>There is a semi popular lolita who looks like the pretty version of me.
>Maybe losing weight...would make me a better lolita.
>Not overweight bmi (21), fairly normal measurements for lolita, strange body shape though.
>I don't know anons, I just feel a bit stuck and unsure.

>>7536076
Anon what is your body shape ? Maybe you're just not dressing for it.
I had the same problem as you (lolita making me look really fat even though I was 17.5 bmi), dropped the dark blouses with big Peter Pan collars, added more poof, and I feel a lot better now. Maybe if you post a pic of you in lolita and one that we can guess your body type on we could help ?
Added the lolita-tips guide for reference

I've been really bitchy about other lolitas online anonymously. I sent ask.fm insults to someone who was being an ass on Facebook and I made the snide "go back to Excel class" to an anon here last time.
I feel really bad and I'd like to apologize now, at least to the anon here, because you had only made a small mistake.
I'm sorry anon. From now on I'll try spreading lolita love and niceness only.

>>7535952
Oh god, it's the same with my mom
>work my ass off in HS
>score really well on ACT, work even harder to be admitted into colleges
>get into dream school
>"god got you into that school, anon!"
No bitch, I got me in.

>living in a third world country where cosplay is shit and you cant use nice materials and wigs.

>have fashion designer-wannabe friend
>they have experience in making crazy clothes n shit
>fuck yes.jpg
>ask for help
>he hates everything anime & Japanese
>fuck.shit

>>7535952
>>7536105
Don't wanna get too religious here, but remind them that the Lord helps those who help themselves first

I recently went to a meet for the first time after a hiatus and everyone I was a noob with has either left or become bffs with the super well dressed in crowd. Everyone was really friendly and nice but I can't help being jelly of how they've all become friends.

>tfw I just want a lolita bff

>>7536284
That's fucking ridiculous and you know it

>>7536105

My mom did that to me when I got into med school. It came off as a little insulting. Luckily since then, she's become a lot less Catholic since she's become estranged from her uber catholic sister, and has since toned way down on the god talk.

I'm not saying that getting into med school was lucky on my part, but I think to imply that god essentially controlled the applications committee to get a relatively privileged person like me in, while children are still starving everywhere, is a bit much.

My aunt on the other hand, attributes my cousin's passing his grad school solely as God's work, even though my cousin went through a hard time academically in school, and then had to revamp all his study habits to keep up afterwards. It's amazing how all his hard work is kind of shunted off in lieu of "well god did it because you had to graduate." What.

I have a crush on this girl in my comm. I barely know her and I'm not a lesbian (I consider myself as pansexual although I mostly date men) but I really feel strangely attracted by her. The thing is, she already have a girlfriend : our comm's queen bee. I'm fucked.

>>7536425
I kinda know how you feel anon. There's a super cute,sweet girl in my comm but she's taken and her bf seems really sweet.
I rarely ever crush on people, much less girls, and I'm quite infatuated
>tfw you'll never have a chance at a qt lolita gf

>those people who whiteknight in ita threads
>bitch, do you have eyes
>lurk more and maybe you can understand why it's considered ita
>tfw i come to /cgl/ to get away from tumblr

Maximum ruffle achieved.

It pisses me off how crocs are being worn with a lot of jfashion coords now.

>>7536437
lol i've seen crocs in street snaps, doesn't make them not ugly. i hope it doesn't catch on.

>>7536439
It already has

>Friend wants to do a photoshoot before she leaves for an internship in a month.
>Okay that's fine!
>Buy major part of cosplay because she did so we can match because uniform cosplay.
>Supposed to get here a week before she leaves.
>Okay that's fine.
>Have to wait a week to buy other part because broke from a trip to Europe.
>Freaking out that it may not get here in time.

Also, unrelated but it's pissing me off.

>On bus listening to music loud.
>Bus driver gets huffy and comes and is telling me to turn it down in a really rude tone.
>"I am part deaf"
>"Oh, I am sorry" in the most condescending tone as if she doesn't believe me.
>Mfw my ears are under developed and I was diagnosed with hearing loss in sixth grade.

I wouldn't be so angry if she hadn't started by being rude. I get shit like this all the time, too.
"You're gonna go deaf listening to music that loud"
No, sorry. Already there.

>>7535811
moshi moshi baito desu

>>7536461
Deaf or not, its rude to listen to music loud on a bus.

>>7536461

Self entitled much? It's common courtesy to not play music out loud. The fact your driver either heard it, or someone had to complain about it means it was too loud. Loud music is inconsiderate and rude. You don't get a free ride just because you're deaf. Buy some in-ear headphones if you haven't already. The kind that don't bleed any sound.

As for their rudeness, put yourself in their shoes. What they're assuming is that they're dealing with some obnoxious fuck who thinks they're above common courtesy, and who'll probably get rude or aggressive when told to quit that shit. They were rude to you because the person they assumed you were is a rude prick not worthy of respect anyway.

As for their sarc when you explained yourself. They probably get that excuse all the time, 99% are lying. If they say someone's a lair though, and they happen to get that 1% that is deaf, they could get done for discrimination or some stupid shit. They probably didn't believe you, but it wasn't worth the aggravation to go further.

>>7536432
This feel I know to well
I like to be overly honest in ita threads so tumblr fucks off and leaves us to improve rather than make people settle for mediocrity.

>>7536461
Buy some better headphones that won't let others hear your music. I'm sorry that you are partially deaf, but that doesn't mean you get special rights to be obnoxious to other people. I'm sorry she was rude to you, but if it's something that happens a lot, learn from it.

>>7536461
Sorry but you're a rude cunt for listening to music out loud on buses. partially deaf or not, there's such a thing as headphones.

>>7535977
>no photographic id

How do you do stuff? Buy alcohol, get mail, etc, there are so many random things you need ID for.

Also, how can people not have a driver's license? Do you just not leave the house?

>>7536638

>Also, how can people not have a driver's license? Do you just not leave the house?

Do you live in the middle of bumfuck nowhere? I can tell you now that in the major cities, cars are pointless.

>>7536638
i live in a large metropolitan area and take public transit everywhere. if i got my driver's license and had to be put on my parents' car insurance their rates would go way up. its not worth it until i can actually afford my own car.

>>7536536
I was sitting near the front, so she could hear it. I am not normally rude about it, only when people are rude to me about it first. Nothing happened afterwards and I did turn my music down. It is just aggravating when people don't believe you and are rude about it.

>>7536555
It's normally not a problem. The "You're gonna go deaf" are usually just snarky remarks.

Either of you have any good suggestions for headphones that don't bleed sound? Didn't mean to come off as a prick, I was just annoyed by her tone.

>>7536102
It's hourglass based of measurements. My ribcage is quite large and despite not being skinny my ribs are visible. It's not so much I look strange in lolita moreso I look strange naked. I get really confused about my body, whether I'm gaining or losing weight etc.

>>7536702
>>7536461
I'm no audiophile, so I can't point you to any specific headphones, but I can give you some advice.
Enlist in the help of a hearing friend and gauge the max volume that you can get at without it being able to be heard. Take note of the number and don't exceed it. If you wanted to go above and beyond, find the max for various distances: someone sitting right next to you, someone six feet away, someone who's just in the same room as you, and test it with different genres (eg a slow piano piece versus fast and loud rock)
Based on your comment about how you were close to the front, it made it sound like you still think you were okay. It's not. She had to have been more than an arm's distance. If she was sitting directly next to you, I can understand you thinking that she's being a little nit-picky. But that is too far away for it to be okay.
How it typically goes is that if people can hear the baseline, it's annoying. If people can make out the tune, it's obnoxious. If people can actually pick out the lyrics, incredibly rude. Your music shouldn't be loud enough that people can even notice.

>>7535977
>>7536638
>>7536675
I'm 85% certain you can get just a government-issued photo ID without it being an actual drivers license. I'm pretty my parents got me one when I was thirteen.
There's a lot more to an ID than just driving. I have to have my ID in order to register for classes and my convention requires identification to pick up your badge. I can't imagine that the bank would have let me open my account without an ID, and if I go to a bank that doesn't have employees that know me, they won't let me access my account without either my debit card or my ID. And it's not unheard of for people to have a bank account without a debit card in the first place.
How have you guys never run into anything like that?

>>7536675
>>7536649

What do you do if you want to go somewhere that doesn't have a bus?

Next city over, or just a random place, etc

Or what about when you want to go somewhere at 2am?

>>7536801

One more thing, how much do you figure you spend on public transportation?

>>7535947
I'll shoot them for free if you want.

>>7536877
shoop*

>>7536801

>What do you do if you want to go somewhere that doesn't have a bus?

Where exactly are you thinking? Even the countryside has public transport in the way of buses. Yeah, it's only one an hour usually, but it's there. You'd be surprised how vast and connected the place is. There's always taxis to finish the final leg. Honestly though, if you have a habit of visiting your grannies long lost village, why wouldn't you a car.

>Next city over, or just a random place, etc

Train, coach. Local transport.

>Or what about when you want to go somewhere at 2am?

Night buses? Taxis?

Honestly, these questions are very situational. If you need a car, you'll get a car. In london, I don't need a car to get me anywhere. I can head into the city at 2am on a night bus. I can get a train almost anywhere.

My dad lives in some village in the middle of bumfuck nowhere, so he has a car. Well, there are buses, but they're only every hour.

>>7536815

About one and half grand a year. I commute into central London during rush hour every day. At my age though, insuring a car and all that shit will cost an arm and a leg anyway. A car would be pointless for me anyway. If I want to get of London, I get a train.

Do you live in the countryside? Country folk can never understand me not having a car. They assume I mustn't go anywhere.

>>7536895
>Do you live in the countryside?

Nah, 'merica.

I guess it's just one of those things. I live in the city and we have some buses. But, if you leave the city you are kinda boned. I am honestly not sure I have ever ridden on our city bus. Taken a taxi a handful of times while drunk.

It's just kind of a hassle to use public transportation, takes a long time, and full of weirdos.

I probably don't spend 1500$ in an average year maintaining my car.

Granted that's just some quick napkin math and not counting the initial few thousand+ investment of the actual car. But, it's worth the time savings and convenience.

My feels:
>Stumble across The Perfect Dress™
>It's an amazing price
>EXCEPT THE SHIPPING
Nooooooooo

>>7536815
If you're trying to imply that public transportation is expensive, that's generally untrue. Especially comparing it to the combined costs of loans, insurance, repairs, gas, commuter parking, in-town parking, and the charge that some apartment buildings bill you for personal parking spots.
It depends on the town, but rather than basing it solely off of the walk-on price, people should definitely look into monthly passes. Think of it like this: most towns and cities want to milk money from tourists and to be lenient to commuters. The walk on price might sound ridiculous to be paying twice a day, but monthly passes usually give you unlimited rides for a flat fee. Especially if you're taking classes, you can get discounts through the transport system or through your school. Mine gives me a 3 month pass for 15 dollars.

>>7536801
Alongside the other anon saying buses, taxis, and trains, there are ride share services. If you needed a car for a specific time, like moving or a road trip, you can rent one. If you live in a big enough city or a compact enough town, there's walking and biking. The majority of everything I'd ever want to do here is within walking distance, the rest is a half hour bus away.
But even if you find loopholes to these, the main thing is that not all luxuries are worth it. Yeah, one of the routes in my area doesn't run past 10pm. I have to plan around that sometimes. But that inconvenience isn't so terrible that I want to throw my money away. People can still live happy lives without having complete mobility. I don't absolutely need to be able to go to the next town or travel in the middle of the night on a whim. Everyone ubiquitously having personal cars is a rather recent development in the world's history.

>>7536921
>Nah, 'merica.
The US has lots of countryside. We have pretty much every weather and citysize you can think of.

>>7536936
>If you're trying to imply that public transportation is expensive

Wasn't trying to do any such thing. Just comparing my POV costs with their public transport ones.

>>7536936
>The majority of everything I'd ever want to do here is within walking distance

Meh, just different places I guess. I spend 2 hours each way biking to work every day.

Sorry if I offended, just genuinely curious. Only ever lived here really. And in the other places I have lived for short times, I wouldn't have been alright without a car either.

>>7536959
It just made it sound like you couldn't imagine anyone living any way other than how you've lived. Sounded like you lacked imagination and empathy.

>>7536996
>Sounded like you lacked imagination and empathy.

I might.

FUCKING PERVERTS ON JAPANESE SUBWAYS TOUCHING MY ASS

Not only do I dislike crowds (golden week) this fat derp eyed loser couldn't keep his fucking hand off me - yeah, sure your hand just happens to rest vertically against my butt for that long. Twice.

made sure to dig my nails extra hard into his flabby hands, turned around and made him uncomfortable with non stop eye contact until my station.

Fuck I'm so angry.

I hope he suffers.

>>7536788
yeah, they do. students use it.

>>7536638
yeah, I live in London, it'd be more of a hassle for me to drive than to walk/use public transport. I don't drink or smoke or anything, i just get funny looks if I get the lottery. Even getting mail from the post office after a missed delivery, they don't ask for ID.
>>7536788
I registered for my classes with my birth certificate, and cons that I've been to have been gifted to me, or I've used someone's spare ticket, lol. If you open a bank account when youre under 18 then you don't need a passport, but I dont know what happens after that age. I need to get these things sorted, but I need money to do it and I can't get money because I don't have these things.
>>7536801
Trains.
>Implying I want to leave my house at night
>>7536815
I'm a student so I have free travel until September. Even then, everything I need is walking distance and if I need to go central, the mot you spend on a travel card is like £10 thanks to price capping.

Drama is always here in cgl. Cosplay is fun? Yea right biatches

Sorry to bump so far, but currently having my gears ground. People who submit photos to pinkyparadise of themselves wearing the contacts but with a ton of filters/photoshop slapped on can jump off a fucking cliff.

>>7538993
what's the point?
I hate that too, or they take shitty webcam photos with no resolution so you can't see shit. either way is worthless