/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL

>>7457922
;_; oh anon

New feels thread I guess?

Oh well... I meant to reply in the dreamdress thread and screwed up. Lolita feels thread ?

>>7457922
I'm so sorry anon

did someone pooted on your burando?

>>7457922
You were actually quite lucky to get a refund actually. What SS did you go with?

>>7457988
Seconding, they sound phenomenal

>>7457993
>>7457988

Japonica Market, as usual. They just refused to send me the dress in this state, basically, by asking "Can we cancel order?" repeatedly. When I said "yes, please cancel" the money
was in my PayPal an hour later.

I am never going with another SS.

You should have got a refund and asked for the dress regardless. Pay SS fees + shipping, see if there was a way to salvage the dress. A lot of impossibly seeming stains can be removed/lightened.

>>7458053
Err... I don't think that's an option, is it ? I can't get a dress, even covered in stains, for free

>>7458053
it sounded like they were refusing to sell it to her though - they couldn't take money for it, and it's not theirs to give away for free since they would then have paid for it out of pocket

>>7457922
Well at least they checked
I used from Japan to get a milky chan coat and when I finally got it it didn't have the detachable capelet? I'm still pissed about this now, and from Japan said they messaged the seller but they aren't responding. It's annoying to have to deal with this crap, I wish I'd just bought the one this past December ughhhhh

>>7458069
>>7458062
why not? You didn't "buy" it from japonica, they're merely a bidding service. If they refunded you, that means that they got the money back from the japanese seller, or paid for it out of pocket. So you should have tried to get it anyway, unless they returned it to that seller, which might be a possibility.

The last 4 things I bought on the EGL sales page and Lacemarket, the sellers, all different sellers, have ALL found stains on them after I paid in full.
They asked if I wanted to cancel, but all the items were uncommon and I was not likely going to find them again... so I sucked it up and bought them anyhow.

Fuck.

>>7458114
You seem like such an entitled brat. The SS told her the dress was ruined for her own sake because it was unfair to receive it in that condition, even though they're not obligated to do so. Like you said, they're merely a bidding service. The fact that they cared enough to risk their own profit by refunding her was good enough.

>>7458122
Name and shame, sis.

I'm actually having issues with people on lacemarket taking my money and then disappearing from off the face of the earth.

>>7458122
Ask for partial refunds, I've found stuff after I've sold stuff and offered partial refunds but they've not actually taken them cause they couldn't find the stains themselves.

>>7458128
File PayPal claim. Negative feedback.

>>7458125
Yeah, I know I am. But if the SS got refunded for what they paid for the dress, and the SS were able to keep it, then why not? Especially since it took 3 years to find. I guess it's a risk to japonica, since you could file a PP claim and say item not as described.

>>7458134
No one gives a shit about your opinion.

>>7458135
don't understand where your hostility is coming from, anon. It's nice they refunded you. But if japonica didn't have to send the dress back, I don't see the harm in receiving it + trying to get rid of the stains yourself while waiting for a dress in better condition to pop up.

>>7458139
I'm not even the OP, you just seem like a little entitled piece of shit cancer that's ruining lolita.

>>7458143
Diff anon but get the sand out of your cunt.
They were just putting a suggestion out there, and a reasonable one too.

>>7458143
I'm a bad person for wanting OP to get their dream dress + maybe find a to get the stains out of it while they wait for a new one to pop up? Okay, lol.

>>7458128
I want to give a benefit of the doubt, so I'm just keeping my cool about it. I guess I can take them to a dry cleaner, but, ya' know... more money that I could have NOT spent on cleaning.
But I understand that it's 100% my fault for being a doormat.

Lacemarket has me raging a bit, as well. Just opened a PP dispute. Waited nearly a month for this girl to get back to me. Said she'd ship on the 10th, nearly 2 weeks after I paid. No dress yet.
Just Canada to US.
I ain't havin' that.

>>7458129

Yeah, maybe I'll go ahead and do that.

>>7458114
Yes, they did buy it from Japonica. If the item was received not as promised then the op could have filed an "item not as described" claim with Paypal. Japonica had to cancel in order to be safe on their side of business. There is no way the op was going to get their money AND the dress.
When I have bid with Japonica and an item is described with any damage they send an email pointing it out and ask confirmation of the bid before placing it. This way they don't end up with unhappy customers who will try to file claims.

>>7458139
Japonica would have sent the dress back though. I don't think you know how this works. Japonica refunded the customer out of pocket immediately because they are a good company. They will be sending back the dress for a refund in their end.
Who knows, maybe the seller will relist it and include info about the stains and the op could get it then, but japonica will not be keeping the dress.

>>7458154
Not a bad person, just stupid as hell. How the fuck do you think she would get a free dress? The SS aren't going to give her a dress for free, they obviously need to send the dress back to get their money. If you buy something and need to return it to the shop, you don't get your money back and then get to keep the item as well.

>be me
>posts a WTB post on facebook
>taobao indie brand skirt, not expecting anything soon
>two people contact me in the same day "how much for the skirt?"
>they make it sound like they`re buying, but okay...
>messages them "just to confirm, you are selling in this colourway?"
>"oh sorry, i thought you were selling"
>the other girl actually kept my hopes up, she said "yes" and even started talking about shipping.
>"i don`t have any feedback because this is my first time buying lolita xD"
>wait what

>disappointed as hell
>both girls were really nice
>but seriously, I clearly said WTB.

Sorry, this has not much to do with the thread but it is somewhat close. What is the word for you call bank and complain for item, then you are refunded? It is something like back? It is possible I must do this, but I do not know the word.

>>7458128
Why should anon 'name and shame' when the items weren't sent out in damaged condition, and the sellers offered to cancel the transaction? Doesn't seem to warrant that, imo. Taking her frustration and bad luck out on a bunch of sellers for each others' single mistakes seems awfully petty.

That said...

>I'm actually having issues with people on lacemarket taking my money and then disappearing from off the face of the earth.

This seems all too easy to do on lacemarket, from my experience. I haven't had outright disappearing acts yet with a seller, but from my experiences there doesn't seem to be very much or at least enough of notification from the system when certain hallmarks are reached; ie marking an item as shipped, notifying one or the other party when feedback has been left, etc. I had a seller not reply to (or even read) any of my messages post-sale, and although the item then showed up to my door unannounced fairly quickly, there didn't seem to be any notification when feedback was exchanged, either, and I had one contact me weeks after a sale to inquire if everything was alright because they didn't see feedback I guess.

>>7463422
Chargeback

>>7463402
lol, the noobs just don't know what the letters mean at the beginning of the posts so they ignore them

>>7463452
Pretty mad though.
When I asked "Have you worn it before? Are there any faults or stains?", she said "I didn't worn it"
SHE WAS LEADING MY FLUTTERING HEART ON

I`ll repost it tomorrow with "buying" instead, ugh.

>>7463472
Oh. Either English isn't her first language, or she is very stupid.

Lacemarket is frustrating as fuck. Half the items are posted without any damn information. At least mention the full item name so I can look it up, because your picture of this black bundle of fabric laying on a bed with no measurements and the name as 'Meta jsk' is not helpful.

>>7463525
Yeah this ticks me off too. Pic related.

>>7463540
omg. is that actually a pic that someone is using to sell these?? i mean, there has to be major defects you're trying to hide if you light your black items THAT dimly...

>>7463542
>http://lacemarket.net/offbrand-leather-boots-ghillie-style-by/
Damage aside, I can't even entirely tell what they look like!

>>7463540

Just gonna assume the side they're not showing is beyond repair despite 'never being worn'

>>7463553
I always assume this when a seller has only one/poor quality proof photo of a pair of shoes. Always ask for 360 photos and if there are any scuffs etc.

I've never sold anything online before, but I have a few lolita things I want to get rid of, and I want to do it right, ya know? I hear so many horror stories about unmentioned stains, damage and missing parts, misleading proof photos, and unresponsive sellers.

Also
>tfw afraid to buy secondhand

>>7457922
At least you got a refund. I had people never ship items and I never got a refund at all.

>>7458034
They wouldn't refund me when the seller never shipped the item, what the hell. They are so inconsistent and be warned, they might not do it again next time.

>>7463612
If the seller has plenty of good feedback, clear photos and ships with tracking, you probably don't have anything to worry about. Horror stories are the exception rather than the rule.

>>7463757
Also as for selling, these threads give you a pretty good idea of what *not* to do as a seller. You can always check the buyer's feedback beforehand too and be sure to cover your ass by always shipping with tracking.

>>7463747
well.. What was your item / How much it ? Maybe if it was inexpensive/ not expensive enough to them they just didn't want to bother refunding you. My dress was more than 50.000 yen.

Also, I used PayPal and I didn't send any 'friend' payments, so if they didn't refund me I could have called PayPal. Maybe they also were afraid of that

>>7463747
Oh, I hope that isn't a normal thing... I used them just now since anon seemed to like their service so much, and they offer >24 bidding on Mbok unlike FromJapan, but I was just outbid on both of the auctions. I hope they refund my deposit...

I know how you feel anon, I won an auction on yahoo auctions, and then my bid was cancelled anyway. I assume the ss failed to speak to the seller after the auction. Also what's pissing me off more is that I used buyee for the first time, and as I initially won I was automatically charged, but as the bid after i won got rejected, it no longer shows up on my account I've paid but I've stillgot a charge on my paypal and buyee said on their email I wouldn't get charged but i already have. Already opened a claim as I want my money back.

>>7463783
It was a Meta wallet for $30. While it cost a lot less than your dress, they should try to be consistent. They said it was because they didn't want to make trouble and get bad feedback, not because of the value of the item.

>>7463797
What do you mean by >24 bidding on Mbok? They will refund your deposit if you got outbid on all items, but if you are bidding on more than one they will keep it to use for fees.

>>7463797
They will, don't worry. And if they don't, you used PayPal and you can claim the money back.

>>7463866
Yeah, I heard that people use retaliatory feedback a lot on mbok... I'm sorry for you anon ;_;

as long as this is a feels thread

my family has been violently arguing amongst themselves since this morning with no concern for me, and it's really driving me to want to move out
but i have no money and barely any hours at my job to compensate

and my cosplay wig that i ordered never got here when it was supposed to and the tracking fucked up so i can't even check on it

this is a shitty weekend

WHY ARE THERE SO MANY LISTINGS ON LACEMARKET THAT HAVE ABSOLUTEY NO PROOF PIC
Some aren't even clear what colorway they're selling!
I love lacemarket for the search and filter functions, but I wish they had the comm sales' moderation.

>>7464092
There's report buttons on the listings, maybe report items?

>>7464094
I don't know why I didn't consider that. I'll check LM's rules too to make sure there is actually something said about it.
>tfw you want to ask opinions on if a listing is a scam, but don't want to call attention to buyer competition

>>7464110
Well as far as I know print replicas are banned so I have reported items, even ones that have been sold just incase the seller gets a warning.

>>7464092
I noticed this too, sis, most of them are being scalped outrageously as well.

>tfw post in a new feels thread when there already is one

short version: Babby's First Disappointment
Thought a dress was ok. Mulled it over and realized it was perfect. Hesitation made me too late. First time in the purgatory between when an item has sold and when the item's listing is marked. Can't stop thinking about dress. Cry a lot.

>be uni student
>two jobs
>resentful at high school brats who can afford nice closets for just one
>quit lolita
>can't quit lolita
>try vintage instead
>like it a lot
>try to get back into lolita after saving up
>there is no spark
>still visit /cgl/
what is wrong with me /cgl/

>>7464236
You are stressed, depressed, and overworked. It's hard to have energy and enthusiasm for much of anything in those conditions.

>be 27 year old kindergarten teacher
>like classic/gothic Lolita, gothic fashion in general, gal etc
>also like anime, fantasy and games
>worried about student's parents/staff finding out and judging me
>also like a lot of the /fa/-ish kind of shit I see on Pintrest and vintage-y Ralph Lauren-inspired old school prep
>feel like I need to 'grow up', start dressing more like that and stop enjoying my hobbies if I want to be taken seriously
>chinos and TOMS all day err'day at work
>wardrobe is a hodgepodge of bullshit
>try to at least narrow it down since it's expensive to keep up with all those different
styles when I just wear them on my own time
>can't seem to cobble all the stuff I like together to make it work
>can't seem to figure out what I like best or get rid of anything
>tfw you know it's dumb to try and box yourself into a certain image, but still think it's somewhat necessary because your wardrobe is out of control
>tfw you have all these great pieces that don't really go with most of your wardrobe
>tfw you wind up not buying anything anymore because your tastes and interests are spread too thin and you can't decide on what you want more
>tfw you're too much of a fashion dilettante to actually build a good, cohesive wardrobe for any of it

>>7463525
Not everyone knows the name of every dress. I have a few old plain jsks in my closet, hell if I know the name for them. I'd just list them as "baby jsk" I don't have the time to track the name down of a super old piece.

>>7464214
aw, anon. i tried to get a skirt from maiden clothing, and i checked this morning and it's marked as sold...but i didn't get any order confirmation from them. babby's first disappointment here, too. cry together.

>>7464345
Feels sister. Together we will feel as one.

I've been getting into lolita, and my comm has their first meetup that they've had in months in a week. I was totally pumped to go, had a coord planned... but I want to cancel going now. I feel like shit. I stopped taking my antidepressants because they were giving me the side effects I knew I couldn't handle living with. I have another appointment tomorrow and I'll probably have my meds changed but it's not like they'll kick in in time. My planned coord isn't up to my standards and nothing seems to be fitting right. And how can I even pretend I'll be up to going to a lolita meetup when I can't even be assed to shower, or go to my classes, or brush my hair out or put on even a spot of makeup...
>inb4 disgusting
You'd be right. I am. I have no right to buy or wear nice dresses or anything when I can't even take care of myself or hold onto a job for more than a month.

>>7464078
get a second job? it'll suck but you'll be out.

>tfw work at denny's during the day and a call center all night
>tfw have money
>tfw don't have time to relax or go to school
>tfw will be stuck in food service/shitty jobs for the rest of my life

>>7464312
>>worried about student's parents/staff finding out and judging me
how would they find out?

>and stop enjoying my hobbies if I want to be taken seriously
that's really sad, anon.

>>7464392
This isn't you talking. This is the depression talking. It's a disease. It's like a bacteria that does whatever it can to grow stronger and make you sicker. That's why this illness is so dangerous.
You didn't ask for this, you didn't do anything to get this, and you don't deserve this. Focus on getting the treatment you need. Only then will you have the foundation to do anything else.
Have you ever played the sims? You know what happens when you let their happiness meter drop? It's pretty much impossible to do anything. They won't be able to focus at their jobs, they'll refuse to clean the dishes, they'll be mean to other sims. If you keep trying to make them do things, it only gets worse. How do you fix this? You focus on them. Let them paint a picture. Or play video games on the computer. Swing on the swingset. Dance. Actually letting them pee.
Sometimes there are things that are upsetting them that they won't do. Maybe the environment is low, but they won't clean the kitchen. Or their hygiene gives them stink lines, but they won't bathe themselves. You could scream at the computer screen, but that's not going to do anything. Cleaning the dishes or taking a shower aren't things your sim can handle right now. So that means you need to do something else to up their mood before you can tackle that. Maybe stare at a painting. Or talk to a close friend. When they're happier, then you can go back and clean the dishes. Which will improve their mood more, since the environment is better. But you won't be able to do that until you make them feel better first.
Now, sims doesn't have antidepressants, so it isn't applicable in the game. In real life, sometimes we get so deep that even those pleasant things aren't something we can handle. Antidepressants help bring you up a little bit so you're capable of doing these things to help yourself and get better. Just like people with migraines need pain meds in order to think straight.
You're worth it. You deserve it.

>>7464378
i'm probably going to go pity-buy a bunch of accessories instead now

>>7464415
>how would they find out?

I've bumped into students/former students and their parents or fellow staff members while I'm out and about before. Thankfully, I've been dressed tamely all those times. Every time it's happened, I've always wondered 'Oh gosh what would they have thought if I was wearing ____?'. Alternative fashion and various aspects of what the media likes to call call 'nerd culture' still have a negative reputation in the eyes of a number of people, so I guess that's my concern.

Like with a lot of other jobs, as a teacher how you present yourself--even on your own time--can matter a lot. If you're seen doing something that would make a parent think you aren't a good role model, it will really harm your reputation. It can be anything from being seen out with friends in a sexy outfit to someone finding a photo of you on your Facebook drinking a cocktail or a parent learning that you're on anti-depressants. I've seen scandals happen because of all three of those examples.

'Fitting in' is also important depending on where you go. I've seen teachers freeze another staff member out and completely cold shoulder them for being 'weird'. It's totally high-school level stuff that you would think adults in their 30s and 40s would be over by now, but it's pretty common in the workplace. Not just in teaching, either. Like many other occupations, teaching can get pretty political.

It's not as bad the school I'm currently working at right now, but still. I guess I'm just conditioned to be paranoid at this point.

>that's really sad

I know. I kind of hate myself for feeling that way, but there it is.

>>7464478
eh if youre wearing jfashion i doubt they'd recognize you. just dont look at them and youd be fine lol.

>TFW ugly red KP from legs is starting to show up on arms as well
>TFW moisturize like a motherfucker, exfoliate erryday, nothing helps
>Not just chicken skin, it looks like acne because of the trapped hairs
>I just want to look cute for bikini season

Does anyone know of any cheap treatments for this shit? Something that works?

I currently use almond oil, plus a chemical exfoliant/scrub with a konjak, and it's helped a little bit with the redness, but there are still ugly bumps everywhere.

>>7464422
Thanks anon, that metaphor made me smile. I'll do my best.

>>7464481
That's true. Although I always feel like I don't look all that different. Though maybe if I start wearing wigs like I've been planning to, that might help.

>>7464478
Go heavy on that makeup when you`re in lolita, anon.
I don`t mean atrocious heavy, but enough that they won`t recognize you just by walking down the street. Contour to change your face shape a bit.
At work, tone down the makeup so that the contrast is present.
Make an alternate facebook account for lolita. Use an alias. Do all your lolita stuff there.

Good luck anon

>>7464392
what comm are you in? the meetup timing sounds like mine and i would 110% help you out and try and make you feel loved as i'm currently slowly recovering from depression and reading this really gets to me.

>>7464499
I'm glad to hear that. Your best might be to brush your teeth, and that's okay. The first time someone puts weight on their previously broken leg is a big ordeal, even though other people walk every day. Take it slow, and focus on what you are doing instead of what you're not.
Good luck. I'm rooting for you!

>>7464312
Are you me, anon?
I love preppy clothes and plaid, but also loli.
And this shit happens:
>Be 24 years old working in a kindergarten for special American snowflakes' kids
>wear preppy clothes most of the time
>they eat that shit up for some reason
>one day another teacher comes to school with an undercut, looks okay on her, not too visible either
>one of the mothers sees and goes apeshit to me: "HOW IS SHE ALLOWED TO WORK HERE WEARING THAT, IT'S BAD INFLUENCE FOR MY BABY, I WANT THE BEST FOR MY BABY"
>"But madam, she is allowed to do it"
>"WELL THIS IS AN AMERICAN KINDERGARTEN, I AM AN AMERICAN WOMAN, THEREFORE I SAY WHO CAN DO WHAT HERE"
>oh boy here we go
>next day find out she complained to our boss and "heavily implied" that other teacher was breaking the rules and should be fired
>of course she isn't fired
>later hear same lady whining why people are being meeeeeean to her because she's American
>no, it's cause you're a cuntrag who thinks she owns everything just because she married an ambassador and moved to a foreign country with better employee laws than yours

And then it went from bad to worse when we found out that our patrons google us and Facebook apparently doesn't do shit to protect your privacy even if you set it up to "family only". She congratulated me on my wedding the day after she saw it on FB despite me not telling anyone.

Sometimes it's better to use an alias to post loli coords, unfortunately.

>bid on 4 dresses,all under 70
>"ok japonica my max bid is 90."
>japonica goes in, puts base bid in
>lookin good
>puts in max within the next 5 minutes even though nobody else bid
>because of this i win no dresses
>tfw no brand for me

>>7464392
It'll be okay, anon! Please don't think of yourself as undeserving of love or care. You're doing all that you're capable of right now and that's perfectly okay! Right now, just focus on yourself and do things that make you happy, like watching a goofy tv show or taking a nap while cuddling some stuffed animals. I know it's really tough right now, but things will get better, and I'm really proud of you for hanging in there!! Good luck with your appointment and I hope you find a medication that works well for you!

>>7464559
Norway.

>>7464536
Where do you live?

>>7464503
I got rid of my facebook a long time ago since I only logged on once or twice a year. I barely even post pictures of myself online anywhere else and I always use a name other than my real one. That has less to do with paranoia and more to do with the fact that I've just never really felt the need to put myself online like that.

>>7464536
What part of the world do you live in, Anon? I live in the American southeast. They eat the 'preppy' thing up here, too. It's pretty big where I live in general, but I've especially noticed it in my fellow teachers. I don't know why that is.

Sad to say, I've ran into the attitude that you're describing pretty often. They don't mind people who are 'eccentric' or 'bohemian' as long as it's in the safe, watered-down kind of way that Will Smith's character from Fresh Prince was considered 'edgy and urban' back in the day.

And the worst part is sometimes I feel like I'm tricking people? I'm making friends with some of the teachers I work with and I can't help but think to myself 'Oh god what would they do if they knew I liked half the stuff I'm into?' (I was shunned for being 'the weird kid' in high school which subsequently turned me into a bitter asshole until I graduated, grew up and got over myself. My friend unfortunately has the same 'ew preps!' mentality.)

>>7464549
eh i dont get it
what happened here?
they bid twice or what

>>7464578
I live in Norway, like I said earlier - and I get what you mean. I'm also scared of girls from my comm thinking I'm a prude or something because I like to dress conservatively, and my patrons or coworkers thinking I'm a weirdass at the same time.

>>7464496
I'm assuming you're talking about Keratosis pilaris, and from what I got told you can't really do all that much about it. What you're doing is about as much as you can do, the only thing more would be laser treatment which doesn't necessarily work.

>>7464608
Whoops I totally missed that. I've always wanted to visit Norway, though.

I definitely know that feel, fellow Anon. It's all too easy to say 'who cares what other people think? Just do what you want!' but sometimes it's just no avoiding it. It's a nice thought, but people are going to judge based on appearances no matter what and sometimes, it's a good idea to keep that in mind and be careful.

Anons, I really want something for a coord and I posted a WTB only a few days ago.
But with each passing day my hope drops a little.
How do you girls be patient? I want it so badly and I feel ridiculously anxious.

>>7465161
I've never posted a WTB, I always search. Though I've always wanted something general, like a style of blouse or a color of OP. Is your thing very specific? Like the printed headbow for your jsk? You don't have to say if you don't want to reveal yourself

>>7465161
In my experience WTBs have never worked. You might get more biters if you are looking for something generic (like a black long-sleeved blouse) but if you want something specific you have to be active and search for it yourself.

>>7464549
That's not how auctions work. Japonica puts your max bid in right away. Just like on ebay, when you set a max for your item that you want but it only shows your starter bid? Japonica put in your bid, someone else saw and outbid you right away.

>>7465323
Every WTB I've posted, someone has posted that they have the item and they're willing to sell it to me or an auction link within a couple hours. I've been very lucky in that aspect. But while you're waiting on your WTB, go search for it too.

>>7465348
>Japonica puts your max bid in right away. Just like on ebay, when you set a max for your item that you want but it only shows your starter bid?

No honey, that's not how it works.

>>7465348
The post said no one else bid and they entered the max anyway, that's not how it's usually done

>>7465365
what. Yes it is. You think japonica refreshes your auction every minute so they can bid if someone else bids against them? No. They put in your max right at the beginning and go on their merry way. Have you never bid on anything?

>>7465381
No they do not, you've clearly never bid on anything.

>>7465378
Does Japonica take bids from multiple clients on one item? Because there's no other way/reason they would bid against themselves on another account. I haven't used them in a while, but that's the only thing I can think of.

>>7465387
And what >>7465381 has said is correct. Every shopping service, unless they have real time bidding for you to bid yourself, will enter your maximum when they bid. They don't have the manpower or time to sit there and constantly up your bid on an auction.

>>7465378
No, someone tried to outbid them but their max wasn't as high as japonica's. That other bidder's name doesn't show up unless they outbid you.

>>7465387
What. Fo mbok, yes they do. I've been using them and other proxy bidders for over 2 years, what the flying fuck do you think they do? Do you honestly think a someone is legit sitting behind a monitor autorefreshing every 10 seconds to watch your shit?

>>7465394
Yes, they have different accounts for when that happens. They have mecha, sandwich, and other username.

>>7465387
>>7465365
see how ‡月音‡ put in a 31,550円 bid and then they "bid again" at 32,100円? It's not because they bid twice in a row you dumb cunt, it's because 32100 was their max, and they were outbid.

>>7465401
Oh ok thanks for clearing that up, I haven't actually bid on an auction in a while and was just going by what they posted. I didn't realize the names don't show up unless they outbid you. Cool beans, good to know, thanks

>>7465365
>Honey
gross

>>7465429
Cis Hons are the worst eh?

Have you guys never used the max bid feature on eBay?
My understanding: They (shopping service) don't bid your max bid right away because that would defeat the point of asking for a starting and max bid.
They also don't sit there monitoring the auction and waiting to be outbid before bidding your max bid.
They input your max bid in the website, so that if you are outbid then your max will be offered automatically, as depicted by >>7465410.

>>7465424
Nah it's cool, I just figured you were new to proxy bidding. What it sounds like is that :
1.japonica placed max of 90, showed as 70
2. someone tried to outbid, their max didn't beat japonica's max, but it bumped the bidding to 90.
3. Someone else joined bidding war and successfully outbid japonica.

>>7465439
Yeah, you put in your max right away to decrease the 1 min > bidding war stress/sniping. Helps people not lose auctions by a penny.

>>7465316
>>7465323
I've been constantly looking at sales comm and auctions, but nothing yet.
It's a specific bag I want.
The last time I posted a WTB, I got a seller within a few days, but I guess a recently released taobao dress is a different story.

I just feel really antsy.
And super nervous that I'll be at school when it goes up on comm sales and miss it.

I'm dealing with a seller that is so STINGY, it's frustrating. If you're unwilling to take reasonable offers on items, then don't write "open to offers" on the listing. She keeps wasting time and can't seem to give a straight answer!

>>7467489
What is a reasonable offer to you may not be a reasonable offer to the seller. Perhaps you're lowballing.

>>7467297
Guessing IW crown bag anon? Good f'in luck.
>tfw have almost bought it ~3 times but will never use it enough to justify the prices it goes for

>>7467862
Nah, that's not me.
It is an IW bag though, the rose lace pochette.

>>7467867
You're gonna have to hunt for that one, people rarely sell theirs once they get them.

>>7467887
Oh no, that's disappointing. ;_;
I desperately want it for a coord that I'm going to be wearing in a little under 2 months. Am I being too ambitious?

>>7464236
I haven't dressed loli in like 4+ years and still visit cgl and similar. I feel like I am here for life.

>>7467862

If I was lowballing, rejecting the offer would be understandable. I've experienced that before on the seller side of things, believe me! I was just offering an amount that included the domestic shipping charge on a high ticket item. I guess I'm just not impressed with people who aren't straight forward during sales and are comfortable stringing people along.

tfw no one draws you in the draw thread

I just hate it when a seller gets a lolita dress' name wrong
> Twinkle Tertan
> Milky of the Fawn
> Bunny and Snow Drop (Milk-chan and Snow Strawberry)
> Night in a midsummer
> "!WTB that pony print"

And ESPECIALLY those of you who write "longest name" or "pup in a cup"
If you're trying to sell me an expensive dress you'd better get the name right

> tfw you're gathering a skirt to bodice forever
> first time using serger to help
> didn't work too well
> want to care if it has even gathers but can't really tell if it does
> need to finish by the weekend
> half of skirt basted on already

Ugggggghhhhhh.

>>7468209
>tfw no one says thank when you do draw them

>nice looking coat on Rakuten by a brand I like
>store image is small, can't gauge its quality
>shipping is only by EMS because coat
>price isn't bad
>but shipping
>mite b cool
>mite not b

>>7468209
If no one's responded to your post yet link it to me.

>>7468385
To be fair, I've seen like 20 different variations on "Milk-Chan and Snow Strawberry." I think I first heard it as Bunny Milk and Snow Strawberry. But I've also heard just Snow Strawberry and Strawberry Snow and a few others.
Twinkle terten though, lol.
There's also Fantasic Dolly/Fantastic Dolly

>>7468385
Oh hell I hate this. "Milky of the Fawn" makes me hit the roof every time.

Occasionally a dress will have a different name in Japanese than in English and it can get annoying and confusing trying to hunt it down (Meta Night of the Masquerade/Masquerade Lady, I'm looking at you)

>>7464496
I've used Eucerin lotion whhich I find reduces its appearance on my arms a lot.

>>7464496

I don't have KP as bad as you but for me Paula's Choice RESIST Skin Revealing Body Lotion with 10% AHA really helped.
RESIST Weightless Body Treatment with 2% Beta Hydroxy Acid also works very well but I have to admit I like the 10% AHA better.
It's quite pricey though, but for me well worth it.

>>7468385
Sometimes they get the print name completely wrong. Someone was trying to sell Ruins Cathedral or something and selling it as "Cathedral Print".

>>7464392
i'm feeling similar to you anon but you should reach out to a friend and let them know how you're feeling. not taking care of yourself is your depression, and not a reflection on you. take time to take care of yourself, maybe just make it one thing a day, like "today I'll take a shower." and the next day "today I'll do my laundry." and slowly work your way through stuff, so you don't feel overwhelmed.

>post in progress thread last year
>get some positive responses on improvement
>helpful tips for making better coords
>post in progress thread
>personal insults
>lack of concrit
>hardly any tips or help
>ok.jpg

not lolita related:

>out of depression meds and self-esteem was already suffering
>doctor's office won't call me back about upping my prescription dosage despite being completely out of refills on the ineffective dosage
>asshole manager won't give me my schedule a week in advance so i can't plan anything fun with my friends
>spites me for taking a week off despite only working one day a week anyway
>bitter toward me for taking a full load of classes
>crazy anxiety exacerbated by classmate who started hitting on me and creeping on me despite the fact that i'm taken
>boyfriend crazy nervous about med school acceptance/rejection letters and will be until may
>about to lose standing in my major because i'm getting Cs in the classes I need Bs in
>apathy and lack of motivation and energy

i'm so overwhelmed
why the fuck do i even bother

>>7472818
Meta does this a ton, actually.
>Thorny Rose vs Secret Eden
>Dress Room vs Girlie Stuff