/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL

>>7320231
>mfw no cosplay gf thats into lolita

Lolitas: only date them if you make bank.

Also most lolitas ive met are taken, too young, married or lesbians with another lolita. Good luck anon?

>>7320258
>lesbians with another lolita.
You mean attention whores.

>>7320258
My boyfriend makes less than me and I pay for my own burrando. Idk, maybe I am the exception.

>>7320270
same here.

>>7320262
Sorry some of us don't wanna sit on your dick. I would rather rub frilly fannies with my girlfriend.

>>7320279
>I would rather rub frilly fannies with my girlfriend.
Damn, that's so fucking kawaii my penis just inverted, I wish to rub frills with other fannies too ;-;

>>7320282
here, fantasy fodder

>>7320279
I don't have a dick.

>>7320286

>>7320286
that is not kY

>>7320262
>Attention whores
>Two certain girls on tumblr

I would love to date a lolita girl. Take her shopping and cuddle and be super cute all the time! If theres any out there in northern california especially toward San Francisco please let me know!

>>7320306
buy me brand please

>>7320231

>>7320306
depends on what you looks like anon, don't want no hambeast all over my frill

>I can't buy my own shit, I'll be a cunt and make my significant other do it
>kissing same sex for attention

So is this degenerates thread: /cgl/ edition?

It would be a stretch but I would love to walk through angelic pretty and btssb with someone and buy up the store!!

>>7320315
Do you live in the area?

My boyfriend didn't even know what lolita was when we first met. And I was wearing gothic lolita when he first saw me/before he even talked to me. I suppose luck is in the draw?

My girlfriend is a lolita, she makes more money than me and often buys me ouji/dandy clothing and accessories.
She's pretty sweet but sometimes she goes insane when something annoys her or if she's worried about something.

I met a guy recently that had actually heard of lolita and at the time seemed vaguely interested so I was pretty excited.

I eventually found out he was a complete creeper that found out about lolita via hentai which he was constantly bragging about how much of it he had.

He had strange ideals about how lolitas (Me) were supposed to be the perfect elegant and pure lady. I'm actually a sweet lolita but have tried gothic like twice and he kept bombarding my public facebook posts telling me how sweet looks terrible and talking about his ideal 'gothic lolita doll' type, shit was so cringey and weird.
On top of this he was always asking weird questions like 'what is it like to wear lolita, how does it make you feel?' and constantly asking for pictures of my jsks.

Thankfully he went completely off me after he found out I'm a short haired tomboy outside of lolita. I now avoid men that show interest in lolita fashion like the plague.

>tfw bf thinks lolita is weird because the only lolita he knew dressed OTT sweet and she did it well, too

good thing i have my makeup as a hobby to keep my mind off the baby dresses i'll never have. For now at least, I'm going to find a way to ease it onto him.

tfw all I want is twink ass asian bf I can dress up in pretty clothes with

>inb4 yellow fever
I'm asian myself so

Personally, I wouldn't mind dating a lolita. At least they'd be more inclined to go to a con, or share a nerd hobby or two than a normie would be.
I think I'd prefer a cosplay GF to a strictly lolita one, because dem couples cosplays, but it's by no means out of the question.

>>7320279
Hot.

>>7320354
This is the image I get of men what want to specifically date a lolita. I think it's okay for a guy to want to date a girl that happens to be a lolita, but for anyone who's looking to date a lolita specifically, it's fetish-y and creepy.

>>7320270
Me too anon, he has bought me a headbow as a present though.

>>7320369
Just so ya know, a lot of us lolita are also die hard nerds who secretly love cosplay, but are still waiting for the perfect cosplay couple to do together ;p

>>7320369
I'm into cosplay as well but with my current shitty job I had to make a choice between expensive dresses I could wear quite a few times and potentially expensive costumes I wouldn't wear very often. That and my complete lack of sewing skills has made me decide to put off cosplaying till I get a better paying job.

>>7320378
Yep, and that's the part I'd be attracted to in a lolita, rather than her lolita fashion itself.
It may all look really cute or pretty, but as a guy, it doesn't strike me as a couples hobby, you know?
If I were to wear steampunk/gothic/aristocratic/whatever clothing, I'd still feel out of place next to lolita(s). Especially being the only guy at a gathering, aside from possibly the photographer.

I wouldn't know if they're into cosplay or not... Haven't had the chance to talk one on one with them. They're always in a group. (my insecurities talking) It has been difficult for me to approach groups of women that i am attracted to anywhere. that's weird because im freakishly tall and fairly confident. It's a total pain in the ass finding lolitas online to date because apparently theres a lolita texas?!?! I love cons, and it would be nice to see some of the people at the bar across the street.. you'd think it would be easier to find a lolita girl in San Francisco....

also...
i totally believe that there are creepers and pervs out there looking for lolitas. contrary to them, further i could not be. i could go from a dive bar to the opera to a con, all with a woman in full sweet/classic/sailor/etc.. garb.

>>7320354
And >>7320361
My partner knew of lolita before I became one. I wasn't a lolita when we first met but I got into other time, he's really sweet about it, he isn't ashamed and jokes about Milanoo and Bodyline and AP. I wear Gothic and Classic, and he doesn't think I dress to outthere/doesn't mind as he was a Goth and now is a punk/skin. He's really accepting and lovely.

>>7320313
Angelic Pretty or BTSSB. Both in San Francisco. Which one do you want?

>>7320404
both.

>>7320398
This is the kind of person I'm talking about when I say this>>7320375

>>7320398
Just go up and ask for their number, but don't let on you know /too/ much about lolita.

I've had lots of normal fag guys ask for my number whilst in lolita, its really quite flattering when they're polite. Worst that happens is they say no or they're taken/not interested and you both move on with your lives.
Best is you get a qt lolita gf.

my bf doesn't date me because I wear lolita but he supports it.
he even went to buy me a dress once and hesistated because he knew he didnt know what he was doing
it found it really sweet he didnt put me in a awkward situation of him buying me a ugly dress
it was just so sweet he even thought of it i just hnnng >///<

My partner comments about buying me Iron Gate, I think he's joking though.

>>7320315
certainly not a hambeast! love the frill though, and the women who wear it!!

>>7320409
not trying to be a perv, when do you want to go?!

>>7320320
>>7320398
you sound nice
can I be your loli gf?
post a pic please
spoilers: I'm on the other side of the country

I'd like to drill some lolita butt while in costume. Only if it's something toned-down though like a simple classic or goth, I think that most lolita costumes are pretty embarassing.

>>7320452
>costumes
lol no

>this thread.

>>7320454
Not this again
Lolita is a costume because you're dressing up as a little girl.

>>7320451
what part of the coast? email me...

>>>/soc/
>>>/soc/
>>>/soc/

>>7320461
/cgl/ is a board for the following:

• Cosplay
• Lolita
• J-fashion

>Lolita
>Lolita
>Lolita

>>7320458
I wear classic. Try again.

>>7320354
>short haired tomboy that likes to dress in lolita
diamonds

>>7320460
I'm not even on a coast, bro
>tfw no lolita bf

>>7320455
100 hours in ms paint

>>7320482
you said across the country. for me in San Francisco i would assume east coast....

I once talked to a guy on omegle and when I mentioned that I was into cute fashion, he asked me if I were 'one of those Lolita girls' and I said I had an interest in the fashion and a mediocre wardrobe but I was planning to get more into it. He grew so excited and chirped on about how he loves Lolitas and always wanted to date one. It was kind of cute. Then he gave me his kik and I never addded him because I'm not a landwhale and I can boyfriend irl.

>>7320258
lol its a cool on-the-side plus but no, if its any consolation, at least i personally dont care about bank :3

>>7320494
I didnt want give an exact state. point is, I am far away from you.
no burando buying boifurendo for me

any australian frillseekers in here?

Okay...

Are lolita girls high maintenance?

I'm just curious. I wouldn't mind dating one, though I just don't understand any of lolita and I feel like I'd sort of have to.

>>7320500
thats groovy..

My boyfriend knows I like Lolita and I regularly point out dresses I like to him, and he thinks it's a cute fashion. I like toned down sweet/classic and he likes ott sweet, though. His favourite brand is angelic pretty and when I text him I regularly bring up cgl drama and he actually pays attention. He finds Rosaire and Mary dramu hilarious. He can't really tell good and bad coords apart though, and he doesn't like wigs.

>>7320465
People emailing each other to hook up is definitely lolita

>>7320504

If you don't go for a batshit deluded princessu alter ego one then no. Most of us buy second hand and within our means, and Lolita is just a fashion/interest, it's not like we demand all the other normalfag aspects of our life be frilly and expensive.

>>7320452
Unless you're going to replacing every $200+ dress and more get the fuck out.

Are there any gold digging lolitas in Estonia? I'm a rich westerner.

>>7320519
I'd love to cum all over the clothes.

>>7320516
Pretty much exactly what this anon said, a lot of the girls I've met are really sweet and down to earth.

>>7320504
Most people I know with long-term SO's don't make them learn... lolita or anything. Mine certainly doesn't understand it, and I have friends who are happily married/engaged and the guy doesn't know anything past AP and BtSSB. So, in short, no.

>>7320499
sure

I don't mind what style it is, I'd totally try to date and spoil the fuck out of any lolita who is willing to have a decent conversation and share one or two interests outside of lolita fashion.

>>7320354
Im just came for /r9k/ what the fuck is this ? I have spent the last half trying to understand this . This is weird but not that weird . explain to the "normal" what the fuck is going here please .

>>7320609
Seems like he based a lot of his expectations of her as a lolita off of anime / hentai.
Imagine someone with their perfect 2D waifu.
Now imagine that person pushing all those ideals onto a real person.

That's when a creeper or stalker might appear.
If you've ever been to a few cons and just talk to random congoers, you can definitely tell a few of them are /b/-level autists, if not worse.

>>7320623
that is fucked up . I grant you nothing but happiness on your cultural choices . I have talkeda to a couple of congoers and got the same meme-spewing shite . I dont have the same interests as you , so sorry if I was arogant !

>>7320609
Lol if you're wondering about "pictures of jsks" part being something innapropriate, JSKs are are style of lolita dress that have straps, no sleeves, normally made to go over a top.

short for Jumperskirt
pic related, its a JSK

>>7320504
Most the ones I met, they werent!
Some lolitas try to go 100% with the i'mma princess attitude but most I know are just regular kinds of chicks who like to put on poofy dresses.

>>7320553
>>7320516
Okay, good. I wouldn't mind dating a lolita girl, then. Plus, some lolitas also do cosplay, I hear. Though I'm guessing trying to manage both would be really pricey, considering how expensive both of those must be on their own.

To any lolitas with S/Os, is it ever weird if you go out with them and you're wearing like, a frilly dress and they're wearing something more understated and plain? Like, one person has a big dress and the other just has... a jacket and jeans.

>>7320521
I dont totally get the "gold digging lolita" stereotype.

A lot of lolitas are kinda spinstery, their lolita is a general cockblock to most the male population. I'm sure the sane ones (the ones you'd probably prefer to look for) dont care for the cash or brand, just someone who will accept them and not be embarrassed of them.
That's it!

Unless you do want a psycho buy-me-burando kinda chick, then by all means...

>>7320648
Its not weird.
Just make sure they're comfortable with it.
Even though they may not be into glamorous fashions, a lot of people will still feel a little underdressed because of you and feel a bit of that guilt even if they dont mean to, and it carries on for the rest of the outing.

>>7320648
It's not really weird if you're used to it. Maybe I've just stopped noticing at this point, but my boyfriend is about as adamant about wearing t-shit and jeans everywhere possible as I am about wearing frills. So sometimes, we're in Taco Bell and I'm dressed up, and sometimes, we go to a fancy restaurant and he's under-dressed. It's whatever.

>>7320637
Spoiler: I'm a dude.

Don't get me wrong. Tons of congoers are completely chill, and are now some of the absolute best friends I've ever met.
You might run into cringe-worthy people at cons, but most of them are really harmless.
You might have a couple awkward or unpleasant experiences, but overall it's pretty positive.

Though once every few cons, I either run into someone that gives off a complete creeper vibe, or one starts crossing boundaries with friends, and don't know where to draw lines.
Of 7 cons, there was one case where con staff got involved, actually. I apparently wasn't the first complaint he'd had, but that's another story.

>>7320658
>Taco Bell and I'm dressed up
> t-shit and jeans ... fancy restaurant
I don't know which one of you is more embarassing tbh

>>7320647
Yeah some do give up some time/money for the other unfortunately, I know I do. Pretty much what >>7320395 said, lolita is much more gratifying in the long run for me, but I do try to come up with one or two new cosplays a year. Ah well, there's no problem with wearing lolita to a con I guess.

>>7320665
>TFW Both of us stopped giving any fucks long, long ago

>>7320648
It can be quite a contrast, it's only recently that my partner has been adding other colours besides black, denim jeans and red docs into his wardrobe so sometimes I'd be dressed in classic and holding hands with my fuzzy haired boyfriend who'd be wearing a black leather jacket, black shirt, black jeans and black doc martens. I wear Gothic a lot too so we don't look too odd together. He has now gotten into punk a lot and got rid of his hair so he sometimes look a lot more casual than me although he does wear a lot of Ben sherman (which makes it a little classier imo).

>>7320675
>Revolutionary Revolution
>Flame Horse or Flying FUCK
wat

>>7320609
Really?
He was associating the way I dressed and more worryingly me with porn, which he talked about all the time, really loudly. We weren't dating or even friends, literally just spoke to him because he was playing pokemon.

On top of that he was trying to dictate my style of dress and behaviour, constantly pointing out how I don't 'act' like a lolita and that I was 'too boyish' I'm not really used to people doing that.

There were lots of other things too like despite me laying down the I don't want a relationship with you line he was always asking me questions that felt fetish-y, like what I was wearing, if I wore loli to bed and trying to get me to go cinema/shops with him in loli.

I dunno, is that how normalfag guys act? I don't really know any...

>>7320652
I actually find it oddly cute when a lolita girl is holding hands with her bf who is just in regular jeans and t-shirt. Especially when you can see how close they are and that he doesn't give a fuck what she's wearing and vice versa.

My favourite pairing however is a sweet lolita with a goth/punk/visual kei guy. That is like my ultimate fetish. No kodona type stuff either, proper hardcore shit with peircings and tatts.
I want one of those, guys like that seem completely turned off by all my pink n frills though.

>>7320664
Marry me.

>>7320704
You mean like

>>7320704
The bf you described is pretty much my partner except no tatts yet. Tall,skin head with suspenders, plaid shirt, red docs yellow laces, jeans rolled up and folded to show more shoe. Except the closest I get to sweet is sweet classic or old school.

>>7320711
Parakiss!

>>7320641
i dont think pictures of jsks was the questionable part

>>7320713
You two sound so perfect.

Is he oddly terrified of pastels? I used to be into metal scene before I got into lolita and some of my friends were in a heavy metal band, always wearing black vests and army pants. When I started wearing more pastel things to transition into lolita they would complain and tell me not to come to their shows or tell me what to wear/come round to pick out my clothes.

We don't talk anymore.

>>7320715
yeah, i'm thinking the hentai bit was probably the weirdest. Though maybe having someone ask to see your clothes who doesn't dress in that style is weird? I don't know, never had any one ask

>>7320718
Thank you anon :) He's really sweet and doesn't mind the way I dress at all nor get embarrassed as he dresses a bit out there himself.

Surprisingly no, he doesn't hate pastels although I really don't own much in pastel colours though. He always jokes that AP is my favourite brand. I have no clue on his 'real' stance on sweet but all I know is he dislikes punk lolita haha, I was showing him a lot of different styles and that was the only one he complained about haha. He also said aristocrat looks like dark Victorian clothing (he used to be really into Goth, he still likes the music but prefers punk atm).

That's really bizarre! Why do they hate pastels so much? I'm glad you moved on anon and found more accepting friends. What lolita styles did you end up getting into? May I ask what music you are into nowadays also, I'm always curious what people like to listen to?

>>7320734

I don't think I've ever seen a punk lolita coord I liked, they all just looks like ita hottopic stuff.
I'm still into sweet, although I'm being half converted to classic by a friend, a lot of classic stuff can be coorded well with sweet items for a more mature sweet look thankfully.

I'm into industrial mostly recently. Been listening to uberbyte and hocico. Though I like other types of music as well.

>>7320718
>metal scene
>Not wearing shirts from the Mountain.

Random new-comer to the thread posting from West Los Angeles (Culver City). I know many people in the local thrash/death/black metal scene, listen to some of the most extreme music, etc., etc., and I regularly wear this shirt to metal shows.

>mfw all the metalhead dude's GFs oogle and are amazed at my shirt
>mfw my face is a t-shirt

I lurk this board mainly because there's a girl who...though she hasn't talked to me for a while...I think because of social anxiety...was into lolita dresses and things. I was foolish and would tease her sometimes, not taking into enough consideration her anxiety issues, and I think she always got the impression that I looked down on her for liking fluffy things like Lolita, probably given that I am a "metalhead" with the long curly hair/beard who rides a sport bike...so I lurk to kind of learn more about it, so that I can be supportive, if we end up talking again...things didn't end on bad terms or anything, just faded out.../rant

>>7320745
>>7320745
for reference, here is a track that I actually really like for its rhythm and movement. Tsjuder is one of the most "extreme" black metal acts from Norway, though there are many much more subtle, gloomish atmospheric bands in the genre. Saging for double post/off topic, but just so you know I'm not using "metal" referring to "Suicide Silence" or some such...

http://youtu.be/5vw0u9ubLFk

"Smell the raw and rotten air
Going through your veins
Feel the blood dripping..."

>>7320745
>bullying a fujo you're secretly in love with
I hate you. Are you like 14?

>>7320751
Whatever hate you believe you possess toward me pales before the history of self-hatred I have for myself, if that helps. Maybe the word "hate" is used lightly on this board, but to me, it is not a light word.

I'm 21, currently. When I say social anxiety, I mean clinically-diagnosed-level serious. Anything and everything that would have been considered normal fun and games was (as she much later told me) "teasing." Likely, because of the lack of social experience she had. I've apologized gravely since, and she has apologized for not standing up for herself more, to allow my communication with her to be healthy. She knew my intentions, and so do I. Many a love poem was written to her.

Last I heard she was being a social butterfly at her uni, but I get the feeling she wants to leave who she met in her "caterpillar" stage in the past, where it probably belongs...

polite sage for off-topic.

>>7320739
I agree and I think that's part of the reason he hates it plus it's quite removed from the punk atheistic we don't have hot topic here but even still hear of it's horror. I'm glad you stuck with sweet and it's nice hearing that your leaning towards mature sweet too. Even AP releases dresses that fall in the classic sweet/mature sweet category.

That's interesting, I wouldn't expect that for a sweet lolita.

they spend all of their money on used jfashion purchased from girls who used them in ageplay fetish sex, a lot of them confessed to having sex for money, attending con groupsex parties, and want to be famous at all cost.

one tripfag here even resorts to profiting off of the sympathy people hold for disabled CHILDREN

can't judge a book by it's cover, these girls dressed like your grand mother would snatch a dollar out of a orphan's hand to put towards their hermes handbag collection

>>7320760
Haha, sucks to be you. Luckily MY middle school fujo crush is now even more of a worthless fuckup than back then, while I'm the one that's gone on to become a popular athlete.

>>7320764
Uhm...I'm not the one with the social anxiety. I'm the single guy who rides motorcycles all over the mountains and has awesomely open and deep friendships with all kinds of people because I'm comfortable talking about my feelings...I hope your athleticism brings you peace.

pic semi-related, not my rat, but both the grill and I love rats and animals in general.

>>7320760
That's really sad that your situation didn't work out and at the time did not fully release that your joking around was hurting her deeply. I'm really glad she blossomed and beat her anxiety.

My partner suffers from social anxiety of a similar level due to his experiences/ch ildhood but he is slowly getting better, it can be very frustrating and hard to deal with though and he falls into periods of depression.

Oh also here is related song http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=nzxJ5YvYfx4

>>7320767
I'm referring to how your fujo is now a cool girl and you're still pining for her

>>7320771
she prob just lost her virginity and stopped basing her life around music genres, fashion styles, video games, card games w/e entertainment she viewed as life defining

ever have a 19 year old girl approach you and try to open up convo? it's pretty sad what their life is based on and their teenage angst just aimed randomly at some percieved notion that "mainstream" people hate them and their clothes....it's just clothing though...and nobody hates you for it.

that goes for all of /cgl/

>>7320769
*warm hug*
Yeah, I'm really sorry about it, too. Not just sorry that I harmed another person, but also, in a sort of selfish way, I guess, that I've lost someone whom I felt I could be really open with.

Funny/sad you should link that band. She said that she liked the Cure, when I was speaking about the financial structure of the music industry, and how bands I used to really enjoy, like Linkin Park, are actually chosen by record companies to prey on the insecurities and fears of young people (like they did with me) by singing about really common emotional problems young people experience.

I said, "Doesn't it just seem weird that someone 30 years old would be singing and screaming about breaking up with a girlfriend? Or frustrations about growing up? 'Look at me, I'm in the Cure. I'm emotional and middle aged.'" I guess I'm rough around the edges, but the point that was intended to be objective, was apparently taken personally by her. It's not to say that she didn't do hurtful things to me, either, very hurtful things, but I digress.


>>7320771
Oh, yeah, by social butterfly, I meant she has like a handful of people whom she talks to, though she confided in me that conversation with them was admittedly topical and of little consequence, though she was learning that others are interested in her opinions, which helped with her esteem.
I would definitely consider her a success, because she is still learning. Learning means making mistakes, but that's a good thing, and not to not be ashamed of. She was ashamed of mistakes much more, before, i think. So yes, still learning, as we all are.
I could be called "cool" too, but it's meaningless. Cool is an image, and image doesn't matter.

Another rat

>tfw when single loli
>all i want is a scary punk bf
unfortunately the only music I'm into is pop-punk and lolita scares all the guys in that scene. I'm a sweet lolita too so even when I hang around punk areas I never get approached

>>7320779
I step off /fa/ for a couple of seconds to laugh at plebs, and I see your gorgeous trip here! Nice seeing you sieg!

>>7320767
You sound fuckin' awesome.

I think dating a lolita or a person into J-fashion would be fun. Im heavy into it myself and would like it if I could go to outings with a lolita while im in my aristo or ouji coord. Plus if we are about the same size, she could wear my stuff!

>>7320781
Okaay so you sound exactly like the "insecure young people" being targeted by the bands and to be honest, your self loathing is entirely out of proportion to actual events and more influenced by your feelings for her by the sounds of things. You both fucked up and hurt each other. By your own admission, you didn't actually realise that she was super sensitive and took whatever you said seriously, so it's not like you would have - or could have - changed your past behaviour. Likewise, she also couldn't speak up and tell you that for ages. So you done fucked up, but life goes on and you can't hate yourself forever over it. Keep the channels of communication open and you may be friends in the future, but both of you are probably still feeling pretty raw so of course it takes time for healing/forgiveness, and it may be that your paths have diverged forever or it may be you see her again in a similar or different context in the future. Let's be real here, you're only 21. You're GOING to fuck up an interpersonal relationship at some point again, because people do that throughout their lives, but the important thing is to learn, apologise, and not do it again.

>>7320693
That's not normal, at all. Consider: he doesn't actually know you beyond a casual acquaintance, and is trying to dictate how you act and dress. Doesn't even typing that out indicate to you that this person is weird and inappropriate?

I'd love to date a lolita since I adore the fashion to an extent, although I have no idea how to find them here in Sweden and I'm not all that interested in going to conventions anymore since I'm an old fuck. Such is life.

Lolita looks ridiculous. It's like guys wearing fedora.
I'd never date one, but I'm dating a cosplayer.

>>7320763
Aren't you from /pol/?

>>7321195
I am luckier than I am awesome to have worked through my feelings in such a way that I am not always angry at myself for making mistakes, which leads to a lot of good things. I wish it were the same for everyone.


>>7321204
You seem pretty bent about me being a jerk, and I can accept that I am at times.

I hated myself, yes, when I was 14. She was 23 and still had those feelings. Feelings I walked through with her so she could get closer to the other side. Self-love is the ultimate goal, and it's not as simple as saying "I love myself!" Over and over. Everyone has doubts, and everyone makes mistakes.

"You're GOING to fuck up an interpersonal relationship at some point again....but the important thing is to learn, apologise, and not do it again."

Though it's contradictory, yes, I agree with your sentiments. Take care.

Look at this mouse <3

>>7320779
She didn't lose her virginity to me, that's for sure, though I was her first kiss. It was lovely. She didn't start our first conversation, but the first one we had was over FLCL.

>>7321216
I'm a Swedish loli and nobody will date me b/c of me wearing lolita ;_; where are all the people like you hiding?

>>7321293
Don't reply to that guy, he's a troll

>>7320781
ugh you sound awful
better hope i never see you around culver

I think a lot of gamers and anime fans would be into dating lolitas, because it gets wrongly recycled into character designs all the time so they sort of get a 'taste' for it, I guess? Guys into the goth aesthetic are up for any crazy kind of clothing, too.
Same for people that like cosplayers.

I don't know, most guys that have hit on me have had a bit of a thing for anime girls, fortunately none have been the gross weeb cliche either, or rockers that just liked it because I looked 'alternative'.
I've also been approached by guys with that sort of fetish interest, because it's got a lot of frilly socks or that maid/little girl appeal.

Sometimes it's nicer if the person doesn't really have an interest in lolita when they meet you because it means they aren't just collecting you as a specimen of lolita. But that also means they'll have to learn about it through you rather than you having an instant shared interest, so it goes both ways.

>>7321297

Really? I find that fairly odd. I mean sure, people are always pretty judging when it comes to the fashion but if you hang out with people that go to conventions and such I'm pretty sure there would be someone willing to date you.

I'm hiding in southern sweden, it's very comfy here.

>>7320713
You. Are. So. Lucky.

>>7320354
EW wtf oh god I would have dumped him in an instant

>>7320648
No, it's not. Although I encourage my boyfriend to explore alternative fashion (not necessarily Japanese). He likes it but he's very shy.

>>7320258
Wait, is my boyfriend supposed to be paying for my choice to be in an expensive ass fashion? Fuck. I've been doing it all wrong by paying for everything myself.

>>7320648
No, not really...but my more intense coords are ones I wear specifically for dates, etc. He dresses nice for those too, so it isn't like I'm in my frills with makeup and he's in torn jeans and dirty shirts.

I'd really like to get him into steampunk or aristocratic...he'd look so good!

I would be willing to date a lolita, and would even enthusiastically help my lolita inclined girlfriend, but it's not a make or break thing

>>7321311
Good to know, thanks for the heads up.

>>7321338
Oh, you're from around here? Neat. Wonderful little town we have, here.

And that's fine. My opinions and actions offend many people, as do many of yours. For example: If you eat meat, you are probably despised by millions of people worldwide, just as I am despised here for splitting lanes in traffic while thousands of others fade into the distance.

If you're threatening me...do you realize you're on the internet? You're taking what I'm saying a little personally, and I hope whatever is the /real/ source of your anger (It's definitely not me) gets approached soon, not for my sake, but for yours.

I'd like to try dating a Lolita
but there is NO HUMAN WAY to go out of your way to look to date a lolita that will not come off as creepy.

So fuck it.

>>7320648
I think your answer really depends on your SO. I know my boyfriend loves to be comfy and doesn't give two fucks about how he looks, as long as he's comfortable and has a shirt and pants on. I don't push it on anyone to dress nicely, since I'm dressing up for myself only.

Unless we're going to a really nice restaurant. Then I make him wear a dress shirt.

>>7322922
Pretty much this. I didn't become a lolita until after I got married(We're both cosplayers and meet at con) Since I don't have a whole lot of lolita, I usually just save it for when we're going out doing nicer things. Nice dinner, museum trips, nicer parties, etc.... So he's already kind of dressing up anyway.

My husband's totally okay with lolita since he knows it makes me happy and likes seeing me dress up. He's even gotten in the habit, since I like to do a lot of thrift shopping, He always looks at the shoe section hunting for shoes I can wear for lolita. He even found me a nice looking blouse the other day. I think he likes hunting for basic things and accessories because he knows they're things I can wear with other stuff besides lolita.

I'm so surprised this many people are interested in dating a lolita?...I thought I was going to die alone, but perhaps not.

>>7322969
Aaaaw that's so cute! I hope I get an SO like that!

>>7322906
Well, there is, but it requires time, effort, and money

>research lolita fashion
>buy yourself some fancy duds (aristo, boystyle, or whatever)
>look into joining a comm
>prove to them you are in it for the fashion and not to be creepy
>go to meet-ups, act like a normal person who is NOT THERE to look for a lolita gf
>make friends, be surrounded by cute lolitas
>they will like you because you are not a creeper, will want to date you

>>7320713
are you me
except my bf is short and he's grown his hair out
>except im probably gonna break up with him in like a week or 2

>>7322859

that's nice.

>>7320409
Answered like a true lolita.

>>7320231
o ya i remember dat thread

>>7320262
>abloo bloo kawaii lolitas don't want me.
Shut the fuck up

It's like dating a girl who wears lolita. That's it.

The style is nice but all the kawaii food shit gets kind of annoying after a while. Make me a steak woman, not a fucking macaroon cupcake. I'm kidding of course. I would rather be dating a lolita than someone who doesn't know anything about anime or Japanese stuff.

>>7323876
>Make me a steak woman, not a fucking macaroon cupcake.

Lol'd harder than I should have.
And I also agree. It's nice/comforting to meet people who are a part of some of the same subcultures.

I would love to date another Lolita. Talk frills together, have tea, share wardrobe... It's a dream come true

The one girl I know who is a lesbian in my area is a friend and I wouldn't date her. We're not each other's types.

Someday I'll find more Texan lesbian lolis

Yes please

>>7320641
unrelated but wow those are really cute tights

>>7322906
Just dress in Atelier Boz shit, act like a gentleman and show up at a meetup and you can basically pick freely from every girl there

>tfw there is no one to be ojousamas with

dating lolitas 101:

>so, what do you do for fun?
i try to perfect the craft of dressing like beautiful japanese women, by binding my breasts, wearing spanx/a corset, used wigs, and meet up with other girls who do it, then criticize each other anonymously on the internet when i get home.
>........????......where do you work?
starbucks/sell panties/ camgirl/ have a sugar daddy (results from polls taken over the years)
>you're a horrible person
yeah, but at least im cute-ish, ok fine at least i look better than JNig
>wtf, that chick is hot
okay fine, i look like a flabby out of shape jnig
>n-no? no you don't
okay fine at least i look better than Pixyterri!!!
>i guess, but you're still in the class of unattractive women. it's like a race for last place

I don't visit /cgl/ a lot, let alone lolita threads, but I really like the look of classic and gothic lolita. The effort it takes to put together alone earns my respect, and the elegance earns my affection, I guess.

I've never met a lolita in the Great North, though. I haven't been to Toronto much, mind you. Maybe I'll see one at AN or something and elope.

I think having a cute lolita-dressing girlfriend would be loads of fun. She could teach me how to dress in loli and I'd love to try ouji or general boy styles~ Classic and such looks so pretty.

Then we could do cute lesbian cosplay couples, like Sailor Neptune and Uranus.

I've thought about investing and heading to the London com public meets, since I know some cool people who already go to some of them. But I need to save up a bit more before I can drop that much on an outfit and look frilly. Plus everything I want seems to be impossible to find IW items.

>>7320504
Nah, not really. Most Lolitas are pretty normal in terms of upkeep, and buy their stuff on their own budget. I've yet to meet a single Lolita who drags their SO out shopping and demands he buys her burando. You honestly don't have to learn much as a Lolita's SO, either.
I got into Lolita after I got married, and while my husband was confused as hell for a while, it didn't take much learning on his part to get things. Going to a Lolita 101 panel at our local comm helped a lot to bridge the information gap between us, and now he understands some of my corny Lolita jokes and shit. If you can wrap your head around the different parts of the outfits, some basic styling rules, and what the 3 main substyles are, you should be more than fine. No Lolita is going to expect you to know all about the history of the fashion or anything like that!

>>7320763
>>7320779
>>7326091

Stop shitposting.

I wouldn't date a lolita...

But if by some chance I could have a lolita bro that would chill with me, get drunk, and talk about cute stuff with me.... That'd be pretty awesome

Occasional platonic cuddling would also be alright I guess.

I'm a streetgoth / avant garde and i would date a lolita if she was cute enough
>tfw no qtloligf

>>7326994
It's okay Anon. Everyone knows that sperg heil is legitimately awful

I dated a lolita. She was from a very wealthy family. Lolita didn't define her, but it was definitely part of a suite of nerdy hobbies... video games, anime, etc. I thought I would marry her, but it didn't work out.

>>7321159
>tfw met my boyfriend in high school before i was a lolita
>tfw he was a punk
>tfw now he tries to help me coord dresses for "normal" outfits and knows Kyary songs

Feels good. You can do it anon! Try meeting boys while not wearing Lolita, tho, because lets be real you look like an adorable cloud of cotton candy which, in their eyes, prolly can't roll with them.

>>7327145

Sounds like the opposite of my situation. I found a guy who actually wasn't put off by me being a lolita, and we were both from wealthy families (similar social backround, which is nice). But he didn't put any effort into the relationship, so it didn't work out. I feel like I'm never going to find someone who likes me for myself, and yet doesn't suck at relationships at the same time. Sometimes I get really depressed about it, to be honest.

>>7327207
Lolita doesn't seem that outlandish to me, but then.. I'm on 4chan. I want to say "It's not that big of a deal to people, is it?" but it could be quite a bit worse than I think.

In any case, don't give up. It's at least as good a thing as it is bad - you stand out, and you're a rarity. People who are interested are less likely to pass up the chance of telling you, as opposed to some run of the mill girl.

>>7320231
A very good friend of mine is currently dating another friend of ours who's lolita. I remember him liking her since he first laid eyes on her, wearing lolita coord, but she was still with her weirdo ex who dressed up with steampunk influences...

>>7327540
Lots of people find dressing unconventionally embarrassing. I've had boyfriends who have refused to go out in public with me because they found the attention embarrassing. I guess it doesn't help that I live in a rather rural area, so, people who stick out draw a lot of attention here. Or, maybe my age. I'm in my mid-twenties. Some people think it's unacceptable to still be dressing counter to culture as it were, at my age.

>>7320648
Not for me. He likes to wear his baggy, comfy clothing and I quite like the contrast to be honest, the cute and frilly girl next to a regular boy.

>tfw no delusional lolita cosplay gf who i can feel normal around

>>7320664
HELLO

>>7320686
quite possibly the greatest cutsew aatp has ever produced (i want the long sleeved one SO badly)

>>7320354
You're halfway there. I just try to avoid men entirely, even the "nice" ones have creeper rapey tendencies. Their gender can't help it.

That said I'm currently dating an older guy because he makes mad bank and isn't afraid to throw dosh around to make me happy so...you know, it's your call.

I'll probably just stick to fooling around with girls on the side.

>>7328054
troll/10

>>7328054
i'm feminine, does that count? can we fool around? pls respond

>>7328054
>Makes false stereotype about men
>"Their gender can't help it!"
>Proceeds to talk about dating an older guy just for their money
>This is totally not a stereotype against women

Troll/Troll

>>7328310
Dating a guy and thinking most men are creeps are not mutually exclusive. I can see how that anonette can think that.

>>7320345
> sometimes she goes insane

That's all womenfolk, dude

>>7320511

Off-topic question but I'm curious for the latest Rosaire Mary drama. Who is Mary??

>>7323876
>Not cooking steaks yourself
Not a real man.

>>7328414
+1 yeah bro

>>7328378
Women are fucking crazy, bro. Goes double for lolita girls.

No offense but I wouldn't date any of you, you're all too catty and emotionally insecure.

I realise that none if you read my post. That's okay. I only posted in this thread to see if any cute lolitas would be interested in a guy who loves lolita but doesn't know enough about boy style to dress himself. I dress interestingly in other ways though, usually my attire is streetgoth, or avant-garde, but I've been known to dress in cosplay, steampunk, or street wear at conventions. I would really like to KNOW of a girl who is into anime/games/visual kei/cosplay/ttg/fashion/lolita so I might come off as anything but a weaboo to somebody, let alone date one.

I'll buy you clothes
I'll buy you brand
I'll buy you lemonade
I'll buy you drugs

Let me love you

>>7329183
I would dress up for you if you paid for my burando but you are probably not in Texas, sigh.

>>7328408
I think they meant Marie from ODIP

>>7329214
I guess I should specify, I'm in southern Ontario, Canada.

>>7329183
>Let me love you
>Let me love you
>Let me love you
I feel very comfortable and secure when I hear males say things like this.

Wait, no I don't.
It's actually terrifying.
I fear for the girl that is naive (or young) enough to "give you a chance".

>>7329228
Thanks, I guess I'll just go die alone now.
AriZona Tears

>>7329183
dude, creepy

this is not how you into women

I see them at conventions and get intimidated by their good looks and assume that they'd want me to make a lot of money, and I'm not confident in my ability find a good job, which has contributed to making me feel worthless in general. The world is going to toss me aside in favor of more experienced, connected, dominant individuals. That's the impression I get as a 19 year old college student seeing everyone else so sure of themselves.

Also, I assume they get a lot of guys approaching them, so I'll probably just be another "creeper".

Maybe I'm just jaded from going on /r9k/ so much but I feel like I'm worthless to women (and people in general). Probably contributes to my femdom fantasies of being told what to do, and being told that I did a good job and made someone feel good.

>>7329526
>I see them at conventions and get intimidated by their good looks and assume that they'd want me to make a lot of money
Most of us don't care about how much money a guy makes, ones that do are crazy and you probably shouldn't try and date those ones.
>lso, I assume they get a lot of guys approaching them, so I'll probably just be another "creeper".
A lot of cute lolis get approached a lot, but if you are nice and don't make any weird moves and have a good conversation with them they won't think you're creepy.
>Maybe I'm just jaded from going on /r9k/ so much but I feel like I'm worthless to women (and people in general)
Don't feel worthless! I go to /r9k/ and am amazed by how bitter and pathetic most of the people there are. Most of them are as bitter as they are and think they're worthless either because one girl in their life made them feel worthless, they weren't confident enough to start a conversation with a girl, or the only girls they know are whores/clubsluts and they think all of them are the same.
Remember that /r9k/ is just a circlejerk of pure bitterness and sadness and that things in the real world are not like what you hear there.

>>7326096
there's lots of us here in the GTA :)

>>7329526
Why do everyone assume that women are money thirsty ? It's pretty childlike to wait for your boyfriend to feed you and dress you.
My boyfriend and I earn the same amont of money as students and he will not buy me brand because 1) he simply don't know what to pick 2) he buys things for himself like clothes, shoes and new tattooos. It's normal' it's HIS money, I can't expect him to spend HIS money in MY hobby, plus I wouldn't like it I think.

>>7329526
Honestly, any good person wouldn't expect you to pay for their hobbies, though gifts are always nice.

From a young college student to another young college student, don't let people's high expectations get to you, it's okay to be unsure of yourself, just work and seem eager to please.

As for the worry of being a con-creep, I can't really say much about that. Personally, I'm a little more wary of dudes in general during cons because I /really/ don't want a high level autist/weeb tagging along so--

>>7329562
>>7329580
>>7329581
Thanks. Looking back at my comment, I probably came off as rude generalizing like that. Sorry if that was the case.

I had a girlfriend whose mom wanted to know what field I was getting into and what job I wanted and I didn't really know. It stressed me out so much and gave me constant headaches. I probably overreacted of course, but I tend to assume that I don't live up to peoples' expectations and they don't like me for whatever reason.

>>7329572
well, that's good news. i might approach one of you, some day.

>>7329526
it's comforting to feel like you're part of a group and have people who are similar to you, but in the case of r9k it's a purely negative thing where people wallow in self pity and try to drag everyone else down with them. i spent a couple years of it being my main board and all it did was fill me with spite and anxiety.

>>7329591
ah, so that's why you were on r9k. i was in a relationship with a girl for 5 years, we started dating when we were 15. she was constantly pressuring me to get a good career so i could take care of her and it gave me a good lot of anxiety and stress. i had convinced myself she was just encouraging me to better myself, but i think it was out of self interest.

don't let one woman ruin you, they're as human as you are, and they're all different.

>>7329183
That's not how it work. Go and take some women 101 class somewhere please, you're creepy, that's not how relationship works.

>>7329595
you should! My email is in the field if you ever want a lolita to talk to before venturing into a sea of them :)

I've never really thought it was odd to be interested in what field/job a person you're interested in dating was looking towards. For a few different reasons; 1) you're looking for someone whose job is compatible with the family lifestyle you want to lead, 2) yes, income is important between /the both/ of you, depending on if you plan on being able to support children and 3) the limitations certain jobs place on things like where you're going to live, leading back to reason number one. Dunno guys, be honest. It's an important factor. At least, it isf you're thinking about long term commitment and/or marriage.

>>7322995
>>7326060
therein lies the problem if you want to be "normal" and just date a girl who likes lolita

>>7329685
Dependong on what's your life ideal. For me, an healthy relationship with semone I love is more interesting than his/her income and job. It comes way after that, but maybe it's because I don't want to settle down and marry at the moment. Sure, having a good paying job is important, but it's not the number one thing you want to check on the person you love.
I'd honestly rather live alone than in a meh relationship, because I really don't care for his/her money, exception being if our relationship becomes meh after having childre. In that case I'm sure I can deal with that at least for my own child's sake.

My girlfriend has expressed interest in lolita (mostly just cosplay for sex), and I've always admired the style as well, but I'm too tall to pull it off myself. I love the idea of her contrasting my dark street style with big cute dresses and bows, but the price, not so much.

>>7329712
read the sticky
>bodyline
>fan+friend
>second-hand
Lolita isn't even expensive to begin with

>>7329701
Oh, I completely agree. By no means am I trying to encourage someone to settle down with someone purely for the fact that they tick all the right boxes. I was just pointing out to the other comments above who were saying that someone who is concerned about a persons job is crazy and or money grubbing. That's really not the case, for the majority of women. Besides that, men do it too.

Love is important, but, you can't live off of love. I've known so many people who start out with "loving" relationships that become hellish because that was the only thing they had going for them in the relationship. Life does not shit fairytales, ladies and gentlemen. Sometimes it's really okay to be realistic, and accept that money and having things in common with your partner are important. I'm with you, much happier being alone than being in a "meh" relationship just to be in a relationship.

>>7329715
>bodyline
eaugh
We've discussed the other options, though.

>>7329720
If it's for cosplay sex bodyline is good enought and easily machne washable tought

>>7329721
Well she likes the ero style, but I don't like halfass cosplay. I want her to have something that's an actually presentable sweet coord for going out and meets and shoots. Contacts, wig, brand, petti, headdress, the works.

>>7329719
Thank you for saying something I coun't put that succinctly(are you shitting me, Chrome, I spelled that correctly?). It's the advice all the older people tell me. It's nice to find a girl who understands that you're between jobs, but it's even better if she also plays a part in that motivation to find one. A girl not wanting to kiss you because you "accidentally forgot" about the job interview doesn't make her a prostitute.

>>7329753
>A girl not wanting to kiss you because you "accidentally forgot" about the job interview doesn't make her a prostitute.
Did you have this happen?

>>7329753
No problem. It gets to me whenever I see this on threads. Blind leading the blind. It's like watching kids get dogged at school for being academic, or when people ditch a particular friends for getting someone out of their life who was fucking it up. Thinking with your heart is one thing, but when the brain isn't involved; you're proving yourself a right idiot. And vice versa. Though, copslay and lolita doesn't attract the most mature of people sometimes though, especially on here. I have a sneaky suspicion it's a bunch of sixteen-year-old's giving out relationship advice as if they know what the fuck they're talking about.

>>7329784
Wow my English. It's late. But you catch my meaning. TL;DR fucking kids who think they're Dr. Phil

>>7320458

>>7329581
>Why do everyone assume that women are money thirsty?

Probably from posts like >>7328054
>I'm currently dating an older guy because he makes mad bank

Any who, I feel kind of like >>7329526 on the talking to girls at con aspect. While I am looking for a GF, I'm afraid of approaching them because I don't want them to feel I'm solely trying to date them. That and coupled with the fact that I am just shit at talking to other people in general, I adopted a "Don't speak unless spoken too" mentality even with my hobbies. The last thing I want to do at a con is strike up a conversation with a girl about fuck all nothing and turn out I'm being a creeper.

>>7329973
Honestly, some girls here are trying to be edgy desu~ and are talking out of their ass. If they aren't, then that's really sad.
And a lot of them say that they met "ew a creeper xDD" at a con to get attention and an opportunity to say how they were "lyk almost raped". Also, a lot of them don't know how to decline an offer and instead run away and complain about creepers when all they have to do is say no firmly, not that "perhaps later ehehe :3" bullshit Actual creepers don't strike up a conversation about nothing, they get to the point,

>>7329562
My ex bf had the mentality that "all girls are gold diggers". That, coupled with his insecurity, we didn't last long. He had a ton of issues with trust, and he'd constantly accuse me of only wanting money out of him, when that really wasn't the case.

I never asked him for anything. My hobbies were always paid for with my own money. But there was this one time where he bought me a fairly expensive gift, and near the end of our relationship, he got really bitter that he ever bought it for me, and he accused me of being a gold digger, etc, even though I had paid for a lot of our dates together and even bought him expensive gifts as well.

I bought him things because I wanted to, and I don't regret spending that money. It hurt to find out that he didn't think that way about me.

I'm going to stop before I end up posting a huge wall of text, but our breakup was pretty recent, and my heart still hurts :'(

>>7330091
meant to reply to >>7329526

>>7329635
They have those?

>>7330091
Damn, sorry to hear that. You sound like you had good intentions and he was just too suspicious/insecure about things.

I would love to date a girl like that. It's odd that he bought you that gift and then got mad about it later.

I would like to think that dating a lolita would be an interesting and fun experience, in a good way. Sure it would be different, and we would probably get a few stares, but that's not really off putting. I'd probably even dress up with her if we were able to find something that we both liked, regardless of whether or not it was pricey or not (Which it would be of course). I don't know much outside of styles and just the names of several big brands, but I would be willing to learn and be active in her interests.

Sadly, what I've seen from the threads about community horror stories, most local Comms in the NY/NJ area seem to be nightmares. Such is life on the East coast.

BUMP

>>7330892
You seem to have a really good attitude about it, gl!

I'm glad I let my heart go when I met the guy who felt right, instead of holding out for a frill seeker, but I often feel bad when we (well, I) get stares and attention in lolita. He is NOT used to that at all, but tries to be a good sport.

>>7329183
was that a yung lean reference?

>>7335057
Thanks for your support and kudos to your boyfriend for being so understanding!

Even having just a friend that was into Lolita and wore it would be fun. It's one thing to read over the stickies and online guides, but having someone who was actually active in the fashion would make it a lot easier to learn. Regardless if it was just a side hobby or a full blown lifestyle to that particular person, I think it'd be great to learn and share new interests with someone.

>>7330892
>Such is life on the East coast.

If rent wasn't so stupidly expensive here in southern California i'd tell you to move over here.

It would be amazing to have an all lolita community apartment or something like that. Most cosplayers i know already found housing together, but that's just because we're all still in uni.

>>7336711
Honestly, the property taxes here are pretty insane in New Jersey too, so I get what you mean, rent is also high depending on what area you live in here too. I'd have a hard time saying no to warm weather almost all year 'round, and somewhat close beaches though, winter is brutal this time of year.

Having an apartment community sounds like a great idea as well, especially when you've got close friends to break the bill with. And in this case, possibly sharing clothes as well.

I would love to have a qt boyfriend who wants to let me dress him up and cuddle and stuff but there's nobody in my area or outside of my area that drives. (613)

Did anyone have any special plans or anything similar for Valentine's day?

>>7338660
Katsucon! But holy shit
>bitch about no punk bf in this thread a while ago
>recently get scary as fuck metalhead boyfriend
>and he likes lolita too, such a good feel
>but now that I actually have someone to spend valentines with I'M ALREADY GOING TO KATSUCON
>fuck

>>7338665
Take boyfriend, solve problem?

>>7330892

just avoid the comms, there's a lot of lone lolitas in east coast

>lone lolita from nyc

>>7335240
Yes, it is. Any takers?

>>7328054
Please tell me this is a guy trying to make girls look bad...

I REFUSE TO BELIEVE GIRLS THINK THIS WAY!

>>7320763
go away fatty

>>7326091
now sieg, you know you have no room to talk about looks!
>pig related

>>7320270
My boyfriend makes more than me, but it's hard for an entry level engineer to make more than an entry level engineering manager (MBA, one year older than me).

>>7329183
>attire
First of all stop using that word, it reeks of fedora.

>>7329183

>>7338759
That I've got no doubt about, how does it feel not to belong to a comm? I'm sure it depends on the girl, but is it a bit more intimidating going out alone? Given that we're from the same general area, I know the people up here can be pretty rough and nasty.

On a semi-related note, a question for lolita's in temperate areas. Do you tend to "hibernate" during winter? With the below freezing weather lately, I'd imagine it would be somewhat hard to dress nicely and stay warm in several feet of snow. I'm also assuming that Spring is probably one of the best seasons to dress for since it's not too hot/too cold?

What even are the point of these threads? They're never deplorable enough to look like /soc/ but no one ever actually hooks up.

I think the the total amount of lolitas I've seen in my country (I mean serious lolitas not just some let's wear some dress bullshit on the few cons I've been to) is about zero.
Fuck I hate living in Eastern Europe.

>>7339659
Well, I mean the way I see it is like this for us guys:

-You've got the guys who just throw themselves and look desperate/creepy/off-putting and thus don't get any results for obvious reasons.
-The few of us who drop our locations just cross our fingers that there might be someone else in the area that might be interested enough to exchange emails or whatever
-Finally there's the lurkers who are probably too afraid of ending up in the first category.

That, and people don't always want LDR since it's not always fulfilling or what someone wants.

I think threads like these rekindle the small hope inside of us that says "Maybe I'll finally meet a girl/guy in my area that likes what I like, and could be friends or more!" That's how I take it at least.

>>7339688
Seeing it spelt out, never really thought of it like that in terms of the last two categories. Whenever I do check these threads and lurk like a ghost I only see rampant examples of type 1, though it's been a while since i've returned to /cgl/. You got a good attitude about things anon, props to you.

>>7320231

I 'dated' an ex-lolita (quit because of ED I think) but still somewhat into the style/dressed Mori. We were in that weird quasi fwb. At the start of the relationship we both made it clear that we weren't looking for anything serious but I think I accidentally fell in love w/ her. Anyway I turns out she wanted to go serious w/ another boy she was fwb w/ and I was cut up and haven't really spoken to her since (maybe six months?). Even though I'm seeing another girl now I still think about her and the way she laughed and the way she smelt all her frilly vintage dresses and it makes me feel bad. I remember one time we were I bed telling shitty jokes and I made her laugh so much she kicked her legs around. God I'm a mess. One of the sweaters I used to lend her all the time still smells like her perfume. Fuck.

I think I've drunkenly >tfw about her on /cgl/ before. I think I only browse /cgl/ now and keep a meticulously edited classic lolita/mori folder because of some messed up self-pity complex. I do actually really like the aesthetic though. Or is it only because I makes me feel melancholy and I like to wallow in my own shit.

Sorry.

>>7339703
Are you 14 or autistic?

>>7339697
Thanks anon, I mean you're definitely right that there are often a huge number of type ones (as there would be on any other board), but from how I see it there's always just a bit more to that.

In fact, it's probably something similar from the perspective of some girls as well. I don't think it's quite an issue of "So many lolitas in [x part of the world]! Why aren't there any in my area?" as much as it is that they're probably lurking around like the guys. I'd assume it'd be something like this:

-The girls who are just the female of the first type of guys I listed, they jump at whatever chance of affection they can get (Also much less common).
-The girls that also try to semi-casually location drop to maybe find someone in their area.
-The girls that lurk for a good catch, if there even are any.

Realistically, when you (male or female) post, you've only got one shot to come off as not being desperate or creepy, while being lucky enough for there to be someone in your area to see your post. It's a baiting game for both genders, you've got to hit just the right points to draw the lurkers out.

So, I think it's a waiting game with a bit of luck thrown in, but that would be the whole picture from my perspective.

>>7339726

I have a bad tendency to overanalysis overthink things that probably makes me sound like an autist idk who cares

>>7320675
>forget dream dresses
>now my only dream is this shirt

Currently I've been rather interested in cross-dressing lolita, basically to "push my boundaries" and feel really silly, possibly at a anime con or wearing it while I DJ totally insane music.

I have never had the opportunity to speak to any lolita girls unfortunately, but I expected a lot of those girls are really nice and would be really interesting to talk to.

I tried for a little while to find some lolita girls that I could meet in my city, but I didn't have any success.