/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL

>Want to cosplay Ayano because I am in love with her design
>Kagerou anime airing only a month before Anime North and she might not even get screentime before then
>Her outfit is plain enough to be completely overlooked

I don't know why but nothing scares me more than the thought of spending so much time and effort on a cosplay and not have a single person recognize you

>best friend wants to cosplay with me
>he has no skills and I would end up making all of his cosplay as well as doing his make up and wig styling

We've thought of some really good cosplays to do together, and I would love to do them but he knows nothing about sewing/makeup/wigs and I know I'm going to end up doing it all for him. I really want to cosplay with him but I don't want to end up doing all the work.

We're planning on going to a local con in early February and he hasn't done anything to help with the cosplays. I don't want it to end up looking bad and having it be all my fault because I couldn't finish two peoples' cosplays in under a month.

Feels bad, man.

>>7307468
I'll recognize you if no one else does, anon

fellow kagebros are few and far between on here, but I'm still cosplaying kano for a con in may and giving absolutely no fucks

don't give up hope

>this cold-ass climate didn't bother me until I went to a convention in a warm city in the winter

>>7307468
I was planning on cosplaying Ayano at AN too, anon! Too bad I changed my plans.

You shouldn't feel discouraged just because a lot of people wont recognize it. I'd definitely ask for a picture if i see any kagepro

>am looking forward to going to A-kon this year with a buddy of mine
>I'm going as Bob Belcher and going to be /pol/ when he cosplays as /v/
>worried about seeing my ex and her new bf
>think in my head if a fencer friend of theirs will be with them and if I'll get into a fight with him
>secretly want to get into a fight with him

Well, the other one's now in auto sage.

I guess this one can continue?

>>7307721
AN? Anime North?

>tfw there were multiple cosplayers dressed as the same character at my con
>tfw I'm the only one of them who wasn't fat and ugly

'Tis a good feel.

>>7309799
>'Tis
Did you also wear a fedora at this con

It's /fa/ related but
>moving to new apartment
>have tons of clothes that overflow from my two closets and three dressers
>years of collecting clothes/shoes/jewelry only to have so many that I never get a chance to wear
>don't want to move all of these clothes with me
>feel badly about giving them to charity
>ask fb friends if they want some
>they haven't had brand new clothes for years
>give away $3000 worth of fashion
>they're super happy with their hauls
>post pictures of their new outfits on fb and tag me in them
>good vibes
Still have a few more packages of clothes to ship out.
It's pathetic though, cause
>new apartment with walk in closet
>still manage to fill up both closet spaces
At least the dressers are a bit less cramped..

>tfw get haircut today
>think i`d be super super cute with new haircut
>tfw no glasses can`t see anything while hairdresser is cutting
>tfw i think you`re cutting too much
>tfw bangs too short
>tfw tfw tfw

>tfw there was an anon in the other thread that could have been your friend but they had no Tumblr and they haven't responded since

>>7309873
I can relate to a tiny extent, on the cramping.

>get rid of all the ugly clothes i don't wear
>fill closet completely with fashionable stuff i like
>can't reach the back of the closet when there's actually things i want to wear back there now
I can get the back wall of my closet torn down and remade into a walk-in closet, but I don't have the money for that and probably won't for a year or so.

>>7310036
>>can't reach the back of the closet when there's actually things i want to wear back there now
I'm the anon you're replying to and this was exactly my issue!! Haha.

>go on deviantart to look for cosplay inspo
>almost all the pics are photoshopped so heavily it's painfully obvious
>mfw

At least take some pride in your photoshop skills and TRY to make it look realistic.... I'm not even generally very picky about shooping. It was the same drill for all of the people cosplaying the character too.

>>7310025
ARE YOU MY SPAGHETTI ANON

BABY I`M HERE FOR YOU

>>7310055
Do you have a Skype?

>>7310056
I do! what`s yours? I`ll add you.

>>7310057
...I-I'd rather add you, anon.

I'll share.
>Grew up in a hoarders house(I've shared in other threads about it)
>Mega nasty house. Like, almost call protective services level. Animals shit and piss on everything. Have to keep room closed at all times, otherwise they will destroy it.
>Grew up hoarding like my parents and grandma.
>Come into adulthood, I'm just exhausted and tired of it. Tired of hoarding and burying myself in things. I've got like, 20 totes of just random crap in a shed, and all the other crap in my bedroom, and in the patio. Some stuff I don't even remember owning. Losing things and having to buy them, end up accumulating multiples of things because stuff just keeps getting lost.
>Finally after several years of trying and working with myself, all my stuff is down to a reasonable amount. Like both my stuff and my husband's combined(including our furniture) could fit on a uhaul(Which makes stuff much easier to deal with, and the next time we move a piece of cake).
>Finally, for the first time in my life, tomorrow I'm having a yardsale. A damn YARDSALE. Almost everything that doesn't sell is going to goodwill(Outside of fabric, sewing supplies, and wigs, those can go to friends)
>MFW, I feel a sense of triumph over my past.
I know it sounds kind of stupid, but imagine watching shows like clean house and hoarders, and you see those houses? I grew up in a home like that, and now without somebody else stepping in to fix it, I've been able to do most of it on my own.

>tfw when acne starts popping up close to con
I pray for release of whatever cruel curses are upon me.

>>7310066
L - look at this spaghetti happening here.
I asked you because I`d rather add you too...

Anyways, attached a disposable email.
Shoot me an email and I`ll send mine to you?

>>7310077
Alright... e-mail sent.

>>7310069
Ah anon I'm really happy for you.

I live in a big house so I forget how badly my hoarding is but I'm going to begin the task of getting rid of things soon, you are my inspiration now.

>>7310071
god , i know that feel
>skin decides to clear up two weeks before con
>have horrible foreboding feeling
>three days before con, feel the acne starting, do everything in my power to keep it back
>day before con, monster zits
>why

I get so ticked off at girls that can't coordinate brand for shit.
I also get ticked off at girls who can coordinate bodyline flawlessly and have a wardrobe full of bodyline, when they could be buying better things.

>>7310086
It's been a long battle, but one of my favorite shows to watch in the world is Clean House. It's really helped that they have several seasons of it on Netflix. Part of me just couldn't stand living the life my parents lived. They ended up losing their house after I moved out, and I watched them pull out things I had never even seen before, wonderful things that should have been seen. Many family photos, collectibles, my grandfather's military uniform and medals, a family bible from the late 1800's. All of this was just buried away behinds years, and years of junk. I did manage to get a few things. Like one of my grandma's wedding photos from 1941's, her doll from when she was a child, her husband's Garrison cap, and a Christmas Ferris wheel that my grandma never got to display because of lack of space and fear of animals breaking it.

>tfw every girl who joins the comm is 16, likes Homestuck, Tumblr and sugary AP vomit prints. Their "lolita" coords are pieced together from stuff at the mall and badly sewn bed sheets.
>tfw I'll never have elegant lolita friends.

>>7310101
this and >>7310107 this.

If it's not girls wasting brand, or girls that deserve brand but refuse to get it, it's tumblrtards. The last meet I went to was for international lolita day and four new girls joined up. Quite a lot for our community considering we're not that big. All of them are obnoxious homestucks/superwholocks.

>>7310093
This. Every . Fucking. Time.

>>7310101
Dude, if someone wants to only buy BL, why is that not okay? As long as they arent a hot mess. Get your panties untwisted .

>>7310118
because bodyline looks like shit and you could get decent secondhand brand/offbrand for the same price.

>>7310118
I think the problem with bodyline is that because so many beginners and 'itas' gravitate towards there because it's an easy accessible and relatively cheap place to shop from, the pieces they sell gain a negative reputation.
Pic related. This JSK gets a lot of hate, despite the fact it is possible to coordinate it nicely. The same goes for squirrel party, that balloon dress and antique clocks.

>>7310120
Not all of it looks like shit. Why so mad? Some people are casual lolitas and don't want to drop a grand on brand. Lol seriously though, it's not that big of a deal. I find it hilarious what's in someone else's closet is upsetting you so much.

>>7310130
You are aware you can buy higher quality, secondhand stuff from closetchild for less than some of the dresses on bodyline, right? Or are you another one of those girls who think they know everything about lolita, despite only having two bodyline OPs and refuse to look for more options?

>>7310133
Let people buy what they want to buy. It's their money.
I don't understand this mentality some lolitas have that they're allowed to dictate to other lolitas about what they should or shouldn't be buying.

>>7310138
I don't either. I really can't stand bitchy ass lolitas. Holy fuck

>>7310133
I'm a girl who thinks others can buy what they want without your unwanted opinions. If they want to go through SS in Japan and branch out, that's cool. But if someone's happy being a casual lolita and buying stuff here and there from body line, what's wrong with that? I never claimed to know anything about Lolita. I've followed the fashion for a few years and my girlfriend has some dresses, but seriously, I'm just saying let spend their money on what they want. Keep your shitty attitude to yourself.

While I agree with >>7310138, >>7310127 makes a very good point. The ratio of bad to good bodyline coords is probably approx 100:1.

>tfw you ordered first lolita dress and petticoat from clobba at the start of december
>tfw still waiting for infanta to fucking ship the dress to clobba

I wanted my shit before the end of January, holy crap. The petticoat's already in stock, but jesus, Infanta, is Rose Cathedral so popular that it takes this long?!

>>7310133

Newbie lolita here, just wondering, is this even true? I look on closet child and usually all I find is some weird ita-brand looking shit, or skirts that look obviously like no one would even want to wear them for the price of a new bodyline JSK... that I actually like, instead of used, second-hand, small stains or rips brand that no one would ever want anyway... Of course I see nice pieces there too, but they are more than say the $60 for a bodyline JSK.

This week I made my first secret for behind-the-bows! It’s sorta… exciting, really. I have been reading it passively for almost a year now. It's a guilty pleasure to be cruel.

Most of the time when I even think nasty thoughts about another person I immediately feel shame disregard it... but now that I did this, it's sorta a rush.

>>7310173
Few weeks back, I did about twenty secrets. It loses its appeal fast.

>>7310176
Brands put out more than just lolita stuff, y'know. I've nabbed a few AP/Baby/Meta prints from closet child that were really great quality for £60~£80 each.

>>7310176
Don't listen to the brandwhore, honey. At the end of the day BL will be cheaper to purchase from overall. Sure, you could hunt for decent items from closetchild or taobao but then you have to factor in all of the fees you have to pay for the agent and shipping.

>>7310185
Quality > Quantity.

>>7310185
Jesus christ, just let people do what they want.
There's nothing wrong with Bodyline, but there's nothing wrong with wanting brand either.

Are people seriously having the bodyline vs secondhand brand debate again? Sigh.

>>7309873
You're a good person anon.

>>7310023
Bangs grow quicker than you think! It'll be better soon.

>>7310023
Like the other anon said, Bangs grow out fairly quickly, or you could even try getting some clip on bangs until your natural ones grow back.

>>7310205
Yup. It's so annoying.

Being able to regularly cosplay has been my dream ever since 5th grade.

A decade and a half later, I discover /cgl/ and it's made me feel like cosplay is a no fun allowed zone and I have to walk on eggshells or else I'll become a lolcow.

>bought anime figurine for boyfriend for x-mas
>expected it by now
>tfw moving to apartment tomorrow

I know it's like beating the deadest of whiny ass horses to say this, but I don't like how obsessed cgl is with how physically attractive people are.
Ever since we got invaded by /fit/, we have too many people who will rub a cosplayed in the dirt if they're not at least an 8/10 on all levels.
Like I get that looking nice and put together is part of cosplaying (unless your character is supposed to be scruffy or whatever) but do we really need to have a fit every time a girl has a bulbous nose? Or a long chin? Or maybe their legs are too skinny/chubby/short whatever.
And we really focus on female cosplayers for this, too. Obviously I know we scrutinize male cosplayers as well, but for every 1 male we bash about his looks, we bash 100 females.

Anyway, I know I probably sound like a whiny ugly fatty but it just gets so boring :( Would be nice to learn how to make your cosplay look nice rather than have people tell someone they need a nose job.

>>7310176
Just so you know, Closet Child is sort of a last resort for me when I'm looking for secondhand, You're likely to get a much better price, and a dress in better condition, if you look on the EGL sales, the facebook sales page, or even the buy/sell/trade thread here.

>>7310303
I like you, anon.
At least be constructive with your criticism and crit things that don't cost 5k to change. Y'know, like improving one's costume.

>>7310303
THANK YOU! It doesn't even piss me off because I'm fat, which I'm not, I'm really skinny from my genetics, but really? People just look like insecure bitches when they act like this.

I just bought my dream skirt, and now I'm terrified I'll hate it. This is the first time I've made a huge purchase for Lolita, I'm really nervous and I hate it.

>tfw I'm too fat to cosplay
>tfw I go to cons, really really wanting to, but just being so ashamed.
>tfw so many people prettier than I could ever hope to be. :c

>>7310069
I'm happy for you, too, anon. I grew up in a similar household - only, not nearly as bad since my mom's a neat freak and we don't have pets. My mom has this weird habit of keeping things we've long don't have any use for. Before my brother moved out of state, he helped us haul out so much junk we forgot we had. We definitely had to rent a u-hual garage for a little while until we tossed or donated everything out. There are still boxes of things in our garage, but it's definitely not as bad as it used to be.

It's amazing how much stuff one can accumulate in a short amount of time. I move around a lot and I had to learn how to do more with less. It feels nice.

Finally finished the cosplay I was working on.

unrelated: fucking bf had a reaction I didn't like when I told him my number of sex partners, even though he has twice as much

>>7310391
Yeah. One of the major problems is that my grandmother bought that house back in the 1960's, and my mom lived there since(with the exception being a couple years out of the country), my dad moved in there, and at one point we had seven people in the house(three kids, my mom, dad, grandma, and great grandma)

I wish my mom was more neat freakish. But one of the big problems was that her and my dad were super lazy. When it was seven people in the house, my poor grandma did all the cleaning. When i got old enough, I started helping, and my parents still didn't do anything. Then when I got to adulthood my grandma died, my boyfriend(now my husband) moved in with us, and my parents forced all the cleaning on me even though we all worked full time jobs(and I was even traveling out of state for work too). I had a "OH HELL NO" MOMENT, and refused to fall into the trap my grandma did. Thank god I moved out, took my pets with me(one small dog and a cat) and left them to deal with their own miserable shit house.

I think one of the big things that ticked me off was my dad's attitude that woman did the cleaning, and it was okay for him to hide in his room smoking pot and doing all kinds of other drugs. Except that shit don't cut it when we're all working.

side note, did captcha get harder for anybody else, or is it just me?

That feeling when you have no cutie pie cosplay girlfriend.

>>7310393
Oh, that hypocrisy

I have to stop overanalyzing my cosplay friends and getting jealous over every convention that I don't go to and everything that they do. I don't do this to all my other friends and family, so why does it happen within my cosplay circle?

Sometimes I get the shopping urges so high I have to seat in front of my closet to see my wardrobe and think what do I actually need to pull off a more wider variety of coords with my items.

Sometimes I feel I cant control myself... I can easily spend $2,000 in lolita in less than 2 weeks, its scary.
I think I need help but I dont have someone that I trust enough to give them my cards and money.

Does anyone else ever get in these moods where you just hate all of your cosplays? I just went on a spree of deleting pictures, and I feel like if it was a cosplay friend I'd be like "awww your cosplays are great", but with myself I'm just not satisfied or happy at all.

>Started fucking my ex/ex fuck buddy again and his girlfriend's totally riding my arse about it.
> have to lay low and avoid cons and loli meets for a few months because she and her chav friends are gonna mob me
>tfw can't give up whoredom.
>tfw all the cosplayers/lolis in my country are gonna know about it when his uggo gf blows her lid.
>tfw lonely without dick.

>tfw I self post on 4chan all the time and no one ever suspects it

>tfw looking at lolita again after being so busy with work you've been completely unable to

>>7310830
>I never selfpost on 4chan and people still think I do.
Am I too ugly by /cgl/ standards ?

>>7310557
I get this. It often happens when I'm really stressed out, and then just makes me even more stressed out. I'm an currently coming out of buying binge, and have banned my self from buying lolita until at March. I'm not going to like it,but I know I can do it.

Plus I need to focus on saving and my regular wardrobe for a while.

>>7310821
Well that's just a giant bucket of mess...
It's mostly her boyfriend/your ex's fault though, because he's the one agreeing to it all. Just keep that in mind, I guess..

>>7310464
I know that feeling, my friend.

>>7310508
It's only natural since ,I assume, you care a lot about your hobby. It's good you realise you're doing this as well. I'm sure you'll manage to keep it under control.

>>7310821
Lovely bait, my friend.

>>7310830
>>7310837
Usually not, actually.
If an ugly/mediocre cosplayer is posted, /cgl/ cries selfpost.
If you're relatively attractive and your cosplay looks good, we won't suspect a thing as long as you don't say "OMG ANYONE KNOW WHO THIS AMAZING PERSON IS??" or something.

Good job, Anon.

>>7310837
>>7310852: I just completely misread your post. Oops.
Sage for dumbass.

>start being active in my fandom/cosplay group at the end of summer
>things going pretty good
>make a friend who lives pretty close to me
>he's good at crafting and i'm good at sewing
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>he's clingy and falls for me fast asks me out but I have a boyfriend
>starts asking about cons/couple cosplays
>forcibly buys my ticket and pays for my room/board for katsucon a few months ago as a "surprise" for valentines day
>mfw katsucon is going to ruin my valentines day
>flash forward to now, end of january
>boyfriend starts asking about valentines day
ohshit.jpg
I'm pretty much fucked since I feel guilty about wasting $50 from someone and I hate getting gifts in the first place, but this is my boyfriend and my first valentines day living together, so I am pretty pissed off.

It kind of is lolita related because this did put a little dent in my wallet and I'm super pissed off about this right now. It needs to get out of my system:
>me and ex were on break since November after he had done multiple things to piss me off and hurt me
>officially end it in mid-December when I can't take his zero ambition, stinginess, and idiocy anymore
>he claims to have ordered something for me for Christmas
>implies it's "lolita"
>I feel guilted into buying him something
>he's too fat for Wal-Mart so I have to go the extra mile to find him some clothes that he asked for
>ship them out
>his package arrives
>"Oh anon I like my gifts, I promise I'll buy you your gift soon...when I get the money :)"
>uh okay, even though you made it seem like you had gotten me something I guess it's cool to lie to me like that, sure
>his friends (aka people who I had equally put effort into getting to know throughout our relationship) are all jumping ship now and are talking shit like I'm the bad guy for ending the relationship just because he was "sweet" to me
>they're forgetting the fact that I always had to do shit like spend my own money to drive for four hours to see him among other various unequal shit
>"Oh silly me guys, I should be thankful he texted me a 'I love u' every three days." /sarcasm
>still no gift to this day
I'm really fucking rustled. I can't believe I ever gave this fat useless shit my time or my money. But ofc just because I'm a woman and he's the "nice guy" that means it's the other way around just because he paid for movies once every other month. FUCK.
I wish I could get all the money I ever spent on gas, highway tolls, and food for him back. I'd probably be able to buy myself five new brand dresses.

>>7310885
Holy shit, are you me? Good job for dumping his ass. We're not fucking doormats.

>>7310265
Did you draw that, anon? Super cute.

>>7310863
>tell boyfriend
>take boyfriend with you to katsucon
>profit???

>>7310244
>>7310268
Thanks anons. I think I`ll just pin it up with a hairclip until it grows out longer.

>>7310885
what a fucking dick.

>>7310863
Ask your boyfriend to go to Katsucon together.
If your friend has problems with that then it's your cue to tell him to back the fuck off.

>>7310281
Do you want to be a good cosplayer, anon?

>tfw pierced and tattooed before I ever cosplayed
>tfw wigs make me super itchy and uncomfortable
>decided to cosplay fully armored characters from here on out to stay comfortable at cons and not spend a shit-ton of money on special makeup

Some people are willing to suffer to no end for their cosplay. I set my limit at an itchy forehead.

Not sure if this counts as a feel but I miss fit friday here on cgl, not so much those moments it turned into thinspo, but I miss seeing other people talk about what struggles they had while losing weight, and always felt motivated when I saw the progress of others. And sharing actual helpful information of course.
I can't be the only one that misses those threads, even just a little bit, right?

>have the hair to cosplay as akane
>could pretty easily get the costume
>shoulders too broad and too much tummy
>face doesn't resemble her at all

>>7311355
Ben Nyes tattoo wheel is pretty affordable. I have a chest tattoo I cover up for cosplay. Why do wigs make you itch? Sounds like you just have a cheap wig or wig cap.

I fear having pictures of me up on the internet. I know this is extremely stupid, but I genuinely hate it because I always look super retarded in photos. I think I might switch to doing mascot suits.

>>7311474
Just you.
Those threads belong on /fit/.
Doesn't matter if it's for cosplay, weight loss is weight loss and that goes on /fit/.

>>7311348
It doesn't have anything to do with /cgl/'s critiques. I'm already pretty anal about accuracy. It has more to do with things that are completely unrelated to whether or not a cosplayer is good or not.

Like what >>7310303 said about how people on this board can be insecure and petty; they'll disregard the cosplayer and costume for the sake of picking at their features (prime but extreme example is whenever TATTO's Satsuki gets posted in KlK threads). I'm not as "unique" as TATTO or anything, but I do have

Plus there's the "slut stigma" /cgl/ tacks onto certain characters. Like, just because a lot of the top tier attention whores and fake nerds do these characters, everyone who does them gets hit with the same stick.

On top of that, I see people getting masses of hate for having Facebook fanpages.

Obviously if you put yourself in the limelight, not everything you get is going to be praise and adoration. I don't mind that because "praise and adoration" isn't what I'm after, but I just want to have fun and do something I love without having to worry about people being fucking trite with shit like "I can't like her costumes because she has a beak nose", and "What? She cosplayed pre-TS Yoko? What a faker and a slut!", and "She has a facebook fan page? Must be like-whoring!"

>>7311510
Decent wigs, I think, but my skin is super sensitive. The fake hair makes my forehead, cheeks, and chin itch.

I'm not sure how likely I am to be able to cover my tattoos, they're solid black.

>>7311579
Whoops, stepped away for a bit and forgot to finish a statement there. Oh well, I mentioned it later on anyway (the beak nose)

>Tfw I kept wishing one day someone decent would cosplay Spellthief Lux and actually do it justice
>Tfw when it becomes JNig's new cosplay

It doesn't even show tits. Why.

>tfw you see qt3.14 girls at cons all the time but you can't bring yourself to talk to any of them

>>7311127
>>7310863
I tried that but he can't get work of that saturday because I guess other people already requested it off.

Seriously dont get why Dota is so rarely cosplayed compared to LoL.

I mean i've seen more fucking Teemos (who to my understanding is one of those GODDAMN IT WHY characters that you dont want on your team and dont want on the enemy team) than Linas

Is It because Dota actually took some effort to start playing until very recently?

>>7310885
>too fat for Walmart

Jesus!

>>7310885
This kind of happened to me, anon, only he pretty much asked me how to order from lolita sites and what size I would wear/what I'd like from specific sites and then he ended up buying me some shitty laptop bag that I didn't need and giving me a bunny that he said he bought that was 20 years old(atleast fucking tell me like it's sentimental or something) and then he goes on to ask me if he should buy some lolita dress for one of his friends because she likes jellyfish, and she's not even into lolita.

>>7311857
he sounds like a damn frillseeker, who thinks his friend would look cute in the dress. ugh, disgusting.

Got into cosplay a couple years back, worked my ass off on a costume that turned out OK, but nothing special.
Take it to a con, get a few recognitions, a few high-fives and a few photos taken.
I brought it home, tweaked it, improved it, spent more time with it and get another nice reaction from con-goers and have some fun.

But when i look at it all i can see is flaws. Things not quite right, things that i could've done better.

I'm now in my third year of uni (began my costume in my first year) and i'm now running 2 unfinished projects and i want to touch up my original costume and i just can't find the time.

Seeing galleries from the same con, ones with picture perfect costumes and i don't see the point in carrying on when i don't have the skill to ever make a costume that's masquerade worthy.

I just can't find the motivation.

>>7311816
It has more to do with the fact that its just not as popular. LoL is more or less the casual moba for everyone. Its like asking why there was more final fantasy cosplayers then xenosaga cosplayers back when xenosaga was still relevant.

>>7311816
I think its more that DOTA is so much harder to play and the fact that League will get them a lot more attention. Especially with Season 4 starting up and that Jinx video its hard to find someone who /hasn't/ heard of League.

tl;dr: easier to get into and/or attention

> initiate a group cosplay for next con
> buy the fabric. Everyone broke, but we make it work
> look at the wig's prices
> can't afford them in time for the con
> have to pull the plug on the cosplay for the time being

>>7311857
>and then he goes on to ask me if he should buy some lolita dress for one of his friends because she likes jellyfish, and she's not even into lolita.
Wut. That's pretty shitty, anon. I hope you made that apparent to him.

>white girl problems

>>7311883
>>7311889

you'd get plenty of attention if you did Queen of Pain even from non players.

>cosplay as Hex Maniac from X/Y
>boyfriend loves it
>really loves it
>asks me if I'll have sex with him in costume
>do it
>now he won't have sex with me unless I wear the costume

What the fuck have I done.
I haven't gotten laid like a normal human being in four months.

>>7311956
sounds like he likes the character more than you, tell him your feelings, and tell him if you dont fuck normally, there will be no fucking at all.

>>7310885
Know your feel, anon. Spent 5k in total (traveling and gifts) on my relationshit to be treated like shit. Never felt so taken for granted or neglected. Then I was made to feel guilty about dumping a ~nice guy~ that doesn't fucking respect me or even was grateful for all I've done.

I could've used all that money for con trips and buying brand for myself. Fuck.

>con in April
>only have shoes so far
>need to commish main piece
>haven't even measured myself yet
>mfw boyfriend is already halfway done with his cosplay

On a bright note, I did a shit ton of research!

Anon from >>7305272 here

I really really want to confront him about it, but there's a con coming up really soon we're going to both be at and I'm worried that if it doesn't go over well it'll be really awkward if we end up running into each other.

Fuck it I enjoy talking to him and hanging out and all, and there have been signs he genuinely does care about me but I'm fucking sick of any chances of getting to be better friends with him taking the back seat when it comes to her feelings, and just feeling like some huge secret he has to hide.

The worst part of all of this is that I KNOW it's a bad situation for me to be in, and I suppose it's mostly my fault for being too spaghetti to bring it up with him.

...but for positive feels for once I did start to get my ass in gear with getting my cosplay for said con done finally. Which is good since I haven't had much time to work on it. I'm hoping I'll get it done in time!

>>7312011
I think you need to bring it up. Awkward or not, how much more awkward and stressful for you is it not knowing where you stand? If it goes over terribly, you know where you stand, and even if you run into each other you don't have to hang out. It sucks if you lose the friendship, but if he can't deal with bullshit waah I'm gonna do something drastic if you talk to other girls chick then he probably isn't the sort of person you want to date anyway. If she's actually suicidal, she needs professional help rather than to be clinging to him like a stuck limpet, and he needs to do what a true friend would and actually encourage her to get that help rather than accepting the poisonous status quo, because that's an abusive 'friendship' right there and you don't want to get dragged into a triangle yourself.

>barely any friends even after cosplaying for a year or so
>feels bad man

I don't know what a "loli" is

>>7312050
On /cgl/, it's usually a reference to lolitas, which is a fashion style that half this board is for.
On the rest of 4Chan, it refers to underaged girls, usually 2D.

>>7312056
Is that the style where they wear a bunch of light pink and blue with colored hair and school girl clothes?

>>7312011
what state you in bb I'll be your new guy

endless asspatting of black lolitas for being mediocre.

http://nombee-zombie.tumblr.com/tagged/mail

>>7312058
Well with the color things, it can do that, yeah. That's usually sweet lolita. The school girl clothes, no not really no. It looks more princessy-doll-like.

>have all these cool ideas to do for a cosplay at cons
>never end up doing them

One of these days...

>>7312061
>jelly feel
Nombee is cute and has good coords.

>I thought I had a 93cm bust
>hey if I use a sport bra without all those layers normal bras have maybe I wont feel too big wearing my blouses/jsk
>tfw 88cm with sport bra
>all hail the sacred sport bra.

>>7312080
I think she's cute, but I just used it as an example.

even her mediocre coords get thousands of notes, and you know its because she's black.

its painful watching girls let it go to their heads.

>>7311956
It's been four months and you still haven't said anything? Stay being a doormat.

>>7312098
I disagree. There are plenty of black lolis who barely get notes. Cosplayingwhileblack has a bunch of examples of black lolis who don't get notes, despite them being black. Nombee is cute and popular like most famous lolis so she gets notes.

>>7312131
they're are plenty of black lolis who barely get notes.

but if it was a white girl in the same boring outfit, no one would of cared.

>>7312137
My point is that no one cares anyway even though they're black. Most black lolis aren't Nombee. I wish. Black lolitas with a lot of notes are popular, friends with popular bloggers, and get reblogged by other blogs with a bunch of followers. That's the basic formula for getting a lot of notes regardless of race. Like I said before, a lot of people posted on these blackcosplayer/blacklolita blogs don't have a bunch of notes even though they're black and those blogs have a lot of followers. So with the added boost of being reblogged by a popular blog, many of them still don't reach tumblr fame level of notes. Looks like being black hasn't worked out for them there.

Sage for unrelated.

Took my boyfriend's virginity yesterday. It was so awesome and hot and perfect. Now he's sleeping behind me and I already have breakfast ready for when he wakes up.
Today is gonna be awesome as well. We're going to have more sex and watch anime and have more sex and more sex and more sex.

Yesterday he had this permanent smile on his face, it was the cutest thing ever.

>>7311872
>frillseeker
That's the best term anywhere ever.
>>7311919
And yeah,I broke it off with him last week because he just doesn't get it. I'm not the jealous type or anything but he always talks about other girls who he "used to like" he even went on to compare me to one of them and so I noped out of there.

>>7313141
As a virgin fetishist myself it's the most precious and adorable thing.

>>7313164
I know right. I'm so happy.

Guys I NEED to know. IRL when you get intimate with your bf, what exactly do you do?!

I've been with him 3 years and he hugs me a lot (which isn't arousing just hugging) and then he gives me a kiss or two and suddenly starts poking me inside with his fingers.
On the other hand my ideal intimacy is where you do kissing and you touch each other all over your entire body and you kiss/peck ears, necks, chest and move down to the crotch area.

Am I over deluded from the media or is he just a boring block of wood

>>7313205
He`s just a boring block of wood.

>>7312191
bullshit.
blacks and asians get the most notes because tumblr creams themselves over them.

>>7313205
>what exactly do you do?!

Talk to him about it.

>tfw first time ever seeing self on /cgl/ was in a fap thread, cosplaying the opposite gender

>>7313205
He's a boring blockof wood an needs to learn how to foreplay.

Jesus, I wouldn't even want to screw him anymore if that's all he did.

>>7313205
You're telling us what he's doing. What are YOU doing?

From what little information you've given, I get the impression that you're both boring. Don't just expect him to magically know that you want more foreplay. Take charge and guide him.

The sex will never get better if you aren't assertive.

A couple years ago at AWA, one of the guests on the con program wanted a picture with me before I had any idea who she was. I regret not getting one with us, myself.

>>7313276
Pretty much this sis. I had to outright tell my man that, after months of this happening, I wasn't happy with just jumping right into sex without foreplay. Then I guided him on what I wanted. I understand you kinda wish you didn't have to say anything, but once you do he will remember it.

>>7313233
post the pic

>at AWA
>cosplaying Koumajou Densetsu Youmu with my girlfriend who's doing KD Yuyuko
>walking around the halls
>OH SHIT, it's ZUN! Fuck, what do I do, play it cool
>nod and smile at ZUN while trying not to explode
>he smiles back

I know it's not much but it meant so much to me.

>tfw went to a one-day con in lolita for the first time
>get a ton of compliments on my coord and dress from both cosplayers and lolitas
>get more pictures taken then I ever did in cosplay
>mfw going to a convention was the best boost in my confidence for officially starting loli

A lady at the grocery store told me she liked my dress. Made me smile for the first time this month.

The little things.

>just got my first job in 3 years since I've been studying/helping family during summer
>tfw no casual work clothes, wardrobe is literally only goth loli and Liz Lisa

>have online relationship with a frenchy from canada
>love him to death
>going to meet him this summer at some nerd game thing
>mfw intend on sucking his dick
i never imagined i'd be in this position

>>7310885
Why the fuck would you ever date anyone who's too fat for walmart?

Were you truly THAT fucking lonely?

>new cosplay fell apart last minute
>had to wear mediocre half-closet cosplay from year before
>approach someone to compliment her
>she gets excited, "I remember you from last year! You're a sweetheart! You inspired me to try to make my own!"
>I blush and smile
>probably glowed for the rest of the day

>trying to get two people from internet to take two spots in room for con
>one girl drops out because she thought I was ignoring her/forgot about her
>been running errands, late night exercise, got sick, and just...shit for a week really. Was hoping shed be patient a wee bit more
>yea I should've contacted her but I figured she was comfortable with being told she's in until I felt well enough to present myself on skype
>no...she found another group, which is fine but I do feel bad.
>shoulda told her what was up.
>now I found two more people but I'm unsure if they will show up?
I'm gonna be patient, I sent an email I don't want to be pushy. But I don't want a last second "oh we found another room".

>>7310863
Katsucon offers refunds. Buy your own ticket and take your bf or have a lovely evening with yo' man.

>tfw your closest lolita comm are just a bunch of weeaboos with barely any common interests to you other than lolita
>most of them are either ita or wear poorly coordinated gothic.
>is an ott sweet girl that takes pride in her coords
>will stick out like a sore thumb

I don't know if I should be happy that I have the diamond in the rough vibe going on, or I should be sad because I want girls for friends that can coord well. ;_;

>>7312098
I don't want to be an asshole, but you do sound pretty jelly and that's worth looking into. It's not normal to care if strangers let something inflate their egos/go to their heads. If you admire them? Maybe. It shouldn't bother you on this level, though.

>>7310863
You don't have to feel obligated to accept this gift he's bought it upon himself to buy you for a romantic holiday when he's not even your boyfriend. Ditch him, and don't feel bad about it. If he'd bought it just cause you were friends, then it'd be fine- but as a Valentines suprise? He can go to hell, because it seems pretty clear what his intentions are/were.

>>7313572
He can take a long walk off a short pier, but you owe it to the entire female gender to actually tell him that what he's doing is not cool.

Otherwise he's just going to try it again and again and again.

>>7313524
This

>>7313205
Give him an instruction manual.

In all seriousness, have you not tried talking to him about it?

>No work at the moment, surgery and moving coming up soon.
>Realise I won't be able to afford much lolita as I will be broke uni student.
>Dream dress for sale reasonable price, lower than half price.
>Also find really nice shoes on taobao, and other basics I really need.
>Not sure if I should purchase dream dress, taobao order or save my money.

>>7310069
Congrats anon!! That's a really big accomplishment.

>>7311889
I really think the "DOTA is harder to play" is exaggerated by people who are afraid of having more buttons to push.

Sure Meepo requires ridiculous micro and Invoker has TEN spells but then you've got Drow and Lich and Wraith King who are easy as shit.

Bf is small. I'm sexually frustrated.

Next time he fucks up I'm gonna let him go.

>>7314074
That's a bit harsh anon. Is being 'big' really worth more than your relationship?

>>7314074

Anon, it might not be that he's too small, just that he doesn't know what he's doing with it. Why not talk about it?

>>7313544
Why not try teaching them how to coordinate properly? Maybe take a few magazines or show some pictures on your phone? Spark up the conversation of trends and what you think makes a coord better?

>>7314113
It's not that much of a great relationship to begin with.

>>7314120
I literally feel unfulfilled.

>>7311816
I'm cosplaying lina this summer. Hopefully TI4

>>7314148
>It's not that much of a great relationship to begin with.

Then let's be honest, if you're dumping him because you don't like him that much but you had a desire to just keep it going along for the sex however he cannot perform that well in that area.

ALSO, for /r9k/s research sake, how small?

>>7314164
I mean the relationship isn't worth the sexual frustration. I'm young and I don't wanna waste the best time of my life.

About 5in, it's not that small but I'm spoiled.

>>7314164
If she says anything 6 or over she's loose.

>tfw all of your friends started drinking the tumblr koolaid and now they won't stop flipping their shit over race bends and black cosplayers
>tfw you want to call them out on their bullshit overly fetishitic obsession with other races and their glorification of shitty art and even shittier cosplay, just because they aren't white, but don't because that would make you a shitty friend
>tfw when stewing in your own stupid impotent rage

Seriously, though... I'm all for being a kind and supporting community, but there are a TON of amazing cosplayers.. and yet the only ones who get the reblogs are fat, ugly, greasy, hot messes who get so much praise for being black and dressing up as a white character.

FFS, people don't tease them because they're black. They tease them because they look like shit.

>delicate arms + hands
>nice eyes
>nice waist
>thin calfs/ankles
>giant thunder thighs
>manface

Anyone remember that episode of Totally Spies where they body swapped parts of girls to make an ultimate model? That's pretty much what I want to happen with me.

I'm desperately trying to focus on the positives here but when I catch my bad features in the mirror it hurts.

>tfw every dress i want is too big by like 4+ cm
i feel like something that's off by only 4 cm would still fit maybe, but when it gets to like 6, 8, or 10 cm, i know it will look like a potato sack on me.

tfw 76 cm bust, have to stuff every time to fit into dresses...

>>7313233
POST THE PIC

>>7314189
giant thighs and delicate/slim other parts are a passion

>>7313433
Hell yeah anon. I hope it goes well!

>bloated abdomen due to past digestive issues
>not huge but still noticeable
>slightly chubby but worried that losing weight will make it stand out even more
>can't wear anything formfitting without looking preggo
>only feel comfortable wearing loose clothes that look like potato sacks
>tfw you'll never be able to look cute and pretty and wear your dream cosplays without looking like a pregnant cow

jesus i am actually so fucking frustrated right now
why don't they make smaller clothing? all my fucking life.

>>7314232
Fuck, anon, I fucking feel you so fucking much.

>>7314233
im glad to know im not alone in this. im just so tired of it, you know? all of the stuff i want is the wrong size, and all of the stuff that's the right size is too expensive/too ugly/not flattering.

>>7314221

Would a corset help, or it would hurt you/damage your health?

>>7314245
A lot of brand has bust that's way too big for me.
I have to buy taobao indie brand because they go to a small size that fits me well (or do custom sizing)

>>7314221
Have you seen a physio or physical rehab trainer? My sister-in-law has a similar 'bloat' after having had kids because the weight gain caused the muscular wall to separate, creating a gap such that her stomach was constantly pushed out. They gave her some special exercises that have helped 'close' the gap and reduced the bloat look in a few weeks' time.

>>7313233
Please, post the pic.

I've been anorexic for years, I was hospitalized a few years back and have been a healthy weight (110 at 5'1") for two years now.

I gained four pounds over the holiday, and I know I'm sliding back into my eating disorder. Lolita is only making it worse, because I feel some need to compete with everybody. I have to be the thinnest in my comm. I want my brand to hang off me like it used to. I hate 114lbs, I want to be 75lbs again. I can't go that far, I don't want to be put back in hospital, so I'm shooting for 100lbs first. I want to try and hit 90lbs, but I know my family and friends are keeping a close eye on me.

It's frustrating.

>>7314257
yesss, the bust is the worst part because it's so noticeable if it doesn't fit, like people can see down your shirt (which isn't as big of a problem usually because of blouses, but it's still so annoying), and it makes everything look flatter than it actually is. at least with a well fitting bust they can see that i have a seemingly rounded chest, when the bust is too big everything looks so straight.

>>7314269
Your brand shouldn't hang off you. A lolita in a potato sack is no cuter than a lolita with rolls barely contained in shirring.
Don't worry about being the thinnest in the comm, be the cutest. A healthy loli is cuter than a stick loli.

>tfw finally down thirty pounds and fit (albeit a touch snug) into brand
>tfw got into med school for dream job
>tfw cute guy I'm flirting with online is cuter in persn and really tall and accepting of Lolita
>tfw injury from car wreck is healed so working out may resume

I almost feel like things are TOO good, but hey! I'll take it!

> tfw your first full bust adjustment works

no more worrying if the pattern cup size will be too small!

>>7314221
Batwing sweaters are cute as hell anon

Wear oversized sweaters and be cute as hell

Also empire waist dresses

>>7314232
>>7314233
>>7314245
>>7314257
My niggas.

I keep eyeing up all kinds of dresses only to look at the measurements and cry to myself.

JFC they make more shit for fatties than they do for tiny people.

>>7310373
Don't say stuff like that about yourself. :c You can cosplay whatever you want. I bet you're beautiful, anon.
You wanna wear lolita? Go and rock that co-ord.
You wanna cosplay? Go and rock that character.

>>7313524
>Were you truly THAT fucking lonely?
Yes. What's it to you?
>why do people stay in abusive relationshits ever?

>>7313229
>>7314025
>>7313276
And he goes, b-b-but anon I don't want you to turn into a person that thinks of such unhealthy thoughts all the time your body will become addicted and you'll become a slut
I used to go down on him like how I wanted to be treated but it didn't work. Now we're breaking soon (also for other reasons than this) but I wanted to know if I was expecting too much

>>7314498
>why do people stay in abusive relationshits ever?

I know that feel, anon.
I'm terrified of being alone.

I know this isn't related to cgl but I really need to get this out of my system.

I'm trying so hard to break away from him but he can be so sweet and thoughtful and loving at times. He doesn't have a lot of money but still tries his hardest to buy me nice things.
But sometimes, his emotions just breaks loose. He yells at me, calls me names and says condescending things like "you whore/slut, you have less than half a brain, I bet all your friends just pretend to like you, you're nothing more than a piece of bird shit, you fucking bitch" even though none of those things are true, and he also becomes physically abusive sometimes. I've been hit on multiple occasions, kicked, hair pulled, etc. He even yelled at me in public at the Madoka movie last month, loudly swearing and humiliating me.

I'm convinced that he genuinely loves me; he holds me in a movie-perfect way when I cry, we have perfect sex, he always tells me he misses me, he tries his best to spend lots of time with me, and he talks to me lots, and he's so fucking loyal.
... and I'm scared that no one will ever love me the same way.

Am I asking for too much? All I want is to make the abuse go away and to be happy.

I know I might get flamed for this post.
>inb4 you have a nice relationship stop complaining
>inb4 stay a doormat, you fucking faggot

>inb4 break up with him already.
but he loves me and it's so perfect aside from the abuse.

sage for not being cgl-related.

>>7314644
Umm I don't want to sound like the bad guy but this sounds like a really bad situation because, in most cases of abusive relationships, the abuse never goes away...often it gets worse. I've seen it happen to SO many people even grown adults who've put up with a lot and kept coming back because "they are oh so sweet and loving, most of the time". I think you really need to think things over as noone should ever be abused, especially by someone who loves them and it happens too much. He sounds a little controlling also. Have you tried talking to him about the abuse? If so did it improve. If you both truly love eachother and BOTH want the abuse gone/to continue the relationship, he should really see a psychologist or go in a special program etc. if he loves you enough to do that/to try and get better then I think perhaps it would be okay to stay.

>tfw getting fit the natty way
>people start telling me I look good
>even made out with a few girls
>probably wont be another year till I look decent
>still gotta drop my BF% but it will happen

I think I'm gonna make it /cgl/ and I'm not going to shed a light of day for the girls who show interest in me when they wouldn't before.

All I need to do is to cosplay as Yamcha from DB and have someone be my Bulma and I think life will be pretty tops.

>>7314644
My mother almost got killed for that, my stepfather literally broke all the windows in our house and then threatened my mother, me and my 4yo brother to kill us in one of his drunk outbreaks.

It will NOT stop, get out soon before you have kids that make this even more difficult.

What happens when he breaks one of your ribs?
What happens when you cant use tshirts because of the bruises?
Oh but he says that he loves you?
My stepfather told us he loved us too. But his love never stopped him to abuse my mother, to hit me.

Please listen, you deserve better anon.

>>7314615
>I don't want you to turn into a person that thinks of such unhealthy thoughts all the time your body will become addicted and you'll become a slut

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s-aInKCWnnc

>>7314644
Okay, my dad was like this for the longest time, and still is a bit, but it's much better now that he's seeing a psychologist. You might want to suggest it.

Anger problems like that are real, and the medication really makes a big difference.

>>7314615
>a person that thinks of such unhealthy thoughts all the time your body will become addicted and you'll become a slut

jesus christ did he read a bunch of retarded animu/mango or be super religious in his formative years? what a fucked up point of view on female sexuality, i hope he fixes that before getting another girlfriend.

>you will never lift a lolita up against the wall and pull up her big skirt and fuck her

>>7313433

Good luck Anon, hope everything works out well! ^^

My disordered eating behavior is back and I'm happy about it which makes me not believe it's a real eating disorder.

I don't even know
My waist is also as small as it used to be back when my ED first started (I had just recently been on my highest weight and lost some kgs) even though I'm about 4 kilos fatter than back then.

All dresses fit again but
I don't know, you know?

>>7314786
Come play street fighter with me while we eat chicken and drink protein shakes

>>7310127
You can't make a shit look pretty

>>7314615
This is a little bizarre. I think sensate focus would of been good to do with him as he seems to have some anxieties or hang ups about sexuality.

>>7314787
But I suck at fightan games, anon

The more I thought about it, the more it comes off that I'm whining. But anywho...

My aunt had been through a lot within the past 3 years or so, and due to unfortunate events, has to stay with us. I didn’t mind it, but since living here I have only seen her just be so inconsiderate of our home and belongings. I really have tried to excuse her behavior, constantly telling myself “She is family and has been through a lot of stuff, it’s not her fault.” But it’s irritating when she leaves the house with the front door unlocked and garage door wide open, has locked my dogs outside the house more than just a couple of times (my dad found them wandering around the neighborhood when he was coming back from work and found my aunt just so nonchalant at home), can’t even clean ONE FUCKING DISH THAT IS HERS… there is so much other stuff but I’m just so frustrated thinking about her. I’m not a very good cook and when I want something fast I’ll just heat something in the microwave, but every time she see’s me she proceeds to pretty much tell me how useless I am and then sees when I’m not having her shit, she goes to say “I’m just playing around, god! Can’t I play around?” No, I know what playing around is. You’ve told me how useless I am in front of my best friend and my boyfriend.

I’m cleaning up after a grown woman and I shouldn't have to keep asking her to pick up after herself. She has a small dog as well and brings her here, leaves her, and pretty much does not come back for days. My mother and I take of her dog and it makes me so angry that she could neglect her pet.

But I’m not allowed to say anything because it would be seen as disrespectful. I just want her to clean up after herself, take care of her dog, and be considerate of our house and our shit. I shouldn’t have to ask a more than capable woman to do simple tasks, especially since she isn't working and pretty much goes partying all the time.

>>7314791

So do I.

>>7314644

Dude, the lovely-dovey aspect of the relationship may seem nice now, but don't let that temporary comfort blind you to the massive problem: abuse is toxic. It's a poison that's slowing making you think whatever he does to compensate for his terrible actions and words is worth making you stay. And the worst is, he knows it. He knows he treats you like shit and he knows that he can make you stay with good sex, a nice hug, and sweet words. I'm in a relationship too, I know how nice and comforting that feels. But don't be so quick to disregard theses anons:

>>7314699
>>7314751
>>7314759

They know what they're talking about and we're trying our best to warn you. Please break-up and walk away in the best way possible: quickly and make the parting neat as you can.

Think about what you're going to say, like addressing the issue of his anger problems, him hurting you, how you feel and the pain you experienced, and most importantly how you can't and do not want to be in the relationship anymore. When you have a good idea of what you're going to say and how you're going to exit, sit him down and talk to him.

To be safe, make sure you have everything you need. Such as if y'all living together, take some important things with you to your parents' place beforehand. If you want, call some guy friends over to be nearby or outside. And just in case, have something you can have to defend yourself with nearby or hidden.

>>7314806

(continued)

After the break-up, change your number if you can or block his number if he harasses you. If you live by yourself already, change the locks even if you know he doesn't have the keys. I know all of this sounds extreme, but so does the guy you're with. If he snaps when you tell him you want out, he might really hurt you or, God forbid, kill you. And if doesn't break there, he might come after you later so do the best you can to defend yourself. Stay with a friend or parents/other family memebers.

I know I wrote a lot but please anon, be safe. I'm not a naive teen but I do believe there is someone out there that will care for you and love you more than this guy can. And there are guys out there would not dream of putting their hands on you out of anger but only through acts of love. I know this sounds super gay but I'm being serious. You may not take my or the other anons' advice and just put up with the abuse. But before you decide anything, please ask yourself: would I rather keep putting up with the abuse and let it get worse or be lonely for a little bit and enter a healthy relationship later on?

I wish you the best anon, please be safe and take care of yourself.

>>7314802
Damn, what an ungrateful bitch. She sounds like someone who thinks "well I'm family right?" And therefore, you have to respect her? Oh that's bs. Why is she even staying with you guys? It sounds like she's more trouble than she's worth. I don't understand that. You definitely don't have to be nice to her, anon. People earn respect. They don't demand it.

I'm often alone at cons and I'm too intimidated to go up to people even if they're cosplaying from the same series that I am, and even then, they'd just be strangers and usually have their own friends.

>>7314819
This, this so fucking hard

>>7314815

I know you didn't ask, but I wanted to clarify to anyone who read it- I deleted it because I mistook the intent of this thread and for some reason thought "HEY THIS IS A GOOD PLACE TO VENT" and then I realized it was about cosplay feels. Ahahah..

It's kind of a long story as to why she is with us, but basically, my aunt got caught up with something she didn't do that involved my uncle. She got thrown in jail and was there for a short time, but has been under probation since mid May 2013 and the probation officers are expecting to find her here (though technically she is... violating it, I suppose).

My parents don't want to cause any problems, especially since my mom pretty much begged my dad to have her sister stay there. The thing is, while my mom is getting pretty annoyed with her as well; she doesn't want to throw her family out on the street. I love my mom and all but she is such a doormat to her family who take extreme advantage of her kindness. They have screwed her over so many times, only for her to just keep being genuinely nice and always offering help when they come crawling to her. And I actually have to be fake being nice to her for my dad’s sake (since he was the one who emphasized to not disrespect her, though he’s aware that I hate my aunt now), but it’s not working since I think she’s pretty aware that I don’t like her.

>>7314815
>>7314838
Ohana means family, and family means nobody gets left behind

>>7314843

More to life than blood.

>>7314843
FUCK that shit.
My dad always taught me that family doesn't owe you shit just for the sake of being your family. Respect and trust is earned, not freely given. If someone becomes dead weight like that then you need to fucking drop them.

>>7314838
Maybe you can talk to both your parents? Seems like she's a grown woman taking advantage of your parents hospitality. Just bothers me to see people do this to others. I really hope she gets the fuck out soon, anon . Good luck

>>7314849
How can you appreciate cosplay and then claim it's acceptable to drop someone who you identify as deadweight. Don't get me wrong I appreciate utilitarianism being utilitarian and appreciating something as useless as cosplay or lolita seems weird. I don't know your father's circumstances but I can bet you anything that when you're a breadwinner and he needs to retire that he'll be expecting support despite being deadweight.
>>7314847
Ohana means family nig, you keep people and you develop them

>>7314699
To piggyback on this anon, a lot of people in abusive relationships come back or stay because they're afraid of getting killed/their partner running off with or harming their kids. I know this sounds alarmist but physically abusive people can and will definitely at one point make you fear for your life.

Also: I wish it was just that abusers put fears like that in your head or throw a lot of idle threats in, but the spouses that successfully leave are also statistically more likely to be murdered. Stalked, moreso. Harrassed, most definitely.

I say this because getting out now is important. My mom never got out and while my dad no longer physically abuses any of us, I'm extremely afraid of moving out of state. He stopped abusing us because my brother and I are old enough and smart enough to know when to get police involved. On the surface, he's treated it as a positive character change, but truthfully I know he's watching his own back. And this is a guy who loves us dearly. He's charming and most days kind. He loves his wife. But he's fucking awful and absolutely poisonous at the drop of a hat. And that's your boyfriend.

I had a coworker a few years ago who had a boyfriend who was completely nice to us (until she had to work days he didn't want her to work). He'd pick her up in a car and a few of us lived pretty close to her so he'd offer us a ride too. And it got completely awkward saying no so many times, even though another coworker who went the same day grabbed me and warned me to say no every time. So one day when the trains were shit we said yes. Jesus fucking Christ, for any tiny disagreement in the car with her, he'd swerve around the road. In Manhattan.

The chick who had warned me had apparently been taken home with them a couple of times before and told me all this shit afterward.

Don't let crap like that happen to you. It's way easier than you think to find someone equally as sweet and kind and nurturing as this guy who DOESN'T abuse you.

>>7314843
Please go back to Disney fairy tale land. Irl family means shit unless its respect and love earned. Irl family members kill and molests their own kids or nieces/nephews. Irl family throw their kids out on the streets for being gay or "not that they wanted"
Her aunt is a free loading bitch who is ungrateful and taking up space. She needs to get her priorities straight. No one has to help her, but her sister is doing it to be nice and she's getting taken advantage of.

>>7314864
Please be trolling
Are you Asian? Do you have kids only because you want someone to care for you when you're elderly? Kids don't owe you shit. Parents don't owe you shit. That's life.

>>7314864
>Ohana means family nig, you keep people and you develop them

People 101

You can't make people change to suit you. You don't have to feel obligated to stay with people, there is no universal force that is making you do this.

>>7314863
I have and unfortunately they can't really do anything. My mom loves her sister and my dad just doesn't want to create problems with my mom's side of the family. Also asian family = respect to older folks will always outweigh what the younger ones say.

Our family as a whole already has so many problems as is, so my parents are willingly to put up with my aunt until she can finally get out of here. But thank you anon, I really appreciate it.

>>7314876
>reasons why I'm happy not to be Asian
Yeah, nope. Screw that shit. You don't demand respect. I would just get our, anon.

>>7314882
Get out/move out, I meant up there.

>>7314870
Fuck ups define the rule? Every cosplayer is hambeast? every clergyman is pedophile?

If you have someone who is flawed and you can help, you help them and improve them. Abandoning people and kicking them out because they irritate you is as childish as what the aunt is doing.

>>7314872
I'm not Asian, I don't even know if I want kids and I'm frankly not bothered by that. It was the father of the anon I was replying to who held the value of ditching people when they become useless to you. In fact the position that I'm arguing for goes against the idea of people owing each other anything.

>>7314874
You can however change people with flaws or a lack of people skills by helping them. I'm not saying you groom them to be a slave or a tool. Just teach them what you will and will not put up with.

How do I get over an ex, cgl?

>>7314947

You cut off all lines of communications with them and give yourself time to move on.

Doesn't sound "related" but I promise it is.

>ex roomate is basically like my brother, he's pretty much been there through all my tough times, including when i went on a sobbing rampage after a breakup. busted my face on a table corner after drinking too much alcohol.
>been in a relationship with my boyfriend for over a year now, feels good
>ex roomate is notoriously bad with money. like, oweing almost 7-8k to two people alone
>he owes my boyfriend almost 2k because he couldn't afford rent
>we helped him get his shit together and now he has a full time retail job and has a good relationship with his parents now. not really baller but it works, better than what he did before (eat, sleep, internet)
>we came back from an overseas trip and he asked me to get him something, promising he can pay me back. item was 20 bucks so no big
>i come back and he only gives me 12
>"i'll pay the rest later anon, just remind me"
>asked him for the rest of my money today and he dodged the question, and jokingly laughed >"it's only 8 dollars lel get over it faget"
>mfw he ate with us that night
>mfw he brags online about how he's such a baller/makes over half his store's sales, laughed about how 75 bucks is chump change, promised to pay my boyfriend back through monthly installments
>mfw he basically owes 10k to three people and he's duping me of 8 dollars
>mfw he's been nagging us about a package he had "delivered" to our house because he bought some anime bullshit and his parents will go nuts if they see it

I'm a student that goes to school full time, and I also like to wear lolita as well. Just because my boyfriend buys me dresses once in a while as a gift doesn't mean you have the right to think he can support you. We opened our doors to you, and i'm apparently a spoiled shit who has it easy because i live with my bf and i get to dress like a princess. Give me my fucking 8 dollars, and pay your debts back before indulging in the 420swaganimelyfe you brag about.

>>7314955
idk it sounds like you have it pretty easy, from what you said, at least compared to other full time students.

>>7314755
>>7314765
>>7314790
extremely conservative religious upbringing, yes.

>>7314955
don't take pity on people and loan money out if you're not prepared to lose it forever. no matter how close they are to you. or how solemnly they promise to return it. i suggest not loaning any more to him. if he's never giving it back, you can hound him for it but he's not legally bound to pay you back. there's nothing you can do. at least you're only losing 8 bucks to him at the moment, and the 10k he owes wasn't yours.

>>7311474
i miss them too

>>7314951
I can't stop thinking about them.

But I'm guessing in due time, this shall stop.

>has had a crush on this guy for about 7 years now
>discovers lolita about 3 or 4 years back
>finally grows some balls and tells guy how i feel (although in a shitty fucking letter)
>he never fucking responds, which is fine, i mean, i didn't really expect him to. he has his life and i have mine
>i keep questioning "what ifs" and when i do i make impulse lolita purchases

It's pretty terrible. I just bought about spent $900 for two dresses to get my mind off it. I know it's a shit way of trying to cope? I guess? But it's what I do and I really need to stop. Thankfully, I don't do it too often. But still.

>Goal is DmC Dante at a con in two months
>go to gym every day
>mfw never had this much motivation to work out

>>7315066

I guess it depends on the reasons why it ended. But yeah, you gotta allow yourself some time and eventually it just fades.

I have the odd thought about ex's every now and again when I feel lonely, but then I remember - it all happened for a reason.

>>7314786

Set a limit. Your dresses fit, no need to lose more weight. Look at your weight now and don't go under it.

>>7315076

>DmC Donte
>fit
>not picking pizza Dante

Fuck you anon

>>7315070

>7 years

I hope he was a rich billionaire called Bruce Wayne.

No one is worth that, shieeeet.

>>7315066
It gets better, I promise. It took me a year and a rebound relationship to get over my first ex and stop being like "omg I love you so much and think about you all the time" - now I'm sort-of able to be friends with him although the things that pissed me off when we were dating still annoy me now, so I haven't made the friendship that close.

>>7314862
or you could shoot him in the kneecaps, crippling him and rendering him unable to hurt you

>>7314788
now see i hate the color and print but i love the cut. i might just buy it and dye it black

>>7310852
>as you don't say "OMG ANYONE KNOW WHO THIS AMAZING PERSON IS??" or something.
THIS. I'm getting so sick of this bullshit. People really need to be more creative with their self posting.

>>7314955
Not gonna get into your deal with the retail roomate, but my dad shared some knowledge with me I've come to find very true.

Even if it's to your BEST friend treat giving away money like it's giving money to a homeless guy. Don't expect to get that money back. (In reference to the $20 gift thing you did when going away.)

>>7315066
It took me three months of watching the relationship dissolve, and then a further four months to start feeling human again after my ex left me. We stayed friends through the whole thing, because we both that knew if we could do that, we'd stay friends probably for life. Doing the couple cosplays on my own has been pretty humiliating but probably good for my psyche.

It still hurts, and I still get lonely, but I don't cry now. Lord help me if she gets a new partner though.

I hope it stops hurting for you soon, Anon. It will fade, and even if you love them more than anyone in the world, you'll be able to move on. There's more of you inside you than there is of them. You'll find bits of yourself you forgot you had!

>tfw when your roommate calls you a shitty cosplayer to your face, but then comes to you all the time for cosplay advice

I'm getting so sick of it. I'm not the best cosplayer, I just learned how to sew last year, but I'm tired of my roommate calling me an awful cosplayer to my face and then coming to me when he needs accessories or help constructing something.
Last night he messaged me asking for an important accessory for a cosplay that took me 4 months to make, so he could wear it the same day i planned to debut that cosplay.
I really want to tell him off, especially since he doesn't know how to sew, and when he gets other people to make his costumes, he buys broadcloth.
I just don't know how to get him to stop making fun of my cosplays in front of me. I have really bad anxiety so I try my best not to upset anyone or get into fights.

>>7314221
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iCbf2wqE4Gw

regards, /fit/

>>7315180
thanks bro!

>>7315172
You could move out and cut off ask contact if you want to avoid all contact. But I'm assuming that you're living with him for financial benefit, so for your own sake, you're going to have to learn to say no. Don't bring up his lack of sewing talent verbally, but you can totally use this as your leverage. Refuse to help when he asks for it. In regards to your prop, tell him 'this took me 4 months to make' in a deadpan (think of Kelly saying 'these shoes are three hundred *fucking* dollars'), then say 'no'. If he stills says 'but you're a bad cosplay', ask him for some real concrit, instead of just putiing you down. If all else fails, close the door in his face and tell him you have your own costume to worry about. then proceed to give him the same answer if he asks for it again. be consistent. Douche canoes need to either learn how to do stuff themselves via YouTube, or learn how to be nice to people who can help them. Life is too short to be a slave for fools.

>>7310830
lol me too. Except one time somebody accused me of self-posting, you just have to be smart about it.

>male
>have tons of money
>good looking and have a social life
>some what of a closet nerd
>into fashion and just want a lolita gf to blow my money on to look cute together

^

I feel your feels.


I have more money then I need at my age and I'm on the way up. I just want someone I can do simple weeb stuff with then proceed to bind and spank like a good sub... guess it could be worse not having money would suck.

>>7315211
>>7315221
Wish my bf was like one of you.

>>7315211
>>7315237

Now THAT is samefagging

>>7315211
>>7315221
Were are you from ? I want a qt slignly dom boyfriend who can shower me with burando.

ha! Not a same fag! The proof is in the fact that I can't quote cause I'm on my phone!


But would you all say lolitas are in for guys like us?

>>7315240

Damn, you beat me to it.

>>7315243
Hahahaha no. Lolita fashion is already strong enough of dick repellent. We're going to assume most guys will not want to be seen in public with a girl dressed in such an outlandish fashion, and we will usually buy with our own cash and budgeting. Even my husband who is okay with me being in the fashion and blowing my hobby money on it, prefers that I dress in cute hipster outfits or normal dresses on our dates (I reserve lolita for meetups and casual Fridays at work).

if you're actually not a troll, and completely serious about your willingness to have and spoil your own girlfriend, you'd be a unicorn among lolitas. However if you turn out to be a complete douche of a personality, word will spread in the lolita community very quickly

>>7315254
I don't think it's as big of a dick repellent as some people say. There have been a lot of cute couple stories on here, and my boyfriend likes. He helps me pick out outfits for our dates, even.
Granted, we're both poor post-college kids, so he can't buy me anything big, but I don't think that really matters.

>>7315097
Every single old DMC cosplay I've seen sucked
new DmC just looks better
Better game too, though you can't say that on 4chan unless you want to deal with a bunch of weeaboo faggots crying about how OLD DANTE WAS SO COOL

I mean I am fond of the lolita style and it even has a place in my flavor of kink. my personality of course isn't perfect but I'm sociable, reasonable, and I do well with normal non cosplay, non weeb girls. I'm just tired of kinda pretending to be not a weeb. Corporate weebs don't make it far on the money train so I have to keep my fancies in the closet most times.

Doesn't everyone think lolita is hot as fuck?

>>7315263
Only pedophile basement dwellers

Hey man I aint getting gay with no kids.

>>7315263
Lolita is basically the fedora for women. It's that bad.

>>7315254

Eh, my ex was a huge weeb and liked to cosplay/ wear weird clothes at every half chance. It's too bad I got into lolita way after we broke up, he said he would have supported my hobby (though not financially since he's still a broke student). It would have been nice to have someone who doesn't look at me crazy for my dresses.

>>7315270

Are you that same anon who started that thread? Because I think the other anon who likened rockabilly to fedoras for women was much more on the spot.

How? Fedoras are the symbol for fat, autistic, pony love where as lolita carries a symbol of hard work and elegance. I mean I hear it also carries drama but the positives outweigh the negatives.

>>7315279
I'm not.

>>7315280
>carries a symbol of hard work and elegance
Not really. People just think lolitas are weird as fuck.

>>7315280

Well, I wouldn't say that either... it could either be earned through hard work and saving, or because you're/your parents/your hubby is rich. And although I'm >>7315279, I have to admit the special snowflake syndrome is strong with this fashion, whether you follow burando only or like making your own handmade special spats.

>>7315280
>hard work and elegance
For you.
In real life, people either consider you a whore (and come on, that's true for a lot of us) or mentally deranged.

/Fit/izen here, how do I get a qt seagull gf? Also, is it true that all seagulls crave /fit/ cock? If so, please respond.

I guess the real question is are lolitas really that odd? they seem as well put together as normal non weeb girls

and define special snowflake syndrome? because if it's what I think it is then that isn't too bad at all.

>>7315292
It's true if you are hot.

I mean if I'm not mistaken physical attraction is always a plus but it's all about your game /fit/izen. If you can carry a conversation who would want to fuck that?

>>7315284
I don't know where do you live but this really seems to be a sad place.

>>7315292
>tfw no qt seagull to share bread crumbs with

>>7315292
The answer to both is "you need to cosplay."

If I found the perfect Pyramid Head, I would be the source of a dangerous flash flood. But I don't give half a shit about muscles outside of cosplay.

>>7315312
Berlin, Germany. You?

>>7315319
Southern Europe, I'll not say more. Wait, Berlin is well known for it's undergroung and artsy culture, do people really think your retarded/a whore for dressing like that ? In my country people sure think Im strange but I'm often asked where did I find my clothes and people stop me to say how beautfil it is (not wearing sweet tought, that may help)

>>7315318
I'll bear that in mind. It's a neat character for showing off gains. What if the costume's terrible because I don't cosplay and I'm unsure if it's worth the effort, but my body made up for it? Would that work? I could do an intentionally awful version and call it ironic.

>>7315324
Have you actually been here? The underground culture is dying, mostly due to more and more students moving to Berlin since it's "omg so great and such a party city" and it's overflowing with turkish immigrants who'll openly call any girl wearing anything but a fucking burka a whore.
Yeah, it's that bad.

Don't cosplay if your just doing it to get laid. it won't look great and the people you'll attract will reflect that.

Work hard as fuck on good cosplay and bang something worth talking about the next morning.

>>7315325
Then you'll just like like the douchebag you obviously are. People won't be laughing with you, they'll be laughing at you. Also, post pic.

>>7315066

For me time has helped some, but I think the only thing that will make it completely better is finding someone new.

Didn't have a bad breakup either, just a situation that put us too far away to work really.

>>7315292

/cgl/ likes /fit/ because most of them are pretty shallow bitches.

What they don't understand is that /fit/ is a pretty shitty board and its all about muh fit culture than anything else.

Most of /cgl/ are chubs and skinny chicks who don't even squat or have good asses.

>>7315325
Not same anon, but I really sick of seeing pyramid heads . I feel like half the people who do this aren't even fans of the silent hill series and just want to get attention. I bet if you did it, and I came up to you wanting to discuss more than just the basics of sh2, you'd just your dirty pants.
The whole girls who sexualize him are even worse. Are you kidding me?

>>7315261
New Dante looks more fashionable and is easier to pull off, old Dante WAS SO COOL and had a better design. It just doesn't easily transition to irl

>>7315335
Nobody cares. Pussy is pussy.

>at con with friends with friends
>closest female friend is really into anime, manga fantasy and other general nerd shit
>dresses super girly and like some kind of goth-gal hybrid most of the time (mainly tan, makeup and nails)
>doesn't like to dress up to wander around the con and so wears leggings, engineer boots and an oversized hoodie to cover her butt and hips

>later

>go to food-court to get lunch
>tfw two wildebeasts sit at the table across from ours
>tfw they start openly talking shit about both of us
>tfw they start making tumblr-style "white girl" jokes about us (mainly her)
>tfw my friend finally turns to them and goes "Sorry, what? I can't hear your judgmental bullshit over how comfortable I am."
>tfw they shut the fuck up and leave a few minutes later
>tfw my friend and I can play duel monsters and eat our lunch in peace

oh you've gotta be kidding me. Pussy is not just pussy. I mean you can fuck a girl just to release some stress or show yourself your still got what it takes but when you find the right one that fits just right around you and makes all the right moves that's a pussy on its own tier. That's like the reason I fuck!

>>7315340
Honestly, I don't think old Dante was cool. They carried over the nonchalant reactions to Demons and such, but got rid of the tacky jokes.
>Looking forward to running around and yelling FUCK YOU at everything

>>7315345

who the fuck are you trying to reply to

>>7315335
>and I came up to you wanting to discuss more than just the basics of sh2
Why the fuck would I want to discuss Silent Hill? What? I'd just talk about something else.
You gals really are autistic.

>>7315329
No I've never been there actually, but hipsterish friends of mine did do the trip last years and found it great. Anyway we have a lot or Arabian imigrate in my country too, but they are too stupid to know well their own religion, I don't care about what they can think, especially because they have no power on me.

>>7315346

>>7315335

quoting on mobile is impossible

>>7315272
>>7315259
Guys being into lolita is like girls being into lolita - you don't expect all of your friends to know, like, or care about the style, but at the same time there are a percentage of people who will like the aesthetic to the point where they will spend money on it. Some of those people are weird as fuck, speshul snowflake, or dramallamas, and some of them are nice and normal. It's pretty simple.

>tfw no /fit/ bf to show off on cons

>>7315349
>hipsterish friends
Yeah, they're the problem, driving the prices up and going to the same tourist venues.

>>7315343

Yeah you're a dumb cunt.

DMC 1,3 and 4 had much better gameplay than DmC. Getting SSS in DmC was just way too easy.

The whole point of Dante was the cheesy lines and the over the top crazy style that went with it. That was his character.

Donte was just a posterboy for the rebellious down with the system stereotype which was just plain boring.

>>7315361
So much butthurt in one post
All I can say is
>FUCK YOU
:^)

>>7315351

No it isn't.

You just type in the god damn number like this

>>XXXXXXXXX

>>7315364
I'm too shy.

>>7315354
What? Just head over to /fit/ and pick one. There's even one in this thread. Go ahead, he's yours.

>>7315362

I'm alright.

>>7315365
>implying not all guys on /fit/ are shy betas who just happen to be swole

>>7315364

>implying /fit/ wants you.

ahahahha

>>7315329
So you're making a generalisation that everyone thinks people dressed in lolita are whores...based mainly on statements from retarded Turkish immigrants, who, by your own admission, think that ANYONE not wearing a tent is a whore?

>>7315368
That doesn't change that I'm shy.

>>7315279
>>7315280
Different anon here. I don't think either rockabilly or lolita fashion could be categorized so simply as the fedora of men. The fedora is just one piece of clothing: it's not really considered a fashion on its own, even by the people wearing it. The fedora itself is not the problem on the men associated with them. It's the rest of their clothes (which scream laziness) plus their awful social skills and personalities, which are the real turn-offs to fashionistas and non-fashionistas alike.

Rockabilly and lolita fashion, in contrast, are NOT defined by one specific item of clothing. (This may partially have to do with women's fashion having/demanding more variety of items and accessories than men's fashion.) Whether in rockabilly or lolita, one aims for a certain aesthetic, but within the aesthetic there are so many items and methods of expressing it. Rockabilly tries to capture the hipness and/or elegance of the 1950s. Lolita tries to get cuteness and/or elegance of the Rococo, Edwardian, Victorian, even 1950s fashions.

I don't like rockabilly for my own wardrobe, but I've seen some great craftsmanship in the dresses and jewelry of Diva Dollz in Pioneer Square of Seattle. The staff have their hair, makeup, clothes, and corsets done up every day. Upon seeing the Diva Dollz staff and how much effort they put into the look for every day, I would call rockabilly no less lazy than lolita. (However, the people who don the dresses, while skimping on hygiene, makeup, hair, shoes... Just plain lazy, just like people who skimp on those in lolita.)

>>7315371
Being realistic here, but tell yourself it's different if it makes you feel better about it.

>>7315375
Give me yours and post a pic first.

>tfw no shy seagull gf
>>7315365
Hey gurl, >>7315292 here. You want sum fuk? Give me your skype.

>>7315380

Posts yours first. You're probably a chub

>>7315374
>Rockabilly and lolita fashion, in contrast, are NOT defined by one specific item of clothing. (This may partially have to do with women's fashion having/demanding more variety of items and accessories than men's fashion.) Whether in rockabilly or lolita, one aims for a certain aesthetic, but within the aesthetic there are so many items and methods of expressing it. Rockabilly tries to capture the hipness and/or elegance of the 1950s. Lolita tries to get cuteness and/or elegance of the Rococo, Edwardian, Victorian, even 1950s fashions.
Nobody cares about all this fashion bullshit, you autistic. That's why people consider you people the fedora of women.

You just look like clowns and that's why you're the fedora of women.

>>7315383
Who is this fag? This isn't even me. Fuck you bro, I saw her first.

>>7315383
I'm 5'1" and 110 lbs.

>>7315387

That's not a picture

>>7315388
Sorry dude, I respect the bro code. Go ahead.

>>7315388

Fuck off faggot. Your desperation is showing.

>>7315390
It's cool, bro. You're a real bro, man. Wanna make out? No homo, obvi.

>>7315390
>>7315388


>watching how I met your mother

Pleb taste get out samefag

>>7315382
obvious troll is obvious

ABANDON THREAD

We need a /fit/ /cgl/ hook up thread

>>7315398
We need a /fit/ + /fit/ hook up thread. Or containment board. Oh wait, >>>/hm/

>>7315398
Enough spaghetti to solve world hunger

>>7315398

Give me a few good reasons why /fit/ would ever want to be seen with /cgl/

>>7315401
>tfw no gf

It's an italian buffet in here.

>>7315398
we need a rule that no /fit/fuckers can ever come to /cgl/
they are horrid, right up there with /r9k/

>>7315462
>jelly skeletonfag manlets being this mad
God damn I love being ripped.

>>7315462
How come?

>>7315462
Stop being jealous of our /fit/zen husbandos

>tfw you look at your budget spreadsheet and realize you've spent almost 5k on lolita in the past 8 months and don't even have a full wardrobe to show for it

I have a problem.

>>7315746
>5k
Just a reminder you could buy a small car for this kind of money

>>7315786
I'm a license-less uni student.
It could buy me a nice vacation or give me a lot of cushion for post-graduation, though, I know.
At least most of it was used on pieces that are easy to sell?

>>7315801
Makes me wonder then, is this the type of clothing you wear all the time or just for special occasions (like these con-things), because spending 5k on a quality wardrobe you get a lot of use out of is not that bad.

>>7315805
So far mostly special occasions (meet-ups, a date with my boyfriend, etc. maybe 2-3 times per month), but I'm trying to work it into my daily wear more. The main problem was that I kept buying too many main pieces and didn't have enough basics like blouses, legwear, shoes, accessories, etc. which I'm trying to improve.

>>7315746
Are you happy? Does Lolita give you joy? Then you're fine, anon. If you're not sacrificing food/shelter/necessities, you're fine.

>that feel when male crossplayer S
>starting to get into lolita as well
>wish I had a qt M girl into both
>we could do couple cosplays and coords together
>then proceed to have kinky sex in said outfits
>don't worry, I sew well and know how to (hand) wash things so they don't get ruined
>we could even switch sometimes
>then play vidya or watch animu in the afterglow

>that feel when have no idea when I'll ever find a person as twisted as me

>>7315746
>>7315801
>>7315819

I think we were separated at birth.

> spending large amounts on the fashion
> license-less uni student
> trying to work it into my daily wear
> buying too many main pieces and didn't have enough basics

Are you an ozzie by any chance? I was just wondering because most people over here refer to school/college/etc as 'uni.'

I'm trying to improve the basics in my wardrobe as well.
I've started to make myself a budget and build up some more complete outfits and I've already made some progress.

My coords will be pretty simple for the time being but my aim atm is versatility since it's more budget friendly.

Also seconding >>7315820. In my case the fashion makes me happy and I'm not foregoing necessities for it so I won't cut it out of my life, but I do need to build up a little self control.

>>7314057
That's both shit compared to SC.
Both BW and HotS.