/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL

I have a migraine and I'm stuck in classes until 4pm today. So pretty fucking miserable.

> go to a popular local con as a staff member last year
> am also a journalist, but explain to my bosses that I'd rather not cover the con because it would be a conflict on interest because I'm working at it
> have fun until sunday when I find out that other staff members stole $200 from me and apparently the chairman was involved
> bitch about it on facebook because thats what 20-something white girls do best
> get told by my supervising staff that I have to take the post down because if it gets around that I was "bad-mouthing" they could get kicked off the staff team.
> shit sux
> however my editors saw the post before I had to delete it and asked about it
> "Hey Derpina, maybe instead of vendetta-ing the con I could sign you up for a press badge this year."
> the con chair's face when someone he personally stole shit from is showing up again in an official journalist capacity.

>>7188756
Pls gooby tell us more

Dis sum high grade drama

>tfw was gonna spend money on my rori wardrobe but then ended up spending $75 on expensive tea

>Tfw you found a super deal for a nintendo 3DS xl with the pokémon x game and didn't bought it because you were saving for loli clothes for your birthday
>Tfw you didn't buy the loli clothes either because you were saving to go to Korea in case you got a scholarship
>Tfw you realize you live in Spain and you won't get a scholarship so you end up with no oppa no loli no DS
Today was a sad day

>>7188773
Are... are you me? I finally stepped inside the Teavana at my mall for the first time and ended up spending everything I had on tea.

>order a bunch of cosplay stuff I need for this weekend
>delivery time today
>waiting waiting waiting so much waiting
>customer was not avaliable retry tomorrow
FUUUUUU
>no notice for me about that but one for my neighbor
>no other days off this week
What the flying fuck. I hate this shit.

>tfw when you only have one friend to cosplay with
>tfw said friend badmouths everyone, including you, thinks that she's the best at everything she's tried once
>Including being better at sewing than me, when she has not made a single costume yet

>No qt3.14 jfash gf
>Go to see Thor
>Fucking fedora walks in with 10/10 otome girl
>She's a redhead

There's no justice in the world.

>tfw a bunch of shipping confirmation emails show up at once from multiple SS/webstores with vastly different wait times.

It's like they are speaking to me. "Psst, all that shit you've been waiting for is almost here! At the same time! Happy early fucking Christmas, kidlet!"

Delayed gratification is always better when it accidentally syncs up, especially with the holidays.

>>7188791

If it makes you feel better, Korea blows.

>tfw no friends
>tfw more lazy than I'd like to be
>tfw about to get some beer

My cosplay building always goes emotionally-- starting up with excitement and enjoyment and a rush to work on the project.

Then I hit a low point and I hate everything I've done- it's never good enough, I never make it as good as I wanted- I always hit a place where I feel like everything is fucked up and I don't want to continue on.

But I only have 3 weeks and 4 days-ish until I need this costume done and I just want to burn it.
I also had cosplay destroy a (shitty) relationship and it was bad.

>tfw you have three costumes 75% complete
>tfw you cannot find the motivation to keep going
HELP.

Just found out my parents are divorcing. Going to be moving back home after this college semester to start working again and make the planning for moving and shit go more smoothly. Shit sucks. Feel bad for my younger sister too who has to actually live in the house right now while I'm away

> tfw you convince one of your girl friends to break off her off/on fuckbuddy relationship with one of the biggest jerkasses in your community because it's making her miserable
> tfw guy has had a huge vendetta against you for years and stories of his drama-mongering partially influence her decision to break it off
> tfw guy has no idea you're even friends with his soon to be ex-squeeze

>Tfw Im the only one that cosplays or even likes Anime in my group of friends.

>Tfw I go alone to cons and it's really hard to make friends

What do I do? I'm so Ronery ;_; I have fun at the con still, but I bet it's be so much more fun with a pal

>>7188803
Dude this legit happens all the time to me. I have a long driveway, so the mail person uses it as an excuse to be a shit because 'lol sorry i couldnt find ur house it wasnt on the road ill just leave a notice'. Shit pisses me off

Tfw a cosplay you've been working on for a year and a half may be ready by your next con.

>>7188862

I have literally the exact problem right now

> tfw a costume that you've been working on for a year and a half still isn't ready

>>7188879
*exact opposite

dropped my grammar there

>>7188860
It always happens to me, but I'm even more pissed this time since they left a notice for someone else in my fucking apartment complex. For fucks sake why the fuck do these shitheads get away with this.

>Not sure which side to choose, cosplay or lolita
>Not having enough funds to go for both

On the other hand...
>A group of friends finally decide to stop cosplaying with a jerk in the group as they had enough of his shit
>Has been avoiding any cosplay plans with said jerk, hence not having much plans with said group of friends
>Finally get to do a convention cosplan with said friends without the jerk around
>Boyfriend is joining in as well

>tfw no gf
>tfw many possible partners among my friends but too shy to ask any of them out.

>>7188803
go and pick it up in person that day, fuck 'em.

>>7188911
I'm going to do it today, I called and bitched, the shit won't be there till after 7:30. Fuck this shit, I'm moving.

>>7188879

Some things take time, don't worry about it. It takes me a while to just have extra income for the material.

>tfw qt boyfriend offers to be my doll and will let me dress him up any any cosplay or aristo coord I want

Just got out of an audition.

Feeling Strong

>dress cute and taobao-y to uni every single day
>quiet so people probably assume i'm arrogant
>shy so its hard for me to talk to people
>tfw i just want to attract a cute gf to share clothes with ;__;

>tfw boyfriend decides he might cosplay with me to zenkaikon
>tfw he suggests couples cosplay
>tfw can't decide whether KURISUTINA or Ririchiyo
>mfw he doesn't know whether Rintarou or Miketsukami either

>tfw fat bitch you know complains all over every social network site about fat shaming and how size shouldn't matter in cosplay
>tfw that same fat bitch is the type who tells skinny girls they look sickly/need to eat a sandwich comforts her other fat friends by saying that guys don't like sticks and that curves are better than bones

I'm tired of this hypocritical nonsense.

>>7188944
How did it go anon? Was it for school or a casting?

>tfw wildly desperate for a girlfriend
>tfw normal girls would think I'm weird
>tfw cosplay girls are fucking psycho
I just want a cute casual cuddlebaby.

>>7188950
KURISUTINA for sure. I'll love you forever.

>>7188947
>quiet so people probably assume i'm arrogant
>shy so its hard for me to talk to people

Me too, I hate that. I'm almost half way though my degree and I still don't have any friends. I still dress cutely in the hope that someone from another degree who doesn't know I'm a loner will come and talk to me between lectures.

>>7188993
feels

I want to internet hug you

>>7188736
>I didn't see one up

There's a reason. They're not allowed. Take this shit to /soc/.

>tfw finally cosplaying from the same anime with girlfriend

I mean, we cosplay together all the time but it feels like we haven't cosplayed /together/ in a while. It's kinda nice. ~

>>7188947
>>7189016
Dressing in any way out of the ordinary will make you seem generally less approachable. Especially to shy people.

>tfw friend wants to do a cosplay with me that I've been waiting to do myself for a long time
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LeVJYu_woXU

>>7189006
Oh gosh, anon!
Ririchiyo's legs are damn fine.. but I'd also love to do awesome zentai poses! And labcoats, oh my. <3

>tfw I'm having massive downward mood swings, bouts of depression and the beginnings of an eating disorder cropping up after thinking I had all my emotional shit under control
>tfw this is after a year long trip that was supposed to progress my life, per se, and now I feel I've gone 100 steps backwards
>tfw I'm destroying my body, future, and can't find the energy to give a fuck

> Tfw you look at your mint.com spending trends, and see that you spent $3000+ on convention crap and lolita clothes in the past 12 months

>tfw cosplaying/conventions have been more stress than they're worth this past year

It's like the universe is just telling me to quit this stuff. I got screwed over by the staff head at one con. A pair of pants I commissioned for a cosplay is getting runs and snags in it right before the event (I'm not even touching it so I don't know). My little sister keeps switching up what cosplay she wants me to make her when the con is next weekend so I have to keep going to the store to return/purchase. Rushing to sew a project within a few hours of the con is no longer fun to me! On top of my classes, this is all driving me batty.

>Looking for accounting jobs
>Next major intake september 2014
>Need temporary jobs til then
>Land one
>Boring, shit hours, shit pay
>Come home tired as fuck with only a few hours before I need to sleep
>Have to spend every spare hour applying to accounting jobs/doing tests/practising/searching for a better temp job
>Little money and no time to enjoy it
>Train to see girlfriend for the weekend (more like 1 day) costs ~ 1.5 days work.
>Hate LDRs

Suffering

>tfw want to join semi-friends' cosplay group but are too shy to ask
I've known some of these people for years but have never gotten close to them, and I'd feel weird asking to cosplay with them and join their group. Damn you, social anxiety.

>tfw I can't fine winter clothes that I like.

Petty as fuck, but I just want to find a scarf, boots, and maybe a coat that I don't hate.

>have wanted to cosplay since grade 10
>couldnt because lots of APs and sat prep courses and overbearing parents
>'in college ill have all the time I need to learn how to sew!'
>decide on nanotechnology major that requires research starting sophomore year
>tfw barely have enough time to complete labwork and papers
God fucking dammit, I'm going to be a lurker here forever aren't I?

bump

>Con coming up in January
>Planning on cosplaying a character with shorts and thigh highs
>Still have huge, 19" thighs
Wish me luck, /cgl/...

>>7188811

I was thinking of similar things when I was driving today. There is a yin and yang for the universe right? So for every fat neckbeard that has a qt GF, there is a fit dude that can't get a GF to save his life. Or for every dude working his ass off to pay for supper and a roof, there is a lazy dude that has plenty of cash for everything.

TLDR Maybe I just was never meant to be happy. Curse you predeterminism.

>>7188953

Better check that privilege

>cosplay in early January
>barely started
>making full armor set
>will be unable to work on cosplay for days

My heart is fluttering in the worst of ways.

>>7191167
>19"
>Huge

Women are funny some times

>>7191196
19" each, they're pretty damn big and jiggly imo.

>>7191167
>19"
My 24" thighs would like a word with you.

>>7189635
You can do it, anon. I wallowed in depression-induced apathy for 3 months after my s/o of 6 years broke up with me, then I finally got the cojones to get up, go to a counselor, see a psychiatrist, and get the therapy/meds I needed. Just do your best to do little things to take care of yourself -- remembering to eat meals, showering/putting on makeup if applicable, even just taking an extra long hot shower. Hang in there.

>>7191203

Jesus, I would hope you meant each. I don't think you could stand if it wasn't.

If it's just as motivation to improve yourself a bit, that's great. It just seemed like you were being overly hard on yourself.

>>7191203
yeah try 23" or >>7191212, gtfo

Feels?

>Be me.
>Go to con.
>Wear the coat I always wear, my double breasted 18thC calf leather coat.
>Yeah, it looks like a pirate coat.
>My name by birth is Kilian
>Be unaware of the TV show or fandom for "Once upon a time"...And the character Captain Killian Hook.
>Suddenly! Tumblr fangirls!
>"You don't have the right facial hair"
>"Where is the rest of your costume?"
>"Where is your hook?"
>"You spelled 'Killian' wrong on you badge!"
>Happens ALL DAY.

Bad feels /cgl/.

>>7189451
except...not always.
it's funny because my friend dresses completely opposite of everyone (SUPER classic goth) but people will often approach her a lot more than me.

>>7191247
I can't fucking even with that show. I hate it.
My mom watches it and I was visiting and making some food in the kitchen in full view of the program.
>Queen of heart's guards have the Bowie lightning stripe for no fucking reason
>Alice looks like fucking Katniss in streetclothes
>Jafar is antagonizing Alice
>Alice in love with some normalfag OC, and Peter Pan too I think..?
>"Alice" also is nothing like the character, at all, acts like a 25 y/o Mary Sue instead.
Does the wonderland trope even mean jack shit anymore?
That scene was able to convey the mood of a shit-tier Disney crossover fanfiction in under 5 minutes.
I am both impressed and immensely disappointed.

>tfw when you are just plain ugly
>ugly roman nose with awkward bump
>weird face shape
>butt chin
>just not cute or pretty or hot
>will never be cute or pretty or hot no matter how much makeup i put on because my face is plain busted
>shitty skin too
>only plastic surgery could fix my face
>and it sucks

> tfw otaku coworker won't stop calling you his 'lolicon'

>>7191247
...You just lost the lottery dood. Good luck.

>>7191203
I just measured mine out of curiosity, 20.5" each, and they're not too big. Pretty proportionate to my butt and hips. Are you especially short/skinny otherwise?

>>7191212
>>7191237
>>7191292
Oh jeez, I really didn't mean to seem as if I was saying /all/ thighs 19" and above were huge.
I'm 5'2 and about 138 pounds, I'm trying to thin everything out at least a little before the con, but my thighs are just what I'm really worried about.

>>7191300
Trust me, 19" thighs will look just fine.

>be in deep pit of depression
>met v. cute ex-lolita girl (quit because eating disorder I think)
>she is very cute somewhat mori
>from the start agree to be casual
>share stuff w/ her that I've never shared before first girl I've ever felt truly comfortable w/
>want to ask her to be serious gf but decide not to because I don't want to ruin what we have
>after not seeing each for a while we meet up and she tells me one of the other people she has been seeing wants to go serious and I tell her I can't be her friend and walk away all joy division
>2+ months later and I still feel like dirt

the sweaters I lent her still smell like her perfume. I think now I have a complex about lolita/mori girls and browse /cgl/ out of self-pity and longing

>>7191300
I'm 5'2" and just under 115 lbs, and 20.5". Still sounds like you're doing pretty well to me, but you know your body better than anyone.

Good luck on the weight loss, btw. I've been trying to maintain 110, but water retention is a bitch. All dat bloating.

>>7191263
So I am not the only one who thinks its utter shit?

>>7191270
You're probably over exaggerating.

>>7191282
I would say that is boarding on sexual harassment, but no matter what, you should get a taser.

>>7191289
:(

>>7191309

> I would say that is boarding on sexual harassment, but no matter what, you should get a taser.

I have a boxcutter and several boning knives.

I just fucking hate that he talks REALLY FUCKING LOUD and all of the guys in his department know what lolicon is.

I've told him before why it makes me uncomfortable, but he just goes 'but is funny tho.'

>>7191282
Is he legit calling you "lolicon" and not "loli" why would he be saying that to you? That's really fucking odd.

>>7191322

Because he thinks it's funny. He knows the difference.

>>7191308
i'm an inch taller than you, same weight, 22.5" thighs, kill me now

>>7188826
I know this feel. I don't cosplay, but sew regular (non-lolita) clothes. It's like every time I put a lot of work into something and I'm almost done, I just get sick of sewing and it shows in the finished product. Or fuck, I'm sure I have a few half sewn dress or two still tucked away in my closet from when I just didn't even have enough motivation to finish.

Also, my own feel, I'd love to start sewing lolita clothes but I think something that high quality is above my skill level and I don't want to be that one ita with the shitty handmade clothes.

>>7191247
OMG I saw you at the con! I wasnt sure it was you and kept looking for clowns tho and wasnt sure.

I want to get back into cosplay but my boyfriend is weirdly supportive of it in a "Oh, you're doing that thing again", and I want to get into lolita but I know he'll have the same reaction
Its such a tiny thing and the rest of the relationship is great but he's so irritating when it comes down to my one different hobby, and I've yet to meet a guy into cosplaying/lolita/games that isn't also socially awkward or in general Not My Type.

I'm generally unhappy and just want to play my games and finishing sewing my dress.

>>7191270

I don't see "overweight" listed on there, you'll be just fine.

Also maybe post a pic and get some constructive criticism?

>>7188953

You and me both, just realize its her way of expressing her deep-seated insecurity. Its a cry for help really.

>>7191347

That's rough, I guess you gotta choose between which is more important, the relationship or the hobby. Best of luck to you, maybe he will come around to it if you explain it a certain way.

>>7191347
why do hobbies/what you wear have to dictate your relationship?

it's just clothes, it's not who you are

i date girls who usually wear walmart/khols clothes.

i exclusively shop at neiman marcus/saks/barneys.
i even sit there and play MTG with dudes in fedoras and graphic tee's at card shops

no need to judge people
some people like clothes, some don't

>>7191327

Delicious thighs

>>7191270
Ahh, anon. I know these feels. My face is noticeably asymmetrical and not cute shaped, and it drives me insane. Also
>not fat, but have wide frame, grotesque broad shoulders, short torso
>be a rectangular semi-blob
>thin hair
I could go on about my biological shortcomings.

You could just be overly critical of yourself and have low self-esteem, though, anon.

>>7191360
leave, fatty

>>7188947
it'll be okay georgia <3

>>7190720
Find a new relationship that shit ain't worth it in the long run.

>tfw some cheeky cunt finds a picture of you modeling a work in progress and posts it on their tumblr as an example of a horrible costume

>tfw not part of any cosplay group and too spaghetti to make new friends

>>7191734
Join the G+ cgl group. We do groups all the time. Most people are on the east coast there though.

>>7191675
I just got out of a LDR 2 weeks ago

Listen to this anon, it stings like a bitch and no cool cosplay or Burando I will make me feel like what I did when I was with her.

But then again, I'm getting over it in pretty break neck speeds.

>>7191675
>>7191782
Nah, I don't think so bro, I really genuinely love this girl, it's just shitty being away from her. We survived her being abroad for a year already anyway.

>have a fetish for a lot of the jappy fashions you see posted on here
>girlfriend knows and would love to wear them for me
>girlfriend is EE
>chinky winkies are flat
>hard to find reasonably priced dresses which will fit titties and rest of body well
>tfw no fetish sex

>>7194153
Look on places like Etsy for indie brands and get her something custom sized.

I'm sad because my mother is very depressed, and there's nothing I can do to help her.

>>7194197

You could quit being a disappointment.

Or was that me?

>>7188947
>>7189016
>quiet so people probably assume i'm arrogant
>shy so its hard for me to talk to people
If people are assuming that you're arrogant, it's not because you're quiet, it's because you're probably glaring at the wall. Bitch face is a fixable disease, you've just got to practice where your face sits, especially your eyebrows.
It's better to overdue it and look worried/depressed than to look like you hate everyone in your class and are bored out of your mind.
Practice in the mirror doing a mild smile. You don't have to grin, but if you have a pleasant curve to your lips while you're just walking around or sitting in class, people will assume you're a kind person.


>>7191675
You don't really know what the situation is. Some LDRs can work, some can't. Just assuming it isn't worth it is a big assumption, especially considering that the post was about being between jobs. Maybe they're both figuring out their work deal, and the only temporary work that poster could find was in a different town. Or they're studying at different universities. Or one of their relatives is sick so they're staying with them for the last year of their life. Maybe they are working on saving money to move in together. We don't know how long they have been dating, how long they've been long distance, or how long it will be until/if they live closer.
There's a lot of reasons that people can be in a LDR.

>>7194197
I don't know your mom nor your relationship (I don't know if you even like her), but I can speak to you as a depressed person who has loved ones floundering, worried that their love isn't fixing me. It's sad, and hard to say, "Yes, I know you love me but that doesn't mean I don't feel like shit."
I know that they're trying, and that they love me, and that they're worried about me rather than annoyed. That right there actually helps me much more than they can know.
Your mom might not be looking too hot, and maybe might not be able to express herself beyond crying and/or yelling, but it's very likely that you calling her, spending time with her, reminding her that you're there for her, does put some ease in her heart.

But let's talk about you for a second. I can't possibly imagine what you're going through. That must be hard, having someone who raised you, who took care of you, be so sad and broken. Having to redefine who takes care of whom. I don't know if this has been a recent development or if you grew up learning to be more careful and caring with your mom than other kids needed to be. Either way is difficult and exhausting.

I'm sorry you have to go through that. Depression is an ugly thing and effects everyone in the depressed's life.

>>7194197
My mom is depressed too, and it really effects my dad and everybody else as well. My older sister and I got my mom while she was still okay, but my younger sister has had my mom be depressed during most of her life and it's had a strong effect on her. She's confided in me that she thinks our mom doesn't love her and she recently also told me that she thinks our dad would have been happier if she wasn't born.

>>7191734
I feel your pain anon. I'm too shy to make new friends and the fact that I go to cons with non-cosplayers/casuals doesn't help at all..

I want to cosplay the living shit out of Leona (LoL)
I have never made armor before, never even touched worbla.
But I don't give a living shit.
no one can stop me and its going to be a train wreck but its gonna be the most fantastic train wreck ever.

I feel surprised because the love flower is starting to bloom again in my heart. It is really a platonic love, though. I'm not even in the friendzone.

I've pretty much resigned myself to perpetual singledom since everytime I take an interest in someone, it never seems to work out. It's either they're already taken, too young, too crazy, they're gay, or any combination of the previous mentioned traits. And the one girl I did have a chance with, I blew it simply cause I waited too long. I'm over her now but man did I beat myself up for it for a long time.

On the opposite end of that spectrum, I seem to be a goddamn magnet for girls who are in unhappy relationships and want to essentially use me as their quick sugar daddy. Ashamed to admit it but I did partake with someone who "Claimed" they were in an open relationship and that their significant other was okay with it. Well, to put it simply, it blew up in my face. Pretty much all parties involved are pissed at each other and me, for good reason.
Tried going out a few times by myself, did have this girl take an interest in me and big surprise, she has a BF that's never around and wants a quick lay. I couldn't bring myself to do it and left quickly.

Honestly, it's kind of turned me off of sex in way, like I don't even want to deal with it anymore.

>>7204820
Too young is not a problem. I used to get mad because only younger guys go after me. Screw social norms, I'll go with them!

>>7204820
Same poster

I should clarify, not turned off of just sex, but turned me off of dating or finding anyone period.

>>7204833
There's a difference between young as in maybe like 3-6 years younger, but when you're like in jailbait territory, yeah, that's not gonna happen.
Also, the mental maturity is another issue.

>>7204820
I sort of have a similar problem myself. I seem to attract girls with a shitton of problems/general social awkwardness, who seem to think that we're meant to be all because I'm average-looking and have "geeky" interests.

>>7204835
Do they ever fake taking a similar interest that you happen to have? Seems to be that way for me.

I don't know, I consider myself quite introverted and I do think that's a lot of the reason why I've never really dated. At some point, a friend of mine told me that for the longest while she thought I was asexual.
The flip side of that is, I tend to attract a lot of annoying weebs who project the "Aloof dark haired loner" stereotype onto me.

>tfw I should be studying for finals
>tfw I could be writing a paper
>tfw I should be finishing that last painting to improve my grade
>tfw I COULD also be finishing my cosplays in time for Katsucon
>tfw when all I can bring myself to do right now is sit and stare at the wall

I hate stress. It turns me into a cooked vegetable.

>>7204857
I'm the same way. Sadly I don't know what to tell you because I still have major problems with it.

>>7204857
Know how you feel, but add depression. I could be doing productive things, but I guess I'm just going to sit here and cry all day instead.

>>7204843
Not exactly faking interest, but attempting to get into whatever it is - which I'll admit is kind of sweet. But more often than that, they're pestering me into getting into whatever they're into. One girl was basically implying she'd fuck me if I read homestuck for her.

I have no idea how I'm feeling right now.

I've been dealing with my untreated (professionally diagnosed) mental illness for four years now. Right now I can't seek out help. (It wouldn't cost me a penny with my insurance, but my parents think there's nothing wrong and are really against it. I'm eighteen and live at home with them. I'll be starting college next fall.) And I don't know what to do. I'm tired of living like this, and I don't want to live anymore.

But today, I started my first Japanese class, and my teacher was so excited because he rarely gets to teach Japanese in school. He spoke the entire time in Japanese, and it was so challenging, but I really enjoyed it. For the 72 minutes that we were together, I didn't think about anything else but Japanese and trying to understand my teacher. The one part of me that wants to live wants to live because I really want to learn this language. But staying alive for Japanese? That's so fucking stupid.

Sorry for the vent. I don't know what I should do lol.

Just a little sad that my friends I always tried to get to do groups with me are now part of a group with other cosplayers and don't think to try to include me on group costumes. Oh well.

>>7204877
If it's keeping you afloat, it isn't stupid. People can be dorky about the dorkiest things but in the end it's just adorable.

Keep learning Japanese.

>>7204877

Most colleges have a health center that will include psychological help, and medication if needed. Our school lets you charge medication to your billing account or use your insurance. As a coming adult, you should be able to use your insurance on your own.

That is if you're not going to a community college. If so, ignore me.

>>7204857
>>7204861
>>7204864
Break it up into little bite size pieces. It's like that Bill Murray movie where his therapist tells him "Baby Steps!!"

If you look at the big picture and add everything up, your going to overwhelm yourself, which is going to trigger the stress related problems. So break it down to it's components and do one of those at a time and give yourself a generous timefrrame.

The success and satisfaction you feel when you complete each little bit then generates a momentum and before you know it, you're there. Just take tiny nibbles and make them into mini projects. The hardest part is getting started on the first little bit.

>>7204877
Your parents are fucking idiots. Seriously, why the fuck would they just let you be miserable and suicidal without doing anything about it? Do they not love you?

I get the whole "denial" thing that some parents go through when they find out their children are sick, but if you were professionally diagnosed then they should be doing the best they can to make sure you're safe and happy. This is coming from someone who has suffered greatly due to a mental illness. If I didn't have support from my parents, I'd probably be dead.

Go slap your parents. They deserve it.

>>7204869
Ugh, I swear every girl I've met that reads Homestuck has issues of some sort. It's gotten to the point where if a girl admits to me she likes Homestuck, instant turn-off.

>>7204877
It's not stupid at all. You have found something you enjoy doing and that gets you out of bed each morning. It could have been gardening, it could have been a kitten, it could have been anything - but in your instance it happens to be this.

Focus on learning - it's making you happy and challenging you. We all need things that do this otherwise we stagnate and brood.

>>7204877
I'm really sorry you're going through that shit. Nothing is worse than feeling like you don't want to live anymore. I'm in a really similar situation (OCD; not the super neat and clean kind though, the slave to your own malfunctioning brain's obsessions and compulsions / crazy hoarder kind) and even though I'm older, I have a hard time getting help mostly because of the disorder itself and money.

Living for japanese isn't stupid. In reality, almost everything we do as humans is stupid and made up. Do you have a lot of anxiety? It seems like you enjoy the class so much because it allows you to live in the moment and quiet your mind a little bit. It's possible to live that way ALL the time and it's essentially the road they'll lead you down if you make it to therapy.

>>7204888
I mean I can deal with some - usually the ones who aren't fucking obsessed with it. The one who wanted me to read it basically would never shut the hell up about it, never stop sending me the stupid videos, kept sending me homestuck porn and would regularly work in homestuck references into regular speech. Eventually I just started mocking homestuck every time she tried forcing it on me and presto, I'm suddenly a bully. Because it's my goddamn fault this bitch doesn't understand "I'm not interested in homestuck."

Then there's the other weirdos who have declared their undying love for me despite never actually meeting me in person...

>>7204880
Find better friends.

>>7204887
My parents have had a hard time dealing with my mental illness as well and haven't been incredibly helpful. I think that because so many cases are genetic that it forces the parent to consider that they themselves might have been "crazy" all along and it scares them shitless. I agree that your parents should be there for you but remember that they're only human and they get frightened too. Imagine it being the preinternet days and growing up not being sure if you were mentally ill or not and then years later after you've learned to cope having your child come to you so fucked up by the genes you gave her that she's going to kill herself. Scary stuff man.

Original sick-anon I'm sure your parents love you very much, sometimes people just make bad decisions or can't understand.

>TFW fired from job today

Welp no cons for me as of now.

>>7204882
I think I might, then! I need something to stay afloat.

>>7204886
I'm not going to a community college, thank you for the advice! I've had other friends who have told me similar things, and that's what I've been trying to hold out for, getting help in college. But sometimes I just get overwhelmed with this and I think, "Am I even fixable?" I don't want to feel this way for the rest of my life. A part of me is scared to actually get help too, because I'm worried that I can't be fixed.

>>7204887
I hope that my parents love me, who knows though. Both of my parents grew up in the 60s-70s and came from households that stigmatized mental illnesses. My mom is more accepting than my dad is. When I was first diagnosed four years ago, I was seeing a therapist and psychiatrist weekly. However my dad decided that I was magically cured and I had to stop seeing them and stop taking the meds I was on at that time.

>>7204894
It did help me get out of bed this morning, that is very true. I really like learning, I could see myself getting completely absorbed in this.

>>7204900
I do, there have been some days where I haven't been able to go to school because I was afraid and too nervous to go. I've also had anxiety attacks. I'm not anxious all the time however, I have episodes of it that can last for several days. And oh my god I would love to be in the same mind-state that I was in during the class. That's what I want, I just want to be happy.

Thank you all for your replies, I really appreciate it! This is helping me try to clear my mind.

>>7204923
Hang in there, Anon! Remember that the less time you spend stressing out about it, the more productive you can be about finding a new one. You got this.

>TFW never been to a con and none near me

>>7204923
Use the stress and grief to power search for the next job. You can do it, anon.

>>7204925
That puppy!

I can completely relate to being too anxious to go to school, that's really rough. I promise though that even though there are going to be times when it feels like it's impossible, you can absolutely get to a point where you can actively control your anxiety even without medication . That said it may be a good idea to good idea to keep tracking down a doctor to prescribe you an antidepressant for the short term while you figure stuff out. Like I said, it takes a while to get the hang of it.

The stuff i've done with psychiatrist is called cognitive therapy, there's tons and tons of free info about it on the web and from what I understand it's the medical standard. Basically what it boils down to is that you need to focus on living in the moment,building confidance, being consistently present to keep away negative daydreams that will stress you out and just generally learning to keep calm. Good luck, Anon, you'll be just fine.

>saved up grant money for con in january
>able to go to a con for all 3 days for once
>group cosplay with several friends
>limited time to buy cosplay and con stuff + pre-reg and plane ticket for another con in june
>mfw

How do you get out of a slump?
I haven't done anything in so long and it's so hard to get back into it.

>>7188953
Ugh, you and me both. That "real women have curves " shit drives me insane. I'm 5'5" Chinese girl with small hips and bust.

>tfw you want to buy a whole wardrobe of different color and style seifukus, then wear them every day of the week.
I usually wear vk boy style, but sometimes I want to feel girly.

>went to local con with friend
>spent a lot of time on my cosplay
>go with girl from school who did some sort of closet cosplay
>she brought a shitty blanket with nic cage on it
>she gets more attention and photos taken of her just because of the blanket
>mfw

>>7205640
That's simultaneously hilarious and sad.
Most con goers are retarded.

>>7205636
Yes, this!
I'm afraid of looking like a weeb, though. Or attracting weeb attention.

Also
>tfw want to have close friendships where you share cute clothes, but no friends same size as you
I'm much smaller than my circle of friends that have the same fashion tastes as me, but they all happen to be apple-chans or near there. They don't discuss weight at all with me, so I'd feel dumb to just randomly go "so how about losing some weight?" just so we can share clothes. They seem content how they are, so I just wouldn't.
And then making a skinny friend just to share clothes with sounds just as dumb to me.

>>7188950
ZENKAIKON?

Holy balls, someone else is actually going! Maybe I'll see you there, anon. Keep your eye out for Kiki, or a Bubblehead Nurse.

>>7205854
I went last year it was pretty shit. might go again. just for sat

>>7205640
It's because of Homestuck, Nic Cage became a stupid meme among the fans.

>>7204885
This is what I'm trying to do. I dunno, there's just so much crammed into a small time frame that I don't think I'd get it all done even in baby steps.

>tfw live somewhere too hot for tights/OTKs, legs too muscular and manly to wear ankle socks

>>7205856
A friend of mine told me that the rave was amazing. It's my first year going (and I mean, it's in Lancaster, so I'm not expecting much) and he insists that if nothing else, I have to go just for the rave.

>Want to buy table for sweet dough
>Not enough dough right now to buy table for hypothetical future dough
>christmas is coming up and several people expect gifts from me
>m-my dough...

>>7208359
Are you me, anon?

>>7208438
>Want to get gifts for all my friends and not seem like a bum for once
>shitton of bills pop up at once
>School schedule makes it hard to get a job

>tfw my helium tank finally arrived in the mail

>>7208359
>legs too muscular

I don't believe that is a thing that can happen.

>>7209802
Most likely they're not all that bad, but pic related
Now imagine it in lolita

>tfw when have a big crush on your guy friend and find out he's ftm trans. Ugh ok.. Probably doing it for attention. In his early 20s, so don't have time to wait for hormones and a penis. False advertisement

>>7205863
Not anon who posted, but really ? Wtf

>>7209843
Wow you sound like a bitch, also
>greentexting an entire post
If he can pull off a dude well enough for you to believe he is one, then chances are he's not one of the transtrenders, as they usually don't even try.

>>7209852
That was my fault because I'm on mobile.

Well, it bothers me when I find a guy into cosplay and anime and he turns out to be trans. Yeah, he's kinda feminine looking, but I know feminine boys do exist. Just felt kind of lied to.

>>7209825
>dat booty
those cheeks can crack a walnut

I'm kinda a shy lurker so I'm not too sure if I am doing this right but thanks for this thread because I'm a bit irritated....
> plan to go to small anime convention in the kalahari
> friend offers to give me a ride because i can't drive
> friend bails only a couple days before con and says sorry i don't want to go for only one day
> ok
> somehow end up finding a way there and didnt come to con until 9pm
> different friend who knows my situation of friend who bailed was taking me back home
> says "im staying until sunday" but that was a lie " i actually said i might be coming back sunday so im leaving tonight"
> "sorry lol im not coming back to get you"

>>7209865
>FtM transexual.
>Passes well enough to appear male.
>Hasn't finished going through the process yet.

>Bah, I feel lied to because I thought he an attractive guy, and he just hasn't finished transitioning yet.

If you actually gave a crap about him as a person, you could wait for him to finish going through the process.

>tfw he catches you masturbating to your guilty fetish

>local cons are gradually becoming more shit
>grand cons abroad are looking gradually more amazing

I'm getting jealous. I want to take a bite of that enjoyment as well, and I know that I only have a short time frame to do so.


>>7191306
You had less to lose by just going serious the second you told her, or at least telling her that you wanted it for a while.

>>7204820
How do you feel when you're helping them?
It doesn't feel like charity when helping such people. I don't expect to receive blood diamonds or sex, just for the person to finally be okay.

I have two 6 page essays due in 12 hours exactly and I haven't slept... and I can't get off /cgl/...

>tfw only one local con a year
>tfw $1,500 (average) plane ticket to go to any other con

do girls get horny at cons? Do they make out with strangers at cons? Is a con a good place to meet someone for a serious relationship?

>>7209935
Just kill yourself you beta faggot

>>7209906
You're pretty screwed, anon.

>>7209937
where is this /b/?

>>7209935

No and no and no.

>trying to get the rest of babbys first loli wardrobe put together before local meetup in december
>debating 3 days over buying which headpiece/coat
>cat gets worms
>shell out $130
maybe i'll make it to a meet next year...

>>7209942
but i saw two of them sneak into a hotel room

>relearning how to socialize after breaking up with long-term bf
>make meaningless friendly banter one day with qt3.14 boy from class, it was OK
>he begins initiating conversation each class, starts sitting next to me, follows me out the room
>talk about clothes and shit, he compliments my lolita, he's such a /fa/ggot
>friendship blooms, make out in his car maybe once or twice
>suddenly, he says "hey i'm leaving the state after this semester"
>pretty much assume everything from this point on is futile, pushing down my feelings and avoiding him, no use in building a friendship if him leaving is just gonna make me sad in the end
>tfw just the smell of cigarettes and coffee is enough to send me spiraling into sadness

>>7209825

Sounds hot

>>7209888

It still wouldn't be the same. Sometimes things that walk like ducks and sound like ducks aren't ducks.

What if she wants kids? etc

>>7209891
>Getting caught masturbating by a crush

This is the beginning of like half of porn

>>7188736
Scared, sad, and embarrassed.
I have class tomorrow and we have a giant final project coming up soon, which I haven't done much work on, plus a giant extra credit assignment because I missed three assignments because of my anxiety the past month. I have to wake up really early in the morning tomorrow to get on the train because I commute to uni and get back at dark. Then later this week is Thanksgiving where I have to interact with one crazy uncle and one shitty uncle, and then do Black Friday with my crazy mother so I won't get any sleep and my depression symptoms get worse when I don't sleep. The final project is due on Dec 4th so I need to try to squeeze in work time during the upcoming weekend regardless of being away from home. I feel fucking awful. There's a lot riding on this because it'll be the first class I finish after enduring two mental breakdowns and dropping previous classes, resulting in F's for the semester. I'm just really scared right now and honestly lolita is making me more stressed. I start getting down on myself for having these nice things that I feel I don't deserve because I'm not good enough. I try putting nice coords on my dress form and looking at them so I have something pretty and inspiring to see each morning while I get ready for the day, but it's just been making me feel worse, like "this looks ridiculous, you would look ridiculous if you went out in public like this. everything else about you is shitty so there's nothing even about yourself that makes up for looking like a freak".
I think I need to raise my antidepressant dose right now before this gets even worse. I know I'm digging myself into a deeper mental hole and the only way to fix it is to just WORK and DO THIS PROJECT to get it over with, but I'm so afraid of failure that I don't even want to start, you know? Like I don't even want to realize it's there and it's real, so I don't acknowledge it.

I should probably talk to someone before I screw up again.

>>7209891
what is it

>tfw when you've been into jfashion for 12 years. Finally get some nice Lolita pieces, but your 28th birthday is approaching and not sure how much longer you can wear Lolita
I don't look old, but makes me worry if investing lots of money in Lolita fashion is worth it when I'm in my early 30s.
Also, I only do classic or gothic style. Maybe that helps?

>>7210161
I know lots of lolitas in their late twenties / early thirties and they look amazing in classic. I think someone of any age can pull off gothic.

>>7210149
Just ask yourself: "Will I regret not doing this?" If the answer is yes, go do it. I also struggle with depressive tendencies and I find that keeping myself busy helps more than taking time off, in which case I overthink things and depress myself. I only rest when I accomplish something, so I don't feel guilt when I'm supposed to be relaxing.

>>7210134
I don't want kids, and I feel kind of bad..
I just want the natural born chromosome, you know? How guys want natural born chromosome with women. I see more trans people dating each other because I guess they have that understanding.
Not sure i can handle a non working penis and its just not my thing. I wouldn't want to lie to myself

>>7209935
Yes, yes, and no. Obviously this doesn't apply to every female ever but I manage to find decent to good looking girls to hook up with during cons.

>>7210164
Thanks. I've been into gothic and classic a very long time and finally feel like I just need to own some pieces. Even if I don't dress Lolita every day, I feel do pretty when I do.

Thanks a lot, kind anon.

>>7210168
I know it's not acceptable to say what you just did amongst the SJW morons that will inevitably jump you, but I'm glad you are being honest with yourself. It would be worse for both of you if you pursued a relationship while trying to push your reservations aside. You shouldn't feel bad. It's just how you are.

>>7210166
That's a good thing to ask myself. I've never thought of it that way. Thanks anon.
I think I'll head to bed now because I have to wake up early. I was going to stay up and try to work but I know I'm just not in a good place right now and don't want to screw up my brain for tomorrow. I will work hard tomorrow and get a chunk of this done before leaving for travel on Wednesday.

>>7210170
It's true, anon! Take the JetJ designer Nakamura for example (in the middle). She looks great in the fashion and I'm sure she's in her late thirties / early forties. And even if you decide to sell the pieces you buy, lolita is a great hobby because you can sell them back on the comm and get most of your money back, something you can't usually do in other hobbies in regards to clothes.

I feel like I fucked up my relationships at one point. My boyfriends a charming and sweet boy who really cares for me, but he's also a jealous overbearing person sometimes. I miss my friends who've gone to other colleges, especially my "big bro" of sorts. I just want them back. I had my trio that I belonged in, and now they're gone and I have a couple acquaintances and my boyfriend to really hang out with.

I miss my big bro. He's someone I'd talk to every single day, hang out with often, we fought like wolves and it was great. Now he's in a really nice college with really nice people and he's got so many other friends, and I'm sure I've been replaced.

I'm seeing him this weekend hopefully, but there's always the chance he'll be too busy with ladyfriends and I'll be called into work randomly and I just really don't like it. I miss my bro man. I need to grow up and understand people have different lives, but I hate it so much. Just want my big bro back.

>>7210199
are you sure you wouldn't rather be dating your "big bro" than your boyfriend?

>>7210209
Ew no, incest.

In actuality though, no. We actually talked about it, a lot. We pretty much understood that we're like... Platonic life partners. Its hard to explain. I care about him a lot, but not like a boyfriend or significant other. Someone who's really important to my life, but not smooches or dtf.

Its hard to explain. But I really can't imagine dating him. I mean hell, I help hook him up with half the girls he's been interested in.

>>7210209
Me again, I added the boyfriend bit and neglected to add why thats even a problem. I'm happy with the bf, but he gets so jealous about the bro. Understandably, but in a way that rubs me the wrong way.

My generalized feelings about forever.

I have a growing list of medical problems, both physical and mental, that I'm not being seen for, because I can't afford to go to the family doctor, and also the orthopedist, and also the psychologist, and also the sleep specialist, and also the gastroenterologist, because my job is absolute shit, but I can't find a better job because of all of my health problems, which are only made worse by my current shit job... It's a vicious cycle. I also have to go to the dentist tomorrow. Lucky me.

On the bright side, my parents, as a Christmas gift, have agreed to pay for me to go to a con this year that I almost definitely couldn't have afforded otherwise.

>>7210214
He's your moirail! Sorry to Homestuck at you but that's exactly what you've described, haha. I have a male friend exactly like that and it's great, no sexual tension there whatsoever, we're just bros to eternity. We used to meet up on Monday nights to drink beer, eat noodles, Facebook stalk people from college and twerk badly to Barry White, but I left the country. I miss him a lot.

My grandma's probably going to die this week. She's been living with us since her stroke a couple years ago, and she had another one 3 weeks ago. Today she slept for 16 hours, and had a bite of chocolate ice cream. I worry that I will have to take finals instead of going to her funeral, which will be in a different state.

I'm on Thanksgiving break, so my parents want me to help out with her, but I really just want to get out of the house. Being around her is just depressing. When I think of the vibrant, independent person she always was... I probably sound like a terrible person, but it was a nice rant. Thanks, seagulls.

>>7210228
Haha, no need to sorry. I looked it up and that sounds kinda like it. Bros of the highest caliber.

Thats rough man, sorry.

>>7210232
I understand, anon. My grandmother has dementia, I really can't stand to be around her. I just think of how fun she used to be, and the summers I spent at her house... and now, she can't even talk, or use the bathroom. She's just gone.

Usually schools will allow you to reschedule finals in a situation like that though, I'd definitely talk to your professors if you need to.

>>7210232
You don't sound terrible at all. It takes a special kind of person to be able to selflessly be around someone they love who's dying. Just make sure she know you love her, and then take care of yourself. For your grandmother, the pain stops at death. For you, you have the depressing emotions afterwords as well.

>>7210235
>>7210237

Thanks, guys. I can empathize with the house thing, too. My best friend, my boyfriend and I all had to trek across the country and clean her house out so my psychotic uncle (who is the power of atourney) could sell it because he's a greedy bitch. She lived in that house for fifty years. I spent my summers in that house. Now it's gone, and most of her accumulated life of fifty years with it.

>>7188773
Are you me ? I've spend 45€ in tea this week.

>TFW you're too sensitive, and your boyfriend always hurts your feelings, but it's your own fault for getting upset over stupid things.

I always feel like such a bitch, because I yell at him, and then realize it was my fault, and then he feels really bad, and then I feel really bad, so we just.... hold each other and mope.

>>7210250
>Mfw, I suffer from depression, and I'm married.

The crappy part about being in a relationship where one of you are suffering from depression. You’re depressed, and your partner tries to help you, because they don’t like seeing you depressed, and you know they’re trying to help and you get more depressed because you feel useless and a burden to them, and then they’re getting upset that they can’t help you, and you’re getting upset because they’re getting upset, and then you get more depressed because you upset your S/O and it just keeps being a cycle of depression and disappointment.

>>7210255
My boyfriend has terrible depression, and this has been happening in our relationship as well, exactly as you describe it. Is there anything he could say or do differently that could help?

>>7210261
and by he, I mean me. Is there anything I could do or say differently to help my boyfriend?

>>7210168

You can't help who you're attracted to, and if you aren't attracted to transmen, that's not something you need to be ashamed of.

I'm not saying swing a giant dildo in their faces, but you know what I mean.

And don't settle for someone who you're not really attracted to, because all it'll do is waste your time and leave you drained.

>>7210262
Another anon with depression and non-depressed but frazzled boyfriend. I can tell you what he does to help me, but your mileage may vary.

Make sure to set up exactly what is needed. For me, I had to tell my boyfriend no lectures on how to make things better, just hugs and then later making a gameplan.

Lots of small affections. Ask how the day went, ask how something else is going, have a nice conversation once a day and try to really get a meaningful answer to how he's feeling out of it. Make sure you're super open about it. Compliment him naturally when you can.

Small surprises. Do little things to try and cheer him up if he's mentioned having a bad day.

Come up with a game plan for when things are getting shittier than usual. My boyfriend and I sat down and had a pretty serious conversation about it, and came up with what I tend to do before a meltdown, what he does that escalates it, and how we can both avoid the meltdown, the escalation, and the events that follow. Its important to try and not place blame, and make it really blunt that this is something to highlight what you BOTH can do to make it better.

>>7210262
>>7210269

Also, something I neglected to mention, something I consider the most important step.

Take care of yourself. You aren't at your best to handle him and life in general if you're letting yourself fall to the wayside. My boyfriend was running himself ragged trying to take care of me when I was having a slow and steady meltdown recently, and it hurt him in schooling and at work. Take care of yourself while helping your boyfriend, and you'll be able to help much better.

>>7205617
>>7188953
>>7191350
>>7191188

>>7210232
My grandmother has been slowly dying from Alzheimer's for 9 years. She was like a third parent to me because both my parents worked long hours, so she lived with us for years until I was old enough to be in the house alone. There have been a lot of horrible things my family and I have had to endure, like with different care homes, fights with other family members about how sick she was, the slow progression of her forgetting one name, then another, then another, then finally mine... I won't go into detail about any if those things because I'm sure you already understand a lot of what I'm talking about. But please know that her death will actually be a good thing, not just for her as the end of her pain, but for yours as well. I've been diagnosed with multiple mental disorders from growing up with the stress of my grandma's Alzheimer's for so many years, then being old enough to contribute to her care, and then having to distance myself emotionally from her empty shell of a body that remains. Nearly a decade of watching her deteriorate has been absolute hell, and I wouldn't wish for anyone to endure what has transpired. Her death will be difficult for you, but please know it's the best thing that could happen out of this terrible situation. I wish you the best of luck in handling your grief. It's hard to tell someone all this, especially an anon, but just know you are not alone. I hope you feel better soon.

>>7188940
>tfw no qt bf
>tfw not even bf

>>7188947

Are you me?!

Started Uni this year.
I finally gathered the courage to wear out my cute clothes, decided to even wear casual lolita sometimes (this shit costs too much for sitting round in my closet all year).

No courage to ever talk to someone. Completly awkward, no friends
ALL MY OTHER FRIENDS quickly made new friends, go out to party, are happy.
I never talk to them about me being a friendless loser in at uni since they are all just annoyed by me now and tell me "Just talk to people, it isn't that hard!" Well FUCK, thank you very much, such excelllent advice!

I've learnt to shut my mouth about it.
My friends are annoyed, my family worried, or even worse, they pity me.


My mother looked at my lolita dresses, told me "They are all so pretty... You should go to parties more often so that you can actually wear them."
This ripped apart my heart.


Every day I need a long time to motivate me to even go to university.
The only thing that keeps me happy there are my cute clothes. Which only make the situation worse, though. It's a cycle, I guess.

>mfw

>>7210757
M-maybe I could be your bf?

>>7188736

>tfw I finally have free money to buy stuff I want
>tfw all the stuff I want is sold out

This fucking sucks.

>>7188736
>tfw rich r9k robot who just wants to support a qt3.14 cgl girl's costume habits in exchange for affection
>mfw no qtp2t cgl girlfriend

>tfw work weekends
>tfw that i can't make it online for new print releases
I really need to get an SS for this stuff.

>>7210812

always

>tfw little money for cosplay
>tfw Christmas is coming up, need to buy no less than ten gifts
>tfw my cosplay needs to be done by early Jan, can't put it off

Maybe I'll breed my cousins some perfectly statted Pokemon for Christmas.

>>7210923
>Breeding perfectly statted Pokemon as gifts

Dude
that's an awesome gift

>>7210948
Yeah, but they might be too young to appreciate it.

>>7210952
It'd still help them out either way, if even by a little. Plus, it shows you put in enough effort to give 'em a good Pokemon, even if they might not understand how it helps.

>>7210952
>>7210969
Yeah dude, I haven't started breeding perfect statted Pokemon yet, but my sister has. It took her about 3 days to breed a perfect Dratini. So There's definitely a lot of time and effort gone into doing that, which is really thoughtful. You can't buy something like that

But yeah if they're too young they're no chance they'll fully appreciate it

>>7210975
I've been breeding dragons for my own team (takes forever). I was thinking for them, breeding a Delibird, Sawsbuck, Stantler, and Abomasnow. You know, because Christmas. I feel it would probably have to be gimmicky like that for them to really feel like it's a Christmas gift.

Sage for slight derailment.

>>7210978
I'd say you could probably ask them what their favorite Pokemon are and breed them if possible.

I'll contribute to the thread now.
>tfw you really want to do couple cosplays but no girlfriend

>>7210801
>>7188947
>tfw girls like this exist
>tfw I'd gladly approach you to talk about cute fashion
>tfw there's no girls like this at my uni

>>7211029

>mfw I wish girls like you were at my uni ;_;

>>7210923
No one needs to buy Christmas presents . Don't be that obnoxious person complaining about being broke but buys gifts anyway. I don't even have money ... It's going to be a while since I just started a new job. People have lives and financial issues. Also, not everyone celebrates the holidays of consumerism.

>>7211029

From which coutry are you?

>>7211029
>>7211037
I want to befriend you all

>>7211043

Yes, if only this wouldn't be a cgl-thread but real life... ;_;

>>7211041
America...

>>7211050
Which part? City/state

>>7211053
South Texas.

Just recently recognized a massive relapse into depression that's been fucking around with/ruining my life for two years, among other things causing me to gain BACK forty pounds, develop severe foot pain, and terrible mood swings. And I can't afford a doctor co-pay for at least one or two weeks.

>"hey anon remember that one game you were really into that I thought was stupid? well now that it's popular I'm going to cosplay from it with a huge group (where you're not invited 'cause you're not a part of our circle jerk) where none of us have played it, we just like the designs!!"
This. Fucking. Friend.
And it's not the first time she's pulled shit like this. It's gotten to the point where I just simply don't talk with her about series or games anymore because something like this happens. Also
>decide with said friend to do a group cosplay, I'd be character A, she'd be B
>"okay I'll talk with the rest of the group!"
>next time we talk she casually mentions how she's doing character A and I'm stuck with B because "oh but A has a nicer design and I want to stand out!"
>apparently already talked about this to the rest of the group
>she doesn't even like A
To this day this pisses me off even more than it should. What makes it even worse is that usually she's a super nice person who's fun to hang out with but when it comes to cosplay I just can't stand her at all.
Sorry for the rant.

>>7211961
She sounds like an asshole honestly. You should just dump her sorry ass. Friends don't do what she does, doesn't matter if they are "nice" when it doesn't come to cosplay.

You are in your right to be mad.

I worked out for a year once after being a chubby asshole so that I could cosplay one of the more attractie characters I wanted to cosplay (Kamina), and I spent a lot of time making sure the costume was actually decent.

I decided I could attention whore with the best of them, even made sure to postition myself near the guys with the Hollywood-level special effects costumes, and not a single person cared.

>be super depressed
>talk to girl i met on 4chan on skype
>enjoy conversation
>go to depression rehab for 2 months
>come back home
>deleted from her skype
>send a contact request but nothing yet
i just wanna talk ;_;
she probably thinks im crazy

Some good and bad feels here;

> tfw you wear lolita every day, and you're pretty sure that the majority of people at uni only talk to you/remember you because of that

> tfw your best friend randomly pulls out things like 'she always looks so pretty in her dresses!' when talking to people about you

> tfw people ask if you're a couple and he responds with 'well, I'm really good friends with her boyfriend', and people get really flustered and awkwardly run away

>>7211961
Tell her she's a giant cunt when it comes to cosplay and that you only want to be casual friends?
Or hell, just tell your "Your attitude is really annoying and fucked up." Maybe give her a list of all the shit she does and why it pisses you off. That isn't right, man.

>>7212211

>tfw I wear Lolita to Uni (not daily though) and nobody talks to me

>tfw my mom and friends told me Lolita causes me to look like an arrogant superficial bitch ("That's wyh nobody tlks to you") and mostly dislike my clothes

>tfw no boyfriend

>>7211029
>tfw desperate

>>7210801
>They are all so pretty... You should go to parties more often so that you can actually wear them.
I actually teared up a little bit. Jesus christ anon, hold on. We're all gonna make it. Are any of your other friends at uni with you? Are you staying in residence?

>>7212249

>>7210801 Anon here.

Thanks for your kind words.

I teared up to, haha. Wanna hear more?

Last time I talked with my mom about having troubles to find friends she told me it was because I dress in "these ridiculous japanese clothings" and that I would look "like an arrogant superficial bitch in these clothes. No wonder no one wants to talk to you!"
My friends say the same.
After that I stopped talking to them about my struggles in finding friends.

No, I do not have any of my old friends at my Uni. My two best friend moved away, one at the other side of the country.
I did not know anyone there. We're over 700 people starting this semester for my 2 subjects, I often do not have more than 1 course with most persons, so I see them only once a week.
Many have already built groups to this point, so it is even harder to get in.

I'm living with my family (the living costs for my city are ridiciulously high).

>>7188736
>tfw you have both your grandma, who was more of a mother to you than your own mother was, and your husband's grandmother pass away in the same year.
>tfw you have so many family issues that 5 free counseling sessions is not even going to cover half of it
>tfw you just find out that a con near you was about to get the voice actor you really wanted and now they're not for reasons that are extremely dumb
>tfw you want to tell people how you feel but it just is ungodly overwhelming.
It just gets hard to keep my chin up some days.

>>7211069
not the anon you responded to, but i'm from houston-ish Texas and go to that one big school in austin.. lets be rori friends anon!

>Depressed about school, assignments everywhere where I have no motivation to finish anything, schoolmates feel the same.
>Have had 2 mental breakdowns in the span of 3 weeks due to school overload, when I finally had the courage to admit it to my parents, they laughed.
>Constantly feeling guilty about not making everyone around me satisfied, no matter how meaningless it may be.
>Work shitty 20+ hour a week job full of verbal abuse by co-workers and customers, no where decent is hiring in the area; 90% of my money goes to getting to school and back, can't pay off student loans.
>Stress from school, work and family has lead to stomach ulcers and constant migraines.
>Most recent migraine was so bad, collapsed on the bathroom floor only to wake up 4 hours later hurt and crying, only to hear griping from my parents that I missed class.

I hope none of this happens to you guys.

>worst semester of college yet
>hours and hours of work every night
>nothing but work, every night. no free time, no cosplay, nothing.
>in one class alone we've had 15 papers already, each one taking about 6-9 hours to research, learn, and write
>think i'll have thanksgiving break to work on cosplay
>last class of day, last class before break
>professor assigns 4 research papers, 2 due next tuesday
>no time for cosplay
>won't be done for madoka movie showing
>won't have time to go

sometimes this existence is so bleak i just want to die.

>just agreed to spend Thanksgiving with my grandmother
>realize after I agree that it's probably going to be a huge family thing
>haven't seen that side of my family in over five years
>all them are deeply religious southerners (godfather is a preacher to boot) and I came out as a lesbian
>realize my mother, her new husband and my stepsister might be there
>mother and I aren't on good terms because of divorce with my dad who I live with instead of her

I'm either going to be an emotional wreck, seem like a total bitch by not apologizing for being homosexual, or get into a physical fight with my mother.

>>7212357
Are you me, anon? I'm going through pretty much the same thing.

>>have friend in cosplay group that seems cool
>>friend comes out as MTF
>>offer her support when people give her bullshit
>>go shopping and give her makeup advice and help her pick a new name
>>tfw she suddenly starts going on about how she's not going to try and pass anymore and isn't going to change her obviously male-gendered name because "gender is a social construct"
>>tfw she asks you out
>>tfw you tell her you want to focus on your mental health (just got out of the hospital) and aren't looking for a relationship
>>tfw you don't find her physically attractive in the least but don't have the heart to tell her
>>tfw she gets butthurt and sics her cancerous SJW friends from tumblr on you
>>tfw your former friend paints you as an evil, trans-phobic lesbian who doesn't see her as a real woman
>>tfw Facebook, tumblr, lj, Skype and email are spammed with hatemail for the last week and a half
>>tfw you can't long onto anything anymore without being called names
>>tfw someone tells you to die in a fire
>>tfw you don't feel anything anymore

>>7212369
Oh shit, I wish no one else was going through this, this makes me feel guilty as fuck...

>tfw when shave sides of head because you have a secure job that dgaf
>tfw massive layoffs occur a week later
>tfw you're one of the layoffs

The good news is, a lot of the higher ups were laid off, so I can't feel TOO bad. And I didn't go too crazy with my sides, so they are easily concealed. Time to job hunt for the first time in six years!

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>>7212370
That's so tragic, anon. If I were you, I'd send my friend a message letting her know calmly and to the point that she's hurt me, why, and then cut all contact. I'm so sorry that people can be so awful.

>>7211961
This person is not a friend. They are part of the cancer killing cosplay. Get rid of them.

>>7211961
You should probably say something to her. No real need to be aggressive, just tell her you really don't appreciate the way she handles herself in the hobby, point out what you said here, and tell her you'll probably refrain from cosplaying with her anymore if she continues to behave this way.

>>7212375
Fuck, ok really sorry to hear that. Best of luck, anon.

Ugh, today has been shit.
Not really lolita related, but I have had the worst day in a while, woke up with gushing lady problems....
then my boyfriend scared the shit out of me. he thought I was a burglar walking around my own house in all black and my hoodie so he snuck up on me before he noticed it was me and I screamed loud enough for the neighbors to call security and hid under my bed when I saw him creeping out of the corner of my eye at 8am.

Then he txts me at work saying something is wrong with my cat, and we need to take him to the vet.
He keeps like clacking his jaw and is drooling a lot, took an hour break to bring him to the vet, vet takes x-rays and everything, think he has swallowed something he should not...there fucking x-ray went down so we had to leave my baby at the vet and I had to go back to work.
All and all they did not find anything on the x-rays but they say if it is string they won't see it anyway.
They wanted to keep him over night too, for closer 'observation' and then I asked if somewhone would be with him all night and they said no he would be alone from 9pm till 7am....how the fuck is that close observation? So I took him home instead with some anti-biotic and a lubricant to help him poo.

My other cat is FREAKING OUT at my boyfriend now, she usually loves him, she is his cat and likes no one else but is swiping and hissing at him now. She has never done this before I don't know what to do I just want to curl up and cry.

>>7212377
That's more or less what I did except I tried to salvage the friendship like an idiot. I told her that I'm trying to focus on recovery and not looking for a relationship and that I valued her as a friend and didn't want things to sour or get awkward between us if it didn't work out.

Honestly, even if I was looking for a relationship and DID find her attractive, I don't think we would be compatible as a couple at all. She's really political and into activism (especially since she found tumblr) as well as vegan. And I'm not any of those things. Those are both big parts of her life though and while it works for us as friends, I doubt we could function as a couple. We can't even be roommates because I have a cat and a dog and they eat meat and she refuses to have meat products in her house.

Anyway, my point is that there are a lot of good reasons why I'm not interested in dating her, but she keeps flipping it around to the fact that it's mtf and acting like I have no right to be hurt or upset.

I really don't appreciate her getting her friends to dogpile on me, either.I'm trying to wait it out and ignore it, but it's been almost two weeks now and it's not letting up. I just hope she isn't turning our 'irl' friends against me.

>>7210801
You really need to do your best to put yourself out there. I know you hear this all the time, I know it's annoying and frustrating and doesn't seem like good advice, "just be social!", but this is coming from someone who also started uni with no friends and stayed completely friendless for two years because I was too shy to talk to people. I had a kidney problem and almost died while in my dorm and had to ask a complete stranger to take me to the hospital when I was too sick to drive myself. I decided that just wouldn't cut it and started forcing myself to talk to people whenever I could. You only get better at it by doing it. You're going to be awkward as shit at first, but it gets better, you'll make friends if you keep trying and stay positive. Start with, like, cashiers at lunch places or something to practice small talk if you have to (I did). It gets much easier. By my last year at uni, I went from being lonely and friendless to never spending a weekend or even lunchtime every weekday by myself unless I chose to. I wish you luck, anon! You can do it! Uni is hard going it alone.

As for the other things: Complain less (it's less annoying to others and honestly you'll probably feel better, too, if you find even the littlest happy things to focus on), and don't let people's negative comments about the things you love keep you down.

>>7212388
Oh, and on the top of all this I don't have a car right now, so my mom was kind enough to speed up hear to take the cat to the vet with us.

She then decided to take in on herself to clean my apartment for got only knows what reason and go through my shit and I DO NOT NEED THAT FUCKING STRESS RIGHT THIS MOMENT. STOP.TOUCHING.MY.SHIT.
I don't live in your fucking house anymore you have NO RIGHT TO MY THINGS keep your HANDS TO YOURSELF.
My boyfriend asked her to leave, multiple times, and she just kept cleaning shit,
he finally gets her to go and then she calls to aggressively bitch about him telling her to leave because 'oh my I was stressing out the cats booo hooo"
she was moving furniture and fucking vacuuming.
I MEAN REALLY? They are clearly hurt and one is FLIPPING OUT and your going to VACUUM?
I'm home now, and my mr drooly is curled into my legs and clacking periodically....
I swaddled my other cat a bit and had my boyfriend shower and she has calmed down a bit but fuck I am so stressed now fucking shit.

>>7212370
>tfw annoying tumblrtards awkwardly ask you out
>tfw you politely tell them no, they seem ok
>tfw they make a big deal out of it and argue that you're ___ist and won't date them because of that

That shit's happened to me a few times, but damn, I'm sorry to hear about your situation. Can't people just realize that some people just don't feel things for others romantically?

>>7212361
What in the fuck kind of classes are you taking, man?

>tfw when going to have $600+ to put towards a taobao order after Christmas
>tfw husband loses job

This sums up my life. Just add the snail's crawl to the start of cosplay. Alone.

Got into a little spat with one of my lolita friends while just being depressed altogether. I should go sew something but I don't have the motivation for it anymore.

>>7212471

18 credits of science and art in my senior year. It's really just this one class, and the worst part is, I'm failing. I've been working my ass off, tons of studying, tons of papers, and yet I'm still not doing well. If I don't do better, I don't graduate. I discussed it with the professor and she said that I need to 'be smarter' and then I'd do fine. Bitch.

>>7212583
Christ, this professor sounds like an atomic level bitch.

If you can, anon, you really need to find the time to just relax even if it's just for a little bit. Just take that time to breath and put everything into perspective. Things seem a lot harder when you clump it all together. I work at a LVN school so I see all kinds of students and their various levels of success. If you study too little, you're obviously not going to retain any information. If you study far too much, you're just going to stress yourself out and you'll end up mentally drained, and we all know that won't get you anywhere either. I've seen students crash and burn this way.

You can do it anon, I know you can. Just do things at your pace, at a way that makes you feel comfortable, and seek out study help from people who're actually willing to help. Everyone studies and learns differently and if your professor can't stand to lend a hand, look elsewhere.

Just think about how sweet it'll be when you pass this shitty class and stick it to your professor. That degree is going to taste so delicious.

You go anon, you sound like a hard worker and I believe in you.

>>7212370
Yeah I tried to talk to her about it and save the friendship, but I failed at that miserably.

While we work out alright as friends, I don't think we'd be compatible as a couple. Even if I was looking for a relationship and thought she was attractive. We can't even be so much as plain old room mates because she's super vegan and won't have meat anywhere in her house. I've got a cat and a dog and eat meat myself, so that definitely won't work.

Anyway, my point is that there are plenty of good reasons why we shouldn't date, but she keeps insisting that I'm a bigot who holds the fact that she's a pre-op mtf against her. (Actually now that I think about it she said she wasn't going to do hormone therapy when we last spoke before all this popped off so I doubt she'll get any sort of operation.)

I'm trying to wait until all this tumblr SJW stuff blows over, but it's been almost two weeks and they're still going strong. I just hope she isn't turning the other members of our cosplay group against me.

>>7212652
Here.

Obviously I meant to reply to >>7212432.

>never really had a designated cosplay group, just kind of grabbed friends and maybe threw them in a costume with me
>really like cosplaying and have been stepping up my game in terms of costume quality (like, going from buying a few clothes to crafting armor and shit)
>been playing tabletops recently, have been using the roleplaying experience from that in cosplaying, making the experience 1000x more fun
>friends still don't dress up or really engage in anything, the one who does dress up does rather shit costumes (quality, at least. things start breaking/going awry every time)
>the most ambitious one is suddenly realizing that cons = potential pickups, goes there to flirt more than anything nowadays
>nobody tries to roleplay and most of them aren't even into anime; the two that are into anime are really unreliable for payments and pretty socially awkward (which hampers roleplaying/talking to strangers with them)
>spirit to cosplay is rather quickly dying due to lack of a group to really get into it with (and going alone just isn't very fun to me at all)
>not sure how to just weasel into a cosplay group
>tfw no cosplay group

>tfw you always feel like you need to watch what you say especially since cosplay scene is full of "tumblr" types
>tfw its already hard enough talking to people

>>7212710
imo your best bet is to go to meetups at cons for series that you're a fan of, and start making friends there. Also, getting into organised cosplay groups for conventions so you have people to talk to before, there and after. The weaselling usually comes after that.

>>7212730
Is that really how it goes? It always seems like groups are really close-knit and good friends (At least to me), I'd feel weird just breaking their group dynamic. Or is that just normal?

>tfw a friend thinks this Lolita
>tfw the site dollheart is trying to sell this for $300

>>7212768
Different anon, but I know where you're coming from. It does feel like these sorts of groups are already established and there are already circles of friends there, so it'd be hard to just... try and fit in.

>>7188947
>>7210801
I'm feeling these, but on a different level.
>Used to dress boring
>Jeans/shorts and shirt, sometimes boots
>Decide to try being pretty
>Taobao skirts and dresses + accessories
>Stalk makeup thread like mad
>Very satisfied with appearance
>Outside completely different, inside still full of awkward
>Look good, forever awkward inside
I feel like its kind of a waste, really. At this point, I don't even know why I went through the effort to care what I looked like. I have a boyfriend, and honestly if it weren't for him being there, I'd probably speak an average of 10 words a day, and that would only be 3 word sentences to professors when necessary. He's the only person I ever speak to and since our two person group is so closed off, no one speaks to us while we're together, unless he initiates it. He's so social, he can just talk to anyone, give them his life story and not give a crap. I'm so jealous, I wish I could talk to people without feeling weird. I thought maybe it was just me and bad self esteem, so I upped my cute game, and I feel really solid about my appearance, but I just can't talk to anyone still. I now think that it's because I'll feel like they'll think I'm annoying or boring or I'll say something stupid and they won't like me. I actually even find it difficult to keep conversations with people online because of this issue.

My bf tells me it's all in my head, everything is okay, and it doesn't matter if he's the only person I talk to, but to top it off, today I actually walked past someone from my high school. I didn't notice her at all, because I tend to casually look down or away to avoid eye contact, but as I walked by, she told her friend "Hey, she went to my high school. She was so awkward."
>mfw need to learn how to make friends

>>7212877
>need to learn how to make friends

No you don't. It's a misconception that being an introvert person is bad. There's people that make friends and like talking to people, and there's people that don't.

Course you can go for it, but I realized at some point that it doesn't matter for shit wether someone has many friends or just one or two. Maybe it's just that realization you don't have yet.

>>7212877
holy shit anon are you me from the past

i used to be hairy as all fuck thanks to my lovely Slav genes (dem brows, dat stache, dat body hair), had a terribad mushroom bob, dressed like a guy and/or weeaboo.

Calmed down, discovered gyaru and epilators, snagged me a man, still about as social as an oak tree but getting better.

Thing that really helped a lot is positive self-talk. When you feel safe and in control and you rationalize your actions in your head you get less embarrassed. When I started doing that I spent so much time thinking of comebacks in case someone makes fun of me or confronts me, eventually it got easier and I stopped being so defensive.

Just be friendly and kind to people and unless they're a major king douche they will like you as well. Don't be aggressive or blame anyone for anything and don't take sides. People say "hurr that's for pussies" but really they'll be biting themselves on the ass when someone has a vendetta against them or starts a nasty rumor or something worse. This doesn't mean being a doormat, just that you shouldn't give a fuck what some asshat SJW would say or do.

Oh and that girl - same thing happened to me, except with my whole former class. They said the same thing, but fuck them anyway.

I have had a shitty year personally and professionally. I am feeling worthless and just couldn't see the point of being around. I keep thinking the world will be better without me. Don't have the courage to go kill myself, so I'm just going through the motions until I could.

No motivation to work on cosplay or wear my lolita out. I used to enjoy them.

I guess I wanted someone to tell me that everything will be okay and someone will need me. I tried talking to my friends about how I feel and they just jump down my throat about how stupid I am for feeling this way.

I think I may have broken my pinky toe(or at least sprained it)

and I don't have the money to go to the doctor. Well, thankfully I can still walk, but still hurts.

>>7212907
Why do these .gifs with 4 frames and subtitles exist?

Is this a tumblr thing? It's absolute nonsense

>>7212909
Tumblr has a gif limit of 1mb, it used to be much worse when it was 500kb

>>7212913
... why make gifs then? It's not like there's any reason for these images to be gifs
I feel like I entered a time machine and forgot about it, back to when people loved plastering shitty low quality gifs like pic related all over their websites.

>>7212914
Because ADD riddled teenagers need it to be animated.

I ripped a tendon, so my big toe dislocates every time I take a step which is pretty fucking painful. I haven't been able to wear heels for the last five months, and I'm going to have to wear pic related for the next five.
>tfw every cute coord is ruined

Thinking of deco-ing that sucker.

>>7212885
Well actually, interacting with society on a normal level (the cashier at the grocery store, a stranger you bump into while walking around) and obviously knowing how to communicate well with your coworkers is vital to living any life. If you don't know how to make friends, then you probably don't know how to be respected in your workplace. So yes, I would say being in introvert is not a bad thing. But failing at 90%+ of human interactions? No, that's pretty shitty. Good luck to awkward anon. I hope you learn from exposure, even though it will stress you out.

>>7212932
Well yeah, you have to be able to function, but that's implied.
If you don't function, I think it goes a bit further than being an introvert, but turns into social anxiety.

I fucking hate that people have started using gifs regularly on this board. For a long time no one used gifs on 4chan unless it was a random porn thing on /b/ or a scare thread on /x/. It would always be "whoa ho ho, let me think twice before clicking that, it's a gif!" Not to mention how silly it is to wait for a gif to load on your mobile phone, rather than the near-instant loading of a static image. Most of the time gifs are fucking annoying. Even during the early days of tumblr, people just posted images not gifs. Fucking ADHD teenagers making everything a gif.

>>7212877
You could have posted the fucking jpg of Dawson instead of that what, 3 frame? gif. Here it is. Save it in a folder.

>>7212909
>>7212914
>>7212916
FUCKING EXACTLY.

>>7212914
this is now a gif thread

>>7212929
Get better fast, anon. And yes, dress fairy kei or deco and pimp that boot.

>>7212929

Get another one so you have a matching pair.

>>7212907
Coming from someone's who's broken a small toe, doctor can't really do anything about it aside from give you the confirmation that it's broken, maybe give you stronger pain killers if otc stuff can't help you, or give you a scrip for a boot or crutch.

Get some gauze and medical/athletic tape, tape it to the next toe to keep it steady but be careful to not cut off circulation. Wear comfortable shoes. Take ibuprofen(advil) to keep swelling down and use an ice pack.

>>7212885
>>7212900
I don't think being introverted is a bad thing, I enjoy my alone time, but when alone time is a constant without my bf, it doesn't feel right. I also don't want to be so dependent on my bf's company, either. He needs his alone time too, and I'm sure I come off as needy the way I sit there and twiddle my fingers as he has a conversation with someone else.

It's not just at uni I have trouble socializing. With my bf's family, old friends who try to keep in touch, and even some of my own family,my immediate response is to tense up, smile, and nod at everything they say. It's not that I don't want their company at all, I just feel so rude when I say bare minimum to them.
I hate visiting with my bf's family more than anything. They're so nice and welcoming, and it makes me feel terrible the way I have trouble saying more than a single audible sentence to them at a time, and always they have to initiate and carry the conversation. I know they do it to be nice, but I can't help but think that they see me as some rude girl who doesn't deserve my bf and wish that I didn't come over anymore. My bf's little sisters are more out-going, respectable, and personable than I am- it's like they're the adults and I'm stuck in awkward teenager/smiling statue hybrid state.

>Just be friendly and kind to people
>Don't be aggressive or blame anyone for anything and don't take sides
That's how I was in high school, and I was very well liked, and had lots of good friends. But I don't have them at my uni and I think if I could overcome the making friends obstacle, everything would be ok.
My smiling and nodding is me being friendly, but since that isn't how everyone else socializes, at some point into the conversation, I probably just look weird and uncomfortable. And I honestly just like to listen sometimes and not add my input into anything, but that's a big conversation killer.

But thank you for the advice, I will try the positive self-talk and thinking of comebacks!

>>7211069
I-I go to this anon's (>>7212290) rival school, more into himekaji though... and prefer dressing like a hobo for class

>>7212877
>He's so social, he can just talk to anyone, give them his life story and not give a crap. I'm so jealous, I wish I could talk to people without feeling weird.
Hohoho, wow this sums my relationship so well before I forced myself into leading social situations. Word of advice? Just talk to other people and ask about them. Focus on them and their interests. If it's something you like too, add in a sentence or two. That way, you can get a conversation going. Just keep doing that and eventually you'll be better at it. If you don't know how to react to somebody's happy/sad story, just make an appropriate reaction. If you say something stupid, just laugh it off as a joke. You'll feel fake as fuck but hey! At the very least, you are trying to be social. Don't be hard on yourself, it's hard to get anywhere when you're constantly beating yourself over something others will find minuscule.

>>7212941
i like that one. this is acceptable.
thank you anon.

>tfw I met a cute girl at uni who is roommates with one of my friends
>she is into cosplay and I have no idea about it at all
>try to come here and learn a little about it so I can make conversation with her
I just want a gf ;_;

>tfw relationships with family/friends/bf are pretty damn good right now
>tfw degree program is very stressful
>tfw taking last gen ed courses ever but they're also very invested and stressful
>tfw stress eating while staying up late to do hw almost every night
>tfw falling behind, stress eating more
>tfw why can't things be as good as the first feel

>head aching
>everything too loud, too bright
>discover that Cat, who never shows any interest in my clothes or possessions, has decided to turn the Meta 3way bag left in closet into her personal nest
>clawmarks all over the faux leather
>purring Cat
>tfw too sick and exhausted to give a fuck and just want to go back to bed

>>7212877

>I wish I could talk to people without feeling weird. I thought maybe it was just me and bad self esteem, so I upped my cute game, and I feel really solid about my appearance, but I just can't talk to anyone still. I now think that it's because I'll feel like they'll think I'm annoying or boring or I'll say something stupid and they won't like me.

THIS. You're me.
I talk to people sometimes, but we never get closer. There is just a point were it stops, I don't know why, or worse, I know it its me.

I do not have a boyfriend anymore.
He dumped me for being too fat (I'm 168 cm and 65 kg) and being "completly boring".
Needless to say, this crushed what little self conficende I had.
Even if I know he's wrong.

>My bf tells me it's all in my head
I know it's all in my head. That doesn't help me.
I feel like I'm sitting in a deep hole. There's a latter, but my hands are tied up so I cannot use them. And still, the only advice people give me is "Just use the latter".
I wish I could, but I'm hold back - by myself. I don't know how to overcome myself.

>got into lolita years ago
>small enough to fit any brand I wanted, had a hard-on for MM and VM
>broke as shit
>suddenly come into money and change antidepressants at the same time
>gain 30lbs in 6 months because the medication makes my appetite just outrageous
>can finally afford my dream dresses and I'm too gross and fat to fit them
>can't afford to mess with the antidepressants
>just trying to eat less and work out more, but every time I lose 5 or 6lbs I feel like I gain it all back right away

I just want to be a pretty petite doll now that I can afford to, why is life so cruel ;_;

>>7213796
Fear not, sad anon. Control top garments, a good bra and a closet full of taobao/roomier brand pieces will make you the ever-rare adorable chubby loli doing it right. Especially if you have good hair and makeup skills.

I'm sorry to hear your meds are making you gain weight. Do you mind if I ask what you take? Once you get to a place where you feel comfortable switching meds, you might want to try the generic version of Wellbutrin. It's really cheap and people who take it (usually) don't gain as much weight or any at all. It really helped me and I'm responding to it better than I was the last medicine I took. (Though I was only on that a while)

>>7213796
Do cardio.
Power walk everyday.
I comsume sugar every 30 minutes and I never pass the 140lb mark
asian

>>7213796

You're lucky to have access to medication. Stop the whining.
Don't give up that easily, try to et healthy and work out. Just go on, you cannot expect miracles. Losing weight requires patience and time.
Also: Try Corsetts and shape wear.

>>7213808
Lol, I'm on Wellbutrin and Abilify. My doctor said it's the combination with the Abilify that caused me to gain weight so rapidly.
>>7213814
I need to do more cardio, yes. Good for you on the rest?
>>7213818
Wow fuck you I'm not whining about my medication, it's literally the barrier between me and suicide. I'm whining about the side effects, but really I would much rather be alive and chubby than dead and thin. I'm not being dramatic, without my antidepressants I kind of slip into a black hole of depression that only ends one way every time I've been off my meds - with me attempting suicide and either fucking it up or getting stopped and put in a mental ward for a bit. Chemical imbalances are no joke and I'm eternally grateful that I have the medicine to treat mine.

>>7213818
>>7213829
Me again, sorry re-reading that I think I might have overreacted. I just get very defensive about this stuff because it's so critical to my well-being, and I constantly have people tell me things like "oh you don't need it, just do yoga!" or "you're just being a wuss" for whatever reason, and don't understand that I don't have "something sad happened and I'm sad about it" depression, I have "I don't produce enough seratonin and regardless of how great my life is, I will inevitably be severely, clinically depressed without chemical assistance" depression. I see now that's not what you were implying and I appreciate your sentiment to keep at it.

>tfw comm is mostly well-dressed girls with disposable income & varied interests, everyone gets along well
>tfw a wild ita appears
>tfw she is an unemployed, obese weeb, lives off her husband's minimum wage job, dreams of becoming a lolita designer & tries to pawn her awful handmade shit off on the rest of the comm through the FB page
>tfw literally 'nyas' & wears maid costumes to meetups
>doesn't seem to do anything other than browse the internet all day & beg for folks to buy cheap halloween 'cosplays' & send them to her
>recently several comm members have 'left the fashion' and started selling their wardrobe in the facebook group
>tfw whenever good deals come around she is always the first to comment/haggle on the post
>tfw she passive-aggressively tries to guilt folks into lowering their prices because the economy
>tfw every time you see something you want she has already offered payment plans etc. (which she eventually cancels on) to the owner
>tfw you need to become an obsessive stalker of facebook in order to call dibs on any items
>tfw you hate spending time on facebook because you're shit at feigning social interaction over the internet.

this makes me a terrible person, but i can't help but wish that someone would just be a bitch to her already so she would flounce and gtfo.
>tfw when everyone in the comm is scared of giving advice/opinions that could be perceived as negative because what if they get talked about on the internet or labeled an elitist bitch
>tfw no comm leadership worth a damn

>>7213847

Re-read my part, think I got unneccessarily rude too. I apologize for my tone.

Glad you did not take it the wrong way, I have several people in my family / friend circle who have depressions (and I have strong tendencies to depressions due to genetics too), and I would never take depression lightly or tell anyone "Just do yoga". It is sad that people still do not take depressions serious.

I wish you all the best and hope you can be happy in your Lolita!

>>7213829
>>Abilify
They're thinking of putting me on this or upping my dosage of the generic Wellbutrin. I've been on my meds for a few months and even though it's helped me a LOT, I still have days that are really tough. I've heard that's fairly normal though, even with effective treatment.

If that's the case and I wind up gaining weight, then let's be cute chubby lolitas together!

>>7213847
>> "oh you don't need it, just do yoga!" or "you're just being a wuss" for whatever reason, and don't understand that I don't have "something sad happened and I'm sad about it" depression, I have "I don't produce enough seratonin and regardless of how great my life is"

Are you me, Anon? Because I was in another thread on here a few months ago talking about the same issues. It really sucks when the people around you refuse to listen or even attempt to understand what you're going through. I'm sorry you have to put up with that bullshit, too.

>>7213863

Then... be a that bitch?
Maybe any of your comm membrs/friends can support you.
And honestly, she sounds so bad, no one will label you as an elitist bitch for calling out her rude and immature behaviour.

>>7213869
>It really sucks when the people around you refuse to listen or even attempt to understand what you're going through.
I don't think it's that people don't try to understand, actually. I think it's that they simply *can't* understand. They've been sad before, they understand sadness, disappointment and grief. They assume that depression is the same thing, just more long-term. They can't comprehend anything more than that within their limited experience.

... that said, if you're getting those reactions on /cgl/, it's possibly trolls playing games. After all, it's not like the board isn't full to the brim of people with mental illnesses of varying natures.

>>7213875
>>if you're getting those reactions on /cgl/, it's possibly trolls playing games

It's a couple of my friends and family members that are doing this. One of my best friend's husbands in particular refuses to listen and thinks I just need to 'get over myself'.

I get the whole 'inability to understand' thing. I often used to say that almost nobody believes panic attacks are real until they've had one. I also get the whole 'you've been to the hospital, are seeing a doctor and taking some pills so that means you're cured' mentality I sometimes run into. Still makes it frustrating to have to deal with though. I'm sorry if the people in your life are being so difficult.

>>7213889
OP of the chubby sad anon post here, oh my god it's like we're living mirror lives. My mom didn't understand until my second trip to the mental hospital, but now she tells people that it's just like any other illness, you wouldn't tell someone with diabetes to just suck it up and get over themselves, and you certainly wouldn't tell them not to take their insulin.

>>7213004
>>7212290
You guys are adorable
I'm pretty much stuck in Houston, I mean I'm going to Ikkicon but that's it.

>>7213889
I went through that with my dad for quite a while. In fact, it continued until my doctor linked my anxiety issues with a phsyical cause that landed me in hospital. At that point, he realised it wasn't just a matter of getting over it or working through my fears. That, combined with his older brother having a mental break down and being admitted to hospital to recover for two weeks, and he gets it now, though.

>Childhood friend from across the street goes to different college from me
>Don't see him for a while
>Eventually see him at my college over the summer while I'm taking care of some last minute stuff
>He's transferring there
>"OH COOL! It's so awesome to see you again!"
>"huh, he seems different."
>tfw I eventually come to realize he came back an antisocial, selfish jackass.

Anyone else have something like this happen?

>>7213921

>Best friend from school goes to different University than me
>Don't see her for a while
>Plan to visit her
>"OH COOL! It's awesome to see you again!"
>Suddenly she writes me a long message on fb about how much I annoy her and how much she has always disliked most of my personality and that she just doesn't have the patience to deal with me anymore, but she admires my friends and family who can edure me
>wtf
>tfw we always used to hang out together, being in the clique of the unpopular kids
>tfw she found new friends at her Uni and dumped me like a rotten fruit because she was cool now and I was not

Not exactly the same, but here you go.

>>7213950
*endure

>tfw I eventually come to realize she came back as a massive bitch

She apologized later, but I haven't seen her since then, aside from a birthday party. She cancelled her visits 3 times now, even if she lives 2 hours away.

>>7213950
>>7213957
Ouch. I mean the guy I'm talking about wasn't that mean, per se, just an inconsiderate idiot. He's one of those people who lends stuff that's not his to other people and then takes forever to get it back. Hell, he literally lives across the street from me and rather than walking over and dropping it off, he just sends me a text saying "I left it in the mailbox" a few days after ignoring a bunch of facebook messages about the book. Of course he doesn't say which one, and eventually it turns out it was his. He was even home when I went to get it, too. Maybe this all sounds petty but goddamn that's pathetic, he's almost 20 now.

He also has basically argued that you should respond to people in the fewest words possible because it's more efficient with everyone's time and everything. Like now all I really do is just carpool with him and a mutual friend to our university since we both commute to it.

>>7213985
Whoops, I forgot to mention that I'm talking about a book I lent him. He even knows the book is important to me since it's about my favorite movie and he's heard me talk about how getting the entire (or at least main) cast to sign it is on my bucket list.

>>7213985

He sounds like douchebag though. He lost all my sympathy at
>"you should respond to people in the fewest words possible because it's more efficient"
No.
He generelly seems like a potential fedora wearer

>>7213899
I'm glad your mom came around. My parents were in the 'don't get it goes beyond normal sadness just for a long period of time' category and thought I was just an over-emtional teen and a worrywort. (I'm in my mid-to-late twenties now.) After I was finally admitted to a hospital and diagnosed, my mom started to understand better like your mom. Which is good because depression, anxiety and a few others run really deep on her side of the family.

>>you certainly wouldn't tell them not to take their insulin.

Ugh this so much. When I was hospitalized one of the other patients kept insisting that I (and the other patients) needed to stop taking our meds because there was nothing 'really' wrong with us and the medicines along with what we were eating was what was actually making us sick. He kept trying to convince me that all I needed to do was pray to Jesus, become vegan, stop drinking coffee and try a whole bunch of holistic stuff and I'd be fine. I am so, SO glad no one listened to him.

>>7213912
That's good that your dad was finally able to understand. A few of my friends are starting to come around too. A lot of them are still like 'Oh you just need to practice driving on the open road a lot and you'll get over your fear of car accidents!' because I can't make them understand that I usually wind up having full-blown panic attacks whenever I try to drive and even though I am still working on it, it's just not safe for me and everyone else for me to be on the road like that right now. They do that with my other fears too but that's the main one.

>homeschooled after being sick as fuck as a child
>absolutely no friends for 10+ years
>college is my only option but too expensive to even think about it
>tfw wasted youth
I don't know what to do anymore, I can't even make friends online. The only person I talk to is my older sister but she has a life and I can't depend on her forever.
I just want tobe happy for once in my life

>>7213991
I dunno if he feels like that with face-to-face conversation, but generally with texts or facebook messages: if he responds at all, I only get simple stuff like "yes", "no" or "mabe." That's about it.

>>7214004

Ouch. This is really hard.
I'm here for you anon if you want. You could leave your email if you're in the mood to talk

>>7214010

Not returning things for long time is also bad behaviour.
Did he always act that way? How much did he change?

>>7214031
Ah, thank you! But I can speak perfectly fine while anonymous but when I user a name or something my anxiety goes through the roof. I had to stop using Tumblr for this reason, haha

Is this one of the cases where it's only "cured" when you force yourself to do it?

>>7214032
I honestly don't remember him being this anti-social, but sometimes I wonder if something happened while he was away at the other university since he sort of just randomly appeared back in town not too long ago without much fanfare.

>>7212388
so this continues...I should explane that this cat is my best friend, and my baby. He greetes me at the door every time i come home, at night I will tell him it is time for bed and pett him and he will fallow me to bed and cuddle me all night.
He is the most loving cat I have ever mett, we always joke he is a dog.
He spent all last night curled into me, he just wanted to bad to be pet, he is still drooling and will go into twitching fits...
He had a fallow up today, and they sent him to the kitty er and they sadated him and looked around with a camera and still cant find anything.
They are keeping him for the next 24-48 hours.
I was stuck at work for all of this...so i havent even seen him since this morning...
he is in the best of hands, and there will be somewhone with him 24 hours and they are getting 2 more vetts in for second opinions...
I'm sitting at work bawling because I just can't bear the thought of going home and my orange prince not being there...he is 3, we adopted him when he was 1...he was malnurished to the point of his wiskers breaking and seeing his bones when we first got him and has been my best pall since...
I just wish they could figure out what is wrong and get him better.
I cant do anything for him, and it is killing me sitting at work by myself bawling my eyes out and trying to help customers...I havent eaten in 2 days, I just can't make myself...I'm the fucking worst pet owner ever for letting whatever made him sick get him sick...

>tfw so many sales this weekend and so many things you want to get but you don't know where to start
>tfw this is your first black friday

I have a lot of shit going on right now but to keep the rant short today was payday at my work and so I called yesterday to make sure my boss would be there when I went today.

I was assured they would be there between 9am and 5 pm and tell her that I will be there at 3:30 to pick up my check. She assures me she will be there. I get there today a few minutes earlier than planned and the place is locked up and all the lights are off. I call to make sure no one is there and also call my boss's cell phone. No answer at either one. I wait around for 30 minutes to see if she calls back and maybe just left the office for a bit but no one comes back or calls back.

Last week they had me doing work for clients out of the office so I was driving 80+ miles a day and was always 15-20 minutes earlier than the clients scheduled time so that the company I worked for would look good and also stayed late despite knowing that would put me in rush hour traffic for the hour and a half drive home.

I figured that considering I was doing my best to make the company look good and had to pay out of pocket for my travel expenses upfront that they would at least have the courtesy to call me to say they were closing early today when we had an agreed upon time for me to come in.

I live paycheck to paycheck right now so not getting this check means that I can't afford groceries for thanksgiving tomorrow, or to pay my phone bill or to be able to get any of the Christmas presents I was going to get on black Friday for people.

The office is going to be closed until Monday.... so there goes my holiday weekend.

>>7214091
Fuck. This is literally the only feel in this feels thread that made me feel feelings.

I love my cat too. He's an annoying shit sometimes but...man...he's not getting any younger. His glossy fur becomes more and more oily and matted every time I see him. He takes longer to go up and down stairs. His eyes have become dull and glazed over. He looks at mice, birds, and other pests with listlessness.

In 2-3 years, he will die.

I'm actually crying right now, I fucking love my cat. I hope your cat makes it too! I truly mean that.

>>7214091
Hey there anon. I love my cat, too, so I can't even imagine what you're going through, but you're not the worst pet owner. I think you're great because you're trying so hard for him, and doing all that you can. Keep yourself healthy, too, okay? I hope they find out what's wrong with him.

>>7214259
I think that you've taken care of him to the point where he can be old and enjoy life to the fullest is great. I mean, yes, he will be gone someday, but since you love your cat so much I'm sure you gave him the best life he could have had and that's amazing and you are amazing.

>>be me
>>have a huge thing for androgyny and traps
>>meet cute goth guy in one of my classes this semester that fits the bill to a T
>>he half-jokingly considers it when someone suggests he try seriously dressing like a girl
>>thatismyfetish.jpg
>>sort of befriend him and find out he's actually pretty cool
>>hang out a few times
>>he starts going to our unofficial anime clubs where we just hang out, have snacks and watch shit
>>hang out with him a couple of times
>>he's considering cosplaying with us
>>start to like him even more
>>come close to asking him out on numerous occasions
>>spaghetti is my specialty dish
>>I back out
>>tfw he is now being aggressively pursued by the "fedora guy" that has latched onto my group of friends
>>tfw I'm pretty sure Goth isn't crazy about Fedora going after him all the time
>>I feel like I should go ahead and ask him out but I don't want him to be like "jfc not another one get off my dick" just because Fedora has been showering him with his clammy attentions.
>>tfw it doesn't help that I don't know his sexual preference and can't really tell if he is interested in me or not. (He's never brought up boyfriends or girlfriends or anything of the kind in conversation and I've always been bad at guessing either of those things.)
>>tfw I will only have my DVD collection and porn to keep me company through the long winter nights if I keep on like this and continue being afraid of fucking everything up

>>7214569
Tell me about fedora guy. I like hearing about fedora guys.

>>7214569
I don't care about your goth shit but please go on about awkward fedora man. Is he fat? Can you give us some stupid quotes?

>>7214605
Different anon, but I remember once studying for an exam and overhearing a guy ramble on about how he thought the Goku vs Superman Death Battle was horribly wrong and claimed to be reading up on high-end physics to argue why it was wrong.

>>7214091
Trying to sleep without him was the worst night...my other cat also kept pacing and sniffing the air confused...ya just fuck yesterday.

They let us take him home today, they have no idea what happened, but the twitching and drooling has basically stopped. They worried the fuck out of us saying he was just "much improved" when we went to pick him up, but then said that he only twitched once today and we saw that he had stopped drooling all together...
He is on a painkiller and something to coat his tummy, and haaates it, but I'm just so happy that he is better. I hate giving cats oral meds blech.
My other cat also stopped freaking out about his sent, we are blaming this bamboo plant that the receptionist at my gramms old age home forced on us.
Was the best feeling hearing that thing's pot smash against the side of my garbage shoot.
He is chowing down on his food now, he would hardly eat yesterday...

I'm skipping thanksgiving and my family is pissed at me but I don't care I just need to sleep today and cuddle with my cat and I'm in no shape to drive all the way down there for turkey and a side of ridicule.

>>7214259
>>7214552
thanks for your kind words anons, I love you.
I know your kitty has lived a long and loving life, and in the end that is what matters.

>>7215061
I'm happy to hear that everything worked out for your cat. He's very pretty, what's his name?

>I know your kitty has lived a long and loving life, and in the end that is what matters.
Yeah...we gave him the best life we could. I can't wait to see him again when I go back home over Christmas. I'm going to cherish the shit out of him.

>>7215003
Does a guy still count as a fedora if he's attractive? This guy in one of my classes sounds a lot like a fedora based /cgl/'s descriptions- opinionated, stands by logic, kind of inflated smartguy ego, studying philosophy, etc.- except he's really really good looking, great body, hygienic, dresses nicely, although he's noticeably a try-hard intellectual. But everyone loves him and whatever he says.
So can fedoras be cute guys as well, or is it ugly people only?
Alternately, can girls be considered fedoras as well?

>>7215330
Fedoras are unattractive by definition. So either he's not fedora enough or you're perception of him is skewed.

>>7215193
His name is Sampson! He is handsom and he knows it and he charmed all the nurses at the er vet
Love the shit out of him anon!

>>7215591
also his legg is sexy, and the only good picture i got of it had to be next to a food stain on my quilt haha

>>7215591
also his legg is sexy, and the only good picture i got of it had to be next to a food stain on my quilt haha

>>7215596
Oh wow he looks like a small child wearing a cat costume.

I have no words for how cute that is.

>>7188860
>tfw sit on front porch like a hawk with phone so I'm not bored