/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL

I cannot make patterns work. I'll try and try and try, but the sizing will be wrong, or the darting will be off, and I'll have to scrap the whole damn thing. I feel so jelly when I see other lolitas who have extraordinary skills in dress making.

>>7137677
that's what slopers and muslins are for.

As much as I don't want this to continue from the secrets thread but it needs to be said. Fucking cancer woman. The whole thing makes me so mad. She needs to fucking tell the truth already and stop being a sneaky, unapologetic bitch.

i am not allowed to room with someone im grouping with

FOR TWO DIFFERENT FUCKING CONS

because of my best friend's ex girlfriend

apparently if we have to room together

she won't come

and that's a tragedy

but there are two of us having to make our own, seperate plans which mean we cant get drunk with Armin till 4 o clock in the morning and i cant iron their cosplay for them and i know they wont so itll look like crap

fuck you, the ex girlfriend, and fuck the fact that youve had some medical scare recently which means i'm not allowed to get pissed off at you for treating people like crap

I want to start selling lolita and other alternative fashion outfits of my own design, but I'm experiencing a lot of frustrating setbacks. Every time I see somebody post about some awful indie brand, especially when people are actually buying the awful stuff they make, it adds onto my frustration. I've been sewing for almost 11 years now and am a good seamstress, but I don't have any of the old stuff I made to show anymore and so I'm trying to make a couple new things to photograph and try to sell, BUT BAD THINGS KEEP HAPPENING. I just want to get my pretty dresses out there... I lost all my market research and carefully collected data because of stupid shit, my DSLR has somehow gone missing (I'm worried that a "friend" stole it), and it's looking like I won't be able to afford the dye-sublimation printer I wanted to buy to try making my own prints with in my projected timeline. Amongst many other issues. I can't focus.

>>7137701

I'd love to meet her and trip her up in front of everybody. I know a lot about cancer, and it'd be incredibly easy to catch her out.

I can't even rant in this rant thread because I'm worried the person I want to rant about may read it and know it's about them.

>>7137881

You should go for it , they might take a hint.

I want to join Lacebook and tried to do so after someone posted a code and username here but my account was suspended because of the asshole anon being a liar. They're updating their Twitter a lot but not responding to the two messages I sent. I only want to join so badly because I love lolita and I only used the code here because none of my lolita friends seem to be a member. I just want to join...

>>7137672
What is this from?

>>7137672
knee length wig being double wefted for thickness, then curled. help me.

>>7137672
I had to sell one of my favorite dresses due to unexpected college fees, which is bad enough. I then found out that the girl buying it is a replica chan who normally hates brand. I wish I could cancel the sale...

One lolita friend of mine has been late by a full hour for Every. Single. Appointment we've ever set up together. She always texts me "oh, I'll be 10 minutes late", then she texts 30 minutes, then she finally arrives an hour late. This is fucking irritating for me because I was raised to be punctual by one German parent (being punctual is just being 5 minutes early for everything).

I want to give her some leeway and sympathy, because she has several health and mental disorders for which she takes tons of meds, therapy, and surgery. But an hour late for everything? We live in the U.S., not goddamn Somalia.

I wanted to laugh when I invited her to an art exhibit viewing with a group of my friends, and she arrived just as we were leaving to go get dinner. Darling, why do you look so surprised that I choose to leave you and go out to eat with my punctual friends, instead of starving myself and guiding you through an art exhibit that I've already seen two times?

Other than her flaky nature, she's a sweet person. I don't plan to meet with her except over coffee. On weekends. When I have a long book to read.

MUH BOOBS. ALL I WANT IS A FUCKING BLOUSE THAT FITS.

>>7138009

Hey anon, think of it this way. Your dress might be the item that makes her see that brand is really nice quality and that perhaps replicas aren't worth her while.

Also, I think I might have bought something from you!

>>7138014

That feel, anon. Well. The blouses fit me, I have a comparatively small frame but large breasts, they just fit me really really strangely.

>>7138010
I have a feeling this is about me. I wish you would have just told me this in person. I didn't know it mattered so much to you when it was just going over to your house to hang out, and not specifically going "out" somewhere. And you usually don't tell me a specific time you want me to come over, just "after x PM", and since there's no concrete schedule, I just say "around 3" or whatever and if I end up coming at 4, I didn't know it mattered. Kind of wish you would be more upfront about that.
Text me something (even just "hi" or something) so I can know if this is about me or not, and I'll do better. I'm sorry.

>>7138015
Hopefully! Really, what did you buy? I haven't sold much lately.

I just want my depression to go away so I can fucking work on anything or get back to the gym instead of crying all damn day and doing the bare minimum to get by. God.

Sometimes I feel like other lolitas in my community don't actually like me. It seems like we're fine in person, but when we communicate over email and all that, they seem sort of passive aggressive and a bit cold. I wonder if it's because I don't go to as many meetups any more, and don't dress as OTT as I used to. I have a feeling they think I'm embarrassed by them and that's why I've been dressing down recently. It has nothing to do with them....I've just been feeling really, really shitty lately, and blending in with the normal people crowd at least alleviates having to deal with all the dumb comments people make about lolita to me in public.

I guess this is more of a confession than a rant. Meh. I don't have much to rant about right now.

>>7137704
That medical excuse is bullshit. Unless the reason why you can't room together and she's fucking with your plans is directly related to her health issues, call her on being a bitch.

I'm upset because a vocal minority of SRS shitstains kept bitching and eventually killed this board.

Rip in pieces cgl

>>7138015
How can you tell who they are from that snippet alone? Just curious. People on here seem to be good at sussing this stuff out.

>>7138031
I feel you, anon. I've been forcing myself to exercise 5 days a week, but last week I only exercised twice. It's really hard forcing myself to get up and get out, and I'm in a slump at the moment despite having just begun my normal routine again, but my depression seems to be worse than it has in a long time. And it's not PMS. I ended my period over a week ago. Fuck.

>>7138010
>>7138022

>tfw friend is always on his own time
>leaving in 10 minutes after shower really means
>I'll leave in an hour and get there 2 hours late
>tfw its just become a thing I've accepted and always schedule things at like 8 or 9 instead of the usualy 7 or 6

>>7138024

I guess a lot of people have been selling stuff for school lately.

>>7138010
oh god I really hope this isn't me, I was late to an art exhibit viewing meet this summer. if that's me i'm sorry. i've been making an effort to be more punctual to meets.

I doubt this applies to me though because our group all went together to eat afterwards. nobody got abandoned for being late.

anyway as a sometimes late anon I apologize regardless.

Lolitas have about as much home at a con as fursuiters.

>>7138056
Tell that to the conventions that have Lolita booths, and brand designer guests.

>>7138066
Gladly.

>>7138056
You're just pissed we're such a presence on /cgl/.

>>7138014
MY FUCKIN BOOBS
ANON GIVE ME SOME OF YOUR BOOBAGE SO I DON'T HAVE TO STUFF EVERY FUCKING PUSH UP BRA TO LOOK HALF DECENT IN LOLITA

>decided to learn to make armour this year
>just moved into a new flat and it's really lovely but small
>know making armour in here will wreck the place
I just want to cosplay from my femblems. :c

>>7138056
I agree, which is why I don't go to cons.
Have fun at your next convention, anon. I will not soon or ever see you there.

>>7138110
I will glady send you some of mine if I could. I'm about fed up with this shit.

>>7138066
Jesus Christ, that image is huge and I regret clicking on it, even if it's tame and an easily recognizable animated film.
I fucking hate Halloween. Literally almost everything is 2spooky4me. Last year some trick or treater rang the doorbell and I opened the door to find a fucking 6 foot beast wearing the pig mask from the SAW series (don't even ask me how I know what that is. My brother's an asshole). I promptly slammed the door and told him to fuck off. Unless you're the victim of a genetic mutation I'm unaware of, there's no way in hell you're a KID in that thing, unless Johnny is standing on Billy's shoulders like some cartoon or sitcom gone wrong.

Halloween time is probably the only fucking thing I miss about living in Australia. Because NO ONE DOES A THING ABOUT IT OVER THERE. Coming back to the US in autumn after 10 years down under was the worst. Shit weather and shit excuse for a holiday.

>go to party
>guy is there
>we realize we are both from /cgl/
>he keeps calling me a brolita
>calls me "brolita" for the rest of the night
>I'm 100% female

goddamn it tsukasa

>>7138010
>every single appointment we've ever set up together
>every single appointment together
>every appointment
>appointment
Do you seriously call the time you spend with friends "appointments"? Like dental or chiropractic services? Jesus, you sound awful.

Let me guess, you're a classic lolita who enjoys many aspects of being a "lifestyler"?

>>7138018
this. this is me. 31" ribcage, 38" bust. being a busty-chan is suffering.

in better news, have you seen this Vietnamese indie brand is making custom-sized blouses for like $45 shipped to the US?
facebook + /pages/The-Floral-Notebook/657362397607294

>>7138010
Why don't you just.... tell her that it's an hour before it actually is? I mean, if it's a consistent thing, it shouldn't be a surprise and you should plan around it.

>>7138150
did you somehow miss that they were raised by a german parent? hell yeah they're going to refer to a pre-planned, timed meetup or event as an "appointment". germans are some of the most relentlessly professional people in the world, even when it comes to friends and leisure time. let me guess, you're a nitpicky asshole who likes to try and degrade strangers for their personal grammar choices?

>>7138137
As an Australian, I wish I could swap places with you on the 31/10. Or as you guys say, the 10/31.

>>7138176
saying "appointments" seems pretty unnatural if they're really a friend though. why don't they just say "hanging out" or "going to see this friend" etc? "appointments" makes it seem like their schedule is "too busy" for friends. just, weird.

>>7138190
it only seems unnatural because you're not german. for a german person, they will literally schedule every thing they need to do in a day, no matter how small or trivial. just about everything is exact to the minute, from catching a train at 7:23 to getting off the train and meeting their friend at 7:49. if two germans made that plan to meet, they wouldn't say "i will meet you around/just before 8", they would literally say "i will meet you at 7:49".

so if a german friend makes a specific time and place to meet you, it will literally be called "an appointment", and they will probably write it in their planner/calendar/diary to the exact time they expect to see you, and then they will get to the meeting point 5-10 min early so that there is no possible way they will miss their "appointment" with you. you can see some more discussion of their stereotypically professional behaviour here: confessedtravelholic.com/2012/12/german-stereotypes-truths-lies-and-more.html

>>7138176
APART FROM THEIR TRAINS HOLY SHIT

German trains are so fucking awful, I generally expect to get to my destination two or three hours late if it's long distance. Hypocritical cunts.

>>7138195
>>7138176
Lol at first I thought you were being sarcastic with the "didn't you read? German parent!!1!" bit but now I can see you're just butthurt. Try harder, dear. Both my Ph.D advisor and two former housemates were German and I lived there for 3 months visiting friends. Your stereotype about German punctuality is about as unequivocally accurate as my assumption that only this much defensiveness could come from a French Canadian. English is likely your second language, eh?

>>7138010
Honestly you should just accept her flaky nature. I have a friend that I adore but is waaay too flaky and had forgot about me multiple times in the past, she's sweet but really irresponsible. I just made a mental note to not count on her if we have to meet up, or gather other friends so I'm not alone.

Im so fucking sick of people bitching about canadians.
what the fuck is your problem with us?

I've been making a suit of Iron Man armour out of foam since about May and it's nearly finished. The biggest problem is that I know that compared to almost every other suit of Iron Man armour on the internet ( bar the classic 'one made out of gift wrap' and 'one made out of duct tape' ) it's shit. It's my first attempt at something like this, ever, but I know that the quality is atrocious whilst everyone else online seems to do speedbuilds and crank out movie-quality suits. It's really disheartening.

I've made it with the exact same pepakura files everyone else uses, but where I've had massive problems with certain bits, I've never seen anyone else mention them, ever, so I'm wondering if the problem's on my end?

The RPF being my sole source of reference and guides probably isn't helping and I know that I shouldn't be so hard on myself because it's my first time using materials, techniques etc, but god damn.

I don't really know what I was expecting, but still.

>>7138279
Really the first step of attempting a project like that is to set low expectations for yourself. Haven't worked much with foam? First time doing pep? Then your project has a high chance of looking like crap.

What a lot of those tutorials and build walkthroughs leave out is the constant critique of your own work that your have to carry out as you build. Even if you're using the same materials and techniques, you have to pay attention to the shape, texture and fit of your armour as you go make progress- all along you should be thinking "does this look good? how can I make it look more like how it is supposed to?" This can mean anything, like making modifications to the pattern, extra coats of resin/bondo/clay/whatever, more time sanding, repainting and weathering parts, etc. Sometimes you have to take a step back and admit that a part looks like crap- then you can modify it or start from scratch, otherwise you'll end up with a whole pile of parts that you hate.

So don't expect your first time doing something like that to be perfect, and next time you try something like it, try to evaluate what you've done as you go. Maybe try to make small components of an outfit, like a gauntlet or pauldron to start off with. Starts small and learn your limits. Then think more ambitiously.

>>7138293

Thanks, Seagull, that's some really good advice. I'll finish the suit to get it done and then I'll downgrade my ambitions massively. There's been a degree of evaluation and learning, but I never really prioritised it and I guess I was stuck in to the mind set of 'this is the process I've been told to use, I will use it for every single step and never change'.

I shouldn't have expected it to look great, I think I just got so excited by finally doing something like this I let it run away with me.

Thanks again!

Halloween is the only time of year when I have no idea what to wear. Is it because I spoil myself with cons throughout the year? This feels so absurd.

>>7138279

Don't feel bad about it. Recently someone with this suit was on my campus and the whole school went crazy over it, there was a line of people to take pictures with, etc.

>>7138279
So far your suit is looking better than fiberglass(?) untreated to bondo. Just make sure to smooth the seams a little so the edges are not too pointy and prominent.

I'm liking your progress and would like to see a finished version.

>>7138279
Dude, let me give you a bit of advice.
Enjoy it, but replace peices once your able.

Right now you have a rockin base that you should be more than proud of. My first suit didnt even look that good, and comparing yourself to half the people on the RPF (who many are studio professionals) is just an exercise in depression.
I've been building this now for the better part of a year.

It'll help if you think of your armor as modular. When you get ready just rebuild the arms, and wear them with the old suit, then replace this then that.

What issues are you having overall? I can give you advice as I know the MK 4 in and out at this point. If you want, shoot me a message over facebook, I'll be more than happy to help in anyway I can.

>>7138335
This suit looks just awful

I joined a cosplay group from another city, really far away. We are going to a skit contest on Sunday and want me to learn a really complicated dance coreography. I'm horrible at dancing, I told them that, I'm really awful at it, I've been trying to learn the coreography for the past week but it's still shaky and ugly and I think I have all the positions inverted (left is right and right is left). I can't leave the group because then a character will be missing, but I think the skit will be horrible and that they will blame me for not winning...

>>7138056
I agree, and I'm a lolita. I think for some conventions lolita is fine, i.e. Pacific Media Expo, but on the whole they should stay centered around anime, manga, and otaku culture.

Furries and lolitas and other jfash things kind of turn the cons into a catch-all for anything Japanese, which I don't like.

As for things that bother me, I'm really missing the sense of community our local comm had in the past.

>>7138031
I know that feel anon. It's so goddamn frustrating.

I hate that every time I submit a sales post, it's pot luck whether the mods will allow a certain item or not (even if that item was made for lolita but was handmade or offbrand). I once was approved, for all items but I forgot the lj-cut so it was rejected. So I resubmit the same post with an lj-cut and it's rejected because of the 75/25 rule. But yet they allow things that are obviously NOT lolita because it's from a whitelisted brand?

>>7138137
ya know that Halloween is gathering steam here now?

shits plastered all over the main retailers, even saw a kids book "My Aussie Halloween Activity Book".

I approve of an excuse for the kids to dress up outside of the occasional book parade.

>>7138429
I don't know if you guys are saying Lolita EVENTS don't belong at cons? Or just people in lolita? Because if it's the latter, that would be like saying 'people who like to wear jeans stand out at conventions' since people who dress in lolita could be just as interested in the convention as any other con -goer (probably the reason they went in the first place?)

Though if you're saying events/panels the like, I can understand that.

>>7138429
I would much rather it be a catch-all for Japanese related media than include western media as well.

getting tired of trying to make groups with my friends. every con they complain about wanting to do stuff with me, but they are flaky and non-commital.

I don't have a lot of money so I need to plan my costumes months in advance to make sure I can responsible afford my conventions and costumes. they think I'm being a perfectionist/control freak because if they can't give me a hard answer I won't agree to a group.

I need to spend my resources and time wisely, I don't want to make another costume for a group that doesn't happen when there are things I would rather make to wear by myself. I don't think that makes me an elitist, and if they did agree to the group and shit came up and they could no longer do it due to money or personal issues- that's life. I wouldn't be mad as long as they had intended to follow through.

what pisses me off is that if we don't have a solid plan a month or two months before the fall in love with the new popular/tumblr craze and want to drop everything and change our plans to do that instead after I've bought all the materials and started working on stuff for our original group.

they've also mostly turned into a bunch of casualfags who love to pump out costumes overnight for their new 'husbandos' and then get butthurt hanging around me when my costume I spent a couple hundred hours on gets more attention, confused they aren't getting the IRL equivalent of their hundred tumblr notes.

>>7138379

That's a good idea, I was thinking about building a new suit once I'd done this one, but it seems like something I'd put off due to being burned out by this one. I'd definitely remake the legs first since they're slightly too small. Looking at it modularly makes things a lot less daunting.

I'm not having any major problems; it's mainly lots of little things that are really more part of the learning process; seam lines, humidity fudging paint, moisture causing the PVA coating to bead, masking tape ripping off paint etc.

Did you maje yours from pepakura files? My biggest problem is that the files I'm using ( Stealth's ) seem to have so many problems but no one mentions them. I'm wondering whether the problem is me or whether people are jusr used to working around them.

My bf is nearly always late, if we say to meet at 10.30 he will most likely arrive at 11.30 or 12. So now whenever we set on a time to meet I'll prepare to arrive 30minutes later than our agreed time. On the occasion where he is actually punctual he guilt trips me for being late.

>>7138379

Also, your 2013 suit is awesome, looks really solid, beautiful paint job. Nice Zentai too, is it custom?

>>7138455
Yeah, those little things add up pretty quick, I do have solutions for most though, message me over Facebook: Kolin Roberts and we can talk about them.

And yeah, they are all Stealth's foam edits, they definatly aren't as easy as a JFCustom edit, but I've worked with it for so long its easier to me.

>>7138459
Yup, got it from milanoo ordered to fit with a dual zipper in front so I can get it on by myself and also use the bathroom without taking off all the armor. Here's a tip, get something red, alot of people will use black, I was one of them, a red helps unify the whole suit as a more solid piece as opposed to separate pieces thrown on top of you.

Gettin' real tired of this guy I'm mutual friends with. He keeps complaining that no one likes the things he likes, then bashing the things his friends like ("you only like that thing because it's popular" "actually I like it because of x,y,z" "no but the things I like are SO MUCH BETTER"), then getting into the new things because they're popular (and, as far as I can tell, no other reason) and then bitching that he can't get a group together because everyone already has whatever character (usually the main character) he's decided to cosplay. Try to include him sometimes. Continues bitching that he can't get a group together when in actuality he only wants to cosplay we CERTAIN people but can't bring himself to say so and no one else measures up. Can't understand why anyone would spend money and time making cosplay for a character you don't like or from a series that you profess to HATE.
>tfw have to leave the room so I don't punch him in the face sometimes

>>7138257
Come on, we aren't serious. When I joke about Canadians not being real people or Canadians being the faggots of the world or something, it's really just because you guys are so nice (except for Quebec). If you minus the French eastern area, I think Canada is one of the kindest places on Earth, and that's why your country is picked on. I don't like the fact that everyone is all "Amerifag" "Murrica" "People in America are all fat and lazy" "America = Mcdonalds" and shit like that, but you gotta remember not all Americans are like that, even though I'll admit a lot of us are. Just like not all of Canadians are super nice/friendly/crazy sledders and lumberjacks who eat maple syrup on everything. People are always gonna act like assholes about other countries, get over it

>>7138535
>mfw my boyfriend's canadian and he's considered a giant arsehole by everyone

I don't think he ever got the memo about what canadians are supposed to be

I work in a very small, friendly place and most of us are pretty nerdy. We talk about videogames and comics and they know about my conventions and cosplay.

One of my coworkers is a very awkward, very nerdy guy who is nice but has aspbergers or SOMETHING. He is just not 100% normal in a very tangible way, and once I became friends with him has become uber clingy and wants to hang out with me all the time after work because he has no other friends and he is too awkward or doesn't want to go out on his own and make them.

Recently he's been interested in checking out the local convention scene as a way of potentially making more friends and getting out more. He came to a con with us and I pretty much told him I only ever get a break and get to see and chill with friends at cons out of my area.So today he starts asking me about going to those cons so he can hang out with me and I was like 'I'm not sure that would be a good idea because I have lots of people I want to see."

and he was like 'Well why can't I come along and you can introduce me and maybe I can make some new friends' and now he keeps mentioning it and I don't know how to explain why this is a bad idea other than just saying 'No.' because 'No' doesn't really register in his head unless there's a reason, and then makes things awkward- and he's still my coworker so I need to deal with him every day.

TBH I'm not even sure what it is myself, other than I guess I would feel like I was babysitting and obligated to look after him, and that it would be a little parasitic? yeah I could do whatever I wanted, but I would have a tag along all day and he's so socially awkward and I think it's weird to just want to latch onto someone else's friends... but at the same time I feel bad because I want him to make other friends and also want him to stop being so attached to me.

How do I explain this without making a big deal out of it? I'm also a female and he has a fiancee, which makes things even more awkward.

>>7138501

I may check out the JFCustom edit as I'm having huge problems with Stealth's feet, I didn't realise there was another serviceable foam edit out there.

I'll give you an add on Facebook later when I get the chance, thanks, it'll be 'John Durham'.

>>7138576
Tell him you don't want to make it awkward with his fiance, or that you don't feel comfortable with him sharing all your hobbies and he's getting too clingy and you would like some space. I had a friend like that, he eventually became completely delusional, thinking we were in love, and I had to shut down and move away and completely block him out.

I have no idea how to tell my friend that most of the other people in our group (myself included) don't want to room with her anymore during cons. Not that she's a bad friend, just that I can't room with her. Among other things, everyone's just tired of staying with her.

We're conflicted because if any of us tell her straight up "You need to find a new group to room with during cons" it'll piss her off, and I don't want to lose her as a friend. But when we try to make plans in secret, she somehow finds out and invites herself in.

>>7138576
this sounds like a beginning of a typical /cgl/ horror story

>>7138609
Oh yeah, the feet robo made were not that great. iirc JFcustom just went straight with dancin' fools feet and I don't think anyone has ever looked back.

>>7138031
This. I plan a great day to do stuff and get cleaning done on my day off, then my boyfriend will get home from work to me crying or sleeping in a pile of dirty clothes and half started projects.

>>7138688
I've been having a shitty time lately, and that image you posted made me feel a bit better. Thanks anon.

Dear X

We've been friends for many years now and recently I'm beginning to think you've grown really distant and don't see me worth your time anymore. Everyone else seems closer to you, people you've met a couple of times this year seem closer to you than me.

This year you got into some of the stuff I like and I thought we'd maybe have more to talk about after we had a dry period when we had different interests. However when you do talk to me it's only when convenient it seems. I feel like you are only talking to me recently cause I may pay for something coming up. You don't actually seem interested in being around me or excited that we're gonna room together, you're just happy that a hotel will be sorted.

I don't have many real life friends so I wanted to share the room with you and some other people but I'm beginning to feel angry. You never try and get close anymore and I think you know I've been having emotional problems lately yet you won't say anything.

I want to have a nice time with you at this con and I don't want to bring up anything but I feel like if I just disappeared you wouldn't really care. It's nothing out of a crazy crush or anything, I just want to be a good friend but it's getting harder to want to be that the more you treat me coldly. I can't even think I've done something to offend you but if you are angry with me and hate me I wish you would just out right say it.

I have no lolita or cosplay friends. My only friend that has ever dabbled in it buys all her cosplays (and they're sexed up ones), and is a pretty uncurable ita. When I go to meets I keep hoping to make friends, but always feel so awkward and like I'm forcing people to put up with me. Had social issues growing up and I guess I'm just terrified that people actually think I'm autistic, and are just being polite, or want to make fun of me later (something that has happened a lot in the past). Either way I'm afraid to actually pursue friendship.

>>7138710
boggletheowl.tumblr, if you want to read more. It's gotten me out of the house before.

I love going to cons cosplaying except for the pictures. Probably I'm just a paranoid but I don't like the idea of pictures of me floating in the internet (because we know nowadays everyone uploads everything, at least to their facebook). I'm not photogenic at all and 99% sure I always look terrible or angry. Plus something tells me I might be embarrassed of dressing up in the future and I won't be able to "hide my past" completely. But I feel like a bitch if I refuse pictures, especially to those persons who actually love the character you're cosplaying ;__;

Another thing that keeps bothering me is that in the conventions in my city there is an IMMENSE increase of weaboos and normalfags every year. Most normalfags just go to make fun of people and the weaboos are just annoying as fuck screaming and shit, I especially hate those guys that go asking for pictures just to hugs girls inappropriately or that go around obviously trying to get panty shots and stuff like that.

I love Halloween and the whole fall season. My workplace even holds a Boo Bash every year, and I'll be dressing up and handing out gross healthy treats to the adorable little kids that are decked out it fun costumes. I'm super excited, and I think that Halloween is a great time to pick a random category and put a bunch of creativity into it, and you don't have to worry about people bitching about how you aren't true to the character.

Problem is that my boyfriend is just everywhere on the charts about dressing up.

First he tells me that he doesn't want to dress up, but he did that last year and felt like a fool and ended up being super late to a party because he took 2 hours hunting in the closet for something to be.

Then he tells me that he wants my help to be something, but it's usually a super hard character for me to help with, especially with short notice (he wants a super awesome Final Fantasy costume)

Then he says he'll just be some random thing, but wants me to pick it out, but doesn't like any of my ideas, and doesn't want to look "stupid".

I got so mad last night, I just told him to do whatever he wants. I'll help him if he figures out what he wants to do, but I'm not going to make him this intricate as fuck costume that's going to look crappy with my skills at the moment.

Pic related, it's an inspiration for my costume

>>7138018
This. Seriously big chest small back size situations SUCK. Button gape makes it so i can never wear skirts. JSK's and OPs all the way.

>>7138132
This. I seldom go to conventions, its not my thing and i got into lolita from other alt clothing styles not weeb stuff. Going to a con is kinda pointless for me since im not part of that culture so i don't "Get it".

I've been depressed as hell lately and even though I've set my cosplay plans to bare minimum I just have no motivation to get my shit together and when I do get my shit together something goes wrong and all of my money goes with it.
>bike repairs
>dog sick
>etc

Plus, I need to buy a new sewing machine because I've been using "baby's first machine" since I was in fucking high school and it sucks ass, but what is even the point of getting a new one if I can't motivate myself to make a new Layton hat or even sew a fucking Wind Waker Link tunic?

>>7138257
Just finished a sale with a Canadian lolita:
> Best seller of my lolita life.
Sweet, quick to respond, and shipped EXACTLY when she said she would. Seriously thinking about sending her something cute for being so cool.

I feel a bit like i have to organise everything for my comm and its not feeling rewarding. People will say they want a meetup and then won't do anything to help set it up, i have tried sitting back and waiting but no one picks up the slack. We have one girl with diet issues who we often cater our meetups to... only to have her not turn up/ cancel at the last min. It shouldn't bother me but it happens a lot and we would feel terrible if she came and couldn't eat anything.

We also have a special snowflake with a weeb streak a mile wide. She's a lifestyle ita with a bit of an entitled attitude.

>>7138150
I don't understand how its horrible to call that an appointment? If they're a busy person, finding time to see their friend is an appointment. Going to an art show or some other place at a set time IS an appointment.

Just because you attach the word to things like doctor appointments doesn't mean it can't apply to other things. I have an appointment at a nice restaurant downtown tomorrow with my friends. Calling it an appointment doesn't make it less exciting, enjoyable, etc. Its just acknowledging the fact that Its a specific time I have to be somewhere.

>>7138755
My boyfriend is like this too. First its I DONT LIKE COSTUMES then its "hey a renfair would be cool if I can dress like Skyrim" then its I HATE PEOPLE WHO WEAR COSTUMES then its "lets go crazy on Halloween stuff". We have five bags of fake spiderweb, three masks, a cloak, and he has no idea what he wants anymore. He does the same wishywashing with my lolita meets too. As soon as people show up he dissapears, then at the end he complains that we didn't include him...

>>7138760
I cheat and buy a few sizes up then add corset lacing or a dart to the back of shirts and vests to make em fit better.

I have been looking for a job for 7 months. I've turned in at least 20 applications to different places and been offered sewing jobs by about 5 family friends, and no one ever gets back to me. Not even a single interview. It is extremely frustrating and sad to not be given a chance. I have 3 cons in the next 3 months and I really wish I could use money I've earned myself to pay for these events and cosplays that I love attending and constructing.
>tldr unemployed, about to have a BF

I recently stumbled across my ex's blog and saw that they still write about things I did during our relationship that upset them (when I was a teenager, no less). We broke up almost four or five years ago and they post about it like it just happened yesterday.
I'm not angry about the posts. In fact, I probably wouldn't have even found out about them if they hadn't come up in one of my friend's posts.

I made my peace and moved on a long time ago. I'm in a new relationship (been together three years, planning to get engaged soon), have a job I love, am starting to overcome mental illnesses and I'm finally finding happiness in my life.

I think the real reason this bothers me is that it's really made me pity my ex, I guess. The break-up was mutual because we both had problems with one another, but I thought they would have gotten over it by now.

I'm compiling a costume for a dress-up party my friend's having at New Year's and reuse it for any cons I go to in future. I was going to go as Big Boss from MGS Peace Walker, then I came to the realization that I don't look the part, so I went for a more neutral alternative in the basic MSF soldiers, who wear basically the same outfit. Then I realized an insignia on Big Boss' uniform isn't present on the rest of the MSF troops' BDUs, so I'm panicking over whether to keep it and hope nobody notices and shrug it off if they do, or jump through the hoops necessary to remove all traces of an iron-on patch.

Whew. Vented.

A bunch of shithead crappy cosplayers are badmouthing a couple of friends because they publicly made a couple of jokes about them... after months of suffering their jealousy and attacks.

My friends became quite popular last year after winning an important contest, and because of that they were invited to cons and to make panels and exhibitions. The dickheads wanted the same treatment but didn't have enough merits, so they worked on eliminating them of the scene with lies, and also talked shit about them all over the place.

Now my friends publicly mocked them because they were fed up with their attitude (yeah, not a very mature thing to do either, I know) and the ones that wanted to steal the spotlight are now playing the victim, erasing all proof of their previous acts and effectively making almost all the cosplay scene hate them because, of course, nobody asks my friends if they had reasons to mock those people in the first place.

I want to speak up and help them but I can't because we have the feeling it'd make things worse, but this is fucking unfair. And everyboy would call me a whiteknight and label them as pussies who can't defend themselves, so I leave that in their hands. But I'm frustrated.

>>7138967
That is extremely sad.

>>7138935
You... you have to call them and ask about your application a few days later... or they won't hire you.

I regret learning how to sew because one of my friends always expects me to make her cosplays now and I don't have any back bone to tell her no. :(

>>7139239
Why don't you start mentioning "You know, if you keep asking me to make stuff for you, I'll have to ask you to start paying something to help me out. I devote a lot of time and effort to these things".

It worked when friends kept asking me to make swords for their shitty Bleach costumes. Thank christ that died out.

>>7139224
I've followed up on every application, either in person and/or over the phone.

>>7139239
Owning a sewing machine, knowing how to use it, and have friends who want help in cosplay is like owning a truck, knowing how to drive it, and having friends who want help in moving. If your friend always expects you to do it, start charging per hour. If you really do want to work for free, though, at least tell her that you can't afford it unless she buys and brings you all the materials and supplies (and give her a list so she doesn't skimp on stuff like thread or zippers, and she doesn't buy difficult fabrics like chiffon). That way at least she experiences how tedious and expensive just shopping for materials is.

>>7139263
I do this. Once people see prices or a list they stop asking. I've offered to teach people also but they never want to learn.

Why the fuck did I let someone on /cgl/ convince me to hand-dye the fucking fabric for my madoka costume? I have NEVER been good at dying fabric, and I thought I could manage, but I just spent some better part of an hour working on this shit and it's argh. I just wanted it to look nice. I am just dying the fucking fabric for the bows/contrast and it's too fucking light and augh I'm afraid of making it too dark and it comes out too light and fuckers

>>7139263

I have this problem. Generally, I like helping with cosplay and such. I expect friends to buy materials but I'll go shopping and such with them. Well I have a friend now who wants her first cosplay to be Gunner Yuna and she is absolutely fucking useless. Just totally useless. We have ten weeks to the con and she won't even start. She claims to be 'too busy' to work on it all the time. I have a feeling it's going to be the week of the con and she'll be wanting it finished. I told her to at least order the wig online because it's probably going to come from China and she'll have to wait a while but can she listen? Of course not.

>>7139239
I'm still working on my skills, so I only charge about $5 per hour. When my friends ask me to make them costumes, I give them a chart explaining material costs and then my labour fees, and that normally shuts them up real quick

Right now i'm in college for fashion design and business, and my dream is to start my own indie brand. But I feel like once i'm out of school and get my business up and running, the market is going to be so saturated with indie brands that no one will give mine the time of day

>>7139379
>Right now i'm in college for fashion design and business

Market saturation should be the least of your worries.

I hate when people make reviews and only tried on the item for like ten minutes.

>>7139392
>hope over time
>despair is a unit of time in the chart
I can tell that Clarissa didn't pass math class.

>>7139415
>despair is a unit of time
No, but she did contribute to the Anti-Life Equation.

>>7139426

I love you /co/mrade

>>7139373
At least charge minimum wage for your hourly rate

>>7139197
Jusus bloody christ, this sounds just like what I was going to post minus the contest thing. Sounds horrifyingly similar to what's going on in my local community.

>>7138838
>appointment at a nice restaraunt
It's called a "reservation". What fucking country are you from?
>inb4 anon was right, you're French Canadian

>>7138257
no problem with you
just the French ones

>>7139611
spoken like a true cancerous toronto tripfag

I bought 4 expensive brand dresses over the past 6 months. All of a sudden for the past few weeks, my breasts decided to go, "Hey, B cup? Remember those D cups you've been wanting since high school? I'LL GIVE THEM TO YOU NOW!" Now I can't fit my brand comfortably or the detailed cosplays I've spent hundreds of hours crafting. Fucking double edged sword. I'm going to have to bind to fit into my brand and older cosplays now.

>>7139663
Don't...don't you mean you just got fat?

>>7139609
But reservation is more of a French word than appointment.

I can never find a fucking petticoat that fits. I'm not even tall, and yet every petticoat I buy gives my outfits that dreaded 'tent' look. The only company I have left to try is CP, and if they down't work I'm officially giving up on lolita. I fucking hate petticoats holy shit.

>>7139667
dis
anon aint foolin anyone

I hate the fact that my Tumblr posts with my face either censored or just showing my coords gets hundreds of likes/reblogs compared to the tenths I get whenever I show my face.
I ain't even ugly

>>7139667
>>7139705
Yeah, no. I'm still at the same weight I've been for the past 2 years. Hormones, people.

I am sick and tired of all this fandom elitism. I cannot talk about a show I like, a show I don't like, or a show I don't plan to watch but otherwise have no opinion about, without someone getting their panties in a bunch that I don't like the things they like.

>You don't worship Goku as the Messiah?
>You need to watch more Disney movies. You need to worship Merida like I do.
>Destiny is going to be the best game of all time, and until you admit it, I wont stop bugging you about every single detail of the game.
>Stop watching One Piece and start watching Attack on Titan!
>What do you mean you're not interesed in Soul Eater, Doctor Who or Fairy Tail? They're the best shows of all time!
>You like Saints Row more than GTA but you still think GTA is fun? But you like Saints Row more? You make me sick!

Seriously. I'm getting sick of it. If I ever sound like this, I hope someone comes and shoots out my kneecaps.

>>7139863
>B cups turning into D cups
>no weight gain

So you're not getting fat, but making shit up. Nice.

>>7139261
I feel you, anon. I spent 2 years looking for a job throughout high school, and once I graduated I was stuck with a shitty Starbucks job for months with bitchy coworkers and creepy pedo customers.
Luckily, things got better. I hope they do for you too!

I keep wanting to do a dream costume and I think I'm fine looking enough for it but I don't want to be fine. I want to be amazing. unfortunately tons of girls have the perfect body and I don't...

>>7137993
Legend of Galactic Heroes.

>>7139261
Maybe there's something obviously wrong with your applications. Have someone else look at it, sometimes it's hard to notice things you wrote that might make you seem very bad to another person.

>>7138195
>>7138176
I'm german and what the fuck am I reading?

we're not some kind of aliens you know.

>car breaks down all the time
>mom takes all my money so I can't even fix it or complete the shittiest or easiest of cosplays let alone go to any cons
>hate my job
>barely any irl friends and what friends I have don't seem to want to talk to me anymore
>dad dead so only person I could talk to when I'm depressed gone
>failure romantically
>fail at killing myself

I hate my life.

>>7138137
>I don't like Halloween, which means it's terrible!

Well, anon, I don't like apple pie, but that doesn't mean I think it's terrible.

I'm a complete wuss and Halloween is my favorite holiday. Grow a set.

>>7138176
This is complete bullshit, anon, I was raised by my off-the-boat German great-grandmother, and she, nor my great-grandfather, nor anyone else in my mostly German family gives a shit about punctuality or being formal or professional.

I mean, we're not constantly late, because that's rude, but it's not like, "OH NO! I'M FOUR MINUTES LATE I AM SO SORRY I AM A HORRIBLE HUMAN."

Yay, thread has devolved to stereotype discussions, and being an hour late is the same as being four minutes late

Never change, cgl

>>7139893
No, northern Europeans (and northern hemisphere in general) and our time management and order really are alien to mericans and southern debt monkeys. Plus there's the ordnung stereotype.

>>7138935
20 applications in 7 months? Is that all? No wonder you haven't got a job. You need to step up your game and take up some voluntary work whilst you're looking to pep up your resume.

>budgeted for my Oyahocon cosplay, Youma cosplay, and a modest sum for lolita
>Misty Sky re-release is a thing
>mfw what the fuck do I do bc I don't want to axe anything

>>7139667
>>7139705
Depending on anon's age this can totally happen. A lot of women have a sudden doublage of boobs between age 16 and 24, because thats prime babymakin' age.

one of my friends randomly decided she doesn't like my other friend and i any more over the summer, and i'm REALLY hoping it doesn't cause problems at our convention this year. she's harassed and insulted our other friends/acquaintances online before and has threatened violence to a couple of them as well, but has always been too much of a coward to do anything. she's a fucking drama storm and i don't want her anywhere near my friends, my boyfriend, or me at the con ugh. luckily it's big so i don't think it'll be an issue but it's been buggin me for a while now. i'm actually not sad about her dropping us because she was such a drama llama but now i'm worried that since she doesn't have anything to lose she'll start shit. this girl thrives on being miserable and spreading her unhappiness.

ugh that felt good to say.

>>7139877
I agree with you on this 100%. I can't even tell you how annoyed I get when some idiot starts yapping about how I should "stop with the hamsteak!!1! dont like things i dont like!!!! why cant you just like shingeki no kyojin and evangelion as much as me?? " Like, maybe because, oh I don't know, we're not the same person? And different people have different tastes?

I want to break up with my boyfriend of 4 years.

He's really sweet and stuff, but he's way to serious for me about wanting to get married and it's scaring me. We're only 20.

I know if I were to break things off with him it'll destroy him. I'm too scared to do that.

My boyfriend asked me to borrow over $1,200 dollars from me.

I lied to him saying that I could only withdraw a maximum of $200 dollars at a time because he's really iffy about paying me back.

I feel kind of bad for not being helpful but isn't $1,200 kind of a lot?

>>7140749
>$1,200
It's a lot if you're uncomfortable with it. Rule of thumb, never loan out any more then you're comfortable lossing.

What does he need it for?

I broke up with my boyfriend and I can't even tell some of my best friends because then I'll have to explain and god I just don't want to go through it again.

Apparently my housemate already knows from him, which irks me a bit, but at least she's not asking me anything. My best friend though doesn't know, and I'm afraid to tell her just because we'll end up in the same discussion - parents are overprotective, I should move out, it's over now forget about him, etc. Not to mention that I just get overemotional when I mention him.

Is this normal? Are my defense mechanisms really faulty? It's been a month and a half now I think

>>7140749
It is. Fuck, $200 is a lot and I wouldn't be willing to lend that kind of cash to anyone, whether I'm fucking them or not.

>>7140749
BOYFRIEND

Aka, he ain't cho hubby or anything

Don't do it
He's using you

>>7140760
>>7140749
Totally this. Don't lend the money unless you're willing to kiss it goodbye. Friendships are broken over money. Part of the reason I broke up with my ex is because he kept asking for money, borrowing money, and not paying it back.

>>7140760
He wanted to buy stuff for his car.

Specifically new wheels.

>>7140799
If you don't trust him enough to pay the loan, don't loan it to him. Trust your gut in this. $1,200 is a LOT of money to gamble on a maybe. Especially if it's not something critical like medical bills.

>>7140799
Don't lend him SHIT. That has got to be the dumbest and most selfish reason to want money from their partner for. Court TV shows are made of things like this.

Sorry /cgl/ for adding to the boyfriend rants but...

I have a boyfriend who gets really butthurt if I hangout with anyone if he's not there. But for some miraculous reason he's able to hang out without me just fine. I feel like I lost a lot of friends because I just can't chill without him being there any making things awkward. (he only likes to talk about what he likes to or he'll just sit and huff really loudly on his phone).

It's really annoying when he's apparently busy a certain day, then I make plans with one of my few friends and he flips out because suddenly he wants to drop all his plans to come with me. Sometimes he actually leaves me alone to hang but randomly just shows up to where I'm hanging out with my friends.

It's kind of annoying. Especially when my friends are like "Oh.. It's so nice to have a boyfriend who loves you so much!" It really doesn't help.

Nice boyfurendos.

>>7140749
Even $200 is lot, but that's just my opinion.

Do you know what he needs it for? If it's for his rent or something and he just lost his job, that seems pretty understandable. Otherwise, don't feel bad. That's a lot of money, especially if you don't even know if you'll be getting it back.
On the topic of boyfriends, I'm that one girl you always hear has broken up with her boyfriend and a few days later they're back together. I hate it, it makes me feel like a moron, but I can't get the guy to leave me alone. He will continue to text and call me constantly, following me around to my classes, try to hold my hand, put his arm around me, sit next to me and put his hand on my leg, loudly call me hon and love, and generally act like nothing has changed. I can't tell him to stop, because while he doesn't care about being loud and dramatic in public, I do and have to try my best to casually push him off or quietly tell him to stop. He will continue to call me his girlfriend and generally completely dismiss my feelings when I tell him it's over, and what's most annoying is he'll do it was a smile on his face like "Noo, I'll fix this! I looove you :)". Eventually I just cave and give him what he wants because I can't stand the embarrassment of people watching our drama like a fucking soap opera. I've been "dating" him for a year almost now, since I stopped having feelings for him, and I know it's my fault for being beta and just rolling over when he gets frustrating.
And since I don't think this rant is all that relevant to this board, I'll add that we met at a local convention a couple of years ago. He was cool and seemed amazing at first, but then he revealed how clingy he was along the line. So moral, be cautious when meeting people at cons.

>>7140811
>>7140809
>But this is a once in a life time deal - On car forums these normally go for $4,000 a set!! I need them now. I'll pay you back when my FinAid comes in Anon! Don't worry, I love you!

This always fucking happens, then when he gets his financial aid money in he spends it on more car parts that he doesn't need. Like I like cars and all but I don't NEED new JDM corner lights and bumpers.

Jesus fucking christ I can go on forever... But I'm such a pushover and he knows it.

>>7140820
Anon, I don't know you but it sounds like you're being used.

>>7140809
Glad to know I'm not the only one learning some life lessons by watching Courtroom TV shows at dinnertime!

>>7140812
I don't know your whole story but speaking from my very painful personal experience - do NOT give up your friendships for anybody!! Guys who don't want you ever hanging out with other people tend to be possessive. This might not be the case with you but please be careful and aware of what's going on. It happens very slowly and then suddenly you have no social life aside from him.

>>7140819
That is manipulative and controlling behavior at the least and sounds very stalker-like as well. And it is absolutely not your fault since you've told him to stop, even if it's not loud and dramatic, because I guarantee you that social pressure is what he's been counting on. Break it off and tell him unambiguously to leave you completely alone. And if he doesn't, get the police or other authorities involved if necessary (administrators at your school, maybe). It'll be embarrassing while it's happening, maybe, but if it's been going on this long sounds like it's a serious problem.

When you're not fantasizing about your ex boyfriend stalking you even though he lives in another state, can't drive, and has no job, you're fantasizing about me growing a dick and stealing you away on a white horse because I ~get~ you.

Maybe any signals that you want to be closer only hurt me, because it always turns out that you wanted an ego boost so you could feel better enough about your relationship to go back to your boyfriend and fuck him, then complain to me about it in gruesome detail. Telling me you wish I were a boy so I could dick you is not helping anyone.

Maybe I don't have new friends because all I do is work, sleep and use my remaining sparse time on the internet or with you. Maybe the only people I meet at work are 30+ busybodies who act like deranged high school kids, with a few 20somethings thrown in there. Maybe I'm just not suited to interact that much with people. I'm not good at it and everyone involved gets tired. Maybe my money is not more expendable just because I make more of it than you do. Maybe you consistently pick the same guy, look and everything, but at a different age.

Maybe I'm tired of being the last resort friend that you go to only when every other person you know is busy and the internet has bored you. Maybe I don't want to be second banana, having to be awake and unoccupied at completely arbitrary times, at your convenience only, when you have no one else to hang out with.

Maybe I'll go to my first con by m-myself
Dammit.

>>7140820
He's just gonna keep doing it if he knows he can get away with it. You have to put your foot down, he's a big boy, he can fund his own hobbies.

>Gained 15lbs in about 2 months.
>Stress and hypothyroidism.
>18 and still with the 'rents who... Don't believe the blood tests.
>Yeah I know at my age I can pick that shit up, but...
>Not getting the medication unless I steal the car (temporarily) to first pick up the prescription from my doctor then get it filled (my mother was with me at the appointment and refused the prescription and dragged me out before I could grab it)
>The thing I'm most upset about is not fitting into my lolita dresses as nicely, that my first cosplay in years doesn't fit anymore, and I'm way too exhausted to work on my props.

It sucks balls because I had just lost a shit ton of weight and got a breast reduction and was feeling overall good about myself and now I can barely maintain my weight and I'm exhausted by 6pm. Doesn't help that hypothyroidism runs in my family every living female on my mother's side has it, and nearly every person on my father's side has it. Meaning it could have been avoided if they took me in for regular blood tests that I should be getting anyways since I found out I'm a ticking time bomb for several conditions my parents have failed to tell me about up until now.
All I want to do is wear pretty dresses, look cute, and occasionally dress up in costumes from my favorite shows. Fuck.

>>7140901
You can't borrow the car under any circumstances? You know zero people who could give you a ride?

>>7140910
I just transfered schools for my senior year, so I know a grand total of 0 people with a car. (well, I know one guy, but he deals drugs and I do not trust him driving me anywhere.)

I hate to use this analogy, but my dad's a car nazi. He let me use one for my road test and that's it. It's not like we don't have any to spare, either. We have 7 cars rotting in the driveway/garage. It's all because my sister got into an accident two years ago and the guy who hit her is still suing, thus, my parents are super paranoid. If I snuck out and used the car and they found out... Well, first I'd be in for the beating of a lifetime, and then my parents would probably take and/or shred my license.

>>7140936
I realized how melodramatic that sounds, but I swear I wish I was joking,

There is this girl in the cosplay comm I just met, she seemed super cool. I talked to her for a while and enjoyed myself but never saw her in costume. Later she added me on fb, then I saw her actual 'costumes'
She never wears a wig,with anything. This is usually not a problem but she has bright pink hair and uses her hair for every character. Not every character has bright pink hair. It pisses me off to no end.

>>7140661

God women have it easy. Suddenly, randomly, boobs!

I wish randomly I would wake up with 30lb of muscle.

>>7140745

Talk to him?

I hate being on a night schedule.

I miss or show up late to any meet-ups that aren't in the afternoon or evenings and I feel really bad because I tend to just show up at the tail end of things.
I'd rather show up fully awake than tired and cranky.

But if I don't stay up late into the evenings I'll usually miss out on the extra money selling game services with Koreans which I use to buy my clothes.

It's pretty embarrassing - but I'm not unhappy about it entirely.
I just wish there were more dinner events or night-time outings.

Adding to the boyfriends rant. Don't offer me advice because there's absolutely nothing I can do in this situation but I just need to vent.

My boyfriend is more possessive than anyone would believe. He won't let me talk to my exes at all and threatens to leave if I do, sulks if I talk to anyone I've so much as had a crush on or kissed in the past, in fact, he gets pissy if I talk to any guy. He won't let me go clubbing, or play Second Life, or even go swimming in a bikini. He literally threatened to break up with me because I wanted to go swimming with my friend and I only had bikinis. By the time I finally decided I wanted to break up with him, it was too late. I was financially reliant on him to move to another country, which I needed to do for my degree. Now we're stuck here together and I have no friends, no social life whatsoever, still can't break up with him because then I'll be homeless and alone. I can't just kick him out because I can't afford to pay both halves of the rent by myself, and if I had to find another flat, I'd have to just move in with people I've never met, which I really, really, REALLY don't want to do because of my anxiety and depression issues. Like sometimes I can't be around people and I only cope with living with my boyfriend by no longer thinking of him as a separate person. Only then I want to do something fun and he has a tantrum about DON'T YOU CARE ABOUT MY FEELINGS and then I remember what a shitty situation I'm stuck in. We no longer have sex or even cuddle at night because we sleep at different times, I hardly feel like I'm in a relationship at all, but at the same time, I'm still not free to do the stuff I want to do. It fucking sucks.

>>7141362
As a grill, I would be totally happy to wake up with a little more muscle and a little less flab. You can have my boobs if you want, they're quite inconvenient when doing sports/fitting into taobao dresses.

>>7141392
i was in the same situation at one point
not directed toward this anon but to anyone else in a similar situation, don't let it become too late if it happens to you because it is usually reversible if you catch it early. e.i. make him feel like shit but not by yelling, by letting yourself be sad and crying instead, it's about breaking his power trip by making the drawbacks outweigh the benefits
(mine still won't let me wear a bikini though but i think thats reasonable and im fine with onepieces)

>>7141412
Heh, lucky you. He's made me cry a bunch of times and he doesn't give a shit at all.

>>7138031
tf

>>7141407

That might be awkward, cause I could never pass for a trap. Nor do I want to.

But, I think it would keep me entertained for a few days at least.

>>7140661
Not any of those anons but I had no clue this could happen.
Not too long ago I randomly lost like 5 or so pounds but my cup size went up two sizes.

>>7138031
Yep. Depressed and ill. I am achieving precisely dick and I just want to go home.

>>7141392

Break up with him and just be roommates. That's basically what you are now anyways.

And I feel like not wanting your GF talking to their exes is totally reasonable.

>>7141434

Real boob magic!

>>7141444
There's only one bed though, that's kind of awkward.

>>7141446
They were the same size for like 4-5 years I thought they had stopped growing.

>>7141456

Praise be to Boob Jesus.

>>7141460
JetJ was right all along.
HERE IS A BOOB JESUS

>>7141452

Sleep on the couch? I dunno, I know you didn't ask for advice.

It seems really weird that he would want to continue being with someone that he basically just doesn't let do anything and to go through all that stress of trying to control you and not even get any sex out of it. I don't understand, but it doesn't seem healthy.

> be me
> have friend
> friend has boyfriend
> boyfriend is rude really often
> boyfriend turns everything into a contest
> boyfriend won't do anything unless he's the best at it
> love hanging out with friend
> hate hanging out with boyfriend

>>7139879
>>7139705
>>7139667
God damn you girls are idiots. Jealous flatties detected.

>>7137672
You're all a bunch of sandy cunts and most of your serious opinions are indistinguishable from grade-F bait, but every other cosplay community that isn't an SRS infested hugbox who shun you for saying anything negative or politically incorrect.

So, technically, you people are the greatest.

>>7141470
Yeah, it is weird. It's not like he's happy either, but he knows nobody is going to be happy with his insane expectations, so I guess he just figures it's the best he's gonna get.

>>7139877
Adding to this; it is entirely possible to completely understand your "deep" shit but still dislike it/not think it's deep. I nor anyone else are stupid or shallow for not liking Madoka or FLCL.

>>7139003
Grow a mustache and call it a day.

>>7141769
*is an SRS infested hugbox

I feel so bloated and disgusting. I want to lose weight and get fit for cosplay, but my body aches from depression and I can't even drag my feet next door, let alone a gym. I keep telling myself I'm going to start eating healthy but I just shoved half a bag of chocolate chips down my throat out of pure impulse.

I struggled with eating disorders from the time I was 12 up until I was 17 three years ago. I gained weight back, which was good because I had gotten to the point where I could cup my hand under my ribs. But right now I'm 157 pounds, which is overweight for my height. People tell me I carry the weight well, and that I don't need to lose it to look good, but my body feels heavy, as if my current weight is pinning me to the floor. I keep gaining weight because of the crap I shove in my mouth, but I can't get myself to stop for some reason. Unhealthy food is like a drug for me now, because I deprived myself of it for so many years. And the medication I currently take is making my appetite increase like a wildfire.

I don't want to be that skinny bitch who everyone picks on for being sickly and vain, but I also don't want to be that fatty-chan that /cgl/ hates. I just want to be normal.

Ah a rant thread, perfect.

This guy started cosplaying this year and getting really involved way too fast.
He goes to every event even when he has no business there. eg, going to lolita meetups in casual clothes.
Pretty sure he goes there just to meet girls.
He's crazy and does shit like confess his love to girls he only just met. So i'm worried about bringing my friends to places where he is going to be there.
He doesnt ever make costumes, he only buys them, and they still look like shit yet he seems to think he needs a facebook cosplay fan page.

>>7142057
>I just shoved half a bag of chocolate chips down my throat
That's extreme. you should talk to someone. Seek help

>>7142073
Zyprexa is a horrible drug. Hopefully I can come off of it soon, though.

>>7142057
Try lower calorie things that fill you up. When I get depressed munchies, I down a bag of kettle corn or lightly salted popcorn. That shit fills me up and has as much calories as a candy bar. Also chug water (or iced tea). Get into the habit of munching on healtheir snacks. After a few weeks of doing that, you won't feel the urge to eat crappy food constantly. If you get a craving for sweets, indulge in something good with a sensible portion, not just a bunch of whatever because it's there. That tends to help me. I went from about 130 to 215 over the course of a few years from depression, being sedentary, and binge/comfort eating. So I know those feels.

There's this guy that a few months ago joined the cosplay community around here. Sometimes a meet is organized and he went to one. Since then he answers to all status updates of the well-known cosplayers with a bunch of shit and a know-it-all attitude. Last time we all met, he was there claiming he knew everything about everything in the world. He is starting to answer my status updates with those speeches and it irritates me so much!

The guy is horrid, fat and smells. I just want to take a knife and cut pieces out of him so he just looks like a normal fucking human. Especially the lump of fat he has behind his neck. I bet that if he was not such an horrible person he would not have such an horrible attitude.

My friend wants to fucking cosplay for his graduation ball.

His. Medical. Graduation.

How even what why I thought we were old enough to try to hide our power levels.

Thank fuck I'm not in the same country as him anymore.

>>7142057
What's pinning you to the floor is the weight of your depression, which is heavier than any fat you might have on your body. But it is good that you know you need to take care of yourself. Chocolate is delicious but a bag in one sitting is not good for your figure or for your tummy.

The idea is to train yourself to crave healthy snacks. I try to make healthy snacks available because if they're there I won't reach for a chocolate bar. Buy fruit and make sure you always have some cut up in your fridge. Buying a pre-cut tray saves you time and it's so easy to just go and grab something out of it. As >>7142082 said, try popcorn. It's fucking delicious and the sheer volume of it will keep me busy for a while. Invest in a popcorn maker, you won't regret it. It'll be cheap that way as well.

Nuts are also good. Veggies like carrots broccolli with a tiniest bit of dip. I also like a toasted slice of while grain brain with a thin layer of nutella and a thick layer of bananas. It's really filling and gets rid of my chocolate craving.

And in any case, if everyone says you look nice you probably already do and that can be some comfort and also motivation to look even better. So hang in there and feel fabulous soon, I know you can do it!

>>7142128
Do you happen to be in Los Angeles?

Something similar happened here too

>>7142142
Not really, but I'm glad that there are other people like this in the world. It would be too unfair for us to get the only one.

>>7140854
what con anon? If its any that I go to, we could hang out.

Thought landing a shit-tier job would solve a bunch of problems, but three years later I've gained back more weight than I lost previously, and probably have tendon damage in my feet. The issues I have with food are mental, but I keep putting off going to a shrink or something. I'm an introvert working customer service, some days I just want to die.

I really can't afford to fly out to AX next summer, but it's the first opportunity I have to meet up with close friends from across the country. I can't even afford to take a taxi to Youma like I usually do, I'm just hopping on the Smartbus and hoping I don't get shanked/mugged.

There is no pain like the emotional pain of false eyelashes that refuse to curve around the inner corner, no matter how much you bend them.

I've never experienced someone hating me this much before. I was interested in cosplaying a character in a new series, and now this girl and her friends have started shitstorming because said girl was planning to do the same character.
Although, it seems like this group will use any thing I do as a reason to shit on me. I don't even feel like cosplaying anymore because of them.

>>7142215
I know that feel. Cosplay girls are fucking awful and I would euthanize 90% of them given the chance. I'd rather have the autistic fat weeaboos than these neurotic, egotistical bitches.

>>7142215
Which country? This sounds like somebody I know.

>>7140176
I'm sorry life sucks for you, but I hope things will get better in the future anon

I'm doing an in-character cosplay panel at an upcoming con and one of the other cast members is a bossy, special snowflake teen whose cosplays are low quality. She keeps trying to run the panel and it's very irritating.

>>7141456
This is how I found about it actually! I had B cups for years then suddenly D CUPS WHEN DID THIS HAPPEN even though I'm still the same everywhere else.

>>7142082
This is good advice. Just keep drinking water (it helps flush out all the gross toxic stuff) and eat lotsa crunchy fluffy type foods. Try finding recipes online for flavoring your popcorn or things like pumpkin or sunflower seeds. They usually require only a little bit of flavoring but are still really satisfying. Like, I just roasted the seeds from my Halloweeen pumpkin with some cinnamon and only a teaspoon of brown sugar. Got about a quarts worth of spicy-sweet snacks out of it with a very low amount of sugar and fat. Plus if you eat it piece-by-piece you will feel like you filled up much faster.

...and if you do binge on it (which happens), its something healthier and won't give you sugar/caffeine headaches like most other snacks.

I bought some accessories from a girl and look how the box arrived. It was completely shredded and stamped as "received with no contents" by the post office. I contacted the girl and she said it wasn't her fault that I didn't purchase insurance (which wasn't listed as available to me, and she's right that I didn't ask). I can't leave feedback because it was through the FB lolita sales group.

Dammit, I just want my brand but I know it's all lost forever.

>>7142286
Ouch. Paypal claim?

>>7142082
>>7142135
>>7142280
Thank you guys! These are all good tips.

>>7142286
Fuck. Name and shame, girl.

>>7142286
>>7142295
>>7142327
It's not the seller's fault that the USPS fucked up the package, especially since you admitted to not getting insurance.

>>7142286
Hmm I dunno, I always tape up box 'edges' (or folds?? dunno what they're called) incase something can leak in, even though cardboard isn't waterproof. I'm not sure whether to blame the postal service or the seller, but I'm surprised you received the box itself, I would have thought if someone in USPS purposely stole they would have kept the box too.

>>7142336
Oh wait I can see they're taped at the sides.. Yea all you can do is really file a complaint with the postal service. I know in the UK you can claim up to £20 for the cheapest postal service, maybe there's a small amount you can get without insurance?

>>7142286
...on one hand, you should've asked for insurance. On the other she should've offered it.
On the other, she should be reprimanded for shipping your item in a shitty box- clearly nothing was done to protect whatever item she was sending, no wrap, no foam, no peanuts...

Name her squirrel friend, name her so

>>7142206
I have very round eyes and I have this problem with strip lashes too. Try individual lashes, or if that's too much hassle use half lashes, they don't need to bend as much and so will stick in place a lot better.

>>7142238
USA, but I imagine cosplayers being possessive is fairly common.

>>7142286
Honestly, I'd blame the postal service for that one. It looks like it got crushed from something heavy being dropped/shipped on top of it and the contents fell out of the destroyed box. It really sucks, but it's not something I'd blame the seller for. Chalk it up as an expensive lesson in always asking for insurance, I guess.

(And I'm really sorry it happened to you, that's super shitty.)

>>7142376
Maybe it was a case of there was too much 'space' inside the box, so the box easily flattened? That's all I can think of. More likely it was postal service unless it was a really flimsy box.

>>7138454
This is my life. I work full-time and it's very difficult to get days off for me, so making it to a con is a big deal. I don't want to spend 3 months working on a costume and making it the best that I can just to have friends decide to do some flavor-of-the-month crap or get, "Oh, well, we decided to do that group on the one day you can't come because of work because we want to maximize how much attention we get and your work schedule interferes with that." I mean, I'm paraphrasing, but that's basically it. I mostly just cosplay on my own because I'm so tired of people flaking and having no consideration for my needs even when I feel like I take so much time to consider theirs.

>>7138221
Quit it you two, neither of you is the wiser person here.

>>7142073
i wouldn't call that extreme. not good but not really shocking

Less a cosplay vent and more a life rant. Whoops.

>assistant stage manager for main stage play at school as a first-year first-semester student after director/acting professor asked you to be assistant stage manager two weeks into the semester
>going to katsucon and is trying to make three new outfits for it and anime boston
>tfw the show is eating up literally all of your time just from sitting in rehearsal as the cast is working on blocking and choreography and you're sitting in the house because you need to be at all rehearsals despite doing literally nothing

I get that in like two weeks I'm gonna be doing things, but just. God. If I'm not gonna do anything, I'd rather be at home and draft patterns.

I'm selling a dress and one of the places I have it posted is my local comm. One of the newer girls (who has been rude to me and others in the past and is a known cheapskate) said she "might" be interested when it was original price. Almost a week went by with no word from her, I bumped it down a little lower and asked her if she was still interested.
1. She asked me how much it was, when it was right in the damn photo description.
2. When I responded with the new price, she immediately said she could do $x where x is about a 30% markdown from the new price.
3. I told her I was firm, and she demanded to know how much I originally paid for it.
Am I being a vendetta-chan for getting pissed off at this, or do I have every right to be offended? For the record, I paid just 20% more than what I was originally selling it for, so I don't feel like I'm scalping at all. This is also an out of stock, rare color of an indie print, in like-new condition, so even if I was asking retail which I'm very much not, I don't think it'd be out of question.

>>7142672

That's how sales generally work. I would never pay asking price for anything, not without bartering some first at least.

>>7142672
I'd be pretty annoyed too. My cosplay and lolita community are full of cheapskates.

>>7142672
Eh, I don't like overly aggressibe buyer. I think you can be pissed but you don't have to sell it to her. Don't get too ruffled about it. Good luck with your sale!

>>7142672
Just say her offer is too low considering you've just dropped the price. Look at posting your item on the comm sales or the fb sales pages. You don't have to sell to this seller anyway.

>>7142675
Except I've already marked it down from asking price and the price she offered me would be a more than 50% loss on my part, for a dress I've worn once. I too usually offer something a little lower or at least ask for it shipped for the asking price, but I would never lowball someone like this, and I certainly would never treat them like a scalper for not going along with my lowball.

>>7142672
In what business is asking what the seller originally paid going to fly?

She wouldn't do that at a car dealership, so why do it to you?

>tfw tall ottermode hispanic male

I really want to cosplay for an upcoming con.

But my choices are so fucking limited.

I was thinking about going as Godot from Ace Attorney.

But I have not the slightest clue on how to make the fucking face mask.

And each and every single person I've ever asked never responds, or refuses to give advice or a simple tutorial. Hell, one person I found on tumblr started going on about copyrighted shit or something like that. Bitch was getting upset I was asking about a fucking mask.

What the fuck.

I used to think cosplaying is an all around fun hobby. But after getting the cold shoulder from god knows how many cosplayers, I've come to see the light.

Whatever, I'll just do pre-poisoning-Godot

>>7142690
What's wrong with craft foam, goggles, and cellophane?

>>7142690
>tumblr

There's your problem!

>>7142286
You could file a PP claim. But if I were you, I'd contact the postal service (maybe go in to your local branch) and see if they might give you compensation anyway, because it's pretty clearly their fault for such massive damage to the box

>>7142686

Yea, I agree that she was out of line for demanding to know what you paid.

It should have just been you saying no and that's it.

>>7140812
He's possessive and manipulative, and soon you're going to get sick of him and move on. And when you move on, you'll realise that he really wasn't a good boyfriend.
Speaking from personal experience, guys like that trap you in and manipulate you. It might sound silly but stuff like that really adds up.

>>7140812

He's probably cheating on you. That's why he is so paranoid about you hanging out without him.

>>7142735

This x1000. That transference of guilt shit is a dead giveaway. He doesn't trust you because he knows you shouldn't trust him.

>>7142738
i don't think this is always true. i'm super jealous but i don't cheat on my boyfriend. some people just more jealous then others

>>7142740

Do you forbid him from doing stuff without you?

>>7142740
So you prevent him from being with ANY of his friends without you, regardless of gender?

>>7140812
Dump him. I have had the exact same experience, and although it may be 'because he loves you so much' the way he tries to monopolise your time just means he has issues- insecurity, dependency, self-centredness, pick one. It's not an act of charity to hang out with you, he's actually putting himself before your happiness by trying to make YOUR time about HIM. I suggest you confront him about it- ask why he even wants to go if all he does is sulk and be awkward- and unless he can come up with a good explanation that isn't selfish, then dump him. Actually being able to enjoy time with friends without catering to his needs all the time is a good trade-off for being single.

>>7142750

>unless he can come up with a good explanation

I doubt that asking anything like that would end in anything less than a shouting match.

>>7140820
Tell him to get them in his next life.

can't green text cause my phone has issues. i'll make this as short as possible- have gf, we do pairing cosplays, and are invited to co-host a panel in a particular pairing we cosplayed before. gf agrees, then month later starts making excuses to drop the cosplay, i.e wig is uncomfortable, makeup takes too long to put on, etc. we love this pair, so i insist just wear it for the panel. she is firm, does not want to be forced, says she is tired of me 'manipulating' her into doing cosplays with me, that she wants to make her own cosplay decisions. um, ok, when we first started going out, she begged to be involved in everything, wanted to get in on cosplays i did with friends, has abandonment issues, etc. anyway, she reassures me i can still do my half of the pairing, that she is not really interested in the panel anyway. ok, fine.

later, school/financial issues make it so she can't even attend the con anymore, is really jealous i can still attend but she acknowledges she shouldn't stop me. a month later, she breaks up, somewhat unrelated to this, but insists she is not good for me due to a desire to control me, jealousy, etc. we both know it is due to underlying mental disorder, but she is tired of trying, is too unhappy, and thanks me for my efforts. i think that with meds and therapy, she and we could be just fine, but i have to respect her choice.

we agree to be friends, have lots of mutual friends, it's easier to just get along. she finds out, through a mutual friend, that i am still cosplaying the character from the pairing mentioned above. she starts accusing me that she has been replaced, she isn't important, that i hate her, etc. i'm still very much in love with her, and i try to calm her down and reassure her. she tells me she hates me and to get out of her life.

i'm distraught at the breakup, but now this...

she can easily identify herself here but idc. i don't want to rant to friends, cause they -even some mutual friends- can't stand her.

>>7142286
While the post service is probably at fault, so is the seller. It's her responsibility to ensure that the item is packaged securely and she has the responsibility to help you with any problems that arise from the transaction. You're being more than fair, there's no reason for her to be rude.

Once I took 3 days to ship an item out after the money transferred. I was in contact with the girl up until the 2nd day after the money transferred and she told the mods on FB that I hadn't shipped the item out and they told her to open a Paypal dispute. She then escalated it to a claim because I didn't reply within a few hours and took fucking forever to close it even after the item arrived. She called me a scammer, too. I wish I sold to nice buyers like you, more.

>>7142826
Let her go. It's going to be hard, but in the end you'll be the better for it.

>>7142846
i know that is the rational decision, but i feel like she is shutting me out of her life, not only as a lover, but as a friend because she thinks her jealousy, anxiety, and depression problems will all magically go away if i go away. breaking up with me didn't make her happy, she admitted that she wanted us to work, however, she refuses to tackle what makes us not work and essentially blames me for it, to the point that a breakup does not suffice, friendship 'wont work', that i have to be removed entirely. i can't move on, knowing how erroneous and extreme she is being-- not cause i wish to control her, but because it hurts so much and is not going to really make her better.

Since this is a rant thread about cosplays, I need to get something off my chest, and maybe, someone could help me figure something out.

I commissioned a friend to make me Vergil's out from DmC for a convention, and while she agreed, she didn't start it till a month before the convention.

Now, I had given her money for the materials, but she didn't get them till the day of the sale ending. She didn't even start on them, instead choosing to make 7 cosplays for her and her friends before the convention.

I was displeased, but I told her I would compromise. She said she would bring me one piece of the cosplay, but never even did that, choosing instead to cosplay from Free as a secret 8th cosplay.

By then I was angry with her, and to this day, she would rather be playing LoL and making cosplays for her friends, rather than work on commissions from other people.

She's connected within the Florida cosplay community, so trying to reason with her about just giving me my materials that I paid for back would result in a chain of hatred from most of the community.

I'm at a loss what to do and I'm very pissed off and tired of her fucking bullshit and lies.

What do guys? What do?

>>7142862
she doesn't have BPD does she...
exact same issuws with closest/best friend.

>>7142755
well a shouting match is a convenient time to break up with someone imo. better that than an awkward talk. it just depends on if you want to still be friends afterwards,

To start, my best friend/roommate pretty much lives off of her Financial Aid. Her grandparents pay entirely for her tuition, so her FAFSA just kind of goes into 1/2 our rent and utilities, some of her own food, and the rest on lolita, cosplay, and whatever else she feels like.
This year she had complications with her FAFSA. It was turned in on time, but months later she found out it was missing some documents and had to submit them, which meant she had to wait more months for her Financial Aid, which by default also meant that I'd be paying for her living arrangements until then, food and all. She promised to pay me back as soon as possible, so I've just went with it.
I know she will, but good lord,. Every time she's on her laptop, it's something she wants. "Ohhh, anon! The jeeeeeellyfish dress! Anon, are you preordering one? Oh, ANON! MISTY SKY holy shit! WANT! Anoooooon...? I'll pay you back, of course! Once my FAFSA gets here!" Uh, sorry, but I'm flat broke obviously.
Today was pretty much when we were expecting her Financial Aid to roll in, midway into the damn season, but instead she got an email basically saying that her FAFSA is on hold yet again because she's missing something else. I thought it was bullshit at first, but her status actually showed that she's missing W-2 forms from all of her employers from 2012, except I know for a fact that she has not had a job since high school, nor has she been looking since that job, so this is confusing us both. She plans to speak to the Financial Aid office about this later today, but I'm expecting yet ANOTHER four month wait of me footing her portion of the apartment bills on top of my own, our cable/internet, and our now combined food needs, plus begging for lolita/cosplay loans. I and my low pay and shit hours job can't deal with it anymore. I value our friendship, I love living with her, but this is all crap.

I know she peruses /cgl/ occasionally, so if you're reading this, please. Just get a job.

>>7142879
no diagnosis, but it's something i have seriously considered, as a mutual friend raised this concern too, during an episode that went public.

i should also mention that i am not the first person she has removed due to anger, jealousy, etc experience...but i honestly considered myself to be the last. she attempted bpd therapy last year through her school, but stopped going and they only had limited sessions anyway. while together, i offered to pay for her to get other treatments, due to her own lack of income, but she refused because nothing was in walking distance of her campus and she thought it took too much time. she does acknowledge there may be a disorder, but i suppose she doesnt think anything can help except removing those who trigger it, because of course it's my -and everyone else- fault. otherwise she has considered suicide which thankfully she can still rationalize not to do. i care about her and honestly want her to get better, regardless of cost or time...but i know that is a choice only she can make. i hate to see her suffer and i hate to suffer from her action too.

>>7138034
They.
Are.
EVERYWHERE on 4chan now.

>>7138137
People are actually trying to be american and throwing halloween parties nowadays. Hell, I even see people dressed up on the actual day(in broad daylight), I was confused at first and thought there was an anime con, but alas, it was halloween.

>>7142057
>cgl will hate me for being thin ;____;
>cgl hate me for being fat :____;

Christ, I'm sorry but someone should've taught you some damn self-esteem so you wouldn't be looking for validation from people who do not give a single fuck about you.
Is there an immediate relative of yours who I can fucking bitchslap for you?

>>7142286
Really fucking classy of you to post about that here.

>>7143078
Not the anon who posted that but it's a fucking rant thread, and she said she knows it's not the girls fault. I'd be pissed too. Why don't you pull that tampon out of your ass?

>>7142826
and then she texts me, says she's sorry and misses me. i'm filled with relief. she asks what i'm going to do today, and i admit i have nothing planned, and to keep the convo rolling, i ask her the same. she says she's going to hang out with people, adds that she and a friend are gonna watch anime. good, i think, a nice distraction away from negativity and jealousy towards me, maybe she'll feel better.

nope, just kidding. she suggests i work on cosplay, and i answer 'maybe', then she hangs up and texts me 'i can't control my jealousy. i can't stand you going to a con and hanging out with others. i need you out of my life now.'

sigh. i say nice, loving things in return, to reassure her. no answer. i swear, if i could sneak actual happy pills into her food/drink, i would.

>>7142982
>taught you some damn self-esteem
>TEACHING self esteem
>expecting human beings to be bulletproof and not get put down by other people's opinions
>implying she said it was all about /cgl/

Recently my boyfriend's been hanging out with a mutual friend of ours.

She's asexual, even with her ex who she was with for 3 years, she never really was interested in anything sexual, so I'm not worried about him doing anything like that, and I trust him.

But.

It still makes me feel uncomfortable for some reason. Like, she's already said that if we weren't dating, she'd probably have asked him out already. He keeps assuring me that he's not attracted to her, and that she's just like his little sister, but I can't help but feel icky about it.

I really love her, she's a wonderfully sweet girl, and I don't think she'd ever do something to... betray our friendship? I guess? But I just keep worrying.

Usually all three of us are together, but he spends time at her house alone while I'm at work sometimes.

I think I'm just projecting my own insecurities onto the situation.

I really hate myself sometimes.

>>7140936
It sucks that you're 18, anon, otherwise you could legitimately hit them with negligence. I don't know what kind of shitty people think it's okay to do that to their child, but it's not.

I know how you feel though. I have really bad stress and anxiety problems, so I asked my mom to go to the doctor. The doc said it might be an adrenaline imbalance (I have problems with having anxiety attacks when I get stressed or go through a stressful event, even scary movies set me off), so I had bloodwork done, and it turned out that it was 100% normal.

So I asked my mom about taking me to a phsychologist, just to see if they could help me with managing it, and she ignored me. Told me I didn't have a problem, that it was all in my head.

Well, yeah, mom, that's kind of where anxiety happens. Which is why I want to go to the shrink.

I don't even really want to be medicated, because it 's horrible for you, and I think I could get it under control if I just had some help. But nothing.

>>7141392
>>7141412
>>7141415

Why the FUCK would you put up with that shit?

If you say it's because you love him, you're fucking stupid. He clearly sees you as nothing more than a piece of property. Like, I would've been out the door in no time. Don't let him push you around. If he hits you or threatens you, call the fucking cops.

People like you piss me off. Either do something about it or don't fucking bitch.

>>7143082
If she knows it's not her fault she shouldn't be mad. It's fucking ridiculous.

>>7143078
Confirmed for seller.

Calm your tits, she didn't name you, anon.

>>7143097
Yeah, are you the seller or what?

A shit packing job is obviously in part the sellers fault, and who knows, the box could have been empty in the first place, which was why it broke so easily and was packed so badly. Also, not offering insurance is shit. I offer insurance automatically, though I will mark things down if necessary.

Stop being a butthurt bad seller.

There's a girl in my comm who basically hasn't had to pay for a convention in over a year because her boytoy is "con famous" and can get a badge, room, and food for free almost anywhere, yet she constantly complains about not having friends, her home life, money, and it drives me nuts. At least she has a free monthly escape from her troubles, while the rest of us have no friends, no money, and family problems and STILL pay for conventions.

There's just a point where yes. Your like IS too good for you to be allowed to complain.

>>7143199

Having now found a turnaround reference for the girl trainer in Pokemon XY, I am forced to eat humble pie and redo my skirt because I was convinced it only had the buttons/pocket on one side. I was wrong.

>>7143084

Hah, she is Master Troll irl

I'm tired of people accusing me of Photoshop like there is a special circle of Hell for Photoshop users. First of all, obviously the campaigns I model for are going to be retouched - no company would ever release raws straight off the camera. But Instagram is the real deal. Sure, there are a few filters, but overall nobody has the time to photoshop their body, hair color (!), or face. My pictures look good because I do my makeup on-point, understand lighting (note how I'm usually in the floral bathroom, against a window) and know how to pose myself in a flattering way. Sometimes I'll pop in a pair of colored contacts for effect ( Desio Color Contact Lenses green), but that's it.

The whole point of cellphone-photography is that it's honest & spontaneous. So don't hate me because my selfies are beautiful.

>>7143268

pics

>>7143274
Just becaause you asked so nicely.

>>7143268
>nobody has the time to photoshop their body, hair color (!), or face.

Lol, okay. Tell that to Dakota Rose.

>>7143268
Your life must be tough.

>>7143301
so you're Doe Deere...k..

>>7143301
>waaah I don't photoshop
>just way overexposed
>just bump up that brightness and flash to the max
>see guise im so naturly purty

>>7143301
Not gonna lie, I too find it a tad hard to believe that's completely photoshop free.

>>7143301
>oh I don't use photoshop teehee
>just way overbrightened
>just gonna bump up this brightness and contrast to the max
>see guise all natural beauty

>>7143301
Teach me how to eyebrow.

>>7143301
You should tightline your eyes. It'll look better.

>>7143301

I asked so I could troll. But, you are cute and not a delusional fatty. Plus, odd hair colors are my fetish.

You win this round.

>>7143301

I asked so I could troll. But, you are actually cute and not a delusional fatty. Plus, odd hair colors are my fetish.

You win this round.

>Posting being weird, might be a double post

>>7143301
Contacts, washed out lighting and too much makeup do not mean you're beautiful. The vendetta is STRONG in your post. Whomever she is there's no doubt she's cute without the makeup but you clearly have a bone to pick with her.

>>7143078
Classy of you to post hate in my tumblr on anon.

Look, I just posted to rant, I didn't say your name or anything. Can you calm down, please?

>>7143301
Doe Deere, is that you?

>>7143481
I was thinking this too.

Only tangentially related to /cgl but here goes.
I should be studying for my recertification on the WS2012 but I just can't make myself actually sit down and get on with it.
I have all the study materials, all the time and all the space I would ever need but instead here I am - browsing /cgl. And I am not even into the whole cosplay scene and the passive aggressive bitchiness that permeates this board.
Fuck this indecisiveness and fuck Microsoft for churning out another iteration of the same old shit every 4 years.

>>7143096
Try actually reading the post next time, retard.

I absolutely hate the Welcome to Nightvale cosplays.

>>7143481
>>7143494
Same.

I have an ex who manipulated me, spread rumors about me and lied to me while we were together.
He's a nice guy so long as you're just friends with him, but anything else and he turns into a complete psycho. I've got bad anxiety along with other problems, so I'm not really holding it against him that he'd leave me since I'm not a terribly lovable person. I've developed a major depression while dating him and like most close friends say, it's been quite sad to see how much my mental health has declined ever since I met him.
After he broke up with me, he spent weeks abusing me mentally some more and doing nothing but calling me insults all the while insisting that we were definitely friends, just that I'm a selfish whore because I was sad about the break-up. I attempted suicide a while ago because of him and ended up in the hospital because of it and he didn't give a fuck. He cared more about looking cool to everyone else, so only handed out apologies and excuses to others but never to me.
Because I've been so out of it lately, I've lost my job and have been thrown out of school for missing too many hours. On top of that, my grandfather passed away lately. He was a bro and I was too ill to even attend his funeral.

I still have feelings for this guy, but at this point I think it's hatred and disgust more than anything. It's sad cause we still have friends in common and I'm pretty sure he and his new flavor of the month are probably gonna latch onto them at future conventions now. So I know I'm gonna see him again, which can easily be enough to ruin my entire weekend.
I want to quit cosplay and conventions because of it but it's been my hobby for over 10 years + I'd lose a fuckton of chances to socialise and see my friends. I've got 0 idea what's going on in my life anymore. I'm just a whiny cunt and I hate myself for all this.

>>7144300
>ex who manipulated me
>spent weeks abusing me
>I still have feelings for this guy

Women, why don't you ever make sense.

Cut all ties with him and never talk to him or look at him again.

>>7139657
Holy crap, is this what it's like when Canadians get mad?
Haha I mean no offense though, I've just honestly never seen any of my Canadian friends get angry in the slightest.

>>7144485

Last time Canadians got mad, it caused millions of dollars of property damage and injured 140 people, nine of them police officers.

>>7144496

Of course, everyone showed up the next day and the city was clean before lunchtime.

>>7138257
Your cosplays are always subpar and you try to fix the lack of skill with sluttiness and attention grabbing with drama that you constantly feed to /cgl/. You have the worst tripfags of all nations on Earth. And you circlejerk.

I'm so pissed off at leechers. I worked hard to make the complicated props and clothes my costumes have, I pour tons of money into different methods to find out the one that really works. And you know what I get out of the community? Praise and admiration? No, fuck that. I rarely get a comment or a like, but I get fucking hordes of people rudely asking me how I made the parts 1, 2, 3 and 4 of my costume. They don't even have the courtesy to compliment me for my costume, the usual messages that fill my ask box are

>hey, could you tell me where did you get that wig/patterns/make that prop/what the fucking ever cuz I'm working on the same exact costume and I need help

And not even a thank you is present. I used to be nice and reply them with a detailed explanation but I just don't bother anymore. I straight out ignore them or give a really vague description of the materials used. I especially lost my patience when someone actually requested me to give all the patterns for the costume, like scan them and give them to her with instructions attached because she wasn't very good at sewing T___T!!1

I'm well aware that I should be flattered, which I was at first, but when this becomes a CONTINUOUS NUISANCE I couldn't care less if someone thinks I'm an attention-mongering asshole. One of my favourites was when a friend that ditched me years ago because apparently I wasn't a cosplayer awesome enough returned only to bluntly ask how I made my prop for a certain costume because "she was thinking of doing something like this for her cosplay".

>>7139611
Wat.

> mfw when 'French one'

>>7145022
lolwut. You mean they don't even start out their messages with even a "Hey I just saw yadayada and it looks super awesome" or "the way you did this is super impressive" before asking you for help?
That's super shitty.

I would feel genuinely satisfied if the Toronto cosplay community would just implode and all turn on each other no-holds-barred like the riot scene in Mean Girls.

I'm overloaded with everyone's pandering and backstabbing and I'm literally tired of how everyone just needs to play the attention whore game while pretending they're not. I've seen too many assholes get away with doing assholey things because of their ability to lie and kiss ass and even lie to themselves about whether they're an asshole.

Everyone treats each other like shit but they also cry about it if anyone treats them the same way. There's shit-talking and yet folks still feel the need to pretend to be nice to each other? But everyone thinks they're not part of the problem, like it's somehow special or different when they use their fan page to pick fights and beg for validation and start cliques? If I see one more person acting all nice in person and then turning around and vague-posting bitchy things about people on facebook or twitter I'm gonna scream.

Most of all I'm tired of my own involvement with all this and I've realized too late that my attempts to stay out of people's problems have put me knee-deep in them.

But we all keep pretending nothing is wrong because we're Canadians so we're really nice all the time, eh? It's bull.

>>7145022
This must suck for you, but I also think you have a bit of a shitty attitude. No one owes you any praise or admiration.

I started going to a new geek-catch-all store a couple months ago in a tiny ass town. The owners are cool (the husband has a mental disorder of some kind, but he's very nice and is very loyal to his wife), but their patrons...

>14 year old girls 'NYAH' and 'KAWAII'ing everywhere
>14 year old girls rubbing and hugging all over everything that breathes
>25+ year old guys popping stiffies over the 14 year old 'roris' in cat ears and rainbow stockings
>weapons every other day like it's a dick-measuring competition
>haughty weebs who claim superiority over knowing who sniffed who's asshole in episode 7000 season 54 of Naruto
>I go in to buy snacks, and as soon as it's in my hands someone else wants me to 'share'. Every. Damn. Time.
>The above includes when we order out on special nights; someone always comes whining to me for part of my food and how they 'don't have money'. Quit buying your fucking Magic and Zatchbell cards then.
>RANK ASS STANK OF ALL VARIETIES
>Constant creepy talk about hentai
>Relationship drama out the butthole

The shop is really nice, and they take requests as to what gets imported to their shelves, but holy fucking shit. The other 'customers' are batshit. And I don't know what the fuck I did, but one of the know-it-all weebs has taken a shine to me and keeps fucking grabbing me. They had a Magic tourney Friday and he came in wearing this black cape. I'm standing there having a conversation with someone who's not brain-damaged and suddenly there's arms around my neck and BO smelling folds of fabric encompassing my shoulders. My mistake was laughing it off the first time, because he kept fucking doing it throughout the night, even after I told him not to touch me.

The thing is, I've never given this guy the time of day. He annoyed the piss out of me from day one, and I've told him as much. I've told the owners that I don't want him touching me anymore, and they've agreed to keep an eye on things while I'm there. Creepy mother fucker.

>>7145039
Exactly.

>>7145136
And I don't owe them advice. I'm also well aware of my shitty attitude. I just don't care anymore. You go waste your money and time on a million unsuccessful test pieces before finding the perfect technique yourself.

>>7145039
Exactly.

>>7145136
And I don't owe them advice. I'm also well aware of my shitty attitude. I just don't care anymore. You go waste your money and time on a million unsuccessful test pieces before finding the perfect technique yourself and then give your secrets out to any rude douchebag demanding them.

>>7145105
I hear the same from a few I still talk to. I feel ya.
Never going back, fuck that shit.

>>7144300
Hit the gym regularly. Focus on another hobby besides cosplay that you always had an interest for, but never had the time to do. You need to distract yourself from thinking about this asshat.

Cut off all contact with him. Block him on facebook (or just delete your facebook altogether), block his cellphone number, entirely disappear from his life.

It's hard now, but you will be so much better off in the long term.

>>7144300
That guy is saying he's your friend, but his actions speak otherwise. You should take a temporary hiatus on cosplay, at least temporarily.

>>7145396

So many people who've started friendly and nice but there seems to be a plague of crazy-bitch-itis going around. People do a few decent costumes and suddenly think they should be the president of the world and practically have seizures if people ever disagree with them on any random, innocuous topics ever.

Shit gets really funny at Anime North and FanExpo when the circlejerky "popular" people show up in their tumblr fanart cosplays like they own the place and nobody even notices or currs because someone completely unknown shows up in something super detailed and labor-intensive and cool.

also, everyone uses either Toronto Batman or Tom as scapegoats for everything. Neither are amazing persons but if they weren't around, I think everyone else would be exposed for who they really are pretty quickly.

So sorry to >>7138257 but there's a reason why Canadians get picked on, we're kind of a shitty and two-faced community but we keep pretending we're not. We're pretty awful to each other so think about the message that sends about how everyone else should treat us.

I've been working really hard for the last 3 years to get a relative of mine to make it to a local con (her parents are really overprotective and don't know a lot about this kind of thing) and finally after getting the get-go from her parents it's like everything that could go wrong has. I had a lot of complications getting my job, and then once I did get my job I ended up not being able to work from being too sick to where it ended up being me having to get immediate surgery, and now there's only 2 weeks left until the con and I haven't gotten anything ready and it's looking like I can't afford anything at this point because I'm still recovering and I'm so upset because this is the one thing I had been looking forward to all summer and I wanted my relative to have a really great first time but the closer it gets the more it looks like everything is just crashing and burning and I'm freaking out about it.

I just want to know what god I royally pissed off to have so much bad luck to come my way because damn this is srsly not fun.