/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL

There's a really awful e-famous (for the wrong reasons) racist weeb in my comm.
I hate SJWs but this bitch is the epitome of white privilege, she used to tell everybody that she was brought up Japanese, and was a lolita since birth and all that shit, there are two Asian girls in our group who would cringe every time she did it.
She's decided she wants to be a Gyaru now though, I wish she'd hurry up and stop wearing Lolita so we can be rid of her at last, she's also now decided that she's 1/4 black (I doubt it) and started calling people niggers (not even in a positive way so you can't even say she's trying to reclaim the word like black people actually do.)
I hate her so much.

Actually, I've never been in a community before.

However, I'm moving to Corpus Christi, Texas before March.

Is there even a lolita community there? I searched but couldn't find anything. Am I just searching wrong?

>>6569248
1/4 black here. does that bitch have a noticibly darker skintone? if not, spill red punch over her new dress.

>>6569248
meow tan

It's alright, lots of well-dressed and sane girls, a bunch of newbies who aren't out of highschool yet, and a few (banned) dramawhores. Some of our group are e-famous and get posted here (positively) a lot.

>>6569268
Not true. One of my friends is 1/4th black and you can't tell from his skin, he's whiter than most people but he has pretty nappy hair. He doesn't even look related to his mom.

>>6569281
weird. then I must of been stuck with the dark genes. OTL

I don't know any of them really well even though they added me on Facebook. I only met them once at a past con's meet up but otherwise their meets are too far from me or I get too shy to leave my apartment and ride the train there alone...

I want lolita friends so bad anons, so so bad...

>>6569265
No community there, but there may be a few stray lolitas. The main Texas comms are DFW (Metroplex), Austin, San Antonio, and Houston.

We don't talk about my local community here. it brews up one hell of a shitstorm.

>>6569265
Corpus lolita here; A girl from Realms Con was trying to organize one, but stopped contacting me via email, and only made an admin account on LJ for it. No community, no nothing. I've not seen any actually in town, either, barring the con.

>>6569320

I made the saddest of sad faces.

Ah, well. My girlfriend and I might try and start one.

>>6569268
palest girl in the group

>>6569270
no

>>6569270
I lol'd, close tho.

The only thing that pisses me off about my comm is how it's so divided between people who -think- they're good, people who are pretty average, and people who don't dress well at all.

The holier than thou lolitas with the majority of brand always snark at the itas who whine about not having money, but fail to mention themselves that they don't exactly work a 9-5 to make their own dough and rely on their husbands or parents to fund their burrando jar. One girl in particular has her entire lolita shop practically run by her mom, and her mom is pushy as hell about it. Another girl just sits on her ass all day taking pictures or cooking something. Their FB pages read like open diaries and SJW blogs. Attention is everything.

The itas themselves are kind of annoying, just because they're a medium between complete kiss-asses to lolita that do have brand or whiney cunts. If it's not a baww about elitism then it's a baww about not having enough 'classic' lolitas or how the online comms are bitchy, etc.

And finally, the average lolitas that have consistently decent coords. Don't have much to say about them since they keep to themselves and aren't complete drama llamas.

Anyway, the average and itas/newbies tend to show up to the planned meets while the SJWs and brandbraggarts tend to make their own events and expect everyone to show up. Of course they secretly disdain the fact when an ita or someone that doesn't kiss their ass announces that they're attending. There's drama at least once a week.

Kind of wish everyone would find a happy medium and get along. I don't like being active in the comm much, it reminds me of high school.

>>6569322
This and I'm not even going to guess because even that could cause a shitstorm

I love my local community. The main group who go to meets are always well dressed, funny, nice and just an overall joy to be around. Each one of the girls in our comm is beautiful and totally awesome. My best friend is a part of my comm, which is sweet.
There is just one person who is immature and just weird, like she might have asperger's but I really don't know. Luckily she kind of stays out of the way while the rest of us have fun. And there are a couple itas who have been to some of the bigger meets, but once again they kind of stayed in their own little group.
There's a new girl in our comm that I haven't met yet, but the other girls seem to like her, so I probably will too. We currently have 3 meets planned for Feb. (oh gosh) and while I can't make all of them, I know the ones I do go to will be super fun.

Love you girls~! Colorado represent x

Can anyone tell me about the DFW lolita community?

>>6569380
Aw yiss Coggles!

Not sure what to think about "that one person" - part of me wants to kind of take her under my wing and mentor her, but the other part wants to avoid her like the plague. She used my shopping service while I was in Japan and was a pain to deal with, and now she's coming to my birthday meetup and EH.

Also, a certain brand-new girl who just moved here used to be infamous for basically word vomit without looking too great herself (you know the kind), but she hasn't done so in a couple years, so I guess she's cleaned up her act?
Dunno, she's coming to that meet too, so I'm going to keep an open mind.

I'm apart of a fairly large comm. Thankfully, 90% of the girls are well-dressed, the meets are nicely organized and fun, and there hasn't been any huge drama lately. The only thing that slightly bums me out is that I seem to be at an awkward age - everyone who goes to meets is either 3-4 years older or younger than I am! Otherwise though, I couldn't be happier.

>>6569322
Guessing Chicago.

>>6569332
Corpus loli anon again; Here's an email if you two want to talk/meet up once you're here/whatever!

Anyone know how the NJ comm is?

My comm is pretty small, however, full of lovely and well-dressed girls <3

We're from a small country, so pretty much all the girls know each other. It's divided between north and south, and i'm part of north thankfully as it's the busiest. There's no drama and the itas quicly evolve to nice lolitas

>>6569433

Danke!

I'll drop you an email just to make sure it works, and I'll definitely mail you once I'm there (and have some decent clothes to wear).

>>6569407
Are you talking about Vomitrocity? lol

how is the Los Angeles comm? does it have an official lj?

>>6569433
That cat is a cutie pie.

>>6569457
Well, I was avoiding names because I don't want to start drama before she even attends any meets.
We're pretty much 100% drama-free and don't tolerate that kind of bullshit here, sooo...

>>6569419
It's really not as bad as some people tend to make it though. There are a lot of nice older lolis who couldn't care less about drama and many of the newbies are very nice. Having some of the Milwaukee girls around is also a huge bonus, they're fun and their coords are great.

>>6569439

NZ? Everyone's so great here. There's never really any drama.

>>6569495
It was pretty obvious who you were talking about when you mentioned colorado, and someone who just moved there and is kind of a bitch on the comms, sorry :/

>>6569514
It's not a problem, I just wasn't sure how widespread it was known that she just moved here, so I avoided it. If it's well-known, so be it. I actually wasn't even aware it was her until I saw her email address.

But she's been real nice so far, so I'm going to hold back any judgment until I actually meet her in person.
And heaven knows that if either she or the maybe-Asberger's girl tries to start anything anytime, they'll know that we don't stand for that kind of thing here.

>>6569527
Everyone says she is nice and awesome IRL, and she probably is but I just can't get past how... bitchy she used to be on the comms. I guess that makes me a bad person because I am pre-judging her.

>>6569527
i know i'm late for the party, but who is vomitrocity and what deeds has did she?

>>6569533
Nah, everyone I've talked to about it has been skeptical, including me.
She hasn't been like that on egl for a while I guess, but...I will admit I'm still wary.

>>6569466
Los Angele-loli here. It's a great comm, you'll love it! There's an official LJ, but it's pretty much dead - la-loligoth on livejournal. Introduce yourself and get yourself invited to the FB group, that's where all the action is at.

>>6569399
They're awesome and extremely welcoming!

>>6569541
I think she just doesn't post on LJ much in general anymore. I admit I thought this post was kind of bitchy of her.
http://getoffegl.livejournal.com/563444tml

She commented on something else recently I think but I can't find it

It's like she has an internet persona of being a bitch, and then a IRL persona of being super nice.

I love my comm. They're all really nice and they pick really great meet-up places.

Los Angeles Comm here, west hollywood to be specific. It's pretty good here very organized though not many true itas like me anymore. The girls are nice and all but they just can't coord, unno maybe I just have too big a closet of outfits for them to compete lol. We tend to meet at least monthly, do the usual park and photos followed by tea and desserts, but it's way too undignified and un-loli like to scarf down pastries while the photogs are around so me and my mom usually hit Mc'Ds after (mc-double I love you!)

I do tire of having these fake lolis around though, but my mom is like my bestie and the 2nd best loli in our comm ( great having a mom who's into it, extra pull when I talk dad into ordering more stuff since she gets the hand me downs! I NEVER wear anything more than once ICK! It goes against the heart and soul of being a loli!) If it wasn't for us the comm would be just half-assed coords and girls floating about like atrocious hot messes.

Oddly we don't see many girls more than once, I think they're embarrassed to come back in the same stuff or something? Or jealous? IDK oh well too badsies

Every once in a while I make a meet at disneyland but only 1 or 3 other girls attend due to them being poor I'm sure (I mean if you can't buy more than 1 outfit then you'd obviously have trouble buying a ticket to DL) I feel for them, I'd get them ticket but it'd be hard to talk my parents into it and I'd rather spend it on something nice that I can actually enjoy

Oh there is one Jap girl, she's really sweet and runs this boutique in LT. OP if that admin is a fridge this girl's a flippin house! I wonder for hours how she manages to get into things without totally busting the seams...Have to say I'm waiting anxiously for her one of her dresses to burst during her events at the boutique! All the cameras and people, she'd never live it down. And then I'd have more on her to be sure she stays in line, since she does work for me being she stocks my 2nd hand stuff

>>6569248
Meow_tan has a twin?

>>6569639
thanks for the laugh.

I like the people in my comm but I always feel so awkward at meetups because our interests are so different. We always have a couple topics that we always end up discussing, neither of which I'm involved in at all. I do have friends in the comm with interests more aligned with mine but come meetups they usually get sucked into those conversations so I often end up hanging back with my +1 or a couple of the younger girls. I feel really bad and I don't want to complain because it really is the nicest group of people and they dress so well but I'm always a little sad. It's always fun to see everyone and their outfits, though, and we go to some fun places I wouldn't have though to go otherwise.

>>6569686
I'd also like to add that we're virtually drama-free even though we are home to a couple of well-known lolitas, which is really nice (as are they!). Also it's cool to see them in person.

>>6569665
Sounds meow-tan's and pt's secret love child.

>>6569639
It's really awesome having an outlet to pawn off last seasons stuff on amateurs, they praise me and never stop yammering about how amazing I am, And I really am, I mean I'm bringing Japan to them! Without me they'd be trapped in junk from like 2011 EW!

And why work when I can just get my parents to buy me what I need, there's no job really I'd like that could even pay enough! All a true loli needs is her cuteness, if you can't manipulate people into fulfilling your every loli-need then you can't honestly call yourself a loli. Without the cuteness what is loli anyway? Just life-sized doll dresses? I'm way cuter than some doll so yeah no

And I'm no one trick pony either, I mix up my fashion and interest by wearing my suits. First and best fur-loli here, the looks I get from the people at the anime store are awesome. Everyone is always astonished at how beautiful I am in & out of my suit. And how I always seem to breathe new life into things that are becoming stale, after I debuted my fursona Cookie in a cookie print tons of other lolis started suiting!

So to sum it up the LA comm is fun, life's amazing when you've got the cute to live without stooping to "work" It's like I'm a princess because I am <3

>>6569639
True roris in Los Angeles, guys, you should be mad jealous of our comm.

I just don't get the whole comm thing any more. I have nearly nothing in common with most of the people that show up at meets, especially because most of them are high schoolers and younger than my younger sibling, who I still think of as a kid. I have friends who also wear lolita who I did originally meet through lolita, but none of them bother with "community" meet ups since it's just nicer to meet up with friends, and plan to wear lolita at the same time.

>>6569541
Continue to be weary. She's still all up in Chicago's ass and sometimes makes some questionable comments. She hasn't gotten over her shitty internet persona at all, and it still comes out irl.

>>6569500
Definitely this! Two girls who caused some drama are gone, the some of the older ones who caused trouble do there own thing, and the other old ones are really friendly with the newbies and pretty amazing.

>>6569366
Rochester? This one sounds more like meow tan.

Anyone know anything about the Houston comm? Just moved here.

My comm is pretty damn awesome. Things like the details of meetups tend to fall on me a lot but honestly i don't mind all that much as the people are wonderful and since the comm is made up of people who have lives outside of lolita we really don't get much drama.

We do have 2 itas, we are working on them and ever since we showed one of them taobao she has come back with some possible wtb coords that look quite good. I have my fingers crossed.

Is anyone a part of a comm in England? I'm just starting out and I was curious because I only ever seem to hear about US comms.

My comm is pretty cool, but theyre all far more into Japan than I am and that gets pretty boring.

>>6569639
>>6569919
Who are you lampooning here? I'm totally lost.

Love my comm! We have our share of new girls who haven't quite got a feel for the fashion but the core members who have stuck around are all college age + or have real jobs or ambitions beyond starting a lolita brand. There are a handful of communities in the state and one of them seems to have more inexperienced people who have mall/subway meetups, but most of them stick to their area since they don't drive.

There doesn't seem to be any coms in the ark-la-miss. I'm lonley.

>>6569944
Most of the older lolis who introduced me into the Chicago comm are really helpful too. They don't mind that I'm younger than a lot of them/pretty new to lolita, and right now I'm trying to help out an ita, but she's improving, so the prognosis is good.

Those drama-mongers were really annoying, even though I haven't been around very long I've heard some horror stories. Glad they're out.

What's the Melbourne lolita comm like? I'd like to get into lolita, but I won't bother if my local comm's filled with bitches, weebs and itas.

>>6570157
They seem really nice and well dressed from what I can tell. I was only visiting though, so I have only seen a fraction of the comm.

>>6569407
late reply sorry :<

Was she the girl that cancelled her invoice? And aw man, I hope she doesn't cause a damper on your b-day meetup. It looks like it will be super fun.

I'm going to try to keep an open mind as well, but I will admit that when I saw she came to our community I gasped in horror, lol.

>>6570157
Aren't they the group that puts out those MC Melody Doll videos? They look like a ton of fun, man, well-dressed too going off of that.

>>6570190
oh they look like they have a lot of fun

>>6570190
Not quite, that's the Brisbane lolita group. Though Melody Doll IS in Melbourne now. She used to be in Brisbane. Deerstalker Pictures (Vysanthe and Technotropism) happen to travel quite a lot, so their videos have a lot of Australian lolitas from different cities sometimes.

My community is awesome. We have meets often and everyone is well-dressed. We do have two girls who are a pain in the ass, but luckily the vocal one quit recently. The other one only comes every once in a while so we can tolerate her.

>>6570211
Melody Doll? You mean Xelyna right? lol

This is the community where I live.

I'm scared, someone hold me.

>>6570242
Indeed. Though she seems to be using the MC thing everywhere except for EGL these days.

>>6570248
>hello kitty shirt
>red frilly skirt
>Back jacket(?)
Nice coords

>>6570251
Sometimes I go back and read her old entries about her fangirling over some visual kei musician she thought was in love with her, and then when he ran off she fell into a deep depression, was lazy as hell and got fired from her jobs, then returned to Aus and continued to mourn her lost life in glorious Nippon. It's super pathetic.

>>6570248
The girl in Toy Fantasy looks OK. Maybe they're nice people? In my comm a lot of the people have gotten better at dressing themselves over time...

>>6570254
I'm dying. ;_; I moved from a big city to this small town for university and I wanted to maybe get back into lolita, but I've realized it's probably useless. I lost interest because my old comm was lots of dramu (the entire scene was just... always drama and filled with lots of skeezy people) and now I'm just like, oh well. To be fair, I believe this was their first meetup in this comm, so Idk. I just tumblr stalk them sometimes and I'm scared they are total weebs.

>>6570265
I hope so. ;_; It's a really small town so idk. Most of the people here are college kids, but it's filled with frat boys and stuff like that, not very diverse from what I've seen. It's been very hard to meet people here. I've only seen two lolis out and about (together) whereas if I went out in my old city, I'd probably see a few every week.

>>6570248
Lanky girl in glasses is a cutie tho.

>>6570315
Wow. That photo makes it really easy to find these girls.

>>6570181
Nah, that was someone who had me pick up stuff at the concert I went to.
She had me buy lolita stuff, asked for local pick-up, then pitched a fit when I couldn't fit HER schedule to get them to her an hour away. I was like...local pick-up is to help you save on shipping, it doesn't give me ANY advantage since I have to go to the post office to ship other stuff anyway. I'm not going out of my way to get you your stuff - you either pick a time I suggest or suck up the shipping costs.
In the end she finally agreed to let me just ship them - it only cost her $4 and it took a day, so not sure what the big deal was anyway.

Despite those two coming to the meetup, I'm still looking really forward to it! J and I have been wanting to have a meetup there for a while.

>>6570340
I'm assuming this was the girl from the Dress up battle too. She seems to keep doing things that irritate people, like grabbing and pulling on one of the girl's skirts without asking during a meet to look at it.
Met the new girl also, and she seemed pretty pleasant, but I had no idea about her past drama.

Does anyone know what the Vancouver, BC comms are like?

My comm isn't so bad, but there are always one or two terribly dressed itas that ruin our group photos.

>>6570315
Did you move from Toronto to London?

>>6570560
Nope, from somewhere else. :b

>>6570440
Yep, that's her.
I literally have not had a single positive experience with her.
I want to be inviting and nice and all, but she makes it real difficult.

>>6570605
After the hassle she caused you with the shopping service, I don't think there's really a point in trying to be nice. It's probably better to just ignore her, unless she tries starting more drama. Then It might be time to consider banning.

Still new(ish) to my comm.
It took me forever to gather the courage to join since I was a newbie who got suckered into the belief that everyone would be rude and elitist.
My comm is rather hidden to keep out the itas and creepers (apparently there were a lot of problems in the past with the latter.)
Most of the girls have actually been a part of the comm for a good few years and know each other pretty well which is still a little intimidating.
One of the girls I first met in the comm came across as rather annoying and I kind of disliked her. However after a few more meets I grew to like her and now know that she's actually a great part of the group since she always manages to get everyone talking and laughing, even the quite girls. I feel like a bit of a bitch now for disliking her at first.
Most of the girls have quite large wardrobes or small ones filled with rarer/more choice items (all of them seem pretty modest about it though.) One of the smaller wardrobes I’ve seen in my comm has this really cohesive feel to it which I am pretty envious of.
I just wish some of them would put a little more effort into hair and makeup to finish off their nice coords.
Meet-ups are somewhat last minute and are pretty chill. Everyone has conflicting schedules though so not all of us can make it. It doesn't help when most of the girls are older and hold down full-time jobs. Luckily that whole age thing rules out most of the immaturity (we don't actually have any girls in high school in our comm.)
I just wish that every once in a while we could do something extravagant like go for a really nice meal or to a stunning location, but this is something I'm hoping to change once I get to know everyone better.

>>6570315
Ugh, my boyfriend goes to UWO so I go to London sometimes, but I've never been involved in the comm. They look like such itas. :( Maybe they're nice at least but I'm in the same boat as you in knowing nothing about them. Are you at Western?

>>6570157
I know a few of the girls, they're really cool. Just avoid the crazies and you'll be fine.

>>6569276
Portland?

>>6569495
>Vomitrocity
I love her and think she's fabulous. She's actually nice in general, as far as I know...she just...doesn't back down on line, or something.

>>6570840
Yeah, I'd agree, she can be abrasive sometimes online - she's just opinionated. She toned it way down though, maybe she grew out of internet badass phase? Out of all the Chicago drama she was not involved in any of it to my knowledge so I don't think you guys need to worry.

Speaking of Chicago I'm very curious to see how things will go with some of our more active girls having moved/moving away.

>>6570815
I dont live in london, but I know a few people from that area and they are fine. It seems to be a small group so they are close knit, which is great in some ways but not in others.

>>6569419
not chicago. I shouldn't say.

the whole thread will be filled up with shitposting If I do.

god they terrify me

>>6569639
>mom is into lolita

what?
Please, I'd like to hear more

>>6570904
I have a guess but I'm not going to say it because it will blow up as it usually does.

>>6570633
That's basically how I'm feeling. I'm letting her come to my b-day meetup because I don't want to be exclusive about things, but I'm not going to be paying much attention to her. If she tries to start something, then I'm telling her off, because it'll be the last straw, what with the NDK/Dress Up Battle debacle and then this shopping service thing.

>>6570840
>>6570876
I'm really glad you guys think so. Obviously, we don't really deal with drama much around here - for the most part, we all get along very, very well (we like to joke it's because we get our drama fix by being on /cgl/).
Guess we'll see!

>>6570904
Well look how much Chicago shitposting we already have...

>>6570923
that is nothing compared to what my community would do. Honestly, most of them they are nice people in person. but talk about them them online and its some scary stuff. linking eachother to threads, all trying to find a person to blame for everyone that disagrees with them.. this whole thread will go straight to hell.

a couple of my friends quit lolita for the way that the local community treated them. and honestly I'm on the brink of doing so as well.

I have a feeling that I said to much..

Most of the girls in my local community are nice. Our meetups are always fun. We had a special snowflake that always created drama but she doesn't go to meetups anymore. We have a few itas and cosplayers that don't own many lolita clothes, and one girl that's scared to come to meetups without her boyfriend. Maybe she'll drop dead if he isn't by her side? For some reason we keep getting creepy guys in our group too. I think they join us because they have a lolita fetish or something.

>>6570904
Is it a southern state?

>>6571034
oh god here comes the shitstorm!

>>6569437
fb com/groups/282126631800952/?fref=ts

Just don't bother

>>6569437
The NJ comm is full of younger girls and other people that encourage them to be stupid. The better part of the comm mostly go to NYC or Philly events.

>>6570815
I am. :( I don't want to reach out because they're really close (and ita looking) so I don't want to end up having to deal with drama. If I do get back into lolita it'll probably have to be strictly online based or something.

>>6571538
>>6571539
I....see....

>>6570876
I'm from Chicago and Vomitrocity gas always been really awesome to me. I think it's just her online persona.
As for our comm tbh the people moving away haven't been that active lately anyway. fashionbabylon, chunlichan paiettes and jola still live in the city and come to most meets

>>6571579
*has not gas.

My comm seems to have jsut fallen apart. 5 people attending a meet is seen as a good turnout. This month's meet was a complete clusterfuck, it was moved short-notice several times and then cancelled altogether. I remember when we used to have great meets with a decent-sized group and we'd all have fun, but now it seems like nobody gives a shit. I wish we could start over with the comm split in half, because I think it's tension between the two 'sides' of the comm that's brought it to this. I guess I just don't bother with them anymore, meeting up with a couple of the ones I really like for lunch is more fun and less hassle.

>>6570940
My local community is like that as well. I was really anxious about going to my first meet so I paid more attention to what the members said and did online, and then a secret was posted. It was something completely meaningless and trivial like "that dress really doesn't fit you but nobody says anything because you're popular" or some shit like that. They went NUTS. Suddenly there were 5+ girls posting, calling vendetta, "oh I think I know who you are, you think you're hot shit but you aren't", trying to track the poster down, threatening to expel them from the comm, etc. It could easily have been someone from a completely different country using a pic from d-l (the girl in question was somewhat internet famous) but nooo they were going to track this bitch down and come to her house and rip her wigs and eat her brand. I commented anon to share my "it might not even be someone from your comm" theory but they decided that I was the secret poster trying to save my hide, and started bitching me out.

Then I went to the meet and everyone was super nice.

I spent way too much time worrying that they would figure out I was that one anon. I hadn't even done anything wrong, but it was super uncomfortable. They were all so nice IRL so it's hard to imagine how they turn into raging harpies behind their PC. I attended a couple more meets afterwards but decided it wasn't worth sticking around until the next drama volcano exploded.

Our last meet had 30+ girls. We went to a stupid outing.
Most girls are ita as fuck.
The others only wear Bodyline (the ITA Bodyline shit)
And the other girls are REALLY fat, but actually know how to coord and would look better if they weren't so fat.
The girls are REALLY open and talk about lolita secrets all the fucking time as if Internet is all they have to talk about.
Some do online porn for money, webcam stuff, "modeling", and are pretty open about it.
A bunch of girl's in the comm and just fucking weeaboos in high school (and even some in middle school) who don't know the difference between cosplay and lolita.

I think I need to stop going to those meets.

>>6571632
haha forgot my email. wow. here it is.

>>6571540
Well I know at least one of them is nice even though she's still in high school. might be worth a shot eventually though, depends on how they develop.

next time I visit we should hang out though! even though I'm in a big comm I'm not friends with many lolitas/anyone interested in general. not my main email but feel free to hit me up. I'm not in town a lot but I will be in March I think.

>>6570028
The Houston comm is very nice. We have a large variety of people and no drama. Join us on facebook if you'd like to check it out.

>>6570756
where are u from?

>>6571579
Jola hasn't been to a meet in months and basically quit lolita (which is why she was selling so much stuff, which is why she got such a huge chargeback from Maiko)

The Arizona community is the worst. Full of itas and landwhales. And having such a huge furry community doesn't help either. It's mostly just fat weebs, people who draw/write disgusting yaoi and furry shit, and just plain itas. The weather here doesn't help either since some of them don't bother to hide the massive pit stain on their dresses.

>>6570254
*cords

>>6569380
Any of those meets in Denver?
I've never been, just got into this fashion recently.
Pic related, my first "real" dress, need a few more things for my coord still.

Can I get more information on CA comms, specifically the ones in northern california...? I was told to join the FB group, which I did, but it just seems to be a bunch of noobs and itas :/

>>6571579
Are they nice?

>>6571750

I think what's posted on facebook groups doesn't always reflect the community. The main page of my FB group (not CA) is being shit up with questions that have been answered a million times and off topic nonsense, but none of those people ever show up to meets. Everyone at meet ups dresses nice and actually has a brain. I think more experienced people keep to themselves because they know no one cares about their new bodyline skirt or whatever.

>>6571800
dif anon but yes, they are nice. I never found them to be super bitchy the way Vomitrocity is.. Fashionbabylon is especially awesome

Portland OR lolitas are the worst

I don't know, guys... I've been wearing the fashion for only a couple of years now and I had never been to a meeting until some time ago and... well... it was awful. I was so disappointed.
All I wanted was to get to know people who shared the same interests - to have tea sometimes or, idk, give and get opinions on coords. Well, to begin with, there were like... 2 or 3 lolitas there - the rest were all itas/weebs/gyaru/wtf?. That didn't bother me, though. What made me mad, actually, was the fact that when I tried to tell them my opinions on any lolita-related subject they'd just ignore what I had said. Just like that. I do respect everyone who's more experienced, but I wasn't trying to teach anything to anyone, for god's sake. I was just sharing my opinions. How's that wrong?
So, yeah, I don't think I'm attending to any meeting in my city ever again.

Does anyone know anything about the New Orleans comm? I'm moving there in a bit and was thinking about maybe looking in to seeing if they'd let me join in.

Sage for no real contribution.

>>6571853

I've met a few girls from that community and they all are super sweet and dress well.

>>6571818
Doh ho ho. Fashionbabylon has a way bitcheir online reputation than Vomitrocity ever did. "Cut your bangs" etc. The other girls you mentioned are super nice though. Even though like someone else said, Jola quit Lolita.

>>6571962
oh I thought she said she was saving a few dresses to continue to come to meets.
>>6571800
yes, they are all very nice.

>>6571962
Eh, I thought that cut your bangs thing was funny. I'm tired of Vomitrocity being an oldfag and posting stupid comments like "why is this here?" "why does this matter" etc. She sucks.

>>6571698

wow holy shit, in the arizona community and we don't even have a furry to make fun of in the lolita comm. I would know, I'd have already made fun of them.

We have a few good lolitas, and our fair share of itas, but no worse than any other comm. Are you the girl last night who got angry when I made fun of her oh so speshul japanese fabric?

I've never met either NY comm but I have 2 friends who are in Victorian Ladies or whatever it's called and I went to college with a girl from the other comm but I only spoke to her once. I don't feel like bothering but it seems Victorian Ladies stir up a lot of drama?

I'm starting have mixed feelings about my comm.

I really love the more senior members, but we've been overrun by so many new girls over the last year. There's just over 150 girls in our comm, I don't even know or have met half of the girls in there at this point. That many of them are new, don't have any lolita yet, and/or don't go to meet-ups.

The more seasoned or senior lolitas in the comm are some of the most wonderful people I've met, but these newer girls can be dumb as fuck. They're not spamming the page as badly anymore, but when they join in on discussions I have a tendency just to watch not join in myself. I know they're newer and younger (mass majority of them are 14-18), so i'm trying my best to be patient.

Use to love mine, now I hate it.

>>6571698

What >>6572035 said - we're really not that bad. Meetups are fun, drama's pretty low, there are some well-dressed lolitas, a fair amount of noobs and of course some not-so-well dressed. Pretty standard if you ask me, not sure why you're so mad.

Anyone know anything about the Oregon comm? Been thinking about joining.

>>6571632
Cool, I'll e-mail you when I get the chance. :)

>>6572062
Sounds like my comm. We have an offshoot group, but most of the time we more experienced ones are too fucked from working to make any good of it. We also have a creeper, but we've talked about him enough.

>>6571962
Diff anon here. Have you met her in person? I have only talked to her a little at meets and she was very nice to me and everyone else. She has big cheeks when she smiles.

I'm in the bay area and our comm is pretty big I think. I've never gone to a meet though because I'm shy (also because my only dress doesn't fit anymore, poo). Anyone here know what the bay area comm is like?

>>6571996
She's just taken on the role of saying what the rest of us are thinking. There are a lot of itas and noob retards posting on the fb group and the rest of us are trying not to stir drama by pointing out the stupid off-topic posts and nonsense. Like when you sign up to model for an out-of-state con fashion show and then only after the fact realize you have no way to get there, beg for a ride to and from the con because you claim you can't figure out how to get there on train on your own, etc.

>>6571832
haha

>>6572062
Are you talking about the AZ lolita community, too?

>>6572055
NYC loli here.
Honestly ,post a picture of how you dress ,it'd help determine which group would suit you best.
There are actually 4 ,arguably 5 comms in NYC...
There's a community just for classic lolis,they don't really mix with the main community but include the Indie designers like moss marchen and I do declare.
Then there's the 'main comm' which
Public meetups are doomed to failure usually since the mods don't kick out the aspies but nobody wants to hang out with them which means if you post a public meetup ,only the aspies ( and we have a lot) will attend.so most of the meet ups are private and to be invited to those meetups you actually have to meet The girls hosting the meetups which you can't really meet becouse all the meetups are private.this is a really difficult community to break in to ( took me 2 years lol) but the girls are well dressed and fun.with a lot of different styles.so if you dress well and unique they'll eventually notice you.

Then there are the Victorian ladies.post a pic of your outfit and ill tell you if you should join them.we try to redirect all the Itas high schoolers and aspies to this comm.

Then theres a jfashion community that's only a month old.seemed like a great idea but the mod approved requests to join from all the wierdos and has since been overrun.mod has great meetup ideas but wierdos want to show up so its doomed to fail.also they all.show up in lolita even if its a jfash comm.she's working on kicking out people but she's way too nice to do it and just ignores it now.sad cuz it was a cool concept.
And last we believe there's a community for just aisans.

>>6570236
NC?

>>6572114
Everyone is really nice! I remember being so nervous for my first meet, but then I get there and everyone was really welcoming. You should come to one of the monthly meets.

>>6572349
how IS the NC comm?

I have mixed feelings about meet-ups. There is no lolita comm where I live, and the nearest place is Milwaukee (2ish hrs), second nearest is Chicago (5ish hrs). I would love to be able to go to meets more often, but I can't for a few reasons. I'm also a little apprehensive of doing so for another couple reasons.

The reasons I can't are:
>the places are so far away that they're expensive and time-consuming just to get to
Going to Chicago specifically really requires us to get a hotel and plan out a weekend.
>I have a small wardrobe with very few basic pieces and almost no completed coords and I don't want to wear the same thing every time
Which in turn makes me afraid I'm going to get removed from fb groups for not participating even though that's mostly what I do online everyday.
>for some reason meets seem to have a habit of ending up on days we have other obligations!

The reasons I'm apprehensive:
>I find it very difficult to socialize in general, more so face-to-face
I want to go so badly but when I get there I'm constantly with my fiance and have no idea how to start a conversation, or what about. There are lolitas I find interesting and I'd like to get to know better, but can't get the courage to talk to, so I just end up talking with other lolis who have nobody to talk to, even if I don't find them that enthralling or we don't have anything in common.
>I don't know anyone
I kinda know like 3 people from these comms, but I have no idea who most of these people are or if we actually have anything in common. I couldn't really become friends because of distance. I also keep hearing from different people on fb and on here about Chicago drama but I have absolutely no idea what any of it is about and it makes me a little afraid that if I talk to the wrong person, other people won't want to talk to me, and I won't even know it!

Both Milwaukee and Chicago seem like great comms and I'd love to go more often. I feel so alone in my fashion love up here lol.

>>6572524
Ah I'm glad to hear that! When's the next meet? If the dress I just bought gets here in time I'll definately go.

I just want a fucking loli friend. I want someone I can go to meetups with and make each other feel comfortable and twin and stuff. ;_;

I also want to go to Europe this summer, a few countries in particular, and I want a loli friend to accompany me. ;_; We don't have to wear lolita all the time, y'know.

I'm not good with groups because I always feel new and I always feel like if someone ends up having a vendetta for me for no reason, drama will ensue. I just want a friend, I feel comfy with one-on-one interactions. ;_; Too bad this will never happen.

Actually, someone should make a loli version of anonidate. Fuck.

How's it like in the Michigan comm(s)? I'm still building my wardrobe up and don't have too many loli friends.

>>6569159
In my comm, only a few of us were brand, and we're completely happy that way. Many of us are actually good seamstresses and can make our own stuff (not myself.) We mostly own Bodyline, but the good stuff, not the cheap lace stuff. We all coordinate well, IMO.

However, recently, the itas invaded D:

They think Wa-loli is BEST LOLITA, and can't sew worth shit. The horrible thing, is they're so nice, I can't tell them of or try to correct them. It's like kicking a cute puppy. But they're just doing it SO WRONG.

And no one added, like 5 other itas to our group. Urgh. And I had to add them, how could I just be like "NOPE! You're too ugly and an embarrassment to fashion!" without looking like a dick to everyone else? I'm a lot harsher than my fellow actual lolis, but even so...

>>6572625

I live far in downstate Illinois, and going to Chicago meetups is always a trial.

I'm hesitant to say this, because I can see how it would turn around to bite me, but we might want to set up an out-of-town hotel room, to split costs and help each other navigate the city, and have someone to arrive with.

I'm one of those weird people with a GIANT closet I rarely wear, and I'd be willing to split a hotel room with a stranger and let her borrow a blouse and a headbow just so I have someone around to hang out with.

>>6572682

Constructive criticism is good if you are afraid of looking like a dick.

"I see you like this fashion, but why not try this, it'd compliment you so much better."

"This would be more flattering on you."

"Here, let me show you how to stitch better."

"Why not try it like this, and see if you like the result more?"

>>6571717
Most of our meets are in Denver, since it's a pretty central location for most of us.
fb.com/cogls is where you can find all the information you need~

>>6572808
Woah, how far downstate in Illinois? I switch between Peoria and Bloomington-Normal.

>>6572808

I'm gonna have to give that a no, unfortunately. My fiance never shares rooms with anyone; just his thing; and he always drives us there, since I don't drive. He apparently would rather pay more for hotels and whatnot than share a room or stay with any non-lolita friends we have in Chicago. That and I'm really awkward about accepting favors/niceness from people! I would feel so guilty borrowing stuff for the day!

Thanks for the offer though!

>>6572062
Sounds like ours too. If they aren't actually serious about the fashion I wish they would just leave the damn group.

Thing that annoys me the most is how often they say they will come to a meet only to cancel at the last minute or just not show up. It's fair enough if plans change for you but it's the fact it's all the time. Most are quite young so I suspect they chicken out on coming because they don't even have one outfit.

>go to con
>smile because I was happy
>look at a girl by accident
>disgusted look on her face
>pretend I don't notice
>s..sorry
>is what I wanted to say but the words wouldn't come out.
;_;

>>6572062
My comm has a similar problem. The FB page is so overrun with stupid questions and sales posts and "Like my pictures so I can win ita shit!" links. I really want to moderate more heavily, but I also don't want to be a bitch, so I just try to let it go. Most of the newbies don't come to meetups, though, so the actual meets are pretty normal and the majority of people are very well-dressed.

>>6572643
This Friday. But the monthly meets are every last Friday of the month and we meet at Baby around 6pm. So if you can't make this one there's always the next one!

I love my comm. Things are kind of dead right now because of the holidays, but I know it will start picking up again soon.

The main "active" members all dress really well, and the itas don't come to many meets (and are usually pretty sweet girls, just very misguided). The people that typically organize the meets are usually fairly good, though I know they've all been very busy lately.

The FB comm is a little bit of a joke, though, because we recently had a big influx of new members, and so the main page is full of questions about Bodyline, sales posts to barely Lolita stuff, and people advertising their shitty sweets jewelry and asking for likes for contests. It's very annoying, and I wish I could just delete them all, but I don't want to be a bitch.

There's also a lot of crossover between two of the biggest comms around here, which can be fun.

>>6572081
>Oregon
>>6571824
Don't join the OR comm. They are horrible and mean and uninviting bitches. A bunch of them are huge faggots as well. At their meets, you don't even have to dress in lolita. That's how fucking ita they are.

>>6572164
I wont post a picture of myself but here's a coord. I also have a feeling you'd just use a picture of myself to insult me and shove me into the ita group which based on the girls I do know from it, I know I don't belong in it. I'm not an amazing lolita but I at least follow the rules and can act like a civilized human being.

Sorry for the bad pictures by the way. All I have is a cellphone camera.

>>6572976
ew musette

>>6572976
Be a lone loli until you can run with the big dogs, man. Those private invite-only groups are the only ones worth joining, your only other major option is the Victorian Itas.

>>6572991
I'm fine being alone then. I

>>6572982
That response got a chuckle out of me. What is wrong with it to you I'm curious?

>>6572976
whoa holy shit calm down

>>6573006
why are you so defensive

>>6573051
Am I not calm? I wasn't trying to sound mad I'm just saying I know what the Victorian Ladies look and and I don't dress that poorly.

>>6573067
look like and*

>>6572976
If you know why did you ask?

>>6573073
How am I being defensive. They told me to be alone or join Victorian Ladies I said I'm okay alone.
>>6573082
I was wondering if there were more communities than amazing status that will never look at me and the ones that everyone makes fun of.
From what I have gathered it would be better to be a lone lolita and I am okay with that.

>>6572617
NC comm is really nice. There's no drama and no one who shows up to meets dresses poorly, though there are a few girls who dress more simply or in other j-fashions like mori girl. There's always a handful of boys but none of them are creepers, they're always husbands or friends along with the occasional brolita. It's split between Raleigh and Charlotte due to distance but occasionally we'll all get together. The Facebook page is sort of trash, though, with a lot of annoying noobs trying to wiggle their way in but they never come to meetups so it's all good. We have soniabunny who is really cool and sometimes we'll have infiniteneeya and amethystcitrine show up.

>>6570248
awe looks arent everything
they seem nice

>>6569407
>>6569380
ladies I think I know who you're talking about and I"m sorry. I first invited her into the community thinking it would be better for her...

If anybody is planning to join the Sydney comm, we have a facebook group and there's the newly established australian lolita facebook group as well, ask on oz_lolita and someone will add you to them. All the ladies here are wonderful, people tend to dress casual to full coord with bonnets and parasols to the meets in all styles, we don't care about brand/offbrand/replicas and there's a constant taobao GO going.

... I apologise in advance for Bloomer Boy.

My community has 100+ members, but only 15 or so actually come to meetups. It was fun at first but not so much anymore. We've had drama in the past because of a special snowflake. We have a bunch of new people now. They keep asking stupid questions or making stupid comments in the facebook group. The guys in our community are only there hoping to get a lolita girlfriend. One moved recently but the other one is still in our group. So awkward.

>>6573486
Are you talking about Portland OR comm? Cuz they fucking suck

>>6573521

No. We're in the southwest.

I do loli-goth style personally. Im in NZ and have met two ita's (sweet) and one REALLY spastic guro-loli. All of whom could have fit 4-6 of my inside one of their dresses. Anyone in NZ not the above T^T? would love to be able to host tea-parties and not want to vomit.

I'm in the Atlanta community, and I love them. Everyone is so sweet and helpful. They go out of their way to make you feel comfortable. It's a big comm, but there's not much drama at all, so I feel lucky.

I'm in a long distance relationship, so I also spend a lot of time in San Francisco. I joined their comm as well, and the ladies are really sweet.

>>6571853
The NOLA comm is pretty active on FB. We try to have meet-ups at least every other month. There's pretty much no drama and most of the members get along pretty well and are very friendly. Just message one of the admins of the group and let them know you're moving to the area. One of them will let you into the group.

Memphis lolita here. I want to clear up some negative things about our community that has been nothing but amazing and lovely for me. First off, Midsouth Lolita Meetup is Nashville AND Memphis. I can't speak for the Nashville girls as I have not met them. I know there has been a lot of rumors about us here on lovely /cgl/ all of which are incorrect and are mixed rumours from both cities.

It's no secret that there have been problems with a certain ex-member which shall not be named but most of you already know. This ex-member had an issue with one of my good friends about something that was said to her, which was actually from years ago. If she is still upset about this incident, it would be more productive to tell said member herself instead of still bringing it up here. There was also an issue with said ex-member and a known troll who not only caused a rift in our community, but a few other communities as well. This blew up and led to a war which spread rampantly due to bored anons who thought it would be funny to frame certain members.

The drama is all behind us and sorries have been said in person, however ex-member still feels the need to talk about us constantly on /cgl/ and it's very unfortunate. We do not wish malice on anyone and we always treat new girls with respect and guidance if they so ask for it. We also recently lost a member of our community that caused trouble for a few lolitas around our area and I have heard of issues with harassment. Said member is now gone and will not be welcomed back as we do not tolerate harrassment of any kind. I apologize if he has affected any one of you in a negative way.

So if there are some of you who are thinking of joining but are afraid, you should at least come to one meetup and see for yourself. If you still don't like us, no harm done. If you want to avoid us completely due to vicious /cgl/ rumours then that is your priority. (Also: the rumour that our lolita panel being cancelled was completely untrue and we never told anyone to "go fuck themselves").

Believe me or not, there's your facts.

>>6573413
Lol I already wrote about our community

>>6573797
>>6573804
I back this anon up on all this. 100% true. It's better to judge for yourself than to trust another person's(whom you don't know) word.

>>6571853
Everyone is pretty welcoming. Not much drama, and most of the girls dress well. Also some of the newer girls have allot of potential to grow in the fashion.

>>6570248
kay, i know some of the people in this comm, seen them at AN or meets outside of your area. Tall girl has some really nice coords, she's just starting out and is getting much better. Girl on far right is pretty good, decent brand closet and cute, she does art, which is really cute. Met her at AN. Girl in bodylien with the miku wig i think is part of the so_loli group, seems to be improving as well. Others, well, i don't know them. They look uhhhhh......

>>6571750
I love the SF community, although I haven't been to meets in a while. But yes, the Fb community is a little noobish, lots of new people asking questions. I'd go to the meetup group or Ca_egl to get a better reflection of the community itself.

>>6573955
The one on the front bottom right is a boy.

I'd also like to say, the "Memphis girls hate anime" rumour?

Total bullshit. We have girls who love anime and girls who just don't care for it, like any group really. I personally love Tenchi Muyo and we have a few Sailor Moon and Black Butler fans; we even have girls who cosplay. I believe the incident that this rumour has stemmed from was a joke that was taken seriously by a girl who wasn't very familiar with the humor of my friend. I believe this can happen with any group of girls in which the members are not well acquainted. But once again, it should have been confronted long ago between the two.

I can answer any questions if requested. I want to smash all the unfair negativity that surrounds my community.

>>6573413
you guys sound awesome, and really similar to my current lolita group. i may move to sydney from the US in a year or two, so it's really comforting to know sydney has a good comm!

>>6571670
Aust

Guessing that this sounds like your local comm as well?

>>6572099
Haaaaah. Oh, Bunny Bloomers.

>>6574136
We already have a US loli with us, it would be great to welcome another. :D
>>6574159
Which city? The Sydney community is kind of like this too, thought that as I was reading earlier.

>>6574167
yeah exactly.
double post sage

>>6574174
Perth.
Nice comm tbh.
Interesting to hear about Sydney though.

I'm kind of bummed about my community. When we have meetups it's great, lots of fun, and full of well dressed people who are highly educated and have great style. However, we've faced a lot of e-drama lately and I'm afraid people will perceive us negatively because of it. How can you repair your comm's image? Just wait for people to forget the drama?

>>6574274
Any time someone describes one of the Australian comms, they sound pretty much the same to me. Well-dressed, fairly mature members, laid back with nice meet-ups, but not much variety of venues utilised. It's a nice change of pace from all the drama-mongering, high-schooler infested comms you hear about elsewhere, though.

>>6571824
>>6572962

I have no thoughts about Portland, but you guys sound majorly buttsore. Taking your opinions with a grain of salt.

>>6573413
I would like to join the Sydney comm but I feel uncomfortable trying to friend anyone because I only friend people I know. I am heading down south in March or so, so maybe I'll pluck up some more courage then as I'd like to attend a meet-up. Is Bloomer Boy on the Australian Facebook group? Would he happen to be the dashing young lad with the chevron socks who thought Senor Arkapasso was wearing a dress?

>>6574293
Don't do what
>>6573797
>>6573804
>>6574075
is doing

>>6574313
He is. Pic related.

Honestly, just add some of us through the main Australia FB group or request to join the Sydney one. We have a few meet-ups coming up that you'd be more than welcome to attend! For the record, as much as we bitch about BB's presence, he's not at most of the meets.

>>6574322
He's not at most of the meets only because the sane ones don't ever invite him.
>>6574313
Which city's comm are you originally from? If you know Marie (ODIP) she can request you be added.

>>6574322
I'm kind of relieved but disappointed that BB doesn't attend that many meets. Then again, I don't know how I'd stop myself from full on laughing at him.
I'll go ahead and randomly message a Sydney member one of these days asking if I can join. I've never attended a full on meet-up before, I just live too far away from everything so I don't really know anyone at all so meeting new people is a little terrifying but exciting at the same time.

>>6574328
>the sane ones don't ever invite him
And thank fuck for that.

>>6574328
I don't know Marie personally or anything, I've liked her ODIP page though and bought from her. Sounds like a good idea. Do I have to submit a member photo? I've kind of avoided doing it for Rufflebutts and the Aus group because I just feel so awkward taking photos of myself and sharing them. I'm just accustomed to seeing everyone's pictures being stolen from everywhere and pasted on /cgl/. I don't think my coords are horrible, but I don't want to piss anyone off or anything... Fuck I am so awkward haha

>>6574333
I should tell you in advance that like 99% of the meets aren't ever arranged on the sydney lolita comm because of bloomer boy, you kinda have to get invited by the event organizer. Hopefully whoever you message can also connect you up to our meets! We have a meet coming up in Feb with the Disney princess thing and we're seeing off someone who's moving to Adelaide in March.

>>6574334
Oh god the aus group, I'm mainly a lurker in the Syd comm and one of the mods sent off a really fucking intrusive and frankly rude questionnaire at me when I requested to join. Another mod who knows me better added me in anyway so the issue is moot, but still.

Marie's a cool gal, she'll do it for you, don't believe the drama on /cgl/, she can be hell on people who screw her over but trust me, every single one of her drama has good reasons behind it.

>>6574334
And no you don't have to submit a member photo, just write an intro post if you feel like it.

>>6574335
Well I'll be down for visits but not outright moving there or anything planned at the moment. If I posted a small intro saying something about how I'd like to attend meets while I'm down there, would there be a chance I'd get one of these on-the-side invites? I can totally understand why you'd want to avoid him like that. Though you should be able to make Facebook events and have him blocked so he can't see any posts related to it and such. Might be a handy feature. Just have to hope someone outside of the know about BB doesn't say something. And then you'd have to make sure no photos would be tagged or stuff like that. Shame he just can't outright be chucked out. I'm sure he's a nice guy, just horribly misguided and doesn't listen to any advice.
>>6574339
I know what you mean about the questionnaire, I felt like I was doing a work interview!

>>6574347
>>6574334
If you're in Rufflebutts, I can request to add you to Sydney. I didn't know Syd comm had a huge questionnaire - for Bris we just ask if you actively wear lolita/plan to move or visit Bris, if we can't see lolita in your profile/don't have mutual friends. There are too many inactive/newbs in bris comm though who don't even wear lolita who got in before this was introduced :| Sometimes I feel we should be stricter, like Melbourne, where you can only be added if you know someone in the comm IRL.

>>6574347
>I'm sure he's a nice guy, just horribly misguided and doesn't listen to any advice.
It goes deeper than that. A few girls have been talking about getting the admins to just ban him from the group. He's done a lot of things that border on unsafe/stalker level behaviour.

The problem is that no one wants to be "that bitch" who gave some kid with Asperger's who doesn't speak English as a first language the boot. He's pretty easily avoided because of the closed event invites, though. So most of what you'll have to deal with from him will be on Facebook.

>>6574371
Yeah, I'm in Rufflebutts though I only met three members who'd barely remember me. They got me into lolita in the first place. I have noticed that there is about a hundred or so members, but a lot of inactivity. I'm trying to participate but it's hard when I live six hours away even though it's my closest comm. Though I did finally get to meet a girl I went to school with and reconnect with her and it was great to find out we had something in common and live nearby though she recently moved... At least Rufflebutts hasn't been swamped by Cosloli though. Does seem to have become a little Bodyline-central though...

>>6574375
Though wasn't that Maddyy girl kicked out? She was just plain annoying. It's not like when you're kicked out you find out who blocked you. The admin who does it doesn't even have to say anything. Just discreetly block and feign ignorance. I doubt anyone will re-add him, especially if he's being creepy. Everyone just has to sit there and twiddle their thumbs when he asks why he was blocked or pretty much ignore his messages.

>>6574388
She wasn't kicked out, no. She flounced on her own and made a new "nice" community of her own. I don't think they banned her, either. She had a public fit, then left of her own accord and unfriended most of the people who had tried to help her.

>>6574393
Ahahahaha, how special of her. With her kind of attitude, I'd bet that she's attracted all the weeby kind of itas into her nice special group of warm and fuzzies where we accept all of her precious ideals and her idea of fashun.
Was she actually able to dress well? I just remember her childish attitude towards Goldy about her 'macaroons'.

>>6574398
Nope. She was always trying to pawn off pocky and Hello Kitty shit on the Facebook comm, too. A few people politely told her to cut that back around the time she had her macaron shitfit.

When she left, she invited a lot of the Syd lolitas into her new "nice" comm. Many of them joined, not knowing what was up, then quietly departed as they were clued in on the situation. No idea if the page is even still functioning. Last I saw, she was still trying to get people to buy her second hand shit.

>>6574371
The aus group had a fucking huge questionnaire. Not the Syd group.

Hello!
I am one of the admin for the Australian Lolita Community group. I am sending you this message in regards to your recent request to join the community and would like to have you answer a few questions:
Why would you like to join the group?
What do you hope to benefit from the community?
Do you associate yourself with any of the fashions listed in the group description or were you interested in them?
How did you find the group?
Are you a member of any other EGL communities eg. Facebook, live journal, myspace?
I hope to hear from you soon and get to read the answers to these questions. After reading your reply I will get back to you on your application into the community.

>>6574403
That's weird. I didnt get one of those when I reguested to join. When did you try to join? Was it recently?

>>6574403
>>6574405
Hmm, I see. I didn't get one either, probably because lots of mutual friends?

>>6574405
>>6574407
When it got first advertised on the Syd comm, so about a month ago? It was in my "other" folder and I never saw it until today anyway.

>>6574403
1. I'd like to join the group because I want to obviously stalk other lolitas for the dramu...Is this honestly a question?
2. I hope to gain fappable pictures or buy/sell? Idek, at the time I was applying, there wasn't even rules about buying and selling set up yet.
3. Yes, I like to dress up like a cupcake. Does it matter if I already dress in the fashion, or are interested in it? I wouldn't have gone to this page if I wasn't interested!
4. Noneya.
5. What if I wasn't? Would it count against me?

>>6574405
I think only people who were unknown without mutual friends got asked these questions.

>>6574418
I had lots of mutual friends, just they were all unknown as well or something. But as I said, a different mod who knew me better added me anyway.

So what other drama has there ever been in the Aus communities? I have heard that there's a large number of itas in Perth and Melbourne. And apparently drama with sweetphaex groping people?

>>6574436
I've been meaning to ask, does suede77 ever actually turn up to brisloli meets?

>>6574436
Faith_chann dropping out of the scene and selling her collection for drug/cosmetic surgery money/being a stripper. Old news and nobody cares though.

>>6574440
Never. I bumped into her at the post office once though. She actually looked fine (just wearing that IW angel OP without a petticoat and just some regular shoes) and was really super nice. Just old.

>>6574441
Holy fuck she is cute though. Why would she want to have cosmetic surgery? And I'm under the impression that there's a few druggo lolitas out there...what a gurl's gotta do fer that burando

>>6574444
Her nose, probably. And what's pathetic isn't the selling brand and stripping for drugs, it's the fact that those drugs are pot and ecstasy. Whoever heard of getting into stripping for fucking pot and ecstasy?

>>6574445
Does she not attend meets because she feels uncomfortable about her age? She seems like such a nice person who knows more about lolita that some girls these days.
Also, what's the dramu and secrets about Arthur Colquhoun? I've seen him/her request that their photos be untagged. Was she the one with those gothic aristocrat coords? She looks so cute in those outfits, only to now be some sort of manbearpig of some rat kind....

>>6574449
That's all? That's the hardcore drugs she sold herself to pay for? Fuck, centrewanks can afford that shit, no need to rip one's clothes off.

Holy crap, this thread kind of went apeshit.

Firstly, I am waiting for someone to come to me with a really good reason to boot BB. I was actually waiting on someone specific to come back to me with a bit more evidence the group wanted him gone, but she never did.
As far as I see things, we have a second group (and anon, you are most welcome to join, just drop me a hint to add you somehow), BB barely shows up, his posts are annoying, yes, but amusing enough to not kick him out. People get too upset about him sometimes, but that isn't to say he is not a creeper.

The main community has mostly fallen into my hands as of late, even though I have long passed the baton of organising meets to others. It's the main community for a reason; it is there for everyone, except people who are a genuine threat, or not interested in the fashion, etc.

I'm sure anyone who needs to can figure out who I am and get in touch, if there is a major problem. A lot of new people seem to think I'm an asshole anyway.


As for Madyy, I was her main target. All I wanted was for her to buy my damn shoes. Farrrrk.

>>6574452
I'm not sure. She's fairly old though, maybe almost 50? It would be a bit strange..

>>6574456
Do tell the story about Madyy? Flaky buyer? Get it off your chest, love.

>>6574436
Aus lolis have plenty of drama, it's just that everyone forgets.

>>6574449
Hahaha XDDDDDD, etc

>>6574456
Wasn't there that incident when he twitted some girl's house address and a picture of her house?

>>6574456
How do I or anyone drop a hint to be joined to the second group?

>>6574470
Seconding this. Even though I'm new, I haven't identified any bitches yet, so no idea who you are.

>>6574308
I have to agree. Although the Melbourne comm always seems to look amazing! I have family in Melbourne (and therefore free, inner city accommodation) so I shall have to have a visit sometime.

>>6574465
Jesus christ, it's off my chest. I've told it before, but :

>new person
>I dare comment on something like "welcome"
>adds me
>WTB shoes, accessories
>I offer mine cheap
>says she wants them, please hold
>do so because it's old ita shit, free dollazzz
>bugs me with questions
>bugs me with annoying shit
>we ttly BFFs now yay according to her
>generally annoying
>finally pays for shoes and stuff and decides to sell them straight away
>lol
>something about "macaroons"
>gets butthurt because Ruffllebutts calls her shitty post out
>her epic anal pain (over something small) all over FB
>I call her out and tel her to calm the fuck down
>she's 15, it's awful, she's so mad
>Get a whingy reply
>blocked

I still have a cap of her reply, I think, somewhere.

>>6574479
Melbourne is amazing. The city and the comm!

>>6574467
Idk, he called her or something. He hasn't done anything like that again, iirc.
>>6574470
>>6574476
I'm the admin with a bunch o' cats among other things in my pic. Add me, I admin both groups.

>>6574479
I repeat, avoid the crazy people. Melbourne has a couple of crazy bitches.

>>6574436
Perth is fine.
The ita side turns up if you directly search 'Perth Lolita' on Fb though, but even then those pages aren't active.
Those who are actually interested in the fashion join the secret Fb group (if you want in just put out a post on the Oz Lolita LJ page and you should get a response.)

>>6574489
There's a couple of people with cats in their pictures, but when you say CATS, there's one catty picture that's standing out. Hope you have pretty hair, because you're officially added.

>>6574489
ok I think I know who you are, promise not to judge me for going on /cgl/?

>>6574456
You are lovely and I love you. Thanks.
By "safe", you mean "select and discreet audience that does not contain BB"?

>>6574483
I get pretty envious looking at the meetup pics and videos! So much good food and so many nice locations makes it really tempting to visit.

It all just makes me want to work a bit harder to find nicer locations and plan better meetups in my own comm.

>>6574489
Meh. It's kind of expected that there will be a few crazies in every comm, that's just life though.

>>6574494
Oh well I'm wearing a wig and I'm with a friend. Someone added me, it would be so awkward if it wasn't someone from this thread because they're now in both comms, olord.
>>6574495
....I barely go on fb anymore, and I'm always on 4chan. Seriously. What. Dude.
>>6574498
Well, I'm crazy. I mean the kind of crazy that goes around threatening people, lying, and latching onto anyone that says hi.
>>6574499
D'awwwwwww. And yes, yes I do.

>>6574503
Yeah, you added the right person. I had that thought going through my mind. Kind of having a relieved post-nervous laugh about it.

>>6574509
Fabulous

>>6570756
I knew this was a Perth post as soon as I read it!
Hellooo, I probably know you.
I pretty much agree with most of the things that you say. I love our comm and I wouldn't change anything about it, but it'd be nice if more people made more of an effort with hair and makeup, though that also makes it less intimidating to come to the meetups and not have to worry about everything being perfect. I'm not the best at hair & makeup myself, but I try to do something.
I'd love to do a big elaborate meet sometime. And more photos!

>>6574664
Ahaha.
After I posted I realised that it could be a little obvious to people directly from the comm and I know that a few of the girls come on here.
All well!

I'm admittedly still pretty crap with the hair and makeup thing too, I'm trying to improve though.

Seconding the last two points! Hopefully we can make this happen when it cools down a little.

I think we're pretty lucky to have a great comm. I love being a part of it and hopefully I can learn some more from the more experienced girls.

>>6572164
It's not that hard, if you pin point who the main people are who get together often in the main comm, make enough non-obnoxious comments on the community then ask to friend them. Message once in a while about loli stuff, or post loli stuff that doesn't suck on your feed, strike up conversations, you'll be "in" the group.

tldr - don't be obnoxious or ask stupid questions like where to find a plus size petti in nyc because you can't buy online, and you're already halfway there.

>>6574682
>>6573006
>>6573067
>>6573177
Werlp there goes that idea.

>crudelitas oiswnl

>>6574293
Sounds like my comm! Waiting for things to blow over has been my plan, and so farthings are looking good.

>>6574685
Thanks anyway.

>>6570756
Finding out this post is about your comm and knowing the annoying person is you... Sad face, wish I came across better

>>6574894
They said that person then turned out to be one of the funnest of the bunch, though.
Isn't that a good thing to hear about yourself?

>>6574403
yeah, my local comm fb group just made it a closed group to keep out the trolls? As long as you reply with interest and a photo of you wearing a coord, it's all good?

>>6574489
cats though!!! There must be cat hair everywhere! Do you just constantly use a lint roller to get it out of your jsks? Or just keep your cats out of your lolita wardrobe?

>>6575288
Got this for you.

>>6575303
Cats are so freaking cute and funny, but I can't even touch them without taking a shitton of allergy meds beforehand.
>forever jelly of cat ladies

>>6575288
Cats are the best. Even when they aren't allowed in the closet, hair gets on everything anyway. I would die without lint rollers. I get the five pack of mega rolls from Costco...

>>6575288
They're not really in my picture with me ; ; (I used to find the hair of the friend in my pic in my underwear and everything, until we had a falling out recently, oh well) I have two cats, they generally keep out of my room, though they're not banished. I have a lint roller, brush them when they let me, etc. I often find their hair and everything, but the best one was when I found a dead flea in my bra, I don't even....
>>6575316
I take meds daily! Dogs can give me flu-like symptoms, so I avoid them.

>>6575523
Aw I'm sorry that dogs fuck you up so badly :( I love mah dogs. Cats fucking destroy me. I still feed stray ones outside though, haha

Alright, about my community:
Everyone in my community is incredibly well-dressed and nice, and since there are so many girls, I never feel awkward like I need to make an effort to talk to EVERYONE (because everyone is fine just as they are in their smaller little groups of friends). However, I recently have started feeling uncomfortable in lolita. I'm fine walking around with friends in OTT gothic or dolly coords, but feel out of place when I myself am wearing the fashion. I think I just don't look pretty enough. A lot of the time I feel like I'm trying to be something I can't when I wear my dresses. I don't feel like I'm elegant enough on the inside. I don't know... life's been hard lately and I haven't been to a meetup in a while. The clothes just don't feel right on me at the moment.

Does anybody know anything about the Nashville comm? I'm about to move there, so I'm thinking about joining, but would rather not if it's just gonna be full of terrible people

>>6575552
Cheer up, Anon! Here, have a doggy.
Maybe if you feel your clothes are looking too elegant and that doesn't suit you, try some more casual coords? Look around for some inspiration pics and see if you'd be comfortable in styles like that? But it mostly sounds like a self-esteem thing right now. I bet once things in your life get a bit better, your confidence will return and you'll feel proud once again to wear your frills. Stay strong!

>>6575552
Both my cats are strays, so I'm glad you help those guys out, even if they kill you.
As for the way you feel, I also agree that it sounds like a self-esteem thing. There are days where I feel like I should sell everything, though they rarely happen now. I find wearing a lot of black helps, but that could just be me.

>>6575556
I live in Nashville, in fact. I went to a couple Nashville meet-ups back in 2008 and it was mostly HotTopic itas, weeaboo horror stories and drama. Don't know how it's faired since then. When it comes to con-lolitas it's about the same whem MTAC rolls around. Welcome to Tennessee, nonetheless!

>>6574456
>I was actually waiting on someone specific to come back to me with a bit more evidence the group wanted him gone

I've been working on it. People don't really want to commit to it, as much as they complain. I'm also not real sure how to approach certain people about the situation. A handful of girls are already pretty vocal (all of which you know), but the quieter ones are harder to get a consensus from. I feel a bit awkward PMing them and saying "hey! Let's ban BB, shall we?"

Some of the girls on my trainline have said that they agree with me, but I've got none of that in writing. We just discussed it on the way back from that meet with the ramen shop incident.

BB IS MY HUSBANDOOOOOO~

>>6575721
Cool, a Nashville anon. I'm not sure how many of us are here.

>>6575838
can anyone tell me why BB is called that? There must be a story behind this!

>>6575847
Bloomer Boy? He. Wears bloomers. As pants.

>>6575858
Anyone have pics of this dude?

>>6575892
see: >>6574322

>>6575892
http://18o16o.deviantart.com/gallery/
Knock yourself out.

>>6575895
>>6575905
Thank you, that was amusing.
I like how he only has one pair of socks.

Anyone got archives of dramu on BB?
Or even a short rundown on Maddy?

>>6575157
Of course! I'm thinking there might be people whos opinions of me haven't changed though...

>>6576082
If you're the loli I had in mind there is seriously no need to worry since you're a fantastic person and a great part of the comm and I'm sure everyone else there agrees.
Like I said before I feel like such a bitch for misjudging you! I was just quick to judge and I honestly still feel bad about it.
I'm sorry.

>>6575792
Aww shit. Well idk if I should make another post on the other community since it's been a while and maybe it's all blown over. I guess we leave it and pray no one invites him to meets, for the time being at least.

>>6575838
Quiet, before we start talking about you ITT lolololol

>>6575918
I'm not that dedicated but the last thing Madyy ever said to me:
>"Hhahahaha,a yeah i alienated everyone. How about the cunts attacking me were the ones doing that not me?
Also, i've been NOTHING but nice to every single one of you. And got hardly any niceness back in return. How about you fuck off until you know the actual story? Yeah. bye.
Im sorry, but you dont know any of the story. And i was only talking about CERTIAN people, like i stated?"

Most is a load of shit, I wish I was a horrible troll and was lying, but she is that mad.

>>6576245
Everyone was ridiculously nice to her. Every post she made, people sugar-coated the fuck out of their responses. Girl is deluded.

>>6576253
I DON'T EVEN KNOW WHY WE WERE SO NICE probably because we could sense the crazy. It was a dark time.

>>6575844
As far as I know of from lurking for about three years, less than five.

>tfw no mori-girl bff

>>6576278
I think the comm is just too nice in general. Same reason we can't get rid of BB. He hasn't quite crossed the line that everyone has in their heads as the banning point. Neither had she, until she blew up and spewed venom all over everyone who had been trying to help her out.

>>6570157
I'm thinking about joining the Melbourne community soon. I just moved from WA but I want to wait on my latest order and have some coords ready before I do

>>6576288
Melbourne comm is great; just mind the strippers and druggies.

>>6576286
But deep inside I'm so horrible. Why can't I have blocking powers like our queen?

>>6575721
>>6575721
Yeah, that's what the facebook group seemed like, but I didn't want to throw that out there. So are you a part of any comm now?

So tired... but here we go.

Our comm is fantastic. Technically, I guess, you could say there are two "comms," one being filled with girls who just have no idea what it is that they are doing and who seem to be so terrified and busy fighting imaginary lolita-burando-whores. However, the lead person of said ita group became pregnant, and to my knowledge the group has pretty much disbanded. Now, the actual comm is really wonderful. The girls are sweet and accepting, all of which are very diverse and come from all walks of life; some are in college, others working full time jobs such as nursing or hair styling or office work, others to my knowledge are simply stay at home wives. Every time meeting and being around them is a joy, I don't think I could have ever asked for such a blessing to be part of a better community. Beautiful fantastic girls, some of which I have become quite close to. They brighten my world and inspire me, not just in lolita, but in all areas of life.

So yes, our comm is amazing, I would firmly defend that it is the best, and I hope any girls reading this who are in it, that they know who they are and recognize what special and wonderful human beings they are. Love you guys!

>>6575905
It wasn't the dead rabbit that got me. It was the poetry underneath.
My interest in getting into period dress and period dress comms has sharply decreased.

>>6569495
She's too busy still stirring up drama in the comm she just left.

>>6576885
Oh look, Chicago mole-troll is back. Loves to start rumors and make vague accusations without proof.

>>6576891
See >>6571818 >>6571996

>>6576905
Sorry, making blunt comments in response to off-topic posts != "stirring up drama." Unless you have proof of something better, you're just falling into that "lolitas supposed to be lovelies" bullshit.

>>6576885
There hasn't been any drama in Chicago since I got blamed for everything.

>>6576937
What was your punishment? I thought it was fucked up she called you out like that

>>6574075
I was looking into going to a meetup, but then saw shitposting done by your group. (I'm guessing you were talking about your ex-member?)
rumours by one person don't scare me. its the shitposting that does.

>>6576948
Deets

>>6576948
I've only got a few more months to enjoy the thriving Chicago lolita communities because I really like it so I'm not going to yap about the past on /cgl/ anymore than I already have (I probably shouldn't have made that first post but I can't resist opening my mouth to defend something). You can message me on FB or whatever if you'd like.

>>6576967
* community singular

>>6575905
I managed to avoid his DA, but you piqued my interest; I just lost my shit so bad. I want to be even more creeped out than when he rubbed his face all over a friend's skirt, but I can't stop laughing.

>>6577013
bloomer boy? ok what is the drama on him?

>>6577049
You didn't read the thread? Goddamn. He's just the biggest aspie ever and takes photos of rabbit shit in his hand.

>>6574681
Eh doesn't really matter that it's obvious. Not like there's bitching amongst us or anything.
I don't really come on here much at all, I just end up lurking sometimes.
And we are indeed lucky! I think it helps being in a smaller city and hence a smaller com. When things like this get too big it starts to get iffy. I hope to learn more too.

>>6576967
Yeah, you shouldn't have brought it up. I don't actually know who you are because I missed whatever you were talking about (punishment sounds kinky) and now I'm very curious.

>>6576675
You too?

..It's just....weird.

How'd you like to be a part of this comm? I love the random Neanderthal in the middle.

>>6578660
Well... the Gloomy Bear apron is certainly a rare novelty item.

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