/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL

Hobos calling me a princess/lady/etc. Once had a drunk guy ask me if I was Alice- I was wearing gothic, had my hair up and looked nothing like Alice, I didn't even have any bows. IDEK.

Just the usual stuff really, I've been pretty lucky for how frequently I wear it.

>>6527363
Hobos are great. I walked by a homeless man in the city and he said something to the effect of "Now that's a dress? Why don't more girls dress nice?"
I felt obligated to give him a few dollars.

>>6527351
I get hit on the most when I'm in lolita for some reason.I was walking down the street with my boyfriend and a black guy
said Now that's a fine lady.
I also had a guy on a skateboard that said
WOAH YOU ARE LIKE SOOOO UNIQUE

It's been fun.

>>6527420
hahaha, the black guy story.

>>6527363
>>6527375
hobos have called my boyfriend cinderella. he looks like a drug dealing punk, though. kids ask him if he's selling weed all the time...

>>6527420
That doesn't sound like being hit on. Just sounds like a compliment...? And the skateboarder was making fun of you.

>>6527420
>I get hit on the most when I'm in lolita for some reason
lol you wish.

A lot of old ladies telling me I look like a doll, and fawning over specific items.

My mom loves lolita and always insists on taking photos of me even if she's seen me in that specific coord five times. Its really nice, she even encourages me to wear lolita on Christmas.

>>6527441
That time wasn't getting hit on. I dont think I'd get hit on with my boy friend around.

Somehow I didnt read it like that. It was early in the morning and I was in a part of the city where theres lots of weirdos. meh doesnt bother me either way. I thought it was funny considering I had gotten no sleep that night.

>>6527448
Why would I wish that? I'm taken and don't like attention from other men at all.

>>6527434
I think they mean the band Cinderella, not the princess.

I've actually gotten more "SHIT GIRL YOU GOT SOME SERIOUS SWAG" than I've gotten "you look like a doll!"

I approve.

>lolitas all claiming everyone in public loves their dresses and fawns over them
>not admitting that they just get laughed at

Keep up the dream.

>>6527476
This what I mean when the majority of public looks down on this behavior.

are you

>bo peep
>in a play
>alice
>strawberry shortcake

/thread

>>6527489
Don't forget

>A princess
>A fairy

>>6527476
Not everyone who hates something feels the need to go out of their way to tell everyone about it.

>>6527489
you forgot
>in a band

>>6527494
Generally speaking it looks silly to mainstream public

I wear classic, so people say I look very Victorian. If I wear gothic people say I look very gothic. Most irritating reaction is when people whisper "it's a cosplayer" out loud to their friends. One time a weird old geezer came up to me when I was in the sub and started blabbering about how he used to be in the fashion industry and...started blabbering stuff irrelevant to lolita.

>>6527501
it's really cute you think people actually care about your opinion

>>6527505

>it's so irritating when people think I'm cosplaying just because I'm wearing a ridiculous fashion they've probably never seen before!

>>6527513
Oh shit the smartest comment I have seen all day

>>6527516
Why can you not accept things for what they are?

>>6527505
I get this. Most people think I'm just some sort of goth. They act like they normally do to goths.
If I'm wearing sweet, things get a bit less... sweet?

>>6527351
I've gotten good reactions, no reactions, and bad reactions. I had an older gentleman come up to me last week and compliment me and tell me I looked like a forest spirit (was wearing brown/ivory with fawn accessories) which was really sweet, but in the same area I had two people laughing and pointing at me. I am always in a great mood when I'm out and dressed, so people being negative never bothers me however!

You're wearing a fashion that looks really weird and wild to the average person out there. You have to realize that you're going to get some bad attention from it and just shrug it off. You shouldn't ever let other people's opinions influence you doing what you want to do/wear. Best of luck anon!

>>6527505
Best pastime at cons is to compliment lolis "costumes" or ask what they're cosplaying from

>>6527525
You have a terrific personality and I wish more lolitas would follow the same path as you instead of nit picking.

You have my seal of approval.

>>6527537
Libra's seal of approval, so ~*prestigious*~

>>6527537

Did you bump your head or something? Got beat up? Fell off a two story building? Because that's not what you're saying in other threads.

I get lots of little girls and old ladies that compliment me, and the occasional college guy who thinks it's cute to tell me that it's not halloween anymore. every once in a while someone recognizes it as lolita and gets really excited haha, i'm actually surprised at how many more compliments I get compared to the few snarky comments.

>>6527539
I know right?

>>6527541
I know exactly what I said but people like that anon gives me a bit of hope for lolitas. Having a very positive attitude and not worrying about what others think. Just doing what you love .

>>6527551
Why have't more people complained about this shitposter yet?

>>6527551

>>6523068 >>6523078 >>6523082 >>6523086 >>6523112 >>6523119 >>6523174

>>6527557
Have you just been waiting to post those?

>>6527551

On one hand I might get your point. On the other hand it's not so much the content of your posts as it's just a fucking wall I have to scroll past every time.

Why am I even being reasonable? Fuck. I'm getting soft.

>>6527557
Ha, you're pretty sharp.
I like it.
Now fucking bad that asshole.

I'm young so people don't get that weird "oh god creepy 30 year old womanchild fetishist" vibe from me.

My friend and I were doing our first little outing "alone"(without the other comm girls) .There was this one dude with this heavy duty telescope down on the open-air mall, letting people look at Jupiter's moons and cool shit. He asked us if we were cosplaying or just having fun for the holidays, etc. Another guy told us we should compete in contests at cons and such. Cool old trendy ladies who wanted pictures of us/with us. Went into the Lush store and literally every employee complimented us. And then we went to this tea house, and our waiter was literally just awestruck, and it was the cutest thing. To me it means the most when I get sincerely complimented by guys. Not cat calls, not a "DANG YOU FINE PRINCESS" , but a genuine, "You ladies look stunning and it's so cool that you just dress like that just because you want to!"

Lolita is my self-esteem booster. Even when people don't approach you, they usually flash you a smile, and it just renews your faith in humanity.

>>6527351
I've had some good, some bad.

I had an older lady come up and tell me I looked like a gothic Snow white. I liked that one the best.

Gas station attendent left his post to come out and laugh at me. That was pretty odd.

>>6527557
Ha, you're pretty sharp.
I like it.
Now fucking ban that asshole.

>>6527585
That's great kid, but people don't act as nice when you're visibly in your mid twenties. Better adjust when the aging train hits you.

>>6527476
>not posting the followup comments where everyone whiteknights her
>and the other lolita post where, once again, most comments whiteknight/say she looks cute

99% have been good/positive comments which is really surprising since I live in the midwest. I have gotten the "strawberry shortcake/are you in a play" thing but I can't expect everyone to be a japanophile and know about an extremely niche fashion. If I looked older I would probably get more harsh comments, but I am blessed with asian never-aging genes so I will look 16 forever~
the only bad comment I got was from a man that asked a friend and I if we were going to disneyworld, and I enthusiastically said yes, which surprised him so much he just said "oh, ok" and scurried off. No propositions for sex yet, anyway!

>>6527501
What's you're point?

>>6527501
What's your point?

I think my favorite comment was when I was wearing something pretty outlandish on my campus because we were leaving for a con right after - some black guy said something to me while I was walking to the student center, but I had my headphones in, so I took them out because he seemed to really want me to hear what he was saying, and he repeated it: "girl, that outfit is TIGHT!!"

Honestly, I think in the 6 or so years I've worn lolita, I've only heard maybe 2 negative comments (I'm sure more have been said that I didn't catch, but eh).
I don't particularly care, dressing up is fun. The positive comments make my day, and I ignore the negative ones.

I primarily wear classic lolita, because I don't think sweet suits my features or height at all. I've been told that I look like a doll by a lot of sweet old lady types. There are a number of younger girls at my college who've complimented the way that I dress, too, which had me excited because not all of them were uncouth weebs flippin' their shit to see one of dem KAWAII ANIMU GIRLS in real life. Every time I go out in lolita, I try to remember that I'm probably the only representation of this weird niche fashion with a funny name that anyone in my town is going to see, so I have to really go for the total package. Wearing lolita puts me in an excellent mood, too, so it has to be a weird day for a scornful reaction from a member of the general public to put me off. I feel that people who think wearing an alternative fashion is 'disgusting' must be really self-conscious and shallow; their closed-minded state is downright pitiable.

I went to a meetup at a trampoline place (wall to wall trampolines) filled with kids for a party and there was a kid there who went up to me and said something like "I want to thank all the princesses for coming here today". The parents there thought we were in a play. We also got to play dodgeball against some kids later and fall on our frilly butts. /d'awww

>>6527750
>had me excited because not all of them were uncouth weebs flippin' their shit to see one of dem KAWAII ANIMU GIRLS in real life

So you think you're kawaii? You seriously think you're cute enough to be considered a real-life kawaii animu girl?

>>6527775

ohboyherewego.jpg

>>6527775
what's wrong with that?

>>6527496
and
>going to a costume party

>>6527812
That's..usually the case.

I can skip around in whatever outrageous/Japanese/non-mainstream fashion I desire and no one will bat an eyelid.

When I wear my natural hair in high pigtails and wear completely regular clothes, however, suddenly I'm a porn star, a slut, a wannabe Juliet, you name it. All the giggles, all the pointing and whispering. This town is dildos.

>>6527775
calm your tits.
kawaii is subjective. while I myself would not often consider classic lolita stylings deserving of 'kawaii', the weebs to which I am referring coo the word at me whenever I pass them in the halls. it's just because they watch shit like Rozen Maiden where a poofy skirt is visual code for some form of moe.

I've gotten the classic good comments and sometimes bad comments. The good are more frequent. Well, I've caught good ones more than bad ones. The bad ones don't bother me as they're strangers and what the fuck do I care.

However, there's always a small panic at the back of my head that someday an idiot will come up to me and grab something off me or touch me in any way which he thinks is funny.
It'll more likely never happen, but it doesn't stop me from worrying about it.

Most negative: Some black chick came up to me saying she'd seen me dressed up before, that I dress too "promiscuously" and I should be more careful since I was "asking for it"
Most positive: Getting complimented by a group of workers at Nordstroms. I expected people there would give me the most bad looks or something, but I got the opposite!
Weirdest: A bunch of (probably drunk) guys screaming "FASHUN. FAAAAASHUN." as they drove by.

The usual is compliments, asking about the style, or asking/catcalling that it's a costume. The positive outweighs the negative though, and it's interesting what kind of people come up to you and what you hear sometimes.

Usually I get stares but when people say something it's mostly kids hanging out saying things like "cool dress" or "I like your outfit." One time some white girl in Target said "You look stupid. You aren't five anymore. You're the reason why there are so many pedophiles. They can't tell the difference between a girl and a woman!" That upset me but I got over it.

People can stare at you and think to themselves what a weirdo you are, but anyone who feels the need to let you know to your face has insecurities on their own. Don't let them get you down ladies and gents!

The only comments I've ever actually heard have been pretty positive. Usually HEY YOU LOOK CUTE. (Also, 'awh you're so cute you look like an oompa loompa!!' ...I still have yet to fully understand this one.)
I'm sure I've seen people try to giggle about me to friends before, but it's never been in my face so I really don't care.
People gonna hate, people not gonna understand. It's all good. Doesn't matter.
I had a guy from the Red Cross flirt with me when in Lolita. (I think he was actually collecting donations- never mentioned anything about the company or donations the entire conversation and he kept commenting on how cute I was. I eventually excused myself because I had to catch a bus. He was kind of sweet?)

>>6527871
Staring doesn't always translate to "WTF is that?" but can just as well be "j'adore". In my head I always think about whether I should walk up to that lolita I spotted and chat a little, maybe ask for a picture but ultimately I always chicken out, walking past while staring like an idiot.

>>6527887
Idk about where you live, but around here "you look like an oompa loompa" is an insult. It's usually used about people who look orange due to fake tan, though.

Pic related, I find it hard to take it as an compliment if someone tells me I look like one of those.

>>6527928
Well, the oopma loompa comment (which has...happened a lot?) is always accompanied by OH YOU'RE SO CUTE!! I'm always wearing a purple striped dress too. And I'm paler than hell. Maybe I'm short? maybe they forget what colors oompa loompas are?
One of my mom's best friends even said it. It's a confusing situation.

>>6527941
Maybe it's the Burton version? They're still tan, but not orange, at least.

>>6527949
Beats me! They seem enthusiastic, at least. When my mother's friend asked me that I gave her a horrified look and she started apologizing like crazy. They don't mean it badly- it's just the word that tumbles out of their mouths, I think.

Also gotten the basics of Alice, Strawberry Shortcake (or friends of), etc. Never had a negative experience with people trying to talk to me.
Unless you could the guy who ran by me and yelled for me to check myself. IDK if it was bad or what, though. I was mostly confused.

I actually had someone roll down their window and scream "IT'S NOT HALLOWEEN" as they drove by. I just felt weirdly embarrassed *for* them--I had no idea people did that outside of teen movies.

On a better note, I once was lost in a train station and running around in lolita trying to figure out where I was, when this guy slowly approached me. I could tell he was completely stoned and he just stared at me before saying, "I, like, have to tell you something. Respectfully. You are the most fucking gorgeous woman here." And then he sauntered off. It was weirdly nice.

My favorite reaction is when someone knows what I'm wearing and is almost as excited about it as I am.

I get laughed at *a lot*. A lot of teenage girls do that look-you-up-and-down-roll-their-eyes-laugh-maniacally-as-though-holy-shit-this-is-the-funniest-thing-I've-ever-seen.
I'm *incredibly* confrontational when people behave like that, so typically I call them out and they usually scurry away.

I get a relatively decent combination of compliments and nastiness from people. I've got a really, really quick temper, so those who are mean usually get a tongue-lashing or worse. I embarrass myself by being so quick to rage, but I can't really help it. Usually though, there's somebody with me to keep from leaping upon people and biting them, so that's okay.
The people who are nice will have all their questions answered patiently and their smiles returned.

I've had a few more physical encounters too, but for the most part, the nice reactions outweigh the bad ones.

Actually, I have never had anyone say anything to me. Never have I noticed anyone snigger or point.
My city is pretty great, no one really gives a shit how you dress.

>>6527991
What kind of things do you tell when people are rude to you? I get bothered a lot by teenage girls when in lolita, and I would really love to say something back to make them feel embarrased but I'm way to shy and can't think of something good to say. But I always feel frustrated and embarrased when I just let those stupid skanks walk over me.

I know everyone says you have to ignore the mean things, but I'm not walking around in lolita just so people can mock me for their entertainment.. Especially when people try to take photo's of me without asking.
A few months ago I was shopping with my bf while wearing lolita, and we had lunch somewhere, and there was a group of girls with bleached hair, trashy coats and uggs that kept taking photo's of me and laughed. I really wish I could say anything against them because it's actually quite scary that people just take pictures and god knows where they'll end. I began cursing to myself about them out of frustration, and then an older couple came to our table saying that they recognized lolita fashion and they found me very brave for wearing it. I actually felt really bad for cursing and being so bitchy while that couple must have seen it, they were so sweet.

>>6528005
It always absolutely tickles me when older people know about the fashion, but aren't a part of the communties themselves. I had a middle aged lady come up to a girl in my comm and I once and go OH ARE YOU DRESSED IN LOLITA? LIKE, THE HARAJUKU FASHION? I SAW A DOCUMENTARY ON THAT LAST WEEK!!
It was almost precious how excited she was. She looked like a perfectly normal middle aged suburban house wife and everything.

>>6528011
My god, though, I've had that sometimes but it's like, "OH I KNOW THE CELEBRITY THAT WEARS THAT, KATY PERRY? THE HARAJUKU GIRLS" "You mean.... Gwen Stefani...?" "YES, IT'S HARAJUKU FASHION RIGHT."

>>6528005

The best thing you can do is don't let them know that it bothers you. Shrug with a smile and move on.

>>6528011
I had a similar encounter.
I was walking to the train station and on the way, this middle-aged woman scurries after me and gently taps my arm to get my attention. She was hispanic as she was speaking to me in Spanglish and she first asks me for a picture for her daughter, I guess maybe her daughter wasn't with her? I dunno.
Anyways, I agree and after she takes the picture, she asks me--as if to make sure--if I was wearing Lolita.
When I answer yes, her expression brightened, she seemed so excited. It was so charming.
Though, I do wonder if her daughter is a Lolita... Must be.

>>6528005

Typically, I get in people's faces when they're mean, but if you're shy and there's a lot of them, that might not work for you. If they are laughing your face, walk right up to them and ask what's so funny, or just look at them blankly. This works best if there are only a few people, but it often makes them feel stupid and unsure of themselves.

If they're taking photos, go over and say “$20 please.” If people don't want to ask me politely for photos, they can either pay or GTFO. If they still refuse to stop and it's indoors, inform a member of staff. If it's outdoors, then you can start taking photos of them, I've used that one very effectively several times. A bunch of girls in Topshop realized that a few photos of a weirdly dressed girl wasn't worth me getting a bunch of photos of them. I actually got their names via people I knew and the next time I encountered them, called them all by their names and informed them that if they'd like to continue, I'd be very happy to take them to court for harrassment. That scared the fuckers off and two of them even apologised to me when they saw me again.

I find ignoring people inneffective mostly because I get so damn angry, but ignoring them might work best in many situations. There are occasions I've ended up in fights that could've been avoided if I hadn't been so childish and gotten angry.

If there are other people in the immediate vicinity, I'd always try to resolve things peacefully. If not, then I'm more likely to go to town.

Had some drunk Scottish guys tell me I was a fire hazard on the Tube, but that wasn't the funniest one. This one time at an Oxloli meet, we were all walking down Cornmarket (basically the unofficial high street of Oxford) and we passed this biggish group of chavs. They stared at us for ages, then eventually one of them shouted HAHA GINGER. Like... really? A bunch of girls dressed like Victorian dolls and princesses walk past and you shout at the ginger one?

I've never really had anything unpleasant happen. Probably the weirdest thing is that black gangster types hit on me constantly when I'm in loli.

>>6528022
SAME. I get the most compliments from them as well. And i live in whitebread redneck farm country

>>6528021
Trying to be a smartass or rude to people who insult you in lolita doesn't work. All you'd come off as is the crazy bitchy girl dressed up like a doll. You're not going to teach them a lesson, since they can't take you seriously to begin with.

The worst thing anyone ever said to me when I wore Lolita to school was "Look it's Mary Poppins". If I was in a bad mood I would have turned clapping and said "wow haven't heard that before!", but I don't believe in confronting people...

The other reactions are "oh wow that's so cute!" . One day some lady said "you are so different and unique! you should really wear animal ears." So I said "like a bunny?" and she said "yeah but no a white one. You're more like a green bunny"..wat..

And then the last time I wore Lolita to school before I graduated someone told me I looked really nice and asked if I was a music major because my dress had music notes on it. I thought it was nice, but does my clothes really have to define who I am like that?

I've gotten a lot of stares, but that's about the worst of it. I was at this convention-related lock-in sort of event at one of those places where there's an arcade, mini golf, skating, go karts, etc. I was a member of staff and helping with registration so I had to get there early when all the normal people were still present or leaving. I was wearing an OTT coord with a pink and lavender blended wig. A black lady grabbed my arm and was like, "ARE YOU A CLOWN!?" It was funny but that was about the worst of it that I've received.

Most people that have actually said anything (other than staring) have been positive and generally interested. But then again, I don't wear Lolita out very much at all unless it's a meetup or convention. If it was more of a common thing for me, I'd probably have more reaction stories. I have mostly sweet AP prints, and it's not something I feel comfortable wearing going out shopping or errand running by myself. I'm trying to add more simple and classic pieces (especially skirts) so that I can wear it more often.

>>6528021
>>6528003
>>6527991
I do not recommend confronting people at all. You get what you put out there so to speak...if you show people you are happy, smiling, and laughing with your friends or just have a smile on your face by yourself it is exactly the opposite of what they want. They want you to get mad...it means they have successfully affected your day in a negative way. Do not let anyone get to you like that. You are doing something you love, nothing can take that away from you. When they see you enjoying yourself despite their actions they know they can't bother you. Getting mad means they win. Ignore them and keep smiling. You will eventually get to a point where you won't even notice it. This coming from someone who has been going out alone in public in lolita for almost two years about twice to three times a week.

>>6528060
Average people don't know the fashion...Average people sometimes wear things they like (i had several music teachers who wore musical items, or my vet wears dog things...) of course they are going to try and make sense of it in the only way they are familiar with. That comment is a little juvenile... they were simply trying to understand better, don't shut them out just because they don't understand a niche fashion they have probably never seen before.

>>6528083
> Your comment is a little juvenile.

Stupid phone.

The only comments that really resonate with me are the positive comments I’ve received. Sure, there have been times I’ve had negative comments… I just can’t recall what they said or did. So it couldn’t have been that important.

I just remember my favorite praise coming from people when I went to a Disney resort. One of the employee’s told my male friend “I see you brought your princess with you today”. And a random person stopped me on my way to a Tea Room to comment on how fabulous I look and wanted to know about the fashion.

I went to the Zelda orchestra thing in nyc and there was one dressed to the 9's sticking out like a sore thumb. Being that my friends and I are aware of the culture we pointed and laughed quietly. If you want to stand by yourself in bright, flashy clothing at an event that doesn't warrant it, you deserve to be laughed at.

>>6528118

>>6528118
Oh my god, that might have been me. People thought I was cosplaying Agatha. Dunno how, but still. I had a blast.
If you pointed and laughed, you were completely off my radar; well done.

When I wear classic or toned-down sweet, little old ladies often come up to me and fuss over my clothes. It's really cute, I just don't like it when they start touching me, lifting up my skirt and stuff. That's pretty rude. Still, they mean well.
However when I'm wearing anything remotely gothy (i.e. black) people avoid me like the plague. Like, they stop and stare but avoid my gaze when I look back, try very hard not to bump into me, crazy stuff. I have no idea why since my city is pretty diverse and there's lots of goths around. I'm not even that dressed up most of the time.

I'm sure there have been negative comments but I never really hear them. The only negative reaction I've personally experienced was more indirect; I was wearing very toned-down lolita (more otome-ish, really) but I don't think the girl realized it. She was raving about how 'gothic lolitas' were all trying to turn men into pedophiles and stuff like that. She was a friend-of-a-friend and while I tried to counter-argue, it didn't really work. I later found out she was an ignorant, opinionated bitch anyway so her comments didn't hurt as much. Some people just hate everything different.

>>6527887
>I'm sure I've seen people try to giggle about me to friends before, but it's never been in my face so I really don't care.
>People gonna hate, people not gonna understand. It's all good. Doesn't matter.
Seriously. It literally doesn't matter what you're wearing, at one point in their lives people are going to titter behind their hands at you for no reason. I mean that, NO reason. There are going to be days they WILL have a reason, but I'm talking about having none. Humans are weird and stupid.

People watching on the subway for 10+ years will teach you a few (boring, predictable) things

>>6528078
> They want you to get mad

They don't want that, though. They want you to take it. They expect you to get mad internally, but look how shocked motherfuckers get when someone actually responds. I think a lot of people just want to feel superior and EXPECT to get away with it

>>6528060
I actually don't get that. Like prints with cute things or cakes are pretty universal, but why wear a music themed dress if you're not that interested in music..?

I'm in art school and wish to the heavens I could afford a JetJ painting dress...

>>6528175
It's not that you should wear a print that associates to your school/job though. If you're interested in music, doesn't mean that you necessarily are in that as a job. Music is pretty universal too. A lot of people that enjoy and are interested in music are not following it as a school course or a job.

>>6528175
Music notes and what not are generally aesthetically pleasing. It would be the same reason why people would get dresses with paintings on them, but not know anything about the painting itself, or even be interested in art.

I haven't worn lolita in my home town area at all, but last time I went to NYC in sweet I did get a ton of the usual reactions. A police officer asked me if I was Strawberry Shortcake, I saw some old people taking a picture of me from their bus. When I was in the Met in the modern art section, some older teens were snickering and side snapping photos of me. Honestly I really didn't care (though my friend got upset and was trying to block them from seeing me). If they wanted a picture to post online and make fun of me with, they should have just asked me for a photo. It's odd because I'm usually super self conscious, hate drawing attention to myself, and worry about what others think of me, but when I wear lolita, I have this really big confidence boost.

I think the nicest reactions I'd had were when I went in the Sanrio store in Times Square. All the little girls loved my coord and the adults were complimenting it too. Some people were asking what I was wearing/where I bought it/etc. Of course they were all touching and feeling my dress, wig, and accessories, but they weren't being rude and most of them asked first. Also got some nice reactions when I was in Bubba Gump's from people passing the table and also the waiter was a great sport too.

I've honestly never gotten a rude comment wearing lolita (I'm a moderately fancy classic/mild gothic lolita, for reference). Of course people laugh at me and talk about me with their friends, but nobody actually says anything to my face, so I'm totally fine with it. Mothers of small children seem to love me, but their kids not so much. I have no idea why. Teenage girls seem to like my style, as well, even the ones you wouldn't expect (I have no doubt some of them are just making fun of me, but a lot of them seem really sincere).
My best loli-friend seems to get much more extreme comments than I do. Our styles are very similar, but I don't know, for some reason, things always end up looking much... grander on her. Like we have worn identical outfits with near-identical makeup and hair and she will still end up looking WAY more impressive than me, I think because of her general facial structure (I have a small, childlike face and she looks more... angular, I guess is the word for it. Extremely beautiful face shape imo, anyway). She gets more horrible comments from people on the street, but she also gets a lot more people going "HOLY SHIT GIRL YOU ARE FUCKING FABULOUS", and whenever we're out together, it's always her people want to take pictures of. She also gets a lot more comments from men, both positive and negative. I find it really interesting what different reactions we get even though our styles are so similar.

>>6527868
If a man can't tell the difference between a girl and a woman without needing clothes as a reference, then he really shouldn't be allowed in public.. Now should he? Also.. I hope you kicked her in the twat.

>>6528158
And I'm sure a silly woman dressed like a doll in public yelling at them going "SAY THAT TO MY FACE MOTHERFUCKERS YOU WANNA START SHIT?" is really going to make them NOT laugh even harder at you.

I only ever see positive/neutral reactions, but I'm wildly unobservant so the things I notice are only the things that are spoken directly to me. Positive ranges anywhere from a simple "I like your skirt" to a gushing "you look so beautiful, like a princess!" Neutral reactions are the normal "are you in a play or something?" I've never experienced direct harassment or insults, which is really pretty cool because I wear lolita or otome a couple times a week.

>>6528011
Oh god, I was once at the bank with my friend, and as we were leaving, a middle-aged guy in a suit came up to us and said something like "Hey, you girls look really cool, is that loli-style or something?"
It was so awesome and unexpected, that guy was probably my favourite complimenter ever. Him and this old punk dude (like 60+) who told my friend and I that we were wonderful and we should never let the world get us down.

Wore some of the stuff I got from Christmas out on New Years ago and had a blue wig on and a "new years" crown. Went out to eat dinner with my friend and the waitress kept touching my wig and pulling on the bows on my straps like I was on display or something.... Told her to stop and she proceeded to yank one of my bobby pins out while letting me know how "festive" I looked. It hurt so bad. Complained about her and got free food, though so it wasn't a terrible night.

I often forget about/ignore reactions from people, good or bad. This happened, though.
>Sitting at café
>Scummy-looking white girls looking at me and laughing a bit, two of them taking pictures with their phones
>I just ignore it and resolve to later go up to some staff about a group of girls snapping photos of me without my permission
>One of them suddenly comes up to me and says something, looking me up and down and folding her arms
>I had my headphones on, so I didn't hear a shit of what she said
>Take them off
>Hear "I think you should know Halloween is over and you aren't a little girl."
>Give her my blankest expression ever, sip my coffee and make eye contact
>Say "There's cum on your face."
>She crumbles, then walks back to sit with her friends looking sad
>They all stop laughing, but shoot me dirty looks until they leave
I ain't even sorry, man.

The first time I wore Lolita out, I had a drunk guy follow me for two blocks yelling "yo, Nicki Minaj!". It was kind of funny, actually, but at the time it was mostly unnerving just because it was like 10 PM and I was alone.

>>6528344
... Was there actually cum or something resembling it on her face? Because otherwise that's kind of a lame comeback.

Out with a friend for a holiday photoshoot. We were at city hall and it was fairly late in the day, so I think a lot of the people we were seeing were homeless. There was a group of two guys, a girl, and a dog nearby as we were taking pictures on the sculptures.

They came up to us and the girl kept telling us how pretty we looked. One of the guys was like, "Hey, do you like my overalls?" It was very odd. Funny, but odd and we didn't stay long. I still can't decide if they were all seriously this way, or were on drugs, since they looked so out of it.

Usually people tell me I look pretty, like a princess, etc. I sew my own skirts and dresses so people tend to focus on the "wow, you made this?!" aspect. The one coord I wore at the holidays was very dolly kei so people thought I looked like Russian doll. My dad thought it was Norwegian traditional clothing. No dad, it's just classic lolita.

>>6528366
I don't think she'd be that upset over it unless she realized there was.

>>6527846
>shit like Rozen Maiden
>shit
Those two cannot be used in the same sentence unless it's "I didn't want to stop mid-episode of Rozen Maiden, but I had to because I needed to take a shit."

>>6528078
>let them bitch at you
>just take it and eventually it won't hurt your feelings anymore
What shitastic advice is this?
Always stand up for yourself, no matter what your wearing. Ghetto rats that wear the tackiest neon shit colored clothes would not hesistate to snatch the curl out of your hair if you said their brand new air jordans were bobos.
If someone is being aggressive and rude to you, you have the right to do the same.

>>6528158
This. The only reason they harass you is because they think you won't do shit about it. The same reason why bullies do what they do.

No one ever says anything to me when I'm in lolita because I have permanent, incurable bitchface.

>that feel when so lonely

>>6528118
let me guess, you went in jeans and a tshirt right? disgusting plebian. i feel sorry for you, and your lack of class.

>>6528577
That.
And when I feel there is someone brave enough to come up and ruin my day, I give them the coldest most annoyed look. I think I actually really scared a few.
On the other hand, having a natural bitch face makes sometimes staff at any kind of shop behave a bit rudely since they anticipate me making a scene. But, I am actually really polite.

>>6528577
>>6528743

>>6527471
Man, I hope I get comments like this when I try it out.

>>6527454
I wish my mom were supportive. I'm too poor to afford lolita. Good lolita anyways.

It sounds to me that people who get good reactions look adorable in lolita, and look like they know what they're doing, whereas if you're a hot mess with faux confidence in your shitty half arsed outfit, you're more likely to cop abuse.

>be almost six feet and have a darker skin tone
>go out in lolita
>someone walks up to me, I can tell what they are going to say just by how they look now.

>Black dude:
dang girl, do you play basketball?
>Black chick
aww, gurl, you look cute, like a little doll, can I get a picture? I just can't get over how cute you look!

>White chick
Ugh, it isn't halloween.
>White guy
(I haven't been approached by many actually, the only ones that approached me were actually anime fans,
or really drunk dudes saying stuff like "yo babe, howabout you lick my lollipop?"

>White Middleschoolers/highschoolers (regardless of gender)

"Are you a maaaaaaaann!? (runs back to friends giggling)
I get this whether I'm in a lolita meetup, or on my own. they always pull me out of the crowd. because I'm the fucking tallest.

Its been a couple of years now. I got it down to a science. anyone else deal with this?

>>6528827
>darker skin tone
Just say you are black

>>6528830
I was thinking about it. medium skin tone more like. yeah. there we go.

I've gotten very mixed reactions. Lots of people think it's adorable, when I'm wearing sweet (not OTT or something, I only wear more subdued AP) lots of old ladies and adult women, and even some younger people, tell me I look cute and like a doll. People tend to leave me alone when I'm in gothic, I guess it's not as attention grabbing. I usually get a few whispers or snickers from young people, few actually dare go up and say it to my face though.
I've noticed that I always get twice as much attention if I'm carrying a parasol or a bigger hair accessory though, no matter what style I'm in. Old ladies love to look at my Btssb parasol, maybe it reminds them of when they were young.

>>6528830
She could be indian, south Asian, native American etc. Not just black

>>6528145
They think you may be a satan.

>>6528281
Sarcasm is better. Or comment on their own clothes. Like if they're wearing ugg boots, tell them they're going around dressed like farmhands. Or if it's in Australia, just call her a bogan cunt.

>>6528827
Black guys are almost always more chill with unusual clothes, I've noticed. I was wearing gothic today and a black guy came up to me in the subway and told me "damn girl, I just gotta say, that's a rad outfit you got"

>>6528841
Native american.
I get at least one "ARE YOU A MAN" comments a day when I go out in lolita. It's really killing my confidence.
"I guess I do have a man face"
"Maybe its because my heritage?"
"maybe its because I'm tall.."
"Maybe its because I'm flat chested"
"Dear lord I'm ugly why do I even try"

sage for feels

I was out wearing aristo once with a friend in SC, and we got asked if we were going to a rave.

I don't what kind of raves they're attening if they wouldn't be sweating to death in a petticoat and blouse in three minutes.

>>6528848
>put it in the name feild


>I was out wearing aristo once with a friend in SC, and we got asked if we were going to a rave.
what the fuck kind of logic is that

>>6528848
Because teenagers.

>>6528850
Old school raves. Like St. Vitus, Tarantella, 16th century stuff.

>>6528848
it's okay anon, I get that a lot too. 6 foot flat-chested white girl with unattractive face and unnaturally big jawline here ;_;

>>6528848
Do you get man comments outside of lolita? Because if it's only when you're wearing it, it might be that you're just not wearing enough/the right kind of makeup to go with the outfit, because oftentimes lolita is more elaborate, you have to paint your face to match.

>>6528850
Oh, also on that day we got masturbated to by the SF Japantown public masturbator.

>>6528848
I don't know if it makes you feel any better but I have a friend who is a professional dancer (no, a real one) and a model. She also was the lead dancer in a Vegas review for a while. Every time she gets dolled up and gorgeous people think that she is a drag queen.

Apparently there is a point where people think the hyper feminine plus tall equals man. She has just started taking it as a compliment. After all, drag queens are awesome.

>>6528846
I think it's more because the majority of black dudes understand that a compliment is more likely to get a conversation going than rudeness, unlike the majority of white boys who remain 8 years old until the age of approximately 37

>>6528878
what's weird was that this guy wasn't even looking for a conversation, in that case I would have understood it, he just came up to me, said he liked my outfit, I smiled and said thanks, and he waved and walked away.

>>6528878
Please refrain from comments about a so called racial majority from whom 99.999% of people you have never met.

>>6528406
>>6528158
Sorry, but in my experience if you show it doesn't affect in you any way, it puts them off guard. If you're going to criticize them and get in their face or start making fun of them, you are no better than them. I've never felt like ignoring them or not getting upset is me backing down or losing face. Now if someone came up and literally was being physical, I'm going to do something. But it's never escalated to that in my experience. I just don't let people like that have any kind of effect on me, they can't bring me down! Why would I get mad or confrontational at people who cannot experience seeing something different with anything other than mockery? It doesn't make any sense to me to get upset or talk to them (because it's not going to change their behavior or their opinion, so it's a waste of energy). Now I would agree with something more along the lines of confronting them with a completely positive attitude to catch them off guard. Compliment them on their clothing (their making fun of the way you dress, how you could possibly like something their wearing, right? Really confuses them) or what have you. I'm old, I don't have time to waste on yelling at people laughing at me behind my back, haha. I just don't see the point in being aggressive whenever someone has an adverse reaction. You aren't going to make yourself look any better to them, and why do you care about their opinion anyway?

>>6529114
>they're

woops

>>6528021
It works in your accent sure, but if I say 'oi what are you looking at?', it just gets worse.

You much just give off a totally different aura, I'm an adult now and I've been in a lot of scuffles through the years but each time a group of thirteen year olds start mocking me in the street it's like i'm ten again. No amount of me shouting back at them helps. I guess I'm too short and derpy looking.

Head down, move on, try not to cry.

>>6527487
nobody gives a shit
it's 2013, who lets other people dictate their lives?

>>6529337

Er.... we still live in a functioning society, last time I checked. We do, just that the people happen to be fragmented in a lot more groups than before.

>>6528005
Smile at them gently, wave, idk, something elegant and not disrespectful. I guess it was Audrey Hepburn who said that being polite is the best way to react to something rude.
I'm shy too, and I wish I could call people out like >>6527991 does, but I just can't. So that's what I do to make people realize I know that they laughing and pointing at me, but I just don't care about what they think.
Once I was at a cafe and this guy started laughing at me, then I just smiled to him and waved. He looked very embarrased. I guess he realized he was being unnecessarily rude.

>>6528875
Maybe she's used to stage makeup? I used to dance in high school and we had to use really heavy makeup on stage to either accentuate features, or so that the audience can see a few details or the likes.

best: went out with my local comm at our usual hangout, a couple walks in, fawns over us for a good 10-15 minutes, guy ends up buying our table a bottle of champagne.

worst: went to a museum with my friend on a Sunday afternoon for a casual photoshoot (half taking pictures, half looking at the artwork there), and a lady says under her breath "did you both lose your playground?" and i speak loudly and ask her what she just said and she just sheepishly looked away. a security guard came over to me to ask if i was ok, and the woman looked like she was about to soil her pants.

>>6529114
>>6529114
>why do I care?
Because letting someone get away with being disrespectful to you doesn't fly with me. If someone is snickering as me, I'm going to give them the bitch eyes. If someone says something to me, I'm going to say something back.
Letting them walk over you does not get better in my experience. They'll just do it to someone else. If you stand up for yourself, you can be sure they'll think twice about doing it again.

>I just don't see the point
You're just not an aggressive person. That's fine, good actually. If its been working for you, awesome! But not for I. Different strokes for different folks I guess.

>I'm old
Hush.

>>6529560
Heh, I'm almost 30. It's childish, and only disrespectful if I let it actually affect me, which I don't. Just because I'm not going to yell at some teenagers doesn't mean I'm not aggressive. And I still don't understand why you would ever care about that type of person's opinion of your. Oh well, such is life.

(Dreaming Macaron JSK with basic cutsew)
Hobo: Hey pretty lady, are you supposed to be Alice?

(Milky Berry)
40+ Guy in Car: Hey, want to go to my hotel room? Or I can take you back to yours

(Jewelry Jelly)
40+ Guy Across the Street: HEY HOW MUCH!

(Polka Dot Chocolate Salopette)
Little Kid: Look mommy! A princess!

TL:DR - kids and hobos mostly positive, 40+ year old guys think I'm a prostitute.

>>6529560
Bitch eyes and being confrontational is really silly. I think it's far more a win for them to let them know they are getting to you. They'll just laugh more about it later 'Did you see the girl in the doll dress totally flip out? What an idiot!' instead of simply not giving them any attention at all. I'm not saying stand there and take it, I'm saying you'll get to a point where they aren't even worth any attention. If they can tell they are not even on your radar, it's much more irritating to them. But like you said, different strokes. I think it's actually hilarious when I notice I'm being made fun of, like I said, laughing and smiling in light of their mockery is winning against those kinds of people, because they can't put a damper on your spirit, haha.
Also, someone laughing in a corner at you isn't being 'walked all over' I promise.

>>6529582
>is really silly (in my opinion)^

I don't want you to think I'm criticizing your way of handling things. However I also don't like that you think the way I handle things is some kind of submission. You say it's disrespectful. I say, why do you care about gaining respect from those kinds of people? If you're being sheepish and upset about it, yes, you're being 'walked all over' I suppose. But that's not how I operate. Like I said, when ever I notice it happening, I think it's hilarious, and they can tell I am still having just as good a time as I was previously, and the fact that I'm laughing about whatever they are saying completely dismisses them.

>>6529582
If its out of my range and I can't see it, its fine. What they do later I can't garuntee- but I've been bullied all through middle school and worked retail so I have 0 patience for anyone refusing to acknowledge me as a person than some punching bag. Win some lose some.

I think it also depends if I'm alone and someone is laughing at me. Ill take it personally where as in a group I care less and everyone either ignores us or assume something is going on.

Never had many negative comments actually and fingers crossed that that continues :) The public is actually pretty nice around here and the funny looks can be easily ignored.

>>6529594
Well to each their own and I wish you the best of luck!

Why are lolitas so surprised that they don't get many "negative comments"? What do you expect, random strangers in public to come up to you and go "LOL YOU LOOK FUCKING STUPID HA HA"? Normal people don't act like school kids. Most people will just quietly observe how dumb you look and not say a word since they don't want to be rude. Or just quietly chuckle about you to the person they're with. You won't know either way.

>>6527761
You went to a trampoline place in lolita? I don't know if that's crazy or awesome.

I really enjoy wearing lolita when I go travelling a lot...it makes me feel safer when I'm out in the day, actually! I always have a back-up outfit in case I need to change but when you stick out like a sore thumb, people are more likely to notice you in a crowd, so they're also more likely to notice if someone near you is doing anything suspicious or if something happens.

They're also less likely to assume you're a tourist, which is what I want a lot of the time.

>>6529670
Odd tactic but still cool

>>6529414
This is the approach I usually take. If I see someone taking a photo without permission I'll wave and pose really cheesy. I know what you are fucking doing don't look at me like I'm rude for silently calling you out on it! Kill people with kindness it makes you look like the better person to everyone around you too for being polite when other people are being dicks.

For me as a casual sweet lolita most people are accepting and really nice about my outfits I've gotten tons of complements from people from all walks of life. I have also gotten many bad comments but generally the curious and good comments outweigh the bad. The best are old ladies though who are all "I used to wear crinolines when I was a girl! You keep it up young lady"

>>6527476
Right? Everytime I see a Lolita (anywhere) I roll my eyes and feel embarrassed for them.

Here's a hint: Everyone thinks you are an attention whore or a jackass. Note every fucking story is "lol guys hit on me omg" because guys want to fuck you in your costumes, not because you look original or cool, stop being fucking stupid and accept the facts.

Like when you see retards all gothed out, you are them.

>>6527505
"started blabbering stuff irrelevant to lolita."
Wow just fuck you.

>>6529670
>less likely to assume you're a tourist
I think you'll be very surprised to find out this isn't true. Fact is, if people don't see this on a daily basis, or even if you're wearing expensive clothes in a casual/low-income area, people will assume you're foreign in some way.

>>6527855
If you're nervous about your safety while in lolita, get pepper spray.

Personally, I hope I never ever get mugged. But a tiny part of me hopes that IF I ever get mugged while in lolita, I would get in a good enough angle to spray the attacker while shouting "Taste the rainbow motherfucker"

>>6529735
This. They sell it in little pink cans too so you can still be kawaii.

I had a group of girls follow a friend and I around at a mall one time, i didn't really notice them until we went into a store (my friend said they had been following us for a while) and they started taking photos of us. when i heard a click i turned around and said "you don't have to be sneaky, you can just ask us for photos!" but then they looked really stunned and ran out of the store. it was really weird

>>6529573
I don't get this weird idea that acknowledging a thing happening to you/responding='letting it affect' you. It already IS affecting you. If someone's sniggering at you or calling you a pedophile attracting slut it's already happening and it's already made you feel a certain way.

Maybe your style ISN'T being confrontational, but let's not pretend you're being any tougher or steely by not responding or that someone is a slave to their emotions or childish FOR responding. You're not.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Looking_glass_self
/thread

>>6529736
>>6529735

I have a pink can of pepperspray I carry in my AP purse B]

>>6529790
I think I stated several times 'affecting you in a negative way'. And I also said that once you go out enough, you don't even notice those people aka, it's impossible for it to ever affect you if it doesn't even exist in your world. Responding with the same attitude as someone mocking you when most people consider the initial mockery to be immature and childish? Yes that sounds childish to me. And letting someone get a rise out of you because they are making fun of you means you are reaction emotionally. Of course, that's just my opinion, but I feel that even if I do somehow notice someone making fun of me, not changing my attitude of being happy doing what I'm doing is going to have a better effect on the rest of my day than confronting someone and getting into that state of mine, then having to come back from that kind of situation to the state of happiness you were once in. I guess if you can't understand it... well I won't ever be able to explain it to you haha.

>>6529851
>reacting emotionally
Sorry, phone!

>>6529790
And I never said I was more tough. I just was giving my opinion on how I feel about being confrontational.

>>6529790
And I still don't understand why the opinion of those kind of people who ever matter to the point that you feel the need to 'correct' them or confront them. You will not change their opinion of you, and I don't feel that their opinion of me should ever change my attitude or behavior.

>>6529790
And I still don't understand why the opinion of those kinds of people would ever matter to you to make you feel the need to 'correct' them or confront them. You will not change their opinion of you, and I don't feel that their opinion of me should ever change my attitude or behavior.

>>6528850
>dressed in lolita
>asked if going to a rave
>south carolina logic

why am i not surprised

the best response you can give is a big 'oooool smile

I usually have random people attempting to be sly taking photos of me so I just either make a stupid face or pull out my phone and take pictures of them. And if anyone makes any comments towards me I am sure to try to think of a witty comeback, or just tell them to piss off. I get comments even when I'm not in lolita so that goes for then too. I mostly get positive looks and thumbs up and nice people saying I look cute but then the white teenage girls snicker at me so I blankly stare at them and they stop, it's funny. Whenever anyone's confrontational or rude (rarely) I give them major bitchface and I get prepared to kick the shit out of them because people here are dangerous sometimes and I'm paranoid

>>6529925
It was in SF. SC referred to Sugary Carnival.

You guys all make me with I had the courage to wear lolita fashion. I've always loved it, but I'm too much of a chickenshit to even try anything on.

>>6530154
good. you're probably fat and would look like shit in it anyway.

It's interesting that white men ignore/dismiss lolita fashion while black men are more receptive of the fashion.

Best: had to do some shopping recently at a big mall with two friends. Before going, we all decided that it felt like a lolita kind of day, dressed up and headed out. While we were there, we would hear people talking behind us going 'they're lolitas!' Really excitedly. Nearly every store that we went into, someone would talk to us and say something along the lines of 'my sister/daughter loves lolita! Can I get your picture? They would love this!' And usually would then just ask us general questions about where we got our clothes. Lots of compliments as we were walking about that we looked nice, ect. We left that day being entirely confused and very flattered. None of us have ever experienced a public place other than a con where SO many people genuinely knew what lolita was and was so excited to see someone wearing it.

Worst: had my butt grabbed by some random guy. When I called him out on it, he ran off into a crowd but his fiancee stayed behind to 'fight me'. I just told her to back off and walk away before I called the cops. She continued to yell and come towards me, so I pulled out my cell phone, pretended to dial 911 and put it to my ear. She ran right away.

>>6530183
Neither black men nor white men care about lolita.

The only people who care about or fixate on it are the women who wear it.

>>6530223
Exactly. Men prefer simple clothing and down-to-earth color schemes.

>>6530236
Because the only reason women ever dress up is for men, right

>>6530241
Yes?

>>6530198
what kind of fiancee defends her future husband's butt grabbing strangers?

>>6530246
My guess would be some white trash chick.

I worked at a very liberal "anything goes" company, a coworker came in wearing full lolita get up and she basically hid in her cubicle all day.

NOBODY knew how to react to it. Lolita looks like fucking pedo-bait in the real world.

>>6530243

Women dress for themselves and other girls.

>>6530183
I've read the stories on here. Usually it's the white people who are really cruel while the black people are always like "Dayum, now why can't all girls dress as nicely as you do?"

Black guys are usually really cool. They think it's cool that you dress differently.

>>6530269
It's funny, because I've only gotten compliments from white/Asian people (yes, even men on occasion), and the handful of negative comments I've gotten have been from black men and women. I'm not in America, so maybe that is why? But I still find it strange.

>>6530269
Adding on

Older people seem to like lolita, too. I went to my class in lolita once, and a teacher commented on my outfit, saying "Oh, that's how girls used to dress back in my day. I commend your choices, young lady~"

>>6530273
I've heard nothing but good stories about black people when it comes to cosplay/lolita, haha.

Maybe it is because we live in different countries, though, haha. But it's usually only the men, sadly. Black women who aren't elderly tend to be very cruel.

>>6530269
See >>6530223

If you think black guys are into lolita dresses you're fucking stupid. Your imagination is out of control.

>>6530297
They are interested in females with a butt and some tits.

>>6530297
Oh, because it just isn't possible for lolita to be appealing to anyone, is it?

>>6530343
> appealing to anyone

No its more on the lines of it being a female and the guy being a male looking for a mate? Besides its very rare to see a lolita that looks decent without the associated whorish mess of fakery.

>>6530349
Why isn't this shitposting banned yet

>>6530349
What

>>6530352
>>6530354

Let me put it to you this ....

Some guys would fuck a tree f they have to

ITT
>women
>compulsive liars

>>6530246
I'm guessing she wasn't defending his butt grabbing, but rather was trying to defend his character cause she thought some random chick falsely accused him of groping.

>>6527841
Haha this! SO many fucking looks when a girl wears pigtails!

>>6528344
Perfect. 10/10.

>>6528078

I guess that makes sense. I think I just have to work on not getting so goddamn angry.

Of course, I'd never, ever be confrontational or aggressive if I was at a meet-up, that's just hideous manners. I'm only a cunt when I'm alone, really. To be honest, that's when most people pick on me; if I'm by myself or it's just me and my girlfriend.

I'll try to be more tolerant of others.
As Pam would say, I will let those good people practice their constitutional right to be fucking idiots.

>>6528078
I like you but I have to disagree with the mad part because they are just shocked on what you are wearing.

>>6528841
Then say indian, south Asian, native American instead of something so dam vague.

>>6528848
You little to no femininity qualities and refuse to address them.

>>6528856
Depends on how you advertise yourself

>>6528078
>you get what you put out
Why shouldn't the same go for them? If they decide to be negative why shouldn't they?

>>6530663
> they being lolitas

>>6530323
>>6530349
Libra, you've made your point in every lolita thread when it comes to either "does your bf" or "lolita in public"
We all get it, you think its ridiculous and no guy really likes lolita. What point are you even trying to make at this point besides repeating yourself?

>>6530679
>you think its ridiculous and no guy really likes lolita


You read it wrong and I have to repeat myself in different ways? People are shocked by the dresses . Guys would fuck anything that would give them a chance though they would find lolita kinky.

>>6530679
>We all get it, you think its ridiculous and no guy really likes lolita. What point are you even trying to make at this point besides repeating yourself?
Libra loves lolita though, he really likes bows.

>>6530687
Get in the corner. You're in time out.
>>6530683
And you have to repeat this...cuz why?

>>6530699
Just the opportunity that maybe one would actually listen.

Well that's fine with me

>>6530699
>And you have to repeat this...cuz why?
He's alone 'cuz I rejected him.

Weirdest - being asked if we were witches while in a group wearing sweet, and being asked if we were Amish or Mennonite.

I also still don't understand the "are you in a play" comment. Shit about "it's not halloween yet" or "why are you dressed like that" or people thinking it's a costume, whatever, fine - but the play comment is always when we're out in some public place, walking down the street or in a museum or whatever. That's not how plays/costumes/actors work... "What is your costume for" would make more sense to me as a question.

>>6530771
Clearly people haven't seen what actual amish/mennonite people wear.
TOTALLY different, I would know as my extended family is mennonite.

>>6530771
I'm always suprised by how often I get this comment, do people think that actors like go out eating and stuff in their costumes? Why would they do that? They don't own them.

>wear shitty bodyline coord
>two old guys follow me
>excuse me miss, how much?
>eh what?
>get ready to get all 'fuck you I'm not a whore you assholes' on them
>Yes how much for the play?
>realize there's a small park with a stage nearby
>uh... the... show is, uh, over, sorry.
>nooooooooo
>they walk away with sad faces

behold my wit and eloquency

>>6530853
>Why would they do that?

You are so naive it hurts

>>6530663
? You would rather be negative and angry when you go out than happy and confident? Do not understand...

I live in the midwest, so naturally people will stare. I normally walk staring down anyways, so I dont even notice if I get bad looks. My states comm is pretty tiny and Im assuming not a lot of people know about the fashion either. It is nice to be recognized though. I wore lolita to the mall one day to shop and a group of younger girls were very excited to see a lolita in person. Those kind of moments make me happy :)

>>6530865
Libra, all your posts are stupid. How is it naive to wonder why people think actors wear costumes in public after the play is over?

>>6530865
god you're so dumb. i really hope you're trolling.

>>6531840
> after the play is over

ok ok ok ok I read what you wrote but then I have to ask myself how can these people know what time the play took place? They could be wearing it in a past/future/present tense.

I like you because you called me stupid anyway. Odd that someone would actually use that word instead of the usual repetitive shit I keep hearing.

>>6531866
Because anon is doing what every other anon is doing in this thread and making up bullshit stories.

>>6531866
>>past/future/present tense

wat
actors also don't wear the costumes in public before or during the play. that's not how plays work. there are these things called theatres...

and even if people are asking "are you in a play" when they mean "are you performance artists" a bunch of girls in frilly outfits wandering around a mall is a pretty shit performance art piece.

>>6531889
>costumes in public before or during the play.

You overgeneralizing everything since this not does not apply to every single person that has ever been in play.

>"are you performance artists"

How old are you? I want to slap some logic into you

I was walking a friend home, (she gets scared and it's only a few blocks)
We were crossing the street, and I noticed my first childhood friend, from kindygarden all those years ago
(She had turned into a slutty drug whore)
I recognize her and she recognizes me and as we pass I give her a small smile
and she just starts laughing, and as we both keep walking, she keeps laughing obnoxiously louder and louder as we get away from each other
She was probably laughing AT me though

I walk around in lolita sometimes when I go shopping or to local events.

I get the 'what the hell is she wearing'-look from people and the "look at her" whispers to their friends, but that's it. I've never been openly insulted or laughed at. I don't live in a very openminded place, so I think it's because my parents or my boyfriend are always with me. I suppose few people have the balls to insult you when you're being accompanied by grown-ups or by a boyfriend who looks like he could kick someones ass within 5 seconds.

Though I do often see little girls stare, pointing at me and tell their mother to 'look at the girl with the pretty dress', which is cute.

>>6527351

Every time I wear lolita in public I get mistaken for a prostitute, or I get harassed in some way. I wear classic. My confidence went from 110% to 0%. As a result I developed anxiety and have decided to stop wearing it. It's not worth having health problems.

>>6531990
>kindygarden
what

I was out at a local fair where i live and this woman in a big poofy 50's dress (she was about 60 but so dressed up it was lovely) with a grandchild was all "oh gosh where did you get that dress you look lovely" then she was all dang when i told her i got in paris but ,man , the look when i told her what the fashion was called and that you can buy it online was so happy

also got the you look like a princess! from a little kid before cheered me up because i had some dick yell at the top of his lungs i look stupid earlier that day

>>6529814
I carry a small pink can of pepperspray, a pink switchblade, and a tazer disguised as a pink cellphone. I'll be registering for a concealed handgun permit, too. I also plan to take self defense classes. On top of that, go to the range more.

>>6527596
They actually don't act that nice even if you're 14.

Unless you are a kid (and I do mean A FUCKING 8YO KID) people -are- going to be rude, stare and laugh at you for wearing any sort of alternative fashion. Especially if it is lolita.

Real people on the real world don't get such nice comments quoted anon said she's got. She probably never left the house in something other than jeans and a tee.

>>6532299
from experience, anon?

>>6532284

Jesus, and I was gonna roll with just biting people.

>>6527861
>A bunch of (probably drunk) guys screaming "FASHUN. FAAAAASHUN." as they drove by.

That sounds so fucking funny

>>6532302
I just know things, son.

People let kids get away with stuff, but unless you live in Japan (and that's because they don't do this kind of thing) or somewhere similar, nobody else who wears different fashion is excused.

And if you live in one of those cities, it doesn't matter whether you are 16 or 30, nobody is going to say shit.

>>6532284
lol you can't carry a tazer without a license. And it is impossible for a normal citizen to get a permit to carry a handgun unless it pertains to your line of work (bodyguard, deputy, etc).

"are people actually wearing that now?"
"Not as a whole. I like to though."
"That's so weird, and pretty."

>>6532284

>tfw its illegal for women/anyone to carry or use mace, a knife, a gun, or a taser for self protection, only certified fucking rape whistles.
I envy you guys in the US, shit sucks man in NZ.
You're not allowed to defend yourself in any way here, even if you manage to beat a person up in a fist fight you can still be sued for assault. ;_;
Its quite unnerving.

>>6532319
It's the same way in the US, unfortunately.

>>6532316

Aw that's cute. That's something I'd like to hear, for some reason.

>>6532329
it was interesting, it's the only comment i've really gotten from someone outside of the Lolita community.

>>6532310
I live in Washington state and if I damn felt like it, I can smoke weed, too, so stfu. :)
http://www.ehow.com/list_6677041_washington-state-stun-gun-regulations.html
legal with few restrictions.
http://www.dol.wa.gov/business/firearms/faconcealreq.html

The only time I ever remember a negative comment is if the person saying it also looks hilariously bad by average standards.

This one time I went into a grocery store cafe with a friend after a meetup to grab some lunch in lolita. Most strangers were genuinely curious, and asked me a couple questions as I sat down to have my lunch. Others gave me weird looks and continued on their way. A few said I looked very elegant or like a doll. Nothing unusual, and certainly not unexpected.

I was relaxed until I heard some muffled chuckles coming from behind the cafe's cash register. Some orange, fake-n-bake bitch with a masculine mandible, cakey makeup, an obvious weave, and a rabid chihuahua-like smile made some passing 'drag queen' comment to a coworker while shifting her eyes towards me. I turned towards her with a smug grin and a raised eyebrow to let her know she had my full attention. But unfortunately she didn't care to share the fun and soon went back to doing her job.

Meh. Needless to say I felt slightly excluded from their club :'(

>>6532319
NZ is generally safer than the US anyway. Not only that, but I actually can't remember a situation where I have felt so unsafe that I felt I needed a weapon. A lot of it has to do with just being careful about where and when you go.

The most recent one I remember was a mini meet at a local cafe. We were all seated by the front window, and a little girl walked by holding her mother's hand and spotted us - and FREAKED. Her jaw dropped, eyes went wide as saucers, she dug her heels in and started trying to DRAG her mother back to the window to get another look at us. It was hilarious and adorable.

>>6532355
People are not as shocked and in awe of your dumb dresses as you want to imagine them to be.

>>6528827
do you run shadesoflolita?

>>6529080
>so called majority
You don't know what country they're in so you wouldn't know.

>>6532355
What were you guys wearing?
It could have been more like, look mummy I saw strawberry shortcake, rather than, mummy I saw lolitas.

>>6529342
>2012+1
>giving a shit about what some strangers on the street think
lol

>>6529650
>Most people will just quietly observe how dumb you look and not say a word since they don't want to be rude.
>Implying lolitas look dumb

>>6529711
>lolita, in public? never! lolitas should just wear their elaborate fashion in their living rooms
>omg goths can't wear goth clothing, what are you saying?

>>6530858
10/10 Best story

I get the most compliments from men while wearing lolita, which is weird. Usually, I get the most compliments from woman when it comes to fashion. I have a more classic/traditional style in general, so I guess they just think I'm a mormon or some shit. Some quotes;
"That's a serious dress"-random black guy
"That is very pretty. Whats your major? Oh. I thought it would be fashion."-nerd guy, who followed me around for a while after that.
Also, two Indian guys walked up to me: "hello"
"hey"
"We're twins"
"Oh, I see it now"
"Very pretty cloths"
*thank them and walk away* It was a very strange encounter. They both had huge smiles on their faces, and stood with their hands behind their backs.

>>6532392
>Implying they don't

>>6532394
Goth chicks look hot. lolitas don't.

Goth is also an actual fashion. Lolita is just japan-inspired costumes.

>>6532322
What no.

>>6532371
>>6532408
Non-lolitas pls go.

>>6532405
>I GET LIEK SO MANY COMPLIMENTS IN MY LOLITA. OMG NERDS WUNNA FOLLOW ME AROUND LOL CREEPERS XD

Anything else you'd like to add to your inane fictional fantasy?

>>6532408
>Goth chicks look hot.
By definition?

Lolita is most certainly a fashion, even if it can look very over the top. However unlike goth it is not a subculture. It sounds like you're picking up your opinions somewhere else but getting the terms mixed up.

You lolitas claiming everyone loves your shit are seriously delusional.

THIS is what people in public think of your shit. You look fucking stupid.

>>6532416
Lolita is a fashion subculture though.

>>6532408

>>6532418
Shitty lolita
>no1curr

>>6528846
I have the opposite experience. :/ I think that's cause the black people where I'm from are more ghetto than normal. I basically get treated like a prissy white bitch, regardless of how friendly I'm being.

>>6532416
Allow me to put it in another way: Goth girls are commonly hot. Lolitas are never hot.

And no it isnt a fashion. Most lolitas never wear their shit in public and when they do it's to try to get attention ala cosplayers going shopping in their costumes to try to get reactions out of people (as evidence by this thread). Even in Japan most people don't consider it anything more than cosplay.

>>6532408
>>6532371
>>6532418
Samefag

>>6532416
This. Goth chicks are almost always fat. Rockabilly has the worst of it.

>>6532426
>Implying she's hot
HAHAH
>Lolitas are never hot
>Lolita isn't a fashion
>In Japan, Lolita is seen as cosplay
How fucking new are you?

>>6532418
>>Implying I look like that
I tone it down/dress better than that hoe.

>>6532428
>mfw most people in Japan consider lolita a 'fat' fashion

>>6532422
It's all shitty.

>>6532425
No, you get treated like a clown. Because that's exactly what you're dressing up as.

>>6532428
I guess this is the part where you try to denounce all classifications of fashion as being as stupid and ugly as your lolita bullshit so that you can feel better.

>>6532425
;_; You should become my friend. I'm nice to white people (really all people).

>>6532432
Well that's just like, your opinion, man.

>>6532433
gtfo nigger.

>>6532426
Goth chicks are almost always fuggo or fat in some way. I think it's cause they feel excluded from society and no one can know my pain and and and darkness. (I used to hang out with the goth kids because no friends, landwhale ahoy.)

>>6532435
You feel special for saying that, don't you?

>>6532435
That's not funny at all, so then why can't I stop laughing?

>>6532426

Dude, I can think of a huge fucking bunch of lolitas who are super attractive.

>>6532440
Same here, pic related.

>>6532444
That's not lolita, it's this.
http://www.sissykissboutique.com/

>>6532440
There's only a few (chokelate, tempest paige, cake injection) and all of them look better WITHOUT the awful lolita costumes.

In the lolita community you can become an idol simply by not being fat or ugly. That's how awful they all look.

>>6532448

Dude, there are way more than them. I'm not gonna list them because I don't want them to think I'm a creeper, but seriously. There are *loads* of attractive lolis out there. You don't seem to know much about the fashion, so I'll forgive your ignorance. Fair enough, plain people always will outnumber the attractive, but I promise there are a lot of pretty girls in this fashion.

>>6532448
>I've met every lolita and the only attractive ones are tripfags!
>I'm obviously new so I think it's okay to shitpost in a lolita thread.
Pls go.

Comments from strangers never bothered me. Even outside of lolita, I look very unusual and I've been mocked my entire life; so I really am used to it. I always thank them for the positive comments, ignore the negative ones and respond with sarcasm or witty comments if they come up to me directly attempting to be smartasses.
I pull out my phone and snap pictures of them in the most obvious of ways if I catch them taking pictures of me and that's the end of it. After I do, they usually stop.

One way or another, people are never happy.
If you dress as they do, you get called a 'clone' or some shit, but if you chose to stand out and look different, then you get mocked.

Just sit back and be happy with your selves, ladies and gents. You'll be better off that way.

>>6532446
YOU and others here may know that it is not lolita, but the general public does not know, and will assume it is the same as >>6532418 and >>6532444

Well, to get back on topic, because most of us don't give two fucks about this samefags repulsion to lolita:

The strangest thing happened to me when I was decked out in seriously pink coord. Some guy just came up to me, said "your outfit would look great with a smile, lemme see it", and when I smiled in confusion he just gave me two thumbs up and walked away... It really made my day.

>>6527476

Went to college with this girl. She was a weird, emotional bitch. But then again, so are the rest of you.

>>6532468
You probably have bitchface. Personally, I hate when people tell others to smile as if that will actually make them happy or something.

>>6532468
Haha, that's cute.

>>6531896
When would an actor wear a costume outside of a play/filming? I've seen them for promotion before I suppose, but then its usually really obbvious

>>6532466
It's all the same shit. Crazy, stupid looking dresses made to look as obnoxious as possible. Nobody cares about what your little internet community as doctrined into particular genres.

>>6532473
Whenever a person tells me to smile, it brightens up my day just a tiny biit due to the fact they took a little time from their day to attempt to make mine a little better.
That's what I think of it, besides....what other possible reason would someone have to tell someone else to smile?

>>6532468
Maybe this thread would go better if lolitas were actually honest instead of persisting in the fantasy of everyone loving their silly outfits.

Reading through this thread and all of these made up stories you'd think lolita was the most widely accepted and beloved public fashion in the world. You're not being truthful.

>>6532488
Wtf, did you even read this thread? There are plenty of stories that mention the bad reactions. We're not oblivious to the fact that some people can't get over girls is poofy dresses but we've had people be nice to us, too. Most of these stories have a "good reaction/bad reaction" format, so we know not everyone loves lolita. You're fucking obnoxious. Quit shitposting.

As someone from /v/ mostly, and saw the thread on the homepage, I was looking at a girl wearing lolita because I thought it was interesting and unique. She noticed, probably thinking I was staring, and asked if I wanted to know about her dress, and I said "yes" and we had a good conversation and I made a new friend.


People are just curious for the most part, only assholes are mean about it and they don't deserve a reaction.

Thats my 2 cents.

>>6532499
>hold on while I put on my fake mustache and glasses and pretend to be a casual unbiased observer

>>6532487
It just rustles me because they literally don't know WHY you look unhappy, or even if you're not unhappy at all and your face just looks that way.
Telling someone to smile out of the blue just shows you don't really care why they're frowning and don't really want to help them at all. Their negativity is just bringing you down and you're trying to change that in the most half-hearted way possible.
I'm a sad sack, though, so my opinion is silly.

>>6532488
Because
a) people who hate extragavant outfits are usually bland and subdued, and don't have guts to openly criticize those who stand out
b) and when do have balls to react, they're not very creative about it. Notice, how many of negative stories sound exactly the same "it's not halloween" "you look like a whore/pedophile bait" "where are your sheep, bo peep". Why share that?
c) Only more interesting encounters are memorable, and they usually involve open-minded and actually likable people, who would rather make your day better than worse.

Also, some reading comprehension, because many of those stories are more neutral than positive.

>>6532428
Same thing with skinhead, the only attractive skingirls are nazis.

>>6532468
~smile policing~

>>6532521
If he'd try to strike up a conversation or asked questions, I'd probably get mad. But because it was so random and immediate, it made me genuinely laugh.

>>6532525
>anyone who doesn't like lolita is bland and cowardly and they're just uncreative bakas who are like, totally jelly of how fabulous I am!

logic of a lolita.

>>6532554
>totally ignore the use of the word 'usually'

Nice.

>>6532411
In MA it is. Tazers are illegal and you need a license to carry mace. It's fucking ridiculous.

>>6532566
Like that makes it any less stupid.

>>6532625
It's not stupid at all when the post is aware that not all cases are the same.

>>6532630
It's stupid that you believe it is ever the case.

You live in fantasyland.

>>6532645
At this point you're just saying words that you hope will make you sound edgy. Carry on.

>>6532650
Play nice ok

>>6532645
>There is not a single living being that would ever find any lolita even remotely pleasant to look at, ever. And because that is my point of view, it means anyone having any different experience must be delusional or mental.

Dude, we get your point, now please fuck off and go do something productive with your life

>>6532654
Eat shit, you prissy lolita whore.

>>6532666
Did it work, at least? Did the interaction in this thread make you feel better about yourself?

>>6532666
>I'm too fat and/or bland for Lolita so they're all prissy whores

>>6532701
I'm in better shape than any lolita I've ever seen posted here and I think you're all pretty retarded for dressing this way and spending your money on these things.

>>6532734
>I'm in better shape than any lolita I've ever seen posted here
riiiiight

From my two most recent experiences:

wearing classic lolita to school (therefore these people already know me, and I'm not likely to receive outright insults):
guys - "Why are you wearing that?" "Nice dress."
girls - "Awwww that's a really cute outfit!" "You look like an anime girl!!"

Walking from the train station to a lolita gathering:
guys in a car - "Hey bitch! It ain't Halloween!!"

>>6531896
You don't go out in costume. Those things are way too expensive and important to go out in them and risk damage. At one of the unis I've applied to, one of the actors had a fag in a costume, spilled some ash on it and had to pay £200 to have three panels replaced.

>>6528018
Hi are you from San Francisco by any chance?

>>6532734
>I'm in better shape than any lolita I've ever seen posted here

I'm hotter than Megan Fox. True story guys! I said it so it's true.

>>6532322
not in my state. My grandpa shot a guy that broke into his house a few years back, guys brother turned out to be a cop, and he still got off scott free. I plan on getting my concealed hand gun license this year.

>>6530154
It's sad to hear things like that if you're serious.
You could be fantastic but never know...

>>6532554
>reading comprehension
She used "hate." Anyone who *hates* extravagent outfits on (I'll add another key word) *others* is usually a cowardly dick, afraid to comment on another's appearance to their face or a giant asshole who thinks people actually care about their hatred of others' outfits.

>>6527420
They're making fun of you, you aloof broad.

>>6527505
Whenever I meet a lolita, I make sure to ask her about cosplay. I do so loudly as well. I selectively forget every time she says she's not a cosplayer. I continue to refer to her clothing as 'costumes.'

>>6534722
>>6534730
0/10 Sorry

>>6527861
You should have yelled BRAND back at them.

>>6528078
Sometimes I do believe they want to get a reaction out of you but if they engage first you should stand up for yourself. Otherwise I would ignore because I really don't give a dam.

>>6534637

I'm utterly terrified of spending a lot of money on brand, then having it not fit right.

However, the longer I spend here, the more I want to try, so I think I'll pick out some simple fabrics and have a classic dress made for me.

Once that's done, I can work up the courage to go out in it, I hope.

>>6532444
My grandma would were stuff like that when she went square dancing. I say that especially when I look at those shoes. Those aren't meant for style there meant for a meet up.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_GQvowFzEgA

>>6538598
*wear