/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL

You start by remembering that basically everyone is also an autist to some extent. Also a cool costume always helps. After that stage comes purging your mind of self-fulfilled negative thoughts

You don’t have to put personal info onto social media so ask for their social media! Most cosplayers post their costumes somewhere and everyone likes more followers then just sm them and say hi maybe send some funny normie meme videos there’s lots of them on Instagram then boom bobs your uncle you’ve made a friend

>>10858233
But I don't use social media
I only talk to people on 4chan

>>10858214
Mate... people really don't want to share contacts with you esp if you're autistic.

Now if it's fellow autistics from the fanbase you want to meme online with then sure thing.
"hey do you have a discord?"

>>10858236
Then start by using it. Most cosplayers will likely use Instagram so you can go with that. And please don't follow porn accounts, especially cosplay ones. It'll creep people out.

>>10858214
1. Take picture with said person, cause you like their cosplay.
2. Quick chat why you like their charecter or think the way they made their cosplay was cool. This will also be a good way to gauge your chemistry with said person.
3. Tell them that you would like to give them the photo through their instagram/discord or phone number.
4. ???
5. Friends~~
>>10858266
This! Bite the bullet and get an Instagram. MOST cosplayers use it. Some even carry buisness cards too.
>>10858254
>Mate... people really don't want to share contacts with you esp if you're autistic.
Stop the cap. It's a con. It's a breeding ground for autists. Autists just have to learn how to go about small talk. It takes practice, but it's dooable depending on how autistic you are.

>>10858273
I feel sad now because I've taken pictures with some pretty nice people but I keep forgetting to ask for their Instagram

>>10858273
insta seems annoying they won't let you browse so much of it without an account, really repels me from using it

I feel like most people at an anime convention are gonna be some degree of Bocchi, so conversations will peter out quick. You'd think that since everyone there is a weeb, you'd have lots to talk about, but actually doing it is hard. :/
Not everyone is the same "flavor" of weeb; and cons are busy places, people have lots to see and lots to do, so no one wants to get bogged down in conversation.
Then you have the people who come with their friends, and if you thought approaching a single person was difficult, approaching a group is even worse.
I can count on one hand the number of times a conversation lasted for more than 30 seconds. Why bother taking a risk to make new friends when you always have the comforting safety zone of your current friends to fall back on, you know? I feel like too many people think that way.

>>10858254
lmoa
>>10858284
That's what local cons are for. I'd like to better phrasing on this next point, but still not there yet: the way to keep the conversation going is an "aura" that tells the other person you want them around longer. It's something better done is practice than writing

>>10858216
What if I have a cool costume, what then?
I'm often asked by cute women for pics at convention but everytime I try to strike a convo its awkward. What do I even say? Usually I try to relate the convo to my cosplay so lets say im doing an NCR desert ranger I'll go
>"So you played New vegas? Whats your favourite faction?"
and then the girl and her friend will look at each other or something and she'll say "uhhh ncr yea" and I'm like "oh cool" and I don't know where to go from there. I always just laugh it off and they kind of go their way, I cant make them stay for a convo.
The rare few times I did, I just felt like I was monopolizing their time so I made an excuse to walk away and let them go in the process

>>10858273
Lots of normies go to cons nowadays, sorry.

Anyone who's not fat/unkempt is always just someone who likes a certain anime or wants to go out and wear cosplay to take photos in.

Sorry but I really have no patience for some stuttering fatass.

>>10858214
Literally I just say "Hey we're going to a party later, you should come with us, what's your snap/insta/disc?" It's just that easy. I have yet to have anyone refuse to give me one of those three and I've been hitting cons for years.

Just stop overthinking shit, if you vibe they'll wanna keep hanging with you.

>>10858372
but I never go to parties and don't know people who do

>>10858373
Ask around at a con or on the board for discord. There's one I'd invite you to but I don't like half the people in it and don't want to subject you to them. There are many discords though if you ask in other threads or here.

>>10858387
the thread for the con I went to is completely dead

>>10858214
I don't feel like a creep but when it comes to..

Random people: I don't know how to continue the conversation after we've taken pictures of them/they've taken pictures of me, and it just usually ends up in a "well have a nice day"

People from here: Every person from here aside from one has been fun to hang out with but they always make me feel like a loser given how surprisingly chadly they seem to be. It's not their fault at all, just me being in my own head.

>>10858393
Which con did you go to? I just got back from one too.

>>10858413
>Every person from here aside from one has been fun to hang out with but they always make me feel like a loser given how surprisingly chadly they seem to be
Holy shit this. It's like every guy I meet from cgl has a gf, a good job, is above 6ft and super confident and cool. Last guy I met made me try shrooms with him and his gf, etc.
I'm a short, socially anxious autist with extremely niche interests. I've always seen 4chan as "my people" to some extent even if "chads" and normalfags have always been there but they werent the norm. Yet over the years I'm starting to get the feeling that I'm not only a loser by irl standards but probably by 4chan standards too
Why are you guys so friggin cool

>>10858419
We're not, we just know bad behavior so we avoid it, other places with usually pretend autism is the norm but here we call each other out. Those who know bad behavior but don't do anything about it exist everywhere, they just don't leave their rooms.

>t. /fit/ and careermaxxed, been playing normie pretty well for the past few years

But we're usually willing to break the facade with another autist

>>10858214
Are con friends a real thing?
Do people really talk to them after the con?
What do you have to do?

>>10858413
I went to animazement

>>10858468
Yeah one time I was pyramid head and some guy was a umbrella corporation security guard and after taking a picture and talking about the new video games somehow bionicle came up so he gave me his bionicle Instagram account. then he followed me back and noticed my hellsing Alucard cosplay. Then he offered to 3D print me Alucard’s guns for my bionicle parts and I happily obliged. I’m going to trade with him at the end of the month :D

Does having an instagram or twitter help with this? I used Discord, but I'm not sure that's what people are looking for when they're asking for the previous.

>>10858599
yes 100% if someone is looking for or took pics then people will ask if you have insta or something, and twitter usually works too

>>10858419
Lmao I think I know exactly who it is you met, did he have long blonde hair?
Also we aren't really "cool". I'm a massive fucking nerd and spent years dropping from 250lbs down to 180, I could barely talk to a woman until maybe 3-4 years ago? I didn't have a proper career until a couple years ago.
We're not normies, we're the autists that saw our flawed nature, hated it, and worked to improve. I actually get a little annoyed because I regularly have terminally online anons call me a chad/failed normie, I'm not.
All you have to do is try, we're all gonna make it brah.

>>10858599
Yes, I've had an insta since 2011 and didn't bother to start using it until I started going to cons in like 2018. It makes building out lines of communication and hookups for parties/events WAAAAAAAAAAAY easier. I don't particularly like insta if I'm being honest but I'd argue it's a borderline necessity if you're into the con/cosplay scene.

Official cglcon when

>>10858669
What do you actually post on there? I've got one but it's empty right now because I don't browse it enough to know how I'm supposed to use it.

>>10858698
My cosplays? Random photos of family/friends/pets/events? This really isn't rocket science anon.

And before you reply with "But anon I don't haaaaaave any freeeens" just post your cosplays then.

>>10858701
What if you don’t have cosplays

>>10858605
>>10858669
>>10858701
What if I have an Instagram that I use for family/friends, but I don’t want to share it with con randos?
I’m not a fan of giving any autist a window into my personal life.
How vital is using Insta? Would discord work instead?

>>10858846
Also this, I’m not posting pics of cosplay on insta where all my normie friends can see

>>10858851
The first step to getting con friends is to stop being so self-important, and you are down with a very very bad case

>>10858214
walk up to them with a dead eye stare and say in a low voice "i love you"

>>10858853
I work in a field where image is everything, posting cosplays would fuck up my reputation with colleagues

>>10858859
why dont you just make a separate insta for weeb shit then brainlet

>>10858860
>hey that was cool we should exchange instas
>0 followers/friends
I don’t generally care abt following counts, but would it come off as weird? I’m genuinely curious though, how vital is insta, why not use discord?

>>10858273
This, Instagram is a fairly safe exchange. Twitter is just as good but insta is more photo-focused. Don't go for Facebook or phone number/WhatsApp unless you're either really digging eachother or they give it to you first.

>>10858862
Couldn't you just say that you're just getting started or something? Or tell them that they get the honor of being your first add?
I'm the most socially retarded person I've ever known though so who knows maybe these are terrible ideas

>>10858862
I mean if youre an even halfway attractive chick you can probably grow your follower account into the hundreds in a few weeks with very minimum effort. Just use hashtags, interact with the community (i.e comment nice cosplay or something if you see one you like). Ez peasy

Discord works as well it just depends on the situation/intent/etc. Sometimes I ask for discord sometimes for instagram. Never fb that is too personal. Phone very rarely

>>10858846
I don't know, what the fuck are you doing here on the COSPLAY BOARD?

>>10858851
Make an alternate account. For my part I don't give a fuck if my friends/family see my cosplay, I surround myself with genuine people who support me regardless of whether or not they get my hobbies. Maybe stop worrying so much about what other people think about you.

Also discord only really works for other autists, a lot of girls especially are only on ig.

>>10858233
>say hi maybe send some funny normie meme
hey anon how do you from saying hi to sending memes? Like ik there's a middle step in there but I'm too autismo

>>10859254
You go with the flow of the conversation and try to look for an opening. Don't Force One

>>10859257
Not that anon but
>You go with the flow of the conversation
This kind of advice is entirely useless for autistic people who have no social skills (ie. the kind of people who are asking for social advice on 4chan) because they don't have any natural sense of how normal conversations flow in the first place.

>>10859269
Are you implying that I'm also not autistic? I know this is rough because the "aut" of autism means auto/self, but how about this instead: if you think it's a great idea to interject with some really niche topic that you love but almost nobody knows about, it's probably best to put that one on the back burner. If they say a certain phrase that implies they know, then you can go for it

This trick worked literally yesterday because somebody implied that they knew about "In the aeroplane over the sea", and that's when I asked if they post on /mu/. The answer was yes. and yes, this is a partially hypocritical post but at least it gets the point across I hope

>>10858468
I've made only a couple friends who I talked to after the con. The convos started due to our cosplays in both cases, that's the easiest conversation starter. But the survival rate of actually asking for contact info, and then talking for more than a couple messages on social media is quite low. You need shared interests beyond the one series plus similar vibes. a lot of the people I've exchanged contact info with are mildly autistic and idk how to talk to them about non anime topics so it's hard to really befriend them beyond asking to meet up at another con again.

>>10858362
Why not do something like mention your favourite faction, or what they liked most about the game, or talk about other types of games they played?

And I think the "monopolizing their time" thing is just gonna be a reality of conversations, you know? if they're interested in the conversation, then they wouldn't want to leave, right?

>no social media
>no insta bullshit
>can go to cons and just have fun partying
mfw

Do you guys approach groups of 4-5 people by yourself because you see some nice cosplays?

>>10859323
Honestly your best chance is when it's two people. Preferably not a couple so

>>10859325
Why two people over one? Isn't a person by themselves more approachable? Then you're certain you're not butting in unwelcomed while the two friends just want to be with each other and share inside jokes, etc

Whats a good place to find people doing cosplay comissions (other than etsy)? There's one piece of my costume that is a bit too hard for me to do without it looking like dogshit

>>10859361
just realized I meant to post this in the FAQ thread my bad

>created instagram
>posted pictures from a con
>they show up under the tag for the con for a few minutes but disappear after and no one can see
Am i shadowbanned or something? i dont use this shit

>>10859353
I wish I could give a straight answer for this but not sure I have one. It's just been my luck really. And also do consider how if it's one person they might try to rope you into their insane tism storm because they finally achieved their Bocchi goal of someone talking to them first and now they need to unload on their super awesome favorite meemees and interests and can't take a hint>>10859353

>>10859353
It's also that it's not easy to find people who are cosplaying by themselves.

>>10859388
solo cosplayers are the majority tho

It's worse when you don't use social media or Discord. I've gone to conventions in cosplay, organizing parties, the works, etc. and people ask for my contact. I give them my number and they get weirded out. I'm not going to follow you on whatever gay social media you use or speak once on Discord only for us to never chat again.

>>10859428
it's funny that you would be so willing to give away your phone number (a hard-to-change identifier that exposes you to a variety of security risks) rather than an online handle (ephemeral, trivial to create, can be as gated from the rest of your identity as you want, etc.)

>>10859428
times change old man

You have to be good looking, and tall (6'3+)
Otherwise don't bother women at cons, or anywhere else for that matter.

>>10858214
If the conversation is going well, you can ask "are you on discord/instagram/placeholder", that way you can ease into sharing contact information without asking for anything too personal right away.
When they seem uncomfortable with the topic, you have time to back off like a gentleman, without having been a creep. And if they seem interested, then you can ask to share contact information a bit more directly and also ask for contact information on more personal platforms like whatsapp or signal.
>>10858236
Perhaps look into using social media then.
What kind of contact info are you trying to get, their landline? Most people prefer chatting with those they don't know very well. I'd recommend going for popular services. I got signal and telegram because I thought they were interesting but ended up just deleting them again because none of my friends wanted to switch to there.

>>10860658
Nah, even if you're tall and good looking, it's better to not bother women unless they show they're interested.
Most women I've met at cons come in groups and I've had more success with getting their contacts after making a good impression on their group overall. Works much better than only walking up to one woman and ignoring her group.
Unless she's alone and you have any sort of shared plight, like, bad weather or long lines. Then you can strike up a conversation about that and can back off if she's uncomfortable and if not, see how things go from there. But even then, it's a good idea to ask about her friends and see if you can introduce yourself to them too. It means that you'll get to meet more people, probably also more women and it usually also makes the woman you met feel safer around you as well since you passed the group check.
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At least that's how I do it and how it's been working for me so far. Maybe I'm just lucky, I've gotten contacts from tons of people at cons. I'm not tall either, so I can guarantee that it's not a requirement. As someone diagnosed with avpd, I panic and ghost them after a day, but I could have lots of friends, in theory at least. I can still look at the number of my contacts and pretend.

>>10859353
I feel predator-ish trying to talk to someone who's alone.

>>10860957
Why do you say that?

>>10860976
nta, but to answer the question, I'd assume.