/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL

>>10844342
Sexo?

>>10844343
Nah, we already broke up a while ago.

>>10844342
Nevar fargot: This is where the name Jojo came from. It's my greatest drunk trivia when hanging with weebs.

>sold a dress that I loved but didn't wear anymore
>got bought by an ita
>they posted coord pics, they can't coord for shit and it does NOT fit them
Press F to pay respects

>>10844342
>Biggest con of the year in 2.5 months
>I even had some stuff done on my face last year and was eager to see the improgement
>my weight loss has been slow and steady but I need to lose 1.5lbs a week consistently to have my goal shape which is 2x faster than what ive been having

Its fucking hopeless. Im not even glad Im saving 1000usd by cancelling the whole thing before I fully accept im done for.

>>10844401
I'm about to sell off some old dresses that I don't wear anymore and I'm terrified this will happen, I know it's irrational because I wear classic but it could still happen

>>10844410
im gonna buy your used dresses and coom on them. please dont wash beforehand

>>10844412
fine buy you're paying 5x the price

>>10844412
ywnbaw

Hurry up and ship plz Wunderwelt, it's been 10 days

>>10844401
>>10844410
I will never understand this mentality in the lolita community. Idgaf what happens to the stuff I sell on LM. If I cared that much, I wouldn't sell it. It's not your dress anymore; they can make pillowcases out of it if they want. Let it goooooo.

>>10844406
Get help

>>10844412
if you buy me the dresses i will send them to you stinky. including pics of me sweating in them!

*telegraphs my hooves*

>>10844342
Are you the girl who took her Jojo daki to prom?

In happy news, my sister's hot friend is going to be cosplaying a slutty vtuber.

>>10844598
the really good personal trainers on youtube are expensive.

>>10844511
You want your stuff to be taken care of. I wonce sold soem bloomers, and a month later they'd been sharted in.

>>10844631
> Are you the girl who took her Jojo daki to prom?
Yes

>>10844631
>a slutty vtuber
in other words a vtuber

I love my friend so much. Just needed to say that.

>>10844511
NTA but I tend to get emotionally attached to pieces so it feels nice to see them go to someone who will love them as much as I did

>>10844664
omg anon you're my hero that picture is ICONIC

>>10844342
>Happy feel: I finally met irl with the person who wanted a dakimakura of me here. We had a blast
Did you fucked too?
Or is he/she just using you as a Dakimakura now?

I've made good progress with a lot of issues I had in my life. My OCD therapy has gone very well, I'm no longer a toxic perfectionist, I am exercising regularly, got some overdue dental work done and also have a dental night guard now for teeth grinding, I make time to DIY regularly, I wear lolita more often because it makes me happier, made a new friend who I now hang out with every so often, diet is going very well (I introduced more protein and I feel so much better physically) but I am still miserable most of the time.
The biggest remaining problem that I haven't been able to make any progress with despite a lot of effort is my sleep schedule. I've been struggling with it for years, trying to solve it on my own (with melatonin supplements, gradually scheduling earlier bedtimes, getting some sunlight in my eyes right after waking up, skipping sleep entirely for one night hoping that I would be able to go to bed on time the next day, etc, all the standard advice) before asking my GP for help because it's way more embarrassing to have this problem than anything else I've dealt with. GP didn't say anything I hadn't heard before. I brought it to the OCD therapist and she said it was probably part of my OCD and that she would address it near the end of my therapy. I'm near the end of my therapy and it looks like we're not going to have time to address it. I just recently found out it's called delayed sleep phase syndrome. I'm regularly functioning on 4 to 5 hours of sleep because I have to get up in the morning just like most other people but can't get to sleep early enough to get at least 7 hours. I'm not sure what I'm going to do about it, I might wait until I'm sure it can't be addressed during OCD therapy anymore and then see if there's any specialist locally that I can afford that doesn't have a year long waiting list.

>>10844342
>admit to my comm that I gained 10 pounds
>mfw the comm elders say I must go through "the hot oven" as punishment
>mfw the full comm stands in a line with their legs apart and I have to crawl underneath them while they spank me mercilessly

>>10845912
Nah, we just chatted and played Project Diva mostly. It was fun.

>>10845990
Sounds like a frat.

>>10844342
>younger sister is doing laundry
>makes fun of me for having holes in my underpants
>"When your friends post cosplay pics I need to reach my dick FAST."
>mfw she gets legit offended

>>10845990
I miss butthole inspection day

I wonder what happened to the Tomoko anon. Hopefully he found his Tomoko. I'd like a Kobayashi gf. She is calm, patient, and understanding.

>>10846034
you memed on her on god-mode, be glad

>>10845990
>>10846025
>>10846034
>>10846035
>>10846064
kill yourselves

An old purse I've been searching for on the secondhand market for years finally appeared, two online listings at once. They were cheap and I was so excited that I bought both of them to make sure I got at least one. Once they arrive, I'll finally be able to take an item off my "you're probably never going to find this" shopping list, and that makes me happy.

Going to a con soon where one friend group doesn't like the other friend group, but that group also has someone else I know that someone doesn't like. Trying to make time to see everyone who is coming from out of state or haven't seen in forever while also juggling events, scheduled lunches and dinners, etc. I'm gonna lose my mind.

>>10845999
Ok
It's something I guess

Am i really a dick for only paying with card at a convention?

>>10846401
Not yet, but if you're in the US, cash transactions are about to become way preferable as people barely scraping by and trying to maintain a side hustle use cash to hide their meager income from the tax militia--er, I mean, IRS.

My grand weight loss plans are going horribly, I've been stagnated for months and I ate way too much both today and yesterday. I keep hoping I suddenly get sick and end up throwing up when this happens but I never do. If I don't eat anything at all tomorrow, even that may not be enough to compensate for my last couple of days, and even if I manage to compensate it still only means continued stagnation. At this rate it's getting too late to accomplish anything resembling goals before summer as well, I may still be able to salvage something if I really do everything perfectly from now but realistically speaking that won't happen. I'll need to do something drastic, maybe hiding my debit card so I'll only be able to buy a little food once in a while, to get anywhere.

>>10846477
I have been stagnating too. At least I have already lost a good amount but I’m also still far from goals. It takes so long and my motivation isn’t as high as at the start. Nothing really makes me feel as happy as food does. It’s kinda ridiculous. But most things just don’t make me feel anything. I just wanna feel happy sometimes. But I’m determined to keep on working towards my goals. Just wish there was some kind of short cut

Why do cons feel soulless now?

Oh god, I'm awake in this shitty world again.

>>10846516
because they are

>>10846533
It do be like that

>>10846477
>>10846504
>Nothing really makes me feel as happy as food does. It’s kinda ridiculous.
It's not ridiculous. Even people who don't have eating disorders feel euphoric when eating good food, they literally moan and clap and film it. However naturally their bodies feel nasty when eating it more than weekly, at least that's how I feel. It's like those people who have never drunk soda before and they can't stomach it as an adult. Once you acclimate your body to the calorie rich unhealthy food, your addiction has already begun. Western food is the worst when it comes to this, because of capitalism the most addicting most dopamine-inducing meals made of fusions of different ingredients which were previously never able to be combined in order to attract the most people and make the most money (Italian-American, Chinese American, Texmex etc) versus look at countries where the food's emphasis is using local ingredients or it being a cultural or historic staple. Not to be made as quickly and attractive as possible. Pick some region's healthy cuisine, keep those ingredients stocked in your home, and get good at those recipes. Also when you're cooking you are constantly tasting and smelling the food and it lowers your appetite.

>>10846547
Ntayrt
I understand what you're getting at but food doesn't have to be junk food or fast food to be toe curlingly good.
I only buy junk for the novelty of it (cookies, ice cream, chips, in flavors I haven't had before) but if I had to say which foods were most delicious and enjoyable it would be that orange and mango I ate last Saturday. Or home made Indian or Thai food from scratch. I think fast food is kind of meh when you can cook. Home made burgers are better than MacD or BurgerKing. Of course I can still make stuff at home that isn't great for my waistline (home made rice pudding) but I keep it to once a week.

It’s funny to me, in Japan the only shit I get for wearing lolita is from tourists. Japanese people, maybe a look, a kawaii here or there from an old lady. They need to implement a test for tourists to see if they can keep to themselves or not before letting them into japan.

>>10846516
Stop going to the big box cons; find the smaller, more niche, close-knit cons. Those are always better.

>>10846564
for me its bun bo hue

>>10846769

Looks very tasty!

Fare thee well, Sakamoto. Guess Takahashi wasn't kept waiting too long for you after all.

>>10847108
nice to see a fellow seagull care. rest in peace king.

>>10846477
Losing weight is a long and hard process, it's absolutely normal to stagnate or to break your diet sometimes. Don't spend a whole day without eating, that will make you feel terrible and you will probably overcompensate afterwards.

Just stick to your normal diet that made you loose weight until now and add more exercise. It's easier to loose weight long term by spending more calories rather than consuming less.

Also, do some strength training, you don't need to be shredded, but muscle mass spend more calories to exist in your body than fat does, building muscle, even if not much, will prevent you from stagnating again.

Good luck and be happy about the progress you had until now, two days eating too much isn't enough to throw a whole diet off. The added weight you see on the scale after breaking the diet for only two days is mostly water and poop.

>>10847127
The man got a sticky on /mu/ (far more active than most) plus threads on /v/, /a/ and /tv/. Much respect. Sayonara to the master.

Meanwhile...

>>10847408
dear lord please take Harold Styles next

I finally got all my dream dresses but one. But it seems like the secondhand lolita market is all dried up. At least there's some cute new releases selling out, so maybe in the future I can get good secondhand...

I gave my usakumya a bath but she's still wet in her brain even though I did it yesterday morning :(
I want her to be dry so she can be back to normal!

I have so many beautiful clothes but I feel like I never go anywhere except perhaps once every two weeks. I work from home and all my friends are always busy, so there's nowhere for me to go all dressed up. I know people say I can run errands in jfash but I'm sorry, I'm just not willing to spend an hour getting ready, go to the grocery store, and walk around random normies for 30 minutes before going back home. They can't appreciate it and it's not worth the effort. Plus, I like to get pics of my coords. I just wish my friends could go out at least once or twice a week so we could have fun together.

Anyone else have this problem? What have you done to fix it? I'm certainly not embarrassed to eat at restaurants alone, but it's just not fun to get dressed up for it.

>>10848034
how would you feel about some cute home wear? Some cute pjs, cutsews, hoodies, fuzzy slippers, etc.

>>10848034
Dress up to work from home
Take yourself out to other kinds of dates besides restaurants (cafes, movies, concerts, walks, museums, etc)
Do a more casual version of your style so it takes less time to get ready and feels like less of a "waste" to do errands in
Make new friends

>>10848035
I definitely have some, but sadly it's still not quite the same experience as getting all done up and going out.

>>10848044
Yeah I'll probably just do that and take a tripod for photos. I'm working on making more friends. It's harder as an adult when you WFH. And unfortunately a lot of people who attend jfash meets tend to be kids, mentally ill, or awkward so it takes a while to find people you can actually trust as normal adult friends. I'm sure it'll happen, but I was just trying to cope in the meanwhile.

No matter what I do i think my cosplay looks like shit

I just started going to cons, a few months ago, almost 20 today. I feel like shit for missing out on these, I wish I would've started going when I was a lot younger.

I’m anxious to wear lolita outside because I already know I will stick out like crazy here, even when I wear something really toned down. People here just all dress so casual and nobody really wears anything out of the norm, not even to kinda more fancy places like restaurants people dress up. I just don’t wanna be stared at or get attention from people. I hate getting unwanted attention from strangers. I just wanna wear my clothes in peace. I’m considering going to a meet or a con, but I would have to drive a long time to get to any and then probably feel awkward and anxious there and also the cost, so I can’t do that often and I haven’t really felt like it. I will probably get the courage together to wear it anyways, I just wish it wouldn’t stand out so much

I think two of my taobao packages got lost on their way to my SS...

>>10848113
I'm turning 30 in a few months and still going to cons. Been doing it since I was 17. I know it's difficult to get, but be glad you're doing it now - you still have a lot of fruitful years left to have a lot of fun. Meet new people. Make new memories. You have time. Use it wisely, if not for yourself, than the sake of this anonymous internet stranger who could have used someone telling me the same thing 13 years ago.

>>10848233
Yeah this shit is the worst. I’m currently in japan for a bit and wearing lolita here is great. 90% of the time the most you get is a look and some percent of those are probably because a I’m a westerner and taller than the Japanese average. The only weird comments I’ve gotten are from tourists who are easy to dismiss because I kinda hate most other tourists.

Back at home people can’t keep to themselves and if I go downtown I have to worry about weird homeless people who will 100% not keep to themselves. Makes me jealous of Lolitas here.

>>10846769
You made me try this and it's now my favorite soup

>>10848113
I just started going at 24 last year, and I feel there's still a lot of time to have fun at these things. I too never went when I was younger, never knew anyone that would want to go, but ain't nothing you can do but enjoy it now. Besides, at least at the cons I've gone to, people seem to average in their late 20s, or at least they look it.

For some reason I get depressed at smaller conventions. Maybe I just have crippling loneliness but when panels only have a couple of people and when the venues are on the smaller side I get borderline suicidal

>went to a convention
>saw incredible cosplays, people literally just standing doing nothing and waiting for people to ask to take photos
>I'm too anxious to even ask
>go home without talking to anybody

>>10848704
Sakura? Anime Boston? Anime Detour?

>>10848459
it’s good but lets not get ahead of ourselves. im your favorite soup

>>10849073
True

I have so little interest in new releases, secondhand items are still of great interest to me, but the market is so dry that I don't feel like checking anymore.

My friend fell backward on the escalator and when I caught her I accidentally grabbed her bare asscheek.

i wish i had some penpals. i want to buy cute stationary that i can actually use.

I might be a prick but seeing all of the balding middle aged overweight men with awful acne at conventions scared the shit out of me, now I've been on a severe self care journey to make sure I don't end up like them

>>10849592
that doesn't make you a prick imo. Being confronted with a possible future can be very effective. Lots of middle aged people let themselves go for a variety of reasons. To be healthier and look better (which often go hand in hand) I recommend to anyone, regardless if male or female, resistance training/lifting/calisthenics 3x a week, go for a walk (30~60 minutes) 3 times a week, increase fruits, vegetables and protein rich foods, decrease overly processed food and alcohol, get enough sleep, skin care routine, good hygiene, cut stressful people out of your life if possible.

>>10849592
Not a prick but definitely a tryhard just own it loser

>>10844342
Looking through my cosplay pics, my parents are legit annoyed that I "meet hot girls all the time" but am still not married or even had a "serious" girlfriend (as in, marriage possible) I near the end of my youth.

Idk, my last relationship was hard. I'm just gonna die alone, okay thank you goodnight.

>>10850402
>my parents are legit annoyed that I "meet hot girls all the time"
Those are very interesting implications they're laying on you, even without the other caveats. And come to think of it...(aside from the part of showing off the pictures) WOW that is literally me too. Sad!

Man, I just really love lolita.

I'm that anon who was talking about losing weight in a healthy way last thread, feeling a bit frustrated because the weight loss is slowing down and I'm feeling less motivated.

I know it's because I have less time now so I haven't been going to the gym as frequently as I was before. It's hard to work, study, prep your own food, maintain the house clean and still find time to exercise, sometimes I have to sacrifice the exercise for other activities such as cooking or studying for a test, there's almost no free time to actually rest and today I missed my classes because I was feeling so tired and knew I wasn't about to learn anything.

I don't feel like quitting because losing only 11lbs has already made me feel so much better and I know I can keep going, but I wish I didn't have so many other things going on that I can't put a hold on.

I missed my DD, the one and only, while I was on a no buy and wasn't checking any marketplaces to avoid temptation. I love it so much, but having missed it about 4 times now and it being very rare, I feel like giving up on the dream of owning it now. I just hope whoever got it loves it as much as I do.

The opposite of sweet is not classic. AP is not becoming more classic, it's simply becoming less sweet. I would even argue that AP's style is becoming more normie.

>>10850564
You start this post by saying your efforts are slowing down, but end it by talking about quitting. These are two different things, anon.

>>10850576
Honestly, I'm just sad that I don't have the time to put the effort I was putting before and yesterday I was feeling specially sad because of missing the classes, but today I'm feeling well rested and more optimistic and tomorrow I have an appointment with my nutritionist and will see if she has any doable suggestions to improve the results with my new routine.

>>10850564
for practical advice I suggest you get a walking pad you can use when doing desk work, and do meal prep for larger batches when you have the time, for example on sunday make as many meals as possible for the week ahead and then freeze or refrigerate. It doesn't have to be the same food every day (please don't do that) as you can batch cook different types of meals ahead.
Then 3 times a week do some kind of resistance training/strength training/calisthenics for 15 minutes.

>>10850616
I already meal prep and do 40min strength training three times a week. Maybe I could get a walking pad, I'm just not sure if I will be able to concentrate enough at work while walking, but it's worth a try.

>>10850564
Drop the exercise, weight loss via diet only.

>>10850640
>weight loss via diet only.
diet weightloss works the worst.

>>10850640
you can diet yourself skinny but there's plenty of evidence suggesting that you will look better and be healthier (healthier body comp) if exercise is part of your lifestyle (and not just cardio, strength training is a must), it will be more sustainable too. Once you achieve your goal weight it's easier to maintain your goal weight if you keep exercise as part of your lifestyle.

>>10850639
I do quite a lot of desk work too but decided against getting a walking pad. However I do have the time to go out on walks and live in an area where I can walk safely during the day which is a luxury that not everyone has. I see other people enjoying their walking pad though, so it obviously works nicely enough for some. Perhaps try one out before buying if that's possible.

Another way to get your movement in is to do things like park further away from the store, use stairs instead of the elevator, etc. But that takes extra time and it sounds like you don't have that right now.

>>10849688
Cope

>>10850566
Came here to say the same thing.

>>10850612
Went to the nutritionist and she said I did great progress and can keep doing what I'm doing without worry. All the weight I lost was fat, I even gained some muscle, the scale doesn't measure your progress as well as measurements and exams analysed by a trained professional.

Decided to try wearing a dress that I stopped wearing because it was too tight on the arms and it isn't uncomfortable to wear it anymore, I guess that's a better way to measure progress than stepping on the scale.

Thanks to all the anons who helped me when I was feeling down about my journey, I suggest going to a nutritionist for anyone who wants to lose weight and have the means to afford a professional, it makes all the difference.

>>10850969
i gained weight from being sedentary due to a broken leg and never used a scale when i was exercising it off. muscle weighs more than fat and takes up less space, so weighing yourself will give you the wrong impression. plus losing inches is what you need to fit into clothes anyway.

I just got out of an incredibly toxic relationship with an asexual. After I asked her enough times, she eventually agreed to compromise by having sex sometimes, but she wasn’t into it at all and even acted hurt afterwards. I had never felt more undesirable in my life. How can someone have sex with someone they love and not feel a beautiful connection? I’m fortunately away from that demon now, but it still hurts and all I can think about is how much she refused to love me, and how unlovable I must be.

Looks like the janitors must be asexual.

>taobao-only newfag vehemently arguing that lolita is affordable
>has no idea how much brand actually costs
Gulls I feel old and jaded. I was so ready to give nonny the benefit of the doubt but I can't deal with this shit anymore. I'm starting to think it's impossible for me to make new friends in the fashion.

>>10851049
It's not like the old days anymore when japanese brand and bodyline were the only choices. Taobao lolita is considered real lolita these days.
As much as I would love to take a time machine back to the early 2000s that's simply not going to happen.

>>10851072
Stop being cowards and start gatekeeping.

>>10851084
It's pointless.

>>10844342
Girl from our comm said that her brother is an old man. I told her he's a hot old man and I'd bang him. She got mad and started calling me "down bad" and a "thot." I'm a virgin. Is it possible she's just salty because she's worn Squirrel Birthday ten weeks in a row?

>>10844661
>sells used underwear
>surprised when ppl are weird with it

i lost 50lbs in a few months but gained 10 of it back recently. i think it's stress. both of my parents died earlier this year and the loss hit me hard enough that my hair has been falling out, too. i barely eat anymore. tried to join a group therapy program and it was cancelled for lack of enrolment. feeling like i'm becoming fat and hideous increases stress levels.

i feel like i'm stuck on some kind of misery carousel.

>>10851239
that sucks to hear anon. hopefully you'll pull thru

>>10851239
It's natural that our weight fluctuate during our lifetime, you are going through a big mourning, don't need to be hard on yourself because you gained a bit of weight.

Besides, 10lbs won't make you fat and hideous. You lost 50lbs in the past, you are perfectly able to lose the weight you gained when you are back in a better place.

>>10849094
Are you me?
I don't want to sound dramatic, but the current situation feels like an end to lolita. I'm here for the few MTOs that revive the magic, but everything else I love feels broken.
I'm immensely thankful that I got into the fashion before 2020, because it would be near impossible to build the wardrobe I have now in the present day. Secondhand shopping feels nonexistent because there's either nothing, it's $2k, or bots get it first. It makes me wonder how things will be in 5 years.

>>10851239
Hey, I've been going through the same thing for the past 3 years. I don't really have any advice and not sure if you're looking for it, but I know this won't last forever. Be kind to yourself and remember that people who truly care about you will love you regardless of how you look.

I wanna be kawaii but there's so much tragedy in this world. #thirdworldproblems

>wanted to cosplay a character I really like
>put it off for years because I was kinda chubby + covid killed my interest in cons
>started working out during covid so I'm really close to my goal body & would just need to cut for a bit
>have had a rediculous amount of free time recently to make the cosplay, but have made no effort to relearn & actually do so.

>>10851463
Same here

I'm sick of underage faggots trying to low-ball me for vintage brand. It's not my fucking fault that shit's expensive for newcomers. I can't sell anything to you for MSRP or for cheap even though I know the aftermarket price is grossly over-inflated now. The cost of everything sucks as much for me as it does for you so fuck off, fuck off, fuck off, fuck off

>>10851463

Context to this picture?

>Always want to socialize at cons
>Usually exhausted for whatever reason
>Either I'm so dazed I forget how to tie my shoes or try anyhow and end up dead by the time it's over
To say nothing of my recent descent into stupid histrionics. "They didn't like me / they only pretended / they'll change their mind later / even if they reach out again, it's fake. Somebody told me this is from "over socialization", which is...kind of nice? I never thought of myself as anything but the opposite before

>>10851783
do you have to be nice when you reject them since the lolita community is small and people might spread rumors

>>10851812
It's fake, it was for a TV show

>>10852144
You don't HAVE to be nice to them, but I choose to, begrudgingly.

I used to come here daily from ~2010-2015. I fell out of love with lolita and jfashion somewhat suddenly and I’m checking in for the first time in a while. There’s a lot of new terminology and things don’t seem as busy around here anymore. I miss the magazine scans on LJ, reading secrets like the Sunday paper, browsing and buying beautiful clothes and feeling so inspired by what I saw. It makes me feel a little sad something that used to be so important to me hardly means anything to me anymore. Jfashion doesn't seem as exciting as it used to, but maybe that’s me getting older.

I hope everyone has a good weekend.

I miss cgl drawthreads... Is there no hope of them coming back? I loved drawing coords as practice but the last drawthread was such a shitshow.

>>10852195
I don't think it's you getting older. I think things really have changed, and even as someone who joined in 2016, the magic is gone (exposing myself as ~new~ but whatever).
I love looking at my wardrobe, but the community/brand releases/secondhand sales don't feel special anymore. Echoing everyone else, lolita feels like it died around 2020. For me, the large influx of social media clout-chasers/heavy botting on secondhand sites killed jfashion. Tiktok kids treat lolita like fast fashion, and bots just make everything tiresome and spoil the experience (sure, some items were always hard to get, but new listings on CC didn't sell out before the page loaded). Things are so bad that if I weren't a lolita already, I wouldn't try to start in 2023. I have no idea why people join the fashion now. It feels kind of empty?
You're correct that this forum is a lot slower too. I'm not sure what brands you like, but the AP thread is very slow now and sometimes new releases aren't even inspiring enough for anons to post them. I miss when anons would gather here during blood bath releases and we'd all talk about what we got/how badly the site crashed.

>>10852200
nayrt but a lot has changed since I started wearing lolita again after my hiatus. A lot of that has to do with the pandemic. Such as the effect on shipping prices and local comm meet ups, but also lots of new people trying to join lolita fashion during and after the pandemic. On one extreme end there are literal teenagers wanting to wear lolita, but expect to get stuff for fast fashion prices (because otherwise "classism"), and for every brand to go up to a US size 20 (because otherwise "fat phobia"), and this generation has forgotten how to do their own research and is incapable of using google, so they much rather ask their beginner questions to anyone who seems like they might be in lolita fashion but they also expect for answers right then and there on a silver platter.
Over the last 5 or 6 years lolitas have started moving from fb to other platforms to a degree where some fb comms are (almost) entirely dead right now. Currently the second hand market has been sucked dry (might have something to do with not only the pandemic but also the war, energy prices, etc). People on the longest self imposed no-buys I've ever seen. Brands only releasing mediocre stuff or lower quality versions/slightly altered designs of former releases. My local comm and most comms are pretty boring right now imo because people mainly seem to talk about 2 things (taobao shit, AP). Misinformation continues to run rampant (and impossible to control) on tiktok where every teen with an AliExpress mass produced dress can hop on their soapbox and claim to be a resource/authority on lolita. If my memories of lolita were wiped and I saw what gets the most attention online I would probably not want to wear it.

>>10852195
>>10852200
>>10852203
I want to go back, gulls

>>10846477
from someone from struggled with weight loss, you should just find a habit to replace the old habit rather than trying to yo yo dieting. like wanting to calorie restrict severely for one day and then gaining it all back the next due to binging. you just need to find the root cause of your poor eating habits and replace it with something else. for e.g. i always found myself eating after school because i would always be tired/starving and would binge on really shit foods for the quick "nutrient" absorption and for stress release. but then i used gaming to replace my stress/binge eating and made exercise into a fun activity so that i wouldnt dread exercising. that has made all the difference. it needs to be a complete lifestyle change if you want it to last long term and have a healthy relationship with food without constantly feeling guilt over calorie counting etc. anyways everyone has their own root issues to deal with but i guarantee 99% of it is due to your eating habits which is what you need to fix primarily!

>>10852225
It actually helped me to just come to /cgl/ and complain. I got past my stagnation and have lost an acceptable amount of weight since then, and I got into a good rhythm of eating an appropriate amount most days.
I'm a bit worried because the scale really did a jump today though, and I've not been doing perfectly for the past three days or so, but I have hope that it'll get back on track soon, and if not, making more complaints in the feels thread seems to be able to fix it.

My comm has officially died. Meetups are so boring now that all the interesting people have left after the drama. All that is left are insufferable itas and politics mouthers that love to scream politics at every meetup. Why can’t we enjoy meetings without the constant reminder of politics when meets are supposed to be a comfortable space for everyone? And I’m sick of hearing drama at every meet. This has recently happened with a known drama lolita trying to barge into my conversation and get information about people I share mutual interests with, policing us with an essay on how we should avoid interacting with them when our interactions with said lolita were pleasant.

>>10852511
Did she bring print outs?

I lost weight, my fingers got thinner and now none of my rings fit :(

I wish I lived somewhere walkable with quality yet affordable food. It's a tiresome uphill battle to stay thin and be happy.

>>10852858
Same. I wish I could retire in Japan.
>tfw vacationing in Japan, not working but walking everywhere, ate literally everything I wanted, gained no weight

>>10852858
>somewhere walkable
>quality
>affordable
>food
Hi, I'm from Florida. I dunno what any of these things are. Can somebody help?

>>10852907
NAYRT but I’m from Florida too and I feel your pain, anon

>>10844342
I've had all my previous trips ruined by the friends or family members because they're fatasses who can barely walk yet they insist on following me somewhere, probably because they think I'll feel lonely and sad if I travel alone. Fuck them, I booked a plane ticket to Japan without telling anyone, I'll buy a shit ton of clothes because my size is easy to find there, I'll sell a few Japanese manga I have because they got officially translated later and I'll buy some that will never get translated and published instead, I'll eat delicious food without my family finding out and trying to hatecrime me for tonkotsu ramen, I'll live my best life for three weeks. The only issue I have is that I won't be there for the next comiket but as time passes I don't really mind it anymore. It just sucks a little bit but they sell less recent doujinshi in a bunch of stores anyway.

>>10852511
Which comm are you from anon? This sounds like my comm

>>10851155
That’s a tragedy but you’re gross for talking like that

Yes, lolita has changed and a lot of it has to do with the way social media works now. Back then it was more focused in finding people with similar interests, socializing and building a community. Now it's all about fame, money, studying algorithms to be able to even make an appearance on your friends or followers feeds. It's hard for something to feel like a community this way.

Text based social media is dying, it's being ages since the last time I discussed something about lolita online outside of CGL, which honestly sucks because this is a hell hole filled with trolls and terrible people even if there are exceptions.

The very nature of lolita doesn't match social media algorithms, we supposedly value quality over quantity which doesn't give us so much to post about, meaning not keeping the frequency the algorithm ask us and it isn't a style with so many chances of being unique, which also doesn't help with the algorithms. Also, it isn't sexy, sexy brings a lot of attention of a kind we don't want, but the algorithm doesn't discriminate what kind of attention the posts are getting.

I've seen a good amount of girls giving lolita up and choosing to wear generic j-fashion inspired e-girl like stuff because it's cheaper and gives them more attention on social media. It might seem silly, but this is what the younger generations are about, this is what being seen and socializing means now. Being e famous is on a completely different level, it can even be your full time job if you have the luck, looks and hability to become an influencer.

All alt fashion is being affected by this, but since lolita is smaller, have a less structured subculture behind it and relied heavily on online interaction for the community, we end up feeling it more.

If we were less bitter, maybe someone would be happy to make us our own social media, but we tear apart everyone who try to give anything to the community as not being good enough so we can't have nice things.

It pisses me off how much trauma changes superficial things about the body. As if the whole inner system being thrown off was not enough, I have to see these fuckers in every wrinkle, every sagging or puffy place that should not be and does not go back to normal no matter how well I eat, how much sleep I get, whatever. I hate coming across like a victim but it’s the last thing I’d like to be. I’d love to believe all the effort I’m putting into getting myself into a better place in life isn’t going to all be for nothing again because my family is fucked and that made ME fucked so I just attract more fucked people even when I’m trying so hard to escape forever from these cycles. Goddamnit. My looks were one thing I could feel safe in, and with my frame and general composition it worked well to have a babyface for so long but now I just look like some weird babygrandma grandmababy. Not kawaii. I don’t feel good in my cute shit anymore and I feel totally autistic and out of place trying to force myself into normie mid-20s women clothes. Fuck. I just want to be fucking cute and pure again. I want to carve those fuckers up so they have to see me in their faces every day too

>>10853404
>our own social media, but we tear apart everyone who try to give anything to the community as not being good enough so we can't have nice things.

what do you suggest?

But yeah, I think everyone who has been in lolita for a long time has noticed the changes you mentioned. I don't think any of us think it's an improvement. Maybe it's because I took a hiatus from lolita for a long time (left in 2009, came back in 2018) but I still have trouble adjusting to the way everything is now.
It used to be the popular/most well known lolitas had that position (for a lack of better word) in the community because they were experienced, knowledgeable, dressed well but even more importantly they contributed to the community by guiding newer lolitas towards resources, they organized events, came up with ideas for stuff to do online, moderated, etc. Positive community involvement and being well dressed is what guaranteed that you were someone people recognized online.

These days other things matter more. You can have piss poor taste and still have a big following if you're loud and controversial enough, or focus at least some of your content on LGBTQ, plus size, POC, disability, etc. That will give you popularity points regardless of your skill in dressing. I don't understand that, imo it should not work that way (and I say that as someone who is part of some of the aforementioned groups). What also gets people popularity points is them buying loads of cheap, mass produced hauls. Gulls might not grasp how many people are really into low cost, low quality crap and lots of it especially if you don't frequent the same spaces they do. So not only do you not need to be well dressed to be popular, you can be a loud, fat, poorly dressed butch and be popular, and you can be simply popular for buying crap hauls and not do anything in the way of community interaction.

>>10853404
I feel you, anon. I'm gen z and relatively new to lolita so I wasn't around before the rise of short-form social media, but watching YouTube videos and reading LiveJournal posts from 10-12 years ago and it makes the community seem a lot more... collective? Idk if that's the right word but you get what I mean

I'm down 20lbs from when I started and trying so hard to lose the last 10lbs to hit my goal weight but I cannot make any more progress. I'm eating at a deficit and cannot exercise temporarily due to having minor surgery but was exercising before that and I'm just stuck at the same weight without losing anything for months now. it's making me depressed I put so much work in only to get stuck when I'm so close to the finish line.

>>10853427
you probably weren't attractive to begin with and are just now realizing that. also you sound white, try not being white, for one white girls have disgusting skin.

>>10853474
It’s still a personal scale and I don’t remember asking for some weird secretly wants to be cucked by a black man gook scrote’s or one with the same aura’s opinion

I could have had a bit more cushion before I had reason to seriously consider filler and I’m still a solid 6. I could break the cute/pretty cusp some days but now I just look limbo cute in some weird conciliatory damaged and world-weary way. If this was 5D bait to go “Hey only I can talk bad about myself and I still love and like myself quite a bit” good job and thank you regardless. Baka.

Really need to do a wardrobe purge soon holy crap

>>10853447
After Lacebook, I don't think anyone is going to try making a social media platform for lolitas anytime soon.

Heck, some part of me wonders if there is anything left to discuss. Few would comment on brand releases publicly, there's no more GLB to discuss, concrit culture seems on the decline, meetups are still half dead after covid, research on brand history feels like we've looked in very corner and turned over every stone... At this point, what's left?

Why think? Just mindlessly consume.

>>10853544
Almost forgot to mention, BTB is dead too

>>10853544
kind of depressing but true.
Perhaps more/better lolita specific apps in the future. Although I can't think of anything other than better versions of what's already out there (my everyday lolita).

And I miss checking in on btb every sunday.

The only place where it's appropriate to talk openly about your opinion on brand releases, or certain sellers or stores online, seems to be here.

Of course there could be similar discord servers but I don't have unlimited time to spend on lolita.

>>10853551
What about that dreamwidth BTB replacement? Is that dead now too?

>>10853577
was suspended ages ago. iirc someone complained which lead to the suspension of the page.

>>10853578
Can someone make another one?

>>10853609
there would be no point if a single complaint can nuke the new one again.

This board concentrates the single largest focal point of faggotry here on 4chan despite the fact that 99% of you are all heterosexual women. Stop acting like total cunts when coomers create threads about this or that cosplayer. This femcel gatekeeping is why almost nobody comes here anymore. Thank you for coming to my TED talk.

>>10853621
how come there hasnt been a popular cosplay girl since jnig?

I'm going to be dead soon, but I don't want to leave my collection to my family. They won't know what to do with it or how much to sell it for and I don't have much time to plan anything out. I don't have any friends, so I'm thinking of passing everything onto a well-dressed lolita in my comm. Not sure how to approach this subject, if she'll accept the offer without any explanation or regret accepting it down the line, but it's the best option I have. I just want these clothes to make someone else happy.

>>10853645
dang whats trying to kill you anon

>>10853645
Don't kill yourself, anon.

I bought a premade cosplay from a Chinese site. Due to some weird timing (ordered right before all the shutdowns over there late last year) they had a bunch of delays and wouldn't respond back so I requested a refund. They shipped it after so I still got it despite getting all my $ back.
They forgot some pieces, but it's mostly fairly good quality insofar as fit/how it looks. I imagine the accessories they forgot would have looked like shit anyways so I can just make them myself.

>>10853645
Can we date until then?

>>10853785
this anon got a free cosplay and still manage to complain haha

>>10853788
I just feel bad for essentially stealing 90% of a free cosplay

>>10853789
there's no medicine for regret anon. what could help you feel better is to try your dang hardest to make a good cosplay. that way when you were it more people will ask where you got it.

I don’t think I’ll ever get over her. Even after months of no contact I still think about her every day.

>>10853795
You'll get over her.

Lolita fashion (old meta) is the only thing that makes me happy. I love old meta. I currently own two old meta dresses and i want moreee. I wish i could surround myself with lolitas everyday and not have to worry about ugly ass boring people who are assholes lol. I’m blessed to have a normal, non-crazy comm where i’ve met lots of nice people :) I’m so glad I dont have to participate in all the dumb shit going on in the wider community. i’m stuck in a bad situation now and all i want is to parade around in my old meta and not give a shit about anything going on. I want to go to an anime con too. I want to die but then I think about buying or wearing old meta and then I don’t lol. Old meta is keeping me alive.

>>10853806
A lolita of good taste.

I decided the conditions were right to lift my no-buy (I only bought 2 things last year, that's how serious I was about it). I went to lacemarket only to see it's fucking dry. Overpriced damaged stuff. Some stuff going for 1.5x~2x the price it did for a few years ago.
I thought "hmmm, maybe I should check out this moitie apron" and immediately thought the quality looked like what you would expect from a knock off.
I was almost tempted to buy an OP much larger than my measurements just because it seemed like a reasonable deal in comparison to the other offerings. Then realized I could buy an OP straight from the brand for a similar price.
Of course I haven't been living under a rock, I have heard of the second hand market not being so great right now and people complaining about the quality of moitie and AP. So this wasn't a surprise but it's still jarring to see it first hand. I still ended up yelling at my screen "that much for bodyline!?!".
Are people trying to get back what they paid for the item (shipping and customs included) and then some?
Going to check out the other websites tonight with a pot of chamomile tea, I'll probably need it.

>>10853857
Honestly, this is why no-buys are a bad idea. I think it's better to just budget money or put aside what can be spend on hobbies/fashion and that way you can buy things you really want when they pop up/you don't accidentally wait until the secondhand market gets even worse.

Not your particular story, but I see way too many people complaining that they "missed out" on something they wanted because of a no-buy. Why not just buy it because chances are so slim it'll ever show up again? If people don't have enough money, I rather they just say that, instead of parading around under a "no-buy." It just anyways struck me as odd, like people announcing they're going on a diet, or something personal no one else needs to know.

I got my dream dress in the mail today and she's even more beautiful in person and fits me perfectly. I am in love. I want to be buried in this dress

>>10853863
Congrats!! What dress is it?

>>10853864
Thank you! It's hawase doll OP in white, specifically one of the older rose embroidered releases. I was worried about sleeve length but they're super long, and I've been burned by unflattering high-waisted AP jsks before but I think the a-line skirt shape makes this one look nice. I didn't even notice the upper sleeve shirring or the lace on the neckline until I saw it in person but it's gorgeous lol. I'm in love with the wide lace on the hem too. I like how it's a fairly simple white dress, and all the lace and bows and embroidery are what make it fancy! Those kinds of details are what make me love lolita

>>10853859
ayrt
I agree it's generally good advice to budget a set amount of your monthly income for your hobby/recreation fund.

However that does not apply when incoming and outgoing costs become unstable. Last year my income remained the same but living costs rose sharply and unpredictably. I was far from broke but imo the most responsible thing you can do in such a situation is spend as little as possible on fun stuff and prioritize more important stuff, and just wait it out until the situation becomes more stable again. With so many unworn items in my wardrobe a no-buy just seemed like the logical thing to do as well.

No-buys are also just part of lolita culture by now even when people do have money to spend. There's related tags and wardrobe challenges. It allows people to take time to appreciate what they already have and see what they can do with it beyond the obvious/basic way of coordination (which there's nothing wrong with, I love cookie cutter coords). It helps them realize they might have some items that don't make them happy anymore and can be sold.
On a no-buy I don't visit second hand sites or brand sites, so I don't feel like I'm missing out. I see new releases posted in several platforms but it helps that most of those aren't interesting to me.

>>10853645
anon u good?

>>10853474
Wtf is wrong with you?

>>10853806
Cute

>>10853885
Words to live by

>>10852573
They make silicon ring liners you can buy to make rings a bit smaller, it’s cheaper than buying new jewelry

>>10852195
I miss secrets too, I wish someone would remake them. Anyway it's nice to see you here welcome back

>>10852203
I feel like tiktok zoomers are 50% of the problem in lolita atm. I can't wait for them to move on, hopefully they don't dump their wardrobes full of cheap Taobao and AliExpress sex costumes on lacemarket when they leave

>>10852462
Congratulations anon keep it up

>>10853871
It's gorgeous I'm so happy for you!

>>10853966
Nayrt
Tbh, maybe my comm experience has been better than others, but in my comm (a considerably big one), there seems to be a handful of tiktok zoomers who aren’t nearly as active at meetups/don’t have nearly as much influence as the older members do. So I feel better knowing that that they probably won’t have an actual long term effect on the lolita community besides maybe damaging our reputation on the internet a little bit

Sometimes I just wish that one should take a full personality test before beginning to cosplay.

It's honestly disappointing to see 30+ year old men and women falling for petty small power syndrome, selective exclusion and all sorts of power trips, when the world is very small and not being well spoken closes many opportunities and render people without any friends besides people who have commercial interests as 'friends'. Or people with that age who are double faced.

But it's too much to ask for people to act like adults nowadays.

>>10854087
seems very specific anon

>>10854087
What are you even talking about

Preparing to sell 20+ lolita dresses, two coats, 10+ cardigans and blouses, and a shit ton of accessories at a swap meet. I hope this shit sells, I don't want to make a ton of listings on lacemarket

real talk, how does one approach someone they think is cute at a con?
I'm a girl who's a solid 6 on a good day with huge tits, so I have that going for me, but I don't cosplay cotm/costhot characters and have baby face and legit look like jailbait. I'm so fucking autist I can't get beyond "I like your shirt/cosplay" before feeling like the conversation has run its course and we part ways
>have cons been doomed to small talk until the end of time

>>10854105
I never asked anyone out before but cant you swap contact and flirt thru text or ask to meet up again at one of the panels

>>10854074
The tiktok ita in my comm are a minority too and don't show up to many meets luckily but they're perfectly apt at shitting up any online space they visit

>>10854103
Let us know how you go.
I'm excited to browse all your listings on LM, what substyle are you?

>>10854088
>>10854097

it's very specific yes because i'm talking about someone specific from my area. I hate people who just outright disrupt the peace in the cosplay community.

>>10854105
literally ask for a selfie and take their instagram. later on, begin flirtation.

>>10844342
Don't hate me 'cause I'm kawaii, ita. Maybe if you got rid of that old yee-yee ass bodyline you got, you'd get some frills on your coord. Oh, better yet, maybe senpai'll call your dog-ass if he ever stop fuckin' with that fatty-chan or DDLG he fucking with. Itaaaaa.

>>10854385
can you seagulls share some cringey weebshit you did in the past im so bored

Once again I'm alone at a con. And I'm honestly probably the only person here who doesn't have anyone to talk to or be with. The few people here that I have met in the past are either completely ignoring me, or making it clear that they don' t want to talk to me.
I'm the most unlikeable person ever, EVERYONE else have friends and people to talk to. Why is it only me.

>>10844342
meme

>>10853806
Same anon here. I have gotten a dream dress! Somewhat old meta.
In a depressive episode for the past week but this has been a tiny bit of light. It’s hard to enjoy things at all and have something to look forward to these days but new meta always slays.
I wish you all good luck on your dream dresses

>>10844342
Should I be mad if a girl in our hotel room lied around bare assed in front of my bf? She could have worn more than a thong to nap when someone else's guy is in the room I think. He said he didn't look.

>>10854105
I'm not cute, but...
Austria?

>>10853621
>Stop acting like total cunts when coomers create threads about this or that cosplayer.
It's the only stuff still keeping that board alive...

>>10854662
That's gross, she knows what she's doing. I'd be furious and I'd be side eyeing my bf for staying alone in the room with her for any length of time

>>10854662
only be mad if you catch your bf balls deep in that ass

I got distracted by other stuff and didn't finish my cosplay. The con's in a week. I feel like such a bum, and also I didn't lose the extra 10 lbs.

havent cosplayed in 8 years and feeling crushing nostalgia of panning through 2015 cosplay tumblr when people had passion for crafting and photography and convention meets, and fervently planning out a basic cosplay from weeb anime i watched over skype with long distance friends, and begging my mom for $100 in crafting materials, and ignoring homework after school to crunch for the local <2000 attendee convention. just to walk around the con center and surrounding area by myself for 8 hours and be asked for 4 pictures and not talk to anyone but still feel content with it.
im an adult now in a big city and can afford to make cosplay and attend big cons, but i hate this new cosplay culture where fat middle schoolers do drag makeup with red blush noses dressed like jailbait and consequently get retarded "trauma" from every and any internet reaction positive or negative. i hate everything about tiktok/instagram and really liked the posting structure of tumblr where it was easy to filter for a cosplayer's personal work/tutorials/con text-blogging posts/etc.
ok wine rant over. i dont even watch anime anymore but i miss it bros

>finish my first attempt at making armor and try everything on
>Think everything looks like shit and no longer wanna cosplay

>>10856777
>can't do something perfectly the first time
>no longer want to do thing
Welcome to my world

>>10854103
That's a lot of work, good luck.
...also I am borrowing your chef rabbit.

>>10854662
Yes you should be mad because shes trifling, but also why is your bf trashy enough to hang around that? Im not gonna stay in the room if my male friends decide they randomly need to air out their balls, and he shouldnt either.

>>10856777
>>10856782
Pain

My whole life is a waste, there is literally no one who's more socially retarded than me. I read the CoF thread, and people talk about going out with friends. To the extent that that happens for me, it's always just one. I have no social momentum, I'll never make new friends and gradually lose the ones I have, and I'm not even close with my "friends". And everyone else I know actually have friends, they do things. Why must I be the only one. And if I am to hang out with someone, it always takes a lot of effort, I have to message them, there's a lot of back and forth and planning. No one ever asks me, and I wish I could hang out with people more spontaneously, without planning a long time in advance, and that I could meet people much more frequenty.

>>10858402
It's sad to say but if your friends are never taking the initiative to meet up with you then that probably means they're not very invested in you as a friend. If this keeps happening to you for years it could be that you're trying to befriend the wrong kind of people, or it's something about your personality/behavior that keeps people from wanting to become close friends with you.

Also, if you're an adult it's just a fact that even if your friends really like you and want to hang out with you it can be really hard to find the time. When I was a teen I'd hang with my friends at least twice a week. Things are very different now because my friends are all married and some of them have children, busy careers, are members of certain clubs. For example one of my friends plays in an orchestra every saturday. Another one of my friends has a weekly boardgame night over at a community center. Nearly all of my friends are members of multiple clubs.
Planning is the best way to ensure you'll get to see them, coming over unannounced is just not an option for people with busy lives.

I feel like most people at an anime convention are gonna be some degree of Bocchi, so conversations will peter out quick. You'd think that since everyone there is a weeb, you'd have lots to talk about, but actually doing it is hard. :/
Not everyone is the same "flavor" of weeb; and cons are busy places, people have lots to see and lots to do, so no one wants to get bogged down in conversation.
Then you have the people who come with their friends, and if you thought approaching a single person was difficult, approaching a group is even worse.
I can count on one hand the number of times a conversation lasted for more than 30 seconds. Why bother taking a risk to make new friends when you always have the comforting safety zone of your current friends to fall back on, you know? I feel like too many people think that way.

>>10858510
>I feel like too many people think that way.
This last part kinda re-contextualizes the whole thing. Are you saying you're like the people who described, or that it's bad how so many people think that way? ...Actually neither one cancels the other, now that I think about it.

>>10858514
Both at once, and it's hard to get out of that mindset

I love my Usakumya she's so kind

I have mixed feelings over conventions. On one hand I love to see girls in real life, especially when they wear sexy outfits and cosplays. Being able to ogle them up close is an exhilirating experience that is so much more thrilling than seeing them in online photos. If I'm lucky it will be crowded enough that I can get close enough to smell them. I spend the whole day in a foggy lust-fueled haze, practically drunk off the pheremones. There are times where I had to literally jack off in the restrooms just to stay sane.

But once I have to go home, the reality comes crashing down around me. I got to see the girls, but that's it. They aren't my girlfriend. I'm not dating them. I didn't get to have sex with them. In fact most of them are probably there with their boyfriends, or hooking up with other men at the con. I have to go home and masturbate while someone else gets to enjoy their bodies to the fullest. In this sense it's worse than seeing them online because at least from behind a screen it feels like they are an unattainable fantasy. Seeing them in real life makes me realize how close I came to happiness only to have it cruelly denied away from me. I'm being tortured by what I can never have. It always makes me feel suicidal. But I know I'll just go back next year and the cycle begins again.

>>10859136
>I'm so upset that girls aren't offering to have sex with me just because I exist
If you're not actually putting in effort to get a hookup or relationship, you're not going to get it.
>Seeing them in real life makes me realize how close I came to happiness
You were literally no closer to having sex with them by oogling them at a con than you would have been if you only saw them in a photo. Stop deluding yourself.
>I'm being tortured
By your own unrealistic expectations and laziness.

I hate being extremely apple shaped. Even when nearly underweight I looked like shit

>>10859262
If you're into lolita fashion the best you can do when apple shaped is embrace high waist, empire waist and sack dress cuts.
A good, comfortable underwear corset could help as well if you want to look better in other cuts.

To the ita that complimented me: I'm not sorry I didn't give you a pity compliment in return. I sincerely hope you weren't expecting one.

>>10858910
>>10859136
The duality of /cgl/

>>10859136
>I feel like comitting suicide because hot cosplay girls won't fuck me
you're never going to fuck any woman let alone a hot one so might as well kill yourself, you don't need to spread your autistic manlet genes

>>10858402
I am at least. I only have one friend irl and haven’t made a new one since middle school. I would like to go to a lolita comm meet up one day but I’m so anxious, I probably won’t

>>10844342
Local cosplay guy always includes his sister in his posts, usually wearing something skimpy. How do we call him out for using his hot sister for clout?

I met a really cute cosplayer cosplaying someone from a series I really like, and he was pretty surprised when I recognized him. Apparently no one has recognized the character he's cosplayed as since he's started. I got a picture with him but I was in the middle of something and forgot to get his socials. I'm an idiot. I hope I run into him again.

>>10858910
If you bought your Usakumya secondhand she’s not a khhv when you got her. someone loved her before you

>>10859738
What character was he cosplaying?

Never get the shits in cosplay. Reblog if you agree.

Question to the seagulls here
Would you wear an ahegao-bikini/swimsuit in the public bath?
Or at least in the...
...bedroom?

(Yes, I'm a male)

>>10859738
If it's a niche series/character that doesn't get a lot of cosplays done of it then you might be able to find him online just by doing a bit of internet searching

The emotional hangover of coming back from cons fucking kills me. I think I'm sort of getting used to how to act and what to do when there, but I wish I had figured all that out earlier with someone who's better to go to said cons with. Oh well, there's still more to go to anyway.

>>10860565
What do you find so appealing about cons? I have only been to one so far and idk

>>10860595
Welllll you can get a lot of answers by following this shameless plug for a thread I made almost 6 months ago. It answers your question from multiple angles >>10833596

>>10844342
I tried to kiss my Chainsaw Man body pillow at tea, but an ita walked in front of me and I accidentally kissed her bare ass. Is there a weigh to fix this?

>>10860595
Not sure. I like Japanese media and such things dedicated to it. I like dressing up and acting like an idiot. I like getting drunk with other retards. I like that people are passionate enough about some really stupid niche subject that they're willing to put on hour long panels or other performances. I like being surrounded by people who feel the same way more or less. It's like a vacation too, what with hotel stays and all. >>10860604 will provide a lot of different answers though, maybe you can see what others enjoy and find you do as well.

>>10861010
She has to kiss your bare ass back. Sorry, I don't make the rules.

>be me
>looking at meet pics
>why do I look so sad
>why does my face look so haggard
>i look like someone whose grandmother is dy.... ohhhhh

I finally have a "hobby room" which I can decorate and use however I like. For years I dreamed about using a room like this to store and display/enjoy my lolita wardrobe...but it's happened too late. I have been passionate about lolita for over half my life, but over the past couple years I lost interest and have sold off a lot of things because lolita just no longer feels that practical or even flattering. It's kind of sad that my hobby room won't be the cute clothing space I longed for, but I guess I will find something else to use it for...

>>10861135
Even if you don't want to wear lolita anymore, you can still enjoy cute clothes and cute aesthetics. Live your dream of having a cute hobby room, anon!

>nosejob quote is 4000 euros all included
>facial fat graft (cheeks, nasolabial, lips) probably another 3500-4000 euros
>will get one (trying to get both) in 2024
>already paid 3000 for a lip lift
>in addition to professional microneedling and chemical peels on a seasonal basis

Why is vanity and self esteem so fucking expensive? I have almost no desire for possessions or luxuries outside of looking prettier and prettier.

I feel like the evil queen in sleeping beauty. Except not rich.
I wish I could just be like moids who can be fat, bald and happy while living in a crackhouse.

>Wake up in the morning
>Despair
I can't take this.

>>10861332
Just do microneedling at home, there's not really a reason to get it done professionally. I'd also recommend finding a moid that supports this

>>10861624
I find men gross. Not sure how easy it is to find a chaser that buys me shit while never really putting out. Maybe a handjob after a few weeks.

>>10848704
I talked to two people at anime north, but the guy was painfully gay with a lisp and I spilled spaghetti talking the girl. Mfw I didn't ask to hangout with either and still no frens

>>10861699
Hi

>>10861703
Bruh what do you mean painfully gay

>>10861715
male anons here are high value men that are 100% straight. They obviously cant hang out with people that would dampen their image.

>>10861715
Sometimes gay men are really annoying

Where the fuck is the update for katsucon rooms?

There are rumors that they are having trouble holding the Gaylord?

>>10844342
The only time I brought my big bother to meet my cos senpai, the first thing he said was "One in five women have banged a dog, and I see five women here."

Three months into my weight loss journey I had lost 11lbs, which isn't the greatest, but was consistent sustainable weight loss. However shit happened and I'm an emotional eater. Now, five months into my weight loss journey, I've lost only 13lbs total.

I'm kind of happy that I didn't gain weight as it usually happened when things started to get complicated in other areas of my life, but goddamit this is too fucking slow, 2lbs variation is nothing, it can as well be water weight, I'm so angry at myself for not being able to dedicate myself as much as I was at the beggining.

I'm trying to get back on track, but I lost confidence in myself and I'm so afraid I'll just give up again.

Last weekend, I went to a con, and as usual, I had a bad experience. However, there was one person there wearing lolita, and near the end of the con, she saw my Usakumya and came up to me and we ended up talking for a while, and it was such a good experience, I was still happy about it the next day, and I'll probably be thinking about it for a long time.

There is another con this weekend, and once again I've been having a really bad time. The same person I talked to at the last con said "hello" to me and literally nothing else, and that was what I was gonna write about as the highlight of the con, which is pretty sad. But then, near the end of the day, I was going to watch some performance, and while waiting for it to start I was really crying while sitting there because I was so lonely all day, and I was also thinking about other things. But while I was crying, first I think it was two people on a row behind me asked if there was anything wrong, I said there wasn't, and then another person, someone I actually knew from before came to me and also asked about the same things, and then offered me a hug, which I accepted. But that didn't exactly end my crying, yesterday I was actually thinking about how I pretty much never get hugs or physical touch at all, except things like mandatory Christmas hugs from family. And now someone actually hugged me. Another thing is that this person is a part of a group that I am in a mutually hateful relationship with, this person may not hate me that much but we've pretended to not know each other for a while now whenever we've seen each other.

There's another day of the con tomorrow, I doubt it'll be any better than it was today, maybe worse although there's a limit to how much worse cons can get for me without extreme things like being robbed or actively bullied.

This isn't even all context. I am always alone at cons now, it never happens anymore that I'm taken into a group, and other things too

>>10863009
Surely tomorrow you will make many friends, I see it

I went to a convention a little while ago with my fiance. I haven't cosplayed much at all so we did some simple ones together and it was fun. One of them was fairly obscure and no one said anything about it, probably because it could have been mistaken for normal cloths. But then 1 person recognized what we were doing and stayed talking to us about it, it really made her day.
The next day we were more recognizable but still, that moment really stood out to me. It was nice.

>>10862492
>Now, five months into my weight loss journey, I've lost only 13lbs total.
Don't give up. The fact that you've lost anything and managed to keep it off means you're doing better than most. Things happen. You can do it.

I've been a lonelita for almost 10 years and being that way never bothered me, but lately I have been wanting to dress up a (normie) girlfriend and go to a theme park to take aesthetic coord pics. Problem is all of my friends are scrotes.

>>10863089
sounds like it might be easier to just join a local lolita community and make friends there. Making female friends in the hope that they might be willing to do stuff in lolita together sounds like too many extra steps and uncertainty.

At cons, always putting off eating for as long as possible in the desperate hope that you end up meeting someone you'll eat with. But it never happens. I'm hungry.

>>10863089
Just dress up your male friends then.

>>10844342
A MILF-coded lolita brought her son to meet and he pood himself.

>>10863038
Today was just as bad as yesterday.
The day today actually started a bit better than the day before, I somehow ended up communicating with someone online, and we travelled to the con together. But we separated after the first thing on the con schedule, and we never interacted again.
There was also one person I exchanged a few short words with. Oh, and one person I knew before, also part of the group who as a whole hates me, did something with her eyes once when she saw me, showing that she recognized me.
But after that there was nothing. Con crew came up to me on two separate occasions asking why I was crying and if there was anything they could do, of course there wasn't.
I'm probably the only person at the whole con, and in the whole con scene, who doesn't just have no friends, but also not even anyone to talk to.
Experiences like these make me almosrøt wish I had it in me to commit suicide, because that would be the correct choice and then I'd just end this absolutely worthless life.

I'll just add in one specific sad scene I experienced today. Sitting all by myself on a bench outside eating mcdonalds food, while the restaurant is filled with groups of cosplayers enjoying a meal together.
May write more later, still traveling from the con.

>>10863127
you've said your con experience is usually miserable. How about you stop going to cons until you've made friends that actually want to go to the con with you and stick with you during the con.

Prefacing now, there's no saying this without sounding like an arrogant ass. And It isn't going on /r9k/ cause they go ballistic if a guy says he's managed to meet one (1) woman in his entire life who didn't vomit at the sight of you

People in my local scene / circle hang out quite a bit outside of conventions, probably more than average. Just about all of them treat me with this sort of reverence that I've never understood but more than welcome. For the lesser of the problems here, is my tendency to break down into histrionics after enough time has passed and I start to get all these paranoid ideas about how everyone must secretly hate me. Those tend to go away soon enough.

The main issue is something I hinted at in another (deleted) thread: on con floors, I can draw in tons of attention from girls, get their contact info, hang out during / after, even flirt with ease. And as of today, not a single one has led to anything more, fling or relationship. Sometimes it's me being dumb and honestly not understanding the hints, but those are the exceptions. The fact is, I straight up DO NOT know how to take things further, and also don't feel open enough with anyone to ask for help, if they even know how at all. It's obvious that being a late bloomer has setbacks too, and this is the worst one by far.

All that is BEFORE I noticed almost everyone around me is hooking up or finding girlfriends, which (big surprise) is why this bad thought train is getting worse. Maybe this is just talking to the void but it has to go somewhere other than my miserable brain

>>10863170
youre just a pussy

>>10863171
K

>>10863170
stop being a coward and start asking your female friends on how you should proceed.

>>10863182
Welp. The "Find what isn't working and do the exact opposite" mentality isn't one I've tried till now, and this sounds like a better idea than anything else I've thought of. Worth noting, too though-- a lot of these meetups are in really casual settings, so being serious tends to make folks uncomfortable (myself included, when they do it)

>>10863127
>But we separated after the first thing on the con schedule, and we never interacted again.
Did you not try to get in touch with them later? Surely they would not have been opposed to hanging out later on, right?
>Sitting all by myself on a bench outside eating mcdonalds food, while the restaurant is filled with groups of cosplayers enjoying a meal together.
I'd be lying if I said this didn't conjure up a funny image in my mind

>>10863170
Hello, me.

>>10863189
if you feel a get together with your friend group is not the time and place to broach the subject (understandable), then either try to meet female friends one on one, or only a few of them at the same time, so you can address the subject then.
Or, and this is probably easier, send them an email/text/message telling them you need some advice.

>>10863211
Hello, me. I don't remember responding to myself, but nice doubles.
>>10863219
The most sincere answer I've gotten on any board in a while. I'll try and think back on this the next time I feel like being needlessly snide. There should be a chance this coming weekend, and I don't intend to waste it. If the remarks they've made about me before are anything to go by, it'll probably come a lot easier than I imagine, too

>>10863233
bro if you are this fucking inept that you cant figure out something that is wildly obvious i dont think its gonna work out for you. but yeah better to let your friends let you down easy

>>10863166
That would just mean stop going to cons period. I simply don't make friends.
I have one person that I meet with some frequency, and who goes to cons, but they always find their own people. And I have a handful others I might meet two to three times a year at best. And it's been a while since I met them. I just don't make friends.

Why do I even still go to cons? There is one person, he's like the type of chad who's nice to the losers, who I'll sometimes meet, and we'll exchange a few words, and these short interactions can be what makes the con for me. I had another really bad con experience in May, but there we talked for a bit so it wasn't all bad. Do I only go to cons for the slight chance that I'll end up encountering him? Because that's the only good thing that happens with some regularity. Or am I still hoping to meet someone? In 2019, I ended up meeting and being included in a group and spent time with them. I think that was the last time that happened. Am I still hoping for something like that to happen?

One thing that I've realized is that in the past, when I ended up meeting people to spend the con with, it'd often be through a shared interest. But I no longer feel enthusiastic about any fandoms, so that doesn't happen anymore. My heart is closed and I can't get carried away anymore at cons either.

>>10863199
>Did you not try to get in touch with them later? Surely they would not have been opposed to hanging out later on, right?
I didn't try, and I only even saw them once after we separated. But I expected them to be disappointed with me when we met, so maybe he intentionally didn't want to stay together.
It's actually surprising how little I saw him, the con wasn't that big and I kept seeing the same people over and over.

I wanted to get into this shit just to find cute white alt right girlfriend but the community is full of woke pronoun niggers

>>10863271
>I didn't try
You should have

>>10863127
You just sound like a miserable person. Why would anybody want to hang out with you? Do you go talk to people? Do you ask anyone to hang out? Do you ask anybody about their life, their hobbies, etc? Do you show an interest in them? Most people aren't going to go up to some mopey random at mcdonalds and ask if they want to be friends. Your expectations are retarded, you have to reach out to people. Did you even try talking to the con staff who asked you specifically or do you just want people to psychically know your problems? Because they don't

>>10863127
>>10863170
[The duality of man.]

>>10863090
Unfortunately my local comm is filled to the brim with trannies and handmaidens.

>>10863306
Regular friends it is then.

>>10863304
Isnt the first person a chick and the second person a moid?

>>10863302
>>10863127
I just wanted to apologize for this comment. I should be more empathetic as I've been in your shoes before and instead of doing anything constructive, I was just a cunt for no reason. I'm sorry anon, and I hope you find friends. But know that it's OK to be alone too. I think I finally ended up finding friends when I stopped searching - a lot in life is like that.

>>10863402
lmao bi-polar ass cunt fuck you

People like you and other con goers are the reason I stare daggers and look hateful at any cunt that tries to interact with me in a manner that implies they're trying to hang out or be friends (unless they're a cute boy or girl).

I went through all that effort getting a friend to go to a con with me via discord/someone I befriended in town and some fucking cunt tries to squeeze in. No, you get to suffer like I did you piece of shit.

>>10844342
I'm starting to feel like an idiot. I cosplay as my own oc at cons. Nothing drastic or weird. Just clothes, lights and a mask. People often ask me what my cosplay is from. When I tell them it's from nothing, they act awkward and it is starting to get to me.

>>10848113
Going to cons as a kid/underage teen isa miserable experience.

>>10863404
I know I need to work on my anger. Thank you for your honesty.

>>10863415
What?

Let’s face it. Being into feet is fine and all, but hands are where it’s at. The biggest advantage hands have over feet, in my opinion, is the fingers. Hand fingers are beautiful, especially when long and slender. Meanwhile, feet just have unsexy little stubs called toes. They’re like the tiny chodes of the finger world. In addition, you can’t even do anything with toes. Fingers can make all kinds of beautiful movements. Just look at picrel and how the Onceler elegantly sifts through his stack of dollars with his long fingers. I have no idea who Lance is and how he became a stack of dollars, but god I wish that were me. All toes can do is a stupid little wiggle. And what about the articles of clothing that cover hands and feet? When it comes to hand coverings, mittens are extremely unsexy because they hide the best part of the hand (the fingers). But there’s another option: gloves. And gloves are sexy. They perfectly outline and accentuate each individual finger and are an excellent way to add elegance and class to a fancy outfit, or warmth in the winter. Now let’s look at feet coverings. We have socks, which are like mittens for feet. And socks that outline each toe would just look silly. Socks can be sexy, like thigh highs. But they’re sexy specifically because they accentuate the legs, not the feet. Also, this goes without saying, but feet are usually dirty and hands are frequently washed. Why would anyone not prefer hands?

>>10863300
I've for a long time had as a baseline assumption that people don't want to interact with me, I thought it had gotten better lately but I think it may still be there. Maybe I was too quick to assume he didn't want to talk to me.

>>10863302
People don't really have much reason to want to interact with me, I'm essentially a charity case. I didn't talk to anyone, and I may actually never have asked to hang out at a con before.
When the con staff talked to me, I didn't say anything of what the problem was, I just said there was nothing. But it's not like the con staff could have done anything if I told them, and I don't think I expected them to magically know.

>>10863402
No worries, and my con experiences may be bad but I also have some good things in my life, it's not all bad.
I think you may be right in your original comment that I should do something if I want to hang out with people. I barely touched upon it in my other comment though >>10863271 although I didn't elaborate.
>My heart is closed and I can't get carried away anymore at cons either.
I think I may be too closed off, I can't let the happiness and excitement flow into me which could translate into more interactions with strangers.

TFW your friend posts a cos test in a leotard so revealing you can see pube stubble

>go to con alone
>see some people I met last year amd added on Instagram are going again
>be socially anxious and don't bother DMing them to see if they want to hang out because the guaranteed unnoticed rejection hurts less than the potential active rejection

>>10864415
Beta no balls lmao.

I told a bartender in New York I was visiting from out of town working and he thought I was on tv

>>10863170
Following up to say I've already improved a noticeable bit. It was too short notice to have any kind of heart to heart with a friend, but better that I figure it out myself anyway. Came back from a local con last night that's "big", but really low energy and
>positive looks, compliments or pictures basically every minute
>did some playful flirting
>asked several girls if they'd be coming back today
>was called "beautiful" again
The huge venue and lack of any hotel blocks is a challenge I more than welcome. I'll be heading back again soon

>browsing Tumblr in 2014
>everyone talking about Rin and how cool Rin is
>see photos of Rin on Tumblr
>some of them are really suggestive
>wonder if Rin will starting HRT and transitioning one day
>8 years later
>learn that Rin starts HRT on Youtube

Seriously thinking that lolita and crossplay is a egg moment for transwomen

I'm wearing BTSSB. It's my first time. The wrist cuffs make me feel powerful. That is all.

>>10853621
>This board concentrates the single largest focal point of faggotry here on 4chan despite the fact that 99% of you are all heterosexual women.
>femcel gatekeeping
>Thank you for coming to my TED talk

Interesting bait attempt. Fumbled towards the end there.

>>10863089
Why would you call them "scrotes" if they're your friends? It doesn't really sound like you want to be friends with them, nonna...

I was too late to bump the draw thread, now it's gone :(

>>10865597
If you posted some drawings there that got deleted, you can make another drawthread and post them again there, I don’t think anyone would mind!

>>10865602
I didn't post anything there at all, but it's one of the nicer threads on the board when people aren't shitting it up with insults

It makes me really sad that so many photos from old EGL LiveJournal posts are gone/unviewable now. I’m a zoomer so I wasn’t around during the LiveJournal days, but I like to look through LJ archives to get a sense of what the lolita community was like during its prime and feel like I’m engaging with its history a bit. Plus I like reading thoughtful, detailed posts about people’s lives/hobbies (which modern social media doesn’t really allow for) so sites like LJ, forums, and personal blogs/websites are more appealing to me.

But as I was saying, a lot of photos on there are just straight-up gone due to broken links, certain image hosts no longer functioning, etc. and I guess it’s just saddening to know that so many photos of potentially creative, inspirational coords and representations of the fashion have been practically wiped out of existence. And what about all of the deactivated lolita accounts? Unless the owner of an account somehow still has their old lolita pictures saved after all these years and is also willing to share them again, there’s a whole archive of lolita fashion that’s been lost to time. And that makes me sad :( Sorry for the rant… Does anyone else feel this way?

>>10865543
Women are only lonely by being awful human beings. Literally failing on tutorial mode.

>>10865659
nayrt, but you can be lonely even though you have wonderful friends and a good partner.
Having no friends doesn't mean you're a bad person either. It's often the fear of being hurt again that makes people give up on making new connections.

>go to con
>see lots of cool cosplays and try making my own
>all my attempts are shit
>get discouraged and give up
>repeat the cycle ad infinium

>>10865650

Anon, I feel the same way. I wish we could turn back time and prevent social media from ever existing. It's the worst thing humans have ever invented. Even I recognise that - I'm also a zoomer and was too young to properly appreciate pre-social media internet.

I run a small personal site on neocities where I ramble about weeb shit and lolita fashion (which is also weeb shit, let's be real). I wish that people in 2023 were still familiar with personal websites - everyone I've explained it to just... don't care. They prefer their 5-second tiktok brain rot videos to well-made, creative, written content.

In some ways, the lolita community fracturing and disappearing fits the aesthetic. Members of a dying breed. It's very gothic.

>>10865650
As someone around for that era who was also sad about photos disappearing and tried to archive them, you didn't miss much. All the good coords and even anything charmingly bad is saved, most stuff was honestly barely recognizable as lolita and you're seriously not missing anything.

>>10865810
Some websites on the Neocities lolita tag have small yet solid galleries. Its userbase is growing quickly but it also did go through several tiktok trends that we probably have more abandoned websites than we do regular webmasters. Hate to say I wouldn't be surprised if Neocities also got lost to time when people stop caring about old web nostalgia. It's so disappointing.

>>10863127
I'm so sorry that happened. I can't start wearing lolita or going to cons until I'm financially stable and have enough time for it, but I'd offer to be your con friend if I could. Being alone while everyone else around you is having fun sucks :(

>>10865810
>>10865876
AYRT, I love looking at people’s lolita sites on Neocities (and personal sites in general). It gives me hope that maybe the original spirit of lolita isn’t dead among our generation after all! I’ve been meaning to make my own Neocities but I haven’t gotten around to it yet. Plus, I have a habit of abandoning projects once I start them, so I’m worried that I might make my site and then get busy or distracted and forget about it like all the trend-hoppers did :( although I’m probably overthinking it and should just make it anyway lol

>>10865810
What’s your site called? I’d love to check it out! If you’re not comfortable sharing it with others or would rather do it somewhere more private (like Discord), that’s totally fine too ^^

Also, I agree. Modern social media just feels so hollow and devoid of substance, TikTok obviously being the worst offender with all the “5-second brainrot videos” like you mentioned. And the worst part is that it’s become the norm now. I really hope things get better in the future but right now it’s kind of disheartening…

>>10865650
>>10865810
>>10865834

I was around in the comm during the LJ days, and I do miss how common blogs were, and that lolita fashion was mostly normal looking people wearing a fashion instead of the heavily edited augmented reality they post online now.
There were definitely some good coord pictures in the past, but if we go back to the early 2000s LJ then iirc the majority were barely recognizable as lolita. The main reason for that is that lolita fashion was less accessible than it is now, a lot of the people who were into it were younger (17~22) and they didn't have money so a lot of them took a long time to build a decent wardrobe, they tried to DIY even though only a few had the skills to make it look decent, a lot of people tried to buy "loliable" stuff from mainstream stores local to them, the second hand market was tiny because there was a lack of good stuff coming in, etc.

What I dislike most about so many pictures being broken is that when I google something very lolita specific most of the search results will be LJ threads with reviews and information about specific items. There is a wealth of information on EGL LJ, but most of the pictures are broken.

I would love to visit lolita snap with the wayback machine and have all the pictures be working.

>>10865993
Mail me and I'll give you a link!
rednap599@ahk.jp

>comes back to cgl for the first time since 2018
>half of the posters are horny men
>feels bad man
I don't want to go to cow site for a woman dominated board but that's my only option. F

>>10865659
can't wait for you half-chromos to become obsolete

>>10866214
Making us go away isn't going to fix your loneliness. Maybe try fixing your attitude. You can't complain about being lonely when you're insufferable and want to hurt other people.

Cosplaying has been a dream of mine for years, and after a month of hard work and hundreds of dollars I had something together for a con for the first time. But when I got there I really felt deflated,
barely anyone recognised me and I just felt silly. It was too much

>>10866252
Nayrt but telling people they can't complain about feeling lonely if they're assholes is the exact same thing as telling guys they can't complain about being single if they hate women. "why can't I get a girlfriend? It's not fair" whilst saying stuff that betrays he hates women (the "women live life on easy/tutorial mode" bs).
If you think both of these groups of people don't have the right to complain then there's some hope for you left. If you think they're somehow different then you can't be saved.

>>10866255
What did you cosplay?

>>10866286
>they can't complain about being single if they hate women
Not that anon either but yes? Why would either gender want to be with someone who resents them.

>be at con
>no idea what to do

>>10866286
>Surface level observations are haye
I’m assuming this is bait but if you really think this then you and lonely need to touch grass.

I wish I had a social life so I wasn't forced to go to cosplay events where I always have a bad time anyway. I went to a cosplay meetup today, and I wasn't included at all, there was one guy who talked to me a bit though but I wasn't a part of it at all.
And now I'm planning my summer around being able to go to meetups, even though they suck, because I really don't have anything else.

>>10866841
Ok
Back at home
The con was still fun after all
But I wasn't allowed to participate at Herzblatt (the Dating Game)
Didn't found a gf in general there

And I should have offered those two a pocky (since I won a pack of it)