/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL

Momo ;_;

Sainte ;_;

>walking at local con
>see a cute boy cosplaying one of my favourite animes
>starts a conversation with him
>exchange social (discord)
>feel like we really hit it off
>go home
>we exchange like 4 messages but then I don't know what to talk about so I stop messaging
>convo kinda dies there and he never messages me again
sigh, maybe next year

>>10798786
feeling a bit sad currently about the fact that my broad shoulders limit my choices in blouses and ops quite a bit

I've been going through a massive depressive episode that sucked the joy out of everything. I just ordered some nice lace, ribbons and trims to make my own headdresses and other accessories with, and I feel genuinely excited about something for the first time in months.

i wish threads like "post angel/devil women" and "post cosplays with big boobs" and the like were just straight up banned

Why everyone in my cosplay area seems to be with a boyfriend or married already?

I feel like I'm being left behind when it comes down to having a significant other...

>play a couple games of tekken with some guy in the game room
>get bored and get up to leave
>he asks if I want to hang out some time
What the fuck is wrong with scrotes.

>>10798866
why do they always have to be so desperate? makes me sick

>>10798868
Well they're going to anime conventions so it's pretty self explanatory.
But holy shit, dude I bantered with you during tekken because you suck, how do you think that equates to me wanting to fuck you?

>>10798802
I'd like to say that you shouldn't give up anon. Just try checking up on him (ie. Hey, how are you doing?) or just 'randomly' bring up something about that anime. Heck, you could even ask him what his other interests are.

It sounds like you're more or less not going to contact him again as it is now anyway, so just take a shot anon! You'll lose nothing!

>>10798876
>Just try checking up on him (ie. Hey, how are you doing?) or just 'randomly' bring up something about that anime. Heck, you could even ask him what his other interests are
Holy shit dude just say you've never even talked to a woman lol

>>10798861
Welcome to the life. It's like that everywhere. You're never going to escape it.

>play a couple games of tekken with some girl in the game room
>She's likes to banter, which I enjoy a lot as most girls just play silently
>game is over, she starts to leave
>As she excuses herself, I ask her "Hey, that game was fun. You wanna hang out sometimes?
>girl stops dead in her track, turns towards me and stares into my eyes with the coldest gaze I have ever seen.
>can see her lower lip trembling in rage and a vein pulsing on her forehead, her face grows red as she keeps staring at me, boiling inside with seething anger.
>I just sit there and stare awkwardly in total silence, a bit frightened
>girl just lets out a "f-fucking scrote" and then starts waddling away
>WtfJustHappened.jpeg
Was she autistic? I still don't understand what happened. Thankfully some other guy stepped up to take her place and play me at Tekken and we had a blast so I didn't have to stay confused on that interaction for too long

>>10798920
0/10 unfunny shit

>>10798920
cease

>>10798920
off the charts cringe

>>10798920
>Even in an idealized version of what happened the guy is still a massive creep
Can’t make this sit up

im a god on eddy gordo my sisters use to ban me from using him frfr

>>10798920
10/10

>>10798920
>>10798866
kek

I realized I might be retarded.
I've been going to cons for like a year now and EVERY con there are a couple girls who will really over the top compliments to me and then stand there looking at me, sometimes they'll even say they love my cosplay multiple times in the same day but eventually they just give me like a sad blank stare and leave the con after I ignore them long enough. I realized that means they probably find me attractive and want me to talk to them. I figured this out after going to the last couple cons without earphones in and girls in front of me in panels would whisper to a female friend (I have good hearing) that I was cute and that they hoped I would talk to them.

I am stupidly lonely right now. I have been for a while but it was hard to tell because I normally prefer being alone. The isolation has made anything like rejection feel infinitely worse when in the past I rarely had a problem blowing that kind of thing off.

I’ve changed my meds, went through the adjustment period thinking it might help. It did, very briefly. Now I can’t sleep and spend all my time awake thinking how much better off I’d be if I were gone. I think about doing it almost nonstop just to escape how I feel.

>>10798965
Yeah, it’s still around but there’s some dumb NFT shit they’re trying to do that’s been pushing users away.

>>10799000
>couple girls who will really over the top compliments to me and then stand there looking at me
Hate to be the one to break it to you, they're making fun of you.
>they just give me like a sad blank stare and leave the con after I ignore them long enough
Bullies often give up when they're not getting the response they want.

>>10799017
>they're making fun of you.
Smiling and waving at me is making funny of me? Who hurt you.

>>10799018
Were you homeschooled or something?

My comm is making me really uncomfortable the more I get to know the members. It’s apparently full of sex workers and drug addicts. On top of that I was literally asked during a moment at a recent convention if I’d ever wear a diaper under my bloomers which made me really really uncomfortable. I can’t even bring it up to the comm leaders because the person who said it seems to be close friends with all of them. I’m super uncomfortable and just don’t want to go back at this point but it’s also really upsetting as none of my friends like Lolita and I’m wondering if I should just give up the fashion in general and purge my closet,

>>10799064
>full of sex workers and drug addicts
So which one are you?

>>10799017
This guy has been around at least two months making the same general posts. They are subtle enough that it's hard to tell if bait or flat out mental illness though I'm honestly leaning more towards the latter

>>10799068
Neither. Not everybody obviously but I’ve had enough people mentioned that I was already starting to feel awkward prior to the convention. Maybe if I was one I wouldn’t be as stressed over this.

I get so much anxiety on social media, i can barely stand it anymore. But every time I take a break from it, I feel alone and withdrawn even though I don't even have any substantial relationships with anyone on there.

>>10799139
I don't know what you use your social media for, but you need to find a (more) meaningful offline hobby. I personally picked up gardening. Feels good to give back to nature and being outside all and forcing myself to small talk with the neighbors helped with my anxiety and depression.

>>10799074
conventions are the scourge of lolita. you're not meeting normal daily lolitas, you're meeting the creeps/cosplay lolitas

>>10799153
this is so pretentious.

>>10799064
>sex workers
I feel you, I recently discovered that one of the more popular and well-dressed lolitas in my local comm is an e-whore with an Onlyfans and uses the same username for her sex work as the lolita content she posts online. It made me not want to attend meets at all, I just don't think I could conceal my obvious dislike for her and what she's doing.

>>10799204
why do people do that? so embarrassing.

>>10799168
What.. ? This is good advice, it's a proven fact being outside is good for your mental health

>>10799154
A lot are like that, but there are daily lolitas who attend as well because the indie shopping especially at larger cons is worth the trip.

To the anon who encountered fetish people - time to find a new comm.

>>10799139
Go cold turkey on it for a week. Get one of those apps that prevent you from using it, so you dont just open it out of habit. Trust me, youll soon compensate for your boredom in other, better ways

>>10799221
Ayrt is probably just bitter bc they dont want to admit their social media addiction is objectively worse than a hobby like gardening

>>10799139
You're seeking validation from others when you should be turning inwards. Love yourself, grow your skills, improve your coords, be healthy and grow your hair long. You'll be more confident and that will draw in friends when you go to your comm meets.

Why are there so few snowflake related jsks? I want a longer length indigo colored jsk with a silver or white snowflake print, is that too much to ask for?

Why are there so few snowflake related jsks? I want a longer length with a silver or white snowflake print in any of the colors shown, is that too much to ask for? Sometimes I feel like simpler wants are looked over in favor of rehashing overdone themes.

>>10799139
Get a website blocker app. Pick up a different hobby, one that involves you physically doing something with your hands. Crochet, gardening, painting, etc. See about getting involved with local groups. Soon enough you'll feel less of a need to doomscroll.

>>10799221
>>10799228
no, it's just cringe that anon thinks her garden is "giving back to the earth" or some shit. i don't even have social media, i just hate when people are so up their own ass about themselves like they're doing anything special.

>>10799264
Because people would probably only care to wear them around Christmas.

>>10799292
>I don't know what you use your social media for, but you need to find a (more) meaningful offline hobby. I personally picked up gardening. Feels good being outside all and forcing myself to small talk with the neighbors helped with my anxiety and depression.

>>10799294
If it's just about snow and build a bit warmer you can wear it all winter which is about a 3-4 month time range, which def seems worth it to me.

>>10799302
>quoting it wrong on purpose
Nta but this is pathetic...

>>10799302
ok retard. nice job fumbling what to write there instead.

>>10799306
i fixed it for you why are you still mad?

anons you're acting like a bunch of kids! it's just gardening. personally tho, I wouldnt let the other anon be sassy with me over my hobby especially when I was trying to help someone else thru it. personally that's just me tho.

>>10799016
you sound every knowledgeable and up to date on neopets happenings anon. you wouldnt happen to have some neopets that you been raising for a decade now would you anon? I tried logging in but i dunno my info

soup ;_;

anon ;_;

>>10799315
Do you remember any of your username?

>>10799358
i tried the ones i could remember

>>10799362
Throw some at me

>>10799386
not a chance. they're cringey ones 10 yo soup would come up with

>>10799390
how is that different from you now?

>>10799403
I THOUGHT WE WERE COOL ANON

>>10799264
AP made a sax snowflake print and so did BTSSB. The colors you're selecting are just ugly and hard to match. Mint is so hard to find the right shade accessories and teal is just impossible

>>10799448
Yeah I want one in teal specifically, so that's where our opinions differ. I have a lot of teal accessories so the greenish blue range is what I aim for versus sax, as cool tones wash me out. Sugar dream dome in navy is pretty but doesn't win me over enough to grab it when it pops up secondhand, and I've only ever seen Queen of snow pop up in sax or lavender and it'll be the skirt version when I want the jsk. Yes I'm being picky, but it's the feels thread and I can vent anonymously.

>>10799292
OP here. Gardening is just something I do in private that makes me happy. I don't post about it on social media and I don't talk with other to people about it aside from my mom. The reason I brought it up here was because I wanted to give an example of what could help in such a situation and outdoor activities in general have many benefits for mental health. Of course anon should think for themselves and figure out what they could do in private as a separate hobby from their online presence. Imo it's important to find something that you can do that gives you meaning, who cares if other people find it cringe or not. I hope that anon is taking some mental notes as to why it's important to not make that hobby part of your online presence, so they can enjoy it in peace.

Was at a con last weekend
Wasn't able to get a gf, or at least laid...
But at least danced with a Yor during the Mr and Ms contest
And I gave out a drink to a girl during the afterparty and talked a little bit with her
Unfortunatly, already taken...

>>10799315
Haha you got me. Yes, I go back and get sucked into it every so often when I’m bored. It’s satisfying being able to have all the pets I wanted when I was a teen.

If you know your account info like email and birthday you can send an email to staff about getting your access back. They’re pretty chill about it and know old users get locked out of their accounts .

>>10799390
It's the /cgl/ feels thread, everyone here has a history of embarrassing usernames

>>10799204
that’s part of why I just want to quietly leave. Most high influence people in the comm seem to really like the woman who approached me and the couple people I’ve met who seemed to have issues with her abruptly stopped coming. I know one was banned for other problematic behavior but a friend of hers said part of the reasoning was she brought up some unsavory rumors about that person. So now I feel like I’d need to hide my dislike and uncomfortableness just to avoid getting kicked out and dragged. And with as many SWs and DAs in the group they’re all super cliquey and pretty much all hang out together even outside of meets. It’s just really stressful and typing it all out has helped me make my decision. So thanks anon

>>10798786
>"I can't keep living in hiding! I am basically waiting to die! Today I am going to take a route full of my anxiety triggers."
>The elevator stops between flours

>>10799707
>"I won't let this stop me!"
>Move the elevator up
>Take the stairs
>Go out
>Start walking
>Find dead pigeon

The state of the western community is depressing. Lolita, at least to me, is an escape from men and the male gaze. I don’t feel comfortable at all walking into a meet and seeing a bearded 6’2 man in a dress, but mods are too focused on being “accepting” to realize that maybe we should go back to making the lolita community a safer space for women. What happened to the feminist aspect of the fashion? :/

>>10799064
>>10799618
>I’m wondering if I should just give up the fashion in general and purge my closet,
I really don't think you should let gross SWers, DAs and other disgusting people push you out of the fashion. If your comm is truly as awful as it sounds you don't have to go to meets or be friends with them, just find other reasons to dress up.

> the couple people I’ve met who seemed to have issues with her abruptly stopped coming.
Maybe you could try reaching out to these people privately? They probably feel the same way that you do and just don't want to be in such a shitty comm. I know I wouldn't.

>>10799715
Some morons got it into their head that equal means same. Not different but just as valid. For your own good it has been decided that your spaces and your culture will be shared by men.

Buying second hand axes femme from Closetchild is like buying a mystery box. You really never know what you're going to get.

>>10799715
is that guy threatening you in any meaningful way, or do you just think he's ugly?

saving up for the only con im going to for the year because im poor is the only thing that makes me get out of bed

>>10799736
nayrt, he doesn't have to be threatening.
He's probably there for the wrong reasons, hiding a boner during the meet, and messaging some of the minor members later on asking for a sleepover and a makeover.

>>10799749
>He's probably there for the wrong reasons, hiding a boner during the meet, and messaging some of the minor members later on asking for a sleepover and a makeover.
is he, though?
Anon talked specifically about their appearance, rather than actual predatory behavior.
FYI, I'm small and weak myself, and I can understand feeling threatened by someone much bigger and stronger hitting on you. But honestly that sounds like an awkward dude wearing a dress, who would be mocked the second he left that safe space in those clothes (your comm meeting).

>>10799751
I mentioned this before, but it’s really just the fact that lolita is my escape from the male gaze - so seeing men (especially very masculine men) in lolita spaces is uncomfortable for me.

>>10799797
Here is a solution. It has a wide surface for you to display prints.

>>10799797
It's fucked up, seems so obvious that it's just a thin excuse for those guys to worm their way into female spaces. I've dated two lolitas and will hopefully be with a third soon (not intentionally btw, and I didn't even know the current girl was a lolita until well after meeting her) and I've always kept my distance from lolita events even when other boyfriends/husbands are trying to hang around it.

>>10799010
Have you talked about this with your therapist? You sound like you need help.

>>10799812
you don't need to talk to a therapist about "I am uncomfortable when strange men involve me in their fetish without my consent "

>>10799813
I am looking at your feet in the bus.

>>10799751
>an awkward dude wearing a dress
99,99% of the time that's a sissy or some other type of fetishist. So basically there for the wrong reasons.

That 0.01% of cases of an awkward dude in a dress is someone like the french guy. And the jury is still out on him.

Every time we gave someone them the benefit of the doubt, not wanting to judge a book by its cover, etc it came back to bite us.
So if it looks like a predator/sissy/fetishist and quacks like a predator/sissy/fetishist it probably is.

It's time to eject all men in dresses from the communities.

>>10799797
I understand the need for a space that is safe from men, but you chose your safe space poorly. Lolita communities always had way more woman than men, but even so, men were always there and no comm has any obligation of catering to your specific needs and creating a space that matches your own idea of what lolita should be.

If you want to hang out with woman only while in lolita, plan your own meetings and only invite woman.

Also, lolita was never exactly a feminist fashion, of course it has some feminist aspects to it and it's nice to indulge in hyper femininity, but it has never been intended to fight for woman rights or gender equity, this "lolita was born as a feminist fashion" thing was invented by western lolitas on recent years. If it were always a feminist fashion, there would be discussion about feminism in magazines that were relevant to the fashion the same way those magazines talked about any other important aspect of the fashion.

>>10799820
It must drive them crazy realizing how heavily lolita was associated with enjo kosai for many years

>>10799715
Men have always been a part of lolita fashion in both its creation and wearing of it since the beginning. If you dislike men this much, you should find another fashion style/hobby.

>>10799814
Yeah checking out someone discreetly is definitely the same thing as wearing a fetish costume while trying to infiltrate their hobby

>>10799715
Well, I've got a petticoat fetish, so you are, in fact, inviting my gaze with your fashion sense. The irony. Don't worry though I'm not the guy coming to your meets in full OTT, I can see how that would be a little unpleasant.

>>10799813
Anon wasnt replying to the fetish post

>>10799820
>there would be discussion about feminism in magazines
You know there wouldn't be, it's Japan we're talking about. They're not the kind of society that would openly oppose anything, so the feminist undercurrent of early lolita is exactly that - a silent suggestion, a passive denial of expectations.

>>10799836
Because there's no difference between a faceless designer or an androgynous sexless fashion icon and brand creator, and this attending your local meets full of underage girls

>>10799836
Yes, men contributed to lolita fashion although they did not start it. That was lolita fashion's original mommy Hitomi Okawa who started Milk.

Men designing lolita fashion like isobe and mana, and modeling it like mana is quite different from some masculine looking dude attending a meet in a dress.
Mana looks at the very least androgynous when he wears lolita fashion and he isn't trying to insert himself in any local comm that I am aware of.

Whilst it isn't incorrect to state that men have been part of lolita communities for a long time, does that these communities actually want this?
I can't imagine japanese women being any more happy about manly looking dudes in dresses in their communities than western lolitas.

>>10799853
I would say wearing lolita fashion, which is dressing for one's self and not for what men think women should wear, is a pretty loud feminist statement without having to say anything.
What would there be to discuss regarding feminism in japanese lolita magazines?
It's not about men or spiting men, we wear what we wear because we want to wear it for ourselves.

>>10799860

I feel I haven't been very clear in my statement.

If you feel like wearing lolita is a feminist act for you, that's absolutely fine, it does have feminist aspects to it, but this idividualistic idea of feminism being about freedom and doing what you want is very modern and western. Also, it's the same idea that proposes sex work as empowering and feminist, as these woman are also "going against expectations" and "doing what they want regardless of other's opinion".

Lolita wasn't born as a feminist fashion, it doesn't have a greater purpose besides looking cute, doing what you want and having fun, which I personally find very relieving. In recent years western lolitas realized it has feminist aspects to it and some western blogs started claiming it as a feminist fashion out of nowhere without offering any proof whatsoever and the community accepted that lie because it is a nice lie to believe in. I don't know where eastern lolitas stand on this besides that interview where RinRin says she thinks lolita is empowering and this is why I am being specific.

Now we have anons asking where's the feminist aspect of the fashion while expecting lolita to be a safe space it never was. While it's reasonable to expect no man at a feminist focused meeting, it isn't reasonable to expect the same at a fashion focused meeting.

Twisting history to fit our will is never a good idea. Things are what they are regardless of what we want them to be. If anyone has any proof that lolita was born as a feminist fashion I will bite my tongue and apologize, but to this day I have never seem anyone even worry about proving their claims.

>>10799848
I butted in to tease you. You sound stressed over the matter and our burdens crush us if we don't make light of them with some humour.

>>10799867
Nayrt, but SWers aren't going against societal expectations, they're prostituting themselves for men as women have done (voluntarily or otherwise) for centuries. If anything, what they're doing is damaging, as it's perpetuating the idea that women are nothing without men.
You're also forgetting to mention that lolita is a female fashion, and I think it's perfectly reasonable to expect no men, especially predatory fetishists, at an entirely non-sexual female fashion meet.

>>10799867
>I don't know where eastern lolitas stand on this besides that interview where RinRin says she thinks lolita is empowering
Are you serious? Misako has said it plenty of times. She's unmarried because she absolutely refuses to give up lolita despite guys finding it weird.

RinRin is Chinese from LA and lived there most her life so she doesn't count as having a Japanese opinion.

>>10799880
Yes, I'm serious, I don't know where the eastern lolita community stand on this and won't pretend I do. Not wanting to give up lolita for a man is inspiring and amazing, but it isn't the same as saying lolita is a feminist fashion and even if Misako is very relevant, I don't know if her stance is the same as most of other eastern or even japanese lolitas. Would love to know more about it, but unfortunately it's hard to find translated discussion about feminism or marriage in a niche fashion such as lolita.

China is on the east and I didn't say japanese so I'm not really sure where you were going with that.

>>10799880
not wanting to give up your hobbies to get married isn't like a man hate thing. lolita is more about going against japanese society. it's not feminist.

>>10799920
female rebellion against a sexist patriarchal society is feminist, change my mind

>>10799925
sure. Don't get what it might have meant in Japan mixed up with what it means in the UK and US now. Did it really mean 2022 all encompassing inter sectional feminism, or was it something simple like avoiding sexualization and male gaze? feminism, especially during the early conception of lolita, likely was not affiliated with wokefag shit like BLM, trans rights, and any other "thing of the day" like it is here, and now

I guess my point is we need a new word for feminist and radical extremist social justice Warrior behavior

>>10799920
Choosing to place your weird hobby over marriage and family is feminist in Japan

>>10799867
>In recent years western lolitas realized it has feminist aspects to it and some western blogs started claiming it as a feminist fashion out of nowhere without offering any proof whatsoever and the community accepted that lie because it is a nice lie to believe in.
This, in the 12+ years I've been in lolita I've never seen a source for the "feminist fashion" thing that has anything to do with Western feminism. If anything it was just a general low stakes rebellion for Japanese girls.

>>10799824
how so?

>>10799918
being chinese american has fuck all to do with a japanese perspective of a japanese fashion.

>>10799961
and that's the point: the anon you're replying to didn't say the words "Japan" or "Japanese" a single time. I think she intentionally picked the word "eastern" instead to include people who don't live in a Japan, and whose word views may not conform to western expectations.

Got the ivory collar with white lace redone, now it’s finally white x white

>>10799932
While I agree this can be seen as feminist I wouldn't say it's exclusively feminist. Many otaku in general do not get married because they don't want to give up their weird hobbies to affirm societal norms. This isn't exclusive to women so I wouldn't say it's an exclusively feminist thing too.
I think it's as some anons have stated more of a rebellious act against society itself. Lolita did start out as a radical street style after all.
I agree it has feminist connotations though.

>>10799918
>>10799938
Not giving a hobby for a man or marriage could be considered a feminist move in the West as well. Many families expect their daughters to give up frivolous hobbies when they’re adults, get married and have kids so they can be grandparents. Or mom’s wishing their daughters would dress normal so they can find a good husband to take care of them.

There are also countries where women often don’t even have the luxury of a hobby and fashion that deviates from the norm is considered a feminist statement regardless of it’s something little or over the top. Women have done this, to make a statement even when things like magazines didn’t exist, all throughout history as men have always tried to be in control of a woman’s image. There doesn’t need to a vocal statement for something to be inherently feminist when it serves that purpose simply on it’s own.

Just because we can be more vocal now doesn’t make the steps to get there any less important.

>>10799977
She's from LA retard.

>>10799977
east asians don't have the same culture. plus the point is that she's western.

>>10800008
>There doesn’t need to a vocal statement for something to be inherently feminist when it serves that purpose simply on it’s own.
yes there does. asserting something is feminist is asserting it's politically charged. not everything is politically charged. and hell, some lolitas wear it to be tradthots because the fashion is sexually modest. i hesitate in saying anything a woman does strictly for herself is feminist since feminism is meant to impact society as a movement. simply being nonconformist as a woman doesn't necessarily facilitate that change on it's own, it's a conscious choice. i say this as someone who isn't anti feminist either. i just think that you do need to proclaim that what you're doing is in the name of feminism, which lolita can facilitate, especially in the libfem prosex environment in the west.

>>10800059
A woman who wants women to stay in their place and behave meekly would never wear lolita, or goth, or any alt fashion. It draws far too much attention and is considered vain and stupid by men, if not downright ugly. The only people who might use it in a male-appeasing way are DDLG fags, but they usually consider themselves "empowered feminists" (kek) about their retarded choices.

>>10800061
>conservative women would never wear lolita
anon, that's simply false.
Some people just like cute things regardless of their political orientation.

>>10800069
Nayrt but who are these tradthot women then? Outside of like DDZ and IVB most are not religous or dependas. We have 6 figure jobs, few have kids, and most are socially left-leaning if not entirely alt left. Typically once a woman "settles down" in that regard they leave the fashion.

>>10800075
>tradthot
not that they said. lolitas != thots, i have no idea what you mean

>>10800075
I've never met any Lolita, even of the housewives, who live some tradthot lifestyle. They're usually wearing the fashion regardless of their husband's opinion. Men tend to think expensive clothes are a waste of money

>>10800059
>i just think that you do need to proclaim that what you're doing is in the name of feminism

An action that women do for themselves that goes against the wishes of their patriarchal society is inherently feminist, whether the action is performed by someone who considers themselves to be a feminist or not.

I've always understood that lolita fashion was a rebellion against japanese society and inherently feminist. That was back in 2002, and there were already japanese people writing things along those lines.
This didn't just start 15 years ago.

Maybe someone has the time and interest to dig into Kato's old writing, it always struck me as feminist.
Where does the "dressing for oneself" come from? Is that from Novala Takemoto?
Where does the "young japanese women trying to postpone the responsibilities that are upon them in adulthood (getting married, becoming a housewife, having kids). So they dress in a way that pleases them, but goes against what men find appealing" come from? Was it from a book on street fashion?

I'm trying to tickle someone's memory so we know more sources of where those things came from.

>>10800075
There's plenty of conservative lolitas, they don't make a big deal about it online because of how incredibly toxic the community is. You have a really cartoonish view of conservative women, go outside more.

>>10800076
You okay nonny? You spazzed out there.

>>10800084
Yes, exactly.

>>10800117
Yeah tradthot isn't the proper terminology for those two, my bad. Regardless lolita is primarily not a conservative fashion. A conservative woman is more likely drawn towards something similar like vintage to express their hyper femininity, not lolita. Lolita may cover a lot of skin but it's not modest. It's a loud, alternative fashion like >>10800061 said.

>>10800126
>lolita is primarily not a conservative fashion
Yes, that statement correct.
Lolita is also not primarily a progressive fashion.
It's just a fucking fashion. There's no need to see everything under the American glasses of left vs right.

>>10800134
They mean conservative the adjective not conservative the noun

>>10800126
The only spazzing out here was your weirdass outburst.

>>10800134
not conservative in a political way, they mean conservative in a "modesty" kind of way.
Like, yeah it covers a lot of skin but it's also loud and stands out from mainstream clothing.

If we were to appoint politics to fashion I would argue that all alternative fashions, except for maybe vintage fashion, is almost always progressive in some sort of way.
Fashions that go against the norms and status quo tend to do that.
As a woman dressing the way you like when it goes against the norms, and isn't what people think you should wear or what they think makes you look attractive, that sounds pretty progressive to me.

Women who are very conservative tend to want to cover up and dress in a way that doesn't stand out. That doesn't overlap with most alt fashions. It doesn't overlap with lolita fashion. It stands out too much.

All of the above is why it's obvious to me why there are mainly leftists and centrists in lolita fashion.

>>10799571
it's a comfy hobby to have anon. and yeah that account is long gone. i typed neopets in the search bar for my emails and nothing pops up.
>>10799598
let me hear some of yours anon

>tfw STILL no ouji gf to match with

>>10800143
This. I don't know where the stereotype came from that lolita is full of tradwives. It couldn't be further from the truth.

No one says goth is a feminist subculture simply because goth woman dressing up as they wish to regardless of expectations from a patriarchal society can be seen as feminist. Same goes for any other alt style that have woman involved, idk why this would apply to lolita only.

I feel like lolita is a lot more about self indulgence and reclaiming one's individuality than a woman's rights thing, not everything a woman does have to be feminist and gender isn't the only cultural aspect we can be non conforming about.

>>10800281
isn’t goth a music culture?

>>10800296
It is, with roots in punk.

>>10800281
Perhaps because gothic fashion is an incredibly wide range of styles (how many types of goth are there? I have lost count), both men and women wear it (it's not just women's wear) and a lot of women's goth outfits are still sexy. Many goth women still dress in a way that appeals to the male gaze. Not so for lolita fashion.

A lot of men who wear mainstream clothes themselves think goth women are hot. The same can't be said about regular men and their opinion on lolita fashion. Lolita aesthetics go in a direction that is opposite of what the large majority of men find attractive.

So it's like apples and oranges anon. Not a good comparison at all.

>>10800266
It came from DDLG fetishists who try to roleplay that shit

Today was hopefully the final nail in the coffin for me accepting that my ex doesn't want to talk to me anymore. 4 months of being alone after she dumped me, each day was hell for me. Things just kept getting worse and worse. They still are, honestly. I tried to watch tv shows and movies, and I always got hit by the message that if you communicate then you can resolve differences and get back together with your ex. So many people around me broke up and then got back together too.

Now I've properly deleted everything related to my ex and thrown every physical thing related to her into the garbage. There's a con coming up next week, so hopefully I can attend it and make new friends to widen my social net (I have like four or so proper friends, but they're all busy with classes and work whereas I'm just lazing around awaiting my acceptance to uni). I hope I can turn my life back around.

>>10800419
Proud of you anon. Ironically, the way to "get back" with your ex is to ignore them and not respond at all for at least a month, no matter what they say. Improve yourself and focus on your other interests. By the time they come begging back to be together, you'll be over them.

i stopped wearing lolita because i hate wearing makeup, but I can't get myself to sell my wardrobe

>>10800419
Sounds like you're very young still. There's a lot to experience in life, anon. You'll get out of that. :)

>>10800440
I've never worn makeup with lolita. Unless you're hellbent on being in a community or posting your pictures online, no one gives a shit outside of those spheres. You should enjoy your wardrobe if you still like it.

>>10800440
What's so off-putting about wearing makeup? I get away with with only mascara and undereye concealer sometimes, but it does take the beauty aspect of my look from "blank canvas" to "natural beauty". Maybe you just haven't found a good minimalist routine for yourself?

feeling sad bc a lolita i thought was my friend just isn't. they aren't mean or shit talking me but behaved in a way that makes it obvious they don't like me and are just tolerating me because i'm very nice and generous to them/everyone. i have other good friends, just a little bit of a bummer as i'd been trying to learn to be more social and make more genuine connections with people.

I've recently become close with a girl who I think is the one and only for me, in 36 years and a decent number of relationships etc. I've never met anybody who so perfectly fit my taste and had so much in common with me, and I'm pretty sure I'd be really good for her as well. Unfortunately she's just coming out of a really horrible time in her life - left an abusive marriage only to end up couch surfing with various losers and creeps for a year (and is currently surfing on mine but I'm the first one who *isn't* a loser or creep) and had really bad things happen in the course of that so she's in no condition for a relationship or anything, and I'm just getting ready to move to another state in a month or so so I can't really stick around and wait for her either.

It sucks, I really feel like both of us are missing out on something that really ought to happen if we don't get together, I know I'll never find another like her and I don't have much faith she'll find one like me either, she's weird in a way where it takes a certain kind of weird to deal with her and I just happen to be one of those rare people who fits the bill. I see signs sometimes that she feels the same way (stuff like choosing to stand really close to me, wearing the same thing repeatedly after I've complemented it, "accidentally" flashing peeks of bits, etc.) but she's obviously really traumatized and terrified that I'll be another guy who seems really nice at first but turns into an abuser once in a relationship with her. I'd love to just take her away from this place where so much trauma exists for her and she's so susceptible to the influence of bad people from her past, and show her what a real mature adult relationship with somebody who has his shit together and cares deeply about her is like, but I'm moving to a smallish town where I think she'd feel pretty stifled. It's just a shit situation all around.

>>10800486
Have you considered long distance temporarily?

Or just telling her how you feel and keeping up with each other as friends? Maybe if you cross paths in the future it'll be the right time later.

>>10800486
Oh yeah, and I forgot to mention, she's also into lolita and J-fash and occasional cosplay, which is crazy because I didn't meet her through that stuff at all and had no clue she even knew what they were until she told me, but had to leave all that stuff behind when she ran away from her husband.

>>10800487
I've thought about it, yeah, but I'm not sure what's going to happen to her once I'm gone and can't give her a place to stay. Hoping she can get back on her feet but there are a lot of challenges, she's foreign and legal but lost most of her papers and her passport in the year of hell she went through so that makes it tough, and there are a lot of resources for abused women but she's a white/east asian mix and 90% of the resources are specific to other ethnicities or religions or whatever.

She does already know how I feel. I've tried not to push it on her at all, but there's just this thing between us where within a day or two we were talking like a couple who'd been together forever and I just felt like it'd be a lot more comfortable for her if I told her the truth but promised not to do anything rather than leaving her wondering and worrying. I'm trying to wait it out as it stands but I'll admit I'm just really scared she'll end up with somebody else who treats her badly again, she's not really the type most guys specifically like - she's very petite, almost flat, very thin, and she's also incredibly smart but also super-awkward in weird ways so she's kinda hard for a lot of guys to handle (my male housemates, one of whom is the one who brought her to me in the first place, can't wrap their heads around me liking her so much) - but a lot of guys will chase anything with a hole and a cute face even if it's not their usual idea of sexy, and I think she's hugely attractive to abusive guys because she's so tiny and helpless-looking.

Anyway I guess I'll just have to see what happens. I really feel like it needs to for both our sake but I've had pretty bad luck with relationships and clearly she has too so it'd be just typical for us to miss this whole opportunity.

all the cool egl events are on the opposite side of the uk and need a 7 hour £150 train ride to attend...... i fucking hate my life

>>10800608
Serious question, how do you afford to buy this shit if you can't afford 150 for a train
I can't imagine quality egl shit is any cheaper than cosplay and most of my costumes cost between 200 and 2000...

My boyfriend doesn't really know how to control his temper sometimes. It's never physically dangerous but he starts arguments claiming I'm inflexible and antisocial. Idk, it's been tiring lately.

>>10800641
DHA

>>10800613
nayrt that anon didn't say they couldn't afford it.
But also, it's just one train ride for 150.
If you buy a dress for that amount or double that amount you can wear it as many times as you like until it disintegrates.
I would be thinking "I could buy that item I like for this money, and then enjoy it a lot more than a one time train ride".
Also, who is willing to travel 7 hours to a meet? I wouldn't.

>>10800641
I wouldn't stay in a relationship if my SO is often starting arguments. It doesn't even really matter who is right and who is wrong, it probably just means you aren't a good match for each other.

>>10800608
I don't think meets are worth it when I have to pay 45+ for a train ride, and travel for 2+ hours (one way) which is where most of the meets take place.

Yours is even worse.

Can you ask your local comm who lives close enough to you and is willing to do a mini meet or something like that?

>>10800458
I hate it when my face feels unclean, I'm allergic to several common ingredients, and I just hate spending time putting it on and looking at my face in the mirror, and also taking it off in the evening is a pain.

>>10800457
>no one gives a shit outside of those spheres.
This is not true, I don't know maybe it's a cultural difference but people definitely comment on it when I don't wear makeup at work.
Anyway it looks bad when I don't wear makeup with lolita and I don't want to look bad when I dress nice. It would be more enjoyable for me to see someone else wear the clothes or just look at them in my room. Maybe I can put some favourite dresses on my walls.

Interspecies Reviewers turned out to suck. But I like how the whores are always happy. I wish real life was like that. Voluntary prostitutes who are happy to see you. Not because that would give me an enjoyable service but because prostitution will always exist and the world would be a little happier if everyone involved enjoyed it. And no, I'm not saying I wish women would take abuse and say thank you.

>>10800708
lolita communities aren’t the same as a workplace are you being dense on purpose? at your job it’s reasonable if they expect you to look polished and wear makeup, but outside of work you don’t owe anybody anything

>>10800262
maybe one day anon

>>10800641
dump him its only going to continue, he is gaslighting you

>>10800708
are you just naturally ugly?

>>10800720
This isn't gaslighting. Complaints aren't a form of abuse.

>>10800643
>>10800645
>>10800720
I love this reddit phenomenon of "we read a single one-sided sentence from you, a total stranger, and can now perfectly analyze your entire relationship and advise you. Umm red flag sweety! Hit the gym and lawyer up!"

>>10800710
No way, an anime about gamifying fucking prostitutes turned out to be bad? Color me shocked

>a new friend convinced me to read Homestuck because he loved it
>Always avoided it when it was popular because the cosplay fandom was cancer
>Decide I might as well read it, if only to shit on it
>Enjoy it
>Enjoy it a lot
I'm on Act 6 and I'm actually really loving it. I want to cosplay a bunch of the characters now, but who the fuck gets into Homestuck in 2022? I regret missing out on the height of the fandom, even if I hated those grey painted fuckers leaving their mark on everything in the hotel back then.
Posted this in the dying thread on accident.

my first anime con was a disaster

just walking alone, no one seemed to notice me or perhaps they did cause I looked like a retarded 2b

not only that i recognized an online friend of mine, well they used to be

i thought about saying hello, at least, i didn't want to disturb them really as they were with someone, but still it was kind of a once in a lifetime but they didn't recognize me, rather felt uncomfortable and awkward, pretended not to recognise me and felt immensely horrible already after that

I felt I hurt them even more and made them so uncomfortable and felt I ruined their day there

besides most things were focused for friends and i just felt awkward and out of place

when i left I saw them again at a bus stop, i apologized for disturbing them but I think my fren actually recognized me, I was also sure it was them

they left one earlier, prolly because of me

have been sobbing and feeling so immensely guilty and awful about it all

i really enjoy cosplay and was so curious about an anime con but i felt both interests were annihilated

can't even fathom how i made my friend feel

i genuinely dont know how to feel. it was all a coincidence honestly, I was kinda happy I saw my fren and they were looking happy and healthy at least

but right now i have the need to punish myself, i genuinely feel so awful and guilty that I'm at a lost for words, not only that, since i am just traveling, i genuinely feel such a huge immense loneliness on my shoulders now.

its my fault, i know. it all is. i am absolutely disgusting.

>>10800801
Not trying to dismiss your self hate but I have abysmal eye sight to the point where I don't recognize people whatsoever when I'm not wearing my glasses and they could be similar. Try not to take it personally.

I'm not really understanding what you think you did wrong here. It sounds like your friend blew you off or maybe legitimately didn't recognize you. Like the other anon said, a lot of people have bad eyesight or some degree of face blindness

>>10800803
not sure if you are my friend, but the fact that you seem to take it personally, well, I can understand you, wasn't aware you were actually that near sighted. im just sorry about all this. i suppose i was really surprised and happy to see someone I actually knew even if it was just online only, and I suppose I did want to meet up with you for a while, hell, if things were a little bit different, then we would have gone to that anime con if you remember. if you were wondering why i was there, i am on a vacation and had tickets for that con, hence why, it was a big coincidence. but yeah, im sure it was for you also very tough, it's also why I feel awful about it making you feel that way on the spot. i felt like nardwuar or something like that

still i thought you looked amazing in your cosplay, that's what I wanted to say as well.

if that's really who I think you are anyways, just rambling and this is kinda the words I want to say to you. at least I hope you enjoyed yourself there at the con, I'd love to make it all up and all that, given what happened months ago as well, i dunno, i feel guilty about it all, but can imagine you want to spend the time with your friend (girlfriend?) just alone together, and well it's probably just selfish on my side to at least spend some time with you, still id love to well catch up at least, im probably just heavily overthinking this, but i hate making people feel uncomfortable and hurt, hence why i just feel awful, especially ones I consider my friends.

if you want to you can always reach out, we can skip the heavy stuff, and well, you don't have to reply to this message or not at all, it would be great though, because after all this i do like you and well, im just really curious about how you are doing. so that's why I genuinely hope we can have a drink, or something like that. anyways, im not sure if it's smart to head there tomorrow, i dunno, I don't want to make things awkward as they already are.

>>10800809
let's just say some things have happened (we didn't have a fight or anything, it's hard to explain), and we haven't talked in months, and well I've been feeling awful and pretty guilty about it all, hence why I feel even more bad about it all. I feel it makes me look like a stalker or a creep or some kind, even if I genuinely didn't know they would be there. if they didn't recognize me, all good, i did tell my name to them though, but then it makes me wonder if they understood it. fuck, it's all very confusing right now and I wish I wasn't so retarded about it all.

>>10800816
also not beating around the bush, its val(tari). can't be vague around this really even if it's hard to face this.

i actually don't know anymore what to do.

>>10800778
you should stop going on reddit

>>10800816
>>10800819
You sound incredibly unhinged. No wonder they reacted that way

>>10800844
Agreed. Anon, you need therapy or a self improvement book or something

>>10800844
>>10800846
im not disagreeing, in fact i agree

life has been an utter bitch lately and honestly while my vacation was a way to escape it it just became even worse

im genuinely considering suicide or just being thrown in an asylum forever

what was i thinking anyways, things just keep getting worse and it's my fault, besides in the end i was nothing to them really

i just dont want to be alone right now but here we are

>>10800816
I'm probably not your friend, but I did go to a con recently! Sorry, I just wanted to say that they might have vision issues so try not to feel so much self hatred over it you know?
It sounds like you've had a rough time with them and you're feeling a lot of self hate and guilt about it. I emphasize with you, since I get a lot of those "oh fuck I'll make so-and-so uncomfortable" feelings myself.
You should message them and just give them a non-committal "had fun at the con, your cosplay was great! Hope you're doing okay!" message. It might help you feel more at ease with everything.
It's hard to get out of your head but try to be a little less self focused. You're so self critical that you're probably giving off really sad vibes. Try to be more confident in yourself and less self critical. When you have that air of self destruction around you it makes it very difficult to be a friend to you. You've you to put in the work to try and improve your self image and be less of a victim.

I finally bit the bullet and dropped a big chunk of cash on telesis 8 because pros-aide wasn't cutting it for the needs of a specific costume's makeup. ~$25 per ounce of product makes me want to cry

>>10800850
i really wish I could message them, which i already would have if they didn't block me, for no clear reason. I wish I could understand why.

I see I get a ton of "vision issues" replies here, so I really want to assume it's that, because I didn't get any "leave me alone" or anything back then. They didn't really seem to recognise me, or they did, but only they know really.

I've always been like this, if something bad happens between me and someone else I blame myself the first.

And well since I'm so emotional I sound so immensely deranged, its true, I just wish I would not stop blaming myself firsthand. But I always do.

I just feel bad for my friend now and well I just want to let them know somehow it was me back then and that I didn't mean harm. I suppose I just want to make up or get closure, whatever. I understand they want nothing with me anymore.

I just feel so lost, emotional and alone at this point any decision I make makes things worse for everyone involved. And I really am so overdramatic.

why was I born as a straight man?
anything else and I would have been infinitely happier. trying to get any female attention at a con makes me just another mouth to feed, something they do their best at ignoring.

>>10800886
I was born a lesbian and let me tell you the grass isn't any greener over here on the other side

>>10800889
just find another lesbian
it's not like their is a massive imbalance
as long as there is another single lesbian in the world you can't but completely out unless one of your standards is too high
meanwhile I have to compete with the overwhelming attention all women receive
there are far more single young men than single young women.

>>10800892
>>>/r9k/

is it cringe as an adult to wear menhera?

>>10800903
Only if you're fat, ugly, or do it poorly

>>10800905
is there a way to find the rules of the fashion? also is there a j-fashion that has heavily religious themes (other than dead cult party kei)? i wanna explore j-fashion aside from lolita

>>10800898
you didn't refute the point
there is no way to find a woman who desires you where all they want is to get less male attention.

>>10800908
women want less attention from creepy autists, old men and coomers, not normal men we'd want to be friends with or date

>>10800927
really? how do I give that "valuable attention"
I feel so demoralized constantly seeing women constantly voice their distaste for men approaching them
while in equal amount I see men centering their whole lives on how to get more attention from women
Like men are as worthless as women are desired

>>10800929
that's because dick is plentiful and of low value anon.
The imbalance in the market is because too many men will date or fuck any woman.

If you don't understand when and how to approach a woman it's because you can't read the room and don't have social skills.

>>10800943
is the transwoman phenomenon "market correction"?
damn it, I want to be valued, but not to that extent.

>>10800949
why don't you try to get it on with a tranny?
He is happy he is getting some dick, you're getting laid, women are happy that you're not trying to fuck em. Everyone happy.

>>10800952
only once 30% of men become women will dick have value again
the free market will prevail

>>10800854
hey anon. I'm in the same spot as you are, so I understand how this feels. Of course, I believe that what you're feeling is valid. We just want to make amends before leaving them.

But something I've learned lately is that not everyone gets the closure we deserve. And I don't think you'll get yours too, anon. As lovely as it would be to not give up hope for others, it'll continue to hurt us more in the end. This person doesn't seem like they'll give you closure, and that's okay. There really are some awful people out there.

Try not to dwell too much on this person soon. I know it'll be hard. It already is for me. But sometimes we can't reason with already awful people. The only thing we can do is try to be the bigger person by attempting to move on entirely. I hope you can soon learn to forget this person and move on. I'm sure it'll be difficult for a good while.

Think you could promise an anon that we'll work towards getting over this? It doesn't matter how long it takes. Don't give up on yourself just yet, okay?

>>10800927
I wish women gave normal men attention
Instead they try to talk to me when I'm obviously mentally ill

>>10800908
we don't want to refute any point, just saying that the place to complain about women not giving you attention is >>>/r9k/
god this board has been full of incels again

>>10800955
It's something I did want to. Looking back on it, I was really emotional when I was writing this stuff yesterday, it actually could be it was that they didn't recognize me. It just felt awkward recognizing them despite us having shared selfies before

I suppose I do want closure but fren finds it probably really hard to do so. I can imagine that but it sucks knowing I felt so powerless despite us being nearby

I think it's also harder to move on since I feel quite lonely and don't have friends. Even harder when you care about this person.

It's very hard really. Just wish things could be worked out easily.

>>10800970
I see. I can really only wish you the best of luck for the future, but if you're ever keen on attending another con in the future, I'd recommend you try putting up posts on related social media circles/pages asking if there's anybody who would like to go to a con together as a pair or group.

I get the feeling that you won't really attract many people if you plan to go together as characters from a mainstream series, so try cosplaying as characters from a more niche series in your part of the world. You could even just put up a post asking if any fans of a particular series would like to go together to a con. This is what I'm trying to do for a con this week, and I managed to find 2 other people who were interested and wanted to join me.

That being said, I don't even know if what I'm doing will get me solid friends. But, trying is all I can do to put my life back together. I hope you'll be able to find a few solid friends anon. Hope life turns around for you.

>>10800972
>I get the feeling that you won't really attract many people if you plan to go together as characters from a mainstream series
Honestly it kind of blackpilled me when I realized people compliment me because I'm good looking and that the series your cosplay is from means nothing.

>>10800711
That comment is specific about outside lolita, it says it right there

>>10800816
>we can skip the heavy stuff
It sounds like you're incapable of that. All that happened was that you said hello to someone who didn't recognize you at first? There is no problem but you seem to have made up a problem in your head. Try to stop assuming you know what other people think or feel and just let it go.

>>10800854
>if something bad happens
Nothing bad happened!! You just have bad mental health and are making yourself feel bad for no reason

>>10800929
By becoming a valuable and respectful man. Get out of 4chan, see a therapist, practice sports, work on your personal hygiene, eat better, take care of your hair and skin, make friends, start thinking of woman as multifaceted human beings just like you and not simply as an opportunity to get laid.

Do this for yourself and you will probably feel a lot better and realize that this incel theory you are burying yourself in is the biggest bullshit. Getting together with people is not rocky science. Soon enough you will meet woman who are interesting to you and sometimes you will be interesting to them too, If you learn how to read the room, it will be easy to notice when the interest is mutual.

>>10800892
>just find another lesbian
as if the lesbian population isn't dwindling and getting pushed underground by weirdos who think only liking pussy makes you an irredeemable bigot

>>10801039
I literally have never seen anyone bothered by lesbians liking only pussy outside of the worst sides os SJW twitter and I have a ton of lesbians and trans friends with which I interact on a daily basis.
The biggest lesbian problems I constantly hear about is bigotry coming from cis straight man and woman, fetishization from weird guys and falling in love with someone that's at least a 5 hour distance trip from your home.

>>10801039
>weirdos who think only liking pussy makes you an irredeemable bigot
these are loud sjws
people who are exclusively cis4cis or trans4trans do exist and they're absolutely fine with each other
>>10801046 is 100% right.

>>10801039
Go outside. As a lesbian I'm having to worry more about my civil rights being taken away because people think I'm trying to groom their children than some twitter dorks. It's not an actual issue.

>>10801026
it just happened again...

I really want to explain myself and make things right but I don't know how, especially now we all still can because we see all here, instead it just gets awkward. I hate misunderstandings and well it makes me even more unhinged :(

>mom asked me about the last Anime-Convention I went
This is kinda embarrasing

I don't care what any of you say, your favourite brand will never be as fun as h.Naoto STEAM

>>10798878
his or her suggestions are fine and don't indicate what you're saying, I wonder what would motivate someone to make such a post out to be so fantastical

>>10798861
>Why everyone in my cosplay area seems to be with a boyfriend or married already?
>I feel like I'm being left behind when it comes down to having a significant other...
Why would you use cosplay to meet people, pervert?

>>10800793
The premise is solid. The execution is bad. An anime like this has two things to offer. Eye candy and interesting ideas about nonhuman peculiarities. The eye candy was boring and the peculiarities were barely mentioned. Monmusu did it better.

>>10798866
>>10798998
>>10798920
Isn't this a normal thing that people do? Inb4 scrote

>>10799055
Smiling and waving at me is making fun of me? Have you ever been to a con?

>>10799139
>>10799291
>>10799258
>>10799227
How mentally retarded do you have to be to struggle not to open an app? You literally can't comprehend the idea of not gossipping for 24 hours?

>have bad social anxiety about initiating conversations but am not a complete sperg
>decide to try to work on it since I moved right before Covid & don't have any con friends who didn't become an alcoholic due to Covid
>have fun at the last 2 cons I go to and meet/befriend new people, both of which were out of state
>go to a local con in the hope I can make local con friends
>see nobody from the series I cosplay which I usually use as my icebreaker in 45ish minutes lobbyconning
>take a few pics of the cooler looking cosplays I do see then just say fuck it and drive home
Onto the next con I guess. I need to work on just talking to people cosplaying anything I like.

>chatted up cute girl at con
>we hit it off really well
>she's eager to chat and enthusiastic in general
>turns out she was "raped" and has a bunch of fake mental illnesses and personality disorders
>is probably just a little autistic or awkward and enabled by everyone around her
every time
I'm convinced half of the girls who are interested in me at cons are future FTMs or will be on multiple psychiatric medications by the time they're 30

>>10800126
>You okay nonny? You spazzed out there.
>>10800138
>The only spazzing out here was your weirdass outburst.

>passive aggressive posting on 4chan
kek. wow calm down anons

when did /cgl/ become so bitter? this is the most hostile feels thread I've lurked in years

>>10801108
Anon, I can't find them.

>>10800929
Please read what >>10801028 said and take it to heart. They couldn't have worded better. You can improve.

>>10800954
men can't become women
https://youtu.be/xDmaPIKrC-A

>arcanines complaining about not getting attention from women
>trannies trannies trannies
god this is the worst feels thread of the year

Wearing lolita just makes me feel so happy. For the first time in years I finally have the disposable income to just buy dresses on a whim if something I absolutely love comes up and I have been able to pad my wardrobe with nice brand blouses and accessories and my coords finally feel really solid and it just makes me so happy to wear coords that feel nice and complete and cute instead of having to compromise on offbrand socks, bodyline blouses and handmade headdresses.

>>10801167
Good for you. I like the feeling of wearing new clothes.

>>10801167
I can relate
such is the joy of being able to afford burando in our mid twenties

>>10798786
>mfw I walk into tea while the comm president is giving the treasurer a bare-assed spanking
Yes, she bought NFTs.

>>10800965
ok sainte, no woman is willingly talking to you and we both know it

>>10801215
i think that's not sainte but instead some annoying faggy boy.

Lolitas can be so two-faced, I shouldn’t be surprised.

>>10801200
>bare-assed spanking
damn that's so fucking hot, are you sure your comm isn't doing half of these for the lesbo-erotic value?

>>10801167
I just love lolita so fucking much. God bless this fashion

>>10801110
I've been here since mid 2014 and it's been like this as long as I can remember

>convention yesterday
>i'm good friends with this quite famous couple, the guy is in cosplay for longer, the girl also goes great costuming etc
>at one point she just adjusts her pants of the costume she's using - the blouse part is a bit long so she has to roll it upwards
>I end up seeing a belly roll squirting out of those tight spandex pants like when you smash a burger with mayo under it and it flows out of the burger

My god that was so fucking hot, wholesome, and body positive at the same time.

And to think I was told a guy in our group got harrassed by several girls. Another person of the group was with him and I said 'why doesn't that happen to me lmao'. They answered it was because of my own belly.

Dammit.
At least I saw the belly roll of a girl whose character I literally simp for.

There’s this one fat lolita with terrible skin that I follow who looks so awful in everything. Honestly it inspires me to keep staying skinny and on top of my skincare.

Sometimes I feel bad about thinking that she looks ugly.

>>10801379
Swear. Anytime I’m extra tired after work and feel like skipping a shower for once, I just remember some of the girls in my comm who smell and have nasty greasy hair they occasionally try to hide with wigs. Instant fix for momentary laziness.

>>10801379
It's Ellie Vyra isn't it?

>>10801074
Nothing actually happened. What makes you unhinged is your need for explaining non-existent problems and not letting go of minor interactions

>>10801448
true, but I tend to overthink a lot when something bad seemed to have happened. that has always been me.

they still felt uncomfortable so that's why

>>10801425
No lmao

I fucking hate how I want the female Star Wars Inquisitors, any of them, to fucking domiante me. Sometimes I hate msyelf for liking that because it makes me not flexible for anything I can actually obtain. I'm going to die virtually a virgin.

>tfw can't initiate contact with anyone unless they are in a costume from a series I like

>>10801525
what series do I have to cosplay from to get some (you)'s

>message prop seller to ask if they think they could get me an accessory by a pretty quick deadline
>they say they can have it made and shipped in three days
>dope, purchase
>it's been six days with no response to update request

It's something that will be easy enough to make on my own if I need to last minute, but I really didn't want to hassle with it, and I'm kind of pissed off that I'm probably going to be out fifteen bucks for no reason at this point.

>>10801526
Flavour of the month waifus from the last seasons

Marin and Yor might be still a thing

I'm finally going to a con again for the first time in like two and a half years! It's a con I really like and, despite roommate drama or sickness or other trouble, have never failed to have a great time at! I'm going with the guy I've been dating for a year (we were friends before we started dating and have been to cons together but never as a couple), and we're gonna cosplay together for the first time! I'm going to get to see one of my best friends who I haven't seen in several months and cosplay with her, too! I'm so excited!

>>10801568
>and we're gonna cosplay together for the first time!
I'm jealous
Which cosplay?

>>10801568
I wish you a great time. I've been with my ex before, and it was a great experience I'm very thankful I had. Hope the two of you can go to many comic cons and enjoy that together!

>>10801580
We're doing Ebisu and Fujita from Dorohedoro! I hope you get your chance to cosplay with a partner someday, anon!

>>10801587
I'm glad you have that memory, anon, what a sweet reply, and thank you so much!

>>10801593
You are most welcome. You are also an example that we can achieve this, to have a bf / gf into the comic conventions we are into as well.

And finally some positivity in a board full of toxic people lol

>>10801593
>We're doing Ebisu and Fujita from Dorohedoro!
Ok
I remember some other anon from here, who told about a Lora and Jin (Xenoblade) cosplay with her boyfriend
Just wondered if you were the same person
>I hope you get your chance to cosplay with a partner someday, anon!
Not really into cosplay (yet)
But I would do it for a theoretical cosplay gf

>>10801100
Those on their own are not making fun of you, obviously, but given the context you're fucking autistic not to see it.

>>10801758
the context is he's a guy at a con. you're not some level 9000 psychology wizard bro, unless you have an actual point to make other than "hurr it's obvious if you're not autistic" then fuck off

Oh VM, your clothes are so pretty, I wish I could own them all

The only people in my comm after covid are now conlitas and covid-litas, newbies. Where did all the normal lolitas disappear to? Is there any hope left?
I should probably accept being a lone lolita again but I miss the vibrant pre covid meet ups, events, conversations without nonstop virtue signaling.

>Biden announced $10k of student loans forgiven
Time to buy more lolita.

>>10801810
I already made my point, they’re clearly making fun of him.
>SO WAVING TO SOMEONE IS MAKING FUN THEN????
No, of course not. But when you take into consideration their reaction to talking to him, along with them being disinterested with him later when they didn’t get the reaction they want, it’s clear as day that he’s the butt of the joke. I don’t know how much simpler I can spell it out for you.

>>10801982
literally anything could have happened here, you're making worst-case assumptions based on about 6 words

>>10801018
I was referring to not wearing makeup with lolita outside of lolita-specific spheres, but I can see where my wording isn't clear on that. (I've never had to wear makeup for work so this didn't cross my mind; I also don't think of work in association with anything lolita related.)

Either way, my main point was that OP should enjoy themselves regardless of other people's opinions, but she already said her piece about how she feels not wearing makeup so it's a moot point.

Actual feels for myself, I have a bunch of stuff to list on LM that I keep putting off because the thought of dealing with buyers is exhausting, but I know I'll feel so much better once all of this is out of the house as well. I'll deal with it this weekend.

>>10801568
Glad for you, anon. I'm also going to a con for the first time in ~2.5 years soon!
hope we both have a good time

I was passing outside a church yesterday when I saw some 10yo gypsy prostitutes going from car to car. They were wearing basically a censorship bar around their chests and panties. Their family was nearby. The girls acted like it was a game. It was fucked up on many levels.

>>10802213
Post board related stuff or leave you annoying faggot

>be super lewd, into costume sex and everything
>in conventions, you do not think about sex even if it is towards someone you know it is single and that there would not be any problem in flirting

the duality

>>10801982
Well I have about 20k followers on insta so they might have just recognized me and wanted to talk to me. But I'm not good at talking to people irl.

>mfw i see cosplayers openly disclosing who they're going to vote for this year

I wish I could tell them to shut the fuck up and not post anything related to politics ever. No one should be allowed to voice out their opinions, because no one fucking cares.

Seriously considering once more not talking to them when they approach me.

>>10802265
I don't mind, why do you? I just honestly respond that I don't give a fuck about what happens to anyone except myself, my gf, my friends, and that voting does nothing.

>>10802266
I get triggered in secret on the internet. I wouldn't be as triggered if the same happened IRL. I guess we all get a little different on the internet.

It's ironic - i'm the most non combative person ever, and recognized as a diplomat-like figure in my cosplay community. No one hates me, lol.

>>10802267
I take every chance I get to argue with people at cons. Not because I want to change their mind, but because I've never had a friend in my life and arguing with people is the closest I get to real human interaction.

>>10802268
Now you have shown why some people argue.
It's like the folks who fight in bars over anything.
Pathetic.

>>10802269
I cope with the fact that I'm at least self aware of being a loser
I end every argument by apologizing and admitting I just argued because I'm a lonely loser and then i walk away

>>10802270
Get psychological help.

>>10802270
>>10802283
dont listen to anon anon bee yourself

>my first con in over 2 years tomorrow
>been getting headaches and colds all of a sudden

Fuck this shit, I can't enjoy it when I'm ill. still going though.

>>10801455
Check for social anxiety disorder with your therapist, you sound like a worse version of me before starting treatment

>meet cosplay girl at con
>she's interested in dating
>she ends up being underage again
I just want a cosplay gf that won't put me in jail

>>10802305
I was like you once. Then I realized I have nothing of value, my life is empty and meaningless. When you have nothing, you have nothing to lose. What's up I don't give a fuck.

>love a series but was afraid to cosplay & was a poorfag
>get my college loans paid off & buy a costume in January 2020
>cons die to to Covid
> wear it since I still love the series but the fandom for it is maybe at 10% of what is was in 2019

>>10800801
>friend is a socially inept autist who freaks out when you just say hi
>feel guilty
Your friend is in the wrong for not having the ability to say "Oh, sorry, didn't recognize you for a second" and instead sperging out

>>10802218
Just thought it was funny and wanted to share, don’t get mad you don’t like it

>>10802349
that was close I almost made a trip. LEAVEEE ME ALONEEEE IM TRYING TO CHILL

>>10802357
i have monkey aids!

>>10802321
All that is left of SU is bad memories and spinelfags.

>>10802359
I dunno im starting to question w/e im pretending to be autistic or im actually autistic.
>be me high school age
>in room staring at the ceiling making otter noises
>big sis barges in holding her phone screaming wtf are you doing
honestly i dunno what I was doing

>>10802349
Shut up and take your meds schizofag. You aren't funny, you're just annoying and I wish you would get banned already

>>10802380

>>10802380
Buck, buck, buck, buck, booyakasha
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>>10802384
Owned, see everyone here loves me, I bring the fun posting

>>10802385
so tru

I want a megane in a sweater to hold me and tell me nice things.

>>10802338
I suppose it's why communication matters in the end, since from her side the last months as well wasn't any while I guess I tried too hard (and failed) and we could have avoided the sperging as well

Feel my attempts and my presence were just making them uncomfortable despite not being my intention to do so, but in the end, it did, and all I feel left is guilt, regret and confusion.

Even so apparently they were upset about me yet also worried since I was offline so much as I heard, but not sure if I understood correctly but that makes it sound they don't know really as well how to really feel.

Just wondering if I should make an attempt to reach out, I know it isn't smart at all so I won't because I'm afraid how they'll react but they seemingly removed the block not long afterwards so I feel kinda tempted, just wondering what even to say. Because it's been going on longer than that and well, as said in this thread, I'm just really unhinged as well because I spent months in isolation and huge depression, almost died as well, doesn't excuse my behavior, still, it's why I acted really obnoxious, not just to them but to others as well. Attempting to fix myself slowly, hence I pushed myself out to a con but things like these makes me almost fall back again. I genuinely wish I wasn't so afraid but I am certain that they are just mad at me, despite the few reactions they didn't recognize me because bad eyesight. Man it's confusing.

Also afraid they'll read all of this, but yeah I already went all out again while I was sobbing last week so I don't know even anymore, they did recognise me after all and I hurt them. Man whatever I want to say will excuse nothing and I can understand that somehow, but I just want to make things right.

>>10802303
I was already diagnosed with sad and depression though. Not to mention autism as well, the complete sperg package. Not sure if my friend suffers from mental issues as well as they never talked about that.

>>10802423
shut the fuck up.

>>10802425
someone is cranky todayyy. that story was confusing tho so hard to followwwwwww

>>10802425
sorry:(

That feeling when, you haven't been on the farms in a while and it turns out a wholesome lolita whose content you uses to enjoy is openly engaging with hentai child pron, lolicon and DDLG fetishes. And now I want to crawl under a rock and hide. Sweet lolitas are a scourge. Pic related. It's her. I think I'm going to be sick.

>>10802439
came to post this nonna. seeing this huge uptick of sweets being outed for being into ddlg, lolicon, furries, etc sickens me. i wonder if most sweets are like this and we're the odd ones out? i don't want to believe that...

>>10802446
From my observations and experience around 40% of girls who cosplay are into that shit so it's probably the new normal

>>10802439
sauce? like I need some proof before the witch-hunt begins

>>10802446
>>10802448
this I’ve seen so many cosplay girls post one lolita coord then half naked onlyfans genshin cosplay pictures. and sweet has the largest audience, so there’s going to proportionately be a higher % of creeps. pls don’t lump us all together with the fetishists

>>10802449
supposedly she liked some sus lolicon ecchi/hentai stuff on twitter, and since twitter will sometimes put likes in people's feed that follow you, other lolitas who follow toast were essentially surprised with inappropriate stuff on their twitter feed as a result of toast's likes

>spend over a year buying my gf new dresses every month
>have to actually budget for the first time since college
>she breaks up with me
>I miss the feeling of seeing her happy getting new outfits
>it's been months

is there a cure or am I just doomed to open the money spigot again if I date someone into lolita again

>>10802450
>half naked onlyfans genshin cosplay pictures
What's wrong with that
I do that and I'm a guy
Gotta pay the bills

>>10802449
>>10802451 she also follows many accounts which create and retweet lolicon and other fetish content

>>10802449
I was going to post the link but my comment keeps getting flagged as spam. Just go to recent lolcow thread. Its towards the bottom of the thread.

>>10802454
Like I don't see what's wrong with it
As long as you're not like hurting kids a d you don't sexualize actual children and you oppose people who do that shit like feel free to rub your bean to whatever fucked up shit you want
Like I mean guro is a popular fetish but how many people actually kill women just because ethey jack off to it probably not many

>>10802457
this is why nobody takes moids seriously.

>>10802446
>>10802439
>>10802450

>mfw i'm widely recognized as someone quite innocent and pure in your cosplay community
>mfw if people only saw what i follow on instagram
>mfw if people only knew of my intense cosplay as a kink

Good thing I don't do lolita hahahah
But it's good to know there are girls who are 'nasty' like that. Makes my work easier.

>>10802459
Ehhhh?
I mean these fetishes seem to be pretty popular.... most of my female friends are into shit like shots, guro, rape, etc.
They are all cosplayers but like they have XX chromosomes so like

>>10802459
Nobody takes seriously your complaints that they're invading your tea parties and toilets either:).

>>10802467
Kek you realize like half the country does right? Everyone isn't a retard lib

Only some dumb 4chan coomer moid could really think there's nothing wrong with pedophilic porn

I'd just like to scream into the abyss that I fucking miss EMS shipping to Canada

I wish the west didn't exist and I hope all pedos rot in hell

>>10802513
I wish the same. Condemn all the dems!

Imagine being a lolita who fell into a coma in 2016 and woke up in 2022. What a shock it must be to see AP's and BTSSB's current releases. I'm glad I'm not her.

>>10802486
Half the country is women and nobody cares about their opinion. Otherwise things would change.

I HATE fat people so much.
Why do they exist

I wish it wasn't so expensive to table at a con. I wish the prices of conventions were similar to the prices at comiket, no, I wish we had an American comiket.

afternoon catnap :s

Feel like shit just want kf back

I just fucked my friend's girlfriend. With him watching. I never guessed he would have been into that kind of thing. Didn't know what to do when she came into me. It broke a really, really long dry spell for me too. He went after me and now they're passed out on my bed. To make it worse there's a different girl I like and she knows it happened. Not sure how to feel or what to do.

Still riding the post-con high, already planning future cosplays. I'm going to put my crochet skills to use for some costumes and I'm really excited for that.

>>10800419
It's time to start your gym arc, been there done that but now I feel amazing

>>394980987 feels