/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL

>>10728158
I'll tell you, i've spoken to my fetishist friends and they all said they paid for rare content. Bro, you have no idea. All Star Wars sexual cosplay orbits around Leia and Padme. If you're lucky, it drifts to Vader, Boba Fett or Kylo. Anything outside that sphere is rare as FUCK or it's been done very poorly by the industrial porn market. It's what we can do since I sure ain't gonna ruin my reputation trying to have sex with girls in their costumes. As much as I would like to do so, I know that's impossible. Sex would ruin the costume, mentally and even physically for them.

>>10728376
No shame in your game, I'm more so baffled by the price for such low effort content and don't think I'd be able to enjoy it myself, if I was into that. I do have a hard time believing female sexuality is that limited. Surely there must be women who want to have sex in their costumes, although they're most likely hard to find. I personally spent years watching the creepiest, most awkward lolita-centric Japanese porn myself (never paid for it, but still), so I get it. But I couldn't be happier now that I get to have sex in lolita with a partner who understands it and finds it attractive as well. God speed and may you find the cosplay girl of your dreams.

>>10728279
lmao I ended up asking today thanks to your push. It was strictly platonic. feeling massively relieved about it, it wasn't a massive crush, I was just confused since the mixed signals fucked me up more than anything else.

>>10728317
literally everyone in their early 20's doesn't have shit figured out. like... from the guy side, the vast majority of girls at that age don't have any interests that aren't ultra surface level "eating good food/watching netflix" while being generously supported by their parents. Then again, guys aren't that much different (except for them, it's video games/weebshit)

>>10728317
22 dating a 30 y/o and he's the best but would never go for someone with two kids at my age. keep looking unless you want to be a mom because that's the end game if you get serious with him

I can't wait for this Social Justice Post-Modern philosophy to eventually devour itself. I'm so sick of having to play pretend every day.

>Yes this man who is 6'4" and wears size 15 shoes is definitely a petite little princess
>Yes men fucking men is totally normal and even morally good
>Yes I am inherently a bad person for being white despite having a worse upbringing than most people criticising me

Already posted it two times, but it looks like I won't be able to go to Aninite this Year

I know a lot of anons give Lor a hard time for shilling tons of indie brands, but I just got my first ever MeLikesTea petti in the mail after years of only using brand and taobao ones and I'm in love. I hated Cotton Candy Feet for having poor quality shoes and just average-good bags that didn't feel worth brand prices, and I was worried they'd be similar both being in Brazil and previously combining shipping with one another, but this thing is fucking amazing. And it was made to order and came far faster than I thought. Considering how frequently people reccomend MLT I thought they'd be behind or slow like Lady Sloth and some other smaller indie brands are but they got my order to me in the shorter end of their arrival estimate.

Sorry if I sound like a shill. The fit is just so perfect and the length and shape too. After years of owning a ton of brand it's like none of that mattered and having this petticoat makes me feel like I'm finally a real lolita. It's the one thing Lor shills that deserves the credit and attention, hands down.

>>10728668
I don't like it they deflate fast. The material is flimsy and rips easily also. Big waste of money if you want something sturdy and poofy for years of use

>>10728671
I got the kind which is supposed to stay sturdy longer than the more stiff fabrics with proper care, because it doesn't soften further when washed. Which material did you get? How long did you own it?

Just curious so I know what the life span is expected to be.

I Love Miho Matsuda designs and construction, but absolute hate the fabric that they always seem to use. It's hard to put into words, but there's something about it that reminds me too much of factory made cosplays. I don't mind wearing it around normies since they'll think I'm in a costume no matter what, but I'm too self conscious wearing it around other lolitas because I worry they might think I've showed up to a meet in cosplay. Am I totally overthinking this?

I've spent my day doing small hand sewn alterations for my dresses (adding waist ties, moving straps and bows, etc) and it's honestly so fun! Plus all my dresses look so much better now. I want to buy more busted up dresses to fix them

Being unemployed sucks

>>10728676
What the hell are you even talking about?
I have a few miho matsuda items and the fabric is fine and good quality. Also why are you worried about looking like cosplay to meets when there are girls who wear the AP bunny ears lol

>>10728676
>>10728765
miho matsuda isn't even lolita, it's japanese goth avant-garde couture crap. also it's less a costume to normies than lolita because much of the designs have runway appeal. god i hate lolitas.

>>10728771
It makes me sad that someone who clearly needs to go to bed and drink water isn’t

>>10728771
Are you getting it mixed up with alice auaa?

I've hit the wall on a project. You know how they say "there are two parts - the first 90% and the last 90%"? Well I'm deep into that latter bit where it's not fun and even after spending hours hand-sewing details every day after work it feels like I'm barely making progress. I just want to be done but I'm starting to worry that once I do finish I won't even have the happiness from a completed project because I'll be so burnt out on it.

Hey, I don't know where else to post. I'm leaving Lolita and have a full bunch of pieces that I want to sell. It's also some general Jfashion stuff. It kinda hurts to sell the stuff, but I grew out of this phase around 2 yrs ago and it's about time.

I'll list a few things, for more and for proof/photos pls send a mail to the address above:
- meta skirt sweet from 2003
- ap tea parties size LL new
- ap vintage marine navy JSK
- a random btssb blouse in blk
- putumayo JSK from 2013 in pnk x Bordeaux w an Alice tea party theme
- some other items I can send you a list of what I'm willed to let go. I won't check here as I'm not using this site anymore so pls pls write me a mail

>>10728814
It's sad that you're leaving. I did send you an email though.
It could probably have been posted in the BST thread (buy sell trade)

>>10728814
Also, extremely against my own self interest, if you haven't been paying attention to lolita for the past couple of years, you can probably sell them for much more than what you expect. Prices have skyrocketed since covid.

>>10728387
Hey anon, it's just... it's rare content. And, additionally, the content 'makes sense' (i've watched the entire video, and it's baasically a 'enemy captured' scene). I'm happy with it, and i'm glad you understand it, anon!

I am also happy you have a partner who understands and enjoys the sensual side of lolita. On my end i'll keep looking for my cosplay girl - because if you found yours, i'll find mine.

Thank you very much, anon.

>>10728672
I have two, organza and voile in different lengths. I've had them for almost 2 years. They began falling apart around a year and a half of use. She needs to stop cheaping out and add nicer fabric and more seam allowance between tiers

>>10728862
Good to know. I'm a daily and my dog loves to climb and jump on me even when I'm getting dressed, so I anticipate I'll see any damage come sooner than you did with how rough I am on my clothes. I'll keep an eye out for how long these last and update/rescind my review if anything seems off.

I got the voile as well, in the shorter lengths. At least fresh from the package it's been great. It's still so much poofier than my brand and A+A pettis but in the perfect shape and lighter than A+A, so I'll wear it until it's worn out. Thanks for the heads up anon!

It's embarrassing how bitter anons are in the taobao thread, like it's a mortal sin to like something that isn't brand and if you do you must not own any brand at all.
Besides taobao dresses are great for if you want to go out in lolita and don't have to care about the dress.

>>10728890
>are great for if you want to go out in lolita and don't have to care about the dress.

What a fast fashion mindset

>>10728922
It’s only fast fashion if you’re not wearing items as long as you can and taking care of them. Otherwise you’ll be like that zoe girl who was constantly buying and selling AP and treating that like fast fashion.

>>10728890
>>10728930
>>10728922
> Besides taobao dresses are great for if you want to go out in lolita and don't have to care about the dress
> It’s only fast fashion if you’re not wearing items as long as you can and taking care of them

fast fashion is based on production speed/cycles and a 3 second google search would show you that. whether you like taobao or not it’s undeniably more “fast fashion” and harmful to the environment than most brands, though i’d argue certain brands (cough, AP) are certainly going down that route as well. personally that’s something I want to avoid. hell, i’ve stopped purchasing from the main brands almost entirely and have been commissioning custom dresses instead

take To Alice as an example- they’re churning out new items on a daily basis. do you really think that doesn’t have an impact? you could easily save up money or keep an eye out for good secondhand deals. but keep buying your new $60 kawaii printed toxic chemical dresses because you value quantity over quality

>>10728930
Want to know how I can tell you’re poor?

>>10728962
I make 80k a year but go off i guess

>>10728387
I'm surprised this post hasn't been ripped apart. I thought the lolita community was very negative towards any mixing of sex and lolita to prevent psuedo-pedos?

>>10728962

Nta but I can tell you've got some security issues about your money situation or taste simply from that comment lol.

>>10729037
it's obvious bait that was written by a man.
don't worry, the lolita community has and does kick out people in real life for doing this shit

>>10729042
Neat.

>>10728387
>I personally spent years watching the creepiest, most awkward lolita-centric Japanese porn myself
...links? i'm morbidly curious

>>10729047
i'm not the quoted anon but.... he probably has it stored, it's literally years of searching for hidden gems among the millions of misleading porn on the internet

trust me, i also look out for high quality cosplay videos and i know how hard it is to find adequate content

I don't usually buy AP but if the Memorial Tea Museum OP in black goes on sale I just might get it.

>>10729042
Lmao I'm a woman, why is it so hard to believe that a girl can feel attractive in lolita and want to have sex in it? Not bait either, I was having a genuine conversation.
>>10729052
I don't download porn, it's out there if you know where to look

>>10729076
sometimes downloading it is the only choice since things get taken down you know. i only do it on the content i pay for, or the stuff that is just so damn good, it gets an exception.

I have a whole folder dedicated to power rangers porn. but like, actual quality costumes, same stuff you'd see in a comic con. it's the best thing ever, i'm so proud of myself.

just gotta find a girl like you, but who likes cosplay in general and not lolita. (lolita doesn't even exist in my country desu.)

>>10728784
When you start to get burnt out it can be tempting to cut corners or not put as much effort in, but after you finish it will feel much more satisfying knowing you took the time to do it right. I think it sucks to look back on a project and see all the things I could have done better if I didn't slack off/give up. Keep it up

Personally I don't recommend taking a break from a project because I tend to have trouble coming back to them but maybe that's just me

I'm a deeply judgemental person and I'm not sure what to do to change, or if I should even try to change. On the one hand, it's harming my friendship with a person I value because she keeps pissing me off. Then she'll start acting like a victim when I do nothing but console her and apologise instantly and profusely when she gets upset. On the other hand, being a good judge of character has protected me from scrotes who just want to fuck me, or do worse things.

I don't know what to do.

I want a hug

As much as I hate those creepy free hugs guys at cons I'd take one rn. Inflation is so bad, everything is so expensive idk when I can go anywhere again

>>10729151
Just be less judgemental towards your friend. You don't need to 180 your personality just because one person got upset at you.

>>10729152
You need a boyfriend.

Why are most lolitas ugly or if they're not ugly, plain Janes?

>>10729152
Damn, I could use a hug, too.

>>10728976
Wow you must be the best burger flipper around

I’m having an age crisis (I’m 25). Covid really doesn’t help. I lost so many opportunities.

>>10729047
Just search it on most sites

Wondering if anyone has advice for dealing with anxiety about making purchases? I've been a lolita for 4+ years and despite that my wardrobe is still quite small because I can rarely make myself actually buy things. It's not an issue if not having the money, and I didn't grow up having to worry about that either, but whenever I want to purchase a lolita piece I can't shake the feeling that I'm doing something irresponsible and often end up backing out. It's even happened with a dream dress. Maybe I feel guilty since I don't "need" more clothes, especially ones that aren't wearable for work or household chores. Maybe it's the price that seems daunting to spend all at once. Maybe it's because I don't have a comm, or my anxiety disorder, or all or none of these things. Has anyone been in a similar situation, and if so have you found anything that helps?

>>10729337
What do you mean

>>10729366
it means anon is showing signs if aging. poor bb kek.

>>10729337
everyone has a misako-chan inside them anon. don't worry so much.

>>10729337
I have the same thing. I'm 25.

I was supposed to go to Germany for a job in 2020. Then I was supposed to go to Japan at the end of 2021 for study.

Nothing came of it. Now I'm at the end of my studies and I feel like I experienced nothing and the best chance for opportunity is gone.

>>10729385
Contrary to Japanese belief, life does not end at 25.

>>10729405
I don't plan to see 26 so you're wrong.

I dreamt that the Milky-chan MTO was real. It was cotton and included everything from the original series. Then I woke up. God damn.

>>10729191
Everyone will seem ugly if you spend any time on instagram at all. Also, the vast majority of people are just average looks wise, that's how it's always been.

>>10729361
Sorry that I don't have any advice for you, nonny, but I feel the same. The only thing that helps is my boyfriend encouraging me to buy something, but then I still sometimes feel guilt and regret about these purchases down the line.

>tfw remembered the time I came across some dude who would make porn videos dressed in lolita, like brand lolita
>before he went the sissy/troon lolita route he made gay daddy rape role play videos

I genuinely hope this dude is not part of any comm and jumps off a cliff

>>10729460
Jesus christ, I hope I don't know this guy.

You really can't just throw that out there and not provide sauce tho

>>10728686
Wholesome feel

>>10729429
Yes but I've yet to see a lolita who was naturally pretty. They either are frumpy and/or plain looking or they cover their face with a sticker.

I can understand covering up your face if you want to purely focus on the outfit.

>>10729037
Not that anon, but the lolita porn stuff I've seen is mostly Gothic or Classic. I think the pedo problem/concern in the Western lolita scene is largely because pastel sweet stuff is so dominant here and has been appropriated by a lot of ageplay type people. I've dated a couple of girls who wore the fashion myself and really liked them in it, but both were into darker, more mature styles (one was Gothic and the other worse mostly Classic and the very neutral end of Sweet, non-print AP chocolate stuff etc.) and not the pastel stuff, which to be honest has always creeped me out a bit. I'm a huge fan of classic in particular and it's never really felt like a pedo thing to me, in my mind it's just an idealized version of historical clothing and I'm a guy who wears sort of an equivalent of that myself (western stuff) so it's right up my alley.

>>10729463
I regret not screen capping but if I find him again you bet your ass I'm posting him.

>>10729478
Fanny Rose and Chokolate(???) were lolitas who I've never seen someone insult them for their looks

>>10729535
Got me there.

>>10729478
I've met and known a few in real life. The ones I can think of might not have been what you'd call "lolitas" though, they were girls that wore the fashion but weren't really part of the subculture and didn't take it all that seriously.

>>10729548
I feel like those type of girls have a strong identity and group of friends (pretty people just have it easier in life) so they don't attach themselves to the lolita identity as compared to other people who feel that lolita is part of who they are because they feel some sense of comradeship with other lolitas who have experienced the same rejection, harassment and isolation.

>>10729535
Choke would get called a man from time to time if I recall

>>10729478
tbf a lot of them tend to be weebs too so naturally you're going to get unattractive nerd types

>>10729478
Like a solid 1/3 of the girls in my comm look pretty or can at least do their makeup and hair well to look elegant. What kind of obese bridge trolls are you hanging around

>>10729077
Oh no, I get it. I used to save videos I knew I wouldn't be able to easily find again, or ones that were most likely to get deleted from the single source they were posted on, but having porn on my hard drive made me anxious so eventually I just got rid of it. I'm a data hoarder, so it wasn't an easy thing to do, but honestly I don't even watch porn anymore, now that I'm in a healthy long term relationship.
>>10729490
You get it, that's pretty much the case for me as well. I personally heavily dislike sweet (as in, pastel 2010s AP sweet) and my partner does as well, it's so riddled with childlike motifs and a lot more reminiscent of actual children's clothes compared to gothic/classic/old school. We just both like beautiful clothes, and these clothes happen to make me feel good about myself when I wear them.

I'm waiting on new mail keys bc I lost them (for a neighbourhood mailbox) and i got an email saying i'd get a notice card.... in my neighbourhood mailbox...... when they are ready to pick up

>5 lbs underweight
>still cant fit into MM
I give up, at this point its my bones and not fat thats the problem... why am i such a broad bitch

>>10729638
good. you sound retarded. who the fuck loses keys.

>>10729668
I feel you. I have such a wide fucking ribcage, I'll never have a cute silhouette.

God.. I feel like I'm single handedly draining half of the second hand market lately.

I really need to stop dropping so much money on shit that I will take forever to wear, because I have such a large backlog already.

>>10729681
Literally same. I need to stop

>>10729690
Fuck. I paid for a subscription to freedom to just stop and then I realized you could just close it. Lmao.

I never had this problem before, but having a lot of money, time, nothing to do, wfh, and the pandemic has destroyed my capability to save.

Would it be bad for me to take a job that was glorified tech support for a few months and then quit once I got something better?

>>10729705
No.

>>10729681
>>10729690
Don't stop yet nonnies i have some stuff to sell!

>>10729705
What downsides are there?

>>10729707
It's not very nice

>>10729708
Employers will jump at any opportunity to fuck you over for their own gain, so you shouldn't worry about being "nice" to them.

>>10729705
if it's an at-will/non-contract job, nothing wrong with that at all

>>10729706
I doubt you have anything I want, anon.

>>10729708
Is it better/more relevant than your current job?

As long as you don't plan to work in the same field it's fine to just ditch them as soon as another job comes up.

>>10729337
It gets better when you make more money. This is why you see older people driving those expensive cars.

>>10729788
I am currently unemployed

>>10729847
Are you retarded then? Of course basically any job is better than no job.

Man, some of you are really just making me hate lolita

>>10729571
This. My comm is mostly cute or at least knows how to dress and groom to look nice. Where are these ogrish comms everyone keeps whining about? Is this just a very American problem?

>>10730073
Nah I'm in America and my comm is mostly thin and attractive or at least well-groomed. Plus I've seen pics of UK comms that seem mediocre to poorly dressed so it isn't like it's some isolated midwest USA issue either.

>tfw pre-covid I got to meet up with my one(1) lolita friend every month
>in the last two years we've only been able to see each other twice and she's gradually lost interest in all the things we used to share
>lately I feel like I'm just stalking her socials, totally alienated with nothing to gain from reaching out
It's kind of amazing how going from one to zero can take me from 'perfectly satisfied' to 'so fucking lonely'.

>>10730075
Which ones? I'm euro so I don't keep track

I wish there was a comm here. I've never been to a tea party or even seen another lolita in person. the closest comm is 5 hours away by car and god damn it I just want to talk about lolita shit with people who actually understand without having to take a whole vacation.

>>10728375
>tfw guy on etsy that has a cosplay I want to buy is based in Russia

fuck of all the times for shit to pop off it had to be now. I don't want to commit to ordering because if it does pop off, there's no way he's gonna be able to get it shipped to burgerland.

i just wanna die.
no real reason
just kinda wanna stop waking up in the mornings

>>10730116
stick it out anon, you'll stop waking up someday so why rush to it?

>>10730104
There's not going to be a war Anon.

>>10730083
I feel you, if I didn't have a boyfriend I'd probably kms after losing the only friend I had for the past 7 years

>>10730083
>>10730153
Same anons. Losing friends to life circumstances is hard as an adult. It's the one thing I really miss about university life

>>10730073
Ayrt, I think it must be a small-town thing.

How many of you have
meds prescriptions ?

>>10730178
i take an antidepressant and birth control. why do you ask

I'm sorry for existing

>>10730178
I take antipsychotics and an antidepressant, as well as birth control.

I just realized I don't look good in gothic or even more minimalistic, clean cut sweet pieces because I have a softer body and facial features, and it's only accentuated when I wear these clothes. I don't want to sell the pieces I already own that fall into this category, but it looks like I'll have to, because they just don't look or feel right on me. Sucks to suck, I hope they go to someone with more angular features/different body type and she wears them better than I could.

There's so many good things coming out in my other hobby (BJDs) that I'm not sure whether to spend money on that or lolita. Leaning towards lolita since it's just barely more practical since they are clothes. I can't do both. Honestly, I think I might just say no to both and save my money for something productive, but that's no fun. I hate being a poorfag, but at least it's only for a few years.

>>10730324
I feel like a lot of people in general fall into the trap that hobbies have to be "practical" or produce some kind of result. Everybody pushes hustle culture so it feels like there always has to be more stuff. Anon, take some time to go through both your clothes and your BJDs and just sit with them and enjoy them. If you really feel a certain way after that, theres your answer. There are plenty of ways to enjoy both those hobbies without spending. I hope you can find your answer.

I really hate people who post about X trendy social issue and then in the same breath post their Ali Express haul as if their clothes weren't made by people in horrific labour conditions and as if the materials weren't harvested through environmental damaging methods.

Either keep your shitty political opinions to yourself or be consistent in your condemnation.

>>10729431
It's nice to know we're not alone at least. I'm also very lucky to have a supportive partner who's involved with my interests, so maybe I can try showing them more pieces I'm considering. I think that would help me too. For all the time I spend browsing it almost seems like a waste to not buy a few things now and then.

Even though I have no issues fitting all of my really tiny burando, anorexia is slowly eating me away again. IDK what to do anymore, I've been very underweight for 5+ years and therapy didn't help at all.

>>10730522
sounds like you caught yourself in the middle of it, relatively early. Maybe get some outside help to pull yourself away from the edge. Even if you feel ugly, it's still more valuable to be alive and not a skelly. I know you said therapy didn't help, maybe consider talking to an former ana-chan to ask for tips?

>kf is down again
I need my fucking drama or I'm going to have to batter my roommate again

>>10730557
Every former ana-chan I know is either a 'all bodies are valid' enabler or a chronic patient like me... Thank you though, anon. Made me realize it's still early this time.

>want to cosplay tokyo revengers this summer
>all the fanmeets and whatever I see online are like 85% girls

what the fuck, why are they so interested in edgey violent shit? where are my bros..

>>10730313
what's wrong?

>>10730178
I don't take any since mine are illegal in the new location i live at. Even actual drugs are more accessible at this point.

>>10730626
Hot guys.

>>10730496
The two hobbies (EGL and cosplay) are both chock-full of virtue signalers. COVID especially has been huge in showing off who's just a dumb virtue signaller. So many people obsess over masks and then take them off the moment they're in a room party full of strangers. I can't tell if these people just don't realize that they're at the same risk (if not more, in a crowded room), or if they just parrot it publicly to fit in. (for reference, I'm vaxxed + boosted, but I hate wearing masks and will only wear em in public places where required).

These people need to either be fully hardo on wearing masks (including in room parties), or not raise a big fucking stink about it.

>>10730676
You’re thinking too much anon. These fags never get into parties in the first place. They’re either fat girls or cucks. Trust me, I’ve been to plenty of con parties since this covid zealotry started.

>>10730616
Can I ask you something personal? Has anyone in your surroundings opened up to you about their perspective of your eating disorder? It was one of the most sobering things that's happened to me, hearing how my behaviour was taking an immense emotional toll on them.
I'll never forget my sister saying that she stays up at night crying because she was afraid that if she'd fall asleep, I'd be dead when she woke up. Or my mother telling me that the reason she came in to my room every morning before going to work was to see if I was still breathing.
It's the only thing that keeps me from completely relapsing. I'm sure there's people around you who live with that fear.
Please take care anon.

>>10730496
Based anon.

>>10730676
If you're vaxed, boosted, and wearing masks then you're one of them whether you like it or not.

>>10730496
same I really hate people who post about how their dog is like apart of their family and then in the same breath post about their night out at a steakhouse eating a big juicy succulent ribeye as if the cow their steak came from didn’t have a family and as if the meat weren't harvested through environmental damaging methods.

Either keep your shitty political opinions to yourself or be consistent in your condemnation. cat people are based though but only if they have free outdoor cats.

>>10730747
>If you're not with me, then you're against me

And then anti-vaxxers wonder why nobody supports them.

>>10730768
Really not the same. Culturally we accept that dogs are companion and cows are food. I also see no issue eating animals if they've been treated well. Cows get protection from disease, predators and all the food and water they could ever want. In return for us providing them that we eat them. Culturally we accept that slavery is still slavery even if it's happening to some Chinese peasant.

>>10730626
>85% girls
Anon this is cosplay in general, just cosplay it.
Who are you gonna cosplay?

>>10730626
any show with an all male cast is prime yaoi shipping material so i'm not surprised

>>10730626
Bonny and Clyde syndrome along with girls just generally being fujos

>>10730626
Reading this trash was a huge waste of my life, easily one of the worst manga I’ve read in the past year or two

>>10728375
Snake, try to remember the basics of CQC

>>10730771
who’s culture are we talking about? growing up we had a pet cow that provided us with milk and companionship. we called him Bi De. I originally wanted to call him big D because he had a big pp but my parents didn’t get it and thought I said Bi De. I was too lazy to explain it to them so bi de stuck. every morning I would go collect a bucket of fresh milky from big d and he would greet me with a loud mooo every single time. I’d go “you tell em big d” in response. who are you to tell me that big d wasn’t my friend anon. we had to put big d down in ‘03 tho because of the whole mad cow thing that happened. I cried for days. big d provided for my family for years even after death. best steaks I ever had. also what do you mean Chinese peasants anon that comment sounds racially motivated. It’s 2022 anon stop aapi hate. do better

>>10730769
I'm not an anti-vaxxer but go off. Just pointing out the irony

>>10730813
Getting the vaccine and wearing a mask because you would choose to regardless or any laws dictating that you must doesn't mean you support those laws. People are more complex than simply being for or against something.

>>10730796
If there are so many girls into cosplay the why don't they like me? Checkmate theist.

>>10730813
original guy you responded to, it's a massive false equivalence lmao. my mindset is that sooner or later, literally everyone will catch covid (or some strain, like omicron), so the best i can do is to hedge up my defenses with vaccines/boosters. it's up to everyone to choose if they want the tismo shot, state shouldn't mandate it. because of this, masks just delay the inevitable and are pointless. i neither post about it nor shame people about it.

>>10730626
all the guys fit the female gaze and are attractive. it's not really surprising.

>>10730626
Something about hot guys hurting and being hurt is really appealing to me.. don't know why.

>>10730865
> the tismo shot
Sounds like youre not coping well with ur autism diagnosis anon- also people always say this kind of shit and completely disregard the at-risk population. As someone who is immuno compromised it fuckin sucks. Basically saying yeah i dont care if i kill you- which is like alright but then dont pretend your argument is morally sound and not based entirely off of being selfish.

I...kinda want these cursed lace tights

>>10730771
Even without the sentimental pet part there's always been a distinction between working animals and food animals in many cultures, including the Western European ones US culture is largely based on. Dogs are historically working animals that are worth a lot more alive than dead and eating them is a waste of a valuable asset.

>be me
>going through medical residency
>money rich (overtime) but extremely time poor (overtime)
>don't really have the time to go out and date
>decided to see an escort since I have nothing else to spend my money on
>do an in-house call
>very nice girl
>We get to talking
>she mentions she loves clothes and fashion
>asked if she could show me some
>her wardrobe is full of lolita dresses, I recognise some of the prints as brand (no idea of they're just copies or not)
>feign ignorance because I don't want seem like a weirdo, "Not the usual dresses then?"
>She tells me some stuff about them
>then we fucked

Was just an odd experience I thought I'd share. Lolitas are just hussies.

>>10730796
cosplaying sanzu(guy on the right).
Was literally looking online for reference material and not a single male was cosplaying it.

Being ugly ruined my life. I'm attending therapy and working out my issues, I have a loving boyfriend who is willing to overlook the flaws in my appearance and even finds me attractive. My life is supposed to be getting better, but the desire to end it all never went away. I just can't deal living in the body that I ruined and only made more unwell, and the hideous face I was born with. I have always looked ugly in lolita and still feel that I didn't deserve to even own the clothes that I love. I genuinely don't think therapy can help me with this, and the only reason why I'm still alive is because I don't want to hurt the few people that care about me.

>>10731023
Get rich, get surgery.

>>10731023
>living in the body that I ruined and only made more unwell
So are you a fattie or a hormone popping he-she

>>10730995
did you ask to fuck her in brand? buy her iron gate and then make it messy.

>>10731028
Or she has an ED

>>10731035
No I'm not into that.

>>10731028
Neither one, I used to self harm as a teenager and had an ED that left my body looking horrible

>>10731038
80% of the people who claim to have EDs now are just fatties LARPing

>>10731025
Complications from surgery will only exacerbate my issues, and I don't think I'll ever be happy with the way I look regardless. Besides, women who get major cosmetic surgery done always look uncanny and age horribly. I considered doing something with my body and can afford it, but I don't think it's very wise to get surgery if you're not recovered from an ED, and most likely never will be.

>>10731028
Neither one, I used to self harm a lot as a teenager and developed an ED that left my body looking horrible.

>>10731046
>women who get major cosmetic surgery done always look uncanny and age horribly
Wrong. That only applies to shitty surgeons or cheap surgery, JLo has had facelifts and everyone raves about her appearance. Angelina jolie had a nose job. Ariana Grande had had a ton of work done. Every major female celebrity has had work. You only noticed it when its bad or filler overkill.

>>10731048
.... But yeah if you have an ED then avoid surgery

>>10731048
ariana is like, 25...

>>10731048
I mean, they're still relatively young and they're celebrities that can afford not only the initial surgeries themselves, but constant revisions and other cosmetic procedures. Look at any average woman who got major surgery/fillers when she was young and you'll see what I mean, they never age gracefully and their faces do look uncanny in motion.

>>10731050
Yeah, it's insane the amount of work she's had done. Her eyebrows were literally pulled up her forehead with a facelift, which is why they were asymmetrical for a while. But your average person on the street can't tell, just like they can't with the other women.

>>10731051
>any average woman who got major surgery/fillers when she was young
These are totally different though. Surgery usually ages very well if not botched. Fillers almost never do because they inevitably spread horribly, even on celebrities.

>>10731046
>women who get major cosmetic surgery done always look uncanny and age horribly.

Hardly. I would say that's confirmation bias. Most cosmetic surgery performed in first world nations is extremely good. The people who you are referring to usual go to third world countries because they are cheaper or they're mentally ill and get way too much done. Nobody would say someone like Jennifer Anniston has aged horribly and she most certainly has had a lot of cosmetic procedures done in her life.

But yes sort your ED out first. A good doctor will probably never take you on because they know you won't look after yourself post-op. Go see a psychologist.

>Get the depresso
>Wear lolita to cheer myself up
>Post on Instagram as usual
>Start therapy
>Whopsie, turns out I have PTSD to work on
>Dramatically reduce my lolita fashion due to therapy exhaustion
>More or less quit Instagram
>Manage to wear and post just a bare minimum of times during autumn 2021
>Therapy works, and leads me to report my abuser
>Report leads to investigation, to actual court case in the making
>Start to wear lolita fashion again
>Don't post anything to any social media out of privacy since I'm about to go to court
>My page is more or less dead
>Read through my depression-era posts today
>All of my captions acknowledges I'm doing poorly
>Every truth is worded through grit teeth and false smiles
>Hate my past self for bothering to post in the first place
>Can't see myself starting to post again in a long while
>Part of me still misses the dopamine rush
>Wear lolita on my lonesome, with no pictures taken at all

I've gotten a good excuse to stop obsessing over validation online. What hurts the most was to see how well I kept up that facade of happiness, even when I was at my lower points. Thank god I feel better now, but fuck, what is this feel gulls?

>>10731051
I know several women who have gotten cosmetic surgery, both young and old, and they all look like they've had nothing done. The only consistently obvious procedure I've seen lately is women who get too much lip filler because it's trendy to have obviously overdone lips right now.

>>10731061
Proud of you anon

>>10731052
ariana used to be/is white, like, pale ass scotsman white.

Anyone who doesn't know she's a human test subject is literally beyond saving.

>>10731066
What does her skin color have to do with surgery

>>10731071
she literally race changed. how can anyone believe a person like that isn't 99.9% plastic.

>>10730634
Where the hell is that?

Don't lose your weight loss motivation gulls!

Nothing tastes as good as finally fitting in your DD feels. I've never been able to fit in my oldest MM piece, but I could zip it up comfortably for the first time today!

>>10731151
It feels so good to be able to fit into your highschool clothes again.

>>10731184
I dressed terribly in high school; I'd never want to wear that ugly shit again.

>>10731151
Congratulations!
I hope I can take some inspiration from this, I think I may have lost focus

>>10731185
Yeah, I'd love to weigh 140 again but I don't wear anything without a collar anymore

>>10731226
I was 140 in high school and 20 lbs overweight and was just about to post that I'd never want to be that fat again, then I remembered 140 is a healthy weight for people who are normal height.

lmao how is weight gain real like just close your mouth

>>10731246
How tall are you?

>>10731264
it's true
all you have to do to lose weight is to sit on your ass and do nothing. To be fat takes active effort, but yet I do it.

>>10731275
Like 5ft-ish

>>10731284
L O N D O N
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why are so many lolitas fat

>>10731264
If I close my mouth how am I going to suck your dad dry?

>>10731289
It's a fat girl fashion.

I feel somewhat scared bc of what's happening in my country, (canada) there's protests everywhere about everything, and the other day my friends almost couldn't attend a meet up because of all of the police barricades (like 8 hours away from ottawa) & they just enacted basically martial law in canada. I support the government doing so, it it's still scary.
But also I feel like I have don't have a right to be really upset, esp bc of the situation in ukraine.

>>10731307
Honestly I can't empathise with you. It's literally nothing. It's a simple protest without any violence.

>>10731099
>>10731065
pic rel

>>10731099
>>10731066
pic rel

>>10731308
Nta but I have friends in centertown. The air is bad bc of the diesel, it can be really hard to get groceries, lots of factories near where I live are shutting down or slowing production bc of supply issues and people are being laid off.
Violence isn't really the issue I think, political unrest has a lot of other scary repercussions other than violence. And with the emergencies act, you don't know how people who think the government is becoming fascist are going to react. There could be violence. There could be large protests spreading to other cities bc of people being angry about the act. The uncertainty is also scary.

>>10731312
You're psyching yourself out with "what ifs"

Also you cannot hold the protestors accountable for slowing production and lay offs without acknowledging the massive economic impacts government covid regulations have had. It seems hypocritical to complain.

>>10731310
I always thought she was hot as hell when she was pale with red hair.

>>10731289
every alt/non mainstream hobby or interest will have the non mainstream people of society (aka fatties and anachans). cosplay has it, every nerd hobby has it, etc etc. video games and anime became more mainstream so now more mainstream people are into it, but in the 80s and 90s it was even more prominent.

>>10731061
You know what anon? I had a sorta similar thing with cosplay. I didn't post at all, whether on my story or my posts, because I thought it wasn't worth seeing and it wasn't "impressive". I didn't want to be one of those networking cosplayers and post multiple times a day, I just like the crafty aspect and to geek out over my favorite characters. One of my friends basically told me to start posting shit again, and I started doing it again, just for myself. I met a bunch of people at cons, and now I regularly chat with people about sewing and shit that interests me in my DM's, while hitting up others to shoot the shit as well.

Reaching out to others is the easiest way to get others to reach out to you. I highly recc it.

>>10731312
You should probably be more worried about what the government will do with their emergency powers. If you want this to stop, the best way is to call for an end to the mandates so the protests will end.

>>10731312
>And with the emergencies act, you don't know how people who think the government is becoming fascist are going to react

I mean this is exactly how Hitler came to power
>Build up fear against your political enemies and dissidents in the general public
>seemingly minor event by political dissident occurs
>drum it up to be equivalent to a terrorist act with the very country at risk
>convince moderates that you need emergency powers to deal with the terrorists
>promise you'll relinquish your emergency powers once it's finished
>It's never finishes
>There's always a new enemy
>We've always been at war with Eurasia

I don't think that Trudeau is going to be the next Hitler but I think you're retarded if you think the genuine threat is coming from people who oppose governmental emergency powers.

>>10731289
because over 70% of americans are fat in the first place. every hobby involving americans is gonna have a lot of fatties

>>10731289
Assuming you live in the US, we have an obesity problem and for some reason there are many people encouraging it. Even on this board there are people who simply can’t handle the fact that most people don’t like being fat or are attracted to fatties.

>>10731312
>the air smells
>my feet hurts
>i bet these people dont know about my burando

This is you

>>10728577
You need to stop pretending bro.
You need to start attacking.
Call those cretins out. Demonize them as antiwhite. As antimale.
Mock them for their destructive urges towards Western Civilization.
Berate them for the harm their rhetoric does to White children.
It works.
Always attack, never play defense.

>>10730313
You did nothing wrong anon, don't feel bad.

>>10730769
Have fun with your aids bitch. Also your dead immunue system. Oh also your rotting eggs. Lmao.
Imagine being this retard about corona in 2022 and while on 4chan.
Apply yourself tramp.

>>10731454
I'm a dude.

Also, way to prove the point. I don't support the mandates but I certainly don't want to associate myself with people like you.

>>10731151
Thank you for the reminder nonny, my DDs are what keeps me going. I ballooned like crazy after I started taking meds that cause weight gain and went from 127 to 174lbs in like a year. But I know I'll fit into my cute clothes again if it's the last thing I'll ever do, and then I can share this feel with you.

>>10731284
iktfsis
being short sucks

>>10731514
L O N D O N
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>>10731498
I believe in you!

A few years back I gained 35 and felt like absolute shit, I don't have a single coord pic that I'm smiling in. It took a couple of years to lose it all, but a calorie deficit and making healthier friends did wonders.

Though nothing will make my arms shorter so RIP my Classical Doll dreams I guess

>>10728671
Why don’t people just starch their stuff anymore? I feel like fast fashion ruined people’s ability to care for their garments

>>10728922
Not really, I own 80 brand dresses and have no Taobao yet, but most of my pieces are rare or older and have been carefully curated, I want to keep them for as nice as possible and also am wanting to move into wearing lolita daily; so I would like a few Taobao pieces that I can wear on extremely hot days I’d be more likely to sweat a lot, and for days I may be walking around or doing things that could get them dirty so that I can wash them with less fear of wearing them out or damaging something rare and nearly irreplaceable.

>>10728930
I need sleep. I want to keep them as nice as possible for as long as possible ***

I finally dropped from 122 to 106 lbs, but my ribcage is still too fucking wide. My bust, waist, and thighs have noticeably slimmed down. I can see my ribcage when I'm naked. But it doesn't fucking matter because lolita bodices still end on my ribcage and I have to breathe through my stomach to feel comfortable

>>10729565
True but choke was a literal model, so I imagine that would have been from jealous people and nobody who actually meant anything lol

>>10729668
I’m an average weight and I can fit MM, I’m lucky to have small bones that way, despite being tall. I’m genuinely so sorry anon. Maybe you can waist train or something?

>>10730116
Do drugs about it

>>10730496
You know Aliexpress is just stuff direct from manufacturers and stores and is reskinned taobao, right? It’s literally the same company. If you go to change your aliexpress password, you’ll even get a text directly from Taobao. It’s just all the stores and factories that are willing to ship overseas.

If you look at reviews and don’t just buy super cheap shit, you’re not doing any more harm than you are buying from a regular store honestly.

>>10731668
Ali Express was just the example I used.

>>10731664
>a literal model
She wasn't a model because she's attractive necessarily, she's tall. Plenty of models are pretty ugly.

>>10731665
Don’t do this! Don’t change your body for a dress, just take it to a seamstress to get it altered at this point. Being healthy is always the most kawaii

>>10731809
Explain menhara then.

Found out a local costume shop I frequented a couple years back closed its doors (owner retired) and for some reason it's got me in a funk. Feels like a bunch of costume stores - and even army surplus stores! - I went to when I was younger have gone away over the years. Sure you can buy stuff on Amazon or whatever but there was a special kind of fun in wandering a big shop and imagining what or who you could make from there (one of my earliest cosplays was made from a surplus store that closed years and years back). I always prefer trying stuff on in-person, and it seems like even before shipping it's cheaper to buy locally. Sometimes you just need some makeup or one accessory and it's both quicker and more fun to make a run to a store. And it's not like Party City stocks the full costume selection year-round.
I guess part of the reason it bums me out is it reminds me of how "flattened" cosplay feels lately. I guess it's cool that the kiddos can get their MHA uniform or Demon Slayer robes but some of the magic is lost when 50% of the con is wearing Miccostumes premades... at least for me learning the details, the hunt for costume pieces, and the assembly is half the fun of a new cosplay.

>>10731871
Glad to hear it, you sound like a faggot. Anyone going to military surplus stores has no value.

>>10731350
>>10731340
And what say you guys to
>>10730913
Don't pretend like you're trying to do the "right" thing. You only want what least inconveniences you. Quarantine and shit could have been over by now if people actually gave a fuck.

>>10731809
>she thinks waist training permanently alters your body
anon i...

>>10732061
lol ayrt here and oops I confess I don’t know much about waist training, I was under the impression it was a very long-term thing though and potentially very dangerous to get wrong

>>10732063
not really, it's mostly a meme. doesn't reallt do anything but cause temporary discomfort and possibly less food intake. b-list celebrities gotta eat.

>>10731714
Yeah but she did beauty modelling and stuff too

>>10731312
Maybe your country needs a less shitty and a less fascist government idk

>>10732065
>b-list celebrities gotta eat
They might be a-list if they didnt

I hate demisexuals so, so much

>mid 20s with few local friends
>start a local anime discord group to make new local friends
>spread the link around at cons and other local discord groups
>dozens join
>they are almost all under 18
>tfw

>>10732306
Did you really expect a lot of 20 somethings to have the time to hang out on an anime discord?

>>10732367
well... yes. I'm in another anime focused discord server that is almost all people aged 20 to 30.

>>10730634
Lemme guess, ADHD-chan in Japan?

>>10732304
Guess they didn't like you enough to fuck you lol

>>10732386
Nta but you can get Conertaa or other ADHD meds in Japan. Just not Adderall. And you can bring with a doctor's note and prescription enough for a 90 day tourist visa. It is hard when you're there long term though. Mikan Mandarin has a video on her process of getting meds in Japan on her YouTube channel.

>>10732065
>>10732063
Waist training is legit, but you have to do it with actual steel boned corsets and when you do stop your body will slowly revert back, except for if your organs shift and bones bend iirc. If you're looking for more info, lucys corsetry is a huge help. Idk why non says its a meme when it's been proven to be effective, its just not an easy solution to undergo.

>>10732403
it's just a meme because most people don't want to wear a corset for hours and hours a day, including while they sleep. not really worth it unless you're a big corsetry hobbyist. if you just want to lose a couple inches, plastic surgery is your best bet

>>10732404
>plastic surgery
you mean rib removal or? Because that's an infinitely riskier and more expensive move than waist training lmao

I need a outsider opinion

>gf and I live together but we knew we were going to be forced out of our rental because of rising rent prices when we were already at the cap of budget for rent
>my grandparents are very wealthy and own some vacant houses but they are extremely tight fisted
>I asked them if we could live in one of their houses
>Surprisingly they agreed, rent free, provided we take care of the bills and maintenance
>It's a fucking beautiful house worth easily over $1.5M USD
>We move in but grandparents get upset about a few things we moved around, lots of boxes laying around and fur from our cats, etc
>I did my best to appease them and promised that we would put some of the boxes away ASAP
>This was on Saturday afternoon and my girlfriend was working
>Since I work full-time far away for uni holidays, I live with my aunt about 2 hours away during the week, my girlfriend works 15 hours a week locally so she stays at the house all the time
>So I wanted to spend Sunday with her and organised a date despite the fact that my grandparents wanted the boxes gone ASAP because we hardly get to see each other and I wanted to do something since we couldn't spend Valentine's Day together
>I explained to her that I told my grandparents we would get rid of the boxes, she agreed she would do it before they showed up which could be at any time starting Monday
>She worked Monday morning and felt too tired to fix the boxes that day
>On Tuesday she had organised a picnic with her friends, spent the morning at pilates, then the rest of the morning baking for the picnic and the rest of the day at the picnic
>She finally did it on Wednesday after I harassed her
>I expressed my annoyance that she agreed to do it but chose to do less important things
>She's annoyed I'm annoyed at her because she thinks it's unfair that I expected her to cancel some prior commitments to appease my grandparents
Cont..

>>10732439
>>>/adv/

>>10732439
>I explained to her that we already annoyed them once and annoying them again after I promised them things would be fixed makes me look like a liar and untrustworthy and whilst they won't kick us out for that, repeated small infractions build up and they might kick us out
>She's upset that I didn't tell her how important it was to me
> I told her I thought she could understand that it's important to keep the people who are giving us a free place to live happy
>She said that I shouldn't have organised the date on Sunday if I thought it was so important and that it was my fault because I prioritised going on a date over organising the boxes
>I tell her not to use tokens of affection as something to hold over my head because it encourages me to never take her on another date
>She thinks I'm being manipulative by withholding taking her on dates unless she does what I say and she says she feels like she's on the bottom of my priority chain if I get so upset over a potential risk of upsetting my grandparents which didn't even happen
>I try to explain I don't want to give my grandparents any reason to dislike us and I thought she understood that
>She refuses any part of the blame and thinks I'm at fault and I'm being manipulative and threatening her by withholding affection

I need a outsider opinion on the situation.

>>10732441
/adv/ is full of men. I need a specifically female opinion since I genuinely can't understand her.

>>10732446
>She said that I shouldn't have organised the date on Sunday if I thought it was so important and that it was my fault because I prioritised going on a date over organising the boxes
I mean she's right. Why the fuck would you place a date as priority instead of just doing it together? You're shit at prioritizing the important things and you're blaming your gf for "holding it over your head"? I could understand if you told her and set aside free time for it, but your actions are clearly not aligning with your words.

>>10732461
Because I got one day to see her all week and she always tells me how much she misses me constantly. So I didn't want to spend the one day we had together organising boxes and I thought she would understand that if it wasn't done on Sunday she would have to make it a priority in her own time so that we could both enjoy a day together given she has a lot more opportunities to do it that I do.

Was this the wrong way of thinking?

>>10732387
Kek

>>10732387
All they ever do is fuck all day.

>>10732433
n-no? lipo helps your fat sit in different places non.
>>10732404
I mean, I love corsets and I''ll be the first to say it takes time and effort, but feels rewarding. It's just like working out- you have to openly seek after it and often times do it even when you don't want to. In terms of sleeping in a corset, I see it the same as putting in a retainer or mouthguard. It only takes like 5 mins to put on.

>>10732552
Got any pictures of your results?

>>10732580
I don't want to selfpost, but you can look up a ton of results, and lucy herself has done waist training.
https://lucycorsetry.com/before-after/
There's a whole page on her website listing different people. Keep in mind, waist training is still not cheap and takes upkeep.

>>10732660
and to add, here are some other lucy resources:
https://lucycorsetry.com/2014/05/26/waist-training-how-long-before-i-see-results/
https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLC6B380E5D1D41A14
https://lucycorsetry.com/2014/05/30/how-to-waist-train-comparing-corset-training-methods/
https://lucycorsetry.com/physical-effects-of-corseting/
and the "rib removal" myths:
https://lucycorsetry.com/2018/01/30/corsets-and-rib-removal/

>>10732464
yes, be a fucking adult and get your priorities in order and clean up the fucking boxes in the house you both don't pay rent to live in. what a fucking nonce. waah only one day a week, you're acting like you're not going to have infinite more days to spend together as a couple eventually. like you prioritized this date over GETTING KICKED OUT. and yeah she sounds like an irresponsible child with how you described her but you're not that different than her, kek. likes attract. your thought process is retarded. stupid asses

>>10732464
It sounds like she already made plans for each day that week, so yes, you shouldn't have expected her to suddenly ditch all that at your beck and call. Sheet literally had with the next day, and your grandparents could have shown up. You should have spent a single Sunday working together to do what needed to be done like responsible adults. You were flippant about it so she probably didn't think it was so urgent

>>10732686
*She literally had work the next day,

bread thread is whole(grain)some i love it

I don't think I've met a single person from this board in the 10 years I've been here who hasn't had some type of severe mental issues, or had some type of weird criminal history
Incredibly autistic creeps, people with schizophrenia, actual sex offenders, desperate virgins who put way too much emphasis on getting drunk every weekend and finally getting laid at a con, and people who are a hair away from shooting up a con with an assault rifle.
I've gone to meetups where someone seems fine but pulls me aside to talk to me about the jews, people who try to flirt with weird non-pickup lines, guys who think being extremely self critical and whining to the extreme will do anything.
It's just weird as fuck an I want it to burn down, I don't even want to be here anymore because it's so tiring to associate with the types of people who gravitate here

>>10732749
Which type are you then?

>>10732749
I want to meet someone from /cgl/
Should I start wearing seagull merchandise at cons hoping someone talks to me?

>>10732749
The only friend I’ve made here is really cool and actually one of the most normal and mentally stable people I know. I can admit to being autistic and very mentally ill myself tho. But he helped me out a good amount

>>10732753
Mental illness obviously, who would be on 4chan if they didn't have a little of it?

>>10732749
Because people who meet friends through /cgl/ are either A) the type of person who can't make friends IRL, and/or B) the type of person who thinks /cgl/ is an good place to meet people for whatever reason.
The normal people on here won't do those things. I've seen pics of 4chan meetups and I wouldn't be caught dead at one

I am a depressed shell of an unemployed 30-something woman. My parents and my so not only take care of me monetarily but they cook, clean and buy brand for me too. I am happy I have people who care about me but also feel terrible because I can’t do shit for them. I really don’t have any idea they don’t ditch me already… I’m kinda fun to talk to and make them laugh sometimes but that’s all.

>>10732818
Are we the same person? I feel like I'm just taking up space and wasting people's money on my frivolous hobbies, but I'm (very) slowly attempting to get better

>>10732818
Are you me? My parents are retiring so soon I won't have much money, but I can't motivate myself even now. I figure I'll just drop a couple of hobbies and sell some brand, should tide me over for a while. I am trying to get better and mostly succeeding, I am happy most of the time now, but I would be a complete liability in a professional setting.

>>10732818
I can't say anything to support you, but we're similar in that I'm also unemployed and rely too much on my parents at a too high age.
But that you're fun to talk to and make people laugh is a strong point, and where my own feel begins.
I'm no fun to talk to. And I have no life. Even if I could be fun, I'm not, with people out of family, because I'm not close enough with any of my "friends" that I can relax around them anyway.
But I have no friends. I met someone out of family one or two weeks ago, but before then the last time I met anyone was in October.
Maybe I wouldn't rely so much on my parents if I actually had a life of my own outside of that but I don't.
I'll never make any real friends.

>>10732749
You forget most people here were socialised through anime

>>10732818
>>10732821
>>10732838
>>10732835
>tfw no NEET gf

>>10732818
>>10732821
>>10732835
>>10732838
Go learn something, anything! Go pick something and struggle until you master it. If nothing else you will have that sill and use it to help you. Not a job oriented skill? it is still a conversation starter. You can use it to interact with people and eventually make friends. If it is a job oriented skill you could get a job and make work-friends. Work friends are not real friends exactly but good practice for socializing with other people who you do care about. Can't do physical tasks? cerebral hobbies like coding or music are still hobbies. Pick something and do it, it will deffo help you.Or you can lay around like a marshmallow waiting to be cooked alive

>>10732821
>>10732835
>>10732838
Thank you for replying nonnies. It means a lot. I expected to be riddiculed when posting this feel but learning that I’m not the only one in this situation gave me some kind of hope. I have been working on getting better for a while now and it’s hard. I still have so many bad days. However I feel like good/productive days started to outnumber bad days lately, even if it’s a small margin.

I’m not fun to most people either (I could probably hold a job better if I was lol) just my family and SO. Please don’t lose hope! I believe there is a way out, it’s just not easy to find.

>>10732848
Original anon here. I have a college degree and bunch of skills to chose from. I just can’t seem to use them for anything useful for some reason lol

>>10732853
what are your skills that you can't find a forum in some backwater corner of the net and make friends or money that way? What do you have that isn't useful at all?

>kinda want to do a cosplay for the next convention
>might have not enough money for it
>also doubt it is suited for an animeconvention
>can't speak russian either
If anyone wants to know what I have in plan
Generic stalker from Stalker

>>10732818
tfw i'm 32, neurotypical, employed, and fully self-sufficient but don't have a bf while you somehow do. i'm gonna die alone huh

>>10732886
Are you ugly?

>fully self-sufficient
If you're not ugly this is probably a turn off for most guys. I personally wouldn't date a girl who's totally self-sufficient because it begs the question, "Why am I even here?" If I can't offer you something that you don't have or can't get, then I'm not really participating in your life. I personally like girls who aren't as smart as me because I enjoy explaining things and teaching things. It makes me feel valued that someone wants to learn from me. I also enjoy being taller and stronger than the girl because then I can offer my strength when she doesn't have it. It gives purpose to me and security to the relationship. If I know I offer something you don't have, then I feel more secure you won't just drop the relationship whenever it becomes inconvenient to you.

>>10732886
Being attractive outweighs all those other factors for men. They're way more shallow than women even though they like to holler about the opposite.
Source: I used to make money off how I look, landed a man who takes care of everything. Though unlike OP I do take care of the domestic shit, because it's easy.

>>10732891
Proof that men are idiots.
I'm >>10732892 and at least I am working my way towards a career because we want to do DINK. While it's nice he provides for me for the moment, there is shit like retirement to think about. Bunch of shallow men out there who would rather appease their ego than make boatloads of money together. Gotta find one who's more balanced.

>>10732893
I don't get it. Why am I stupid?

>>10732886
>Neurotypical
You sure about that?
(Source: didn't receive diagnosis until my early 30s)

>>10732891
I would never want to date you and I sincerely hope you're single

>>10732843
The only people who think they want a depressed NEET partner are the only ones who've never had one, or have never had to support an idiot loved one who's shackled to one.
I wish my sister's cancerous miserable NEET boyfriend would just kill himself already.

>>10732902
I've been in a relationship for 3 years.

>>10732909
Have fun babysitting a womanchild for the rest of your life, knowingly she only tolerates you because she needs your money.

>>10732891
>If I know I offer something you don't have, then I feel more secure you won't just drop the relationship whenever it becomes inconvenient to you.
Well good men are actually fun and nice to be around, so I can understand why someone would tire of you and want to be rid of you unless they were retarded

>>10732912
She makes more money than me. She has a job, I'm studying.

>>10732914
I agree.

>>10732908
Fucking this. I have a guy friend (my husband was his best man and I was a bridesmaid in his wedding, we love this man), but the woman he's been with for over a decade now is just a miserable excuse for a person. She's self-sabotaged every opportunity she's ever had fall into her lap, whether it's academic (she never finished uni), professional (hasn't held down a job in years now after faking a medical emergency and getting in a car wreck that let her exploit insurance bennies), and even things she claims to care about like her hobbies or social life just get the barest minimum effort out of her because of her obviously unchecked mental illness. She just plays video games and watches anime, that's it.
>>10732892 is spot on about even moderately attractive people just having it easier. She was pretty when they were young and started dating, used to cosplay in one of the groups we mutually hung out with when I was (finishing) college and got a little bit of offline clout for it. What a waste.
She makes him suicidally unhappy with his life, but they're codependent and he'll probably stay with her until one of them is dead. NEETs have no excuse for the damage they do to the people that love them, there is always a way to start living again, it just takes effort.

>>10732923
Isn't that kinda his own fault for choosing to date/marry a woman just because she's pretty and not caring about her personality or lifestyle? That's kinda what you get when you're superficial

>>10732923
Just don't marry women. Simple.

>>10732461
>>10732680
>>10732686
Well I apologised for being retarded and things are good.

>>10732886
My first thought is that maybe you don't meet enough people so there's no opportunity to meet your potential future bf. If you only meet the same small number of coworkers and then only meet your lolita friends it's unlikely that you'd ever meet him.

My second thought is that maybe you have too high requirements. If you only want someone who makes more than you, and you yourself have a well paying job, you may have lowered the number of possible partners too much.

It is very rare to be too ugly to find a bf, and if you were, you'd know it very well already. But if you are a combination of unattractive looks+shitty personality (like myself), then I guess it may be hard.
I'm a male who has never dated though so my thoughts aren't directly transferable.

>>10732923
What is she doing that is making him suicidally unhappy and how does one start living again?

got my first classic piece in the mail and as a tall skinny girl, I have to admit it suits me so much better than what I usually wear (sweet). Almost makes me want to switch styles because of how much more flattering it is but classic doesn't spark the same sort of joy sweet does for me

>>10728375
>stand in a queue with friends
>a cardboard box is nearby
>friend puts her backpack on it to search for something
>jokingly tell her "don't do that, that's probably a cosplay"
>box raises and it's actually a Snake cosplayer
My friend went pale, but we laughed it off. Didn't learn why he was sitting there for 10+ minutes tho

>>10732991
A smart gay man is better than a dumb straight one.

>>10732943
Yeah, it is his fault that he doesn't see how he enables her and that he doesn't value himself enough to get away from a situation that's so harmful to him. But I'm less quick to lay blame on a person in what amounts to an abusive relationship at this point, and although his superficiality opened him up to getting hurt in this way there's more problems a man has to have in order to end up in this situation with a woman than just getting sucked in by her beauty. It just doesn't help.

>>10733074
Mostly with the self-sabotage, because they actually worked at the same place for several before everything went to hell and she ended up like this. He is consistently the first person she tries to convince when she pulls some bullshit like her fake injury, meaning he's the first to be asked if he loves her enough to believe her/enable her shitty behavior. Like there was no way she was going to fake a disabling injury without causing massive fucking drama for him and everyone around them both. Sure, he doesn't have to go along with her or support her shitty behavior, but he is pretty thoroughly wrapped around her finger. Maybe a bit of context that elucidates their issue with codependency is that they were both socially inept virgins when they met each other, but she comes from a background that has taught her how to exploit things for her benefit There are mutual friends we had that refused to talk to her anymore once they understood that she was faking a disability. She's pretty widely disliked but tolerated for his sake, and so she browbeats him about his friends not liking her, as though this would change anything. Basically in the same way she expects him to do everything else for her, she expects him to somehow fix her social relationships too. He ends up isolated by her, and that just makes his depression worse. His life isn't that spectacular without her, but she's the icing on the cake.

>>10733074
>What is she doing that is making him suicidally unhappy
NTA but in the situation between my best friend and her worthless NEET boyfriend, the boyfriend is constantly guilting her over inability/unwillingness to take care of him (and spoil him) exactly the way he wants. He spins it like it's a character flaw or a lack of love on her part, and she's soft-hearted and lets it get to her even though she's intelligent enough to logically understand that he's being unreasonable. Even though the relationship is horrible, they've been together since childhood and she's so entrenched that it seems even harder to escape the relationship than it is to endure it. I want her bf to just fucking kill himself like he keeps threatening to do.

>>10733074
>how does one start living again
A little effort goes a long way. Before the coof made something like this more commonplace, I was unemployed for a stretch of about two years, moving cross-country to look for a job after following my husband's career. It would have been so easy to just not do anything at all and stay home playing house. Even as millennials we were in a unique position to afford it.
I'm obviously not well or I wouldn't be on 4chan, so I go to therapy. My therapist basically gave me homework. You don't need a therapist to tell you to do this shit, but having somebody hold you accountable that also doesn't make you feel like a burden is pretty helpful.
I had a list of things I needed to do with deadlines. I made one of these deadlines applying for a certain number of jobs each week, keeping a list for follow-ups. It didn't start out as a ton, but once you do a handful of applications and broaden what you'd be willing to tolerate doing or how much money you'd take for doing it, you'll find it's really easy.
If you're already in a situation where being a NEET isn't forcing you into life-threatening poverty or homelessness, then you're able to afford a low-paying entry level job. Do it for a little while to remind yourself what an exterior obligation feels like. Form a consistent routine of waking/sleeping, eating, travelling, etc. It's less to do with the random shitty job and more to do with the flexing of willpower muscles.
Remind yourself that you are capable, because you are. Most people aren't such invalids that they need to sit at home all day, and even the people who are find their lives have more color and meaning if they fill their lives with routines and passions.
Once your life has rules again, you can start making exceptions to them in a meaningful way. Suddenly taking a whole day to stay at home and play a new videogame feels like it's fun again, because you aren't doing it all the time. It gets better.

>>10733244
I know this is commonly used as a baseless insult on here, but it genuinely sounds like he has BPD. Can he not see what he's doing to his SO/is he unwilling to get help?

>>10733252
He's been to therapy and his therapist told him to stop coming because he obviously wasn't going to even attempt to change. He's definitely aware of his actions, but he's depressed and spoiled and doesn't want to put any effort into improving himself or take responsibility for his own feelings. He's just gotten worse and worse over the years and now he has mysterious health problems that he blames for everything that he can't blame his girlfriend for.

>>10733252
no he doesn't. being manipulative doesn't require a medical diag.

>>10733267
Sounds like your friend is SOL then, there's very little anyone can do if he doesn't even want to change. I hope she gets out of this relationship one way or another.

>>10733268
His behavior sounded like something I personally experienced, and it is very similar to untreated BPD. Not sure if someone can act this way just because they're an asshole and there isn't something wrong with them mentally.

>>10733252
>>10733297
It doesn't sound like BPD at all. It sounds like textbook codependency.

t. diagnosed with BPD myself

>>10733297
>Not sure if someone can act this way just because they're an asshole and there isn't something wrong with them mentally.
People are certainly capable of being manipulative and shitty without being mentally ill.

>>10733299
Codependency goes hand in hand with BPD though
t. also diagnosed

>>10733036
pretty much my only requirement like that is that he doesn't live with his parents, which is think is a reasonable request for men in their late 20s or 30s. otherwise i don't care what he does or how much he makes

>>10733036
pretty much my only requirement like that is that he doesn't live with his parents, which i think is a reasonable request for men in their late 20s or 30s. otherwise i don't care what he does or how much he makes

>>10733311
That's a totally reasonable request.
Maybe it's just really bad luck then

/cgl/ is so slow tonight and I'm bored

>>10733311
It's that bad huh

Just wanna fug a cutie cosplayer girl aaaaaaaa. Feel like everyone else is having sex and living life except me

>>10733465
you might be surprised just how many 30 yr old men live with their parents and still have their moms do their laundry etc

>tfw I thought I wanted to be a 1980s tough guy
>tfw I'm actually more 1970s
>tfw I see other guys around me starting to embrace '70s macho
I hope you ladies like men with chest hair, cheap, gaudy jewelry, Western cut shirts, jewfros, long hair, big belt buckles, and sunglasses, because they're coming back

>>10733481
My first thought was that this is more of a /fa/ topic..because do male cosplayers actually have any fashion sense (out of cosplay)? I don't mean it as insult, just the ones I see at cons/anime clubs have mostly the same jeans or cargo pants and variety of tacky anime shirts and thats it.

>>10733509
What fashion is there to wear, all the cool fashions are for women only. Why try when you can never look nice anyway

Well, I do not have proper fashion sense at least. Jeans+anime shirts describes me pretty well, if I'm in an anime setting. In colder seasons I prefer comfy sweaters, I don't have anything anime for that though but have a couple of fun ones and just ordered a Listen Flavor one which is in a totally different style from what I've worn before but I'm excited to try it.

>>10733511
Actually I don't have any typical anime shirts either, only a Caruta one from Chihayafuru but that's kinda subtle anyway if you don't know the show, not the anime girl type I'm imagining you were thinking of. I do have some tacky fandom shirts though.

>>10733509
I came here, because I used to post about wanting to become my own favorite 1980s action here, instead of just dressing up as one

>>10733511
You're a moron.

There's plenty of ways to dress as a man that isn't like your mother dressed you.

>black slim fit chinos, cuffs rolled
>black 8-eye Solovairs, top two eyelets not looped
>white t-shirt that comes about 2 inches passed the top of your waistband
>denim jacket

It's not exciting but it's infinite better than ill fitting jeans and an anime shirt.

>>10733511
You could always grow your hair out and start wearing western cut shirts, big belt buckles, and cheap gold/silver chains

>>10733518
Should I aspire to dress in a way that I don't find exciting? I'd rather dress comfy and cheap and maybe throw in some fun elements.

I wish the pastel general were up now, because when I browse that it actually sometimes makes me sad that I can never wear anything like it. If I am to put effort into how I dress, I want to have at least some feeling that what I'm wearing is exciting, not just out of obligation.

>>10733523
No. My hair is already long anyway.
But some of the elements you mention are interesting. Chains+cartoon print shirts+maybe long hair was popular in the early 2010s, and that's a style I actually think is pretty nice.

>>10733511
>Jeans+anime shirts describes me pretty well
Oh no no no no
incel bros we got too cocky

>>10733526
>Should I aspire to dress in a way that I don't find exciting

You're attitude towards wanting to appear nicely is way more worrying than your clothing choices.

>>10733511
There are plenty of cool fashion styles for men. You just have to not look like a schlub and be exceptionally well-groomed to pull them off, but that kind of goes for both genders

rather buy cosmetics/skins and dress up my characters ingame than spent money on irl clothes t be h. who lost ark here?

>>10731061
Same Anon, now considering wearing lolita to the my next therapy session, which also happens to be on the anniversary of the PTSD inducing crime. Is worth looking pretty yet stupid as I cry my heart out?

>>10728577
have white children, simple as. My life has completely changed since getting married.

>>10728577
>men fucking men is totally normal and even morally good
Is there a morality in sex beyond consent?

>>10733952
No there isn't. But that's the point, we actively praise gay people for publicly talking about their sexual encounters and their sexual desires because they get the oppression pass to bypass social norms like not discussing sex with people you aren't considerably close to. The amount of times I've had to bite my tongue whilst some co-worker is talking about how to best prep his ass to be rammed when I'm trying to eat lunch just to have my other coworkers basically praise him for being "open and brave" with his sexuality is fucking disgusting. Nobody needs to know about what you do behind closed doors. Nobody.

I've tried putting in an anonymous complaint but HR absolutely refuses to to do anything if it involves gay people because they need to tick the LGBT box if the company wants to maintain and recieve new government contracts.

someone in my cosplay group has emoji pronouns. Its not ironic or a joke.
Why are zoomers so absolutely weird when it comes to pronouns?

>>10734043
I used to work at a place that was 90% men and they would regularly graphically talk about having sex with women. You are delusional to think only gay men are open about their sexuality.

>>10734043
I'm sorry you had to go through that. I hope next time you'll have enough active repulsion to bust out "excuse me, but I'd rather not discuss these topics while eating. Do you mind?"
Talking sex around food is gross.

>>10734136
Where did I say that?

>>10734134
Because they lack any real personality because having a real personality means you have to expose yourself to failure, criticism, ridicule, discomfort and pain. People (especially gen Z since they were raised by Millenial parents) are terrified of being hurt in any capacity so their active avoidance of it ends up with them having zero life experience outside of being spoon-fed good thoughts. However, they also know that people with personality are interesting however you can't fake real world experience and skills you would develop through putting yourself through discomfort. They envy people with personalities. So, instead the next option is to adopt pronouns, become a gender special or fake a mental illness because these things are intangible meaning they can't actively be disproved, they require zero effort from the person thus they needn't expose themselves to hurt and it gives off the illusion of past experience which then implies personality. It also offers these people power over others since it is intangible therefore the person with it has all the authority to dictate how people should interact with it. You can't possibly disprove a mental illness or a genderspecial and you can't empathise with it unless you are mentally ill or a gender special yourself, so therefore they can tell you how you're supposed to act. It's very telling given how quickly these people absolutely breakdown when you challenge them because it's a direct attack on their entire identity, personality and power as a person.

So it stands to reason the more bizarre or esoteric someone's "personality" is, the greater their personality and the more power they hold over others since there's no other point of reference.

Tl;dr people terrified of sacrifice try to imitate it with fake sacrifices or fake the hallmarks of real sacrafices

>t. Born in 1996. Exposed to both millenial depression and Gen Z madness.

>>10734199
you presented the story as if openly talking about sex is unique to gay men. Straight people are just as obnoxious about their sexuality.

>>10734219
I disagree. I just used gay men since it's the most relevant to woke culture and straight men are certainly not encouraged or praised for speaking about their sexual encounters in a professional workplace or outside of their social circles.

>Straight people are just as obnoxious about their sexuality.
No they aren't. Straight people are the norm, expressing a normal behaviour is normal and not obnoxious. Straight people do not express their sexuality at the rates that gays do and do not express it regularly in vulgar ways. Do not come at me with exceptionalism or anecdotes, we all live in the same type of environment and we all know that gays get a massive pass on basically any social faux pau.

>>10734235
>straight men are certainly not encouraged or praised for speaking about their sexual encounters in a professional workplace or outside of their social circles.
Yes they are. They literally had to be sued by the state to stop openly talking about sex and rape at work.
https://news.bloomberglaw.com/daily-labor-report/activision-blizzard-sued-by-california-over-frat-boy-culture
>Straight people do not express their sexuality at the rates that gays do and do not express it regularly in vulgar ways.
I refuse to believe you have been around even a single straight man. See news story above.
>we all know that gays get a massive pass on basically any social faux pau.
A gay man was killed a few days ago for simply living next door to someone. What is this "pass" you are talking about?
https://www.wandtv.com/news/decatur-teen-accused-of-breaking-into-neighbors-home-trying-to-kill-him-for-being-gay/article_3abd94c0-90de-11ec-b558-5f12193969de.html

>>10734381
>Do not come at me with exceptionalism or anecdotes

>>10734381
Also need I point out the fact that being sued for a behaviour is literally the opposite of encouragement?

>>10734043
Have you tried not being a little bitch and just saying you don't want to hear about sex during lunch? You're anonymously crying to hr (as if that would even matter, hr tries to keep the company from getting sued, they're not going to pull you two aside during recess and try to mediate things), they may be gay but you're a faggot.

>>10734395
Office politics.

>let me tell you what your life is like

>>10734384
yes, by the state, not the company in the professional work environment.

>>10732749
Well, that’s what 4chan is all about, no? A place for outsiders to discourse

>>10732818
Damn, literal pretty princess. I‘m a bit jealous desu. I’m severely mentally ill and suspected to be autistic and I’m unemployed too, but my parents would never buy me brand lmao. And they press me to try get a job again. Gotta save up for months and do it secretly when I wanna buy any brand

>>10734508
>4chan is a place for me, le outcast of society
No, grow up and just be fucking normal for once. Mental illness isn't cute, being barely functional as an adult isn't cute, and wallowing in both and treating it like an identity is only going to make it worse.

>>10732908
You’re just mad that he has a girlfriend and you don’t

>>10734511
Why are you here then? Think you’re better than these people? You wouldn’t come here if you had anything better to do

>>10734487
And? The state represents the interests of way more people than Activision. Like I said to you, don't come at me with exceptionalism.

>>10734511
>just stop being mentally ill

Good one.

>>10734650
>And?
what do you mean and? Thats it. I gave you proof that its encouraged in professional environments, which you said isn't. Admit you were wrong.

>>10734674
You gave me exceptionalism.
>Because this company does it, that means all companies do it and it is the norm
>just ignore that they're being used for it by the state

It's obviously not encouraged given they're being sued by the government and it is not the norm given its only a singular company being sued.

Also I never asked for proof. I never said it does not ever happen, ever. Obviously it does. However, I literally don't care what you say. It's completely irrelevant to my initial post that gays get away with basically any faux pau they desire and are a protected class in professional environments.

>>10734679
>Because this company does it, that means all companies do it and it is the norm
this was never suggested.
>just ignore that they're being used for it by the state
I specifically pointed out that they were.
Do you have trouble reading
>It's obviously not encouraged given they're being sued by the government
Not encouraged by who? Who were you saying was encouraging it?

>>10734693
>this was never suggested.
Then your point makes no sense. Okay, Activision, a singular entity did bad things. What does this do?

>I specifically pointed out that they were.
And yet you can't fathom why your point isn't actually helping you.

>Not encouraged by who? Who were you saying was encouraging it?
You tell me. You're the one arguing it is being encouraged.

How on earth do people come up with usernames? Argh!

>>10734920
I just referenced something not super obvious and ran with it

>about to enter ww3
>I'm sitting here crying about how much better AP tea parties looked in 2010 vs now

why am i like this

after grinding the last few days I hit t2. once maint is over I going do my msq so that i can unlock the abyssal dungeon for my legendary set. hopefully my luck going from t2 to t3 is better than it was going from t1 to t2. It would be nice to catch up to ppl that played since launch so that I can farm hella gold. still haven’t spent any irl monies yet but boy was I close. kinda wish I didn’t start playing it’s kinda addicting.

I will never visit Japan with a friend

>>10735184
Play an anime mmo, meet japanese players, make japanese friends to visit in japan.

>>10735200
I don't know Japanese and MMOs aren't my thing and I've never made an internet friend anyway.

I am lonely and bored and demotivated

My gf gets angry at me when I jerk off when she's on her period.

>>10734235
So it isn't obnoxious that it's the norm? Truly a straight person take.

People around the world are still prosecuted for being gay, including in america even if people like to pretend they aren't. Toxic straight culture is way more rampant:
> wife bad
> one night stand good
> brag about "getting laid"
> smash or pass being an actual recurring thing that straight people do on the reg here
> must breed and have kids
> sexualizing children by saying they have girlfriends etc

There are less insanely grevious faux pas then you think. Most normies are absolutely monkey mode.

>>10735566
>People around the world are still prosecuted for being gay, including in america
Good.

>Toxic straight culture is way more rampant:
Based on what metric?

> wife bad
What is a joke.
> one night stand good
As if gay men don't have the largest number of sexual partners by literally an order of magnitude even when compared to straight men.
> brag about "getting laid"
Read above
> smash or pass being an actual recurring thing that straight people do on the reg here
Read above
> must breed and have kids
Heaven forbid people serve their most innate biological function which helps society
> sexualizing children by saying they have girlfriends etc
The sexualisation of children in gay communities is unprecented and gays have a much higher rate of pedophilia and child abuse.


Those in glass houses should not throw stones.

The mother of one of my dad’s students went to Ukraine on vacation recently. And the war started during her stay, and she happened to stay at the exact location where it’s going on. She was supposed to return this Monday but now has to hide in a shelter for who knows how long. I’m fucking terrified and I don’t even know this woman.

>>10731061
Hey anon. I'm another lolita who did something similar, though I sorta-quit IG in 2020. Congrats on sticking with therapy and reporting your abuser, they are both such big steps. Genuinely proud of you. Missing an old coping strategy is a weird feeling, isn't it? I considered restarting my Instagram, but once I got my pics ready, I just couldn't. I could feel the old headspace hovering around me. So I'm still out and may never return, even though the dopamine was delicious and I enjoyed talking to lolitas in other countries. I hope the people I talked to don't think I died. I'm glad that my comm still seems happy to see me and my lolita friends within that space have turned out to be real friends who will probably still stay with me if I sell my closet someday. (No plans though!)
>What hurts the most was to see how well I kept up that facade of happiness, even when I was at my lower points.
Wasn't originally going to reply, but fuck, I felt this. In a way, I'm glad I posted on IG when I did, it clearly helped me get through some of the stuff I was carrying. But it is strangely uncomfortable to look back on.

lonelita rant, but i wish had lolita friends who would understand my interests more than my normal friends. my local comms are either radio silent or way too far away
my gf and best friend are occasionally dicks about me liking lolita(+other interests) or don't take it seriously and it kind of hurts since im a turbo autist about egl. my gf also keeps making sexual comments about how i should wear certain lingerie or harnesses under my coords and it makes me mad/uncomfortable but i feel like from the outside it seems like an irrational reason to break up. sometimes i feel a bit alone in the fashion and sometimes silly for caring so much about it.
i dunno anons, sorry for the blogpost.

>>10735087
Don't worry anon, I'm currently researching options on how to get out of where I currently am ASAP, but also actively worrying about how to take my entire lolita wardrobe with me

I'm just to excited not to rant. I just accepted an offer for a job that pays 18 an hour (which is a lot for me) and is all at home and isn't even a call center job. My anxiety feels great, the fact that I won't have to drive anywhere is amazing, and knowing I'll be able to afford all my bills and my debt and have plenty left over for a gym membership is just awesome.

All I can think about is how many new blouses and dresses I can get and how good I'll look in them when I lose this stupid COVID weight.

>>10736839
Don't apologize about the blogpost, what do we have the feels thread for if not that?

It sounds like a shitty situation. Even when people are clearly joking, it kind of gets to me when they make fun of my interests, and to actually have them blatantly disrespect it has to be even worse.

Can someone please make a new feels thread, this one has been dead for ages.
I can't do it because I don't save suitable images.
The only sorta related image I have is this and I don't think it's good enough

>>10736954
thank you anon, that makes me feel way less crazy about this and i appreciate it

>>10736948
Congratulations anon, having financial security and knowing that you can be at home and chilling is an amazing feeling, I only wish I could get more wfh time from work.