/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL

I sincerely want to murder the Star Wars fandom and the cosplaying community. As an autistic person that only wants to socially function and interaction without any intentions, I am tired of witnessing petty drama that makes conventions unbreathable.

Go fuck yourselves. I do not have to deal with anyone's issues other than my own.

Using quarantine to get in shape, buy dresses, and then bloom next year.

>>10416961
I'm sick of other people, I quit my comm and I'm alone now, I don't even feel bad, I don't feel anything
It was stupid to try to be friends just because we like to dress similarly

>>10416961
I put on weight during quarantine so now I’m too fat for my BTSSB blouses

In really happy with weight loss, not buying processed food and making home cooked meals has worked brilliantly. Despite being 32, I weigh less than I did during high school prom, and without starving myself and making my life hell just to get under 130lbs. Just shows that shit is dumb and doesn't work. What works is avoiding processed foods, added sugar, and most carbs.

I'm 26 and I never have had the opportunity to wear OTT sweet. I'm not sure if I can wear it before I turn 30, because I was planning on volunteering abroad through the Peace Corps before the coronavirus hit. Obviously I couldn't bring my brand there. But I think I look pretty good for my age and don't drink that often, so maybe I won't look too bad when I finally have a chance to wear it.

Just started a shitty job, not enough hours and the commute is too long. Mostly sad because I've been spending more time with my family because of quarantine, and enjoying working out together. Now I won't have as much time to exercise and I haven't even lost any of the weight I wanted to lose yet.

Also depressed because I've been a shut-in for a year up to this point and feeling distanced from my friends, and now there's no way to see them again for at least a long time.

Quarantine gave me inspiration

pic releated

IW is kill and I am sad. I hope they don't actually go under.

>>10417074
Maybe if it dies at least its second hand value will come back up? No one wants that iw shit anymore lol

>>10417120
IW is based though

>>10417074
If they don’t want to go under they should focus more on their cute prints and cut it with these lame matronly tea length dresses, pic related. Old IW prints are my favorite and I’d snap them up if they started doing those again

Why are all classical brands dying????

>>10417185
Not popular with Chinese lolitas, other than JetJ.

>>10417185
They’re usually not plus size friendly so there goes some revenue from the western market. The Chinese don’t seem to be very interested in it either. Solids, unless they’re considered statement pieces from brands, can be found cheaper through taobao.

>>10417136
Iw hasn't made anything that absolutely stands out in forever.

>>10417197
They're also not shipping overseas

>>10416982
I feel this too. Why did I spend so long trying to be friends with people just because we like the same clothes?

>>10417204
Normally they do tho, just not during covid

I'm a terrible human being. No matter how many old, rare pieces I find and add to my wardrobe, missing out on something else increasingly crushes me. Is it because I've become too aware of how difficult certain pieces are to find?

I just got a box of high-coveted AP jewelry and accessories today, but all I can think about is the stupid blouse that slipped out of my fingers on CC last night. I hate it. I just want to be happy about my good buys. This didn't always happen before.

I have made a bit if a habit out of undereating to the point where I sometimes get confused, lethargic, and struggle to finish my workouts. At least I'm down 20 pounds and almost to my goal of making my weekday run a 5k.

>>10417214
>Is it because I've become too aware of how difficult certain pieces are to find?
No it's because you're overly materialistic to begin with, you don't even feel happy to get items anymore because you're on to the next thing or some thing you couldn't acquire. It's time to step back and evaluate your emotions. If you're buying these things to feel happy and you don't feel happy anymore, why are you doing it?

I'm so depressed, only my dresses bring me any joy. But when I look at them I feel ugly, like my sad demeanor ruins the whole look.

>>10417219
You need help

>>10417214
Iktf. I have the money, but if it isn’t on my wishlist I tell myself no. However, a few days later I start lamenting over it because it would fit into my wardrobe nicely. That usually results in a panic buy mode where I purchase a bunch of small things that will work with my wardrobe instead. It works out I guess, as I don’t need another main, but it’s still sad for me too.

I’m pretty sure we need therapy anon lol but I’m happy to share this retail therapy feel with you in the meantime

>>10417224
I never did discuss the complex I have about my looks with anyone

>>10417136
Yeah I miss their iconic prints. I dont think we had anything good since Grazia Crown

I wish they'd just make lengths an option again at least. I cant do long cuts and im taller than Misako

>>10417222
I've always known I'm materialistic. But at least I used to get a huge "high" when I snagged something I wanted. For about the last month or so, I don't really get that "good" feeling anymore when I open my boxes. Or the feeling is very fleeting. I think the problem is irritated by the fact that I can't even wear my items right now and properly enjoy them because the USA sucks at COVID. I know in general my materialism is something I will always have to battle though.

>>10417227
I'm sorry anon. I can relate on buying something else after you miss out, in order to make up for it. I did a deep dive into my feelings a few times and have come to the conclusion that "things" are my "love language." When I was younger, my parents rewarded me with verbal compliments, but most were also paired with a small present. I think I kind of replicate the same thing now by buying myself stuff, but it's never enough. It seems particularly bad right now. I'm beating myself up more about it because "Oh I'm working from home, it should have been even easier for me to get that item." Then I remind myself... a ton of other people are also working from home.

>>10417248
I’m materialistic too, and over my adult years I’ve come to to the conclusion that it’s because people let me down, but things are always there for me. It’s pretty pathetic, but it is what it is. Getting into a hobby where shopping addictions are often seen as “cute” probably wasn’t the best idea but it’s too late now. I’m also always going to struggle with it too, but right now especially with the pandemic I’m trying to really focus on the negatives in my materialism so I can stop wasting so much money and things I can’t even wear right now.

Nayrt, by the way, just another material girl.

>>10417074
Why do you say they're dying?

>>10417136
That's a Victorian Maiden dress, not IW.

>>10417259
I’m a fucking idiot. Still applies to actual IW though

I regret for all the money I spent on lolita. I know I could get some back by selling my stuff, but I’ve lost quite a sum on fees and those I’m not getting back. Lolita doesn’t give me enough feelings to justify such a spending. Hope, that feel is temporary.

>>10417185
polyester and long cuts

>>10417185
Because you can get the same normie vintage shit much cheaper elsewhere?

>>10417248
You have a shopping addiction. Your high isn't lasting as long because that's what happens in an addiction.

>>10417067
Sick

>>10417067
holy shit that's nice do you have a video of progress or something

My older sister had to have an emergency C-Section but she and her baby are fine! I'm so happy for her and excited to be an aunt!

>>10417019
Congrats anon! I'm currently feeling this feel too. I've never been big but I'm trying to get down from a 67cm waist to 63 for some old-school skirts I bought, and for the first time in my life I'm managing to eat a healthy diet that keeps me at a calorie deficit without making me feel like I'm starving or giving up everything fun in my life. I'm really happy.

negl since i've been disabled my entire life pretty much nothing has changed. I've stayed indoors, and am dealing with my sanity.But the worst part is that since im fucking disabled like a motherfucker all the things i want to do take up so much energy and I can't bring myself to do them or enjoy my time inside. It's like having everything you could ever want and not being able to enjoy it like you're strapped to a chair and fucking ball gagged. it sucks ass but I'm working on it, and It's getting better slowly. Have faith Anons we'll get through this.

>>10417219
You need to fuel your body/workouts. It's like balancing a scale. Don't eat too much or too little. If it bothers you so much just eat nutritious food with reasonable amounts of calories.

>>10417120
>Maybe if it dies at least its second hand value will come back up

pls no, I need my dirt cheap second-hand IW

>tfw gf dresses like second-rate art hoe; large, loose fitting clothes that don't match or make sense
>complains that we don't have enough sex
>tell her it's because she's wearing things which simply aren't sexy, flattering or just even simply nice to look at (which she knows that's how I feel since she's asked if I liked her clothes many times before) so I just don't get in the mood when I see her
>Tells me I'm being controlling by dictating what she wears

>>10417421
Sounds like you need to break up, you're not on the same wavelengths at all

After spending a few years blonde I decided to go back to my natural color. Its a huge pita and expense to maintain blonde from dark asian hair but I'm still sad because it looked really good on me when I was able to upkeep. But I'm pretty sure its damaging it in the long run so I'm growing it out and coloring to match my roots. It feels like I'm giving up tho

>>10417395
congrats! hope she's doing well

>>10417421
You knew how she dressed before dating her, why even get together? You sound insufferable.

>>10417436
I didn't think it'd be that big of a deal. We still have sex but she wants more and asked how she could make it possible.

How someone dresses to me isn't a make or break thing for a relationship, as long as they are clean.

>>10417439
Sounds like it kind of is a big deal if you're making your girlfriend feel like shit because of how she dresses. She deserves someone who wants more than a "clean" partner and can appreciate the other aspects of her. You really need to evaluate your priorities.

>>10417429
i have blonde hair and wish it was black. the grass is always greener on the other side.

>>10417421
I had a similar issue with my bf. When we got together he started dressing better. Actually wore things that fit him amd looked professional, was really proud of him. In recent years, he's gotten into the habit of dressing "ironically", dyed his hair to be a multitude of colors and looks like hot garbage. We don't lie to each other and when he asks me how he looks I straight up tell him I hate it and he just laughs. I'm not gonna ruin his fun if he enjoys it, but I'm also not going to lie to him that looking like garbage is a turn off.

>>10417444
You're taking this way out of proportion. If I wear pajamas all day every day my boyfriend doesn't find me hot either, that's normal. She can dress however she wants, but not everything is going to be equally attractive to anon.

>>10417452
Why would you be with someone who you think "looks like hot garbage"? Wtf anon, have some self-respect

>>10417429
That’s how I felt about the red I maintained for years. But once it’s grown out and you can run your hands through healthy hair it will be worth it!!

>>10417454
Because how he dresses is not his entire personality. He's still a great dude and I love him but we can complain about each other's faults and still be happy.

>>10417453
i have the opposite experience. i could be wearing a potato sack and my bf would still be getting frisky. tiny bit of a bummer that clothing isn't as special to him as it is to me, but overwhelmingly positive overall.

>>10417454
Because she loves him? Would you break up with someone you loved if they gained some weight?

>>10417453
But anon said it was her personal style, not just pj's or a general lack of self care. Sounds kinda shitty to me.

>>10417457
That's because guys will fuck anything with a hole.

>>10417462
don't post if you didn't read the comment chain

>>10417458
Yes. I would never be with someone if I didn't find them attractive. Of course, I'm glad I have a partner who is on the same page as me. He would never let himself get fat out of respect for himself and neither would I.

>>10417469
Wow. Good luck finding true and lasting love because everyone grows old and gets ugly eventually. I hope you find someone who loves you for you and you learn to return that kind of love.

>>10417470
Thanks for your sincere concern. My partner and I have been happy together for 5 years so there's no need to worry.

I bought my first dress and now I'm concerned with accidently staining it from sitting on things in public. Is it weird to bring some kind of hankerchief or clothe to put down before you sit?

>>10417504
That's completely fine.

>be me
>learn that IW has financial issues
>re-reads the VM closing post from 2 years ago on LU
>mfw I see comm members complaining about sizing, saying that they love VM so much, they just don't buy it because it doesn't fit them
>mfw I wear VM at tea parties an no one recognises the brand

>>10417531
Yeah the vast majority of those people were full of shit. I’m >>10417348 and all those girls in my comm complaining about the sizing almost exclusively wear AP and Baby prints. If classic brands started making their iconic pieces for 120 cm busts they still wouldn’t buy them.

>>10417262
tfw when their new release looks like their old cosplay shit but worse

>>10417457
Yeah I can be wearing an oversized novelty Christmas t shirt with unwashed hair and my husband is still all over it.

>>10417229
Maybe you should before it gets too bad because after you fall into ED territory it’s pretty hard to go back to a healthy relationship with food and with your body

>>10417421
Not controlling, only a jerk

>>10416982
>>10417208
This is why I never bothered joining a comm in the first place. My local comm has reached out to me a few times, which is annoying since I have no idea how they'd even get my contact information given that I don't know anyone in there and I don't wear lolita at conventions.

>>10416961
>closet child package estimated to deliver in 10 days
>only takes 3
I was fine with waiting 10 days but this is nice

>>10417208
>>10416982
>>10417605
my main issue with comms is that while there are nice people it generally isn't worth it. you have to deal with itas and weebs much of the time and in public it's worse because the itas and weebs are the first to talk to strangers. i get that some people are insecure, but if that's the case, just be a con-lita and make friends through that instead. i can go have afternoon tea with my punk boyfriend and not have to deal with babysitting dumbasses.

>>10417552
The new dress is great, what are you talking about.

I’m the cancer anon from the previous thread, I did an MRI and they found more tumors around the main one. Very pessimistic about the outcome of treatment. Guess I should write down each of my lolita dresses worth so my family can sell it if (more like when) I pass on.

>>10417643
I hope you make it anon. <3

>>10417617
if you like that milanooesque boring tube of a bodice and limp ass non gathered lace sleeves that look like they ran out of fabric, sure it's fantastic! The only decent part is the skirt but the long cut is gonna wreck anyone that's under 5'2. It's gonna look fucking retarded on 99% on people

>>10417648
>non gathered lace sleeves that look like they ran out of fabric
>i have never seen princess sleeves

>>10417648
Sounds like you're mad that it won't look good on you.

>>10417643
if i was on deaths door i'd be salty af and either have my dresses buried with me or fuck with people by selling them super cheap at ridiculous time intervals (a crazy item or two, at a random time, causing people to sit and refresh whichever site for hours in hopes of getting deals) or I'd create literal bloodbaths and only sell to specific range of people (fun little requirements like, no lolitas that have been in the fashion for under x years, ppl from this location only etc) just to stir drama. I'd be dying anyway, who gives a shit about my reputation.

If you wanna help your parents financially i don't think you should have them try to sell it, it's probably gonna be a hassle for them and they might get fucked over in some myriad way unless they are internet savvy. Oh not to mention of having to sell/part with your dead child's belongings.

>>10417655
I was actually planning on getting cremated with my entire wardrobe because I’m a lonelita with zero friends but I’m not sure if I’m really that petty/salty. The other option was to give it to my sister but she doesn’t like lolita and I’m sure seeing her older sister’s dumb weeb clothes would hurt her. I’ll probably end up donating it to another lolita, maybe make a contest or whatever.

>>10417594
I probably should anyway, because it's more than likely one of the most significant downfield effects of my childhood and adolescent sexual trauma.

>>10417643
This made me tear up.

>>10416976
Fuck, I could have written this myself. I don't even have fun on Instagram anymore. My online presence is a hobby, not a sociopolitical preaching platform.

>>10417643
can I ask how you were diagnosed? I’ve had an eating disorder for years and I’m scared I fucked myself over. Idk if I should see a doctor or not

>>10417686
Biopsy after finding a noticeably sized growth that seemed like it sprung up overnight because I literally did not notice it until it got huge. I’m not sure if eating disorders cause it but definitely get checked out if you have a family history of cancer.

>>10417606
yay for you anon! Those unexpected pleasant surprises are always the best feels :)

>>10417473
You're still going to get old and ugly eventually, so good luck.

I remember a few years ago when I was a fan of lolita but didn't wear or buy any of it, I would browse lace market. Now, years later, I realize how many good/decent deals I missed out on

>>10417643
Fuck anon. I’m so sorry. Don’t give into the self fulfilling prophecy!

>>10417717
That and shit happens. Their SO could wind up with a chronic medical condition that makes it extremely difficult for them to exercise or disfigures them. That's why marriage is such a big deal: you're saying you want to be with them even if shit hits the fan.

>>10417444
She knows my feelings and I won't lie to her.

>>10417452
I feel worse for you because you didn't sign up for it.

I love her, she has a good body and cute face. She takes extremely good care of her skin and hair, she is clean and organised, she's funny and creative, but her dress style is just bleh. It's not even that she doesn't care about how she dresses, she does and frets about what to wear but it really is all just hot garbage.

Pic related is almost a caricature of what she wears just without any shorts, larger tops and big sweaters. I don't see the appeal.

>>10417602
But why?

>>10416961
My comm leader's bf is getting top surgery
>mfw he has better tits than I do and he's just throwing them out

>>10417717
>>10417781
anon in >>10417473 could also just be dating for a more casual relationship and isn't looking for long term/marriage

>>10417782
why not buy your girlfriend some lingerie? or more exciting underwear. isn't it kind of hot to be with a girl in normal clothes but know under it she has on sexy underwear?

>>10417792
I have. She doesn't wear them because she finds them to be uncomfortable.

I'm sad that corona happened during the good lolita weather and I missed the opportunity to wear a bunch of spring stuff. I hope that the official brand tea parties don't get cancelled this year but I think they probably will. I don't have any interest in online meetups.
With lolita brands shuttering during all of this I've taken the opportunity to refresh my normie clothes for the first time in a while which feels nice.

>>10417811
Same feel about hating online meetups. Just, no. It’s awkward enough to do zoom happy hour with my best friends. I don’t need to sit through 15 acquaintances showing me their dumb taobao ILD coords

>>10417784
Ask him if you can have them. It's not like he's using them
j/k

>>10417795
go shopping with her so she can pick out ones that are both comfortable AND sexy? there's sexy lacey panties made from cotton as well

>>10417421
>>10417782
If my partner didn't like how I dressed (or vice versa)...I would break up with them. Just saying, anon.

>>10417842
Been there but honestly I just keep picking out G Strings and bras covered in lace. She is a girl of comfort and practicality so she just says it's not comfortable/they're a bitch to look after, which is fair.

I'm not really looking for a solution. I was just expressing my feels.

>>10417862
I feel it's a little vapid to breakup with someone for their clothing choice as long as they're not wearing clothes with holes or pit stains. Would I prefer she wore clothes I like? Yes of course but it's no deal breaker. What I wanted to get across was my frustration at her request for me to initiate sex more but her not give anything in return ultimately to help her get what she wants.

>>10417866
>>10417842
Misread

Let me correct.

I've helped her pick out lingerie before but she does have fundamentally different outlook. She thinks lingerie should only be worn right before sex, like a costume. All other times she will wear whatever is most comfortable.

>>10417871
There's absolutely cute lingerie made from cotton, anon! I would check out Etsy desu, there's a lot of shops that decorate and alter cotton sets.
If that's her philosophy, too, maybe try selling her on a comfy silk teddy? I find them more comfortable than sleeping naked personally and it's something for my partner to take off. Then you don't get her putting it on like a costume, either.

>>10417866
>I feel it's a little vapid to breakup with someone for their clothing choice
>I don't want to have sex with my gf because of how she dresses

Also, as a lolita - my clothing is a cherished hobby. How I dress is a part of my personality. To have a partner that dislikes that, is a rejection of an important part of me. Although I guess I don't care as much about what my partner wears, it's more if they had 0 interest in fashion in general, that'd be kinda lame.

PS: G-strings fucking suck and not only are boring BUT are uncomfortable as hell, good on her for rejecting them. Get better taste in lingerie.

>>10417871
She is correct. Who wants string in their butt or lace scratching you while going to the store or doing the gardening or just sitting around. I don't know how some people wear thongs regularly but there are some comfortable ones and I'm sure people forget they are wearing it. Also as far as undergarments go its really best to wear breathable natural fibers to prevent UTIs etc the majority of the time.

>>10417410
Please shut up

>>10417903
agreed, g strings are fucking disgusting and feel like something is constantly messing with my ass. I'm not into that shit

>>10417903
>>10417910
>>10417982
I actually find g-strings REALLY comfortable, I stop noticing the string almost immediately after putting them on and once you get used to wearing something with the bare minimum of fabric everything else feels like some kind of weird restrictive compression garment. Regular thongs that are more than just tiny strings are really uncomfortable though.

>>10417871
That's literally the point of lingrie. Most i've seen made from shitty plastic material or will poke out of your regular clothes. Lingerie exists for the pleasure of men.

>>10418000
i wish my ass nerves were as dead as yours.

>>10418062
lol this is so dumb. men sure love kawaii pink flowers!

>>10418089
Buy the right size.

Gatekeeping is necessary and not enough of it is done.

I hate this country and it’s people. I hope this plague wipes them out.

>>10418089
I actually get more discomfort out of normal underwear back there than I do with tiny ones, which pretty much stay put and don't move around or rub at all. Some of it is probably size like >>10418093 says and the rest is style and quality, cheap crunchy laces is obviously gonna be awful and when I say "string" I really mean string, as soon as you have more than the bare minimum they start getting uncomfortable. You also have to avoid anything high cut, they need to sit on your hips and not above them because otherwise there's an upward pulling wedgie effect.

>>10417671
If you have the means to, go see a therapist to get this sorted out, you don’t deserve to be haunted by it forever

>>10417229
>>10417671
I have somewhat similar issues, though I swing back and forth between undereating and overeating, right now I'm a fat fuck. I second the other anon's recommendation about therapy, I didn't do it and I feel like I'm too old for it to really matter anymore but maybe you're not and can avoid the hell I've made of my life by not doing it.

>depressed and haven’t played online games in a while
>start playing again
>notice usual friend group isn’t on much lately
>leave message on discord that I’d be on
>some hop on
>excited.jpg
>messages sent to join the group to play together get ignored

I’m really sad now. The want to cry kind of sad. I don’t remember ever doing anything wrong to upset them. I don’t want to reach out again bc I’m afraid I’ll look like a pest.

>>10417643
I hope you’ll make it, anon, but this brings me a lot of memories.
A friend of my lolita circle passed away suddenly many years ago. Her sister, a lolita too, sold her clothes only to her closer friends to raise some money for the funeral. I don’t wear lolita anymore but those three dresses are still in my closet and maybe they will forever be there. Sorry for the rant. I still really miss her.

>>10418117
>>10418124
I had been going to therapy for about two years, but split with who I was going with last month. It's probably time to find another therapist. This issue clearly runs pretty deep now that I've given it some thought.

>>10417782
I don't really get it. Aside from the kankens and phone cases, this is just a normie outfit- it's literally just a t-shirt and jeans/shorts with sandals

>>10417862
>If my partner had any criticism of me or wanted me to change myself about anything at all or didn't think i was completely 100% perfect i would break up with them

and this is why women suck shit and americans are literal sociopaths ruined by late stage capitalism.

my gf and i shit on each other if we do/wear stupid shit all the time and we actually take it to heart because part of being a human being who loves others is making them happy. Imagine actually thinking like this. Fucking american pig woman.

>>10418173
imagine thinking there's no difference between women not wanting to change their entire aesthetic for a random man and joking around with a partner about individual outfits
these aren't mutually exclusive
why are you this bitter? go hug your gf

>>10418173
>posts complaints about how degenerate society is on 4chan

How does one choose what they want to cosplay as? Am new and shy

>>10418241
fuck, I really outed myself with that spoiler fuckup

>>10418241
theres a suggestion thread, post there.

>>10418241
shy and reserved? full knight armor.
>t. person who only does knight armor now after discovering the wonders of hiding my face

>>10418244
But I like you guys!

>>10418173
>One person says that while several others disagree
>ALL WOMEN SUCK

>>10418148
What kind of games do you play? This makes me sad to read

>>10418173
Whats it like being a complete pissbaby

>>10418283
I dunno, he sperged about it but the idea about making your partner happy kinda rings true for me. If I can do something with myself that doesn't really affect me but they would really appreciate I'd do it.

>>10418305
Dunno anon, making someone happy should be your initiative, it shouldn’t be prompted by “change how you dress or I won’t fuck you”

>>10418314
Fair enough, I guess I kinda meant that as well. I feel like people here often forget there can be a balance

>>10418241
Depends. Usually it's on a series you enjoy a lot. Or because you like a character's appearance, as simple as that.

>>10418173
>If my partner had any criticism of me or wanted me to change myself about anything at all or didn't think i was completely 100% perfect i would break up with them

That...isn't what I said at all? It's not just them telling me they don't like a shirt on me, or think one outfit of mine is bad, this is purely about if I was seeing someone that rejected my entire sense of style such as >>10417421, I wouldn't continue dating them. Fashion is a huge hobby of mine. I would absolutely break up with someone if they told me they disliked my style because they couldn't get sexually aroused from what I wear.

My current partner calls me out on facets of my personality/attitude, and they're right for it lol I'm definitely not 100% perfect and no one is. But I wouldn't give up my passion and change my entire wardrobe and style so my partner could have an easier wank. That's just stupid and not worth maintaining a relationship for.

>>10417421
Have you tried having sex without clothes on?

>>10418357
Agreed. Plus, maybe it's just me, but I don't get turned on by my partner's clothing either... he could be wearing anything, even something dumb like a clown suit, and it's him I love and get turned on by, not his stupid clothing.

>>10417421
Wait, why do you even think of the clothing she is wearing? Shouldn't you be imagining what she's like under the clothing, and be able to get turned on based on that??? Sounds like you watch too much porn or look at too many Onlyfans girls.

>>10418385
This. Porn is ruining men’s expectations of women

>>10418385
>mfw this is exacly my problem

I'm not the quoted anon but clothes are basically my turn on, and naked people don't really excite me.

>>10418263
Mainly getting back into OW right now. I know, I’m lame.

>>10418406
NTA, but also same.
Can't watch normal porn because of it.

>struggling on rent this month since worked less hours than normal
>considered selling a dress to have enough money
>talked to new bf about feeling sad about having to pick a dress to let go
>bf tells me money can always be made but he's not going to let me give up one of my dresses if he can help it so he helps out on my rent this month
I'm so used to dating guys that despise lolita and are embarrassed of it, so it was so heartwarming to be with someone who realizes how much it means to me.

>>10418508
Aww that's a good feel

>>10418508
Need me a freak like this Im so jealous anon, he's a keeper.

>>10418406
>>10418432
I'm like this too to some degree but not as extreme I guess, I'm still totally capable of getting turned on by "normal" stuff.

I feel overwhelmed and addicted to the attention and praise that comes with wearing lolita fashion and posting coords online. But at the same time I can't just stop posting so I can get likes and attention...it feels horrible

Has anyone had the same feelings before and what have you done about it?

>>10418555
I guess I feel the same way but with cosplay... recently my posts haven't gotten as many likes and I feel disappointed. Not because I'm insecure about myself, but because I want my craft to be seen by more people :(

>>10418555
We live in a world right now where it's considered shameful to be happy to recieve attention, especially for women. We forget that humans are social creatures that have a lot of trouble surviving without it, yet it's condemned. As long as you're not being a bitch, disingenuous, or doing something that could hurt your followers, I say it's okay to be happy for that attention. But remember that there's also other things to concern yourself about so that this addiction doesn't run your life. If you find yourself about to do something questionable for more attention, think about the negative consequences. Is it worth it? Can you recover from it if it all goes wrong? What's plan B? Would it be better to let it pass for now? You can also distract yourself with something else like planning another coord, enjoy some milk, or look at another person's page/gram/whatever and see what they did to get where they are.

My petticoats are becoming flat, and I am full of despair.

>>10417820
Same. I miss real life.

>>10418107
New Zealand?

>>10418568
NTA but this is a totally different feel as you’re actually creating things and the praise is more than surface deep. Lolita highs are about coordinating/styling well, photographing well, and being pretty. It’s an incredibly superficial high, but I love it and can relate to >>10418555

>>10418385
Just like certain clothes/style can be a turn on for people (not necessarily a fetish), other clothes are a turn off.

I'll never be able to fit into a brand OP because my shoulders are bigger than the measurements and I hate it.

>>10418727
Are you a man or something?

>>10418727
At least they're skirts

>>10418749
Not that anon but I'm almost at a similar issue. Having broad shoulders as a woman sucks for a lot of dresses.

>>10418412
I play games like EvE online and PoE so I dunno I'm also pretty lame but if you ever wanna talk to someone just for the sake of it I don't mind. I always like to provide company if someones feeling a little down or lonesome. I used to play overwatch but I kinda burned myself out

>>10418406
That’s valid, but then I’m assuming you wouldn’t date someone that has a style that won’t turn you on and then blame the lack of sexual activity on their daily clothing they always wore just to get pissed when they are not happy about it and complaining about the situation on 4chan

>>10418916
Original anon.

I have no problems with amount of sex we have normally. She wants more.

>>10418911
How do you even play eve? I keep hearing its Excel: The game

>new member of comm posts on the facebook group
>nice lets see who they are
>its a tranny wearing a ddlg collar, the Trans Girl Socks™ and some shitty attempt of fairy kei (and no shoes despite standing outside
>mfw

why can't we ban men from joining comms already, I dread for time when we find out what he looks like (he cropped his face out)

>>10419076
I never understood trannies who do this shit

>I am going to reform my image around the societal caricature expectations of being a female because fuck societal expectations of gender

>>10418247
Look at the anons blaming (sic!) OP because he's choosen the partner who didn't happened to make 100% match. He's okay with situation so it's his gf's turn to decide whether she wants things to go on. I def can't speek about womanhood as a whole, but many commenters here do sound sheltered for making the taste difference sound as their partner fault.

>>10417421
>all the gulls piling enormous salt on this guy because his gf asked him a question and he answered it honestly
kek, you bitches are a 1950s parody of women

>>10419180
maybe instead of complaining that his girlfriend wants to fuck him on a basket weaving board, he should have this discussion with her like an adult. though maybe the reason he isn't having that discussion with her is because he knows he's a retard, and judging the fact he refers to his girlfriend as a second-rate art hoe he's not exactly a winner himself.

sounds like a nonce to me.

>>10419181
>even more salt

>>10419182
Imagine thinking this is salty.

>>10419019
So? You are still blaming not having more sex on the clothes she always wore. You could blame it on your personal lack of sex drive in comparison to hers which is completely fine, but you still chose to blame it on her.

>>10418568
I feel that way about cosplay a lot. My posts very rarely get more then twenty likes, but I’ve won craftsmanship contests, and tons of people come up to me at cons for photos. I’ve had pro photographers do shoots for me and when I show friends, they say they look good, but I don’t get more than a handful of likes on those photos when other people posting makeup tests in the same tags will get hundreds. And I’m not saying those people don’t deserve attention and recognition for their work, and I’m not competing with them, but following a tag because I like the fandom and seeing the numbers I’m not getting is discouraging.

I don’t cosplay for social media and I know part of my obscurity is because the social media game is a huge piece of cosplay these days. Intellectually, I know that I haven’t put in the work to market myself. It didn’t bother me as much when I could go to cons and feel good about my work while I wore it, but I feel gaslit in some ways now that everything is online. If I’m so decent at crafting, why does nobody look at it when I post?

Sometimes I wonder if I should just remake my ig account and see if it helps my engagement at all, but when I post WIPs and lose followers, it’s like, why bother posting anything at all? Why bother making anything?

I hate that I want validation. I should be able to validate myself. Dammit, why am I like this? :(

>>10419193
This could have been written by me, fuck. And especially after the us shut down and I ran out of pics from my edited shoots to post all my engagement and likes plummeted to just my normal life friends. Which I'm grateful for all the same but I was pushing myself to get out there, network, improve my reach but I guess I'm just not cut out for it. Wish I could find your page anon cause its always good to see more makers in the cosplay comm

I just need to complain.
I live with my mom. I dont have opportunities to move yet but i work and pay for myself.
So, my mom says she loves lolita but whenever i try to wear it she goes
"You will be cold/hot/that hat is ugly/black shoes with pink dress is wrong/etc

And then she goes "you have so many pretty dresses why you don't wear them?"

I don't have any savings because I have a modest income but I spend money irresponsibly. Most of my income goes to lolita.

>>10419270
Your mom sounds like 90% of asian parents. Force a chuckle and just be like “oh you” and keep wearing what you want.

>>10419271
What age group are you in? Because if you’re in your early 20s this feel is not so bad. Mid to late 20s, you better tighten up those purse strings

>>10419274
Thanks, i would try that

>>10419193
It could be your photo quality and layout for your WIPs. Do your professional pics get a good amount of likes?

It’s okay to want validation and recognition. Idk why Cgl frowns upon it so much. We’re only human

>>10419275
Honestly it sounds like your mom doesn’t know how to be supportive so she hovers over you with the “won’t you be hot/cold in that?” As a way to be part of your life in the only way she knows how. Mom stylr

>>10419280
Nope, she is just actually overprotective and somewhat controlling but you are right, she probably doesn't know better

So it’s Father’s Day in the US and despite the pandemic, my family and I are going to do lunch. Now I love my parents despite all the repressed childhood memories (I base my feelings of love on my interactions with my parents as an adult), but I HATE my older sibling. Lots of repressed memories of them as a child too but my feelings of hate are based off recent events. I just don’t understand how their friends think they’re one of the nicest people but whenever we’re together, I’m thrown under the bus every time. I’m trying to build a relationship with my elderly parents and my sibling keeps getting in the way by belittling me in front of them. Doesn’t help that they all live together because my sibling is the golden child, “the child we came to America for” type, ya know. I don’t know why they’re so rude to me, when we used to be pretty tight? Just a few years ago when my sibling went to Japan, they went to AP and bought me hundreds of dollars worth of small accessories and a jsk from Bodyline! It was incredibly thoughtful and I cherish the memory/sentiment. But now I’m lucky to even be talked to like a human being by them. They treat me like I’m stupid, beneath them, another leech at their tit. Whereas I actually have a career, live on my own, own my own car, and give my parents an “allowance” since they’re retired and love to golf. I never ask my sibling for money or help, just advice every now and then but as a last resort.

Anyway I guess I need to start getting ready for this roast. Can’t wear jfash or else my sibling will stroke their own dick about how nice they were that one time or belittle me about the money I spent on my clothes.

Burlap-kei

>>10419278
None of my pics get very many likes, regardless of who took the photo. WIPs get roughly as many as pro photos get.

I know I probably don’t post enough or something, but it just never seems worth it.

>>10419297
Parents always have a favorite, that’s the way life goes. I worked hard from the time I was 12, got straight A’s, put myself through school, now earn six figures, bought my own house as a single person, and have a semi-successful artistic career and my lazy brother who failed/dropped out school and got given cars and such by my parents, has somehow managed to marry a woman who supports him while he’s unemployed looking for a job that’s “not beneath him“ yet he’s still the favorite and he bad mouths me to them and they eat it up. He puts me down, arranges family get together without me and lies and tells them I refused to come, he tells them I said mean things to him, and they believe it all. And when I deny it they say I’m a pathological liar just like he told him I was.
Makes no fucking sense. Parents have a favorite and they will never change that because if they admit you’re doing well and are awesome, then they have to acknowledge that they were unfair to you by thinking otherwise to begin with, and no one wants to think of themselves as being mean or unfair or cruel or unloving to their children does that would make them feel like a bad person. People perform mental gymnastics to think of themselves as the good people. Heck, Nazis thought of themselves as the good people

>>10419307
I wish people could self post here without it going to shit

>>10419341
nayrt but same

>>10419341
I don't get how kids these days are so comfortable with self posting. I guess because I grew up on 4chan so I'm really cautious about what I post and where I post it but today I see kids posting themselves willy-nilly everywhere with no shame. Online bullying has not calmed down yet self posting is up.

Kind of good feels today. I had a shitty week but I put my energy into cleaning up my home office and now I'm working at my computer with my bun hanging out by my side. It's so cozy, I love it.

>>10419367
This is the cutest thing I’ve read today, it made me smile.

Cats and bears. Cats and bears. All I ever see is cats and bears for prints, accesories and jfashion in general. I'm annoyed that rabbit motifs are not as abundant.

>>10419274
I'm early 20s and I still live with my parents.

>>10419364
I'm fairly sure for the...24 and under group, there's gradually less and less difference from "real life" and their online presence. We don't say brb or irl anymore because one we are always connected and two theres less mental separation. I would say the same mentality is seen at the extreme opposite end, the 60+s who don't realize anything and everything can be faked online. I feel for those of us inbetween who lived through the rise of the internet we still remember that boundary and instinctively feel for it esp on 4chan.

I realise I am to retarded to function in a normal society or even make friends. Please tell me how shitty of a human I am. I wanna get kicked while I'm still on the ground.

>>10419364
I just don't give a shit. People might bully me but who the fuck cares, I like me, and there are people who like me. I just wanna share the stuff I like.

>>10419391
Are you retarded or something?

>>10419458
How is that retarded?

>>10419391
>>10419458
Nyart but if Cats are the #1 most popular animal, rabbit is #4 right after bears and unicorns/horses. You're not wrong that they're not AS abundant though.

Honestly I want to see someone do a werewolf related print, myself.

>>10419324
I guess I never realized I wasn’t the favorite haha. My older sibling got beat worse than I did so we speculated I was the favorite since I got away with everything. But I guess once we turned into functioning adults, my parents favored the child who had more money.

The lunch went well tho! Everyone was pleasant and kept their negative comments to themselves. My sibling even complimented me on how thin I am now.

It's been two weeks at the very least since some Rogue (from x men) cosplayer began to go full right wing activist. A whole lot of other x men cosplayers begun to mock her. Turns out she was a huge success in some protests and got a couple interviews at some local right wing media websites.

Now some girl took the time to make a 3 minute parody about that right wing girl.

My God, I'm loving how the usual cosplay drama is becoming something insane because there's literally no events and very restricted ways of wearing costumes.

Why most event organizers and staff tend to be leftists, and make political statements and position themselves about political subjects all the damn time without anyone asking for them about their opinions?

>>10419391
>>10419516
How about birds? I think there's a lot of opportunity there. An Untitled Goose Game-style print would be adorable.

>>10419528
I'm glad everything worked out for the most part anon :) Complicated families suck

>>10419516
Rabbit stuff is not impossible to find, just when shopping around I see a style or set of colors that I like, zoom in and it's cats. I do wish you luck on your wolf hunt.

>>10419555
As someone who's always had a small family and now virtually no family it feels like a blessing at times even if it's lonesome.

>>10419181
>posting feels on a feels thread

Not on my /cgl/

>>10419434
I can't kick you anon, because i'm in the same boat and too busy kicking myself.

>>10419566
Thank you. Life is suffering when all you want is a kawaii werewolf dress. I ended up drawing a sketch of what i want about a year back but it never went anywhere.

>>10419548
There are big prints out there and that's nice but Untitled Goose Game sounds very sweet and I want a gothic werewolf rampaging throughout the countryside, eating the three little pigs, howling at the moon. That shit.

>>10419184
Maybe I should add more context.

>Hey anon, I feel like we don't have enough sex.
>>Okay, most of the times I just don't feel like it.
>Well, is there anything I can do to make you feel like it?
>>[insert clothing remark]
>[Insert controlling bf remark]

I hope that clears up things.

It's been like 3 days since we spoke about it, I just wanted to vent my feels into the void rather than cause a shit storm.

>>10419619
I hope she dumps you.

>>10419630
God, I love /cgl/.

>>10419619
My man, don't let the megasalt gulls get to you, there are a lot of dykes on this board who just reeeeeee their bloomer-clad asses off at any mention of "scrotes", especially if you're having opinions or preferences.

>>10419324
>tfw I was 10 and my Dad straight up said I was his favourite child in all seriousness
>tfw as a 10 year old that put huge amounts of pressure on me and made me realise my parents are "human" which is stuff you shouldn't come to realise as kid
>Dad said I was the most like him and he put all his hopes and dreams on me to succeed
>Felt enormous pressure
>GFC happened and dad's business went under
>He became very cruel to me which I now understand as him projecting his anger of himself to not keep his business running, onto me
>Got depression at 13, started self harming, massive anxiety
>family eventually fell apart years later at 18
>Anxiety peaked at about 22 when I became agoraphobic and completely isolated
>Never left my room, except to eat and clean myself
>Dad thinks to this day he never did anything wrong (I'm not even sure he remembers all the things he did and said to me)
>Haven't spoken to him in 5 years

Ironically, I hate his fucking guts and we have a terrible relationships. The absolute worst out of all my siblings. You should never tell your children you favour one over the other, at least not until their adults and there is good reason for telling them because it fucked up my life for over 10 years.

>>10419678
Damn this feels like me but with my mom. Didn't have a dad and I'm still working through the repercussions at 24. My mom's at least a decent person now although it's hard to see her as such.

>>10417643
>>10417662
>with zero friends
Would you like someone to talk to? I like friends, even if I'm just a passing anon. I would like to bring a little bit of cheer to someones who's feeling down.

>>10419681
Funnily enough, after the divorce I quickly became my mum's favourite child because I was the only one who sided with her completely during the whole 2 years of court hearings. My siblings generally sat on the fence.

>Pandemic cancels cons near me
> "neat I won't have to worry about saving money and making cosplay"
>me now, suddenly missing cons, people, and severely depressed

>>10419695
You fool this is the perfect time to make cosplay. Now go. Go and sew away your feelings. Mix your tears into the the dye. Next year you're going to look perfect. PERFECT.

>>10419678
>tfw I was the Golden Child even though my parents like my sister more
>we both ended up fucked up
>I basically gave up in my teens and early 20s
>have significant mental health problems
>she got involved with drugs in high school
At least she was spared the sexual abuse by the neighbors and our mom never pawed her

This is my first time having skin this clear. I haven't worn any complexion products since my visit to the dermatologist. She's an absolute gem and recognized that the lesions were fungal and not bacterial.

There's still post-inflammatory hyperpigmentation but the improvement in texture is so prominent despite using econazole just for four days. I'm so fucking happy, bros.

>>10419722
I wasn't aware fungal growths could happen on the face, damn. Good on you managing to kill that beast

My wardrobe is a waste

>>10419678
You sound like one of my friends, if you are her. I know we don't talk much since you have been busy but I hope you are doing good. Make sure you don't forget to eat and stay healthy.

>>10419341
Ayrt, and I probably still wouldn’t self post. I just feel like people should want to see my stuff because they want to or because it caught their eye, not because I asked them to go out of their way. I know that’s not really how it works, with algorithms showing people more of what they already like, but mentally it’s hard to get myself to ask people to look. I’m not sure why, because it doesn’t bother me when other people do it and I don’t think any less of people who are good at marketing.

>>10417421
Just have her take the clothes off, dumbass. Do you have sex with shirts?

>>10418173
>my dumb slut.jpg
>hammer/sickle tattoo
>posting SOs on 4chan
Cringe

>>10417262
that pink is just bad

>>10417421
If you really liked her you would feel attracted to her even if she wore a bin bag.
Your attraction to her sounds very measured.
Also is it the style of clothing you dont like or her choices?

>>10419756
I'm not.

>>10419770
I dunno man, attraction is weird. I remember my first girlfriend got a haircut that massively shortened her nice fluffy hair and turned it into a karen like cut and I died inside. It really wasn't a choice or anything my brain just did not like that

>>10419799
I'm a girl and I get this too. My boyfriend has really nice curly hair and whenever he gets it cut short I have a few hours where I sort of have to retrain myself into being attracted to him. Same when he completely shaves his beard. It's just my brain, it doesn't mean I'm a shallow bitch who only values him for his looks.

>>10419799
>>10419803
Ssssshhhhhh, stop being well adjusted and normal, how can the gullcels shit all over >>10417421 if you ruin it with your sensible ideas?

>>10417552
>>10417648
>>10417651
>>10417652
Is this literally a cosplay dress of Suiseiseki

>>10419856
Yes, it's part of an IW/Rosen Maiden collab. I've actually seen people coord it pretty nicely but I wouldn't dare try myself.

>>10419770
This is going into no true scotsman territory.

I love her for her personality. Not her clothes. I personally do not like the style. I hate the materials, I hate the colours, I hate the silhouettes, I hate the patterns and I hate the sub-culture its associated with and the people I generally associate with it.

I'd prefer a bin bag.

>>10419803
Yeah, I just love my fluffy hair

>>10419856
I want to make a desu joke but I can't think of one

>>10419871
The majority of us get you, anon. Monkey brain associates things with stuff you don't like and it suddenly is offputting even with something or someone you really like.

I have schizoid pd. One of the symptoms is constant daydreaming.
And guess what? It applies to lolita too. I daydream of wearing my dresses instead of,well, actually wearing them cause its so much easier, you don't need to coordinate, to do makeup and hair, etc.

Gosh, i really dislike myself for that. I feel like a fucking hoarder

>>10419871
That’s nice bro but what does this have to do with cgl?

I’d almost thought I’d giving up on lolita but then I saw this beautiful dress. I haven’t purchased a new dress in probably almost a year, but this really did it for me, I insta-bought the entire set.
I’m usually a brandwhore but this is the first Taobao dress I’ve really loved! It was really cheap too, I think about $220 for the entire set shipped.
I’ve also gained weight from the quarantine, so hopefully I can start working on myself to lose the weight I gained.
I also really want to start doing TikToks in my lolita dresses to get me back into the passion of lolita but I’m insecure. Plus sides of doing tiktoks is I don’t think meets will come back anytime soon with COVID so maybe I can make some friends there.

>>10419983
Yikes. That is a lot to spend on shitty taobao. Its like some idol costume

>>10419985
>thinking $220 is a lot of money

>>10419990
>thinking taobao is even worth $1

>>10419985
agree with this anon. This is gonna look like shit once it arrives on your doorstep

>>10419983
Anon, it's good that you are happy with it, but from the stock photo alone you can see that it will most likely look like shit.

I gained 8 lbs during quarantine and nothing fits right anymore

>>10417219
Please eat protein and fruits, anon. Your body needs food, good fat, good carbs, and lots of water. Please don't hurt yourself.

>>10417662
Wanna be friends, anon? I'm just passing through but I'm always open to talk! Lemme know and I can share my email!

>>10417643
Praying for you, anon. Sending you love. I can't imagine how painful this is for you <3

>>10417421
You're a fucking asshole. Work on your porn addiction and turn your life around like... yesterday.

>>10419990
For a dress like that? Yes. Its not a lot in the scheme of things but a ton for crap. That dress is worth 50$ max.

>>10417646
I hope so too, I don't want to die from punk ass cancer
>>10417679
I'm sorry anon, I don't think I'm worth the tears, but it brings me some joy to hear someone is even slightly affected by me spilling my guts on a Malaysian basket weaving forum
>>10417777
It's really hard to not think so negatively, but I'll try not to!
>>I'm so sorry to hear about your friend anon, I can't imagine how it must feel like to lose someone close to you. I hope I make it too
>>10419682
>>10420004
I would like that a lot!
>>10420005
Thank you anon <3

>>10420022
It's me, the first one. I like to talk about pretty much anything and if you ask me questions I'll just turn into a rambling gush machine. My disc is Shoob#9989

>>10419997
How is everyone gaining weight during quarantine? I’ve lost 16 pounds and look fantastic.

>>10420051
In my case it was because of moving way less and eating the same amount

I wish I could wear cute fashion to work without people treating me badly for it. Even dresses from normie stores constantly get commented on if I don’t pair them some long shapeless cardigan and ugly shoes. I hate having to have an entire separate normie wardrobe just to make it through the day without annoying wisecracks from guys who wear the same musty graphic tee and jeans all week.

>>10419856
yeah, desu I want that headpiece from the set SO bad but I'm sure whoever owns it won't ever split it from the set

>>10420058
Gotta learn how to not give a shit. Easier said than done though

>>10420051
I've gained like 2~3 pounds because of not moving around as much, but my significant other has lost 13 pounds. He's an SE and his office provided him cafeteria meals and snacks, so without access to all of that, he eats a lot less.

I think the main difference is people who had bad habits before quarantine are seeing a big loss of weight because they are less able to indulge (grocery stores are risk factors/no company food/less eating out at restaurants). Then there's the other group that has gained some weight because we just literally don't go outside anymore because we are WFH (but our food habits haven't changed).

Because of the quarantine I went through some sort of crisis thinking about my recent purchases and my style in general. I fell in love in lolita because of old-school, and even now it's my favourite, no matter what pieces I buy new, I always look back to old G&LB and even GosuRori and confirm that I like them much more. Not even talking about quality, I just don't feel the same thing for what is released nowadays. I decided I'll stop throwing my money away on things that aren't really my style with some faint and desperate sense of hope that brands will once again make things in my style. Finding things second-hand will become only harder in the future, so I resolved myself to learn sewing, maybe commision pieces that I deem to intricate for me and just move on.

I'm too old (24) and never got to (or am going to get to) be "e-girl pretty". And I'm having a hard time coping with it. I know they're all whores anyway and that they'll be used as cumrags and be wrinkly from all that makeup by age 18 but it makes me feel inadequate since i wear little to no makeup and am not very pretty nor am i very skinny or very curvy. Just "cute" and that's that.
At least i have a brain that i used to get a degree instead of thotting online. Kind of a cope post ngl but i'll be the last one laughing in a few years. I hate e-thots,they ruin my fucking platforms and make me feel bad for not being a slut.

>>10420210
24 is actually the tail end of that e-girl pretty phase, not past it. You can definitely milk it while it lasts. I personally got on the ball right after my 24th birthday, and I regret that I didn't start earlier (because that particular luminous brand of prettiness did in fact fade away at about 25.5), but I'm glad I didn't give up before it was too late.

>>10420210
24 isn't old. You could give it a shot if you want, just keep up a good skincare routine and learn makeup. I'm 30 and just now getting into lolita and after I spent a year working out and taking care of myself, I found out I'm actually still young looking. So I'm taking the opportunity now while I can to get the most out of my youth and be able to look back on myself when I'm actually old. I'm still learning makeup, eyeliner is hard.

Become a wholesome e-girl. One that not only looks good but has the brains. Be an inspiration to girls that you can still be cute without being a ho.

>>10420210
>>10420215
you can milk it up when you're older if you look young (or with good shoop)

>>10420210
I really feel like with a bit of working out and healthy eating and effort you could easily still take advantage of it. I believe in you

>>10420210
Why do you want to be an e-girl though? For the attention? Money? Or feeling like you have to because every other girl is doing it?

>>10420231
>>10420220
>>10420219
>>10420215
I just wanted to be bitchy and vent but you actually managed to warm my heart and make my bitter self crack a smile. I feel very self conscious about myself and have been bullied for my appearance before and i'm salty and still feel like that ugly duckling even now.

>>10420236
The latter one. Also some my friends are kiiiinda this way? and they are so loved and praised by other girls. I don't care about the boys. I just wanna kiss a girl and have my hair played with.

>>10420240
don't worry anon, just get a good photog who will shoop you and use your smol cute body for them loli points!

>>10420240
I can understand that last part. If the people around you are doing it, you want to join in on the fun and not miss out with your friends.

>>10419947
Nothing. But feels threads in general have fucking nothing to do with /cgl/.

When I was younger, I had a terrible shopping addiction with the stupid squishies, spending hundreds of dollars (thousands within months) on useless foam. I have such a bad shopping addiction still, it just changed to lolita. I don't have a comm and wear lolita out maybe once every several months, yet I'm here spending so much money on dresses and accessories just to feel excitement for when it'll come in the mail, and let the dresses rot in my closet most of the time. At this point, I'm just a lolita "collector"

>>10420312
Wear them around your house, anon! You don't have to do your makeup or anything. You might get a sense of what you actually do and don't like and you can sell what you're not a fan of, too.

>>10420240
I’m non ironically recommending you therapy or at least to read a little bit about how to gain self steam. You sound VERY insecure and you are blaming what you feel on people that don’t have anything to do with it.
Also, I won’t shit on e-girls saying they are bad, but what we see on the internet is usually very much staged and shooped, no one looks like this on real life and it’s common to feel like trash when we set those unavailable goals to ourselves.

>>10420331
I agree with this. As a dude, some of the most attractive girls I've met are older especially because it usually comes with a more developed personality which is really nice

>>10420331
you sound like you missed anons point entirely...

>>10420210
You sound extremely jealous and insecure. Stop comparing yourself to teens online.

>>10420331
Even the girls who look similar irl, it's because they're wearing a pound of makeup. Anyone who is feeling insecure, just google pics of women without makeup. It reminds you what women actually look like without makeup or shoop. Normal humans with pimples, uneven skin, eye bags and shit

>>10420371
you can't fix your insecurity by instead fixating on how bad other people look compared to you.

Can any girl explain this cycle to me

>Wow my skin has some mild blemishes, I'll cover them up with makeup
>Wow my skin has developed moderate blemishes, I'll cover them up with more makeup
>Wow my skin has developed severe belmishes, I'll cover them up with even more makeup
>Wow my skin is garbage and I can't go anywhere without applying a full face of makeup

Why not just accept the mild blemishes rather than making your skin objectively worse and forcing yourself to wear makeup? At most, guys just wash and moisturize and have better skin than most girls.

>>10420395
guys don't have better skin, we're just used to seeing them without makeup.

shitty makeup fucks your skin up, you need to buy good makeup and pair it will a skincare routine. i wear makeup every day and take care of my skin and people think i am extremely young.

>>10420395
Makeup doesn't cause blemishes, sleeping in it does. If it did, sunscreen would also fuck up your skin acne-wise by wearing it daily. If a girl is in that cycle they're not removing all of it. Even with just sunscreen you have to use an oil-based remover and then wash using your face wash of choice. I wear sunscreen and spot conceal for redness if there's any and I never have new blemishes because of makeup.

>>10420395
Makeup doesn't cause acne you fucking retard.

>>10420398
To be fair, I do think men often have better skin than women, but I don't think it's because of makeup, I think it's because of hormone fluctuations. They get the pizzaface real bad during puberty but after that clears up they're usually fine whereas we're dealing with hormonal breakouts forever.

>>10420513
Yeah, men get crazy hormones only when they’re teenagers, women have high hormone activity until menopause. It’s bullshit.

>>10420511
Every girl I've met and talked to about the subject has said, girls have bad skin because makeup.

>>10420521
Then ask them if they sleep in it.

>>10420522
That didn't occur to me because who the fuck sleeps in makeup?

>>10420525
Messy bitches. It's more common than you'd think.

>>10420525
Any girl who doesn't either double cleanse or use shitty, stripping makeup remover/wipes. If you use solely face wash more than you think gets left behind. Leaving that shit is gross. If they blame makeup, they have no idea what they're talking about.

>>10420521
They girls you talk to have overall shit hygiene, are prone to allergic reactions to something in the makeup or don't exist. Women are also prone to hormonal acne for all their lives. Makeup is recommended to people by dermatologists to hide acne.

>>10420545
>>10420399
Oof, I only use a milk cleanser, should I be using an oil one too?

>>10420564
Just the milk cleanser is probably alright for the daytime, but if you're wearing SPF (which you should be) and especially makeup, it's not enough. I don't know about you, but for me taking off 100% of eye makeup with anything other than oil is basically impossible.

Oil cleansers are great (I recommend DHC oil cleansers especially), but you could also cheap out and just buy a big bottle of oil that's compatible with your skin type (for example, I have sensitive skin and use sweet almond oil). If you're oily make sure the oil you're using has a low comedogenic rating.

>>10420594
Oh and I'm sure you know, but just in case because lots of people seem to make this mistake - obviously use your milk cleanser after the oil cleanse or you'll likely break out.

I wish my bust was smaller

>>10420564
Have you tried balm cleansers? They function like oil cleansers but (I find them) easier to work with

>>10420601
Same :C

>>10417421
I mean, at least you're being honest? It'd be like 10x if you lied to her. You might want to consider having a talk with her about this though.

>>10420516
I get chest acne REALLY bad and birth control was the only thing that helped.

>>10420613
I meant 10x worse oops

>>10420602
Same! I love Heimish's balm.

Muji makes great affordable and simple skin care. Good value for size as well. I have dry sensitive skin and use their oil cleanser and sensitive toning water.

I have to thank lolita fashion for where I am today. A few years ago I was just getting into the fashion, however I had no money and didnt have any real prospects of making enough to support a hobby like that. So I decided to venture into a new career field I had never even considered before to afford that sweet sweet burando. This certain career basically guarantees you a job right out of college and the pay is excellent. A few years later, I have a great job that I love and could easily afford all the burando I craved, however, that dream has long since passed for me as my style has changed. It's still fun to look at other's coords and see them enjoying it, and I love seeing new releases. Really, my dream of being kawaii is what drove me to be successful.

>>10420629
What do you work in? Does it require intelligence? I want to get some more money but I’m pretty dumb

>>10420629
CS?
I kind of relate to this too because I always dreamed of making enough to buy whatever I want and ideally I'll be hitting 6 figs in a year or two. I sold the small collection I had in college to study abroad and I never bought more lolita since. I did get into cosplaying though and building props is an expensive but fun hobby I can support. The market is really shite right now but CS / cloud tech / finance or data science are still good paths to follow. If you're dumb be a consultant

God, I hate how much of an anxious person I am. I'm waiting on an order today from USPS which was out for delivery in my city this morning. The next update said it was delivered to a completely different zip-code in the sender's city about an hour away.

I called the post office and they actually picked up (normally they don't), and the supervisor said it might be a duplicate tracking number. WTF? How do duplicate tracking numbers exist? And how could it be that coincidental that the duplicate number was in the same city as the sender?

My mailbox is empty and I can't work now.

>>10420647
>>10420650
Construction. It is a literal goldmine, especially if you're a woman. Companies love women in construction, and if you live in a big city you will get a good job with a big company with no problem. I would say I have average intelligence, good people skills are a must though as you are dealing with many people every day. Keeping in mind I don't do anything physical for my job, I manage projects. It can be very stressful at times but it's also extremely rewarding when you succeed.

>>10420629
same, I went into pediatric nursing instead of children's illustration like I originally wanted to do, because I would still be able to do something I love but make tons more money to afford sweet sweet burando

>>10420650
Don't fall for that meme
I'm working minimum wage at a job unrelated to my tech degree because no one else would hire me out of university

>>10420706
I'm sorry anon that sucks. My friend spent 5 years underemployed in the same situation until he did a cs bootcamp which had essentially networking and internships with local companies and he got a full time position. Dont give up!

>>10420521
Are you stopping random women and asking them why women have bad skin or is there more to this?

>>10420706
You probably didn't network or do an internship while in university. Sucks for you.

>>10420513
maybe, i've personally only gotten one or two pimples my entire life around my period. my mom had crazy cystic acne though and i have a male friend who does also.

Do you fucking retards not realize that makeup, especially western makeup does cause bad skin, and not just acne, but dryness and pore issues and all sorts of things.

>>10417643
I'm sorry to hear that. Live well.

>>10420772
>especially western makeup
LMAO
no it doesn't, anon. why don't you go inform all the western beauty gurus they NEED to have dry, pimply skin right this second for daring to use makeup, let alone western makeup. it's no one's fault you're bad at removing your bb cream.
you realize korean and japanese makeup are made of the same shit, right? fucking weebs.

>>10420731
Men can interact with women platonically through common interests and the workplace anon.

>>10420877
You said every woman you’d “met and talked to” about it, not every woman you work with or are friends with.

That’s still a weird thing to ask multiple people but I guess it means you’ll have to use men for your buffalo bill cosplay if you want it to photograph well without putting additional makeup on it.

>>10420949
Jesus Christ you autist. Obviously it doesn't mean every single person with XX chriomsomes that I talk.

Stop being a literal-retard.

>>10420660
For anyone who sees this and cares - USPS did, in fact, issue a duplicate tracking number and my package was delivered to me later. I've never had that happen before.

I was so stressed that it kind if ruined the joy of getting my package. I hate that my brain works like this. I just wanted to enjoy my stupid bunny ears.

You know how in anime they have an aura power thingy sometimes where they can never mind it was stupid

>>10420954
>>10420949
>>10420877
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>>10420511
nice. Good post retardanon

I hate my hair so much, it's fluffy and curly and doesn't straighten out. It stays in this weird puff unless I braid it down and I hate it.

>>10421195
Grass is always greener anon... My hair is so flat and thin that I can't style it, it gets oily after a day, and even my ponytails look pathetic and have a measly diameter. I'd sell my soul for thicker hair.

Been feeling lately that my sewing/crafting work has hit a plateau but I can't get any good feedback due to living in an echo chamber. Everyone says I'm great at cosplay but that doesn't help me improve. I need a cosplay Gordon Ramsay/Simon Cowell in my life to tell me I suck and how I can get better...

>>10421195
Is it nappy anon?

>>10417685
I love you, anon.

>>10421195
go check out r/curlyhair anon

>>10421195
Sound like my ex she would always constantly complain about her curly hair. And get so angry if I say anything. She even shaved her head and I was fine with it. But she got so insecure about her look that she got even more mad at me. Thank got I broke up with her. She literally was consumed by anger over some curly hairs. Reeeeee makes me so mad just thinking about it.

>>10421206
You sound like me, but when I go out inaways do my hair. And have to use so much product on it. But it makes me look good. The struggle I feel yah. On my off days I just look ugly as fuck.

I wish I could wear more gothic and oldschool stuff in my everyday life without looking like a B-tier lolcow...

>>10421376
yeah it is, I just want to style it in more ways without having to damage it with products.
>>10422504
Thank's I'll give it a look.
>>10423425
I'm sorry to hear that anon, I can appreciate my hair for what it is but sometimes I just wish it was flat.

When I got my wisdom teeth yanked I was so scared of screwing something up that I was ok with eating only a single serving size cup of tomato soup a day and a scoop of applesauce if I was craving something sweet. And I was doing so well for a week until I realized I could eat regular food again. I could comfortably eat 500 calories a day if I had the fear of god put back in me, after the first day I legitimately felt full having only eaten a cup of soup. I should have never eaten solid foods after that, if I knew how badly I'd screw up by getting a chicken sandwich I wouldn't have done it. I dunno where I'm going with this.

I'm only 3 years into the fashion and I'm burnt out on answering stupid questions. Recently it's like no one has a brain. Or maybe I'm finally noticing it more because I'm finally not a newbie. I'm kind of done helping people if they can't even attempt to help themselves.

>>10427090
No one just googles their question. I used to enjoy answering questions on car forums because I like helping people, but holy shit so many of these questions are answered in the first result on google. "wut exhaust can I use" "can i put turbo on" "do i have disc brakes" aaaaaaa fucking google it

>>10419076
God I don't know which ones are worse, these fetishtic sissyfication trannies invading lolita/jfash communications to rope every woman into their IRL kink larp or the looney troons and "nonbinaries" policing the cosplay community and pretending to be IRL anime men and traps.