/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL

>spend over 7 grand in roughly a month on new lolita items

I don’t even know how I did it but I did.

Why do so many girls at these meets have bfs in their 30s? Are you just scared to admit you're all DDLGs?

>>10136486
No some us just don’t like immature snot nose young guys with no careers or cars. Why would anyone date a college aged boy

>>10136486
The average age of a lolita is around 25, is it strange where you’re from to have a bf 5-7 years older? I can see it being strange at 18-20 but past that an age difference isn’t a big deal. My mom is 7 years older than my dad.

>>10136486
tfw I turn 30 this year and suddenly there are hot girls half my age

>>10136490
>tfw all the QTs who show interest in me are either underage or traps

>>10136486
Lolita is expensive. Sugar daddies are typically 30+

Found out close friends went to an event without me even though I had suggested we'd go together. What do I do now? I feel abandoned.

>>10136567
Confront them

>>10136567
イf用すっげs手d用ウェンtとげてぇr、whyぢdんt用はヴぇ地©毛tsおr後あnyわy?

>>10136567
>>10136577
woops, sorry have been doing some translating. Anyway, I said, if you had suggested you all go together, did you not have tickets or something and go anyway? maybe they thought you were going already?

>>10136581
I didn't want to go on my own but when I brought it up no one responded to me that they were going or wanted to go. It's also a big event so it's normal to ask to meet up beforehand. I feel like they might have even hid it from me that they were going. Usually we'd have talked about it in a group chat.

>>10136479
Get some new pictures already bitch

>>10136479
Can some give me context for this picture?

>>10136487
What's the matter? Did that linebacker break your heart?

>>10136577
That was the cringyest thing I’ve seen, why did you just pretend that you didn’t notice you typing in Japanese? Literally nobody does that?

>>10136581
Just stop. Attention whoring in this way will only bring negative attention. Your Google translate copy/paste is painful.

Give me 28965 reasons not to kill myself

>>10136479
Always sad when I look at this
Waste of Doritos..

Man I just really love cosplay

>>10136490
Found the incel

>>10136669
How so?

>>10136711
>finding 15 year olds hot

>>10136505
>tfw no trap bf

>fuck up when sanding a small sculpted accessory
>get impatient while fixing it and decide to just scrap it and start over
>three hours later, the new one looks twenty times worse than the sanding fuck-up
I fucking hate myself

>>10136715
Is that bad?

>>10136736
Ew

>>10136736
if youre only attractive to teens, it means the adults know better because something is wrong with you

>>10136742
>if youre only attractive to teens
This isn't what I said at all.

>>10136486
I'm in my 30s. How do I get a qt cosplayer gf?

>>10136606
Lmao nope, never dated in high school. Good luck with dating snot nose teenage boys with no experience in sex, no money, and no respect. I’m sorry you’re life is so shitty you gotta judge people by who they date.

>>10136833

Why do you bitches always overprice fucked up shit? I’ve seen this recently sell for $48 in perfect condition and Wunderwelt is selling this for similar pricing in good condition. This seller needs a slap upside the head

>>10136850
I’m not the seller but get over yourself

>>10136850
Less than 20$$ diffference
>overpriced
Lol

>>10136850
if this is GG's listing then you've got your answer

Worked hard on a cosplay wig accessory only to realize it won’t attach well without coming off

My cosplay is 99% done except for this big wig piece so hopefully next con I’ll have figured it out

Man, it would be nice to have small boobs. Underbust cuts are such an aesthetic for the itty-bitty-titty-committee. I love seeing it so much, and sometimes it hurts that it will never be me.

>The grass is always greener on the other side
No shit, but this is a feels thread. Please join me anons! Complain about your green grass with me.

>>10136736
It's pedophilia you sick fuck

>>10136490
I'm sending Chris Hansen to your house

>>10136835
you can start my never uttering this sentence again you freak

>>10136835
you can start by never uttering this sentence again you fucking old weirdo

>>10137090
>tfw small boobs but long-ish torso
>underbust and high waist cuts are unflattering as shit

>>10136850
Thats only a few dollars price difference, and could end up being cheaper if the seller is in the US and the buyer is also in the US due to cheaper shipping.

>>10136486
Most lolitas are in their mid 20's so it really isn't weird at all.

>>10136618
I agree it was probably on purpose but for future ref that’s not google translate, it’s when drunks or sleep deprived people leave their nip on since it de-romanizes English into a nonsensical string of kana

>>10136850
ARe you crazy?
I guess I understand why that anon in the DD thread was so bitchy now

>>10136715
I notice that incels tend to be hebephiles more often than normal people. It's my hypothesis that the lack of crucial high school and you g adult dating experience locks their attraction to puberty aged individuals. It's also probably because they lack the experience to make themselves appeasing to people their age and so they realize they only get positive reactions from those with the same level of experience as them.

I mean, if every time you approached someone your age, you got negative reinforcement, you'd eventually condition yourself to not even bother, right? But then on the opposite scale, you get positive reinforcement from those too young to know better, it conditions you to go for those kinds if people instead. A lot of the people aren't even bad looking, just had pretty bad luck with the opposite sex for a number of reasons. If fat ugly sacks of shit like pic related can get a GF, most incels can as well. It's just that a mountain of poor experiences and bad luck put them into a position where it's an increasingly more difficult uphill battle the older they get, and eventually the only ones they have a decent chance with are those who are just as nervous and unconfident as they are.

>>10137203
Well that is a very interesting theory, is it yours? If you could recomend me anything to read about ephebophilia and it´s causes I would appreciate it

>>10137203
Sorry, I mainly agree with what you said, but calling some random guy a "fat, ugly, sack of shit" is kinda rude. He's not really ugly, and yeah he's fat but that can be changed. Plus, for all you know he could be very kind and sweet and caring. I know what you're getting at, but making jabs at people to justify yourself is pretty shitty.

>>10137119
>acknowledging when young women are attractive and not touching them is pedophilia

>>10137357
What's so great about young women anyway? Cakes ate where it's at

>>10137337
>i notice
Anon clearly stated that they came to this conclusion from their own observation, you seem a little triggered. It's not like they are wrong anyways.

>>10137203
No, men just like younger women. Sorry, old timer.

>>10137376
most men dont like literal children because they're emotionally retarded and stupid, sorry anon. liking immaturity is a defect.

>>10137381
The vast majority of men are attracted to 15-17 year old women, with 19-20 being cited as the age at which women’s attractiveness peaks.

Will pull some studies once I track them down again

>>10137397
the studies literally say numbers in their 20s anon. there's no biological advantage to fucking a child too immature to take care of children

>>10137397
>typical man trying to justify being a pedo

>>10137381
It's all that porn that they watch anon.

>tfw you're trying to get a good pic but the zoomer thots start Fortnight dancing

>>10137410
>>10137407
>reading comprehension this terrible

I never once made a value judgement on whether or not engaging in sex with 15-17 year olds was right or not, I simply stated that most men view women in this age group to be attractive. This is most likely due to the fact that many women have physically “matured” enough to the point that they appear attractive to men. Just pull up a picture of a woman who is 17 years and 364 days old next to a picture of a woman who is 18, and tell men to pick which one they are attracted to. How many of them will be filthy pedos? Again, I’m not saying it’s righteous, it just is.

Most men finding 20 year olds to be most attractive is also a fact, and I never made a value judgement on that either, I simply pointed it out. Do with the information what you will.


Also, let’s say we increase the age of consent to 25 for men and women. Does that make people who have sex with 24 year old pedos?

Just some stuff to crunch on (no, I’m not a greasy pedo, my SO and I are less than a year separated in age, mid 20s)

>>10137425
Where tf did you find this? The closest I came was a meme pinterest board

>>10137434
https://www.businessinsider.com/dataclysm-shows-men-are-attracted-to-women-in-their-20s-2014-10

Here’s a link to a business insider article about it.
The fact that men are attracted to women in their very early twenties regardless of the age of the man is well supported.

>>10137425
From the same article that you grabbed that data from:
"The same study found that the age range of women men say they are most interested in tends to fall within their own age range.
The figures suggest that there is a clear distinction between physical, sexual desire, and the connection men crave from actually interacting with a woman who has a similar level of maturity."

>>10137424
Zoomer thots gotta pay the bills

>>10137357
Get your incel shit outta here no one has to be a rapist to be a pedo. They're two very diffrent things.

>>10137425
Jesus christ youre so far gone there's probably no coming back.

>>10137438
You understood what I was saying

>>10137457
You did not

Rate my cosplay

Uggh im going to a con soon and im planning on cosplaying for the first time in years. I usually go to cons alone, and I'm fine with it, but I feel like it is different for cosplay.

I already have bad anxiety when I stand out but this is a cosplay I've been really wanting to do for a while. The pictures and the comments I'm expecting but I'm still questioning whether this is a good idea. Am I overthinking it?

>>10137455
Nobody said anything about rape

>>10137531
Minors cannot consent dumdum

>>10137357
You don't have to touch them to be a pedophile. Just finding them attractive is.

>>10137203
I'm going to contest your conjecture. I've had some of the worst luck of anyone on this board with sex, despite, maybe even due to, being attractive, but I'm really not all that attracted to teenage girls.

>>10136505
>>10136719
>tfw no trap gf

>>10136850
>>10137157

This. Buying from Japan means shipping costs of $20-$50 whereas local shipping is like $5. Items on LM aren't necessarily overpriced, most of them know that it's $20 cheaper on some Japanese market, but they also know that it'll cost you that much for shipping. You could actually end up paying way more for something that's cheaper off the Japanese market due to shipping.

This is a little long, but I need to get this off my chest. It is in two parts.

> been in the cosplay and lolita scenes for the past about 5 years (slowly stopped cosplay last year to have lolita as my main hobby)
> got a boyfriend - he does medieval fairs and larping, rather than go to cons
> he has a crazy ex, who's a fucking psycho
> tldr: our relationship started a day after theirs ended but she is not aware of that - I think he just needed a reason to get out (they'd been together 8 months and he couldn't stand her by the end of it)… That was a year and a half ago

Once they broke up, she:
- tried to run him over with her car, but "that's okay because she tried to kill herself a couple of days later" (according to her)
- harrassed him for four months after they'd stopped dating (until I intervened twice to get her to fuck off)
- sent him two fucking love letters (with no stamp - which means she drove an hour to put them in his fucking mailbox - the second one also had very pixelised photos of them together)
- stalked his best friend's underage sister for a day trying to find the both of them
- got into the historical reenactment group he is in, without having expressed any interest in that hobby at all beforehand
- and got into the larp group he helped create in highschool with all his friends - he ended up leaving that group a couple of months ago because she was turning a big part of the newer people in the group against him

1/2

>>10137650

> her behaviour finally stopped when I intervened to tell her to kindly go fuck herself 4 months into her ordeal (so about a year ago), and she found someone twice her age to be with
> don't hear from her until a couple of weeks ago
> my boyfriend and I cosplayed together at a con five months ago (It was his first cosplay), it goes well and we post pictures online
> psycho ex suddenly very interested in cons and cosplay
> starts going to all the cons in the area where my boyfriend studies (which is 2 or 3 hours away from where she lives), and opens a facebook cosplay page (which I accidentally fell on 2 weeks ago, and is how I know she's apparently into cosplay now)
> Starting to wonder how long it is before she gets suddenly very interested in lolita for very similar reasons

Thank fuck I'm a mod of the local lolita comm, I'm pretty sure that's one of the only reasons she hasn't tried to get in yet… I've started asking everyone coming in a photo of them in a full coord - partly so only actual lolitas get in, and partly to keep her at bay. I'm also glad I've pretty much stopped conventions altogether, and my boyfriend has no interest in returning anytime soon, so the only place they'll run into each other is medieval fairs. (For anyone wondering, doesn't want to annoy himself by going to court against her and we don't have any actual proof other than deleted facebook posts and messages (he burnt her letters); honestly had I not promised him not to get involved (other than the telling her to fuck off) she'd be behind bars by now.)

Anyway, sorry for this long post, hope it was at least mildly entertaining to read - this past year and a half has been stressful to say the least.

2/2

>>10137651
How is it more annoying going to court than literally almost dying? Is this some copypasta meme? If not why the hell are you still with this guy?

>>10137651
Court is a pain in the ass, but he should have grown a spine and filed for a restraining order a year and five months ago. If not for his sake then for yours. Restraining orders don't have a high burden of proof, his testimony, yours and that of other people who've witnessed her behavior would most likely be enough, but in the future you should back up any evidence of her communicating with you, and report it to the police when she harasses you in any way just to have a paper trail.

>>10137666
>>10137679
Not a copypasta, unfortunately
I have been asking him to get a restraining order for a while now, and if it continues I will absolutely press the issue further. We really thought she'd pretty much stopped a year ago. No contact other than her going to med fairs, no nothing... and he's a bit of an idiot, realizes he should've reacted differently about her when they broke up (his method is pretending a problem doesn't exist until it does away). He also really loves his reenactment group and didn't want to have any problems within that community...and knowing her, she would've let hell loose on him in that group if he'd tried to do anything.

He is a great person otherwise, just an idiot about the problems he has.
And he doesn't really know about her new hobby yet - with exams coming up and him working part-time, I'm waiting to see how it pans out before burdening him with that and seeing how he wants to react (he knows I found her cosplay page, but we haven't talked further about it yet...and if she keeps her distance, he probably won't want to do anything). But his best friend and I are absolutely keeping a watchful eye on her page in the mean time.

>>10137697
How long until she starts trying to run you over?

>>10137562
>tfw no brap gf

>>10137651
Your boyfriend is a pussy.

I’m both a cosplayer and a photographer, but for the past few years I’ve been more focused on cosplay and I’ve only done shoots with close friends in that time. A part of me wants to get back into cosplay photography, but I’m also afraid that if I open up slots, I’ll be missing out on good times with friends. But I also keep thinking about the fact that I could meet a lot of new people and make new friends. Also to clarify, I’m a girl, not just a dude with a camera, so making friends with the people I’m shooting is within the realm of possibility. Idk I just keep going back in forth in my head about the pros and cons and I’d like to hear what you gulls think

>face was perfectly clear for last 3 months
>a few days ago
>suddenly get three whiteheads on my nose, one on either cheek, and a fuckhuge mountain of a zit on my chin that isn't going away
What the FUCK it's not even my period
I want to wear a fucking mask over my ugly face to hide this shit now
FUCK

>>10137792
Actually now that I posted that, I just started using a new moisturizer a week ago. It has octyl palmitate in it, which has a comedogenic rating of 4 (very high) so no wonder. For fuck's sake I want a refund. Every other ingredient I knew was clear and I didn't bother checking on that one before I bought it... I should just kill myself. I can't find any moisturizer that both doesn't have comedogenic ingredients AND doesn't have cetyl alcohol that's less than ten thousand dollars for half an ounce. Why is life so hard? Why do companies do dick things like put highly comedogenic ingredients in god damned fucking everything? And if I use oil based moisturizer during the day my face looks like a sheet of greasy paper.

>>10137799
Are you me? The struggle to find a decent moisturizer is real.

>>10137203
First of all hebephilia is up to 14 years old, 15 years old is ephebophilia and it is completly natural. Age of consent is 14 in Germany 15 in Poland and 16 in UK.

>>10136845
>I’m sorry you’re life is so shitty you gotta judge people by who they date
>Good luck with dating snot nose teenage boys with no experience in sex, no money, and no respect
Anon... I hope this is bait.

>>10137858
Doesn’t change that you’re a smooth brain that relates to dipshit teenagers who normal adults treat like kids

>>10137203
nah, its simple. They view women as property and its a lot easier to control younger women than other ones.

>>10137697
I’m wishing you the best of luck anon. I’ve dealt with stalking (from a guy I never even dated or even knew, I simply rejected when I was 17) and it was an ordeal that lasted three years before I finally asked for legal help and got a restraining order.

I know your BF is probably in denial, I know I was a little. I’m telling you, starting now, start compiling evidence. It’s no longer just his problem, it’s yours. Like the other anon mentioned, a restraining order needs less of a burden of proof and scares most people away. But if that doesn’t work, keep any bit of evidence and make sure some of your friends and family are aware of what’s occurring.

Don’t let her ruin your relationship or Lolita for you.

>get approached by Ruby Rose cosplayer
>she tells me that she's wearing a thong for the first time
>three hours pass
>driving home
>mfw I realize that she was hitting on me

>>10136479
>dude posts a cosplay pic with his wife and son
>all three are massively obese
>mfw the only comment is "the chungus family"
Am I a bad person for laughing?

>>10138203
oh god please post pic

>>10138079
lol better luck next time

>>10138219
yes pls post

>>10138219
>>10138229
>post pic
That is bully.

I’m going through some heavy stuff right now
>>psychological trauma from recent grevous bodily harm by a parent, >>boyfriend dumping me right after because I don’t fit his ideal plus being an injured animal is probably not sexy
>>my other parent passed away.
>>moved into a shared house, the owner showed his true colours to be arrogant

Trying the best I can to live for myself, on social media they only see happy Lolita as usual but a few of my friends know, feel as though I’ve cast a dark cloud, wondering if they’re scared I’ll taint their spirits with my tragedy. There’s a lot of work to be done.

>>10138255
we want to see these chunguses plz. blur out names

>>10137858
Nothing like showing you're a pedophile by having the age of consent of multiple countries memorized while you arguing over the semantics of varying types of pedophilia.

Does anybody relate to this feel?
https://i.4cdn.org/gif/1553906325655.webm

>>10138312
I see people say this all the time. I don't get it. being informed about something doesn't mean they participate in it.
Like, lawyers must be some awful people because they are informed about all sorts of criminal behavior!

>>10138324
It's a lawyer's job to be familiar with the law. Your strawman doesn't hold up very well.

>>10138320
Nobody smart will click this.

>>10136490
You remember how immature you were when you were 15, right? They're children, fuck off to prison and stop sexualizing little girls.

>>10138331
Luckily women aren't smart.

>>10138345
If you're not supposed to be attracted to them why are they so much more attractive than you?

>>10138348
Imagine being such a degenerate that even average men are disgusted by you.

>>10138360
Stop replying to him.

>>10138360
Imagine being such a cuck you let women tell you what you're allowed to be attracted to

Imagine being such a retard you promote every sexuality while repressing the one most common among men.

>>10138368
kek, arguing you're not a pedo then proving youre a pedo

>>10138328
What difference does that make? I'd hope EVERYONE is familiar with their local laws.
Also, its called an analogy, not a strawman.

>>10138372
That's my second response in the thread, fatty.

I just want to go one day without hearing about a stranger’s genitals.

>>10138368
>attractive
balding kids, okay.

>>10138389
anon she hasnt lost those buck teeth yet, be nice

>>10138376
where do you live where every adult is a whale? mississippi?

>>10138389
holy shit this made me shoot tea out my nose

>>10138368
>one of the most common sexualities amongst men is being attracted to literal children

How’d you break out of a mental ward?

>>10137799
>tfw I used to have bad acne
>lost a lot of weight and improved my diet and the acne went away
>enjoyed a clear face for a couple nice months
>then developed psoriasis on my face
You have hope. I want to die.

Imagine getting insecure over a little girl.

Old hags KNOW they're inferior.

>>10138397
lmao why did you post one making retarded ass faces.

>>10138312
>memorized
Do you know what Google is?

>>10137543
When I was 15-17, I sure as hell could.

>>10138079
Shoulda asked to see it.

>>10138408
Legally speaking, you couldn't. And that makes all the difference.

>>10137697
shouldve shot her the moment she tried to run him over

>>10137799
This shit is why I use nivea

>>10138413
anon you'll trigger him with the word "legally"

>>10138417
use that FAB beauty lotion. It works wonders. It's expensive but has been worth every penny for me

There's this guy that follows me around if he finds me at cons. He spends the whole time talking about how he went on vacations and to concerts and showing me pictures and also talking about shit I don't care about.
He's legit autistic so I don't have the heart to tell him to buzz off but it's really annoying to smile and nod through him talking about all the shit he does on his parents dime while I can hardly afford to go to cons, but he doesn't have the social awareness to realize it.
I feel bad because he's always at cons alone hence why he tries to hang out with me the whole time but I'm starting to dread going to cons because I know at some point I'll have to deal with him.
I wish parents would make their autist kids go to cons and stuff with a handler that would keep them from doing shit like this.

>>10138425
How do you know he's not just caught in your gravitational pull, pig?

>>10138425
thats why i hate making friends with autists. they cling onto you extremely hard when they realize you'll give the slightly bit of attention to their obsessions

>>10138429
whats your damage anon

i am never wearing Pleather again

>>10138431
That's the thing, we only have one thing in common and I don't care about the rest of the stuff he talks about. Even though I've told him I don't care or know about different things (like hint hint I DONT CARE) he doesn't get it and just goes on and on. I feel bad for thinking this stuff since it's not his fault that he doesn't understand social interactions but it's so annoying. I blame the parents for throwing money at him and letting him go off and annoy people rather than making someone go with him.

>tfw you catch a little boy staring at some thot's thonged buttocks

>>10137544
>finding girls one year below the age of consent for 80% of the world is pedo
Honestly women should have never been allowed to vote.

>>10138450
I have friends who are autistic and also work as a care assistant for lower spectrum autistic people and I cannot emphasize this enough to folks- just tell him you’re not interested in talking right now. Don’t try to use hints, just be blunt. He won’t be offended. When you say “I don’t want to talk to you” to an allistic person, they interpret that as “I hate you you’re annoying” but autistic people just hear “I don’t want to talk to you”
After you overcome that initial social discomfort of being brutally honest, being friends with folks on the spectrum is simple.
It’s seriously that easy guys, I promise.

>>10138467
is that why you only wanna bang ones that cant

>>10138473
except theyre shit at any conversation that doesnt revolve around their interests.

>>10136479
I'm way out of shape and got lazy over the winter so now I'm having to do crunch time to get in shape for playing, which also makes making my costume odd since it'll be a little big.

>>10137119
Not to be that guy but--
Actually no fuck it, I'll be that guy.
Being attracted to high schoolers isn't pedophilia. Pedophilia is by definition an attraction to the prepubescent. People that think you're a pedophile for liking anyone under 18 -- even when most of the US has a lower age of consent and it's only popularized as such due to California -- are misinformed.
That said, high schoolers are also retards by the time you're even in your mid-twenties, so I wouldn't exactly consider it reasonable or even sane to want to have a relationship with them. But no, it's not morally wrong to find someone attractive that happens to be an adolescent, but I'd argue it is to try doing anything with them when you're not in that age bracket. You people act like none of you had sex in high school.

>>10138485
Yeah, sometimes. Not always. Autism is a sliding scale, the lower it goes the harder it can be to hold a real conversation. I might be more desensitized from working with people who can only say a few sentences and only react to a few responses. It helps to be laid back.
But nothings saying you have to be friends with every autistic person you meet. It’s better to tell them directly you don’t want to be friends than try to ghost them, though.

>>10138494
only degenerates want to fuck retards

guy here, my hair is only sorta long and holy fuck, its a lot of effort to maintain.

>>10138502
I'm talking about the ethics of finding teens attractive, not dating trans people.

>>10138506
>high schoolers are also retards

>>10138505
Wow you can really empathize with women. Wow, aren't women so brave and strong? I heard they have periods and have to give birth and that takes a lot of courage

#FistbumpForFeminism

>>10138509
no i lowkey hate women i had a bad relationship with my mother. its just. combing out the dead strands. keeping them off your bed. balancing "how shitty and greasy do I wanna look today" with "i know my hair will look like straw if i was it too often." takes forever to dry my hair hasn't been completely dry since january

>the joke


>>10138507
I specifically said I don't condone trying to hook up with teenagers. If intelligence alone decided what counted as pedophilia, there are plenty of grown, employed men and women that it should be illegal to date.

>>10138516
yeah those grown people are also called retards

>>10138514
Put it in a pony, a bun, or braid it before bed to avoid excessive shedding.
>I don’t know how to-
Learn.
Use dry shampoo to combat greasy ness and don’t wash your hair every day.
>Where do I buy-
Any store that sells regular shampoo.
Use conditioner on the length of your hair but not on the roots/scalp. Shampoo the roots/scalp but not the length.

>>10138484
This response was too perfect. Thank you, anon.

>>10138494
>You people act like none of you had sex in high school.

And "you people" think that 15 year olds being attracted to each other is the same thing as adults being attracted to children.

>>10136835
>go to a convention
>start to talk with someone
>???
>profit

>>10137090
so, you have big boobs?

>>10137501
it's ok 5/10

>>10137650
>tldr: our relationship started a day after theirs ended but she is not aware of that
isn't this a red-flag too?
I mean, getting together a day after his last relationship?

either way, if you life in america, you might ably stand your ground law
otherwise, the mentioned restraining order might work do

>>10138537
I'm not going to touch what that guy said but I know that generally what minimum age you are genuinely sexually attracted to stays for life.

>>10138527
well alright then

>>10138494
The fuck you mean "you people?"

>>10138494
Not going to mindlessly bash you like everyone else because I know you probably aren't a kiddie fiddler, but having sex in high school is the exact reason they don't share your opinion.

>>10138527
>Use conditioner on the length of your hair but not on the roots/scalp. Shampoo the roots/scalp but not the length.
huh, so I've been doing it wrong for the last ten years

>Work at tech company startup with husband
>Was looking pretty bad recently because of funding issues and no paying customers yet
>Suddenly have a big client that appears to possibly be about to bring in a couple of million for the company every month
>Husband got a big raise and promotion and I got a decent sized bonus
>Tfw finally going to start saving up for our weeb trip to Japan I've been dreaming of doing for years and won't have to choose between saving for that and going to cons and such because we can afford both

>>10138604
Not necessarily. It entirely depends on the consistency and volume of your hair.

>>10138615
Bullshit. What ‘consistency’ of hair requires shampoo on the ends?

>>10138619
My hair looks like a greasy mop if I don't shampoo the ends.

>Have really good friend who's into lolita
>He gave me the courage to try the fashion when I was always too self conscious
>He's always liked me but we're always in relationships with other people when the other is single
>He dates another lolita
>Her style is similar to mine but I feel like she's prettier
>Huge hit to confidence and don't dress for a while

I'm not THAT into him he's just special to me? Why am I so hurt.

>>10138622
There’s gotta be something you’re not telling us. How are the ENDS of your hair getting greasy?
Either you’re using a shitload of product, or maybe you have natural hair which I truthfully know fuckall about.

>>10138345
>>10136669
>>10137122
how dare men be attracted to this!

>>10138629
It isn't greasy, but it appears greasy. The hairs bunch up into long flat strands with no volume instead of flowing in a natural, layered way. I know very little about how hair works, but that's how it is for me. I'd rather not be a stereotypical shimmery ponytail nerd.

>>10138627
>wearing lolita to impress some dude
Wear it for yourself or don't wear it at all.

>>10138417
>nivea
I'll check it out. They have 900 blends, any specific rec? I switched back to using my other lotion, but it has alcohol in it so that's why I wanted a different one... My chin zit is now a huge scab and still inflated full of puss. Cheek bled. Gonna be running around with pih for 3 weeks now, my skin is paler than snow. Wake up first thing in the morning and oh yeah there's a massive painful zit on my chin the size of a blueberry. Tried lancing them both but I think I botched it. Just wanted to relieve the damned pressure.
>>10138396
>psoriasis
raspberry seed oil. Of course you'll be all oily though. but yeah, when my face isn't being smeared in comedogenics it does tend to be nice and clear.
>>10137844
if I wasnt a lazy depressive i think the only way to get a quality moisturizer is to start your own damned company and be like the spanx girl. companies are such dickholes. i bet all their chemical engineers are fucking malefags who are so clueless they don't even use moisturizer on their own skin.
On that note I like how some moisturizers targeting men have to write in big letters FOR MEN all over it and practically have images of cigars and whiskey and old wild west styled writing all over it. xy fags are so insecure. "No no, I'm not a faggot, this moisturizer is for big manly men, see, it says right here it's for MEN, I'm a MAN. Have I talked about my testicles in the last 3 minutes?" God forbid it has a picture of fruit or flowers on it, a man would sooner his face peel off than ever use it. I use products intended for men all the time and it doesn't threaten my femininity. xy's are weaksauce. Just pathetic.

>>10138545
>I know that generally what minimum age you are genuinely sexually attracted to stays for life.

Uh no. Sorry but normal people don't feel this way.

>>10138635
I’m still having trouble figuring out how shampoo helps with a texturing issue but hey, if it works for you, then it works!
I’d still rec the conditioner on bottom, shampoo on top method for longhair noobs, just to try for a couple weeks to see if it works for them.

>Get time off approved for AX
>approved for (almost) all of them
>first time this year to go immediately straight to work from the airport when I arrive
>the only day off that got denied is the day I have to recuperate from jet lag

>>10138683
>the only day off that got denied is the day I have to recuperate from jet lag

I was 2 hours late to work once coming from Vacation in japan. Like nigga please i spent a total of 20 hours in a plane/airports

>>10138661
>xy's are weaksauce. Just pathetic.
nice projecting there
but seriously I hate all of that, even the flowers. I want my chemical products to be labelled like chemical products

>>10138661
>No no, I'm not a faggot, this moisturizer is for big manly men, see, it says right here it's for MEN, I'm a MAN
Guys just don't want to have more masculine smells like pine or whatever instead of smelling like a bed of roses.
There's also (unfounded) fear that some chemical found in that kind of product not specifically meant for men is going to have some negative effect on testosterone or something.
On the other side, women have a preference for products that are outwardly promoted as feminine since they want to smell like a bed of roses.
Don't act like your shit doesn't stink anon.

>>10138661
>On that note I like how some moisturizers targeting men have to write in big letters FOR MEN all over it and practically have images of cigars and whiskey and old wild west styled writing all over it.

I hate pointlessly gendered products with a passion.

>>10138713
ah yes my two favorites scents, apricot and formen

>>10138713
Is that left bottle the one I use if I want a cute bf

>>10138713
I unironically enjoy the absurdity of gendered deodorant advertisements

If you use "female" deodorants, you are a beautiful, confident elegant flower

If you use "male" deodorants, 30 women in lingerie will spawn out of the ether and swarm you because they're actually canned sex juice

>>10138722
Everyone knows women LOVE axe. Just ask middle schoolers /s

>>10138713
It says "for you" but it also says "for men"
WHICH IS IT, SHAMPOO

>>10138705
By your own admittance my shit smells precisely like a bed of roses, anon.
Men get far more hysteric about it. compare: a man forced to use moisturizer with a picture of a flower on the bottle versus a woman forced to use a product with a picture of a middle aged pirate LARPer on it. Which one would be more anally devastated?
>>10138692
>chemical products
Not sure what you're using but my products are likely to literally have floral essences in them, so a flower is indeed appropriate.

>>10138725
He’s talking like he’d even know what chemicals to look for if they were labeled at all.

>>10138725
>By your own admittance my shit smells precisely like a bed of roses, anon.
fucking autists, I swear.
https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Your%20shit%20don%27t%20stink

>>10138713
Reminds me of when a canned soup company here decided to make a line of canned soup targeted at men, so they made ads with a guy kayaking down a rocky mountain while screaming, then when he reaches the bottom a bunch of other manly men finish arriving through equally ridiculous means, scream at each other for a while then sit down to enjoy their shitty canned soup around a campfire

And the whole time the narrator's singing about how the men aren't just hungry, they're hungry for DANGER and also have BIG BALLS OF MEAT, just like the soup.

>>10138730
>calling others autists when you can’t recognize an obvious joke

>>10138731
Sounds incredibly gay.

>>10138733
>doesn't recognize common phrase
>hahaha I was joking
lmao ok, autist

>>10138734
Nothing gay about wanting big balls of meat in your mouth. That's the epitome of masculinity.

>>10138730
>>10138735
>autist calling someone else an autist
cringe
>>10138731
xy are so adorably pathetic. All men should be made to wear french maid uniforms with cat ear headbands. hard to larp as a MANLY BIG HAIRY MAN in that costume. If they complain we can stick roses up their butts and tie a ribbon on their cocks.

>>10138744
I'm going to pick you up twirl you around, call you pretty, and hold the door for you

>>10138744
/d/ would love you

>>10138756
Look, they're already behaving themselves nicely.
>>10138763
You mean /cm/ or maybe /y/.

>>10138786
>You mean /cm/ or maybe /y/.
nah, /d/ loves dom women, traps, and forced feminization.

>>10138810
Forced crossdressing is more cute than sexy though. Look, men sexualise everything. We need cat ears and flower crowns.

>find holy grail ita bag charm on y!j
>it's an older item and the first time I've seen it for sale
>place bid and set alarm for when the auction ends
>go to bed
>sleep through alarm and am outbid
>auction ends while I'm still asleep
>well fuck

How do I find a sugar daddy/mommy? There has to be someone out there with a lolita kink who's willing to buy me dresses.

>>10138823
seeking and you have to give up your sugar if you want any sugar, don't be delusional about it. no one wants to pay you money for nothing.

>>10138823
Seeking arrangements. It’s honestly super easy.

>>10138665
it's just a fact of psychology, nobody becomes a pedophile in their 20's or later. You might not want to date someone that is younger than you but it simply isn't the case that you can grow out of attraction.

>>10138823
>>10138828
>>10138829
nasty ass hoes

this>>10138849

get a job ya bums

Okay I moved this here.
Tfw cgl anons saved the day at my partners birthday party last night.
I planned a party for my partner and about a week before I half jokingly invited local anons on the cgl discord server. Within minutes they were already piecing together plans to reach our party. Some even cancelled their plans to attend.
Tfw only two irl friends actually followed through with attending and most of them ghosted us and didn't even bother to make up an excuse. Tfw irl friends who live out of town but closer than many of the cgl anons didn't reach the party.
Thank you for reaching my partner's birthday party even though it wasn't as lit as we all hoped it would be.
It honestly means so much to me that you all took time out of your lives to come.
10/10 would reccomend the wholesome people on the /CGL Canada Discord. <3
Can't wait for upcoming cons and meetups <3

Tfw no lolita wife

>>10138823
Sorry, I would only buy things for her if she could at least convince me that she loves me.

>>10138860
This is pathetic, first you made a whole thread for yourself and now you’re reposting for asspats

I'm going to die alone and unfulfilled, aren't I?

>>10138912
Yes, but hey you fucking tried to live a good life my guy

>>10138850
>thinking most sugar babies aren’t students or also working jobs

>>10138912
People generally say the most fulfilling thing is helping others, and studies have proven that people are more happy when they do so. Maybe try volunteering.

>>10138834
>it's just a fact of psychology

Keep telling yourself that, pedo.

>>10138929
I already do volunteer work and enjoy it, but it's not gonna be viable long term

Can't make a living off helping people

>>10138940
>Can't make a living off helping people

Yeah that’s why doctors don’t exist

>>10138936
I'm not that guy, I take the total opposite stance. 14 year olds should not be having sex, even with each other. anyone who has wanted to have sex with a prepubecent child should be on a watch list, even if they were the same age.

I made it gulls. I'm in Japan and I went to a KERA shop to get my frilly fill. My Japanese was good enough for the shop attendant to like me. I was lucky and basically alone in the store, so she acted like more or less a personal shopper for me. As I tired on blouses over my t-shirt she did the corset lacing for me. Thanks to her I found some with the fit which made my heart skip a beat. I spent so much money. I am the princess.

Happy feels.

>>10136479
>see nothing but posts about how there are fuckboys and predators in the cosplay community who just prey on women
>genuinely struggle at talking to people
>worry a billion percent that i'll just come across as creepy or autistic to anyone i talk to
>don't talk to anyone, like at all
>go to cons and cosplay, go to panels and shop at the dealer's rooms, but legit can't bring myself to talk to anyone or even take anyone's picture
>that overwhelming dread just looms in the back of my mind
>still feels bad, but at least that's better than the alternative right?
>or am i just a fuckboy just waiting to happen? fuck

>>10138954
I’m happy for you, anon! That sounds incredible.

>>10138949
I agree that children of 14 shouldn’t be having sex but it’s weird and extremist of you to say that a kid that age wanting to have sex with another kid their age should be put on a watch list. At that age, hormones are raging constantly and making them horny. They shouldn’t be punished for being interested in someone their own age, that’s natural for them.

>>10138974
at least you're getting out there.

>>10138974
Literally all you have to do is not say anything creepy to people you just met, don’t touch people without their permission, and don’t stalk people around the con

>>10138991
Sounds easy enough, or at least you'd think so. How do so many guys fuck that up then?

My comm officially banned DDLGs and now our group of 30 is down to 4.

>>10139004
Many guys are fucking stupid.

>>10138991
>creepy
What constitutes creepy in your eyes? It's such a meaningless term. In my experience (going from supremely ugly to relatively normal looking), "creepy" usually means "this person looks weird so I've fabricated a baseless reason to dislike them".

>>10139017
Creepy is shit like acting like someone is your waifu just because they're cosplaying as them, or saying stuff about their body.

>>10138717
lmao

>go to a gaming event this past Friday
>wearing cosplay I made so I got no bag or anything
>drinks are stupid expensive
>spend this weekend tailoring my cosplay to add pockets to sneak booze in

modern problems require vintage solutions

It's amazing how a few hours of conversation with the right person can turn around a shit day. I was really lonely but I spent the last 5 hours eating sushi and ice cream and getting hype with a friend I didn't know well before about fandom, the lolita community, funny shit we've encountered at lgbt events, and some cosplays we've been thinking about for a few months. I feel happy and appreciated, and very thankful to her for hanging out with me for so long. I hope that I can make all my friends feel this good!

>>10138991
A friend once called a guy a creep because as he walked past her, he told her she had nice earrings.
Some people find literally every human interaction with the opposite sex to be creepy.

>>10138974
I'm in somewhat of the same boat as you.
The mentality really destroys a lot of chances at social interaction at cons, especially around women, as it will just turn into worrying over every single action and word taken as creepy. its fucking exhausting and turns cons into an unfun nightmare experience.
Pls start small and try your best to just not be overly aggressive/needy/desperate with talking to anyone. I try to stay away from complimenting anyone's looks (like instead of telling someone they look cute in that cosplay, I just say the cosplay turned out great or some neutral shit like that) or saying anything that would imply I consider them attractive, and I don't touch anyone unless I'm already friends with them and know they're comfy with me touching them.

>>10139017
If you're the same anon, yeah that's just how it seems to work anywhere you go.
Please hit up the gym and get swole if you haven't started to do so yet. Even if they don't directly state it, it really makes a world of difference in the eyes of both genders even if you have a less than desirable face.

>>10139055
An unsolicited compliment is pretty creepy.

>>10138974
>>10139058
Why don't you just approach and befriend other guys instead? Most girls generally look for friendships at cons with other girls

>>10139058
>same boat as you
I'm glad you understand. Like holy shit, it really is fucking exhausting worrying about every single fucking thing I do. I just want to be understood above all. How I'll fix this is another matter, but I'm afraid that as long as there are awful guys and creeps out there, it'll just get more and more difficult. But that's probably all the more reason to try harder.

>I’m starting to find cosplayers cringey and childish
>I find at least 90% of con attendees obnoxious
>I have no goddamn patience left for weebs and con-itas, yet I somehow always find myself being a “con mom” for some crying 18-20 year old.
>I’m only willing to go to like 3 cons anymore because I realized that a lot of the ones in my area are shitty, poorly run, and a waste of time and money.

>Tfw I’m becoming a bitter, jaded oldfag

>>10139063
>>I’m starting to find cosplayers cringey and childish
>>I find at least 90% of con attendees obnoxious
I feel this way about 4chan in its entirety as of late. It's almost not even worth browsing here anymore. everything is a wasted effort.

>>10139066
Summer isn’t even here yet. The shitty posting might get worse.

>>10139060
>Instead
Befriending both genders equally is the real meta
if I see someone cosplaying as something that I'm super into, or if someone approaches me about a picture/compliment on my cosplay I'm not going to stray away from a possible nice conversation or possible friendship just because they're a woman.


>>10139061
You got this m8tie, practice makes perfect

>>10139061
Conscientious guys are such a turn on
It’s a shame you’re probably hard to look at

>>10138974
Same, I'm afraid to talk to cosplayers about their cosplay if it's a series I really like, because I'm worried that I'll sperg out over how much I love that series, or worse yet come off as a gatekeeping weirdo "oh you're a higurashi fan what was your favorite arc".

>>10139076
And people are worried about creepy men

>>10139093
Creepy women are all talk
Creepy men often aren’t

>>10139093
Yes they are

>>10139097
This too

>>10139086
>what was your favorite arc
Asking someone about their favorite part of a series isn't gatekeeping. If someone flips out on you because of this, they're the ones being irrational.
>oh you're a higurashi fan? how many arcs are there?/when does your character make their first appearance?
and so on, would be "testing" someone on their knowledge of a series and be considered gatekeeping.
Don't be afraid to talk to people about the series you like, that's what cons are for.

>>10139097
I know, but I'm still of the opinion that creepy behaviour should be discouraged in general

Fuck creepy men, fuck creepy women, doublefuck men who go beyond creepy and into actual sexual assault

I'm a grown ass man who at 26 years old just wants to look cute. I'm not ugly, but I damn is good boy-lolita pretty unlikely.

>>10139059
>An unsolicited compliment

lol, like, you think literally asking for compliments is more normal than others giving unsolicited compliments? oof

>>10139060
not that anon, but i'm a guy and I haven't had any male friends in 5+ years. Almost all the men I meet at cons are just boring or really annoying. Apparently the people I get along best with are bisexual women since that who all my friends end up being.
Also, just generally way more women who are into cosplay and lolita than men, so finding a guy who is into and participates in that stuff difficult.

>>10139105
>boy-lolita
Hilariously incorrect terminology aside, you don't have to be cute to wear jfash, and your age means nothing. You can and should make fashion work for you. If your appearance isn't conventionally cute, go for elegance instead. Elegance is a lot more common and easier to find and pull off than cuteness in ouji, anyway. Look in the boystyle thread for inspiration and resources, if you don't know where to start: >>10102923

>>10139107
Thank you anon

>>10138446
>tfw I've got a pretty much all-pleather cosplay planned
H-how fucked am I?

>>10139111
I dont know about, but my pleather cosplay stank to high heaven after an hour of activity

jacked in your 30s and still want to cosplay and date someone to cosplay with

>>10136479
I live in Australia, and the economy here is SHIT. I am unemployed as a result, but I really, REALLY want to get into cosplay. However, when contact lenses cost $40, and fabric is $20 per metre, and the only good wigs are . $80+, that's a lot of money to be spending when I have no stable source of income.

One day I'll get employment, and with luck that day will come soon, but until then the cosplays of my dreams will have to wait

>>10139112
Well crap. I guess I could always just take the huge coat off if things get unbearable as that's an actual alternate costume option, but it's also pretty much the main attraction of the whole outfit.

My pet bird died, and two of my "friends" in the nerd community made his death all about themselves. They talked about buying fashionable black armbands and causing a huge public stink when the creature I raised from a chick was killed. It feels like they're desecrating his memory

I need better friends

>>10139119
You need friends who aren't women.

>>10139114
You could just be my gf

>>10139114

try this thread >>10114930

>>10139107
I wish I could pull off elegance, but I don't think that's gonna happen when I'm 6'3" with a thuggish face and build
>tfw will never be handsome
>tfw will never be cute
Should I just give up on fashion?

>>10139119
I really hope you can tell it to them straight. Their way of mourning is not what you want, as your own way of dealing with this loss seems way more muted. For them, friends of the deceased pet's owner, to be more publicly vocal is very insentive, if not even downright rude. That's like showing up to a funeral and crying louder than the mother of a dead son. As you're saying yourself you need better friends. Start your inevitable separation by being honest with your shitty friends. By being honest and confronting them about your feelings you'll either scare them away (bad friends) or simply make them understand you better and want to stay (good friends).

May your bird rest in peace, anon. I'm sure it lived a loved life.

>tfw ronry 26 years old
>get a little jealous off the young highschoolers on cons with their coordinated cosplays
>remember that when you were their age you were broke to attend a con, let alone in a third world country and the geek culture not being popular in the bush era

>>10139130
Move over, grandma.

Kids are hotter than ever.

>>10139127
>I wish I could pull off elegance
Just find some normies who like lolita, but don't know much about the fashion and they'll love anything you do because it looks cool and different to them.

>>10139135
Enjoy your ride on the party van you sick fuck

i'm starting a diet because i'm a bit chubby and i would look horrible in lolita.
when i'll lose weight i'll be able to wear what i want. this includes lolita fashion.

>>10139141
Fatties don't deserve to speak. Shut up

>>10139137
Get more upset, roastie.

>>10139142
I mean you’re probably going to be more upset when you get violated in prison but okay

>>10139130
Me too Anon, me too. It's easy to fall into the bitter "back in my day" but in my opinion that's a way more bearable stance than the haughty "in the good old days." By praising our shitty nostalgia we trivialise the kids of today and how much fun they're probably having. Not that it's possible to compare, but I actually think they're having more fun than we did. There's way more accessible fun at least. I'm really enjoying more anime with the wider variety each season for sure!

Cute boys by the way, I raise you another.

>>10138814
>tfw no cute cosplay gf to femdom me and dress me up in frilly/lacey clothes

why even live

>feels thread has likes but other threads on /cgl/ don't
how the fuck does this work?

>>10139170
Other ones haven't been bumped yet. If they have, refresh the page.
It's some quality coding, like usual.

>>10139179
I see. thanks mate.

>making a cosplay for judging and the masquerade
>wig comes in
>bangs too long
>flashbacks all the times ive tried to trim wigs and butchered them
>not enough time to get a new wig
>colored contacts feel weird in my eyes

somebody help me

>>10139220
Learn how to trim your wigs. Get a friend to help, if you must. Also don’t wear those contacts if they feel weird; you only have one set of eyes so be cautious.

>>10138722
>30 women in lingerie
>mfw i'm gay and my pits literally smell like sawdust because of my deodorant.
too bad this doesn't really happen

>>10138744
>/cgl hates sissies
>/cgl advocates forced sissification
fucking make up your minds

>>10139250
>/cgl/ is one person

>>10136577
>>10136581
Toppest of keks this is going in my cringe compilation

Hear me out.

Adult women have no souls though they once did.

Females are born with souls. Little girls have souls and they express their good nature all the time. They're loving and caring and beautiful. But at some point in teenage years when that little girl turns into a woman, her soul escapes her. The soul rises to heaven yet leaves behind the rotting corpse, the physical flesh that we perceive as adult women.

Women are not living beings, they're walking corpses without morality or any kind of complex thought. You can see this in their behaviour, in how they think and their interests. There is no soul in their body.

The sad reality is that females die before they hit adulthood, only having an incredibly brief life before leaving us and leaving nothing but their corpse to pester and haunt us.

>>10138619
Not the ends but the length. I have very long hair though so maybe that's why. The mid length will get greasy after a few days even with no product. Leave in on the ends is essential for really long hair so I don't go often without it

Ew wtf is this like button, is this an april's fools joke?

>>10139275
what do you think, genius?

>>10139146
>There's way more accessible fun at least. I'm really enjoying more anime with the wider variety each season for sure!

You made points, newer anime fans today are spoiled with the variety and professional subs everyone puts out


Looking back i dont like the heyday of Naruto, Death note, BLEACH if that is what filling up cons in the mid 00s

>>10139058
>yeah that's just how it seems to work anywhere you go
So you're saying every human on earth is as shallow as you?

>>10139127
In fairness I don't know what you look like but I think you can still do it. Do you watch period dramas at all? Not every man in these movies is waifish and dainty; in fact many aren't (especially the love interests), and it can be a good source of inspiration for you.

>>10139250
You are not a man of culture I see. The appeal of forced sissification is the humiliation aspect. If a man WANTS to become a sissy it would lose all appeal.

>>10139292
You sound like an edgy twelve year old who's just discovered fanart of NaruSasu with cat ears and maid dresses on DeviantArt and thinks she's so cool and totally not like all the other girls because instead of gross smelly boys you like twinks in dresses. Do everyone a favor and return to wherever you came from and take your shallow, uncultured opinions back with you.

>>10139309
Very rude. You won't be so rude in a frilly headband.

>>10138744
Don't make me come over and pat your head.

>>10139073
If someone approaches you thats a totally different story, no one is going to think you’re creepy if they’re the one approaching you

>>10139314
>draw a girl
>call it a boy
Only true plebs like traps since they tarnish the good image of properly cute boys that aren't just an inferior imitation of girls made to please men (who you, ironically, seem to hate so much).

I'm trying to get better at j-fash, but I'm dummy thick and the clap of my ass cheeks keeps alerting itas.

what the fuck happened to this thread

help:
>>10139569

>>10139568
LARPers and deoderant

>finally buying a serger after a year of sewing

bros I can't wait, is it everything they say it is and more?

>>10139474
>When she says shes 'dummy thicc'

>>10139611
Holy shit

>>10139283
>Believing otherwise
Lmao @ u

>>10139614
Oh, I understand better than most that that's how people operate. Thing is, what I was describing was more of a subconscious thing. Most people wouldn't like to think that their attitude is materialistic and evil, whereas you just straight up admitted it.

>>10139568
Welcome to the feels thread.

I just got accepted for my local maid cafe. I’m super nervous. What makes a good cafe maid to you guys? How do I avoid being cringe?

>>10139613
is......is that barf or spaghetti

>>10139651
No matter what you do it won’t compare to the cringe of your clientele

>>10139654
Spaghetti

I love my bf more than anything and I want to spend my life with him but I don’t understand why he’s so mean to me. Every time I try to talk about cosplay or Lolita he’s super uninterested and thinks it’s annoying, but they are my only hobbies besides gaming (and even with that it’s only the elder scrolls series I don’t play much else). We both work so I feel like I don’t see him much and almost every time I do see him he ends up getting mad at me over nothing, or he just gets annoyed with me. We mainly get to see each other at night when he gets off work (he gets home at around 12 usually) so although I have to wake up early I stay up every night for him to get home, and a lot of the time he goes out with his friends instead without texting me or anything so I just end up sleep deprived for no reason. He won’t even call or text me about anything, most of the time he either never responds to my texts or he waits days to. He always calls me annoying and he tells me to shut up when I cry. I love him so much and I think he’s just taking his anger out on me because he’s really stressed out but it always really hurts my feelings. In a couple months he’s leaving to join the military and I think when he comes back and he gets his life sorted out he’ll be nicer to me but what if nothing changes, three years in the military is a long time

I’m sorry it’s not really related I just needed to vent

>>10139665
I was in a similar situation before, trust me, you should leave. You guys have some issues and he obviously doesn't care for your feelings much.

>>10139665
leave him

>>10139651
A good cafe maid wears cute panties and is willing to piss in my tea for a good tip

>>10139651
Just be yourself ;)

>>10139665
>he tells me to shut up when I cry
Yikes, red flag. I wouldn’t waste 3 years of my life on a “maybe”.

>>10139665
Sounds like a cunt and you deserve better, fuck him

>>10139665
dump
his
ass

>>10139608
It's amazing. I don't own one, but a community centre has one I've used a couple of times and it's the best. When I realised it trimmed the fabric to the right size as you sew I came, creatively speaking.

But make sure you're patient with it. They're complicated to thread, and should never be handled in a hurry. Getting rid of messed up seams can be anything from a real bother to a project ending disaster. Remember to be patient and take it slow. Good luck Anon!

>>10139292
So wrong. The nervous quiver in the voice as he begs you to be made pretty is the moment to live for. If you like the humiliation you can get that from a willing boy by pushing him past her limits.

>>10138446
I wore a pleather suit and some thot asked me if I'd gotten the "titty farts" yet. She said it's when you fart in pleather and it shoots up your cleavage into your face.

I hate this hobby.

>>10139665
Being with him honestly doesn't sound safe, anon-chan.

>>10139654

Yes

>>10139706
Hot

>>10138610
Congrats to you both!

it's tempting...

>an item that was originally meant as an in-store exclusive for a limited time got sold online for a day
>use a proxy I've only had good experiences with and who are usually super quick and reliable
>today wake up to a mail saying they missed the window to buy
>been upset since
I know it's really petty, but since I'd already resigned to never owning the item you can only imagine how elated I was when I saw the chance to get it online. Obviously too elated to factor in time differences and not leave actually buying the item to someone else. The idea that if I'd just used a forwarder instead I probably would have gotten it no problem will end up haunting me in my sleep.
I feel like such an idiot and can only be mad at myself, but honestly at this point all I can think is that I'd be willing to pay any amount just to get the item but even that won't fix it. I really hate limited time exclusive sales and in-store only goods because the chance to find it later online is so small, especially for stuff like this.
TL;DR my materialism will be the end of me.

>>10139704
My gf tried to do this to me once but then she got mad that I was prettier than her

>>10139745
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>>10139667
I know that common sense is to dump him, but in all we’ve been dating for almost 3 years and he wasn’t always like this, he used to be nice to me and we had a really good relationship, he has really bad anger issues and I know he takes it out on me but I really do love him. I broke up with him once and we were apart for about 5 months, but I missed him the whole time and I just went crawling back, I know if I leave him again he’ll never take me back. He’s the only person that I’ve ever really loved, and I think sometimes I deserve how he treats me, idk I guess I shouldn’t vent about it if it’s my fault for annoying him anyway

>>10139879
>he wasn’t always like this
It doesn't matter. He is now.

>he has really bad anger issues and I know he takes it out on me
That's abuse.

>but I missed him the whole time and I just went crawling back
That is normal. It takes about half the length of a relationship to get over someone. Instead of going back, you get therapy and some friends.

>He’s the only person that I’ve ever really loved
Which means you're young and will love again, even if it feels like you won't.

>I think sometimes I deserve how he treats me
Nope.

>it’s my fault for annoying him anyway
Nope.

The guy you're dating sounds like the exact kind of asshole that is only going to become worse in the military. He's the exact mindframe they prey on and make worse. Get out now. End things now. It's going to be hard, and it's going to suck, but you deserve better.

>>10139063
How old are you? Are you already working a full time job? Just curious because I started to feel the same towards con too nowadays, especially once I got a job and delving into normalfag society is a survival requirement now. Doesn't help that I'm mostly a drawfag, musicfag, 95% mangaonlyfag, and games/series/characters I'm autistic about are relatively niche

>>10139879
People in a healthy relationship don't go to 4chan to discuss problems.
You need to work on yourself and become more strong willed.

>>10139894
I’m not strong willed though, the only thing I’ve ever wanted is to have someone to submit to (not in a sexual way, I just find it fulfilling to do what people tell me to do) the only thing I want in return is for that person to care about me. I also feel indebted to my boyfriend because he is the only reason I am not dead right now. Back before we started dating I was in a really bad situation and he helped me out of it and he told me how to make things better. He’s not abusive, he’s never hurt me or anything, he’s just been mean lately (probably the past year), and he gets mad at me if I don’t take all the blame for our problems so when I talk to him about it nothing gets accomplished, I’ve always thought I am going to marry him and I don’t want that to change now, because I know he’s an asshole but when he’s not had a bad day how much he cares about me comes out and I can tell he does love me but sometimes he just acts like he doesn’t, I guess I just don’t know what to do, because I’m extremely attached to him, but lately he’s just made me feel really bad all the time

>>10139901
>He's not abusive, he just does emotionally abusive things
Please get out of this relationship and find someone else while he's away in the military, there are people out there who can care about you without acting like that. It's great that he helped you before but that doesn't mean you owe him anything now, especially with how you say he's treating you. You deserve so much better.

>>10137697
Wow your boyfriend and mine would get along beautifully. I love him and hes super sweet, but damn he is so dumb sometimes by pretending the problem doesn't exist. If she does do something let him know how its affecting not just him but you, usually my bf will do something if he knows I'm stressed out by something.

I just got a new pair of tea parties yesterday and my rabbit already chewed on them (my fault for leaving them out) He’s usually not destructive with shoes or clothing, but he HATES lolita for some reason. He nips at my ankles whenever I’m wearing Enchantlic Enchantilly tights, and he chewed a huge hole in the lace of a blouse (luckily it was just bodyline)
I understand that animals aren’t accessories, but it still makes me so sad that I’ll never get to take cute coord pics with him.

>want to sew and make something
>all the ideas I have use fabric I don't have that I need to buy
>meanwhile my closet is stuffed with fabric I already have but that I don't know what to make with
>know that I should use up the fabric I already have before buying new fabric since i'm practically a hoarder now

choices choices

>>10139879
>He’s the only person that I’ve ever really loved, and I think sometimes I deserve how he treats me, idk I guess I shouldn’t vent about it if it’s my fault for annoying him anyway
This is pretty much a case of Stockholm syndrome, woman.

>>10139901
>because I know he’s an asshole but when he’s not had a bad day how much he cares about me comes out and I can tell he does love me but sometimes he just acts like he doesn’t,
This is emotionally manipulative on his part. Dump him while you can.

It's a good feel when you buy something for real cheap because of stains and all the stains come off in one wash.

>>10139998
Seriously agree here. I think some lolitas don't wash their shit, then sell it cheap because it's so nasty lol.

>>10139998
>>10140009
Cheap scores aside, I never really got those LM listings where something is described as major stains/damage and then you look at the description and it has 'I haven't tried to remove the stains myself, they might come off with a wash' like

1. you seriously admitting you have never ever washed this? Nasty af
2. you're maybe getting 1/3 of its worth now when you could easily wash it, and if the stains come out you can still sell it for higher then?

why are lolitas so stupid

not that I'm complaining cause I have made a score or two myself like that but I just don't get it

>>10140022
Some people don’t have to worry about money. Just because you’re poor doesn’t mean other people are.

>>10140026
> some people don't need to worry about money

money doesn't buy a brain or a sense of hygiene, or in your case reading comprehension? My post was literally about how its not only unhygienic to never wash your dresses, but beyond stupid (and gross) to publicly admit on your sale that you've never washed your shit.

The extra money they'd get from practicing basic ass hygiene is secondary in my post.

>am male
>unferageb& (16) that I met at a small con followed me on Insta
>Kept DMing me & clearly had some sort of crush on me
>Had to block
>Want to go to small con this year but highly worried about seeing underage
Help, what do

> beyond stupid (and gross) to publicly admit on your sale that you've never washed your shit.

this esp when some people really fill descriptions with "I'm the second/third owner of this piece"

wash your brand please not just for sale worth but for basic hygiene!

I handwash all secondhand pieces I buy on Lacemarket and am truly surprised this isn't the norm. Except when its brand new with tag and you're sure the seller hasn't even tried it on, how can you not at least give a gentle wash to something a stranger has worn on their body before you??

>>10140041
Poorfag detected

>>10139879
You don't have to stick with a mistake just because you spent a long time making it. Honestly, dump his ass.

>>10140041
some people are rich enough to never wash their clothes and smell and look like shit all the time anon, sorry you're poor and have to take care of your clothes. /sarcasm

>>10139879
Anon I also had a boyfriend who was nice in the beginning and then got more and more horrible as time went on. I justified it with "he wasn't always like this" and "when x or y happens/gets resolved everything will be good again". Those are years I'll never get back and I wish we had broken up way sooner. Please leave him, he seems awful and you deserve better. It doesn't matter that he used to be nice, he's an absolute asshole now from the sound of it. Please love yourself

>>10140026
People who don't worry about money aren't rich. At least, not for long.

>>10140060
That’s not true. Anyone who is truly rich wouldn’t worry about lolita level prices. Especially not old money.

>venture out at 8:30 am for a job interview
>don't even want this shitty job but I better get something soon or I'll have to sell my butthole for rent money
>barely force myself out the door, woke up at 7:30 when I always wake up at 530-6, feel fucking exhausted for some reason
>nearly twisted my ankle TWICE (once in a random hole in the middle of the crosswalk, once falling down a step that was in the middle of the floor for no fucking reason), broke my compact mirror
>2 hours on the fucking bus freezing my ass off because it decided to become winter again, carried around umbrella in my bag all day because it looked like rain, didn't rain
>get there 5 minutes prior to scheduled time, they make me wait 20 minutes
>then they act like they don't want to talk to me and that my resume is a piece of crap
>do my best, tell them I've done all the job functions in my previous roles, have a bachelors in this, job technically doesn't even need a degree (I know, fml)
>give me those stupid "tell me about a time when you" questions, ask me about my private life, interrogation as to why I look like a job hopper (I only get shitty contract jobs you fucking nigger)
>the job is shitwork with shitpay and a shitty commute for a shitty company but at least it's not a shitty contract gig
>ask them how soon they're looking to move forward with someone
>well HR is out hurr durr, we'll let you know in 3 weeks
>nigga 3 fucking weeks
>leave feeling so miserable I accidentally give people dirty looks
>think about suicide on the way home, think about prostitution
>almost start crying on the bus back
Just fuck this world.
>>10140055
>tfw had the same experience

>>10140064
This isn’t /cgl/ related

>>10140065
Obviously it is, everyone needs a job to afford cosplay / burando u cunt

>>10140064
Camwhoring is good money

>>10140067
>reaching that hard

At least I’m not a poor jobless moron who ruins her chances by glaring at the people where you interviewed

>>10138203
No. Everyone knows fashion/cosplay isn't for fatties

>>10140064
Also the maintenance guy came into my apartment while I was out and everything was a mess and I left sex toys out including an unwashed buttplug. I want to die now.
>>10140065
Can't buy pretty clothes unless I get a jerb. I lost weight and none of my clothes fit but I can't buy new ones right now, let alone pretty frilly things.
>>10140078
For the top 5% of cammers.

>>10140079
Thats not me and I didn't glare at the fucking interviewers you dumbass. Some poor gimp on the train got it.

>>10140087
Get some sense you jobless cunt. Why can’t you keep a job? You that shit eh?

Hmmmmm

>>10140089
nigga dont' know what a contract job is
some high school twat on mommy's dollar trying to talk shit
salty bitch

>>10140091
Well that's obvious. But both men and women wind up settling.

>>10140099
At least employers see me as valuable and I have income you poorfag bitch

>>10140105
*clap* you must be so proud of yourself

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>>10140086
2fat2live
This isn't your blog fuck off

Why the actual fuck is everyone in feels threads so hostile
Holy shit

>>10140062
eh, if they are self-made rich, they'd still want to get what they can out of it. Its not a money thing really, its more of a psychological or personality type thing. Some people really like the thrill of making as much money they can off of something. People who feel that way don't magically stop feeling that way once they get rich.
Likewise, many poor people have literally no care in the world about money. They just spend money until their debit card gets declined for running out of money.

>>10140182
People act like lolita is expensive but it's really not. I know plenty of people with other hobbies (camping, cars, golfing, music, whatever) who pay a bunch of money for their hobby gear. The only reason everyone thinks a $300 dress is soooOooOooOo expensive (when in reality, that's laughably good for a "brand dress" compared to normie fashion) is because people who join lolita tend to be poorfag teens or weebs who beg mommy and daddy for an allowance.

>>10140171
Welcome to /cgl/

>>10140065
this desu

there's a reason why cgl is just female r9k, and thats because jannies let stupid drama shit slide

How do I get a cosplay gf?

>>10140207
Be the cosplay gf to attract a cosplay gf.

>>10140244
This. See
>>10139704

>>10140207
Swirly all of your competition with your secret 1800 year old Chinese techniques derived from the eternal wisdom of the heavens. Nerds are generally defeated by getting swirlied, but you're up against souped up ultra nerds in the Mad Max hellscape of anime conventions, so you have step your game up accordingly.

>>10140189
lolita is expensive though. Most hobbies require very little to no money to get started. Thats not true for lolita. You have to spend $100+ just to even enter the hobby.

>>10140263
If you actually work a full time job that’s not that much, especially compared to other hobbies like the other anon said

>>10138464
based

>>10139706
Is this really happens??

>>10140263
camping/diving/golf/lots of sports/music/gardening all require over $100 to enter those hobbies with the proper equipment. For some sports that's just the amount you have to pay for well fitted shoes. Is lolita your only hobby?

>>10140263
>$100 is expensive to enter a brand new hobby
found the poorfag

>>10140296
>camping/diving/golf/lots of sports/music/gardening all require over $100 to enter those hobbies
I'm ignoring the "proper equipment part" since its about entering the hobby, not about being super professional.

>camping/golf
you can find equipment for those for dirt cheap in thrift store. You don't even need your own, you can just borrow a friend's to get started. The same could 'maybe' be said about lolita too, but you'll have to be very lucky to have a friend who is the same body type as you, has extra clothes, and has the same style as you.

>lots of sports
.... which ones? Soccer, football, and basketball just require a ~$15 ball and a free public park.

>gardening
seeds cost next to nothing. A local place near me were even giving away several free packets of seeds. Potted plants only cost around $10 or $15 at walmart. you can buy two or 3 and have a small garden.

>Is lolita your only hobby?
j-fashion (slightly cheaper than lolita), gardening (last week I got a total of 9 plants + pots and such for ~$60), computers (very expensive hobby. New coord or graphics card? hmm), pokemon go (spent $10 I think), and complaining on the internet about stuff (free!).

>>10140313
>The same could 'maybe' be said about lolita too, but you'll have to be very lucky to have a friend who is the same body type as you, has extra clothes, and has the same style as you.
Poor argument, as many people DO get their first coords secondhand or cheap and most of the clothes come in one size so there isn't sizing issues. This is also assuming you don't know how to buy cheap online.

>.... which ones? Soccer, football, and basketball just require a ~$15 ball and a free public park.
you really don't know any other common sports that are expensive? how about golf/skateboarding/skiing/snowboarding/any sport requiring rackets or lessons. And for football and soccer, you need cleets/shinguards/padding/uniforms if you're properly getting into them and not farting around as a casual which would be the lolita equivalent of being a conlita.

>conveniently ignores "music" because instruments and lessons are expensive as shit

>(last week I got a total of 9 plants + pots and such for ~$60)
that's just last week? not even including soil, gardening tools, gloves, and more. And planting *what you want*, which I assume is just as important as "getting clothing which is your style" as a lolita.

Also, this is all under the assumption that $100 is somehow a high expense. For anyone with a job, it's really not. And it's ESPECIALLY not expensive for a fashion as a hobby. Go into /fa/ whining about $100 and you'll be laughed out.

>>10140313
To clarify, I'm not saying it's the *cheapest hobby of all*, I'm just saying that it's not NEARLY as expensive as is commonly bitched about by people in /cgl/.

>>10138610
I'm happy for you anon.

>>10139879
>he used to be nice
>he has really bad anger issues and he takes them out on me
jfc anon, are you even listening to yourself? Do you have any idea how many times EMT's and emergency room doctors hear this same bullshit from the battered women they treat?

You really need to seek some help, you need to understand that this sort of behavior is not ok at all.
3 years isn't really that long of a time, btw

>>10140062
>mfw my rich friends are some of the biggest tightwads I know

>>10140087
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>>10140168
stop eating fucking bait

How do you people even make friends? I have none and i hate living and lolita being one of my few interests makes it very hard to socialize. What do i fucking talk about. No one wants to hear about the trash i impulse spent my whole check on. People just tolerate my presence because they have to. No one actually want to be around me.

I feel behind the cosplay bandwagon in my area , but I will be a gembutt for the next con. Gotta shine.

>>10140490
get hobbies, read books, draw, sing, create. do things. make yourself interesting by doing what you like to do, and people will come.

>>10139998
It's a good feel when you list something, it gets bought instantly, then you find out it got stained really badly in a weird place that you didn't notice, but you're not completely incompetent so you get the stain out and don't need to refund the buyer.

Thank baby Jesus for oxyclean

>>10140494
I have a fear of sharing anything i create because ive always been made fun of for it by my family. Even posting this is giving me large amounts of anxiety. Im scared of judgement. Every time i open up i am hurt. I fucking hate myself so much. I dont post anything anywhere because im so scared of negative judgement. It confirms how i already feel about myself and makes me depressed and want to off myself. Ive never been given words of encouragement. Everything i do is wrong. Lolita is the only thing that fills the void. Its the only time i tolerate myself. It gives me a false sense of confidence and i can go outside alone. The only time i get compliments on anything is when im wearing lolita. Its the only thing im good at. Im trash. Sorry for being so annoying and typing too much. I know how stupid and pathetic i am. Im sorry for being depressing and replying to your post like this. This is why i have no friends.

>>10140504
Sounds like you have depression, anon. You need mental health support. You'll never make the friends you want to make if you don't get help first.

>>10140510
Ive been to many therapists and they do not help. Many of them just sit there and dont provide me with actual therapy. The last on i had literally sat on her phone the entire therapy session and when i suggested doing certain kinds of therapy she would change the topic. She encouraged me to stay in abusive relationships. Others tend to make too many assumptions about me and i end up not recieving proper help. I am very reluctant to spend 50+ dollars a session based on my past experience with them. But yea i need therapy. I just dont know where the fuck the actual therapists are.

>>10140504
Very /r9k/ post

>>10140517
How many therapists have you seen?

>tfw cosplay and lolita is the main reason you're changing your major from video game design to costume design 3 years in
Well I'm definitely scared since I'm basically starting over, but my parents were right. I've always had a passion for costumes and clothes. Also I fucking hate theater people. I'm not looking forward to that part

>>10140626
Theatre people are obnoxious. Hence why I transferred from theatre to art. (Besides, there aren't many parts for short mixed race ppl anyhow rip)

do you ever feel like a lot of people in your comm don't care about actually hanging out and only care about taking the perfect coord shot? Like they only come to get that aesthetic picture and not to be friends?

>>10138744
>hard to larp as a MANLY BIG HAIRY MAN in that costume
that's what you think

>>10140086
I guess the maintenance guy saw worser stuff
what else did you left out anyway?

>>10140504
damn
sorry for being creepy, but I kinda wanna hug, pat your head, and tell you that everything will be ok

>>10136479
Found out my ultimate dream dress was posted to LM when I was asleep... and gemgem bought it. I wanna die.

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>>10140504
Hey anon, I was the one who originally replied to you. I was the same. I still struggle with sharing myself to this day (i'm in my late 30s). It's definitely a process, and something you just have to start doing. You basically have to stop caring (even if it's just pretending to stop caring at this point) and do your thing. Post your thoughts somewhere, take blurry cruddy pictures of yourself, maybe of things interesting to you. Post them somewhere, to tumblr, to instagram, to your own webpage. It can be as anonymous as you can make it, but just do it. The more you do it, the more comfortable you will get at doing it. And guess what? eventually it attracts people to you. People who will actually reach out to you and be interested. Talk to them as much as you can. Interact with people, however you can. It gets easier. At the same time, boost yourself up. Pretend if you have to, make time for yourself and try to accept yourself as you are... as a work in progress and not a final form. That's what we all are, works of progress. Some start out as coal, others have been fortunate enough to have been pulled out as rough diamonds already, but we are all capable of being a diamond as well, we just have to put more work into it. I was very depressed and lost 13+ years of my life being essentially a hikikomori. I hate that. I regret it. I felt so worthless and lost once I finally decided to try to integrate myself back into society, but it's what I need to do. For myself. I lost out on so much and while I know it would have been different if I had someone there to encourage me and help me when I was in that really low place, it's not how it turned out for me.

Anyway, tldr; You can do it anon!! If I can do it, you can too! I have faith in you. You're not worthless, and I know that's hard to believe coming from an anon on 4-chan but you just have to believe. You have worth. You can be happy.

>>10140825
>sleeping
>while you don’t own your DD

It’s like you never even wanted it

>>10140832
I know, I guess I'm just not worthy.

>>10140750
Ya most of the early 20s girls who wear AP sweet are just there to take uwu group shots and selfies. It's working they have hella followers but they're all so boring compared to the goths classics and older or non AP sweets

>>10140504
Me too anon

>>10140626
Theater people are something else. I have a beginner art class that I'm taking as an elective, and there's this one theater guy who thinks he's top shite. Best of luck to you. I hope your environment isn't too "toxic" with pretentious elitists.

>>10140926
theater nerds are like band geeks except more gay and obsessed with England